Taw Benderly: Embezzler and Murderer | Handsome Devils | True Crime Central
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- Опубліковано 4 січ 2023
- Divorcee Loretta Bowersock is overjoyed when she meets Taw Benderly, a suave and handsome inventor. But over an 18-year relationship, Taw isolates Loretta and drains her bank accounts. When she finds out, he kills her and buries her in the desert.
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Being happy with a single life is such a blessing.
Isn't it⁉️ I'm hoping for clear sailing in my final years and if we get too old we can expect care. Trying to improve my social skills in such an event 😉
I've been single for over 4 years (husband passed away) and hv no desire to live with someone new. My life is fine and I'm happy going out with friends.
You got that right!! I'm very happily single and the more programs like this that I watch the more likely I'll spend my remaining years single!!
Amen! I'm content being single. I have been for many years. Just me and my Shepherd, Loki. Don't need this kind of mess in my life.
Been single since Nov20 2009. People ask if I have someone or going to get married again. I answer: no takes to long to train them and I don't have the patience anymore and to old to go through that!lol
A person who would rather accept ANY companionship rather than be alone is headed for trouble.
Nailed it.
Yes. She was bound to get caught up in SOMETHING.
Agreed... this companion is a death trap
Dating apps may work better?
Just dumb.
Imagine a stranger walking into your home who you know nothing about and letting him live with you...Lonely is a dangerous place to be...
I couldn’t sleep for fear he was steal everything in my home.
NEVER
It's very sad and quite heart breaking.
Very dangerous
Happens all the time esp in this Internet Age. At the end of the day, no one truly knows anyone else, even high school sweethearts.
I wish they'd drop the "Handsome Devils" part. I haven't seen a handsome one yet!
“Devils who have enough charm and dark charisma for unsuspecting victims to let them into their lives and become vulnerable with them” is a bit of a mouthful. Handsome Devil is at least a common phrase
Lol!!😂
I've noticed intrue crime shows/documentaries thry always take liberties describing the killer AND victim, obviously beauty is subjective but it definitely gets old hearing every woman that's died (especially if they're blond haired and blue eyed) was the most beautiful woman to ever exist and every killer was charming and drop dead gorgeous/handsome...
😂😂
😂😂😂
Why would someone who is so "successful " need to rent a room? That would've been my 1st warning sign.
A Broad : Yes, and then he ain`t had a bloody penny on him. Takes a lot to fool one into the things she did for him....
It ought to be anyone's 1st warning sign. Sadly, the world is full of people living in their own fantasy.
You know that's the first thing I was thinking aside from his "lost wallet".
Conveniently, he lost his wallet, which is the 2nd warning.
They said "she was lonely"
Getting a puppy/dog as a companion instead would have saved this family.
Or a cat.. 💗🐈 😻
But she wants a man. A woman has urges and needs you know.
Please. When you go there...
Remember you are King.
Yes 200% correct, however she was an innocent person looking for a partner. Unfortunately, he is evil incarnate. No room to blame the victim.
@@thetreekeeper143 The daughter wanted that she had a man
The narrators final comment that she was murdered by someone you would never expect to be a killer. He was a stranger without credentials, waving red flags (if she and her daughter bothered to look). Aren't they the typical killer?
Yes, cuz. after a while, the prey becomes a bother and since they don't care, death is an easy option.
A charming narcissist.
Exactly
I will never again feel bad about feeling cynical and distrustful of people...
Me either.
Same here 😅
@nanzy. X 93 million 🌈🌈
ESPECIALLY "family".
The man hadn't paid a dime in rent yet 'he knows what he is doing'. Wow, total blindness.
Geral : Absolutely. Blindness, lack of common sense and naivity to the max.-...These shitbags smell weakness in a woman....Every time.
Renting to a man, first mistake. Buying his BS about losing his wallet and no ID, 3 strikes he’s out. I’ve been a widow many years and never met any man that would make me that desperate for him. Where was her common sense?
@@carolyndavison6095 Good for you, desperate is very dangerous.
So SAD yet it happens every day!
Yah no common sense. Some bring it on themselves.
Desperation is always attractive to predators!
Hyell yeah it is. Me too.. Though...
@@maycasper2661 don't be a predator magnet
So is someone who smiles too much
Well said.
🎯🎯🎯
The puppy idea is awesome🙂My husband of 35 years died 2 years ago....I have no desire to get seriously involved with a man.....but, a puppy, YES!
Or if a singleton is not into a pet that is so needy....a kitten is good too. Two kittens are even better! : )
I’m sorry about your husband passing. Wishing you peace
Cats & kitties have worked for me for 10 years.
How she treated her friends and then her own daughter was unreal...over a man with no money???
Even if he had money, that’s wrong how he treated her daughter in friends.
Crazy, right?
Hell, I was sympathetic but she angered me. Really foolish woman.
Sone women are thick
Rob C , over a man she didn’t know !
The daughter wanted her mom to rent a room to get a boyfriend? How weird.
I thought this was very odd myself Made no sense to me at all
Very strange indeed!
Yes. So if the relationship doesn't work out he's still in her house. If either one of them moves on and brings company over, they're still in each other's space. 😬
Yes that's always going to end well
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They were very silly from the start! How could you trust a random man to move in with you and do no background checks
I wouldn't keep a house help like that!
Hard to believe no job,no money,no ID,and she let him move in.🤦♀️
@@norabederna21 / Very hard to believe.
Did I misunderstand something? Did they say someone called the daughter to tell her this man had her expunge his records? So that would mean they wouldn’t see anything on his background check?
Yes, my thoughts exactly
Holy shit! Anyone who grew up in Arizona, grew up with Terri’s Consign and Design! It was HUGE. I had no idea there was such a dramatic, nightmarish backstory. That’s so sad.
Wow that makes a whole other story out of this.
@@jazura2 - I’m not really sure what you mean?
@@DrAnderson1 I meant that you actually knew the business. It made it more real.
@DrAnderson. Yes. I
discovered they sold several things I consigned
or same things I had purchased at retail FOR MORE $$$ THAN I HAD PAID FOR THEM.
Poor woman died from her own stupidity. Then the daughter “knows” Taw is going to commit suicide so she goes into a locked hotel room ALONE to confront him about killing her mother???? What a moron.
What made her think she was safe in that situation? Then she HUGGED HIM??? Bizarre woman.
I think this was generational naivete. Notice there was no man between them for any balance, so they were at risk from the start.
There was a cop outside the door.
Also ..she believed it was her mom's spirit that made her touch his hair & cuddle him.
This irked me too but I guess both mom continued to be forgiving even in death 😊
😂😂right
Pair of morons.
I can see that
Sounds like the dumbest idea to rent a room just to find a man!!! Go to a dating agency. Geeezzz
Dating agencies are no better
Mac I understant
I understand her being lonely. But did this Lady ever realize what she really had in her life? The wealth, the success, the beautiful daughter amd the many good friends?? I doubt it, sad all around.
One reason could be that renting out a room makes money. Dating agencies cost money .
@@MasterCedar True. But money wasn`t the problem here....For him yes, not for the poor murder victim, wished so bad she`S listened to her daughter and friends....
Just pay someone for the boyfriend experience.
Why are women…. Sooo desperate for a man? I never understand this. 🤷🏻♀️
Desperate women attract devious men.
The same the other way around.
I stay single that age and have friends. What is missing is something to relate to and keep the rythm at home. No, problem: my cat expects me to get up at a certain time, to be feed at certain times a day and he seeks attention for 10 minutes between his naps. And I know that his affection is for real :)
I hope you’re kidding? Men are the biggest simps on the planet!
Men are as well, unfortunately a lot them end up killing to keep the women they want.
*understood this
It's really upsetting when a close family member gets under the spell of a person who is a real fraud.
This whole story was extremely sad but also frustrating. I can't wrap my mind around the mom staying in such a one sided relationship for so long. Him not having the deposit or rent money would've been the first 🚩 for me as well as having no ID or other ways to verify who he was, HELL NO!!
Not only that, but she's lonely and looking for a mate, so she takes out an add to rent a room in her house??? What could possibly go wrong? 🙄😬
This is a perfect example as to how our vulnerabilites can result in total brainwashing. That's the only explanation I can wrap my head around as to how she could've turned against her only child and sue her. Unbelievable!!
Right?
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I'm 2 minutes in and can't believe any woman would ever be that naive and foolish. Or desperate.
He was a former CEO yet broke??? What a giant b.s. lie.
As a 57 year old single woman, nor can I!
If someone needs the ‘rent a room’ - they are NOT ‘brilliant’.😜
It's cause a lot of women think with their feelings.
Exactly & it took the daughter a while to cotton on also!
He didn't mention it was The J Dahmer blade company. He was over the Carl slang blade production.
Ladies if you have to give a man money, or help him financially in any way - HE IS NOT WORTH HAVING‼️
Even if that is your husband who needs to share the bill?
@@michelleashley7355 Dang Right! Ever!!
Men should support women. I make sure any man I date pays for our dates & supports my charity & buys dog & cat food for them.
@@phyllisburris7093 you are so smart! Great ideas.
@@phyllisburris7093 Then you're obligated to him, on many levels. That's not for me. No man will have that power over me.
NO circumstance causes a change in character. The mother did not change when a man came into her life. BUT her character was revealed by the circumstance of this man in her life. Having him was of greater value, than her relationship with her daughter.
Something missing in her character was always present, just not visible until this man.
We learn the most about the character of others when difficulty or conflict arises.
It is then that the true character of another is revealed.
Sadly, he saw it from the first encounter and knew his goose would lay the golden eggs he needed!
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18 years?!? She dealt with this evil man for 18 years!
Yeah......that's really hard for me to wrap my head around.
People stay in relationships with evil people much longer than that.
Girl, you could have picked any random unhoused guy off of a corner to shack up with your mama and they would have at least had an ID and a food stamp card, probably SSI or VA benefits too.
So funny
Telling it like it is!
😂😂
She will rent to a broke white man EVERY TIME😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 this hare-brained scheme is the daughter's fault. 😊Darwin law.
The daughter probably hasn't much longer either.
Desperate is desperate.
in every story theres always that person who sees through the BS and usually they are ignored
Yes. Ignored them shunned for not being a “loyal”friend. Sometimes we have to hear what we cannot see.
Running an ad for a strange man to move into your home with no background check, no money, an inventor and a CEO….what could go wrong?
She appeared to be so proud to come up with that "roommate" idea. The mother ended up losing her life.
A friend of mine said “This world is filled with vampires and their victims”
Recognize when you’re about to be a victim 😢
The daughter and mom were gullible. Terrible instincts and lack of common sense. Unbelievable!
Dumber than dumb
Not the brightest bulbs in the chandelier.
blame the victim
@@glddraco666💯👎👎👎👎👎💯
Why wouldn't the daughter hired an attorney or an investigator from the initial buy out request of the business. Her an her mother were already suspicious.
I don't understand - as a 57year old single woman - how either of them could be that naive.
The daughter claimed Taw talked them into letting him handle it due to saving the money it would cost to have someone draw up the agreement. Such BS when she already knew what a loser he was, a liar and a financial leech. I think both mother & daughter needed their heads examined.
@@kimbok5971 Yeah, she said she was hesitant, but having him in the business was dangerous. Well, wouldn't that include drawing up legal papers?!?!
@@kimbok5971 The daughter set her mom up to get got by this fellow in my opinion
Like MANY women, thia mother was so blinded by Romantic Love that she was couldn't see the Reality that was right in front of her. The daughter was also blinded as a "proxy" of her mother's Romantic Love of the same man. Women like these get into trouble because they believe that they can find a Pronce Charming while, in reality, ALL men are just Toads.
I am flabbergasted, this is almost unbelievable.
Agreed😂 i wonder how much ahem artistic license was (or wasn't) taken in video production
Unbelievable is right. I believe there a whole lot of “dramatic reenactment “ in this program. Most of it is incredulous to the point that I was scratching my head watching this saying how can this be true? Like why would you lie all these guns out on the bed like that and invite her into the bedroom so she can see them? Who would do that? no one !especially when they are the accused.
I dated a guy that I was really fond of for about a year. Why is it so important to WAIT a good little while before you let them into your life via living with you or marrying them? I noticed that he constantly complained about life. HE was funny as heck and darn "good" to me, but he couldn't hold down a job. He had 8 jobs in less than a year. I began to see him for the fraud he really was. Then it came. He asked me for money because he was "behind in child support". I told him I had no money to give. I thought about the entire relationship over the year and decided NO WAY am I continuing this. It isn't going to get better. he isn't going to stay with a job and support anyone. I would be paying his way. NO thanks Within 2 days I told him it was over. He found a new woman within a week and they married 4 weeks later. She was foolish. She lost every thing she had, her home, her furniture etc. because he "needed" money. She wound up divorcing him within a year. That's what happens when you're in a hurry to marry.
. A man should be able to take care of himself AND YOU, not you giving him money. Why would you be so desperate for a man that you would lose everything you have for him? He isn't gonna hang around YOU anymore if you don't have anything to give him. Wait for the GOOD man to come along. Trust God with that and you'll get a real treasure.
Nothing Cud be truer than what you said , he will LOSE you once you hv nothng to offer !
I was with you until you said wait and God will bring a good man to you.....I have....and I am still waiting for a quality man. Also I think the man should be able to take care of himself financially ....and ladies should be able to financially take care of themselves and all their needs....and together you buy your WANTS/fun things.
Amen! A man who cant take care of himself let alone his own children he created is not a man. You are SMART, wise!!!
I agree that we should wait on God. I'm still waiting in my 70s, but that's okay. If it's not God's plan for me to marry, that's okay too. I'd rather be single and lonely, than married and miserable. I've never wanted to be financially dependent on a man. Judge Judy always said never give a man money. Many women in her court tried to buy a man's love by giving him money and then she tries to sue him when he dumps her and does not repay her.
Not even move in or marry, but take time to invite him into your life in any way, keep it on your terms until you know enough and if you think it cannot work, move along without the hold of any asset or child!
Having friends with good discernment is always a bonus in a friendship.
Discernment never matters in a situation like this because the friend won’t listen. They will just throw you to the curb and dump you and smear you and runoff with the loser guy and all you can do is wait until it falls apart but by then, the friendship is ruined and all you can say to the person is yes I know how you feel that he has treated you this way and dumped you and disposed of you because it’s exactly what you did to me when I tried to help and warn you. Ultimately karma came for her because of the way she treated her friends and her own daughter. She was actually quite horrible to them all and got what she deserved. I don’t have a lot of sympathy for that kind of stupidity. Love is blind that’s for sure..
Having friends with discernment and trusting what they say is key. She pushed her sister aside. Her sister knew he was no good.
She wouldn't have listened, she was desperate
If he’d done all these incredible things with his life, why is he renting a room? First red flag….
The first red flag was that he
Was a Friend of Donald Trump 😳😷
@@Acts-xu7th True, and as it turns out they were a lot alike. Both grifters and narcissists.
@@Acts-xu7th I caught that, too!
@@jenniferlawrence9473 You & acts 2:38 were all over this!
@@Acts-xu7th Yap! True! Huh!
This woman’s love and courage and determination; her incredible ability to endure such a despicable and heartbreaking fraud against her mother and still search for her body among hundreds of miles desert is truly a story of strength. I am literally in awe of her character and hope to exhibit a 10th of her courage on my life. If I met her I would give her the biggest hug in the world and tell her how much she has inspired me to become a better person.
You got that right
Lies you tell!
Take it from someone who spent almost nine years with a guy who never lifted a finger to help with anything I need help with at my house. He came over and ate my food every other day, and spent entire weekends watching TV and being waited on by me. Funny thing is that I can count the meals he actually bought for me on one hand - minus two fingers. Literally the last meal was sushi, because, according to him, I was in a good mood, which he felt was the perfect time to tell me that we were through. His reason? He wanted to have children. Was there someone else I asked? He lied and said no. Her name was (and still is) Shelly. So my religious boyfriend, who was constantly looking down at the rest of us who weren't religious, was seeing two women at the same time for at least a year. His mother Pat, a god fearing woman, knew all about it. He married Shelly, who still to this day doesn't believe that I ever existed, that Matt was this pure man who waited until he met her. So both my boyfriend and his mother lied to Shelly from the first time they met her and continued to lie to her for years about what Matt had been up to before he met her. These people are out there. Unlike other women in these types of relationships I did not lend money to this man or have him live at my house. He never struck me as someone I could ever rely on, he didn't seem to like working and didn't last long at the jobs he managed to get. He and Shelly went on to have three children and I must say, I kind of felt sorry for her knowing how lazy this man truly is.
How do you know what he was up to after he married Shelly and what he and his mother told her ? We’re you stalking him ? Unfortunately religious men do this and wait for the chaste woman which you probably weren’t. If they’ve had 3 kids and are still together I’m assuming he’s changed his lazy ways.
You stayed in a relationship with a man for almost 9 years whom you described as someone you could never rely on? Wow. You must be a very, very patient woman.
Note: I bet you feel some sort of jealousy towards “Shelly” whom he decided to marry and settle instead of you regardless of how irresponsible and lazy he is. That must hurt a bit. But don’t worry. If he was not marriage worthy for you and was incompatible with you, then you dodged a bullet, so to speak.
Codependency kills
Annette, I married a man for several years and divorced. He quickly got married again and had two boys all grown up by now.
Guess what I heard from my daughter that was with him
she told me past Thanksgiving that he left her for younger girl so if he didn’t marry Patty after me I would be the one left in the dust when I’m old and, no use for him
I’m so glad that I divorced him. I’ve been feeling guilty for leaving him all these years not anymore thank God.
Next time, get rid of the guy. Why were you putting up with that?
Incredible, nobody thought to go to an attorney in this thing?
The Silent. This is what`S astonishing to me too, SInce there was mio involved.....Maybe there is more to the story we all don`t know.
Therapists, the police even!
Yes that's what I was thinking.
Surprising that these business savvy women would not involve an attorney, or discuss matters with the police once they felt something was wrong with this guy.
If they suspected him in the disappearance of the mom and he was threatening suicide, how did things get back to "normal" where he even moved back to the house etc while she lost precious time ? He killed himself while spitefully witholding information on the whereabouts of the mother. And why would the police allow a suicidal man to meet with the daughter behind a locked door? So many opportunities missed. I am glad to know the daughter survived.
My experience with attorneys is that they are worse than useless. William Shakespeare agrees with me.
ok the guy tells you he lost his wallet on a flight back from the UK, all his id is in his wallet? what about his passport? Then how did he get back into the country without his passport....c'mon..! then he tells you about all these wonderful jobs hes done, and hes some CEO? ok, then why does he need to rent a room???? And why does he have money difficulties?? first red flag right there...
Always ask this many questions. Always. Always.
If someone fights you about them, they're prolly hiding something. ( unless you ask the same question 5 times. Lol. Don't bother with that it's just not functional.)
And if they have the answers they'll give em.
It's a very good system should you trust yourself.
People believe what their desperation and fantasies require them to believe. Even in the face of facts. Maybe especially in the face of facts.
Hell, I lost a phone plug on a flight, but the attendant was able to find that! Sure they would have located a wallet!!
@@maycasper2661 huh? what ?
The woman was not educated. Remember the daughter’s story in the beginning. Taw smelled her weakness from the beginning.
So this woman didn’t mind him scamming her daughter but when she realised she was being scammed herself she confronted him. I feel very sad for her but even sadder for her daughter.
1 thing they never mention is “what in hell did this man do with all the money he got from Loretta n her friends??” Gosh, he had no kids, no house payments, no loans bills, nothing! I would have liked to know where he spent all this money. Did he have gambling addiction? It’s a mystery!!
Thank you, I wondered that too!! What did he buy or need
I know he's horrible for other reasons, but the name "Taw" is really just getting to me. I don't know, just be Todd.
Lol yeah that bothering me, too.
I think it's Welsh
Turd works better.
@@terraalbritton6405 That's golden 🤣
Loool 😂 💯
The mom’s sister was her early alarm system! The mom’s loneliness made her very vulnerable! She was dangerously in-love!😢
So true. And she was loved by so many, didn`t she know??
She wasn't desperately in love. She was desperate to BE loved. Not a good recipe for relationship success.
She wasn’t in love she wanted to be loved.
Loneliness can b suffocating. Especially as a woman gets older, realizing in many ways she has been "put out to pasture". It breaks my heart for older folks. And we know men always want younger & younger. I watched my mother go thru it. It can b so insulting and painful. So u surround urself with friends and family but what u really need is another spoon :)
that wasn't love; that was co-dependency
It’s amazing how little we can see when our desires and emotions are clouded. Trust your friends and family observations
She had a ton of money, and probably didn't care that he hadn't paid her anything in 18 years. What she did not count on however, was him killing her when she tried to throw him out. I feel sorry for her daughter, who she threw aside for this useless man.
I have no idea why the daughter, number one, trusted someone that she believed had stolen $10000 from her, to draw up paperwork. Number 2, why on Earth she would pay her mother out a second time?
Love, ever heard of the concept. I understand your point of view as I point out bullshit before it reaches this far hence most people can't stomach me.
I don't understand how Loretta could betray her daughter but the *house* being in foreclosure was the breaking point.
Then again, it was the *daughter's* idea to set up a romance movie plot by renting out a room in the first place and *neither* of them cluing into the *fountain* of red flags he spouted from the moment he entered their lives. His *wallet* went missing, so he has *no* money *or* ID? And he's trying to rent a room *before* that's sorted out? He supposedly went to school with Donald Trump? He's got sure money because he's an inventor and entrepreneur? The most unstable careers *ever* besides artist?
This is idiotic. Not you, just the thought. ( Which most people have about this kind of situation).
Let me tell you why in a way everyone will understand...
We have all had... A Really Bad Ex.
Sure, they're your ex now. But the point is that when you met, you had no idea.
Everyone on this planet is gullible in more ways than one. Even experts about body language get it wrong all the time. That's why people get off the suspect list or get away with murder even.
Or why gacy shook hands with politicians and dahmer got the kid who doesnt speak english -back-, back from the cops, naked and bloody. Even.
Always remember your exes. Lol. Don't trust people so much you let them hold your heart.
You hang on to that.
And always be kind. Cause when you look at tgis world you have to realize that beauty is the only thing worth hanging onto. Everything else is meaningless.
@@maycasper2661
Are you a writer, May? You have a way with words, and mood.
The daughter, it seems to me, is a quity pushy type. It was her, in the first place, who did so much to get her mother to find a partner. She is so matter-of-a-fact that I somehow think, that she might have done decisions on behalf of her mother and thereby put her into a vulnerable situation. I was divorced many years ago and prefer my single life. Glad I didn't have a daughter pushing me into something, because she "thinks I'm too young and still good looking" to live alone.
I don't understand why she started to look for a partner by letting a room. Why didn't she go out dating in the conventional way...?
This is difficult to watch.
There really isn't a conventional way. Also prolly didnt have the apps bro.
Either way she had her reasons, obviously.
She could have wanted to rent and also find love then figured itd be the best way to fall in love. Pick a guy you like, don't tell him you like him. Just see what happens.
But it couldve been different altogether.
Really does sound like a crash course for love though, living together. I could see why a perfectly sane person might venture on that if they were the daring adventurous entrepreneur type.
@@maycasper2661 OK, May.
All the blessings to all good people,
Avi
@@maycasper2661renting a room in hopes it’s a man definitely wasn’t smart at all. Meeting someone at church, the bank, supermarket etc was a 100x better option
It's totally creepy. My first slumlord only rented rooms to young girls and was a total lech. Little difference here.
I empathize with Loretta. It's most unfortunate her close loving relationship with her daughter wasn't enough. She had a thriving business and was very comfortable financially. How could she let this go on for 18 years?
Why? She did it to herself
"Just want to put your hands on something your mother touched" wow that made me emotional. That part of her finding the gifts were so heart breaking.
I feel so bad for the daughter. Her mother was the type of person who did not have any insight into the fact that she did this. She had a hand in this, she created her own fantasy world for her own enjoyment at the cost of anyone and everyone, until it directly affected her
That's a bizarre way to find a partner. Truly
I know some woman did that she had two bedroom, and she put an ad on the paper for a roommate and they were in love at first sight or something like that so they married. I don’t know if they’re married but they had two little girls. I don’t know what’s going on now, but it happens a lot. It was in 90s.
How could anyone ignore the MASSIVE RED FLAGS surrounding this Taw person?
Never let a stranger into your home!
Separating an individual from their family, friends is standard abuser behavior.
They're also pros at targeting vulnerable people whom they can manipulate, abuse.
She was a narcissists dream come true. I bet he couldn't believe his luck when mother let him stay without any cash or Id.
Did the daughter not go to school? You put a desperate add like that in the paper it's gonna attract conmen? Never known anyone so gullible as this mother and daughter
HOW COULD THE DAUGHTER TRUST THAT CON???!!! And, HOW IS SHE SMILING SO LARGELY WHILE SHE TELLS THE STORY ABOUT HIM AFTER HE MURDERED HER MOTHER???!!!!
The daughter is just as gullible as the mother. I am very protective of my mom. Ain't no way would she be moving someone she just met into her house. What's wrong with asking her many friends if they have brother uncle, cousin etc.. CRAZY
I lived in Arizona when this happened and absolutely everyone knew that the leach of a husband had done it! Some people can be so gullible!
Dislexia is the least of her learning difficulties
Lol Omg I almost choked on my food when I read your comment , harsh but true
D-Y-S-L-E-X-I-A
@@williamegler8771 Whoever thought up that word had a sick sense of humor.
@@MasterCedar yes 😂
I just snorted
Just that name alone-- "Taw Benderly" -- is enough to send chills down my spine.
What a sad story. I have been on my own for 25 yrs. There have been times that I felt lonely but never so lonely that I felt that I could trust any man to be honest loving and true to me. I prefer to be alone than be in an existence like this poor woman was. Some woman cannot be their own best friend, but I can. There are exceptions, I know 4 women who have successfully married again after a long first relationship ended when the husband died. But generally the odds are stacked against the women.
I feel that too. You are my kindred friend. I had hoped to have a partner in life....but so far I haven't found anyone responsible or trustworthy to spend time with, much less move in with or share bills with! And I have accepted it. I have been told the loneliest you can be is married to the wrong person and miserable. At least when I am in a bad mood, I don't have to deal with someone else doing something that gets on my nerves. Ha Ha!
@@user-jy3zl2vp4b I hope you continue to have a long, happy and successful life…as your own boss. I read something that is, in my opinion, very true. It is not loneliness that hurts as you get older , but rather it is being forgotten.
I feel you. I would rather be single and happy than with somebody else and be miserable. Happy being single, I tell yah! 😊😊😊
Well being alone is far better than with someone and yet lonely!
"You know what? The next time you need my attention, pick up a sledgehammer and hit me on the head - because it would hurt less than what you did". Terry is an epic storyteller, and a very loving daughter. RIP Lorreta.
yebogogo : I never heard this before, And if I did I`d run!!!
Predators don't care that you make those inane dramatic speeches, they are searching for prey and the more you line yourself up, the more they are ready to go for your throat! Same with victim impact statements. Unless you know the criminal's weakness and what would hurt them the most, say nothing cuz. they live off your angst and emotion cuz. they have none!
I’m about 7 mins in and my brain is screaming “noooooo!!”. HOW do u show up to conduct a transaction to rent property with no identification or $??? I’m just reeling from that ALONE. Wow her mother really turned her back on her, those pillow talks must have been something else. She said they buy out had been done wrong but stated before TAW knew how to conduct buy-outs…so that’s on him! He could have wrote down where she was since he was committing suicide. Very sad & tragic story.
Always remember the Doors. "Keep your eyes on the road and your hands upon the wheel". And " there's a killer on the road, his brain is squirming like a toad". Two priceless Jems.
I’m 63 y/o and married 44 years to my one and only true love. When/if he passes away before I do,..I don’t think I could/would want another man in my life,..not even for companionship (I might be wrong, I don’t know),…but it’s how I feel. Even if I would want another man in my life,…you can bet I would have his background checked out throughly. This case is so sad for mother and daughter.💔
Same . I've been with my hubby almost 15 years . He's 14 years older. I don't believe I will want another man in my life if he passes before I do
I didn’t realize this was on for 18 years. Wow, her mom really did dump her. I do not like her mom or him.
I hope she is doing well.
That shocked me. I thought it was a few years. And how much money he embezzled! Did they say 1.5 mil?
@IslandLace, there's something about the daughter I don't like either
The desperation for companionship sadly cost her .
Her friends, daughter and financial security. He also took away her confidence and soul.
I'm glad she was eventually found, she walked through life with blinders, and now she's found.
He did not take her soul. God has her soul.
@@karenhouser4123Snap AMEN 🙌
@@karenhouser4123 We don't know that, as there is no objective evidence for any gods. As far as we know, this is the only life we have and she unfortunately wasted 18 years of hers on this con artist.
@@karenhouser4123well obviously, after he murdered her.
But she was a empty vessel while living with him. Otherwise she would never have turned her back on her daughter.
"If you remain faithful unto him, he will not forsake you, but abundantly bless you ..."
Guess her friends and family/daughter were not enough for her ....
Really! You think renting a room to a complete stranger with no money is a good way to get a boyfriend? I’m in 5 mins and flabbergasted🤦🏻♀️
The daughter lets the man who she already knows is not legit, draw up the contract for the business buy out and then later buys into the "kidnapping story" of her mother's disappearance. Obviously, stupidity runs in the family.
LMFAOOOOO damn🤣
I also thought, after all that she believes the kidnapping story 🤔
I was so scared when she went into that hotel room alone with him, even if the plain-clothes cop was outside the door.
😂😂😂😂
To quote the Marquis of Queensbury {from Oscar Wilde, on Oscar Wilde} ' He has charm, I'll give you that. Men shouldn't be charming - it's disgusting'.
That. Was the best comment I've heard in months.
@@maycasper2661 Tom Wilkinson was superb as Queensbury in the 1997 film. If you haven't seen it, I'm sure you'd very much enjoy doing so.
Happy New Year, from me in Wales.
People who gave him money are fools. Loretta should have used her own money to pay them back.
Exactly. You invest by giving the money to one of the companies that's involved with the actual product & you do so after having a biz meeting with their execs & seeing detailed proof of what's going on. You don't give the money to the person who told you about it.
Good point!
She was pretty , successful and loved by her family and friends. She didn't need to be with such a loser. .So sad . RIP Loretta
She was a terrible person and mother.
If there was one penny left in the world I would give the whole thing to my children.
I know someone currently in a similar situation 🙃. She lost her husband to death and an old boyfriend took advantage of her loneliness. He moved in and has taken over her home and her life. Lazy sits and smokes and drinks all day while she works. Does absolutely nothing, contributes nothing. She has lost most of her friends and strained relationships with her family. Had get togethers and barbecues at her home prior to this relationship. Was so sad to see this happen but many women have low self-esteem so make these bad choices.
I've skirted a few creeps like that and when clear boundaries are set the name calling and shaming can start up. I got really limerant over a dude and it took a couple of decades to finally get over him ( never lived together) but at the end of my conversation with him he just wanted to 'sleep on my couch' on an interstate visit. Not only was this liar married more than once ( I asked up front, always do and usually get lied to), but 2nd wife found my number somehow and wondered if I'd seen him as he was missing his step daughters confirmation 🤦🏼♀️. I got a hand written letter on school kid notebook paper 3 months after his wife's query saying how great we'd be together while I'd sent him $1100 for a visit never made previously and the cash seemed to go for a Memorial Day blowout. I needed to suffer a minute to get the point but the sting was enough to close that ideation for good. Bad boys are bad news no matter what age group.
They also tend to be brutally ruthless to their friends, especially the ones that try to warn and help them. They tell everyone the friend is a busybody and interfering and usually the really good friend who’s just trying to help gets shunned until the truth comes out but of course, by then the friendship is ruined.
@@thirstonhowellthebird you are so right. The good friend becomes the enemy for pointing out a lazy freeloader.
Vixx, I can never make my mind up whether these women (or men) suffer from low self-esteem or incredible vanity with a truck-sized ego. Years ago an attractive friend of mine was in a relationship with a violent abuser, there were no children involved, and when I asked her why she tolerated his appalling treatment she said "Well, I'm too beautiful to be alone." I gave up on her after that.
@Challenger2A7 wow!
The daughter is an incredible story-teller
That's just a weird comment to make. You know, what with the situation and all. It just was fuggin weird.
@@maycasper2661 The filming and the production value of this is well done. It's just a compliment
@@maycasper2661 Who are you to decide what others might comment?
Was looking for this comment
I thought so, too...and her overcoming her learning difficulties to successfully run a business? That's an accomplishment.
I really like terri. Such a tragedy to become of her mother. Yet she is so calm, collected and loving. A strong business women despite her misgivings.
After he signed the things over to the daughter and she knew everything he owned was ripped from her mom and that he had killed her in return... the daughter still lets him stay in the house.
He was a creep but the story is so similar to Dirty John, it is unbelievable it can happen so many times to intelligent women.
We don't know exactly what he signed over to the daughter. If he and her mum were married then I guess the house would legally be his. Strange though, because there was no mention of them having married, but the police refer to Loretta many times as "your wife" when questioning him.
He knows how to build a business but can't generate enough income to pay rent on a room?
She caught him lying to her but still allowed him to control her finances?
Trust but verify!
I pay my utmost respect to the daughter. She was royal to the end to her mother and loved her so.
I would also feel guilty if I had made my mother have a stranger move in
Netherland Do you mean loay??? Her daughter had the very best intentions, but we all see how it worked out. Can´t just forget all about common sense. Sad all around, hope the dauhgter can find some healing some day.
@@fredajordan5704 i believe they meant " Loyal "
Nah that daughter was part of the problem. Let's go ahead and trust a guy, whom you already have a horrible feeling about, to draft LEGAL buyout papers.
@@WhoParkedTheirCarOnMySandwich With you 1000 percent! 👍👍👋
This is yet another reason why i am blissfully single. ❤
In between meeting him and the dinner, it would've been wise to run the situation by an outside party, at the very least.
My immediate thought: who goes to see a listing knowing they have no idea, no cash, no ANYTHING? I don't care how charming at first - with him out of sight - these glaring red flags should've been apparent
Sometimes you reap what you sow. I'm happy with my cat after my fiance died the other month. He treated me like a princess & I'll never find that again. I'm 41 with 2 boys & 2 girls, I have all I need.
I love this ❤ good for you. Don’t ever let anyone use you or break you.
@@maryannoah8036 thank you, I really needed to hear that right now. 😘 From England X
@Caroline Rowles Sorry for the loss of your fiancé. Glad you are in a good place w your children and cat 🐈. Greetings from an “ Internet stranger” in Chicago 🙂🌸🌸
Iam 47 lets get together carol.
Forty-one seems awful young to give up on companionship.
She says her mom looked like "Alexis from Dynasty" - if you are young and unfamiliar w Dynasty - Start at Episode 1. Its so far out. Alexis isn't in the series until later, but it's still great. Then, when she's introduced, it's extra far out. It's insane 80s fashion and hilariously unbelievable, yet awesome, plot twists. Alexis is the best. EDIT: and the fact that she compared her mom's glamor to Alexis is so sweet, it's like the ultimate admiring compliment.
Sometimes, trying to have it all, we lose it all. Why not just be thankful for what we got ‼️
Those women couldn't be helped, they were determined and profoundly naive
Califirnia : Absolutely. You analyzed thi ´s case correctly. Some women need a man at any price, and I mean at ANY price. Too bad she couldn`d manage her luxury - problems better, she had help and friends....She was not lonely.
Totally agree!
That's a generous way of putting it.
I've just begun watching this, and it's painful to see, because I can see where this is headed.
Potential renters rings doorbell with no money and no wallet, but he can “fix anything”
*Mom extends claws, ignores red flags, and instantly falls in love*
😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
And daughter cosigns.
As someone who has personally been 'taken' before (luckily, only to the tune of a few hundred dollars and that was the only time, yet I still feel 'dumb' thinking about it years later...), I can coin a phrase for people like us: Hope pushes common sense out the door. As foolish as it all seems in HINDSIGHT, at the TIME, I really believed that the gal was coming to live w/ me. Everyone ELSE can usually see it before the 'mark', but it happens and every single person is vulnerable to this type of reaction on some level and to some degree.
So true. And as soon as we learn THIS type of con.....there are already 50 NEW cons we wont recognize or know how to handle safely. The young think they know it all and that con jobs don't change. It is a never ending battle...which ends with us trusting each other less and less...and refusing to show kindnesses to strangers. So sad.
Everybody on this planet has a personal story to tell and it’s never good to bring a stranger into your life because you don’t know what their story is.
We’ve all done foolish things but at her age it’s quite concerning that wisdom wasn’t used. We are suppose to gain wisdom from our life experiences
Definitely not someone who immediately tells you they have no rent money, plus, plus then have a romantic relationship with them. Never do this!! Direct that man to a shelter.
I'm thinking if he globbed onto a different family and friends maybe someone would have been suspicious/intelligent enough to call the police or at least taken him to court to recoup the money they lent him.
It's not the story they tell you need to worry about, it's the truth.
I personally don’t believe you can be soooo manipulated that you can betray your daughter like that. I feel more sorry for the daughter and I can overlook her gullibility because of her condition.
Lee : Good point.
She also betrayed all her friends who invested in her “boyfriend “ and never got a cent back. Sorry but taking advantage of those I love would be a total deal breaker in a relationship!
What condition?
Dyslexia doesn't cause mental deficiency or absence of logic!
What a sad story but she was very gullible. What a shame to put him over her daughter.
These people are some small town, non educated red necks.
Such a sad heartbreaking story. Beautiful woman looking for love but had monster living in her house
Poor Loretta! She DID deserve a man who was kind and financially stable. She, well her daughter, chose the wrong way to go about that!
You’re as smart as Loretta. Good job!
Wow, just wow. How could the women been so naive? Renting a room to a total stranger may work in a Hallmark movie but never in real life. That poor, dear woman had no idea that she let evil walk through the door.
Who wants a man that needs to rent a room in a house they OWN? Make it make sense.
This sounds cold, but always consult with a lawyer.
That's only cold if you make it that way.
For example, if you consult a lawyer but are apologetic and repeat 50 times "im just afraid because tv and i do this with everyone all the time now and I also lock my doors and don't tell my real name online" it's not cold or mean. Just, paranoid. *nods affirmingly*
that's what i don't get also, it's a business- why on earth would you not consult a lawyer!!
It's not cold it's common sense. Geeez.
@@jackiebrown5003 YES!!!!
The daughter’s story is bizarre.
While she didn't deserve it, she definitely allowed it.
More than allowed it, she and her daughter absolutely courted disaster.
This video really had me on the edge of my seat. I'm glad those people found her mother.
loneliness makes people desperate, i remember another similar story, but the rich lady married a younger guy and he killed her
Our Mothers Murder.
@ janet ch Anne Scripps Douglas, 42-year-old heiress to the Scripps-family newspaper fortune
As I was watching this, the "ding, ding, ding" almost didn't stop... Like every lie of the man was like an alarm bell going off, and then the frustrating thing about the lady believing in him for the sake of having a partner? So very sad. I have been in abusive relationship where I had to put up with lies and had a hard time getting out, getting that mental strength to cut off all ties, but living each day in the shadow of a being made a fool, made me do it. And the peace after that was really worth it... Even if I missed him.
Her first red flag was when he stated he lost his wallet and no identification
But people do lose their wallets. So...?
A “ mature” Man answers the add…..shows up to rent the room….. but says I have no money & no I.d.😳……. All I hear & see is🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤷🏻♀️ I would immediately say no thanks…bye bye
Yeah but everyone who met Ted Bundy would disagree.
Also I think you're victim shaming rn, just sayin.
Same here, Creators Child. No way would I let someone like that - no matter how charming or handsome - move in under those circumstances. That’s how you get stuck with people who won’t move out, or worse.
The first question should of been why did you respond to the add did you expect to get it for free !!!
May Casper, what is victim shaming about her post? The woman acted foolishly inspite of the 50 million red flags. Sometimes you just have to accept the truth, even when it hurts
It was a trap to ensnare men to begin with for God's sake. What a foolish woman.
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Very speechless!🙄