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3 Baited Questions Narcissists Use to Manipulate| Questions You THOUGHT Showed Empathy
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Don't explain empathy to an adult. That's something they should have already learned. If they haven't learned empathy by adulthood, steer clear of them.
Period point blank!💪
Amen
Facts
Wow....you seem to not quite get it...
Sometimes they've been used and abused as kids and young adults to the point they don't have any. Maybe because they weren't given any either.
The fish that keeps its mouth shut, doesn't take the bait /hook.
True: 🤔Could also starve to from its own fearful, self-inflicted stubborness...
It's 'walking on eggshells' all over again, and all due to the weight of 'validation' we ourselves place in the hands of others (toxic or not) so we, dependent on _their_ 'feedback', can _judge ourselves_ 'worthy' of being loved, wanted and accepted.
Deep I know, but many of 'us' have learnt to be very good at projection as we strive to navigate the toxic waterways around the poisonous narcissistic rocks, reefs and freak waves they represent.
@@PeterAcrat Keeping it's mouth shut means to not respond. Then swim/run/escape. Do not walk on eggshells, have no contact. Whatever it takes. Do not depend on others for validation. Judge yourself. Know that you are worthy of being loved,wanted and accepted by someone worthy of yourself.
I love this analogy because I’ve heard too many times closed mouths don’t get fed and the reason I do that is because I don’t take bait 😂
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Even though I know the narcissists do the exact opposite of what you tell them that you want, I still was responding when they were being nice and answering these questions when asked. I needed this reminder of who and what I am dealing with. Thank you.
Understood
Interesting.
"What am I doing wrong now?" even when I wasn't saying or implying anything was wrong. I could breath in the middle of my sleep and be asked that after I sighed in my sleep. Then something becomes wrong by me asking why they are asking what they are doing wrong and not having a clue.
They already know the answer to the question.
Spot on! My ex wife used these questions when trying to bring me back into her influence. I didn't take the bait because I knew what she was.
Our young kids should be taught about debate and baited questions, loaded questions and the rest of it. They are such good critical thinking skills to know! Thank you!
These are tough, because these questions are actually healthy to ask in any relationship in my opinion. So it's like we don't have a choice to take the bait, put ourselves out there by giving the information, and then we wait and see what happens and what they'll actually do with the information we gave them. If they use it for "ammo", or they just ignore whatever info you gave them, don't bother taking the bait anymore.
I want to say thank you for saying this.
Yes, i heard these from the exnarc but i have also found my self asking these same questions to both my kids and other relationships. With the kids, im trying to just communicate with them. I as them what they need (emotionally...and they will respond with...i just want to say or i need a cuddle (they are 5 and 6)) and i legit want to help them with emotional and conflict resolutions...and ive asked boyfriends (now exs 😭) what was going wrong in the relationship and how we can come to a compromise (unfortunately at my age...40s...both parties are less willing to bend as much as in 20s and 30s...stubbornness i suppose)
But watching this my heart started falling as i was thinking....maybe im a narcissist and therefore unable to properly love and AM I manipulating my kids when im asking this style of questions...
I just dont know....
@@LittleClovis narcissists don't question themselves whether they're narcissists or not. They just think they're right. They're not open to the idea of thinking there is something wrong with them and that they have to grow emotionally to better themselves. They also don't care about other people's feelings, they just care about using their feelings to exert control.
Exactly - they are healthy questions - and it's healthy to answer questions like this .... when they are asked with sincerity. Sadly - anyone high on the scale is not asking because they care. Learning to differentiate between healthy people asking and toxic people faking it - is so important.
It's all about motive.@@LittleClovis
@@FromSurvivingToThriving I learned this the hard way. A narc's "empathy" is phony and manipulative for some other goal. They aren't interested in the truth and people are basically just commodities to them. They thrive off gossip, drama, and the pain of other people, so you can’t share any personal information with them because it will be used against you. They’re completely untrustworthy.
My covert narc mom will manipulatively lie about basic information I give her or ask baited questions as a pretext to act up, then claim it's because she's "concerned." She's very closeted and everything is always "wrong" with everybody else. She especially loves using her phony cutesy schtick to see who has money she can "borrow," and is just an exploitative, manipulative, toxic, pathetic monster. She "tells" on herself all the time because she projects all of her own flaws and behaviors onto other people (e.g., who's a gold-digger, who's just associating with somebody else for money, etc.), including those she knows nothing about.
WOW! My mother always asks me this about my sister who cut her off….meanwhile my sister has already told her over and over what she did wrong and how to fix it.
Thanks Michelle.
Beyond the 'good and bad', 'The Mirror' reflected to us is certainly Life-Learning - at the _Bachelor_ level!
1:05 NARC: "Tell me what I'm doing wrong?"
You: (Insert ANY genuine answer opening yourself to a deeper emotional connection...)
☢️ NARC: "Why do you always get to say what's right and wrong? You are SO controlling!"
3:11 NARC: "Why does that bother you?"
You: (Insert ANY genuine answer opening yourself to a deeper emotional connection...)
☢️ NARC: "I'm not here to teach you how to be an adult! You are (insert age); you're a grown person! - and _this_ bothers you? I don't have to be what I don't want to be. I'm happy to be on my own you know!
4:51 "What do you want me to do?"
You: (Insert ANY genuine answer opening yourself to a deeper emotional connection...)
☢️ NARC: "You sound like you always get given whatever you want! I'm very Black n White! I've lived to be who I am. People aren't here to just give you what you want all the time you know? You should be more mature!
Yeesss!! So well put lol
My narc wife never asked what she was doing wrong because as far as she was concerned she was perfect and knew everything! She was indifferent to anything that bothered me when I raised any concerns about her family's behavior towards me.
It appears, we were married to the exact same person.
That's my husband too
That first sentence cracked me up 😄, as sad as it is 😩
I told my husband that I needed more hugs. He later told me that I was a "hug addict" and THEREFORE, the best thing for me was NO more hugs at all, in order to "break me from my addiction".
It's crazy-making for sure. I needed a trauma coach to show me what was happening. Who could imagine your own Mother would do such a thing? And why on earth would she do that 🤔
Terrible
I still have the same feelings whenever I think back to my mom doing it. Just why? Why would she do that? Why?
The questions, I would get constant questions. The questions were designed to put me in a bad mood. After a while it didn't work anymore. Most of her tricks stopped working. She had to ramp it up and ramp it up she did. But constant mind f**** got ridiculous. After 14 years I finally filed for divorce. And then wow she really got mean.!!
@@That_Handle I can tell you've done your homework. You seem to understand these personality traits. I still find myself feeling sorry for her. I still mourn the fantasy. She could be really wonderful at times. It just never lasted more than a month or two. I've been no contact for 2 years I'm still working on myself. I think my biggest problem was fear of being alone. It turns out being alone is not so bad.
@@brianreed8271 ,
Maximize yourself during your peaceful times- tune into yourself, senses, perceptions, what were once unconscious projections or covert contracting you may not have been aware you were enacting and just rejoice enjoying the peace and find things to invest in yourself while you allow the cptsd to take awhile to detox and recalibrate oneself. Sounds like you already have perspective how much to build as well as have a healthy dose of compartmentalization. Best wishes. 👍✌️🤟🖖
This is why I stopped “explaining” to my dad why his behavior is abusive. He doesn’t want to know to solve the issue. He just wants to use it to gaslight and manipulate me
This is so eye opening!!! And so true!! He would ask these questions all the time, and, especially the last one, would always do the opposite. Like the more I said it, the more he did the opposite. Crazy
Yes, I don't understand how the abuser can do that so well. This is so helpful explaining, thank you! ❤️
Why are you so upset ? = Why are you trying to put words in my mouth without question
That necklace looks beautiful on you Michele
Interesting video! I agree completely. I've also found that the question, "Why does that bother you?" is a common gaslighting phrase. My dad would do things on purpose that would make anybody mad, and then if I reacted, suddenly it was, "why does that bother you so much? You're obviously too sensitive". Ugh. So frustrating.
Through your videos I am able to see clearly how toxic MY OWN behavior is. I learned to be a narc by being raised by one but until I was in middle age I couldn’t see the problem. You have saved my life and have given my children a better future.
Something about this video with individuals asking questions is some sort of power struggle because I have been asked questions and then it makes it seem like I am triggered in some way and they are the ones in control.
I had a very controlling Christian friend who said you'll know you're spiritually mature when you're not offended by some of my behaviors!!!! I have now stepped back from that 'friendship'. It was so hard as I thought we were good friends but it was all control. Another good friend who I had confided in said it was unhealthy and abusive. I was so distressed by that friendship thinking it was my fault because she was ok with everybody else but it was all a front. Thank you for these videos.
In my experience, I have known a few highly controlling people who use their self-proclaimed Christianity for power and manipulation purposes. It's sickening.
I can relate to your situation.
Its very sad that we can encounter such people in the church too... Your ex- friend sounded like a manipulative, controlling narcissist who hides behind a facade of false spirituality...She must have also lovebombed you many times too that you felt uneasy to let go the friendship. But let me tell you, you did the right thing.
I have come across a few such people in my church too...
In my case, they loved giving occasional non- edifying comments that hurt the heart and disturbed the mind the whole day...and everyday.
The drama will not stop there.....
Passing rumours to each other seemed like their favourite hobby...Michele called them smearing campaign.. Bible study was a little gossiping session.
You were wise to leave that controlling friendship.. It would have stifled and detered your spiritual growth. You would be constantly put on guilt trips.
Its a waste of time mending this kind of relationship, as Michelle have said.
God knows everything... and its this kind of human character that grieves God's Spirit very much..
For me, I left my whole 'church' completely as some leaders were the narcissists. They turned the congregation of about 100 into a small elite club and Jesus wasnt at the centre...the leadership was the centre. I wasnt there to worship Man but God. So, with God's blessings i left. It wasnt easy but God held me close throughout the 'exodus' of crossing my personal Red Sea. THE Smear campaign never left eventho i left them. But God has been faithful.
I thank God my faith has increased leaps and bounds after i left that 'church'...God led me to a wholesome preacher now who put Jesus Christ at the centre of all sermons.. I achieved freedom completely when Jesus Christ is truly at the Centre of my life.
God is in our midst and Jesus loves us very much.. Give a call to Jesus Christ anytime and everytime when someone lets you down - Jeremiah 33: 3 ..
God bless everyone with Christ's Jesus Love. 🙇♀️❤ All Glory and
All Praises to God alone. Amen.🌻💕
Yes...I remember my NM doing something abusive, and I'd quit speaking to her. I'd get over it, and try to talk things out eventually. She'd say, "What did I do wrong now?" They know exactly what they did, but they enjoy playing dumb/victim to get pity. They also try to convince others that they don't know why you're not speaking to them. That's how they gain their enablers, and flying monkeys as well.
Omg the first question my mum acts. That’s when I thought she cared.
I’d always refuse to answer because personally it was a lot, I didn’t want to talk to her.
I’d already accepted she won’t change, and I was right.
These people are twisted on the inside because of "childhood trauma" if the person/s responsible for their upbringing didn't help them but caused more trauma. We are not equipped to deal with this evil person. They NEED God to transform them.
Studies now are showing that it’s roughly 60% genetics and 40% upbringing but could just be one or the other but leaning toward a genetic dysfunction
I noticed that a lot of them were not abused but severely enabled. Never told "no" and always praised. Overendulgence that is called I thoughy..
I'm shocked because I came here thinking my exs probably did this or guys that I talked to that were interested also asked but, I discovered I'm the one who's been doing this all along! 😨😧😞. I need serious self reflection 😩
Tell the truth...and if that don't work then it's done....a person can tell you or ask you a million things but it is your choice to believe them or not and in my experience a person would rather believe a lie than the truth
I forget the Author .......
It's easier to deceive someone than it is to convince someone they have been deceived
#3 Spot on! I heard that all the time. Then when I'd tell him what I wanted, he'd do it begrudgingly, and then turn it against me. I began to have anxiety with that question. After being with a person like that, it also became VERY difficult to know what I wanted anymore.
Question 1: What am I doing wrong?
Question 2: Why does that bother you?
Question 3: What do you want me to do?
Now I doubt healthy people also who ask these questions lol
It is really hard when you really love the person. Mine ask me all the time #3. Then she does them for a day or 2 then they are out the window !!! Back to her norm. Then the next time these come up she claims they were never discussed before. Funny but it is the small things that matter!!! After a 10-12 hr day in the heat (Florida) I get home from work and the dog meets me first then my teen daughter then I go find my wife. When I discussed this with her she was spot on the next day......... then back to the same old thing dog, daughter and then I gotta go find her.
I definetly feel chewed up and spit out. I don't feel anything anymore, not even when I'm alone. I love him but I want to get away from him. I hope, but I feel it's hopeless and the ambivalence is making me numb and heavy. He can be so sweet and at times I am moved to tears. But then the baiting starts and my heart just sinks. I used to be so reactive, now I just want to curl up in a ball and disappear. I almost never speak my mind anymore, only if we've had a good cople of days and I feel we're on the road to understanding each other. When he gets mean I don't panic like I used to and fly into explaining mode though, but my heart does break and I numb out. I feel like a ghost and I wish I could let go of the stupid hope I still have, even if I don't have it. I'm either the best thing that has ever happened to him or the devil, there is no in between. If I have a bad day, I am difficult for not worshipping him, even if it has nothing to do with him and I generally do. I dream of dropping everything and go on a pilgrimage to spain all by myself. But I have a dog and debt and he is always in a crisis I need to save him from. It's a loop, a vicious cycle and I am just on it. I used to feel so much, now even my breath feels heavy in my chest and I just sigh because I can't.
Likewise, except sexes are the reverse. She simply wants to live by her lizard brain while maintaining an image of a wholesome individual. The cognitive dissonance and the arrogance make for interdependent disarray. I am coming to where I am no longer reactive or angry, but often apathetic when disillusioned, or even sad for her.
I get it trh. He sounds just like my ex-wife. I think you have to understand the difference between love and in measurement and the trauma Bond. It's not easy but you can have a better life.
@@nicholasatom4563 I'm 3 years divorced 2 years no contact. I finally don't feel sorry for her anymore. I feel like I'm finally getting somewhere with my recovery. I'm just indifferent I mean I don't help anything bad what happened to her. But I'm not positive she is not my problem. I no longer have to chase down dragons that don't even exist.
TR H this is my life as well, you are not alone friend. We will be given double for our trouble, There is purpose in our pain. And I keep remembering that there is real Love out there in the world. It’s there, wether you believe it or not :) I guard my heart around him when it’s needed, don’t forget to guard yours to. Don’t drink poison voluntarily. And you can still have Joy don’t internalize their B.s it’s theirs not yours. So don’t carry it. - these are some things that keep me going. Keep your head up! :)
@@brianreed8271
Brother, while you may be comfortable where you are, currently, in your perspective, I want to propose a question for the two of us to reckon with together, since I am only thinking of it as I write now.
Similar to the question as to when does an individual human being reach a point mentally which they are accountable for their actions? Or even interwoven with this inquisition, really. In order for one to become accountable, they must be at a certain stage in development which we call autonomy, and this is really intricate business at this point, because "autonomy" is subjectively determined from the outside and subsequent judgement is made arbitrarily, subjectively.
What do you think of my thoughts at this point?
My dad would never ask me what he is doing wrong whether about me or anyone else. He simply would never care. As he is ALWAYS right and NEVER does anything wrong. Nor would he ask me why anything bothers me. Lastly, he would never ask me what I would want he would want me to do. Never to all of these.
I have literally heard these questions from narcs I've dealt with. My mother asked these all the time and would do the opposite. They are literally crazy people and will use any information you give them. My mother knew I had dealt with an abuser in my life and literally lunged to try and hit me (I'm a full-grown adult) soon after that experience during a visit home. That was my final straw and reality check as to what she is.
Uhhh, I had to listen to it three times! Unbelievable!
Thank you Michelle. There is someone who we thought cared and I told them we lost someone dear to us. Two weeks later he used this against us. I called him up on it and he asked what is it he is supposed to have done. There were witnesses present . Needless to say he said that he had totally forgotten and lied about that also. In the end we just had to leave the conversation in other not to continue the drama. This person is now coming after us but we put boundaries up and then you are accused of disturbing the peace. I can easily go supernova on him. Needless to say he has authority in a well known preaching organisation. Everyone sees what he does but he is protected and he continues to abuse, devalue and insult people yet he must be respected. Hell is on earth and these people think they are God.
You do good work Michele.
I had one woman, after putting out all the signals and a whole bunch of sexual tension ( over the course of a year ) ask me, " what happened ? ".
Followed by " something bad happened, didn't it ".
I turned and walked away !!!
I wasn't going to be her rebound !!!!
She knew I was interested before she started seeing the guy she was with !!
If only she had the courage to do a simple approach !!! She could have had me at hello !!!
These sound concerned & luckily don't think I've ever been asked these, tho had alot of narcissists. Totally agree it's about actions. Great info tho & pretty necklace 📿😊
My favorite from my sister is "tell me what I've done wrong to you and I'll admit to the one's I've actually done..." wait what?
I am at the point where I throw my husband narcissism back in his face when he is being difficult just because.... with questions like.....Do you need attention, do you need me to be upset or react to something here ? I am at the point where I Do Not Care Anymore. you pissed about something .....ok, you go be pissed somewhere else, I refuse to walk on eggshells for you.
You blow my mind with these videos. I'm so grateful I found you. I really needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️
Most beautiful Michelle....the only that rivals your beauty...is your wisdom ❤️
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What do you want me to do? = You really think I care and I'm going to change for you??!
Yes, it’s like a check mark to validate that whatever they are doing is really working to upset you.
Wow, so true. Thanks for this ❤
i also feel the last one is asked in order to transfer the responsibility for their life and deeds onto you, bc if they do something wrong later they will blame you that you did not tell them preciselly enough or weren't clear, yadda yadda. just one more plot to avoid the responsibility for their own life, deeds and espec. their many wrongdoings. of course they know exactly what they are doing and thrive on someones pain and the power of fooling you, making you think they are this illusion grandios-wonderfull person, in the lovebombing stage. thank you so much Michelle for teaching us how to NOT be baited.
Thanks lovely Michelle
Oh my, question no 1 soooo relatable
Excellent analysis
Thank you for your videos. Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ coming your way. 😊
Yup. Yup. And Yup. :/
It stuck out, to me, that I would never dare be on the asking end of questions like these baited ones. The conditioning to accept imbalanced interactions is deep, for me.
Great topic, very helpful!
This happens such a lot in social media. So many comments are replied with a baiting question, it gets confusing as it is hard to tell on social media if it is genuine
My ex would say “what can I do?”
OMG you are so right. I’ve heard it, good thing is I didn’t give an answer. Those questions were used to hurt me and to hurt who my real friends are.
They love to bait or to use any statement you make as an excuse to try to start an argument.
My mother would never ask this. She is right. Im wrong. THE END
Good job.
You are really smart.
So Smart, so beautiful.
Thank you Michelle. Just the question... how do we respond to these questions? ❤
You are not supposed to respond :) dont take the bait!
@@phdarroca1 just stay silent and look at them??? 😂😂 That sounds funny 😀😃
@@zion367 Exactly! ...as you look at her...slowly glance at your watch...then say...oh i forgot its time to feed my piranhas. Gently get up...open the door and run away! 🤣🤣🤣
Never reply and act dumb like you don’t really understand them. It’s like grey rocking and avoiding them altogether (DEEP technique by Dr Ramani) You may feel bad at first because you naturally have compassion and are a genuine person but remember you are not dealing with a genuine person and remember all the times they set up traps to hurt you. The bait is a set up for supply especially the more you avoid them the nicer they cat because they need you back for their supply by arguments or criticising or insulting you to feel better about themselves.
Only healthy people deserve sincere and truthful answers because it’s a healthy dialogue in a healthy relationship.
Narcissists are not healthy and most never change speaking as a scapegoat with a family of these people. It’s best to stay away and make plans to leave their space as soon as possible for your own mental health and sanity.
@@Layla-fr7mf i understand what you are saying, however i do not agree with it. I do agree with not answering the question, bit to play dumb would mean that i would become inauthentic. I prefer telling them that i am not going to answer that question because i feel that it is not sincere. To that they might respond with "you are paranoia" or something and then i van calmly respond that they have the right to think that about me. I think standing my ground in peace and love is more powerful then becoming inauthentic due to their behaviour. I could also respond with, "do whatever feels good to you, bit know i do not accept toxic behaviour". I think all people deserve to be respected, narcissist or no narcissist. If i respect myself, i will respect others, because its eho i am and i alone hold the power to decide how i move myself in this world and no toxic person is ever gonna prevent me from being myself. They can critisize or manipulate me, i deal with that on a daily basis, but i k ow it is not personal. They feel so aweful about themselves that they resort to that behaviour just to feel a tiny bit of relief amd that in itself deserves my compassion. I do need to set boundaries around their behaviour, but i am capable of doing that in a loving way.
Last night i watched a video from Stephanie Lynn on yt and she also explained how to set boundaries around that behaviour by saying: "i understand that you may feel pain right now amd although i have compassion for that your behaviour towarda me is not okay"
I think thats perfectly authentic and a powerful way to deal with toxic behaviour.
Question number 2:" why does that bother you?" If they don't realise their actions are bothering you, that shows lack of empathy, unless they genuinely would like to know to grow in that case, once explained they should empathise. Also, once you explain why their behaviour/action bothered you, it could injure their ego and they could shift the blame back on you. Don't get caught on the hamster wheel
What if the questions are to fulfill their own voyeuristic needs? Like they get off on getting people to divulge their secrets out of pure enjoyment and even gossip.
Getting the question, was I really that bad? Is along the same lines but they never accept the result.
With these questions either you 1.react Or 2.fall in drama battle. The 3 qs are:
1.what am I doing wrong or wht I'm. doing wrong that he or she is hurt? If you feel they care and answer you will fall for bait
2.why does that bother you.. Y r u upset? They don't mean it remember. They are not asking to get them better they r asking to manipulate you,trigger you . Remember when u shared ur core woundsthey used to hurt u instead of caringfor u
3.what do u need? What do u want me to do? It's baited q. It's q asked how to emotionally regulateu bait you.
✌🏻💪🏼 Thanks
Question x, after spinning you up: "Are you ok?"
Do you cover information about dealing with an adult narcissistic daughter?
When people ask these baited questions, how do you recommend answering them without taking the bait? Not answering? In which case, what should a person say in response? Thanks!
I see what your saying here but it doesn’t apply to my situation. Things are going to click with my spouse any day now. Sure, she hasn’t attempted to change in 11 years. I get that, I really do. But if I can just say things in a way she will understand, she will be forced to see the destruction she is leaving in her wake.
This is the part where you guys laugh and I move on to the 2nd joke in my standup comedy special. 🤣🤣
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I really need some help Michelle I'm so desperate. I have been trying to just suck it up and deal with it . I don't even entirely know what it is that I and dealing with but I can feel the stress and anxiety depression from it whatever it is . I made a terrible desicion to move 1600miles and put everything on the line for a person I thought was the one . Maybe she could have been idk anymore. I'm torn between she is a very good narcissist one that studies all the tricks and is very acquainted with everything psychology. Or and this is what I believed most of the time we were together and I want to believe is the case. That is that she has been hurt and the results of her past is why she is hypervigilant and has made me out to be the enemy . The way she left is what a red flag I lost everything trying to be with her. I have no support or help I'm about to be homeless at this point. She didn't discuss anything say good bye just no closure and hasn't spoke to me again . I'm at the point where I'm ready to commit suicide. Not because of her my life in general. Long story . I need help can't afford it have no family support completely alone and the realization of my childhood basically whole life from searching for answers to what's going on with her and the names she called me chasing doubt and looking to see if I am indeed these terrible names she called me . I feel like my head is going to explode with all the info and angle and on and on its too much
when I told me narc ex-friend that I didn't want anything to do with her online and offline when she asked me why I unfollowed her on socmed. she sent me this last message: "did I do anything to hurt you? if so im truly sorry" (even though I already told her what she did that hurt me and she's still asking the question hypothetically)
my gut told me this was a baited question and her intention of asking this was either to have one last gratification of me telling her how much pain she inflicted or her chance to keep up the victim image because she wanted me to point fingers at her angrily.
in the end, I didn't give in to the bait and calmly replied its not personal and the reason I'm going no contact with her is because I wanna become a better person.
I didn't want to say this at first because it seemed as if I'm "letting her get away with it" by not acknowledging her actions but I could tell this wasn't the answer she wanted to hear and it wasn't gratifying for her hearing me say that "she hasn't done anything personally to hurt me" (which she has multiple times) this answer took away her power and I'm glad I found this video because it just confirms it
Michele😉😊
Change to play back speed 1.75
I believe that there are evil people in this world.
Tats y marry so u have rites
Yoy must know mt wife😊
My mother loves to ask me are you home?. Yet I'm 26 years old. I told her and made it clear that I don't want to be asked that and she continues. When I explain to her she has this nonchalant look on her face like I dunno I just wanted to know or are you passing your classes, yet I'm in college and I always pass my classes I'll say yes and she'll ask me again, and act as if she didn't do anything wrong or use what her mother did as to why she does and says things to justify. Smh
Next time she asked if you are home tell her that you dont answer that question.