5 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Friendship
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- Опубліковано 31 лип 2024
- Do you think you may be outgrowing your friends? Have you ever found yourself becoming distant from someone you used to be friends with? Outgrowing friends can be a sign of you getting more mature, pursuing your own goals, improve your personal growth, and knowing what you’re looking for in a friend. While it’s definitely sad, it’s completely natural and can even be a good thing in the long run. To help you identify whether you've outgrown your friendship, we made this video just for you!
If you relate to these signs but you're still not sure whether you should end your friendship, we made 2 videos on the signs you should or shouldn't let go of your friendship.
6 Signs That it's Time to Let Go of a Best Friend: • 6 Signs That it's Time...
7 Signs You Shouldn't End A Friendship: • 7 Signs You Shouldn't ...
Writer: Lily Metrinko
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Evelvaii
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
If you have any topic requests or stories to share with us, feel free to email us at editorial@psych2go.net
You voted in our community poll. Here's the video release! Have you checked out our other related friendship videos yet? 6 Signs That it's Time to Let Go of a Best Friend: ua-cam.com/video/nNgIi4eJduY/v-deo.html
7 Signs You Shouldn't End A Friendship: ua-cam.com/video/TA9t3YX0ShA/v-deo.html
hi :)
Love u psych2go!
Hello
Your art is so beautiful 😌
Thank you so much for these videos... It actually helps me a lot... Not just me, many others too. Thank you 💕
Coronavirus has destroyed so many friendships of mine it’s horrible...
But it leaves room for more friends!
The VERY person that I was thinking about throughout this entire video is due in a vast part to Covid-19. 🦠☣️
Same, I argued with my WHOLE F***ING CLASS and broke up my friendship of 8 years
You're lucky you have friends I don't I'm always alone
Same. I actually just got "dumped" by a toxic friend last night, but I made a new friend at the exact same time. :)
I've outgrown almost every friendship. My friends never really cared about me and I was just stuck in one sided friendships which is way worse than being alone. So I'm fine how I'm now.
It's normal and it means you've grown to become a better person :) - Cindy
@@Psych2go Thank you for comforting me ;-)
@@githala_manisha Noice
Awe luv I feel you completely 💗. I hope you’re doing better and ok ! You will meet people that genuinely care about you I know you will!
You what’s really fun? “Growing out of people” into naught.
“It’s a good thing to move over from past friendships into newer, more compatible ones”.
I agree. It is a good thing.
Sees my little pony character: But friendship is magic!
I thought I was tripping it’s been so long since I’ve watched the show 😂😭
I counted, like, 5 pony-colored characters in the intro.
2:42 "My Little -Pogchamp- Pony"
@@dovewing3986 on the book
@@mediciki602 sameee I had to look at them like 4 times cuz I wasn’t sure if I was tripping 😂😂
the feeling is weird cause it's sad but freeing at the same time
Yes exactly
Feels like a paradox.
How are things now? Any new changes or regrets?
Just like anything in life, friendships come and go. When this happens, I like to look back at it fondly for good memories and remember the growth it provided for the person I am today 🤗
Indeed 😊
So you don't think about why they don't want to hang with you anymore ? And why they lost interest in you?
@@AD-jq7ow the video answers it, you’re outgrowing your friendship
Nope they don't come and go for me, everyone just hates me for being an introvert.
@@AD-jq7ow I do, but I figured most, some just moved away and lost contact. Most were toxic and left me as soon stood up for myself. Others left because I was too clingy or had no longer anything in common
The fact that this got posted the same day I’m no longer best friends with someone
Sorry to hear that! 😕 You will find someone else that deserve you as a best friend - Cindy
I'm sorry, I hope you can heal from this.
More evidence that we live in a simulation
@@sleepyote Thank you❤️
@@colebeans3145 HAHAAHHAA FOR REALL
Some people think that it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go. 💞
Agreed! No matter what sort of relationship it is. Sometimes staying together can make things worse ,’:(
I struggle to let go of friendships, I’m quite a clingy person.
To anyone who has a clingy friend, don’t get annoyed that their so clingy, fear drives them to be like that. Just talk to them privately and ask why if they willing to tell you. I’m clingy because of my struggle to make friends, have trust issues and much more.
Letting go actually requires more strength then holding on a lot of times. So, I totally agree! You'll learn in life sometimes you won't want to let go, so some people don't. But the strongest people are able to let go and grow into a better version of themselves. Letting go isn't easy but holding on, just holds you back.
True
@@Cr4zy3lf Some men tend to do that, especially when they lost their wives.
This made me cry because I've realized I've outgrown the friendship with my +10 years best friend, and it hurts like hell
I hope by now you are feeling better about the lost friendship. I am probably much older than you but still understand the feeling of realizing a friendship has changed. A year or two ago I took a hard and objective look at some friendships that opened my eyes to some realities I hadn't noticed before. It's not easy but it does help to see things as they really are, not as we would like them to be. No matter the age, we continue to learn from experience. Wishing you all the best.
Thats exactly what I'm going through right now with 15 years of friendship
@@superash4u578 going through the same rn, I feel you. Sending love!!
Oh boy , same here but I am not upset about it anymore . 24 years of friendship. I haven’t heard from her for a few months . People change , we move on
Me too, I’ve known her since I was a toddler
not friends
not enemies
Just strangers that has memorise
Written very poetically :)
Srry where’s my grammar
Not friends
Not enemies
Just strangers that have memories
@@Justinebrielle2015it's ok to do grammer mistakes rather than lacking emotions. You have expressed your feelings and that's enough ❤
@@Unseen00005 ty!
Reminds me of a song, about how people become "somebody that I used to know"
Sometimes, that's just the turn things take. But life goes on. A wise man once told me, "Remember the past and consider the future. But live in present."
That's how I've held it ever since. I cherish my memories, all the fun we had, but I don't dwell on it. Life goes on, and new people become important to you. And that's a good thing - new memories to be created.
Cool, I've outgrown the only friend I had. So who is next, outgrowning myself
You opened up space for new ones. Join me on that quest.
You make new non toxic ones. Trust me
Same.
I have a close friend but we've drifted apart she bully😭😂but also funny soo idk😩
no. the next thing is making new friends
‼️ timestamps ‼️
0:13 - introduction
1) 0:54 - “your values conflict”
2) 1:25 - “you don’t spend time together anymore”
3) 1:52 - “you don’t tell each other everything like you used to”
4) 2:25 - “things don’t feel natural with them anymore”
5) 2:53 - “would you still be friends if you met them today?”
3:50 - outro
hope these were useful
Very useful. Thanks!
Thanks
Cheers.
Very useful indeed... thank you very much🙏
Public services be like:
it’s actually more tiring to still prolong a friendship when both sides have outgrown it obviously. like why are we still holding on and forcing it when it’s not working anymore i think just letting it go through mutual agreement is healthier, no bad blood just closure
Healthy closure is always a good way to go and that's done through good communication.
There is so often some self-interest behind most friendships which is why that friendship without self-interest is one of the rare and beautiful things in life. One good friend is worth more than a thousand fake ones 🖖
This is a quote
This the one!
Wow this is so true and very based
tbh I think however small, there's still a self-interest aspect to every kind of friendship. the most bare minimum is everybody want/need another's open heart, so you don't feel lonely by yourself any longer.
To be honest I feel like I’ve outgrown pretty much every one of my friendships I just stay friends with them because it’s awkward when I see them everyday at school. I relate to most of the signs
same...I have this friend that doesnt let me go like, she is very toxic sometimes. I just think about a life without her and it gives me this strange type of peace. But i dont want her to be sad, i just wish she wasnt a bad person.
Same here, most ppl from my school ask me if I want to meet up but I’m not interested in them anymore or pretend I don’t know them bc they excluded me then so yeah...
You will soon be out of school and will find a new world out there. Meanwhile balance your time with your current friends and alone time to get to know yourself better and what it is that you seek in friendships. A new life will open up to you.
@@jeansindhikara1823 Your comment gave me peace😭
I’m bisexual and gender questioning and my best friend is VERY against LGBTQ+
And well I’m very introverted and hate hurting peoples feelings but she says what she feels
And I told her I’m bi and she still hates on LGBTQ+ when I’m around
And I told her that I was gender questioning and she said
“Your probably not, I mean you’ve always been a girl”
And I just smiled and nodded my “thanks”
I think the biggest sign you’ve outgrown a friend is when you’ve literally outgrown them…like they want and expect you to stay in the confines of the box that they’ve created for you. They constantly dismiss anything about you that provides for your expansion and readily accept pictures of you that show you to be small
This.
This is a clear sign that it's time to move away from your group so you can evolve in a new one.
But... friendship is magic 😫👏
Yes! With the right friends :)
But with fake friends... It's hell! I don't wanna even think about them anymore and i wish i could erase that part of my life🙂
During the pandemic, my friends and I kinda just drifted apart :(
-A time traveler
i hope everyone reading this has a successful and amazing life! (readmyname)
I feel you. The pandemic has really soured things, but at the same time reaching out can really weed out which friendship is worth pursuing in the future.
P.S.: great profile picture, by the way.
For me it was the opposite, because we were all away and moving on with our lives, everyone in different cities, but when the pandemic started we became closer through social media, and because we had noone to talk about our problems, we became our only support uwu i suggest u make a group with all your friends, so u can chat of whatever
POV: you are confused how everyone is time traveling
How the fuc-
@@ariiyss i hope everyone reading this has a successful and amazing life! (readmyname)
i think it's cuz of patreon early access to videos or smth
how the frick
Don't you get it? This comment is making us confused about how everyone is time traveling.
I'm growing distant from almost everyone. It's as if I'm choosing to stay away from anyone who I disagree with because almost all of my life I've always been a yay person, agreeing with everyone. Now, I understand that friendships are important for self growth, hence I don't want friends who judge me. Even if it means I'm only speaking with my colleagues and not making good friends, I'm better off focusing on my work and hobbies and family 😀
What if your family is toxic.
I understand you, i'm in a similar situation
It’s time for us to raise our standards of who we want to hang out with and be especially careful about becoming emotionally attached to someone.
What if some people force us to be with him.
I can’t find anyone at all T-T
it makes me so so sad when I outgrow a friendship!! But I realized that longevity aka how long youve been friends with someone should not be the only reason to stay friends with them. I have no animosity or hate towards my old friends, it's just we are very very different now. There are still days that I think back to an old memory and I get nostalgic and sad
I was once close to a friend (we were once close like brothers). However, along the way, as I grew and evolved, he didn't. Additionally, he said some nasty remarks that left a sour taste in my mouth. We got to the point where things weren't naturally joyous anymore. I literally felt that I had to walk on eggshells cause he was emotionally immature. We admitted to drifting, but I can't really say he's that best friend I once knew...it is a sad thing
@@tommygunn6901 Same.
I’m going through the same thing.
I realized that I outgrown my friendship with my best friend a long time ago , but the only thing that can’t make me let it go is the fact that we know each other since we were little and all the memories that we have together. Sometimes it breaks me into tears but maybe one day I’ll be strong enough to come to the realization that we’re two different people and we don’t have anything in common anymore.
@@kellis9346 I know exactly how you feel and it really sucks. You just want to hold on so badly and like these were people you’d think would be in your wedding party and future. And I don’t think there’s anything I could have done to keep the friendship together and it’s hard to let go.
@@tommygunn6901 I’m going through the same thing. As time passes, I feel more and more emotionally unsafe talking to this friend. Their way of “comforting” me is not comforting at all. Most of the time I feel like I’m being gaslighted and told my emotions don’t matter. It still hurts tho because I know that their behavior probably comes from their parents’ way of raising them. And I’m struggling to let them go because they feel familiar and I don’t wanna be “left alone.”
I'm just a simple Time Traveler saying i hope you find true love
HOW
1 week ago ?
Thank u 🥺🌸
Did my friend forgive me?
You’re rupturing the timeline by saying this. Knowing this now, i could still be single.
This is currently happening to me. Although it's a little upsetting that I may be the only one aware of it. It's difficult to just cut the thread with the people you've spent years together with. To me, the most difficult is realizing that I've outgrown a lot of friendships for a long time and learning to accept that fact.
However, looking at another angle, outgrowing friendships is a sign of a level of maturity. You're becoming aware of your compatibility with others, realizing that there are some things needed to be let go of in order for us to better ourselves. Doing so may help us create a better and healthier relationship with people.
Being the only one that is aware of it explains me rn perfectly and it breaks my heart :(
@@bingbong3392 Yeah. I know how you feel. I've been there before. *pats back*
The thing is I really don't know if the problem is me or my friends. I have a friend group that I've had ever since freshman year and I'm a senior now but lately all my friends ever talk about are guys. It's always about boys and we rarely ever talk about other stuff. I always find myself wanting more in my friendships... I really don't know if this is Envy, Or me outgrowing my friend group. I'm happy that my friends are getting boyfriends but I hate that boys are always our topic now. :(
@@Arifumikoomg i relate to this so much, Im a senior as well all and all my friend talks about is guys, and it makes me not want to really talk with her much.. Even when i try to talk about different things she barely puts in effort in the conversation
I feel like the reason the pandemic ended a lot of people's friendships is because
You're interests and joys grew seperarely over a long period of time. It's like meeting a new person at that point
"You don't spend time together anymore"...well that applies to almost everyone I know these days, because...you know.
what
@@saoirsestark3903 the virus...
From my experienc, is that, not spending all time thogether somtimes really good thing.
zoom call✨
Small friend circles of 3- 4 people are the best ones😊
Fake friends should be distant
,
And it really sucks when you can't even tell those 3-4 people how you feel.
That too can breack and you are left with nothing
@@AyushSingh-cs2kj it does. I feel u
For me small friend groups have more drama cause we’re always with each other. I’m currently taking a bit of a break from my small friend group. I’m not sure if it’s permanent yet but I just know it feels great already. The small friend group had ppl I’ve know for 4 or 5 years but recently I’ve been feeling trapped in those friendships like if I do anything they will stop being friends with me and I’ve been more worried abt that then having fun and being friends with them
This video has shown that the friendship that I have with a friend has outgrown. I am going to let the person know and let him go.
I have problems with letting go and still processing my past griefs. What I can take for this is this friend is here to make me learn about the process of letting go. It hurts but I think I can take this step next week.
I have some friends that I know since more than 10 years ago and that no longer serve me. They are not bad people or didn’t do anything wrong to me, but our interests and goals are no longer compatible. I recently started to feel the need to be distant from them. I sometimes feel guilty about feeling this way. However, removing old relations that don’t add to your life is necessary to eventually make room for better people 😊
We all outgrow friendships at some point in our lives, regardless of how close we've been with someone in the past. If you're not sure if it's a phase or the real thing, we've got some clear signs that you can run through.
Love, peace, and chicken grease.
I have literally no words. I was just drawing and questioning my best friends relationship because she has been seeming annoyed and mad at me more recently. I never pick up my phone this quick and the one time I did it was this video. And... I think we are drifting apart... But... We have been friends since we were born. We thought we would ALWAYS be friends. We just, Clicked. I really hope we will still be best friends. Maybe I am misunderstanding the situation. I really really hope so.
Try talking to her! Maybe it's just a misunderstanding?
@@pavneetkaur4831 I really hope so. In fact, I'm going to try calling her. I'm kind of a bit shy in person so I don't know if I will gather up the courage to talk to her about that specifically, But I will see how she acts. Thank you for the advice, I will try to tell you how it goes! =>
@@pogcatchickenchamp Yeah go for it! I'm also a shy person so I can totally understand the anxiety you must be feeling, but trust me when I say that its for the best! It's better for you to just talk to her now and her to possibly not react well than to just not say anything and have it escalate. Sending virtual hugs! :)
@@pogcatchickenchamp so um I've been through that, hope you two make up
@@sugoiiininjadesuu7262 Thank you, Me too =>
3:20 "sometimes the only thing connecting to people is their past together" that hit different
I think I'm going out of my sibling ship
I’ve had a best friend for my entire life, but lately things have been so different. Even before covid. We never do anything, barely talk and have basically nothing in common anymore. I don’t want to let her go, but it’s probably time to find others.
same
Yup :(
@queenofthemidnightmadness This I understand.
same
this is definitely what am i going through
1. Your values conflict 0:54
2. You don't spend time together anymore 1:23
3. You don't tell each other everything like you used to 1:52
4. Things don't feel natural with them anymore 2:24
5. Would you still be friends if you met them today? 2:53
I hope I could help! :)
ty!
Thank you, fellow time traveler!💖💖
Thank you time traveler 😊
Ah what? An early person who doesn’t talk about time traveling? I see that you’re the exceptionally rare
Also thanks!
@@oh-ohstinky5819 uh oh
I see you psych2go, corpse husband drawing on the wall, always making us super comfortable in this little internet space which I love. Thank you for being there for us❤
i hope everyone reading this has a successful and amazing life! (readmyname)
I Hope Everyone Is Safe - Im Sending Virtual Hugs To Everyone Who Needs Them
@@user-op5qy9df1u Why the 'readmyname'? That just makes your comment ingenuine.
Time traveler??
Esther Kissoon, How can u do this [1 week ago ], please tell the process
It's better to be alone than to be with someone who lowers your vibration. Don't be afraid of being alone. You are connected to the cosmos always. And you will find somebody who shares your values soon enough!
I just went through a much sadder situation. I met someone in 2020 that really got along with me very well at first. We were fast becoming friends. People saw that we talked like we knew each other 10 years even though we had only knew each other for a few months. But then he started to change, rather quickly. It was very overwhelming because usually this situation would happen over a period of time. This was happening in a period of 6 months. Imagine a 5 year friendship process crammed into 6 months. Finally, a rift in our friendship was created. It was a shocker for me emotionally. I had to go for counseling because the turn of events was too quick. Again, imagine a 5 year situation crammed into a few months. But there was another layer, he was showing signs of mental illness. This explained everything. I found out he lost friends prior to meeting me. He was looking for a new friend. But I realized as long as he is not treating his problems, he will not be able to have friendships.
Psych2go: Are you currently experiencing a change in friends?
Me with no friends: hmm.. I have my dog
And cat
And u have ur phone , music and this channel UwU
The question is still legit. Is your dog still being a good friend? x)
Haha this should be top comment 😂
Pets never leave C:
It’s okay if this happens.
I had a friendship that nearly lasted 15 years, we met on the first day of elementary school and we were always together. Over time, we both evolved into to two different people with completely different mindsets, interests and personalities and we had MANY arguments. The friendship turned toxic after time. She always wanted to keep staying friends with me, but I didn’t want her in my life anymore, after a whole lotta arguments and some dumb actions from her part, I decided to cut the bond. She was really petty about it, but I couldn’t care less.
I felt like I had to be friends with her because I knew her for so long, but this shouldn’t be a reason to stay friends with someone, especially not if you’re not feeling good in her company.
Now I definitely know, that it was the best thing to do, after all that, I realized how toxic she was, but I still wish her the best and I don’t hold any grudges for what she had done.
Thank you, yes... Exactly. I am currently coming out of this same situation.
Life is constant change. Pay attention to what makes you happy. Friendships should not be work.
I have trusted many people that later screwed me over. I no longer tell anyone anything, even family deaths and how I feel at all. Anyone else feel that way?
Yep ain't no one truly trustworthy.
Yes. I just learned that lesson this month
Yes.
I've had a friend of 4 years who drifted away from me because we no longer have the same level of connection as from before, and that we have different conflicting values that is no longer beneficial to me and I think it's still beautiful and I don't blame myself for it. Not all friendships last forever, and that outgrowing them is a sign of maturity on your end. ✨
Looking back, most of my past friendships ended because we simply stopped calling each other. No big fights or anything dramatic just life moved on and we got too caught up in our own lives
sometimes i feel like everyone outgrew my friendship and i’m the one that’s left behind
Sometimes these are good opportunities for you yourself to mature and go in new directions. Your life does not need to stay the same and it's better that new things happen. Explore new places, hobbies, and styles.
I disappear after i know the friendship is not gd but i ll try n see can improve it or not.
@@goldcherriesbeing abandoned by people you cared about and thought cared about you is never a "good thing"......
I already am maturing and changing and growing; I don't need abandonment issues to develope character
There are some friendships that last a lifetime. My best friend and I met in our first year of school, and here we are 35 years later still the best of friends. We go out to the pub, catch the newest terrible films, play the latest awful games for the gitz and shiggles, and our wives are basically in the same boat. I wish more friendships could last like that
But sadly it can't considering that our old friends just don't love us anymore.
your very very lucky. 1 in a billion
Gaaayyy lo
This makes me feel so much better. I've been going through a friendship edit for a number of years and because of a misplaced sense of loyalty I continued relationships with people who I've known since childhood even though I really don't have much in common with them anymore. What a relief to move on.
This helped me realize why a previous friend stopped talking to me months and months ago. Thank you for this video
My best friend for almost 3 years now told me like 3 hours ago, that he doesnt Wonder that noone else wants to be friends with me because of my bubbly and positive, sometimes abit annoying Personality... That hurt like hell coming from a Person, that used to make u laugh all the time and that spend almost every afternoon with u. Looking at him in that moment made my heart shatter and I decided to move on from that friendship and now im home, opened UA-cam and this Video got in my recommended and I think that its time to move on, but I dont know how to tell him because it feels so bad to just Ghost him..
I just let go of a friend of 18 years. My priorities in life changed, and hers remain the same. Conversations became stagnant, superficial, and predictable. I realized I held on to the past and that this relationship wasn't going to change. I also held on out of fear. As a 40-something year-old, making friends has become harder - but that's no reason to hang on to someone you no longer "share a soul' with.
I'll say this - if it's meant to be, it will come back around. I have two friends now who I let go long ago (and who let go of me) after 10+ years, we've come back as different people, but different people with a shared need to reconnect and get to know one another again...as we are today. It's refreshing.
this gives me hope, thank you for sharing!
This video is so timely for me as I have just ended a 50 year friendship and am feeling some guilt about it. Understanding that we do not have similar values and that have outgrown her is so helpful to free me up to find people who are more like me!
Going into my early 20s, me & my friends are a lot more busy with work, relationships, & college. I still ask my friends to hang out but even when they’re free it seems like they don’t want to. I try not to take it personal and think maybe something’s going on in their lives. It just sucks when you’re putting in all the effort.
It IS personal though........life happens, but the excuse that there isn't enough time is just that: an excuse
Why is it that with my hectic life I still find the time to reach out to them yet they don't have the means of the same? Because I am not registered as important enough to MAKE time for. Simple as that.
If it is important, people make time. If you are the ONLY one putting in the time and effort then they are blatantly saying you are jot worth the time and effort to them; that's what I finally realized with my own friend group after almost 10 years of being the one to make all the efforts and when finally I stopped reaching out first I stopped hearing from all of them
0:36 I recognize that hairstyle! It’s Twilight Sparkle!!
*Friendship is Magic* ✨
0:49 Celestia 🌟
1:54 Apple Bloom 🍎
2:30 Sunset Shimmer 🌅
3:37 Pinkie Pie ( or Cheerile), Rarity and Fluttershy
3:49 Sweetie Belle and Button Mash
1:54 - dude that's Wilbur
@@ThousandDoodlesikr they have so many Dsmp/Mcyt references it’s amazing it’s like in 34 vids
I've outgrown some friendships, but we still stuck together.
It was always fun to be around with them, and stars align for us to be paired to be a team. We might not be as close but, we'd always be friends
Omg I time travelled😳It's my first time travelling experience😆
JAHAHAHAHA same
lol
Welcome, fellow time traveler. My name is Rusaka, nice to meet you! You’re allowed to time travel anytime and anywhere, but there’s one rule: Don’t reveal how to time travel. It takes away the special effect. Enjoy time traveling!💖💖
Mine too ☺️
same
It's hard to be friends with people who have friends that you don't like. You said it best it's all about respect,communication, and trust.
I'm turning 30 next year and although I don't have a lot of friends to begin with, I feel like I've outgrown my remaining set of friends, especially after realizing that they never really cared for what I did or achieved.
How are you doing now? And congrats on your new milestone!
Thank you for this video 😭
I never thought I needed this information so much 😔
I've recently cut ties with someone I considered my close friend. Every point in this video is true and it's similar from what I've experienced.
For everyone who is reading this, please remember that it's okay to grow and change as a better version of yourself. Do what you think is right, if you don't felt like continuing a friendship.. That is also okay. Friendship should be something that you can grow and learn together as a human. So please remember to prioritize in yourself first..
Wait I forgot, I dont have friends-
My best friend right now is seemingly becoming more distant as of late, we used to talk and call all the time but now there is nothing.
I want to find other people but nobody ever seems to fit besides what I used to have with my (now distant) best friend.
It's a whirlwind of emotions and life kinda sucks rn ngl
It hurt. But after many attempts to meet and connect over the span of 9 months, I decided to end a 14 year friendship. And yeah, i wouldn't expect it to go butter smooth. But her response still stung. #5 in this video genuinely made me pause. I honestly don't know if I would 😕 it'll take time for my heart to heal, but I'll get there. Luckily I have other friends that I feel connected and supported ❤️❤️
I don't have a single friend now. I've seen videos saying "you don't realize that not having any friends right now is a prime time for you because all doors are open for you and you have no one to limit you". And yes, I see that as true. But, knowing I'll be walking through the doors alone for possible years is what hurts me the most.
I had a whole year where I had no friends. One piece of advice stay hopeful and realise anyone and I mean anyone can be your new friend. Even if you don’t like them at first. I didn’t like my two besties till I became friends
@@queenchill6352 It's just so difficult because since I was little I've always lived as someone who lives to keep others happy no matter the sacrifices. Because everyone left, it feels like I didn't do a good job in keeping them happy. I don't want that to happen again, but I also don't know how to stop letting people use me for their benefit since it always keeps a smile on their face. I'm just, hurt and lost. Having hope in all of this is really hard to do. But, thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to read my comment and even give your own comment. Although it's going to be an emotional rollercoaster, I still plan to keep trying. Your comment today helped a lot more than you may think😊
@@narwhalthesnowmanhope you are doing better now mate
Wow I can’t believe this was posted today.... for this past week I’ve been thinking about how me and my friend are so different now and that i want to make new friends that I can actually be compatible with... :( I guess this is a sign it’s really time to let go...
I feel like my best friend and I have really lost touch since she's had kids and I'm childfree by choice. Even before the pandemic, we really have nothing in common anymore except a shared past but I am finding it difficult to constantly be the one initiating communication (and being super flexible about times because of the kids) but she never initiates communication. It's like she's forgotten about our friendship.
I can see the artist made so much effort in this vid it makes me feel kinda happy
Me and friend have been losing a lot of contact, I feel like she doesnt really care about me anymore. What do I do?😪
Try talking to her about it. Often people don't realize how important they are to us. But also notice if their actions change. If it has been just words -leave them 🙌 if they explain why they do certain things and try making more space for you, gicve it another go (: sometimes, just like romantic relationships, platonic relationships need commitment and change as well
Me too
Try reaching out to her and ask how she’s doing or call her. If she doesn’t answer you or makes time for you, then just let the friendship go. It’s not worth being the only person hanging on if she doesn’t care about your feelings.
same.... :(
..Also, people drift apart and become "Christmas card" buddies, FB "friends" or something like that. It's just how life is.
I experienced this recently. It's really heartbreaking that you feel like you don't know one another anymore and feel like this friend is becoming one of those who contradict you. Thank you for the video, it made clear that what I am going through is normal. I have just need to pass through it as it is just recent. :/
There will always be people who will match your energy, you are never alone in this world ❤
Going to a different college, the pandemic, and my family moving farther away really opened my eyes and let me realize just how little they truly cared about me. It took a really long time for me to acknowledge that I'd outgrown these people and that they didn't genuinely care for me as a friend. Over like the course of a year I felt this hella slow burn mix of disappointment, jealousy, hurt, and anger towards these people I genuinely cared a lot about and tried to always do my best to help them. It really hurts when you realize your best friends stopped considering you a best friend at some point along the way. I'm trying to let go, but it really doesn't help when one of them happens to transfer to your college lmao. I literally can't escape
I have a best friend, and she hasn't been speaking with me a lot.
we have been friends for almost 2 years, she now has many other
best friends, and we barely go to hang our with each other anymore. :(
I'm also afraid she's getting more toxic.
I think my friend has outgrown
our friendship, thank you for telling me!
I have a bestfriend I have known for 7 years but we moved away from eachother 3 years ago and It’s always I who starts the conversation so now I have been waiting in 2 months for her to be the first one who texts but she didn’t do it😔 So same, I also think I have outgrown a friendship :(
I have a bestfriend we've been friends for 5 years but now he's avoiding me lately
I have a bestfriend I had since more than 9 years but since we were torn apart into different classes,met different people and I showed her K-Pop I feel like I don't really know her anymore.A friend who once was happy,cheerful,funny,brave and an open book turned I don't know either...It just feels like she is not even interested in talking to me.Normally she would start conversations and tell jokes ect.Now I'm the one trying to break the awkward silence between us two when I visit her.And so on...
I outgrow a friendship and then I'm left with no one else to talk to because I don't really have a lot of friends that share my interests and I'm not close enough to the ones I do have
Love the emphasis of it being a natural part of growing up. And that is a normal and mature thing.
I struggle with making friends a lot and the friends that I have don't really feel like friends to me anymore so this video really helped me. Thank you
When you come from an abusive family and live in a predominantly lonely society with no authentic sense of community, sometimes friendships are all you have. The fact that we are seemingly expected to discard people at the drop of a hat over small, superficial differences is demoralizing. I wish there was more emphasis on appreciating others' differences and less energy put into black-and-white thinking about relationships. You don't have to stop caring about someone just because they went down a different career path than you or they got married or started a family and you're single, even if you can't spend as much time together as you once did. You don't have to stop caring about someone simply because they live far away, even if you don't speak as often as you used to. It's ok if these relationships evolve, and it's ok to expand your circle and connect with more people too. You can still keep people in your heart without holding on too tightly.
Obviously, this does not apply to people who become toxic/abusive. It would be extremely detrimental to hold onto these relationships. Best to simply let these people go.
Is that Wilbur in the background of the thumbnail? And a dream and corpse drawing-? 1:41 I think those are Wilbur and dream drawings- 1:55 W i l b u r. 2:45 M y l i t t l e p o g c h a m p - 2:56 another Wilbur- I’m starting to think you really like him-
Wilbur shows up a couple of times in this video (even with the lemon tree)
@@HappypandaAJ I know-
MLP, MCYT, Among us, Corpse Husband and Homestuck had appeared in today’s video. O-o The animators can really put in anything, huh?
@@AmberEAston yep-
The animator is probably a big wilbur simp lmao hes in like every frame
Thank you. It's exactly my story these few months. I have been worrrying and beating myself emotionally, but your videos help me get throught. Thank you for all that you're been doing. Love you ^ ^
Thank you for this video - I feel so normal and natural. I like the point made about "the process of outgrowing friends and finding new people never ends." I was feeling guilty about not wanting to talk to my sad-sack friend; I've changed but she hasn't. I've discovered a need to have happy people in my life.
Am I the only one who is a friend that everyone outgrown and they moved on with their lives, but I stayed at the same place for years?
No,not just you.
Im the friend that outgrew them but this is why im so afraid of ending it, because they are great people who haven given me nothing but good memories and i dont want them to feel stuck and left behind, they don’t deserve to feel that way :/
The fact youtube does recommend this vid to me at the right time when im feeling that im no longer their best friend.....
I love all the little details they put in like the posters and stuff it just makes it more fun to look at shows all the effort put into this
I really needed this! I finally got a closure to whether I made the right decision or not. Thank you for another great video! :)
I think I outgrew my friendship with my best friend.. She's into stuff that I really don't appreciate at all and it seems like we're too different now... I still really like her but she just seems so childish to me? (I'm a bit childish too but in a different way), while she's focused on her k-idols and fanfiction stuff I'm getting annoyed by these things and the things I'm trying to focus on are more on the "preparing for adulthood" side like learning to maintain the house always clean, cooking, trying to get a job, learning to be responsible with money, etc. I really don't think we're that close anymore...
Sorry for the giant comment but since I don't want to tell her this I don't really have anybody else to talk about this to, so thank you for listening.
I get it- I’ve been feeling the same way and it’s been almost an year (also she’s my only friend left from HS)
Once I tried breaking it w her but she just “didn’t let me” , also I’m very shy and couldn’t assert myself (like always) and I just felt like once again I had no other choice than to stay friends w her but the more I’m extending this friendship, the more it feels like a “chore” like replying and hanging out w her feels like a chore. I don’t have any reasons as to why she’s “toxic” , ig we just are - well I don’t vibe w her anymore and maybe I’ve outgrown her
So I totally get what u r saying, I also don’t have anyone whom I can talk abt this . 😶
Also once again I’m going to end this and assert myself more as I cannot do this anymore to myself cuz honestly I’d rather be alone
Might update this comment once it FINALLY ENDS 😩
edit: its been more than a week since it ended- it was super awkward cuz like she cried and i felt guilty after that but ive just come to terms w it cuz its none of us’ faults :/
I mean it sounds like you're maturing a little faster than she is...but then you guys are supposed to be different I mean what's the fun in being the same? But it sounds like her interests are what's annoying you and thats a little unfair; to expect her to be just like you or you can't be friends. Having different interests doesn't mean outgrowing someone I mean if you have a problem with her being herself? She isn't the one with the issue 😉
@@Leoprincess3038 different but it should be complimenting, not a source of annoyance and separation. Sure there are some things that we can compromise to tolerate them and maybe this is not one of them for him/her. I'm in a similar situation however my party is as mature as Me. In fact we are both quite mature for our age.
Me too, and sometimes i question myself if im in the wrong for thinking that way. Maybe theyre not being too carefree, maybe im the one being too serious. But the thing is, i live a relatively carefree life and i am happy, i guess our definition of enjoying life doesn’t align anymore and it hurts :/
I feel like I have outgrown my friendship with my closest friend but she hasn’t. I don’t know what to do 😥
She misses you
I LOVE HOW EVERY VIDEO SHOWS DIFFERENT LITTLE PEOPLE BASED OFF YTBERS OR SHOWS OR ANYTHING I LOVE IT
This is an excellent video. Your tone, animation style, and handling of the subject matter really gel well together. Very well said and its been helpful. Some great content.
I've been really lonely for awhile since my friends and i kinda drifted apart.. sad to realize i'm not as comfy as i used to with them:(
so you're telling me I should outgrow all of my friendships huh
thats what i did. i dont want to start/continue one if i know its going to end from them being tired of me. its a painful end that i choose to avoid
I don't think they are saying you should outgrow your friends, but rather, and I say this very respectfully, you shouldn't be surprised when it eventually happens. It usually happens when someone marries and start a family or when someone starts dating outside of their group of friends and they forget their friends.
I just destroyed my friendship just recently by leaving their server (which they made it for me before...idk...) because I needed some space and I had a rough time also they kept on teasing me nonstop and two of them are in a relationship...like...I can't be there for them also I stopped being outgoing and was getting distant towards them...
I always wanted a video of yours about this topic, thank you.
This video came at a perfect time for me. At 40 years old, I'm still learning so much.
2:48 My Little Pogchamp! XD
I dumped my best friend because she agreed with a girl who talked shit about me, I dumped her but I contacted her to try and rebuild are friendship. since we talked in school and stuff, she said “I have a new friend group now anyways” I wanted to cry. I felt so alone. it’s so hard to let go even though she was toxic. it’s unfair that she’s doing better while I’m having mental breakdowns every day. life sucks, sometimes it’s hard to live.
Thank u for bringing the topic. I was suffering now got clarity.
Thank you so much for this video. For a long time, I was concerned every time I noticed that I was gradually losing some of my friends, friends I had known, in some cases, for many years.
Indeed, life is an uninterrupted process of changes, transformations, often subtle, to the point that we hardly notice them, sometimes painful. And the same goes for everyone. The problem is that I often refused to face reality. I persisted in clinging to chimeras, ghosts of the past. To paraphrase C. G. Jung, when someone is too much in our thoughts, when the relationship we have with that person becomes more and more one-way, that is a sign that we are investing too much energy in that person.
As far as I was concerned, having always been of an insecure temperament, the fear of finding myself in front of a great void terrified me. Of course, it could only result in a deep sense of moral distress for me.
Learning to accept change, that others do not belong to us, and to let it go is a completely healthy process and a sign of maturity. The idea is not to blame anyone.
If we wait too long for a door that is closed to us to open, we do not see all the other doors that are already wide open. Cleaning up your backyard is more than just throwing away what is no longer suitable for us. It is also, and above all, making room to integrate new objects that will make us happy.
With simplicity and clarity, you have made me (re)aware of an essential reality of life. For that alone, again, I say a huge thank you.
*Watching Psych2Go is so satisfying,* _love Cindy's voice._
6. sign: you were thinking about someone when you saw the video...
I did :(
i found your channel through an ad on IG, and i’ve not regretted. also your voice is really soothing, super calm ✨☺️
This has to be one of the best channels on UA-cam. It teaches you lessons you will remember for life, it’s entertaining because the animations are flipping adorable and it uploads videos everyday, each one being capable of saving a humans life. Change my mind
Thank you so much for your feedback :D
"It's common for people to slowly grow distant."
My brain: Sounds like a good excuse to start isolating
My first online friend and I are drifting apart, I'll send them something and half the time they won't even reply. I'm learning that I have to let them go now thanks to this video and advice from my other friends. It hurts, it really does, it feels so much worse than a break up at least for me. It's hard when I've been talking to someone since I was 12 and now we're both nearly adults. I'm glad I got to make memories and grow with them at least, I just wish it didn't have to end because it sucks. To anyone going through the same thing, I'm so sorry. We get newer friends as time goes by though and those friends make the pain hurt less so there's that!
I'm actually going through this situation right now with my really great friend of almost 8 years, and we too met when we were 12. However, romantic feelings got in the way and I fell head-over-heels for her early on and she knows. I just had this feeling that we would end up together, but she's dating another guy. It's difficult and I'm debating whether to keep an otherwise good, 8 year friendship (although it's becoming one-sided) or throw in the towel and gracefully end our friendship. What makes it so difficult is that I never made good friends until I met her. She means so much to me, so to see our connection faltering a bit is heartbreaking. Whether we become romantically involved in the future or not, she still means the world to me either way (and I'm not about to get in the way of her relationship, as I really want her to be happy; her happiness is much more important to me, and me thinking of her being happy makes me smile through my tears...I love her so much). Thanks for the kind words. 🙏 All the best to you!
Thank you! So helpful!
Thanks, this was so helpful!