NO RING NO PROBLEM: THE 40+ WOMEN WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED!!!

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  • @OItsSasha
    @OItsSasha 4 місяці тому +787

    I am single because I don't like to be bothered!These men are jealous of your children, your careers, pets,your friends, your high self-esteem, your smile...chile😂😂😂

    • @Vhfash
      @Vhfash 4 місяці тому +47

      100%

    • @Vuyisa2017
      @Vuyisa2017 4 місяці тому +33

      So true 🤞

    • @p.gizzle90
      @p.gizzle90 4 місяці тому +18

      😮‍💨Outrageous thinking to say the least! 🤯&& they don’t understand.

    • @andrealynetta3733
      @andrealynetta3733 4 місяці тому +13

      Fr 💯

    • @masiahb.2838
      @masiahb.2838 4 місяці тому +34

      @@OItsSasha now I that’s a word! I’ve had a guy say to me with a straight face 😐 you take better care of that damn dog than you do your man?

  • @dietdrpepper15
    @dietdrpepper15 4 місяці тому +704

    I love how he is IGNORING the fact that if 45% of women are not gonna be married or mothers...means probably an even HIGHER amount of men will be single and not fathers.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  4 місяці тому +74

      That part💯🤔

    • @MAC-tf7pw
      @MAC-tf7pw 4 місяці тому +60

      And there are many men who are 40s and single and childless. I personally know two anesthesiologist MDs (men) who do not want marriage or kids. They’re out here just living. When asked they say no way. Bachelors in NYC

    • @lasheenaward5823
      @lasheenaward5823 4 місяці тому +15

      😂😂😂😂😂 whose gonna tell him

    • @Sanderson5CLC
      @Sanderson5CLC 4 місяці тому +3

      Yes!

    • @Sanderson5CLC
      @Sanderson5CLC 4 місяці тому +19

      I told my ex. That is Y he’s an X.

  • @worldadventuretravel
    @worldadventuretravel 4 місяці тому +392

    I'm 45, never married, no children, still as hot as ever. I have no "one that got away" but a string of dodged bullets. My cats give me more consistency and love than my exes ever have. I wouldn't give a single one of those men the time of day now. If there's a husband for me, he hasn't shown up yet- and I'm fine with it never happening. It's sooo much better to be single than saddled with a bad partner.

    • @luchi4361
      @luchi4361 4 місяці тому +16

      Almost spat out my wine when u referred to the “one that got stay” as a dodged bullet

    • @ParalegalSolutions-b3y
      @ParalegalSolutions-b3y 4 місяці тому +10

      48, same

    • @biancam2327
      @biancam2327 4 місяці тому +12

      Same. There's not one guy I feel that got away. I couldn't imagine being with any of my ex's and the older these fools get, the worse they get.

    • @madelinekimbro2440
      @madelinekimbro2440 4 місяці тому +7

      I agree 1000%

    • @freshmanjeans
      @freshmanjeans 4 місяці тому +9

      Especially what has been going on on the news

  • @manarcabrera2528
    @manarcabrera2528 4 місяці тому +449

    He’s projecting his own fear of being alone. Every woman that I know who are single, widow and divorce and alone are extremely happy.

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 4 місяці тому +25

      Because alot of these men are confused about what being the head of household means...alot of them are just abusers and don't see u as a person but as a robot or momma with no feelings smh 🙄

    • @livethatlife1830
      @livethatlife1830 4 місяці тому +17

      ​@lala5061 both adults are the head of the household. That's the problem men always wants to be over someone.

    • @natashareese6753
      @natashareese6753 4 місяці тому +9

      Yes,I got married very young to a much older man. Widow at 38.I love my freedom I have dated some but never liked anyone enough to trade my freedom for their crap. Every man I have dated wanted me to move in with him,fix up his house,pay his bills. As I widow with one child I am better off money wise being single. Immature, irresponsible men bring nothing to the table.I take care of my daughter on my own,have bought a house,new car on my own. I seem to attract needy,whiny dusty type men,so no thank you. I have so much peace on my life and don't have anyone telling my what I am allowed to do. I don't encourage my daughter to get married or have kids.I know all to well that most men out there are garbage.

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 4 місяці тому +7

      Projection is everything, they are always telling women their own fears

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 місяці тому +4

      This men are draining

  • @michelledavidson1781
    @michelledavidson1781 4 місяці тому +485

    To the "comedian"...how about you visit all the divorced women who had children. At 50, they've realized they wasted their life catering to a narcissistic man. But no, they don't want that conversation spoken about. How men use and abuse you.
    Men say a woman is "used up", because they all know they are users.

    • @shirlsshirls8594
      @shirlsshirls8594 4 місяці тому +81

      Right. Who is using them up? The users, aka men

    • @rengurenge
      @rengurenge 4 місяці тому

      Even the ones who are not "used up" will be if they get with such men who looks at women as resource mine to use her up and leave.

    • @Gwen_Beautiful_Smile
      @Gwen_Beautiful_Smile 4 місяці тому +28

      Thank you for this comment!

    • @Anne-pk8gs
      @Anne-pk8gs 4 місяці тому +21

      Preach.

    • @ladybug3380
      @ladybug3380 4 місяці тому +2

      Oh wow that’s so true. They know men use women so that’s why they tell us to pick one guy and let them use us forever. What a sad existence.

  • @cheetavontiebolt9971
    @cheetavontiebolt9971 4 місяці тому +252

    Better high quality single then low quality marriage

    • @bRealAboutIt_l1k
      @bRealAboutIt_l1k 3 місяці тому +2

      aka incelhood

    • @LGnLA
      @LGnLA 3 місяці тому +3

      THIS!!!💯💯💯💯

    • @lianadotjpeg
      @lianadotjpeg Місяць тому

      @@bRealAboutIt_l1kYou'd rather be miserable and depressed in a relationship than satisfied and comfortable alone? Interesting.

  • @peachesjeter5480
    @peachesjeter5480 4 місяці тому +350

    Notice how good all these single older women look 🤩👍🏽

    • @KarenJohnson-m6n
      @KarenJohnson-m6n 4 місяці тому +12

      OKAY!!

    • @purrrfectlyPosh
      @purrrfectlyPosh 4 місяці тому +21

      Yup. Imagine not having to consider him, when he’s out. Not doubting yourself, not thinking about whether or not he’s doing right by you and not exposing you to spiritual and sexual dis-eases and demons. Imagine your home being exactly how you set it up to be. No one draining your energy due to conscious disruptions/distractions and violence. Imagine being so at peace that if you never got into another relationship- you’d still be super happy with that decision… I should write a book on this….🎉🎉🎉 Nothing beats peace of mind and contentment, with two beautifull cats ❤😊

    • @toyabjones
      @toyabjones 4 місяці тому +6

      Yesss

    • @thegiftedseer6764
      @thegiftedseer6764 4 місяці тому +6

      Thanks. 44 here😂

    • @tranquilbakergentletraveller
      @tranquilbakergentletraveller 3 місяці тому +5

      Not having to dote on someone gives a lady time to do her morning and evening skin care routine, and practice greater self-care all round

  • @jmayo6880
    @jmayo6880 4 місяці тому +285

    How is it that these men who are single with no children have so much to say about us women?

    • @irme8930
      @irme8930 4 місяці тому +9

      😅😅👏👏👏

    • @vikki8699
      @vikki8699 4 місяці тому +59

      Projection. They've realized chasing tail in your 40s isn't cute no more and all the good women that these men want, don't want them.

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +10

      @@vikki8699I didn’t even know what red pill podcast was until a commenter told me about smh .

    • @purrrfectlyPosh
      @purrrfectlyPosh 4 місяці тому

      It’s because they’re actually TERRIFIED that women are and have REALLY given up on men - they will either die off or change - that’s the only option that should be given to them.

    • @PhuongNguyen-wr3fi
      @PhuongNguyen-wr3fi 4 місяці тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tamekadavis6641
    @tamekadavis6641 4 місяці тому +306

    Let a woman live her life.❤

    • @katiepop3442
      @katiepop3442 4 місяці тому +28

      They cant stand to see us happy without them❤

    • @AshleyHoward-nk5pn
      @AshleyHoward-nk5pn 4 місяці тому +4

      🙏 thank u. I’m 34 single with no kids and don’t plan on having any.

  • @PrettyPolyInPink
    @PrettyPolyInPink 4 місяці тому +141

    I’m 45, not married and no kids. I get more male attention than when I was 25. Because I’m not male centered, I get to be 100% me and that is intriguing to men. I just be living my best life, laughing, eating good, wearing pink lipstick and too much jewelry. It’s the good life. 💋

    • @Beautyblueprint29
      @Beautyblueprint29 4 місяці тому +7

      Love this! 💕💄

    • @OItsSasha
      @OItsSasha 4 місяці тому +4

      @@PrettyPolyInPink I don't doubt it at all

    • @Alexandrite7
      @Alexandrite7 3 місяці тому +3

      Same here ❤

    • @LGnLA
      @LGnLA 3 місяці тому +1

      💯🥰💞🩷💕💗

  • @Summerbreeze345
    @Summerbreeze345 4 місяці тому +165

    "I got married and had kids, my sister, not married, and never had any kids, on any given day she's having more fun than I am" -Judge Lynn Toler. Getting married and having kid's is not everything, and no reason to feel unfulfilled in life.

    • @kimberlyturner820
      @kimberlyturner820 4 місяці тому +5

      That's easy for you to say.. you're married, with kids 🤷

    • @ginagreeneofficial
      @ginagreeneofficial 4 місяці тому +2

      @@kimberlyturner820😂😂😂

    • @raynebow5289
      @raynebow5289 4 місяці тому +16

      I ADORE Judge Lynn Toler! She is the one who helped me through my 20s. Something she said that has stuck with me so much, I share it with my little cousins and nieces is, "Your 20s is not about getting married, settling down, or having children. It's about figuring out who you are and what you want and don't want in life." I will take her wisdom with me everywhere.

    • @Summerbreeze345
      @Summerbreeze345 4 місяці тому +15

      @raynebow5289 and she's right, I had my son at 20 and when I tell you, it takes a while to get your life back. My son now 23 I tell him to travel the world, experience life this is NOT the time to be anyone's father or husband, go and live. Getting married and having kids can derail your life plans, for a while.

    • @Summerbreeze345
      @Summerbreeze345 4 місяці тому +5

      @kc6810 I told my son if I could do it all over again I would've had him at 35 Lol.

  • @mandyg943
    @mandyg943 4 місяці тому +206

    I’m 45 child free and I live alone. Life is sweet ❤❤

    • @chrisc8712
      @chrisc8712 4 місяці тому +2

      Ok when you are 65 will it be the same

    • @peachykeen4242
      @peachykeen4242 4 місяці тому +7

      @mandyg943...47 single and child-free lady here. Well, I do have my fur baby. I feel the same. I'll stay single unless I meet the right man for me and my life. Otherwise, single is the way to go. 😊

    • @jesmey4902
      @jesmey4902 4 місяці тому

      ​@@chrisc8712 just ask the 65 year old widows that open up champagne cause their useless husbands are 6 feet under and they are finally free.

    • @truettadevil
      @truettadevil 4 місяці тому +4

      ​​@@chrisc8712and so will you, nerd 🤓

    • @bettym.3996
      @bettym.3996 4 місяці тому +4

      Say it again! ❤

  • @Tariyasha
    @Tariyasha 4 місяці тому +200

    What those folks who look down on single women won’t tell the rest of the world is, you can still be around a whole bunch of people and still be lonely. Some of the loneliness people are in relationships.

    • @Tariyasha
      @Tariyasha 4 місяці тому +17

      *Loneliest* excuse me. 🤭

    • @TinfoilHatGirl
      @TinfoilHatGirl 4 місяці тому +7

      This 💯%

    • @londonkhareem6515
      @londonkhareem6515 4 місяці тому +8

      Big big facts. When I was with the liability( ex) I often felt very lonely. We were in the middle of a pandemic, and not once did the liability spend time with me. Not once did he make me feel safe as a woman. Now he wants me back 😂😂😂😂. Keep dreaming!

    • @NurseKayP
      @NurseKayP 4 місяці тому +7

      A good marriage is lovely but many people think the measure of a good marriage is just longevity. I can only think of a couple marriages where both people are happy.
      One couple in my family that has been married for 35 years maybe more and neither of them is happy. The wife constantly expresses her discontent by taking jabs that everyone just brushes off as jokes.

    • @ms.newcomerteacher6554
      @ms.newcomerteacher6554 4 місяці тому +7

      Yes! Couple celebrates 50+ years and really talk up marriage like it’s a flex and talking about how the Lord this and that. Then the man dies and at the funeral you see his side kids that they both knew about. God is not in that mess. Longevity is not covenant! Faithfulness is.

  • @lynny75831
    @lynny75831 4 місяці тому +189

    older men will want women of a certain age so they can become that hospice wife. Most ladies in their early 20s and 30s dont want to be that women and, well, NEITHER DO WE!! im 49.....screw that life.

    • @lillierose5304
      @lillierose5304 4 місяці тому +37

      The only reason older men go for younger women is because older women don't take the bait. The young women unfortunately are still learning.

    • @theladynextdoor313
      @theladynextdoor313 4 місяці тому +7

      Agreed!!!!

    • @jacquelynn2051
      @jacquelynn2051 4 місяці тому

      THIS! I'm 50 and I remember 30 years ago or so when an older single woman tried to school a younger woman, if a man was there or if the younger woman told the man what the​ older woman told her which was 99% of the time solid advice and lesson this, "Don't listen to her she's just old, single, dry kitty and bitter"
      Welp I'm now 50 and single and I'm enlightened, not bitter and I wear pantyliners every day...not for urine I'm not talking poise, but ya basic always pantyliner... my bladder and kegels are good...but for...ya know...so men must LIE about other women in order to have access to the ignorant women.@@lillierose5304

  • @Cherylm875
    @Cherylm875 4 місяці тому +189

    I am 37, and I am married, but I have no children, and I can honestly say I am happy that I have no kids. I never have wanted children, and I never ever will

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 4 місяці тому +21

      This is what I want if I marry. NO KIDS. Never wanted any.

    • @really5448
      @really5448 4 місяці тому +7

      I’m 55 years old happily married 35 years with no children. Absolutely love our lives.

    • @cateyu5547
      @cateyu5547 4 місяці тому

      @@really5448love this, love it when people set up the life they want! 👏

    • @yanethmartinez656
      @yanethmartinez656 3 місяці тому +1

      Who’s going to take care of you, when you get older elderly. Marriage is about having kids and build the family.
      You need family too.

    • @BreeLove-p6j
      @BreeLove-p6j 15 днів тому

      @@yanethmartinez656your kids dont owe you anything many kids are not in the position to care for their parents full time so they put them in a nursing home

  • @teralecole316
    @teralecole316 4 місяці тому +81

    So many married single mothers are broke, fearful and exhausted. A man can “love you” today and abandon you and his children like you never existed tomorrow. Or even annihilate every one in the household. That’s too much uncertainty and danger. I’m not deluded enough to put my trust in a unicorn “good guy”. In these uncertain times, restarting your life at 40+ gets harder when you have no money and dated skills
    I’m terrified of poverty, so being the rich aunty is the best way. What’s ironic is that males don’t even like their own children and abandon them any chance they get. Foster care and Orphanages are filled with children a man abandoned in some form.

    • @TheRealist00
      @TheRealist00 4 місяці тому +16

      The abandonment is not talked about enough! Thank you for bringing it up. I was married with 2 kids, things were going fine and he walked out on us. Besides having to pay some child support, he faced no repercussions. Even his family was “supportive” of him leaving us for another woman and her kids. Our children have forgiven him (he showed up to be a dad after she dumped him). I spent years single and the last guy I dated ghosted me after several months.
      If you have kids you have to be prepared to be stuck raising them yourself. Cause the Father can just walk away.

    • @teralecole316
      @teralecole316 4 місяці тому +8

      @@TheRealist00 The abandonment is more real than the actual relationship. A healthy and happy lasting relationship/marriage is not a guarantee. If they’re not abandoning, then they’re unaliving women and children.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  4 місяці тому +4

      I'm going to research on this topic....I think it's time we have this discussion

  • @Juice10GL
    @Juice10GL 4 місяці тому +57

    I love being single. Not going back. Relationships is the work I don’t want to do. I’m choosing the life I want and not what society wants for me.

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +7

      Yes, why is society dictating what you should do? No one questions that…
      I dictate my life, I choose when is the right time if I think marriage is worth it, I choose my happiness. Not society

    • @tranquilbakergentletraveller
      @tranquilbakergentletraveller 3 місяці тому +4

      Amen!

  • @VirgoDluxe
    @VirgoDluxe 4 місяці тому +55

    Our therapist recommended that I get an emotional support dog during a couples therapy session. With the utmost RAGE my husband said ‘NO, if she gets a dog she won’t have anytime for me’ 😩 I was SHOCKED! This is a man who put everyone and everything before me all the time. I was severely neglected in that marriage and he could not care less about my needs. I was to be waiting on him hand and foot when he decided to pay me dust…. NO MORE 🙅🏾‍♀️ I packed my ish and left in silence. Best decision of my life❤ If I never get married again I AM PERFECTLY FINE WITH IT! For many, marriage is not all it’s cracked up to be.

    • @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke
      @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke 4 місяці тому +1

      You divorce him for a dog🤦‍♀️

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +13

      I’m so happy you left. I don’t get why partners expect so much but they never reciprocate. That’s called an unfair exchange.

    • @blkwomenrinthebuilding
      @blkwomenrinthebuilding 4 місяці тому

      ​@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke Is that what you got from what she said? 😬

    • @BreeLove-p6j
      @BreeLove-p6j 15 днів тому

      @@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4kenope she never mentions buying a dog she ditched a man who was a user and never gave so get it right

  • @fieryblaze1737
    @fieryblaze1737 4 місяці тому +149

    Marriage & kids = overrated.

    • @icyglam1895
      @icyglam1895 4 місяці тому +10

      And stressful and expensive 😅

    • @jonjones7137
      @jonjones7137 4 місяці тому +2

      Nursing homes full of single happy women

    • @WowDaniX
      @WowDaniX 4 місяці тому

      Most women I know that have women and kids are miserable

    • @dirtyprancing5930
      @dirtyprancing5930 3 місяці тому +3

      I just want women to be able to make informed and free decisions about their lives. I hate that it still feels so far away some days

    • @victoirequeen3851
      @victoirequeen3851 3 місяці тому +1

      So true!! Married single woman here! OVERATED!!!

  • @LadyStudio1
    @LadyStudio1 4 місяці тому +44

    44, child free and never married. My married friends are constantly stressed, crying themselves to sleep, on Xanax to cope with bad children and husbands, divorced, deadbeat husbands, etc. No thanks! Ive entertained the idea for years that if i got married, id wanna have separate houses. I refuse to deal with men who trash my house and use weaponized incompetence to get me to clean up after them. I have no patience.

    • @fburnsDubstepEnderFox
      @fburnsDubstepEnderFox 3 місяці тому

      I'm single, childless, and crying myself to sleep because my psychiatrist won't give me Zoloft... even though I told her my depression is killing me.

  • @stephysteph9538
    @stephysteph9538 4 місяці тому +121

    36 and I’m living the rich older sister lifestyle. I just dropped 1000 this week to take my sister to a concert and a baseball game. Oh and I’m being courted by a man who has his own businesses that generates millions a year. I guess his name is no one cause he certainly wants me after 35 😂😂😂

    • @Mirpeace93
      @Mirpeace93 4 місяці тому +18

      Ooooh girl happy for you!

    • @lillierose5304
      @lillierose5304 4 місяці тому +26

      I still get hit on just as much as I did in my twenties. The only difference is I don't take the bait anymore.

    • @kazbah1217
      @kazbah1217 4 місяці тому +1

      You being groomed as his future nurse wife lol run!!

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +5

      Yes!!! So happy for you! I’m the same age but quit my job and spent my savings because of my health caused by a m@n. I’m not 100% healthy but I’m back at work restarting all over. All it took was one m@n who was so self centered and thought he was the prize that he could have anyone and neglected me and put me in a precarious position. It was one m@n too many…
      Keep it up, Steph, and focus on what you want. If the guy is decent he should be there for you, supportive, and in tune with his emotions, which is so important

    • @katharineshepherd253
      @katharineshepherd253 4 місяці тому +3

      Comment of the year sis ❤

  • @LovelyJordy
    @LovelyJordy 4 місяці тому +185

    There aren't many quality men. They want casual encounters and nothing more!

    • @yousured
      @yousured 4 місяці тому +20

      FACTSSSSSS I SWEAR EVERY MAN I MET IT DIDNT MATTER WHERE … from the gym to the street to online …. They all like I’m going with the flow, I’m not sure …. Well guess what I’m not sure either BLOCKKKKKK… I’m putting dating on hold until I’m established and I feel it lol

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +3

      @@yousuredSame here

    • @PinkyPanther11
      @PinkyPanther11 4 місяці тому +4

      Facts

    • @purrrfectlyPosh
      @purrrfectlyPosh 4 місяці тому

      AND that’s the issue. 0.01% of self actualised men, are very very low or are already taken. What’s left is mostly trashy, bottom feeders who have NO idea what Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs means - so they’ll do what 100% of red pill, women haters do which is to abuse women - thinking that ish will work in 2024😂. No upgrading of mental, spiritual, emotional and physical growth (looking buff from gym is for the pigeons) and think they deserve women, esp high grade women who have put in the effort to educate herself, level up her mindset and money. 🤭That’s how you know they’re out of their right minds.

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 4 місяці тому +5

      And they are in drugs, alcohol, smoking etc!!!

  • @KarenJohnson-m6n
    @KarenJohnson-m6n 4 місяці тому +160

    Men, please stop threatening us with a wonderfully fulfilling, independent, spiritually, psychologically, physically, financially healthy GOOD TIME! JUST STOP PLEASE 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ianimal36
    @ianimal36 4 місяці тому +123

    Investing your body and mind into a man and his "legacy" while he's out making enough money for him and his side chicks vs. making money and having fun spending it
    It's a tough decision but I can see how we're getting there😅

    • @BayouBarbie504
      @BayouBarbie504 4 місяці тому +11

      😂😂😂 one of these things just don’t belong here, one of these things just ain’t the same😂😂😂

  • @peachesjeter5480
    @peachesjeter5480 4 місяці тому +209

    Marriage is not a flex 😂

    • @theladynextdoor313
      @theladynextdoor313 4 місяці тому +13

      Definitely not!! 😂

    • @NurseKayP
      @NurseKayP 4 місяці тому +23

      It is so weird how some women feel that they are above others because they are married. I’ve seen women who live a similar lifestyle as their friends and then all sudden they think they are better than their unmarried friends. Meanwhile, their marriages are not something worth striving to have 😂

    • @cateyu5547
      @cateyu5547 4 місяці тому

      @@NurseKayPtotally, they flash their ring in your face and flex about being married and it’s like what exactly are you flexing? The status of being tied to someone with now way more responsibility? yo we could buy the same ring and go chill. What is it with women rubbing it in other women’s faces, and then the whole bridesmaids culture where they can control their female friends to give up so much time, tell them to what to wear, fly out to their wedding to make her day just perfect. Of course not all women do this, but for some it’s so belittling. No thanks I’ll save my PTO for my own vacation thank you ✌️

    • @cateyu5547
      @cateyu5547 4 місяці тому +9

      Exactly like nah you flexing but we don’t envy you 😂

    • @ccd5942
      @ccd5942 4 місяці тому +6

      I see that now

  • @irme8930
    @irme8930 4 місяці тому +74

    You can have a lot of Stds beeing married. I have been married and faithful for 17 years and my husband brought a bunch of stds in the house. So, not only singlehood creates sexual disease.

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +19

      wow so sorry to hear that. Hope u are std free . And rid of that person who didn’t care to bring it in.

  • @sabeenie21
    @sabeenie21 4 місяці тому +86

    Y’all better get Princella’s book. She explains how and why men think the way they do. Helped me understand why men would say something so absurd.

    • @Gwen_Beautiful_Smile
      @Gwen_Beautiful_Smile 4 місяці тому +3

      Where can I purchase her book?

    • @INFJ_9
      @INFJ_9 4 місяці тому +3

      What’s the title?

    • @sabeenie21
      @sabeenie21 4 місяці тому

      @@INFJ_9 the game 41 shades of men on Amazon.

    • @Wewereneveryoung
      @Wewereneveryoung 4 місяці тому +22

      41 Shades of men: The Pursuit to Subdue and use you

    • @shieldoffaith7099
      @shieldoffaith7099 4 місяці тому +7

      Just bought it on audible thanks ❤

  • @feliciajenkins5041
    @feliciajenkins5041 4 місяці тому +96

    He exposed himself within ten seconds. New world record 🎖️🏆. I'd like to thank men like him for keeping more women single and happy😂. All these women my goodness 💐😎.

  • @TP-pq3nt
    @TP-pq3nt 4 місяці тому +23

    Even Paul in the Bible says that it is better to be single, with marriage and children are a big responsibility. I’m a single mother with one child who almost out of high school. I’m content with being alone. God is enough!

  • @AncientEvolved144
    @AncientEvolved144 4 місяці тому +32

    My mother used to always tell me don’t get married and don’t have children. Thank God that although we had a challenging relationship, I followed her guidance.

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +5

      same here . my mother always said this too!. even later I used to have a friend couple and I was always the third wheel. The guy once said “ don’t get into a relationship.” I just looked at him 👀. then the girl heard him and said “ if u do get into one make sure they listen to u” so very different perspectives from anyone. I just get anxiety thinking of it all. And truly I just don’t trust anything can work out for me

    • @AncientEvolved144
      @AncientEvolved144 4 місяці тому +6

      Same! At this point I don’t even want to try to find someone for companionship.

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому

      @@AncientEvolved144me either. I just don’t have the effort to give anymore.

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому

      @@ysl23addidasqI remember a random m@n told me the same. I didn’t say anything because usually it’s men who were up in arms about me not wanting to be in a relationship, ( I said it sounded like it was too much work, and once I was in one I found out I was 100% right). Though, when a m@n said this, I wondered if he listened to women, or was his upbringing with a father or father figure caused him to see these in a different light…

  • @GrowthGeniusAU
    @GrowthGeniusAU 4 місяці тому +33

    I haven't read the comments, but I'm 53 & have been single for 12 years.
    The amount of hate I've received from men has been huge.
    I don't hate men, but turned my attention to wealth creation, flipping houses & loving my life.
    But the threat men feel must be significant after meeting me.
    I just ignore that & focus on myself & my inner circle. ❤

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому

      I’m sorry about the hate you received. I’ve also had single jabs thrown my way . I’d rather have peace then be with someone who just wants to use me for seggs and not have any interest to take me on proper dates. society wants me to get married and have kids but I truly never spoke that out loud . I’m curious as to what hate you got from men ?

    • @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke
      @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke 4 місяці тому

      What kind of man? From relatives or work colleagues

    • @nekk-ra7080
      @nekk-ra7080 4 місяці тому +9

      ​@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4keFor me, it's the single men. Knew plenty of married men who I was friends and co-workers with who had no problem with me as a woman, and wondered why I wasn't married. The single guys? The anger, the viciousness, and the hostility was ridiculous, and they did a great job driving me right out of the dating pool.

    • @GrowthGeniusAU
      @GrowthGeniusAU 4 місяці тому +4

      @@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke definitely single men for sure.
      Sometimes married & more traditional, telling me I'm a feminist & hate men.
      Some of my beliefs are feminist I suppose, but that doesn't equate to hating men.
      The lack of understanding & the ongoing commentary about what they think is wrong with me is the most upsetting.
      I've become very guarded around these types of men who are unaccepting & non inclusive.
      I generally keep right away & keep with my inner circle.

  • @vrichards4363
    @vrichards4363 4 місяці тому +48

    😂😂😂 rich auntie here and I'm chilin. Thank God❤❤❤❤

  • @chailatecookies7341
    @chailatecookies7341 4 місяці тому +96

    Why would anyone wanna get married if your husband is going to cut you into small pieces and turn you into purée by using a blender as self defence against you?!?! This beautiful Swiss model and mother of two had to go through this which just made me feel so sick to my stomach. Ladies, stay away from these bummies

    • @heneverforesakesme4038
      @heneverforesakesme4038 4 місяці тому +7

      not to mention the xy in france or the Olympic runner that was set a blaze by her partner

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +3

      @@heneverforesakesme4038crazy thing is that he wasn’t even her partner. And some aren’t even sure if they were ex-partners. That thing was married with kids. He left church, hid in the chicken coop with the canteen of gas and set her ablaze. He perished because he rushed back to throw more gas on her and he set himself ablaze as a result. He was deranged, and jealous, and felt entitled to her land and accolades

  • @twocents8355
    @twocents8355 4 місяці тому +57

    Yes, I like being a rich auntie! We live in the U.S., for heaven's sake. Since when is money a bad thing to have? Money gives you options. Kids limit them. One more thing, having a kid because of FOMO is a terrible reason to have a kid.

  • @Maria_Svetlana_5923
    @Maria_Svetlana_5923 4 місяці тому +114

    Getting out of a toxic family it turns me off to dating and marraige 🙄 cats are better than men . I have one kitty Shes more loving Than a man!

    • @kira_salvatore
      @kira_salvatore 4 місяці тому +18

      This 👏👏👏 as a young girl I never dreamed of motherhood or marriage. I only ever dreamed of loving myself and having a peaceful life

    • @TinfoilHatGirl
      @TinfoilHatGirl 4 місяці тому +9

      The only reason I don't have 127 cats is that I am not done traveling yet but once I get bored with that the universal kitten distribution system can come visit me 😅 🐈🐱🐾🐈‍⬛

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 4 місяці тому +3

      And they have the audacity to think that they are better than dogs and cats. The loyalty of these animals are beyond any men I have spoken to... they should know they are losing against dogs and cats!! And BEARS too!!

    • @cp_honey
      @cp_honey 3 місяці тому +3

      Y'all there's one of these 'cute animals' videos unintentionally highlighting this; The cat routinely brings the lady flowers, carefully picks camelias up in the garden and places them all over the floor. The first time she said thanked her boyfriend for the romantic gesture. He shrugged. 😅And the gesture of love keeps coming - from the cat.

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 3 місяці тому +3

      @@cp_honey my cat brings me food, she feeds me (she goes hunting, she is a feral cat)... , men want you provide for them,and pay 50/50 of the household expenses. Men are losing against cats and dogs!!

  • @smurfette6499
    @smurfette6499 4 місяці тому +13

    “You’re threatening women with a good time..” 😂 Well said sis 👏🏽

  • @n.o.9506
    @n.o.9506 4 місяці тому +19

    The pastor said it! The inconvenience!!! Who's rushing to enter an inconvenience??. Lol😂

    • @winxclubstellamusa
      @winxclubstellamusa 3 місяці тому +5

      Right!! He said it himself! Why does he want to shame and force women to inconvenience themselves?

  • @princesses278
    @princesses278 4 місяці тому +53

    I'm alone and never been happier. Lmao Quiet and peace it's better than being with someone who ignores me and treats me bad like my ex husband did 😂❤

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +3

      very true. I’m alone but happier this way. way better than being ignored or hanging out with a man who doesn’t even take me serious or like me

  • @EtherealStar1
    @EtherealStar1 4 місяці тому +60

    So true these Leonardo DiCaprios who are in their 50s and dating 20 yr olds and he’s living life but if that was a single woman in her 50s dating around men half her age, men would say she’s unfulfilled and wasting her life

    • @continuousself-improvement1879
      @continuousself-improvement1879 4 місяці тому +7

      Idc that men like Leo (old but rich and famous) are dating women young enough to be their daughters. As long as both parties (the woman and the man) are aware that they got what they came for.
      What's hilarious is other men in their 50s who don't have money but go around thinking they deserve 20 y.o. models as if the world owes them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  4 місяці тому +3

      Diabolical 🫢 and they're also very entitled those are types who end up unaliving or harming the 20y olds who reject them

    • @winxclubstellamusa
      @winxclubstellamusa 3 місяці тому

      @@continuousself-improvement1879 Leo is gay and keeps using those kids as beards! This is all completely wrong, and consenting to one’s own exploitation doesn’t make it any less wrong.

  • @LadyJoolree
    @LadyJoolree 4 місяці тому +9

    I'm 53. No children. No husband. No regrets.

  • @HeartBreakHigh
    @HeartBreakHigh 4 місяці тому +69

    Some of the loneliness people in the world are those that are married or in relationships!
    Men need women, women don’t need men. Hence why women love and thrive being single, men lose their mind if they are single 😛

    • @luanagebre9212
      @luanagebre9212 4 місяці тому +7

      Facts!!! Truth

    • @brunoqnzbk7891
      @brunoqnzbk7891 4 місяці тому +9

      Eve was made for Adam, not the other way around.

    • @HeartBreakHigh
      @HeartBreakHigh 4 місяці тому +9

      ​@@brunoqnzbk7891 Did I say it was the other way round? 🤨 You are superimposing your emotions onto my comment. Yes, of course Adam was made for Eve, this is what The Most High says in scripture. This is EXACTLY my point! Men need women, women don’t need men, you have simply proved my point 😏.

    • @greenqueen2673
      @greenqueen2673 4 місяці тому +2

      @@HeartBreakHigh Eve was made for Adam. God said the man needed a helpmeet.

    • @ginagreeneofficial
      @ginagreeneofficial 4 місяці тому +9

      Yes Eve was made for Adam because he needed her. Eve would probably be frolicking in the garden making flower necklaces and living her best life if she was single. But then I wouldn’t be here so thank you for your service 🫡

  • @JazzandLaughter
    @JazzandLaughter 4 місяці тому +34

    55 Happily Single & Celibate for 4 years here 🙋🏾‍♀️☀️

  • @madelinekimbro2440
    @madelinekimbro2440 4 місяці тому +13

    Don't settle. I agree with the woman that was talking about manifesting good, high integrity men. We get back what we put out. Don't fall for the negative rhetoric. We can work on ourselves and when we are ready we can attract the right person if that is what we truly want. Blessings to all!

  • @searching1029
    @searching1029 4 місяці тому +7

    The 50yr old woman speaking to the 50brackets. I’m 37 and I feel that way. Exhausted at the idea of being in another relationship. It may be because the past relationships were draining. I believe in the beauty of marriage and building a family but I’m so convinced that the best way to approach this is to become my best version and attract my comparable partner; the one God placed next to my name when he thought I’d be a good idea in the world. I’m not settling for a feeling of “loneliness.”
    I love this content so much! This is women empowering women. We’re not anti-men; just anti-stupid.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  4 місяці тому +1

      I'm glad you love the content💓 yesss this isn't a man hating Chanel just an empowerment movement for women worldwide 💯

  • @peachesjeter5480
    @peachesjeter5480 4 місяці тому +41

    I’m over 40 and I’m for the 4B movement 😃👍🏽👍🏽 loving my peace and my peace of mind me and my cat. NO MEN ALLOWED. 😂

    • @Wisdom143-f1h
      @Wisdom143-f1h 4 місяці тому +4

      Cat gives better emotional support than terrible men..

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому

      What’s the 4B movement ?

    • @p_tiffanii
      @p_tiffanii 4 місяці тому +4

      ​@@ysl23addidasqIt's a movement of women who reject marriage, dating men, having sex with men and having children. It started in Asia.

    • @ysl23addidasq
      @ysl23addidasq 4 місяці тому +1

      ohh ok thanks never knew wow wild

  • @tranquilbakergentletraveller
    @tranquilbakergentletraveller 3 місяці тому +5

    The lady with the dreadlocks is speaking the truth! I'm single, 41, never been married, no children and am enjoying my freedom.

  • @lowusua2416
    @lowusua2416 4 місяці тому +6

    I'm 44, unmarried, no children. Truthfully, I would love both of those things...but my life is not unfulfilled because I don't have them. It is very possible to live a fulfilled, content and happy life in any state you find yourself in.

    • @cj5848
      @cj5848 8 днів тому

      Bingo!

  • @terrijoyce8362
    @terrijoyce8362 4 місяці тому +21

    As a woman of a certain age that is unmarried and child free I can tell you I am not unhappy! I have been married before I have been a step mom and I have no regrets about not being married and not having children. If I had lots of money I would be ecstatic. All mind games!

  • @Meilei429
    @Meilei429 4 місяці тому +34

    🙋🏽‍♀️52 yr old single as a pringle retired chef here! 2 cats, shit load of plants, and im happy as a pig in shit!!!

  • @moniquejohnson2465
    @moniquejohnson2465 4 місяці тому +33

    Did that Pastor say that women would get a couple of stds? He is insane!

    • @VendieSolde
      @VendieSolde 4 місяці тому

      If she's not dealing with men how would she get STDs? He's nonsensical and insane.

    • @michelleandreya7208
      @michelleandreya7208 3 місяці тому

      Yeah he did. Insane, and so offensive.

    • @Kareena1988
      @Kareena1988 3 місяці тому +2

      He thinks like that because he would fool around. That is his fantasy

    • @alerobabes01
      @alerobabes01 22 дні тому

      I'm single childfree and have house plants. No STDs a life of celibacy. I'm a dog person. My late grandmas late neighbor had cats and was a single lady her whole life never been with a man.

  • @Orb-w3aver
    @Orb-w3aver 4 місяці тому +43

    And then they thank you by having a side chick or a secret live child, there is alot of reasons why we don’t by the lie of the happy family life anymore

    • @mossquanaut
      @mossquanaut 4 місяці тому +9

      all the while telling you they love you

  • @Alexis-ec9cl
    @Alexis-ec9cl 4 місяці тому +22

    I feel like marriage = settling. What’s the rush? My existence as a woman isn’t to get married and have kids. It’s to enjoy my life. Let me buy a house and develop my career before I “settle”. What’s wrong with that? And I feel like the older I get married the less pressure to have a big wedding with 100+ people. We can do something small and intimate because we’re in our mid to late 30- early 40s. That’s my take. I’m all about saving money. And I’m 30 going on 31, haven’t dated in over a year and dgaf. I’ve missed nothing except red flaggs and dodged bullets

    • @pickmeisha
      @pickmeisha 4 місяці тому +1

      There is zero correlation between wedding size and age. You can always choose to invite people or not…

  • @remnant1018
    @remnant1018 4 місяці тому +12

    🙋🏽‍♀️40, single, and childfree. 98% fulfilled. What else do I want?🤔Finish my last 8 classes to get my degree annnd☝️😯🙂new patio furniture.

  • @gravityclarity
    @gravityclarity 4 місяці тому +5

    "You'd rather clock into a job than clock into a man!" I hear that!😂

  • @phiakate
    @phiakate 4 місяці тому +20

    the assumption that a woman has children is someone who is fulfilled is wild

    • @ms.rivera7898
      @ms.rivera7898 4 місяці тому +3

      Right. So all the women who abandoned their kid(s) and left them in foster care (or with grandma) are fulfilled? 🙄

  • @sarabee7710
    @sarabee7710 4 місяці тому +29

    Imagine being a whole pastor and ignoring the words of Apostle Paul who says he would wish more people would be single because you are more productive in your service to God single than married. And can the pastor answer if Jesus was miserable because He was never married???

    • @SocaCarib
      @SocaCarib 4 місяці тому +7

      I can agree with you on that. Marriage isn't everything. I believe it is better to be single as you have a better quality of life. You have more time for your self

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +2

      I’m always wondering about that. And people in the religion don’t even mention either. They women were meant to marry and bear children. At least, I know the moment they say that, I know they haven’t read their precious little archaic book 🤷🏿‍♀️

    • @ms.newcomerteacher6554
      @ms.newcomerteacher6554 4 місяці тому +4

      And Mary and other women supported Jesus financially. It’s in the Word. Lydia funded the brand new church in the book of Acts. In the Bible when a woman is married the book says “wife of”. These single ladies supported the Word with their incomes and wealth yet we never hear about it.

    • @rheadreid
      @rheadreid 4 місяці тому +4

      It’s tradition and not based on the Bible whatsoever. We’re over the nonsense. Single, serving and happy.

    • @sarabee7710
      @sarabee7710 3 місяці тому +1

      @@ms.newcomerteacher6554 Right. But one wants to have that conversation.

  • @amanit.3122
    @amanit.3122 4 місяці тому +16

    I think the 45% may increase, especially because of the access to ridiculous podcast conversations that the podcast bros post. Also, the fact that women are able to create communities like this channel for talk spaces and literally levelling up our mindsets.

    • @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke
      @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke 4 місяці тому

      What do you mean when you talk about podcasts? That men will hate women and stay single or that women will hear this podcast and know the mentality of men and decide to stay single

    • @amanit.3122
      @amanit.3122 4 місяці тому +1

      @@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke First off, I love your name. It reminds me of Queen Latifah’s character on Living Single. And I mean that woman will hear these podcasts and the mentality of men and hopefully decide to stay single. These podcasts help us women know who to weed out if we ever decide to date in modern day society.

    • @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke
      @KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke 4 місяці тому

      @@amanit.3122
      Thank you❤️

  • @lexamona96
    @lexamona96 21 день тому +1

    I’m with a wonderful man who is NOT AFRAID TO CHANGE 🎉🎉🎉 he met me at 25, happy to be alone but wanted fun if not a real relationship. Just celebrated our 5th year together with marriage on the horizon; we have a plan ❤. The right man will live up to your standards cause this man knows I will happily be alone if it’s seeming like the better option, and he would never shame me for that. Love yourself First Ladies and the right man will come ~

  • @treenaweathersby2563
    @treenaweathersby2563 4 місяці тому +9

    This video is very true in many ways but there is another side to being a single woman. I have been married, I have five beautiful daughters from that marriage. We divorced when I was 30. I have not had a serious relationship since my husband. It is totally my choice I discovered my self-worth and my peace of mind my health was more important than having a man in the bed who did not respect himself his wife or his marriage. But I think about the last words of an auntie I knew. She had been single all of her life she never got married and she never had children. I asked it is there any regrets with anything that she did to her lifetime and she lived to be 86. The first words out of her mouth was not having children and never had been married. My jaw dropped because watching her life you would never have believed this. She also confessed that throughout her life she felt moments where there were large voids in her life.. I don't believe there's no one answer for one person.. I am glad to have experienced everything.

  • @dianjohnson7390
    @dianjohnson7390 4 місяці тому +11

    I'm 61, not married without kids, living my best life🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @H_NNY
    @H_NNY 4 місяці тому +31

    Shiddd when you got money, all of that is an option. Since it’s an option, I’d rather have my money. I’d be a fool to choose the other if I got all my ducks in a row financially.
    A man will throw all that away because he found someone else to be shiny.
    That’s how unreliable they are.

    • @mossquanaut
      @mossquanaut 4 місяці тому +3

      So true. They care more about moving onto something shiny and new instead of being better

  • @masiahb.2838
    @masiahb.2838 4 місяці тому +85

    Is he a 40 year old woman ? How does he know?

    • @Sweetrose3445
      @Sweetrose3445 4 місяці тому +13

      Exactly

    • @masiahb.2838
      @masiahb.2838 4 місяці тому +8

      I rest my case 😌

    • @digimonalvatrax2738
      @digimonalvatrax2738 4 місяці тому +3

      All I have to do is watch how he treats my cats..... That's how he's gonna treat our kids...

    • @thetruesoulofanaquarius9302
      @thetruesoulofanaquarius9302 4 місяці тому

      😂😂😂

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому

      @@digimonalvatrax2738 I get so worried because I have a coworker who decided to try having kids with an alcoholic. I told her it wasn’t a good idea and she said “oh, he’s been doing AA meeting for three months, he’s doing good”
      Told her three months wasn’t event time but dropped the convo when she still covered for him.
      Just a couple days ago, I found out from another coworker that her cat was brutally beaten by that alcoholic and as a result had to amputate his leg and now the cat is staying away from the alcoholic, frightened.
      This woman is two months pregnant living with an alcoholic ☹️. I just can not wrap my mind around it. She’s seen what happen to her cat but she’s still with him, threatening to go to the police with footage of his abuse if he takes another sip of alcohol…. I don’t want to talk to her because I’ve tried to explain it but she insisted to continue for some reason. She never said anything about loving him, or wanting to spend years together, she just wants to…

  • @OverKillJill
    @OverKillJill 4 місяці тому +42

    Just met, yet another, man child recently. Yep, not missing out on anything. Single for 200, Alex.

    • @chrisc8712
      @chrisc8712 4 місяці тому

      You attract what you are 😊

    • @mossquanaut
      @mossquanaut 4 місяці тому

      @@chrisc8712 What an idiotic statement. A woman can be mature and self aware and an immature man will still want to date her. That is like saying women deserve it.

  • @Skyecaster101
    @Skyecaster101 Місяць тому +2

    My mom is still getting hit on by men of all ages and she's 57 years old. The men who say that old women are undesirable are just undesirable themselves.

  • @sunnatural1272
    @sunnatural1272 4 місяці тому +17

    I have been a single satisfied and happy woman for almost 50 years. I've had children and quickly discarded the seed carriers. I have maintained my peace and solitude even with children and cats......

  • @WowDaniX
    @WowDaniX 4 місяці тому +5

    I’m 46, no kids nor husband. I look young and I have a soft life. I don’t regret having children

  • @orangetea6921
    @orangetea6921 4 місяці тому +21

    I've never heard of a sermon about perpetual bachelors 🤔

  • @mixedbagag3944
    @mixedbagag3944 4 місяці тому +3

    8:23 boxers in a bunch!! 😂😂😂😂 we always get dismissed with a "panties in a bunch" but damn girl thanks for saying that!!!! ❤❤❤❤

  • @Courtney7171
    @Courtney7171 4 місяці тому +5

    I’m 53 never married and no kids and I am very happy because I highly value freedom! And yes I do find relationships exhausting

  • @sandrarobinson4448
    @sandrarobinson4448 3 місяці тому +3

    My girlfriends who are over sixty, never married, and childless are some of the happiest people I know. These divas have money and travel at will.

  • @emmarose9466
    @emmarose9466 4 місяці тому +4

    To each their own! Being single isn’t a failure if it’s a choice, and it’s surely not a failure if all the men you meet treat you poorly. Being around great communities, circles, and continuing to grow regardless of age or the weight of the past is crucial to me.

  • @crystaltomlinson7699
    @crystaltomlinson7699 4 місяці тому +4

    I was with a man for over 20 yrs, we had 4 kids, we never married but I was a wife to him UNTIL I grew tired of his crap and I left, took our kids and moved away, that was the best thing I ever did & if I had married him it would have been soo hard to up and leave. I remain single 12 years later and soo much happier.

  • @clapwithonehand9304
    @clapwithonehand9304 4 місяці тому +31

    Women use to marry men because of finances. They had kids in other to keep the man committed so she wouldn't be left in the dust. Now we make the money and they think alot of us want marriage?😂😂😂😂I mean it was always about the money and men can't blame us for such because they made us see marriage as a way to get by in life. That's on them

  • @LRaine73
    @LRaine73 4 місяці тому +4

    51, never married, no kids. I have had long term relationships, but honestly I’m happier being single. Zero drama. I do as I wish on my time and schedule. I travel extensively, I’m social. Life is good.
    Do I want a relationship someday, perhaps but not necessary. If it complicates my quality of life, it’s a no go. If it compliments my life, awesome.
    It’s just a life choice. Some of us women need space to fly, to have our own autonomy. It’s freeing .

  • @Jihans_show
    @Jihans_show Місяць тому +2

    this video just what i needed. these points are so good

  • @Poptartsthatareplain101
    @Poptartsthatareplain101 4 місяці тому +5

    They act like some middle aged man is the epitome of what’s supposed to make you happy in life lmfao!!

  • @WarpaintFTW
    @WarpaintFTW 4 місяці тому +5

    I can't imagine my life without my husband and our children 🥰 to each their own ❤

  • @lynnec6325
    @lynnec6325 4 місяці тому +5

    Peace over drama! I agree Men would rather be a burden than a help. The way some women age in marriage is horrifying. They've been thru hell.

  • @marilynmonheaux
    @marilynmonheaux 4 місяці тому +10

    Western single men love giving women advice on how to get married imagine that.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  4 місяці тому +3

      Ridiculous 🤣

  • @argates6507
    @argates6507 3 місяці тому +2

    I got married for the first time in my 40s. It lasted a year and a half and I was the most miserable I have ever been.
    I can't even begin to imagine the man who could convince me to get married a second time. I'd rather be single for life.

  • @newyorkdiva3
    @newyorkdiva3 4 місяці тому +32

    He needs to sit down somewhere he has no idea what he's talking about.

  • @jewelreynolds6612
    @jewelreynolds6612 4 місяці тому +12

    My mom is 70 plus and she loves the peace ❤

    • @chrisc8712
      @chrisc8712 4 місяці тому

      She doesn’t fall in the category genius lol she is not single and childless over 40. She had you and has grandkids 😊

  • @mercygrace.
    @mercygrace. 3 місяці тому +2

    Got married at 42 to a man 8 years younger than me. Definitely worth the wait ... God doesn't overlook you, He's just working behind the scenes to work on the two of you to create a beautiful match for marriage.

  • @csherman47
    @csherman47 4 місяці тому +25

    4B. I wish I had had the courage to stay single when I was young. Such pressure to conform and become a slave. Such a waste of years of my life when I could have fulfilled my dream of being a doctor. I ended up going back to school at the age of 52 to become an RN, and I have never been happier! No way will I ever again bother with men and their outdated expectations.

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +2

      You were pressured when you were younger? Was it by family, friends or society?
      I didn’t have friends because they felt too immature until I was in high school where I had about 3 wonderful friends, family always wanted me to focus on education and money, may parents were immigrants and believed money in the US is your best bet of survival and they are 100% right, and society, well, I thought society didn’t know sh!t so I never listened. Girls are supposed to be delicate and feminine, I wanted to be strong and durable. Women are supposed to have bf to marry, I thought boys were stupid and who would’ve have thought they’d grow up to never elevate intellectually.
      I’ve always felt society was the biggest opp for women and after learning some history on women’s studies on my own lately, they were our biggest enemies. The things women were put through is horrific

    • @ms.rivera7898
      @ms.rivera7898 4 місяці тому +1

      Awesome!

    • @csherman47
      @csherman47 4 місяці тому +1

      @@natcl9974 who pressured me? All of them. My father would first say I was too skinny, then ask when I was getting arrived. My sister would have single horrible men who just happened to be there when I visited. I’ll never forget someone’s younger brother who was covered in tattoos. And girls my age talking nonstop about boyfriends, engagements, what their wedding would look like….so boring.

    • @graciegracie
      @graciegracie 4 місяці тому

      Be a doctor! 😊

    • @carmenpearson9634
      @carmenpearson9634 4 місяці тому

      AMEN.

  • @katiepop3442
    @katiepop3442 4 місяці тому +38

    Pastor should be ashamed of himself❤

  • @LGnLA
    @LGnLA 3 місяці тому +2

    Ooooh weeee, she said, "the comments last a min, the decisions you make last a lifetime..." deep & real talk!!💯💯💯💯

  • @Vstar87
    @Vstar87 4 місяці тому +6

    Being in a relationship is exhausting I find having a partner cramps my style they get in the way maybe I’m not built for being in a relationship.

  • @taniaswain-williams1379
    @taniaswain-williams1379 4 місяці тому +7

    My single well off mid 40s friends are enjoying life but desire a family. Can this please stop being a war?

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 4 місяці тому

      Which war??

    • @valm.5243
      @valm.5243 25 днів тому

      It's difficult being a single, happy auntie without a large, loving extended family. That's what these commenters are failing to recognize. Not all of us have that and we desire a companion.

  • @feferosette
    @feferosette 4 місяці тому +13

    I love what that woman is saying at the the very beginning of this video.

  • @bosslady6198
    @bosslady6198 Місяць тому +1

    I am in the same boat I never been married and glad I did not rush into getting a mate, the men I came across was not god fearing, did not care for themselves, nor like thier own parents, I decided to continue to just work in areas that need improvements. I had many bad experience around me to just jump the broom, many of the men just want to hook up without no real conversation.

  • @leelee185
    @leelee185 4 місяці тому +3

    I'm 43 and have never been married, and I don't desire it, I don't think its worth it and I like my space and privacy. Also based on my experiences a lot of men don't offer much, I have dated a few people and have gained nothing from any of those relationships.

  • @JoN-l5v
    @JoN-l5v 4 місяці тому +5

    I’m 42, single, no kids and have time to study for certifications, crafting, cooking, reading and with a nice clean, quiet home. I want no XYs in my house except a dog. Lol😂

  • @Acase1976-gn7pw
    @Acase1976-gn7pw 4 місяці тому +5

    Yes! Society tells women that your only worth is associated to your marital status and uterus usage. It is far better to live a life of purpose and fulfillment and to find your happiness in yourself than to be single in a relationship that burns you out bc you don’t have a partner. You have a grown child

  • @JoN-l5v
    @JoN-l5v 4 місяці тому +6

    I have a friend that told her husband how she’s jealous of my free time and her husband asked her if she still wants to be married. I got mad at her and told her she should’ve said no. I would’ve helped her pack up ASAP! 😂

  • @mercybassey3877
    @mercybassey3877 4 місяці тому +9

    Thank God, they have been able to convince themselves that sleeping with each other is normal. They have each other😂

    • @sarabee7710
      @sarabee7710 4 місяці тому

      @@mercybassey3877 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @User35765dw
      @User35765dw 3 місяці тому

      Right. Just get on Grindr and leave us out of it

  • @blessed3779
    @blessed3779 4 місяці тому +1

    “Weaponized Incompetence” ……adding this to my vocabulary bag 😂

  • @cheetavontiebolt9971
    @cheetavontiebolt9971 4 місяці тому +31

    I am proud of my high bodycount i am std.free i know women who have caught stds from their husbands

    • @biancam2327
      @biancam2327 4 місяці тому

      This.. I heard of women getting HIV from their husbands.

    • @natcl9974
      @natcl9974 4 місяці тому +5

      Its so disgusting because the wives trusted their husbands and they literally took that trust and threw it in a dumpster fire 😢

    • @biancam2327
      @biancam2327 4 місяці тому

      @@cheetavontiebolt9971 I was told many women need to watch it cause men/husbands have gotten hipped to hiding their STD/HIV medications in vitamins or over the counter drug bottles.

  • @alicekerketta4230
    @alicekerketta4230 2 місяці тому +2

    8:48 Omg so trueeeee- If you are out there but not serving one of them, they feel your life is being wasted.' Thats the absolute reality.

  • @lillady1770
    @lillady1770 Місяць тому +1

    Single mother of 2 less stress without him.. no extra child❤❤

  • @sourcandydoll
    @sourcandydoll 3 місяці тому +2

    That Ashanti example is TEA. She was doing just fine until people fear mongered her and now she’s married and a mother to one of Nelly’s children. Meanwhile, Mya looks GOODT.