I am single because I don't like to be bothered!These men are jealous of your children, your careers, pets,your friends, your high self-esteem, your smile...chile😂😂😂
Yup. Imagine not having to consider him, when he’s out. Not doubting yourself, not thinking about whether or not he’s doing right by you and not exposing you to spiritual and sexual dis-eases and demons. Imagine your home being exactly how you set it up to be. No one draining your energy due to conscious disruptions/distractions and violence. Imagine being so at peace that if you never got into another relationship- you’d still be super happy with that decision… I should write a book on this….🎉🎉🎉 Nothing beats peace of mind and contentment, with two beautifull cats ❤😊
Because alot of these men are confused about what being the head of household means...alot of them are just abusers and don't see u as a person but as a robot or momma with no feelings smh 🙄
Yes,I got married very young to a much older man. Widow at 38.I love my freedom I have dated some but never liked anyone enough to trade my freedom for their crap. Every man I have dated wanted me to move in with him,fix up his house,pay his bills. As I widow with one child I am better off money wise being single. Immature, irresponsible men bring nothing to the table.I take care of my daughter on my own,have bought a house,new car on my own. I seem to attract needy,whiny dusty type men,so no thank you. I have so much peace on my life and don't have anyone telling my what I am allowed to do. I don't encourage my daughter to get married or have kids.I know all to well that most men out there are garbage.
To the "comedian"...how about you visit all the divorced women who had children. At 50, they've realized they wasted their life catering to a narcissistic man. But no, they don't want that conversation spoken about. How men use and abuse you. Men say a woman is "used up", because they all know they are users.
I'm 45, never married, no children, still as hot as ever. I have no "one that got away" but a string of dodged bullets. My cats give me more consistency and love than my exes ever have. I wouldn't give a single one of those men the time of day now. If there's a husband for me, he hasn't shown up yet- and I'm fine with it never happening. It's sooo much better to be single than saddled with a bad partner.
I love how he is IGNORING the fact that if 45% of women are not gonna be married or mothers...means probably an even HIGHER amount of men will be single and not fathers.
And there are many men who are 40s and single and childless. I personally know two anesthesiologist MDs (men) who do not want marriage or kids. They’re out here just living. When asked they say no way. Bachelors in NYC
@@MAC-tf7pwThat seems to work for those guys you mentioned, but I don't think most men are independent enough to live on their own. I think that's why they bash single, childfree women - because they are jealous of how happy and independent many of those women are, alone. Those women are single by choice, but I don't think most single men are. People who can't or don't want to live alone should focus on finding a good partner, but many single men are too focused on bashing women and pushing good women away. Then, they PRETEND that they are single by choice! 😆
It’s because they’re actually TERRIFIED that women are and have REALLY given up on men - they will either die off or change - that’s the only option that should be given to them.
@mandyg943...47 single and child-free lady here. Well, I do have my fur baby. I feel the same. I'll stay single unless I meet the right man for me and my life. Otherwise, single is the way to go. 😊
I’m 45, not married and no kids. I get more male attention than when I was 25. Because I’m not male centered, I get to be 100% me and that is intriguing to men. I just be living my best life, laughing, eating good, wearing pink lipstick and too much jewelry. It’s the good life. 💋
"I got married and had kids, my sister, not married, and never had any kids, on any given day she's having more fun than I am" -Judge Lynn Toler. Getting married and having kid's is not everything, and no reason to feel unfulfilled in life.
I ADORE Judge Lynn Toler! She is the one who helped me through my 20s. Something she said that has stuck with me so much, I share it with my little cousins and nieces is, "Your 20s is not about getting married, settling down, or having children. It's about figuring out who you are and what you want and don't want in life." I will take her wisdom with me everywhere.
@raynebow5289 and she's right, I had my son at 20 and when I tell you, it takes a while to get your life back. My son now 23 I tell him to travel the world, experience life this is NOT the time to be anyone's father or husband, go and live. Getting married and having kids can derail your life plans, for a while.
@@Summerbreeze345 I agree. You finally reach adulthood and you can go do anything and then instead you’re stuck. So glad I had my twenties to myself. Had my kids in my 30s.
older men will want women of a certain age so they can become that hospice wife. Most ladies in their early 20s and 30s dont want to be that women and, well, NEITHER DO WE!! im 49.....screw that life.
THIS! I'm 50 and I remember 30 years ago or so when an older single woman tried to school a younger woman, if a man was there or if the younger woman told the man what the older woman told her which was 99% of the time solid advice and lesson this, "Don't listen to her she's just old, single, dry kitty and bitter" Welp I'm now 50 and single and I'm enlightened, not bitter and I wear pantyliners every day...not for urine I'm not talking poise, but ya basic always pantyliner... my bladder and kegels are good...but for...ya know...so men must LIE about other women in order to have access to the ignorant women.@@lillierose5304
What those folks who look down on single women won’t tell the rest of the world is, you can still be around a whole bunch of people and still be lonely. Some of the loneliness people are in relationships.
Big big facts. When I was with the liability( ex) I often felt very lonely. We were in the middle of a pandemic, and not once did the liability spend time with me. Not once did he make me feel safe as a woman. Now he wants me back 😂😂😂😂. Keep dreaming!
A good marriage is lovely but many people think the measure of a good marriage is just longevity. I can only think of a couple marriages where both people are happy. One couple in my family that has been married for 35 years maybe more and neither of them is happy. The wife constantly expresses her discontent by taking jabs that everyone just brushes off as jokes.
Yes! Couple celebrates 50+ years and really talk up marriage like it’s a flex and talking about how the Lord this and that. Then the man dies and at the funeral you see his side kids that they both knew about. God is not in that mess. Longevity is not covenant! Faithfulness is.
It is so weird how some women feel that they are above others because they are married. I’ve seen women who live a similar lifestyle as their friends and then all sudden they think they are better than their unmarried friends. Meanwhile, their marriages are not something worth striving to have 😂
@@NurseKayPtotally, they flash their ring in your face and flex about being married and it’s like what exactly are you flexing? The status of being tied to someone with now way more responsibility? yo we could buy the same ring and go chill. What is it with women rubbing it in other women’s faces, and then the whole bridesmaids culture where they can control their female friends to give up so much time, tell them to what to wear, fly out to their wedding to make her day just perfect. Of course not all women do this, but for some it’s so belittling. No thanks I’ll save my PTO for my own vacation thank you ✌️
Men, please stop threatening us with a wonderfully fulfilling, independent, spiritually, psychologically, physically, financially healthy GOOD TIME! JUST STOP PLEASE 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yes, I like being a rich auntie! We live in the U.S., for heaven's sake. Since when is money a bad thing to have? Money gives you options. Kids limit them. One more thing, having a kid because of FOMO is a terrible reason to have a kid.
Investing your body and mind into a man and his "legacy" while he's out making enough money for him and his side chicks vs. making money and having fun spending it It's a tough decision but I can see how we're getting there😅
FACTSSSSSS I SWEAR EVERY MAN I MET IT DIDNT MATTER WHERE … from the gym to the street to online …. They all like I’m going with the flow, I’m not sure …. Well guess what I’m not sure either BLOCKKKKKK… I’m putting dating on hold until I’m established and I feel it lol
AND that’s the issue. 0.01% of self actualised men, are very very low or are already taken. What’s left is mostly trashy, bottom feeders who have NO idea what Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs means - so they’ll do what 100% of red pill, women haters do which is to abuse women - thinking that ish will work in 2024😂. No upgrading of mental, spiritual, emotional and physical growth (looking buff from gym is for the pigeons) and think they deserve women, esp high grade women who have put in the effort to educate herself, level up her mindset and money. 🤭That’s how you know they’re out of their right minds.
You can have a lot of Stds beeing married. I have been married and faithful for 17 years and my husband brought a bunch of stds in the house. So, not only singlehood creates sexual disease.
Yes, why is society dictating what you should do? No one questions that… I dictate my life, I choose when is the right time if I think marriage is worth it, I choose my happiness. Not society
36 and I’m living the rich older sister lifestyle. I just dropped 1000 this week to take my sister to a concert and a baseball game. Oh and I’m being courted by a man who has his own businesses that generates millions a year. I guess his name is no one cause he certainly wants me after 35 😂😂😂
Yes!!! So happy for you! I’m the same age but quit my job and spent my savings because of my health caused by a m@n. I’m not 100% healthy but I’m back at work restarting all over. All it took was one m@n who was so self centered and thought he was the prize that he could have anyone and neglected me and put me in a precarious position. It was one m@n too many… Keep it up, Steph, and focus on what you want. If the guy is decent he should be there for you, supportive, and in tune with his emotions, which is so important
So many married single mothers are broke, fearful and exhausted. A man can “love you” today and abandon you and his children like you never existed tomorrow. Or even annihilate every one in the household. That’s too much uncertainty and danger. I’m not deluded enough to put my trust in a unicorn “good guy”. In these uncertain times, restarting your life at 40+ gets harder when you have no money and dated skills I’m terrified of poverty, so being the rich aunty is the best way. What’s ironic is that males don’t even like their own children and abandon them any chance they get. Foster care and Orphanages are filled with children a man abandoned in some form.
The abandonment is not talked about enough! Thank you for bringing it up. I was married with 2 kids, things were going fine and he walked out on us. Besides having to pay some child support, he faced no repercussions. Even his family was “supportive” of him leaving us for another woman and her kids. Our children have forgiven him (he showed up to be a dad after she dumped him). I spent years single and the last guy I dated ghosted me after several months. If you have kids you have to be prepared to be stuck raising them yourself. Cause the Father can just walk away.
@@TheRealist00 The abandonment is more real than the actual relationship. A healthy and happy lasting relationship/marriage is not a guarantee. If they’re not abandoning, then they’re unaliving women and children.
The only reason I don't have 127 cats is that I am not done traveling yet but once I get bored with that the universal kitten distribution system can come visit me 😅 🐈🐱🐾🐈⬛
And they have the audacity to think that they are better than dogs and cats. The loyalty of these animals are beyond any men I have spoken to... they should know they are losing against dogs and cats!! And BEARS too!!
Y'all there's one of these 'cute animals' videos unintentionally highlighting this; The cat routinely brings the lady flowers, carefully picks camelias up in the garden and places them all over the floor. The first time she said thanked her boyfriend for the romantic gesture. He shrugged. 😅And the gesture of love keeps coming - from the cat.
@@cp_honey my cat brings me food, she feeds me (she goes hunting, she is a feral cat)... , men want you provide for them,and pay 50/50 of the household expenses. Men are losing against cats and dogs!!
44, child free and never married. My married friends are constantly stressed, crying themselves to sleep, on Xanax to cope with bad children and husbands, divorced, deadbeat husbands, etc. No thanks! Ive entertained the idea for years that if i got married, id wanna have separate houses. I refuse to deal with men who trash my house and use weaponized incompetence to get me to clean up after them. I have no patience.
I am 37, and I am married, but I have no children, and I can honestly say I am happy that I have no kids. I never have wanted children, and I never ever will
@@chrisc8712 What an idiotic statement. A woman can be mature and self aware and an immature man will still want to date her. That is like saying women deserve it.
He exposed himself within ten seconds. New world record 🎖️🏆. I'd like to thank men like him for keeping more women single and happy😂. All these women my goodness 💐😎.
Our therapist recommended that I get an emotional support dog during a couples therapy session. With the utmost RAGE my husband said ‘NO, if she gets a dog she won’t have anytime for me’ 😩 I was SHOCKED! This is a man who put everyone and everything before me all the time. I was severely neglected in that marriage and he could not care less about my needs. I was to be waiting on him hand and foot when he decided to pay me dust…. NO MORE 🙅🏾♀️ I packed my ish and left in silence. Best decision of my life❤ If I never get married again I AM PERFECTLY FINE WITH IT! For many, marriage is not all it’s cracked up to be.
Even Paul in the Bible says that it is better to be single, with marriage and children are a big responsibility. I’m a single mother with one child who almost out of high school. I’m content with being alone. God is enough!
Why would anyone wanna get married if your husband is going to cut you into small pieces and turn you into purée by using a blender as self defence against you?!?! This beautiful Swiss model and mother of two had to go through this which just made me feel so sick to my stomach. Ladies, stay away from these bummies
@@heneverforesakesme4038crazy thing is that he wasn’t even her partner. And some aren’t even sure if they were ex-partners. That thing was married with kids. He left church, hid in the chicken coop with the canteen of gas and set her ablaze. He perished because he rushed back to throw more gas on her and he set himself ablaze as a result. He was deranged, and jealous, and felt entitled to her land and accolades
Some of the loneliness people in the world are those that are married or in relationships! Men need women, women don’t need men. Hence why women love and thrive being single, men lose their mind if they are single 😛
@@brunoqnzbk7891 Did I say it was the other way round? 🤨 You are superimposing your emotions onto my comment. Yes, of course Adam was made for Eve, this is what The Most High says in scripture. This is EXACTLY my point! Men need women, women don’t need men, you have simply proved my point 😏.
Yes Eve was made for Adam because he needed her. Eve would probably be frolicking in the garden making flower necklaces and living her best life if she was single. But then I wouldn’t be here so thank you for your service 🫡
I haven't read the comments, but I'm 53 & have been single for 12 years. The amount of hate I've received from men has been huge. I don't hate men, but turned my attention to wealth creation, flipping houses & loving my life. But the threat men feel must be significant after meeting me. I just ignore that & focus on myself & my inner circle. ❤
I’m sorry about the hate you received. I’ve also had single jabs thrown my way . I’d rather have peace then be with someone who just wants to use me for seggs and not have any interest to take me on proper dates. society wants me to get married and have kids but I truly never spoke that out loud . I’m curious as to what hate you got from men ?
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4keFor me, it's the single men. Knew plenty of married men who I was friends and co-workers with who had no problem with me as a woman, and wondered why I wasn't married. The single guys? The anger, the viciousness, and the hostility was ridiculous, and they did a great job driving me right out of the dating pool.
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke definitely single men for sure. Sometimes married & more traditional, telling me I'm a feminist & hate men. Some of my beliefs are feminist I suppose, but that doesn't equate to hating men. The lack of understanding & the ongoing commentary about what they think is wrong with me is the most upsetting. I've become very guarded around these types of men who are unaccepting & non inclusive. I generally keep right away & keep with my inner circle.
And then they thank you by having a side chick or a secret live child, there is alot of reasons why we don’t by the lie of the happy family life anymore
So true these Leonardo DiCaprios who are in their 50s and dating 20 yr olds and he’s living life but if that was a single woman in her 50s dating around men half her age, men would say she’s unfulfilled and wasting her life
Idc that men like Leo (old but rich and famous) are dating women young enough to be their daughters. As long as both parties (the woman and the man) are aware that they got what they came for. What's hilarious is other men in their 50s who don't have money but go around thinking they deserve 20 y.o. models as if the world owes them. 🤷🏻♀️
@@continuousself-improvement1879 Leo is gay and keeps using those kids as beards! This is all completely wrong, and consenting to one’s own exploitation doesn’t make it any less wrong.
My mother used to always tell me don’t get married and don’t have children. Thank God that although we had a challenging relationship, I followed her guidance.
same here . my mother always said this too!. even later I used to have a friend couple and I was always the third wheel. The guy once said “ don’t get into a relationship.” I just looked at him 👀. then the girl heard him and said “ if u do get into one make sure they listen to u” so very different perspectives from anyone. I just get anxiety thinking of it all. And truly I just don’t trust anything can work out for me
@@ysl23addidasqI remember a random m@n told me the same. I didn’t say anything because usually it’s men who were up in arms about me not wanting to be in a relationship, ( I said it sounded like it was too much work, and once I was in one I found out I was 100% right). Though, when a m@n said this, I wondered if he listened to women, or was his upbringing with a father or father figure caused him to see these in a different light…
Women use to marry men because of finances. They had kids in other to keep the man committed so she wouldn't be left in the dust. Now we make the money and they think alot of us want marriage?😂😂😂😂I mean it was always about the money and men can't blame us for such because they made us see marriage as a way to get by in life. That's on them
As a woman of a certain age that is unmarried and child free I can tell you I am not unhappy! I have been married before I have been a step mom and I have no regrets about not being married and not having children. If I had lots of money I would be ecstatic. All mind games!
Shiddd when you got money, all of that is an option. Since it’s an option, I’d rather have my money. I’d be a fool to choose the other if I got all my ducks in a row financially. A man will throw all that away because he found someone else to be shiny. That’s how unreliable they are.
Don't settle. I agree with the woman that was talking about manifesting good, high integrity men. We get back what we put out. Don't fall for the negative rhetoric. We can work on ourselves and when we are ready we can attract the right person if that is what we truly want. Blessings to all!
@@digimonalvatrax2738 I get so worried because I have a coworker who decided to try having kids with an alcoholic. I told her it wasn’t a good idea and she said “oh, he’s been doing AA meeting for three months, he’s doing good” Told her three months wasn’t event time but dropped the convo when she still covered for him. Just a couple days ago, I found out from another coworker that her cat was brutally beaten by that alcoholic and as a result had to amputate his leg and now the cat is staying away from the alcoholic, frightened. This woman is two months pregnant living with an alcoholic ☹️. I just can not wrap my mind around it. She’s seen what happen to her cat but she’s still with him, threatening to go to the police with footage of his abuse if he takes another sip of alcohol…. I don’t want to talk to her because I’ve tried to explain it but she insisted to continue for some reason. She never said anything about loving him, or wanting to spend years together, she just wants to…
I feel like marriage = settling. What’s the rush? My existence as a woman isn’t to get married and have kids. It’s to enjoy my life. Let me buy a house and develop my career before I “settle”. What’s wrong with that? And I feel like the older I get married the less pressure to have a big wedding with 100+ people. We can do something small and intimate because we’re in our mid to late 30- early 40s. That’s my take. I’m all about saving money. And I’m 30 going on 31, haven’t dated in over a year and dgaf. I’ve missed nothing except red flaggs and dodged bullets
This video is very true in many ways but there is another side to being a single woman. I have been married, I have five beautiful daughters from that marriage. We divorced when I was 30. I have not had a serious relationship since my husband. It is totally my choice I discovered my self-worth and my peace of mind my health was more important than having a man in the bed who did not respect himself his wife or his marriage. But I think about the last words of an auntie I knew. She had been single all of her life she never got married and she never had children. I asked it is there any regrets with anything that she did to her lifetime and she lived to be 86. The first words out of her mouth was not having children and never had been married. My jaw dropped because watching her life you would never have believed this. She also confessed that throughout her life she felt moments where there were large voids in her life.. I don't believe there's no one answer for one person.. I am glad to have experienced everything.
The 50yr old woman speaking to the 50brackets. I’m 37 and I feel that way. Exhausted at the idea of being in another relationship. It may be because the past relationships were draining. I believe in the beauty of marriage and building a family but I’m so convinced that the best way to approach this is to become my best version and attract my comparable partner; the one God placed next to my name when he thought I’d be a good idea in the world. I’m not settling for a feeling of “loneliness.” I love this content so much! This is women empowering women. We’re not anti-men; just anti-stupid.
I have been a single satisfied and happy woman for almost 50 years. I've had children and quickly discarded the seed carriers. I have maintained my peace and solitude even with children and cats......
Imagine being a whole pastor and ignoring the words of Apostle Paul who says he would wish more people would be single because you are more productive in your service to God single than married. And can the pastor answer if Jesus was miserable because He was never married???
I can agree with you on that. Marriage isn't everything. I believe it is better to be single as you have a better quality of life. You have more time for your self
I’m always wondering about that. And people in the religion don’t even mention either. They women were meant to marry and bear children. At least, I know the moment they say that, I know they haven’t read their precious little archaic book 🤷🏿♀️
And Mary and other women supported Jesus financially. It’s in the Word. Lydia funded the brand new church in the book of Acts. In the Bible when a woman is married the book says “wife of”. These single ladies supported the Word with their incomes and wealth yet we never hear about it.
I think the 45% may increase, especially because of the access to ridiculous podcast conversations that the podcast bros post. Also, the fact that women are able to create communities like this channel for talk spaces and literally levelling up our mindsets.
What do you mean when you talk about podcasts? That men will hate women and stay single or that women will hear this podcast and know the mentality of men and decide to stay single
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke First off, I love your name. It reminds me of Queen Latifah’s character on Living Single. And I mean that woman will hear these podcasts and the mentality of men and hopefully decide to stay single. These podcasts help us women know who to weed out if we ever decide to date in modern day society.
@@cheetavontiebolt9971 I was told many women need to watch it cause men/husbands have gotten hipped to hiding their STD/HIV medications in vitamins or over the counter drug bottles.
4B. I wish I had had the courage to stay single when I was young. Such pressure to conform and become a slave. Such a waste of years of my life when I could have fulfilled my dream of being a doctor. I ended up going back to school at the age of 52 to become an RN, and I have never been happier! No way will I ever again bother with men and their outdated expectations.
You were pressured when you were younger? Was it by family, friends or society? I didn’t have friends because they felt too immature until I was in high school where I had about 3 wonderful friends, family always wanted me to focus on education and money, may parents were immigrants and believed money in the US is your best bet of survival and they are 100% right, and society, well, I thought society didn’t know sh!t so I never listened. Girls are supposed to be delicate and feminine, I wanted to be strong and durable. Women are supposed to have bf to marry, I thought boys were stupid and who would’ve have thought they’d grow up to never elevate intellectually. I’ve always felt society was the biggest opp for women and after learning some history on women’s studies on my own lately, they were our biggest enemies. The things women were put through is horrific
@@natcl9974 who pressured me? All of them. My father would first say I was too skinny, then ask when I was getting arrived. My sister would have single horrible men who just happened to be there when I visited. I’ll never forget someone’s younger brother who was covered in tattoos. And girls my age talking nonstop about boyfriends, engagements, what their wedding would look like….so boring.
Yes! Society tells women that your only worth is associated to your marital status and uterus usage. It is far better to live a life of purpose and fulfillment and to find your happiness in yourself than to be single in a relationship that burns you out bc you don’t have a partner. You have a grown child
I have a friend that told her husband how she’s jealous of my free time and her husband asked her if she still wants to be married. I got mad at her and told her she should’ve said no. I would’ve helped her pack up ASAP! 😂
I was with a man for over 20 yrs, we had 4 kids, we never married but I was a wife to him UNTIL I grew tired of his crap and I left, took our kids and moved away, that was the best thing I ever did & if I had married him it would have been soo hard to up and leave. I remain single 12 years later and soo much happier.
51, never married, no kids. I have had long term relationships, but honestly I’m happier being single. Zero drama. I do as I wish on my time and schedule. I travel extensively, I’m social. Life is good. Do I want a relationship someday, perhaps but not necessary. If it complicates my quality of life, it’s a no go. If it compliments my life, awesome. It’s just a life choice. Some of us women need space to fly, to have our own autonomy. It’s freeing .
To each their own! Being single isn’t a failure if it’s a choice, and it’s surely not a failure if all the men you meet treat you poorly. Being around great communities, circles, and continuing to grow regardless of age or the weight of the past is crucial to me.
This is great, the arrogance and ignorance of these men!!!!! 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣!!! Oh my. I’m mid 40’s without kids and it’s pretty damn good! A lot less stress. My boyfriend has two younger kids and I’ve been in their lives for a long time and so I consider myself like maybe a part-time parent and the times with the kids versus the time without the kids is like night and day. Personally, I love the kids and they’re great and I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy spending time with them, BUT I want my time too. I do a lot for his kids. I enjoy my time, my peace and solitude and living my life VERY much!!! When he said he wanted another child a couple years ago I said that absolutely not!! I am not interested 😂. I watch all my friends be stressed with kids and they all have help!! Help from their families, which seems to me to be a requirement to be successful in parenting honestly. I don’t want a life totally focused around kids. I do not regret my choices. These men always try with that guilt BS 🤣🤣🥴✋🏼🛑. Ladies live your lives however you want!!!
A lot of IGNORANT people and men believe that sigle highly educated adult women have hit the wall and have had multiple sexual partners.. and this is NOT true. Women that have opted to become professionals, are focused on growth in ALL aspects of their lives.. Our focus is not the “traditional” grow up and get married view, no, we had our own dreams and aspirations to grow into as individuals. And trust me, we aint missing anything. It takes a special kind of man to appreciate us.
I’m 42, single, no kids and have time to study for certifications, crafting, cooking, reading and with a nice clean, quiet home. I want no XYs in my house except a dog. Lol😂
THANKYOU!!! i typed in "boss babe" and the damn amount of HATEEEEEEEE just from old freaking geezers geeeez imma save this video !!! THANK GOODNESS THIS EXISTSSSS,
What an ignorant statement he made. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself if you so choose. We are not all the domesticated type. My sisters and I have done both roles. None of us has experienced the “empty nest syndrome“ Freedom to do what you choose to do or not do feels great. Just stay in shape and take good care of yourselves. Loving solitude. 😂❤❤❤
I got married for the first time in my 40s. It lasted a year and a half and I was the most miserable I have ever been. I can't even begin to imagine the man who could convince me to get married a second time. I'd rather be single for life.
Got married at 42 to a man 8 years younger than me. Definitely worth the wait ... God doesn't overlook you, He's just working behind the scenes to work on the two of you to create a beautiful match for marriage.
As a man my entire childhood was filled with women who wanted men to do it for them. 'You work the well paying job' 'you take care of the animals i wanted' 'let my daughter do whatever she wants' 'do all the yardwork and handyman while i cook one simple meal' 'pay all the bills xause i only work minimum wage' us kids did the chores. I grew up around terribly lazy women. My wifes mother was the exact same. My wife puts you all to SHAME.
I am single because I don't like to be bothered!These men are jealous of your children, your careers, pets,your friends, your high self-esteem, your smile...chile😂😂😂
100%
So true 🤞
😮💨Outrageous thinking to say the least! 🤯&& they don’t understand.
Fr 💯
@@OItsSasha now I that’s a word! I’ve had a guy say to me with a straight face 😐 you take better care of that damn dog than you do your man?
Notice how good all these single older women look 🤩👍🏽
OKAY!!
Yup. Imagine not having to consider him, when he’s out. Not doubting yourself, not thinking about whether or not he’s doing right by you and not exposing you to spiritual and sexual dis-eases and demons. Imagine your home being exactly how you set it up to be. No one draining your energy due to conscious disruptions/distractions and violence. Imagine being so at peace that if you never got into another relationship- you’d still be super happy with that decision… I should write a book on this….🎉🎉🎉 Nothing beats peace of mind and contentment, with two beautifull cats ❤😊
Yesss
Thanks. 44 here😂
Not having to dote on someone gives a lady time to do her morning and evening skin care routine, and practice greater self-care all round
He’s projecting his own fear of being alone. Every woman that I know who are single, widow and divorce and alone are extremely happy.
Because alot of these men are confused about what being the head of household means...alot of them are just abusers and don't see u as a person but as a robot or momma with no feelings smh 🙄
@lala5061 both adults are the head of the household. That's the problem men always wants to be over someone.
Yes,I got married very young to a much older man. Widow at 38.I love my freedom I have dated some but never liked anyone enough to trade my freedom for their crap. Every man I have dated wanted me to move in with him,fix up his house,pay his bills. As I widow with one child I am better off money wise being single. Immature, irresponsible men bring nothing to the table.I take care of my daughter on my own,have bought a house,new car on my own. I seem to attract needy,whiny dusty type men,so no thank you. I have so much peace on my life and don't have anyone telling my what I am allowed to do. I don't encourage my daughter to get married or have kids.I know all to well that most men out there are garbage.
Projection is everything, they are always telling women their own fears
This men are draining
To the "comedian"...how about you visit all the divorced women who had children. At 50, they've realized they wasted their life catering to a narcissistic man. But no, they don't want that conversation spoken about. How men use and abuse you.
Men say a woman is "used up", because they all know they are users.
Right. Who is using them up? The users, aka men
Even the ones who are not "used up" will be if they get with such men who looks at women as resource mine to use her up and leave.
Thank you for this comment!
Preach.
Oh wow that’s so true. They know men use women so that’s why they tell us to pick one guy and let them use us forever. What a sad existence.
I'm 45, never married, no children, still as hot as ever. I have no "one that got away" but a string of dodged bullets. My cats give me more consistency and love than my exes ever have. I wouldn't give a single one of those men the time of day now. If there's a husband for me, he hasn't shown up yet- and I'm fine with it never happening. It's sooo much better to be single than saddled with a bad partner.
Almost spat out my wine when u referred to the “one that got stay” as a dodged bullet
48, same
Same. There's not one guy I feel that got away. I couldn't imagine being with any of my ex's and the older these fools get, the worse they get.
I agree 1000%
Especially what has been going on on the news
I love how he is IGNORING the fact that if 45% of women are not gonna be married or mothers...means probably an even HIGHER amount of men will be single and not fathers.
That part💯🤔
And there are many men who are 40s and single and childless. I personally know two anesthesiologist MDs (men) who do not want marriage or kids. They’re out here just living. When asked they say no way. Bachelors in NYC
@@MAC-tf7pwThat seems to work for those guys you mentioned, but I don't think most men are independent enough to live on their own. I think that's why they bash single, childfree women - because they are jealous of how happy and independent many of those women are, alone. Those women are single by choice, but I don't think most single men are.
People who can't or don't want to live alone should focus on finding a good partner, but many single men are too focused on bashing women and pushing good women away. Then, they PRETEND that they are single by choice! 😆
😂😂😂😂😂 whose gonna tell him
Yes!
Better high quality single then low quality marriage
aka incelhood
THIS!!!💯💯💯💯
Let a woman live her life.❤
They cant stand to see us happy without them❤
🙏 thank u. I’m 34 single with no kids and don’t plan on having any.
How is it that these men who are single with no children have so much to say about us women?
😅😅👏👏👏
Projection. They've realized chasing tail in your 40s isn't cute no more and all the good women that these men want, don't want them.
@@vikki8699I didn’t even know what red pill podcast was until a commenter told me about smh .
It’s because they’re actually TERRIFIED that women are and have REALLY given up on men - they will either die off or change - that’s the only option that should be given to them.
@@ysl23addidasq
You were blissfully unaware lol
I’m 45 child free and I live alone. Life is sweet ❤❤
Ok when you are 65 will it be the same
@mandyg943...47 single and child-free lady here. Well, I do have my fur baby. I feel the same. I'll stay single unless I meet the right man for me and my life. Otherwise, single is the way to go. 😊
@@chrisc8712 just ask the 65 year old widows that open up champagne cause their useless husbands are 6 feet under and they are finally free.
@@chrisc8712and so will you, nerd 🤓
Say it again! ❤
I’m 45, not married and no kids. I get more male attention than when I was 25. Because I’m not male centered, I get to be 100% me and that is intriguing to men. I just be living my best life, laughing, eating good, wearing pink lipstick and too much jewelry. It’s the good life. 💋
Love this! 💕💄
@@PrettyPolyInPink I don't doubt it at all
Same here ❤
💯🥰💞🩷💕💗
"I got married and had kids, my sister, not married, and never had any kids, on any given day she's having more fun than I am" -Judge Lynn Toler. Getting married and having kid's is not everything, and no reason to feel unfulfilled in life.
That's easy for you to say.. you're married, with kids 🤷
@@kimberlyturner820😂😂😂
I ADORE Judge Lynn Toler! She is the one who helped me through my 20s. Something she said that has stuck with me so much, I share it with my little cousins and nieces is, "Your 20s is not about getting married, settling down, or having children. It's about figuring out who you are and what you want and don't want in life." I will take her wisdom with me everywhere.
@raynebow5289 and she's right, I had my son at 20 and when I tell you, it takes a while to get your life back. My son now 23 I tell him to travel the world, experience life this is NOT the time to be anyone's father or husband, go and live. Getting married and having kids can derail your life plans, for a while.
@@Summerbreeze345
I agree. You finally reach adulthood and you can go do anything and then instead you’re stuck.
So glad I had my twenties to myself. Had my kids in my 30s.
Marriage & kids = overrated.
And stressful and expensive 😅
Nursing homes full of single happy women
Most women I know that have women and kids are miserable
I just want women to be able to make informed and free decisions about their lives. I hate that it still feels so far away some days
So true!! Married single woman here! OVERATED!!!
older men will want women of a certain age so they can become that hospice wife. Most ladies in their early 20s and 30s dont want to be that women and, well, NEITHER DO WE!! im 49.....screw that life.
The only reason older men go for younger women is because older women don't take the bait. The young women unfortunately are still learning.
Agreed!!!!
THIS! I'm 50 and I remember 30 years ago or so when an older single woman tried to school a younger woman, if a man was there or if the younger woman told the man what the older woman told her which was 99% of the time solid advice and lesson this, "Don't listen to her she's just old, single, dry kitty and bitter"
Welp I'm now 50 and single and I'm enlightened, not bitter and I wear pantyliners every day...not for urine I'm not talking poise, but ya basic always pantyliner... my bladder and kegels are good...but for...ya know...so men must LIE about other women in order to have access to the ignorant women.@@lillierose5304
What those folks who look down on single women won’t tell the rest of the world is, you can still be around a whole bunch of people and still be lonely. Some of the loneliness people are in relationships.
*Loneliest* excuse me. 🤭
This 💯%
Big big facts. When I was with the liability( ex) I often felt very lonely. We were in the middle of a pandemic, and not once did the liability spend time with me. Not once did he make me feel safe as a woman. Now he wants me back 😂😂😂😂. Keep dreaming!
A good marriage is lovely but many people think the measure of a good marriage is just longevity. I can only think of a couple marriages where both people are happy.
One couple in my family that has been married for 35 years maybe more and neither of them is happy. The wife constantly expresses her discontent by taking jabs that everyone just brushes off as jokes.
Yes! Couple celebrates 50+ years and really talk up marriage like it’s a flex and talking about how the Lord this and that. Then the man dies and at the funeral you see his side kids that they both knew about. God is not in that mess. Longevity is not covenant! Faithfulness is.
Marriage is not a flex 😂
Definitely not!! 😂
It is so weird how some women feel that they are above others because they are married. I’ve seen women who live a similar lifestyle as their friends and then all sudden they think they are better than their unmarried friends. Meanwhile, their marriages are not something worth striving to have 😂
@@NurseKayPtotally, they flash their ring in your face and flex about being married and it’s like what exactly are you flexing? The status of being tied to someone with now way more responsibility? yo we could buy the same ring and go chill. What is it with women rubbing it in other women’s faces, and then the whole bridesmaids culture where they can control their female friends to give up so much time, tell them to what to wear, fly out to their wedding to make her day just perfect. Of course not all women do this, but for some it’s so belittling. No thanks I’ll save my PTO for my own vacation thank you ✌️
Exactly like nah you flexing but we don’t envy you 😂
I see that now
Men, please stop threatening us with a wonderfully fulfilling, independent, spiritually, psychologically, physically, financially healthy GOOD TIME! JUST STOP PLEASE 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂
Lol
🤣 It’s not fair. Lord deliver me from this temptation. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
😂😂😂 rich auntie here and I'm chilin. Thank God❤❤❤❤
Yes, I like being a rich auntie! We live in the U.S., for heaven's sake. Since when is money a bad thing to have? Money gives you options. Kids limit them. One more thing, having a kid because of FOMO is a terrible reason to have a kid.
Investing your body and mind into a man and his "legacy" while he's out making enough money for him and his side chicks vs. making money and having fun spending it
It's a tough decision but I can see how we're getting there😅
😂😂😂 one of these things just don’t belong here, one of these things just ain’t the same😂😂😂
Well said!
There aren't many quality men. They want casual encounters and nothing more!
FACTSSSSSS I SWEAR EVERY MAN I MET IT DIDNT MATTER WHERE … from the gym to the street to online …. They all like I’m going with the flow, I’m not sure …. Well guess what I’m not sure either BLOCKKKKKK… I’m putting dating on hold until I’m established and I feel it lol
@@yousuredSame here
Facts
AND that’s the issue. 0.01% of self actualised men, are very very low or are already taken. What’s left is mostly trashy, bottom feeders who have NO idea what Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs means - so they’ll do what 100% of red pill, women haters do which is to abuse women - thinking that ish will work in 2024😂. No upgrading of mental, spiritual, emotional and physical growth (looking buff from gym is for the pigeons) and think they deserve women, esp high grade women who have put in the effort to educate herself, level up her mindset and money. 🤭That’s how you know they’re out of their right minds.
And they are in drugs, alcohol, smoking etc!!!
You can have a lot of Stds beeing married. I have been married and faithful for 17 years and my husband brought a bunch of stds in the house. So, not only singlehood creates sexual disease.
wow so sorry to hear that. Hope u are std free . And rid of that person who didn’t care to bring it in.
I love being single. Not going back. Relationships is the work I don’t want to do. I’m choosing the life I want and not what society wants for me.
Yes, why is society dictating what you should do? No one questions that…
I dictate my life, I choose when is the right time if I think marriage is worth it, I choose my happiness. Not society
Amen!
36 and I’m living the rich older sister lifestyle. I just dropped 1000 this week to take my sister to a concert and a baseball game. Oh and I’m being courted by a man who has his own businesses that generates millions a year. I guess his name is no one cause he certainly wants me after 35 😂😂😂
Ooooh girl happy for you!
I still get hit on just as much as I did in my twenties. The only difference is I don't take the bait anymore.
You being groomed as his future nurse wife lol run!!
Right! Jeff Bezos got engaged to a woman in her 50s. Idk if they’re married yet idc but he could have someone much younger.
Yes!!! So happy for you! I’m the same age but quit my job and spent my savings because of my health caused by a m@n. I’m not 100% healthy but I’m back at work restarting all over. All it took was one m@n who was so self centered and thought he was the prize that he could have anyone and neglected me and put me in a precarious position. It was one m@n too many…
Keep it up, Steph, and focus on what you want. If the guy is decent he should be there for you, supportive, and in tune with his emotions, which is so important
The pastor said it! The inconvenience!!! Who's rushing to enter an inconvenience??. Lol😂
Right!! He said it himself! Why does he want to shame and force women to inconvenience themselves?
So many married single mothers are broke, fearful and exhausted. A man can “love you” today and abandon you and his children like you never existed tomorrow. Or even annihilate every one in the household. That’s too much uncertainty and danger. I’m not deluded enough to put my trust in a unicorn “good guy”. In these uncertain times, restarting your life at 40+ gets harder when you have no money and dated skills
I’m terrified of poverty, so being the rich aunty is the best way. What’s ironic is that males don’t even like their own children and abandon them any chance they get. Foster care and Orphanages are filled with children a man abandoned in some form.
The abandonment is not talked about enough! Thank you for bringing it up. I was married with 2 kids, things were going fine and he walked out on us. Besides having to pay some child support, he faced no repercussions. Even his family was “supportive” of him leaving us for another woman and her kids. Our children have forgiven him (he showed up to be a dad after she dumped him). I spent years single and the last guy I dated ghosted me after several months.
If you have kids you have to be prepared to be stuck raising them yourself. Cause the Father can just walk away.
@@TheRealist00 The abandonment is more real than the actual relationship. A healthy and happy lasting relationship/marriage is not a guarantee. If they’re not abandoning, then they’re unaliving women and children.
I'm going to research on this topic....I think it's time we have this discussion
Getting out of a toxic family it turns me off to dating and marraige 🙄 cats are better than men . I have one kitty Shes more loving Than a man!
This 👏👏👏 as a young girl I never dreamed of motherhood or marriage. I only ever dreamed of loving myself and having a peaceful life
The only reason I don't have 127 cats is that I am not done traveling yet but once I get bored with that the universal kitten distribution system can come visit me 😅 🐈🐱🐾🐈⬛
And they have the audacity to think that they are better than dogs and cats. The loyalty of these animals are beyond any men I have spoken to... they should know they are losing against dogs and cats!! And BEARS too!!
Y'all there's one of these 'cute animals' videos unintentionally highlighting this; The cat routinely brings the lady flowers, carefully picks camelias up in the garden and places them all over the floor. The first time she said thanked her boyfriend for the romantic gesture. He shrugged. 😅And the gesture of love keeps coming - from the cat.
@@cp_honey my cat brings me food, she feeds me (she goes hunting, she is a feral cat)... , men want you provide for them,and pay 50/50 of the household expenses. Men are losing against cats and dogs!!
44, child free and never married. My married friends are constantly stressed, crying themselves to sleep, on Xanax to cope with bad children and husbands, divorced, deadbeat husbands, etc. No thanks! Ive entertained the idea for years that if i got married, id wanna have separate houses. I refuse to deal with men who trash my house and use weaponized incompetence to get me to clean up after them. I have no patience.
I'm single, childless, and crying myself to sleep because my psychiatrist won't give me Zoloft... even though I told her my depression is killing me.
I am 37, and I am married, but I have no children, and I can honestly say I am happy that I have no kids. I never have wanted children, and I never ever will
This is what I want if I marry. NO KIDS. Never wanted any.
I’m 55 years old happily married 35 years with no children. Absolutely love our lives.
@@really5448love this, love it when people set up the life they want! 👏
Who’s going to take care of you, when you get older elderly. Marriage is about having kids and build the family.
You need family too.
Just met, yet another, man child recently. Yep, not missing out on anything. Single for 200, Alex.
You attract what you are 😊
@@chrisc8712 What an idiotic statement. A woman can be mature and self aware and an immature man will still want to date her. That is like saying women deserve it.
He exposed himself within ten seconds. New world record 🎖️🏆. I'd like to thank men like him for keeping more women single and happy😂. All these women my goodness 💐😎.
Our therapist recommended that I get an emotional support dog during a couples therapy session. With the utmost RAGE my husband said ‘NO, if she gets a dog she won’t have anytime for me’ 😩 I was SHOCKED! This is a man who put everyone and everything before me all the time. I was severely neglected in that marriage and he could not care less about my needs. I was to be waiting on him hand and foot when he decided to pay me dust…. NO MORE 🙅🏾♀️ I packed my ish and left in silence. Best decision of my life❤ If I never get married again I AM PERFECTLY FINE WITH IT! For many, marriage is not all it’s cracked up to be.
Men are the ones to rush into a second marriage at a higher and faster rate than women.
You divorce him for a dog🤦♀️
I’m so happy you left. I don’t get why partners expect so much but they never reciprocate. That’s called an unfair exchange.
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke Is that what you got from what she said? 😬
Even Paul in the Bible says that it is better to be single, with marriage and children are a big responsibility. I’m a single mother with one child who almost out of high school. I’m content with being alone. God is enough!
“You’re threatening women with a good time..” 😂 Well said sis 👏🏽
Why would anyone wanna get married if your husband is going to cut you into small pieces and turn you into purée by using a blender as self defence against you?!?! This beautiful Swiss model and mother of two had to go through this which just made me feel so sick to my stomach. Ladies, stay away from these bummies
not to mention the xy in france or the Olympic runner that was set a blaze by her partner
@@heneverforesakesme4038crazy thing is that he wasn’t even her partner. And some aren’t even sure if they were ex-partners. That thing was married with kids. He left church, hid in the chicken coop with the canteen of gas and set her ablaze. He perished because he rushed back to throw more gas on her and he set himself ablaze as a result. He was deranged, and jealous, and felt entitled to her land and accolades
I'm alone and never been happier. Lmao Quiet and peace it's better than being with someone who ignores me and treats me bad like my ex husband did 😂❤
very true. I’m alone but happier this way. way better than being ignored or hanging out with a man who doesn’t even take me serious or like me
🙋🏽♀️52 yr old single as a pringle retired chef here! 2 cats, shit load of plants, and im happy as a pig in shit!!!
Now that my dear, is happiness!
😂😂😂😂😂I am going to use that
55 Happily Single & Celibate for 4 years here 🙋🏾♀️☀️
Love that for you ❤❤❤
Y’all better get Princella’s book. She explains how and why men think the way they do. Helped me understand why men would say something so absurd.
Where can I purchase her book?
What’s the title?
@@INFJ_9 the game 41 shades of men on Amazon.
41 Shades of men: The Pursuit to Subdue and use you
Just bought it on audible thanks ❤
Some of the loneliness people in the world are those that are married or in relationships!
Men need women, women don’t need men. Hence why women love and thrive being single, men lose their mind if they are single 😛
Facts!!! Truth
Eve was made for Adam, not the other way around.
@@brunoqnzbk7891 Did I say it was the other way round? 🤨 You are superimposing your emotions onto my comment. Yes, of course Adam was made for Eve, this is what The Most High says in scripture. This is EXACTLY my point! Men need women, women don’t need men, you have simply proved my point 😏.
@@HeartBreakHigh Eve was made for Adam. God said the man needed a helpmeet.
Yes Eve was made for Adam because he needed her. Eve would probably be frolicking in the garden making flower necklaces and living her best life if she was single. But then I wouldn’t be here so thank you for your service 🫡
I haven't read the comments, but I'm 53 & have been single for 12 years.
The amount of hate I've received from men has been huge.
I don't hate men, but turned my attention to wealth creation, flipping houses & loving my life.
But the threat men feel must be significant after meeting me.
I just ignore that & focus on myself & my inner circle. ❤
I’m sorry about the hate you received. I’ve also had single jabs thrown my way . I’d rather have peace then be with someone who just wants to use me for seggs and not have any interest to take me on proper dates. society wants me to get married and have kids but I truly never spoke that out loud . I’m curious as to what hate you got from men ?
What kind of man? From relatives or work colleagues
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4keFor me, it's the single men. Knew plenty of married men who I was friends and co-workers with who had no problem with me as a woman, and wondered why I wasn't married. The single guys? The anger, the viciousness, and the hostility was ridiculous, and they did a great job driving me right out of the dating pool.
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke definitely single men for sure.
Sometimes married & more traditional, telling me I'm a feminist & hate men.
Some of my beliefs are feminist I suppose, but that doesn't equate to hating men.
The lack of understanding & the ongoing commentary about what they think is wrong with me is the most upsetting.
I've become very guarded around these types of men who are unaccepting & non inclusive.
I generally keep right away & keep with my inner circle.
Pastor should be ashamed of himself❤
And then they thank you by having a side chick or a secret live child, there is alot of reasons why we don’t by the lie of the happy family life anymore
all the while telling you they love you
I’m over 40 and I’m for the 4B movement 😃👍🏽👍🏽 loving my peace and my peace of mind me and my cat. NO MEN ALLOWED. 😂
Cat gives better emotional support than terrible men..
What’s the 4B movement ?
@@ysl23addidasqIt's a movement of women who reject marriage, dating men, having sex with men and having children. It started in Asia.
ohh ok thanks never knew wow wild
Did that Pastor say that women would get a couple of stds? He is insane!
If she's not dealing with men how would she get STDs? He's nonsensical and insane.
Yeah he did. Insane, and so offensive.
He thinks like that because he would fool around. That is his fantasy
The lady with the dreadlocks is speaking the truth! I'm single, 41, never been married, no children and am enjoying my freedom.
I've never heard of a sermon about perpetual bachelors 🤔
So true these Leonardo DiCaprios who are in their 50s and dating 20 yr olds and he’s living life but if that was a single woman in her 50s dating around men half her age, men would say she’s unfulfilled and wasting her life
Idc that men like Leo (old but rich and famous) are dating women young enough to be their daughters. As long as both parties (the woman and the man) are aware that they got what they came for.
What's hilarious is other men in their 50s who don't have money but go around thinking they deserve 20 y.o. models as if the world owes them. 🤷🏻♀️
Diabolical 🫢 and they're also very entitled those are types who end up unaliving or harming the 20y olds who reject them
@@continuousself-improvement1879 Leo is gay and keeps using those kids as beards! This is all completely wrong, and consenting to one’s own exploitation doesn’t make it any less wrong.
My mother used to always tell me don’t get married and don’t have children. Thank God that although we had a challenging relationship, I followed her guidance.
same here . my mother always said this too!. even later I used to have a friend couple and I was always the third wheel. The guy once said “ don’t get into a relationship.” I just looked at him 👀. then the girl heard him and said “ if u do get into one make sure they listen to u” so very different perspectives from anyone. I just get anxiety thinking of it all. And truly I just don’t trust anything can work out for me
Same! At this point I don’t even want to try to find someone for companionship.
@@GiGiDaniels449me either. I just don’t have the effort to give anymore.
@@ysl23addidasqI remember a random m@n told me the same. I didn’t say anything because usually it’s men who were up in arms about me not wanting to be in a relationship, ( I said it sounded like it was too much work, and once I was in one I found out I was 100% right). Though, when a m@n said this, I wondered if he listened to women, or was his upbringing with a father or father figure caused him to see these in a different light…
Women use to marry men because of finances. They had kids in other to keep the man committed so she wouldn't be left in the dust. Now we make the money and they think alot of us want marriage?😂😂😂😂I mean it was always about the money and men can't blame us for such because they made us see marriage as a way to get by in life. That's on them
As a woman of a certain age that is unmarried and child free I can tell you I am not unhappy! I have been married before I have been a step mom and I have no regrets about not being married and not having children. If I had lots of money I would be ecstatic. All mind games!
Shiddd when you got money, all of that is an option. Since it’s an option, I’d rather have my money. I’d be a fool to choose the other if I got all my ducks in a row financially.
A man will throw all that away because he found someone else to be shiny.
That’s how unreliable they are.
So true. They care more about moving onto something shiny and new instead of being better
Don't settle. I agree with the woman that was talking about manifesting good, high integrity men. We get back what we put out. Don't fall for the negative rhetoric. We can work on ourselves and when we are ready we can attract the right person if that is what we truly want. Blessings to all!
I'm 53. No children. No husband. No regrets.
Is he a 40 year old woman ? How does he know?
Exactly
I rest my case 😌
All I have to do is watch how he treats my cats..... That's how he's gonna treat our kids...
😂😂😂
@@digimonalvatrax2738 I get so worried because I have a coworker who decided to try having kids with an alcoholic. I told her it wasn’t a good idea and she said “oh, he’s been doing AA meeting for three months, he’s doing good”
Told her three months wasn’t event time but dropped the convo when she still covered for him.
Just a couple days ago, I found out from another coworker that her cat was brutally beaten by that alcoholic and as a result had to amputate his leg and now the cat is staying away from the alcoholic, frightened.
This woman is two months pregnant living with an alcoholic ☹️. I just can not wrap my mind around it. She’s seen what happen to her cat but she’s still with him, threatening to go to the police with footage of his abuse if he takes another sip of alcohol…. I don’t want to talk to her because I’ve tried to explain it but she insisted to continue for some reason. She never said anything about loving him, or wanting to spend years together, she just wants to…
My mom is 70 plus and she loves the peace ❤
She doesn’t fall in the category genius lol she is not single and childless over 40. She had you and has grandkids 😊
I feel like marriage = settling. What’s the rush? My existence as a woman isn’t to get married and have kids. It’s to enjoy my life. Let me buy a house and develop my career before I “settle”. What’s wrong with that? And I feel like the older I get married the less pressure to have a big wedding with 100+ people. We can do something small and intimate because we’re in our mid to late 30- early 40s. That’s my take. I’m all about saving money. And I’m 30 going on 31, haven’t dated in over a year and dgaf. I’ve missed nothing except red flaggs and dodged bullets
There is zero correlation between wedding size and age. You can always choose to invite people or not…
This video is very true in many ways but there is another side to being a single woman. I have been married, I have five beautiful daughters from that marriage. We divorced when I was 30. I have not had a serious relationship since my husband. It is totally my choice I discovered my self-worth and my peace of mind my health was more important than having a man in the bed who did not respect himself his wife or his marriage. But I think about the last words of an auntie I knew. She had been single all of her life she never got married and she never had children. I asked it is there any regrets with anything that she did to her lifetime and she lived to be 86. The first words out of her mouth was not having children and never had been married. My jaw dropped because watching her life you would never have believed this. She also confessed that throughout her life she felt moments where there were large voids in her life.. I don't believe there's no one answer for one person.. I am glad to have experienced everything.
The 50yr old woman speaking to the 50brackets. I’m 37 and I feel that way. Exhausted at the idea of being in another relationship. It may be because the past relationships were draining. I believe in the beauty of marriage and building a family but I’m so convinced that the best way to approach this is to become my best version and attract my comparable partner; the one God placed next to my name when he thought I’d be a good idea in the world. I’m not settling for a feeling of “loneliness.”
I love this content so much! This is women empowering women. We’re not anti-men; just anti-stupid.
I'm glad you love the content💓 yesss this isn't a man hating Chanel just an empowerment movement for women worldwide 💯
🙋🏽♀️40, single, and childfree. 98% fulfilled. What else do I want?🤔Finish my last 8 classes to get my degree annnd☝️😯🙂new patio furniture.
Ooooh weeee, she said, "the comments last a min, the decisions you make last a lifetime..." deep & real talk!!💯💯💯💯
I have been a single satisfied and happy woman for almost 50 years. I've had children and quickly discarded the seed carriers. I have maintained my peace and solitude even with children and cats......
He needs to sit down somewhere he has no idea what he's talking about.
and have several seats
I'm 61, not married without kids, living my best life🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Imagine being a whole pastor and ignoring the words of Apostle Paul who says he would wish more people would be single because you are more productive in your service to God single than married. And can the pastor answer if Jesus was miserable because He was never married???
I can agree with you on that. Marriage isn't everything. I believe it is better to be single as you have a better quality of life. You have more time for your self
I’m always wondering about that. And people in the religion don’t even mention either. They women were meant to marry and bear children. At least, I know the moment they say that, I know they haven’t read their precious little archaic book 🤷🏿♀️
And Mary and other women supported Jesus financially. It’s in the Word. Lydia funded the brand new church in the book of Acts. In the Bible when a woman is married the book says “wife of”. These single ladies supported the Word with their incomes and wealth yet we never hear about it.
It’s tradition and not based on the Bible whatsoever. We’re over the nonsense. Single, serving and happy.
@@ms.newcomerteacher6554 Right. But one wants to have that conversation.
I’m 46, no kids nor husband. I look young and I have a soft life. I don’t regret having children
I think the 45% may increase, especially because of the access to ridiculous podcast conversations that the podcast bros post. Also, the fact that women are able to create communities like this channel for talk spaces and literally levelling up our mindsets.
What do you mean when you talk about podcasts? That men will hate women and stay single or that women will hear this podcast and know the mentality of men and decide to stay single
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke First off, I love your name. It reminds me of Queen Latifah’s character on Living Single. And I mean that woman will hear these podcasts and the mentality of men and hopefully decide to stay single. These podcasts help us women know who to weed out if we ever decide to date in modern day society.
@@amanit.3122
Thank you❤️
“Weaponized Incompetence” ……adding this to my vocabulary bag 😂
I love what that woman is saying at the the very beginning of this video.
the assumption that a woman has children is someone who is fulfilled is wild
Right. So all the women who abandoned their kid(s) and left them in foster care (or with grandma) are fulfilled? 🙄
I can't imagine my life without my husband and our children 🥰 to each their own ❤
My single well off mid 40s friends are enjoying life but desire a family. Can this please stop being a war?
Which war??
From the pulpit to the parking lot…😂
She thought well on her feet there
I am proud of my high bodycount i am std.free i know women who have caught stds from their husbands
This.. I heard of women getting HIV from their husbands.
Its so disgusting because the wives trusted their husbands and they literally took that trust and threw it in a dumpster fire 😢
@@cheetavontiebolt9971 I was told many women need to watch it cause men/husbands have gotten hipped to hiding their STD/HIV medications in vitamins or over the counter drug bottles.
4B. I wish I had had the courage to stay single when I was young. Such pressure to conform and become a slave. Such a waste of years of my life when I could have fulfilled my dream of being a doctor. I ended up going back to school at the age of 52 to become an RN, and I have never been happier! No way will I ever again bother with men and their outdated expectations.
You were pressured when you were younger? Was it by family, friends or society?
I didn’t have friends because they felt too immature until I was in high school where I had about 3 wonderful friends, family always wanted me to focus on education and money, may parents were immigrants and believed money in the US is your best bet of survival and they are 100% right, and society, well, I thought society didn’t know sh!t so I never listened. Girls are supposed to be delicate and feminine, I wanted to be strong and durable. Women are supposed to have bf to marry, I thought boys were stupid and who would’ve have thought they’d grow up to never elevate intellectually.
I’ve always felt society was the biggest opp for women and after learning some history on women’s studies on my own lately, they were our biggest enemies. The things women were put through is horrific
Awesome!
@@natcl9974 who pressured me? All of them. My father would first say I was too skinny, then ask when I was getting arrived. My sister would have single horrible men who just happened to be there when I visited. I’ll never forget someone’s younger brother who was covered in tattoos. And girls my age talking nonstop about boyfriends, engagements, what their wedding would look like….so boring.
Be a doctor! 😊
AMEN.
Yes! Society tells women that your only worth is associated to your marital status and uterus usage. It is far better to live a life of purpose and fulfillment and to find your happiness in yourself than to be single in a relationship that burns you out bc you don’t have a partner. You have a grown child
As if they are the least bit concerned with women's "fulfillment" 😂 they don't know what to do now that we're choosing ourselves
There are a lot of INTROVERTS in this world 🌎. They are happier by themselves!!
I’m 53 never married and no kids and I am very happy because I highly value freedom! And yes I do find relationships exhausting
Threatening women with a good time
I have a friend that told her husband how she’s jealous of my free time and her husband asked her if she still wants to be married. I got mad at her and told her she should’ve said no. I would’ve helped her pack up ASAP! 😂
My girlfriends who are over sixty, never married, and childless are some of the happiest people I know. These divas have money and travel at will.
I was with a man for over 20 yrs, we had 4 kids, we never married but I was a wife to him UNTIL I grew tired of his crap and I left, took our kids and moved away, that was the best thing I ever did & if I had married him it would have been soo hard to up and leave. I remain single 12 years later and soo much happier.
51, never married, no kids. I have had long term relationships, but honestly I’m happier being single. Zero drama. I do as I wish on my time and schedule. I travel extensively, I’m social. Life is good.
Do I want a relationship someday, perhaps but not necessary. If it complicates my quality of life, it’s a no go. If it compliments my life, awesome.
It’s just a life choice. Some of us women need space to fly, to have our own autonomy. It’s freeing .
To each their own! Being single isn’t a failure if it’s a choice, and it’s surely not a failure if all the men you meet treat you poorly. Being around great communities, circles, and continuing to grow regardless of age or the weight of the past is crucial to me.
This is great, the arrogance and ignorance of these men!!!!! 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣!!! Oh my. I’m mid 40’s without kids and it’s pretty damn good! A lot less stress. My boyfriend has two younger kids and I’ve been in their lives for a long time and so I consider myself like maybe a part-time parent and the times with the kids versus the time without the kids is like night and day. Personally, I love the kids and they’re great and I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy spending time with them, BUT I want my time too. I do a lot for his kids. I enjoy my time, my peace and solitude and living my life VERY much!!! When he said he wanted another child a couple years ago I said that absolutely not!! I am not interested 😂. I watch all my friends be stressed with kids and they all have help!! Help from their families, which seems to me to be a requirement to be successful in parenting honestly. I don’t want a life totally focused around kids. I do not regret my choices. These men always try with that guilt BS 🤣🤣🥴✋🏼🛑. Ladies live your lives however you want!!!
P.S. I am not interested in getting married either. Despite pressure from certain people, I really just don’t care. I make the best choices for ME.
8:23 boxers in a bunch!! 😂😂😂😂 we always get dismissed with a "panties in a bunch" but damn girl thanks for saying that!!!! ❤❤❤❤
A lot of IGNORANT people and men believe that sigle highly educated adult women have hit the wall and have had multiple sexual partners.. and this is NOT true. Women that have opted to become professionals, are focused on growth in ALL aspects of their lives.. Our focus is not the “traditional” grow up and get married view, no, we had our own dreams and aspirations to grow into as individuals. And trust me, we aint missing anything. It takes a special kind of man to appreciate us.
Being in a relationship is exhausting I find having a partner cramps my style they get in the way maybe I’m not built for being in a relationship.
"You'd rather clock into a job than clock into a man!" I hear that!😂
No ring, no cats, no wrinkles.😊
Thank God, they have been able to convince themselves that sleeping with each other is normal. They have each other😂
@@mercybassey3877 😂😂😂😂😂
Right. Just get on Grindr and leave us out of it
I’m 42, single, no kids and have time to study for certifications, crafting, cooking, reading and with a nice clean, quiet home. I want no XYs in my house except a dog. Lol😂
THANKYOU!!! i typed in "boss babe" and the damn amount of HATEEEEEEEE just from old freaking geezers geeeez imma save this video !!! THANK GOODNESS THIS EXISTSSSS,
Peace over drama! I agree Men would rather be a burden than a help. The way some women age in marriage is horrifying. They've been thru hell.
What an ignorant statement he made. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself if you so choose. We are not all the domesticated type. My sisters and I have done both roles. None of us has experienced the “empty nest syndrome“
Freedom to do what you choose to do or not do feels great. Just stay in shape and take good care of yourselves. Loving solitude. 😂❤❤❤
I got married for the first time in my 40s. It lasted a year and a half and I was the most miserable I have ever been.
I can't even begin to imagine the man who could convince me to get married a second time. I'd rather be single for life.
They act like some middle aged man is the epitome of what’s supposed to make you happy in life lmfao!!
Got married at 42 to a man 8 years younger than me. Definitely worth the wait ... God doesn't overlook you, He's just working behind the scenes to work on the two of you to create a beautiful match for marriage.
As a man my entire childhood was filled with women who wanted men to do it for them. 'You work the well paying job' 'you take care of the animals i wanted' 'let my daughter do whatever she wants' 'do all the yardwork and handyman while i cook one simple meal' 'pay all the bills xause i only work minimum wage' us kids did the chores. I grew up around terribly lazy women. My wifes mother was the exact same. My wife puts you all to SHAME.