Thank you for bringing a voice of compassion to the topic. If the whole debacle around Harry & Meghan has revealed anything, it's how much our society lacks understanding, empathy and compassion.
Unfortunately, he is still and always will be in the public eye. Sadly for him, he chose a wife who craves it while he looks to be traumatised by it. I hope he finds peace 🙏
That's half-true, I think. We've learned that today's society does not patronize those who are willing to damage their own families on a global stage. They generally won't patronize those caught lying or caught grossly exaggerating, either. Society in this way can set healthy boundaries and teach lessons. I think the problem that Harry had was trying to make the public his "therapist". He saw his mother try it, and it was successful for her in terms of great public support. But this is the age of social media. If Diana did the same today, people would confront her about traumatizing her children by airing her husband's sins to the world. They would ask how she could expose them to gossip, expose them to taunting in school, and to risk fracturing an emotional bond with their father. They would question why she was putting her emotional needs first, at the expense of her children's. Voices would bring tough love, as well as support, hate, craziness from the human family. Harry is receiving the overwhelming realities of the world that she did not. And hopefully, he'll come to accept responsibility for inviting it all in.
Thank you Gabor, to t😮ell what you think about Harry, how traumatised he was, and his mother and father both were. I really am surprised by the venom of so many people who judge him mercilessly. And the way the British press hunts him and his wife down is beyond believe. There is no compassion there, it seems, only hatred.
I run a animal sanctuary. We aren't all buying into the insanity. Have hope. But I have had social services called on me by detractors. I dare to shout.. emporer is naked😅
❤🎉connection and love for Every Child yeahhhhhhhhhh, I want the whole planet to know and experience this kind of love...the parties would be Amazing!!!😊🌻🧡🎊
like harry is the ONLY kid to have lost his mom too early ?? There are millions of kids who have lost their mom to car accidents, plane accidents, cancer, drug overdose, murder etc etc... and they get on with their lives, get jobs etc.. without complaining.
My granddaughter lost her daddy at age 3. She’s a bright, caring, compassionate, empathetic soul who would NEVER treat her mom the was Harry has his Dad, Grandparents, brother, sister-in-law. Harry has a choice in how he behaves. She’s 17 now, we couldn’t be more proud of her morals and character.
@@anastasia10017for Harry it all played out in the public and it seems they were told to just get over it. Did you not watch the video, especially first part.
I love that you mention the gingers, because my mom, my sister and my younger brother are all gingers and deeply sensitive and they do have to do extra measures to manage their pain while at the same time they manage their pain very well. I am a ginger adjunct, and I am profoundly sensitive myself. People always tell me how nice I am and it surprises me because I think I’m just me and I’m not doing anything special.
From reading some comments, it just shows how much we as a society are traumatized and don’t even realize it . We are unable to have compassion for other people and yet we make our own mistakes . to be human is to grow and be better tomorrow than today and hold space for others as they try to heal
Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and billionaire families in the USA, like the Priztkers, promoting and funding the trans agenda. Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and their normalizing and legalizing PEDO relationships. Let me hold the space for your mental illness and call it compassion.
I really admire Harry for speaking publicly about his trauma. I think he is a true renegade, a truth teller and an inspiration. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I sense that he genuinely wants to help people by sharing his story. He's definitely helped me. I was silent about my trauma for way too long. When high profile speak out about what they have been through they inspire others to do the same and help us know that we are not the only one. I really admire famous people who use their fame to help others. I recommend the series he did with Oprah called The Me You Can't See for anyone who hasn't seen it. I felt really validated when I watched it. Whatever traumatic experiences you have had to endure in your life, you are not alone, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you deserve to be heard, seen and supported❤
Thank You so much Dr Rangan for this interview. Dr Gabor Mate' is one of the most advanced humans on the planet . His compassion perception and understanding is so uplifting and helps me to hold onto Hope . I so agree with his perspective on Harry and am grateful to be able to listen to this conversation. Blessings to You both and of course to Harry 🙏💗🌸
Ow, the all media from UK should hear and learn how to respect Hanry . Guys, go and talk about your kids life which I am sure it is full of mistakes. Do not judge.
I'm grateful to you, Gabor and Rangan, for bringing this compassionate voice to the Harry 'situation'. I feel very sad about the family breakdown and hope that the brothers can one day see beyond their current differences, but it is difficult to see how that can happen when media (social and otherwise) persist in adding fuel to the flames of discord. All families have problems, but few are under so much external pressure. I wish Harry and Meghan, William and Kate, Charles and Camilla the best. I honestly believe that they are all caring people who genuinely want the best for each other, but they are stuck. More voices like yours are needed to take a more objective and genuinely concerned stance. I am sick of the vitriol.
Just a question do you still feel the same after the staged NYC chase by blackgrid who was called by them or his wife maybe. Or maybe the picture of her smiling at the back of the cab while Harry looked like a triggered mess. Or the tragic death of his mother been associated with that mockery of a snail paced car chase🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️ At some point eyes need to open to the real truth. either our eyes or his eyes if it's such that the wife is the puppet master calling the shots.
@Trash Panda 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 It's okay oo. But FYi there has been footage from blackgrid the Meghan hired paps showing who has been driving recklessly blocking traffic. But its okay 👍🏾 I do note that none of that means anything to you. I am not rude. I respect your position 👌🏿.
@@Du-Massesit’s funny to me how any criticism of Harry or Meghan elicits this “blame the Murdoch business/man” yet Harry is employed with Murdoch’s wife at the Aspen institute, where they are BOTH working to make sure that WE, the regular citizens cannot have our speech - Unless it is All Positive for the elites, of which Harry definitely is one and will always be.
At last a positive conversation about Harry. Most of my friends talk about him with venom but I do my best to stand his corner just as these two very reputable men have.
I agree 100%. The hate is over the top. I blame that British Tabloid addiction. I like the couple, very much, and feel they are getting hammered by that tabloid fodder. The Royals did nothing to stop or help them.
Most of your friends talk about him with venom, maybe they are reacting to the venom and lies, he has spoken about his family continuously. It's a pity he doesn't stand in their corner. People are allowed an opinion, just as you are, without it having to be venomous, just because it opposes yours.
@@GurjitKaur-q1gHow do you know he’s telling lies? He lived it and sold his story by putting it in a book. I’m no fan of Meghan but I always liked Harry and tried to keep an open mind. What if what he says is indeed true? I believe him.
@@Mush2389 You can believe him, you have every right, there's plenty that do. Equally others can not, and there's plenty that don't. I think the reason they get such backlash, because they contradict themselves, whether it's things they stand for, or their life encounters. People don't believe them, because the thing about being in the public life, especially with Harry from birth. Things he says can be refuted, by his own words, from one year to the next, one decade to the next, from one interview to the next, etc. They can easily be fact checked, and people do, to make a point. It's called proven lies. He's got the position he has, from merely being born into the family he slags off, and she's got her position, from being married to him, because of that family she slags off too. Live your best life, without your Titles, that connect you to the family you slag off. It's there only currency.
One of them reputable men, Dr Mate Gabor, has already publicly stood away from his corner. Saying in an interview, he wish he'd gone with his gut reaction, it was telling him to not do the live session.
From a family that abused and betrayed who I Am I have stood up to mine and told the world also. No more pretending. I admire and Trust what Harry needs; shame to those who criticize and I only see they want to bury the lies and trauma they never acknowledged in their own family’s. Where ever you are Harry, I understand and I will always care🪷
Harry and Meghan is expected to live with the disrespect thrown at them by family and media. Especially Meghan she should be grateful to be associated with this wealthy abusive family and how dare this black woman complain about their behavior towards her. When we all witnessed their disgusting attitude at the Commonwealth Service and the late Queens funeral Kate Camilla and Sophie were just plain and simple downright rude towards Meghan.
the problem is learning. He did not need to put down his family and criticize. he has children so he won't repeat the things that he did not like. He doesn't need to air the family secret or impose his idea not over his family but the public too. The other problem is the wife she is not normal so did not give him any support. WE never see his real kids in public and see how he treat them.
He is still a well loved figure in the world . watching from South America . I can’t understand the vitriol and hatred against him . Thank you for this episode.
That’s because the majority would rather vilify harry who fell in love got married and respected his wife and family, Robin have an affair! I’m supportive of Camilla who is having an affair with his father throughout his father’s marriage what does that tell you?
This is such a useful, insightful and compassionate interview. Thank you. I’m appalled by intensity of the bullying and taunting flowing so forcefully towards Harry. I can’t understand the level of hatred. So sad. So unforgiving.
Is why mental health is so important, to learn how to move on and forgive. Am so glad Harry gives his children hugs, SO THAT THEY WILL FEEL HUMAN .......!! Read some of Harry's Spare book. Such beautiful English, well-spoken and sensitive is music to my ears. ❤
Using the front exit after an event calling the attention of photographers then putting out on media that they almost died like his mother did many years ago is shameful way of dealing with his problems.
@blackenergy Seeing you support and appreciate what they do, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your own life 💛 🤎 🙏🏾
@@mayc8674 your comment is based on journalism trash - she was there ot get an award for her work. Others there got awards for their work and not one journalists shared anything about the celebration of the women there - they chose to find trash: horrible journalists.
These people see what you and Gabor Mate don’t see. That’s the difference. We all can see the exaggerations, the lies, and the manipulation. I think Gabor Mate refuses to address it. It doesn’t matter if you were traumatized or whatever in life. We all have choices, ok? You can either deal with things in a dignified manner, or make sure you vilify the people who love and care about you to make you look like a victim. Harry will reap what he sows.
Gabor will NEVER show any other side other than overflowing compassion as that is his persona. I lived in Vancouver near the east side and just before leaving the city I had to clean up some junkie's S__T in front of my door with rags and buckets and bleach. It was NOT from a dog. I recall stepping over those sleeping in doorways, dried blood on their legs from the needles. Needle cleanups in the early morning. Gabor lived apart from them in a nice area of Vancouver. I left the city. It is easy to feel compassion watching UA-cam. And somehow easier to feel it for some rich prince - who insists his kiddies carry royal titles! - and doesn't smell from not bathing and has good skin as he doesn't eat from the garbage and sleep on the street!
@@helenamaria710Gabor is using this to draw attention to himself. Also notice he doesn’t talk about Meghan’s blatant narcissism. Harry is not a narcissist. And tbh I don’t believe they have children, there are just too many inconsistencies. I think Harry is stuck in a trap he can’t get out of.
@@yvettep1093 so why are you not making the choice of love and compassion. Why are you throwing the first stone in response to a very compassionate interview, Why vilify Harry?
This is what I see in Harry. A human being. I love that. 👑♥I also miss Princess Dianna who was a Humanitarian. That, they have in common. Reflected in his demeanor. I would love to meet him.
I can understand the trauma of his mother's death but he also had a lot of money and support. I lost my mother at 13 saw her screaming with a tumour, my father had mh and could not cope. We had little money. I was told just get on with life and I had to. If you have to get on or sink you get on. He should now move on not just wine about everything in life.
He is not whining.....he's trying to get ahead by starting foundations, marrying, having children, starting " Invictus games" All in the dam public eye. All the West does is judge, judge and judge when we don't want to understand.
That's so rich coming from a woman who has never been vilified by the all country by pess and tabloids. Whine about everything? It's his life why does it bother you? You moved on cause u were loved. Your dad never told ur mom that u were a spare after being born. Ur dad never left ur mom on that day just to spend time with his mistress. No one has a F right to tell others how and when to move on frm their trauma. H has been the scapegoat of his family n tabloids n the likes of u have always been quite. Please just move on from him n let him be . Keep ur nose off his business, he never forced you to read or listen to anything about him.
Money is controlled by his father, and eventually prince william. You have to suck up to them and be docile maintain good flow of allowance. If you're going to be a working royal, you cant take up other work. Your income has to come from the institution exclusively. It's a form of courtier control. It's how that family works, like a gilded cage exactly.
Money is nothing his mum is the number one some are strong and can move on some can not millions of pounds means nothing that not bring his mum back, i lost all my family i live on my own it was not easy but i had to change my life and find a new way not every one can do that. We need to stop blaming and understand some can cope some can not.
So refreshing to hear someone that is understanding and kind, and balanced in their analysis of Prince Harry’s situation. I have made sure I have watched interviews and the Netflix series and halfway through the book Spare, so I can make my own mind up about his situation. I have been constantly shocked how venomous people are: unkind and indeed toxic. I am always defending them when my family are speaking about them. So many people seem to have gotten on the treadmill of bullying. I may not agree with all that H&M have done but like you said we all make mistakes. Thanks for sharing
Yes! I agree this invasion of privacy makes it almost impossible for a person like Harry to find the peace he needed. He was trapped in grief and trauma at the tragic loss of his mother. It is only now that he has found the love of a good woman that he feels he can let all that trauma out. Because now he feels safe.
The brit media and the brit national pastime of bullying and hate should be distressing to anyone with a brain. Speaking up about mental health takes strength and courage and those who whinge about talking about trauma is small minded. H. has made a sane important decision to live a better life and cares that his kids are treated better than he was.
A lot of people have trauma but it’s how we deal with it that matters. We can either learn from it and become stronger or we can forever play the victim… Edit: I respect that people have differing opinions, but if you disagree then you can choose to scroll on and comment elsewhere. I don’t think it’s necessary to get personal. After all, you don’t know me or my background. Just to clarify my original comment… I don’t talk about myself often, but I’m about the same age as Harry and I suffer from PTSD from my childhood (both my parents are narcs, histrionic too). My trauma was the result of events like the suicide of my biological father and constant physical and psychological abuse until I left home at the age of 18, so it’s safe to say that I understand triggers, trauma and the fight or flight response. I’ve been in and out of different therapies over the course of my life and I’ve also seen how my siblings live with their own trauma and the different paths we’ve all taken. So my comment was based on my personal experiences, it’s also my opinion, so as I said earlier, you can choose just to scroll on without responding.
Really appreciate this support for Harry. Reading Spare made me really understand him and his struggles, and it is horrible that society is going after him and his wife in this way. I hope this vitriol will pass.
Yes, hopefully society will leave him alone and he'll stop getting into the media. And seeing you support him, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your life 💛🤎 Good luck.
It’s interesting how he’s only concerned with reconnecting with the RF but niether of them have made any effort to reconnect with the dying father that single handed my raised Meghan - they’re all entitled full of shit people like the whole monarchy
@@Anna_Key unfortunately the press is made of women and men who fear to lose their job if their don't come up with garbage about even the best people on this planet. If they could access the moon, or the stars they would find something disgusting to write. They even criticise Dr. Gabor Maté after listening to his video. They have not paid attention. It is sooooo hopeless. No wonder many people have mental issues reading all the nastiness people who don't know someone are ready to write. Horrible. Thank you Dr. Gabor Maté for your truth.
"A multitude may be needed to perpetuate a great falsehood, but only one is required to unveil its truth" P. Regini in speaking of Mr Alejandro Betts Goss. THANK YOU Mr Gabor Maté and Dr Rangan Chatterjee for helping to dispel the bullying brutally unjust treatment of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle perpetuated by certain media sectors of of the UK, US and Australia.
Great content. I feel sorry for Prince Harry. Hope he is strong enough to keep going. He had no need to go to his dads coronation. But walked into the event with all eyes on him like a boxer going into the ring. He is a cery brave and strong human being
Lol 😂 no he’s not. He a coward who backstabbed him own brother who ALSO lost his mother and cruelly discarded his entire British family cos he fell under the spell of a toxic liberal American narcissist who was not fit to be in the BRF.
How brAvE of him to show his face to the family and friends he LIES about! How bRAvE he is to face those to whom he is a traitor - in every sense of the word.
@@NobodyOrdinary royal family aside the only person you need to worry about is your own family. He also fought for his country and is a veteran. Show some god dam respect
@@Icemanr85 show HIM respect? For being in the military? For “serving his country? - a country in which I do not live so save your advice. He’s almost a traitor!! If nothing else, because he wrote exact room layouts in his book that could get his family, The Heads of State, murdered. Because , unlike her and Meghan, the other family members actually have been in real danger. His father has had several assassination attempts. His aunt barely escaped with her life after a kidnapping attempt killed a couple of her bodyguards. Harry and Meghan had a Vespa trailing them from a block behind. 😱
I got vilified when I didn't want to brush things under the carpet and decided to confront the pink elephant in the room. I understand Harry. I didn't want to live like a robot and be inauthentic to myself. Now Harry has a family, children he loves unconditionally, a loving wife, and mother in law that's providing love like a mother.
I don’t think you know what you’re talking about you sound ridiculous! She had money and fame and was loved long before she met Harry! What do you want to do is verify her and you don’t know her get a life and stop being so poisonous
My mother’s à Brit & was brought up to be cold & dismissive of any type of family abuse or trauma. I can relate to Harry. Look what speaking up did to his sense of belonging to his messed up family of origin. My speaking up has gotten me the same result - pushed out into the cold.
So, if you think all Brits are like that you're sadly mistaken. Think Harry is the messed up one, not the rest of his family. Who goes about admitting he's addicted to drink and drugs and expect anyone to take him seriously, Harry!
From the time Harry was born I watched him grow and the trauma he went through. I read the Spare and I love this riveting book. Everyone must read this book. Royal family is very disappointing and dysfunctional. He is a hero in this lifetime. Thanks for this podcast. Dr. Gabor Mate you said it all as is. Dr. Gabor I witnessed everything. Dr. Gabor Mate I know your podcast will reach far and wide and people be better listening to your lesson. Dr. Chatterjee of all the people on earth the royals are the most dysfunctional race. They have no soul.
Yeah I feel for his brother William who ALSO lost his mother and has been backstabbed by his jealous envious younger brother and the toxic narcissist Markle.
How is what you @pdias8469 said Not Hateful? Harry’s book is ADMITTEDLY full of lies about his friends and family, and he has violated their privacy even as he is screaming to Be given his own. You’re willing to judge his family with hate in your heart whilst also proclaiming that Everyone must be as virtuous as 👼you 👺
Not just a prince. Would you go to a priest that was a sinner, or tune into a newsreader that didn't read the news, watch a footballer that played tennis instead of football? It's fine if a person wants to change their position in life. Harry, however, wanted to be treated and rewarded with the gilded gloves with which a prince is treated but doesn't want the role. Not just him but all around the world, you don't get both. The money or the bag? The chicken or the egg? When he chose to step away, that's fine. But to chose to step away and then get ratty because you haven't got a house being kept for you here, staff paid for here, clothes there, security everywhere, and the cherry on top "my father has cut us off financially ", 5 million a year to tide you over! Again, no one pays the newsreader who doesn't read the news. Harry had audacious expectations while simultaneously saying, "I never asked to be a prince, but reward me as if I am one forever more."
@fionanov1948 I don't see that, he might have 'thrown off the handcuffs as you put it" but then he got all nasty and petty because he expected princely rewards despite not doing duty princely duty. Would you quit your job and have an expectation of reward, ongoing?
Any person that leaves a toxic family dynamic and can talk about it, is a hero in my book. It amazes me how hateful people have been towards him. People comment that he is a "Prince" and really has nothing to complain about! He's a human being, just like the rest of us and HIS pain is played out in the media.
@pmc8119. I absolutely agree 💯. I went no contact from my family of origin over 20 years ago. I’ve been supportive of Harry from day one. I understood him always bc I’ve done what he’s done and experienced nothing but venom and literally hatred from my own family and so called friends. It took a lot to do what I did but I had to for my own survival and peace. It is such a joke that in our country we have a MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS DAY. We are such a small minority who really try to recover from severe abuse and neglect. The only support we get are in cyber places like this. It is disgusting.
I totally agree you can see the trauma when he is around the press or his family in england.i wish him a happy loving life for him and his family in america. A really strong person fighting for his future
I have all the compassion for Prince Harry. He has a broken heart since childhood and still he wanted to find love, family. I may not agree with some things but I am not in his shoes, and I thank I am lucky to have anonimity.
How much our children need a hug. Depriving them of this brings several consequences. Both in the case of Harry, William and their father Charles, living in the Royal Family, which has been dysfunctional, is why Harry and his wife decide to distance themselves from the toxic family and have a more normal life for their children. Excellent opportunity to have a quieter life.
Thank you so much for shining a light on the toxicity of our attitudes towards mental health and the way the media can fuel societies judgemental attitudes to it. As a retired mental health worker my career took me from the "mad or bad" views of institutional psychiatry to community psychiatry and counselling to the more enlightened theories of psychodynamic psychotherapy. Your wonderfully compassionate take on this topic has not only affirmed many of my own thoughts and beliefs my own intergenerational family traumas have contaminated my own parenting practice but also has given validity to many of my own arguments against the distorted social media reports about Prince Harry and the Royal family. Thank you for shining light into this dark place.
The negative comments/diatribes in the video are quite revealing. Harry is just as human as the rest of us. Thank you Dr Chatterjee for interviewing Dr Mate. 👍
I've gotten so used to ignoring anything on social media about Harry and Meghan, due to not wanting to give them the clicks for the algorithms. It's a refreshing change to hear Harry treated with compassion. Thankyou!
Finally, a voice of reason. The truth will set you free. And for those who vilify Harry, they need therapy.And they should know that the royals are human beings just like them and should not make them out to be what they’re not.
I agree 1000% and I am so grateful you shared this comment, although I fear that too few will be sufficiently open in heart, mind or spirit to see or appreciate it.
First rule of spirituality is NOT HURTING others. That is the most important part. Harry has done nothing but that ever since he married. How did this individual realise all this ONLY Fter marriage? I would like to ask dr. Gabor..
There are many people who has gone through life's difficulties & trauma but Harry is extra ordinary that becomes destructive not only to himself but destroying & hurting his other members of his own family.
"taken aim" at his family. That is a direct quote of the media narrative. That narratove is to shift the conversation. He spoke of them cause that's his lived his experience. Of course they are mentioned. He spoke on his trauma his healing. Please try to see the media narrative. it's toxic to the real conservation going on.
Harry lost the only person who protected, defended, loved, nourished, listened, and loved him unconditionally. His father chose his mistress over his son. He had no one to comfort him or help him through the grieving process. People don't understand he was raised in an institution and not a family. I can't imagine seeing your family members living in mansions or palaces while he lived in a cottage so small he'd hit his head on the ceiling. Or wearing shoes with holes in them and having to shop for clothes at a discount store. He's been treated different and neglected since his mother died and that must really hurt.Then add the BM to the mix. That's a living hell. People always says he needs to get over it but how can he when the BM puts out 30-50 articles a day dragging him and his wife? To learn his own family was leaking stories about him every since he was a young teen has to hurt. We can't compare our struggles to his because we live in two different worlds. What he needed money can't buy.
I see Meghan and Harry as wanting a better future together and for the kids. Sometimes u dont fully wake up until u have babies and you open your heart to them and yourself. Its a vulnerable time for them is all and they are crying out to be heard and understood. Meghan is his wife and stuck it out with royal family as best she could. Better than his previous girlfriends who wete too smart to touch it. So lets rejoice that we can care @ them and rise to the occasion. I dont feel good @ condemning them in any way. We have to accept a bigger role on our own lives and stop glaring at them. Meghan always has Harrys hand and is compassionate. Who said she had to be perfect? Thats Kates job !💞👩🎤
Everyone in life has issues. The point of the British Royal Family is to give their people strength. To “never complain, and never explain”. To “keep calm and carry on” As Harry did not live up to this mantra, as his brother has, and certainly as the Queen has, he doesn’t belong in the royal family.
I wonder how our ancestors lived through unimaginable conditions 100 to 300 yrs ago! People who have lived through Childhood trauma will benefit from therapy but they also need some gratitude to the great aspects of their lives! 1st world problems!
I am so sorry for Harry !! Really he is only human and stand alone !! Wishing he could come and live here in Namibia !! He will be happy here and will found love and peace of mind !!!
thank you Doctors some people have become so toxic with no empathy or compassion and continually bash him and his family for every little thing they have not shown him and his family any respect at all and i find that these same people would not survive what they dish out to him and his wife they forget he and his wife are also human even if he is a prince all he wants is to live his life with his family and be happy and people do not want them to have that they work pay their bills and do not owe any of these toxic people anything all of us whether black white etc have a responsibility to change the world and bring love and kindness to it we cannot go on as it is with killings of innocent people insults etc
I don’t follow stories about Harry, but I do read and listen to Gabor Mate. I can certainly relate to the difficulties that a family member can experience when they stop participating in the dysfunction. It is very difficult to remain connected to people who are stuck in denial and refuse to recognise the ‘love’ they are offering is actually very damaging. If you care for a person, you make an effort to understand them. When you understand that your treatment of them is harmful, you make a commitment to change. When you prioritise your love for a person, it is easy to change. But when you have other, higher priorities, you will sacrifice the person who is highlighting the problem. You will sacrifice them and you will claim that they are the problem. Harry is a scapegoat. The scapegoat is not the problem. The problem is the problem.
His brother was awful to Harry. Trying to talk about how the situation could work, William got so angry that he punched Harry so hard that Harry fell, broke the dogs feeding bowl and cut his head! If that’s what happens when you try to TALK with your family and members respond with physical attacks, how can anyone think this family is doing well? Harry and Meghan made the right choice!
@LaniAnne402 his brother also lost his mom, don't forget that. Both William and Catherine tried to point Harry's attention to his mental health and he refused (watch the videos from the Heads together events when all 3 of them worked together). What he tried to talk with Harry that night was Meghan's treatment of the personnel. And Harry never said that his head was cut.
The voice of reason 😌 looking forward to reading harry's book on my summer vacation. I got the exact same impressions of him, and i understand his choices. I think it all seems quite obvious when you know a little bit about his past. I wish him and his little family all the best as i do everyone here ❤
@@mayc8674 She isn't. Meghan is living her life, raising their two children, being a loving wife to the man she loves, and working away in the background for their foundation.
@@heatherjones5506 She dumped an ex for a husband and a husband when she saw the opportunity to take over a Prince. That i don't blame her for much but to go into a family that she knows has a century tradition and then goes and tries to destroy it bc she does not like to follow protocols is narcissistic. Now the prince no longer has a family except her. Isn't that what manipulators do. Take you away from all that is dear to you and make it to where they are the only ones available for you?
@mayc8674 Firstly, she never tried to destroy it at all, that is a load of garbage. 2ndly How can one learn protocols when the aides were giving her conflicting information? 3rdly Harry does have a family, the only one's not there are his grandparents. 4thly She never took him away. It was Harry himself that made the decision to step down and move out of England taking his wife and son with him, as he was fed up with the constant press Intrusion into their lives, and the lies they kept printing. Meghan found out he'd walked after it happened as she was not there at the time. So WHY do you persistently blame her for absolutely everything? She'd already been divorced from her husband long before she met Harry, and had split with the guy she had been seeing as well before meeting Harry.
People need to see the human being that dealt trauma that is still affecting him now, people seem to think just because he was born in a royal family, he should not feel the effects of that trauma.
I noticed that Rangan mentioned “friction” in his family. He did not go into detail because he is mature and has wisdom. They worked it out as a family and are closer now. Once betrayal and mistrust takes place within a family, it is often never recovered.
Thank you for saying this. I have been sympathetic to Harry since he left the royal family and I eagerly bought Spare the same week it was released. It almost feels like I read a different book to the one Dr. Mate read. Nothing about the man in Spare says "mentally healthy, an example of someone doing the hard work to overcome struggles and trauma." His worst and pettiest attacks are saved for his brother, who went through exactly the same trauma Harry did and who is not responsible (neither is Harry) for the dysfunctional family he comes from. When he had the chance to show grace in the book, he did not. When he had the chance to take responsibility for some of his mistakes, he shied away. Honestly the book made me dislike him. Working through trauma is one thing. Blaming everyone around you (for money, no less) is another. I'm genuinely shocked that Gabor Mate, whose work I feel is very important, seems to have bought it so thoroughly. If others had treated Harry the way he treats them in Spare, everyone would see how terrible it is. But because he's Prince Harry it's OK? I don't get it.
I agree with you. Harry is extremely self-entitled and shows arrested development; he’s making a public spectacle of airing his dirty laundry. It’s sad that his father didn’t give him enough attention to get him some mental health help when he needed it as a teen, but Harry is almost a middle-aged man, there’s no excuse at this point for him to behave so immaturely at this point.
Great interview, I agree completely. I have 2 sons and the same age as Diana. I can't help but have so much compassion for Harry. I sure hope Harry and William can reconcile some day. I can't imagine what Harry and Meghan went through. I wouldn't have lasted as a Royal for 5 minutes! ❤🙏🏼Let go snd Let God!
The media has been too mean and wick to Harry and Magan. I pray this should stop. They left the Royal family because the media would not back off Megan. She also had issues with mental health.
Seen a picture or part of a video of them in backseat of car after visiting or being part of something royal. They both looked EXTREMELY tormented and stressed! RASCISM does not just happen due to colour ... . Am sure most know. Except it is what Meghan is feeling and finds intolerable to live with, however she tells lies, witch is most ridiculous. 😢
The establishment murdered his mother, he must be so confused and angry. I am disgusted how people are treating him and Megan. He has had the courage to break the illusion of the "firn" the royal family are a corrupt mafia with a bunch of pedophiles, Andrew, his uncle Mount Batton and the amount of sex offenders who where knighted. As a UK citizen i am absolutely done with the monarchy, our queen is dead, the adulterous queen we have now is nothing more than a fanily wrecker a jezabell spirit, definitely not the actions of a Godly women, we are Christian country with a whore as a queen, if this family lived in our towns we would shun them.
What great sadness to hear about this generational deprivation within Harry’s Royal family. What Great Joy to know that Harry is trying to ensure his children do not suffer deprivation like he did. Harry has the perfect mate in Meghan to ensure their children are cuddled and loved to break that multi-generational deprivation.
Thank you for this video. I’ve heard Gabor Mate’ talk about generational trauma before and it is so true. I see it in my own family. Queen Elizabeth became queen at a young age after her father died. Did she even get to mourn her own father’s death or was she even taught that that is possible. It’s no wonder Charles turned out the way he did. Continue your journey into mental freedom Prince Harry.
Thank you for this insightful and compassionate interpretation of Harry. I absolutely agree. He is such a different person to William and was always the sensitive one. I applaud his decision to leave the royal life behind him in search of happiness. We should all have the right, freedom and opportunity to pursue that which is best for our own mental health and wellbeing.
Thanks for interviewing this Doctor I became a new sub I think Prince Harry undermines his own intelligence because all his life he’s been told he’s thick. I beg to differ
It seems like "Harry" is more important than the rest of us peasants who grew up more emotionally deprived and with hardships much greater than "Prince Harry". Harry has the economic means to have many material posessions and and pay for all the mental health an medical care he will ever need. He's in a position to meet all kinds of people, make friends. and earn millions. I'm a person whose mother abandoned me and my sister as a child, been widowed and divorced and live in low income housing and can't afford the medical and things I need and no one is asking if they can help me so Harry has so many advantages than the majority of us peasants. Harry's not the the only child who lost a parent to violence and didn't receive the emotional support he/she needed. My god there are thousands upon thousands around the world suffering much greater than Harry.
Does that make his mental health, his experiences any less important? You have completely missed the point! It's attitudes such as yours that are what is wrong with this World.
I'm sorry for your trauma. I'm sorry for everyone's trauma. But thankfully, our personal traumas have not been played out in the public eye and compounded by media moguls, whose intrusions into our private lives have compounded and amplified our trauma purely to make money off of us. Then when we dared to say 'enough!' those same media moguls have not gone on to vilify us out of spite. Imagine your story splashed across multiple papers and news headlines, but they are effectively blaming you for all the things that have traumatized you. Then imagine that happening every single day constantly from the day your traumas began. That is what is happening still to Harry. Having a privileged life has effectively amplified his trauma, not protected him from.
Harry is a public figure compared to the rest of us. Isn't his advocacy of talking about mental health a good way of starting the conversations in our respective families and workplace? Certainly no one would talk about our own issues except to those that know us. Let us appreciate his compassion and openness instead of bashing him.
He is perpetuating the cycle. He’s literally stepped from one dysfunctional situation to another. To break the cycle he needs to own his past, make peace with it and move on. Blaming others is not healthy therapy. He needs to own his current actions and step up, step out and step into his potential. His current drama triangle is toxic af.
Not the way he is going about doing it. By directions of a narcissistic wife he will only end up destroyed. The latest stunt is prime example. Using the front exit after attending an event and then comparing their "paparazzi chase" to his mother's when she died is unexcusable.
How refreshing and heart softening to hear understanding and compassion for Harry instead of judgement and rejection. We’re in the Age of Narcissism. Holy Bible. New Testament. Book of
I lost my mom also at a young age. But my grandmother and Aunt pulled me through with love. Sometimes it was difficult but most of the time I made my life with the help of god. The death date I’m. Very sad but my life my family help me and I know I will see her again. I wonder if Harry knows Jesus as his Savior the comforter. He is not comforted nor has he had a loving life. I’m sorry for him.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for telling the truth about Harry being a kind and introspective person trying to make a positive difference in the world. The unending barrage of pure hatred and vile lies from British tabloids is horrifying and disgusting. Harry and Meghan deserve appreciation and respect.
I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up in an institution like the RF. I would say a rarefied environment like that lacked expressions of love and warmth. The focus is more on public duty and service. If the RF and the people around them identified with their roles very seriously, it would be a very surreal experience to deal with so much formality, protocol, masks and personas. I’d say “gilded cage” is apt. But also utterly surreal like puppets in a theatre On top of that the relationship with the public is disturbing from my point of view, where they are treated as Icons- venerated and separate to, but also a sense of ownership by, the general public. People projecting their own selves, ideals, devotion and love or hate on to them all the time. I’m saying it’s disturbing to be having that kind of experience and relationship with the world I’m obviously speaking from my perspective as an outsider. Imagine being born into that, it’s all normalised. But you’d know something wasn’t right, something is missing. How can any of us judge Harry really, we have no idea. It was/is a different reality he was born into A lot of anger and venom is directed at him for speaking out against his family. I haven’t followed this much or read his book…but I’ve read a fair few comments here and elsewhere about Harry hurting his “loving family”. This is quite complex as there seems to be a lot of projection and idealisation going because they are the/ “our” ROYAL family. “How dare he!?” Not saying they weren’t loving in the best way they could, you could actually say that about every family. But of course they nonetheless can cause a huge amount of damage and pass on generational trauma. I understand I’m going to be lacking nuance about the queen saying they can’t be half in/ half out. However that is also a common pattern in dysfunctional families. You will be scapegoated and cut off if you don’t tow the family line. If Harry’s behaviour is a little worrying at times as I’ve heard people say, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’d say he’s having a colossal culture shock having so much freedom, and adjusting to “normal” life as a civilian. He’s also had a monumental loss with being effectively cut off from his family and the RF institution. He could be having an identity crisis, as anyone would who has gone though so much change. Especially difficult in a public facing role where there is so much judgment directed at him. I’d say give him some time and he’ll find himself. He’ll gather up his true inner strength and power, beyond anything he had when in the RF. I believe he’s got a VERY big role, yet to be played out. He is an instigator of change. And that is always going to be messy, chaotic and met with resistance, especially so when going against the force of the monarchy. But I do believe ultimately change is inevitable, and also needed. And Harry is still playing a big part in the monarchy, whether he is recognised as a member of it or not. He is really spotlighting the monarchy for our attention. Whether the monarchy will ultimately survive is the question, but it will definitely need to evolve and adapt.
Whether or not publicising his pain is helping Harry heal is something that only time will tell. The one thing we can say about members of the Royal Family - with all its quirks - is that they have lived very long lives, and generally over a period of time found themselves. If stress and lack of love kills, it is certainly not killing any of them. It is to be seen whether Harry achieves the same outcome or he crashes and burns. My life experience tells me that trying to resolve trauma in public only exacerbates it and turns it into entertainment. Whether Dr Mate helped Harry or turned him into a spectacle is something that we will only know in 10 years time.
Very well said. There's a difference between, "I have X trauma, and I'm working it out, and here's how you too can find mental health resources". Vs publicizing every detail of trauma, public blaming, and perpetual victimhood, etc. The second doesn't result in much personal growth.
@@eh3477 With all due respect, I totally disagree w/your analysis that Harry is public blaming and claiming victimhood. Rather what I do see is a toxic press that insists on painting Harry in a negative light for whatever purposes they believe justifies such unprofessional behavior!
Harry and Megan are never with their children though, in the last 3 months they have spent numerous weeks apart from them in foreign countries. As a parent I could not do this.
Thank you so much for your kindness in this topic. I have not understood why people were so enraged at Prince Harry and his lovely wife. I am an American who fled to Mexico to escape the insanity that is the US I did not realize how pervasive the problem is.
Thats all fine, and understandable. There was no need to make such a scandal and drama about it. If you want to live a happier, emotionally gratifying life, just do it quietly, without making such a fuss...if you allow the whole world to pry into your private, most intimate life, then they will destroy you. People love to gossip and pick on the odd one out, like in a chicken coop.
THE WORLD PRIE'S INTO THEIR LIVES!! I don't blame them for wanting to tell their story! Megan went from being a beloved duchess to the most hated woman in the world, literally, in a week's time! Gd forbid, they can't have anyone upstage Catherine so Megan had to go!!! Suddenly she was princess pushy, a narcissist, dragging Harry along, can't have babies of her own. Her mother was a jailbird. If it was bad, it was Megan! They were prolly looking for ways to blame her for the gloomy weather!
At last heard someone try and understand the human side of the situation Wish there are more people like this
Thank you for bringing a voice of compassion to the topic. If the whole debacle around Harry & Meghan has revealed anything, it's how much our society lacks understanding, empathy and compassion.
Society does not empathy
Unfortunately, he is still and always will be in the public eye. Sadly for him, he chose a wife who craves it while he looks to be traumatised by it. I hope he finds peace 🙏
That's half-true, I think. We've learned that today's society does not patronize those who are willing to damage their own families on a global stage. They generally won't patronize those caught lying or caught grossly exaggerating, either. Society in this way can set healthy boundaries and teach lessons. I think the problem that Harry had was trying to make the public his "therapist". He saw his mother try it, and it was successful for her in terms of great public support. But this is the age of social media. If Diana did the same today, people would confront her about traumatizing her children by airing her husband's sins to the world. They would ask how she could expose them to gossip, expose them to taunting in school, and to risk fracturing an emotional bond with their father. They would question why she was putting her emotional needs first, at the expense of her children's. Voices would bring tough love, as well as support, hate, craziness from the human family. Harry is receiving the overwhelming realities of the world that she did not. And hopefully, he'll come to accept responsibility for inviting it all in.
exactly!! I feel deep empathy for Harry's trauma.... He seems to be the only healthy person in a very dysfunctional ( Charles!!!! ) family
Thank you Gabor, to t😮ell what you think about Harry, how traumatised he was, and his mother and father both were. I really am surprised by the venom of so many people who judge him mercilessly. And the way the British press hunts him and his wife down is beyond believe. There is no compassion there, it seems, only hatred.
Thank you bringing a voice for Prince Harry.
The sad thing is most people in this world are dysfunctional look at how we treat animals, totally lacking in compassion!
You nailed it ❤
Yes correct, I agree totally.
I run a animal sanctuary. We aren't all buying into the insanity. Have hope. But I have had social services called on me by detractors. I dare to shout.. emporer is naked😅
We are one life, all so precious 💕
How refreshing to hear a public voice grounded in true compassion.
In Samos, the island where I was born, we say that "in order for a child to grow up properly, needs the participation of the whole village".
they have a whole village to themselves
❤🎉connection and love for Every Child yeahhhhhhhhhh, I want the whole planet to know and experience this kind of love...the parties would be Amazing!!!😊🌻🧡🎊
@@martinadewsnap2337we all do....earth
This Is the first channel & man that talks Real Truth! Unless you have lost your mom young then you'll Never Know what he went through!!❤
like harry is the ONLY kid to have lost his mom too early ?? There are millions of kids who have lost their mom to car accidents, plane accidents, cancer, drug overdose, murder etc etc... and they get on with their lives, get jobs etc.. without complaining.
@anastasia10017, nobody said he's the only one who lost a parent at a young age.
My granddaughter lost her daddy at age 3. She’s a bright, caring, compassionate, empathetic soul who would NEVER treat her mom the was Harry has his Dad, Grandparents, brother, sister-in-law. Harry has a choice in how he behaves. She’s 17 now, we couldn’t be more proud of her morals and character.
@@anastasia10017for Harry it all played out in the public and it seems they were told to just get over it. Did you not watch the video, especially first part.
@@Snack-well Harry is loving
Thank you! ‘A gale of venom.’ Is absolutely right. It should be considered the fingerprint of the UK.
We’re so lucky to have Dr. Mate. Thank you for your love and compassion 🙏💜
I love that you mention the gingers, because my mom, my sister and my younger brother are all gingers and deeply sensitive and they do have to do extra measures to manage their pain while at the same time they manage their pain very well. I am a ginger adjunct, and I am profoundly sensitive myself. People always tell me how nice I am and it surprises me because I think I’m just me and I’m not doing anything special.
From reading some comments, it just shows how much we as a society are traumatized and don’t even realize it . We are unable to have compassion for other people and yet we make our own mistakes . to be human is to grow and be better tomorrow than today and hold space for others as they try to heal
If you want real healing, you need to get real and face the truth of what is.
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Amen
Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and billionaire families in the USA, like the Priztkers, promoting and funding the trans agenda. Let me hold the space for you to be brainwashed by the WEF and their normalizing and legalizing PEDO relationships. Let me hold the space for your mental illness and call it compassion.
❤ 100 percent agree ❤ severely lacking in compassion and an unwillingness to realise their own pain has been triggered.
I really admire Harry for speaking publicly about his trauma. I think he is a true renegade, a truth teller and an inspiration. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I sense that he genuinely wants to help people by sharing his story. He's definitely helped me. I was silent about my trauma for way too long. When high profile speak out about what they have been through they inspire others to do the same and help us know that we are not the only one. I really admire famous people who use their fame to help others. I recommend the series he did with Oprah called The Me You Can't See for anyone who hasn't seen it. I felt really validated when I watched it. Whatever traumatic experiences you have had to endure in your life, you are not alone, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you deserve to be heard, seen and supported❤
Thank You so much Dr Rangan for this interview. Dr Gabor Mate' is one of the most advanced humans on the planet . His compassion perception and understanding is so uplifting and helps me to hold onto Hope . I so agree with his perspective on Harry and am grateful to be able to listen to this conversation. Blessings to You both and of course to Harry 🙏💗🌸
Thank you for standing up for him💜
Yes I agree !!! God bless this man for the love he had for Harry , he know what he talking about !!!
Yes, thank you Gabor
Now he should encourage Harry to stop sharing private events of his family.
Ow, the all media from UK should hear and learn how to respect Hanry . Guys, go and talk about your kids life which I am sure it is full of mistakes. Do not judge.
I'm grateful to you, Gabor and Rangan, for bringing this compassionate voice to the Harry 'situation'. I feel very sad about the family breakdown and hope that the brothers can one day see beyond their current differences, but it is difficult to see how that can happen when media (social and otherwise) persist in adding fuel to the flames of discord. All families have problems, but few are under so much external pressure. I wish Harry and Meghan, William and Kate, Charles and Camilla the best. I honestly believe that they are all caring people who genuinely want the best for each other, but they are stuck. More voices like yours are needed to take a more objective and genuinely concerned stance. I am sick of the vitriol.
The vitriol is dangerous.
Just a question do you still feel the same after the staged NYC chase by blackgrid who was called by them or his wife maybe. Or maybe the picture of her smiling at the back of the cab while Harry looked like a triggered mess. Or the tragic death of his mother been associated with that mockery of a snail paced car chase🤦🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️
At some point eyes need to open to the real truth. either our eyes or his eyes if it's such that the wife is the puppet master calling the shots.
@@izzyakin9759you are repeating Rupert Murdoch media talking points and not anything based on reality so your annoyance is built on fiction.
@Trash Panda 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣 It's okay oo. But FYi there has been footage from blackgrid the Meghan hired paps showing who has been driving recklessly blocking traffic. But its okay 👍🏾 I do note that none of that means anything to you. I am not rude. I respect your position 👌🏿.
@@Du-Massesit’s funny to me how any criticism of Harry or Meghan elicits this “blame the Murdoch business/man” yet Harry is employed with Murdoch’s wife at the Aspen institute, where they are BOTH working to make sure that WE, the regular citizens cannot have our speech - Unless it is All Positive for the elites, of which Harry definitely is one and will always be.
At last a positive conversation about Harry. Most of my friends talk about him with venom but I do my best to stand his corner just as these two very reputable men have.
I agree 100%. The hate is over the top. I blame that British Tabloid addiction. I like the couple, very much, and feel they are getting hammered by that tabloid fodder. The Royals did nothing to stop or help them.
Most of your friends talk about him with venom, maybe they are reacting to the venom and lies, he has spoken about his family continuously. It's a pity he doesn't stand in their corner. People are allowed an opinion, just as you are, without it having to be venomous, just because it opposes yours.
@@GurjitKaur-q1gHow do you know he’s telling lies? He lived it and sold his story by putting it in a book. I’m no fan of Meghan but I always liked Harry and tried to keep an open mind. What if what he says is indeed true? I believe him.
@@Mush2389 You can believe him, you have every right, there's plenty that do. Equally others can not, and there's plenty that don't. I think the reason they get such backlash, because they contradict themselves, whether it's things they stand for, or their life encounters. People don't believe them, because the thing about being in the public life, especially with Harry from birth. Things he says can be refuted, by his own words, from one year to the next, one decade to the next, from one interview to the next, etc. They can easily be fact checked, and people do, to make a point. It's called proven lies. He's got the position he has, from merely being born into the family he slags off, and she's got her position, from being married to him, because of that family she slags off too. Live your best life, without your Titles, that connect you to the family you slag off. It's there only currency.
One of them reputable men, Dr Mate Gabor, has already publicly stood away from his corner. Saying in an interview, he wish he'd gone with his gut reaction, it was telling him to not do the live session.
From a family that abused and betrayed who I Am I have stood up to mine and told the world also. No more pretending. I admire and Trust what Harry needs; shame to those who criticize and I only see they want to bury the lies and trauma they never acknowledged in their own family’s. Where ever you are Harry, I understand and I will always care🪷
Harry and Meghan is expected to live with the disrespect thrown at them by family and media. Especially Meghan she should be grateful to be associated with this wealthy abusive family and how dare this black woman complain about their behavior towards her. When we all witnessed their disgusting attitude at the Commonwealth Service and the late Queens funeral Kate Camilla and Sophie were just plain and simple downright rude towards Meghan.
the problem is learning. He did not need to put down his family and criticize. he has children so he won't repeat the things that he did not like. He doesn't need to air the family secret or impose his idea not over his family but the public too. The other problem is the wife she is not normal so did not give him any support. WE never see his real kids in public and see how he treat them.
@@monamorgan2588 Protecting his children! He loves his kids.
He is still a well loved figure in the world . watching from South America . I can’t understand the vitriol and hatred against him . Thank you for this episode.
That’s because the majority would rather vilify harry who fell in love got married and respected his wife and family, Robin have an affair! I’m supportive of Camilla who is having an affair with his father throughout his father’s marriage what does that tell you?
This is such a useful, insightful and compassionate interview. Thank you. I’m appalled by intensity of the bullying and taunting flowing so forcefully towards Harry. I can’t understand the level of hatred. So sad. So unforgiving.
Totally agree. The people who are venting about him, hate themselves too.
Maybe because he’s a racist hypocrite and picks and chooses and contradicts what he says
Is why mental health is so important, to learn how to move on and forgive.
Am so glad Harry gives his children hugs, SO THAT THEY WILL FEEL HUMAN .......!!
Read some of Harry's Spare book. Such beautiful English, well-spoken and sensitive is music to my ears. ❤
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Harry, we have your back and always will. Do what you do, and do so confidently. You have earned our respect 🙏
Using the front exit after an event calling the attention of photographers then putting out on media that they almost died like his mother did many years ago is shameful way of dealing with his problems.
@blackenergy Seeing you support and appreciate what they do, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your own life 💛 🤎 🙏🏾
@@mayc8674 your comment is based on journalism trash - she was there ot get an award for her work. Others there got awards for their work and not one journalists shared anything about the celebration of the women there - they chose to find trash: horrible journalists.
Thank you!!!!
The world needs to empathise and understand!
So sad to hear people sending Dr Gabor venomous messages just because he has a Compassionate heart! So shocking!😮
These people see what you and Gabor Mate don’t see. That’s the difference. We all can see the exaggerations, the lies, and the manipulation. I think Gabor Mate refuses to address it. It doesn’t matter if you were traumatized or whatever in life. We all have choices, ok? You can either deal with things in a dignified manner, or make sure you vilify the people who love and care about you to make you look like a victim. Harry will reap what he sows.
Gabor will NEVER show any other side other than overflowing compassion as that is his persona.
I lived in Vancouver near the east side and just before leaving the city I had to clean up some junkie's S__T in front of my door with rags and buckets and bleach. It was NOT from a dog.
I recall stepping over those sleeping in doorways, dried blood on their legs from the needles. Needle cleanups in the early morning.
Gabor lived apart from them in a nice area of Vancouver. I left the city.
It is easy to feel compassion watching UA-cam. And somehow easier to feel it for some rich prince - who insists his kiddies carry royal titles! - and doesn't smell from not bathing and has good skin as he doesn't eat from the garbage and sleep on the street!
@@helenamaria710Gabor is using this to draw attention to himself. Also notice he doesn’t talk about Meghan’s blatant narcissism. Harry is not a narcissist. And tbh I don’t believe they have children, there are just too many inconsistencies. I think Harry is stuck in a trap he can’t get out of.
@@yvettep1093 so why are you not making the choice of love and compassion. Why are you throwing the first stone in response to a very compassionate interview, Why vilify Harry?
@Truth is Peace you are in the job of spreading venom. That's you.
This is what I see in Harry. A human being. I love that. 👑♥I also miss Princess Dianna who was a Humanitarian. That, they have in common. Reflected in his demeanor. I would love to meet him.
I can understand the trauma of his mother's death but he also had a lot of money and support. I lost my mother at 13 saw her screaming with a tumour, my father had mh and could not cope. We had little money. I was told just get on with life and I had to. If you have to get on or sink you get on. He should now move on not just wine about everything in life.
He is not whining.....he's trying to get ahead by starting foundations, marrying, having children, starting " Invictus games" All in the dam public eye. All the West does is judge, judge and judge when we don't want to understand.
That's so rich coming from a woman who has never been vilified by the all country by pess and tabloids. Whine about everything? It's his life why does it bother you? You moved on cause u were loved. Your dad never told ur mom that u were a spare after being born. Ur dad never left ur mom on that day just to spend time with his mistress. No one has a F right to tell others how and when to move on frm their trauma. H has been the scapegoat of his family n tabloids n the likes of u have always been quite. Please just move on from him n let him be . Keep ur nose off his business, he never forced you to read or listen to anything about him.
Money is controlled by his father, and eventually prince william. You have to suck up to them and be docile maintain good flow of allowance. If you're going to be a working royal, you cant take up other work. Your income has to come from the institution exclusively. It's a form of courtier control. It's how that family works, like a gilded cage exactly.
@@thelivingrisi7233 bit like normal employment
Money is nothing his mum is the number one some are strong and can move on some can not millions of pounds means nothing that not bring his mum back, i lost all my family i live on my own it was not easy but i had to change my life and find a new way not every one can do that. We need to stop blaming and understand some can cope some can not.
Ty ty ty I appreciate this truth this is very sad I applaud his courage ❤️😌🫂
So refreshing to hear someone that is understanding and kind, and balanced in their analysis of Prince Harry’s situation. I have made sure I have watched interviews and the Netflix series and halfway through the book Spare, so I can make my own mind up about his situation. I have been constantly shocked how venomous people are: unkind and indeed toxic. I am always defending them when my family are speaking about them.
So many people seem to have gotten on the treadmill of bullying.
I may not agree with all that H&M have done but like you said we all make mistakes.
Thanks for sharing
We all have trama, but not all of us have media and photographers following us around ,invading every area of our lives.
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Yes! I agree this invasion of privacy makes it almost impossible for a person like Harry to find the peace he needed. He was trapped in grief and trauma at the tragic loss of his mother. It is only now that he has found the love of a good woman that he feels he can let all that trauma out. Because now he feels safe.
Oh how sad blah blah fish cakes.
Exactly
The brit media and the brit national pastime of bullying and hate should be distressing to anyone with a brain. Speaking up about mental health takes strength and courage and those who whinge about talking about trauma is small minded. H. has made a sane important decision to live a better life and cares that his kids are treated better than he was.
A lot of people have trauma but it’s how we deal with it that matters. We can either learn from it and become stronger or we can forever play the victim…
Edit: I respect that people have differing opinions, but if you disagree then you can choose to scroll on and comment elsewhere. I don’t think it’s necessary to get personal. After all, you don’t know me or my background.
Just to clarify my original comment… I don’t talk about myself often, but I’m about the same age as Harry and I suffer from PTSD from my childhood (both my parents are narcs, histrionic too). My trauma was the result of events like the suicide of my biological father and constant physical and psychological abuse until I left home at the age of 18, so it’s safe to say that I understand triggers, trauma and the fight or flight response. I’ve been in and out of different therapies over the course of my life and I’ve also seen how my siblings live with their own trauma and the different paths we’ve all taken.
So my comment was based on my personal experiences, it’s also my opinion, so as I said earlier, you can choose just to scroll on without responding.
By talking about your trauma helps one to get a gripe of the situation AND NOT PLAY VICTIM.
@@conniebalmer1448 or become a complete pain in the arse to know.
@@Anna_Key You know Prince Harry?
You have missed the perspective, the Prince was a only a child when he experienced the greatest trauma. Your comment is very blunt.
@@Anna_KeyYou don't know him. So you are clearly talking about someone else
Really appreciate this support for Harry. Reading Spare made me really understand him and his struggles, and it is horrible that society is going after him and his wife in this way. I hope this vitriol will pass.
Yes, hopefully society will leave him alone and he'll stop getting into the media. And seeing you support him, hopefully you'll get to experience a love, or a child, like Harry and Meghan in your life 💛🤎
Good luck.
You do know that spare is full of disproven lies.harry is not very bright and has done way too many drugs and has alcohol problems.
Spare was propaganda - he conveniently left out bits about his racial slurs towards Pakistani soliders … he only told you what he wanted you to hear
It’s interesting how he’s only concerned with reconnecting with the RF but niether of them have made any effort to reconnect with the dying father that single handed my raised Meghan - they’re all entitled full of shit people like the whole monarchy
@@Anna_Key unfortunately the press is made of women and men who fear to lose their job if their don't come up with garbage about even the best people on this planet. If they could access the moon, or the stars they would find something disgusting to write. They even criticise Dr. Gabor Maté after listening to his video. They have not paid attention. It is sooooo hopeless. No wonder many people have mental issues reading all the nastiness people who don't know someone are ready to write. Horrible. Thank you Dr. Gabor Maté for your truth.
"A multitude may be needed to perpetuate a great falsehood, but only one is required to unveil its truth"
P. Regini in speaking of Mr Alejandro Betts Goss.
THANK YOU Mr Gabor Maté and Dr Rangan Chatterjee
for helping to dispel the bullying brutally unjust treatment of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle perpetuated by certain media sectors of of the UK, US and Australia.
Agree it is a gale of hate. Hope Harry & Meghan can get through all the hate & nastiness.
What about the hate they have put out into the world?
Great content. I feel sorry for Prince Harry. Hope he is strong enough to keep going. He had no need to go to his dads coronation. But walked into the event with all eyes on him like a boxer going into the ring. He is a cery brave and strong human being
Brave?? He is a coward and a weak man. Get the fog out of your eyes
Lol 😂 no he’s not. He a coward who backstabbed him own brother who ALSO lost his mother and cruelly discarded his entire British family cos he fell under the spell of a toxic liberal American narcissist who was not fit to be in the BRF.
How brAvE of him to show his face to the family and friends he LIES about! How bRAvE he is to face those to whom he is a traitor - in every sense of the word.
@@NobodyOrdinary royal family aside the only person you need to worry about is your own family. He also fought for his country and is a veteran. Show some god dam respect
@@Icemanr85 show HIM respect? For being in the military? For “serving his country? - a country in which I do not live so save your advice. He’s almost a traitor!! If nothing else, because he wrote exact room layouts in his book that could get his family, The Heads of State, murdered. Because , unlike her and Meghan, the other family members actually have been in real danger. His father has had several assassination attempts. His aunt barely escaped with her life after a kidnapping attempt killed a couple of her bodyguards. Harry and Meghan had a Vespa trailing them from a block behind. 😱
Great to see intelligence and insight at play.
We heard that interview so differently. I understood that Dr Mate is not a psychiatrist. It was truly sad.
Resonated very well! Much thanks for bringing it up.
I got vilified when I didn't want to brush things under the carpet and decided to confront the pink elephant in the room. I understand Harry. I didn't want to live like a robot and be inauthentic to myself. Now Harry has a family, children he loves unconditionally, a loving wife, and mother in law that's providing love like a mother.
I certainly hope Harry has all those things.
He seems like he's the one in that family who's going to win at life, in the end.
Loving wife? She loves herself no one else. Oh and money and fame!
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I don’t think you know what you’re talking about you sound ridiculous! She had money and fame and was loved long before she met Harry! What do you want to do is verify her and you don’t know her get a life and stop being so poisonous
Thank you so much for this beautiful video. 🇭🇷
Thanks 🙏
If there is one man destroying the monarchy it is Piers Morgan.
.... unbelievable how hatful he is and arrogant
“Hatful” 🎩 🧢 👒 😂
The hateful and arrogant is none other than Meghan Markle
No. He presents unsavory truths. That is okay.
@@Geeronimo99his version
@@Geeronimo99 No, he's hateful. It's shocking to listen to him.
My mother’s à Brit & was brought up to be cold & dismissive of any type of family abuse or trauma. I can relate to Harry. Look what speaking up did to his sense of belonging to his messed up family of origin. My speaking up has gotten me the same result - pushed out into the cold.
Me too ❤️🩹❤️
Grow a pair.
So, if you think all Brits are like that you're sadly mistaken. Think Harry is the messed up one, not the rest of his family. Who goes about admitting he's addicted to drink and drugs and expect anyone to take him seriously, Harry!
@@lindamaguire4422 Well said. Harry is a national embarrassmrnt. The way he and his wife treated the Queen and Prince Phillip is beyond contemptable.
He chose to leave the Royal Family. He chose to participate in the Oprah interview and to write a bitter book.
From the time Harry was born I watched him grow and the trauma he went through. I read the Spare and I love this riveting book. Everyone must read this book. Royal family is very disappointing and dysfunctional. He is a hero in this lifetime.
Thanks for this podcast. Dr. Gabor Mate you said it all as is. Dr. Gabor I witnessed everything. Dr. Gabor Mate I know your podcast will reach far and wide and people be better listening to your lesson.
Dr. Chatterjee of all the people on earth the royals are the most dysfunctional race. They have no soul.
Yeah I feel for his brother William who ALSO lost his mother and has been backstabbed by his jealous envious younger brother and the toxic narcissist Markle.
How is what you @pdias8469 said Not Hateful? Harry’s book is ADMITTEDLY full of lies about his friends and family, and he has violated their privacy even as he is screaming to Be given his own. You’re willing to judge his family with hate in your heart whilst also proclaiming that Everyone must be as virtuous as 👼you 👺
Wow how can you know these things? You're an expert on souls ?Most dreadful comment ever.Fear for your own soul and seek treatment.
@@littleangel18 you are certainly no angel to speak evil about Meghan is not toxic, narcissistic....,
@@NobodyOrdinary you did not read the book.
People want “The Prince” to play the part. When he doesn’t…they turf him.
Very simplistic and profoundly naive.
True though
H. threw off the royal handcuffs and refused to be someone who is trotted out on choreographed photo ops to keep the monarchy relevant. Kudos to him.
Not just a prince. Would you go to a priest that was a sinner, or tune into a newsreader that didn't read the news, watch a footballer that played tennis instead of football? It's fine if a person wants to change their position in life. Harry, however, wanted to be treated and rewarded with the gilded gloves with which a prince is treated but doesn't want the role. Not just him but all around the world, you don't get both. The money or the bag? The chicken or the egg? When he chose to step away, that's fine. But to chose to step away and then get ratty because you haven't got a house being kept for you here, staff paid for here, clothes there, security everywhere, and the cherry on top "my father has cut us off financially ", 5 million a year to tide you over! Again, no one pays the newsreader who doesn't read the news. Harry had audacious expectations while simultaneously saying, "I never asked to be a prince, but reward me as if I am one forever more."
@fionanov1948 I don't see that, he might have 'thrown off the handcuffs as you put it" but then he got all nasty and petty because he expected princely rewards despite not doing duty princely duty. Would you quit your job and have an expectation of reward, ongoing?
What a relief to hear some kindness, empathy and common sense as opposed to the rabid attacks normally levelled at Harry.
Any person that leaves a toxic family dynamic and can talk about it, is a hero in my book. It amazes me how hateful people have been towards him. People comment that he is a "Prince" and really has nothing to complain about! He's a human being, just like the rest of us and HIS pain is played out in the media.
Your compassionate, well stated response warms my heart and gives me hope!!! 🙏
@pmc8119. I absolutely agree 💯. I went no contact from my family of origin over 20 years ago. I’ve been supportive of Harry from day one. I understood him always bc I’ve done what he’s done and experienced nothing but venom and literally hatred from my own family and so called friends. It took a lot to do what I did but I had to for my own survival and peace. It is such a joke that in our country we have a MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS DAY. We are such a small minority who really try to recover from severe abuse and neglect. The only support we get are in cyber places like this. It is disgusting.
I totally agree you can see the trauma when he is around the press or his family in england.i wish him a happy loving life for him and his family in america. A really strong person fighting for his future
I have all the compassion for Prince Harry. He has a broken heart since childhood and still he wanted to find love, family. I may not agree with some things but I am not in his shoes, and I thank I am lucky to have anonimity.
How much our children need a hug. Depriving them of this brings several consequences. Both in the case of Harry, William and their father Charles, living in the Royal Family, which has been dysfunctional, is why Harry and his wife decide to distance themselves from the toxic family and have a more normal life for their children. Excellent opportunity to have a quieter life.
Well they are Philanthropist & Humanitarian they need to expose themselves to the public, but people think that a quiet life is to be Hermits.
Thank you so much for shining a light on the toxicity of our attitudes towards mental health and the way the media can fuel societies judgemental attitudes to it. As a retired mental health worker my career took me from the "mad or bad" views of institutional psychiatry to community psychiatry and counselling to the more enlightened theories of psychodynamic psychotherapy. Your wonderfully compassionate take on this topic has not only affirmed many of my own thoughts and beliefs my own intergenerational family traumas have contaminated my own parenting practice but also has given validity to many of my own arguments against the distorted social media reports about Prince Harry and the Royal family. Thank you for shining light into this dark place.
The negative comments/diatribes in the video are quite revealing. Harry is just as human as the rest of us. Thank you Dr Chatterjee for interviewing Dr Mate. 👍
I feel so bad for Harry and the hate being spewed at him!
His haters are just petty and jealous of him.
He dishes out a lot of hate as well so he has to expect a response.
@@soulpowerful ....Are you speaking from a point of propaganda or what you know to be the actual truth?
Harry has openly shown support for the Sussex Squad, a vitriolic and Hateful group if there ever was one.
@@soulpowerfulwhat hate has he dished out
Thank you for sharing. What a wonderful conversation.
Thank you for talking about Prince Harry's issues. I feel so sad, he and his little family persistently facing negative comments from Media
I've gotten so used to ignoring anything on social media about Harry and Meghan, due to not wanting to give them the clicks for the algorithms. It's a refreshing change to hear Harry treated with compassion. Thankyou!
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I never bought into the attitude slamming Harry. Good to see this video.
Finally, a voice of reason. The truth will set you free. And for those who vilify Harry, they need therapy.And they should know that the royals are human beings just like them and should not make them out to be what they’re not.
I'm glad someone is speaking up for Prinve Harry at last
Totally get it, hope H & M have a very successful life.
Thank you so much for this positive feedback about Prince Harry, I am so sick of the negativity in the media it's disgusting.
All human beings are cable of making mistakes, no one is perfect.🤔
I feel he is deeply spiritual and seeking with fervor to know the meaning of life.
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Lol who exactly 👀
I agree 1000% and I am so grateful you shared this comment, although I fear that too few will be sufficiently open in heart, mind or spirit to see or appreciate it.
First rule of spirituality is NOT HURTING others. That is the most important part. Harry has done nothing but that ever since he married. How did this individual realise all this ONLY Fter marriage? I would like to ask dr. Gabor..
@@hussainanoordeen5754 Not true... Both Harry AND Will talked together publicly about this issue long before Harry married...
There are many people who has gone through life's difficulties & trauma but Harry is extra ordinary that becomes destructive not only to himself but destroying & hurting his other members of his own family.
"taken aim" at his family. That is a direct quote of the media narrative. That narratove is to shift the conversation.
He spoke of them cause that's his lived his experience. Of course they are mentioned. He spoke on his trauma his healing.
Please try to see the media narrative.
it's toxic to the real conservation going on.
Harry lost the only person who protected, defended, loved, nourished, listened, and loved him unconditionally. His father chose his mistress over his son. He had no one to comfort him or help him through the grieving process. People don't understand he was raised in an institution and not a family. I can't imagine seeing your family members living in mansions or palaces while he lived in a cottage so small he'd hit his head on the ceiling. Or wearing shoes with holes in them and having to shop for clothes at a discount store. He's been treated different and neglected since his mother died and that must really hurt.Then add the BM to the mix. That's a living hell. People always says he needs to get over it but how can he when the BM puts out 30-50 articles a day dragging him and his wife? To learn his own family was leaking stories about him every since he was a young teen has to hurt. We can't compare our struggles to his because we live in two different worlds. What he needed money can't buy.
Amen to all that❤❤❤
Nuts
I see Meghan and Harry as wanting a better future together and for the kids. Sometimes u dont fully wake up until u have babies and you open your heart to them and yourself. Its a vulnerable time for them is all and they are crying out to be heard and understood. Meghan is his wife and stuck it out with royal family as best she could. Better than his previous girlfriends who wete too smart to touch it. So lets rejoice that we can care @ them and rise to the occasion. I dont feel good @ condemning them in any way. We have to accept a bigger role on our own lives and stop glaring at them. Meghan always has Harrys hand and is compassionate. Who said she had to be perfect? Thats Kates job !💞👩🎤
Everyone in life has issues. The point of the British Royal Family is to give their people strength. To “never complain, and never explain”. To “keep calm and carry on”
As Harry did not live up to this mantra, as his brother has, and certainly as the Queen has, he doesn’t belong in the royal family.
I wonder how our ancestors lived through unimaginable conditions 100 to 300 yrs ago! People who have lived through Childhood trauma will benefit from therapy but they also need some gratitude to the great aspects of their lives!
1st world problems!
I am so sorry for Harry !! Really he is only human and stand alone !! Wishing he could come and live here in Namibia !! He will be happy here and will found love and peace of mind !!!
He will certainly be accommodated in Africa
People love to beat the person that doesn't want to follow a given protocol. But we need to have compassion for others that are suffering.
thank you Doctors
some people have become so toxic with no empathy or compassion and continually bash him and his family for every little thing
they have not shown him and his family any respect at all and i find that these same people would not survive what they dish out to him and his wife
they forget he and his wife are also human even if he is a prince
all he wants is to live his life with his family and be happy and people do not want them to have that
they work pay their bills and do not owe any of these toxic people anything
all of us whether black white etc have a responsibility to change the world and
bring love and kindness to it
we cannot go on as it is with killings of innocent people insults etc
Thank you Dr Gabor thank you gentlemen. Your views are very welcome. ❤
I don’t follow stories about Harry, but I do read and listen to Gabor Mate. I can certainly relate to the difficulties that a family member can experience when they stop participating in the dysfunction. It is very difficult to remain connected to people who are stuck in denial and refuse to recognise the ‘love’ they are offering is actually very damaging. If you care for a person, you make an effort to understand them. When you understand that your treatment of them is harmful, you make a commitment to change. When you prioritise your love for a person, it is easy to change. But when you have other, higher priorities, you will sacrifice the person who is highlighting the problem. You will sacrifice them and you will claim that they are the problem. Harry is a scapegoat. The scapegoat is not the problem. The problem is the problem.
Cogent commentary!!!
His brother was awful to Harry. Trying to talk about how the situation could work, William got so angry that he punched Harry so hard that Harry fell, broke the dogs feeding bowl and cut his head! If that’s what happens when you try to TALK with your family and members respond with physical attacks, how can anyone think this family is doing well? Harry and Meghan made the right choice!
@@LaniAnne402 You have read one version of events. Other versions will be available.
@@LaniAnne402 yeah, i remember, the story in Spare, but i dont know if its true...u think?
@LaniAnne402 his brother also lost his mom, don't forget that. Both William and Catherine tried to point Harry's attention to his mental health and he refused (watch the videos from the Heads together events when all 3 of them worked together). What he tried to talk with Harry that night was Meghan's treatment of the personnel. And Harry never said that his head was cut.
The voice of reason 😌 looking forward to reading harry's book on my summer vacation. I got the exact same impressions of him, and i understand his choices. I think it all seems quite obvious when you know a little bit about his past. I wish him and his little family all the best as i do everyone here ❤
He deserves understanding but why allow his wife to use his family for clout.
@@mayc8674 She isn't. Meghan is living her life, raising their two children, being a loving wife to the man she loves, and working away in the background for their foundation.
@@heatherjones5506 She dumped an ex for a husband and a husband when she saw the opportunity to take over a Prince. That i don't blame her for much but to go into a family that she knows has a century tradition and then goes and tries to destroy it bc she does not like to follow protocols is narcissistic. Now the prince no longer has a family except her. Isn't that what manipulators do. Take you away from all that is dear to you and make it to where they are the only ones available for you?
@mayc8674 Firstly, she never tried to destroy it at all, that is a load of garbage. 2ndly How can one learn protocols when the aides were giving her conflicting information? 3rdly Harry does have a family, the only one's not there are his grandparents. 4thly She never took him away. It was Harry himself that made the decision to step down and move out of England taking his wife and son with him, as he was fed up with the constant press Intrusion into their lives, and the lies they kept printing. Meghan found out he'd walked after it happened as she was not there at the time. So WHY do you persistently blame her for absolutely everything? She'd already been divorced from her husband long before she met Harry, and had split with the guy she had been seeing as well before meeting Harry.
@@mayc8674 Prince Harry has done that to himself not Meghan.
People need to see the human being that dealt trauma that is still affecting him now, people seem to think just because he was born in a royal family, he should not feel the effects of that trauma.
Literally no one is thinking that. You’re just pulling that out of your butt
I noticed that Rangan mentioned “friction” in his family. He did not go into detail because he is mature and has wisdom. They worked it out as a family and are closer now. Once betrayal and mistrust takes place within a family, it is often never recovered.
Thank you for saying this. I have been sympathetic to Harry since he left the royal family and I eagerly bought Spare the same week it was released. It almost feels like I read a different book to the one Dr. Mate read. Nothing about the man in Spare says "mentally healthy, an example of someone doing the hard work to overcome struggles and trauma." His worst and pettiest attacks are saved for his brother, who went through exactly the same trauma Harry did and who is not responsible (neither is Harry) for the dysfunctional family he comes from. When he had the chance to show grace in the book, he did not. When he had the chance to take responsibility for some of his mistakes, he shied away. Honestly the book made me dislike him. Working through trauma is one thing. Blaming everyone around you (for money, no less) is another. I'm genuinely shocked that Gabor Mate, whose work I feel is very important, seems to have bought it so thoroughly. If others had treated Harry the way he treats them in Spare, everyone would see how terrible it is. But because he's Prince Harry it's OK? I don't get it.
I agree with you. Harry is extremely self-entitled and shows arrested development; he’s making a public spectacle of airing his dirty laundry. It’s sad that his father didn’t give him enough attention to get him some mental health help when he needed it as a teen, but Harry is almost a middle-aged man, there’s no excuse at this point for him to behave so immaturely at this point.
I am really shocked the way Prince Harry betrayal by his family so Sad appreciate him he stood by his wife. I pray for Them
If he wanted privacy so much why is Harry let his therapist talk online. Isn't that supposed to be sacred, between Therapist and patient
He didn't mention it because the interview wasn't about him....DUH
Great interview, I agree completely. I have 2 sons and the same age as Diana. I can't help but have so much compassion for Harry. I sure hope Harry and William can reconcile some day. I can't imagine what Harry and Meghan went through. I wouldn't have lasted as a Royal for 5 minutes! ❤🙏🏼Let go snd Let God!
Hi from Guyana so true of Prince Harry Story .
The media has been too mean and wick to Harry and Magan. I pray this should stop. They left the Royal family because the media would not back off Megan. She also had issues with mental health.
The criticism, negative press about Megain is due to her own bad behavior and hypocrisy. She's a narcissist.
Seen a picture or part of a video of them in backseat of car after visiting or being part of something royal. They both looked EXTREMELY tormented and stressed!
RASCISM does not just happen due to colour ... . Am sure most know. Except it is what Meghan is feeling and finds intolerable to live with, however she tells lies, witch is most ridiculous. 😢
The establishment murdered his mother, he must be so confused and angry. I am disgusted how people are treating him and Megan. He has had the courage to break the illusion of the "firn" the royal family are a corrupt mafia with a bunch of pedophiles, Andrew, his uncle Mount Batton and the amount of sex offenders who where knighted. As a UK citizen i am absolutely done with the monarchy, our queen is dead, the adulterous queen we have now is nothing more than a fanily wrecker a jezabell spirit, definitely not the actions of a Godly women, we are Christian country with a whore as a queen, if this family lived in our towns we would shun them.
Thank God, there r VOICES of REASON from these 2 GENTLEMEN 👌👏👍👍
What great sadness to hear about this generational deprivation within Harry’s Royal family. What Great Joy to know that Harry is trying to ensure his children do not suffer deprivation like he did. Harry has the perfect mate in Meghan to ensure their children are cuddled and loved to break that multi-generational deprivation.
Thank You ! this is the truth as I see it also
Thank you for this video. I’ve heard Gabor Mate’ talk about generational trauma before and it is so true. I see it in my own family. Queen Elizabeth became queen at a young age after her father died. Did she even get to mourn her own father’s death or was she even taught that that is possible. It’s no wonder Charles turned out the way he did. Continue your journey into mental freedom Prince Harry.
and let's hope for Harry he gets clean and sober.
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Thank you for this insightful and compassionate interpretation of Harry. I absolutely agree. He is such a different person to William and was always the sensitive one. I applaud his decision to leave the royal life behind him in search of happiness. We should all have the right, freedom and opportunity to pursue that which is best for our own mental health and wellbeing.
Thanks for interviewing this Doctor I became a new sub I think Prince Harry undermines his own intelligence because all his life he’s been told he’s thick. I beg to differ
If Gabor Maté would find himself, he would show us his most beautiful smile and make everyone smile!
He found himself, but wears the mask of this struggles.
I really have a different view on that.
he is sharing the pain of people suffering from trauma how is that fun?
@@martinadewsnap2337 it’s sad because they need to receive joy.
He is perfect as he is.
It seems like "Harry" is more important than the rest of us peasants who grew up more emotionally deprived and with hardships much greater than "Prince Harry". Harry has the economic means to have many material posessions and and pay for all the mental health an medical care he will ever need. He's in a position to meet all kinds of people, make friends. and earn millions. I'm a person whose mother abandoned me and my sister as a child, been widowed and divorced and live in low income housing and can't afford the medical and things I need and no one is asking if they can help me so Harry has so many advantages than the majority of us peasants. Harry's not the the only child who lost a parent to violence and didn't receive the emotional support he/she needed. My god there are thousands upon thousands around the world suffering much greater than Harry.
Does that make his mental health, his experiences any less important? You have completely missed the point! It's attitudes such as yours that are what is wrong with this World.
I'm sorry for your trauma. I'm sorry for everyone's trauma. But thankfully, our personal traumas have not been played out in the public eye and compounded by media moguls, whose intrusions into our private lives have compounded and amplified our trauma purely to make money off of us. Then when we dared to say 'enough!' those same media moguls have not gone on to vilify us out of spite.
Imagine your story splashed across multiple papers and news headlines, but they are effectively blaming you for all the things that have traumatized you. Then imagine that happening every single day constantly from the day your traumas began. That is what is happening still to Harry.
Having a privileged life has effectively amplified his trauma, not protected him from.
Harry is a public figure compared to the rest of us. Isn't his advocacy of talking about mental health a good way of starting the conversations in our respective families and workplace? Certainly no one would talk about our own issues except to those that know us. Let us appreciate his compassion and openness instead of bashing him.
@@pmc8119 Truth!!!
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I guess when all the haters come out, it just proves he is on the right path 💗 stay safe and loved Prince Harry!
Do you also support MeGain? 😐
I cannot give criminal behavior a pass . Sorry. Nice that you can.
Harry is the biggest hater there is .. look at all the hate he’s spread but yet his entitlement means he forces people to refer to him as Prince lmao
Harry is a cycle breaker. Respect.
He is perpetuating the cycle. He’s literally stepped from one dysfunctional situation to another. To break the cycle he needs to own his past, make peace with it and move on. Blaming others is not healthy therapy. He needs to own his current actions and step up, step out and step into his potential. His current drama triangle is toxic af.
Not the way he is going about doing it. By directions of a narcissistic wife he will only end up destroyed. The latest stunt is prime example. Using the front exit after attending an event and then comparing their "paparazzi chase" to his mother's when she died is unexcusable.
Harry is a loose cannon. Concern.
By destroying his relationships w his biological paternal family for a toxic liberal American narcissist and World Wide Privacy tour - what a joke!
Thank you for this interview. I’ve always loved Harry ❤
I always thought he was lucky...maybe wrong.
How refreshing and heart softening to hear understanding and compassion for Harry instead of judgement and rejection.
We’re in the Age of Narcissism.
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2 Timothy, Chapter 3.
I lost my mom also at a young age. But my grandmother and Aunt pulled me through with love. Sometimes it was difficult but most of the time I made my life with the help of god. The death date I’m. Very sad but my life my family help me and I know I will see her again. I wonder if Harry knows Jesus as his Savior the comforter. He is not comforted nor has he had a loving life. I’m sorry for him.
Thank you for a very real and enlightening conversation. I hope the Royal Family gets to watch it for themselvesm
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for telling the truth about Harry being a kind and introspective person trying to make a positive difference in the world. The unending barrage of pure hatred and vile lies from British tabloids is horrifying and disgusting. Harry and Meghan deserve appreciation and respect.
He betrayed his family and his country for money. There is no excuse for that.
I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up in an institution like the RF. I would say a rarefied environment like that lacked expressions of love and warmth. The focus is more on public duty and service.
If the RF and the people around them identified with their roles very seriously, it would be a very surreal experience to deal with so much formality, protocol, masks and personas. I’d say “gilded cage” is apt. But also utterly surreal like puppets in a theatre
On top of that the relationship with the public is disturbing from my point of view, where they are treated as Icons- venerated and separate to, but also a sense of ownership by, the general public. People projecting their own selves, ideals, devotion and love or hate on to them all the time. I’m saying it’s disturbing to be having that kind of experience and relationship with the world
I’m obviously speaking from my perspective as an outsider. Imagine being born into that, it’s all normalised. But you’d know something wasn’t right, something is missing. How can any of us judge Harry really, we have no idea. It was/is a different reality he was born into
A lot of anger and venom is directed at him for speaking out against his family. I haven’t followed this much or read his book…but I’ve read a fair few comments here and elsewhere about Harry hurting his “loving family”. This is quite complex as there seems to be a lot of projection and idealisation going because they are the/ “our” ROYAL family. “How dare he!?”
Not saying they weren’t loving in the best way they could, you could actually say that about every family. But of course they nonetheless can cause a huge amount of damage and pass on generational trauma.
I understand I’m going to be lacking nuance about the queen saying they can’t be half in/ half out. However that is also a common pattern in dysfunctional families. You will be scapegoated and cut off if you don’t tow the family line.
If Harry’s behaviour is a little worrying at times as I’ve heard people say, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’d say he’s having a colossal culture shock having so much freedom, and adjusting to “normal” life as a civilian. He’s also had a monumental loss with being effectively cut off from his family and the RF institution. He could be having an identity crisis, as anyone would who has gone though so much change. Especially difficult in a public facing role where there is so much judgment directed at him.
I’d say give him some time and he’ll find himself. He’ll gather up his true inner strength and power, beyond anything he had when in the RF. I believe he’s got a VERY big role, yet to be played out. He is an instigator of change. And that is always going to be messy, chaotic and met with resistance, especially so when going against the force of the monarchy.
But I do believe ultimately change is inevitable, and also needed. And Harry is still playing a big part in the monarchy, whether he is recognised as a member of it or not.
He is really spotlighting the monarchy for our attention. Whether the monarchy will ultimately survive is the question, but it will definitely need to evolve and adapt.
Whether or not publicising his pain is helping Harry heal is something that only time will tell. The one thing we can say about members of the Royal Family - with all its quirks - is that they have lived very long lives, and generally over a period of time found themselves. If stress and lack of love kills, it is certainly not killing any of them. It is to be seen whether Harry achieves the same outcome or he crashes and burns.
My life experience tells me that trying to resolve trauma in public only exacerbates it and turns it into entertainment. Whether Dr Mate helped Harry or turned him into a spectacle is something that we will only know in 10 years time.
Spot on
Very well said. There's a difference between, "I have X trauma, and I'm working it out, and here's how you too can find mental health resources". Vs publicizing every detail of trauma, public blaming, and perpetual victimhood, etc. The second doesn't result in much personal growth.
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I believe he has stated being honest with the public is part of his healing.
@@eh3477 With all due respect, I totally disagree w/your analysis that Harry is public blaming and claiming victimhood. Rather what I do see is a toxic press that insists on painting Harry in a negative light for whatever purposes they believe justifies such unprofessional behavior!
A public therapy session? How does that work for one who's traumatized because of a lack of privacy?
The difference is in his having choice in the matter.
I guess he has the right to decide.
@@hightide4782 how has he specifically helped others?
Harry and Megan are never with their children though, in the last 3 months they have spent numerous weeks apart from them in foreign countries. As a parent I could not do this.
Thank you so much for your kindness in this topic. I have not understood why people were so enraged at Prince Harry and his lovely wife. I am an American who fled to Mexico to escape the insanity that is the US I did not realize how pervasive the problem is.
That wife of his made this conversation polarised. She is a narcissist hell bent on destroying eveyrhing on her path.
We have no idea how gifted we are to be ordinary. May Harry find his extraordinary humanity in being ordinary.
Thats all fine, and understandable. There was no need to make such a scandal and drama about it. If you want to live a happier, emotionally gratifying life, just do it quietly, without making such a fuss...if you allow the whole world to pry into your private, most intimate life, then they will destroy you. People love to gossip and pick on the odd one out, like in a chicken coop.
THE WORLD PRIE'S INTO THEIR LIVES!!
I don't blame them for wanting to tell their story!
Megan went from being a beloved duchess to the most hated woman in the world, literally, in a week's time! Gd forbid, they can't have anyone upstage Catherine so Megan had to go!!! Suddenly she was princess pushy, a narcissist, dragging Harry along, can't have babies of her own. Her mother was a jailbird. If it was bad, it was Megan! They were prolly looking for ways to blame her for the gloomy weather!
@katyayani9092 she was never loved. Stop assuming and talk for others. You don't talk for me and my opinion.
It does show how evil humans really are. They love to jump on people who have suffered.
Meghan took advantage of Harry and encouraged him to commercialize his childhood challenges