What the heck is orienting? (and why is it so important?!)
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2024
- This quick mini-training is on one of the more important topics when it comes to healing trauma and restoring nervous system wellness and that topic: ORIENTING. Enjoy!
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WHAT?! That car accident example just awoke something in me. I was hit by car from the left side over ten years ago and my body is constantly twisting to the right. It doesn't feel as safe or natural to turn or to even look to the left than it does to the right. Very interesting!
Thank you for these videos, they're full of important stuff to look into.
Oh wow, this happened to me too and I started to develop chronic pain in my right side about a year or so after… I actually never thought about how that could possibly be connected until now!
My homework this week with my SE therapist is to practice orienting. This video has really helped me by providing context about how orienting fits into the larger picture of nervous system function and why it is important. Also, when you said that trauma can cause sections of your orientation field to be blocked out, or even for tunnel vision to develop, it felt like a Eureka moment for me, as I have recently been put on Zoloft (I want off), but--at lower dosages, in the early weeks--two happy things did occur, ostensibly thanks to Zoloft: one, my insane, chronic pressure headache finally lifted, and a week or two later, I suddenly "rediscovered" peripheral vision. I felt like Alice in Wonderland both times..."Oh, what?...Where is my headache?" And, "Excuse me?--What is that?--A mightily enlarged field of vision! I didn't know it was gone!" Irene Lyon, THANK YOU for these educational videos. I have been in CBT for four years...that helped me to get through a divorce after 26 years (finalized on the winter solstice) and to go No Contact with former spouse, mother, sister, and a good deal of extended family, family friends, etc...EMDR was too traumatizing; CODA was also traumatizing...just started SE in late November, and am so hopeful...last week, started a women's trauma group, and in March will start a Loving Kindness Self-Compassion group...have learned basics of Mindfulness...have re-started a regular yoga practice, quit cigarettes (started smoking during divorce) and quit coffee...am trying so hard to break through this deep trauma, to perceive what has been invisible to me within myself, and to integrate it. To be soft and quiet and at peace, at peace and quiet and soft. Thank you. I will look into your courses.
Restoration tips start around 27:00.
Learning how to driv😢my ptsd, adhd, hyper focused yet unattached. Slow & steady. So grateful for the help here. 💚
I really appreciate how well you explain these concepts!
Explorative orienting has been a major key for calming my system. I had to learn and practice this and I realise now having watched this video that I was one of those kids that shut down and stopped seeing and noticing things. Love your work. Thank you.
As someone who is already hyper-aware and sensitive, it seems like orienting more would make me an anxious mess. How do you orient when you already feel like you're orienting, but sometimes not in the healthiest way (if that makes any sense). Like I can be driving and I'll check my rearview mirror, or walk outside and immediately notice the smells or chill in the air, but it doesn't necessarily make me feel safe or comfortable, it makes me feel anxious because I'm so aware of it all.
Hey meany mouse, Seth here from Team Lyon. Great question! There are couple things you can try. One - only practice Orienting at first in a space where you feel safe, or at least where you know cognitively that you are safe. Start very small - orient to your lap, your hands, the floor. Find just one thing that is easy to look at and focus on that. You can also orient through your other senses - to the support of the thing you are sitting on, the feel of your clothing, or to pleasing sounds, tastes, and smells. Orientation also means orienting to our internal experience so you can come out of the environment and go more inside for a while as well. And if you want in-depth guidance and learning around Orientation consider joining us for SmartBody SmartMind - registration is open until the end of day Sunday. smartbodysmartmind.com/
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How are you doing? I have the same problem!
Being intentional instead of reactive to the environment is a great idea. I’m hyper vigilant and am well aware of my surroundings naturally.
Orienting includes the practice of noticing "the absence of threat". Practicing this initially in a familiar environment by becoming curious about your environment and the visual cues that make you feel "safe"
You are an amazing at presenting this information!! Thank you!
Wow! This sounds absolutely amazing!!!
Near the end you mentioned your risk of putting yourself out there. Thank goodness you did and continue to do so. And, with the human nuances, as in a master painting or in a symphony, it makes it human and connects with humans.
Beautifully Spiritually blessed, so intelligent and a great leader, most kind, compassionate, empathetic, a huge thank you from Europe.
Brilliant Irene, thank you! This is exactly me and I now have hope for recovery of childhood traumas at 50 years of age 😄
Yeah! So glad to hear you now have hope!
Here are some resources that might be helpful to start (if you haven't already explored them!)...
Healing Trauma Series - irenelyon.com/healing-trauma
7 Steps to De-Stress - irenelyon.com/7-steps-opt-in-IL
21 Day Nervous System Tune-up - irenelyon.com/tuneup/
Here's to hope and recovering!
Nicole - Team Lyon Moderator
Irene, this was beyond awesome I have done everything I know to do to heal my nervous system and followed every teacher and every speaker but this is the most awesome healing journey. Your information is timely and creates healing for me and I thank you very much. God bless you in your journey to help those of us who have traumas in our life to heal.
thanks for giving me hope ♥
Great video thanks Irene.💜🙂
Hi 😁 i just started these. Hoping with all the holey spirit in me that these will help 💕
Thank you Irene! This was great hope for healing my system, thinking about doing the 21 day course as I've tried everything else out there.
Cheryl Wilsher Limberlife #same #youarentalone
Hi Cheryl. Great! Glad this gave you a little added hope. If you can start the 21 day course this week, I'd recommend it :) It has helped 1000s of people all around the world. You'll have the learning for life and benefit from it for many years to come! NEW HERE?
Here's the link for ease: irenelyon.com/tuneup
Take care, Irene. :)
I have been learning about polyvagal theory.
I just found you today and I’m enjoying your videos!
Hi Lisa, Seth here from Team Lyon. Yay! So glad you found Irene's work and are enjoying :) You might want to also check out her free, 3-part Healing Trauma video training that's happening right now! It's a deep dive into a lot of essential education... irenelyon.com/healing-trauma-youtube/
This one make sence 👌
Brilliant.
Do i understand it; use youre 5 senses? Feeling, hearing, smelling, watching etc?
Thank you🙏
Thank you!
Thanks Irene, I have been orienting a lot ~ particularly while out in nature (every day) but I have never realised that I always tend to orient to the left. I tried orienting very slowly from left to right and noticed quite a difference in my body when I began to turn to the right. Interesting and will investigate.
Wonderful observations Helen! Keep it up.
Do i understand it; use youre 5 senses? Feeling, hearing, smelling, watching etc?
@@unknown-8696 Yes, to my knowledge. All the senses, with intention.
Great video, watching replay, new sup, sending love from Finland ❤️ I have been struggling with anxiety and depression my hole life, only resently I have been able to reconice my traumas from my childhood and after that in bad relationships. It had big impact on my life and I have been so lost. I did get diagnosed with adhd/add, it's treated with medication and I feel like now finally I have change of making something out of my life, but its hard to now where to start, some things can make me relive stuff for days and weeks, then I use my phone to calm me down.. I cannon financial reasons get to therapy, I see nurs but it's more about talking what u did last week etc.. Can u give easy tips where to get started , I think I am stuck in freeze mode, I can remember when i was about ten when i first started to feel disconnected from others, but I cannot remember what happened to me for most parts..
Hei Anniina, oletko löytänyt langanpäätä mistä aloittaa? Irenen nettisivuilla on hyviä vinkkejä, itse katsoin pitkään näitä UA-cam-videoita, sitten hänen kolmiosaisen Healing Trauma- videosarjansa jonka saa tilata maksutta. Myöhemmin pienemmän maksullisen kurssin. Kolme vuotta tulee täyteen ja aina vaan kiinnostaa.
Ashayana Dean also helps heal in this way. Maharic seals and cathar healing.
Thanks v much
I just love all of your teachings, Irene! The only thing is there are a LOT of UMM's.
thanks for the feedback!
This was a live video. Hopefully they get easier over time!
Please do another one
Hi, thanks for your videos; I've been looking into somatic experiencing and polyvagal theory recently so they've been really helpful. I have a question though, when the cheetah appears and the hyena runs, isn't that a flight response? I can see how defensive orienting kicks in and dampens the flight response if there turns out to be no risk. But when there is a risk, where does flight end and defensive orienting begin? Thanks
Hi Matthew, Seth here from Team Lyon. The Defensive Orienting response is always the first thing that happens when novelty appears in a mammals environment, then the assessment - is this a threat, or not? This happens VERY quickly and sometime almost invisibly, as this can happen not just through the eyes, but also through the ears, sense of smell, or even just feeling a 'vibe'. Then, if it is determined that there is a threat, the flight/fight response kicks in. If it determines there is no threat, then the survival response does not kick in. That's how it is in the wild. With humans who are traumatized it can be much trickier though, as they may have learned to suppress their survival responses, or be living with a lot of freeze such that they aren't orienting to their environment, or on the flip side be hypervigilant and going into fight/flight from things that are harmless, but that look enough like past threats that the system will initiate a survival response.
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This is great information. Thank you. I realize I've been doing some orienting work without knowing the concept. Now that I know the concept I can shape some of my practices to be more useful. I have a mediation, for example, where I build awareness of my own body and then progressively expanding awareness out in a wider and wider distances using the senses and imagination. Understanding how many people have trauma related orienting issues really helps me to consider how I will present that meditation in the future. One of my interests lately is helping myself and my loved ones to develop a sense of safety in their environment.
Can a person just get mostly stuck in 'hypervigilant' orienting. I am extremely sensitive to my surroundings...mostly visual but sometimes smell or sound. It can be as subtle as just not wanting to go into a restaurant because the decor is 'ugly' or 'too bright of colors'. And if somehow I end up in some place that doesn't feel good (look good) then I can feel 'depressed' and all I can focus on is to get out. And I notice that when I am walking in a crowd (the mall or on a sidewalk etc.) I am always the one 'moving' out of the way of people. They are just busy doing something else (unaware) and if I didn't move then they would have 'bumped' into me. I am always very aware of where other people are in relation to me at all times. I NEVER just 'bump' into people. It just seems like it's very imbalanced in how aware I am versus how 'unaware' other people seem. This video has really helped me a lot. So often it is recommended to go in 'nature' to get calm and peaceful. I love nature and I used to be able to be in it 'quite well' but now (after near death experience) I try to go walk in nature and I am just startled with every sound or movement (a leaf blowing). It ends up being really 'stressful' and exhausting. I like the example of 'orienting' to the mug. That seemed 'doable'. I think that I could practice that more often ..where it's not so overwhelming. Is the way I would 'titrate' for going out in nature, to just do more of the 'observing' orienting consciously and to do it for a very short amount of time? Thank you so much for all of this teaching. I had heard you talk about 'orienting' before and I sort of 'got it' but this really helped go to another level and now I can see how I can 'work on' this more in a practical way. Thank you SO MUCH! You are so amazing! I hope you keep doing more of these videos.
Hi Sarah
Thanks for watching and continuing to learn. YES someone can be stuck in hyperviligant orienting. This would be simply classified as living in survival stress, or being dysregulated in the nervous system so it is super important to do the practice to start to shift out of this as it is highly taxing on the body's physiology. If you'd like to do more learning with me and my team I would highly recommend starting with the 21-day nervous system tune-up as a starting point if you haven't yet already. This week we have some bonus lessons for you to if you get in by Friday April 12:irenelyon.com/tuneup/
Take good care and keep up the learning and healing.
Irene.
Why is it so hard to orient or focus out? I feel like I can’t do it unless I’m holding myself or tending my body because it’s just scary and uncomfortable to be focusing outward when internal focus has been happening for so long. I hate tensing my body unconsciously but I don’t feel like I can orient without doing it and keeping myself safe? Does this make sense and will this disappear in time?
Hi Stevenson Shelley, Jen here from Team Lyon. Often when we have certain types of trauma the nervous system learns to associate the external world with threat and lack of safety. Where this is the case, it can be very challenging to orient to the outside world.
If you want to explore this, you might consider starting to orient by keeping your attention small (only looking out for a few moments) and close in. For example, you might just take a few moments to orient to your hand, and then turn your attention back inside, and notice how that is for you. This can definitely change in time if you take the steps to grow nervous system regulation and capacity the way that Irene teaches in her online programs. Hope this helps to clarify a few things!
It would be so appreciated if there could be shorter, stream-lined version made for this topic with you. I recognize it is important to cover what’s what for trauma before approaching how to tackle the ripples of healing, however this vid feels first take/wandering and it loses me several times before getting to the topic. I enjoy your videos as a rule. Just struggling to stay with this one.
Hi Bingley's Teas, here is a much shorter video on the topic - ua-cam.com/video/Tttzp6Oc3R4/v-deo.html . Cheers! - Seth from Team Lyon
So in a nutshell orienting is assessing (consciously or unconsciously) our external environment for potential safety or threat.
Hi Laura Wilcox, Jen here from Team Lyon. Yes, that's accurate, and when we're really resting in a down regulated state it's happening automatically in the background. This is very different from assessing from a place of hypervigilence.
When it's happening automatically, we're simply present to what is, and if a threat arises our attention is drawn there. It's often helpful to think wild animals grazing in a field or relaxing in the sun, and the way the animal's ears may perk up if something rustles near by. Hope that helps.
@@teamlyon3109 Hello Jen, When trying to assess from a place of hyper-vigilance, it is much harder to be sure of my assessments/perceptions. And when they other one is not supportive and I am nervous or fearful of them, my intelligence and functions really are not that accessible. And As an Asperergian, I often get misinterpreted, even w people working with the diagnosed ones and who are even a trained psycho-therapist and one having studied medicine. Could it be that they really don't know about trauma, despite its common-ness and even self-evidence, and I have told them. the terrible is , when they make use of my orienting by faking signals of non-danger ( low, calm, warm voice, not saying anything upsetting but talk of wanting to help, saying i'll get the help I need, in order to get me off the track of the insidious truth? (They planned an unlawful guardianship behind my back, while I had applied for a Good Man (where one keeps one's legal rights to make one's decisions)?
Could they think I am being silly, stupid, lazy,or wicked etc when not acting according to my intelligence itself (because I am not able to in that arousing, hyper-vigilant, ashamed, co-dependent , wanting to do right and good but knowing I can't because I don't know how to? situation)Could they not realize that I was making stress- and trauma signals/reactions involuntarily as well as in desperate attempts to communicate the truth of the danger they were/are putting me to? I haven't even tried to tell the man he can't take my legal rights, steal my money. withholding me my life , calm, orientation, decisions, choices. life.style (which is a healthy, simple, natural one)i have suspected that
I have a mix-state, or alternating btw freeze, fawn, fight and flee responses, being in the dangerous "tunnel of death" of burn-out with artificial parasympathetic body state that the body makes in order to help me save energy by not getting excited , stay calm and save energy to live.
It seems unlikely that people shouldn't sense these connections in their work experience, being human beings themselves. As I) have used my acquired knowledge of the human being to help them get aware that I have the same functions and basic needs as they, it hasn't worked, because they don't see me as an equal human being as themselves, but something of a lesser kind. Do they learn this attitude on the hiring, or do they adopt it on their own accord upon starting work, as some kind of bad coping mechanism?Just harden themselves and their conscience, in order to have it easy, make extra money, do as others, ?
Some seem evil, behave sadistic, but some feel basically good (I may be wrong). I thought: Are they being taught, pressured, persuaded to do evil to me? Like the nazi nurses, who were gradually step by tiny step lured into killing handicapped children -- and even non-handicapped ones - by slow, gradual desensitization? And my social security workers , who each did only a small part, don't know me, and my history and thus can't see a time-line, cause and effect, not have perspective of who I really am behind their ongoing traumas, and may probably even be told negative untrue or twisted things about me, as one psychiatrist let me know?
I must defend myself, am good at language normally, but paralysed when it comes to this. Because I have been withheld info so I was unable to orientate, assess and make decisions for my life. They know it, I wrote innumerous good emails and clear phone-calls, and taking someone's home and money surprisingly and without warning IS threatening and must be on purpose. One doesn't have to be handicapped, sick, sleepless, stressed out and weakened, fearful to get harmed and unsure by that, right? i'd be so grateful for your comprehensible reply. Sorry for bein g lengthy. Happy midsummer.
@@Medietos, there are many definitions of trauma out there so understandings and credentials can vary widely. Not everyone understands and works with trauma through this nervous system lens. If you have someone in your life who is open to it, you might consider sharing some of these resources (such as Irene's free Healing Trauma training or Peter Levine's Waking the Tiger) and see if they are willing to learn and discuss them with you.
There are many people our there doing good work, some more skilled than others, some a better fit for some people and needs than for others. And, when we have patterns from (early) childhood where people weren't there for us, we often perpetuate and repeat these experiences into adulthood. Working with Irene's more comprehensive SmartBody SmartMind program and/or a practitioner trained in an approach that specializes in working with early/developmental trauma can be supportive.
SmartBody SmartMind: smartbodysmartmind.com
Waking the Tiger: www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/100541/waking-the-tiger-healing-trauma-by-peter-a-levine-phd/
-Jen, Team Lyon
why is the pain so addicting? I've been playing save my mother for the last 50 years, thank you for the help.
Hi scott phillips, Jen here from Team Lyon. The short answer is that this how are physiology works - survival is paramount.
nervouscomesfamilies.andsignificant
When I have anxiety heightened I start petting my skin then find bumps and old scabs and pick them in the trance state for hours then I would come out of it all bloody and sore and feel guilty for hurting myself this way. Is this orienting too? Thank you
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. We cannot offer consultation in this comment section, but here are some videos where Irene speaks about skin picking: ua-cam.com/video/FMy7FNPrw0k/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/r9ea1n73Kp4/v-deo.html Hope this helps!
My startle response that orients me into shut down is something that I learned to call or identify as shark music. My shark music is whining. I tense up immediately.
I'm new here. Just seen the video.
Hi Irene thanks, indeed it was useful, having big problem as soon i reached 50, life change completely, is like the nervous system got exhausted.
Working very hard against something very complex (Not feeling like a real human any more). Any more suggestion?
May be you are disconnected from your body, your life.
Hi Anthony,
This sounds like it might be due to trauma (incomplete/stuck survival energy) and dis-regulation in the system.
I would start by watching the Healing Trauma Series and go from there if it speaks to you!
irenelyon.com/healing-trauma
Nicole - Team Lyon Moderator
@@IreneLyon hi irene! I have the same. Disconnected SEVERE from reality. What can i do? Is orienting also good and use my 5senses? Smelling hearing etc? How can i get out of chronic freeze? Can you help me!?
@@unknown-8696 I would suggest checking out this video Irene did - ua-cam.com/video/9EyqPOI3auk/v-deo.html
Also, orienting is a START. Bit by bit. Even if you are severely disconnected from reality. Keep it simple and try doing it for short periods of time (even for 3 seconds as you read this, would it be ok to feel your butt on whatever you're sitting on?).
I would also suggest checking out the 7 Steps to De-Stress as you might resonate with some of what's shared in there - irenelyon.com/7-steps-opt-in-IL
Nicole - Team Lyon
Restoration tips start around 27:00.
The sound is the catalyst.
Hiya from liverpool uk xx
are yoga nidras/body scan meditations a type of exploratory orientation?
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Jen here from Team Lyon. In a very board sense they might be considered ways of exploratory orientation to one's inner experience, and this is different than the type of orienting that Irene is talking about here which is more about the way we orient to ourselves, our breath and to our relationship to the environment.
I'll link to a short video of Irene's that might help to give you a better sense. Irene also offers monthly Drop In classes for $19 USD (you can attend live or buy the recordings of past classes). I'll link to one of those that's orienting focused in case you want to experience Irene guiding you through it in detail.
The importance of looking both ways - ua-cam.com/video/TtfYKos7cNs/v-deo.html
Orienting as a Resource Drop In Class, February 20, 2021 (scroll down until you see this one) - irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1#archive
start 3:26
07:32 "the field of safety"
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Belgium
Does anyone know the link of the cheetah impala Viedeo?
Hello from Germany
I have severe pyshical pain from trauma early trauma. In my upper back. Is this relates to the vagal nerve?
Or is this pain from holding up my shoulders because I do not feel safe in this world?
@@sissiloveable14 - Seth here from Team Lyon. What you describe sounds like it's probably more related to the second one - holding the shoulders up - which we call a bracing pattern.
@@teamlyon3109 thank you so much. Can I read somewhere about this bracing pattern?
Hi@@sissiloveable14, Jen here from Team Lyon. I don't think Irene has any resources that talks about these bracing patterns. I'll check and report back if I learn of any resources.
@@teamlyon3109 OK thank you so much.
Hi Irene. I have a question. If everybody is traumatised, which it seems so just looking around us, from this perspective of trauma and mental health, then the cause must also be systematic and structural, much harder to fight on individual level. Have you thought on those lines?
Hi CassandraAveolii, Jen here from Team Lyon. Irene talks and teaches along these lines in that she emphasizes that our current systems and structures make the doing the work of growing nervous system regulation an imperative (my words). She also emphasizes that we grow regulation on the individual level, it ripples out to our families, our communities, and the planet. AND as we grow regulation, we also have more agency with which to create change however and wherever we choose to be change agents.
Can we get politicians like Irene - it would massively help the world!!! Somatic presidents or leaders of countries lol! I say lol because it’s a dream of course she is too nice to be a politician you have to be an abuser to be one! If only we could run communities and countries with this wisdom
I'm curious if a traumatic event impacting orienting can account for people who are excessively clumsy or clutzy and always getting injured?
Hello, Sophia here from Team Lyon.
Thank you for your comment and for sharing about what is going on for you. We don't generally assess individual symptoms because of the complex nature of this work. Irene's work helps most people heal at the nervous system level, which generally has a positive impact on the entire human system.
If you'd like to learn more and work on your nervous system, you can explore Irene's free resources, housed under this link: irenelyon.com/free-resources/
Anthony De Mey,
Hi Anthony from Aruba.
Hello!! Love Aruba. Great beaches!
Hopefully you found the training and video presentation useful!
Irene.
Is defensive orientation the same thing as neuroception?
Hi lovesarita, Jen here from Team Lyon. Neuroception is the nervous system's ability to distinguish threat from danger from life threatening situations. Defensive orientation is the state intended for use when we're orienting to potential threat, though many of us (over)use it as a way to function in everyday life. They are related, but not one and the same.
Do i understand it; use youre 5 senses? Feeling, hearing, smelling, watching etc?
Hi,
That's a good place to start exploring. Noticing what senses are more available and allow you to connect with yourself and your environment in a way that feels safer. There's a chance that some senses might bring on more of a response than others. ie sound might be over stimulating for you, but touching/feeling the softness of a blanket might be soothing.
Nicole - Team Lyon
@@teamlyon3109 thanks!
But with disconecction the 5senses are not really open. If i hear a loud noice i can nothing do on that.
What are more great practise to come more back into the window of tolerance,?
@@unknown-8696 - The exercise in this video might be helpful for you to sooth and settle and stay in your window of tolerance while orienting - ua-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/v-deo.html
How does someone get the feeling that the world is a safe place, that they are safe in the world?
I wonder if I'm instinctively orienting when I'm gardening and housekeeping?
Hey Anna. great q's.
Gardening and housekeeping would technically be considered activities, and actually really good activities .. so keep them up! And definitely when you are doing them you are noticing and observing so you are orienting whilst doing them. In terms of them being a kind of orienting that is for exploratory and relaxation purposes, not so much. Maybe try a bit of both!
If you have already, I'd love to suggest the "tune-up" course that I have to give you more practice with as well as more education. irenelyon.com/tuneup
Take care, Irene.
Cant find the cheetah Video. Anyone knows the title?
I'm afraid to orient 🙏🏻 it feels unsafe. How to start, I've no support
Hi Really There. First, it's great that you have that awareness that orienting feels unsafe - it sounds like you are already tapping into the survival energy in your system, so please know that this is a natural response. It is not uncommon at all for orienting to bring stuff up for people, because it's about deliberately connecting to the environment in an embodied way, and very often the last time we were connected like that is when the scary, overwhelming stuff happened.
See what happens if you start by orienting in other ways. You could have your eyes closed if that makes it feel safer, and just experiment with connecting with the felt sense of support under your seat, or by listening to sounds, or smelling scents.
If you don't have support, it could be useful to join Irene's 21 Day Nervous System Tune Up (FYI - on sale for $100 off now til Monday), so you could have support, and guidance with these practices. If you want to try something out for free to see if Irene's guidance feels like a good fit, I recommend downloading and working with this.. irenelyon.com/15-min-exercise
@@IreneLyon thank you for answering. I am thinking to join the 21 days but my laptop is broken and I'm afraid to miss out 🙏🏻 I'll be trying your link 🙏🏻 thank you so much 💕
@@reallythere - got it. No problem to wait. Though if you know you do want to do it you can always get it now while it's on sale. You can start the program at any time and take as long as you need to complete it - you have all the material for life. Also, the site is relatively mobile friendly, so it can all be done on your phone. Whatever works best for you!
27 minutes.
Isn't orienting another way to say "mindfulness?" Sounds a lot like that.
Hi Quick PS, Seth here with Team Lyon. There are certainly similarities, however the main difference is that often mindfulness practices only ask you to be aware of the internal environment, whereas orienting is about being aware of both the internal and external in multiple ways - what is around you, how does your system respond, can you feel the support from the environment (your feet on the ground and/or butt in the chair), what is your breath doing - ideally all at once, though that does take time to build.
@@IreneLyon Thank you!
Great video. Would love to see the links she mentions posted in the description for the video.
Hello? How low a hell are you greeting people with?
So well explained. Thank you. I do have lots of trauma since being a child. My safe place was nature, painting and singing and my guitar. It's people I have problems with , agressive people and I have this phobia, I guess, of getting lost when I drive, like I'm going to die if I get lost. I love living in the present moment. ECKHART TOLLE really helped me free myself from analyzing everything by teaching me the present moment. I went to seek help also, but haven't worked with my trauma yet or so little. I love talking to people. I'm beginning to know I have to chose them and express my limits. This is new to me. I succeeded 3 times. I feel everyone and warns me down. I have chronic fatigue. So, how do I know which course to take where I'm at.?? Thank you for your videos - helps me understand. :)
@carollecampeau4750, Jen here from Team Lyon. It sounds like you're already making some of the changes you're wanting to make, which is a great start. You asked about which course to take. Irene's 21 Day Nervous System Tune Up can be a great place to start. It's a self-study course that you can do at your own pace, and in your own time.
You can also repeat it over and over as the benefits and learning tend to deepen with repetition. You also have the opportunity to ask questions about your experience and have them answered by trained nervous system practitioners. I'll share a link to where you can learn more if you'd like.
21 Day Nervous System Tune Up - 21daytuneup.com