Are you highly sensitive to people yelling or being firm? (How to survive)
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- Опубліковано 11 січ 2025
- This video is made for educational purposes only and is not intended to replace medical advice.
Being highly sensitive is not a bad thing. But when you are a sensitive child or sensitive teen growing up in a less than sensitive world - it can get a bit overwhelming to say the least.
In this video I am helping sensitive children, teens and young adults who are highly sensitive and tend to get crushed by those around them.
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I absolutely hate when people yell at me/just yell in general it really scares me..
Make that a 3
Make it 4..
Make it 5 :/
make that 6
make that 7
I even cry when I get angry
Me to
I can’t help my self from doing that, that how I’m raised, I’ve gotten mad at my parents, friends, siblings ect. But I can be angry with out tears. I think that part falls with my depression
Same
Same
ah yes and i remember a long time ago i was so mad i got a bloody nose
I was yelled at pretty severely by my mother through my childhood and my whole life. I’m 26 now. Whenever someone yells, confronts or even talks to me in a stern way I instantly become that four year old being yelled at by his mother for no reason and I crumble, feel sad, anxious, teary and depressed afterwards about it. I’m glad I’ve identified why this happens to me but now I have to figure out how to overcome it.
I also feel the same, I'm 23 rn and I got hurt when my mother yell to my little sister
It feels like I'm gonna be that way when I grow up
I’m 12 but one of my parents always yell at and it scares me sometimes. So now I always have that memory when people yell.
@@rihannaballs Same, I'm highly sensitive to shouting because of my parents yelling at my constantly
@@rihannaballs Same, I am 12 too my mom and my dad are almost divorced and everytime I go to court I always get confused that with whom I should live. My mom is not so educated but my dad is, but he cheated over my mom. I dont think that he is a good man but he is a good dad but he is mentally a bit weak and my mom too. My mom yells at me to be like a sincere quiet girl .
I'm a guy and when someone yells at me I start tearing up and then they tell me I'm a crybaby and that I'm such a little girl and it sucks
Ikr me too
It's alright, you have the right to show your emotion. It's because you're human. It's better to be emotional than to box it up inside you.
Its human emotions that's pressurizing men...
@@whatthehell7975 Nah. It's more like society is pressuring men to be emotionless and a toxic "alpha" man. Men should be able to express their emotions and not be criticized for being simply human. That's mostly the reason why males commit suicide more, cause they feel that it's wrong for them to ask for help and stuff.
@@chrissyp6775 I think that it's very true and thoughtfull
It must be awesome to have a therapist as your parent, they're always caring and thinking about how you might feel..... 😢
You get it I hate it especially when:
-parents swear
- parents fight
-Accuse you of things you did not do
-take out things on you
But at the end of the day they are our parents so it’s okay
Yeah
They were the ones who yell at me🙂
They are the problem in first place. Kept yelling at their kids.
I know a guy who works at a rock station. Complete opposite of what u think
This is exactly what I feel. The sequence goes like this: Shock - Anxiety - Paralysis - Courage - Overwhelmed - Unsure - Endangered - Anger - Fear - Sadness - Cowardice. Another instance lost.
Literally a trigger for me
Exactly....like spot on. Thank you for laying it out so precisely.
When someone yells at me I don't get offended or anything like that but I just start crying ou of nowhere and its so frustrating and I just end up embarrassing myself
Same and I’m a guy so people try to call me a crybaby
Sometimes I do that
I think i do get it from child hood. I dont cry at everything. But i think if its something im invested in, & im about to be yelled at, i still might not cry. But the feelings are there. Maybe its evolved into anger, at least outwardly... My kid shuts down sometimes... I told her some several mths back id work on it. It does frustrate me sometimes tho when i cant get a peep out of her
same. and I get made fun of and called a crybaby because of it.
@@capy4765 Go to a military school.
I remember once in class when my teacher shouted at me because I was struggling to understand. Maybe I took it out of context but I just remember feeling awful and like I wanted to burst out crying because of the pressure of her being so mad at me and also the pressure of the class watching me because I looked stupid. The same thing happens at home with me and even tho I'm now 14 I still struggle. This video helped me a little, thank you :)
What kind of teacher is yelling at you when you don't understand? That's absolutely horrible
this happened to me today
Omg something similar happened to me:
1. This happened when I was younger, a sub took my backpack thinking I stole something and took my stuff and gave it to someone else I was like 5 and started crying
2. A sub (again) full on screamed at me for having a bad position and saying that I'm taking away other peoples chances of becoming professionals, and another student yelled at me to hurry up, I almost cried but didn't want to look weak or stupid
@@igotjam_inmypants Wow did you get your stuff back or no?
@@oyoykny4406 yeah, idk what happened to the sub tho
We try to be like😐 when somebody yells at us, but we end up being like😰😰😰😰😭😭😭😭😭
The way this is so true
So true lmaooooo
ikr 😭
it’s so frustrating
That's very true
I started cry but I can't control anxiety of yell
gayatrika agrawat get some medical pills
jetnight 88 what is it called?
@@cjlovesyou5674 wouldn't recommend that( to shut your self) , I have the same problem , acknowledge were it comes from ( childhood properly) get deep into your self and seek a therapist (it does help).
Me to.
i get a panic attack and it's not just yelling any sign of being angry or irritated or even just like someone closing a fridge kinda hard
I am a teenager and I still struggle with this! Thank you for your video. I get fairly anxious when an instructor raises their voice towards the class such as "why didn't you do your homework." I always tend to turn it inwards, even if I have done my work or something similar. I am really trying to get a hold on this before I have to fully enter the workforce and I really appreciate your advice. I wish my parents would have done the "yell/tone" game with me!
I cry when I get yelled at,I'm really sensitive and I get upset,triggered over the smallest things,even when somebody ask me a question,it sounds rude to me because I have hard times answering questions and I'm only 12 and nobody understands my sensitivity nor shyness. I hold back tears but I sometimes just let it out,I just feel like a crybaby.
it okay I felt the same too and together maybe not to end it but slowly reduce it.
OMG I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME YOU LITERALLY DESCRIBED ME!! im sensitive when people raise their voice and i have to hold back tears and whenever i cry people comfort me but i just feel selfish and idk what to do im also 12 and im loosing grip of reality and its scary i start believing everything i watch on youtube (dream smp lore) and on anime apps. Plz i need someone to talk to!
Go to a military school.
It’s okay me too
same lol, whenever i get scolded from my father and try to hold in my tears/start crying a bit, he’s always like “stop being a crybaby” and continues shouting at me.
Absolutely, I cry when an adult who is not my parent would yell or use a firm tone voice at me. Especially if it was in front of everyone
My dad would often take out his anger on me, I still struggle when someone is angry even if it's not even at me. I still cover my head when I get yelled at directly.
i’m very sensitive, i get panic attacks or breakdowns when someone is yelling/ insulting at me. it’s so scary and i hate that i can’t control my reaction.
With me having high functioning autism I understand the struggle
@@joeypleasants4014 Same, I'm autistic too.
I’m the same exact way…. 🙁
I’m 22 and i still can’t deal with getting yelled at. Even if they are not yelling and they criticise me, I cant help but tear up and it bothers me for quite a while.
same! Whenever someone criticises me (especially at work), I feel so low
I used to be like that around the time you made this comment, got into customer service. Now if people yell at me, I ignore them. Don't care. Ignoring them places them in the hotspot so just do that, worst thing you can do is mimic their behavior. I've had people throw stuff at me too because I don't let them get away with their sh*t, still don't care.
I relate to that very much. I have terrible anxiety from yelling, specifically from my parents not watching their tone. I was often dismissed as “someone’s having a bad day”
I'm a slow understander so I need time to understand stuff, my parents get irritated quickly so when I don't understand something they have repeated multiple times, so they start slowly raising their voice until it'll become a yell
This helped so much, I'm not as sensitive as I was before. Thank you:)
I’m VERY sensitive ☹️
Same
Me to....
Same, being autistic and all of that.... 😢😢😢😢
same...😞
same..😪
I get so scared when people yell at me. i feel unsafe. i feel like i did something wrong. like everything was my fault. I've tried to hold back my tears before. Once my mom and i wee fighting, and i felt like crying and i held back my tears, and as soon as she left, i broke down into tears. i cried for the rest of the day. i realize how bad that was.
Did your stomach starts to Hurt afther they yell? Like gut fear gut hurt
I'm 24 and when my parents yell at me, or talk to me in a firm tone, I feel like a burden and that maybe I shouldn't have been born. I know tough love can sometimes work, but even my therapist agrees that there are moments when negative reinforcement does not help for people with anxiety, like me.
Even when someone is not yelling, sometimes their voices are so loud, it makes my head vibrate, making it hard to think straight or calm down.
I can't even tell you how many times I started crying off camera in my online classes my anxiety is always up in online classes
poopbee10 gacha omg same
Same. My teacher yelled at me today for not being in class when i asked her for help, even though i was behind and needed to catch up. They're scary tbh
when someone yells at me like in a rude or directing way afterwards i get really angry then start crying. I honestly don't know why.
Same, makes me wanna punch them hard
@@ksmart1235 same bro
same i just feel muted
It happened to me literally a few mins ago... i got sworn at and called dumb in the most offensive way, and just started crying, luckily my sister stood up for me
@@EmpressEm3rald She has a pure heart 😊😊😊😊
It’s sad that kids like me are watching this because of our parents yelling at us
I hope you all can control your feelings now may Allah/God help you with who ever bothers you you are all blessed
ameen
Thankyou
I don’t cry because of the yell, I just cry because of how loud it is
This video really helped me! I have a parent who is consistently very firm. Not always with me (I’m the youngest, they’re a little different to me) but though it’s usually a tone, it’s often a yell as well. Especially when it’s towards me, I cry nearly every single time and they take it as me being immature. They act like it’s solely their job to toughen me up when I can handle it much better on my own. Getting use to these things is difficult but hearing it from someone else helps me know it’s not just me thinking it’ll be a good idea.
I also want to share a random trick for crying. It might just be placebo effect but it works if you think it works. When you feel like you’re about to cry, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Sometimes it actually tickles which is especially effective, but I find that it helps me at least break out of my focus on what’s going on and perform a random simple act.
do some push ups and eat a mango
as a child, i always had breakdowns when the teacher yelled at me for not sitting down because i didnt hear her and I cried all day.
Every times someone yell at me I start cry , and I even cry because I’m angry
Gotta thank dad for the severe social anxiety i had to go through high school with, and i shudder everytime i hear a loud sound or if someone yells :P
Same here bro
I may have cried multiple times when my driving instructor raised his voice because I grew up getting screamed at a lot... but on the upside, I taught myself to do it completely silent, without moving or making much of a face so he never really noticed!! :))) AND I learned to drive city and highway traffic while actively suppressing a sobbing meltdown, with tears and foggy glasses impairing my vision :)))
So I'd say actually I'm the winner here :))))))
when someone yells at me i start crying and also get angry
fr tho i be tying not to cry while i get in trouble 😭
I have to watch this before my mom gets home because she is planning on yelling at me for something that isn't even my fault. I am hoping this can help me seem calm and not start breaking down and having a panic attack.
I'm a girl in computer science college and being yelled instructions at in a shouting voice makes me absolutely crumble to pieces. I have a slow work rhythm and really need to take every piece of information apart and analyse it in my head to be sure I understand it. But when it's about doing something together with a colleague or friend or a teacher having me do something they all rush me because that's their rhythm of doing things. And when they rush me I get so anxious I can't even see the screen straight, it all gets fuzzy (I am not exaggerating one bit, that shit gets fuzzy and blurred to the point I can't see anything on the screen, I get so flustered, feel like I'm burning, like i have the highest fever humanly possible, everything is moving so fast, my mind stops working) And I start doing stupid shit out of the pressure and stress i feel, I can't even read the fucking instructions of what I'm supposed to install and I don't remember how I named the things in my program. And they start yelling at me, and it only makes things worse. It only takes one episode like this for people to assume I don't know shit. And I work my ass off I can tell you that, but people only see the anxiety in me.
I’m 14 and I hate getting yelled at. I think about it all day and it hurts so bad.
i hate it too and I just accept that Im a HSP person🙁
Same, but I'm a young adult in my 20s
@@ksmart1235 you are in your 20s come on, you older than me. Defend and bring the down
@@spider-man7482 Yeah, but I would defend someone else if they ever get yelled at.
Sometimes i just hate being a male. I am pretty sensitive and whenever someone yells at me i crumble and cry and get really sad and when I am at school or in public I always have to hide my emotions and feelings because I dont want to be picked on or called a wuss. Thank you for this video it helped alot
Them having "a moment" does not mean they are allowed to take that out on me.
I hate when people yell at me or even when it isn’t directed at me it scares me and I just freeze and slowly exit the area of the yelling person if I can
i get a panic attack and it's not just yelling any sign of being angry or irritated or even just like someone closing a fridge kinda hard
I don't react emotionally to people yelling at me or speaking to me with a tone, i'm a bit rude to them. but i only cry when my parents or any parental figure does it.
yelling and fighting makes me cry
I'm not a kid, but thank you for this. I was able to use this and reflect on my childhood. I was able to see areas where I couldn't identify tone or yelling. Since I am able to recognize it now. I feel a sense of peace. So thank you❤
I want to make it through school- I can’t just run to my room at school :(
I always cry when im getting yelled at but, I never thought much of it untill I watched a movie where someone yelled at another person and that person started crying, made me cry.
Thank you for this video. For the first time, I feel really understood and heard. It sucks that i'm just now starting to try to develop these skills at age 18, but here we are I guess. Better late than never! :')
Doesn't suck, and def not "too late" by any stretch. Glad you learned these things early, and have a nice head start. Keep believing in yourself "kid" :p
Hey man I'm 30 and just figuring this out
Thank you so much for this. I have been yelled at a lot and get really anxious and then start crying. This helped me a lot
actually I got into a fight, what really happened was this one guy started bullying me by saying mean things and started picking up my stationaries and stuff, I got so mad when he said something really inappropriate about my mom, so I pushed him down and started punching him...in the rage.
after few minutes when I realized he was bleeding, I apologized but he started to cry
(btw he is my teacher fav student + a topper)
and his squad complained about me to the teacher...
now I tried to tell my part, but she told me to shut up and asked
"did you slap him"
"yes but-"
"we all know what kind of girl you are"
that line.. that just.. idk. she was my fav teacher, I always give her roses and make card on her birthday. for a moment I recalled all the the good things I did for her, never expect her to say such a thing... I tried not to cry... but the tears were just falling down. but after she felt bad and said sorry.. cuz what she said was.just.. yk.
anyway after that I got suspended for a week but everything was fine after.
I thought I'd grow out of it but I'm such a people pleaser that as soon as someone tells me off or uses a stern tone it's like being punched in the chest and I always nearly cry but stop myself because I'm in public or at work
It's not about misunderstanding someone who talks normally, it's about being scared of my father yelling and beating me. I got like a small version of trauma from my childhood because of it and now everytime someone's rough on me (yells, or has very angered tone specifically towards me) because I did something wrong, I usually hide and cry to myself. It's not about misunderstanding someone's intentions because I'm very good at it, and I don't have anxiety disorder, but it feels like I have a phobia of being yelled at. It crushes me, and makes me cry, even if I know it's my fault, or that person didn't mean to make me cry.
My coach literally yelled at me infront of everyone when the gym was quiet and then had a talk with me after and she wasn’t even rude about it kind of and when I was walking to the car I felt the water rush and then had a panic attack in the car🤪🤪🤪
As a ten year old, my family is alwayss yelling at me for dumb things, like of I have literally ONE pencil on the floor they start yelling at me to clean my room, and I start crying then they tell me to shut up and I cry more cause they are still yelling, and then thats when they grab the belt and start whipping me, and I cry harder cause it hurts to bad and I cant just sit there and stop crying because they have to know it hurts to much, and then thats when they start shouting even more and it is to the point I am screaming cause I am scared, thats only one out of the 17 reasons I am depressed...
I feel you. They yell at me and I cry then they get mad and I can’t stop it but when I look somewhere else to stop it they get mad and hit me and I hate it but I can’t ever stop it. I lost a 5 dollar ring and they wanted me to clean their whole house to find it and then they get mad and take my stuff. And then they wonder why I have depression.
That's abuse. Hands down, that's abuse. They are not allowed to do that to a minor (which you are)- do you have access to any resources that can allow someone to come in and set an intervention for your parents? Can you tell a teacher or another adult you trust to help you?
Janaga I dont wanna tell on them cause tbh there are times when they are nice, but I love them still, I talked to a teacher once and they didnt do anything
@@kamoraholley4935 but compare how many nice times vs the bad times. Let's be honest, clearly, the beatings outweigh the good times, if not you wouldn't be commenting here.
Now, try talking to another teacher? Or maybe the counsellor at your school and see what they say?
Janaga well if you actually read what I said: “When I have a pencil or something on the ground” thats when they get mad, not for actually no reason, also my counselor retired so the school is currently finding another one for next year
I'm crying when I read the comments, I am super emotional/sensitive...
I hate myself for being sensitive I always think to myself “why the hell am I like this”
I cry when my friend yells at me. Everyday they get mad at me for saying something like I’ll even say ;-; and they’ll get mad at me
I fail to breathe and think when being yelled at.
I haven't been abused and my parents don't fight but I get totally terrified when people yell at me and I flinch when people approach me in a way that even slightly looks like they're gonna attack me
Omg this
Literally I cry in school soo much, I was lost in my school and a teacher asked me a simple question and I thought I was in trouble and started crying and I will never recover from that embarrassment
I hate yelling at me . At first i was trying to hold myself and not to burst into tears,i was looking at the ground and trying to imagine that they're not screaming at me. Then i started to cry everytime person's voice got a little higher. After that i started to yell at them and cry at the same time. I believe it was kind of a protective instict. Now i catch myself on the fact that everytime someone yells at me i am literally starting to get aggressive,but not phisical. Sometimes I'm looking around for an item,hard or big enough to throw at the screamer or to hit them by it,to make them shit up. But good thing is i am able to control myself and blow away those thoughts from my head. Now I'm just running away and locking myself. I hope they won't chase me or try to break in and continue to scream, because I'm afraid that i will lose control. I know, it's just in my mind, but i fear,what if i will hurt them badly. I won't be able to forgive myself anymore. It's really eating me from inside. Please,be gentle,and respect others.
I'm 15 and I have a 14 year old brother who struggles with this as well. Whenever we do something an adult doesn't like, of course we get yelled at or a stern talking to. What triggers the waterworks for me comes in a 3 step process. 1st is before the person even starts speaking. By looking into the adults eyes I can sense a lot, so I look for the emotion in their eyes to base my reaction off of. I also look at body language, like if their crossing their arms or tapping their foot, maybe taking long deep breaths. I also sense the vibe that is being given off, is it anger, disappointment, sadness, all another way to identify their emotion that they will use to speak towards me. All of this being done in a couple of seconds, subconsciously. 2nd, is during the talking or yelling. If they are yelling loud enough I'll be able to feel it in my eardrums which is uncomfortable. This causes my throat to react and become dry and excruciatingly strain, which also causes the burning-cold, open feeling in the back of my throat and into my nose stuffy or not, causing more discomfort. During the lecture I'm getting, when my throat hurts, I'll speak less or stop speaking in general until I can calm down enough for the pain to subside. This doesn't go over well with some adults because they expect to get answers out of you immediately after they spit out a question. In the moment, I also can't identify if the questions asked are rhetorical or are meant to be answered. Answering a rhetorical question or accidentally interrupting the adult while their speaking may cause an unexpected "shut up and listen to me" to blurt out from them, causing tensions to rise. The feeling of frustration can start to build quickly and just as quickly turn to anger which is what I try to avoid causing because that can turn physical (nothing as drastic as abuse). I also get fidgety when I feel small in their presence or intimidated, adding onto the discomforting feeling but also a fight or flight instinct that is never acted on causing me to more likely fidget and freeze up. This leads up to the 3rd thing. It's still during the lecture but this is when the anxiety and fear starts to set in, where tensions are at its highest. Although the adult is giving me a lecture I start to focus on that variety of punishments I may have to prepare for at any given moment. That fear and anxiety of not knowing if or when I might get whooped adds onto the fidgeting and builds up more tension. In the end, all of this happens in 3 minutes or less. It all seems to take a lot longer when reading it out but in real time this only portrays 2 emotions at a time, mainly fear and discomfort for me. 1 adult family member of mine takes advantage of the emotions I'm feeling and calls me out on it, using every reaction they can get out of me against me by putting it over my head and always bringing it up in every lecture or in daily life to insult me. Of course, this person does this with everyone and even goes as far to talk about you behind your back but being just loud enough so you can hear everything clearly. Although they do this with everyone, they will target you directly if you do something they don't like and see it or hear about it , then remember something you did that made them angry and finally insulting you and giving you a lecture to justify the insult. Thankfully it's not my mom who does this but this particular family member is someone I've lived with most of my life, so some would imagine that I would grow out of this. The point is, that family member is one of the triggers for me to start crying along with the 3 steps.
If you made it to the end, you're awesome, have a good day or night.
That is awful and I feel for you, but when you are older you are going to have next level awareness and quickly be able to read people better than the best psychologists. Hang in there, your situation seems like it has nothing to do with you, you are at no fault and it should not define you in any way. Try get professional help if possible, but just know that these skills that you were unfortunately forced to acquire - are absolute gold in the business world! Good luck and stay strong - you have a bright future ahead of you!
I can’t believe i actually used to love my dad... since we had my little brother he has been an as*hole but I don’t blame my brother(sorry for the language)
He used to actually love me but now, he gets mad for every single little thing I do but at least I know that my mom really loves me and she is my best friend :) :(
26 years old and this video made me cry ugh need to get it together
My mom speaks very loud and is always negative so I’m triggered by her 99.9% of the time. I let her know how it effects me and she flat out said “she was not changing”
Yeah, the same thing happens to me. In 2013-2015 I was 5 or 6 years old and my 15-16 year old sister would always yelling back and forth with each other. I think this is normal but it was really loud to the point I have to crouch in a corner and cover my ears. But today, 2022, I am now 13, I got yelled at for my phone being out and I was literally trying to put it away but apparently I wasn't. So the teacher raised his voice much more and I took it personal because that was really loud for me as well. I tried my hardest not to cry in class.
I’m tired of being so sensitive and showing that I’m afraid. Tired of being afraid of people
Same here
This video has helped, thank you. Some of My family members yell at me and dont even take the time to listen to me. I hate it. They have been doing this for 5 years. But this has helped alot thank you. Being sensitive and knowing there are other people that are also, makes me feel so good!
Some people are just so ignorant hope you find people who truly understands you.
Whenever someone yells I start crying and trembling because I think they will hit me
Came here cause I’m having a hard time with people who are/seem really serious,even if they’re agreeing with me or telling me that it’s fine,I still get overwhelmed with guilt and regret if they say it in an extremely serious/firm/uncaring tone. This makes me feel annoying and bothersome to the person I’m talking to,for example,I’ll tell them something personal about myself and pour my experience/emotions into my words,then as I’m waiting for a similar understanding response,they’ll just say something like: “personally,I don’t mind if you you’re doing *insert something personal* ,it’s your choice,you’re allowed to” .
I hate the fact that when i cry my mom just says: “don’t cry because it’s your fault”
They are just bullies who take their frustrations out on someone else
I remember when I was in high school i was 16 and my teacher yelled at me for something that wasn’t a big deal, and i just started crying but it’s not like i wanted to actually cry. It was like a automatic response. It was embarrassing. She ended up apologizing anyways. But still I was really upset.
I have autism and have this exact problem. The worst thing to happen with it is when i took my road test the woman had an extremely firm barky tone and i just fucking broke down during the test, i cried the whole way as she desperately tried to get me to stop, she was extremely taken a-back by my meltdown. I passed the test by one point but i think she just added one so i wouldnt come back again. And now driving with another person in the car gives me horrible anxiety :')
Yeah that person who yelled at you forget about her, you're better off without that horrifying loud wench.
@@ksmart1235 i got my drivers license, i dont have to see her again, im happy (still cant drive tho bc i live in fucking michigan cant afford their ridiculous insurance :')
@@theoddbox Okay, I'm autistic too and I don't like being yelled at either. I did my learner's test and got my learner's permit too, right now I'm still learning how to drive. And I hope there's some support to help you.
@@theoddbox Also, I remembered this scene like I saw the movie Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day where a family's teenage son was learning how to drive and this woman did had a harsh tone like the other woman you dealt with. I remember the teenager was learning to drive until his phone rings and the woman wants him to not pick up the phone and then she yells at him to not use the phone. After screwing up, the woman kept yelling at the teenage boy finally telling him "GET OUT!!!" or whatever, then the worst happens when the door was already opened and a random car shows up out of nowhere and crashes into the car's door while it flies away. The movie was pretty decent, hate that scene and there's some other parts I hate too (except the ending).
When i’m being yelled at i breathe heavily and my heart races i hate that feeling 🥺 (i’m an 18 year old guy)
i thought i was the only one.. like whne i was in yr 3 my teacher shouted at me so much infront of the whole class and i was legit holding my tears back
My mom just yelled at me for showing too much emotion after she yelled at me. I just can't stop crying and idk what to do. She knows I'm very sensitive but she doesn't get it that well. I still don't know what to do.
Today I cried in school but I hid it, my music teacher was yelling at me because I didn’t hand in my worksheet but I did remember I hand it in a few weeks ago with my best friend and she said if she didn’t find it she will punish me for lying
This was so relatable..
I feel like I’m hypersensitive to many things..
But we can do this ♥️
Agreed
I am a 27years old who was raised away from her parents. I moved with my dad 6 months ago. He yells when he gets emotional when he speaks and also he gets angry when he gets upset. I get anxious when he yells even in our regular conversation. my dad always comforts me and says, he will never hurt me. As a child When I was raised away from my parents, they were an abusive family who will yell at me for no reason. So I am trying to understand myself and see if my being afraid of screaming is a trigger from my past abuse or I am just taking screaming personally. This video gave me an idea of how I am maybe thinking about it and give me a solution.
i hated being yelled at by teachers it makes me wanna cry all the time
0:43 my misses and managers at work have this tone. I hate it so much.
Do you have some ideas to help a 4 year old with this? I feel that this is a bit advanced for her level! This sounds just like her, but the concepts may be big for her!
Sorry, I don’t have anything for that age. Maybe take the concepts in this video and do some puppet play with her to help?
What thats a baby
I actually have anxiety and my aunts constantly yells at me for minor things so much I feel like I’m becoming suicdal the worse thing is there’s no one who listens to me or even talk about what I like or listen to my feelings the only place is school that I can escape it .
I hate it when somebody yells at me. One angry outburst directed at me and moments later I instantly collapse into tears without anyone noticing… unless I have a panic attack from being yelled at.
when someone raises there voice even if it is not towards me or the slightest scolding is enough to make me tear up and shake and it's so embarrassing
No offense but, its normal for girls because its a natural instinct and because you guys are taught that way, but if your highly sensitive its recommended.
@@branislost4272 Well I am a woman, I felt the same way since I was in Middle School and now currently still the same way but not overall emotional.
My boyfriend used a stern tone with me :'( I used to be so tough but now I'm too soft I can't handle being scolded at anymore
Have you broke up with him?
Thank for thhe empathy not just for us but for us to have it to others too.
I hate it when people yell at me. I absolutely hate myself when I freeze when I am in a crucial conversation…smh
idk but i tend to keep everyone in the room calm before they start yelling at each other. my mom has anger issues and whenever she gets mad, it triggers me (also when they sigh deeply & click their tongue). and sometimes im afraid i might end up having anger issues as well since I noticed I've been getting infuriated over the little things lately.
I can't even handle hearing others yell at each other. School was a sensory nightmare. I was driven to collapsing into tears when I would get home from school if the teachers lost their composure during class.
Thanks for the talks. I’m going through so much
I don’t have anxiety or anything but me and my bestie got yelled at and this is really helping me get the it,thank you ❤
I hate how I've always been called sensitive as an insult, it hurts :/
I can't even think when somebody screams/speak in a loud voice at me so I guess I'll die
*me just being in shock in how some people don’t cry when they get yelled at*
When I get yelled at by my family, I get so sad but it’s embarrassing so I just pretend I’m happy. I just laugh it off like it’s nothing and pretend to laugh. Even though I’m not happy at all! Then, I just go to my room and cry. People shouldn’t yell at other people because they make them feel self conscious and bad about themselves. Then, they’ll turn into bad human beings.
My dad has anger issues and yelling a lot. Not at me but at everything else. I want to confront him but I’m scared. I wish him and my mom got a divorce already.
And that way normally you live with your mom
@@ksmart1235 yes
@@gilmoregals I feel sorry for you, I don't want you to be traumatized.
@@ksmart1235 it’s okay, I’ve gotten used to it
@@gilmoregals Okay, thank goodness that's been dealt with.
Whenever I get yelled at or get called by an insult name (because that'll trigger me easily), it makes me wanna punch someone in the face so hard that they'll suffer pain like I do. Even though, I'm better off without any jerk on this planet.
When it comes to other people being yelled at, I wish I defend that person myself. I feel sorry when other people get yelled at.
I’m a very anxious, easy to startle, and I hate swearing, yelling, tones etc, I have terrible anxiety. My mom uses tones A LOT at me I usually crumble and try to explain that I can’t help myself when I do this and she tell me, “stop being over dramatic” “yes you can”, I hate it THAT makes me crumble like a cookie in milk, sometimes I wish I could just sink in a pit and stay there forever.. and I can’t say any of this to my mom or she will yell at me or use strong tones, and I’m a people pleaser and I always yell sorry when she does this while having a breakdown, and sometimes she apologizes to EVERYONE ELSE BUT ME, I HATE IT.
I've always been very sensitive to being yelled at and/or get a mean tone all my life. Sometimes, I get mad or cry when I get into that situation. Overall, I never liked being yelled at. It hurts and it makes me feel attacked personally.
And that’s on childhood trauma them going to a parent who is calm and doesn’t yell and treat them like a god even tho that’s how every parent should be and it’s not barkey people it’s my mum and brother who always yelled at me and my mom would scream and bare her teeth and get red and it was scary.
When we tell our most loving and sensitive people to "toughen up", instead of defending them against those who assail them, we cater to bad/evil people while also making the best of us a little bit worse. That is a downward spiral for all of humanity.
No one needs to toughen up, the assailants need to be healed.
If all of our people were healed, we would have No Enemy.
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Yes same. Anger and then tears. Though im getting better at handling it better. Trying to break the cycle. As a child i was yelled at a lot and physically hurt a few times but when i hear someone angry or even the implication of anger i pike up like oh no here we go. And now i understand its the memory of being shouted at scared if i did something not right or whatever. But i am realsing this is just like an imprint onto my psyche and that did happen but its not happening now. That was in the past and i can change the reaction by ackowledging that imprint of behaviour
I actually have sensitivity of yelling because I have a thing that I can hear in the background more than I am on the main course and it sounds so loud and I hate it