The 10min daily decluttering is something I’m going to try. It seems like a little commitment but will compound over time. That combined with everything in its right place & one in one out rules I already follow should do me well & actually be sustainable.
I actually never gave much thought of which kind of "clutter personality" I could be. Actually, realizing what holds me back sometimes is very helpful. And I like the 10min tango. Been doing that, but naming it like this makes it sound like more fun;) Thanks for this video! Make me think about some more stuff, as usual. Like your simple, educative, and positive style. Peace!
Thanks Ronald! Sooo many pieces of advice: I definitely text the kiddos when I find their ‘stuff’ lol I definitely have a clothes pile for donation, seems I always find a piece of clothing that I don’t wear or like how it fits. When I find a household article that I don’t use, donation pile. Love your videos!
I decluttered Facebook, Twitter & Instagram. It’s great not having to look at everyone’s ‘lives’ online or feeling the need to share mine. I don’t need to know what you’ve eaten today, how much sleep you did or didn’t get or what your child got up to today. I can just be me 😋
May I know: What did you do as part of the decluttering process for social medias? I am thinking of taking a social media detox but I am unsure as to where to start
@@DaughterOfMaat I would not delete them, just make them unactive unless you don't use them anymore. It feels strange at first, but I don't miss them anymore. I started investing on the stock market instead, I'm reading a book on it right now.
@@DaughterOfMaat consider deleting the apps from your phone. If you have to log on to the computer to access social media, your usage should automatically decrease.
The very last sentence "put things away and whatever doesn't have a home is first to go on the chopping block". THAT got my attention. I'm doing it Right NOW!😊
“Would I trade my inner peace for it?” I’ve been struggling with trying to declutter for over 20 years and I’ve watched more videos and shows, listened to more podcasts, and read more books on the subject than I could ever begin to count, but that question … I felt like an earthquake shook through my whole body when you asked that one question. Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Just … wow! By the way, I don’t know why I’ve never come across your channel before - well, yes, I do, the stupid algorithm that barfs up videos/channels with the highest views, not necessarily ones that would be most beneficial - but after watching only two of your videos so far, I’ve already gotten several great tips for ways to look at decluttering from angles I’ve never heard anyone else talk about. Things like core values and inner peace. I’ve heard plenty of influencers talk about asking whether an ITEM brings value to my life, but not whether it fits with my personal CORE VALUES. And plenty talk about decluttering to bring more calm into my life, but they’re talking about it from the perspective of calm surroundings, not INNER peace. I’m just now realizing many if the things I’ve been keeping because I thought they brought me JOY have been terrible in terms of inner peace. I’ve stressed about whether I should let them go so many times, they bring me no inner peace at all. None. I never thought about it that way before! This feels like a real game-changer for me. Thank you! ☀️💛
I would love to see a video where you help a fan or family member becoming minimalist through mindset changes and a deep declutter! That would be an awesome series!!
I am so extremely grateful to have found your channel. I am 59 years old and lost my Mom when I was 11. My mom lost her mom when she was 8 and my Dad lost his mom when he was 14. We have a ton of sentimental clutter that has been passed on to me! On top of that I am an artist that has every type of art supply, jewelry making supply, collage and mixed media supply! I am telling you... I so need your counsel! I have some serious serious clutter to tackle and your calm manner and very organized and helpful ideas are a blessing to me. I have watched so many different clutter videos but none has helped me like yours. You have a gift for teaching and encouraging. I feel better already and I have only watched 3 of your videos. I am in therapy working to bring simplicity and peace to my life. I cannot accomplish this without addressing all my emotional clutter AND physical clutter. Thank you Thank you Thank you Ronald. Jalyne in Utah
Hey Jalyne! I’m really happy that my content is helping you so much on your journey. I’d love to see if there is an opportunity to help you out further, please send me an email. There is a contact link at the bottom of my website: www.ronaldlbanks.com
Great way of putting this @PamBeni and so true. The delivery and tips are so succinct. It makes it all feel very doable without the fanfare & fluff... just practical, measurable techniques. Highly enjoyed this!
"Don't just put it in the other room". I am so guilty of this. If I am not sure of something I put it in my spare bedroom. Don't even ask what that looks like! Love your videos!
I’ve used the trash bag tango successfully the past. You’re so right that repeated daily (or even twice a day) you’ll feel the progress in a week or two. I’m committing to starting that up again so I can complete my “big” declutter. Been stalled too long doing sporadic declutters.
"Things that used to glow, don't even glitter anymore." This will make my decision-making process so much easier about things I used to love, usually, I'm torn by the thought of getting rid of something that I used to love. Thank you for this video!
I'm going through a lot of decluttering right now and it's a lot of hard work but worth it. Selling a lot and being more mindful of what I use and want in my life. If you aren't intentional with what you use and bring into your home and not let go of you can end up on an episode of hoarders lol that show is also super motivating for getting rid of things and cleaning.
My grandmother, who grew up during the depression, was a hoarder, out of the resulting feelings of material insecurity. Walking through her home involved weaving around piles of decades-old magazines, clothes and just plain junk. She even kept piles of extra blankets and other bedding stashed under all the mattresses. I just couldn’t relax in that cluttered, dusty environment. My Mom grew up to become a person at the other end of the spectrum, she purges too much!
Giving everything a home is so powerful. A few years ago I helped my aunt clean up her house (she's a hoarder, no exaggeration, and yes she got mental health help too). You mentioned forks and spoons having an obvious home in your kitchen drawer, but for her, that wasn't even true. Every single item she had floated around to any free space. After throwing away the garbage and spending weeks and weeks decluttering duplicates of everything, we found homes for all the items. I think that lifted a burden off of her where now she doesn't have to think every time she needs to get something or put something away.
Just discovered your channel today and subscribed. I was searching decluttering, but also there are strong emotions (I'm a widow). I'm at the point where I know (in my head) that looking at his things and crying is unhealthy after this amount of time, but crying at the thought of getting rid of them. When I'm not home and mention his name, I'm fine. A little sad at missing him, but I don't cry in public. It's when I'm home around some of his things that I still have, that I cry. I know I need to get rid of the rest of his clothes, his wallet, etc.. but I need the motivation or good sense, to do it. I know it's past time and I'm ready, but I need to get over that hurdle mentally first. After seeing many channels where they just don't get it, I am really enjoying your channel! You "get" the emotions behind it. I also think I'm the worrier type clutterer. I am so grateful I found your channel.
My husband died unexpectedly. I had no problem donating his clothing, keeping a few so I could "smell" him. I figured donating his clothing would give another man possibly a leg up in their life. I'm going on 3 years & still have emotions that hold me up from letting go. Give yourself as much time as you need! Big tight hug cause you probably need one. ❤❤
I have relaxed the one-year rule for my wardrobe, just for this one particular time, because during the pandemic, I haven’t worn most of my regular clothes and accessories. I am just now beginning to go out more again, so I’m going to allow an extra year. But, if not worn a year from now, out they go.
I just took so many notes from this video... and I am ready to change my life. Now that I have admitted that I have a problem... I am praying that I have the strength to execute! You don't know how much I needed this. Thank you!
You have the strength in you my friend. You sound ready and able from this comment and I’m here to help you. Check out this article I wrote detailing how to build a decluttering system: www.ronaldlbanks.com/blog/how-to-build-an-effective-decluttering-system
Oh my gosh, the fork thing is fantastic! It really drives home that some things are just in the wrong place and need to move. Equally, the things that don't get a home no matter how hard we try, are a great candidate for getting booted: out of the door! Thanks so much. This will make me think of a fork lying under the bed.
I found that sentimental things to take a digital picture and then donate. Because the memories are still there just not the object. Living with less is such a cleansing experience. I work at it every week finding more things to let go of, I learned alot of this after my Dad's passing along with subscribing to your channel - plus your Dad's statement is exactly 💯 true. Thank you for your videos because I have continued to learn from them as I take this journey forward. 😊
Being in a cluttered environment makes me feel unsettled. A book I read i college (I don't remember the name) gave great advice... handle each paper once. Meaning if it comes in file it or through it away! DO NOT leave it lying on the table or desk with all the other papers or months!
I really appreciate your calm and steady demeanor. Thank you so much for this information it is super helpful and helps to put things in perspective, enough so to get started with some projects. I would love to hear more about how each personality type can go about the decluttering process differently. In other words does each personality type attack the clutter different from the other two personalities?
Mari Kando talks in her book about how there actually aren’t as much specific personalities of clutter. Well maybe there are, but it doesn’t help too much with dealing with the clutter. She says the main types of messy people there are are 1. People who can’t let go of things 2. People who don’t put things away, and 3. People who are both
It goes much further that just the physical stuff we see. We also have to deal with the mental and emotional side of life and clutter. I’m glad this conversation resonated with you my friend! Keep growing and if you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
With the pandemic and working from home, some items were not used in 12 months. I don’t think it’s necessarily a good idea to get rid of everything not used during that period, since as we get back to normal we might need them. I have decluttered, but I’m also giving myself more time for some items.
Great point Dominique! One should definitely consider their own circumstances and needs before decluttering anything. Thank you for sharing this with us!
@@RonaldLBanks Ronald, adult kids in another state- Ca. to NY, just won't pick up their stuff, bought 4 plastic containers from Walmart; put the trophies, yearbooks, awards, prom pictures, etc. Stacked them in his old closet, garage,lol.
@@bjwilliams this would only help with a small portion of your son’s things, but you could look into using media mail to ship books to your son. Media mail postage is a lot cheaper than regular postage.
I have my own set of two very simple questions: I never ask myself "why should I declutter it?", I always ask myself "why should I keep it?" instead; plus "would I bring it with me, should I move very far away?". I've found out this really helps me think with clarity.
Hi and thank you for this video. I've just discovered you recently. The spoon/fork example really helped me. I'm an overwhelmed clutterer, but a big part of that is that my things don't have homes. Which makes me more overwhelmed! The only part of this that doesn't click for me is the, would you trade your peace for this. My peace is so valuable that I wouldn't trade it for anything. Which would leave me with nothing. 😊 All that said, your other tips give me enough structure. Thank you!
I have let so many items sit and collect dust over the years. Some valuable (re: nostalgic) items and some just straight up trash. Being in the technology realm, I hold on to random screws and cables throughout the year. I like this video a lot, thank you! I just moved so I'm ready to declutter and already started that process!
I love the FAST method and the idea that everything has an expiration date. Thanks for mentioning declutter as you go. I do try to remember this and just this week pulled things from wardrobe that didn't feel right anymore.
Wow. It's taken me a year to find you. I have watched so many "minimalist videos" & they don't help. Funny how their homes echoe! Ugh. I will never be a minimalist, however since the death of my husband I must declutter. It's very difficult, mainly because he was a golf entusist & many things are not only sentimental but valuable. I am trying to forget selling & simply donate. No amount of money can replace the comfort in my own home. Thanks for your advice.
I just changed my preferences from physcial mail to online correspondence for a certain company in less than 2 minutes, while watching this video. Should have done that a long time ago. Thanks! I really liked your dad's quote as well.
I have noticed from watching a lot of UA-cam that most people, including me, love rules, guidelines, formulas, etc. that they can follow, for both my interests, wardrobe styling, and decluttering. I think it might be a way to get people started on what they want to achieve? I’m not sure, but I do know, after watching some of your videos, that they have helped me face another round of wardrobe decluttering. I still have a long way to go to fit all my stuff back into my two closets.
A home for everything is huge that I will start implementing immediately. I can see in my home office where things pile up because they don't have a designated home. Thanks!
It would seem that the concept of “everything has a home” is a known, common sense, everyone does/knows that…but if that were true we would not have clutter in our lives. There are some (my darling husband) who will circumvent this rule and buy another shipping container but for most of is this rule should keep us in check. I like to begin with this rule and if my “home” for an item has no space-something needs to go right then and there.👍🏻 Thanks for your calm, practical reminders about what is truly important in our lives.🙏🏻
I’m two years into my journey. I find it frustrating when I go through and only find one or two things to part with per section however that really shows the progress I’ve made. When I am feeling stuck (which will be later today) I’ll be trying this new tool. Thank you! You always give me great advice and fresh perspective ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Many of your suggestions touched me, especially would I trade my inner peace for it? If that doesn’t jump start a person on decluttering, nothing will! Also, I am overwhelmed in life clutter personality, what tips do you have for me?
Great video. I have a basket and a shredder in my gargage, I drop all the mail in the basket, and once a week, go thru the mail, shred stuff with my name on it and trash everything else. I get all my bills online, so very rarely do I have something in the stack that requires my immediate attention. Paper literally never enters my home.
Nice work here Ron! Such an inspiration. I especially liked the advice where keeping an item should preserve my inner peace... to me this is comforting in that it erases any guilt associated with parting with anything.
Exactly! Guilt is a really big reason why we tend to hold onto things we don’t need. I’ve talked about this a lot in other videos I’ve done. I’m glad this part resonated with you Gordon! Keep growing!
I live with my mum, I am someone who likes to keep things minimal, and throw things out/not buy things. Mum keeps everything, borderline hoards things, and it’s so frustrating! 😂
I have a video here about how to live with a non-minimalist. I’m not sure if you’ve seen it or not but definitely a ton of value I believe will help you! ua-cam.com/video/DdBhVFGJhiI/v-deo.html
Thank you Ron. Your approach really resonated with me. You have given me the support to tackle paperwork and books which is my last area that I've struggled with
Knowing your clutter personality really stuck out to me, probably because I felt attacked :p that was an eye opener for me, I definitely have work to do but I’m excited!
You got this!! If you have any questions at all don’t hesitate to ask. I’m here to help you! Feel free to check out the resources on my website as well!
One of the most valuable videos about decluttering I have seen on the internet - and I've seen them all (kidding, but.. seriously). Thank you very mucho.
The 10 minutes a day idea makes it very doable. My key words are keep - donate - recycle - trash. Trash should be the smallest pile. Use cardboard boxes, not plastic bags. Bags aren't recyclable and things break. Have boxes ready to go out the door when your kids/friends/family arrive to get their stuff. Broken items can be repaired. Many counties have free repair services staffed by volunteers.
Wow ok so I'm an overwhelmed worrier somebody help meee 😅 Loved this video sooo much 💜 your presentation style is so kind and calm, it's incredibly inspiring!
Thank you so much! Truly appreciate it and I’m happy that you enjoyed this! I’ll definitely have more content coming to help you on your journey! If have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
@@RonaldLBanks I loved seeing some of your old youtube clips in this video and the next one - it's so inspiring how you and your aesthetic grew and evolved. Definitely helps me deal with the clutter to aspire to a cleaner and simpler home one day 💜
I've always wondered if you have any tips or suggestions for creative types? I have more stuff than I'd like but in order to do what I love, I feel it seems necessary to have these items. Your videos have been super helpful and this often seems to be an overlooked category/personality for those that would like to minimize but are creatively inclined (art, writing, crafting, sewing, etc).
I have a paper recycling bin right at my mail drop-slot in my garage. About 90% of my mail goes right into it, I don’t bring anything into the rest of my house unless it requires some action from me. There’s also a trash bin, for those extremely annoying cases where they put a plastic card, or other non-recyclable item like adhesive stickers, in the letter, you can usually feel them. We can’t control a lot of our junk mail, but they should make doing this illegal. In the UK, you can post a “No Junk Mail” sign and the postal carrier will comply. I wish we had that in the US. I also hate how bills come with extra sheets and “offers” from people selling junk.
Love the video as always! ❤️ I can’t help it but the nurse in me is looking at your arms like “man they can’t miss if someone ever puts an IV on him” 😅
Am glad I watched you’re videos honestly this whole thing is brilliant when I get rid of stuff or donate or recycle etc etc it even makes the house look more clean and simple I could really make use of the extra space I freed up and it might help me with my studies & tasks
I love the simple steps you highlighted Ronald! I view clutter in 4 categories: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual and ask does it cultivate joy in my life? or have future or functional joy in my life?
Quality content as always. I struggle with getting rid of my favourite clothing even when it has seen better days. My challenge for today is to get rid of two clothing items I've been putting off for weeks. Thanks again pal. :)
Great video, clutter 101 in a nutshell. Brilliant. I don't have a 'home' for everything because I have way, way too much stuff. But the stuff that does have a home, funny how we never lose it. Great video, thanks
Hey Ron, loved these practical tips! I have a system where I choose one room of my home each week to deep clean and declutter throughout the week and just keep moving around my house. This helps me to consistently declutter! I agree about the mail - I will only get my mail if I have time to deal with it right then. Even still - sometimes things pile up because I don't know what to do with it so I put it in a pile for my husband to look at later - which seems to never happen haha! I just wanted to tell you that you are such a great communicator! I always enjoy your videos! Thanks for sharing!😊
Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to share my content with you! I’m happy my videos are helping you and if you ever have questions don’t hesitate to ask. Would love to help in any way I can!
Which piece of advice in this video did you find the most helpful for you on your journey?
The 10min daily decluttering is something I’m going to try. It seems like a little commitment but will compound over time. That combined with everything in its right place & one in one out rules I already follow should do me well & actually be sustainable.
I actually never gave much thought of which kind of "clutter personality" I could be. Actually, realizing what holds me back sometimes is very helpful. And I like the 10min tango. Been doing that, but naming it like this makes it sound like more fun;) Thanks for this video! Make me think about some more stuff, as usual. Like your simple, educative, and positive style. Peace!
Something my Dad used to say, "Everything should have a home, and everything should be in it's home!"
Thanks Ronald! Sooo many pieces of advice: I definitely text the kiddos when I find their ‘stuff’ lol I definitely have a clothes pile for donation, seems I always find a piece of clothing that I don’t wear or like how it fits. When I find a household article that I don’t use, donation pile. Love your videos!
The twelve month rule!
I decluttered Facebook, Twitter & Instagram. It’s great not having to look at everyone’s ‘lives’ online or feeling the need to share mine. I don’t need to know what you’ve eaten today, how much sleep you did or didn’t get or what your child got up to today. I can just be me 😋
Yes exactly, it's a big waste of time.
May I know: What did you do as part of the decluttering process for social medias? I am thinking of taking a social media detox but I am unsure as to where to start
@@DaughterOfMaat I would not delete them, just make them unactive unless you don't use them anymore. It feels strange at first, but I don't miss them anymore. I started investing on the stock market instead, I'm reading a book on it right now.
@@DavidDavisDH Ah, I see. Thank you for the response. That is a good beginning step for me to try. Have a pleasant day 😊
@@DaughterOfMaat consider deleting the apps from your phone. If you have to log on to the computer to access social media, your usage should automatically decrease.
“The stuff in our lives, sentimental or not, have an expiration date.” Wow. What a powerful and true statement.
Yes! 🙌🏾 really happy this resonated with you! Keep growing on your journey Tony!
The very last sentence "put things away and whatever doesn't have a home is first to go on the chopping block". THAT got my attention. I'm doing it Right NOW!😊
Ever since I’ve found minimalism, the old adage “less is more” just becomes more and more true
I don’t consider myself a minimalist but am in the same place appreciating that less is more.
"If it doesn't have a home, then it is clutter." YES, that made me think! I will be looking at the items around my home very differently!
It challenges the way you think for sure! I’m glad you enjoyed this Britni! Keep growing and learning on your journey!
“Would I trade my inner peace for it?” I’ve been struggling with trying to declutter for over 20 years and I’ve watched more videos and shows, listened to more podcasts, and read more books on the subject than I could ever begin to count, but that question … I felt like an earthquake shook through my whole body when you asked that one question. Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Just … wow!
By the way, I don’t know why I’ve never come across your channel before - well, yes, I do, the stupid algorithm that barfs up videos/channels with the highest views, not necessarily ones that would be most beneficial - but after watching only two of your videos so far, I’ve already gotten several great tips for ways to look at decluttering from angles I’ve never heard anyone else talk about. Things like core values and inner peace. I’ve heard plenty of influencers talk about asking whether an ITEM brings value to my life, but not whether it fits with my personal CORE VALUES. And plenty talk about decluttering to bring more calm into my life, but they’re talking about it from the perspective of calm surroundings, not INNER peace. I’m just now realizing many if the things I’ve been keeping because I thought they brought me JOY have been terrible in terms of inner peace. I’ve stressed about whether I should let them go so many times, they bring me no inner peace at all. None. I never thought about it that way before!
This feels like a real game-changer for me. Thank you! ☀️💛
I would love to see a video where you help a fan or family member becoming minimalist through mindset changes and a deep declutter! That would be an awesome series!!
Yesss! Please do this Ronald!!
100% agreed!
me too!!
@@corinna_maybe let’s hope he does it!
@@debbiepalmer1094 It would be such a great series!
The thought that helped me declutter a lot was that someone else needed it more at this point in time.
The fork analogy to “having a place for everything” is brilliant.
I am so extremely grateful to have found your channel. I am 59 years old and lost my Mom when I was 11. My mom lost her mom when she was 8 and my Dad lost his mom when he was 14. We have a ton of sentimental clutter that has been passed on to me! On top of that I am an artist that has every type of art supply, jewelry making supply, collage and mixed media supply! I am telling you... I so need your counsel! I have some serious serious clutter to tackle and your calm manner and very organized and helpful ideas are a blessing to me. I have watched so many different clutter videos but none has helped me like yours. You have a gift for teaching and encouraging. I feel better already and I have only watched 3 of your videos. I am in therapy working to bring simplicity and peace to my life. I cannot accomplish this without addressing all my emotional clutter AND physical clutter. Thank you Thank you Thank you Ronald.
Jalyne in Utah
Hey Jalyne! I’m really happy that my content is helping you so much on your journey. I’d love to see if there is an opportunity to help you out further, please send me an email. There is a contact link at the bottom of my website: www.ronaldlbanks.com
This is the most uncluttered piece on decluttering that I have heard. So helpful, thanks!
Thank you! I’m happy you found value in this Pam!
Great way of putting this @PamBeni and so true. The delivery and tips are so succinct. It makes it all feel very doable without the fanfare & fluff... just practical, measurable techniques.
Highly enjoyed this!
"Don't just put it in the other room". I am so guilty of this. If I am not sure of something I put it in my spare bedroom. Don't even ask what that looks like!
Love your videos!
I’ve used the trash bag tango successfully the past. You’re so right that repeated daily (or even twice a day) you’ll feel the progress in a week or two. I’m committing to starting that up again so I can complete my “big” declutter. Been stalled too long doing sporadic declutters.
I always say the "Peace" at the end with you. I don't know. It is just so satisfying HAHAHA
Haha! That’s awesome!! 🙌🏾 I love it!!
Well done Ron! I especially like "Everything you own has a home." Thanks!
"Things that used to glow, don't even glitter anymore." This will make my decision-making process so much easier about things I used to love, usually, I'm torn by the thought of getting rid of something that I used to love. Thank you for this video!
I will do 10 min ritual from now on, daily for the rest of my life. I’m sick of stuff that I don’t need but still in my life
thank you for the advice ronald.. now i try the F.A.S.T. method :D
I’m glad you enjoyed this my friend! I hope it works for you on your journey!
“Stuff in a pretty basket is still clutter” really hit me!
I love the concept of “if it doesn’t have a home, is it clutter”? That resonates with me. Thanks!
I'm going through a lot of decluttering right now and it's a lot of hard work but worth it. Selling a lot and being more mindful of what I use and want in my life. If you aren't intentional with what you use and bring into your home and not let go of you can end up on an episode of hoarders lol that show is also super motivating for getting rid of things and cleaning.
My grandmother, who grew up during the depression, was a hoarder, out of the resulting feelings of material insecurity. Walking through her home involved weaving around piles of decades-old magazines, clothes and just plain junk. She even kept piles of extra blankets and other bedding stashed under all the mattresses. I just couldn’t relax in that cluttered, dusty environment. My Mom grew up to become a person at the other end of the spectrum, she purges too much!
I used to joke we are kids of depression era parents !
Dealing with it right then and there is where I always struggle.
That’s the challenge, but when we start doing simple things like this, it’s a complete game changer!
I ain’t never gonna be a minimalist buuuuut I watched the full video because your voice is soothing. I mean this respectfully.
Giving everything a home is so powerful. A few years ago I helped my aunt clean up her house (she's a hoarder, no exaggeration, and yes she got mental health help too). You mentioned forks and spoons having an obvious home in your kitchen drawer, but for her, that wasn't even true. Every single item she had floated around to any free space. After throwing away the garbage and spending weeks and weeks decluttering duplicates of everything, we found homes for all the items. I think that lifted a burden off of her where now she doesn't have to think every time she needs to get something or put something away.
I cleaned out my closet a month ago and kept 1/3 of the contents and it felt great.
Just discovered your channel today and subscribed. I was searching decluttering, but also there are strong emotions (I'm a widow). I'm at the point where I know (in my head) that looking at his things and crying is unhealthy after this amount of time, but crying at the thought of getting rid of them. When I'm not home and mention his name, I'm fine. A little sad at missing him, but I don't cry in public. It's when I'm home around some of his things that I still have, that I cry. I know I need to get rid of the rest of his clothes, his wallet, etc.. but I need the motivation or good sense, to do it. I know it's past time and I'm ready, but I need to get over that hurdle mentally first. After seeing many channels where they just don't get it, I am really enjoying your channel! You "get" the emotions behind it. I also think I'm the worrier type clutterer. I am so grateful I found your channel.
My husband died unexpectedly. I had no problem donating his clothing, keeping a few so I could "smell" him. I figured donating his clothing would give another man possibly a leg up in their life. I'm going on 3 years & still have emotions that hold me up from letting go. Give yourself as much time as you need! Big tight hug cause you probably need one. ❤❤
@@cstevens8788 Thank you so much :)
I have relaxed the one-year rule for my wardrobe, just for this one particular time, because during the pandemic, I haven’t worn most of my regular clothes and accessories. I am just now beginning to go out more again, so I’m going to allow an extra year. But, if not worn a year from now, out they go.
My plan is the same!
I just took so many notes from this video... and I am ready to change my life. Now that I have admitted that I have a problem... I am praying that I have the strength to execute! You don't know how much I needed this. Thank you!
You have the strength in you my friend. You sound ready and able from this comment and I’m here to help you. Check out this article I wrote detailing how to build a decluttering system: www.ronaldlbanks.com/blog/how-to-build-an-effective-decluttering-system
Thanks, Ronald ☺️. Your videos have changed how I view my life.
I started typing a whole essay but figured nobody cares. So I just want to say, that I find your videos, very interesting and helpful. Cheers man.
I can listen to your videos everyday and learn something new or remind myself of better habits. Thank you so much!
I’m really glad that you’re enjoying my video Karen!
The older I get, the more I change. I find I don't need as many things as I did when I was younger. I feel better with less stuff.
Oh my gosh, the fork thing is fantastic! It really drives home that some things are just in the wrong place and need to move. Equally, the things that don't get a home no matter how hard we try, are a great candidate for getting booted: out of the door!
Thanks so much. This will make me think of a fork lying under the bed.
So happy to be a minimalist😀
Keep growing and learning on your journey Maureen!
Love doing a 10 minute declutter! I take a trash bag & a donate box. So effective & helpful! Great video. Ty 💕
I found that sentimental things to take a digital picture and then donate. Because the memories are still there just not the object. Living with less is such a cleansing experience. I work at it every week finding more things to let go of, I learned alot of this after my Dad's passing along with subscribing to your channel - plus your Dad's statement is exactly 💯 true. Thank you for your videos because I have continued to learn from them as I take this journey forward.
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Been up for 2 minutes and it's already a banger!
I appreciate the love my friend! Thanks for watching and supporting!
Being in a cluttered environment makes me feel unsettled. A book I read i college (I don't remember the name) gave great advice... handle each paper once. Meaning if it comes in file it or through it away! DO NOT leave it lying on the table or desk with all the other papers or months!
Exactly! “Handle each paper once” absolutely right! Thanks for sharing that Craig!
I really appreciate your calm and steady demeanor. Thank you so much for this information it is super helpful and helps to put things in perspective, enough so to get started with some projects. I would love to hear more about how each personality type can go about the decluttering process differently. In other words does each personality type attack the clutter different from the other two personalities?
Mari Kando talks in her book about how there actually aren’t as much specific personalities of clutter. Well maybe there are, but it doesn’t help too much with dealing with the clutter. She says the main types of messy people there are are 1. People who can’t let go of things 2. People who don’t put things away, and 3. People who are both
I really needed to hear that clutter goes further then physical clutter, thank you 😊
It goes much further that just the physical stuff we see. We also have to deal with the mental and emotional side of life and clutter. I’m glad this conversation resonated with you my friend! Keep growing and if you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
This is such good advice; I need it so badly. Thank you 👍🙏..
Trash tango gives a new beat😊-I like it.
You always have the best videos! Thank you so much for this! Greetings from the Philippines!
Thank you so much Danibelle! I really appreciate that! I’m happy you enjoyed this video!
With the pandemic and working from home, some items were not used in 12 months. I don’t think it’s necessarily a good idea to get rid of everything not used during that period, since as we get back to normal we might need them. I have decluttered, but I’m also giving myself more time for some items.
Great point Dominique! One should definitely consider their own circumstances and needs before decluttering anything. Thank you for sharing this with us!
@@RonaldLBanks Ronald, adult kids in another state- Ca. to NY, just won't pick up their stuff, bought 4 plastic containers from Walmart; put the trophies, yearbooks, awards, prom pictures, etc. Stacked them in his old closet, garage,lol.
@@bjwilliams this would only help with a small portion of your son’s things, but you could look into using media mail to ship books to your son. Media mail postage is a lot cheaper than regular postage.
This video is amazing! Incredibly informative and engaging! Thank you so much for sharing!
I’m really glad you enjoyed this! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share this with you!!
I have my own set of two very simple questions: I never ask myself "why should I declutter it?", I always ask myself "why should I keep it?" instead; plus "would I bring it with me, should I move very far away?". I've found out this really helps me think with clarity.
This is great! I'm all 3 clutter personality🤪...but I'm on it now! A drawer a day keeps the clutter away
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Please dont make a minimalism is dead video like everybody else. You are doing a great job and have a great voice. Love this content.
Hi and thank you for this video. I've just discovered you recently. The spoon/fork example really helped me. I'm an overwhelmed clutterer, but a big part of that is that my things don't have homes. Which makes me more overwhelmed!
The only part of this that doesn't click for me is the, would you trade your peace for this. My peace is so valuable that I wouldn't trade it for anything. Which would leave me with nothing. 😊 All that said, your other tips give me enough structure. Thank you!
I have let so many items sit and collect dust over the years. Some valuable (re: nostalgic) items and some just straight up trash. Being in the technology realm, I hold on to random screws and cables throughout the year. I like this video a lot, thank you! I just moved so I'm ready to declutter and already started that process!
I love the FAST method and the idea that everything has an expiration date. Thanks for mentioning declutter as you go. I do try to remember this and just this week pulled things from wardrobe that didn't feel right anymore.
You are an amazing communicator! Great content. So glad I found you today!
Thank you so much Angela! I’m glad you found me as well. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
Such a practical and direct approach to the clutter dilemma! Thank you for sharing!
Wow. It's taken me a year to find you. I have watched so many "minimalist videos" & they don't help. Funny how their homes echoe! Ugh. I will never be a minimalist, however since the death of my husband I must declutter. It's very difficult, mainly because he was a golf entusist & many things are not only sentimental but valuable. I am trying to forget selling & simply donate. No amount of money can replace the comfort in my own home. Thanks for your advice.
Wow Ron that's new. Cutter Personality. Never heard or thought about it. Great video. Thanks
I’m glad I was able to share something new with you Cathy! Thank you for the opportunity! Keep growing on your journey!
I just changed my preferences from physcial mail to online correspondence for a certain company in less than 2 minutes, while watching this video. Should have done that a long time ago. Thanks! I really liked your dad's quote as well.
Awesome! Super simple change but will save you a ton on paper mail/clutter. I’m glad you enjoyed that quote as well! Thank you!
The fork and spoon example is so simple but makes total sense!
I have noticed from watching a lot of UA-cam that most people, including me, love rules, guidelines, formulas, etc. that they can follow, for both my interests, wardrobe styling, and decluttering. I think it might be a way to get people started on what they want to achieve? I’m not sure, but I do know, after watching some of your videos, that they have helped me face another round of wardrobe decluttering. I still have a long way to go to fit all my stuff back into my two closets.
A home for everything is huge that I will start implementing immediately. I can see in my home office where things pile up because they don't have a designated home. Thanks!
I’m glad this idea helped you Lynne!
It would seem that the concept of “everything has a home” is a known, common sense, everyone does/knows that…but if that were true we would not have clutter in our lives. There are some (my darling husband) who will circumvent this rule and buy another shipping container but for most of is this rule should keep us in check. I like to begin with this rule and if my “home” for an item has no space-something needs to go right then and there.👍🏻 Thanks for your calm, practical reminders about what is truly important in our lives.🙏🏻
I’m two years into my journey. I find it frustrating when I go through and only find one or two things to part with per section however that really shows the progress I’ve made. When I am feeling stuck (which will be later today) I’ll be trying this new tool. Thank you! You always give me great advice and fresh perspective ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m really glad I can help you on your journey! If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask. Would love to help further!
Another awesome video Ronald! Appreciate you. I am sharing this with some family members 😀. Appreciate you!
I appreciate you Lennon! Thanks for watching and sharing. I’m glad this resonated with you so much! Keep growing!!
I love the easy way you explain things. Very helpful. Hugs from Costa Rica
Awesome, that’s perfect! Glad it was helpful my friend.
I am on the minimalism path and find this was an excellent reminder as well as inspirational for when I get stuck !
That’s awesome Amanda! I’m really happy that you found so much value in this.
Many of your suggestions touched me, especially would I trade my inner peace for it? If that doesn’t jump start a person on decluttering, nothing will!
Also, I am overwhelmed in life clutter personality, what tips do you have for me?
Great video. I have a basket and a shredder in my gargage, I drop all the mail in the basket, and once a week, go thru the mail, shred stuff with my name on it and trash everything else. I get all my bills online, so very rarely do I have something in the stack that requires my immediate attention. Paper literally never enters my home.
I have a similar set up in my garage! Works so well.
Nice work here Ron! Such an inspiration. I especially liked the advice where keeping an item should preserve my inner peace... to me this is comforting in that it erases any guilt associated with parting with anything.
Exactly! Guilt is a really big reason why we tend to hold onto things we don’t need. I’ve talked about this a lot in other videos I’ve done. I’m glad this part resonated with you Gordon! Keep growing!
I live with my mum, I am someone who likes to keep things minimal, and throw things out/not buy things.
Mum keeps everything, borderline hoards things, and it’s so frustrating! 😂
I have a video here about how to live with a non-minimalist. I’m not sure if you’ve seen it or not but definitely a ton of value I believe will help you! ua-cam.com/video/DdBhVFGJhiI/v-deo.html
Hard when we keep our kids things, such as pics, I have 2 boxes full of them. 😮
Thank you Ron. Your approach really resonated with me. You have given me the support to tackle paperwork and books which is my last area that I've struggled with
Knowing your clutter personality really stuck out to me, probably because I felt attacked :p that was an eye opener for me, I definitely have work to do but I’m excited!
You got this!! If you have any questions at all don’t hesitate to ask. I’m here to help you! Feel free to check out the resources on my website as well!
One of the most valuable videos about decluttering I have seen on the internet - and I've seen them all (kidding, but.. seriously). Thank you very mucho.
Thank you so much Anna! I’m really glad you enjoyed this and found so much value in it!
Interesting video Ronald, Minimalism has changed my life and my view on it big time.
Greets from the Netherlands!
The 10 minutes a day idea makes it very doable.
My key words are keep - donate - recycle - trash. Trash should be the smallest pile.
Use cardboard boxes, not plastic bags. Bags aren't recyclable and things break.
Have boxes ready to go out the door when your kids/friends/family arrive to get their stuff.
Broken items can be repaired. Many counties have free repair services staffed by volunteers.
Brilliant as always the 3 questions are part of my newest tools
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It’s sounds so simple yet it’s hard but I just had to learn to let go
Just gifted my daughter all her yearbooks to take to her house...
Wow ok so I'm an overwhelmed worrier somebody help meee 😅
Loved this video sooo much 💜 your presentation style is so kind and calm, it's incredibly inspiring!
Thank you so much! Truly appreciate it and I’m happy that you enjoyed this! I’ll definitely have more content coming to help you on your journey! If have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
@@RonaldLBanks I loved seeing some of your old youtube clips in this video and the next one - it's so inspiring how you and your aesthetic grew and evolved. Definitely helps me deal with the clutter to aspire to a cleaner and simpler home one day 💜
Good video. Simple, elegant and useful, good job man
Thank you Juan! I’m glad you enjoyed this!
Great tips! Super helpful. Thank you ❤
Omg I'm so glad I found this channel!! This was all right on time
Everything has a home! Love your voice.
I've always wondered if you have any tips or suggestions for creative types? I have more stuff than I'd like but in order to do what I love, I feel it seems necessary to have these items. Your videos have been super helpful and this often seems to be an overlooked category/personality for those that would like to minimize but are creatively inclined (art, writing, crafting, sewing, etc).
I have a paper recycling bin right at my mail drop-slot in my garage. About 90% of my mail goes right into it, I don’t bring anything into the rest of my house unless it requires some action from me. There’s also a trash bin, for those extremely annoying cases where they put a plastic card, or other non-recyclable item like adhesive stickers, in the letter, you can usually feel them. We can’t control a lot of our junk mail, but they should make doing this illegal. In the UK, you can post a “No Junk Mail” sign and the postal carrier will comply. I wish we had that in the US. I also hate how bills come with extra sheets and “offers” from people selling junk.
Love the video as always! ❤️ I can’t help it but the nurse in me is looking at your arms like “man they can’t miss if someone ever puts an IV on him” 😅
You are so helpful, so direct, so “real.” Thank you!
I’m very happy that you’re enjoying my content Julie!
Am glad I watched you’re videos honestly this whole thing is brilliant when I get rid of stuff or donate or recycle etc etc it even makes the house look more clean and simple I could really make use of the extra space I freed up and it might help me with my studies & tasks
Perfectly on point! Im really learning alot in your videos.
Awesome, thank you! I look forward to sharing more with you.
Ron , this was an awesome video! You always make so much sense!! Well wishes from Argentina.
Thank you Synna! I appreciate the love and I’m glad you enjoyed this. Keep growing on your journey!
Thanks!
Thank you Laura! I happy this resonated with you!!
Great video. Will apply some of what you've gone over as I continue decluttering during the month of October. Thanks bro.
Glad you found value in this my friend!
I love the simple steps you highlighted Ronald! I view clutter in 4 categories: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual and ask does it cultivate joy in my life? or have future or functional joy in my life?
You are really great. I’ve picked up phrases that have really resonated with me. I’m going to started decluttering again.
Wow! Full of so many useful gems!! Thank you
Glad it was helpful my friend!!
Quality content as always. I struggle with getting rid of my favourite clothing even when it has seen better days. My challenge for today is to get rid of two clothing items I've been putting off for weeks. Thanks again pal. :)
I’m glad this helped you my friend! Keep growing and learning!!
Ok I am absolutely 100% the overwhelmed in life🙈🙈🙈
Great video, clutter 101 in a nutshell. Brilliant. I don't have a 'home' for everything because I have way, way too much stuff. But the stuff that does have a home, funny how we never lose it. Great video, thanks
Hey Ron, loved these practical tips! I have a system where I choose one room of my home each week to deep clean and declutter throughout the week and just keep moving around my house. This helps me to consistently declutter! I agree about the mail - I will only get my mail if I have time to deal with it right then. Even still - sometimes things pile up because I don't know what to do with it so I put it in a pile for my husband to look at later - which seems to never happen haha! I just wanted to tell you that you are such a great communicator! I always enjoy your videos! Thanks for sharing!😊
Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to share my content with you! I’m happy my videos are helping you and if you ever have questions don’t hesitate to ask. Would love to help in any way I can!
@@RonaldLBanks Thank you!😊