You Can't Just Touch Girls Like That | The Lungleng Show
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2024
- On the eve of International Women's Day, we explore the different manifestations of sexual abuse within our society using the terms "good touch" and "bad touch".
Advocate Apila Sangtam, Advocate Gauhati High Court Kohima Bench,
Retainer lawyer, Nagaland State Legal Services Authority and Legal Consultant to the dept of Social Welfare and Nagaland State Commission for Women.
Gracy Ayee, State Mission Coordinator, State Hub for Empowerment of Women, Mission Shakti, Under Department of Social Welfare. She's been working in the women's development sector in the state for 12 years now.
It is true that abusers are almost always someone the victim personally knows. Usually a relative. Moms, dads and even elder brothers watching this must be wary of anyone they leave their children with. Also, a lot of children when abused sexually are told by their family to keep quiet. That needs to stop asap. No matter who, there should be no compromise!
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Happy to c sister Apila here. Remembering those city church days in kohima🥰
Gracy is smart and learned and has a verygood vocabulary.
This is very informative tnku lungleng for this talk.Really appreciate Apila very well informed 👍
Iam so happy that finally we are talking about this in our place seriously not only women but everyone should take serious on this topic specially in our own place mostly we think that it’s love from our love ones but some touch are uncomfortable I hope we all support each other when Someone is abuse whether the person is close to us or not fight for the right person 🥺Thankyou sir and your team for bringing this very important topic🙏
This show is very important all must watch this 👍🙏
M dearest smartest Gracy Aye ❤
Sorry to say but its hard to understand some of Miss/ma'm Apila's point of view. Anyway, glad this topic is being brought up. All the best to you all.
Good to see Apila here
Yup she is very very kind...
Once I worked together with her for few months...
Such a thoughtful conversation 💯🙏
Great talk it is!
Dear Madams, thank you so much for sharing. You have a huge responsibility to sensitize the public especially in Nagaland. Create awareness program. We have to empower the victim not to fear and assured them full protection and security and encourage them to speak out. I can understand many minors are living in fear and shame.
Thank you Sir for bringing such an informative show.
Good job Lungleng show👏. These types of social cues and issues should be sensitized and made aware not only to women but to men as well
Informative and valuable debate. Expecting further new topics like this episode in the days to come. Worth watching and listening.
The best show, love it Lungleng, keep it up.
Very good and informative talk. Thanks for bringing such into limelight where in our society, we do not feel comfortable to talk about it.
Glad to see such open discussion taking place. Well done Lungleng show.
Very informative talk.
Thank you all 3 of you
Miss you so much Miss pila 😢 ❤good to see you here ❤
Such an informative talk ...Than you Sir
Every talk and episodes are very helpful, awareness and such in its own way..
So good to see afo Gracy ❤
The people in the comment section who blame women for being attacked by making it all about clothing or accusing them of being gold diggers are probably people who have secretly abused women or want to. They are probably trying to justify what they see as extension of their own behaviour.
Good impact to our soceity n the best shows
Good job 🎉
Thank you lungleng show for insightful discussing of such important topic. In addition to this if laws related to domestic violence. It will be helpfull to many
Engaging. Such talks and conversation s are need of the moment. Great work. Informative.
In todays society there seems to be a trend of blaming men alone however it is a responsibility for a women to maintain their modesty as well. It is concerning that some women may intentionally dress in a seductive and revealing manner, almost inviting unwanted attention and potentially putting themselves in unsafe situations. It is crucial for women to understand the value of Modesty and to dress in a way that reflect self-respect and dignity..
Thx TLS..Session was Informative 👍
By that logic, all rich people should stop buying fancy things or living in big houses. They are inviting unnecessary attention.
Whether women dress wear revealing dresses is not the concern. It has never been the issue. The problem lies with whoever cannot control themselves. This is victim blaming. A person who cannot control their urges will commit s..harassment whether the intended victim is dressed head to or wearing skimpy clothing. The only difference is that they will use the same justification you're giving for their actions. Unfortunately, mindset like yours that shifts the entire responsibility on to the victims is the reason why society is changing at a glacial pace.
Rather than focusing on the negative behaviour that leads to despicable action, you are making it the duty of the victim to be dressed decently so as not to be attacked.
It is not the victim that has to change the way they dress. It is the fault of the aggressor for invading someone's space and harassing them. Unless there's explicit consent between two adults, the blame lies fairly and squarely with the person who is taking something that they have no right to (in this case, taking a person's respect and modesty).
Shame on you for blaming the victims. Attitude like yours will always encourage people to S harass others and then blame the victims.
Learn to keep it in your pants instead of blaming the victims.
I appreciate that...Dress modesty ❤ All my beloved ladies
@@Kawomiii Why don't we ask our men not to walk around just wearing their banian and shorts? Where is their modesty? A lot of them even pee in public. Where's the modesty?
@@Hormataiit's not abt victim blaming. Prevention is better than cure. We have to be practical in our ways in society. There are dress codes for a reason-modesty, discipline, uniformity, equity, etc. Both men and women bear responsibilities in the society. Both men and women can't do anything they want and get away with it by blaming the respective counterpart.
Very informative discussion 👍👍
How do you define about bad touch to male by female
Just tolerate lol
Apply the same yardstick and don't make fun of your male friends when they genuinely complain about sexual harassment.
@user good question
The same definition would obviously apply to both men and women. A lot of boys, esp young ones, get sexually harassed as well. 💔 if any touch feels icky and uncomfortable, it is a bad one.
Every touch by a female to a male is defined or accepted as good touch. 😂
This show is really impactful and informative for social or general awareness ...👍
Good initiative show👍
Input: on the child rights advocacy it's always an appropriate way to use a "safe touch and unsafe touch" .
Thank you for stating that men also face sexual abuse
It would have been perfect interview when it is male and female representative
Right talks at the right time.
It will be good enough if your good topic is applied to all the institution in Nagaland
Good to see you sis Apila 😊
Yes, one important step to help children learn about safe touch and unsafe touch is to teach them the actual anatomical names of their body parts especially the genitals/private areas. Studies show that using anatomically correct terms can help prevent abuse
Abusers/Predators often use euphemisms for private areas, and knowing proper terms give your child credibility if he or she ever need to recognize or report abuse.
That being said, in our culture and our education system the adults feel more awkward to have this conversation.
I think its more appropriate if you address them as Mam/Miss/Mr. Etc.
Not directly addressing/calling their names.
Chup thakiwi na.. sop jaka teh complaint complaint. Thappar ekta diwo salahh
@@Rexonne it's not a complaint,read that is a feedback.
@@TemsuAmong Did he ask for feedback???
@@Rexonnecomments r for feedbacks/opinions brother
Well conversation 👍 thanks to LS for talkshow 🙏
good discussion, how to deal with sexual haraasment in trains, in delhi- u are scraed u dont have your family with u
Give equal opportunity to share their views. That what i can see.
Really a good information
Really informative.
Great talk
Great conversation❤❤
In this case 😢Women can be the “queen maker” when it comes to deciding whether they consider it a bad and good touch 😅😅😅
Engaging in rude behavior and resorting to name-calling, although socially unacceptable and disrespectful, does not constitute a criminal offense under most legal systems and therefore cannot be justifiably pursued in a court of law; while such actions may have consequences in interpersonal relationships or social contexts, they typically do not meet the threshold required for legal prosecution or civil liability
Talk for the well-being of all human being.....not always for women
People like you are the reason why there is a need for more discourse on this topic.
People like you are the reason why there is a need for more discourse on this topic.
If a woman is clever enough,she can sense it when a men is out of bad intention.Topic close.
Very 'touching' conversation
Very informative
Well done ✅
Nagaland needs good counselors. Many abuses happen because of personality disorder.
No such thing as good or bad touch. If a female finds u attractive enough, she'll break her own rules. If she finds you unattractive, it's FIR 😂
Incel spotted.
There IS such a thing as good touch and bad touch. You do not touch anyone without consent. It is not about attractiveness. Even if u find someone attractive, if they surprise you by touching you without your approval and made you feel unsafe and uncomfortable, wouldn't you feel bad too? It applies to both men and women.
It's all about our thinking so masturbate and sleep that's all topic closed🤣
If women gave a bad touch to men what will b the case of men.. let's always put together both face of the coin 🙏
If you watch the video they speak about both girls and boys being harassed. It's just that the statistics are heavily tipped towards women and this discussion is in view of international women week. I hope you understand the context of the situation before resorting to thinking the discussion is not being fair to both male n females.
Interesting ❤
This is quite a productive and informative session but,, its very clear some influence from the western world with regard to morals does not seem to match with certain communities which are more conducive to keeping up traditional values. Infact the northeast tribals seem far ahead then mainland when it comes to status of women.
What i mean,here is
, some sensitive topics are worth not introducing than to introduce them while introducing them. 😂😂😂😂
The main thing girls fear more then being cat called complimented for there beauty is when it stops
Appreciated
Interesting
What does lungleng mean
please support northeast girls in other support
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What about harrasment of men by women that law should also be implemented
was the talk about good and bad touch or about posco act..
Who is talking behind the camera?
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I should said that its good, bad and ugly.
Women are woman we can't find the correct answer😂
Feminists at the highest level
Olive..
Cheap legal interpretation
So both don't recognise or don't wanna follow Naga Customery law because thy are educated now
#Women
Hahahaha 😂😂😂😂..
So both of them don't recognise and support of Naga Customery law coz thy are educated, #Women
They are well informed
Kut tach n pet tach 😂
Everything becomes bad touch d moment he stops paying her bills
Is your comment a reflection of your own story? Do you take women out on dates and offer to pay just to touch them?
What century are you stuck in? Women are earning as much and in some cases outperforming men. So they don't need you to pick up the bill. If I knew you personally, I'd warn all your female friends to stay away from you and certainly not to accept anything from you. Who knows in exchange for buying them a cup of coffee for Rs 50, you expect to feel them up. Some cheap mindset you got there.
Great talk
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