I apologize without emotions, shame, or guilt. The logic this woman is trying to convey is not applicable in most situations. For example, my bad for throwing that pass to the other player. Synonyms exist for a reason.
@@tazabiwsew5123 NOPE! I SAID WHAT I SAID! I MEANT WHAT I SAID! AND ILL SAY IT AGAIN! 🤣 Are you going to apologize for being such a useless human being?
Yes some time a person need to apologize be the bigger person if they actually did something wrong to a person or not, the apology not only helps the other person, but their self too, and move on
Where is the sister coming from? An apology,.when sincere, IS JUST THAT AND NOTHING MORE! If people apologize more often, there might be thousands of young black BOYS AND MEN alive, instead of in their graves, imprisoned, in jails or hospitals! The most misguided podcast guest or hosts I have ever seen or heard!
@@realtalk6192 respect to your opinion, there is no concrete definition of a person that apologizes, all I know is, it eases tension and gives peace a chance. Real or fake, I'm not interested into that. A person got to be sincere in a situation to realize they have to apologize, what they do in their life is off no interest to us, keeping it real in a situation or being sincere is totally different from day to day life, we talking about apologizing, nothing else, unless you want to build a whole different case of who is real on another subject.
@@Geminicricketi How? I’m commenting on the topic in this video. We all know apologies can be used as manipulation. I’m adding to the discussion from the video. If you take that as negative that’s your problem not mine
@@Shae_3 I’m saying that a very negative take on something that supposed to be positive. No one can manipúlate u unless u allow them. N there are far more ppl that refuse to apologize all together
@@Geminicricketi my manipulative ex used to say, "I'll be the first to apologize if I'm wrong..." during a conflict, but that man never once apologized in the 17 years I knew him, unless it could get him something he wanted-- that included win someone's trust back after betraying them (again). He admitted to me that he never felt shame or guilt. Wasn't capable of it. And said his favorite game was convincing "weak" people to do things that could get them hurt or into trouble.
So what emotion does it come from? Regret? Why are you apologizing if not from a place of shame or guilt? How are you sorry if it isn't rooted on something? Is it performance? Manipulation?
No emotion. It's just to end it right there. For peace to reign. But we should be aware of ourselves that that is what we are doing so that it is not twisted. That's what she talking about. She doesn't want people doubting themselves for a narcissistic
I have to say apologizing is a big sign of humility and love . ❤️ SOME SERIOUSLY DONT REALIZE THAT THEY HURT SOMEONE . I WILL ASK FOR FORGIVENESS QUICKLY ..AND TRULY WANT TO MAKE MYSELF BETTER TO NOT OFFEND YOU AGAIN
That’s a women not lady! The lady doesn’t have this much control nor understanding! The world created the lady! God created the women that can speak wisdom!
Apologizing is a sign of great strength. Do not listen or accept any negative teaching that says otherwise.It takes a moral strong person to Apologize.God bless you.❤
How many times have we seen or heard someone gravely hurt another human being and it could be avoided and then apologized?? This is exactly what I call fake apology
Sometimes I don’t find what I did wrong so don’t feel the need to apologize but the other person is affected by my action and so saying these things feels more truthful to me because I do feel sorry I triggered them
To accept that you were wrong is one of the most anti pride, anti ego, non narcissistic actions one could make. An apology can show some awareness, regret, class, and a good indication that one is capable of change for the better. It's a good study of people. No one is perfect.
You will never truly know a prospective partner until there is conflict; be it large or small! And the way they resolve that conflict is a legitimate barometer of who they truly are deep down. This woman spits FACTS.
I agree with you but if I can add one thing, an apology also admit that they made a mistake and it is okay to humble yourself in order to correct your behavior. It can also be a teachable moment. Thank you beautiful human being!!!
Yep, and I hate that 💩 because how/why didn’t I check myself before it reached the level it did🤦🏾♀️ Nevertheless, the apology is in order and I try to do it in person because I believe body language and energy matters
@@s.fayejackson4673who is she guys I want to follow her and listen to her day and night. Every time she opens her mouth I listen. You know why? She speaks sense in calm voice she doesn’t shout but her voice is same level.
Knowing when I have done something wrong and feeling convicted is the way I know that I need to make amends. That conviction will not let go until I make that apology. For me that is the only way I maintain my peace. Blessings and hamony to all of you...
Emotionally confident, Spirituality and integrity speak a lot about a person defending on the situation, it cost nothing to apologize yet everything when you release it, I totally agree sis💪🏽💌🎯🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🏽❤️💯
Whew girl 🔥 I have heard people say that they don't/ didn't apologize because they didn't feel like they did anything wrong. It's not always about if you felt you were wrong. Sometimes, it's about acknowledging that you offended someone else. This is such an eye opener.
Something you can apologize about doesn't require a changed behavior. If you give somebody some info that you think is right, then you find out that it's wrong ... When you apologize, there's no change of action needed.
I strongly believe those who are humble and carry a positive atttiude are truly one’s to apologize because they are so sure in themselves and they have the confidence to reflect on their actions to admit at the end of the day they were wrong. It shows humility and compassion towards someone else you hurt, or did something towards.
She's right. This is wjy narcissists can't apologize. They feel the shame and then the pride puts a lid on it. People can't apologize because they don't want to look at themselves, cant handle feeling the guilt.
@@love-si1kxpeople who share this trade don't have the ability to open up often. They would rather stand in there incorrectness or they're being than to apologize. In my experience Edit: trait*
@@CassCream if we assume and don't offer them the opportunity to show up we will never know. When we start with "people like that," it can be an indication that we are projecting the past on the present. I'm confused though, you are responding about someone else's post. If you are in the same boat, maybe it is easier to continue in dysfunction when we don't confront the issue directly. But you will never know what is possible if you continue as is. Wishing you the absolute best.
Depends on the person. An Apology is only valid when follow up corrective action follows and continues…until then you’re manipulating and “apolo-lying” like Madea says.
I have apologized and was told it's not genuine when it truly was. I'm not going to cry or make myself feel to dreadful about a mistake. I messed up accept or don't.
Exactly, why should I feel shame and guilt? I acknowledge that I was wrong, and I'm gonna change it, simple. WHY does it matter if I feel bad about it?
Sometimes you can be super nice while telling someone how you feel and they can still be offended. What do you do at that point? I'm being honest about how I feel but the person finds something to be offended even when I'm walking on eggshells to be honest so that I'm not offensive. I don't have a problem apologizing if I was wrong or offensive. I think it's emotional intelligence to be able to listen to and accept constructive criticism. To be able to see and understand another person's perspective is also a sign of emotional intelligence, especially when what they're saying is something that you can improve on. Also, I'm not apologizing for facts. Not emotions and opinions that feel like facts but actual facts.
I honestly believe that it would be a natural reaction to feel bad about a bad behavior. There's no brushing it off. When someone is injured by something you've done there's a wound that takes time to heal so it's your responsibility to have compassion, understanding, patience to prove after the apology that you will lovingly go through the process with them to regain their trust. I don't know how deep the wound or offense was but it was yours. If you don't feel bad about it, you probably don't really care...not really! @@skinnytimmy1
@@terrancewatson7739 You know her delivery can be more than just words right. She doesn’t get upset or overly animated it’s just smooth and respectful.
The only reason why I apology can be uncomfortable. It's because you're prideful and selfish. You want peas. You better apologize cuz if you don't what is it about yourself image? That's better than being with someone special in your life. You just be a lonely self-image person when you in a relationship. It's not about you. It's about the other person and vice versa this people on this panel or teaching y'all how to be unreliable in a relationship
Apologies and making amends are so important lots of hurt ppl walking around and all they really want if for someone to acknowledge they've been wronged and to try to make it right. Apologies are a beautiful thing and offer a chance for reconciliation.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 also important because to do it properly you have to look past your own defensive mechanisms and swallow your own pride. Letting go of your self-interest and paying more attention to the interests of others. Then after that not just to feeling the guilt or shame but also making the decision to humble yourself and vocalise it to the offended person. Some people are too prideful to actually act on that guilt or shame appropriately.
This is where dating people outside your sphere of intelligence and humility can be a major issue. I've struggled through relationships with people who don't understand or comprehend the relevance and vitality of a proper apology. They don't understand how important an apology is to someone close to you. Too often, we apologize with the intent of diffusing a situation, or removing the spotlight off of us, but that's not the purpose of an apology. An apology is intended to mend a wound, and it's difficult to treat that wound without fully acknowledging the wound is present, taking the time to cleanse it to prevent possible infection, carefully treating it with the proper treatment so that it can heal as intended, and avoiding possible conflicts with that wound so that it doesn't bleed further before healing. The amount of care needed to treat the wound depends on the severity of the wound, so the deeper you cut someone, the more attention you need to give to that wound. If the only first-aid you have in your life is a band-aid, then stop going through life armed with a machine gun.
This comment is so beautiful. Because there is so much understanding in this, I'm surprised it didn't get more recognition, but then that only further proves your point.
@summerbreeze5360 why thank you. I don't expect any of my remarks to receive adequate acknowledgement, I know how the UA-cam algorithm works, and this will be just another gem that's lost to the masses. But I thank you for your recognition, and I pray you have a blessed New Year.
Forgiveness, amends and reconciliation. You forgive them for you. They make a choice in whether to make amends/ask for forgiveness. Then you collectively create a plan for it to not happen again.
After the first apology it's the person on the receiving end that allows or doesn't allow it to happen over and over again and sometimes depending on the issue, people should apologize multiple times when wrong or sometimes their not wrong , it's the other person not having understanding and refuse to forgive , even when they are wrong themselves , sometimes you will mess up until you get right , some people just need a partner that is willing to help heal them , that's rare and that's why most relationships and marriages don't work out , and the kids suffer. I know plenty of people who have done wrong over and over and have been forgiven and loved that they eventually changed and for the better , I'm one of them , I've never done anything devious or betrayed my husband , but Ive said hurtful things and I realized how much it hurt him , I recognized that his feelings were valid and I changed , he loves me so much that I changed , you have to learn patience, stay humble and pray
People that do that, as I still fight it in myself, do so to avoid confrontation. It’s a sort of fight or flight, even apologizing or excusing those who wrong us most.
@@ebonyeyed08tiAllowing someone to do it over and over again the same thing can become enabling and a crutch…giving them permission to KEEP doing it with no remorse…that’s when you run into well oh “you let them do it it…” or “you knew what they were like before you got with them”…nope…not giving nobody a chance to wrong me…they got one chance to get it right…that’s IT that’s all…
@@Zeebo216 I agree, but disagree, all people are different I know of many couples who went through those trying times, but worked out their problems , they fought for the relationship . It's better to work out the problem with one instead of sleeping with many people , going on and out of a relationship, people who do that tend to never find true love , they even tend to end up in 3rd party situations
You In love with a woman who can accidentally burn your house down but doesn't want to apologies or won't say shit because she doesn't want to feel vulnerable. There are plenty of women out here like that- plenty.
Untrue I have apologized to my man when I know I have been eying plenty of times even without him asking. If I even feel like it was wrong and he didn’t I still apologize and that’s without pressure. And that apology starts with…. I apologize “for” or I apologize “when” I did… X,YZ… I was wrong to put you in that space and I need to do a better job etc
@@DaQueenPopeThat’s super dope, I’m sure your person practices the same. Big ups to you both, keep it going and thank you for blessings access to how it’s properly done from man and woman!
People don’t want your apologies, and won’t allow it from you. Once a person mindlessly cuts you out, it’s forever sometimes. There’s nothing to be done, unless the communication remains open. Most people never get that chance.
We don't need apologies because that means our self worth is based on someone else's ability to have empathy and many people don't have that so save yourselves the concern, don't expect apologies.
No he is correct. And this is a shared experience by us men. Women don’t apologize to men. Unless it’s under some special circumstance like he’s leaving them. Which is an attempt to keep some kind of leverage or control. They usually don’t apologize but the expect men to apologize to them. This includes your mother and your significant other.
She's wrong, she's explaining "being sorry" not apologizing. They are two different things. Apologizing doesn't mean that you feel guilty, ashamed or that you've stepped outside of your integrity. It simply means that you acknowledge that you've offended that person. People will apologize to you & turn around & do the same thing to you over & over again. Guilty & shame are only connected to remorse & repentance, which means that you recognize you were wrong, sorry for it & won't do it again.
I believe we all understand that's what she means here by apologizing your supposed to mean it and truly be sorry.. the ppl who don't on are on a planet of their own
I wonder if people sometimes are just argumentative, understand basic concepts, or don't understand basic concepts and explanations. You are mincing words. Here is the definition of apology: a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure. That's EXACTLY what she said. To apologize is to be sorry for what you did. Why didn't you understand that? It's not different. It's the same. Duh!
She is so lovely. A narcissist might apologize but it’s for a little superficial thing. In that apology you know there is a way longer list that they are absolving themselves from!
To me, an apology is soooooooo easy!!!!! I embrace the idea of easing the burden of another. I WANT to take back the pain or discomfort I’ve caused. I want to spoil them with comfort and well being. That’s a good feeling😊
Thank you for being real... Sitting with shame and guilt... Processing it in a healthy way... develop healthy coping skills... I apologize...being humble allows us to get closer to our end to the Higher Power
There’s a difference between apologizing and being apologetic. Some times people just say sorry to end the conversation
I agree.
I've done both.
I apologize without emotions, shame, or guilt. The logic this woman is trying to convey is not applicable in most situations. For example, my bad for throwing that pass to the other player. Synonyms exist for a reason.
@@ojstoical4044 I get you. I usually apologize for the sake of peace.
I usually just avoid rubbing people the wrong way.
Facts❗️💯😐 And how you know is that they do the same $hit all over again weeks/months later.
Sometimes people apologize to make peace, not because they were wrong.
We call that disingenuous. Walking on eggshells. Silly.
Exactly
Yes but the basis of a genuine apology is built on what she said
Tru indeed
Simple as that
Apologizing MUST be accompanied with acknowledgement of WRONG behavior!!😮🤔🥺
She is BEAUTIFUL!! Her skin tone is flawless!
Makeup fool.
Are you going to apologize for uttering such a statement?😅
@@tazabiwsew5123 NOPE! I SAID WHAT I SAID! I MEANT WHAT I SAID! AND ILL SAY IT AGAIN! 🤣
Are you going to apologize for being such a useless human being?
Yes her skin is glowing
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said.
She knows people, knows people. Her advice is always soooo sound!!!❤❤
What's her name? Does she have her own social platforms?
The way the dude whistled when she said apologizing comes from guilt n shame, as if he had never thought of that, has me cracking tf up
@@justsayin._.😂
She is absolutely radiant
Yes absolutely stunning I thought someone else must of noticed lol
@@fa1a2ha she’s like the most beautiful woman I’ve seen in awhile
@@theamazingdoubleAtrue . Any thoughts on what she said ?
Yes, a chocolate beauty
@@claymorekwaramba6937 facts. Not a thing about it id change
A person that apologized is a person that puts pride aside, and takes self accountability. Nothing else besides being real and sincere
Yes some time a person need to apologize be the bigger person if they actually did something wrong to a person or not, the apology not only helps the other person, but their self too, and move on
@@LindaJohnson-tt8fu I totally agree with you.
Where is the sister coming from? An apology,.when sincere, IS JUST THAT AND NOTHING MORE!
If people apologize more often, there might be thousands of young black BOYS AND MEN alive, instead of in their graves, imprisoned, in jails or hospitals!
The most misguided podcast guest or hosts I have ever seen or heard!
A person that apologies is not necessarily sincere or real.
@@realtalk6192 respect to your opinion, there is no concrete definition of a person that apologizes, all I know is, it eases tension and gives peace a chance. Real or fake, I'm not interested into that. A person got to be sincere in a situation to realize they have to apologize, what they do in their life is off no interest to us, keeping it real in a situation or being sincere is totally different from day to day life, we talking about apologizing, nothing else, unless you want to build a whole different case of who is real on another subject.
She is so beautiful and carries herself so well on stage.
I think her intelligence brings out her natural beauty even more.😍
Let her of the makeup bet you will run.
@@peterforbes2678She actually looks better without it. Don’t just assume.
She is Beautiful, and full of humility, innerstanding& love
I real appreciate women like her!!!
Stop being a simp and listen to the message. Far more important that her looks
Well said. An apology should be influenced by humility and empathy.
I agree to a certain extent...FIRST & FOREMOST that apology has to be sincere.
It depends if the other party is really in the wrong coz alot of times ppl just want apology for the dumbest things women do it all the time.
That was pretty much implicit in her statement and even basically included toward the end haha:))
Some people apologize as a form of manipulation but as she stated you need a plan of action with that apology
You are so negative😂😂😂
@@Geminicricketi How? I’m commenting on the topic in this video. We all know apologies can be used as manipulation. I’m adding to the discussion from the video. If you take that as negative that’s your problem not mine
@@Shae_3 I’m saying that a very negative take on something that supposed to be positive. No one can manipúlate u unless u allow them. N there are far more ppl that refuse to apologize all together
@@Geminicricketi my manipulative ex used to say, "I'll be the first to apologize if I'm wrong..." during a conflict, but that man never once apologized in the 17 years I knew him, unless it could get him something he wanted-- that included win someone's trust back after betraying them (again).
He admitted to me that he never felt shame or guilt. Wasn't capable of it. And said his favorite game was convincing "weak" people to do things that could get them hurt or into trouble.
AND...does that apology follow up with changed behavior.
If it’s a true apology… yes
If you just saying I’m sorry to make one feel better…no
Not usually
That part!!
Correct. Apologizing without changed behavior is manipulation.
There u go
Apology doesn’t have to be out of shame of guilt, It could also mean an oversight and out of respect you apologize. Great conversation.
But that person still feels guilty or ashamed that at that time they disrespected that person...or overlooked something...
@@bsmoove5903Nope! Sometimes people apologize just to let the drama going away or to not rub shame on someone's else
So what emotion does it come from? Regret? Why are you apologizing if not from a place of shame or guilt? How are you sorry if it isn't rooted on something? Is it performance? Manipulation?
No emotion. It's just to end it right there. For peace to reign. But we should be aware of ourselves that that is what we are doing so that it is not twisted.
That's what she talking about. She doesn't want people doubting themselves for a narcissistic
That's not the apology we're referring to. @@Franklin8701
She is a beautiful melinated sister and she speaks facts ❤
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said.
I have to say apologizing is a big sign of humility and love . ❤️ SOME SERIOUSLY DONT REALIZE THAT THEY HURT SOMEONE . I WILL ASK FOR FORGIVENESS QUICKLY ..AND TRULY WANT TO MAKE MYSELF BETTER TO NOT OFFEND YOU AGAIN
I love the way this young Lady talks and explains herself. Her beauty is far deeper than the eye can see. She speaks wisdom.
That's a boatload of makeup
@@TheBrownIslandThey were speaking also on inner beauty but sure let’s discuss the makeup. She looks good
That’s a women not lady! The lady doesn’t have this much control nor understanding! The world created the lady! God created the women that can speak wisdom!
Who is she?
I'm not sure if that's wisdom
She’s blessed with wisdom & knowledge. She also is very well spoken. This is a gift from God. God is good!❤
Fr
Which god?
Lmao really nothing she said was valid or true
She might of been talking about you 😂🤣😂🤣 bc we got what she was saying🤷🏽♀️
VERY!
Apologizing is a sign of great strength. Do not listen or accept any negative teaching that says otherwise.It takes a moral strong person to Apologize.God bless you.❤
@livesimply-777 Apologize is the right thing and if he/she doesn't mean it,it's there problem.God bless you❤️
You're right! As soon as I listened to this, I said: "human's wisdom, not GOD'S".
How many times have we seen or heard someone gravely hurt another human being and it could be avoided and then apologized?? This is exactly what I call fake apology
@@ThePoeticSam , you're right about that kind of people. But it still doesn't make apology a sign of weakness though.
@livesimply-777 Yesssss,if the devil apologizes,I will accept his apology.Who I'm not too?
People who are guilty and ashamed and refuse to acknowledge it are indeed on a different level
She is ABSOLUTELY STUNNING AND BEAUTIFUL
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said.
Whew. She's SO on it. Incredible insight.
How so cuz if I tell u I apologize or I'm sorry doesn't mean I meant any word of it. So yes don't see it
Incredible insight with what exactly? The words salad 🥗? I guess.😂😅😊
@@james56660 I guess it’s just her delivery 🤷🏾♀️ I’m not to keen of women speaking for other women though , not every woman is the same
@@YurFavDva + What are you on about? I don’t believe all women are like that. I Never said so here.
@@james56660 no I’m not talking about you I’m talking about her. You took that wrong .
Another thing I hate is when someone says “Sorry you feel that way or I’m sorry you took it that way”.
that's called raggedy
Apologizing is different from feeling sorry...
Usually a response for Karen’s
Passive aggressive
Sometimes I don’t find what I did wrong so don’t feel the need to apologize but the other person is affected by my action and so saying these things feels more truthful to me because I do feel sorry I triggered them
My 2 favorite ppl on the panel
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Agreed
Yes
Yeah
Her and trip
Big time💪😎
This woman is so beautiful and wise ❤
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said.
Part of humility has humiliation. You feel like you’re humiliating yourself, but it’s apart of humanity… that part what she said!🎉❤❤
To accept that you were wrong is one of the most anti pride, anti ego, non narcissistic actions one could make. An apology can show some awareness, regret, class, and a good indication that one is capable of change for the better. It's a good study of people. No one is perfect.
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Exactly!
You will never truly know a prospective partner until there is conflict; be it large or small! And the way they resolve that conflict is a legitimate barometer of who they truly are deep down. This woman spits FACTS.
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@@ladybutterfly2467 true. But keep away. and be silent
She's talking rubbish
Exactly
been binge watching so many shorts of her speak, god I love her
She has a ton of vids on Ticktok and probably on her as well Kittie Rose.
What's her name??
Facts
@@rickihosein Kittie Rose.
@@angelbabyg1 ...thank you 🥰
I agree with you but if I can add one thing, an apology also admit that they made a mistake and it is okay to humble yourself in order to correct your behavior. It can also be a teachable moment. Thank you beautiful human being!!!
She RIGHT!! 💯💯💯
Yep, and I hate that 💩 because how/why didn’t I check myself before it reached the level it did🤦🏾♀️ Nevertheless, the apology is in order and I try to do it in person because I believe body language and energy matters
She is amazing!! Beautiful!! Such wisdom!! Just GOTTA Love her!! 🌹❤️🌹
I agree, I love listening to her.
@@s.fayejackson4673who is she guys I want to follow her and listen to her day and night. Every time she opens her mouth I listen. You know why? She speaks sense in calm voice she doesn’t shout but her voice is same level.
Yes!! She is beautiful inside and out!!
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said. How she looks is not important
Knowing when I have done something wrong and feeling convicted is the way I know that I need to make amends. That conviction will not let go until I make that apology. For me that is the only way I maintain my peace. Blessings and hamony to all of you...
That's me.
Emotionally confident, Spirituality and integrity speak a lot about a person defending on the situation, it cost nothing to apologize yet everything when you release it, I totally agree sis💪🏽💌🎯🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🏽❤️💯
Whew girl 🔥 I have heard people say that they don't/ didn't apologize because they didn't feel like they did anything wrong. It's not always about if you felt you were wrong. Sometimes, it's about acknowledging that you offended someone else. This is such an eye opener.
Apologies without changed behavior makes the apology worthless!!! We live in a time people will say sorry all day but keep doing the same stuff
Something you can apologize about doesn't require a changed behavior. If you give somebody some info that you think is right, then you find out that it's wrong ... When you apologize, there's no change of action needed.
@@purplepillemergencychannel incorrect . The changed behavior is next time before giving out misinformation. Research 1st
That Sistha is STUNNING
That being said, now follow up with changed behavior
Impossible
Good articulation and a little makes even stupid ideas sounds great
Right bc what she saying is common sense dumb..
Amen. This woman is an intelligent person.
Measuring to what standard 😂😂😂😂😂
She is so beautiful, I swear. I can hear her talk all day
Beta
@lawrenceoliver7737 that what the dark skin woman name is
Fr
I am literally stroke by her beauty and I am a woman. A black African woman... WOW..
Jesus, she's breathtaking! Also, every word she said is true. And I love her for that.
I strongly believe those who are humble and carry a positive atttiude are truly one’s to apologize because they are so sure in themselves and they have the confidence to reflect on their actions to admit at the end of the day they were wrong. It shows humility and compassion towards someone else you hurt, or did something towards.
What a peach. A manipulative peach. Never wrong. Never mistaken. Whatever helps you sleep.
She's right. This is wjy narcissists can't apologize. They feel the shame and then the pride puts a lid on it. People can't apologize because they don't want to look at themselves, cant handle feeling the guilt.
Maaan this is the most impactful thing I've seen that makes me lose faith in my own relationship because I never get this from my partner
Share it with them and talk about it and what you need
If you know this person, then make your decision appropriately if that is truly the case. Also be more self-aware.
@@love-si1kxpeople who share this trade don't have the ability to open up often. They would rather stand in there incorrectness or they're being than to apologize. In my experience
Edit: trait*
@@CassCream if we assume and don't offer them the opportunity to show up we will never know. When we start with "people like that," it can be an indication that we are projecting the past on the present. I'm confused though, you are responding about someone else's post. If you are in the same boat, maybe it is easier to continue in dysfunction when we don't confront the issue directly. But you will never know what is possible if you continue as is.
Wishing you the absolute best.
@@love-si1kx what you say is true. Just easier said than done. 🙌🏽
Depends on the person. An Apology is only valid when follow up corrective action follows and continues…until then you’re manipulating and “apolo-lying” like Madea says.
I have apologized and was told it's not genuine when it truly was. I'm not going to cry or make myself feel to dreadful about a mistake. I messed up accept or don't.
Same thing happened to me.
Same here, because you didn't beg and plead for their forgiveness, they feel that you weren't sincere or serious when you apologized.
Exactly, why should I feel shame and guilt? I acknowledge that I was wrong, and I'm gonna change it, simple. WHY does it matter if I feel bad about it?
Sometimes you can be super nice while telling someone how you feel and they can still be offended. What do you do at that point? I'm being honest about how I feel but the person finds something to be offended even when I'm walking on eggshells to be honest so that I'm not offensive. I don't have a problem apologizing if I was wrong or offensive. I think it's emotional intelligence to be able to listen to and accept constructive criticism. To be able to see and understand another person's perspective is also a sign of emotional intelligence, especially when what they're saying is something that you can improve on. Also, I'm not apologizing for facts. Not emotions and opinions that feel like facts but actual facts.
I honestly believe that it would be a natural reaction to feel bad about a bad behavior. There's no brushing it off. When someone is injured by something you've done there's a wound that takes time to heal so it's your responsibility to have compassion, understanding, patience to prove after the apology that you will lovingly go through the process with them to regain their trust. I don't know how deep the wound or offense was but it was yours. If you don't feel bad about it, you probably don't really care...not really! @@skinnytimmy1
This woman thinks like how I think. But she areticulates it in the way that I can express. And she's one hundred % right!!❤
Her and Tripp will have you YASSSSSSifying errythang! Intelligence and Truth...There's LEVELS! 👏 👏 👏
I love her she speaks truth and her delivery is always great
Really? All she did was talking alot using so called big words just to say you apologize when you know you fucked up and I think she meant IQ also
@@terrancewatson7739 You know her delivery can be more than just words right. She doesn’t get upset or overly animated it’s just smooth and respectful.
@@Beabee0827she sounds like a masculine man
She be on point. I love how she breaks shit down. I would def listen to her if she had her own podcast. She speaks very well and very intelligent.
She’s right apologizing can be uncomfortable
The only reason why I apology can be uncomfortable. It's because you're prideful and selfish. You want peas. You better apologize cuz if you don't what is it about yourself image? That's better than being with someone special in your life. You just be a lonely self-image person when you in a relationship. It's not about you. It's about the other person and vice versa this people on this panel or teaching y'all how to be unreliable in a relationship
@@absolutetruth3979 what when did I say I didn’t apologize and how are they teaching people to be unreliable
Apologies and making amends are so important lots of hurt ppl walking around and all they really want if for someone to acknowledge they've been wronged and to try to make it right. Apologies are a beautiful thing and offer a chance for reconciliation.
Sister has God given wisdom.
Her and Candace Owens are one of the two role models i look up to philosophically ❤ and i love it
It's difficult to even take it serious when they always in costume
Yup its a pervasive image issue, they literally attached it to their identity
…So she mentioned nothing about looks and was absolutely on the mark. Yet her makeup and hairstyle is what you use to undermine her?
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 also important because to do it properly you have to look past your own defensive mechanisms and swallow your own pride.
Letting go of your self-interest and paying more attention to the interests of others. Then after that not just to feeling the guilt or shame but also making the decision to humble yourself and vocalise it to the offended person.
Some people are too prideful to actually act on that guilt or shame appropriately.
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TRUTH... Being able to apologize... PRICELESS!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I 🫶🏽 her thought process. She's it👑👏🏽👑👏🏽👑
This is where dating people outside your sphere of intelligence and humility can be a major issue. I've struggled through relationships with people who don't understand or comprehend the relevance and vitality of a proper apology. They don't understand how important an apology is to someone close to you. Too often, we apologize with the intent of diffusing a situation, or removing the spotlight off of us, but that's not the purpose of an apology. An apology is intended to mend a wound, and it's difficult to treat that wound without fully acknowledging the wound is present, taking the time to cleanse it to prevent possible infection, carefully treating it with the proper treatment so that it can heal as intended, and avoiding possible conflicts with that wound so that it doesn't bleed further before healing. The amount of care needed to treat the wound depends on the severity of the wound, so the deeper you cut someone, the more attention you need to give to that wound. If the only first-aid you have in your life is a band-aid, then stop going through life armed with a machine gun.
This comment is so beautiful. Because there is so much understanding in this, I'm surprised it didn't get more recognition, but then that only further proves your point.
@summerbreeze5360 why thank you. I don't expect any of my remarks to receive adequate acknowledgement, I know how the UA-cam algorithm works, and this will be just another gem that's lost to the masses. But I thank you for your recognition, and I pray you have a blessed New Year.
Indubitably!
I don’t only want an apology I want an about-face.
Forgiveness, amends and reconciliation. You forgive them for you. They make a choice in whether to make amends/ask for forgiveness. Then you collectively create a plan for it to not happen again.
So true! Some people are living in la la land and think their emotion less. They don't believe in apology.
This woman always has something to teach worth while, love her
I like this sister....beauty, brains and compassion
This woman be on point EVERY SINGLE TIME. 💯🙏
Some people apologize far too often, just to do the same thing time and time again.
After the first apology it's the person on the receiving end that allows or doesn't allow it to happen over and over again and sometimes depending on the issue, people should apologize multiple times when wrong or sometimes their not wrong , it's the other person not having understanding and refuse to forgive , even when they are wrong themselves , sometimes you will mess up until you get right , some people just need a partner that is willing to help heal them , that's rare and that's why most relationships and marriages don't work out , and the kids suffer. I know plenty of people who have done wrong over and over and have been forgiven and loved that they eventually changed and for the better , I'm one of them , I've never done anything devious or betrayed my husband , but Ive said hurtful things and I realized how much it hurt him , I recognized that his feelings were valid and I changed , he loves me so much that I changed , you have to learn patience, stay humble and pray
People that do that, as I still fight it in myself, do so to avoid confrontation. It’s a sort of fight or flight, even apologizing or excusing those who wrong us most.
You mean alcoholics 🤣
@@ebonyeyed08tiAllowing someone to do it over and over again the same thing can become enabling and a crutch…giving them permission to KEEP doing it with no remorse…that’s when you run into well oh “you let them do it it…” or “you knew what they were like before you got with them”…nope…not giving nobody a chance to wrong me…they got one chance to get it right…that’s IT that’s all…
@@Zeebo216 I agree, but disagree, all people are different I know of many couples who went through those trying times, but worked out their problems , they fought for the relationship . It's better to work out the problem with one instead of sleeping with many people , going on and out of a relationship, people who do that tend to never find true love , they even tend to end up in 3rd party situations
Good word! I love this lady and Trip! Their insight!
Well said!
Yes, truth.
I'm sorry folks..but I'm in love with this chocolate doll baby ❤
Flawless skin !
She’s mine so please let’s not fight for her online as you can see her finger💍 she’s mine😂
@@CookWithStephhthat’s my type I love that type of skin black aka dark chocolate I love her😊
You In love with a woman who can accidentally burn your house down but doesn't want to apologies or won't say shit because she doesn't want to feel vulnerable. There are plenty of women out here like that- plenty.
That's what it sounds like. @zurielpita5402
Well people that’s Neva wrong would feel like it’s nuttin to apologize about
and we're not talking about those fools
Women don’t apologize to men. But they always want men to apologize to them.
Untrue I have apologized to my man when I know I have been eying plenty of times even without him asking. If I even feel like it was wrong and he didn’t I still apologize and that’s without pressure. And that apology starts with…. I apologize “for” or I apologize “when” I did… X,YZ… I was wrong to put you in that space and I need to do a better job etc
You meant some women.
I hope you meant to say that.
@@wanariddick9165 Most
Some men apologise loads but don't actually mean it. Which is worse I really don't know 😂 good luck to all the couples battling that one 😂
@@DaQueenPopeThat’s super dope, I’m sure your person practices the same. Big ups to you both, keep it going and thank you for blessings access to how it’s properly done from man and woman!
She actually articulated an argument that wasn’t biased. WOW 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Love this Intelligent Woman…..Absolutely Brilliant!!!
She called 95% of women low in emotional intelligence
More like 99 %
Yup
@Mr_Tinez90 she described women 😂 she didn't need to say it
Your stat is so wrong.
I’ve noticed that so many men literally hate women☠️
People don’t want your apologies, and won’t allow it from you. Once a person mindlessly cuts you out, it’s forever sometimes. There’s nothing to be done, unless the communication remains open. Most people never get that chance.
😮you are the exact type of person she was referring to.
She’s the only person that makes sense ever on their panel!!
She is the only women on that panel that I would listen to. She's done the work and is very intelligent.
Brilliant explanation! A REAL GENUINE APOLOGY goes a LONG WAY! That's REAL EQ! Facts!
We don't need apologies because that means our self worth is based on someone else's ability to have empathy and many people don't have that so save yourselves the concern, don't expect apologies.
Sooooooo if most women don’t apologize, how emotionally intelligent are they???
Seems you need to make better choices in women
Get offline and go touch grass. You are caught is the social media bubble. Go meet women in real life.
Most don't apologize he's rite
No he is correct. And this is a shared experience by us men. Women don’t apologize to men. Unless it’s under some special circumstance like he’s leaving them. Which is an attempt to keep some kind of leverage or control. They usually don’t apologize but the expect men to apologize to them. This includes your mother and your significant other.
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She's wrong, she's explaining "being sorry" not apologizing. They are two different things. Apologizing doesn't mean that you feel guilty, ashamed or that you've stepped outside of your integrity. It simply means that you acknowledge that you've offended that person. People will apologize to you & turn around & do the same thing to you over & over again. Guilty & shame are only connected to remorse & repentance, which means that you recognize you were wrong, sorry for it & won't do it again.
I believe we all understand that's what she means here by apologizing your supposed to mean it and truly be sorry.. the ppl who don't on are on a planet of their own
This appears to be the most correct comment.
I wonder if people sometimes are just argumentative, understand basic concepts, or don't understand basic concepts and explanations. You are mincing words. Here is the definition of apology: a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure. That's EXACTLY what she said. To apologize is to be sorry for what you did. Why didn't you understand that? It's not different. It's the same. Duh!
...and sometimes we'll apologize when we feel they're wrong...SMH
I agree a person who can sincerely apologize has high emotional intelligence
Saying sorry is what makes you learn and grow as a person
THIS is TRUE a Zillion times OVER ALL the TIME IT takes to even get the INNER STRENGTH to say I'm sorry & MEAN IT! 🙏🏾✌🏾💘💛💞👑💝
Only if it's with and from SINCERITY...
She has a good point. One of the best simple insights I've heard.
Sooo true. Cuts down a whole lot of drama. Whether right or wrong.
Queen... You definitely hit the nail on the head 🗣️
Absolute Facts!!! So very well said!
She is so lovely. A narcissist might apologize but it’s for a little superficial thing. In that apology you know there is a way longer list that they are absolving themselves from!
She is spot on!!!!!!
To me, an apology is soooooooo easy!!!!! I embrace the idea of easing the burden of another. I WANT to take back the pain or discomfort I’ve caused. I want to spoil them with comfort and well being. That’s a good feeling😊
Thank you for being real... Sitting with shame and guilt... Processing it in a healthy way... develop healthy coping skills... I apologize...being humble allows us to get closer to our end to the Higher Power
The more she speaks the more her beauty radiates.
Stop being a simp and pay attention to what she said. How she looks is not important
We don't apologize enough to one another. I agree with her. The shame and guilt, I feel is what keep folks from apologizing.
I absolutely love this woman!
preach, we’re all capable of learning growing healing👏👏👏
I love the way she broke that down
Thanks for the awesome message