A love letter to realism in a time of grief | Mark Pollock and Simone George

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  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 років тому +37

    Definitely the top best Ted talk regarding relationships I've EVER seen. I'M SO GLAD I HAD THIS recomended.. THIS IS WHAT REAL LOVE IS ALL ABOUT.
    The pain is unimaginable to imagine. My gosh.. for both of them. Applause, applause..

  • @peggyharris3815
    @peggyharris3815 6 років тому +29

    "The Tension between Acceptance and Hope"
    That should be your book title.
    You walk the talk better than anyone!

  • @Lunareon
    @Lunareon 6 років тому +9

    What a beautiful relationship and a reminder that, in order to continue forward, one must embrace difficult feelings in their entirety.

  • @vic6466
    @vic6466 6 років тому +108

    "He ,who has a why to live,can bear with almost any How"
    -nietzsche

    • @jasenkavukelic5047
      @jasenkavukelic5047 6 років тому +3

      Victor Gpz Love that!

    • @YoshliFan
      @YoshliFan 6 років тому +4

      Not excactly correct.. It's a citation by Viktor Frankl which has come from a bigger sentence of Niezsche that goes further than that.

  • @clionakelly6076
    @clionakelly6076 6 років тому +2

    Im in tears. They came to my school when i was 16, i remember watching a documentary about them and being in awe of their unconditional love for each other. Just incredible people..... my role models.

    • @DarrenBonJovi
      @DarrenBonJovi 6 років тому +1

      I did the Run in the Dark last night….myself and my friend cheered Mark as he passed by at the end. He's a great inspiration.

    • @simonegeorge
      @simonegeorge Рік тому

      Cliona, I am so sorry I am only seeing this now. I came to watch my talk back before speaking to 1,000 16 year olds tomorrow and your comment has helped with how I hold this responsibility. I hope that life almost ten years on is going well for you. Thank you for this and such a welcome to your school when we were still figuring things out. x

  • @lynnfindlay1895
    @lynnfindlay1895 5 років тому +2

    They are both equally articulate in relaying such a heart wrenching story of hope - such respect between them and a beautiful love.. wishing them everything good.

  • @ivangartenhaus4276
    @ivangartenhaus4276 6 років тому +2

    "... grief is a raging river ...." the way she says it is beautiful.

  • @MistressOfInsanity
    @MistressOfInsanity 6 років тому +6

    I’m not crying, you’re crying. Wonderful TED Talk

  • @karenm8952
    @karenm8952 Рік тому +1

    I first saw this talk 2-3 years ago and I have since quoted what she says about 'acceptance and grief' many times. (17:43) An unforgettable Ted Talk.

  • @Woobsmom.StacyH
    @Woobsmom.StacyH 6 років тому +1

    They have no idea how many lives they will empower. I am using this in every therapy session with every client!

  • @tleemf6923
    @tleemf6923 3 роки тому

    I love I he literally LOOKS AT HER with his heart in his eyes....so beautiful...inspiring ..thank you

  • @matthewjackson3910
    @matthewjackson3910 6 років тому +5

    I just have to say.you to are the most beautiful couple ever, and so inspiring. I wish more people could share your courage and strength. My wife just passed away August 18th. but when she was by my side she made me feel invincible!!! .She battled stage 4 metastatic breast cancer almost 3 years guess what I'm saying IS there is something purely magical when a couple truly love each other.

    • @florentinaalexa
      @florentinaalexa 6 років тому

      Matthew Jackson you're a good hearted man for the world we live in..

  • @jamesmillar3548
    @jamesmillar3548 6 років тому +9

    I truly admire them their love goes hand in hand with their strength and endeavors

  • @celestialcircledance
    @celestialcircledance 6 років тому

    Thanks for telling me that it's okay not to be an optimist but keep hope alive . Amazing love story and triumph in the face of adversity !

  • @darknight92414
    @darknight92414 6 років тому +15

    Sweden I nominate this two beautiful human beings for the next Nobel Price of Peace, thumb up if agree and see if we can start a movement!

  • @poweroffriendship2.0
    @poweroffriendship2.0 6 років тому +72

    Better love story than Twilight and 50 Shades Of Gray COMBINED.

    • @ethanolroy4074
      @ethanolroy4074 6 років тому +2

      Truly said

    • @maxbycraft
      @maxbycraft 6 років тому

      LMFAIAOOAAOO

    • @sawwil936
      @sawwil936 6 років тому +1

      Lol u watched twilight and 50 shades

    • @andriipopovich6704
      @andriipopovich6704 5 років тому +1

      any story is better then Twilight and 50 Shades Of Gray

    • @karenm8952
      @karenm8952 Рік тому +1

      @@andriipopovich6704 I haven't seen 50 Shades, but I have seen the Twilight series. I am older and expected it to be a pretty shallow YA soap that I wouldn't finish, but I was actually impressed at how good the story ended up being!

  • @LuLuBell270
    @LuLuBell270 6 років тому +21

    Omg this is amazing, it needs to be everywhere

  • @Niamh2012
    @Niamh2012 Рік тому

    😭 what a pair of legends. Mind blown.

  • @jasenkavukelic5047
    @jasenkavukelic5047 6 років тому +2

    I wish more people would see this! Please, share!

  • @leiannesw4926
    @leiannesw4926 6 років тому +4

    Great talk. Inspiring! This is true love. And the better side of humanity. Thank you for sharing your journey.
    I took care of my Husband when he got cancer. I was amazed by how many people abandon loved ones when hard times fall on us.

  • @richardjustinamericantatem5758
    @richardjustinamericantatem5758 6 років тому

    Frankl, Stockdale, faith, hope and agape. All wrapped up in human tragedy. And yet triumph in the end. CS Lewis said hardship prepares ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. Ain't that the truth. Your humble servant. JA

  • @fionabrennan-thepositivehabit
    @fionabrennan-thepositivehabit 4 роки тому +1

    Really and truly beautiful, a powerful story of hope and love. Thank you for the courage you bring to the world, may everyone who needs to see this TED talk. From one realist optimist to another keep going! Much love, Fiona

  • @clez269
    @clez269 6 років тому +2

    This is beautiful. Absolutely what we need in times like these,

  • @Kim-dz8dv
    @Kim-dz8dv 5 років тому

    This ted talk needs more recognition because the message they are conveying is everything the world needs right now: love, resilience and the real meaning of life

  • @soa71095
    @soa71095 6 років тому +2

    A love I've never seen before in my life

  • @Sunshine-nq6wv
    @Sunshine-nq6wv 5 років тому

    What a wonderful meeting of two people. Great talk!

  • @red.rose.08
    @red.rose.08 6 років тому +1

    Beautiful.
    My heart goes out to you both.

  • @stellarytc1629
    @stellarytc1629 6 років тому +29

    I hope with Medical Advances, He will regain Sight and Have his Spinal Cord repaired. I think its a major possibility in his lifetime.

    • @nicktaylor1902
      @nicktaylor1902 6 років тому

      You only capitalise a noun if there's only one of that thing. Medical advances and sight are general concepts, and everybody's got a spinal cord. I'm with you in your optimism.

  • @abhimat
    @abhimat 6 років тому +1

    One of the best talks I've ever seen!

  • @DarrenBonJovi
    @DarrenBonJovi 6 років тому

    Just did Mark's Run in the Dark last night. Inspirational!

  • @robertsmith-tv5mp
    @robertsmith-tv5mp 6 років тому +7

    This is inspiring to me.

  • @publicdomain1103
    @publicdomain1103 6 років тому +1

    Beautiful and inspiring. I love science too. The Intelligence coupled with such passion and commitment is what will advance the Human Race and save the future for our heirs.

  • @topsyturvy6532
    @topsyturvy6532 6 років тому

    A true inspiration to us all.

  • @Keyhan-c8c
    @Keyhan-c8c 6 років тому +2

    better to be blind of life than blind of mind! i allways tell my blind friend that he does't miss alot not seeing the world!

  • @steveschott4566
    @steveschott4566 6 років тому

    Heavens, I needed that! Thank you so much. I am going to jump in!

  • @sownheard
    @sownheard 6 років тому +4

    It's about time for Ted to do a talk

  • @grahammerrigan3678
    @grahammerrigan3678 5 років тому +1

    I have never met Mark Pollock, I have only watched on from afar over the years, his talks, his appearances on national television, and most recently himself and partner Simone Ted Talk, and without fail every time I listen to Mark he makes me as a person living with a disability feel, like a hindrance and a burden to society. Mark is adamant on finding a cure for paralysis, he is putting every ounce of his existence into finding a cure, and of course this is all his choice to do so, his trust fund raises millions of dollars per year and pumps it into finding a cure that might never be, furthermore it may not be available to people who are from different classes of upbringing, not everybody has access to millions of dollars.
    In his latest talk they use a quote from Christopher Reeves, who once stated, “he dreamed of a world with empty wheelchairs”, this I found ridiculously offensive and disrespectful, as if to use it as a parallel comment to Superman, to make a stronger case to the point. The tone of this talk insinuated that everybody is or should be looking for a ‘cure’ or even that he is here to the rescue, all of this is deeply hurtful to me and many other wheelchair users who use there wheelchairs as enablers, who use them to achieve life goals, ambition, and relationships. I personally have achieved a lot of things in my life, and I am very grateful to the wheelchair and would literally be lost without it, its gets me everywhere, it got me to travel the world, it got me to win trophies in Basketball, got me to represent my country in Powerlifting and Rugby, so when I hear people’s reactions to pieces like Marks, it gives them more ammunition for the “poor them” perception they already have for disabled people, it does nothing in our fight for equality in this country, simply put, it is the wrong message to put out, when this Ted Talk was published we had a who’s who of Irish socialites eulogising it as an inspirational story and look, maybe it is to some, none of them however are living with a disability and none of them fully understand how insulting their comments are to a cohort of people with physical disabilities.
    60 million people in the world are paralysed, when people like Mark Pollock are giving a huge platform like he has, the message needs to be different, and the message needs to be that you are worth your life, you can achieve things, and it needs to be positive.
    “With enough of the right people having the will to make it happen, we will change the lives of the 60 million people”, is a quote from Marks website, how on earth does he know 60 million people want their life changed, I can only assume I am in that number and I can confirm I would change nothing in my life, I only dream of a world where people with all types of disability are treated equally and have the opportunity to realise their full potential as equal citizens whilst living with their disability.

    • @hanadelajoy
      @hanadelajoy 2 роки тому

      Thank you for posting this. Absolutely agree.

  • @brookesmith8223
    @brookesmith8223 6 років тому +3

    How amazing!

  • @jarvis369
    @jarvis369 6 років тому +1

    To sum it up
    they took upon the interesting question face by us in everyday life I.e to be an optimist or a realist?
    Cuz it's difficult to hope for the best, on one hand, imagining the best outcome while seeing the worst standing by and not get disappointed.
    While to be a realist, to see the suffering as it is, the vulnerability and terror of life is too heavy of a burden to carry, and for what? If not hope?
    I think what they tried to mention is the balance between the two, looking at things as what they are and then taking a leap to make it less wore, more bearable.
    It's all about art of acceptance, whether its paralysing fear of death or impermanence of every second, and then moving with it, making it a bit better, to whatever extent we can.

    • @abdulrahmanal_aqabi6186
      @abdulrahmanal_aqabi6186 6 років тому +1

      but,
      you know sometimes it is not that easy to make a day or even a second less worse than what it is.

  • @pilargrau9321
    @pilargrau9321 6 років тому +1

    Very nice and inspiring story, It make me think, Why we rarely find a story when a man take care of his female partner?

  • @Speak4Yourself2
    @Speak4Yourself2 3 роки тому

    Thanks a lot!

  • @gateCodeKC
    @gateCodeKC 6 років тому

    what a moving talk

  • @IamJay
    @IamJay 6 років тому +3

    *T - technology*
    *E - entertainment*
    *D - design*

  • @TheMrmoc7
    @TheMrmoc7 6 років тому

    Well, that was probably one of the last few good women left in the world. Lucky guy.

  • @ceciliaspears161
    @ceciliaspears161 6 років тому +1

    WOW!

  • @musaadnan3599
    @musaadnan3599 6 років тому

    The best love story, keep going 👍. you have learned me what do love mean.

  • @irmawatifebriani8459
    @irmawatifebriani8459 6 років тому

    Sometimes optimism sounds like a "complete denial" for me. Sugar coat the core problem.

  • @CaitCanCoach
    @CaitCanCoach 6 років тому

    Thanks for this 🌸

  • @421pothead
    @421pothead 6 років тому

    😢awesome story!!! Hats off to u both

  • @JWFdocumentaries
    @JWFdocumentaries 6 років тому +1

    Big Inspiration

  • @ellesunshine5597
    @ellesunshine5597 6 років тому +7

    All you need is love 💓💕💘

    • @stupidystu
      @stupidystu 6 років тому +2

      Love is all you need

    • @ellesunshine5597
      @ellesunshine5597 6 років тому +1

      @@stupidystu and technology ✌

    • @TheHirade
      @TheHirade 6 років тому +3

      ...and beer

    • @ellesunshine5597
      @ellesunshine5597 6 років тому

      @@TheHirade and wine ...

    • @TheHirade
      @TheHirade 6 років тому +1

      @@ellesunshine5597 shall we go on?
      ...and music

  • @poshman007
    @poshman007 6 років тому

    18:47 Does anyone recognize the music at the end? I'd like to know

    • @simonegeorge
      @simonegeorge 6 років тому

      poshman007 it’s an original score by the very talented Michael Fleming who wrote the music for documentary- Unbreakable by Ross Whitaker and ourselves. If you go to rosswhitakertv on UA-cam you’ll find lots more to enjoy.

  • @robertawesterberg3567
    @robertawesterberg3567 6 років тому +4

    V Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning has been a guide for me for much of my life. Facing death from cancer I continue my language studies, reading about palliative care and consciousness, and posting to a blog. rwbm.blog As a believer in Reincarnation I am preparing for my next life, viewing death as a minor inconvenience.

    • @bob2nifty
      @bob2nifty 6 років тому

      Roberta Westerberg see you next time around old friend xx

  • @minhtanle1439
    @minhtanle1439 6 років тому +3

    I like it 👍

  • @annaangelina1
    @annaangelina1 6 років тому

    what to do if you don't have the "why"?

    • @spottylill
      @spottylill 6 років тому +2

      I’m learning to accept ‘Why not?’. I am part of the human condition just like everyone else. x

    • @simonegeorge
      @simonegeorge 6 років тому +1

      You forge it. You make it. You build the why. Have a look at Andrew Solomon’s amazing TED - why the worst moments in our lives ... hopefully that’s helpful. X

  • @seasong7655
    @seasong7655 6 років тому

    Oh hi Mark!

  • @しが-i8q
    @しが-i8q 6 років тому +2

    毎回思うけど日本語の字幕が欲しい…

  • @Gamesational1
    @Gamesational1 6 років тому +1

    Ted loves to talk, but is he listening?

  • @alphastrength3402
    @alphastrength3402 6 років тому +1

    That wss so cutr

  • @user-qv6gt7px5k
    @user-qv6gt7px5k 6 років тому

    wait, did he become blind by falling off the bed at his friend's house or was he blind before that??
    because at 3:44 he says he was facing the prospect of being blind lying at the hospital from the accident..?

    • @user-qv6gt7px5k
      @user-qv6gt7px5k 6 років тому

      oh the "AND" Thanks so much for your comment!!

  • @basilabraham890
    @basilabraham890 6 років тому +2

    #TID fans like here

  • @11baggio11111
    @11baggio11111 6 років тому +1

    John 3:16

  • @just-a-silly-goofy-guy
    @just-a-silly-goofy-guy 6 років тому +3

    This is kinda depressing

  • @hrithikkumar6221
    @hrithikkumar6221 6 років тому

    Wow😍😍😘😘

  • @prasannab9767
    @prasannab9767 6 років тому +1

    50th View
    6th like
    Epic Content TED

  • @amandaleebee98
    @amandaleebee98 6 років тому +2

    Lost me when you said free healthcare that’s not even possible

  • @canthandlethislol
    @canthandlethislol 6 років тому

    Me before you is shaking

  • @KnightSlasher
    @KnightSlasher 6 років тому +2

    Not as real as life

  • @alierdal1519
    @alierdal1519 6 років тому +1

    Turkish languaage please

  • @muthuvelrajasekaran
    @muthuvelrajasekaran 6 років тому +2

    1st

  • @baylorhubble7113
    @baylorhubble7113 6 років тому +2

    I thought this meant realism as in, realism in video games

    • @poweroffriendship2.0
      @poweroffriendship2.0 6 років тому +2

      It was'nt realistic unless you played Choices on your mobile app.

  • @treezareese2058
    @treezareese2058 6 років тому

    Only been here a minute (1:02)... blah, blah, blah. You aren't the first or last. Gimme a break.