Trust Your Gut/Intuition? (ROCD)
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2018
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This topic was a major trigger for me back in the day, and so I am here to talk about it with YOU.
How does one trust their gut and intuition when they experience anxiety, obsessive compulsive tendencies, ROCD and OCD?
Have a listen!
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Coming across your channel is the best thing to have happened to me recently. The past few months I have been experiencing extreme stress and anxiety revolved around my boyfriend of a little over a year. I love him to pieces and know that I don't want to lose him, but my mind keeps telling me that it's not right and that I should leave him. I will constantly call my family or talk to my friends about what I'm feeling and ask them if they experience the same thing in their relationships and when they tell me no I immediately assume that my relationship is doomed. I have become so overly critical of him and panic to the point of me sobbing on my floor, hyperventilating just praying for it all to end. My episodes have been very frequent lately and typically come around the time of my period and I can't shake them for weeks. My ROCD sometimes gets to the point where I can't even look at him because it will send me into a panic and down terrible path of thoughts. It feels so amazing to finally find a community that is experiencing the same things I am! I'm hoping I can get a hold of my thoughts and emotions and learn to deal with them in a healthy way.
Lauren Jennaro I totally get where you’re coming from girl!! This channel has helped me so much.
My ROCD also spikes around my period. I’m about to get mine and I just had an episode of ROCD today after having an incredible easy going day with my boyfriend yesterday. Funny how that works!
I can totally relate when you say looking at your partner can be triggering. Sometimes I look at my partner and my stomach just starts to churn, not because I am disgusted by him (he’s gorgeous tbh) but because it triggers a flood of anxious and intrusive thoughts that I know aren’t true. But there’s always that “gut” feeling!
I’ve been where you are and even though I still go through it, I promise, it gets better. The guy I’m with now was actually my first love in high school and I broke up with him because I gave into these ROCD thoughts (I didn’t know what this disease was when I was just 15 in my first relationship!). We’re back together and more in love than ever and it’s because I’m choosing to not give into my irrational thoughts again. You can do this 💕
roguebot I’m so glad that things are getting better for you!! Things have been better lately, however it never fully goes away. I’m glad there is someone else who can relate. Hope everything continues going well for you 😊
Lauren Jennaro girl I’m the exact same way, I literally had a panic attack on Valentine’s Day over this stuff lmao. It’s a hard thing to deal with but I’m sure we can get through it in a positive way :)
Lauren Jennaro you will be okay !!! i learned to break through it took some work but i did it ❤️❤️❤️ you can too much luck and love to you
Your story sounds so familiar to me. When I left for college I started experiencing these symptoms and didn’t know what to make of it for so long. One of these videos randomly came up on my feed and I was shocked to find out that this thing even exists. If you ever want somebody to talk to who can relate my IG is briannatsmith :) that goes for anyone else who is reading this too
I almost didn’t click because of this phrase! I love this video thank you!
Me tooo😭
I kinda wish my therapist would talk to me like this
Man I wish I knew this 4 years ago, I feel kinda damaged and so many positive memories in my relationship have been wiped away by months and months of ruminating on bad parts of my relationship. Sad really.
Omggggg this would happen to me too!! Also with stuff related to astrology and the horoscope. The worst!!!
This was probably one of my first BIG triggers. I recently discovered I've had ocd in different forms in the past that I always shrugged of as a byproduct of anxiety. It wasn't until I started expereincing ROCD that I felt I needed to get to the bottom of this, because my relationship with my boyfriend (going on two years!) means so much to me. Around my 25th birthday this past summer (A birthday typically involving some past reflection) I realized I wasn't happy with my job, and the circumstance of the world post-covid, and me and my partner had yet to do a lot of the things we always wanted to because of that, which drove the, "Feeling stuck," anxiety, which led to, "Trusting your gut." I started over-analyzing his actions, thinking, "Are these actions I wan't to be with my whole life, can I be committed to this person forever?" And it seemed like it would never let up. I felt it wasn't fair to him, and even though I never let these thoughts affect my actions, I became committed to figuring out whatever was going on with my brain for the both of us.
The first three weeks I experienced ROCD I was horrified to tell my boyfriend, fearing he would take it as me having real doubts, but being vulnerable with him about it has made us, undoubtedly, even stronger. I was a big, anxious, exhausted mess, and I was getting more irritable at work. It was seeping into ever facet of my life.
Then I found this channel once I discovered ROCD and my past bouts of Harm-OCD. Suddenly everything made sense. While my brain is not where I'd like it to be yet, it is absolutely more manageable. I know to expect spikes while PMSing, and am trying to keep track of my triggers. This page has helped so, so much.
I’ve been the exact same where I have to unfollow accounts that so heavily stressed trusting your gut and intuition, it triggered me extremely bad because it made me feel as if I were burying my feelings and not acknowledging them or listening to my gut. These quotes instantly made me believe that my relationship was toxic, that I was holding onto the idea of my boyfriend and not actually in love, etc I’d spiral as soon as I read them.
With how heavily people have become interested in energies and intuitions, it started to make me feel as if I HAD to break up with my boyfriend. That there’s no way I was actually happy with him, since I wasn’t listening to my gut. I felt as if I were missing out on something by being in my seemingly perfect relationship, that I needed to break it off so I too could feel free and grow and develop this everlasting trust of my gut and intuition.
This is the first time I’ve found this channel and immediately my anxiety started to make me think that I didn’t have ROCD and that I needed to trust my gut, annoying.
I’m so glad I’ve found this channel and hope to find a lot of hope and healing from it.
Hi Stephanie! I just found this channel and your comment and I really relate to everything you've said. If I may ask, how are you dealing with these feelings now and if you feel better about your relationship? in the past few months I've ended things with my partner twice bc I thought it was my gut, then tried to fix it but still had intrusive thoughts and couldnt handle the doubt and guilt :( now seeing this I feel like I should've worked through it instead of thinking a breakup was best.
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I resonate with this sooooo much, quotes that Kiyomi showed in the beginning were always so triggering for me. I hope youre doing well and have found peace and clarity
@@Victoria-wf5us Hi!! I thought id reply because I went through the exact same thing. I honestly put my partner through the wringer, we broke up multiple times because i thought it didnt feel right but we always came back to each other and i am more than thankful for them wanting to keep space for me in their life after all of that. If you feel like the breakup was a result of your OCD taking over, see if your ex is willing to hear your situation out. Our mind can convince us that breakups are the best thing because we dont know how else to cope with our feelings, and we just feel like we need out. However, breaking up with your boyfriend will not get rid of OCD, it will just get rid of the OCD that attacks your relationship. Im just realizing now that your comment is 9 months old. If you see this, I hope your situation got better for you and you found the answer to your peace. Be well!!!
Hi to both of you!! Through my journey with rOCD and joining the awake into love community (recommend!) I learned so much about how to work through my thoughts and feelings. I can say that I feel as though I have a good grip on things now in comparison to my original comment - that was my absolute lowest. It’s been about a month since my boyfriend and I broke up completely unrelated to rOCD.
What I CAN say is that the first time we broke up and took a break due to the rOCD, it did absolutely nothing. It didn’t help like my anxiety made me believe it would, I’m thankful that he was willing to continue trying and understanding of my mental health. This time was different though, because I know the reasons we broke up (very obvious) were not associated with rOCD.
I hope you both find peace and clarity, it IS SO possible 💕
This!!!! I have been dealing with this for 20+ years and this is the first time I've heard another person talk about it. I have always had a difficult time letting go of certain triggers because they feel like a gut/intuitive hit. But with OCD, when it's about something I have fear around, it becomes IMPOSSIBLE to distinguish intuition from fear/paranoia. This has been such a trap for me for so long!! The story is always, "Well that was your intuition! This isn't OCD, it's real!" and it's VERY convincing. Who wants to dismiss their intuition, right? Ugh! So hard. Thank you for making this video, it's super helpful. Just started ERP and excited to make progress and also be able to say this was a trigger for me "back in the day!"
THANK YOU SO MUCH. Holy shitttt. I have not known what was wrong with me for 4 YEARS. Everything began when I began seeing my current partner in 2014. I went absolutely crazy. I truly thought I was nuts. I would have daily panic episodes and severe meltdowns and night terrors where I would scream and cry and feel suicidal because my thoughts were telling me to end things with him. The moon was a trigger for me and so was nature (the woods,etc.) because of the spiritual energies I would feel and I thought the moon was signaling me to break up with him. Full moons used to be one of the most magical times for me, but after meeting him they were a HUGE trigger. I couldn’t even center my mind enough to assimilate what was even happening. I was so confused that I couldn’t even label the state I was in as “confusion.” I am still not fully “recovered” but things have improved immensely. I get triggers constantly though. I can’t believe this is ocd!! It makes so much sense. I already knew that I had severe ocd and have had it since I was a small child, but it never occurred to me that THIS was a byproduct of that. I feel so much less alone and crazy. I have been abusive to my partner unintentionally because of this. I am so blessed to have him be as patient and loving as he is. I have been so ashamed for not being able to communicate what I am experiencing and for having no one understand. I avoid talking about it with others because they will never understand and they will always project their own brainwashed viewpoints onto my experiences, causing me to feel even more triggered because then I start questioning if they are right about my relationship.
I also constantly need to make sure that I don’t “like” any other people I meet so that I know I am staying with my partner. I need to constantly check to see how I’m feeling about them and then I will proceed to envision my life with these people instead. One time I went into a store and this guy was in there and we didn’t interact at all but i “felt an energy” from him and found him attractive and was convinced that he was my “soulmate.” I was so ashamed and ridden with guilt that I dissociated myself from my partner for a few weeks after that.
All of this is so draining and intense but at least I have a WORD for it now.
(I hope this was at least somewhat coherent)
Thank you
So glad it was helpful for you. I also love how you brought up spiritual energies, full moon, spirituality and gut feelings. This is important topic to cover and can be very confusing within the spiritual community - as a huge part of me follows spirituality, full moons, intuition etc. immensely. Glad you found immensely comforted by the video :)
Awaken into Love I think it would be an important topic to maybe make a future video on if you’re able to. For me this has been the most challenging aspect of rocd.
@@christinas.3461 I haven't had too many people bring it up, maybe a couple, which is always astonishing to me. But I would be happy to have a separate convo on it!
Christina, I can relate to what you're feeling 100%. I too have been unintentionally abusive to my boyfriend as a result of my OCD and he continues to be patient and understanding with me. ROCD is so debilitating and tough to deal with but knowing there is a community out there to make it more tolerable is really helpful!
@@Awakenintolove I'm SUPER interested in this as well! I'm a deeply spiritual person, and I want so badly to be able to lean into that and to aim to "know myself," and to feel intuitive, etc., and to be able to tap into my inner depths, but those things have been such a trigger for me. They were REALLY bad the last year, but luckily I am starting to find more resilience and strength there and be able to revisit it again slowly. All that's to say - I would really appreciate a video on this as well if you guys can make one. Thanks and blessings
Thank you! This came at such a perfect time and just with the title of this video I was scared to watch but like always you say the most perfect things that just speak to me! Thank you!
So thankful I found your channel. I’m so happy to know I’m not crazy lol, I’ve always been an anxious person and I’m in my first relationship for almost a year now and I love my man so much but at time anxiety can interfere. Thank you for this video it really gave me some clarity :)
Thank you for making all these videos. Ot gives me hope in my life and in my relationship 😭
This is incredible.. I ran into this channel..i relate to this on my pure o.. Wow.. Thank u .. Great segment 💯💯
thank you SO SO SO much, your channel is such a blessing to me and i’m so glad i found it. thank you for addressing this topic because it’s an insanely triggering one to me too.
You are such a catalyst for healing .. thank you! I really needed these videos!!
Even just listening to your voice is so so calming! Thank you so much for all your work here :)
Wish this had more views/likes. Love that this is being talked about
Thank u...i needed this...yes the thought came...yes i got anxious...yes i searched videos and watched videos about intuition and what it is or isn't...after a while i felt sick...it's a huge trigger...like i was so confused at first and then my anxiety started and i kept thinking back to it...and still am rn becoz i didn't understand and it just popped up out of nowhere...the random thought was associated with what i ruminate about alot...and with the nagging thoughts i usually get just in a different form...
Such a good video!! Can relate so much.
Watching your videos give me the strength to no give up on my relationship and I’m actually in a really good place with my ROCD, so thank you sooo much
Thanks for make this video. It's a big relief! :3
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
I think the problem is that we usually confuse fear with intuiton, fear comes from your thoughts, intuiton comes from your feelings
But there is then an issue when your fear-based thoughts translate into intense emotion before you can even stop the thoughts. It's often like there isn't even a time difference between the initial appearance of the thoughts and feelings. Or sometimes anxiety comes during a time of absent-mindedness/thoughtlessness - and then the feelings occur (via your emotional feeling state and/or in the physical - internal or external - feeling state).
After having the feelings, your consciousness shifts to the feeling of the feelings, and then you may start to think about it: in effect; possibly making the feelings worse.
When you have an overly active subconscious - and have had it your whole life - it is incredibly difficult to override that already-implemented, highly trained system. When the subconscious is riddled with traumatic experiences or just obsessed with a prominent trauma from your life (or even just some uncomfortable situations that caused you anxiety/fear and became 'engrained' in you or just deeply resonated with you) then the situation is much more pronounced.
When you have anxiety/feelings/fear that manifests in your gutbrain (without even necessarily having a thought along with it), it is incredibly difficult to distinguish what a higher source/Self/intuition is guiding you to do.
In this case, you can be conscious all day long, but the subconscious will eventually want to make itself known and manifest in some way :|
Each thought triggers emotiond and body sensations. Every time you have a fear-based thought, you experience emotions and sensations associated with that fear-thought and then you react and behave guided by your fears, and that is the opposite way of intuition. So, feelings are not a good guide if they come fron fear-based thoughts.
Thank you!
I have just dodged a trigger.😄 This is amazing!
This is sooo true, any mention of this, or live your truth, or change spikes me!!! Thank you so much, your videos are great x
Dont give up, trust that you are smart enough that you would know if your relationship was the sole cause for your pain. Your gut is easily manipulated and if you are soemone who values the opinions of others, for a period of time, stop looking to them to make decisions for you. Accept that we all make mistakes in life and a life cannot be lived perfectly. Do the best you can for today.
it really scares me so much that the universe really is trying to tell us something for the better i'm trying to figure my shit out but it's so hard to tell what's real
THANK YOU!!!!!
I have ocd and my triggers changed more when I was younger. But my best advice and it helps me is TO AVOID ALL TRIGGERS IF POSSIBLE. Remove toxic people from your life.
Avoid triggers is a compulsion
It's such a trigger for me🙈...I'm not even sure if it's anxiety or my intuition...a thought came so randomly when things were going so well with my person...i was in a calm state and it just came so randomly...and i was calm but then anxiety gradually seeped in and now I'm just confused....i have anxiety about not caring or loving her or that I'm pretending...🙈
Mate, I understand. I've just chosen to not give in, continue as normal and not to let these thoughts rule my life. So yes I experience discomfort but I refuse to "run away"
I think I lost my partner because of this issue. She feels I don’t care for her and I don’t love her.
hank you for your videos. alas, I am French and I understand almost nothing. Would it be possible to have subtitles or a French translation? 🙏🏼
Second post on here. Man I need to stop I was thinking because I'm thinking of it and I'm constantly trying to check my gut if this is that is real. I trigger myself. I need to stop.
Omg im crying rn
how do you get over that lense of fear? I am getting engaged in a few months and trying to "push through" that anxiety
How are you doing now?
I'm in that state pf panick. Getting married in 4 days......
God bless
Today I was watching videos on how to stop the compulsions, then I saw that exposing them would improve, and suddenly when I saw that it would improve I stopped feeling the compulsions, it seemed more like my brain saw that I found the solution, and now that I'm not feeling the compulsions anymore it seems that I do not care about my relationship, and I really want to care, someone help me? has anyone gone through this?
Hey Gio!
Any update/more detail on the situation you were going through?
Hope you found some sort of clarity
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Hi , I´m new over here! I´m from Spain and I have ROCD , all the thoughts and all the things in our minds are unreal? All the " I love my boyfriend , I want to be with him? All this is unrreal? is fake? Is a product of our minds?
marta albino no! I have the same thoughts „i Love my Boyfriend“ i call them „Positive ROCD Thougts“
This the best thing I have heard recently! You just explained my life in the past 1,5 years. Noone was able to help me as much this channel did. Finally I have my answer about what is going on and so many people I can relate to. It is just wonderful!🌸🌿🍃