I give up. Women are too complicated to understand and make getting dates & sex too difficult. Im also tired of them not giving me a chance or being mean to me because of my poor social & flirting skills. I have no clue how to communicate or flirt with women.
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
I will - start talking - like Capt Kirk - with - dramatic pauses - after - every phrase. She won’t - know - if I am crazy - or - - - - just charismatic.
HAHAHA us Gen X ers think of Jim Carrey on In Living Color doing the Star Trek Capt Kirk. Nice One- I think - we're onto something - let's talk this way forever, lol
Definitely spot on Marni! I've made this mistake a few times myself & made the mistake of getting nervous when that silence happens. This vid just motivates me to work on this even more
Charlie Sheen talking with Jennifer Grey in "Ferris Beuller's Day Off". She initially doesn't like him but he dominates her attention by being slow, deliberate and confident. It turns her on.
Here’s what you do. Let the tension remain for a moment, look at her, then say, “oh, you feel that tension? That’s what happens just before I’m about to ask you out. I had plans on Friday, but had to cancel, so I’m free. Have you been to [name of restaurant/bar]?” Just call out the tension. Women aren’t stupid, they feel it too. And when you’re bold enough to call it out and use it to your advantage they love it. There are other ways to do it, but just do it!
I’d did it a few times with a lady on dates the times when conversation slowed up & we just looked into each others eyes with baited breath she was instantly drawn in towards me & we kissed each time it happened
I'm perfectly comfortable with uncomfortable silences and you're absolutely right, I never really even knew I did it but it definitely works. Great advice here fellers.
At 8:43, i had that happen with a bartender, she leaned forward towards me for conversation, i looked in her eyes for a few seconds then complimented her on them. Her pupils dialated & was happy about that compliment
But the reverse holds true as well. Women should put themselves in uncomfortable situations. They can only get better speaking to men by continuing to talk to men.
@@Beeti1 Simple: Men are afraid of Sexual Harassment complaints and so its not that they are uncomfortable of speaking to women, they are afraid of them. However, if a woman approached them, then they would be interested in dating. But women don't approach men, but in this day and age, if the woman doesn't do the approaching, then most women will remain single. So if women learn to speak to men, by putting themselves in uncomfortable situations, they may find themselves wifed up. Otherwise most decent men aren't going to make the attempt.
@@lordpalandus11 - No, it actually is that they are uncomfortable with speaking to women. Take some responsibility for yourself instead of thinking it's all the women's fault and responsibility. We men do not have it hard.
Personally I dread silence because of girls in the past responding negatively to them. Whether it be saying I’m boring, too quiet, no connection, or them acting awkward or forcing something to say, it always ended negatively. Which was a disappointment because some guys need silences to compose themselves, or to read that the girl isn’t going to judge you for it which helps build confidence
@TravisAndrews-lb1kk You guys have to think of yourselves as a guy who has himself together. As she mentioned in this video. James Bond is an excellent teacher, especially the early ones with Sean Connery. If you don't have yourself together, get yourself together. Get in shape, get your finances in shape, get a nice house or apartment, and have a nice car. At least one that is in great running condition and clean, inside and outside. If you can have a car that you don't see every day, that's even better. Whatever vehicle you have, make sure it's clean and looking good. It doesn't have to be new or newer, but it looks great. There are plenty of cars 10 years old that still look great & don't cost an arm & leg. Everything she says works 💯% better if you have yourself together. Also don't force anything. If you don't meet someone right away, that's more time to get yourself together. Exercise more and get plenty of sleep. It'll happen soon enough.
As a 64 yo widower, I'm finding that a more direct approach works for me. If I'm guessing that she's 20/25 years younger than I, and she's single, I'll say 'if only I were only 20 years younger' whilst having fixated eye contact with her. (then pause) More often than not she'll inquire 'and?' I'd reply 'well, I'd be clapping your cheeks on a regular'.
I took the F method course and I’m approaching women, and being playful with everyone. I used To have to get by with just my looks, now that I can approach with confidence I’m doing much bettter.
All this talk you give us is very interesting but makes me wonder how these things would work on you yourself Marni and what it would be like to be with you ❤
I’m kinda good looking, athletic build and I notice girls giving me the eye all the time and I still have no idea what the hell to do out here in the jungle…..
I have a friend who is exactly like that. He is good looking. He is extremely confident in himself. However, he has zero charisma and comes off as bland. Yes, I am 100% sure that women check him out. Yet, he still has no roster of women. He can easily have one. But he is so soft spoken and talk in a way where everyone can sense that he is too logical. Looks help for sure, but it's not everything.
@@tbryant024 tell him to start saying hello to random strangers, then work up to weather talks, then to hows ur day talks.. easy peezy after a month or 2, true pimp status
"I don't actually have any plans this weekend. What about you?" "Oh? I'm having coffe with you. [Insert day and time]" I don't know why, but it seems like this wouldve worked. He could've asked if she'd like to get some coffee instead, though. Just depends on the situation.
This is true....I always love to just stop and look at my wife and it normally comes with a thought of how sexy she is and she always just blushes and can't stop herself from smiling and says, "why are you giving me this look?!" And it drives her crazy. The key is being comfortable and confident. If you're confident, it's attractive tension but if you're scared, it's just awkward space haha
Who cares? Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married. When he does get married, the following scenario plays out: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
Thank you Marni. Takes me back to my years in college. Absolutely enjoy learning new things. I'm the guy that raises his hand in class with another question.
I been married for almost 20 years. I been accused of giving single guy vibes and omitting the fact that I am married or that I am a tease and that I don’t follow through with my intentions. lol it’s easy being confident when married. I have nothing to lose if she rejects my small talk. I got wifey at home😂
Works same way if you have a girlfriend the hotter the better Women like you instantly Because you do not care if they reject you, you have a bush at home waiting for you
My first serious dates coincided with me just becoming US Marine, and having learned just enough english to converse with a girl freely on any subject not in my native tounge, but naturally there was pauses for me to search for the right world. So i had enough confodence, but also when you talk to her in a foreign language words don't have so mich attached meaning to you, do its much easier to tell the girl you love her or speak about sex.
Smart woman this Marni, and to think she never had to use the word "literally" in every other sentence to make her points. Such a relief to listen to an intelligent person.
Hello Marni and God bless you!! Appreciate this tip!! Have been catching several of your videos the last 2 months. YOU are awesome wish I could have known this many years ago!!:) Blessings to you Wing Girl!!!
I stumbled over this and listened out of curiosity, and as a woman I have to say she's totally accurate. This is how my ex first got my attention, and I still can't forget that man.
And yet, he is an ex. So that begs the question, who ended it and why? If he was so effective at grabbing your attention and you can't forget about them, then what went wrong?
Most modern women see sex as a spider web. Once you’re trapped they slowly stop giving sex because they don’t feel like they need to trap you any longer. Then comes the letting themselves go physically phase. Usually that happens after you get engaged, married or have a kid.
This has happened more than a couple of times, on accident. I'm happily married, but there has been on occasion different personalities that you may work with that you really like and get along with. But in my case, I can flirt and get lost in the moment, then the awkward moment of silence is my backing off after realizing a potential from them. I can be a talkative airhead as well, which can lead to a misunderstanding.
My one ex always was talking about anything and everything and everybody. I said to her one day she was rambling on, "you know, silence would actually work in your favor." It was quiet for about 2 days and then she couldn't handle it anymore and went on a non-stop talking spree like a politician. Word on the street is that she got a full time job talking to houseplants.
my wife is a talker as well. it's really quite exhausting at times. one thing i have finally implemented in our interactions is to stop responding to each and every thing she says. i either don't reply or keep my thoughts brief. usually my input becomes fuel for a debate.
I totally did this one last week. Saw some chick my age-ish in the store. She had the perfect body I look for, just my type. She might've even been older than me but older women with smoking hot bodies are the shizzit. So I made the decision to say something, to make some kind of intro. I was not ready. My coffee hadn't set in yet, mind was on other things.. Just couldn't think of something funny or what I was even talking to her for, just wasn't letting her get away because you only see women this hot on rare days. I could see she was nearly on her way out, so no time to premeditate and nothing clever came to mind. I knew the compliment was a mistake, but it was all I could come up with. So I layed the compliment out, got an excited and smiling reaction, but she didn't keep the conversation going... .and... neither did I. I was blanked. I know she would've wanted to continue... Regret. You've got to have a plan for success, or you'll have none. Lesson re-iterated. Maybe I'll see her around again.
If you do nofap for about four weeks you will find this all becomes natural. Confidence rockets sky high and ability to have conversations with women is astonishing and they can't keep their eyes off you.
I've always done this, but more to test how comfortable the woman I'm with is with silence. Any tension created was extra. The line that always stuck with me was from Uma Thurman's Pulp Fiction monologue. "You know you've found someone special when you can just STFU and enjoy comfortable silence."
From my ex wife to ex girlfriends, what worked for was very simple. I was relaxed and myself when on dates. I never kissed up or put her on a pedestal. And for every one (1 ex wife, 4 ex gf's) that lasted 3 dates or less, they pulled me into the bedroom(one jumped on my lap at her place) without me even asking. And I'm far from a 10..lol. I'm only 5' 4", look like Al Pacino of sorts, not rich, prefer not to drive (from vertigo) and told each one I was bisexual in bed. And my current gf (ldr of 7 months) is 26 years younger and a sweetheart. It's all about confidence and bringing up you're positive traits and just being relaxed. When a woman sees she is not the prize, you then become the prize.
Just keep telling your mind that this tension associated with hi heart rate is basically another type of organism. By the time I was well equipped and experienced, I leaned to make something good out of any situation. There’s also been times where the girl gives in after the second drink and just says… you’re gonna get it tonight so let’s just have some fun. It’s like they see the challenge but they trust me enough to skip the work and get to business. I don’t understand how this Gen Z what ever today talking about it’s so hard. I know what I know… and it gets easier.
I’m not a Chad or Tyrone(name not county in Northern Ireland). But not as timid or shy as I used to. Mum says ‘women like when men don’t talk about sex or think about sex obsessively’. I just Marni put myself on dating apps. Including Hiki for people like me on ASD and are neurodiverse. I was reluctant to dsting apps in the 2010s at 18-23 because of hookup culture. Just like how from 2007-18 I was reluctant to get an iPhone because of cell phone addictions and SM addictions as a teenager and in my early twenties. I was against Wmartphonws and loved flip phones as a kid. I had always dreamt since eight when the Razr came out of a Motorola Razr which was my dream phone as a child. Pagers took up too many batteries and were too buzzy. Much as landline and cell phones can be too loud even with the ringing and the beeping and the loud typing. Love your videos.still working on getting my very first GF. Sincerely Daniel Blair from Ontario Canada.
If you're not a 10, dont use this method too early. It will only work either when there is already a direct base attraction or when you already created a minimum level of attraction. In any other situation this will just not work and look weird.
Honestly, as a linguist, i fpdont understand what is how hard about talking to women. So sad some people find it difficult. I would personally advise to FIRST become interestin person, have hobbies, try different things. SECOND, just chill and go with the flow
If I was in that situation I would keep the eye contact and smile for a while then give my head a little shake and say “ sorry I was just fantasising for a second “ “ where were we again” giving her a couple of openings 😎
No technique without rizz means a thing. This or other tubers like this are not going to tell you this, because it would affect the # of their subscribers. Yes, you probably know this already, but in case you didn't. Deep, genuine relationships are not a game - the game is just for getting laid. I mean if that is what you both want, then go ahead. But you both will know very soon, if there is potential for more than for sex. I mean sex alone doesn't lead to lasting relationships. There must be also personality match - if there isn't, then move on, at least if you're looking for genuine relationships...
!!! I could have used this when--after my searching--the terrific desirable girl was found sitting using her laptop. A few words were okay, but then all fell silent. She didn't follow it up, and I fell silent. Didn't want to be PUSHY. But your advice in this great episode--! Where is she! If I find her again, look out. (This seems missing in your courses, I believe.)
Women are either into you for no reason, or they are not into you for no reason.Just go with the ones that are , the ones that are not will come around.
I paused your vid as soon as it came to 'Product Placement'...so having paused....is it working for you?, I'm now intrigued..so I'll watch the rest(it better be good)
It only works for hot guys. If you’re an average guy, she’s just looking at you like “crap, he’s some weirdo and he’s planning on how to get me back to the pit in his basement”.
I been with alot of women. And i had my droughts. Being an ass: i got laid alot Being nice: you dont even get friend zoned. Its not about how you look its about what they can drain you for. Facts. If your looks get you attention and somehow thay can get attention from your looks then they are all over you. Its never about the guy.
Not in my experience. I'm in good enough shape and attractive enough to get lots of looks and stares when I go out, but girls want nothing to do with me.
How to attract a typical American woman - tell her you're a millionaire with your own business. This will work even if you're 5'2" tall with yellow teeth and a hairy back.
I feel like this advice would have worked 30 years ago when women were different. However, these days I think this advice would get some men lawsuits for harassment!
Back before I got married I would just hand a woman my business card when I wanted to get rolling and ask her to give me a call if she wanted to meet up sometime. It worked in many places, any time of day. Do men still carry business cards? I’m getting old.
Which bond are we talking about? They're not all equal and to many there is only one true bond... Once we're all in agreement then we can establish the validity of these claims.
What's wrong with just being one's self? If guys are just fearless and ask a woman out if she is giving them signals that she is open to it, who needs to play these games? Sure you need to learn how to read her body language but anyone can do that if they pay attention and LISTEN to what she is saying. Just have the confidence and courage to invite her to spend time with you. You will never know, unless you ask!
I tried this recently and the young lady said, why are you smiling? Are you some kind of pervert staring at me in silence with a smirk on your face? Get away from me. I tried to explain about sexual tension and then she called for security. 🤣🤣🤣
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I give up. Women are too complicated to understand and make getting dates & sex too difficult. Im also tired of them not giving me a chance or being mean to me because of my poor social & flirting skills. I have no clue how to communicate or flirt with women.
Marni! You mustn't teach these things! They are only recently declassified intelligence! Nukes in the wrong hands I tell you, nukes!!!!!
downvoted, cos men dont wear makeup.
women shouldnt either. #RedFlag
Whats Ur Instagram marni
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There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
No there is not
I will - start talking - like Capt Kirk - with - dramatic pauses - after - every phrase. She won’t - know - if I am crazy - or - - - - just charismatic.
For sure
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Beam me up, Scotty. 🙂
HAHAHA us Gen X ers think of Jim Carrey on In Living Color doing the Star Trek Capt Kirk. Nice One- I think - we're onto something - let's talk this way forever, lol
LMFAO!!!
Is the move. Suddenly getting rich. Women are instantly attracted to that
Definitely spot on Marni! I've made this mistake a few times myself & made the mistake of getting nervous when that silence happens. This vid just motivates me to work on this even more
So have i
Its the Braveheart method - Hold! ..... Hoooollllddd!... Hooooooooooolllllldddddd!!!!
Nnnnnooooooowwww!!!
Charlie Sheen talking with Jennifer Grey in "Ferris Beuller's Day Off". She initially doesn't like him but he dominates her attention by being slow, deliberate and confident. It turns her on.
Yes he dose
Yeah her being turned on was written in the script.
It’s was a movie.
@@billdivine9501 wtf .!?
Here’s what you do. Let the tension remain for a moment, look at her, then say, “oh, you feel that tension? That’s what happens just before I’m about to ask you out. I had plans on Friday, but had to cancel, so I’m free. Have you been to [name of restaurant/bar]?” Just call out the tension. Women aren’t stupid, they feel it too. And when you’re bold enough to call it out and use it to your advantage they love it. There are other ways to do it, but just do it!
Im trying that
🤣😂😆
Sounds great, now for me to carry it out
Veritas!
So much blah blah blah!!! In other words, BS
This actually works. So does folding a hundred dollar bill and rubbing the ends together.
😂😂😂
Hoeflation makes that unlikely these days. Maybe three hundred dollar bills now.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Dose this work?
Gynocentrism, remember boyos
I’d did it a few times with a lady on dates the times when conversation slowed up & we just looked into each others eyes with baited breath she was instantly drawn in towards me & we kissed each time it happened
I'm perfectly comfortable with uncomfortable silences and you're absolutely right, I never really even knew I did it but it definitely works. Great advice here fellers.
At 8:43, i had that happen with a bartender, she leaned forward towards me for conversation, i looked in her eyes for a few seconds then complimented her on them. Her pupils dialated & was happy about that compliment
I did not
😅🤣😂
And then she gave you the bar tab. 🍸
Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. The key to getting better at speaking to women is continuing to talk to women.
But the reverse holds true as well. Women should put themselves in uncomfortable situations. They can only get better speaking to men by continuing to talk to men.
@positivp - This is the absolute truth.
@@lordpalandus11 - What does that have to do with this?
@@Beeti1 Simple: Men are afraid of Sexual Harassment complaints and so its not that they are uncomfortable of speaking to women, they are afraid of them. However, if a woman approached them, then they would be interested in dating. But women don't approach men, but in this day and age, if the woman doesn't do the approaching, then most women will remain single.
So if women learn to speak to men, by putting themselves in uncomfortable situations, they may find themselves wifed up. Otherwise most decent men aren't going to make the attempt.
@@lordpalandus11 - No, it actually is that they are uncomfortable with speaking to women. Take some responsibility for yourself instead of thinking it's all the women's fault and responsibility. We men do not have it hard.
Personally I dread silence because of girls in the past responding negatively to them. Whether it be saying I’m boring, too quiet, no connection, or them acting awkward or forcing something to say, it always ended negatively. Which was a disappointment because some guys need silences to compose themselves, or to read that the girl isn’t going to judge you for it which helps build confidence
So have i
@TravisAndrews-lb1kk You guys have to think of yourselves as a guy who has himself together. As she mentioned in this video. James Bond is an excellent teacher, especially the early ones with Sean Connery. If you don't have yourself together, get yourself together. Get in shape, get your finances in shape, get a nice house or apartment, and have a nice car. At least one that is in great running condition and clean, inside and outside. If you can have a car that you don't see every day, that's even better. Whatever vehicle you have, make sure it's clean and looking good. It doesn't have to be new or newer, but it looks great. There are plenty of cars 10 years old that still look great & don't cost an arm & leg.
Everything she says works 💯% better if you have yourself together. Also don't force anything. If you don't meet someone right away, that's more time to get yourself together. Exercise more and get plenty of sleep. It'll happen soon enough.
It is the silence between the notes that makes the music! The quiet space between the bars that holds the tiger.
The Bond reference/ visual is so good! Thank you!!
As a 64 yo widower, I'm finding that a more direct approach works for me. If I'm guessing that she's 20/25 years younger than I, and she's single, I'll say 'if only I were only 20 years younger' whilst having fixated eye contact with her. (then pause) More often than not she'll inquire 'and?' I'd reply 'well, I'd be clapping your cheeks on a regular'.
You're 64 and say clapping cheeks😂
I took the F method course and I’m approaching women, and being playful with everyone. I used
To have to get by with just my looks, now that I can approach with confidence I’m doing much bettter.
Yeah, OK bot
So in other words, be like Depeche Mode and enjoy the silence.
Words are very unnecessary.
Nope
Reach out touch faith!
@Why-ym8ch that is a good point 👉
Using awkward silence as a superpower when having a conversation with a women to build some sexual tension.....groovy.
Its the best. I had someone do it to me yesterday and it was so powerful!
@@marnikinrys But someone put a ring on it. Damn, it works even on married women that's "dangerous".
I can literally think of dozens of times I've seen this not work, and none where it has.
@@phuzzo1 Have you at least tried or you just waiting for that magic moment to happen. If that's the case that's a long ass wait.
@@Ezilla82 When I was single back last century, yes. It didn't work.
All this talk you give us is very interesting but makes me wonder how these things would work on you yourself Marni and what it would be like to be with you ❤
a good description of the awkward silence situation and subsequent panic of the desperate male
I’m kinda good looking, athletic build and I notice girls giving me the eye all the time and I still have no idea what the hell to do out here in the jungle…..
Stop relying on your looks. They're leverage as a door opener, that's it.
In the jungle huh?
Make her shave it before you eat it.
🤣🤣🤣
I have a friend who is exactly like that. He is good looking. He is extremely confident in himself. However, he has zero charisma and comes off as bland. Yes, I am 100% sure that women check him out. Yet, he still has no roster of women. He can easily have one. But he is so soft spoken and talk in a way where everyone can sense that he is too logical. Looks help for sure, but it's not everything.
@@tbryant024the goal is to get married, not have an STD filled roster...
@@tbryant024 tell him to start saying hello to random strangers, then work up to weather talks, then to hows ur day talks.. easy peezy after a month or 2, true pimp status
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I hope you enjoy this video. Thanks for the support!
"I don't actually have any plans this weekend. What about you?"
"Oh? I'm having coffe with you. [Insert day and time]"
I don't know why, but it seems like this wouldve worked. He could've asked if she'd like to get some coffee instead, though. Just depends on the situation.
This is true....I always love to just stop and look at my wife and it normally comes with a thought of how sexy she is and she always just blushes and can't stop herself from smiling and says, "why are you giving me this look?!" And it drives her crazy. The key is being comfortable and confident. If you're confident, it's attractive tension but if you're scared, it's just awkward space haha
What did u say ?
Never works for me. Wifey starts swearing at me if I do that.
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Couldn't care less . I go with women that like me rather than beating around the bush and trying to figure out .
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That's pretty smart. These videos are instructing men on how to "figure out women". Sounds like a terrible way to go through life for a man.
Me too
Beating around the bush works, too!
Who cares? Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married. When he does get married, the following scenario plays out: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
It's amazing that UA-cam actually allowed you to post this comment. Why?. Because it's actually true 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏.
Thank you Marni. Takes me back to my years in college. Absolutely enjoy learning new things. I'm the guy that raises his hand in class with another question.
So you're saying .... we ... should all talk ... like Shatner.
Will---iam
I don't know about that, but Captain sure seemed to get laid a lot!
😂
That's funny right there.......
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I been married for almost 20 years. I been accused of giving single guy vibes and omitting the fact that I am married or that I am a tease and that I don’t follow through with my intentions. lol it’s easy being confident when married. I have nothing to lose if she rejects my small talk. I got wifey at home😂
But how do you find women who are willing to mess with a married man?
@@ScottHendrix-yz3du Don't they per default?
Women are attracted to married men. They want what they think they cannot get and will feel free to flirt with a married man
Works same way if you have a girlfriend the hotter the better
Women like you instantly
Because you do not care if they reject you,
you have a bush at home waiting for you
@@geoeconomics5629 a bush?😆
My first serious dates coincided with me just becoming US Marine, and having learned just enough english to converse with a girl freely on any subject not in my native tounge, but naturally there was pauses for me to search for the right world. So i had enough confodence, but also when you talk to her in a foreign language words don't have so mich attached meaning to you, do its much easier to tell the girl you love her or speak about sex.
Smart woman this Marni, and to think she never had to use the word "literally" in every other sentence to make her points. Such a relief to listen to an intelligent person.
SHE isn't
At the dramatic silence part, a youtube ad started playing lol (What timing!) I could feel the tension building up to that point 🤣😅
normally the long pause happens when the women asks how much money im earning ,its getting boring now
Hello Marni and God bless you!! Appreciate this tip!! Have been catching several of your videos the last 2 months. YOU are awesome wish I could have known this many years ago!!:) Blessings to you Wing Girl!!!
I stumbled over this and listened out of curiosity, and as a woman I have to say she's totally accurate. This is how my ex first got my attention, and I still can't forget that man.
And yet, he is an ex. So that begs the question, who ended it and why? If he was so effective at grabbing your attention and you can't forget about them, then what went wrong?
"I was alpha widowed"
So much tension just to get laid... and imagine all the tension that comes after getting laid with modern women...
Extremly much tension, tension for life!
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Most modern women see sex as a spider web. Once you’re trapped they slowly stop giving sex because they don’t feel like they need to trap you any longer. Then comes the letting themselves go physically phase. Usually that happens after you get engaged, married or have a kid.
My age is Mike's backward numerals, I never make it past the pause because tongue tied. Learned a secret! Very tight budget. Am motivated!
This has happened more than a couple of times, on accident.
I'm happily married, but there has been on occasion different personalities that you may work with that you really like and get along with.
But in my case, I can flirt and get lost in the moment, then the awkward moment of silence is my backing off after realizing a potential from them. I can be a talkative airhead as well, which can lead to a misunderstanding.
Wear Teige Hanley and women will form an orderly queue.
Would love to hear your thoughts on how Craig Ferguson uses the awkward silence
I know exactly what she means u must empower the silence & get into her personal space if she doesn't back up its a key sign
It's not the handsome, but one who asks for is getting it.
For sure
Confucius say…
@BrianTheJames huh ?
My one ex always was talking about anything and everything and everybody. I said to her one day she was rambling on, "you know, silence would actually work in your favor." It was quiet for about 2 days and then she couldn't handle it anymore and went on a non-stop talking spree like a politician. Word on the street is that she got a full time job talking to houseplants.
my wife is a talker as well. it's really quite exhausting at times. one thing i have finally implemented in our interactions is to stop responding to each and every thing she says. i either don't reply or keep my thoughts brief. usually my input becomes fuel for a debate.
That's how my ex was. It's such a red flag as a selfish person. They don't about anyone else, only about acting out their compulsion to talk.
I'm naturally a 10 words a day guy. Silence is my wheel house. 😎
That won't work on a date.
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu obviously I can talk when necessary. My point is I am comfortable with those quiet moments.
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Me too bro 😂
This anxiety is a bullshit irrational fear.
I count 13.. 🙃
@@AnthonyWasiukiewicz 12 words and a number. Since we're being picky...😛
thanks again. i have long appreciated the pause as a technique for haggling
Tension ❤ yes
So, dramatic pauses are good.
It’s my wing lady!
Super practical advice ! Ty !
I totally did this one last week. Saw some chick my age-ish in the store. She had the perfect body I look for, just my type. She might've even been older than me but older women with smoking hot bodies are the shizzit. So I made the decision to say something, to make some kind of intro. I was not ready. My coffee hadn't set in yet, mind was on other things.. Just couldn't think of something funny or what I was even talking to her for, just wasn't letting her get away because you only see women this hot on rare days. I could see she was nearly on her way out, so no time to premeditate and nothing clever came to mind. I knew the compliment was a mistake, but it was all I could come up with. So I layed the compliment out, got an excited and smiling reaction, but she didn't keep the conversation going... .and... neither did I. I was blanked. I know she would've wanted to continue... Regret. You've got to have a plan for success, or you'll have none. Lesson re-iterated. Maybe I'll see her around again.
If you do nofap for about four weeks you will find this all becomes natural. Confidence rockets sky high and ability to have conversations with women is astonishing and they can't keep their eyes off you.
Huh ?
Cringe
Facts
Been getting cat for years w/o any of these games. The day I have to modify my normal (respectful) interactions is the day I hang up my cleats 👟
I've always done this, but more to test how comfortable the woman I'm with is with silence. Any tension created was extra.
The line that always stuck with me was from Uma Thurman's Pulp Fiction monologue. "You know you've found someone special when you can just STFU and enjoy comfortable silence."
Sounds almost like a confidence builder the moment of tension though words are hard to dredge up keeping the moment alive beyond it
From my ex wife to ex girlfriends, what worked for was very simple. I was relaxed and myself when on dates. I never kissed up or put her on a pedestal. And for every one (1 ex wife, 4 ex gf's) that lasted 3 dates or less, they pulled me into the bedroom(one jumped on my lap at her place) without me even asking. And I'm far from a 10..lol. I'm only 5' 4", look like Al Pacino of sorts, not rich, prefer not to drive (from vertigo) and told each one I was bisexual in bed. And my current gf (ldr of 7 months) is 26 years younger and a sweetheart.
It's all about confidence and bringing up you're positive traits and just being relaxed.
When a woman sees she is not the prize, you then become the prize.
I'm going to try this!!
I swear my friend is scared of the pause she be freaking out inside 😅
You always make learning new things feel simple.
* simping
Just keep telling your mind that this tension associated with hi heart rate is basically another type of organism. By the time I was well equipped and experienced, I leaned to make something good out of any situation. There’s also been times where the girl gives in after the second drink and just says… you’re gonna get it tonight so let’s just have some fun. It’s like they see the challenge but they trust me enough to skip the work and get to business. I don’t understand how this Gen Z what ever today talking about it’s so hard. I know what I know… and it gets easier.
I’m not a Chad or Tyrone(name not county in Northern Ireland). But not as timid or shy as I used to. Mum says ‘women like when men don’t talk about sex or think about sex obsessively’. I just Marni put myself on dating apps. Including Hiki for people like me on ASD and are neurodiverse. I was reluctant to dsting apps in the 2010s at 18-23 because of hookup culture. Just like how from 2007-18 I was reluctant to get an iPhone because of cell phone addictions and SM addictions as a teenager and in my early twenties. I was against Wmartphonws and loved flip phones as a kid. I had always dreamt since eight when the Razr came out of a Motorola Razr which was my dream phone as a child. Pagers took up too many batteries and were too buzzy. Much as landline and cell phones can be too loud even with the ringing and the beeping and the loud typing. Love your videos.still working on getting my very first GF. Sincerely Daniel Blair from Ontario Canada.
but which direction are you suppose to smirk? smirk to the right? or smirk to the left.. And if you not handsome to begin with, the smirk won't work.
If you're not a 10, dont use this method too early. It will only work either when there is already a direct base attraction or when you already created a minimum level of attraction. In any other situation this will just not work and look weird.
Honestly, as a linguist, i fpdont understand what is how hard about talking to women. So sad some people find it difficult. I would personally advise to FIRST become interestin person, have hobbies, try different things. SECOND, just chill and go with the flow
thank you for this I'll try it very soon
Good video, thank you.
I don't ever want my nieces to ever be like this woman. they are so much better.
She seems to promote game playing and manipulation.
Why not just be real, authentic and honest?
If I was in that situation I would keep the eye contact and smile for a while then give my head a little shake and say “ sorry I was just fantasising for a second “ “ where were we again” giving her a couple of openings 😎
Brilliant thanks a million ☘️💚
i took a drink every time you fixed your bangs, and i was drunk in 8 minutes .....
Good advice!
Thanks for the pointers Marni.
No technique without rizz means a thing. This or other tubers like this are not going to tell you this, because it would affect the # of their subscribers. Yes, you probably know this already, but in case you didn't. Deep, genuine relationships are not a game - the game is just for getting laid. I mean if that is what you both want, then go ahead. But you both will know very soon, if there is potential for more than for sex. I mean sex alone doesn't lead to lasting relationships. There must be also personality match - if there isn't, then move on, at least if you're looking for genuine relationships...
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!!! I could have used this when--after my searching--the terrific desirable girl was found sitting using her laptop. A few words were okay, but then all fell silent. She didn't follow it up, and I fell silent. Didn't want to be PUSHY. But your advice in this great episode--! Where is she! If I find her again, look out. (This seems missing in your courses, I believe.)
Ok..? think I did everything rigth then...😲
Women are either into you for no reason, or they are not into you for no reason.Just go with the ones that are , the ones that are not will come around.
If you ain't got it you don't , looks personality , sense of humor decent , than forget it. Work , nice won't work .
Thanks Marni!! Nice tip!!
I paused your vid as soon as it came to 'Product Placement'...so having paused....is it working for you?, I'm now intrigued..so I'll watch the rest(it better be good)
It only works for hot guys. If you’re an average guy, she’s just looking at you like “crap, he’s some weirdo and he’s planning on how to get me back to the pit in his basement”.
Ah yes, because only hot guys are getting married and having kids, right?
You're projecting. So weak.
Nope go talk to a girl and find out.
@@TayLor-ho5ct false, if anything they should be approaching a guy.
@SiskoSvK good answer.
my tension is already up.
I been with alot of women. And i had my droughts.
Being an ass: i got laid alot
Being nice: you dont even get friend zoned.
Its not about how you look its about what they can drain you for. Facts. If your looks get you attention and somehow thay can get attention from your looks then they are all over you. Its never about the guy.
Not in my experience. I'm in good enough shape and attractive enough to get lots of looks and stares when I go out, but girls want nothing to do with me.
time is on my side, yes it is. Wow three seconds < 3
Wow this is amazing thank u
Enjoy the Silence - Depeche Mode
How to attract a typical American woman - tell her you're a millionaire with your own business. This will work even if you're 5'2" tall with yellow teeth and a hairy back.
Marni,
Thanks for sharing!
I believe the term for the technique that you are describing is a…”pregnant pause” (pun intended).
I feel like this advice would have worked 30 years ago when women were different. However, these days I think this advice would get some men lawsuits for harassment!
I just use a fishing pole. It’s much easier.
Back before I got married I would just hand a woman my business card when I wanted to get rolling and ask her to give me a call if she wanted to meet up sometime. It worked in many places, any time of day. Do men still carry business cards? I’m getting old.
Which bond are we talking about? They're not all equal and to many there is only one true bond... Once we're all in agreement then we can establish the validity of these claims.
if a female ask you if she is good girl what does that mean? How should I respond?
What's wrong with just being one's self? If guys are just fearless and ask a woman out if she is giving them signals that she is open to it, who needs to play these games?
Sure you need to learn how to read her body language but anyone can do that if they pay attention and LISTEN to what she is saying.
Just have the confidence and courage to invite her to spend time with you. You will never know, unless you ask!
That's animal magnetism 🦁
I tried this recently and the young lady said, why are you smiling? Are you some kind of pervert staring at me in silence with a smirk on your face? Get away from me. I tried to explain about sexual tension and then she called for security. 🤣🤣🤣
kinda reminds me of that scene in Meet Joe Black when they first meet in the coffee shop.
What was that awful noise at 3:22?