Scammed By TikTok Boyfriend - Avela

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  • @pamelazwane2407
    @pamelazwane2407 6 місяців тому +493

    My stinginess and lack of funds will always protect me from this

    • @khanyisileshabalala1170
      @khanyisileshabalala1170 6 місяців тому +11

      Yuuuuu dali, asoze.....
      Ungenza cringy usistaz

    • @pinkqueen916
      @pinkqueen916 6 місяців тому +6

      Same here😅😅😅

    • @thandibuthelezi7509
      @thandibuthelezi7509 6 місяців тому +5

      Thats so me chomie😂😂😂

    • @AndiswaNanah-ks9tf
      @AndiswaNanah-ks9tf 6 місяців тому +7

      Even to my boyfriend for years I'm so stingy I even feel bad ABT it bt my stinginess never allows me Shem 😅😅

    • @modikiramaisa4619
      @modikiramaisa4619 6 місяців тому +2

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @User326-y3q
    @User326-y3q 6 місяців тому +192

    I’m just happy she’s alive and lived to tell the tale because what do you mean you sent a stranger from TikTok your location and hopped into a strangers car IN SOUTH AFRICA.. wuu

    • @zandibuckland1652
      @zandibuckland1652 6 місяців тому +13

      A whole sawuda frika??? 😮

    • @KatlyLisah
      @KatlyLisah 6 місяців тому +7

      Honestly though, she even gave him her card🫢🫢🫢

    • @thembekangubane4629
      @thembekangubane4629 6 місяців тому +8

      ​@@KatlyLisah ne pin to a complete stranger😮ay bakithi

    • @KatlyLisah
      @KatlyLisah 6 місяців тому +8

      @thembekangubane4629 bruh!!! I'm not okay on her behalf 😥

    • @paballokota6378
      @paballokota6378 6 місяців тому +8

      Don't judge, no one knows what you do in the shadows!
      Experience is a harsh teacher, she has learned her lesson.

  • @gwuministries2895
    @gwuministries2895 6 місяців тому +123

    She seems so sweet. That guy took advantage. Make him trend

  • @Ladyle4ever
    @Ladyle4ever 6 місяців тому +249

    I wish i had a decent uncle, this woman sounds like a good woman who just need a loyal partner. I wish God can send you the right partner. A partner that is gonna love you right. ❤❤

    • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
      @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 6 місяців тому +14

      Lo udakwa sooo?🤣😂🤣🤣🤣

    • @asanda138
      @asanda138 6 місяців тому

      ​@@nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @worshipermkhize703
      @worshipermkhize703 6 місяців тому +6

      I think she's going through a lot hence she drinks alot.
      First seconds when the clip stated to play she mentioned depression

    • @mondliafrikakahadebehadebe1006
      @mondliafrikakahadebehadebe1006 6 місяців тому

      You wish your ankle to date a drunkard?

    • @Nunec
      @Nunec 6 місяців тому +5

      Decent?😂😂😂

  • @ntiyiso985
    @ntiyiso985 6 місяців тому +101

    You might find he is not even married,it was his way of getting out of the situation

  • @samthew202guy
    @samthew202guy 6 місяців тому +115

    The problem is alcohol lah , if you stop then you will make good choices sis you are good and kind hearted

  • @relebohilepolilane3931
    @relebohilepolilane3931 6 місяців тому +36

    That's not a scam. You just didn't date him to know him better. He thought he was just doing a hook up, and you were eager to spend money on someone who didn't know, and he came back for more. Honestly, you are to be blamed here. Let's learn to love ourselves and take accountability for our actions.

  • @angelamhlongo7304
    @angelamhlongo7304 6 місяців тому +239

    Fear alcohol and loneliness

  • @Baba2101
    @Baba2101 6 місяців тому +146

    The problem is DESPERATION…

  • @mpumymahlangu9903
    @mpumymahlangu9903 6 місяців тому +176

    The only financially generous Xhosa hun I’ve ever seen.

  • @MsRoriT
    @MsRoriT 6 місяців тому +30

    This lady needs help. Can we PLEASE get a life coach to help this woman! 😢PLEASE!

  • @yanganozewu2513
    @yanganozewu2513 6 місяців тому +77

    It's so sad how life really works. Good people always find themselves in the hands of wrong people.

    • @cindyrambau4476
      @cindyrambau4476 6 місяців тому +5

      No ways you can’t be a good person and open your legs for a stranger on a first day. worst part bringing them to your house

  • @sabelogwala3250
    @sabelogwala3250 6 місяців тому +71

    Amanye amajita awanawo amahloni, I do not think I can be able ukucela istranger imali kangaka.

    • @MissLerato
      @MissLerato 6 місяців тому +1

      Lol

    • @nandempahlwa1565
      @nandempahlwa1565 6 місяців тому

      Yhooo utywala bu wrongo

    • @Queue-20
      @Queue-20 6 місяців тому +1

      Abazithandi futhi @Sabelo

    • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
      @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 6 місяців тому

      Look at you outchea fishing🤣🤭🤭

    • @sabelogwala3250
      @sabelogwala3250 6 місяців тому +4

      @@nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 its very bold of you to assume I am out here fishing... but ke we all entitled to our opinion, noma kuthiwa iwubulima kanjani.

  • @royaledenoir5694
    @royaledenoir5694 6 місяців тому +28

    Shame, such low self esteem, this is a deep seated problem. I pray she finds someone who will love her first who she is, not what she has!

  • @Sally-c1t
    @Sally-c1t 6 місяців тому +114

    He took you to Recharge for the 2nd time when u were SOBER and u still gave him card and pin😱 I'm happy he didn't ask u to get a loan for him because u would have agreed.

    • @EmmahMtshwene
      @EmmahMtshwene 6 місяців тому

      Hamonati jwang 😂😂

    • @erensrhulani4451
      @erensrhulani4451 6 місяців тому +3

      He was actually easy on her
      Could have been worse

    • @sabinahriba1124
      @sabinahriba1124 5 місяців тому +2

      I suspect some spiritual something

    • @emmamaqutho5686
      @emmamaqutho5686 5 місяців тому

      😂

    • @asiveangel4940
      @asiveangel4940 4 місяці тому

      no fr I actually believe this😂😂😂 that's why I said if he never mentioned marriage accepted that videocall, a lot more would've happened.

  • @PalesaS17
    @PalesaS17 6 місяців тому +25

    You can’t be soo generous for men who won’t even bother to lift a finger for you. These guys are NOT your boyfriends, abantu be strada.

  • @tehcmudau
    @tehcmudau 6 місяців тому +62

    Come on, how on earth can you be like this in SA in 2024
    Allowing a stranger as a woman in your house on 1st day

    • @Andtherewaslight427
      @Andtherewaslight427 6 місяців тому +4

      I had a neighbor like this. She had so much love to give. I had to explain to her that it is dangerous to let a man you don't know endlini. And the ones who come to your house will know you do this often, so they won't take you seriously. She was very open to a relationship and love. The idea of it. So I am not shocked.

    • @ThobakaMkhize
      @ThobakaMkhize 6 місяців тому +4

      M still chocked bhuty how did you allow stranger in your house maybe its that m a coward

    • @EmmahMtshwene
      @EmmahMtshwene 6 місяців тому +4

      Thina abanye singabafazi asisabi nix and its very scary 😟

    • @tehcmudau
      @tehcmudau 6 місяців тому

      @Andtherewaslight427 I thought all woman were very strict when it comes to men visiting their places, I'm out of words

    • @tehcmudau
      @tehcmudau 6 місяців тому +2

      @@ThobakaMkhize uyazi I still can't believe what I heard

  • @mafadiphofa
    @mafadiphofa 6 місяців тому +83

    My brokenness will never allow me to do this, I mean INDODA must haibo 😂😂

    • @nozukompandla2013
      @nozukompandla2013 3 місяці тому

      🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂Listen for me it's not even a matter of being broke, the way I'm so stingy no man can ask me to buy me him anything not even a 1 cigarette SOZE.

  • @SibsM93
    @SibsM93 6 місяців тому +32

    Hai khona my sister you need to change, for your own sake. You're lucky to be alive after this incident.

  • @mamakalami
    @mamakalami 6 місяців тому +21

    My young sister...you are beautiful and blessed. Do not allow men to toy with you. I know it's not easy to find a man who wants to stick around. But keep yourself safe and clean. There are a lot of men who prey on "allowing" women. Have standards and boundaries and dont be afraid to say No

    • @mondliafrikakahadebehadebe1006
      @mondliafrikakahadebehadebe1006 6 місяців тому

      How can they stick around while you're drunkard

    • @mamakalami
      @mamakalami 6 місяців тому

      @@mondliafrikakahadebehadebe1006 they are drunkards too. Birds of a feather flock together. SA men have messed up standards for women. South Africans drink.

    • @Julsm4484
      @Julsm4484 6 місяців тому +1

      Yeah she must not be afraid to say NO😢

  • @flowbeats_
    @flowbeats_ 6 місяців тому +109

    She lacks SELF LOVE. What a shame!

    • @paballokota6378
      @paballokota6378 6 місяців тому +20

      Don't go around judging people, everyone has their skeletons. Maybe you have a body count that can be shared amongst 50 women, thula!

    • @Mbalings
      @Mbalings 6 місяців тому

      ​@paballokota6378 but it's a fact. Akazithandi.

    • @letlhogonolondhlovu6691
      @letlhogonolondhlovu6691 6 місяців тому

      ​@@paballokota6378exactly, we don't know what's going on or what she might have been going through ❤ hope she's in a better place.

    • @flowbeats_
      @flowbeats_ 6 місяців тому +13

      @@paballokota6378 I'm not judging her at all, just stating facts and praying she actually works on it.

    • @nompumelelosisusa6003
      @nompumelelosisusa6003 6 місяців тому +1

      For the fact unike stranger I location, failed dismal, uyityisile team😢

  • @tshegofatsos8167
    @tshegofatsos8167 6 місяців тому +5

    I admire her honesty. I pray for her restoration mentally

  • @lettahkhutso3083
    @lettahkhutso3083 6 місяців тому +75

    If a guy ask me for R5 airtime I run for my life 😂😂😂 thank God im not drinking 😅

    • @angelmathe1963
      @angelmathe1963 6 місяців тому +3

      I block same time

    • @princekhumalo7737
      @princekhumalo7737 6 місяців тому +1

      What if it's a test the guy is loaded he just want to see if you are a generous person

    • @angelmathe1963
      @angelmathe1963 6 місяців тому

      @@princekhumalo7737 Ay his loss then. Why are we testing each other

    • @makhadzimpfumba7126
      @makhadzimpfumba7126 6 місяців тому

      ​@@princekhumalo7737 haii i test yani ... he's not Jesus ijohhh mxm

    • @gwagon1933
      @gwagon1933 6 місяців тому

      May I please have R30 airtime?

  • @omphamashapha8971
    @omphamashapha8971 6 місяців тому +16

    She has a beautiful heart,unfortunately people this days take advantage of that.Im sorry sis,but I honestly admire ur braveness,U r opening our eyes aswel

  • @lindaswit
    @lindaswit 6 місяців тому +59

    Sisi the guy is a ritualist🤞how can you only remember a first round and the rest you remember nothing...now you're unemployed!!! The guy took away your luck, you need to cleans - at church or egqirheni mntasekhaya.

    • @auntieckmoyo3947
      @auntieckmoyo3947 6 місяців тому +5

      Exactly my thoughts

    • @thatomonau5459
      @thatomonau5459 6 місяців тому

      ​@@auntieckmoyo3947shmss 😭very true 💯 Sisi 🙏

    • @joycetsosane3513
      @joycetsosane3513 6 місяців тому +1

      He's a ritualist indeed 😢he brought her bad luck

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 6 місяців тому

      This! Also maybe he pumped her out whisky she was under the influence.

    • @Kabeyance
      @Kabeyance 6 місяців тому

      Nah bro😂Bro is just energetic

  • @NokofaVeronica-z1u
    @NokofaVeronica-z1u 6 місяців тому +13

    I don't think is married he was running away bcz he owe u I'm sorry sister ur beatiful pls reduce alcohol bbe man will take advantage of u love urself sesi

  • @Faith-k7j
    @Faith-k7j 6 місяців тому +76

    Don't sleep with a man who isn't your husband!

  • @rachelandrews5746
    @rachelandrews5746 6 місяців тому +42

    At least they used protection

  • @ntombisoko1121
    @ntombisoko1121 6 місяців тому +21

    Avela dont beat yourself too much you have learned your lessons just dont repeat them again,heal and move on with your life,we all go through lessons in life in different ways,believe me other people have been through the most,others these things happen for years they even end up marrying themselves ending in divorce and depression sometime even death for love and not have a chance to come out and tell,just be grateful you still alive and you can work on yoursef.

  • @cheenamaake9651
    @cheenamaake9651 6 місяців тому +3

    That man is a spirit harvester.He was sponging off your soul.all the asking of money and so so was the test to see if he succeeded 😢😢😢❤

  • @angelamhlongo7304
    @angelamhlongo7304 6 місяців тому +33

    Jah when she mentioned paying R26 transport for her ex man....my heart broke for her😢 not sure if it's low self-esteem or the yearning for love

    • @teem7303
      @teem7303 6 місяців тому +7

      Sister is broken. Very low self-esteem.

    • @ntombiyakhemasoeu6146
      @ntombiyakhemasoeu6146 6 місяців тому

      @@teem7303 low self esteem

    • @ThuleM
      @ThuleM 6 місяців тому +3

      She mentioned that she had been dealing with depression ngotshwala.

    • @teem7303
      @teem7303 6 місяців тому +2

      @@ThuleM I personally hope she learned from this experience and gets the help that she needs before ending up having a child/kids with someone who only saw her as a snack. Such woman are preyed upon and then left to fend for themselves and see how they get outta the mess.

  • @patrikhumalo6737
    @patrikhumalo6737 6 місяців тому +9

    Fell sad for this lady 😢specially when she said maybe I’m desperate I don’t know “😢

  • @gcebileh
    @gcebileh 6 місяців тому +14

    I know the feeling girl. Dating a jobless man. It's draining emotionally, financially and physically.

    • @glenkhoza955
      @glenkhoza955 6 місяців тому +5

      Same as daring a jobless woman yho it draining 😂

    • @andiedaddiekris
      @andiedaddiekris 3 дні тому

      @@glenkhoza955😂😂😂😂😂

  • @portiazulu8352
    @portiazulu8352 6 місяців тому +65

    Never allow a man that doesnt pay your rent to come to your house ok.😊

    • @Athini_Myataza
      @Athini_Myataza 6 місяців тому +5

      You're on point ke Lolo ✔️🙌👏
      I have been staying alone since i was 19, i never allowed any guy into my space. I'm 32 years old now...

    • @lonagwegwe
      @lonagwegwe 5 місяців тому +1

      Exactly sis, timing girls timing

    • @priscillamalepe8665
      @priscillamalepe8665 5 місяців тому

      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊11😊¹1

    • @priscillamalepe8665
      @priscillamalepe8665 5 місяців тому

      ​@@Athini_Myataza1

  • @zodwadingiswayo8838
    @zodwadingiswayo8838 6 місяців тому +90

    Moral of the story, stay away from alcohol, specifically Gordons and Savannah😭😭😭

  • @dumisanindlovu4396
    @dumisanindlovu4396 6 місяців тому +31

    This is the most bizzare story I've heard in a while. This lady is so irresponsible with her life and you guys want to shift the blame to the guy😢...
    Self love and accountability is important Sesi, and quit alcohol.

    • @nmm1835
      @nmm1835 6 місяців тому

      That man had malicious intent from onset. In my eyes he is worse than this woman. He is a married man who meets women for sex an money. In fact he is a male prostitute. Sisi yena was drunk and stupid decisions.

    • @sebolawejudy1137
      @sebolawejudy1137 6 місяців тому +2

      No one forced her, she did those consciously so, and to my surprise she knows her and alcohol don't mix, how can you allow someone you don't know in your space. She was very irresponsible I agree.

  • @khethiwengubo8035
    @khethiwengubo8035 6 місяців тому +16

    I feel sorry for her, but I also feel we should take accountability of our actions... We have to take ownership of our actions.

  • @ramatsetsempho8910
    @ramatsetsempho8910 6 місяців тому +19

    Avela has long money, haibo!!! 😩
    The red flags were there but she saw pink flags😭

  • @khanyisileshabalala1170
    @khanyisileshabalala1170 6 місяців тому +14

    The strange thing ukuthi usistaz uyathetha....umxhosa.
    Hayi odadewenu will hit you wena.
    I thank God for the gift of stinginess and overthinking

  • @brownsugar-wl7vn
    @brownsugar-wl7vn 3 місяці тому +1

    But she’s so well spoken, she seems like an amazing woman, she deserves genuine love.❤️

  • @NkosinathiMasango012
    @NkosinathiMasango012 6 місяців тому +6

    The problem emhlabeni is to make sure you balance ukulunga kwakho. Truth is most people like this sister end up being taken advantage of. There are many people out there who are taking chances, be careful of who you entertain in your space and time.

  • @victoriamokoatle8241
    @victoriamokoatle8241 6 місяців тому +19

    The type of men I met are exactly that type that want to be fed by us women it's disgusting I relate with u 100%

    • @princekhumalo7737
      @princekhumalo7737 6 місяців тому

      But you guys have been feeding of us for ages and we never say it's disgusting. Scamming is wrong, but helping your partner is not disgusting

    • @Julsm4484
      @Julsm4484 6 місяців тому

      When you talk to a guy, just take it slow and say NO if you see the first red flags you've been seeing from all the other guys

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 4 місяці тому

      ​@@princekhumalo7737 No man worth his salt is looking for a woman to take care of him like his mother.

  • @halacele8571
    @halacele8571 6 місяців тому +21

    Low self esteem plays a role in these matters 😢😢ai matters of the heart guys, it I was bad as it looks

  • @mscarolMula
    @mscarolMula 6 місяців тому +6

    Hayi Girls☹️. Mina the moment indoda starts to ask me to buy, I run away. Especially in the initial stage of relationship, is a red flag. For someone that we have been dating and build relationships I wouldn’t mind. Mogel she was too ignorant shame.

  • @rosamaphanga2488
    @rosamaphanga2488 6 місяців тому +10

    Sthandwa sam the problem yi gordons😮 m sorry for what you went through...

    • @thategomagane7938
      @thategomagane7938 6 місяців тому

      🤣 This is exactly why I don't drink it. It is deadly that thing. Worse + savanna 😭😭😭 2 deadly sins combined tjo! Recipe for disaster

    • @keitum3516
      @keitum3516 6 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @portiamorifi5054
    @portiamorifi5054 6 місяців тому +20

    I will never look at Gordon's the same after watching this😭😭😂😂😂😂

    • @tshegotumelo
      @tshegotumelo 6 місяців тому

      Same😂😂😂 everything is centered around Gordon’s and yaze ya moshela usisi 😂😂😂

    • @ruuuruusamsr1891
      @ruuuruusamsr1891 6 місяців тому

      Me too 😂

    • @andiedaddiekris
      @andiedaddiekris 3 дні тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @malebohangmotloung6693
    @malebohangmotloung6693 6 місяців тому +14

    I'm not judging neh, kodwa with so much human trafficking...this lady does not love herself shame, she does not know her worth she wants attention. I respect the fact that after she found out he has a wife she stayed away...I wish her happiness and peace in life

  • @M_Tshita
    @M_Tshita 6 місяців тому +2

    Kunini ngithi yooo. Thanks Avela for bring vulnerable and sharing your story.
    Unsolicited two cents advice, please work on your relationship with alcohol, because you lose control once you are drunk. The move to invite a stranger to your place nje was a dangerous move, you could have been kidnapped or human trafficked.
    There is nothing wrong with being generous and being giving but don't over do it, practice some stinginess.

  • @teem7303
    @teem7303 6 місяців тому +12

    Ehhhh kante this is what's going on in the streets?
    Hmmm..... Kunzima mos
    I feel sorry for this sista 🥺

  • @tebogot4835
    @tebogot4835 6 місяців тому +39

    I was feeling sorry for her till she said "ngiya betcha mina" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Thando_Khumalo
    @Thando_Khumalo 6 місяців тому +3

    Abantu besifazane ba-brake ke nono, mina le bravery andiyifuni.
    Sis is a blesser

  • @PulaneKhanye-x7v
    @PulaneKhanye-x7v 6 місяців тому +4

    Yoooh nuu askisi hle ukhuleke and nalesimo usikhulekise unkulunkulu uzakupha owakho u husband ozokuthanda okweciniso ungaphinde cc uphe abafana imali eyakho imali kumele isizekwakho sonomndeni wakho nendoda yakho ngiyazicelela okunye ungasaphuzi kakhulu mtase uzikalele or ubuyeke 😭😭❤️

  • @KatMug
    @KatMug 6 місяців тому +14

    The interviewers side comments are dusting me : “wak’phinda futhi!“ 😂😂

    • @londiwenombuso3229
      @londiwenombuso3229 6 місяців тому +1

      😂😂😂😂 kodwa yini

    • @nhlanhlamanana8081
      @nhlanhlamanana8081 6 місяців тому

      😂😂

    • @nkaisengmabaso6793
      @nkaisengmabaso6793 6 місяців тому

      Man said i" see the money part mara 9 rounds vele" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @KatMug
      @KatMug 6 місяців тому +1

      @@nkaisengmabaso6793 that part 🤣 he was really stuck on that part if he could he would’ve asked for more details

    • @nkaisengmabaso6793
      @nkaisengmabaso6793 6 місяців тому +1

      @@KatMug I feel like he did ask more after the camera's were switched off cause man was intrigued hey 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @khanyisilevilakazi6786
    @khanyisilevilakazi6786 6 місяців тому +6

    Some of y'all are so judgemental hence people will forever be ashamed to share they're stories. Come on it's 2024 majority of women go through such in the name of wanting to be loved and appreciated. Pity we meet such man who are aware that we need them. Nevertheless as women let's refrain from excessive alcohol drinking. Love and light sesi🥺💔

  • @nthabee
    @nthabee 6 місяців тому +4

    Where do you work🥲🥲🥲I want to send my brother... singaxila shuuu!🤣🤣🤣But seriously though, uyaphana shem😍😍

  • @moe_ramz
    @moe_ramz 6 місяців тому +58

    These women are creating sassy men. Fuck, that’s why these men are out here expecting the most from us. Mama, stop your nonsense please!!! Umfazi doesn’t bheja. 🤢

    • @gwagon1933
      @gwagon1933 6 місяців тому +1

      Kusho bani?

    • @NdabezinhleMaphumulo-tm5yq
      @NdabezinhleMaphumulo-tm5yq 6 місяців тому

      Ay kahle wena

    • @sihlemasondo2898
      @sihlemasondo2898 6 місяців тому +1

      U don't beja u broke

    • @moe_ramz
      @moe_ramz 6 місяців тому

      There’s no masculine male on earth. Who wants a woman to take care of him financially, again. Women are becoming masculine, and are allowing sassy(feminine) men in their space. Just check the comments. 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 4 місяці тому +2

      They're mad in the comments. You must have hit a nerve. 😂

  • @andiswamata8710
    @andiswamata8710 6 місяців тому +50

    Oh thank God I am stingy

    • @AsandaMazwi-the-real-one
      @AsandaMazwi-the-real-one 6 місяців тому +2

      Me too 😅😂😂😂 there’s no ways you can even get one beer from me shem

    • @Ladyle4ever
      @Ladyle4ever 6 місяців тому +2

      Same here, team stingy women. Aren't giving a man my money.

    • @leratoloyal7981
      @leratoloyal7981 6 місяців тому +2

      Yeyi😂

    • @neliswamatwa5756
      @neliswamatwa5756 6 місяців тому +2

      @@AsandaMazwi-the-real-oneMe too sana😂😂😂😂I don't even spend my own money for transport to visit a man shame!

    • @isaKtw12
      @isaKtw12 6 місяців тому

      In my case, stingy and broke. I don't drink alcohol either.😮 yho. Safety yona?

  • @suigeneris5193
    @suigeneris5193 6 місяців тому +50

    He didn’t scam you ke kodwa because you would’ve continued giving him money if you had not found out he was married.👀

    • @Me-xoxoz
      @Me-xoxoz 6 місяців тому

      Lapho sekumele sibele definition of Scam 😂😂😂

    • @Mandee202
      @Mandee202 6 місяців тому +6

      Being married doesn't stop him from paying back the money he promised he will pay. So he scammed her...period.

  • @thulidaretorise
    @thulidaretorise 6 місяців тому +4

    Sometimes the green flag can become a red flag. Cc you need to set some real boundaries in your life, build up your self esteem and assertiveness. Forgive yourself and love again. You're a great lady with a warm and loveable personality.

  • @amandamgobhoza2882
    @amandamgobhoza2882 6 місяців тому +2

    Ay akazwe ngiyizwe into enje😮😮im just glad she is alive

  • @Eugene-kv9ri
    @Eugene-kv9ri 6 місяців тому +13

    Stop alcoholism.

  • @sel220seko
    @sel220seko 6 місяців тому +49

    That scammer is not married

    • @ayandangcobo7933
      @ayandangcobo7933 6 місяців тому +1

      That's what I thought as well.

    • @Selamiso
      @Selamiso 6 місяців тому

      Thought as much

    • @VeraMoiloa
      @VeraMoiloa 6 місяців тому +1

      Bajwaele ukudla imali zabantu yena akaqali

  • @Ladyle4ever
    @Ladyle4ever 6 місяців тому +39

    You're not working? You gave a stranger your bank card and pin? Bought him alcohol? And gave him some cookie 🤔🙄😪

  • @sinegugumaphumulo4100
    @sinegugumaphumulo4100 6 місяців тому +3

    You need to love yourself more🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾if awuzithandi abantu badlala ngawe. Ncese oe❤

  • @mamolokotshivhula8650
    @mamolokotshivhula8650 6 місяців тому +11

    I think you could have asked her about her relationship with her dad or if her dad is present in her life...would have been interesting to hear more about that. Thank you for a beautiful conversation, that is creating awareness on the type of men who are out there

  • @khumbuzilemthiyane964
    @khumbuzilemthiyane964 6 місяців тому +9

    Her problem is alcohol,not man.

  • @snenhlanhlandlovu6976
    @snenhlanhlandlovu6976 6 місяців тому +15

    Lokhe ngithi “Yoh”😮

    • @gwagon1933
      @gwagon1933 6 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @thendomutavhatsindi2009
    @thendomutavhatsindi2009 6 місяців тому +2

    Low self esteem, lack of love and affection from home, causes many underlying issues when you become an adult.

  • @LumkaMatsafa
    @LumkaMatsafa 6 місяців тому +3

    The problem here is Alcohol, period. If you are unable to stop on your own, get help. The situations you get yourself into will only get worse as the depression from the outcomes of your behavior slowly seeps in. Its never too late to do better.it will only get worse please stop.

  • @gabokoemoletsoalo6034
    @gabokoemoletsoalo6034 6 місяців тому +5

    Sorry sesi, you are such a good person. You've been taken for a ride. Heal and move on, you'll not get your money back

  • @On_PointwithN
    @On_PointwithN 6 місяців тому +17

    It's the second time
    I watch the interviewer and it surprises me that on both occasions he laughs when women have been violated.

    • @MbaliRadebe-ce3vs
      @MbaliRadebe-ce3vs 6 місяців тому +1

      The comment I was looking for! He laughs at the most inappropriate times, his line of questioning sometimes... very off putting.

    • @On_PointwithN
      @On_PointwithN 6 місяців тому +1

      @@MbaliRadebe-ce3vsyes I just don't get it. If he wants to have these type interviews, he needs to develop empathy and understand serious issues that don't require his laughing. It's very much off putting and inappropriate.

    • @zweletu3
      @zweletu3 6 місяців тому

      Not the first time I see him do this! Very disturbing!

    • @thelazysnapper
      @thelazysnapper 6 місяців тому +2

      If I was the interviewee I’d really feel like shit if the interviewer laughed at my pain. And also his side comments are also off-putting “wadliwa futhi” like what happened to showing some empathy.

    • @_theerealnono_7694
      @_theerealnono_7694 4 місяці тому

      A lot of men aren't empathetic. That's why women make the best talkshow hosts.

  • @mokubung
    @mokubung 6 місяців тому

    Such honesty and openness. Stop beating yourself up. Love is a beautiful thing when it is true. We all yearn to be loved and feel appreciated in one way or the other.
    You need to be aware of your feelings and whether they are misdirected or not.
    Love and desperation are a remedy for disaster

  • @oratilemangwane5260
    @oratilemangwane5260 6 місяців тому +12

    More than anything I need this lady to understand how dangerous her actions were.
    Giving a person you hardly know your numbers,address and bank details is just unsafe and waking up with no recollection of what happened is really just so dangerous.
    I hope she becomes a bit more cautious. She seems so caring

    • @mapulengnquthwane1793
      @mapulengnquthwane1793 6 місяців тому

      True anything could have happened, she put her life on danger

    • @amompyatona8754
      @amompyatona8754 2 місяці тому

      I am so concerned on this whole 'no recollection of what happened at night' like it was not pressed on enough

  • @zintlemvunyiswa7270
    @zintlemvunyiswa7270 6 місяців тому +4

    She needs to work on loving herself. It's strange that she allowed a stranger to her place like ayenzi sense Tu shame

  • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
    @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 6 місяців тому +39

    "He never told me he is married" ma'am did you ask?

    • @kagisomogoshane5094
      @kagisomogoshane5094 6 місяців тому +4

      My Question exactly 😂😂😂

    • @sinazomakileni3938
      @sinazomakileni3938 6 місяців тому +25

      Haybo why must she ask!!bethuna the dating pool is something else😂is the person not supposed to disclose such information marriage is a big thing i would expect to be told

    • @zee4458
      @zee4458 6 місяців тому

      @@sinazomakileni3938unyanisile

    • @teemac2894
      @teemac2894 6 місяців тому +7

      So if I don't ask u don't Tell? Lmao a joke and a half

    • @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369
      @nzuluyemfihlakaloancientof5369 6 місяців тому

      @@teemac2894 he owes nothing, nisazodliwa Teemac ngoba you are educated fools.

  • @nothandosikhosana1644
    @nothandosikhosana1644 6 місяців тому +5

    Accountability is also important you can’t be drinking with strangers and inviting them to your home ..it’s important to build your self esteem as a woman it helps you in situation like this

    • @thuliendlovu719
      @thuliendlovu719 6 місяців тому

      Yep. South Africa is generally unsafe for women and sadly that's not on us. However, we need to take accountability of our actions whilst we fight the battle. I don't think it's wise to invite strangers in your home. Talk more of having intercourse with them, whilst intoxicated, without tests.

    • @ednabengu-ep2im
      @ednabengu-ep2im 6 місяців тому

      Avela there's a lot you can do with your life, join church go to ladies gatherings #Hlukana notywala you're too beautiful.

    • @zimkhithantokozo6708
      @zimkhithantokozo6708 6 місяців тому

      Yuuh ubesile ke lowe drink😂 haybo wancenda ahambe

  • @thandekilenkomo2247
    @thandekilenkomo2247 6 місяців тому +3

    That's why there's high rate of women being killed, kidnapped, trafficked.. you guys risk so much ngempilo zenu.... Thank you God for ukungabuphuzi utshwala that will save me from many things

  • @boity88.bm.
    @boity88.bm. 5 місяців тому +3

    Listen, not even the apartheid government could have me telling people my business like this😭

  • @khanyisamajodina7684
    @khanyisamajodina7684 6 місяців тому +12

    Quite alcohol sisi ,i thank God i have never consumed alcohol emzimbheni wam and i will never am so proud of myself am approaching 40 , most people loose their dignity because of utywala 😢😢

  • @phetulosithale-qu8rv
    @phetulosithale-qu8rv 6 місяців тому +6

    Yooooooo hai this is too much....
    my safety comes first...

  • @coachMims
    @coachMims 6 місяців тому +4

    She need a life coach bathong, this story time 😢

  • @lesley_lezley
    @lesley_lezley 6 місяців тому +4

    Hope she's getting help coz unfortunately, she had made herself a target for these men by telling the whole world her weaknesses.

  • @Julsm4484
    @Julsm4484 6 місяців тому +2

    She must reevaluate the type of man she falls for and why she falls for such man cause they all have the same characteristics and heal those parts that are unhealed by dealing with them

  • @angelmathe1963
    @angelmathe1963 6 місяців тому +4

    Yaz bakhona abafana abadayisa ngomzimba. Wena mtase just buy idildo uhlukane nosizi

  • @mbalenhlempungose1139
    @mbalenhlempungose1139 6 місяців тому +2

    i love this girl, all the way from tiktok i've been following her

  • @tobelamtshotshisa1322
    @tobelamtshotshisa1322 6 місяців тому +3

    Girl, go to small claims court. The court and justice will deal with him. Yes, the justice system is sometimes flawed but the small claims process always works like a charm!

  • @ayandangcobo7933
    @ayandangcobo7933 6 місяців тому +3

    Na shame she is too young, expects say that your brain only fully develops after 25 years. This is so sad and i hope she learnt her lesson. Bless her soul❤

  • @vuyolwethunkowane2594
    @vuyolwethunkowane2594 6 місяців тому +5

    Eyy Nkosi yam Avee😭Waze wayityisa iteam chmy🤭I blame that Gordons en loneliness

  • @neziswadungayezi2275
    @neziswadungayezi2275 6 місяців тому +3

    Forget about that money nono you have learned the hardest way remember he knows where you work and stay

  • @zazimazi9265
    @zazimazi9265 6 місяців тому +5

    This normally happens to rural girls when they get to cities/township's

  • @neli_dikeni
    @neli_dikeni 2 місяці тому

    You have a generous heart,it can never be me,That man has no shame

  • @MissLerato
    @MissLerato 6 місяців тому +16

    Im really angry now😡,why she keeps giving them her bank card??

    • @therolawsonModuke
      @therolawsonModuke 6 місяців тому

      😢trying to prove transparency to a stranger...yerr

    • @mluda01
      @mluda01 6 місяців тому

      Relax is not your momey

    • @missramz207
      @missramz207 6 місяців тому +1

      @@mluda01😂😂😂😂😂

    • @matildanowa7315
      @matildanowa7315 6 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂🤦‍♀️​@@mluda01

    • @elizabethletsoso2558
      @elizabethletsoso2558 6 місяців тому

      ​@@missramz207😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm
    @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm 6 місяців тому +3

    There are many ladies who are through such but what shocks me is that when you met ladies like her in a mall or checkers they rude or moody to nice guys trying to greet them and yet they are attracted to toxic guys said reality😢 she doesn't deserve this

  • @NontombiMateta
    @NontombiMateta 6 місяців тому +2

    Yhoooo shm ntombi stop ukhupha imali for indoda sthandwa please phuza uzidlele imali yakho wes i card ne pin never 😢😢yhoooo umhle and very young linda iseza eryt for wena

  • @senzomthembu261
    @senzomthembu261 6 місяців тому +3

    Finally women r catching up with the reality that men r daily facing.

  • @ntokozomazibuko9670
    @ntokozomazibuko9670 6 місяців тому +5

    But.... Im not judging, I'd genuinely like to understand how you find it okay to spend money on a man you JUST met?? Johhhhh my stingy ass would never return the minute you ask me to fetch MY alcohol haibo!!! tjerrrrrrr bring the alcohol in MY HOUSE FOR US TO DRINK??? Usile this guy mxm

  • @abigailtakobana2950
    @abigailtakobana2950 6 місяців тому +8

    Saw her when she was narrating her story on TikTok, she is hilarious 😂

  • @boniswalekhuleni9267
    @boniswalekhuleni9267 6 місяців тому +11

    This guy looks like Steve Urkel from family matters " Did i do that" lol

  • @naomimonica2854
    @naomimonica2854 2 місяці тому

    Am requesting for more of english coz am not from S.africa and i really enjoy ur show so much , kindly consider us....

  • @SingularSoulJourney
    @SingularSoulJourney 6 місяців тому +29

    Expose him so he doesnt scam others

    • @Fame_Junior
      @Fame_Junior 6 місяців тому

      Handle: cold

    • @annahboshielo
      @annahboshielo 6 місяців тому

      Even if she does, there are women that are still gonna fall for him. Especially since he can go 6 rounds in 1 day 🤭🤭

    • @dikeledideborah7865
      @dikeledideborah7865 5 місяців тому

      True,and we're not even 💯sure that friends didn't come over cause she passed out after 1st round

    • @ziyandangubane-gv5kz
      @ziyandangubane-gv5kz 5 місяців тому

      ​@@annahboshielo😂😂😂

    • @LizzyMaboe
      @LizzyMaboe 5 місяців тому

      Very true he must be exposed