The Shocking TRUTH About Dating in Uganda
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- Опубліковано 4 чер 2024
- In this video we will explore the dating economy in Uganda, and ask regular women how important money is to their romantic relationships.
Chapters:
00:00 -- Introduction
01:02 -- Afro Feminism
04:44 -- Are Ugandan Women Gold-Diggers?
07:30 -- Why are African Relationships so Toxic?
12:55 -- What do the men think?
I'd much rather have this upfront honesty than the games played in America.
You've got a point tbh.
Really love your Chanel in my English gipsy culture we married at 17 16 18 years old the men would work. But now the woman work but many romany family’s in uk 🇬🇧 still go by some of the old ways woman look after children and stay home. But it is well known that Ugandan woman love money remember in the bible it says the love of money is the root of all evil ? Not money you can have money but not love it. And one thing that you must recognise in Ugandan culture there are many single mothers? In the romany community’s there is only 12 percent divorce the same as China or Pakistan it’s sad watching this. And remember in the north the war the poverty they had so money is important for the woman
Money is paper
Paper is recyclable
Therefore, if you date for or with money, you are recyclable too... Good luck with that...
You have spoken like a true broke boy
He spoke like a real pimp @@kadraa4831
@@kadraa4831 And you sound like a girl who gets money from boys, broke or not... Gross.....
@@kadraa4831actually this comment goes over alot of dummies heads its truth neva let a woman trick you. This topic is worldwide and its all about survival and leaving your conditions. We can't be mad but men need to stop being suckas. U a big spender huh?😅😅! Bruh u letting these women rip u off?
Bro is living on another planet 😂
Ugandans seem really eloquent, they can explain their ideas in a 2nd language better than most of us can in our 1st. So cool.
It’s wonderful that they can speak a second language but most of them sound as if they’ve not dated much or like they don’t know what they want in a relationship or what a relationship should consists of.
@@Orlanzepol123 Interesting
Yeah. It is not Ugandan English until someone says "where by".
Their tradition is based on money because if you want to marry a girl you have to offer the family prized possession like jewelry,livestock,landers basically you can’t just love with nothing else to offer
@@flopo3044 I hear you.
SOUNDS LIKE AMERICAN WOMEN WITH ACCENTS. I UNDERSTAND THEIR POINTS
The internet and social media is ruining women worldwide. 😂
Bingo. Even in slums now, the women have smartphones and tiktok. They are influenced by the same exact things as Americans.
It's not social media’s fault.The world has evolved.
@@paulamugabi7320 I'm not sure how dating multiple people for money is evolution. This type of dating makes both men and women into objects.
I agree with you 100%
It's destroyed it completely, it's finished.
You make very insightful videos. I have Ugandan heritage, born and raised outside Uganda though. So uganda was a bit romanticized to me by my parents, who are from a much older Ugandan culture. One thing that's worth mentioning is that dating is a very new phenomenon and a result of Uganda opening up to global culture since probably the 2000s. So I think there are ways in which it clashes with our traditional values to some extent. For example, in the past a girl would live in her parents home until a suiter came along to ask for her in marriage. She would then marry that guy for better or worse. His explicit promise would be to provide for her and her children till death. Even if they fell out of love, divorce was never a way out. It was totally unacceptable for a man to abandoned his responsibilities. And a woman was loyal as long as he honoured his commitment. A man could get more wives but his responsibilities remained. In other cases the parents would arrange a marriage for a girl, but still the man had his duties and she hers. In my parents generation, the few who had the opportunity to go to university also had the opportunity to meet people there. Those who did followed a more western model of courtship, but still gender roles remained the same once they got married. I have a feeling there were much fewer games in dating back then. However, in the 70s Uganda went through a brutal civil war that lasted till the mid eighties. The entire economy was burned to the ground, families torn apart and many people exiled. Every family lost members and some entire families were wiped out. Out of the ashes of that war emerged a broken society, many widows and single mothers. Because of near starvation people turn on on each other and many became cold and self centred. The culture of hustling and even scamming emerged at that time. That society was then ravaged by hiv and aids, which caused masses more to die. Many children were orphaned others endured the trauma of caring for dying parents and endured devastating poverty and deprivation. Though things have improved massively, one must acknowledge that the people who are now in the dating and marriage markets are the children of those lost decades. Rapidly losing touch with traditional ugandan life, but not yet quite fully westernised. They are somewhat stuck in the middle where they dream of the simplicity of traditional gender roles, but can't find partners who have the character, resources or grit to fulfill them. This generation are also raised on a trashy diet of Hollywood Rom Coms, Bollywood, Nollywood, telenovelas and lately South African soap operas and internalised a totally unrealistic view of love relationships, which they compare to their very pragmatic traditional relationships and find them bland and boring. They also find themselves lost and confused in no-mans-land because, while the romantic fantasy offers excitement, it also brings lots of drama, while the traditional, which hardly exists anymore promises more stability, but no excitement just hard gender roles. The natural result is disappointment, disillusionment, lack of fulfilment and, here I make a huge logical leap... I think they give up and default to the only simple practical and controllable element which is money. I'll wait for the abuse😂
One of the best and most insightful comments I've ever got on this channel. And I agree completely. African culture is hugely romanticized by older generations. But on the ground it has become a wasteland.
21 years old Sandra with a mentality if 30+
I am from Nigeria and I can confidently say, we are similar to Ugandans. One love Africa
You dey craze abi?
Let no one deceive you that no woman doesnt want money. But not everyone puts money first most of us are still looking for true love.😊
Exactly 👍
Right 😂! Who told these silly men that women don’t want money in Africa. Women all around the world want money, resources, wealth. It’s in our biological nature. Patriarchy lied to both men and women. Told women to pursue marriage and offer only love because the system knew that men are inherently lazy and aren’t going to elevate financially. So if you tell women to choose love over resources, that eliminates the need for men to elevate, gives them access to women regardless of wealth and tell women to offer love cos men are incapable of love
It impossible to find Love threw money you will always be used,but possible to find money threw Love, GOD will always provide and it a beautiful thing to find both Love first then the rest will sort itself out,even when u run out of money the Love for one another will never run out,money comes and go but true Love always remain no matter what
When you talk about love in America you're wasting time as well. So I can relate to what the ladies are saying. It's not being cold hearted, just dealing in a truthful way. Now contrast that with all these people in America who go to the alter and they're so in love. And before the last guest leaves the wedding they're in bed with they're husband or wife's best friend. Thank you African women for being so practical and truthful.
What a comment you wrote. It’s a shame that you categorized every American married people to one group. The lady in the beginning didn’t even know what a woman supposed to do for her man but she wanted all his cash. 😅 wow these people crazy.
I dated a Ugandan woman here in the states she been living here for some years now. Beautiful thick always dressed very nice and not too revealing. When it came to money (she worked) i always paid i usually do on the first date. I took this woman on 5 dates or more never offered to pay, she told me she was dating other men but i thought after couple dates she was gonna be with me. She said my ex would never let me pay... i was like ok i get that in African culture specifically in Uganda but i aint your ex...
She told me "i feel comfortable around you" i took that as a good thing. But i feel she used me and was like im young still "i want to live my life" i was like okay then... why didnt you tell me you were serious about settling down. I really liked her but there was first red flag I always had to pay for her. Second we differed on beliefs in LGBTQ movement i dont support it, and lastly the Feminist movement she was like women can do it all, i was like ok they can do things but dont be emasculating men.
I left her after those convos. Shame.
Run away. Be safe bro.
In summary she wasn't into you she was just using you.Trust me they actually do have the ability to love you real good am Kenyan and I know we can't catch up with Uganda ladies on that note 😂
@@nubian_queeeeen i like to give people a chance usually after the first date. It seemed like a normal first date nothing crazy happened. After second, third date i realized we were different i liked her physically she was my type 100% but yea i called her out on the money issue.. it led to an argument as soon as i dropped her off i was like nah way i cant do this. Maybe ill meet another ugandan or kenyan or another type of african women who checks my boxes.
I do blame social media, the feminist movement, and lgbt whatever bs they pushing on everyone. Its affecting alot of young, middle aged men and women too.
U just fuck and dump bro
You talk about women as if they were objects and complain because they exploit you financially
It is as if you entered a supermarket and liked something, took it and bought it
Appearance changes with time and youth disappears, only personality and morals remain
No wonder why women became materialistic because men became superficial
They care about appearances and high standards, sometimes imaginary
A woman's life is short, so she will not waste it with someone who does not waste his time
When a man gets older, he can find girls if he has money
As for a woman, even if she has money, she will not be able to regain her youth
Love these interview videos, keep up the great work Willie!
Bible says in the end times people will be lovers of money and love will decrease amongst humans.
This is worldwide and major sad that love is almost a foreign language..
You are a great interviewer because it is not easy to make people speak so openly and true. Best video I saw about relationship
I appreciate that!
It's his deadpan approach. Pure gold! He knows women "virtue signal" and look for emotional queues in communication, as they're always checking the temperature. And their responses are based on what *they* think the recipient thinks about them, and rarely on what they truly think or feel.
I agree, the overall video is quite impressive.
Sandra is 💯💯 percent Right. Family love is all.
Awesome video, thanks for sharing this local culture life, although the individual can’t represent the whole community, but really enjoyed the conversation, Happy Holiday season my friend ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏
Great topic and very good insights into the dating culture, there in Uganda.
Lots of worthy comments in the comments section, also.
Good work, Willie Fungo! 👍
deep stuff. love this!
Remember a city girl in Uganda is the same as a city girl in America or Europe. No money no love. When the money goes the love goes so look for a village girl who is more traditional and who has value as city girls have no lost all these things
Again my guy great work..another fwd video..i thought about my x bc of sandras words ..which i believe alot of in construction of how children turn out. AT HOME!!!! And that first heartbreak..so i never believed in love again until 2021 and now still patching up whats left of the old ticker..never again.
Very good video bro I can see why alot of African men are looking towards Asia south America and Easter Europe due to this mentality. It's sad
Its the mentality they created
Great video, thanks for exposing women for what they are. The younger men either learn from this or will be lost in the modern world and play along.
Exposing 'women for what they are' in a society that leaves them bereft of direction and opportunities. I think it exposes a disgusting patriarchal attitude. I feel sorry for these women who are learning what is a parallel in America for many of us and that is that men cannot live you and learn how to manipulate from other men. Uganda women in a way are forced into a type of prostitution. And where there are 'golddiggers' there must be the predators, who must precede them. The first man you interviewed is a loser. I didn't listen to the second one at this point. They can stay in Uganda. I would never go looking for men who perceive women in this way. I really liked what Sandra tried to explain
The women are living in a culture developed by men. What more do they expect of them???? This society, by Western standards, is dysfunctional. It can only change with much upheaval. The first guy said, like any other woman anywhere else. If women are approached by MEN, right, who set this sht up but now they criticize the women they created... Jesus. The women want what they've never seen - real love. And if women cannot get or afford an education, they're left with only their bodies and some elusive sense of worth. It's very sad. I'm glad I wasn't born there
... because of the pain, she'll reject every person that comes in her life. That's powerful... and sad.
A woman's life is short, so she will not waste it with someone who does not waste his time
When a man gets older, he can find girls if he has money
As for a woman, even if she has money, she will not be able to regain her youth
Thanks for this good information
I think these interviews are the best for this year 2024
True, u can't feed of love. But u can feed of having a job. How about getting one?
I must say that, I found Ugandan accent very unique, I like how they speak English. Mani 😂
Ugandan here. Ugandan women are upfront about money. There's no beating around the bush.
In other words they insisting being objectified
Good stuff!
Nice accent, unique
Money = MANI
Reason = RIZON
Operation = OPARASHION
These young ladies sound very sensible ...
I feel like that you are nice guy willie, Interviews that get close to the truth every time. Do you believe in male friendship?
Do they understand what the term gold diggers means?
Of course they know.
I'm from Nigeria but Uganda girls is way more cool than Nigeria girls
In which way? You mean the Nigerian girls are even worse?
So right if you meet the right one she will be loyal
Sure
I will meet one very soon
Nigerian girls are even more vicious about money
Hello willie, ask them, what the Ugandan women what they think about the Jamaican men?
Sandra is a smart and beautiful young lady; she has a bright future ahead, I’m sure 👍🏽
Don’t simp
Sandra that is a truth part my girl❤❤❤
the bible also says submit to your husband
Men never call themselves independent. They are always acutely aware of thier dependence.
News flash: Women everywhere care about money. There isn’t a place on this earth that they don’t and it has always been this way. Romantic love is a very new concept in human history. Unions have always been economic and political.
Right. Romantic love was forced on women and the desire for marriage. Resources and wealth have always since the beginning of time has been what women look for in men.
Patriarchy did a number on society
All around the world same song......Amazing
😂😂😂
First girl was super honest
Yes. I also love Martha. I’ll come to Kampala 😊
There's no woman on this earth who doesn't like money whether white or black woman. Unless when a woman has made her own money already and that woman will also get man who loves her because of her money. am a Ugandan but men are the ones who changed women into loving money.women used to be loving. You start with your man from the scratch and when things gets better he gets another woman who fits in his status.that made women change into something else...that's why you find a woman saying i can't date a broke guy ..coz she once stood up for someone and she got disappointed. That's why you even see ladies going abroad to work as housemaids.they trusted men and they disappointed them.they have responsibilities to take care of like children coz being single mothers.my point is, men are the ones who changed African women into that. Coz women used to be loving, obedient and caring
You are 💯 percent right
U see a woman putting the blame on the men😂 do u know the number of men who picked women from poor homes and made them into somebody then later these women changed and became ungrateful and disrespectful? My dear sister men can be wicked and so women can be wicked, some men are good and some women are also good.
Wow,the last lady and the two guys are very powerful hey
All women want money thanks, this is universal
She’s dropped their gorgeous
You hit it on the nose… and exposed many people all over the world 😊
"Afro Feminism": I had to laugh out loud with a cough. And I love your deadpan explanation. No outrage. No being upset. No intrigue. Just simply the facts, and reality.
Carry and go 😊
🌎✈️🌍‼️👨🏾💻 Sounds like american women.. love the video for the 🖤travelers..
I was fortunate to have worked with 4 of those Ugandan women for about 14 months abroad. During those months, I observed them to b friendly, kind, caring and understanding. There were days when they will buy me a food during break time, while other times they will bring me a prepared food from home so i can eat during break period.
But in a nutshell, they're very nice set of women anyone can easily relate to......
Really disappointing that even in some African countries things are like that. Is the situation any similar on neighboring countries?
Do you check the audio on your videos?
Yea
Thank you! Another African Country to add to my list of where not to look for a wife
tough world out there
A young man from America who doesn't mind playing the game would have a field day with women with their mindset. When these women are talking about men with money, they're talking about men who make $750-1000 a month.
Yes, but they aren't stupid. They will make sure they get exactly what they want out of the relationship, and that price will go up for foreigners.
@WillieFungo yea, not too many men in my circle are going to allow a woman to dictate how much he is going to contribute to her life. She gets what he offers or she can keep it moving. 8/10 she's going to fall in line. The reason that a lot of men have problems with women like them is that they come to the table too docile and too willing to compromise on their standards and principles. I've never dated a Ugandan woman, but I have dated women from Kenya. They aren't too difficult.
@WillieFungo 3 months ago I hooked up an AA guy from Florida with Ugandan girl from my tribe but with east African mentality
She never asked me
What to avoid if u are dating an American
She ended up by asking him $600 to buy an I phone
He blocked her right away
Narrow mind seeing 1 meter instead of 10000 km
I knew he was going to take her to the usa
@@Kulmusha Exactly. Some of these ladies ask for money immediately instead of playing the long game. This is the biggest difference between Ugandans and Rwandans.
@@WillieFungo So Rwandan girls play the long game?
Exchange is no robbery
🎶 All around the world 🌎 the same... 🎵
One of these beautiful women said that if you are emotional then you will not be fit for the dating game in Uganda. How refreshing. They want to play at love as a sport, as a game. They do not find the seriousness or neediness of "relationship" attractive. They do not want to stare at a guy with a face with all sots of analysis and expectations like richcooper's across the other side of the table. If a man wants to have fun and doesn't want to be "trapped", he must also be non-serious and respect himself by becoming self-empowered, intelligent and as well-heeled as possible. And when it is no more fun, just learn to let go. There are so many flowers.
Unfortunately, women like this tend to end up alone and broke or in abusive relationships when the youth runs out. I respect an independent woman who works for her own things because at least you would be gaining marketable skills along the way and learning how to feed yourself for life. And just you wait until those kids come along, good luck getting random men to pay to put a roof over the head of someone else's kids. Disaster in the making.
Yes they are . I know this very well. I was dating one and damn......they are
Hmm. Sounds like Chicago
No romance without finance.
Wow what a.doc, the sad reality 🎉
They are hyper-materialistic. its a shame
Isnt that what adults are suppose to do?
everything start from the source
Been working my ass trying to help support my household ladies listen it’s better to be single then be someone who can’t help provide it’s stressful on a woman and she won’t respect you
Simps aren't respected either.
NW Europe only I'm afraid guys!
That's one of the few parts of the world that isnt like this
Hell!! I might as well stay in the states. These are black american women with accents and fake hair!!!
😅😅😂😂😂😂
😂😂 not everyone sir speaks like that
I feel that way too. Crazy. And here i thought i could meet an African woman jeez.
If you are stingy a Ugandan woman is out of your league. We have a saying you aren't allowed to date if you are broke
@@aishaluminsa6505I've seen single mothers in Uganda... so no, it is quite obvious y'all are doing more than just "dating" when it comes to broke men.
I think that man has also contributed on this issue M7 people’s are not very educated which Was the biggest problem
Every girl on the earth have similar agendas, but they usually hide it or they are not even aware they have, so after seeing these ladies, I would say at least they are honest , and well - aware of their own nature
the girl in the blue light is right and she said what I wanted to say
poverty is a lot in uganda you just have to do what you have to do. There are girls out there who are looking for a love and barely care about the money and they want to succeed with their husbands but can’t find that perfect match and then there are women who want to be in relationships because they need someone to take care of them and they find that guys but the wants love instead. So there is a lot of mis match and when people are looking for love they go based on looks rather than personality.
jeezas
nobody cant do shit without money
Money is important in all levels of life. In relationships and in single life. The problem is that to many people forget to put the Lord Jesus above Money.
The girl in the gold dress said “I was once in love but l gained nothing from it“… WOW!! Poor and average guys beware and realize that 5 beautiful women would rather share 1 wealthy man rather than have their own regular guy.
Jamaican women have the same philosophy.
I appreciate this video. I'll wait before moving to Africa and find my wife here in america.
Best Future Wives In Africa and Elsewhere Are in The Small Towns/Villages...❤
Like you guys have to understand your mentality is not our mentality in Africa.
Ugandan women are cutest than black American women!
They took all of Ryan’s money
🤣
That was no bull shit talking go on...I really have not heard the truth in so many years, until I couldn't believe what I was hearing....them young'en are very wise...
love is not everyone's cup of tea.
I was in love with ugandan woman she took my money and left 😂
Is there a Ugandan manosphere/Mgtow/SYSBM/Passport bro movement over there?
Kinda, they call themselves the "stingy mens association" to reject these gender roles. Mens rights stuff is also big in Kenya.
a man is supposed to provide for his wife.
I have my money, where's theirs ?
I have been to Kenya and the shocking truth is if you come from Europe or America you are just a money machine nothing more so never believe in a girl telling you she loves you😂 and I will say out of 10 girls 9 are for sale you can get them with money, not sure about other places in Est Africa but in Kenya forget it. If you have some free money you want to waste then go there but if you looking for a woman for something serious you better forget about it, you might be lucky to find one but that will be like a drop of water in the ocean.
Exactly. These men need to stop glorifying African women. Generally, they aren't "traditional" and they aren't "submissive". They are also much much more promiscuous than Western Women.
I wanna know why you cut the guy off during the interview?😏
As a western man, I have strange feelings to listen these interviews.
But also it is difficult to judge, being born in western Europe, therefore in a priviledge context
304's gonna 304!!
Men should stop being upset, especially when its the men that win in this game. Just have discipline when it comes to creating lives lol, and work hard so you can have your fun. Cant complain about a life like that.
Show me any person who can be independent without economically independent
If you don't want me why do you want my money.
Martha is so fine 🥺🥹
They just want money? works for me
Money mad I think I will keep my money for a woman who loves me