The History Behind Bridal Traditions Still Practiced Today
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- The tradition of two people joining together in matrimony is a tale as old as time - you get married, you throw a party, and you live happily ever after (hopefully). But how did the customs of wedding cakes, bridesmaids, bouquet tosses, and white wedding dresses come to be? Some are closely related to wedding superstitions, while others have surprisingly deep historical roots. Nevertheless, weddings are still as popular today as they were thousands of years ago, as are the wedding traditions that we still carry on.
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Maybe the Father of the bride walking her down the aisle made the bride less likely to run away from her prearranged marriage lol! Man, I can only imagine how some of those women felt about the men they were marrying.
Arranged marriages? Oh definitely! 😅
If you believe in past lives, I can honestly say it didn't always end well. LOL.
Couldn't stop her from puking everywhere, though. Lol
@@EmunahFL lol
It didn’t really matter how she felt. She did it for family honor, and increasing the families social rank.
You can’t judge history through modern eyes.
Can you discuss why, in some societies brides need a dowry, while in other societies, the groom's family has to pay a "bride price"?
Perhaps it is determined by whether the culture was always patriarchal or if it had matriarchal origins? That would make the most sense to me, but I am just throwing a theory out there. It is also likely that groom's families paying a bride price could have originated during a time where women would be kidnapped and forced into marriages by their kidnapper. The bride price would have been the equivalent of a settlement out of small claims neighbor disputes since arranged marriages planned in advance would have been more profitable to the bride's family. Really, it might be a combination of both theories. Dowries were for planned marriages, bride price were for forced marriages most likely.
They're not mutually exclusive. Very often, you get both together. The bride price is proof that the prospective groom is financially able to afford a wife and family. It's modern equivalent is the engagement ring. A dowery's function is to help provide for her household and children throughout the marriage and in case she is widowed. Before very recent times, women have always been expected to contribute half of her family's finances. Just in the past, that contribution was through her dowery. Today, that contribution is through her paid labor.
@@datheamore6395 the bride price is to compensates the wife's family for the loss of her labor, both domestic and agricultural, and formalizes the transfer of sexual and reproductive rights to the husband's family.While the dowry is supposed to support the wife if she were to become widowed or if she couldn’t marry a certain amount would be given to her every x amount of days so she could use it to sustain herself or even live off it alone if she had enough.
Would love to see a matching video for groom-related customs, or maybe one that examines wedding customs from a wider variety of cultures.
I just got married at city hall, and went hard at Cheesecake Factory afterward with our parents. Screw a huge wedding we are buying a house and going to Hawaii with the money we saved! My cousin spent 20,000$ on her wedding! For one day!
Courthouse then home to do dishes lol
My ex's sister's wedding was over 30K, closer to 40. Guest list roughly 300, half of which was friends of her parents. Almost called it off but went ahead anyway. It was never happy and they (officially) divorced 6 years later to no one's surprise. He got to keep the house.
@@katie7748 whew that’s unfortunate, I see a lot of people end up doing these huge expensive weddings mostly for their parents and such. Just doesn’t make sense financially anymore 🤷♀️
That’s the way to go👍
Cheesecake Factory for 6 is still a huge price tag 😂
In South Indian weddings, there is a custom where the couple sit on a swing and all the family members pray against people who wish bad for them while they enjoy together on the swing. It has been theorised that this custom evolved as, in the past, when the couples tended to be in their mid-teens, such fun rituals were needed for the kids to maintain interest in the rituals. I am not sure how well proven this theory is though...... I just want to clear that I am not criticising any Traditions here.
Didn't the Indians also throw widows on fires if their husband died, willing or unwilling?
@@Shinzon23 What is your point here ?
@@Shinzon23 This practice was called "sati". It had been abolished centuries ago.
@@lune5146 Just because it was abolished doesn't mean it isn't still performed
@@Shinzon23 ah yes just like the west burned witches. They still do it. Just cause its abolished doesn't mean the west still doesn't burn witches.
If you haven't already, can you do a video on ancient traditions that are still upheld today that are pagan in origin?
yeah! like the christmas tree or the easter eggs!
Like, literally Pagan, or the Catholic definition of Pagan?
It's all European wedding traditions, they should have included that in the title. The rest of the world's traditions were not mentioned 😶💀
Christmas,easter,and many other American and European holidays.
I bet the veil tradition began at least 1800 years before Rome. In the Old Testament, Jacob didn't realize that Leah had been swapped for Rachel, because of her veil.
I agree! It probably also was present in other cultures at earlier points. Though a lot of Western customs, specifically, date back to ancient Rome. Or so they say!
@@kmstins Yes! Lol, thank you. I’ll edit it. I also keep mixing up Jacob and Isaac…
@@torysetliff Thank you for being nice in your reply. Many people don't like being corrected. I knew who you meant. I deleted my comment. Have a nice weekend Tory! 🤍🌻🙂
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I thought the purpose of a dowry & the father giving the bride away & well most things mentioned was because years ago women were considered property & most females were worth their weight in goods or domesticated animals (exempli gratia: a donkey, a few goats, & a track of land).
It depend where u were living. Some cultures the female had to have a dowry. Look up the history of Nicholas and he is were u get santa clause. At 13 I some cultures were married. If they had no dowry they had to be put to prostitution. So a girl was 13 had no dowry Nickolas slipped into her room threw a window and put what she needed under her pillow. That's were santa clause came from if this really happend don't know. Because there were bs stories what he did that's why he was called a Saint. But the girl story I could believe it.
Traditions in the Jewish religion include: both bride and groom fasting the day of their wedding, the bride and company carrying lit candles before the ceremony, the bride encircling the groom 3 or 5 or 7 times (depending on tradition) to complete a magical circle around the groom, and the married couple staying alone in a private room immediately after the ceremony.
Wow because in ancient Jerusalem the wedding was a week lomg.
@@anthonydesroches8897 Some modern sects celebrate the wedding for a week nowadays.
@@SafetySpooon so some still do it. Ty
The reason that the ring is placed on the 4th finger is because people thought there was a vein leading straight to the heart.
Isn’t that true?
Attention writers/researchers! De Beers diamonds are from South *Africa*, not South America. Please be careful with your presentation. A lot of young people get introduced to historical subjects with many of your videos. Make sure that what you say is accurate.
Couldn’t agree more. Students are warned Wikipedia isn’t verifiable. Yet… 😩😅
9:30, did the narrator misread the script? I thought De Beers got their diamonds from South Africa. The narrator said South America
I thought west Africa!
Sierra Leone, to be exact.
De Beers mines, are located in Botswana, Namibia, South Africa and Canada.
I had heard that prior to Queen Vicky and white dresses, that green was a popular color for a wedding dress.
Mostly because it hid the grass stains. 🤭
There was no 'Color dress code' before that for brides and for grooms 'Wedding attire ' was never a compulsion cos men could marry in a 'Dress' that denotes their ranking and function i.e. career success, attires were always more for women with less choices
Choices were with royal women, and they set trends
Even todauy you see , common women will follow queen victoria's white style, but if they try to innovate new, families will scold them, but rich woman can
Depends, bright greens were an expensive color. Women simply married in the best dress they owned. whatever color might be, but probably depending if they kept the natural fibers colors or the period and fashion. Fashion wasn't changing that fast, that's why inherit a very expensive wedding dress from your mother or other family woman might also been a huge option, with some simple adjustments it could be changed to fit another body typer or fashion style.
@@johat1219 I am truly surprised that white is still the go-to for the majority of women. The virginal white looks almost alien when a tattooed woman is wearing it along with piercings.
I'm not against that fashion since I have both myself. I guess it just clashes in my head, since the meanings and history of a white wedding dress are so outdated for most women.
My fantasy of a perfect wedding would be wearing a tulle and chiffon black gown and having the ceremony in a cemetery in Halloween.
Mt husband and I got married in September of 2000. We were both 30 and both had kids from past relationships. We took off to Reno and had a great weekend and got married. No beautiful wedding dress, no big party and no flowers. And looking back at that weekend, I would of never changed any part of it. ❤️❤️❤️
*would've 😉 Congratulations!
That is the way
I had a shotgun wedding too. I couldn't imagine going thru these choreographed steps.
@@Kelly-ml5tl she didn't describe a shotgun wedding!! 😆 They eloped! A shotgun wedding is where the father of the bride forces his daughter and her guy to get married because she's pregnant by dragging them to a preacher while holding a shotgun.
And no STRESS 😬 TOO.
This channel is the ultimate proof that students at school love to Study but schools don't know the right way to teach the kids. Literally it would be so cool if you were my teacher 🙏🙏🙏
Do you know the tons of editing that went into producing this video. If he's your real teacher, you'll still hate history as well as him.
@@felixumukoro4119 Not necessarily true, I used to read encyclopedias as a kid, still do from time to time. Guess it just depends on the person.
Most modern era brides would never want their bridesmaids or any other women in attendance to wear white on their wedding day
Not true there is a trend which has been around since at least 2015 of all white weddings where the group and the attendants wear white
@GenSet I said MOST. I'm aware if trends in weddings, those are not the majority so it is true
Stupid to have others wear white at wedding!
In the 1940 s all white weddings in a colorful garden setting were very popular.
Tell that to Kate Middleton
Part of the vows that say "if anyone objects....." upset me as a young girl all the way till I was getting married. I solved that by having the minister just leave that part out.
lol you must have known people would object if you made the guy leave it out of the vows 😅
My kids confused Billy Idol with Billie Eilish and now I want to hear Billie Eilish do a cover of White Wedding or Rebel Yell.
"You brought BBQ spices? MARRY ME!"
Minor point, but the part about De Beers mining their diamonds from South America is wrong; they had mines in South Africa, not South America. Good and informative video, nonetheless.
Diamonds from De Beers were mined in South "America"?!?! South Africa boet! The company was started in South Africa, not by the "Dutch" but by the *Afrikaans* family. Dutch by descent, sure but I dare you to say that any Afrikaans person is Dutch and live to tell the tale.
De Beers is not the kind of corporation you should be proud of
"A bachelor is a guy who never made the same mistake once!" Phyllis Diller
I never got married and learned from the teachings of Al Bundy.
@@mathgasm8484 You're the smartest egg in the carton!! Can't say the same for myself.
This was really great! An you do funerals next please?
The romans really knew how to organize weddings. In fact, during the ceremonial procession, the guests used to sing this funny song about the kidnapping and marriage of the most beautiful Sabine by Thalassius's men:
"Where are you taking me?!"
"To Thalassius the Respectful!"
"Why are you taking me?!"
"Because he thinks you are very beautiful!"
"What will be my destiny?!"
"To Marry him. To be his mate!"
"What god will save me?!"
"All the gods have blessed this bond!"
I eloped in pigeon forge with one attendant (my sister) and only our parents present. It was wonderful! Then we had a big party to celebrate two weeks later in my hometown. My only regret was not hiring a photographer for the reception. These traditions can be so silly and we have been married almost 18 years and counting.
The veil goes back to biblical times.
Weird History never disappoints 😎
South Africa, not South America. And how is it completely overlooked that the Bride might be the one who wants out. ESP during arranged marriage.
The gifts in the parasol was really interesting, didn't know that's where "shower" came from. Great Video!
The vail was better... lol I mean they wore it because the broad was ugly and then men got trapped. Dam that's brutal.
Isn’t 9:52 meant to be South Africa?
Yes. Blood Diamonds
Well the current tradition concludes with a bitter angry divorce well after the "marriage" is over.
As a professional photographer and shot over 500 weddings. I thought I had seen it all till the bride and groom held their wedding at a nudist beach in Vancouver, Canada.
Turn's out the 'best man' at their wedding was their photographer.
So you were the best man?
At least the bride saved money on an expensive wedding gown.
Reason for the veil stems from the marriage of Jacob who married Leah and didn’t realize it wasn’t Rachel. He married the wrong woman because of the veil and that’s why the veil is lifted before they said I do
Labon was the one who tricked Jacob into marrying Leah because she was the oldest. Jacob then had to work for Labon for seven more years before he could marry Rachel too.
7:45 ummm... "They placed gifts in a parasol which would then be opened, essentially showering the bride with gifts." How did this work? I'm confused how they got so many gifts in a closed parasol before it was opened to shower the bride? (I realize I'm overthinking this one! 😝)
I've always found wedding traditions stupid, doesn't stop marriage from being a 50/50 split of staying together or getting divorced.
My cousin was with her boyfriend at age 16, and they divorced. That's 20+ years.
As a woman who eloped to Vegas and also had a beautiful wedding ceremony with our family and friends I knew a few of these already Not in full detail so interesting!! Also so many of these are evolving and changing with our modern times - I’ve been to weddings where they don’t throw the bouquet give it to the oldest married couple and one where they didn’t even cut the cake! Basically today anything goes with weddings as it’s so specific to the couple. In the pandemic I’ve gone to three virtual weddings as well people have to make due and change with the times I’ve even seen brides wear black or blush pink wedding dresses!
I'm told red wedding dresses are getting popular where I live
@@lisamedla that sounds so cool !!
Could you please speak about the experience of virtual weddings? I'm rather interested!!
do a video on the crimes of the de Beers family.
Do a weird history Christmas 😌
Hitachi Global Systems, Inc. (Now bought by Western Digital) sponsored a mass wedding for their employees here in the Philippines...thanks to that, me and my wife (who's still employed by WD) are still married today.
The last one is incorrect, Roman’s carried their brides inside the house because they were superstitious of doorways and didn’t want her to trip on her dress.. I’m surprised he got this wrong lmao.
Out of all mentioned traditions, in Saudi Arabia we only have The White dress, The Bouquet (without the throwing part), and The engagement rings.
Actually, we do sort of have the “six pence in the shoe” still. I’ve been to many a reception where the bride’s shoe was passed around for you to put change or small bills in.
I like this idea/tradition It may be the only time you hope your bride has big feet 😁
My mom gave me a silver penny to put in mine
De Beers diamonds are mined in South Africa not South America
Great video! Thank you! Just a little correction... De Beers' advertising campaign (while global) was for South African diamonds. Sir Ernest Oppenheimer established a network of global wholesalers for the South African diamonds, which is how the advertising campaign went global.
Man, that's something. Who knew that many of the wedding traditions began with the Romans? My cousin got married almost a year ago this month.
Thanks for this! 👰🏽 #WeirdHistory #WeddingTraditions
I just love this channel. Informative and funny
Nothing surprising about the role of marketing in creating the obscenely excessive spending and insane obsession with 'perfection'
Hope I marry a pretty lady one day and make her happy
If an evil spirit wanted to go after the bride I don’t think it would be too picky about the identically dressed bridesmaids. A soul is a soul so basically they all made themselves a “target” lol. Can you imagine how petrified they all were? Fascinating stuff though.
De beers is in south africa
9:45 That would be South Africa, not South America.
Always enjoy the history behind the topics... enjoy even more the funny at times sarcastic remarks added... love history especially when made enjoyable
Please make a video about Emma Goldman!
Quite interesting how much superstition has cemented traditions that are now taken for granted. Being half Swedish, half Tunisian and having lived in both countries it is really funny to me to think about different reactions to basically similar ideas when it comes to marriage.
De Beers is a SOUTH AFRICAN company, not South American.. A South African-British company. How could you get that so wrong? Honestly, it makes one doubt a lot of your content.
Now do a video on honeymoons. Why do people travel? Was it really a full month back in the day?
There's a Nordic custom of making Christening gowns out of wedding dresses.
Wow queen Victoria was a revolutionary
I learned something new. Tearing the dress to shreds is, let's just say...a whole lot crazy. Great video yet again and I enjoyed listening to your "lesson".
to shreds, you say?
@@ErikGerm Yep. Put an "a" in there accidently and I didn't quite catch the mistake until I had already posted the comment. I did notice as soon as it posted but decided to leave it like it is and went on with my day. It's not the first mistake I've ever made and it won't be my last. 😁
@@gailpendarvis9767 oh i was quoting Professor Farnsworth from Futurama!
I kept thinking about that scene in Cinderella where the step-sisters tore Cinderella's dress to shreds!
I wonder where the tradition of narcissism and self-centeredness comes from. Most brides I've met were so hyper controlling and demanding that it looked like mental illness
I've seen the brides Mother's really show their mental instability and/or narcissistic traits when it comes to the planning of their child's wedding.
Vanity, maybe? Also, entitlement.
It’s because they’re women man. It’s their day and their attention. It’s best to leave it alone.
So don't get married or don't marry a woman.
Because for a long time, the wedding day was the last day a woman has before a life of domestic forced labour with no financial or social freedom (women couldn’t even have a bank account in their own name before the mid 70s) and marriage was always pushed to women as the ultimate achievement, so why wouldn’t they celebrate it?
As far as the origin of the veil is concerned.... In the biblical story of Jacob marrying Leah (who he thought was Rachel) she wore a veil. That is why he did not know he was marrying the wrong woman. From then on in the Jewish tradition the man comes and lifts up the veil before the ceremony begins to make sure he is marrying the right woman.
That is way before the Romans came on the scene.
Love your videos. Keep up the great work 🙂
Wow; I knew about a lot of these but was surprised about others. Thank you. Love your humor.
I am not sure if I like those traditions now that I know the origins. I don't know? Those are interesting facts!
At counter 9:52, the correct DeBeers diamond mining location was South AFRICA, not South America.
I'm surprised jumping the broom didn't make the list
k, so two things to ask. A) how can we just do away with all of that nonsense and just get a marriage certificate while revamping the divorce aspect to be not so damn expensive or traumatizinng, and B) where does it say that it's supposed to be between a man and a woman rather than two guys or two gals?
because Groucho Marx was right in saying that the LGBT community deserves their rights to marriage and to suffer like the rest of the straight population in unholy matrimony.
Limp Bizkit band poster LOL
There is one tradition that the grooms men try to kidnap her the night before the wedding so she doesn’t back ou of the marriage
My groom and I each wore a penny in our shoes from our birth year. Silly custom, but fun.
When I went to business school, it was required to take a Business Law class. The professor used the engagement ring to explain contract law to the class. After learning the legal view of marriage, my willingness to get married evaporated.
Why? What’s wrong with the legalities of marriage?
@@marthairene7732 it destroys the illusion of love that rom coms portray. Marriage was always designed to be a legal contract. It reognises a couple under the law.
Wouldn’t it be smarter to be married though? What happens if you get into a bitter breakup and you need to divide assets or fight for child custody? Or if you get incapacitated who do you give power of attorney to? Plus there’s financial benefits to being married…
De Beers diamonds came from South Africa, not South America…
Hi! I was wondering if it would be possible for you guys to make a video about menstruation/periods/womens health in victorian/medieval times? i find it very interesting, and i would love to hear you guys's take on it! thanks :)
Marriage is stupid and unnecessary in this modern age. It's also a big waste of time and money. Making a legal contract that is supposed to be valid for the rest of your life is scary. Just live w/ the person you feel committed to. When you no longer feel the committment, then go your separate ways. I'm from Arizona, USA. We don't even have a common law marriage law.
Yay! New upload 😍
Deus benedicat tibi🙏🏻
Both of my grandmothers received engagement rings with diamonds in the 1920s, one maybe in the late 19teens. I know because I have them. They’re dainty, art nouveau or modernist, unlike now but still. Also, I thought blue for the bride was quaint until in film research learned that ‘blue’ is more towards kinky, sexual, whatever. 🤷♀️
How about when did April Fools day begin, and why do some (thankfully only some) still adhere to it today?
De Beers didn't mine in South America. They mined in South Africa
The idea of rings came from the Cult of Saturn. Earrings came from the same concept as you should always listen to you God.
A friend of mine is from India, and her parents arranged a marriage for her. From how she explained it to us at the time, if the prospective bride and groom get along - here comes the bride, complete with traditional attire of sashes, henna tattoos, etc.
Never been to or went to a wedding before but if I was a bride or bridesmaid/maid of honor I wouldn't mind having a or throwing a bridal shower
Not to mention that marriage license did it come into affect till after the 1950s.
That's not true at all. You had to get marriage licenses in Britain for a very long time.
The history of shoes and socks might be interesting to do 😎.
Diamonds in South Africa...
I love this channel! Neat.
The shot of Megan M. During the business transaction slide was an accident right lol
I was hoping there would be a clip from Bridesmaids and I was not let down, thanks.
'Jumping the broom' also has a very cool history.
I wish so many western wedding traditions weren’t watered down versions of the owning and exchange of women like property
@lunaticking I wouldn't know because this video doesn't cover other cultures/parts of the world. It only talks about western wedding traditions. Which is why I specified "western". If they actually included eastern/african wedding traditions in this video, maybe I wouldn't have to specify.
I never found the point of a wedding I don't need a judge or anything fancy to prove that I care about someone
What is the music that is in the background during the bridal shower and veil segments? I like it!
This channel is just 🔥💯
I don't know why the bride getting pieces of her dress torn off made me think of a season finale of the Bachelor or Bachelorette.
They invite everyone back for the actual wedding and the wardrobe gets ruined under the excuse that it's stemming from some ancient luck tradition when the guests are really just petty and drunk living in the moment having their bad behavior encouraged by the tv show staff. They can't play it live however cause by the end of it you don't know if you're still watching the Bachelor or Bachelorette or someone sat on the remote and you somehow ended up watching an urban naked and afraid episode with wrestling stars you have never seen before in any cage match or spoken of by Joe Rogan except no one seems to have a machete or any survival tools in the wedding gift boxes, so you have no idea what's going on and the information or guide button for the show isn't working at that point. 🤷♀️🤪 (but the coins in the shoes probably work well later if it turns into a corpse bride kinda storyline.)
The groomsmen end up chasing the bride around naked and because someone spiked the drinks from the bar with laxative it turns out to be a pretty crappy night for everyone.
'Petty, Naked, and Contractually, ball and chain, bonded until legal obligations for annulment or divorce can be realized' is probably too long a title for most reality TV series producers though. They like 90 second fiancee international without the pop up video subtitles warning and advising the messed up legal issues that arise from marriage laws in various states and countries which ruin the belief in whirlwind romances and fairy tail 'true love' scenarios of 'The Princess Bride' kinda stuff and boil them down to the cruel realities of life and the legal arena which crushes the last hope you have of real love and romance and dually serves as the anti-aphrodisiac (which even Viagra has to up their game for and at that point the Super Viagra is legally obligated too and lists death from erection as a 75-80% certainty which you have to sign a waiver for by your doctor witnessed by the pharmacist, and at that point someone breaks a champagne bottle against your erect penis and turns you towards your intended like a boat being launched for its maiden and final voyage.), and as this is the birth control method of the upcoming generations, which spur more influencers that you don't wanna watch crapping on the things you actually kinda like and ruining it for you, in addition to trust issues that make the catfish guy say, 'look I have stalked them all I can, ran background checks, and even done some pretty illegal stuff, that you encouraged, cause you paid extra for it, that would be considered an Invasion of Privacy in countries that don't have those laws nor really a word for privacy but after you, they do now, along with bully and soon to be adopting or culturally appropriating the middle finger, mainly just because of you.'
Which starts the new trend of wet toilet paper marriage contracts where it's not common law (as you sign that it doesn't apply and opt out of it), no alimony, money isn't transferred, or ever comingled, unless specified and it's more or less just noting that you have a friend you trust enough to decide the DNR orders and hang around in your hospital room for if and when you ever need to wake up from a coma or need a ride home from a serious surgery and you need them to take responsibility and care for you.
They also keep people named Buck from El Paso away from your room and ensure people that look out of place don't put anything in your IV stumps.
But the contracts like wet toilet paper can easily be flushed and not even upset very sensitive or touchy septic systems.🙄🤨
My, o my, the father was literally "dropping off the goods" at the altar, then. Marriage has always been a thing of contract, eh
Does anyone know the painting featured at 3:52, or how I would be able to find out who the artist is?
@0:47 I used to have a major crush on Billy Idol.
In Indian cultures they wear white for funerals so brides traditionally wear red. My friend had a traditional Indian wedding and it was very long with a ton of chants/ prayers. Her dress was gorgeous. And her white husband was sitting on stage looking so confused the whole time 😂
Correction.....
You said the Debeers Corporation mining pits were in South America, I think you meant to say South Africa.
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#BloodDiamonds
A+ video!
I have always wondered of what purpose most bridal traditions served, those are really fascinating!
It is incredible how much tradition is tied to the ceremony!
I don't remember which culture it was but ,before the govt kept records of marriages ...around Jesús' time , the marriage ceremony was two people wanting to start a family and all that was needed was for the man to carry the woman into the house aka across the threshold
Skipped most of the wedding stuff. The wife and mine was 2 hours from very beginning to end.