Four Techniques to Release Trapped Emotions/Trauma: 1) The Letting Go Technique @02:51 2) Progressive Relaxation @05:34 3) Holotropic Technique @07:15 4) Emotive Self Vocalization (ESV) @08:17 Enjoy everyone, Dan T.
@@firerose7936 don't stop trying to heal. Stop seeing the trees and look to the beauty of the forest. Never stop trying to heal ... change your technique, change your therapy, alter your therapist. the pain is the way. Marcus Aurelius
I find myself using the 4th technique a lot. I'm not afraid to talk to myself. I do it all the time. I suffered terrible abuse in the school system and that gave me PTSD, panic disorder, severe anxiety, serious anger issues, and paranoia. I'm a broken down mess. I have so much pent up frustration and deeply-rooted anger to get out of me and I honestly believe my money problems are directly tied to the traumatic abuse I suffered in school.
I did too, i was never good enough but really if we think about it, they're hatred towards us was because they see something in us that they don't have in themselves, they're jealous of our authenticity. Please know everything you feel is valid and okay to be angry. I hope you find what you need to heal.❤️
I like the analogy of thoughts being like a mob at your house trying to get in. There’s a similar analogy in Zen where it’s said if you become enlightened, thoughts are like thieves entering an empty house - there’s nothing to steal
The breathing part with the inhalation and exhalation was very difficult from the standpoint that I got very dizzy after a couple of minutes. I can't imagine being able to do this for 30, 60 or 90 minutes. Everything else worked great for me so overall a very appreciated video.
I absolutely agree about David Hawkins. Letting Go is the only book (after reading a huge amount of material, going to therapists, doing a million and one techniques) that actually worked. Changes actually occured when nothing else worked. I wish the book was prescribed to people with terrible depression and anxiety, or people who just feel really stuck. All his material is incredible, but that book is quite literally a life saver. Besides that, really informative content. Subscribed 👍
Thank you so much.. so many webinars promise to tell you how to do this but I can never make it through several days of talking to find out if they ever tell you how. This was perfect, precise, quick.
Recently worked through some trauma. Had been struggling with depression for years and never knew why. Made exactly the same experience that was described here. Completely changed my life. Went from using pharmaceuticals and struggling with keeping up with daily activities, mostly sitting in my room to being an active and happy person within less than 6 months. Really well explained mate ❤️ About the „voice in your head“ thing. What really helped me to gain clarity was to „name“ these voices. So I believe that we consist of different „parts“ and learning to understand which of these voices is currently actively triggered was very helpful to me to be able to meet their needs and calm them down. And no this isn’t schizophrenic.
In 6 months? Dude. Fuck yeah. That made me smile. Naming the parts of us is something I'm experimenting with now. Even better, I draw them which is something they do in art therapy I think. Keep going, David. Respect.
Wow. This is the best video on trauma that I've seen. You go straight to the point with concrete techniques, and your voice and energy kept my attention the whole time. Thank you so much, honestly.
Not even sure how I stumbled upon your channel but over a year ago I had a bad experience with weed that caused some trauma. Depersonalization was one of the scariest experiences of my life but I had never felt more real and self-aware. It was like everything around me was artificial-looking and all my thoughts were existential and extremely bizarre thoughts or ideas. I truly believe the experience happened because I stuffed some trauma very very deep and never let it out because I was never taught at a young age to be open with my emotions. Weed made me face this and its really cool how I had to use the techniques you talked about in this video that I read from books or heard in videos to get through it. I don't know why I shared this all I just think its interesting how the human mind can adapt and deal with so many different problems in related ways. Thanks man
Yep. I've experienced it too (weed induced) and it was one of the strangest experiences of my life. Glad you've managed to ground yourself though dude.
@@OliverCowlishawI kind of figured you had been through a similar experience the way you talked about visualizing the anxiety coming and letting it pass and all the other stuff sounded very similar to the way I have had to deal with my negative thoughts. It's weird thinking about how I felt beforehand, I feel almost more awake but at the same time being more awake can also be very disturbing if you aren't used to being this self aware. I'm not completely grounded still but I'm making baby steps and the advice you gave in this video was definitely spot on to what I've heard and been trying! I find its just easier to talk about it like a past event that way you can trick yourself into believing you are really past it all. But keep uploading I like your content, funny thing is I found you by looking up getting rid of my cell phone for a flip phone and that's exactly what I did, I've realized that my cellphone was causing disconnect and not even letting me be completely in reality. Anyways hope all is well man
I read that book. Good advice. I have used alcohol most of my adult life to smother emotions. Im learning how to deal with natural emotions and its difficult. I will try the last one...asking myself out loud how im doing.
Oh my goodness, you are so sincere and heart centered and you give such amazing techniques. My pattern has been to turn to food rather than feel the feelings, so now I’m going to open the door to my house and have a little chat with them and feel them and then send them on their way. Thank you kindly!
" My pattern has been to turn to food rather than feel the feelings," that sound familiar. I think food gets used by so many people for supressing feelings. Most have no idea about why they do it.
I stand for this exactly, I believe so much that we can repress emotions without even noticing we are. It's so important to acknowledge and inform ourselves on that, and be able to process our emotions. I feel honesty (towards yourself and others) is the key. But it's hard sometimes ;)
Bro, this is super helpful. I've been struggling with CPTSD and have been using cannabis for 3 years, but then I started abusing it and using it to avoid my emotions instead of going through them. I've tried sitting and meditating on them, but they're so intense my mind won't let me. I'm going to try the muscle one this weekend and am super excited about it!
It's a challenge and your mind will try to convince you that these feelings mean death - but they don't. The bushfire always dissipates. Sure, it might take some deadwood with it but that might be just what you need.
You did a great job on this video, I love how the video is outside in nature on a bench and the dog that's walked by. I like how you started this video and got my full attention. thank you for the tips. keep up the good work
This is the kind of content that makes me go like "fuck yeah, that's what I'm talking about". This level of content quality is the reason why I'm so happy about yt being the new means of sharing valuable information. This kind of stuff has never been this available and knowing that there's people who are able to present it this well makes me even more grateful. Keep up the good work man.
i must say I've heard the information presented in the video before but you explain them BEAUTIFULLY. like this time it resonated with me more than ever. Thank you!!!
I just want to say thank you so much for making this video. I can’t tell you how helpful and insightful it was to watch!! I’ve only tried EMDR and TRE before, and I shall certainly be adding these four tools to my toolkit 😊
Great advice.... id love to see you go through the breathework and the musle tension techniques...ive seen loads on UA-cam...but you area great teacher :)
Wow! That Holotropic breathwork is amazing! I first tried it, and after a few seconds I could stop from crying. Had a good cry, yay! I did it later the next day but no crying. Later I cried though. But I have no idea why I was crying. You 15 min to 90 min? Wow! I could only do it for a few minutes (2 1/2) Great tips!! I'm going to try them all.
To be real here, you can't do Holotropic Breathwork for 15mins if you are a beginner, also its advised against. Doing for 10mins also helps a lot, try Pushing Beauty's tutorial, its easy and works well.
Definitely take it easy at the beginning. I should have mentioned in the video that what worked for me might not work for everyone. I went in 100% and did full sessions (although I didn't keep up the same breathing pattern for 90 minutes straight) but you might want to take it easy initially.
I sit with the emotion and the thoughts come up. I focus on the emotion alone, feel it fully, lean into it and let it go, then 3 seconds later it comes back and the thoughts come back, I do it again, then 3 seconds later it comes back and the thoughts come back and I do this all night until I finally fall asleep 5 hours later than I wanted to. Then I wake up the next day and the same shitty cycle continues.
🎯🎯🎯 Hey thank you for this!! Im actually pleasantly surprised, for my experience has been that when a youtube video promotes advice, it usually a person just talking about themselves for 10 minutes 😂...But you offered solid, sustainable techniques that I somehow already know will help before trying them..Which I am going to do today...Thanks again!!
Grandma from NewZealand! I loved this video..youre a great communicator..I read some of Davud Hawkins books a few years ago..I'm off to the library tomorrow to get a copy of Letting Go..thank you!
My question is - for me im trying to find out how to allow happy feelings 1) people ask are you excited - yes but they dont see it or think im not having fun... 2) i get a promotion and boss asks are you happy? - yes thank you and again questioned about it like i have a poker face i show no emotion... 3) i get the best christmas gift from my bf and i can see on his face hes questioning if i actually really like it or pretending to because then ill use words to express it but i cant seem to allow myself to show emotion?... when im alone -i get happy feeling or good news - i do a 2 sec happy dance on my own then emotionless like i shut myself down as soon as i start to feel it... its part trauma from childhood & part of how i was raised (happy emotion & laughter not something that was allowed in a sense... and parents also did same - as soon as my mom laughs at something you can see her close up "swallow it down" & continue to have "professional" appearance - from her upbringing as its not ladylike to laugh. My dad suppressed his emotions as well ) what can i do to heal this - i want to feel free in my happy emotions to express & enjoy them?
Have a dialogue with your inner child who feels that it isn't safe to be playful, joyful and happy. Let your inner child know that it's safe. Encourage him/her. Be the parent to your inner child that you never had.
Great video man.. I think the 3 Rd one is not so much for me as hey light headed and effects my balance etc.. Other 3 good ideas/techniques.. I listened to a bit of the letting go book, but it was too wordy etc for me.. So I liked your breakdown of it..
Thank your for the enlightenment on releasing trauma. You are a blessing to many people, such as myself that needs some guidance. I have been intuitively doing some of these techniques and in meditation I have asked for an understanding of what’s been happening. ❤️
It was my first time moving out, I had 4 flat mates and one was my really close friend, I never met someone so similar and we had fun. It was like having a sister to me. Then she turned out to be toxic and this whole argument happened over text. I cut her off a day before her birthday and she left the flat (for other reasons not related to the drama.) It is a lot of emotions to say, a really close friend being toxic to cut them off on their birthday is awful. I tried reaching out multiple times to apologies and she left me on read. Overthinking and guilt x10,0099
I had a similar thing happen. It's not really you, it's her issues so please strive to gradually let the guilt go. UA-cam HAVENING and add that to your list of emotional healing modalities. 💗
All of these strategies are wonderful. I am a clinical counsellor in Canada and use Hawkins work and breath work with clients but all together with the last approach ... brilliant! Thank you. I will pass this along to my clients.
I tried the breathing technique just now for the first time and I had a really intense physical reaction. I only made it to 12 minutes. There was definitely some sort of release..I literally could barely stand up afterwards. I'm still sitting here processing what just happened.
E quando o trauma aconteceu quando eramos crianças e não nos lembramos doo que aconteceu. Sofremos de ansiedade, insegurança e muitos outros sintomas mas não sabemos o que aconteceu.
@@OliverCowlishaw i did the breathing technique and it took away my trauma for a day or so. Do the effects/ healing of the breathing ever last longer the more i practice those techniques?
@@OliverCowlishaw ok thanks for the advice bro. Im gonna try it out every day from now on to see how it turns out. Thanks for the video and thanks for the answers.🙏 have a nice day G’
Just me who doesn’t even know why you feel this way, or you can’t even find the source of why I am feeling like shit. I feel like nothing can really make me feel better properly. I don’t have anyone to talk to anymore, I’ve lost a lot of friends due to my “annoyance”. But like I can’t help that? Idk I’m doing it yk? And it hurts to think I annoy my friends that I care about and that they don’t care about me back. I’ve tried hinting to my mum that I don’t think I’m ok and she just does not care. She says she knows when someone needs help and that I don’t. Little does she know I cry myself to sleep every single night and that cutting doesn’t even help anymore. Eeeeee I don’t wanna tell her tho cuz she will be so mad at me. I want to talk to someone but they just won’t understand. It’s sad.
Hey Ella. I have recently struggled with mild depression and I get the feeling where you say that you just feel sad and that nothing can make you happy. My family also didn't understand fully what I was trying to say but they were supportive to the best of their abilities. Ultimately what worked for me was being kind to myself. I would think of myself as having 2 parts, one as having been through trauma, who needs love and care and acceptance and the other part of me was the friend who provided all that was needed to heal. I would sit down silently, close my eyes, relax my body and let the emotions come up, whatever they were. It used to be difficult because those emotions were very uncomfortable to go through, but my 'friend' part would talk to the other part love and kind words of acceptance like " its okay to feel these things. This is normal and you have been through a lot. You deserve this release and you are worthy of all the love the world has to offer." This really helped me be friend with myself. You can also try journalling and Judy pouring down those emotions onto paper without any fear. Another thing that helped me was breathwork. Check out the video on breathwork Matt D'Avella's sister. Hope this will help you. I want you to know that it might feel permanent and that's there's no hope, but believe me, its as temporary as anything else and you will be your normal, merry self again. Peace to you.
And when the trauma happened when we were kids and we didn't remember what happened, we didn't even know how to speak. Now I suffer from anxiety, insecurity and many other symptoms but I don't know what happened.
We often don't. Be careful to not wait until you have a clear and perfect story. This is a trap. Get clear on your values and your overall goals and get moving. Action can often be the best form of therapy.
Allow a feeling to come up and just be there. Observe. Ask- What I am feeling right now? Can I let this feeling be here? Can I let this feeling go? .............. Meditate. Give max. tension to forehead, eyes and so on. 15 sec. Then relax it for 15 sec ............. Talk to yourself. How are you feeling bud?
I suppose I'm a big case bc aside from my IBS , DEPRESSION & ANXIETY I HAVE A HUGE UPPER KNOT IN MY UPPER STOMACH THAT NEVER LET 'S GO. MUST BE PSYVHOSAOMATIC, ALOT OF ABUSE INCLUDING SEXUAL ABUSE BY A THERAPIST INTRUSTED.
My parents divorced in 1997 and I started to feel strong negative emotions around them a few months later, I'm nearly 40 now and I still don't know how to deal with it, can anyone offer any advice? I've not had a normal life because of it
not letting yourself feel the trauma in the moment may be the problem. so what if you were in a life threatening situation and your body prevented you from experiencing it, say in my case i felt nothing in a serious road accident even though i lost a lot of flesh. and every attempt to heal the resulting stored trauma backfired. what then ?
That situation is so specific that I wouldn't attempt to give a generic answer to that. These are just some basic things to try but the nuances and specifics of your situation should be the subject of ongoing therapeutic work. Sorry I couldn't be of any more help.
I did that for a couple of year in a relationship, it worked to release emotions due to a situation where I was asked to behave in a certain way in order to fill the needs of the other one but mines where asked to be abandoned, it works every time for me to release my emotion of injustice and not being considered, I'm keeping in being in this relationship because other of my needs are filled, but everytime I think about my needs not being considered that's not possible of speaking about it with him, these emotions are coming back and I have to make the work again. How to release it finally?
I had a bad acid trip in December of 2019, and to this day I still don’t feel “normal”. I did freak out really badly and had a full blown on panic attack and I took some benzos to calm down and I ended up blacking up. Could this be trauma, that I didn’t let fully process in that moment?
It sounds like it. Through the panic, you amygdala took over and registered the event as a traumatic memory but in a really crude way. Problem is, when panic mode hits, the hippocampus which usually categorises and stores memories and their correct context shuts down. Now you're left with a trauma that's not been correctly stored as a harmless memory. I would try EMDR. It would help your brain store the event as a harmless and unthreatening memory.
And recording myself is hard because mg mom use to record me crying and put a mirror in front of me and laugh... yeah... maybe that is something I'm still holding onto too haha
Four Techniques to Release Trapped Emotions/Trauma:
1) The Letting Go Technique @02:51
2) Progressive Relaxation @05:34
3) Holotropic Technique @07:15
4) Emotive Self Vocalization (ESV) @08:17
Enjoy everyone, Dan T.
Thank you for this i appreciate it :)
What if you've done all of these things for years and the well of emotion is too deep and no amount of release or crying makes it stop?
@@firerose7936 don't stop trying to heal. Stop seeing the trees and look to the beauty of the forest.
Never stop trying to heal ... change your technique, change your therapy, alter your therapist. the pain is the way. Marcus Aurelius
Thanks bro this seems really helpful..peace bruh
@@firerose7936 🙏🏽
I find myself using the 4th technique a lot. I'm not afraid to talk to myself. I do it all the time. I suffered terrible abuse in the school system and that gave me PTSD, panic disorder, severe anxiety, serious anger issues, and paranoia. I'm a broken down mess. I have so much pent up frustration and deeply-rooted anger to get out of me and I honestly believe my money problems are directly tied to the traumatic abuse I suffered in school.
Sending you healing vibes!
Try Havening pychosensory self therapy UA-cam.
I pray for your continual healing dearest❤
I wish you the best!
I did too, i was never good enough but really if we think about it, they're hatred towards us was because they see something in us that they don't have in themselves, they're jealous of our authenticity. Please know everything you feel is valid and okay to be angry. I hope you find what you need to heal.❤️
Proud of you!! Keep up the good 👍🏽 work love and light kiddo 😉
I like the analogy of thoughts being like a mob at your house trying to get in. There’s a similar analogy in Zen where it’s said if you become enlightened, thoughts are like thieves entering an empty house - there’s nothing to steal
The breathing part with the inhalation and exhalation was very difficult from the standpoint that I got very dizzy after a couple of minutes. I can't imagine being able to do this for 30, 60 or 90 minutes. Everything else worked great for me so overall a very appreciated video.
I absolutely agree about David Hawkins. Letting Go is the only book (after reading a huge amount of material, going to therapists, doing a million and one techniques) that actually worked. Changes actually occured when nothing else worked. I wish the book was prescribed to people with terrible depression and anxiety, or people who just feel really stuck. All his material is incredible, but that book is quite literally a life saver.
Besides that, really informative content. Subscribed 👍
Thank you so much.. so many webinars promise to tell you how to do this but I can never make it through several days of talking to find out if they ever tell you how. This was perfect, precise, quick.
Agreed, it was really a great video
Recently worked through some trauma. Had been struggling with depression for years and never knew why. Made exactly the same experience that was described here. Completely changed my life. Went from using pharmaceuticals and struggling with keeping up with daily activities, mostly sitting in my room to being an active and happy person within less than 6 months. Really well explained mate ❤️
About the „voice in your head“ thing. What really helped me to gain clarity was to „name“ these voices. So I believe that we consist of different „parts“ and learning to understand which of these voices is currently actively triggered was very helpful to me to be able to meet their needs and calm them down. And no this isn’t schizophrenic.
In 6 months? Dude. Fuck yeah. That made me smile.
Naming the parts of us is something I'm experimenting with now. Even better, I draw them which is something they do in art therapy I think.
Keep going, David. Respect.
Oliver Cowlishaw thx 😊
Hi Dave, I feel I'm on the same path as you and I'd like to know more about your story. Can we somehow get in touch?
@@timfawkes2701 Yeah sure : ) Do you have discord?
@@davidsimon3078 Yes, I do.
Is the email address in your profile still valid? Unfortunately UA-cam doesn't have PM any more.
Wow. This is the best video on trauma that I've seen. You go straight to the point with concrete techniques, and your voice and energy kept my attention the whole time. Thank you so much, honestly.
Not even sure how I stumbled upon your channel but over a year ago I had a bad experience with weed that caused some trauma. Depersonalization was one of the scariest experiences of my life but I had never felt more real and self-aware. It was like everything around me was artificial-looking and all my thoughts were existential and extremely bizarre thoughts or ideas. I truly believe the experience happened because I stuffed some trauma very very deep and never let it out because I was never taught at a young age to be open with my emotions. Weed made me face this and its really cool how I had to use the techniques you talked about in this video that I read from books or heard in videos to get through it. I don't know why I shared this all I just think its interesting how the human mind can adapt and deal with so many different problems in related ways. Thanks man
Yep. I've experienced it too (weed induced) and it was one of the strangest experiences of my life.
Glad you've managed to ground yourself though dude.
@@OliverCowlishawI kind of figured you had been through a similar experience the way you talked about visualizing the anxiety coming and letting it pass and all the other stuff sounded very similar to the way I have had to deal with my negative thoughts. It's weird thinking about how I felt beforehand, I feel almost more awake but at the same time being more awake can also be very disturbing if you aren't used to being this self aware.
I'm not completely grounded still but I'm making baby steps and the advice you gave in this video was definitely spot on to what I've heard and been trying!
I find its just easier to talk about it like a past event that way you can trick yourself into believing you are really past it all.
But keep uploading I like your content, funny thing is I found you by looking up getting rid of my cell phone for a flip phone and that's exactly what I did, I've realized that my cellphone was causing disconnect and not even letting me be completely in reality.
Anyways hope all is well man
I read that book. Good advice. I have used alcohol most of my adult life to smother emotions.
Im learning how to deal with natural emotions and its difficult. I will try the last one...asking myself out loud how im doing.
Channeling the energy from the emotional centre of the brain to the language based centre works really well.
I wish you much strength for what you’re about to do. It’s really worth it! ❤️
Thank you. Resentment is my natural response, I don’t want to ruminate anymore, just move forward. This was very well done
Oh my goodness, you are so sincere and heart centered and you give such amazing techniques. My pattern has been to turn to food rather than feel the feelings, so now I’m going to open the door to my house and have a little chat with them and feel them and then send them on their way. Thank you kindly!
You are so welcome!
" My pattern has been to turn to food rather than feel the feelings," that sound familiar. I think food gets used by so many people for supressing feelings. Most have no idea about why they do it.
What a generous offer to all of us! Thank you!
Thanks man! Helpful👍🏻 And good book to read “what to say when you talk to yourself”
Will check it out ✌🏻
I stand for this exactly, I believe so much that we can repress emotions without even noticing we are. It's so important to acknowledge and inform ourselves on that, and be able to process our emotions. I feel honesty (towards yourself and others) is the key. But it's hard sometimes ;)
Bro, this is super helpful. I've been struggling with CPTSD and have been using cannabis for 3 years, but then I started abusing it and using it to avoid my emotions instead of going through them. I've tried sitting and meditating on them, but they're so intense my mind won't let me. I'm going to try the muscle one this weekend and am super excited about it!
It's a challenge and your mind will try to convince you that these feelings mean death - but they don't. The bushfire always dissipates. Sure, it might take some deadwood with it but that might be just what you need.
You did a great job on this video, I love how the video is outside in nature on a bench and the dog that's walked by. I like how you started this video and got my full attention. thank you for the tips. keep up the good work
This is the kind of content that makes me go like "fuck yeah, that's what I'm talking about". This level of content quality is the reason why I'm so happy about yt being the new means of sharing valuable information. This kind of stuff has never been this available and knowing that there's people who are able to present it this well makes me even more grateful. Keep up the good work man.
Wow! I'm so glad UA-cam read my mind again and this popped up. This may explain why yoga nidra has really been helping me lately.
This is fabulous! It should be taught in school!!!
Emotional self-regulation is an *essential* life skill. Why I was taught algebra but not basic emotional intelligence is absolutely astonishing to me.
@@OliverCowlishaw Well, there are a few conspiracy theories out there about it, and not all might be totally wrong :-)
Thanks for this video mate. Struggling with past traumas lately and been meditating and struggling to let go.
Thanks for giving the techniques free. God bless 🙏
Thank you brother may Jesus be with us, God bless you❤
I will definitely try all the 4 techniques, the first one in a meditation. Thank you for sharing ♥️
Gtrat video and advice. The holotropic breathwork is surprisingly powerful, it can be quite a shock when starting.
i must say I've heard the information presented in the video before but you explain them BEAUTIFULLY. like this time it resonated with me more than ever. Thank you!!!
Bought the book. It is really a rare gem. Reading now.Thank you.
Anytime brother.
Send me the book please.
Really interesting video, thank you 🙏
As soon as I started a few holotropic breaths, I started crying and panicking, I guess it worked 😂
That was pure gold, especially the part of not processed/feeled emotions and the repeated situatiosn accuring to finally feel it.
I just want to say thank you so much for making this video. I can’t tell you how helpful and insightful it was to watch!! I’ve only tried EMDR and TRE before, and I shall certainly be adding these four tools to my toolkit 😊
Great advice.... id love to see you go through the breathework and the musle tension techniques...ive seen loads on UA-cam...but you area great teacher :)
Wow! That Holotropic breathwork is amazing! I first tried it, and after a few seconds I could stop from crying. Had a good cry, yay!
I did it later the next day but no crying. Later I cried though. But I have no idea why I was crying.
You 15 min to 90 min? Wow! I could only do it for a few minutes (2 1/2)
Great tips!! I'm going to try them all.
To be real here, you can't do Holotropic Breathwork for 15mins if you are a beginner, also its advised against. Doing for 10mins also helps a lot, try Pushing Beauty's tutorial, its easy and works well.
Definitely take it easy at the beginning. I should have mentioned in the video that what worked for me might not work for everyone. I went in 100% and did full sessions (although I didn't keep up the same breathing pattern for 90 minutes straight) but you might want to take it easy initially.
Thank you for sharing this!
I sit with the emotion and the thoughts come up. I focus on the emotion alone, feel it fully, lean into it and let it go, then 3 seconds later it comes back and the thoughts come back, I do it again, then 3 seconds later it comes back and the thoughts come back and I do this all night until I finally fall asleep 5 hours later than I wanted to. Then I wake up the next day and the same shitty cycle continues.
Yoga helps very much too!
Lovely thanks. Had to laugh at the dog Walker
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Hey thank you for this!! Im actually pleasantly surprised, for my experience has been that when a youtube video promotes advice, it usually a person just talking about themselves for 10 minutes 😂...But you offered solid, sustainable techniques that I somehow already know will help before trying them..Which I am going to do today...Thanks again!!
Subscribed because of this.
Thank you Oliver for shearing your knowledge 😊
All the best 🙏🌞🌿💫
Add ho'oponopono & Resonant Attention to it. Helps me. A lot
Loved the part about making tea for them to go :)
Grandma from NewZealand! I loved this video..youre a great communicator..I read some of Davud Hawkins books a few years ago..I'm off to the library tomorrow to get a copy of Letting Go..thank you!
going to try these doing therapy at the moment thanks man
Wonderful! Make them a cup of coffee to go! 😂I’m going to try all of these techniques and see which one works best for me, thank you so much!
He has Harry Potter vibes 🤍
I do have a scar on my forehead.
U speak so much truth....
Thankyou. I hope this helped.
thank you i really apprecciate your tips! 💚
My question is - for me im trying to find out how to allow happy feelings 1) people ask are you excited - yes but they dont see it or think im not having fun... 2) i get a promotion and boss asks are you happy? - yes thank you and again questioned about it like i have a poker face i show no emotion... 3) i get the best christmas gift from my bf and i can see on his face hes questioning if i actually really like it or pretending to because then ill use words to express it but i cant seem to allow myself to show emotion?... when im alone -i get happy feeling or good news - i do a 2 sec happy dance on my own then emotionless like i shut myself down as soon as i start to feel it... its part trauma from childhood & part of how i was raised (happy emotion & laughter not something that was allowed in a sense... and parents also did same - as soon as my mom laughs at something you can see her close up "swallow it down" & continue to have "professional" appearance - from her upbringing as its not ladylike to laugh. My dad suppressed his emotions as well ) what can i do to heal this - i want to feel free in my happy emotions to express & enjoy them?
Have a dialogue with your inner child who feels that it isn't safe to be playful, joyful and happy. Let your inner child know that it's safe. Encourage him/her. Be the parent to your inner child that you never had.
@@OliverCowlishaw thank you, will do this... actually started doing this last night 😊 ill keep going at it...
Try Joe Dispenza maditations 🙏🏻❤️☀️
U r amazing. Thanks
Refreshing, thank you lovely being
Thank you back 💚
Great video man.. I think the 3 Rd one is not so much for me as hey light headed and effects my balance etc.. Other 3 good ideas/techniques.. I listened to a bit of the letting go book, but it was too wordy etc for me.. So I liked your breakdown of it..
Thank your for the enlightenment on releasing trauma. You are a blessing to many people, such as myself that needs some guidance. I have been intuitively doing some of these techniques and in meditation I have asked for an understanding of what’s been happening. ❤️
It was my first time moving out, I had 4 flat mates and one was my really close friend, I never met someone so similar and we had fun. It was like having a sister to me. Then she turned out to be toxic and this whole argument happened over text. I cut her off a day before her birthday and she left the flat (for other reasons not related to the drama.) It is a lot of emotions to say, a really close friend being toxic to cut them off on their birthday is awful. I tried reaching out multiple times to apologies and she left me on read. Overthinking and guilt x10,0099
I had a similar thing happen. It's not really you, it's her issues so please strive to gradually let the guilt go. UA-cam HAVENING and add that to your list of emotional healing modalities. 💗
All of these strategies are wonderful. I am a clinical counsellor in Canada and use Hawkins work and breath work with clients but all together with the last approach ... brilliant! Thank you. I will pass this along to my clients.
Thank you so much for this video!!
Thank you!
Thank you Oliver 👍
this is profound. thank you
I tried the breathing technique just now for the first time and I had a really intense physical reaction. I only made it to 12 minutes. There was definitely some sort of release..I literally could barely stand up afterwards. I'm still sitting here processing what just happened.
Thank you for this!
Nice setting, not too bright not noisy, v good. 💓
Thanks just subscribed. I’m reading letting go . It’s a big read but I intend to let shit go as much as possible. Thanks 🙏🏽😊
I love the Mob analogy!!
Good advice...tyvm
Fantastic video!
E quando o trauma aconteceu quando eramos crianças e não nos lembramos doo que aconteceu. Sofremos de ansiedade, insegurança e muitos outros sintomas mas não sabemos o que aconteceu.
Please put in a disclaimer. Some breath work will retraumize individuals with PTSD.
Awesome video, thank you Oliver !
Amazing video. Thank you! I’m gonna read that book as well.
Enjoy. It's a game changer.
Thank you very much
Great content 👍
Thank you so much 💜🦋💜
Well explained thank you
You're welcome
Reminds me of Wim Hof
TECHNIQUES START AT 2 MINUTES 40 SECONDS LOL
You're right. I should have probably made it a meme...or maybe a 15 second TikTok clip
@@OliverCowlishaw I actually find the first 2 minutes and 40 seconds very valuable to me. Thank you
Expekto patronum those hidden shades
Thank u
Thanks for the advice🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Anytime brother.
@@OliverCowlishaw i did the breathing technique and it took away my trauma for a day or so. Do the effects/ healing of the breathing ever last longer the more i practice those techniques?
Hard to say. I'm far from a trauma expert but as far as I know, it depends on the individual.
@@OliverCowlishaw ok thanks for the advice bro.
Im gonna try it out every day from now on to see how it turns out.
Thanks for the video and thanks for the answers.🙏 have a nice day G’
Hell yeah man!
It's not for a bit. It's for whatever time they want to stay. It could be 20 years.
True acceptance right there.
Just me who doesn’t even know why you feel this way, or you can’t even find the source of why I am feeling like shit. I feel like nothing can really make me feel better properly. I don’t have anyone to talk to anymore, I’ve lost a lot of friends due to my “annoyance”. But like I can’t help that? Idk I’m doing it yk? And it hurts to think I annoy my friends that I care about and that they don’t care about me back. I’ve tried hinting to my mum that I don’t think I’m ok and she just does not care. She says she knows when someone needs help and that I don’t. Little does she know I cry myself to sleep every single night and that cutting doesn’t even help anymore. Eeeeee I don’t wanna tell her tho cuz she will be so mad at me. I want to talk to someone but they just won’t understand. It’s sad.
Hey Ella. I have recently struggled with mild depression and I get the feeling where you say that you just feel sad and that nothing can make you happy. My family also didn't understand fully what I was trying to say but they were supportive to the best of their abilities. Ultimately what worked for me was being kind to myself. I would think of myself as having 2 parts, one as having been through trauma, who needs love and care and acceptance and the other part of me was the friend who provided all that was needed to heal. I would sit down silently, close my eyes, relax my body and let the emotions come up, whatever they were. It used to be difficult because those emotions were very uncomfortable to go through, but my 'friend' part would talk to the other part love and kind words of acceptance like " its okay to feel these things. This is normal and you have been through a lot. You deserve this release and you are worthy of all the love the world has to offer."
This really helped me be friend with myself. You can also try journalling and Judy pouring down those emotions onto paper without any fear.
Another thing that helped me was breathwork. Check out the video on breathwork Matt D'Avella's sister.
Hope this will help you. I want you to know that it might feel permanent and that's there's no hope, but believe me, its as temporary as anything else and you will be your normal, merry self again.
Peace to you.
@@ojusbhanot676 tysm! Just reading this has made me feel better seeing that your willing to help :) thank you
@@Ella-fx2nh You're welcome :)
The dog in the background🥶
What about anger, shame and guilt?
Anger might need some more active expression but these techniques will still help. Shame & guilt may be released quite easily.
And when the trauma happened when we were kids and we didn't remember what happened, we didn't even know how to speak. Now I suffer from anxiety, insecurity and many other symptoms but I don't know what happened.
We often don't. Be careful to not wait until you have a clear and perfect story. This is a trap. Get clear on your values and your overall goals and get moving. Action can often be the best form of therapy.
@@OliverCowlishaw This is a trap!?
Allow a feeling to come up and just be there. Observe.
Ask-
What I am feeling right now?
Can I let this feeling be here?
Can I let this feeling go?
..............
Meditate. Give max. tension to forehead, eyes and so on. 15 sec.
Then relax it for 15 sec
.............
Talk to yourself.
How are you feeling bud?
I suppose I'm a big case bc aside from my IBS , DEPRESSION & ANXIETY I HAVE A HUGE UPPER KNOT IN MY UPPER STOMACH THAT NEVER LET 'S GO. MUST BE PSYVHOSAOMATIC, ALOT OF ABUSE INCLUDING SEXUAL ABUSE BY A THERAPIST INTRUSTED.
In an awesome universe, we'd never experience trauma ever.
What I m feeling right now
Can I let the feeling be there
Can I let go the feeling
Hello
Isn't the first technique from The Sedona Method?
The body is the unconscious mind!
My parents divorced in 1997 and I started to feel strong negative emotions around them a few months later, I'm nearly 40 now and I still don't know how to deal with it, can anyone offer any advice? I've not had a normal life because of it
Talk to therapist to help bring up the past to process it. And know you had nothing to do with there choice, I'm in the same situation at 33
not letting yourself feel the trauma in the moment may be the problem. so what if you were in a life threatening situation and your body prevented you from experiencing it, say in my case i felt nothing in a serious road accident even though i lost a lot of flesh. and every attempt to heal the resulting stored trauma backfired. what then ?
That situation is so specific that I wouldn't attempt to give a generic answer to that. These are just some basic things to try but the nuances and specifics of your situation should be the subject of ongoing therapeutic work. Sorry I couldn't be of any more help.
I did that for a couple of year in a relationship, it worked to release emotions due to a situation where I was asked to behave in a certain way in order to fill the needs of the other one but mines where asked to be abandoned, it works every time for me to release my emotion of injustice and not being considered, I'm keeping in being in this relationship because other of my needs are filled, but everytime I think about my needs not being considered that's not possible of speaking about it with him, these emotions are coming back and I have to make the work again. How to release it finally?
Okay, were you at anytime of your life a life therapist coach?
I'm a trained therapist :)
❤
Check out Sedona Method
I had a bad acid trip in December of 2019, and to this day I still don’t feel “normal”. I did freak out really badly and had a full blown on panic attack and I took some benzos to calm down and I ended up blacking up. Could this be trauma, that I didn’t let fully process in that moment?
It sounds like it. Through the panic, you amygdala took over and registered the event as a traumatic memory but in a really crude way.
Problem is, when panic mode hits, the hippocampus which usually categorises and stores memories and their correct context shuts down.
Now you're left with a trauma that's not been correctly stored as a harmless memory.
I would try EMDR. It would help your brain store the event as a harmless and unthreatening memory.
Is your accent from Bristol? I have a friend from Bristol and some of your inflections sound similar
No he has a northern accent x
I dont know what the voice in my head is because I do it out loud not in my head...
Its ruining my relationship.
And recording myself is hard because mg mom use to record me crying and put a mirror in front of me and laugh... yeah... maybe that is something I'm still holding onto too haha