7 Signs You're Emotionally Unavailable (Detached)
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- Do you find yourself closed off to others and can actively avoid them or any situation that will invoke an emotional response? Emotional detachment refers to one’s inability to connect with another emotionally or avoid doing so. With that, here are some of the most common signs.
Disclaimer: This video is for informative purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified mental health professional if you are struggling.
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Writer: Sid Thompson
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References:
Cherry, K. (2021, April 13). What Is Emotional Detachment? Verywell Mind. www.verywellmind.com/what-is-emotional-detachment-5121166
Fader, S. (2018, February 11). Emotional Detachment: All About The Disorder | BetterHelp. BetterHelp. www.betterhelp.com/advice/general/what-is-emotional-detachment-disorder/
Gunther, R. (2020, December 31). The Danger of Emotional Detachment. PsychologyToday. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202012/the-danger-emotional-detachment
Holland, K. (2019, September 3). Emotional Detachment: What It Is and How to Overcome It. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-detachment
Lloyd, S. (2018, January 4). 5 Signs That You Might Be Emotionally Detached. LiveAbout. www.liveabout.com/signs-that-you-might-be-emotionally-detached-4156597
Raypole, C. (2020, August 17). 4 FAQs About Emotional Attachment. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-attachment
Are you guilty of this?
yeah :(
Yes :,(
why am I like this?
Most of it, but the difference is I *can* identify my emotions: unbridled hatred and severe depression. ^w^
idk tbh
It’s harder when you’re emotionally detached but at the same an empath… it messes with your brain and feelings.
It really does. Very relatable... As an empath you have the tendency to be emotionally invested in other people, but at the same time, the painful experiences of your past hold you back from getting too invested and care too much about people, lest you get hurt or disappointed again.
Me
oh man,,,
@@OnlineLifeGuide True.. I’ve been living all my life feeling negative emotion more frequently than feeling positive ones, and living through other’s emotions took a toll on me that I’m now emotionally numb. Life doesn’t seem to get any better, although there are happy moments at times.. I either got used used to the pain or do not want to experience the feelings again. I kinda feel sorry for myself for not being able to process and react to life events as good as before. Both happiness and sadness are becoming more neutral.
@@OnlineLifeGuide thank you very much for your warm message. It meant a lot for me, I needed it.. Thank you for sharing your experience. I do wanna break through this unhealthy lifestyle but I’m not ready yet. I’ll totally try out the methods you mentioned, I’m sure it will help. You’re a wonderful person. I wish the best for you too in both worlds. I can’t thank you enough
1. numb all the time 0:39
2. avoid other's emotions 1:10
3. non-committal 1:36
4. isolation 2:03
5. it's hard to express yourself 2:28
6. you have another mental health condition 2:51
7. avoidance 3:18
I hope I could help!
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Thanks!
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I relate to all of the signs that were listed. I’ve been dealing with this for the past couple of years but at this point I’ve learned to fake reactions and emotions when needed. Emotional detachment has caused me to lose friends and I don’t feel anything towards others to form new relationships. I’ve talked to my mom about getting a therapists to help me with this but she doesn’t believe this is what is what I’m dealing with. I have ADHD and take meds but even when I’m not on them I still struggle with this. These videos really do help me understand the sign and are honestly posted when I need them most. I hope there is hope for my future. Remember if you are struggling please reach out to a loved one or a professional. There is always someone out there that wants to help.
I also relate to all of them and my family thinks it's not a big deal
@@TishFaux I feel like it’s common for people not to take emotional detachment that seriously which can be pretty hurtful in the end.
I wish you a happy new year and I'm here for you if you feel like you want to just say hi, I can say is that I try to make thing's work and sometimes im in a room with and really want to know them but sometimes I think they don't give a shit.
@@TishFaux I wish you a happy new year as well. Hopefully this next year is better for the both of us. It can often feel like others don’t care but some really do and some will even reach out. That’s at least what I try to think to stay positive.
I'm sorry to know that you guys have to go through this. I don't know you, buy I'm very empathetic and I wish I could do something for you. I'm sure things will get better sooner or later... Maybe you may try writing a good letter to your family, where you explain in detail what you feel and how important it is to you that they listen to you and believe what you say. Take your time, choose your words carefully... I'm sure they love you and are doing their best, but sometimes it's difficult to approach certain things.
May the new year bring you both lots of affection, support, positive emotions and hope! ❤ Hugs! You're not alone :-*
I used to be involved with a guy who showed all the signs of emotional detachment and I tried everything to try and show him he could trust me and I tried so hard to understand him. He constantly disappeared and it made me question whether there was actually something wrong with ME. It brought me to a point where I had had enough and I knew I had to just let it go. After that experience, I became more self-aware. But I noticed I was becoming emotionally detached to every guy after him. I’m working on it because I hate to hurt other people the way I’ve been hurt.
A lot of people don’t realize their actions can cause a domino effect.
Probably cause he got hurt my a girl like you who said she wouldn’t hurt him.
It’s happened, happened to me and now I don’t even want to fully be with anyone else BUT also lowkey give the benefit of the doubt, because sure it MIGHT not be the case again but you can’t risk that, that’s taking a chance at losing what you’ve worked to build or rebuild, and someone who’s been through it just can’t risk it.
I hope he's okay, and i hope you too
The thing is these things takes time. Its a process. Sometimes it can take even a year or two until you get emotionally stable. Just let that process have its way. Focuse on yourself and dont let a douche (yes, thats what he is after that behaviour) ruin it for you and your future. U do U and everything else will fall apart, somewhere, somehow :). Good luck! And also: dont be afraid to take a chance at something - you could be amazed at what awaits you 🙌
I've dealt with a women who I just learned that she was emotionally detached. I tried so hard to make her believed that the world is not that of a bad place and there are some guys who really does have a genuine heart but she never trusted me but always search for me yet was distant and inconsistent. All I could do was wait for her but along the way I was hurting and losing myself just to find her. I think I can understand your situation right now coz now my heart feels numb might be that I'm detaching too. Hope we both get well soon. Tc be strong 💪
@@taddykul801 ❤️
As an empath you have the tendency to be emotionally invested in other people, but at the same time, the painful experiences of your past hold you back from getting too invested and care too much about people, lest you get hurt or disappointed again...
I sometimes feel emotionally numb when I'm talking or hanging out with my friends, but since I hate awkward situations, I just express faces and words that I feel like it's right or based on my experience and knowledge. There's no real emotions that I express and I feel fake
*7 signs you are emotionally unavailable (detached)*
0:39 - You feel numb all the time
1:09 - You avoid other people’s emotions
1:36 - You are non-committal
2:03 - You isolate yourself
2:28 - You find it hard to express yourself to others
2:51 - You have another mental health condition
3:17 - You avoid situations
❤️🚀🌙
Thx
Someone already posted this, but thanks.
You forgot the one at 2:51 which is already having another mental health condition
@@lexfushi8504 thanks 😊 I indeed missed that one, now included 🚀🌙
Ah shit... 😬
Interesting Fact: Detachment doesn't mean not caring; it's taking care of yourself first and letting others take responsibility for their actions without trying to save or punish them.
Yes, but, as human beings we should be able to connect to others. As children, we learn to bond to our caregivers and learn a form of what is called: "attachment" which really probably means bonding. There are four forms of attachment/bonding and one is the healthy one which is "secure" bonding; the other ones are: insecure, avoidant and ambivalent.
There's a difference between a healthy, objective detachment while still caring about others and being all-round emotionally unavailable, uncaring with others and numb.
I think this video was talking about people who've numbed out and rationalize it as "detachment."
That is not what this video is discussing at all. "Self-care" is separate from an avoidant personality which can be considered a disorder
Thank you for this comment Rodney...
not when you're so detached from everything you don't care about others' OR yourself.
Sometimes feeling nothing is so much worse than feeling sadness, or feeling so overwhelmed that you can't bring yourself to care anymore about things you should care about - for anyone going through that I hope you know it will pass and you can get through it
A lot of us go through emotional detachment because of our past experiences. 💔 We subconsciously learn to close ourselves off and become indifferent because in the past, being vulnerable in front of people your cared for or investing yourself emotionally into someone caused you a great deal of pain.
It's like an emotional defence mechanism on a subconscious level.
While some of this defence mechanism helps balance us out so that we don't become too emotionally dependent or overly sensitive, if left unchecked, it can make us distant from the rich experiences of life.
The key is to try to be more aware and mindful of the subtle workings of your mind and emotions, and see what is serving you well while filtering out what is robbing you of life.
Hope you have a great week ahead! ✨🌼
Very well said.
I’m in tears reading your comment because this is exactly what I’ve been doing. Nothing can hurt me if I don’t let it get attached to me. I treat people pretty well but it’s like a switch I can detach and move on even if I truly don’t want to but I feel I have too. Family friends relationships are pretty non existent.
This is so much more helpful than anything any therapist has told me. Thank you.
I can relate to all of these signs. I have been in this state for several years and do not have the strength to change on my own. I ghosted my friends years ago and mostly have acquaintances. I do care about people but I can't bring myself to get close anymore.
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Wait did I just write this? I'm the same way but I like it and have no desire to change even though it's not who I use to be
I am this way also.
I totally agree, it's exhausting
I relate to this so much
I relate to them all. I do well without people and their opinions. When I'm by myself, I am most happiest.
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Sometimes I feel this. I really do.
Now this is relatable. Sometimes it just feels right to keep to yourself until you're so lonely that your mental state begins to decline rapidly. Then you finally go say hay to your Mom or grandma or something. That provides enough charge to keep you going for another few weeks of keeping mostly to yourself. I know many can relate but we learn too late the importance of developing social attributes and the essential emotions involved. These are sad times we live in.
Are you still like that? Is it actually a bad thing when u actually get things done? What’s ur take?
@@MindNow Getting things done is easy enough. Relationships are better developed early on. It's really difficult to go through life without meaningful guidance and relationships. You have to learn everything on your own. Superficial relationships are easy enough to develop but meaningful ones are easy to overlook when you're younger.
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@@sriku1000 It can certainly make us dance.
SAME OMG
I feel emotionally detached to every single one of the relationships I have around me. I think it stems from how I grew up; in my family we don't talk about our emotions at all, we just toss it aside. I feel like I didn't even grow up with attachments towards my parents either. I don't get that safe feeling that you're supposed to get when you're around your family. Growing up, I met a girl and we later dated for around 3 years. However, when it didn't work out, that's when I noticed I just closed my entire self from the world. Now it's really hard for me to navigate through life because I feel completely and utterly alone. There is nowhere for me to turn to, my family is one of my triggers and I have driven away all the friends and family that I have. I don't know what to do.
Same (':
You need Jesus
hey2 i understand you.. even my family after my mother left and married another, i live with my dad and sis and we literally never hv heart to heart talk or emotions at all. I was never like that but i grow up to be like that too. I hate being left out, i lose my frnds, it became worse when im in a relationship. I choose to run away, he was such a good man. And this time too my new partner complained abt this.. i feel so bad and i thought i tried my best this time.. i feel all over the place again
I hope we can recover from this.. If we really actually want to change, we can and we will
You have no idea how relatable this is
I grew up in a similar fashion. And I think once we experience a situation where we are feeling more emotions that ever before about something or someone, the aftermath of that negativity results in a stronger form of emotional detachment. Last year I experienced a lot of heavy emotions but this year i feel numb all the time. It’s like we’ve exhausted all of our energy.
I was nervous to watch this but turns out I am NOT emotionally detached. I have issues, but being emotionally detached isn't one of them lol. Now, I just have to figure out what my issues are. Wish me luck 🤞, and good luck to everyone out there💗
May you resolve anything that is limiting your life in anyway. May you have the best of the blessings of life. I wish you great luck 👐
Best of luck with a heart like yours I'm sure you have so much to look forward to
You are awesome! Keep going, I believe in you ✌️
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I can mostly relate to number one, I always look blankly at people when I talk to them.
Throughout my life I have tried to help others and to be kind, it becomes exhausting. My last relationship was six years ago. I now keep myself to myself. If anyone starts talking about their problems I get away as quickly as possible and avoid them. I have gotten rid of friends who dragged me down with negative personalities who moan all the time. I'm trying to slowly get back out into society by joining groups with similar interests and hobbies so we have something of interest to talk about rather than them and their issues. I'm so fed up of people always wanting something from me that I avoid people at all cost. I now put me first and yes I do get lonely sometimes but i'm the most content and stable I have ever been.
This
Can't say if i am emotionally detached or not but i am in "Nothing in particular interests me anymore"....
Same
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Too tired to care?
@@walanakomaisipusernameyes...
There is such a thing as healthy detachment. Sometimes it’s good to be able to detach from situations on an emotional level. If you’re constantly triggered emotionally by things that make it difficult to make decisions, have conversations. This is where detaching yourself from situations on a “ personal “ level can help.
Well, I've learned throughout my life that I'm "too emotional" and I've hated being labeled as such by my parents. Through events that have happened to me the last year, I definitely see emotions as a hindrance in getting to my goal. If being numb to external stimuli and people in general gets me to my final goal and does pose as an unnecessary distraction, then so be it. It's benefitted me thus far and kept me focused on my academics.
Emotions leak out from time to time but I make damn sure no one sees my reaction in these situations. Being emotional and having them interfere in my day to day is unnecessary and embarrassing to me. I believe in objectivity and pragmatism, not "letting my heart lead me", that's impractical.
Can you value practical logic while treating a living human being as a robot? Seems counter intuitive
This is exactly me. I was always the “cry baby” growing up, and in my early teens my mom would tell me to grow up and start acting like a man. About a year ago I started going through some serious issues and wanted to be more productive by exercising, studying, etc- and it was a struggle because I was in a bad mood and didn’t feel like it. I then started telling myself that my emotions don’t matter and that I can still do what I need to do regardless of what I feel and now I feel numb inside. I no longer feel remorse for my wrongdoings, I don’t feel embarrassed even when I do something stupid, I don’t care about physical pain, and I’m just at the point where I don’t care to socialize or make friends anymore. All that matters to me is being this “perfect” person with a good routine and strong will.
Sounds like a life full of regret bro. Life is Beautiful brother. Just Let go of it all. The Beliefs Etc… , Everything that you wwas taught was a lie for the most part. Come back to yourself and start to Love yourself by “BEing You, Whoever that is, Uou are Validated, You are seen, You are Heard, You are Felt. Love you 🙏😁💪🏾😹💯😝🤧😎🩵
i went through a pretty rough season where i was emotionally detached. during that time i lost a sibling (miscarriage), the man who was basically my third grandfather, and my great grandfather. all within three months, the first two within the same week. because i couldn’t feel strong emotions, i wasn’t able to properly grieve. in the past couple of months, i’ve been going through all of that grief that should have happened two years ago, mixed with some seasonal depression, and stress / burnout from a ton of school work.
to anyone who is trying to become emotionally numb and detached, please don’t do it. it doesn’t make the pain go away, it comes back to bite you later. also it prevents you from feeling the good emotions too, and (for me anyway) can affect your good memories, and cause you to forget them. i know it’s not fun to feel the negative, but you need to push through it. you are worth this fight.
(CURE EMOITIONAL NUMBNESS)
Hi friends , hope you are well! . I am Raman and 1 among you who had undergone emotional numbness for about 1 and half year . I am completly fine now. it took me around 8 months frankly speaking to feel again. i have worked harder and harder to during these 7 to 8 months actually to feel my emotions . I had done tons of research to finally come to conclusion that we can again be emotionaly sensitive with some activity , diet , supplements.
1) We have to heal our limbic system of brain , specially cingulare gyrus ( responsible for empathy and compassion) if it is under active it causes various mental and personality disorders like
a) Social Anhedonia b) schizoid personality disorder , c) autism , d) borderline personality e) avoidance personality and so on
2) work on increasing neurotransmitter (love chemical) OXYTOCIN
3) Work on increasing neurotransmitter ( Dopamine , Serotonin and Norepinepharine) resonbile for our craving for socialization and hating isolation
& Maintaining Gut health
4) 4 to 5 CBT therapy ( only for people with PTSD ) works on subconcious mind
5) Exercise (any) , Yoga (limbic system ), meditation (metta and normal ),
6) Diet Which i will explain
7)supplements which i will explain
8) Safely tapper off antidepressants specially SSRI SERTALINE ( this increased my Emotional blunting and ED) i will guide you on this.
If u want my guidance contact me at ramankarora1990@gmail.com
Thats it . it seems difficult but its very easy!
You have to pay only One time throughout the Journey !!
llConsultancy charge 5 USD only!!
I have put alot of time and money to gather this information and read lots of books on science of neurology , psychology, homeopathy, Ayurveda, accupressure science for various mental disorders and mirror neurons .
What inspired me? i also suffered from Emotional numbness , prefered isolation, so i felt out of love with my girl friend without any reason and didnot enjoy her company anymore despite she was same loving , caring , loyal, was unable to love back and like my family either. So i can feel pain of other people as well. Luckily i am just like a normal guy and and no more emotionaly numb, i can have fun, make people laugh wherever i am emotional i am able to cry now i am able to bond people at emotional level.
Different people different reasons
1) Post trauma stress disorder in childhood ( resulting in brain's defence mechanasim that shut down processing of emotions to protect you from further emotional pain as you grow in adulthood very slowly until u reach a point where u fully realize it. ( It could be a product 1 or many painful events of ur life for example , sexualy abused in childhood, parents consitent fights , parents have extra marital affair, parents have not been caring to you , death of parents or closed one , consistent rejection from crush or lover , GF/BF cheating on you and many more .
2) Brain injury ( Hampers limbic system )
resulting in (low IQ , low concentration, low memory >> brain fog >> Bipolar disorder >> depression >> emotional numbness
3) Antidepressants side effect causes emotional blunting & numbness
I relate to nearly all of these points, for I’m in the autism spectrum and live with my parents who sometimes yell at me in my childhood. I was compelled to be more social, which furthers my isolation and avoidance of others
I also coped with a kind of childhood trauma. It really does take some time before ur healed from it. It affects u in many ways. How did u cope with it? How did u get over it?
@@MindNow I may not have fully recovered for I still live with my parents. I will feel much better if I manage to get my own apartment
@@dylanhart4778 Good on you. I've read up on a ton of trauma and psych stuff, including Polyvagal Theory, which theorizes that when our bodies don't feel "safe", we cannot open up emotionally. And safety also means social safety, AKA feeling safe from criticism and judgement. I realized this when I left a toxic environment, how I would always have to monitor myself and what I said or didn't say. Your body can't relax in those conditions, and it happens subconsciously through neuroception, so you also can't "will" yourself into feeling safe. I hope you get out soon and can feel secure in your own space! Your body will know!
@@Hoclem For me that will be in the next four years at best. I’m taking online courses and expecting to finish by then. I may get lucky with earning enough for a year in an apartment. I totally understand that theory which best describes my experience
Thank you for sharing your story. Acknowledging the roots of your behavior is the first step to changing into the best version of you :)
i definitely relate to most of this 😔 it's really hard to even figure out if i'm content with it or not. i've pushed a lot of people (irl and online) away in the last year and started keeping to myself and i can't decide if i like, even feel bad about it. and if i decide "yeah i do feel bad," do i ACTUALLY? or do i just feel obligated to be social? i don't _hate_ talking to my friends at all, but i never feel like i miss talking to them when they're not there anymore. i can go days and weeks without messaging someone back bc smthn as simple as that makes me kinda overwhelmed. and making NEW friends feels impossible too 😭 it's terrifying and when i _do_ try to put myself out there, i either think they're uninteresting or i get scared that we'll end up not getting along anyway
(CURE EMOITIONAL NUMBNESS)
Hi friends , hope you are well! . I am Raman and 1 among you who had undergone emotional numbness for about 1 and half year . I am completly fine now. it took me around 8 months frankly speaking to feel again. i have worked harder and harder to during these 7 to 8 months actually to feel my emotions . I had done tons of research to finally come to conclusion that we can again be emotionaly sensitive with some activity , diet , supplements.
1) We have to heal our limbic system of brain , specially cingulare gyrus ( responsible for empathy and compassion) if it is under active it causes various mental and personality disorders like
a) Social Anhedonia b) schizoid personality disorder , c) autism , d) borderline personality e) avoidance personality and so on
2) work on increasing neurotransmitter (love chemical) OXYTOCIN
3) Work on increasing neurotransmitter ( Dopamine , Serotonin and Norepinepharine) resonbile for our craving for socialization and hating isolation
& Maintaining Gut health
4) 4 to 5 CBT therapy ( only for people with PTSD ) works on subconcious mind
5) Exercise (any) , Yoga (limbic system ), meditation (metta and normal ),
6) Diet Which i will explain
7)supplements which i will explain
8) Safely tapper off antidepressants specially SSRI SERTALINE ( this increased my Emotional blunting and ED) i will guide you on this.
If u want my guidance contact me at ramankarora1990@gmail.com
Thats it . it seems difficult but its very easy!
You have to pay only One time throughout the Journey !!
llConsultancy charge 5 USD only!!
I have put alot of time and money to gather this information and read lots of books on science of neurology , psychology, homeopathy, Ayurveda, accupressure science for various mental disorders and mirror neurons .
What inspired me? i also suffered from Emotional numbness , prefered isolation, so i felt out of love with my girl friend without any reason and didnot enjoy her company anymore despite she was same loving , caring , loyal, was unable to love back and like my family either. So i can feel pain of other people as well. Luckily i am just like a normal guy and and no more emotionaly numb, i can have fun, make people laugh wherever i am emotional i am able to cry now i am able to bond people at emotional level.
Different people different reasons
1) Post trauma stress disorder in childhood ( resulting in brain's defence mechanasim that shut down processing of emotions to protect you from further emotional pain as you grow in adulthood very slowly until u reach a point where u fully realize it. ( It could be a product 1 or many painful events of ur life for example , sexualy abused in childhood, parents consitent fights , parents have extra marital affair, parents have not been caring to you , death of parents or closed one , consistent rejection from crush or lover , GF/BF cheating on you and many more . #CBT therapy is effective in this case#
2) Brain injury ( Hampers limbic system )
resulting in (low IQ , low concentration, low memory >> brain fog >> Bipolar disorder >> depression >> emotional numbness # Diet , Supplemets, exercise , mindfulness, accupressure is effective in this case)
3) Antidepressants side effect causes emotional blunting & numbness
( Diet , supplements , exercise , mindfulness, accupressure , is effective in this case)
I'm 28 and have been going through this since I was 3. I'm super self-aware and can't bring myself to do the right thing. The shit that parents do to you as a child will affect you. I've been doing a lot of meaningful self-improvement. It is possible to get out of it.
This channel really knows everything I'm feeling, and going through..
Aww. Hope you have a great holiday. Where did you find your dp btw?
Yeas.......
@@Psych2go what's dp?
@@carrieyt5137 depression i think
@@Psych2go Honestly I just believe everyone hates me..
And I have Psychosis, and really bad depression. I'm 26, it started when I was 14
hey you!
this is just to tell you that you are beautiful, wonderful and lovable!
you deserve every bit of happiness that comes your way and more. your kindness speaks volumes of your pure heart. take good care of yourself for people like you are precious ✨
I don't believe any of what you said! I don't trust anyone anymore! Yes your trying to be positive yet most of us or all have been deleted in this world!
Back at ya mate! I hope you feel okay soon! All my love to you❤
I'm not because if I was someone would of said that to me more often
I already knew I was emotionally detached and have been for a very long time... these signs just confirm it more, since all of them are relatable.
I'm so used to not being able to express my emotions that my face has a fixed expression of seriousness all the time even when I try to fake a smile, so anyone who talks or looks at me thinks I'm angry or something... when I'm usually not feeling anything in particular.
Hmm…r u ok with that? Or how do u cope with all of it? 🙏❤️
@@MindNow At this point I feel it as if it was something normal... I've been like this for more than 15 years after all.
I can relate to all of them, especially to isolation. I'm isolating myself hard, and I don't know how to break the cycle.
In ur isolation phase, do u actually do sth though? Or r u stuck? 🙏❤️
i used to have overly active emotions but now i just don't let things bother me as much
I always isolate myself in my room because I always like being inside instead of going outside.
3:18 Avoidance approaches can create more anxiety. Avoidance behaviors don't solve the problem and are less effective than more proactive strategies that could potentially minimize stress in the future🥰🥰🥰
It is crazy how I relate to all of theses points, I hope you will release a video on how to improve yourself from being Emotionally Detached.
Emotions activate autonomic nervous system, which controls basic bodily functions like digestion, blood flow, breathing, and sexual response.👍
It's sad I kinda resonate with some on these, but I don't feel sad if that makes sense.
I'm on the autism spectrum and I have ADHD...I relate to a lot of this and after years of bullying, rejection and being devalued etc I'm much happier on my own...
Finally, I've been trying to figure out what it was but I've finally found it.
Same !
Its the point of the mask
Same bruhhh
I love you, wat are yu goin to do about it? Jajaja just kiding
@@No-wt5jq that “just kidding” at the end doesn’t make anything better
I’ve just very recently understood that I was emotionally detaching from everybody but I really do enjoy that . I don’t feel like I want to change, I don’t know it sounds very messed up but I’ve never felt safer .
Losing my emotions and never feeling anything is a huge fear of mine and as much as I hate to admit, I have noticed myself isolating as such as a stress response because of complex PTSD and OCD. I'm really trying cause I hate feeling alone and empty but I'm so used to shutting down to executive function to survive that it's hard to feel my feelings when I was never allowed to.
This can be seen as either a gift or a curse. The way i perceive it. This is a gift that lets you stop at nothing if you can harness its raw potential.
I relate to this due to childhood trauma. It’s such a sucky feeling, and can often times make me feel stuck. It’s hard to reverse this😭
I’ve also experienced childhood trauma and yes…ur definitely right that it takes time to deal with all of this. May I ask
What u actually do? How do u go about all of this? 🙏❤️
@@MindNow I have yet to actually address this head on. I tend to shut down and block ppl out which ultimately make me feel worse. one of my goals is to get into therapy and speak with someone who isn't biased or judgmental.
"making what should be a priority,a priority"
felt this:')
since I have started work i have been experiencing an abstruse amount of stress which has put me up to feeling the need to numb myself. furthermore, the urge to isolate myself, actively detaching myself from other’s emotionally and physically has been growing increasingly higher. i’m just afraid and at a point where i feel apathetic towards everything. you could be my best friend and retire from our friendship and I wouldn’t feel anything at all.
Thank you for tackling this Ma'am! I have this kind of self that I can't just change, since I know already how important investing for your network, and it will be difficulty for me to socialize since I tend to detach or I hate having a conversations to those who I am not comfortable with.
This video reminds me of how I am doing, but if I may to request, kindly make a video on how to cope up with this Ma'am. 🙏
Thank you Ma'am for guidance, and quick yet on point discussions about mental health! 🙂
I love this channel so much! 😊
I joined the psych2go family when you guys were at 3.2k. Its such a joy to watch you guys growing into a bigger family everyday.
Proud of you guys❤
I was just having a day like this, thank you so much ❤️
Sometimes being emotionally detached is good. As most of our suffering is from other people.
Wow 😂 accurate yet somehow it also removes accountability from other people by revoking their ability to inflict suffering because we are inflicting it onto ourselves in a state of emotional detachment but we do live in times of being responsible for what we personally allow right? Emotions are cool until you use them irrationally though correct?
Them: control your emotions.
Me: suppress suppress suppress
Now we both mad
This really hits me hard....
I really am Numb .. i don't know what to feel... I always shows my fake emotions to others just not to hurt them or make them uncomfortable...
I do deal with multiple mental illness such as Bipolar disorder...ADHD and depression... And I'm also an introvert... And an INFJ
.•_•
I can't understand myself like what other people around me does
It's weird.. for me, I suffered severe depression in 2017-2018, but still felt like I could connect emotionally with family. Now, my depression isn't nearly as bad, yet I feel more emotionally detached to everyone in my life than ever..
Your most likely under alot of stress, I know I'm a little bit late, but im very emotionally detached, because I'm in a near constant state of stress, so it might be stress that makes u feel that way
I'm an HSP yet I'm incredibly emotionally detached from everything. Told so by a psychiatrist and psychologist
well i do have a lack of empathy and im not intune with my emotions and i do isolate i only isolate because i don’t like to socialise its my introvert side i like being alone in every where i go and i like doing thinks by myself
Ahhhhh, someone just like me 😊😊, I was beginning to think I was the only one. 🤣🤣🤣
If I can see people through my window, that is enough social interaction for me .
u might have schizoid personality disorder as well as most people dont care to find treatment since they believe they are introvert and completely okay with this.
Thanks for posting!
So glad that this video came up on my home page and I felt compelled to watch it. I can relate to each of these signs in one way or another. Recently I actually found myself starting to like this girl but I’ve been so conflicted on whether or not I should even put in the effort of getting to know her. I do feel like I want to but I feel like I’m holding myself back because of a few heartbreaks I earlier this year. It’s just so confusing and I have people that I trust that I know I can talk to about this but I don’t want to bother them with my problems. And I want to start therapy but I’m scared I won’t have enough money to start it and keep up with other necessities. But I just needed to put this somewhere.
All of these happened to me a few weeks ago; I had basically detached from all reality.
yeah i hit all that
now i feel really bad now
after fight with my friend i feel like i should stop try to make friends i might hurt them again
and it still really hurt to see my friend be on their way and fine without me i know i'm selfish but i want to be there with them too but they don't want me anymore
I‘m just unavailable regarding love.. that‘s it! And I‘m not into parties, occasionally yes but it depends If I want to go to on that events/parties..
I already know I am not emotionally available but I came here for validation lol
LMAO 🤣🤣🤣
I have this thing where I’m happy being alone but I can also blend in with the extroverted group.
The sad thing is, I once have a person confessed to me that they like me but I feel empty (had a past toxic relationship) despite wanting to be in a relationship.
Idk what that is but I hate feeling this way.
I have been actively, consciously doing this for about 3 years now. On a different note, I love the colours in this video. Very beautiful.
This video helped me realize a lot of things. All of the signs that were discussed are things I am experiencing without knowing what they are called. I am really sure what causes me to be emotionally detached is that growing up, I pretty don't much talk about how I feel because i am used to being compared or even I'll try explaining my side, in the end I will be the one to blame, that i would get shouted out, or even worse getting beat up. That's why I am used to keeping it all to myself. Well then, to everyone who's not feeling okay today, last week, or last month, I hope you all won't give up on life; there will always be a way to change and get better. I hope i will get better also.
My brother has autism, although being 24 he is emotionally 7. I genuinely can not recall a moment that I enjoyed his presence, in his eyes i’m always the attacker, I’m always the villain, I’m always doing something incorrect. When we get into an argument it’s always how he suffers in silence and how he has it bad when that wouldn’t be his case every time if it were the truth, I tell him I love him sometimes I wonder if I am truly lying to him or myself, he is continuously verbally and physically abusive. He talks about how I don’t know what the worlds like because I’m to young when in reality he is the one who is being unrealistic and childish and chooses not to think before saying his words.
I have two younger siblings with autism and I relate to you so much. My ypunger sister is closer to my age (only 16 months of difference) she is 20 and acts ypunger than she really is. After puberty its like she went thorugh a secobd puberty and got really bad. She loves me and she knows something is going on with her that makes it difficult to talk tp other people, and even though she is better than before in some things, she still struggles with her anger outbursts, harming everyone around her.
My brother is 16 and lives in a cloud thinking he is perfect and we are the bad guys for asking him to talk to us instead of using his phone durong dinner.
And thats why im doing everything i can to move and live on my own
I myself have autism, and, I'm 17 and I've endured some things that I have taken so seriously that I have eventually became an emotionally distant and emotionally moderate person.
Can Music save Your Mortal Soul ua-cam.com/video/-uexjy4sWu4/v-deo.html..
(CURE EMOITIONAL NUMBNESS)
Hi friends , hope you are well! . I am Raman and 1 among you who had undergone emotional numbness for about 1 and half year . I am completly fine now. it took me around 8 months frankly speaking to feel again. i have worked harder and harder to during these 7 to 8 months actually to feel my emotions . I had done tons of research to finally come to conclusion that we can again be emotionaly sensitive with some activity , diet , supplements.
1) We have to heal our limbic system of brain , specially cingulare gyrus ( responsible for empathy and compassion) if it is under active it causes various mental and personality disorders like
a) Social Anhedonia b) schizoid personality disorder , c) autism , d) borderline personality e) avoidance personality and so on
2) work on increasing neurotransmitter (love chemical) OXYTOCIN
3) Work on increasing neurotransmitter ( Dopamine , Serotonin and Norepinepharine) resonbile for our craving for socialization and hating isolation
& Maintaining Gut health
4) 4 to 5 CBT therapy ( only for people with PTSD ) works on subconcious mind
5) Exercise (any) , Yoga (limbic system ), meditation (metta and normal ),
6) Diet Which i will explain
7)supplements which i will explain
8) Safely tapper off antidepressants specially SSRI SERTALINE ( this increased my Emotional blunting and ED) i will guide you on this.
If u want my guidance contact me at ramankarora1990@gmail.com
Thats it . it seems difficult but its very easy!
You have to pay only One time throughout the Journey !!
llConsultancy charge 5 USD only!!
I have put alot of time and money to gather this information and read lots of books on science of neurology , psychology, homeopathy, Ayurveda, accupressure science for various mental disorders and mirror neurons .
What inspired me? i also suffered from Emotional numbness , prefered isolation, so i felt out of love with my girl friend without any reason and didnot enjoy her company anymore despite she was same loving , caring , loyal, was unable to love back and like my family either. So i can feel pain of other people as well. Luckily i am just like a normal guy and and no more emotionaly numb, i can have fun, make people laugh wherever i am emotional i am able to cry now i am able to bond people at emotional level.
Different people different reasons
1) Post trauma stress disorder in childhood ( resulting in brain's defence mechanasim that shut down processing of emotions to protect you from further emotional pain as you grow in adulthood very slowly until u reach a point where u fully realize it. ( It could be a product 1 or many painful events of ur life for example , sexualy abused in childhood, parents consitent fights , parents have extra marital affair, parents have not been caring to you , death of parents or closed one , consistent rejection from crush or lover , GF/BF cheating on you and many more .
2) Brain injury ( Hampers limbic system )
resulting in (low IQ , low concentration, low memory >> brain fog >> Bipolar disorder >> depression >> emotional numbness
3) Antidepressants side effect causes emotional blunting & numbness
i relate to most of these especially number one and three. i have problems expressing how i feel. i tend to refrain myself from having feelings, so that id not get hurt. i have problem setting my priorities. i realize ive changed a lot bcuz of the trauma i had. i once had an anxiety bcuz of it, and it was really bad. my heart beats faster than when im running, my hands are shaking and i cried nonstop. but im glad it happened only once, and i never really experience anxiety other than that time. its really sickening how someone can make me like this. i often miss my old self, but theres nothing i can do. ill always try my best though!
I’m sorry about what u hv gone through. Traumas does affect one. I hv also been affected by it and it’s not fun. When u say that u try ur best everyday. What do u do? 🙏❤️
The only things i feel are extreme anger and sadness!
I've been doing this for as long as I can remember.
I'm pretty sure my bipolar meds are giving me this. I wasn't super emotive to begin with, but this is a new level. It really hurts.
I don't know...emotional detachment seems like a goal to achieve and not a problem to overcome.
Thanks for sharing this video. Merry Christmas
Thanks for making this video!
I can relate to a few of these. But I'm unsure if I would say I'm emotionally detached from others. I am definitely an empath when it comes to other people. It's generally my own emotions I don't understand. And crying. I've never been able to access my feelings toward something, let alone tell people about it. I know that I should be sad in certain situations but I don't. Like, my grandpa died recently, and I didn't cry, it almost felt like I didn't care at all but I loved my grandfather. And when people ask me what I think or how I feel I don't know how to respond because it feels like I can't mentally connect my feelings and my thoughts to myself, so I shrug and just say "meh." Just like that. No emotional stress, nothing. I enjoy certain things but I can't explain how they make me feel or what I actually think about the thing or person other than the surface "I like it/them" or "I hate it/them". I do have mild depression, it's not severe enough for them to really diagnose anything, I'm pretty sure I'm on the spectrum enough to be diagnosed though I've never been tested, and as described, I suck at my own emotions and thoughts. Not to mention if rather sit alone in my room than converse with people.
It has been very hard to me to connect romantically (not sexually) with other people after years of experiencing immense emotional trauma. It’s not as if I’m not a loving , caring and highly emotional person but it has truly messed me up.
I struggled with this for a year or two. Recently I found a girl who has helped me become a better person in many aspects. I still find it hard to relate my emotions or to feel the emotions I should but I have gotten much better so that is something to be proud of.
In order to prevent these things from taking place it's important to be careful what you get involved with. Instead of dwelling on the past it's best to just proceed forward.
I’ve been dealing with this my whole life, I remember my first incident around year 1 (age 5-6) where a girl was crying and everyone was surrounding her, seeming genuinely concerned. But I didn’t understand why other people were concerned. And now I feel guilty everytime someone feels a strong emotion
Because I don’t have an emotional
Response, and when I try and support them with words, my tone dulls down as if I’m
Sarcastic and making a mockery of them but I can’t help it. Now I do avoid any form of
Social interaction that involves a strong emotion, happy, sad etc. Because I’m afraid of feeling disrespectful. It’d get to an extent that I’d be shaking and refusing eye contact if I’m forced into an in person situation as such where I’d HAVE to show some
Sort of emotional response. Especially when it’s with people I’ve just met or hardly know me, because most of my really close friends know.
Oh i remember that i experienced this too. My schoolmates and i went to this friend's house for her father's funeral. I was the only one not moving nearer to console the crying girl and people eyed me weird. Then i felt weird and fake my concern to her. At that moment i realized that there's something wrong with me.
(CURE EMOITIONAL NUMBNESS)
Hi friends , hope you are well! . I am Raman and 1 among you who had undergone emotional numbness for about 1 and half year . I am completly fine now. it took me around 8 months frankly speaking to feel again. i have worked harder and harder to during these 7 to 8 months actually to feel my emotions . I had done tons of research to finally come to conclusion that we can again be emotionaly sensitive with some activity , diet , supplements.
1) We have to heal our limbic system of brain , specially cingulare gyrus ( responsible for empathy and compassion) if it is under active it causes various mental and personality disorders like
a) Social Anhedonia b) schizoid personality disorder , c) autism , d) borderline personality e) avoidance personality and so on
2) work on increasing neurotransmitter (love chemical) OXYTOCIN
3) Work on increasing neurotransmitter ( Dopamine , Serotonin and Norepinepharine) resonbile for our craving for socialization and hating isolation
& Maintaining Gut health
4) 4 to 5 CBT therapy ( only for people with PTSD ) works on subconcious mind
5) Exercise (any) , Yoga (limbic system ), meditation (metta and normal ),
6) Diet Which i will explain
7)supplements which i will explain
8) Safely tapper off antidepressants specially SSRI SERTALINE ( this increased my Emotional blunting and ED) i will guide you on this.
If u want my guidance contact me at ramankarora1990@gmail.com
Thats it . it seems difficult but its very easy!
You have to pay only One time throughout the Journey !!
llConsultancy charge 5 USD only!!
I have put alot of time and money to gather this information and read lots of books on science of neurology , psychology, homeopathy, Ayurveda, accupressure science for various mental disorders and mirror neurons .
What inspired me? i also suffered from Emotional numbness , prefered isolation, so i felt out of love with my girl friend without any reason and didnot enjoy her company anymore despite she was same loving , caring , loyal, was unable to love back and like my family either. So i can feel pain of other people as well. Luckily i am just like a normal guy and and no more emotionaly numb, i can have fun, make people laugh wherever i am emotional i am able to cry now i am able to bond people at emotional level.
Different people different reasons
1) Post trauma stress disorder in childhood ( resulting in brain's defence mechanasim that shut down processing of emotions to protect you from further emotional pain as you grow in adulthood very slowly until u reach a point where u fully realize it. ( It could be a product 1 or many painful events of ur life for example , sexualy abused in childhood, parents consitent fights , parents have extra marital affair, parents have not been caring to you , death of parents or closed one , consistent rejection from crush or lover , GF/BF cheating on you and many more . #CBT therapy is effective in this case#
2) Brain injury ( Hampers limbic system )
resulting in (low IQ , low concentration, low memory >> brain fog >> Bipolar disorder >> depression >> emotional numbness # Diet , Supplemets, exercise , mindfulness, accupressure is effective in this case)
3) Antidepressants side effect causes emotional blunting & numbness
( Diet , supplements , exercise , mindfulness, accupressure , is effective in this case)
yes, actually i related to most of them
i love yur videos, they are really helpful bc sometimes i cant exoress or organize those ideas and they become foggy and to have your videos to express those things helps defog a lot of that brainfog becomes a real help
thx for making all this videos!
I wish all the loners well and hope you find peace within yourselves and comfort in your own skin as you grow to the heights and depths of social connectedness that you desire for yourselves personally. That’s my prayer for myself, to be ok with me as I grow into who I was always meant to be.
For me, it is a fine line between emotional preservation and emotional detachment. Perhaps some level of detachment may be okay for some people, but too much may lead to missing out on life. Just my personal take on it.
I went through a longterm episode while losing everyone and I haven’t been the same since. While trying to make new friends, I realized I couldn’t care about them. I went from being too emotionally involved in the wrong people, to losing my empathy altogether. I’m still alone as I can’t connect anymore. It’s so weird how no matter how much I want to be involved with another person, no one means anything to me.
It’s made me cling onto my family even though we were never close before. So, there’s some good in it.
I was always “too much” and too emotional. I drew out the complicated and painful parts of people by being complicated and in pain myself. This overwhelmed the people close to me until they left. I guess my brain’s defense has been to dumb down and run away.
what the hell this channel always give me the right video at the right time
I am a part of 6 out of 7 signs you showed. My days reflected in each sign. I relate to almost all of them. I feel exposed😶
I think mine is even worse.
I never get excited or nervous during big events like graduation and everything just feels overexaggerated to me. I show almost no emotion and when I do, it always feels disingenuous. I shut myself out completely from others to the point where I am easily forgettable if any prolonged length of time passes. Companionship is pointless because it only leads to heartbreak and betrayal, and I've realized there is no good in human nature and any arguments to the contrary are a result of benevolence forced upon humans by their god or gods because they fear some terrible afterlife.
On balance this is massively beneficial. Especially in these "trying times".
All of them. Which led me to end my relationship with my boyfriend yesterday and today I don’t understand why. It felt sudden but I know in my heart that I was never attached because I knew it would end and that I would end it, I always do. I only cry when I’ve heard him cry, otherwise I’m just cold and detached. My cat is the only living thing that can make my heart go truly soft.
I can most certainly relate to 3 - 7. I find it difficult to attach or mingle with others who are not similar-minded to me, especially other family members & relatives. Reasons are a combination of many things. I even left a social media post, wondering if life is still worth living, even in ongoing timeline we all live in.
Do u actually still hv that feeling of “not worth living”? Sometimes I also hv that feeling and then I realize that most of it has to do with my diet or sleep. How do u actually go about it? 🙏❤️
@@MindNow omg, same bcs of sleep
@chad Simplicio omg same
Thank you for this video. I can just say 'emotionally detached' now than having to explain myself.
Thank you for helping me put a name to what it is I feel.
I’ve been like this since I was a kid, finally figuring out the problem is exactly that, not in touch with my own feelings
As a psychologist in formation, this is my biggest struggle, its not that i hate other people its just that i struggle a bit with my own emotions and connecting with other (stablish a relation or friendship). Ironically i have helped many classmates and friends with desorders or problems when they were in their worst moments, its weird i'm able to help others but not to be friends with a lot of people that talks to me
I'm not a psychologist but I think I know what u feel, it's the same for me more or less, but I don't think it's ironic or strange at all, even you study this it doesn't not mean that you need help sometimes, IMHO u should feel free to talk with a specialist about it, about friends maybe u are a selective person after all. U shouldn't care about many, try to focus on real attachment with friends, don't care about number focus on quality.
Take a subject like computer engineering. Please.
@@MrOoh50 I don't know man F off
I've experienced emotional detachment for a significant portion of my life, but I've been working towards allowing myself to express my emotions more freely.
It's taken several years of hard work to get to where I am now. Learning to accept my quirks and shortcomings, changing daily lifestyle habits, addressing my depression and body dysphoria... I still relapse from time to time, isolating myself and being aloof around friends/family, but overall I'm much happier than I was five years ago.
Truly respect to u for doing all u can. What did u exactly do in these 5 years if I may ask 🙏❤️
@@MindNow There have been tons of changes to my thought patterns, behaviors, and habits I've made over the years, but there are key themes that I kept coming back to throughout that time.
One is re-framing negative self-talk in a more constructive and positive manner. I struggled with perfectionism and self-esteem issues due to my inner critic constantly berating every little mistake I made. Now, I've learned to be more kind and forgiving to myself, and learned to love myself as an imperfect being.
Another thing has been learning to be accepting and freely expressive of the things I like, despite how others judge and view it from the outside. (In my case, being more open about my LGBT identity and interest of the furry fandom.) I used to be a chronic people pleaser who conformed to the pressures of the group to feel accepted, even though deep down I knew I was different. That's part of what lead to my near constant self-inflicted isolation in my formative years, I later realized.
Then there's been processing and accepting past traumas that I perpetually ran away from. It took several years before I realized I couldn't escape and repress those things that happened to me. (That even led to a period of time where I abused drugs and alcohol before I confronted and accepted my past traumas.) Am I in the same state of mind before those things happened? No, but I'm on the road to recovery and learned that not every bad thing that happened to me was my fault.
Hope that helps.
I feel like I have something else, but some of these I relate with. Like I feel like I have an emotional intelligence that sees things in a rational way as to not react to other people’s emotions until I fully understand the emotional situation, or sometimes I feel like I have an emotional buffer like it takes me a minute for my mind to grasp the emotions or maybe it’s some kind of emotional armor.
I have been self isolating like crazy the last couple of years. It’s definitely addicting and so hard to change. I used to always want to be with people and doing things, now It’s so hard to make myself go try and have fun, and when I do I really don’t even know how to anymore
I numb myself because I am scared of losing my mother ....😢
I relate to all of these signs. I’m becoming more self aware and I really want to fix this about myself, i always wonder what is wrong with me. I hate feeling lonely and so distant from the people I love. This made me feel not alone ❤️
So we are comfortable in solitude because we have detached from society to protect ourselves from the feeling of loneliness 😮 there's always a plot twist behind psychology 😂
Thank you for this
learning a lot, thanks
I feel this. Especially with certain people.
3:04
That's definitely me alright. No way for me to deny that one. However, it can still get inconsistent sometimes since my perfectionist side can decide to kick in for the better or for the worse depending on if it's a desirable result or interference I despise not through sadness, but anger towards it. (If that evens counts as narcissistic.)
Attachment = suffering.
Detachment = unconditional love
Been thinking about this. Now I know why it’s so hard for me to be on time when it comes to events or people…
Could you make a video about why people might detach emotionally? I've known for years that I'm detaching emotionally but I don't understand why?
They've mentioned 3 or 4 reasons in the video...
@@magdamagalhaescosta9124 I know but I thought in a specific video the reasons might be more explained.. Because they were pretty vague in my opinion..
@@lilm00 Here is one they made a year ago: ua-cam.com/video/Adlk8E2UoUs/v-deo.html
- Traumas (Traumatic experiences like emocional or physical abuse, experiencing significant loss (death or separation) or neglect...
-Other mental health conditions (PTSD, Depression or Personality disorders like Borderline)
- Some medication (for example, antidepressants can cause side effects)
@@lilm00 Oh, ok. You're right! The causes are very important. I've identified my general causes, but I guess it's very difficult to identify some specific ones. And I've been in weekly psicotherapy group sessions for 3-4 years...