The more I watch your videos, the more curious I am about your personal life. Like, why do you have the accent that you have (I can't figure out what accent it is)? Do you have personal experience with hitting rock bottom (I guess so)? And I really needed to hear this. Keep up the good work!
Thank you, Rob. I wish I had something more meaningful to say to you, but thank you. My journey is only just beginning. For my standards of life I am effectively at rock bottom, even though I might be doing ok from an outside perspective. I am doing my PhD but I cannot focus long enough to do any reading. I am so addicted to dopamine I start my day by watching meaningless videos on UA-cam, like speedrunning videos for games I don't even play, and I go to sleep watching clips of shows I've never seen. I think on a subconscious level it is because it gives me some reprieve from reality where I hate my current life, but ironically it stops me from getting better. I am in my mid twenties and I have done well in university but outside of that I have nothing. My body is ok, maybe even fitter than average, but I am very skinny and nowhere near my fitness goal. Socially I am a mess. I have never had a girlfriend, never even been on a real date and I don't have many friends. When I sit down and think about it I don't think I have any true friends. I think about the person I want to be, where I want to be in my life in 3 years from now, and I don't think a single one of my friends can provide a net positive support in helping me to be a better person; my friends aren't seeking to improve themselves and as awful as this sounds they would hold me back. Like you I was reasonably well liked in school but after I left school not a single person reached out to me. I have reached out and tried but it's just one sided. Effectively I have no positive friends in my life, but I am very fortunate to have my little brother. I have the same plans I have had for the last 5 years now. Do a PhD, get fit, get a girlfriend, travel and learn guitar. My dopamine addiction has prevented me from doing all of those things except my university work and that is only because that was an obligation that I absolutely had to do. My guitar that I begged my parents to get me for my 16th birthday has sat on its stand for 8 years, almost untouched. I love music, I would love to be able to play guitar and sing a song but I just can't bring myself to pick it up and go through the process of trying and failing until I get it right. I cannot concentrate on the things that I actually want to do anymore. If I cannot concentrate on my PhD work and I lose my scholarship I will have nothing. So I thank you for your videos, Rob. They give me a little bit more motivation to resist temptation, to resist checking my social media, playing video games or watching meaningless UA-cam videos. You provide me some support that I desperately need and I will keep trying to improve.
Thanks for the appreciation, Pete. These words are very meaningful. I personally, and a lot of other people can relate to them. I really love to hear that I am able to motivate you and rest assured that it is 100% possible to get out of your situation.
I have hit rock bottom a few times in my life, it has been horrible. I felt personally attacked watching this video. All I want to say is that people with big ego's are in need of love. I feel that I didn't know how to deal with my insecurities and I just saw arrogance (big ego) as the only way to keep a sense of identity and worth. I know you are right, but I just really wanted to say that.
Wow! It wasn’t my big egi that destroyed me, it was his, my selflessness was necessary for the survival of myself and our daughter and yep, eventually my rock bottom. The aftermath of a psychopathic Narcissist and 15 + years of the isolation and alienation he caused. I survived every single one of his fears. He’s needy, clingy and possessive. I get to rebuild from nothing.
I love the way how you accurately connected hitting rock bottom in life with the ego. What you're saying is so true. Sometimes, an arrogant and haughty person has to go through difficult experiences in their life that teach them humility. It's not a good thing to be feeling entitled all the time. We need to stick to reality.
When you hit rock bottom, there’s no where else for your ego to go but up. Great video Rob!
The more I watch your videos, the more curious I am about your personal life. Like, why do you have the accent that you have (I can't figure out what accent it is)? Do you have personal experience with hitting rock bottom (I guess so)? And I really needed to hear this. Keep up the good work!
His Dutch that where his accent is from
Thank you, Rob. I wish I had something more meaningful to say to you, but thank you. My journey is only just beginning. For my standards of life I am effectively at rock bottom, even though I might be doing ok from an outside perspective. I am doing my PhD but I cannot focus long enough to do any reading. I am so addicted to dopamine I start my day by watching meaningless videos on UA-cam, like speedrunning videos for games I don't even play, and I go to sleep watching clips of shows I've never seen. I think on a subconscious level it is because it gives me some reprieve from reality where I hate my current life, but ironically it stops me from getting better. I am in my mid twenties and I have done well in university but outside of that I have nothing. My body is ok, maybe even fitter than average, but I am very skinny and nowhere near my fitness goal. Socially I am a mess. I have never had a girlfriend, never even been on a real date and I don't have many friends. When I sit down and think about it I don't think I have any true friends. I think about the person I want to be, where I want to be in my life in 3 years from now, and I don't think a single one of my friends can provide a net positive support in helping me to be a better person; my friends aren't seeking to improve themselves and as awful as this sounds they would hold me back. Like you I was reasonably well liked in school but after I left school not a single person reached out to me. I have reached out and tried but it's just one sided. Effectively I have no positive friends in my life, but I am very fortunate to have my little brother.
I have the same plans I have had for the last 5 years now. Do a PhD, get fit, get a girlfriend, travel and learn guitar. My dopamine addiction has prevented me from doing all of those things except my university work and that is only because that was an obligation that I absolutely had to do. My guitar that I begged my parents to get me for my 16th birthday has sat on its stand for 8 years, almost untouched. I love music, I would love to be able to play guitar and sing a song but I just can't bring myself to pick it up and go through the process of trying and failing until I get it right. I cannot concentrate on the things that I actually want to do anymore. If I cannot concentrate on my PhD work and I lose my scholarship I will have nothing. So I thank you for your videos, Rob. They give me a little bit more motivation to resist temptation, to resist checking my social media, playing video games or watching meaningless UA-cam videos. You provide me some support that I desperately need and I will keep trying to improve.
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Bro let me know how it goes. same here
Thanks for the appreciation, Pete. These words are very meaningful. I personally, and a lot of other people can relate to them. I really love to hear that I am able to motivate you and rest assured that it is 100% possible to get out of your situation.
You are doing a lot better than me ;)
This is me minus the dopemine addiction I'm just stuck hopefully I get this new job tomorrow. Small changes is still progress.
I have hit rock bottom a few times in my life, it has been horrible. I felt personally attacked watching this video. All I want to say is that people with big ego's are in need of love. I feel that I didn't know how to deal with my insecurities and I just saw arrogance (big ego) as the only way to keep a sense of identity and worth. I know you are right, but I just really wanted to say that.
It made me the man I am today. Mentally strong and stable.
I'm at a point where I have nothing to loose anymore, so I just start to improve my skills
A best advice is to destroy ego
Thank you💖
Currently there, no where else to go but up. Thank you for this video.
Hows it going?
Needed this ❤thanks alot man
Love the concept of rock bottom and ego. Very inspiring words !
Thank you so much Rob.
Wow! It wasn’t my big egi that destroyed me, it was his, my selflessness was necessary for the survival of myself and our daughter and yep, eventually my rock bottom.
The aftermath of a psychopathic Narcissist and 15 + years of the isolation and alienation he caused.
I survived every single one of his fears. He’s needy, clingy and possessive.
I get to rebuild from nothing.
Nice one man was really needing to hear this today
I love the way how you accurately connected hitting rock bottom in life with the ego. What you're saying is so true. Sometimes, an arrogant and haughty person has to go through difficult experiences in their life that teach them humility. It's not a good thing to be feeling entitled all the time. We need to stick to reality.
Thank you Master Ougway... It means alot
Great video. I’ve been thinking about this for a while but can’t really put it into words like how you described it. Subscribed!
thanks man, i needed that
Man i needed this
Thank you. I needed that 👍
It seems my ego is still too high to go climb up again.
Best explanation I've heard. Only 2 minutes.
Thank you. This video helped me.
Currently at rock bottom, im ganna try to remember this comment after a year and see hows it going
What is the fastest way to hit the rock bottom?
It's not about purposely making your life worse, but it's all about getting your ego to accept the reality of your life's situation.
What if your life has always sucked? 🤣
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can vouch
To live is to suffer, do dopamine detox bro
There is no way to hit the top without hitting rock bottom my life showed me that