My Mom on Mothering Toddlers, Teens & Adults | Guest: Lisa Simmons | Ep 804

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  • @DanielleBertoia
    @DanielleBertoia Рік тому +67

    My goodness, what a blessing this episode is. As I sit to watch, nursing my newborn daughter, watching my 2 and 4 year old sons play - I am grateful to be let into this conversation between you and your Mother, Allie Beth. Thank you

    • @amandastathos1
      @amandastathos1 Рік тому +2

      Wow…reading your comment is so cool because I too have a newborn baby girl (born Jan 14th) and two boys ages 2.5 and 4! Just wanted to share 🤗

  • @curiousman1672
    @curiousman1672 Рік тому +20

    Well done. Love hearing fine women sharing their wisdom.

  • @DavidMccallister65
    @DavidMccallister65 Рік тому +42

    Allie you're so fortunate and blessed to still have such godly parents.

  • @lmartinez7534
    @lmartinez7534 Рік тому +9

    “ Don’t covet the past”
    Wow! I needed to hear that! I have 6 children , ages 3-16, 4 adopted from foster care which special/ high needs. I get on myself often for not being able to do what I use to do. Good things, like ministry and serving others. Or just not being able to handle the “ little” things like tantrums, or lack of sleep, like I use to. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!! ❤️

  • @rainewaters6371
    @rainewaters6371 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your sweet and beautiful Mom with everyone - wonderful and sound advice. ❤

  • @deannajunkin3696
    @deannajunkin3696 Рік тому +37

    I am a mom of five ages 21-9. I expected myself to go back to my usual cleaning and cooking schedule immediately after giving birth. I was determined not to wear any maternity clothes either. I regret not giving myself a transition period to just enjoy my newborn. I will never get those days back. With baby number three, ladies from our church brought us meals and I ended up telling them to take them to another mom who had just had a c-section. Maybe she needed them more, but I shouldn't have refused that help.

  • @braylanbelew1346
    @braylanbelew1346 Рік тому +21

    Allie I love hearing someone relate to enjoying adulthood!! My family would always talk about how miserable being an adult is because of bill and pressure and blah blah blah. We’re low income and both work full time….and yet I have NEVER been more joyful than I am as an adult mom and wife!!! People think I’m crazy when I say I love being an adult. I craved this freedom to create a live that I wanted (and later realized meant submission to Christ of course).

    • @erikastanger7848
      @erikastanger7848 Рік тому +5

      Oh my gosh, SAME!!! I love being an adult. I love my life of being a wife and mom more than anything. My husband is my best friend, and my kids are my joy.

  • @Mrs_Mama_MFT
    @Mrs_Mama_MFT Рік тому +10

    I would love to hear more from your mom about adult children with special needs!

  • @consueloh140
    @consueloh140 Рік тому +3

    Thanks for talking about raising teenage and adult children. Sometimes this seems harder than when they are young. Not many people seem to address it. Thanks for being honest and not sugar coating anything. Raising kids can be hard work but worth every minute of it.

  • @erikastanger7848
    @erikastanger7848 Рік тому +9

    Oh, gosh , when they're little, it's SO enough to just keep everyone alive! I want to mentor moms of littles so badly because in this age of social media, so many of them feel like they have to do it all while looking good and fit, with their perfect babies who never cry and only wear neutrals with a perfectly clean house and fulfilled husband. My 3 are teens, so I'm not out of the woods, but I feel like I have much to offer others now that they're older.

    • @annbrucepineda8093
      @annbrucepineda8093 Рік тому

      There is a great scene in the video of Matthew West's song, "Truth Be Told". The woman finds a clean place and a perfect smile. to make a selfie with her daughter. Then they are like two strangers as her daughter runs off and the mom looks at the messy kitchen. Matthew has composed songs to help us keep ourselves in perspective and give God the glory.

  • @catherinefritz4765
    @catherinefritz4765 Рік тому +11

    Happy Mother’s Day! Great episode. I can relate to your mom as my two year old daughter has special needs. If your mom is comfortable, it would be awesome to hear her experience and any advice she has as a mother of a special needs child. ❤

    • @lisa942
      @lisa942 Рік тому +1

      I would love to do an episode about that. You can still find my book for kindle “I Would Have Said Yes”
      Blessings
      Lisa

  • @erikastanger7848
    @erikastanger7848 Рік тому +6

    Allie, you just made my day!! My 16 year old daughter has always been very strong willed. I have always prayed that it will serve her well in life, and so far it is. She thinks for herself, and she doesn't get easily swayed by things. That being said, she and her dad are very similar, and it's so frustrating to see her not respond to her dad the way he wants. They butt heads a lot. I always have to be a mediator of sorts. Ever since she got her license a couple of months ago, and my husband's old car, she is a different kid, for the most part. She's more bubbly, wants to talk more, and will actually hang out with my husban sometimes. As much as I don't want her to leave me, I have always thought that when she's out of the house for school, she will be the person I know is inside(don't get me wrong, she is a GREAT kid). I feel like she has always craved that autonomy and independence that she'll have once she's an adult.

    • @mytreasuredcreations
      @mytreasuredcreations Рік тому +1

      My older daughter is same, but I'm the one she butts head with. She didn't want to go to college, so she's been working. This year she's been doing more adult things that she's wanted to do since she was 17 and I've been keeping my hands off. Our relationship is so much better. 😅 Parenting is a journey about figuring out how to relate to these individual beings that are your blood. It's hard and so rewarding. ❤

  • @carrielynn1978
    @carrielynn1978 Рік тому +12

    My daughter is 17 and has had her own phone for about 6 months now and her own tablet for a few years. She watched TV at a very young age but the other electronics didn't come until teen years. She hated me for a long time for that because her friends and classmates had phones and tablets, but I tried not to let it bug me. Thank you for doing this episode! I like hearing different opinions on motherhood

    • @michellenewsome4389
      @michellenewsome4389 Рік тому

      Hey, how did you not let it bother you? I'm a young woman and moving towards marriage but all my college friends express concern that they were allowed unsupervised electronic time and dont want to allow their kids to have the same experience, but i know it will be hard when our children feel left out. Thanks!

  • @GratiaPrima_
    @GratiaPrima_ Рік тому +9

    Happy Mothers Day to both of you ladies. Allie, hope your mom’s health is good!

  • @ellenflanigan7542
    @ellenflanigan7542 Рік тому +2

    "Covet your own past"... that is so true. Good word, thank you for sharing!

  • @Torimarie.2002
    @Torimarie.2002 Рік тому +7

    I am so incredibly excited to listen to this episode! It is always a great thing to hear from your parents. They exude the same wisdom, and love for the Lord that you do.

  • @katiecarnahan538
    @katiecarnahan538 Рік тому +3

    So i was crying before yall started crying 😂 she is a blessing. You both are. I wish these are things that i would have heard earlier in my motherhood journey but i appreciate it now, better late than never. The coveting part in the beginning is what got me. I didnt realize thats what it was. And that darn proverbs 31 lol i was just looking at that yesterday thinking i was a failure. I always love your videos but this one especially was needed. Thank you both.

  • @lindasteinbrenner8065
    @lindasteinbrenner8065 Рік тому +8

    Happy Mother’s Day to all the ladies! ❤ such a good episode. Enjoyed hearing Allie’s Mom’s perspective! ❤

  • @jdmaine919
    @jdmaine919 Рік тому +7

    Thanks to your mom for being on! I really enjoyed this. Happy Mother's Day to you both!

  • @crystalpartridge379
    @crystalpartridge379 Рік тому +3

    This was great!!! Thanks Allie and Lisa.

  • @freelivinglyd5309
    @freelivinglyd5309 Рік тому +3

    This video blessed my heart, thank you!

  • @SunshineRox007
    @SunshineRox007 Рік тому +2

    Wow I really needed to hear this. Wonderful words of practical wisdom from a godly woman. ❤

  • @bygraceonly182
    @bygraceonly182 Рік тому +2

    I love the picture of the 3 x 6 year segments. It helps to contextualize how much time we have to pour into our children and enjoy the fleeting stages.

  • @tammya5403
    @tammya5403 Рік тому +11

    Wow twins!!! Happy Mothers Day everyone 💕

  • @macbackstage
    @macbackstage Рік тому +3

    So wonderful to listen to this after I just had my newborn daughter May 7th just in time to celebrate this Mother’s Day 💗🥰

  • @lizwilson51
    @lizwilson51 Рік тому +3

    Allie Beth, please one day have your mom back just to talk about raising a child with special needs. There are a lot of moms with special needs children, whether it is autism, ADHD, dyslexia, Down syndrome, etc. and they could use some support and encouragement!

    • @omoleyeakinleye5556
      @omoleyeakinleye5556 2 місяці тому +1

      I support this completely! Thanks for this suggestion

  • @beckysummers0214
    @beckysummers0214 Рік тому +3

    What a precious episode! ❤ Thank you for sharing and reminding us mamas of some important things. God bless y'all. Keep being bold for the kingdom, Allie! 😎

  • @kelicrawford6290
    @kelicrawford6290 Рік тому +19

    "Covet your own past" that hits home! This is something that the Holy Spirit and His Word have continued to deliver and heal me from. Philippians 3:13 🙏🏼

  • @tinebino
    @tinebino Рік тому +8

    See where Ally got her beauty from. Gorgeous Mom ❤

  • @madisoncarey6167
    @madisoncarey6167 Рік тому +2

    wow. wow. wow. such a good episode😭🫶🏼 we love your mom!

  • @UnashamedJesuslover
    @UnashamedJesuslover Рік тому +2

    I enjoyed this so much! Your mom has so much wisdom & she has such a calming presence. God bless & HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY 💐

  • @coramarchee7223
    @coramarchee7223 Рік тому +2

    This was a great episode, you have no idea how much I needed to hear all of this.

  • @RachaelStronger
    @RachaelStronger Рік тому

    Let’s have more episodes like this too! Love it so much!

  • @paigemama5904
    @paigemama5904 Рік тому +1

    Allie, can you do an episode about making conversation? Do you go out (evenings) with a conversation plan and list of topics? How does that work?

  • @laraegieske2465
    @laraegieske2465 Рік тому

    This show blessed my heart and encouraged me. Thank you!!

  • @Butterfly_momma
    @Butterfly_momma Рік тому

    My goodness. What an important episode, thank you for getting your sweet momma to share all this wonderful wisdom.

  • @bethanyhall1524
    @bethanyhall1524 Рік тому +1

    I love this Allie! My oldest daughter has had the same relationship with my husband, her dad, as you did. It's been very difficult for me but I've been prayerful and patient and now she is 17, almost 18 and they seem to be getting better in relationship. They were so close in the younger years. But in the preteen/teen years she has pushed boundaries and rules big time and it's caused us to be at odds with her. Her and I have been getting closer this past year and I'm thankful for that too. It's been a painful experience. It's encouraging to me that you and your dad and mom are close now. 💗

  • @farmchick5705
    @farmchick5705 Рік тому +1

    Love your story regarding you and your father's relationship. This is my story EXACTLY. Growing up, I also struggled with Dad's authoritarian style, which felt like a stranglehold. Now that I'm older and my father has retired and has been able to step back and downshift in intensity, our relationship has morphed into a beautiful thing. God is good.

  • @pclare7477
    @pclare7477 Рік тому +7

    Haha. I love how sweet Allies Mum was crying so early in the conversation.🥰🤣 We have a general no sleepover rule except for Grandparents. We had sleepovers and some where ok but alot weren't. We put pressure on our Mum to let us go to a sleepover she had a bad feeling about and we got our way. It was not good, the girl had an older brother who was allowed to get out a graphic porn movie and we watched the whole thing. It was so toxic for our 10yr old minds we were physically ill the next day. The images were burned into my brain.

    • @OlgaSmirnova1
      @OlgaSmirnova1 Рік тому +2

      I would not allow sleepovers!

    • @annbrucepineda8093
      @annbrucepineda8093 Рік тому

      @@OlgaSmirnova1 Maybe at church with a variety of fun activities but only girls or only guys. We have had a great youth group at our church. I think our youngest grandson, almost twelve, might have had sleepovers with members of his soccer team with boys in one hotel room and their moms in another nearby.

  • @mikaylawestbrook8519
    @mikaylawestbrook8519 Рік тому

    Excellent godly advise from your Mother! The values - rules - preferences way of thinking is so helpful I think! ❤

  • @ARM971
    @ARM971 Рік тому +1

    Enjoyed hearing your mom Allie! I related to her discussion of managing the father-daughter dynamic as I've experienced something similar as a wife/mom. My daughter is a non-stop talker, now going into broadcasting and very similar to her dad (logical, passionate, etc.). Two years later now, with her in college, the tension is relieved as you described.

  • @nanlphillips5907
    @nanlphillips5907 Рік тому

    I needed to hear this. Cherish each day. And each stage as they grow.

  • @BiancaICMarques
    @BiancaICMarques Рік тому +1

    What an amazing episode, thanks for all the encouragment. I have an one year old boy and thinking about having another one. Thanks you guys ❤

  • @ajstensrud
    @ajstensrud Рік тому

    So many wise words! Love this conversation! ❤

  • @sahar9402
    @sahar9402 Рік тому +2

    When I got my first boyfriend at 18 my parents said my curfew was at sundown, which during the winter was about 5. And he worked until 4:00 the next town over. So all we had time to do was get some ice cream across the street. And on his days off during the weekdays I was in highschool most of the day as well. At the time I was very angry at my parents but looking back they warned me they thought he seemed suspicious. But I refused to not see him and they used the early curfew as a way of protecting me without stepping over too many boundaries. I thank them everyday in my head because come to find out he was an incredibly bad person capable of a great deal of evil. Of course they had no idea how bad he truly was, I think they just thought he was a cheater or something. From 17 to about 20 I was so confused about why they still had a tight string around me even though I was technically an adult. But the truth is I was attracted to really bad people and way older men who wanted to groom me. They protected me until I matured. And I’m so thankful for that. The second I got my head on straight they let me live a normal adult life and that’s how I know their intentions were pure and not to control. Kids go easy on your parents, it’s a hard job .

  • @HopeBonarcher
    @HopeBonarcher Рік тому +3

    I love how Allie brushes over her attitude issues 😅😅😅 we moms need to know how to handle that problem too, girl!!!

  • @tswizzle320
    @tswizzle320 Рік тому

    this was so refreshing allie! i didn’t have a great relationship with my father either, still don’t really have the best relationship, but hearing that you didn’t either for a while gives me hope! & makes me less embarrassed that i am not a completely well put together Christian woman

  • @steveguti6452
    @steveguti6452 Рік тому +10

    I can do all things through Jesus Christ which strengthens me praise God praying for everyone everyday God bless you all

  • @mfigueroa2079
    @mfigueroa2079 Рік тому +2

    My oldest child is graduating in a month. Time flies and time is the only thing we can’t get back.

  • @DaWizeDeciple
    @DaWizeDeciple Рік тому +2

    This show blessed my wife and myself...

  • @rachellegarcia6921
    @rachellegarcia6921 Рік тому

    This was just delightful. Thank you 🙏🏼
    Happy Mother’s Day ❤

  • @Mcrandall80
    @Mcrandall80 Рік тому +1

    And she looks just like her mom 💜🙏💕😘 that’s adorable 🥰

  • @alexmartinez9097
    @alexmartinez9097 Рік тому +4

    I would love a podcast about you discussing your relationship with your brother Daniel

    • @lisa942
      @lisa942 Рік тому

      I do hope to do that as well. My book “I Would Have Said Yes” is still available on kindle 😊

  • @mattjohnson5489
    @mattjohnson5489 Рік тому +3

    We're all messed up in our own way and that's ok.

  • @steveguti6452
    @steveguti6452 Рік тому +11

    Update Urgent emergency Please join me in prayer for a 6 year old boy Asa & family had emergency brain surgery on Monday surgery is successful praise God please pray for continued healing they desperately need your prayers please pray for Them God Bless You All

  • @kennethlopez6527
    @kennethlopez6527 Рік тому

    girls---her mom has aged extremely well. what a beautiful woman inside nd out. she is gorgeous. a very happy mothers day to her and allie

  • @evelyncarrasquillo2282
    @evelyncarrasquillo2282 Рік тому

    Lovely ladies these two! The apple doesn't fall far from the three. Allie, when you look at your mom, you already know that you'll be as dignified and lovely looking as she is!!

  • @awesomeninja9433
    @awesomeninja9433 Рік тому +3

    Your mom is so cute!

  • @erikagonzalez4492
    @erikagonzalez4492 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this episode Allie Beth! Happy Mother's Day! As you mentioned your difficulty with submission to authorities, would you be able to share some time about navigating this challenge within the context of marriage? I have a similar strong-willed personality and a heart for obedience to God and his design for marriage. Thank you!

  • @kathyhowell5631
    @kathyhowell5631 Рік тому

    As a parent to an adult on the autism spectrum, I would love to hear your mom’s advice from her experience. Great episode! ❤

  • @OlgaSmirnova1
    @OlgaSmirnova1 Рік тому +1

    This was so beautiful, it made sad because I did not have children and my parents will die without grandchildren

  • @kenneth7826
    @kenneth7826 Рік тому

    2 all mothers around the world....HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!!ENJOY YOUR SPECIAL DAY..PRAISE GOD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSINGS FLOW..PEACE

  • @erichighsmith7299
    @erichighsmith7299 Рік тому +1

    I had no idea Allie Beth Stuckey graduated from Furman. A small university in Greenville, SC

  • @jewelcecil4967
    @jewelcecil4967 Рік тому

    Sandlot was by far my favorite movie as a VERY small child. All of the boys in the movie were my imaginary friends before even preschool! I quoted it often but didn’t cuss from it. 😂 Surprisingly…

  • @steveguti6452
    @steveguti6452 Рік тому +7

    Jesus Christ died for Our Sins According to the scriptures and that he was Buried and that he Rose again the third day praying for everyone everyday God bless you all 🙏🙏🙌🙌

  • @ruthwilson1647
    @ruthwilson1647 Рік тому +6

    also, the proverbs 31 woman had servants

  • @mienafriggstad3360
    @mienafriggstad3360 Рік тому

    👏 HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you and your mom. 🙏 from Saskatchewan 🇨🇦. Iam a mom of two rainbow babies who are now in grade 8 and grade 12 (graduating in June). Iam also in another category that you didn't talk about much; parenting special needs children; in particular parenting teens and adults who are on the Autism Spectrum; who are not ready to live independently and maybe never will be.

  • @---wu3qj
    @---wu3qj Рік тому

    Most of the bad things I did as a child were done after 10:00 p.m.
    For me as a mom- no sleepovers, no devices, no activities past that time. ( unless I am present)

  • @mariahw653
    @mariahw653 Рік тому

    Me and my dad really butt heads terribly when I was a teenager. He was a great dad, but as he had to loosen control of me the older I got, I think it scared him and worried him so he became a little irrational in his “rules”. I’m so glad him and I have a wonderful relationship now that’s healed, but it is hard at that age. Especially because I was a lot like my dad too.

  • @alixbresler6365
    @alixbresler6365 Рік тому

    Ur mom looks AMAZING

  • @scentwithlove2542
    @scentwithlove2542 Рік тому

    Love your mum Allie :)

  • @nothanksmegan
    @nothanksmegan Рік тому

    5th grade frenemies can for sure end up life long besties!

  • @gwdavey
    @gwdavey Рік тому +1

    You look so much like your mom!

  • @tiffanydaniel8996
    @tiffanydaniel8996 Рік тому +3

    “The youngest on the way” (4:05) is Allie pregnant???

  • @tammybennett5437
    @tammybennett5437 6 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @9milmama280
    @9milmama280 Рік тому

    Benny also says, “bitchin” at one point in The Sandlot.

  • @teeheeChrissy
    @teeheeChrissy Рік тому +1

    Lol my first concern would be “is MY child being mean??” Not the other way around 😂 it’s easy to push blame as parents

  • @mrcmusic1
    @mrcmusic1 Рік тому

    Very cool

  • @harmonygordon6901
    @harmonygordon6901 Рік тому

    I miss my mom. RIP MOM. 💔😭

  • @bambampk4052
    @bambampk4052 Рік тому

    I ask God in my prayers to please make my two children's, (blessings from God Almighty) wide road into a narrow path that leads to salvation.

  • @2023_Kassi
    @2023_Kassi Рік тому

    I love being an adult too! I used to hate being told “you’ll want to be a kid again someday.” … no. No I don’t. Hahaha

  • @RachaelStronger
    @RachaelStronger Рік тому

    It’s me! 3 babies in 3 years hahah

  • @HOLINESSTOJESUS
    @HOLINESSTOJESUS Рік тому

    Im late to this, obviously, but I just wanted to say that the proverbs 31 woman had maid servants 😭 and yes there’s dish washers and washing machines but not every home has those - P31W had some help 😭 and that’s okay

  • @ashezheartless9099
    @ashezheartless9099 Рік тому +1

    HIT LIKE!

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 Рік тому +3

    Absolutely no sleep overs whatsoever.

  • @debimangin9754
    @debimangin9754 Рік тому

    FYI cousins can be the perpetrators of abuse, which I have heard many stories about.
    Love this show btw but just had to mention that.😢

  • @claudiatrenchuck9317
    @claudiatrenchuck9317 Рік тому

    Hahaha Allie I can't wait until your daughter's are teenagers 😂 I heard you pay back with our kids and it's true...now i have a 13 year old girl and paying back

  • @audreyd6725
    @audreyd6725 Рік тому +1

    My advice as a young adult to parents would be to give your teens privacy. In their personal space, relatio ships, and on their phone. Also, don't take their phone as punishment. Find some other means to punish but nowadays it is not a fair punishment because phones have replaced so much in our lives

    • @Julia29853
      @Julia29853 Рік тому

      I totally disagree with your advice. Phones can be a conduit for incredible evil these days. From porn, to connections with total
      strangers, to bullying, to indoctrination in all kinds of wicked or harmful ideas.
      If an older teen shows they are not mature enough -maybe a non smart phone is the way to go. They still have access to texting for emergencies but not all the other garbage with it

  • @matthewbroderick6287
    @matthewbroderick6287 Рік тому +1

    Allie bears false witness against Pope Francis! She obviously has never read any of the encyclicals of Pope Francis. Pope Francis never teaches anything contrary to Church teaching or Holy Scripture!
    Holy Scripture teaches we must cooperate with God's saving grace and repent and bear fruit and forgive others and love one another and persevere to the end to be saved! The false teachings of Allie Beth have made me a stronger Catholic Christian! Allie Beth is in my prayers as she journeys toward Truth! Peace always in Jesus Christ our Great and Kind God and Savior, He whose Flesh is true food and Blood true drink

  • @saltandlight316
    @saltandlight316 Рік тому

    I love you Allie... However, I will admit that it is weird that you have no problem saying the gender of your oldest baby, and 2 years later you still are very careful to not mention the gender of your child... It is not even anywhere online. It is just something that I have noticed, and I find it odd.

    • @bekahbaker1632
      @bekahbaker1632 Рік тому +4

      She is very protective of her children and doesn't share any details about them now except their ages -- she's a public figure, so I don't find it odd at all.

    • @AraceliSpeed
      @AraceliSpeed Рік тому +2

      I’m pretty sure she has said she has 2 daughters. We don’t know the gender of her third, which she’s currently pregnant with (at least I don’t think so).

    • @erikastanger7848
      @erikastanger7848 Рік тому +2

      Why is that odd? She has two little girls and maybe doesn't even know the gender of this one yet. 🤷

    • @nanlphillips5907
      @nanlphillips5907 Рік тому

      I think it's important to respect Allie's boundaries & not judge her.

  • @dv9360
    @dv9360 Рік тому

    Be the Proverbs 31 woman, not the Proverbs 30 woman of whom it says: "She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I have done no wrong.'"

  • @soulfireonfire6423
    @soulfireonfire6423 Рік тому

    Gee how important when the world is falling apart

    • @AllieBethStuckey
      @AllieBethStuckey  Рік тому +3

      You’re being sarcastic, but it’s absolutely true. Cohesive families are the greatest remedy to and refuge from the chaos of the world.

  • @kryslalwow
    @kryslalwow Рік тому

    NEW LIFE GIVES NEW HOPE. 🫘🤎