1.) details, he pays attention to the details ex: if you casually mention your birthday and then a week later ask him what it is, and he remembers it. He likes you 2.) He’s over the top on investment. Ex: try’s to see you, impress you, time, energy, effort, money, etc. 3.) Builds momentum. Try’s to make things happen, keeping you on your toes, sporadic 4.) Connects your lives together. Ex: leaves stuff at your house, you leave stuff at his house and you guys are okay with that. Interested in family and your wellbeing 5.) doesn’t mind where it’s going. Not freaking out, not pulling away, etc. 6.) counter offers. If he makes excuses then he doesn’t like you. Ex: I can’t do tomorrow but I can do Friday. Then he does like you. Doesn’t want to blow you off 7.) Jumping through obstacles. Ex: Goes out of his way to see you just to sit down on a date. If he doesn’t like you, he won’t invest time and energy into you 8.) Uncontrollable smile. When a guy smiles really hard, he likes you.
Totally agree. In the past I used to believe that whole hot and cold thing was because they were too afraid to show their true feelings. However, after some bad experiences I know better now. Ladies, listen to Elliot. If you have to question what someone’s interest is? Then you got it all wrong. If someone wants to be with you, tomorrow NOTHING will get in the way of that! Just remember this, people make time for the things that are important to them. If he/she doesn’t make time for you than you’re not important to them.
...My crush revealed how he felt for me after long months of tortured . In fact, we're both have been crazy about each other. Back and forth lustful gazing and smiling for no reason at work, I instinctively knew he also had a thing for me..No need for him to shower me with all kinds of things but him being there makes my world even better.
emmibeee I know the feeling of "some of us are just meant to die alone" all too well. I'm supposed to meet a guy tomorrow (well, technically tonight) who seems different from all my other experiences. Sounds too good to be true so it probably is.
Again, it still depends on each individual! People are complicated. It is still hard to tell....girls, you dont have to play those silly mind games, just text or call the guys you like and hangout with them...they will fall for you in the end...just go and do it, don't think too much..I started to realized only waiting for guys to control the situation is not fair, we can also initiate and control the situation...simple as that...
U are right again!! Men will not want to seem like he is blowing u off when he's interested in u!! Progress, makes investment, availability etc sure signs! can't fake that
A few days ago I didn't give a damn and I told him, "I think I'm just going to leave my pj's here". He didn't say anything. A day later we end up at his place again and I left my pj's in his room. He was in a different room so he didn't see me doing it. I was about to leave so he asked me, "did you leave your pj's there?" I was like, "yeah" and he smiled with excitement lol
The smile thing is a dead giveaway that we're into you. We're not even concerned about coming off as cool anymore, hence the stupid grin on our face. It's like our self-consciousness has been blurred by how focused we are on you. It's not the same with laughing though. If you knowingly tell unfunny jokes and the guy laughs at every single one, his attraction to you is only physical.
He remembered the anniversary of my dogs death. A dog I had to put to sleep years before I met him. Then he brought it up on the anniversary, but not to be mean... he just asked how I was doing with it.
Have to say, this hair cut suits you far better than the man bun of past videos; gives it great movement. Your hair is too nice to been trapped up like before...
This is super relevant to gay guys. So if you're a guy and you're here it still counts. my now boyfriend pretty much did all of these things.. he used to come over unannounced "on his way home from work" sometimes even though my apartment wasn't even on his route home... At first i didn't see these as "signs" as I personally didn't get the impression he was gay and neither did our friends... So glad he was actually gay and interested because life couldn't be any better.
He likes me, he likes me not. He likes me, he likes me not. Why? Acts interested while with me, he truly does. When not with me, no time for me. I understand he works 60 hours per week but I'm tired of the way things are going since 2 months. After 2 months dealing with this, time for me to act the same way and see if he likes it. Immature man seeking validation. He hurts me, even though he is not trying to be an a_hole. His turn to make the wheel turn. He's now the mouse. I did not email him much but I did at least 2 times more than him. His turn to make it work, I'm going to enjoy the scenery like he did the last 2 months.
Guys don't just stop liking you because they stopped putting in effort. It's when they feel the effort they have put in is ineffective due to the women's unresponsiveness to his efforts. In essence he thinks you're out of his league.
Soooo my brother also told me this but he didn't say the out of he's league. So I had a guy giving me sings and looking at me and just trying to get my attention.. I asked my brother and he said well you just let him know your also interested or he will eventually stop. Since he might think your not into him.
Elliot, you are so organic and I love watching your videos. You truly understand how this game men and women play and you call us out on it on both sides. Good job!
Hi Elliot! Unfortunately, I hooked up with a guy who helped me move. However, I'm going to leave it a 1 night stand cuz I don't want to be mistreated. I'm done with dating. It's a losing game. Plus I'm working on myself. Much love! ❤💜💓💞💕
Once I went for a second date with a guy who forgot where we met the first time (he confused me with his another date apparently) but he was investing time, money and effort, smiling etc.
In all honesty when a guys initially sees you he puts you into three categories: Wifey, Smashable, or Issa No (Pass). If you, nor the guy are talking to are celibate or practicing abstinence you'll never quite know if a guys likes and is feeling you until AFTER sex. I'm not saying sleep around and have sex with every guy you date, but being aware of this fact will allow you to better decide if this is a guy you want to deal with and the overall reality of dating. The reality is that a guy might not be straightforward about his intentions or simply pretend he wants more than sex so that you can get comfortable enough with him. Keep in mind that guys don't necessarily need to like you to be down to have sex with you. He might like you enough to smash, but not enough to the point where he sees you as wifey and envisions himself in a relationship with you. The truth is that to really know a man is interested in you the two of you would have already gotten physical in some aspect. If he continue to hangout with you after smashing and initiates other dates and plans that are non sexual then more than likely he's really feeling you and it's only a matter of time till y'all become official. It's true that if you make guys wait they'll be less of them that are down to do that, but the other side to that is some guys will wait with you until you're comfortable enough while they continue to deal with other girls. The solution at the end of the day is to either remain celibate or straight up understand that you're choosing to smash a guy because you genuinely want to without the thinking that he'll leave you or with the thought that you're trying to keep him. Don't let a guy pressure you into sex if you're not in a space where you're bout that life. If you didn't want to, but then he leaves or changes up you may end up feeling quite.
I love how practical and realistic your ideas are - and your personal examples are very helpful to bring it all together! Thanks so much for so many great videos. I'm getting a lot out of them. And...I love your cool short hair! It's a fantastic look for you and it brings out your blue eyes!! You're smart AND adorable...very easy on the eyes as they say!! ;-D
How many of us have been in the situation where the guys is great while ur together But as soon as u leave.. U are apart fr a day or few weeks.. and itz like u dont matter But while ur there.. He's welcoming What do u have to say for that men?
But some people just don’t remember details right? I don’t remember birthdays.. how do you mention your birthday randomly in a conversation anyway i can’t see myself doing that
Elliot, I felt lead to share this, I have seen you grown since you first started your vids, I noticed you dont seem to swear much, extra brownie points ;-) and your new look is great! really manly :) I noticed you also touch on some traditional principles, something that used to be the norm generations ago, however this generation has lost touch of how to court and what is acceptable. keep growing as you are. Jesus bless you.
what you need to do is tell these girls to stop running away from those nice guys because that is what you are describing in a man liking her. She will run away from that man.
hello all. so there's this guy I've met during a my close friend but online. and we got really really close, and he likes me and I do that too as well! but the only reason is that he doesn't want to do a long distance. but like he makes me feel really special and everything.. and he flirts with me. but like he has an ego, he flirts and then friendzones me cause he doesn't want to look so desperate, but he's the one who texts me first and I'm 100% sure he likes me or even loves me cause he's always got my back and tells me that and he always tells me to be myself and he will always love me no matter what also he says that I'm cute and I understand each other and he likes my voice he also shares everything on his mind with me and we trust each other a lot , but sometimes he talks about his girl best friend and said that he loves her and he's sure that she doesn't love him back.. but he's not talking about her anymore with me.. and we got really close during this period of time. also I feel that He's trying to make me jealous by talking or even pretending that he loves his girl bff. cause I believe that he loves me but again I'm lost and need help from you guys. please help!
This works both ways. Ladies, I know how we all have guys in our lives who serve certain purposes, and collectively they act -in the female’s mind- as a whole rounded “boyfriend”. We have our male lunch buddy, our male “wife” at our job, our male Handyman Mr Fix-it, our male auto mechanic, our male good neighbor, etc. Yet when we begin to grow feelings or sentiments for a guy we’ve been recently dating, we don’t bother to mention in passing about going out to lunch or
or who fixed your broken garbage disposal, etc... Men have fragile self esteem and to them everything is more of a competition than it is to us ladies. So ever think about how guys might have female similar counterparts, and just never happened to mention to you about their existence? And when you find out, or he finds out, then there’s things to have to explain about, when if either of you had kept it 100 to begin with, there wouldn’t be this underlying jealousy issue. All I know is, if a guy likes you he will find a way to see you. If he wants to talk to or hear from you, he will call or text. If he’s thinking about you, he will let you know. How a guy is treating you right now, is how he will always be treating you. Remember that.
Okay the birthday thing I think is a bit unfair. I could never remember my ex’s & our anniversary date... lol and I was the female in the relationship. 🤨
J OneLife my love I hope you left that jerk.. If you haven’t met his family yet and it’s been 2 years then you need to move on!! I know it’s hard but what will be harder is looking back at the time you wasted..
No way am I finally taking love-life advice from a guy who referenced the Waiting movie to make a beautiful point!! Yes, this is my life now, & all for a guy who doesn't even want anything serious, yet gave me the “i love you look”. Cue the *emotional DAMAAAaaaage* 😭💯
I say, Out of sight, Out of mind. With anything that is bad for you, its only when you put yourself in a position to get hurt you will see that addiction problem. As Jesus said, returning to your sin is like, a dog eating up his own vomit. It is a cycle that will never end, until you leave that garbage alone.
@@lolamsp2378 ha ha! Dogs eating vomit in this scenario is something to take more with a grain of salt, because they might not throw up because the food made them sick, and it's different for dogs than humans, the luxury that is puke. (GROSS!) But digs see puke as a delicacy, and they've lost their food and are still hungry. This is just a metaphor that's not accurate.
My younger man (14 years my junior) and I have been building momentum and been damn near inseparable for a month and a half! Met him online, we both now know where the other lives, we've gone out, slept together, are making plans to go to a concert in a few months, and he still wants to see me daily, and now we're planning a trip to a wedding for his friends next year. I guess he kinda likes me!
Cool:) so in the end it doesn't matter that he is younger, does it? :) I like a guy 11 yrs younger and there is chemistry. But he hasn't made the move and I don't think he ever will. So I am letting go
@@mona5713 Yes let go. He should come after you or actively pursue you. Even though I’m no longer with the younger guy I spoke about a couple of years ago, he was very consistent in calling and texting me and showing up to spend time. We were together 2 1/2 years before I broke it off due to excessive cheating, physical altercations, it was just a terrible situation after about a 9 months in. Let it go!
yes i can not stop smiling when i like a girl. I hate it and this is not something i am trying to hard or forcing it but the cheesing thing is the most accurate.
Elliot, I have a question... The guy I'm seeing is not doing those things (only the last one smiling and teasing), but he says he likes me. He seems too lazy and disinterested. But he says he likes me... Why is he saying that?
Now I know there’s lots of people overthinking their barista (Yes, here we go Barista...) are interested in them but I’m normally a very logically person, but this recent situation kind of confused me now...please hear me out on this case. So there’s a kinda cute barista at Starbucks who keep giving me free coffee. I’m pretty much a sucker for their cold brew, plain dark. I go to the drive thru every day before going to work and couple months ago I was on night shift so I happen to see this guy every Wednesday thru Friday, some Saturday as that’s my typical working days and I guess his working days too, I’m off the rest of the week and only visit them on my work days. My first impression was he seems to be a very quiet guy but with a great voice. And then couple weeks went by one day they were out of cold brew and he asked if I want regular iced coffee and I said sure, and he ring me the price at the intercom. At the window he didn’t charge me and I was little shock but I get it, it probably is because I’m a regular and he’s out of my favorite cold brew. After that time he would ask simply questions like how are you doing and little more smile, of course that probably is just he felt like breaking the ice little bit? Then there’s one time it was kind of busy at the bar and a lady took my order, but he would bring me my cold brew in a way kind of stuffed himself into the window area when he wasn’t even the one making my drink...and tell me about the Nitro Cold Brew that some of the Starbucks has and suggest adding some sweet cream or a shot of espresso if I go try it...and he said but make sure you come back here because...(and then he gave a smile and rolled his eyes in a cute way) but he was kind of quiet/shy type of guys so that’s probably a different side of him? I really don't know. And I told him I live around the area so I would be back, and he nod and smiles, and I have a line behind me so I said my thanks and parted. And then recently, I got another free coffee from him because of the running out of cold brew thing again and I will take that as a sign “sorry we run out of your favorites again”, and I asked him if is really okay that he is giving me another one free because that’s the second time he offered me this? I didn’t want to get him in trouble. He smiles kind of happily and he said well you will be coming in tomorrow, right? I’m still on shift tomorrow so you will get a third one, then he winks. It was the weirdest feeling, I mean the winking part...? Or is it just my brain fog...at that point I felt kind of sweet and I kind of nodded and smile and we exchange a silent eye contacts, and I said my thanks and left. So next day come and well, my mom was with me, we were going shopping and she said she wanted coffee so I dropped by the Starbucks and he was there...and I ordered two cold brews, he kind of checking out who’s next to me and then he said so you haven’t got your cold brew today? And I shake my head and said no smiling and he smiles and charged me, the other lady at the bar handed me the drinks. But then when I got home, I found out he only charged me for one drink, so he basically gave me another cold brew for free...and he also gave me a discount for the other cold brew...like 30%. I mean, does Starbucks baristas give out free drinks this often...? That’s three free drinks in one month. Or these are just feeling sorry that they run out of cold brew (prior two times, not the third one). I’m kind of confused...I probably is just overthinking as we don’t even know each other’s name since I’ve always been drive thru and I don’t think I am very attractive that men would be taking second look. I felt little uncomfortable to take free drinks as that don’t happen this often...any kind suggestions? Thanks.
Ahh...he got fired...apparently he was the shift supervisor and I know Starbucks fired people who give out too many free drinks, coffee ain't free, and I did kind of warned him. Only knows his name after he's gone. From another barista who worked with him on same shift. At that point I'm pretty sure he likes me because why would the other barista came and told me he no longer works there? She knows both of us and probably felt our chemistry...this really sucks...should have ask for his number :) He found other job from what I heard which is good. This teach me an important lesson...I need to be brave and be proactive next time if I see a person I like. Hope all the ladies out here also learn this...cheers!
Siquomb1 lol thanks! That is me and my big head...! I do agree I overthink way too much :) I have social anxiety, and I am extremely introverted. Trying to combat that :)
BOY DO I NEED YOUR HELP!! 🤣 TALK ABOUT CHEESY his eyes just gleam when he sees me... he gets the wrinkles in the corner of his eyes sooo deep it's undeniable and I feel it toooo but he's pulling away 😫.... You're my NEW UA-cam relationship guru dude 😂 and it's consistent it's a little over a year but we're hitting that plateau 🤣 but I think he's scared idk.
I dated someone for over a year who complained that he felt I didn’t care and was not interested. He didn’t even know my last name when I asked him what job I do he didn’t know 🥴.
I finally just focusing on what makes me happy the truth the less you we give a damn shit attention to people who don't bring good things in our lives the happier you become
Funny story: A friend of mine offered to go buy something for me, because I didn't have the time and it was a timed offer. Then he forgot about it, and I laughed it off, and never mentioned it after. (this happened a couple of months ago) The other night we were all hanging out in a group and he actually told the story of how he promised (pointing at me), then forgot and how he's a terrible person. I had no idea what the heck he was on about so I just shrugged and was like "Uhm, lol?" Guys are weird.
#4 threading lives together #5 going along with threading lives together #6 counteroffers when he cant meet with you. Or makes it up to you. #7 jumping thru obstacles to see you #8 guy constantly smiles and stares at you and is happy Lmao no guy ever liked me THAT I LIKED BACK
wow you're so right Elliot ✌✨💞💖❤💕💟💚💚💚 ALL these signs I recognise instantly , as they say, you will know in your heart when the right one comes along , great video best I've seen on the subject Elliot Scott
Amazing.. Had a horrible argument last year, we did not speak for 8 months, I was perfectly fine, then contacted me around Christmas to wish me merry Christmas.. message started out with " I know you hate me.. but I want to wish you merry Christmas I wished him Merry Chirstmas back.. Then I contacted him Jan5 and said I don't hate you, and happy new year.. he responded with I miss you, it was all my fault.. I said we were both at fault.. steamy texts face-times etc.. I got 2 I love you's, now cold for two weeks! this is a long distance connection. We have kown each other for 30 years.. I am baffled, I don't think anyone can predict or advise what to do.. the men march to a different drummer. I am so close to blocking his cell phone number
When the guy (even though he talks to other girls) is around this one girl--he's all over her where she can't even talk to another guy/person. So it's not fair. I've seen him ride home with other girls (high school version), do other school activities with other girls. But when we have to show up at a concert...watch out. He sticks to her like glue. I told her he knows there's guys all over the place, he is trying to make them believe you two are an item when you're not. He's making you feel like you can't talk to anyone else. But in a different situation where there aren't a lot of guys, he doesn't care and does his own thing. So make sure he acts like he's really liking you in more than one situation.
When I started moving into my new apartment, a guy would appear out of nowhere every time. He would stand at a distance and watch me. But as he never walked over to speak, or shake my hand, or offer to help me move in, I figured he was looking for somebody to move in with, rent-free. As I never did anything he wasn't willing to do, he vanished.
we're just friends and he asked me to move in but I don't want to deal with the dogs being an issue which he's ok with now. we spend time together everyday, and he makes plans for the next the night before. so I don't feel that just because we're so close it means he's on. it depends on the context of the relationship before hand and how long you've known each other.
Hi Elliot! How about if the guy is in a different state than myself, but wants to come where I am? Any differences or would it be a must to have him here physically?
1.) details, he pays attention to the details ex: if you casually mention your birthday and then a week later ask him what it is, and he remembers it. He likes you
2.) He’s over the top on investment. Ex: try’s to see you, impress you, time, energy, effort, money, etc.
3.) Builds momentum. Try’s to make things happen, keeping you on your toes, sporadic
4.) Connects your lives together. Ex: leaves stuff at your house, you leave stuff at his house and you guys are okay with that. Interested in family and your wellbeing
5.) doesn’t mind where it’s going. Not freaking out, not pulling away, etc.
6.) counter offers. If he makes excuses then he doesn’t like you. Ex: I can’t do tomorrow but I can do Friday. Then he does like you. Doesn’t want to blow you off
7.) Jumping through obstacles. Ex: Goes out of his way to see you just to sit down on a date. If he doesn’t like you, he won’t invest time and energy into you
8.) Uncontrollable smile. When a guy smiles really hard, he likes you.
My crush definitely doesn't like me because he forgot my birthday and we share the same one (even the same year) asjdjsddfjdfl;
@@sweeteststar3882 terrible
I have never seen ANY guy smile hard or smile period.
@@sweeteststar3882 damn 😳
I only agree with 8
Thanks for this. Now it's very clear to me how he's not interested. 😬 time to move. 😊
Same here hahaha
Joanna Tan lmfaoooo💀💀
Joanna Tan LMBOOOOOOO i fee the same tho!
I feel you... :D
Joanna Tan 😄👍
Just like in "He's Just Not That Into You", as Justin Long strongly implies to Ginnifer Goodwin "When a guy likes you, he will make it happen."
Eponine Thenardier what are you implying?? 😂😂🤣👍🏻
Not true. Not if he is afraid of rejection, doesn't know how you feel, you work together, he doesn't have any experience etc.
@@nofybn7794 then he isn’t ready to date and he needs to gather confidence. No woman wants to date a guy who is unsure to that extent
I really like that movie! Justin and Jennifer’s situation was pretty cute.
Totally agree. In the past I used to believe that whole hot and cold thing was because they were too afraid to show their true feelings. However, after some bad experiences I know better now.
Ladies, listen to Elliot. If you have to question what someone’s interest is? Then you got it all wrong.
If someone wants to be with you, tomorrow NOTHING will get in the way of that!
Just remember this, people make time for the things that are important to them. If he/she doesn’t make time for you than you’re not important to them.
Amen
1. If he talks to other women while claiming he wants to build with you, he doesn't like you that much
Yup and he talks to a lot of women in front of you and your friends , he is a doggy dog player. Ditch his ass fast.
he should build it and ask you to enjoy not to ask you to lay the bricks
...My crush revealed how he felt for me after long months of tortured . In fact, we're both have been crazy about each other. Back and forth lustful gazing and smiling for no reason at work, I instinctively knew he also had a thing for me..No need for him to shower me with all kinds of things but him being there makes my world even better.
I need some showering of things.
@@nofybn7794 lol
He likes me, I was always sure of that, but he does not commit and does not express feelings, so it doesn’t matter.
Same here, I don't know what to do towards that ..
How are you ever supposed to have a a relationship if the feelings aren't mutual LOLLLL some of us are just meant to die alone I swear to god. 🤷🏻♀️😂🙄
emmibeee I know the feeling of "some of us are just meant to die alone" all too well. I'm supposed to meet a guy tomorrow (well, technically tonight) who seems different from all my other experiences. Sounds too good to be true so it probably is.
emmibeee ohmygosh yoyr so right huhuuu its sad but true
What happened with that guy?
Venum Ames Bangin some other bitch as we speak 😂
OMG that sucks! I feel for you... What happened?
I told him my birthday and he told me his. I congratulated him on his, he didn’t congratulate me on mine. Clear sign.
Again, it still depends on each individual! People are complicated. It is still hard to tell....girls, you dont have to play those silly mind games, just text or call the guys you like and hangout with them...they will fall for you in the end...just go and do it, don't think too much..I started to realized only waiting for guys to control the situation is not fair, we can also initiate and control the situation...simple as that...
that's all fine unless like me you have an office crush and shes married then its more complicated
Mira Uyghur Alpha males won’t like this
I agree it depends on the individual. You don't have to play games just take action
I initiated alot while he kept being passive... we came to a mutual break up
Move on, she's married! Plus it's an office crush. If she was single, maybe.
I had a friend for 3 years and he didn't know when was my birthday. He's not a friend anymore.
I M A QYN LMBOOOOOOO
Lol I barley know my family members birthdays
I don’t even remember my siblings bdays but I love them more than words can say.
OMG I forgot my sister birthday..and my husband number phone. I wish they never know it
U are right again!! Men will not want to seem like he is blowing u off when he's interested in u!! Progress, makes investment, availability etc sure signs! can't fake that
I think depends on the guy...but if he never initiates he doesn't.
some guys are really chicken sh*t, they don't like rejection.....so sometimes they don't even try, due to insecurity. How do I know this my brother!
rosa jimenez there's also a few that just don't use their phones ever.
@@mutesparrow lmao 🤣 also my brother
zero out of eight! damn... Yep it's time to move on.
Yeah.. same.
A few days ago I didn't give a damn and I told him, "I think I'm just going to leave my pj's here". He didn't say anything. A day later we end up at his place again and I left my pj's in his room. He was in a different room so he didn't see me doing it. I was about to leave so he asked me, "did you leave your pj's there?" I was like, "yeah" and he smiled with excitement lol
That's cuute 😄😄
Very accurate. He does all of it.
Plot twist: He is in a long distance relationship with another girl.🙃
The smile thing is a dead giveaway that we're into you. We're not even concerned about coming off as cool anymore, hence the stupid grin on our face. It's like our self-consciousness has been blurred by how focused we are on you. It's not the same with laughing though. If you knowingly tell unfunny jokes and the guy laughs at every single one, his attraction to you is only physical.
I like this comment. 😊
So true
Bwahaha I've never been liked.. Not even by my husband 😂😂
TheSelena2721 lmao u made my day w dis comment cuz same her sis
Looks like there’s room on this bus for me. :(
TheSelena2721 lol
I can relate, started to think my name was B*tch after the 3rd year...lol He thought it was an insult but it wasn't. haha
Lmaoo
He remembered the anniversary of my dogs death. A dog I had to put to sleep years before I met him. Then he brought it up on the anniversary, but not to be mean... he just asked how I was doing with it.
MsPrettypinkpanther that is beautiful
His a keeper
MsPrettypinkpanther he must be in love with you.
Have to say, this hair cut suits you far better than the man bun of past videos; gives it great movement. Your hair is too nice to been trapped up like before...
That awkward moment your birthday is April 12 lol
🙋🏻♀️
he likes you
Daisy Vazquez my birthday is 12th April too 🤭
Meh. I had a guy do all these until he suddenly didn’t.
I was out drinking with friends and I fell asleep on the couch.... I woke up and my male friend was holding me and calling me Hun ...... I'm confused
This is super relevant to gay guys. So if you're a guy and you're here it still counts. my now boyfriend pretty much did all of these things.. he used to come over unannounced "on his way home from work" sometimes even though my apartment wasn't even on his route home... At first i didn't see these as "signs" as I personally didn't get the impression he was gay and neither did our friends... So glad he was actually gay and interested because life couldn't be any better.
He likes me, he likes me not. He likes me, he likes me not.
Why?
Acts interested while with me, he truly does.
When not with me, no time for me.
I understand he works 60 hours per week but I'm tired of the way things are going since 2 months. After 2 months dealing with this, time for me to act the same way and see if he likes it. Immature man seeking validation. He hurts me, even though he is not trying to be an a_hole. His turn to make the wheel turn. He's now the
mouse. I did not email him much but I did at least 2 times more than him. His turn to make it work, I'm going to enjoy the scenery like he did the last 2 months.
If he is a narcissist that is what they do to mess up with your mind and enjoy the power over you. Anyway I feel you, it hurts a lot.
My birthday IS April 12th y’all I was not expecting him to say my birthday 🥳 but cheers to that Elliot! Love your channel!
Guys don't just stop liking you because they stopped putting in effort. It's when they feel the effort they have put in is ineffective due to the women's unresponsiveness to his efforts. In essence he thinks you're out of his league.
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Soooo my brother also told me this but he didn't say the out of he's league. So I had a guy giving me sings and looking at me and just trying to get my attention.. I asked my brother and he said well you just let him know your also interested or he will eventually stop. Since he might think your not into him.
The "I love you" at the end of your video got me smiling and now I'm subscribed! 😊😄
Elliot, you are so organic and I love watching your videos. You truly understand how this game men and women play and you call us out on it on both sides. Good job!
U are my favourite dating coach ;)
number 1) he pays attention to the teacher/remembers tiny details
Does he really like me or does he just have amazing memory fml
“That he’s digging you girl”😂😂😂😂😂
Aaaw Elliot drove an hour! 😍❤️ I totally agree if a guy likes you he will go out of his way for you.
Hi Elliot! Unfortunately, I hooked up with a guy who helped me move. However, I'm going to leave it a 1 night stand cuz I don't want to be mistreated. I'm done with dating. It's a losing game. Plus I'm working on myself. Much love! ❤💜💓💞💕
I'm just here to confirm that this guy I like actually doesn't like me😔
Once I went for a second date with a guy who forgot where we met the first time (he confused me with his another date apparently) but he was investing time, money and effort, smiling etc.
In all honesty when a guys initially sees you he puts you into three categories: Wifey, Smashable, or Issa No (Pass). If you, nor the guy are talking to are celibate or practicing abstinence you'll never quite know if a guys likes and is feeling you until AFTER sex. I'm not saying sleep around and have sex with every guy you date, but being aware of this fact will allow you to better decide if this is a guy you want to deal with and the overall reality of dating.
The reality is that a guy might not be straightforward about his intentions or simply pretend he wants more than sex so that you can get comfortable enough with him. Keep in mind that guys don't necessarily need to like you to be down to have sex with you. He might like you enough to smash, but not enough to the point where he sees you as wifey and envisions himself in a relationship with you.
The truth is that to really know a man is interested in you the two of you would have already gotten physical in some aspect. If he continue to hangout with you after smashing and initiates other dates and plans that are non sexual then more than likely he's really feeling you and it's only a matter of time till y'all become official. It's true that if you make guys wait they'll be less of them that are down to do that, but the other side to that is some guys will wait with you until you're comfortable enough while they continue to deal with other girls. The solution at the end of the day is to either remain celibate or straight up understand that you're choosing to smash a guy because you genuinely want to without the thinking that he'll leave you or with the thought that you're trying to keep him. Don't let a guy pressure you into sex if you're not in a space where you're bout that life. If you didn't want to, but then he leaves or changes up you may end up feeling quite.
I love how practical and realistic your ideas are - and your personal examples are very helpful to bring it all together! Thanks so much for so many great videos. I'm getting a lot out of them. And...I love your cool short hair! It's a fantastic look for you and it brings out your blue eyes!! You're smart AND adorable...very easy on the eyes as they say!! ;-D
How many of us have been in the situation where the guys is great while ur together
But as soon as u leave.. U are apart fr a day or few weeks.. and itz like u dont matter
But while ur there.. He's welcoming
What do u have to say for that men?
Yeah I know exactly what you mean, id like an answer to that too
That guy has low interest. I wouldnt waste time on him
Thank you next. 😄
Yeah, that's game to keep u on the hook.
My answer is don't take any guy seriously, only till you have the wedding ring! I practice that mentality . Protects you from fantasyland
Are all men the same even church guys
Church men are the WEIRDEST creatures on this planet! Hands down...
0/8 ...let the depression episode begin!!! 🎉
But some people just don’t remember details right? I don’t remember birthdays.. how do you mention your birthday randomly in a conversation anyway i can’t see myself doing that
A good example would be how you really like anime and he buys you an anime movie that he thinks you’ll like.
Elliot, I felt lead to share this, I have seen you grown since you first started your vids, I noticed you dont seem to swear much, extra brownie points ;-) and your new look is great! really manly :) I noticed you also touch on some traditional principles, something that used to be the norm generations ago, however this generation has lost touch of how to court and what is acceptable. keep growing as you are. Jesus bless you.
The Challenge is them keeping that rhythm
what you need to do is tell these girls to stop running away from those nice guys because that is what you are describing in a man liking her. She will run away from that man.
I’m a dude, ladies this is 100% fucking true
I can’t even date. I just friend zone everyone. May the best man win and may God bless us.
hello all. so there's this guy I've met during a my close friend but online. and we got really really close, and he likes me and I do that too as well! but the only reason is that he doesn't want to do a long distance. but like he makes me feel really special and everything.. and he flirts with me. but like he has an ego, he flirts and then friendzones me cause he doesn't want to look so desperate, but he's the one who texts me first and I'm 100% sure he likes me or even loves me cause he's always got my back and tells me that and he always tells me to be myself and he will always love me no matter what also he says that I'm cute and I understand each other and he likes my voice he also shares everything on his mind with me and we trust each other a lot , but sometimes he talks about his girl best friend and said that he loves her and he's sure that she doesn't love him back.. but he's not talking about her anymore with me.. and we got really close during this period of time. also I feel that He's trying to make me jealous by talking or even pretending that he loves his girl bff. cause I believe that he loves me but again I'm lost and need help from you guys. please help!
You are absolutely right about all of these signs.
TIME
ENERGY
EFFORT
MONEY
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DETAILS ❤ SMILES❤
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Is it just me or does Elliot look kinda like Pewdiepie? o.o
Just me?
Okay
Breanna Donovan kindof, probably the beard
I don´t think so. I am German and I think he looks very Southern German, Pewdiepie though is Swedish
OMFG I literally just made a comment about this lmao. When I realized it I was shook
I thought the same thing! He kinda talks like him too
Kinda
7/8, I think I've got a good chance with this guy :)
Katie Severs tell me how it’s going
wow good for you, must be nice, i don't know the feeling
This works both ways. Ladies, I know how we all have guys in our lives who serve certain purposes, and collectively they act -in the female’s mind- as a whole rounded “boyfriend”. We have our male lunch buddy, our male “wife” at our job, our male Handyman Mr Fix-it, our male auto mechanic, our male good neighbor, etc. Yet when we begin to grow feelings or sentiments for a guy we’ve been recently dating, we don’t bother to mention in passing about going out to lunch or
or who fixed your broken garbage disposal, etc... Men have fragile self esteem and to them everything is more of a competition than it is to us ladies. So ever think about how guys might have female similar counterparts, and just never happened to mention to you about their existence? And when you find out, or he finds out, then there’s things to have to explain about, when if either of you had kept it 100 to begin with, there wouldn’t be this underlying jealousy issue.
All I know is, if a guy likes you he will find a way to see you. If he wants to talk to or hear from you, he will call or text. If he’s thinking about you, he will let you know. How a guy is treating you right now, is how he will always be treating you. Remember that.
So freaking true
Okay the birthday thing I think is a bit unfair. I could never remember my ex’s & our anniversary date... lol and I was the female in the relationship. 🤨
electrabot same here 😂
I agree but it doesn't have to be a birthday. It could just be something that is important to you like the name of a pet or your favorite movie.
J OneLife my love I hope you left that jerk.. If you haven’t met his family yet and it’s been 2 years then you need to move on!! I know it’s hard but what will be harder is looking back at the time you wasted..
Well just goes to show that nobody really likes me.
No way am I finally taking love-life advice from a guy who referenced the Waiting movie to make a beautiful point!! Yes, this is my life now, & all for a guy who doesn't even want anything serious, yet gave me the “i love you look”.
Cue the *emotional DAMAAAaaaage* 😭💯
I say, Out of sight, Out of mind. With anything that is bad for you, its only when you put yourself in a position to get hurt you will see that addiction problem. As Jesus said, returning to your sin is like, a dog eating up his own vomit. It is a cycle that will never end, until you leave that garbage alone.
I wish I could look at it like ‘men who know you’re too good’ instead I think ‘men that don’t think you’re good enough’ - Sigh.
My dog ate up her own vomit once.. what now?
@@lolamsp2378 ha ha! Dogs eating vomit in this scenario is something to take more with a grain of salt, because they might not throw up because the food made them sick, and it's different for dogs than humans, the luxury that is puke. (GROSS!) But digs see puke as a delicacy, and they've lost their food and are still hungry. This is just a metaphor that's not accurate.
My younger man (14 years my junior) and I have been building momentum and been damn near inseparable for a month and a half! Met him online, we both now know where the other lives, we've gone out, slept together, are making plans to go to a concert in a few months, and he still wants to see me daily, and now we're planning a trip to a wedding for his friends next year. I guess he kinda likes me!
Cool:) so in the end it doesn't matter that he is younger, does it? :) I like a guy 11 yrs younger and there is chemistry. But he hasn't made the move and I don't think he ever will. So I am letting go
@@mona5713 Yes let go. He should come after you or actively pursue you. Even though I’m no longer with the younger guy I spoke about a couple of years ago, he was very consistent in calling and texting me and showing up to spend time. We were together 2 1/2 years before I broke it off due to excessive cheating, physical altercations, it was just a terrible situation after about a 9 months in. Let it go!
yes i can not stop smiling when i like a girl. I hate it and this is not something i am trying to hard or forcing it but the cheesing thing is the most accurate.
wow how romantic
Elliot, I have a question... The guy I'm seeing is not doing those things (only the last one smiling and teasing), but he says he likes me. He seems too lazy and disinterested. But he says he likes me... Why is he saying that?
Now I know there’s lots of people overthinking their barista (Yes, here we go Barista...) are interested in them but I’m normally a very logically person, but this recent situation kind of confused me now...please hear me out on this case. So there’s a kinda cute barista at Starbucks who keep giving me free coffee. I’m pretty much a sucker for their cold brew, plain dark. I go to the drive thru every day before going to work and couple months ago I was on night shift so I happen to see this guy every Wednesday thru Friday, some Saturday as that’s my typical working days and I guess his working days too, I’m off the rest of the week and only visit them on my work days. My first impression was he seems to be a very quiet guy but with a great voice. And then couple weeks went by one day they were out of cold brew and he asked if I want regular iced coffee and I said sure, and he ring me the price at the intercom. At the window he didn’t charge me and I was little shock but I get it, it probably is because I’m a regular and he’s out of my favorite cold brew. After that time he would ask simply questions like how are you doing and little more smile, of course that probably is just he felt like breaking the ice little bit? Then there’s one time it was kind of busy at the bar and a lady took my order, but he would bring me my cold brew in a way kind of stuffed himself into the window area when he wasn’t even the one making my drink...and tell me about the Nitro Cold Brew that some of the Starbucks has and suggest adding some sweet cream or a shot of espresso if I go try it...and he said but make sure you come back here because...(and then he gave a smile and rolled his eyes in a cute way) but he was kind of quiet/shy type of guys so that’s probably a different side of him? I really don't know. And I told him I live around the area so I would be back, and he nod and smiles, and I have a line behind me so I said my thanks and parted. And then recently, I got another free coffee from him because of the running out of cold brew thing again and I will take that as a sign “sorry we run out of your favorites again”, and I asked him if is really okay that he is giving me another one free because that’s the second time he offered me this? I didn’t want to get him in trouble. He smiles kind of happily and he said well you will be coming in tomorrow, right? I’m still on shift tomorrow so you will get a third one, then he winks. It was the weirdest feeling, I mean the winking part...? Or is it just my brain fog...at that point I felt kind of sweet and I kind of nodded and smile and we exchange a silent eye contacts, and I said my thanks and left. So next day come and well, my mom was with me, we were going shopping and she said she wanted coffee so I dropped by the Starbucks and he was there...and I ordered two cold brews, he kind of checking out who’s next to me and then he said so you haven’t got your cold brew today? And I shake my head and said no smiling and he smiles and charged me, the other lady at the bar handed me the drinks. But then when I got home, I found out he only charged me for one drink, so he basically gave me another cold brew for free...and he also gave me a discount for the other cold brew...like 30%. I mean, does Starbucks baristas give out free drinks this often...? That’s three free drinks in one month. Or these are just feeling sorry that they run out of cold brew (prior two times, not the third one). I’m kind of confused...I probably is just overthinking as we don’t even know each other’s name since I’ve always been drive thru and I don’t think I am very attractive that men would be taking second look. I felt little uncomfortable to take free drinks as that don’t happen this often...any kind suggestions? Thanks.
Gee Lee I think he likes you :)
Ahh...he got fired...apparently he was the shift supervisor and I know Starbucks fired people who give out too many free drinks, coffee ain't free, and I did kind of warned him. Only knows his name after he's gone. From another barista who worked with him on same shift. At that point I'm pretty sure he likes me because why would the other barista came and told me he no longer works there? She knows both of us and probably felt our chemistry...this really sucks...should have ask for his number :) He found other job from what I heard which is good. This teach me an important lesson...I need to be brave and be proactive next time if I see a person I like. Hope all the ladies out here also learn this...cheers!
Siquomb1 lol thanks! That is me and my big head...! I do agree I overthink way too much :) I have social anxiety, and I am extremely introverted. Trying to combat that :)
BOY DO I NEED YOUR HELP!! 🤣 TALK ABOUT CHEESY his eyes just gleam when he sees me... he gets the wrinkles in the corner of his eyes sooo deep it's undeniable and I feel it toooo but he's pulling away 😫....
You're my NEW UA-cam relationship guru dude 😂 and it's consistent it's a little over a year but we're hitting that plateau 🤣 but I think he's scared idk.
What really sucks, is when a Guy is Perfect for you in all the ways, and You are not vibin with him. So frustrating.
HOLY SHIT! MY BIRTHDAY IS APRIL 12TH!
DETAILS MAKE THE DIFFERENCE!! LOVE YOU ELLIOT! YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
Please make audio cds. I'd like to listen to you in the car.
Awesome points Elliot! Love your hair btw 🙂
I dated someone for over a year who complained that he felt I didn’t care and was not interested. He didn’t even know my last name when I asked him what job I do he didn’t know 🥴.
I loved when Elliot said "you have to go to your Sister's wedding "
Lol ! Weddings can be fun 😉
Yeaa!! I agree about effort and time!!! Totally!! Women obviously see that! We fall on that
I finally just focusing on what makes me happy the truth the less you we give a damn shit attention to people who don't bring good things in our lives the happier you become
Cool. I'll be on the look out for these signs. Thanks.
Dude that tree is not moving...its like they glued a pic of a tree on ur window,,, lol ...i hope is not too hot!
Pinky I by far the best comment on the entire clip!
Ty Neuroticgypsy
Funny story:
A friend of mine offered to go buy something for me, because I didn't have the time and it was a timed offer. Then he forgot about it, and I laughed it off, and never mentioned it after. (this happened a couple of months ago) The other night we were all hanging out in a group and he actually told the story of how he promised (pointing at me), then forgot and how he's a terrible person. I had no idea what the heck he was on about so I just shrugged and was like "Uhm, lol?"
Guys are weird.
#4 threading lives together
#5 going along with threading lives together
#6 counteroffers when he cant meet with you. Or makes it up to you.
#7 jumping thru obstacles to see you
#8 guy constantly smiles and stares at you and is happy
Lmao no guy ever liked me THAT I LIKED BACK
Difference between ordinary and extraordinary is a little extra. ❤🎉
Good advice brother!!! Details is key to intrust.. plus eye contact on another level.
wow you're so right Elliot ✌✨💞💖❤💕💟💚💚💚 ALL these signs I recognise instantly , as they say, you will know in your heart when the right one comes along , great video best I've seen on the subject Elliot Scott
This is really the best video out there for this question. Thanks Elliot!
Amazing.. Had a horrible argument last year, we did not speak for 8 months, I was perfectly fine, then contacted me around Christmas to wish me merry Christmas.. message started out with " I know you hate me.. but I want to wish you merry Christmas I wished him Merry Chirstmas back.. Then I contacted him Jan5 and said I don't hate you, and happy new year.. he responded with I miss you, it was all my fault.. I said we were both at fault.. steamy texts face-times etc.. I got 2 I love you's, now cold for two weeks! this is a long distance connection. We have kown each other for 30 years.. I am baffled, I don't think anyone can predict or advise what to do.. the men march to a different drummer. I am so close to blocking his cell phone number
This was actually really good. Thanks man
What's your sign?
he's a Pisces♓
When the guy (even though he talks to other girls) is around this one girl--he's all over her where she can't even talk to another guy/person. So it's not fair. I've seen him ride home with other girls (high school version), do other school activities with other girls. But when we have to show up at a concert...watch out. He sticks to her like glue. I told her he knows there's guys all over the place, he is trying to make them believe you two are an item when you're not. He's making you feel like you can't talk to anyone else. But in a different situation where there aren't a lot of guys, he doesn't care and does his own thing. So make sure he acts like he's really liking you in more than one situation.
When I started moving into my new apartment, a guy would appear out of nowhere every time. He would stand at a distance and watch me. But as he never walked over to speak, or shake my hand, or offer to help me move in, I figured he was looking for somebody to move in with, rent-free. As I never did anything he wasn't willing to do, he vanished.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights. Amazing.
“Ahh ahhh he’s so nice” 😂😂😂
You are best. Your words are very realistic!!
I like that point....he doesn't mind where it's going. Noted!
we're just friends and he asked me to move in but I don't want to deal with the dogs being an issue which he's ok with now. we spend time together everyday, and he makes plans for the next the night before. so I don't feel that just because we're so close it means he's on. it depends on the context of the relationship before hand and how long you've known each other.
what if a guy is messaging you back and fourth and never calls or ask for your number
Autumn Tedford attention seeker? Maybe you should ask for his number. But this was 6 months ago. How did it turn out?
Very good video, Elliot:-) It's so true...Hope you're well:)
My birthday is April twelve thank u Elliot for remembering that 😂😂
What happens when he shows interest but he is my boss? Could it be just friendly?!
yeah some guys are just friendly, he probably has a wife and family, don't ruin it for them
Thank you Elliot. Love from Julie in California
Hi Elliot! How about if the guy is in a different state than myself, but wants to come where I am? Any differences or would it be a must to have him here physically?
Also u have more of a dark side and also a goofier side then the rest of the relationship couches hmmmminterestead i like it
I love you elliot scott keep up the great content 🥰💥🎥
Can someone give me the dating coach equivalent of Elliott but with established, committed relationships?
Julie B A dating coach deals with dating problems. A couple therapist deal with committed couple problems.
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email me!
Sexy Confidence :)
I like ur hair style