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Current bf before we started dating, literally stumbled out the door backwards because he was too busy staring at me to see the door behind him. That’s when I realized he was into me. I’m kind of dense...
A lot of these "he's just being nice" sounds like the guy I recently dated. We dated for almost a month. He also hardly texted me first. The final straw was when just last week he canceled a date for no reason. I let him know I wasn't happy about but he just brushed it off. I decided to do the lean back approach to see if he would reschedule. Nope. Haven't heard from him since. I'd much rather he flat out told me he was not interested in dating me anymore instead of leading me on.
I hate that flakey behavior but at least you can disengage from the confusion early on. I hope that you get a guy who appreciates you and knows what he wants.😊
I wonder if a lot of guys assume doing a sudden disappearing act is somehow kinder than flat out getting it over with. Or perhaps they like to leave it so that they have spare cards to pull out later. The kinder, more generous thing to do is the right thing; which is being gently honest and direct. Heard some guys say they would rather a girl just fades them out. I believe we may be different in that way
I see alot of women chasing men, like literally throwing themselves at em and ignoring all the "I don't want you signs." In my experience...when a man wants you he will in most cases make it known. They're wired that way. Ladies stop chasing then you won't have to guess if he likes u
I mean, that's kind of true... but there are shy and very reserved guys, too. They generally try to pretend they don't like you because they are afraid of being rejected.
@@whatthereview369 Nah, at some point he has to step up. Don´t give these guys excuses. Plus, no girl deserve to be waiting for months for a guy deciding to man up and make the moves. We deserve the best always.
The sad news is that at 37 after several, committed relationships, I can confidently say no one ever LIKED me. They didn’t respect me, either, so I’m not surprised.
@@Nokss_20 eh I'm a human, I'm alright. I don't have a self-esteem problem. I'm good in my own company, but navigating life together with someone would be nice. It's a different experience/process for the brain/heart, whatever. It's hard to understand why no one likes me, maybe there's a reason, maybe there isn't, but it's not a riddle I can solve by myself, you know? If I have blindspots, then by definition I won't see what they are.
The signs Ive taken note of and not sure of are: 1) He talks to everyone very easily but hesitates when it comes to me. So I had to approach. 2) Direct eye contact. 3)Statue-like while sitting. He did all this at a time.
Me too. Wanted to come and watch a race I was involved in, even set my computer up for me to be able to have multiple screens, volunteered to rescreen my door as well as other stuff but when race day came, he asked what I was doing that day :). Reminded him of my race. His comment, "forgot you have your race today!". That's it. No apology, offer of coming another day to fix stuff...don't think I'm being overly demanding but yeah...like the above comment, "the trash took itself out" :)))
He offered me a ride back home (which I said yes to) then asked me questions about what I like and laughed at my cheesy jokes. He remembered little things I totally forgot I told him about and I always catch him looking. And when I catch him he smiles so big. Then I mentioned that my apron was loose (we’re servers) he quickly offered to tie it for me and I told him that tight was good but did it lightly to not hurt me. I almost turned around, got down on one knee and proposed. I complimented his hair and he said thank you while blushing and always offers to help me out with tasks at work. He includes me in his decisions and goes with whatever I say. He’s so sweet and such a gentleman
He mirrors ur body language 2.he pretends he cant hear u 3.he will.minized any sorrounding distractiions 4.he ask questions 5.he recalls unimportant things u told him 6.hell dig common interest u share 7.hell have trouble ending d conversation 8.hell find reasons to see u 9.he constanstly be escalating an interaction 10.hell have his game face on.
I have a coworker who once turned me down and stood me up for a coffee date. He is clearly not interested, yet always open up to me about his life, laughs at all my jokes, and holds interesting yet intelligent conversations with me. Either he is lying, or I'm the best therapist ever.
I started liking him after I caught him glancing at me a lot while I was leaving the place where our co-op meets. Now I think he's just a nice guy which is why I like him. Now I like him and idk if he likes me back and idk what to do!!!
Every time I watch him I’m reminded of the first “does he like you...” video. Remember the one where he said if a guy’s eye brows are constantly up when he’s talking? Yeah, I think Ryan has a crush on us.
I remember on St. Patty’s Day my crush was being so nice and protective of me it was adorable 🥰 He’s a nice guy in general but the things he did made me question his intentions with me. He was being playful with me by cracking jokes, being touchy feely, curious about my long term career goals, he gave me his jacket and hat to keep warm (since it was a bit chilly at the bar), he told he wanted to finish a convo with me before heading off to talk with his other friends, he remembers small details about me, he asked me if there was anyone at the bar that I had my eye on, he was worried about how I was gonna get home and even wanted to contact my brother to make sure I got home safe, and a couple of his friends were telling him “you better go take care of your friend” to make sure I got to my cab safely.
@@cherylthompson2731 I cannot tell you how refreshing it is to read your comment. Most people will be like, "you deserve better, girl" or "forget him and move on." People can be so quick to judge. I understand everyone situation are different and we all deserve a good quality guy, but sometimes it doesn't hurt just be friendly back and give a second chance. Mostly, you let things run it course. If it meant to be, then he will come around.
@@elissamiller8374 thank you. As with my boyfriend, he really is a nice guy! Now? He's the love of my life! All videos aren't 💯 accurate. You have to have a feel for a person."
You wouldn't believe the extents to which people will lie to themselves regarding their feelings... :D I've had this thing with a guy who constantly paid me compliments on everything and anything, enveloped me in a hug on a park bench to keep me warm, face glued to my neck, took me home, let me nap in his bed, fell asleep next to me, holding me, mock-fought me and kissed my neck and basically was the person I saw and texted with the most for almost half a year...we then went separate ways when he said there's external circumstances for which he can't be in a relationship with me. We had two more phases of intense interaction since, and every time we distanced ourselves on purpose because things were always on the brink of getting steamy, on top of us talking about a million vulnerable things. And he still tells me I'm a friend :) I did draw my boundary firmly recently and won't be seeing him anymore. This might work for other people, but I'm just not built to feel good watching other people who did, in a few extra vulnerable moments, admit to being attracted to me, only deny and actively suppress wonderful, deep feelings they have for me. I'm definitely not content with this when I like this human a lot and can well imagine a long-term partnership.
The escalating the interaction can be a bit too much for me. Like sometimes, a guy is trying to move too quickly and in my head, I'm like this is too intense. I think there's a nice middle ground where someone isn't trying to move things from 0 to 100 too quickly
If you’re not comfortable with the pace, then it is too intense. The more you set your own boundaries the more comfortable you’ll feel about it. You set the pace for You. Don’t let anyone, any person, trend, or social media platform tell you otherwise. Own it.
Yeah, I talked to a friend about this. She said oftentimes the woman has to set the pace. If he's texting too much, let him know you prefer to get to know each other in person... If he's asking to see you again quickly, schedule something on a timeline you're comfortable with... if he wants to spend all day with you, set clear expectations about how much time you have upfront.
He remembered my birthday and showed up at the rink (I'm a skater) when he knew I would be there. He HATES that rink! He lives pretty far from it too. None of my other friends who were there knew it was my birthday until I told them. Unfortunately.... even though we used to text a lot, he hasn't in weeks! He used to like me and showed A LOT of those signs back then.
So this is about a work colleague. He is super bubbly and laughs all the time with EVERYONE so it's really hard to tell if he likes me. The first time we met he was asking me a lot of personalish questions, like what my hobbies were, where I lived, who I lived with, and we really had some great conversations. I was super into him, so I made lots of comments about how well he was performing at his job on purpose to boost his ego, and after I did this he started trying to show off a bit by showing me all the codes he remembered and how many boxes he could lift etc. I acted really impressed even though I wasn't really lol. I just wanted to make him feel good about himself to hopefully boost his interest in me. At first I thought it worked, but then I noticed he wasn't initiating conversations with me. It was mostly me initiating the conversations. So, I stopped trying to talk to him and started talking to other coworkers and laughing with them and genuinely having fun. I was convinced he was just being nice so I moved on. BUT THEN he started coming up to me more, and I notice everytime he talks to me he gets REALLY really close. Like, I was at a computer and he checked something on it and came way closer than was necessary. Then, a day later, he was standing unneccesarily close to me again and he looked at me and said how nice I smelled and asked what I was wearing. I told him he smelled really good too. The other day he said bye to me twice when he left work. He said it once as he was going to the back to get his stuff, and then again as he was walking out the doors. I don't ever hear him say bye specifically to others like that. And, I noticed on days that we are scheduled together he dresses really really nice. Whereas, there have been times I've come in on overtime and he is always wearing something more frumpy. I really can't tell. I keep going back and forth between thinking he likes me and thinking he is just a friendly and nice person. Oh and I forgot to mention that our forearms touched once because he was standing so close but he didn't move away. I'm trying to be more obvious but I don't want to creep him out if I'm totally misreading everything.
@@eleanordavies9815 It was a nightmare LOL. He turned out to be a very unhealed person; something called a Dismissive Avoidant. But through his terrible behaviour I realized that I was very unhealed too because I was putting up with his crap. So I've been working on my self-esteem and people pleasing tendencies and creating strong boundaries so that I can make room for the right person. The right person won't make me doubt for a second whether or not they like me. I hope your situation works out better than mine!
I realize when watching this that i get intimidated by the ”guy who likes you behaviour” and pull away. And prefer the ”just being nice” and is more likely to feel attracted if a guy don’t suffocate me with his constant precence and wanting me to give him attention, i like space especially in the begining when i not sure how i feel. Guess this is a default that leads me to fancy the guys who isn’t interested..
The 'guy who's just being nice' the monotone reactions really cracked me up😂😂 BUT, I hope this isn't what I get someday nonetheless, I want the first reactions🥰❤
this is so funny to me bc one of my pet peeves is when a guy mirrors my body language, I have trouble maintaining long conversations and especially deep conversations with men and I will instinctively refuse invitations to do things outside of work 🙃 so I see why I’m single
I like honesty. I feel worse if a guy is just pretending and I can tell if he's just faking it and is just being polite. I don't like that. He needs to just be real.
Mannn, number two was my primary technique during high school and I used it over and over again with my crush because I couldn't think of anything else. I think my crush liked me back, but I also think they got (understandably) frustrated with me not seeming to hear them and moved on. All's well that ends well, happily married now. Thankfully I didn't overkill technique number two when I met my spouse 😂
The way he winked at me today when I mentioned letting him know I would be in touch about the next day he could borrow my truck to take a load to the dump together again. Lol that wink kills me everytime I think about it..
I was at a group dinner with a bunch of people and the guy sitting next to me reached over and gave me a hug from the side with his arms around me like cupping my back. It definitely felt like more than a friend thing
That was enlightening 😊 I met new people at a picnic on the weekend. The two guys were paying a lot of interest to one of the women, who tried to dominate the conversation. When we all went for a walk, I had the impression that one of the guys started psying me more attention, told me about his background etc. When we got back, he mirrored what I was doing etc. Am I imagining that he's interested in me?
I really liked the black and white videos, so much fun. By the way I think number 8 and 9 are really important. I had a guy who was just texting or chatting and never talked about seeing in public or even calling on the phone, so I took Ryan's advise and said: "NEXT". :-)
I like you Ryan. Your edits are fantastic. I like the contrast in the way you presented nice vs interested. Very clear understanding I have now. Thank you..
Ending interaction is a huge situation I am going through. He also will leave conversations online if there’s a group of us but if it’s him and I... he will stay up for like another 30-40 mins... and he works super early the next day. 😊
I have had a guy start to stutter in front of me the second he saw me and couldn’t stop so he had to leave. Idk I guess I make people really nervous. 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Can you do more videos about long distant dating? Would love more of it! Especially if you can’t see them until the pandemic is basically over 😭 not sure if he likes me just through video chats/texts
You're right Ryan he does that like almost every time we meet up,he's like I can't hear you the music is loud or it's noisy,but I believed I was audible enough and didn't really check it out till now,thanks
I met my coworker for the 1st time at a happy hour. He talked to me the whole night(even though there were 15 others at the HH). He asked me millions of questions about myself... We stayed after at my car when everyone left got an additional hour and he hugged me goodbye and he hasn't said one word to me since. We work remote but geesh I was for sure there was a vibe. 😭😭 he was so handsome he really caught me off guard.
The guy I like is all over the place. One minute, he acts like he always does with me, and then the next, I find him staring at me from across the room, and quickly looking away when I look in his direction. He always talks to me and keeps eye contact all the time, but we never get a chance to have real conversations. We're always close to each other, and I find that just about every time we hang out, we brush shoulders or hands or our feet touch. In general, he's just a super friendly person, and he doesn't do any of this with anyone else but, it's impossible to tell what he thinks of me, even one of my friends who's known him for longer can't tell either.
LITERALLY MY SITUATION. i’m starting to sadly think this guy just sees me as a coworker and he’s a super friendly person. im not gonna chase anymore and just do me lol damn @annasophiastewart2083. it’s so confusing
Today, I made plans in a group chat directed at one specific person. Technically, neither of us are allowed to date yet, but whenever we see each other, it’s like the entire world is blocked out
lmao i had a guy friend who i used to like; who would pee when we were on the phone and me who had low self esteem back then felt so “honoured” and thought it was cuz he was so comfy w me, that i never noticed the disrespect ✌🏼
Years ago there was man who just kept laughing every time he was near me. My friends kept telling me that he was nice and I should give him a chance, but I just thought he was creepy.
So, I have a guy, who does majority of everything you said in part 1 and part 2 with me.... we we're working together this past summer which is how we connected. He compliments me on being the funniest person he's ever met, and months later out of the blue sat beside me and just said "I can't wait to see you win an Oscar one day and I'll be in the audience cheering you on and when we first chatted months prior he asked me about my passions and dreams and knew what they we're but found out through someone else and this was the same convo that allowed us to be vulnerable with each other and talk about our fears, ambitions which was so nice and one of his buddies also told me that he said, "I was his favourite new person in the job we were doing" after a week of meeting me and yet we never spoke (so I guess he was just watching me from afar.....). He's insanely sexual with me and has even initiated interlocking his hands with mine on a night out; kissed the back of my hand when we we're at the bar and then at a few parties; kissed me on the forehead and then kissed my friend on the forehead beside me. I'm a pretty sensual dancer and I just love a fun time on the dance floor and so he'll try and find me every night we go out and watches my body, tells me that he loves me and adores me; but the catch is that he was in an open relationship and idk the status of them now.... but he also makes me think he doesn't like me cuz I've tried to be like; well lets watch a movie and he'll pause and then be like nah I'm going to bed, or sometimes when he catches himself being flirty and then he retreats. He also leaves me on read sometimes if texting and has told me he's bad at texting.... I also don't know their status of relationship after we wrapped up working so I'm more just friendly than anything with him or keep a distance but his actions have me confused as I did start to develop feelings. Help a sister out.
The guy I’m talking to does at least 4 of the signs you talked about; He’ll have trouble ending the interaction, he remembers unimportant things I told you, he constantly moves the interaction to the next level. I haven’t had a guy do that so it feels really good when he moves the interaction at a steady pace. Thanks for part 2
I would love to know if this is a sign. So the guy I like, we hung out in a group setting with mutual friends once, now we've been hanging out every weekend for the past month. There's been two times we got together just us two to get food. One of those times when we were packing up our leftovers at the Indian restaurant, he just started filling up my box for me. It just felt like something! Nobody's ever done that for me as a friend, and it felt like he was showing a sign he wanted to take care of me. The second time was this past weekend. We were habging out with a group of friends and I asked him if he wanted to get some dinner beforehand and he was like, "That's a great idea! I'm so hungry. How about 7 at this great mexican restaurant?" And it was so nice. I was waiting in the parking lot. Texted him to text me when he got there, and instead he called me when he got there! He chose a table away from other people and it was wonderful. It feels like when we go out together we're on dates just energy wise and i wish they were. I wonder if he feels it too! Would be interested to hear your opinion :)
Lmfao me and 2 other coworkers mirror each other all the time when we talk in a triangle. It's just funny to notice, I'm sure it means nothing romantic but it's so funny to see us all eventually do the same thing.
Not all men are the same. My boyfriend ( my then friend) was very shy and he did a lot of these things that would be interpreted as just wanting to be friends. But mirroring? That is a sign that he is in love with you! Talking to himself?! 💯 accurate!! He likes the hell out of you and it's got a lot on his plate. but not too much that he doesn't want to be with you all the time.❤️❤️❤️
There’s definitely a diverse range to the behaviors you’ll see. These signs are probably for the majority to reach the most amount of people, but what you had was a guy who was a friend first and respectful of you and your boundaries. Those are the people I love to hangout with and know because they aren’t in the relationship just for personal gain, they see you as a person to respect.
Had a few of these in my last relationship but it was all false to win me over and manipulate me. The attention and mirroring were over the top towards being a bit odd. A guy I work with makes good conversation but he has a partner, he makes it like a mission to have a in-depth chat
At first I was confused on the distracted part but when he explained the last part makes sense, because my partner doesn’t like showing off his video game skills especially one of his favorites and I think that pretty cute and cool Edit: Forgot to say he shows me when he plays or plays when I’m talking to him and he talks to me and it’s fun on both parts in my opinion
A boy who I have class with everyday is teasing me about the fact that I love golf. He also is always teasing me about how my stepdad is a teacher. But for some reason, even tho we’ve had sit next to each other everyday for about 6 weeks, he asked me what my name was like 3 days ago. He’s also always asking me to help him with his work and he is always saying something to me whether it’s how much he hates the teacher, how great he is at football, how horrible he is at school, or asking me what time it is (5 times during one class)
My crush went out of his way to open a door for me then went back to what he was doing (which was the opposite way of where I was going). He was also the first one to compliment my hair when I wore it differently, and when I got my hair cut he complimented it, then a few minutes later he said "I like your hair even more the more I look at it." He's always making dumb jokes around me, and whenever he sees me he says my name like "[name]~~". I don't know if he's just being nice because he's nice to everyone.
This guy saw me doing math problems on my computer while I was sitting down.Then he just when up to me and started helping me with math when I didn't need the help and he go so so so close to me and looked at my lips.
well there is somethings that can make a guy be absent or unfocused sometimes like adhd and then they really can't help themselfs my boyfriend and i have been together since the beginning of june and he gets as happy as i get everytime we find something we have in common (and it's alot) and he was the first who took the step of introdusing me to his mother and almost his whole family and he just keeps showing commitment to me and helping me at home with shores and it's wonderful!!!
My best friend I am thinking of said to me something that confuses the sh*t out of me. We were talking about his dog and I said, "I mean, he's pretty special." Then he looked away and said, "You're pretty special too." quickly fusses with his hat then the conversation just kept going. It's driving me crazy, maybe friends just say that sometimes and I'm just interpreting it as a flirt because I'm crushing? Oh man, it's been four years, two of which we worked together at first. How am I just starting to get to know him? Sigh. He left for work on the ocean for 5 months so there was a long period of no contact last year, than a month after he got home he was talking about marrying this on and off fling he had since he was a teen. I called him out on what he said before he left around a campfire, but mentioned it didn't matter now anyway because he was in love and getting married. (They've called it off since.) I asked him why he would say that because it was weird. He took his time then said, "well I guess I was just saying what I was thinking at the time. Isn't that what everyone does?" Pssh! We talk everyday over text all day, and there are lots of signs but I just can't get convinced.
True. A guy that liked me was chatting with me and someone else in the parking lot. He kept starting his car and then turning it off cuz he didn't want to leave but he had to get going. Pretty sure he did this for 30 minutes or so. We dated for a couple years and then I broke up with him. Wish I hadn't dated a coworker, but he started IMing me and coming by my desk a lot. He also had a party and invited me... took pics with each person at the party just so he could get a pic with me (he told me after we started dating).
He said "sorry what can you please repeat again😂" like after explaining something serious business endeavour for 10 minute🙈💕 after giving a total disoriented vibes
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So I'm pretty sure that not a single man has truly liked me at this point. Time for some self love instead!!!
I hear you, Rebecca! I feel the same. 💔
That’s very likely not true.
Ditto!
Literally
girl, same
Current bf before we started dating, literally stumbled out the door backwards because he was too busy staring at me to see the door behind him. That’s when I realized he was into me. I’m kind of dense...
Aaaaw how cute
This is so cute ❤️
bruh thats so cute 🥺🥺🥺
Thank you for making me laugh lol.
This is adorable and it made me laugh. Thank you it made my day. 😂😂😂🥺🥺🥺🥺❤️
Me watching this and realizing I flirt like a nice guy interested in a woman 🙃
Lmfao same!
👁👄👁 yea
Me too!
Same ;-;
😅😅😅
It's the face he makes when he's pretending to be the non-interested guy. 😂
LMFAOO
It literally kills me 😂😂
I love it! It is so funny.
Pleaseeeee I’m cryingggggg
He is good .. I have to subscribe !! Lol
A lot of these "he's just being nice" sounds like the guy I recently dated. We dated for almost a month. He also hardly texted me first. The final straw was when just last week he canceled a date for no reason. I let him know I wasn't happy about but he just brushed it off. I decided to do the lean back approach to see if he would reschedule. Nope. Haven't heard from him since. I'd much rather he flat out told me he was not interested in dating me anymore instead of leading me on.
He is telling you by his actions.
Like the old saying " It's better to rip the bandaid off fast, than peel it off slowly".
He is a thoughtless time-waster who has zero regard for you. You have the proof in his actions. Jayne t, you’re right.
I hate that flakey behavior but at least you can disengage from the confusion early on. I hope that you get a guy who appreciates you and knows what he wants.😊
I wonder if a lot of guys assume doing a sudden disappearing act is somehow kinder than flat out getting it over with. Or perhaps they like to leave it so that they have spare cards to pull out later. The kinder, more generous thing to do is the right thing; which is being gently honest and direct. Heard some guys say they would rather a girl just fades them out. I believe we may be different in that way
I see alot of women chasing men, like literally throwing themselves at em and ignoring all the "I don't want you signs." In my experience...when a man wants you he will in most cases make it known. They're wired that way. Ladies stop chasing then you won't have to guess if he likes u
exactly
Well said.
I mean, that's kind of true... but there are shy and very reserved guys, too. They generally try to pretend they don't like you because they are afraid of being rejected.
@@whatthereview369 Nah, at some point he has to step up. Don´t give these guys excuses. Plus, no girl deserve to be waiting for months for a guy deciding to man up and make the moves. We deserve the best always.
The sad news is that at 37 after several, committed relationships, I can confidently say no one ever LIKED me. They didn’t respect me, either, so I’m not surprised.
Do you like yourself?? That's the question
@@Nokss_20 eh I'm a human, I'm alright. I don't have a self-esteem problem. I'm good in my own company, but navigating life together with someone would be nice. It's a different experience/process for the brain/heart, whatever. It's hard to understand why no one likes me, maybe there's a reason, maybe there isn't, but it's not a riddle I can solve by myself, you know? If I have blindspots, then by definition I won't see what they are.
I'm 43 same for me too
I hope your ok❤
I absolutely LOVE the change in the tone of your voice when "He's just being nice to you." 😄 I also mention it in Part 1.
The signs Ive taken note of and not sure of are:
1) He talks to everyone very easily but hesitates when it comes to me. So I had to approach.
2) Direct eye contact.
3)Statue-like while sitting.
He did all this at a time.
Yess!!! I thought I was the only one.
No, he is not into you
He really did offer to fix something on my car and also offered to help me cut the trees in my backyard 😂😂
Me too. But it stopped
Me too. Wanted to come and watch a race I was involved in, even set my computer up for me to be able to have multiple screens, volunteered to rescreen my door as well as other stuff but when race day came, he asked what I was doing that day :). Reminded him of my race. His comment, "forgot you have your race today!". That's it. No apology, offer of coming another day to fix stuff...don't think I'm being overly demanding but yeah...like the above comment, "the trash took itself out" :)))
@@carrielegg5480 > < doesnt it usually
He offered me a ride back home (which I said yes to) then asked me questions about what I like and laughed at my cheesy jokes. He remembered little things I totally forgot I told him about and I always catch him looking. And when I catch him he smiles so big. Then I mentioned that my apron was loose (we’re servers) he quickly offered to tie it for me and I told him that tight was good but did it lightly to not hurt me. I almost turned around, got down on one knee and proposed. I complimented his hair and he said thank you while blushing and always offers to help me out with tasks at work. He includes me in his decisions and goes with whatever I say. He’s so sweet and such a gentleman
@@keziahcadena2001 That’s so cute
The way you make your videos and talk to your audience is a masterpiece!! I love all of your films - short and with the most important info!
Super entertaining and funny, great pace too!
“Do you like bearded dragons or any similar type of reptile?” LMAO 🤣
He mirrors ur body language
2.he pretends he cant hear u
3.he will.minized any sorrounding distractiions
4.he ask questions
5.he recalls unimportant things u told him
6.hell dig common interest u share
7.hell have trouble ending d conversation
8.hell find reasons to see u
9.he constanstly be escalating an interaction
10.hell have his game face on.
Is it just me or does his “just being nice” guy remind anyone else of Ryan Reynolds? I can’t un-see it now 🤣
It seriously reminds me of the Ryan Reynolds movie “Just Friends”
I agree!!
I have a coworker who once turned me down and stood me up for a coffee date. He is clearly not interested, yet always open up to me about his life, laughs at all my jokes, and holds interesting yet intelligent conversations with me. Either he is lying, or I'm the best therapist ever.
He is using you instead of paying a therapist. Stop giving him therapy for free.
I always laugh when you say, 'A guy who's just being nice to you...' The vid effect is absolutely effective! 😂
I can’t stop laughing
Let's just appreciate seriousness and incredible acting skills !! He is so funny omg
When the guy you like keeps writing you back! 😍😍
And later discover that he has no feelings for you and has a girlfriend. Don’t do it unless he show interest. I learn my lesson. So embarrassing 💯
Welp... now I know my man has a crush on another girl cause he behaves like this when she’s in the room 🤦♀️
Haha ask him
I’m sorry girl.
Oh…
update??
@@lovettdeleted lollll we have been through so much since this. Currently broken up but I’m tryna get him back 🥰
I started liking him after I caught him glancing at me a lot while I was leaving the place where our co-op meets. Now I think he's just a nice guy which is why I like him. Now I like him and idk if he likes me back and idk what to do!!!
The black and white sections are my favorite 😂 He always cracks me up, and thanks for the great advice, this was really helpful!
Every time I watch him I’m reminded of the first “does he like you...” video. Remember the one where he said if a guy’s eye brows are constantly up when he’s talking? Yeah, I think Ryan has a crush on us.
Yo, my guy friend’s eyebrows are like ✌️👆👆 when I’m talking to him.
I remember on St. Patty’s Day my crush was being so nice and protective of me it was adorable 🥰
He’s a nice guy in general but the things he did made me question his intentions with me. He was being playful with me by cracking jokes, being touchy feely, curious about my long term career goals, he gave me his jacket and hat to keep warm (since it was a bit chilly at the bar), he told he wanted to finish a convo with me before heading off to talk with his other friends, he remembers small details about me, he asked me if there was anyone at the bar that I had my eye on, he was worried about how I was gonna get home and even wanted to contact my brother to make sure I got home safe, and a couple of his friends were telling him “you better go take care of your friend” to make sure I got to my cab safely.
Nooo, It's paddy, what are you doing? hahaha. As an Irish person that made me cry :p
Gurl, he like likes you!
Ah so cute
Ooo thank you thank you! Perfect timing cause the guy I’m interested in is very kind and I’d like to tell the difference 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Don't give up just because you think he's being nice to you...
Sometimes ( as with my boyfriend now) it becomes so much more! ❤️❤️❤️
@@cherylthompson2731 I cannot tell you how refreshing it is to read your comment. Most people will be like, "you deserve better, girl" or "forget him and move on."
People can be so quick to judge. I understand everyone situation are different and we all deserve a good quality guy, but sometimes it doesn't hurt just be friendly back and give a second chance. Mostly, you let things run it course. If it meant to be, then he will come around.
@@elissamiller8374 thank you. As with my boyfriend, he really is a nice guy! Now? He's the love of my life! All videos aren't 💯 accurate. You have to have a feel for a person."
Sometimes have financial, divorce problems..ask him.dont wait. Many dont know to date, vast majority of people are immature.
any updates?
For me one thing that comes up to mind is when guys try painfully to impress you with any kinds of weird stuffs.
I love your sense of humor so much 🤣🤣 And your advice is very spot-on!
When they stare at you intensively and hold it for longer than 3 seconds continuously but then say they're not attracted to you?
Agh yeah
You wouldn't believe the extents to which people will lie to themselves regarding their feelings... :D I've had this thing with a guy who constantly paid me compliments on everything and anything, enveloped me in a hug on a park bench to keep me warm, face glued to my neck, took me home, let me nap in his bed, fell asleep next to me, holding me, mock-fought me and kissed my neck and basically was the person I saw and texted with the most for almost half a year...we then went separate ways when he said there's external circumstances for which he can't be in a relationship with me. We had two more phases of intense interaction since, and every time we distanced ourselves on purpose because things were always on the brink of getting steamy, on top of us talking about a million vulnerable things. And he still tells me I'm a friend :)
I did draw my boundary firmly recently and won't be seeing him anymore. This might work for other people, but I'm just not built to feel good watching other people who did, in a few extra vulnerable moments, admit to being attracted to me, only deny and actively suppress wonderful, deep feelings they have for me. I'm definitely not content with this when I like this human a lot and can well imagine a long-term partnership.
haha he did all of this and still ghosted me after 2months dating 😂😂 gurls stay independent and dont date if u dont want to waste time 😂
The escalating the interaction can be a bit too much for me. Like sometimes, a guy is trying to move too quickly and in my head, I'm like this is too intense. I think there's a nice middle ground where someone isn't trying to move things from 0 to 100 too quickly
If you’re not comfortable with the pace, then it is too intense. The more you set your own boundaries the more comfortable you’ll feel about it. You set the pace for You. Don’t let anyone, any person, trend, or social media platform tell you otherwise. Own it.
Yeah, I talked to a friend about this. She said oftentimes the woman has to set the pace. If he's texting too much, let him know you prefer to get to know each other in person... If he's asking to see you again quickly, schedule something on a timeline you're comfortable with... if he wants to spend all day with you, set clear expectations about how much time you have upfront.
He remembered my birthday and showed up at the rink (I'm a skater) when he knew I would be there. He HATES that rink! He lives pretty far from it too. None of my other friends who were there knew it was my birthday until I told them. Unfortunately.... even though we used to text a lot, he hasn't in weeks! He used to like me and showed A LOT of those signs back then.
So this is about a work colleague. He is super bubbly and laughs all the time with EVERYONE so it's really hard to tell if he likes me. The first time we met he was asking me a lot of personalish questions, like what my hobbies were, where I lived, who I lived with, and we really had some great conversations. I was super into him, so I made lots of comments about how well he was performing at his job on purpose to boost his ego, and after I did this he started trying to show off a bit by showing me all the codes he remembered and how many boxes he could lift etc. I acted really impressed even though I wasn't really lol. I just wanted to make him feel good about himself to hopefully boost his interest in me. At first I thought it worked, but then I noticed he wasn't initiating conversations with me. It was mostly me initiating the conversations. So, I stopped trying to talk to him and started talking to other coworkers and laughing with them and genuinely having fun. I was convinced he was just being nice so I moved on. BUT THEN he started coming up to me more, and I notice everytime he talks to me he gets REALLY really close. Like, I was at a computer and he checked something on it and came way closer than was necessary. Then, a day later, he was standing unneccesarily close to me again and he looked at me and said how nice I smelled and asked what I was wearing. I told him he smelled really good too. The other day he said bye to me twice when he left work. He said it once as he was going to the back to get his stuff, and then again as he was walking out the doors. I don't ever hear him say bye specifically to others like that. And, I noticed on days that we are scheduled together he dresses really really nice. Whereas, there have been times I've come in on overtime and he is always wearing something more frumpy. I really can't tell. I keep going back and forth between thinking he likes me and thinking he is just a friendly and nice person. Oh and I forgot to mention that our forearms touched once because he was standing so close but he didn't move away. I'm trying to be more obvious but I don't want to creep him out if I'm totally misreading everything.
Im literally in the exact same situation now lol! What happened in the end???
@@eleanordavies9815 It was a nightmare LOL. He turned out to be a very unhealed person; something called a Dismissive Avoidant. But through his terrible behaviour I realized that I was very unhealed too because I was putting up with his crap. So I've been working on my self-esteem and people pleasing tendencies and creating strong boundaries so that I can make room for the right person. The right person won't make me doubt for a second whether or not they like me. I hope your situation works out better than mine!
Do you BREATHE? YES?
OMG THAT'S INCREDIBLE, ME TOOO! That s crazy
I realize when watching this that i get intimidated by the ”guy who likes you behaviour” and pull away. And prefer the ”just being nice” and is more likely to feel attracted if a guy don’t suffocate me with his constant precence and wanting me to give him attention, i like space especially in the begining when i not sure how i feel. Guess this is a default that leads me to fancy the guys who isn’t interested..
Your version of the guy who's just being nice is making me wheeze 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The 'guy who's just being nice' the monotone reactions really cracked me up😂😂 BUT, I hope this isn't what I get someday nonetheless, I want the first reactions🥰❤
I just had to next a man on a dating site who is writing 2000+ word messages to me but is not interested in meeting. So frustrating.
Dating sites are just awful! At this point I don't take any man on them seriously which is so sad 😞
Ugh hate that!
Personal my dear you are wasting your time, the right guy is out there for you, just have patience
Red flag. If someone doesn’t want to meet you what in the world is he up to? I’m sure not gonna stick around to find out.
this is so funny to me bc one of my pet peeves is when a guy mirrors my body language, I have trouble maintaining long conversations and especially deep conversations with men and I will instinctively refuse invitations to do things outside of work 🙃 so I see why I’m single
My guy friend likes to mirror my body language and leans in. He lights up everytime he sees me.
Continuous eye contact, telling me he's proud I killed my first spider but then handshake goodbye...
LMAO.. Ryan you hit the nail on the head and I LOVE the voices and humour! Best advice vid yet!!!!
This video came at the absolute perfect time for me. Thank you!!
Omgosh great advice and entertainment you crack me up. 😂 You're facial expressions reminds me of some of the expressions of men I dated. Priceless.
I like honesty. I feel worse if a guy is just pretending and I can tell if he's just faking it and is just being polite. I don't like that. He needs to just be real.
He likes me, thank you Ryan! 💙
Mannn, number two was my primary technique during high school and I used it over and over again with my crush because I couldn't think of anything else.
I think my crush liked me back, but I also think they got (understandably) frustrated with me not seeming to hear them and moved on.
All's well that ends well, happily married now. Thankfully I didn't overkill technique number two when I met my spouse 😂
The way he winked at me today when I mentioned letting him know I would be in touch about the next day he could borrow my truck to take a load to the dump together again. Lol that wink kills me everytime I think about it..
I was at a group dinner with a bunch of people and the guy sitting next to me reached over and gave me a hug from the side with his arms around me like cupping my back. It definitely felt like more than a friend thing
This was so fun hahaha the voice changes and weird examples🤣🤣
That was enlightening 😊 I met new people at a picnic on the weekend. The two guys were paying a lot of interest to one of the women, who tried to dominate the conversation. When we all went for a walk, I had the impression that one of the guys started psying me more attention, told me about his background etc. When we got back, he mirrored what I was doing etc. Am I imagining that he's interested in me?
I really liked the black and white videos, so much fun. By the way I think number 8 and 9 are really important. I had a guy who was just texting or chatting and never talked about seeing in public or even calling on the phone, so I took Ryan's advise and said: "NEXT". :-)
The first time I see your channel and I already love it because you are so funny in an original way 😂
Dating is so hard so Thankyou Ryan!! This helps so so much!!
I mean, I already knew, but both your videos confirmed that guys are just nice to me.
I like you Ryan. Your edits are fantastic. I like the contrast in the way you presented nice vs interested. Very clear understanding I have now. Thank you..
@BehatiLife scammer
Ending interaction is a huge situation I am going through. He also will leave conversations online if there’s a group of us but if it’s him and I... he will stay up for like another 30-40 mins... and he works super early the next day. 😊
This was a great follow up. Thank you!
I have had a guy start to stutter in front of me the second he saw me and couldn’t stop so he had to leave. Idk I guess I make people really nervous. 🤷♀️🤷♀️
🤣You are so funny! It's no wonder you have such a big following. Thanks for always making us laugh and for the great advise. Its much appreciated. 👍
Can you do more videos about long distant dating? Would love more of it! Especially if you can’t see them until the pandemic is basically over 😭 not sure if he likes me just through video chats/texts
You're right Ryan he does that like almost every time we meet up,he's like I can't hear you the music is loud or it's noisy,but I believed I was audible enough and didn't really check it out till now,thanks
I met my coworker for the 1st time at a happy hour. He talked to me the whole night(even though there were 15 others at the HH). He asked me millions of questions about myself... We stayed after at my car when everyone left got an additional hour and he hugged me goodbye and he hasn't said one word to me since. We work remote but geesh I was for sure there was a vibe. 😭😭 he was so handsome he really caught me off guard.
The guy I like is all over the place. One minute, he acts like he always does with me, and then the next, I find him staring at me from across the room, and quickly looking away when I look in his direction. He always talks to me and keeps eye contact all the time, but we never get a chance to have real conversations. We're always close to each other, and I find that just about every time we hang out, we brush shoulders or hands or our feet touch. In general, he's just a super friendly person, and he doesn't do any of this with anyone else but, it's impossible to tell what he thinks of me, even one of my friends who's known him for longer can't tell either.
Just a nice guy
LITERALLY MY SITUATION. i’m starting to sadly think this guy just sees me as a coworker and he’s a super friendly person. im not gonna chase anymore and just do me lol damn @annasophiastewart2083. it’s so confusing
Well, my guy friend and I were hanging out and he asked me "what would my ideal date look like". I was quite taken off guard when he asked me.
My coworker does #2 all the time and it’s not even loud in the room 😂😂😂
Today, I made plans in a group chat directed at one specific person. Technically, neither of us are allowed to date yet, but whenever we see each other, it’s like the entire world is blocked out
lmao i had a guy friend who i used to like; who would pee when we were on the phone and me who had low self esteem back then felt so “honoured” and thought it was cuz he was so comfy w me, that i never noticed the disrespect ✌🏼
Years ago there was man who just kept laughing every time he was near me. My friends kept telling me that he was nice and I should give him a chance, but I just thought he was creepy.
Love the commentary examples in grey , just cracks me up 😂😂. Very animated an helpful too!
Okay. Thanks. He doesn't like me. It's time to cry and then slowly move on. Someday
So, I have a guy, who does majority of everything you said in part 1 and part 2 with me.... we we're working together this past summer which is how we connected. He compliments me on being the funniest person he's ever met, and months later out of the blue sat beside me and just said "I can't wait to see you win an Oscar one day and I'll be in the audience cheering you on and when we first chatted months prior he asked me about my passions and dreams and knew what they we're but found out through someone else and this was the same convo that allowed us to be vulnerable with each other and talk about our fears, ambitions which was so nice and one of his buddies also told me that he said, "I was his favourite new person in the job we were doing" after a week of meeting me and yet we never spoke (so I guess he was just watching me from afar.....). He's insanely sexual with me and has even initiated interlocking his hands with mine on a night out; kissed the back of my hand when we we're at the bar and then at a few parties; kissed me on the forehead and then kissed my friend on the forehead beside me. I'm a pretty sensual dancer and I just love a fun time on the dance floor and so he'll try and find me every night we go out and watches my body, tells me that he loves me and adores me; but the catch is that he was in an open relationship and idk the status of them now.... but he also makes me think he doesn't like me cuz I've tried to be like; well lets watch a movie and he'll pause and then be like nah I'm going to bed, or sometimes when he catches himself being flirty and then he retreats. He also leaves me on read sometimes if texting and has told me he's bad at texting.... I also don't know their status of relationship after we wrapped up working so I'm more just friendly than anything with him or keep a distance but his actions have me confused as I did start to develop feelings.
Help a sister out.
Your presentation is so fun!!
“If you ever find a guy talking to himself” lmao 😂
Part 3 please 😄 🙌🙌 love your videos ❤️
Yaay I just found your first one earlier, so glad there is already a part two
The guy I’m talking to does at least 4 of the signs you talked about; He’ll have trouble ending the interaction, he remembers unimportant things I told you, he constantly moves the interaction to the next level. I haven’t had a guy do that so it feels really good when he moves the interaction at a steady pace. Thanks for part 2
he was angry all day but when he noticed me waving he smiled and acted like nothing was wrong
Why am I watching this? lol but this is hilarious!! Takes me back before i was married the signs were obvious! You just know when a guy likes you!
I would love to know if this is a sign. So the guy I like, we hung out in a group setting with mutual friends once, now we've been hanging out every weekend for the past month. There's been two times we got together just us two to get food. One of those times when we were packing up our leftovers at the Indian restaurant, he just started filling up my box for me. It just felt like something! Nobody's ever done that for me as a friend, and it felt like he was showing a sign he wanted to take care of me. The second time was this past weekend. We were habging out with a group of friends and I asked him if he wanted to get some dinner beforehand and he was like, "That's a great idea! I'm so hungry. How about 7 at this great mexican restaurant?" And it was so nice. I was waiting in the parking lot. Texted him to text me when he got there, and instead he called me when he got there! He chose a table away from other people and it was wonderful. It feels like when we go out together we're on dates just energy wise and i wish they were. I wonder if he feels it too! Would be interested to hear your opinion :)
Very entertaining and not depressing even if I saw a lot of signs that my crush is just being polite to me
🤣 the guy with the funky voice has me cracking up… do u like cherries? No?… 🤣🤣🤣
I'm going to meet a guy from online for the first time and he seems very polite with how he text. It was kinda refreshing but still have my guard up
Omg im so happy to see a part 2 of this! Thank you so much. I am all ears because I have a nice looking guy i hope to date.
Thank you for making straightforward and short videos! 🙏🏻 much easier to watch and not boring
Lmfao me and 2 other coworkers mirror each other all the time when we talk in a triangle. It's just funny to notice, I'm sure it means nothing romantic but it's so funny to see us all eventually do the same thing.
Ok, but how do we know if they like us in a friend way or romantic way?
Not all men are the same. My boyfriend ( my then friend) was very shy and he did a lot of these things that would be interpreted as just wanting to be friends. But mirroring? That is a sign that he is in love with you!
Talking to himself?!
💯 accurate!! He likes the hell out of you and it's got a lot on his plate. but not too much that he doesn't want to be with you all the time.❤️❤️❤️
There’s definitely a diverse range to the behaviors you’ll see. These signs are probably for the majority to reach the most amount of people, but what you had was a guy who was a friend first and respectful of you and your boundaries. Those are the people I love to hangout with and know because they aren’t in the relationship just for personal gain, they see you as a person to respect.
Had a few of these in my last relationship but it was all false to win me over and manipulate me. The attention and mirroring were over the top towards being a bit odd.
A guy I work with makes good conversation but he has a partner, he makes it like a mission to have a in-depth chat
At first I was confused on the distracted part but when he explained the last part makes sense, because my partner doesn’t like showing off his video game skills especially one of his favorites and I think that pretty cute and cool
Edit: Forgot to say he shows me when he plays or plays when I’m talking to him and he talks to me and it’s fun on both parts in my opinion
This is soooo helpful. Thank you so much
A boy who I have class with everyday is teasing me about the fact that I love golf. He also is always teasing me about how my stepdad is a teacher. But for some reason, even tho we’ve had sit next to each other everyday for about 6 weeks, he asked me what my name was like 3 days ago. He’s also always asking me to help him with his work and he is always saying something to me whether it’s how much he hates the teacher, how great he is at football, how horrible he is at school, or asking me what time it is (5 times during one class)
My crush went out of his way to open a door for me then went back to what he was doing (which was the opposite way of where I was going). He was also the first one to compliment my hair when I wore it differently, and when I got my hair cut he complimented it, then a few minutes later he said "I like your hair even more the more I look at it." He's always making dumb jokes around me, and whenever he sees me he says my name like "[name]~~". I don't know if he's just being nice because he's nice to everyone.
I was sick and the guy texted me saying: is there something I can do to make you feel better, beautiful” 🤷🏻♀️
I love the grey parts hahahah loved them before, love them here
This guy saw me doing math problems on my computer while I was sitting down.Then he just when up to me and started helping me with math when I didn't need the help and he go so so so close to me and looked at my lips.
well there is somethings that can make a guy be absent or unfocused sometimes like adhd and then they really can't help themselfs my boyfriend and i have been together since the beginning of june and he gets as happy as i get everytime we find something we have in common (and it's alot) and he was the first who took the step of introdusing me to his mother and almost his whole family and he just keeps showing commitment to me and helping me at home with shores and it's wonderful!!!
Omg, Ryan, I always laugh to tears when watching your videos 😂😂😂 thanks for sharing useful info in such a funny manner!!
My best friend I am thinking of said to me something that confuses the sh*t out of me. We were talking about his dog and I said, "I mean, he's pretty special." Then he looked away and said, "You're pretty special too." quickly fusses with his hat then the conversation just kept going. It's driving me crazy, maybe friends just say that sometimes and I'm just interpreting it as a flirt because I'm crushing? Oh man, it's been four years, two of which we worked together at first. How am I just starting to get to know him? Sigh.
He left for work on the ocean for 5 months so there was a long period of no contact last year, than a month after he got home he was talking about marrying this on and off fling he had since he was a teen.
I called him out on what he said before he left around a campfire, but mentioned it didn't matter now anyway because he was in love and getting married. (They've called it off since.) I asked him why he would say that because it was weird. He took his time then said, "well I guess I was just saying what I was thinking at the time. Isn't that what everyone does?" Pssh!
We talk everyday over text all day, and there are lots of signs but I just can't get convinced.
True. A guy that liked me was chatting with me and someone else in the parking lot. He kept starting his car and then turning it off cuz he didn't want to leave but he had to get going. Pretty sure he did this for 30 minutes or so. We dated for a couple years and then I broke up with him.
Wish I hadn't dated a coworker, but he started IMing me and coming by my desk a lot. He also had a party and invited me... took pics with each person at the party just so he could get a pic with me (he told me after we started dating).
He said "sorry what can you please repeat again😂" like after explaining something serious business endeavour for 10 minute🙈💕 after giving a total disoriented vibes