Hi I have a question,yesterday I was running to the bathroom and my crush popped out of no where in the corner and I bumped into his chest and stared at his chest and started screaming(cuz he is taller then me)I’m so embarrassed,what will he think of me now😭😭
1. Transactual investment (time, effort, energy). Women, be more elusive so he can invest in you. 2. Feelings with substance. 3. If you can hang out without any kind of sex and still have a good time. 4. Long term decision making/investment. Going from a Me to a We mindset. 5. Consistency. Nothing matters if he’s not consistent.
I usually meet men that are saying "I'm in love" after 2-3 days of texting and then disappear for a week or more. Saying "I love you" while you are just getting to know each other is the biggest red flag, that means he wants something from you. Never trust that man.
I believe that is not true. I was like that when I was 20. These people are not emotionally mature but do not assume they are lying or that they want just sex. That is very wrong. They feel a strong emotion which probably should be properly named infatuation. Guys when they really like a girl think about how a relationship with her would be.
@@flyandshy00 Either way, I don't really care about who you will trust. I just don't believe what you say is true. Men who say 'I love you' too quickly are likely emotionally immature but I believe that most often they feel something that they consider 'love', whatever that is. My experience is that when you don't feel like that the motivation to pursue goes to zero. (Pursuing does not work on the other hand either way).
📝 Summary | See 60% Of These And You'll Soon Become His Girlfriend: 1. Transactional investment - resource exchange (time, energy, effort etc.) 2. Feelings with substance (there has to be transition, vulnerability, depth; he should be consistently investing more long-term) 3. Sex is just an icing on the cake. (He can hang with you even without) 4. Long-term decision making (He plans, talks about the future, lets you meet family & friends or mentions you to them) 5. Consistency (He's consistent with sustainable and genuine actions.)
@@seraphlazuli6251 it's more about himself than you. The reasons don't have to do with us at all. Humans act according to what they think is best for them. In the meantime, use the separation period to live your best life & chase your dreams!
MsMissheartless I don’t believe that someone who really likes you would get bored if he is showing these signs. If he doesn’t put effort into your relationship then I don’t think there was much of one to begin with. As sad as it is. He may have been using you as a rebound to get over a different person. Just a thought. Which isn’t good and you shouldn’t want to be with a guy who does that to begin with.
If you are dealing with a narcissist. They are real good about being very charming and loving at the beginning. Until they feel as though they actually got you. Once they have you they could care less.
Unless he’s a narcissist or controlling. They all play nice and put off the sex in the beginning to get you hooked. Then they treat u like crap. Some play nice to destroy women.
I’ve been married for almost 16 yrs and yet watching this lol....interesting knowledge....I remember prior to being with my husband, I have so many bfs (i know it was bad but damn I enjoyed it) and men chasing me bc I don’t chase men. I have a great life and did my thing where men must make me the center of his life. But with the right person, you really don’t need any dramas, it will be easy....even if you have big obstacles he will make it seems easy for you.....that’s when I said yes to my current husband....
@@sjordan7085 I live in the present moment everything is in the current. I’m not a divorcee I’m still with my husband. Actually the lockdown forced both of us to work from home and it has been a blessing for us, my husband is the best support system and I am truly grateful for him.
@@BK-tp6jf I know, right? Her comment is all any woman needs to hear. Honestly. There’s so much bullcrap videos about ‘when a guy does this..’’. Blah blah blah. If he and you aren’t jiving, nothing is happening, he’s not providing for you, …forget about him! Don’t ever invest (ahem! sex!) in a guy until you know he and you have something very real. And that means there will be no questions, you’ll be at peace. You have absolute trust in him because he’s never shown you bullshit and always brings good to you, with actual love (love is patient, love is kind..1 Corinthians 13-4). Too many women desperate and will eat bullshit. That’s the level of relation it will stay because that’s the true level of your relationship: bullshit.
This is interesting, I met my bf and told him I didn’t want anything serious from the start and within 3 weeks he asked me to be his gf! I said no, so we waited a bit longer until I was ready weeks later. He came on super strong in the start, but it all worked out & we’ve been together for 5 months now :))
A lot of girls are saying these guys fall in love in the first couple days then dip...just because he says it doesn't mean he means it, if a guy says that I read it as lust not love. Its concerning to see so many kind ladies get hurt from early falsehoods.
Thanks to your videos ,I've made the man I want, work. 😂hes been consistent for the past 2 months,everyday communication. We see each other more often. I'm still not putting out until I see more resources but so far, its going good.
This was really helpful. New guy and I are past the 8 date mark, but he shows all these signs. I have really bad relationship anxiety so sometimes I have to step back and breathe before I get obsessive.
Don’t be taken for granted. Do this by taking your worth and shine! Glowup blowup! Love you first and it will show. Allow him to be. And allow yourself to be. Do not force what the universe will provide. Just show up as authentic and be you❤️
Realistic. 👍 Most women tell me the same if a guy likes you he would talk more, ask more questions, take you on dates etc etc. Which makes me anxious and negative. But as to what I see all the signs are clear. This guy from tinder gives me the exact signs based on this video so I can't doubt it to be a red flag. I'm fine with slow that's me. I value dignity and respect if not for other types of women out there. "Slow and Steady wins the Race" ☺💪
Great advice! You nailed it! Instead of looking to move forward, start building or growing roots and groundedness. Thats gold, now i know where we women go wrong. Better idea how to correct that. Tq so much for the Masculine Wisdom, Elliott! 💖👍
I've had a man for years in love with me. He is amazing he makes himself too available ladies same thing don't make yourself too available. The one I left spent money on me he wasn't nothing
I got a fair number of these but in the end I was still left feeling like I was invisible and that I might as well have been just another name on a list.
Good relationships are like the job you go to daily. You invest your time and effert and you get paid. You both work on it nonstop forever or it doesent work. If your already tierd from your job that you have to do to support yourself. Stay single because another job is gonna exhaust you and there's no guarantees.
1:12 I love how he makes it clear that its ultimately up to the man to commit no matter what..placing all responsibility o a man! you can do so much, but if a guy is not the commitment type but a fuckboy..your work will blow up on you!!
Yes I think this is accurate. I don’t think anything is wrong with incorporating sex if everything else is going well. I look like that as icing on the cake. The emotional connection is what is the most important. But I guess I do sometimes wonder about the time span of things. Two months of talking to the dude I’m really feeling him and He hasn’t really planned anything else. He’s very go with the flow, which is fine to a certain extent. I like how he spaces dates out because we text each other all the time, but I feel like I put him in the category of a guy I would marry rather than not taking serious. I’m Just trying to go with the flow. But I know what i want, and it’s him.
Elliot, thanks for the video. I've been seeing someone who I'm falling in love with for 2 months and a half. We've always talked about not wanting a "relationship" at least not for the moment, but we act like we're in a committed, mono, relationship. All those 5 factores exist. (not the family because they live on the other side of the world) and even with all these evidences he doesn't talk about feelings. His actions do though. But it drives me crazy... He says sometimes he's afraid that he lost his ability to "feel" but I can't believe that because he's extremely sweet, caring, cuddly, etc... It's an enigma...
K, so think I've been played and am kicking myself because I thought I had a good judgment in people.... He is recently divorced and even said that he isn't looking for anything.....then why the heck did he continue texting me everyday, (even drove me home from work, bought me things, talked about deep things) then last week he just went cold! I seriously don't think I'll ever believe any other guy ever again.... :(
Sound advice. Unfortunately men will do and almost say anything including spending $$$ on a woman. When she becomes "boring" he moves along to the next. So, how do we know if he's sincere? The fact is we don't. No offense but it's more complex than explained here. Anyway, I still like your videos. 😎👍
Nothing is guaranteed like the other person said below. It’s called giving trust to someone and they should be giving that trust back. Cause they don’t know if you’ll get bored either. It’s called a relationship for a reason cause you both have to invest and give trust into each other. Srry if that sounds a bit harsh but that’s the truth. That is why love/liking someone is crazy.
Boredom is also not an excuse. There's a point in love in which its all about work and keeping emotions high. If someone starts getting bored then should be time to go to your partner and talk about that and see if there's a way to work on that, be a bit creative and try to solve things out. It's very unfair your partner doesn't really say anything until it's all dead and there's no way back. Long lasting relationships are a decision to work it up together. It doesn't just maintain it self.
How does a relationship become boring? ? I’m really confused on that. If they’re doing everything right& they have a connection from the start, how does Boredom even ruin a genuine connection in a relationship ? Unless there was no genuine connection to being with.
I have 90% of those things going on Between us....but he claims me as best friend....he is very confusing 😅😅😅....keep us in your prayer because i like him Pretty much...
these can all be false alarms, relationships grow over time. these signs could happen in days. the man can think he is in love for a few days and then get bored at the thought of you. a real lover will take time to fall for you. my boyfriend was my best friend for two years before we got together, and it makes us a stronger couple because of the bond that we built in time. the way you know it’s real isn’t by some signs it’s by the time that they try to spend with you whenever they can. my boyfriend talked to me every day for hours on end for all those two years just growing our relationship and it worked
Going on 5 mons in my second relationship after leaving my ex husband I can say I’m very happy today and watching lots of your videos Elliot ...thank you your advice is awesome
I come to see if he really wants it. I confess with my friend that I like him. And we are trying it out to see if we can be a couple. Everything you mentioned here is there:) consistency is one of his best qualities!
So would you say a guy that asks you to be his girlfriend after the second date isn’t a relationship kinda guy? We have only kissed I wouldn’t even say we have made out yet. We are both old fashioned but I won’t lie second date and he asks me to be his gf is shocking not used to that. Our txt is constant but, that’s about 15 txt back and forth throughout the day, not much talking
He was a big con man. I found out after 18 months. He was good at it pretending everything. I caught him in a lie where I already knew the truth and he told a big lie. I didn't text him back. Now he's just nothing to me.
1.) Transactual investment - provide resources: time, energy, effort - invest in you to see where he stands. Women: Be elusive, be mysterious. Put barriers. 2.) Feelings with substance. Invest more, depth, trust, loyalty, consistency, build the roots aka "slower pace" for long-term. 3.) Is not focused on sex. 4.) Long-term decision making - you're included in his decisions. Meeting friends and family, leaving things in your place 5.) Consistency - meeting up on a regular basis (once or twice a week) or communicating with you with consistency
I don't even know where mines is standing at anymore; quite confusing. Not like my current partner ever did introduce me to his parents but by accident or coincidence. Yet his parents doesn't care that there's a girl he brought in.
Started out listening knowing I’m messing with someone who doesn’t do none of these things and after listening I’m like he really is investing into me slowly interesting 🤔 from not meeting his friends all that much a 2 yrs ago to meeting his mom and sister n her friend n there sons last year and his best friend to now meeting his brother by doing his brother hair n his hair and everything.. I guess that’s a damn great sign .. we don’t talk or text everyday but when we get together we exchange how we been and we catch up .. I’d wished we go out more instead of our normal routine but that’s changing this year .. he is emotionally depth because when I ghosted him he tracked me down it was a month n some change cause I thought he wants nothing to do with me no relationship no nothing.. well when we saw each other the day after thanksgiving we made up n it got better between us n though it’s still slow
anime and sushi? And you understand human psychology and relationships? Next level faith in you 😂 you’re like my best friends. It’s cool to get advice from someone who has qualities like your friends.
Question? What if a guy flirts with you every time he sees me. Then says to me "it's ok for a woman to ask a guy out" while having a huge smile on his face? Would that be the time to just relax and ask? It is it better to wait and keep him wondering.
Denise Bermudes he would ask you out if he liked you. It’s like a drive. The fact that he is wanting you to ask is some kind of game playing garbage. Maybe even to say later “oh she was after me, not the other way around.” I would avoid this.
No if he's brave enough to say that, he's brave enough to do it himself..hes playin a game. Just play along just to fk w him n in the meantime look for someone else
Had the first 3. He even made me his girlfriend. And he ran away BECAUSE he got too close emotionally, and opened up to me,, and it scared him, and I wanted to plan for the future. Man I am tired.
I have an ex bf who brought me around friends and family and then was still seeing other women and having sex with them. Meeting friends and family doesn't mean much, honestly
I met my bf 7 weeks ago after a week he asked me out everything was amazing phone calls we did everything together then 5 days ago he started to go distant no calls a few messages daily and it’s been 24 hours since he messaged me I’m not sure what to do now 🧐🧐🧐
VERY GOOD just one additional you didn't include - why I NEVER met one who is like the one you are talking here about? Men have today no sense of being a MAN.
Thanks so much for this advice sweetie I need hear this from you cause I’m in a begin relationship with this Aquarius man and he a workaholic I be missing him he said he trying save buy us house 🏡 for future we been dating for 4months he a hard worker 😓 he be so tired 😴 I see him once or twice week he said he want marry me have his 2 kids thanks again take care God 🙏 🥰💯
I just made it official with a guy I met back in 2017. We started off as sex buddies and over the yrs became good friends but continued to be sexual. Sometimes he would irritate me so I would block him..but he continued to come back..texting and calling..using different numbers to get ahold of me. We had a long talk about things and recently made it official and I'll be moving end if this month
@Kaity Torres To be honest..I think he's a narcissist...moving in was a bad idea🤷🏽♀️ I ended things with him..tried to still be friends but he's just too manic. He wanted all the benefits of a relationship but not the title...seems as though he really only wanted Rent money. I decided to move out..still even to this day he still contacts me on blocked numbers and tries to text. He calls me a liar..says he doesn't trust me and even after I asked him numerous times to leave me alone...he continues 🤦🏽♀️
He does all of this but he's consistently slow and it drives me nuts but I'm being patient as I can coz I don't wanna fuck it up. Thanks for the advice..out of a narcissist relationship for almost 10 yrs and I'm used to being kept at arms length most of the time so it's different for me but I do get it now.
Hi Elliott! Amazing video! If a guy poured his heart out about being dumped by a young 25 year old woman, does that mean he was using me as an emotional crutch? I guess I have a slight crush on him. I feel hurt that I wasn’t asked anything about myself. When I talked about my family he didn’t respond. A coworker from Texas land of lame douchebags told me something. She said she met a Toxic man on Tinder! She said he was so toxic that she can’t even date anymore! I feel the same way! Texas is one big toxic hell hole! Please help! Much love!
Can you do a video about why an ex would want to stay friends? I stopped reaching out and they kept reaching out all the time so I asked what was up and they said they missed what we had but want to be friends? Then right after that sends me an album to listen to? Like wtf lol. I don’t stay friends or even keep talking to ex’s so why is he hitting me up like nothing happened. So confused.
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Thanks for sharing this great video. 👍
Hi I have a question,yesterday I was running to the bathroom and my crush popped out of no where in the corner and I bumped into his chest and stared at his chest and started screaming(cuz he is taller then me)I’m so embarrassed,what will he think of me now😭😭
@BigG my
I have fallen for you after watching this video ♥️
I feel like guys think they are in love at the beginning and women don’t. Then, by the time the woman falls in love, he is done.
I disagree, I believe it’s usually the other way around.
Other way around ususally lil
It's because she makes him feel like he has 100% control over her. Like he owns her.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS
LemansSunset350 I guess I like them and they don’t hahaha... whatever... forever alone. I will just be a panda lady.
The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that most men fall in love with the girl who respects herself and puts her self respect above her feelings for him.
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Yep!👌100% ! Because man need and want challange 👏 Easy is Always too easy 😜
1. Transactual investment (time, effort, energy). Women, be more elusive so he can invest in you.
2. Feelings with substance.
3. If you can hang out without any kind of sex and still have a good time.
4. Long term decision making/investment. Going from a Me to a We mindset.
5. Consistency. Nothing matters if he’s not consistent.
Great comment💖
Number 5 is SOOOO important!!!!!!
does all those things then says he doesn’t want anything serious after 3 months …. ??? help anyone?
Emotional intimacy trumps sexual intimacy.
For women, yes.
i'ont know!... Naa, fo sho. 😁
@@island661 FOR EVERYONE.
@@nofybn7794 for men who are emotionally healthy and available so I disagree.
@@SR77736 Not sure what you are saying. No, for men as well. Proven study.
I usually meet men that are saying "I'm in love" after 2-3 days of texting and then disappear for a week or more. Saying "I love you" while you are just getting to know each other is the biggest red flag, that means he wants something from you. Never trust that man.
Yep men do it too! When a guy starts saying straight off you’re the woman for him it’s a red flag.
I believe that is not true. I was like that when I was 20. These people are not emotionally mature but do not assume they are lying or that they want just sex. That is very wrong. They feel a strong emotion which probably should be properly named infatuation. Guys when they really like a girl think about how a relationship with her would be.
@@apo.7898 Not talking about little boys.
@@flyandshy00 Either way, I don't really care about who you will trust. I just don't believe what you say is true. Men who say 'I love you' too quickly are likely emotionally immature but I believe that most often they feel something that they consider 'love', whatever that is.
My experience is that when you don't feel like that the motivation to pursue goes to zero. (Pursuing does not work on the other hand either way).
Narcissist
Ok good, I just found out he doesnt like me at all 😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's his loss because picky men end up settling in the end with a girl they ain't happy with.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Mine apparently hates me! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
good for you though!!
Dana mine too!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣well shit...
Hope it goes by quickly for u . As funny as it sounds.
Don't look back
It distracts from the
Now.
📝 Summary | See 60% Of These And You'll Soon Become His Girlfriend:
1. Transactional investment - resource exchange (time, energy, effort etc.)
2. Feelings with substance (there has to be transition, vulnerability, depth; he should be consistently investing more long-term)
3. Sex is just an icing on the cake. (He can hang with you even without)
4. Long-term decision making (He plans, talks about the future, lets you meet family & friends or mentions you to them)
5. Consistency (He's consistent with sustainable and genuine actions.)
Earth Love Skin THANK YOU.
@@LiLMissWooWoo you're most welcome! ❤🙏🏻✨ Sending you great vibes and hope you find what is you're looking for!
I don’t understand at all. My guy did all of these things for 9 months and still bailed when I told him I wanted to be with him.
60% is what number? 4 is a long term relationship already, not isn't even a girlfriend yet.
@@seraphlazuli6251 it's more about himself than you. The reasons don't have to do with us at all. Humans act according to what they think is best for them. In the meantime, use the separation period to live your best life & chase your dreams!
being a girlfriend doesn't mean anything though. No man is in it for the long haul until there is a Diamond Ring and a wedding date set.
If you ain't married - you're single.
Or a non-diamond ring, or something else symbolic. Not everyone wants diamonds.
Sarah, who hurt you?
@@TheRighter true but at least you can sell the diamond ring if he cheats / doesn't follow through.
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False bro. Had a guy do all these and it was a false alarm he ended up getting bored. Guys be be changing their feelings real fast!
MsMissheartless I don’t believe that someone who really likes you would get bored if he is showing these signs. If he doesn’t put effort into your relationship then I don’t think there was much of one to begin with. As sad as it is. He may have been using you as a rebound to get over a different person. Just a thought. Which isn’t good and you shouldn’t want to be with a guy who does that to begin with.
Didn't get bored. Met who you really are.
@@jackdeniston9326 so enlightening.
If you are dealing with a narcissist. They are real good about being very charming and loving at the beginning. Until they feel as though they actually got you. Once they have you they could care less.
SO TRUE!
Unless he’s a narcissist or controlling. They all play nice and put off the sex in the beginning to get you hooked. Then they treat u like crap. Some play nice to destroy women.
I’ve been married for almost 16 yrs and yet watching this lol....interesting knowledge....I remember prior to being with my husband, I have so many bfs (i know it was bad but damn I enjoyed it) and men chasing me bc I don’t chase men. I have a great life and did my thing where men must make me the center of his life. But with the right person, you really don’t need any dramas, it will be easy....even if you have big obstacles he will make it seems easy for you.....that’s when I said yes to my current husband....
Current husband? How many have you had?
@@sjordan7085 I live in the present moment everything is in the current. I’m not a divorcee I’m still with my husband. Actually the lockdown forced both of us to work from home and it has been a blessing for us, my husband is the best support system and I am truly grateful for him.
@@BK-tp6jf I know, right? Her comment is all any woman needs to hear. Honestly. There’s so much bullcrap videos about ‘when a guy does this..’’. Blah blah blah. If he and you aren’t jiving, nothing is happening, he’s not providing for you, …forget about him! Don’t ever invest (ahem! sex!) in a guy until you know he and you have something very real. And that means there will be no questions, you’ll be at peace. You have absolute trust in him because he’s never shown you bullshit and always brings good to you, with actual love (love is patient, love is kind..1 Corinthians 13-4). Too many women desperate and will eat bullshit. That’s the level of relation it will stay because that’s the true level of your relationship: bullshit.
i love watching him speak when I am stoned...Cracks me up...He gets straight to the point...None of it matters unless there is consistency.
Ok good I'm not the only one
This is interesting, I met my bf and told him I didn’t want anything serious from the start and within 3 weeks he asked me to be his gf! I said no, so we waited a bit longer until I was ready weeks later. He came on super strong in the start, but it all worked out & we’ve been together for 5 months now :))
Not sure if you will ever see this, but update please? ❤Are you still with him? Just curious
@@jackie41083 we are! 3 years and going strong 🥰
@@t.201 Ah, yes! 🥰 So happy for you!
Great but don’t let him rent you. 3 years?!(6 months 1-1/2 max relationship. Engaged but not more renting you😏
I love how blunt you are and straight to the point no bullshit
8:40 What happened to Susie? "Susie took a F#*kin hike, F#*k Susie!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This comment took me out I cried 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@hopeislandful I was rollin!!😭😂
This was so funny 😂!!!!!
I don’t even know what he said after that - I was laughing so hard!!! 😂😂😂
@@marquinarawlings5651 I know, right! I thought it was just me! 😂😂😭😭
A lot of girls are saying these guys fall in love in the first couple days then dip...just because he says it doesn't mean he means it, if a guy says that I read it as lust not love. Its concerning to see so many kind ladies get hurt from early falsehoods.
Thanks to your videos ,I've made the man I want, work. 😂hes been consistent for the past 2 months,everyday communication. We see each other more often. I'm still not putting out until I see more resources but so far, its going good.
Vanessa257888 congratulations 🍾 I hope you get the relationship you wanted ❤️
@@Vanessa257888 hows it going now?
This was really helpful. New guy and I are past the 8 date mark, but he shows all these signs. I have really bad relationship anxiety so sometimes I have to step back and breathe before I get obsessive.
"Suzie took a f*ckin hike, f*ck Suzie" LMBO Idk why that was so hilarious!!!
You better just not worrying about them. Focus on you.
It’s the watching anime and eating sushi for me 😍😍😍
This is honestly how I met my boyfriend! It was on my dating profile and that’s why he messaged lol.
This was probably one of the best explanations I have ever heard in terms if how men court women. Mindset wise. Thanks!
Don’t be taken for granted. Do this by taking your worth and shine! Glowup blowup! Love you first and it will show. Allow him to be. And allow yourself to be. Do not force what the universe will provide. Just show up as authentic and be you❤️
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There's definitely a connection between us, but we are only smiling warmly at each other... For 2 years 😳
MOVE ON! Any guy would love to steal you and not waste your time. This guy doesnt appreciate you. Go get better 😊
@BeautyQueen2023X as long as what you're saying makes sense to YOU, that's all that matters. I personally think you sound dumb.
Omg sounds exhausting, I'm sticking to friends with benefits 🙄
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Realistic. 👍
Most women tell me the same if a guy likes you he would talk more, ask more questions, take you on dates etc etc. Which makes me anxious and negative.
But as to what I see all the signs are clear. This guy from tinder gives me the exact signs based on this video so I can't doubt it to be a red flag.
I'm fine with slow that's me. I value dignity and respect if not for other types of women out there.
"Slow and Steady wins the Race" ☺💪
Great advice! You nailed it! Instead of looking to move forward, start building or growing roots and groundedness. Thats gold, now i know where we women go wrong. Better idea how to correct that. Tq so much for the Masculine Wisdom, Elliott! 💖👍
I've had a man for years in love with me. He is amazing he makes himself too available ladies same thing don't make yourself too available. The one I left spent money on me he wasn't nothing
I got a fair number of these but in the end I was still left feeling like I was invisible and that I might as well have been just another name on a list.
Good relationships are like the job you go to daily. You invest your time and effert and you get paid. You both work on it nonstop forever or it doesent work. If your already tierd from your job that you have to do to support yourself. Stay single because another job is gonna exhaust you and there's no guarantees.
No, that is Not a relationship! HE IS STRINGING HER ALONG FOR 6 YEARS!!
1:12 I love how he makes it clear that its ultimately up to the man to commit no matter what..placing all responsibility o a man! you can do so much, but if a guy is not the commitment type but a fuckboy..your work will blow up on you!!
You're the best relationship coach on UA-cam. Seriously. You make so much more sense. Real talk.
He’s Picasso he’s painting a picture for you it looks pretty 😂😂😂 I’m in a casket 😂 💀
Elliot, all of these things are happening. Ugh! Thank you. Always helped. You are the best out there!!!
Yes I think this is accurate. I don’t think anything is wrong with incorporating sex if everything else is going well. I look like that as icing on the cake. The emotional connection is what is the most important.
But I guess I do sometimes wonder about the time span of things. Two months of talking to the dude I’m really feeling him and He hasn’t really planned anything else. He’s very go with the flow, which is fine to a certain extent. I like how he spaces dates out because we text each other all the time, but I feel like I put him in the category of a guy I would marry rather than not taking serious. I’m Just trying to go with the flow. But I know what i want, and it’s him.
5/5!! I’m finally onto a winner 😂
Chuck hahaha probably!
Bethany Smith congratulations girl ❤️
Lance Kidd thank you 💜
After how many trys? Lol!
Chydova it was 3rd time lucky 😂😂 but hey we’re in a relationship now and going strong. We’ll see how long it lasts 😅
Elliot, thanks for the video. I've been seeing someone who I'm falling in love with for 2 months and a half. We've always talked about not wanting a "relationship" at least not for the moment, but we act like we're in a committed, mono, relationship. All those 5 factores exist. (not the family because they live on the other side of the world) and even with all these evidences he doesn't talk about feelings. His actions do though. But it drives me crazy... He says sometimes he's afraid that he lost his ability to "feel" but I can't believe that because he's extremely sweet, caring, cuddly, etc... It's an enigma...
It sounds like you may be in somewhat in a “situationship.” Google it of you don’t know what that is.
Run
Run as fast as you can
K, so think I've been played and am kicking myself because I thought I had a good judgment in people.... He is recently divorced and even said that he isn't looking for anything.....then why the heck did he continue texting me everyday, (even drove me home from work, bought me things, talked about deep things) then last week he just went cold! I seriously don't think I'll ever believe any other guy ever again.... :(
Being a girlfriend means nothing it’s part time, if he not making you he’s wife he’s got he’s options open.
Even when married men still do garbage. Seen it fk that
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
When you said: "not like this baby, like that", that was hot!
I got it. Thanks!
Sound advice. Unfortunately men will do and almost say anything including spending $$$ on a woman. When she becomes "boring" he moves along to the next. So, how do we know if he's sincere? The fact is we don't. No offense but it's more complex than explained here. Anyway, I still like your videos. 😎👍
Well obviously nothing in this life is guaranteed.
Nothing is guaranteed like the other person said below. It’s called giving trust to someone and they should be giving that trust back. Cause they don’t know if you’ll get bored either. It’s called a relationship for a reason cause you both have to invest and give trust into each other. Srry if that sounds a bit harsh but that’s the truth. That is why love/liking someone is crazy.
@@Heather-hv7me It is crazy. I am done.
Boredom is also not an excuse. There's a point in love in which its all about work and keeping emotions high. If someone starts getting bored then should be time to go to your partner and talk about that and see if there's a way to work on that, be a bit creative and try to solve things out. It's very unfair your partner doesn't really say anything until it's all dead and there's no way back. Long lasting relationships are a decision to work it up together. It doesn't just maintain it self.
How does a relationship become boring? ? I’m really confused on that. If they’re doing everything right& they have a connection from the start, how does Boredom even ruin a genuine connection in a relationship ? Unless there was no genuine connection to being with.
I have 90% of those things going on Between us....but he claims me as best friend....he is very confusing 😅😅😅....keep us in your prayer because i like him Pretty much...
Girl get yourself some boys to mess with have options and find someone who will snatch you off the market.
Most want hook ups
Have you any wool
*I'm sorry*
That is not true.
these can all be false alarms, relationships grow over time. these signs could happen in days. the man can think he is in love for a few days and then get bored at the thought of you. a real lover will take time to fall for you. my boyfriend was my best friend for two years before we got together, and it makes us a stronger couple because of the bond that we built in time. the way you know it’s real isn’t by some signs it’s by the time that they try to spend with you whenever they can. my boyfriend talked to me every day for hours on end for all those two years just growing our relationship and it worked
Going on 5 mons in my second relationship after leaving my ex husband I can say I’m very happy today and watching lots of your videos Elliot ...thank you your advice is awesome
YOUR VIDEOS ARE AMAZING OMG thank you thank you thank you!! I can't watch your vids quick enough because they're liquid gold!!! 🙌🏻👌🏻💯❣️🔥🏆🥇👑💁🏻♀️❤️
“Suzy took a f-ing hike” 😂
Ok he does all of these things!!! Thank you 😭 I needed this! I was doubting so much
I come to see if he really wants it. I confess with my friend that I like him. And we are trying it out to see if we can be a couple. Everything you mentioned here is there:) consistency is one of his best qualities!
Very very good video Elliot..you rock!!.. Love your eyes. :)
Your awesome. Great video. Keep them coming. Love ya
"Watch anime and eat sushi" hahah
thats my dream life
Men who love Anime and cats are great
You're right..you ARE my favorite dating coach!!
This man smart af, I’ve been doing this ishh
Ugh I wish I could watch your videos all the time but I’m trying. I listened to you on my way to work lol
So would you say a guy that asks you to be his girlfriend after the second date isn’t a relationship kinda guy? We have only kissed I wouldn’t even say we have made out yet. We are both old fashioned but I won’t lie second date and he asks me to be his gf is shocking not used to that. Our txt is constant but, that’s about 15 txt back and forth throughout the day, not much talking
Same situation I’m in
Did it work out?
Very great content 👍🏾 I’m in a serious relationship after divorcing my ex-husband years later and these are FACTS
He was a big con man. I found out after 18 months. He was good at it pretending everything. I caught him in a lie where I already knew the truth and he told a big lie. I didn't text him back. Now he's just nothing to me.
Big facts. Thanks Elliot
Thanks Elliot you're right thanks for sharing😀
1.) Transactual investment - provide resources: time, energy, effort - invest in you to see where he stands.
Women: Be elusive, be mysterious. Put barriers.
2.) Feelings with substance. Invest more, depth, trust, loyalty, consistency, build the roots aka "slower pace" for long-term.
3.) Is not focused on sex.
4.) Long-term decision making - you're included in his decisions. Meeting friends and family, leaving things in your place
5.) Consistency - meeting up on a regular basis (once or twice a week) or communicating with you with consistency
Elliot no one says the advice as clear and convincing as you do. I'm your follower from Egypt 🇪🇬🙋🏻♀️👍🤗
I don't even know where mines is standing at anymore; quite confusing. Not like my current partner ever did introduce me to his parents but by accident or coincidence. Yet his parents doesn't care that there's a girl he brought in.
Started out listening knowing I’m messing with someone who doesn’t do none of these things and after listening I’m like he really is investing into me slowly interesting 🤔 from not meeting his friends all that much a 2 yrs ago to meeting his mom and sister n her friend n there sons last year and his best friend to now meeting his brother by doing his brother hair n his hair and everything.. I guess that’s a damn great sign .. we don’t talk or text everyday but when we get together we exchange how we been and we catch up .. I’d wished we go out more instead of our normal routine but that’s changing this year .. he is emotionally depth because when I ghosted him he tracked me down it was a month n some change cause I thought he wants nothing to do with me no relationship no nothing.. well when we saw each other the day after thanksgiving we made up n it got better between us n though it’s still slow
Makeout or whatever 😆😂!! Yeah I scored 5-5 finally a winner with me !
60% of the time, it work every time 😂
Anchorman
G R E A T post today Elliot!
anime and sushi? And you understand human psychology and relationships? Next level faith in you 😂 you’re like my best friends. It’s cool to get advice from someone who has qualities like your friends.
My favorite coach ❤️
Question? What if a guy flirts with you every time he sees me. Then says to me "it's ok for a woman to ask a guy out" while having a huge smile on his face? Would that be the time to just relax and ask? It is it better to wait and keep him wondering.
Denise Bermudes he would ask you out if he liked you. It’s like a drive. The fact that he is wanting you to ask is some kind of game playing garbage. Maybe even to say later “oh she was after me, not the other way around.” I would avoid this.
From my experience guys that flirted with me all the time wanted nothing serious . Just some fun
No if he's brave enough to say that, he's brave enough to do it himself..hes playin a game. Just play along just to fk w him n in the meantime look for someone else
Love you Elliot!learnt way too much
U r so accurate about things😘
Had the first 3. He even made me his girlfriend. And he ran away BECAUSE he got too close emotionally, and opened up to me,, and it scared him, and I wanted to plan for the future. Man I am tired.
Great words you have made it clear enough for me
Incredible.... Easy to relate and follow you!! I love you!
I have an ex bf who brought me around friends and family and then was still seeing other women and having sex with them. Meeting friends and family doesn't mean much, honestly
Thanx elliot that came at the right time no matter if its right in my situtation or not it still has a good meaning.
With each Video you look more dreamy ...😍😍😍
I met my bf 7 weeks ago after a week he asked me out everything was amazing phone calls we did everything together then 5 days ago he started to go distant no calls a few messages daily and it’s been 24 hours since he messaged me I’m not sure what to do now 🧐🧐🧐
How did it go????
VERY GOOD just one additional you didn't include - why I NEVER met one who is like the one you are talking here about? Men have today no sense of being a MAN.
krysty kava look at yourself. Make yourself valuable and you will meet that guy.
You can thank modern feminists for that.
Thanks so much for this advice sweetie I need hear this from you cause I’m in a begin relationship with this Aquarius man and he a workaholic I be missing him he said he trying save buy us house 🏡 for future we been dating for 4months he a hard worker 😓 he be so tired 😴 I see him once or twice week he said he want marry me have his 2 kids thanks again take care God 🙏 🥰💯
LaLa Boss got me a Aquarius man , dealing with similar issues. Looooovvveee my man though . So good to me .
The Aquarius men are the worst commitment-phobes.
Claudia Claudia really? I haven’t had that issue with mine .
Skyler Willis It’s great to hear that.I wasn’t that lucky with mine(I’ve dated multiple Aquarius men,all the same).
Dump him I was married to one of these work is first not you
I just made it official with a guy I met back in 2017. We started off as sex buddies and over the yrs became good friends but continued to be sexual. Sometimes he would irritate me so I would block him..but he continued to come back..texting and calling..using different numbers to get ahold of me.
We had a long talk about things and recently made it official and I'll be moving end if this month
@Kaity Torres To be honest..I think he's a narcissist...moving in was a bad idea🤷🏽♀️ I ended things with him..tried to still be friends but he's just too manic. He wanted all the benefits of a relationship but not the title...seems as though he really only wanted Rent money. I decided to move out..still even to this day he still contacts me on blocked numbers and tries to text. He calls me a liar..says he doesn't trust me and even after I asked him numerous times to leave me alone...he continues 🤦🏽♀️
He does all of this but he's consistently slow and it drives me nuts but I'm being patient as I can coz I don't wanna fuck it up. Thanks for the advice..out of a narcissist relationship for almost 10 yrs and I'm used to being kept at arms length most of the time so it's different for me but I do get it now.
Very informative
Hi Elliott! Amazing video! If a guy poured his heart out about being dumped by a young 25 year old woman, does that mean he was using me as an emotional crutch? I guess I have a slight crush on him. I feel hurt that I wasn’t asked anything about myself. When I talked about my family he didn’t respond. A coworker from Texas land of lame douchebags told me something. She said she met a Toxic man on Tinder! She said he was so toxic that she can’t even date anymore! I feel the same way! Texas is one big toxic hell hole! Please help! Much love!
Can you do a video about why an ex would want to stay friends? I stopped reaching out and they kept reaching out all the time so I asked what was up and they said they missed what we had but want to be friends? Then right after that sends me an album to listen to? Like wtf lol. I don’t stay friends or even keep talking to ex’s so why is he hitting me up like nothing happened. So confused.
Why not text and talk daily? This shows we both like each other.
great video!
this boy that I like does
all of these and I'm so happy
but the fact that you like someone doesn't mean he is a partner material for you... there are more things that matter in the case of relationship
When he says I can't wait to see you again... What do I say back? I do not want him to think he has me hooked
Say, awww
You know WTF you’re talking about. 👊
I HAVE HEARD SO MANY OF THESE VIDEOS AND IT SOUNDS LIKE GAMES TO ME?,,
You look good in this video.
„What happened to Suzie?“ „Suzie took a fucking hike, fuck Suzie.“ 😂😂😂
I love this video damn😁😘💗
"then you guys can sit around and watch anime and eat sushi. that's the good life."