Julie Menanno: The Power Of Secure Attachment

In this episode, we welcome Julie Menanno, a renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and the voice behind the successful Instagram account, The Secure Relationship. With over a million followers and a groundbreaking book titled "Secure Love," Julie brings her extensive expertise in attachment theory and couples therapy to our listeners.
Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in your marriage as Julie delves deep into the heart of relationship dynamics. We explore critical topics such as:
Understanding Secure Love: Learn what it means to have a secure, loving relationship and why it's essential for marital harmony.
Attachment Styles Unveiled: Julie sheds light on different attachment styles and their impact on your marriage. From the anxious-avoidant dynamic to the path towards secure attachment, gain insights into the patterns shaping your relationship.
Communication as the Key: Uncover the core issue in most relationship problems - communication. Julie discusses how verbal and non-verbal communication can build or erode emotional safety, and how to transform this critical aspect of your relationship.
The Journey to Secure Attachment: Julie provides practical advice for moving from anxious or avoidant attachment styles to a secure, mutually fulfilling relationship. Learn how to make essential internal changes and foster a nurturing environment for both partners.
Healing and Growth: For couples affected by affairs, trust issues, or other challenges, Julie offers hope and strategies for healing. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy through understanding, empathy, and secure attachment practices.
This episode is not just an exploration of theories; it's a guide to revolutionizing your marriage. Whether you're looking to heal from past hurts or enhance the emotional bond with your spouse, Julie's insights offer a pathway to a deeper, more secure love.
Join us for an episode that could change the course of your marriage. Embrace the power of secure attachment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling, loving partnership.
Today's Guest: Julie Menanno
Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.
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0:00 Intro
0:56 Interview Starts
38:33 Key Takeaways
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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[@jordanhenshaw]

14:25 - "Possible to start mitigating attachment within marriage/how" - I think that the concept of PD's can be a useful tool here for better understanding general, non-clinical attachment problems. After studying PD's enough to know that I actually don't really know anything about PD's, I'd like to state that what I think I know is that, while the vast majority of PD presentations are subclinical and not full-blown PD's, identifying the flavor so to speak of attachment wound may be a good step. Each PD category seems to be a response to a certain type of early attachment wound (I was abandoned - BPD, I was ignored - HPD, I was insulted - NPD), or "flavor". Even though we're most likely not talking about about clinically relevant maladaptive behaviors (certainly not in the general population), it's potentially possible that identifying that baseline archetype may be helpful in getting more information on that core wound. So for example, each "flavor" has different attachment triggers, so identifying what behaviors trigger that wound could maybe reduce negative incidents. If the perfectly healthy person happens to have attachment trauma where they were abandoned early in childhood, you might notice that hey, they lash out and get angry when they feel like they're being abandoned, but as long as that particular, specific trigger isn't there, everything is fine. So in that case we would be talking about the BPD flavor, but we certainly wouldn't necessarily be entertaining clinical diagnosis of any kind.
If I remember right, this way of thinking about it-in scales not diagnoses-was part of the reason they wanted to supposedly take PD's out of the DSM V. Not because you can't make a clear delineation between full-blown pd and not-pd, but because the existence of that label as a severe disorder sort of muddies the water such that to even utter the word BPD or NPD or HPD is essentially a crime unless you have a really, really good reason to say that word. With the scales conceptualization, the labels can be thought of as a color wheel basically. Everyone most likely falls into at least one of these categories and we use these categories to understand flavor in a qualitative sense. Then the clinical process is used to determine the quantitative information to identify need for therapy/medication and so on.

[@jordanhenshaw]

35:10 - dude was probably super busy wrenching on the car and wasn't even paying attention to what she was saying lol

[@CGU75]

Really great! I love what you did at about mid-video. Very unexpected but educational.

[@gladiekuru6966]

I really love this topic please I am interested to talk about it more.