1. He keeps his promises. 2. He misses you. 3. He communicates his vulnerabilities. 4. He listens and cares about your needs. He values who you are. He pays attention. 5. He takes responsibility for your needs and happiness. He makes sure that you are taken care of. 6. He wants you safe, happy, and protected. 7. He is proud of you, and your qualities. Proud of who you are now. 8. He brings out the best in you. You are a better person around him. 9. He gets along with your friends and family. 10. He’s bold and wants a commitment with you because he sees a future with you. Enthusiastic Yes, to you in his future.
I must suppose MEN have not had GOOD MOTHER who was a mature Mother ....I ALWAYS PLAYED WITH MY SON BUT i AS VERY SERIOUS WITH HIM AND i NEVER ALLOWED TO MYSELF TO MAKE HIM RIDICULOUS...THAT IS TERRIBLE...SO MY SON IS HEALTHY i AM SURE AND ME TOO,..BUT WHER ARE THE MEN....
After more than 30 years of dating, I finally found a partner who does all of these things. Our relationship is amazing! Believe in yourself, focus on your personal growth, and keep looking, ladies--great men are out there!
I found a man like this. I still can't believe it. He is consistent in what he does. He makes plans for our future. He always checks if I am happy. Even simple things like a smell in my apartment. He checks if the smell is still there when he calls me. He makes alot of effort for me. I used to watch your videos wanting to find a man...This was so unexpected. He is meeting my mom next week and he is making an effort to take a flight and drive to see her.
Narcissists cannot handle criticism from their supply. Too good to be true? Try saying No! and watch their reaction. Criticize something that they do. Then, sit back and observe. If he or she can truly consider your wants and needs, excepts help from you, and recipricates in like kind, you might have a keeper.
Yes.... Girl straight up narc. And the thing is. Piont blank. It's really not even 10 things. A guy that's going to be good to is simple. He's gonna RESPECT you and APPRECIATE you that's it. PERIOD!!!
Sadly, I've never experienced a love like this! I was married to a narcissist and have been divorced over 13 years. Meeting a man as you describe at my age (57) is like the chances of winning the lottery. I do keep faith in God that one day this miracle will happen! 🥰💕
Don’t give up! Keep dating and trying to meet men and you will find your love. I sometimes want to give it up too but the reward of being in a loving respectful relationship is too precious to give up on. You deserve it, we all do!! Warm regards from Spain
If you want a person like that you must be one yourself. If you don't exhibit the traits he talks about here _yourself_ you will not find a man that will do these things either. In many things opposites attract, however in the most important things it is more correct that like begets/attracts like. You have to _be_ the things you want to attract to you _yourself._
How long did it take for you to discover his true self? I have been dating a guy long distance for 3 years and he is so amazing. I can't seem to trust and I don't know why. I feel so jaded. I fear the same thing.
In the beginning of the relationship, most men do all these things. Wait 3 years to see if he does those all these things after he feels like he has you secure. After the infatuation fades down.
I think the context of this whole list is that he’s constant in showing all these qualities as time passes by. Because all of these qualities can be demonstrated in a short amount of time but the real ones display this consistently because that’s who they are not who they pretend they are....
Yep, they need to go the distance... not just talk the talk or do a few practice laps and go... yeah I’m awesome... commit to me... I’m the one!! Chances are they probably aren’t... also remember that you are awesome and any person would be lucky to call you their spouse or life partner, soul mate, twin flame... whatever label you want to put on it. Don’t think that nobody wants you and you should take your first offer. I need to remind myself of this. There’s plenty of time to find that perfect someone for you... even in the next life. Time really is irrelevant where true (twin flame) love is concerned.
After five years in and out of this relationship, my boyfriend finally is being all of the ten things and our relationship has never been better. I have to thank you, Matthew Coast for giving me such great advice and knowledge in the past two years that I believe brought him back to me.
I sent this to my ‘Life Partner’ saying ‘ur 10/10 w/this’ … he watched this & agreed, he was greatly humbled. And no, he’s not a narcissist… he previously worked on the Narc ‘traits’ he’s had in therapy.
I Know that in the Right Time in Gods perfect Time I will meet this kind of men. It is so amazing the amount of women whom I see that want this as well. Praying for us all! That God performers a miracle.
Thank you. I really needed to hear this. I like a guy who told me he does not want a relationship with any woman. He has been hurt a lot in the past and is afraid to love again. I really needed to watch this video because I felt stuck not knowing what to do. I do deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me and is open to love.
I wasted 10 years of my time on one guy who couldnt even decide what he wanted he started out by calling me his fiancé and ended up yelling at me over the phone drunk calling me a whore...not deserved btw , move on and soimetimes this is enough for them to wake up and decide what they want. Hopefully not in my case, I'm suffering still, single mom, 3 kids foreign country over it all.
That is a typical thing a uncommitted man says to make you think you can maybe change them so they can manipulate you into giving them their needs without having to give to you
@@michellewall6748 yes true,but im very hopeful this time,bin hurt so much last year,being with him is so different, but am very cautious,so will see...
I NEVER FOUND THIS.I HAD A FORCED MARRIAGE.A TOXIC AND ABUSED RELATIONSHIP.STAY TOO LONG IN THIS SITUATION UNTILL I DIVORCE.I THINK I NEVER SETTLE AGAIN.IT WAS THE MOST PAINFULL AND HARDEST TIME IN MY LIFE.IT WILL TAKE A LOT OF TIME TO HEAL MY HEART AND SOUL. I WISH EVERYONE A HAPPY LIFE. THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN THE WORLD IS TO LOVE AND TO BE LOVED,BECAUSE I THINK THAT LOVE IS THE PUREST FEELING IN THE WORD.LOVE IS PURPOSELESS.❤❤
This video is so awesome, I'm 23 and I've been single for 3 years, yeah eventhough I'm still young but I have high standards to choose a man that I'm gonna be with, and the points that you just said are already on my notes 😍
I AM IN THE SAME BOAT! HOWEVER THE REASON WHY WE ARE SINGLE IS BECAUSE WE ARE VERY PRETTY GIRLS AND SOME MEN AUTOMATICALLY THINK WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND DON'T HAVE THE BALLS TO TALK WITH US THEY GET 😓 🍀 WITH UR JOURNEY 🤞
I love this !!!!!! YOU DEFINITELY know what you are speaking about ....single my whole life , I'm 23 years going to be 24 soon and I'm happy to wait until I get this type of guys I AM NOT DROPPING MY STANDARDS AT ALL.
Thank you for sharing this. I am confused when it come to the man I love and this helped me see that he loves me. He does this and I am becoming a better person because of him.
I meet my twin flame with all this stuff, but on bigning was kind difficult to figure it out because he was so afraid to hurt me, saying was no ready for relationship.but I was willing to leaves him... so after ghosting him 2 months, we finally meet and we stay together. We had a straight converssation, and we both descover that we don't want a commitment. And We leave aour happiness, each day like is the only one in our lifes🥰❤.Im single mom and I love to enjoy my life by myself and my kids for wille😊 also we have didfuntial families but same times we talk about our families and others subjects.and the most thing a love on him is that he makes me smailing everyday and cooks for me, and is proud of who I'm today🥰👌
Thanx for the great advise Matt I totally agree! Have been talking to a guy long distance He does all these things but I am careful and do not want to make a mistake by choosing wrong...You also seem like a great guy with lots of wisdom.
I know exactly what I want in a relationship, a really mature one. I’ve been alone for 5 years and haven’t been in a proper relationship for 11 years. I would date someone and after a very short period find out that we’re not a good match or they’re cheaters etc. everyone’s told me that I’m too picky, but I say I’m sorry but I’d rather be picky then just take any random guy for the sake of being in a relationship. I’m independent and happy on my own, so if I’m going to be in a relationship, it has to be the right one, and I’m not about all that hooking up and one night stands, I’m too old for that crap anyway
Man the way u illustrate saying enthusiastically, yes I want this person in my life. Shows me how I want to feel and not just for my partner to feel about me
Don t hurry up, there s nothing special at this "side of the bridge"( dating) Ask for blood test before s,x and see how many players ghosts etc dissapear and save time for you
You’re so awesome Matt. 😍 Thank you for this! I needed to hear it. I heard this exact thing from my ex, he told me he doesn’t want to lose me but he cannot commit to a relationship. He walked away twice from me after living with me a year, saying he couldn’t be in a relationship because it gave him anxiety. :(
I don't believe in that a man stays a friend with me after our relationship. Cause if he's still gonna be good to me as friends then he should've kept all those qualities when we were together. Then it wouldn't broken up. I never stayed in a friendship with any man I was with. I moved on and stayed gone. If I ever crossed them in passing I act like I don't know them but if they speak I speak. I never ask any follow up questions after the greetings. I don't have time. Act right to keep me. Not after you lost me. PERIOD!!!!
Thank you. I needed to hear all about these behaviors. I need to make a decision that I'm not gonna accept this disrespectful behavior. Mississippi. Talks about how to make sure that he is the one. Makes future plans with. Then up and decides he doesn't have time for a relationship. He's done this 3 times in 6 months. Im done. I am enough don't need a man who is wishy-washy. I think more about myself than to accept this
Honestly, the most important thing is to shine by urself. I saw many girls who was jumping in relationship with some random guy and then just cry after cuz of no attention after they got what they wanted. Remember Ladies, if a guy will rly want u, u will just feel that deep inside. Also do not kill ur instict if it isn't smth right for u write it, think more about it. U live only once, do not let for someone fooling u.
Yes, absolutely men like this exist. I used to think it was too good to be true but then I started changing the way I think and I met my amazing husband. And he fits all of these and more...
Sadly.... it should just be a given that people treat each other like this.... not an extraordinary tall list....don’t give men credit for doing the normal decent thing...
@chyma yucee Dated 3x for 3 years, 2,5 years and one ongoing. All of them does this 10 things! Its a matter of not pushing to be in a relationship but rather wait for the relationship until you find someone that meets your standard. Ladies be happy single if guys you meet cant even meet these 10 standard of dating as a decent human being
Wow, I love how you get to the points in a timely manner. Who has time to listen to a hour long video?? I won't listen to a 30 minute video!!! I believe you are correct in all your points. My guy never says he misses me and and only stays around for a few hours at a time so we are OVER!! I will not be a pocket girl!!
Solid sound advice. One commenter spoke of narcissist...yes we have to be on the look out for subversive behaviors. Check out his past. If he has emotional baggage can be problemic unless he has healed. His past mentality matters. A prior adulterer can and might do it all again. So don't get too attached too soon. Trust is earned. It takes time.
THANK YOU FOR EXPLAINING, THAT VERY NICE . OF COURSE THEY WILL LOVE TO BE WITH WHOEVER , CUZ WHEN I SAID IT'S OVER THAN THAT'S IT . IF ANYBODY THINKS THEY GONNA FOOL OR LIED TO ME , THEY NEED TO MAKE SURE, THEY KNOW WHAT THIER DOING 😂 CUZ I DON'T CHANGE MY MIND WHEN I SET IT . YEAP YEAP YEAP . 😂
I think you have an excellent sense of understanding microexpressions, and behavioral psychology. I'd love to have the opportunity to share my struggles as a survivor of child sex trafficking. I was kidnapped and trafficked by a female who I had a powerful relationship with, since then I've developed the ability to notice the things you express in this eye opening informational video Id like to discuss further, and would greatly appreciate the honor to be mentored by you
The dating scene these days is a pure comedy! No one is sincere or authentic. And so many people have been jaded - now even the decent ones stay guarded and distant because of all the liars that have been exposed to all of us ! What ever happened to exclusive and real and honest and keeping your word? I love this list and desire a man like that ! But almost 5 years now and it’s a pure fantasy to find or meet a man who is a REALman! I don’t and won’t settle for any less. And you just said any less right time I typed it! Omgoodness! It’s really sickening and actually pisses me off that the bad people have ruined the good ones !! Because honestly it makes me want to keep my guard up too !! Bc it’s so rare to find decent people anymore!
Thank you for the specific guidelines for a permanent relationship. I am a widow and had a husband that was loving and supportive. I am rusty on seeking a new permanent partner.
It's so strange, women knows this yet so many of us end up with assholes lol 😆... That's why I been staying single till I find this person an meanwhile im just working on my own life.
Women should be able to feel good about themselves on their own. You can be a better person with or without him. It sounds a little narcissistic. Without me where would you be. I'm your beginning and end. I made you. Be grateful.
If you don't do these things yourself do not expect any man to do them for you either. These points apply to women as well as they do to men. It may be more important for a woman to do most of these things. Number 5 will depend on your particular circumstances and difficulties. It is something a man should do first, but things happen in life and if the worst happens you must be willing to step up and take responsibility for things on yourself. However, never allow a man to be(come) a parasite if there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with him.
I think I might have met him recently. We are just friends right now. But he called me this morning just to say good morning. Then he felt bad because he knew he woke me up. It was my day off.
This is a beautiful message of truth for all of us who want true love. Really good stuff I mean listen to the end & then notice how you feel & stay in that energy ...
My single peaceful mind is the best thing i have and I don’t wanna lose that, bc we all know in all relationships there is downs and ups, so i leave that for others and my mind will stay stable forever 😂
My guy says he misses me all the time and says he loves me but he knows im struggling right know but he still keeps comming to me for money he says he is on the verge of going to jail if i dont send money to pay off his lawyer and he is in the music business
Well, any man can tell a woman he misses her just tell her what she wants to hear. Actions are all that really matters. Was in a relationship with a narc which are famous for love bombing; he would tell me about 10x a day that he loved me but his actions were waay louder than his words. Haven't met that " supernatural man" yet😄
Never give up. Don't settle for less beautiful gal. Stay positive, work on improving yourself and in due time you will find the man of your dreams if you do believe and trust the God inside you to do that for Special YOU
Thank you for the clarity . I've just realized that I had 7 years of "F$%k Boy" energy and I thought I was in a partnership. No wonder it was easy for him to dismiss me with a single text message to "pick up my stuff" and then 《☆boom☆》he moved in with a woman a month later. I'd like to see this list in every bathroom stall across the continent. He didn't even have a presence on this list. Good to know going forward. Lesson painfully learned.☆!☆ 🙏🤍
1. He keeps his promises.
2. He misses you.
3. He communicates his vulnerabilities.
4. He listens and cares about your needs. He values who you are. He pays attention.
5. He takes responsibility for your needs and happiness. He makes sure that you are taken care of.
6. He wants you safe, happy, and protected.
7. He is proud of you, and your qualities. Proud of who you are now.
8. He brings out the best in you. You are a better person around him.
9. He gets along with your friends and family.
10. He’s bold and wants a commitment with you because he sees a future with you. Enthusiastic Yes, to you in his future.
You're awesome; thank you🤩
Thank you!
Dang girl!! Thank u for the list gotta screen shot this..
Thank you 😊
Thanks so much for the valuable information!
These are qualities that a lot of men can fake. Men are great actors. Your best friend is time, never rush into any relationship.
totally
Im so with you right there
I must suppose MEN have not had GOOD MOTHER who was a mature Mother ....I ALWAYS PLAYED WITH MY SON BUT i AS VERY SERIOUS WITH HIM AND i NEVER ALLOWED TO MYSELF TO MAKE HIM RIDICULOUS...THAT IS TERRIBLE...SO MY SON IS HEALTHY i AM SURE AND ME TOO,..BUT WHER ARE THE MEN....
The scary part about this list is a narcissist can formulate all 10 of these in the beginning
And flip it on you later on down the line.
Agreed
Yep,
Sadly
Yes, they know exactly how to play you.
True. It's my ex husband now...
After more than 30 years of dating, I finally found a partner who does all of these things. Our relationship is amazing! Believe in yourself, focus on your personal growth, and keep looking, ladies--great men are out there!
Happy to hear
Wow!this just encouraged me to keep waiting on a good man coz he'll eventually come
How did you meet?
@@bellabong8862 great question.
Only God knows about me.
I found a man like this. I still can't believe it. He is consistent in what he does. He makes plans for our future. He always checks if I am happy. Even simple things like a smell in my apartment. He checks if the smell is still there when he calls me. He makes alot of effort for me. I used to watch your videos wanting to find a man...This was so unexpected. He is meeting my mom next week and he is making an effort to take a flight and drive to see her.
Narcissists cannot handle criticism from their supply. Too good to be true? Try saying No! and watch their reaction. Criticize something that they do. Then, sit back and observe. If he or she can truly consider your wants and needs, excepts help from you, and recipricates in like kind, you might have a keeper.
*OR*
1# HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN DATING?
2# DO YOU HAVE THE SAME QUALITIES FOR HIM?
🤔 ❓ 🤔 ❓ 🤔❓🤔❓🤔
BUT, GOOD FOR YOU AND GOOD LUCK.(keep us updated.)
I will continue to be single until I found a man who appreciates my worth.
I found him! 10 out of 10! At almost 37 :)
Yes.... Girl straight up narc. And the thing is. Piont blank. It's really not even 10 things. A guy that's going to be good to is simple. He's gonna RESPECT you and APPRECIATE you that's it. PERIOD!!!
Female Force....Wish you both great happiness
@Sara Amaya 32 is too old buddy
You found your Beta! You can get your nails done together! LOL. Kidding
I'm 34!!!
Sadly, I've never experienced a love like this! I was married to a narcissist and have been divorced over 13 years. Meeting a man as you describe at my age (57) is like the chances of winning the lottery. I do keep faith in God that one day this miracle will happen! 🥰💕
I been Single for 16 years. But I'm good. I'm A Strong Resilient Single Mother. My long search is not over yet? I Let God chose for me now.
Wishing for you to meet with a wonderful man. You deserve to receive love like you have been giving all these years
Don’t give up! Keep dating and trying to meet men and you will find your love. I sometimes want to give it up too but the reward of being in a loving respectful relationship is too precious to give up on. You deserve it, we all do!! Warm regards from Spain
Best wishes to you
We're in the same boat sister..
I could relate to you.
I am going to stay single until I find a person deserve my time.
That's the spirit 👏
I'm with you! I am too.
If you want a person like that you must be one yourself. If you don't exhibit the traits he talks about here _yourself_ you will not find a man that will do these things either. In many things opposites attract, however in the most important things it is more correct that like begets/attracts like. You have to _be_ the things you want to attract to you _yourself._
I feel that!
Same!!!!
I found him!!! I waited and he was worth the wait. As I was for him.
Congratulations! Y'all keep it going strong!💐
I had someone who had all these qualities, but it turns out he was a narcissist It was all FAKE ..
Narcissists are amazing actors... too many of them in this society.
Same here
Ohhh, happened the same to me 😂😂😂😂😂
How long did it take for you to discover his true self? I have been dating a guy long distance for 3 years and he is so amazing. I can't seem to trust and I don't know why. I feel so jaded. I fear the same thing.
No,,,,....what do you mean.....maybe you ...just.....you have to....learn.
In the beginning of the relationship, most men do all these things. Wait 3 years to see if he does those all these things after he feels like he has you secure. After the infatuation fades down.
you're probably no peach yourself.
*EEEEEXACTLY*
MY HUMBLE LIKE 👍 AND MY MOST SINCERE GREETINGS TO YOU.💫
I think the context of this whole list is that he’s constant in showing all these qualities as time passes by. Because all of these qualities can be demonstrated in a short amount of time but the real ones display this consistently because that’s who they are not who they pretend they are....
Yep, they need to go the distance... not just talk the talk or do a few practice laps and go... yeah I’m awesome... commit to me... I’m the one!! Chances are they probably aren’t... also remember that you are awesome and any person would be lucky to call you their spouse or life partner, soul mate, twin flame... whatever label you want to put on it. Don’t think that nobody wants you and you should take your first offer. I need to remind myself of this. There’s plenty of time to find that perfect someone for you... even in the next life. Time really is irrelevant where true (twin flame) love is concerned.
After five years in and out of this relationship, my boyfriend finally is being all of the ten things and our relationship has never been better. I have to thank you, Matthew Coast for giving me such great advice and knowledge in the past two years that I believe brought him back to me.
Wonderful! You're welcome
I sent this to my ‘Life Partner’ saying ‘ur 10/10 w/this’ … he watched this & agreed, he was greatly humbled. And no, he’s not a narcissist… he previously worked on the Narc ‘traits’ he’s had in therapy.
I Know that in the Right Time in Gods perfect Time I will meet this kind of men. It is so amazing the amount of women whom I see that want this as well. Praying for us all! That God performers a miracle.
I found a man that has all ten!! 🙏🏼💙
Hahahaha I thought you wrote I found a guy who is almost 10.
Subscribing because you say everything my boyfriend isn't. Gives me things to look for when I find another better one.
Thank you. I really needed to hear this. I like a guy who told me he does not want a relationship with any woman. He has been hurt a lot in the past and is afraid to love again. I really needed to watch this video because I felt stuck not knowing what to do. I do deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me and is open to love.
If they say they don't want a relationship BELIEVE THEM. Move on and quit wasting precious time
He's a user, that is a classic lie players say to get you to F zwith no commitment. Run don't walk
Love is just that can't be mad what the heart wants
I wasted 10 years of my time on one guy who couldnt even decide what he wanted he started out by calling me his fiancé and ended up yelling at me over the phone drunk calling me a whore...not deserved btw , move on and soimetimes this is enough for them to wake up and decide what they want. Hopefully not in my case, I'm suffering still, single mom, 3 kids foreign country over it all.
That is a typical thing a uncommitted man says to make you think you can maybe change them so they can manipulate you into giving them their needs without having to give to you
Um, it's okay I didn't meet that kind of man. I already accepted that I am single and free forever! 😊❤️
Me neither. Its the best decision
Theres a time and a season for everything. Never Loose Hope! God has a perfect plan. 🌈🪴
Never lose hope, if you believe, it will happen. Keep positive and he will find you when you east expect it. In the meantime work on your purpose. 🙏
So why are u watching this type of video??
You are still very young. You have plenty of options and you have some time. Don't rush. Let God do it.
Hi Matthew! This is a great video. You’re right on point. I want a man who says YES!!! This is my woman!!!
Just make sure you keep a high value on yourself !
I'm really curious about the percentage of males that has actually matured into men. I fear it's a low percentage.
Yes.
What is your definition of matured into a man?
I've just met someone,who does all of these things,this makes me very 😊 😃 this has made my day thankyou..
And he sooo fit which defo helps.xx
For now......
@@michellewall6748 yes true,but im very hopeful this time,bin hurt so much last year,being with him is so different, but am very cautious,so will see...
Blessings 🤗
@@HaripriyaD. still going strong...x
I NEVER FOUND THIS.I HAD A FORCED MARRIAGE.A TOXIC AND ABUSED RELATIONSHIP.STAY TOO LONG IN THIS SITUATION UNTILL I DIVORCE.I THINK I NEVER SETTLE AGAIN.IT WAS THE MOST PAINFULL AND HARDEST TIME IN MY LIFE.IT WILL TAKE A LOT OF TIME TO HEAL MY HEART AND SOUL.
I WISH EVERYONE A HAPPY LIFE.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN THE WORLD IS TO LOVE AND TO BE LOVED,BECAUSE I THINK THAT LOVE IS THE PUREST FEELING IN THE WORD.LOVE IS PURPOSELESS.❤❤
This video is so awesome, I'm 23 and I've been single for 3 years, yeah eventhough I'm still young but I have high standards to choose a man that I'm gonna be with, and the points that you just said are already on my notes 😍
I AM IN THE SAME BOAT! HOWEVER THE REASON WHY WE ARE SINGLE IS BECAUSE WE ARE VERY PRETTY GIRLS AND SOME MEN AUTOMATICALLY THINK WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND DON'T HAVE THE BALLS TO TALK WITH US THEY GET 😓 🍀 WITH UR JOURNEY 🤞
Or...experiment! Fail fast as many times as necessary...
I love this !!!!!! YOU DEFINITELY know what you are speaking about ....single my whole life , I'm 23 years going to be 24 soon and I'm happy to wait until I get this type of guys I AM NOT DROPPING MY STANDARDS AT ALL.
Thank you for sharing this. I am confused when it come to the man I love and this helped me see that he loves me. He does this and I am becoming a better person because of him.
He did all these things but we just broke up .. he lets his family control him and well that conversation didn't go well .. A great video thank you
Wonderful! Thank you for making some of our lives a little easier
I meet my twin flame with all this stuff, but on bigning was kind difficult to figure it out because he was so afraid to hurt me, saying was no ready for relationship.but I was willing to leaves him... so after ghosting him 2 months, we finally meet and we stay together. We had a straight converssation, and we both descover that we don't want a commitment. And We leave aour happiness, each day like is the only one in our lifes🥰❤.Im single mom and I love to enjoy my life by myself and my kids for wille😊 also we have didfuntial families but same times we talk about our families and others subjects.and the most thing a love on him is that he makes me smailing everyday and cooks for me, and is proud of who I'm today🥰👌
Thanx for the great advise Matt I totally agree! Have been talking to a guy long distance He does all these things but I am careful and do not want to make a mistake by choosing wrong...You also seem like a great guy with lots of wisdom.
You're most welcome, Zelda!
You seem like an amazing guy, thanks for sharing your good info and being straight it is a very kind and loving message that is so needed.
Matt, honestly my friend and I havenbeen working a lot on ourselves and we're still waiting for Mr. Right. 🤷♀️ Patience really is a virtue..
I know exactly what I want in a relationship, a really mature one. I’ve been alone for 5 years and haven’t been in a proper relationship for 11 years. I would date someone and after a very short period find out that we’re not a good match or they’re cheaters etc. everyone’s told me that I’m too picky, but I say I’m sorry but I’d rather be picky then just take any random guy for the sake of being in a relationship. I’m independent and happy on my own, so if I’m going to be in a relationship, it has to be the right one, and I’m not about all that hooking up and one night stands, I’m too old for that crap anyway
You're so cool Matthew! Thanks so much for being vulnerable and honest, and going straight to the point! Great video!! 👍🙌
Found him at almost 40! Hope this makes well til the end 😍 #claiming
Man the way u illustrate saying enthusiastically, yes I want this person in my life. Shows me how I want to feel and not just for my partner to feel about me
He can help you restore your relationship
Integrity is important. Actions and words are aligned.
I stayed single for 10 years after divorce. What you are basicly saying is: get a dog. 😁😉
Exactly, no kidding. Is what I did. Best choice ever.
Animals will treat u better than humans. They’re always have your back whether you’re having a good day or bad day.
😂😂
🥳 *EXACTLY!!* 🎉
Good sound advice! Thanks! Exactly the kind of thing I need right now.
I'm 23 and nvr dated and I'm staying single till God blesses mi with ma dream guy.Amen❤
Me tooo !!!!!
Travel start a business and mingle oh and dont buy into the because were dating sex is on the table
Don t hurry up, there s nothing special at this "side of the bridge"( dating) Ask for blood test before s,x and see how many players ghosts etc dissapear and save time for you
@@Nexus31323 And you know what, I scored A+ in blood test. Is it enough to date you?😂
With Love and Respect 💙
But you have to date to find him. Dating doesn't mean sex, it means getting to know someone.
You’re so awesome Matt. 😍 Thank you for this! I needed to hear it. I heard this exact thing from my ex, he told me he doesn’t want to lose me but he cannot commit to a relationship. He walked away twice from me after living with me a year, saying he couldn’t be in a relationship because it gave him anxiety. :(
I don't believe in that a man stays a friend with me after our relationship. Cause if he's still gonna be good to me as friends then he should've kept all those qualities when we were together. Then it wouldn't broken up. I never stayed in a friendship with any man I was with. I moved on and stayed gone. If I ever crossed them in passing I act like I don't know them but if they speak I speak. I never ask any follow up questions after the greetings. I don't have time. Act right to keep me. Not after you lost me. PERIOD!!!!
well. guess Ill be single forever. thats ok. I finally have been able to accept it. and proper self love ❤️ and carea is what i deserve.
Thank you! Sometimes us women need to hear the cold truth!!!
100% ❤️
Thank you. I needed to hear all about these behaviors. I need to make a decision that I'm not gonna accept this disrespectful behavior. Mississippi. Talks about how to make sure that he is the one. Makes future plans with. Then up and decides he doesn't have time for a relationship. He's done this 3 times in 6 months. Im done. I am enough don't need a man who is wishy-washy. I think more about myself than to accept this
This video really spoke to me. Thank you so much. Now to find my guy 💖💖
Thank you for being honest and truthful , telling me what I NEEDED to hear and not what I WANT to hear. May God bless you and yours. Thank you.
Honestly, the most important thing is to shine by urself. I saw many girls who was jumping in relationship with some random guy and then just cry after cuz of no attention after they got what they wanted. Remember Ladies, if a guy will rly want u, u will just feel that deep inside. Also do not kill ur instict if it isn't smth right for u write it, think more about it. U live only once, do not let for someone fooling u.
Thank you for this... Makes me feel eben happier about my relationship with my husband
You’re welcome 😊
Yeah staying true to your words is very important. ❤
Yes, absolutely men like this exist. I used to think it was too good to be true but then I started changing the way I think and I met my amazing husband. And he fits all of these and more...
one may have to wait till eternity to find an extraordinary man who will meet up with this tall list..
There are lots of men who will do all of these things
Sadly.... it should just be a given that people treat each other like this.... not an extraordinary tall list....don’t give men credit for doing the normal decent thing...
@chyma yucee Dated 3x for 3 years, 2,5 years and one ongoing. All of them does this 10 things! Its a matter of not pushing to be in a relationship but rather wait for the relationship until you find someone that meets your standard.
Ladies be happy single if guys you meet cant even meet these 10 standard of dating as a decent human being
most men of nowadays dont know what they want..they're confused beings.
Amazing video and amazing tips, love the way you explain your self! Great work!! ❤️
Glad you liked it!!
Stay married to Jesus until He sends you a man that loves Him more than he loves you! Hallelujah!
Praise Jesus 🙏😇💜🌈🌎🌄 that's true
God comes first. He said, "Without me you can do NOTHING".
Aminaaaaa
Yes! Yes! Yes! Never stop believing that the person exists! And keep trying to be that person he will need a well.
He described a human ♥️
Not an instagram or FB post.
In other words realistic 👏
Wow, I love how you get to the points in a timely manner. Who has time to listen to a hour long video?? I won't listen to a 30 minute video!!! I believe you are correct in all your points. My guy never says he misses me and and only stays around for a few hours at a time so we are OVER!! I will not be a pocket girl!!
Great Reminders!
I needed to see this today!
Thank You~☺
Colleen Marie Beautiful,You look stunning 🌹🌹🌷🌺🌹 dear
Solid sound advice. One commenter spoke of narcissist...yes we have to be on the look out for subversive behaviors. Check out his past. If he has emotional baggage can be problemic unless he has healed. His past mentality matters. A prior adulterer can and might do it all again. So don't get too attached too soon. Trust is earned. It takes time.
Thank you 😊 I will wait for that right person,...
I love it and it makes a lot of sense in 12 years have not met no person with all ten qualities
Men like this don’t exist....that’s why you haven’t met one ......
@@michellewall6748 of course they do
Lol, I feel like you described a unicorn. I'm hopeful there are many out there. I just haven't met him.
Thanks! I just laughed out loud!
Still loling!
My ex called me a unicorn.
I'm listening. It's good to hear these words from a man!
Thanks for watching!
THANK YOU FOR EXPLAINING, THAT VERY NICE . OF COURSE THEY WILL LOVE TO BE WITH WHOEVER , CUZ WHEN I SAID IT'S OVER THAN THAT'S IT . IF ANYBODY THINKS THEY GONNA FOOL OR LIED TO ME , THEY NEED TO MAKE SURE, THEY KNOW WHAT THIER DOING 😂 CUZ I DON'T CHANGE MY MIND WHEN I SET IT . YEAP YEAP YEAP . 😂
I think you have an excellent sense of understanding microexpressions, and behavioral psychology. I'd love to have the opportunity to share my struggles as a survivor of child sex trafficking. I was kidnapped and trafficked by a female who I had a powerful relationship with, since then I've developed the ability to notice the things you express in this eye opening informational video
Id like to discuss further, and would greatly appreciate the honor to be mentored by you
Listen to YOUR OWN intuition.
If a person shows you who they are... IT BEHOOVES YOU TO BELIEVE THEM; AND I MEAN THE FIRST TIME!
The dating scene these days is a pure comedy!
No one is sincere or authentic. And so many people have been jaded - now even the decent ones stay guarded and distant because of all the liars that have been exposed to all of us ! What ever happened to exclusive and real and honest and keeping your word? I love this list and desire a man like that ! But almost 5 years now and it’s a pure fantasy to find or meet a man who is a REALman! I don’t and won’t settle for any less. And you just said any less right time I typed it! Omgoodness! It’s really sickening and actually pisses me off that the bad people have ruined the good ones !! Because honestly it makes me want to keep my guard up too !!
Bc it’s so rare to find decent people anymore!
Thank you for the specific guidelines for a permanent relationship. I am a widow and had a husband that was loving and supportive. I am rusty on seeking a new permanent partner.
It's so strange, women knows this yet so many of us end up with assholes lol 😆... That's why I been staying single till I find this person an meanwhile im just working on my own life.
Women should be able to feel good about themselves on their own. You can be a better person with or without him. It sounds a little narcissistic. Without me where would you be. I'm your beginning and end. I made you. Be grateful.
I'm feeling that pure love from this all...🙈🙏
I’ve been told many times he’s coming! Huh 🤔 hasn’t made it yet I get fed up
I really enjoyed this and it was good to hear it because it's true. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
If you don't do these things yourself do not expect any man to do them for you either. These points apply to women as well as they do to men. It may be more important for a woman to do most of these things. Number 5 will depend on your particular circumstances and difficulties. It is something a man should do first, but things happen in life and if the worst happens you must be willing to step up and take responsibility for things on yourself. However, never allow a man to be(come) a parasite if there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with him.
I think I might have met him recently. We are just friends right now. But he called me this morning just to say good morning. Then he felt bad because he knew he woke me up. It was my day off.
This is a beautiful message of truth for all of us who want true love. Really good stuff I mean listen to the end & then notice how you feel & stay in that energy ...
Thanks so much for the valuable information!
My single peaceful mind is the best thing i have and I don’t wanna lose that, bc we all know in all relationships there is downs and ups, so i leave that for others and my mind will stay stable forever 😂
he just described an Angel character from the 5th dimension
Awesome content.. Thnx Mathew
These are wonderful and true. I think these have for me, made the difference in feeling the love that someone purports to have for me.
Great video all powerful & valid points.
I found him! He turned 54 and I m 48! And he just proposed
My guy says he misses me all the time and says he loves me but he knows im struggling right know but he still keeps comming to me for money he says he is on the verge of going to jail if i dont send money to pay off his lawyer and he is in the music business
Very well done. Down to earth and practical wisdom. Listen up ladies!!
After a month in a half he changes the game. Pray for discernment and judgement.
This is very true. I Love it 😍❤️💜🌈🌎🌄 💓 thank you for this .
Great words, great tips, great video!
keeping a long story short - GRANDIOS 👍 😀 💪 🧡
Well, any man can tell a woman he misses her just tell her what she wants to hear. Actions are all that really matters. Was in a relationship with a narc which are famous for love bombing; he would tell me about 10x a day that he loved me but his actions were waay louder than his words. Haven't met that " supernatural man" yet😄
Never give up. Don't settle for less beautiful gal. Stay positive, work on improving yourself and in due time you will find the man of your dreams if you do believe and trust the God inside you to do that for Special YOU
65 yrs old, still waiting 🤣
God never fails. Remember that!
Thank you for great advice.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you this is perfect! Love it 😍
Thank you for the clarity .
I've just realized that I had 7 years of "F$%k Boy" energy and I thought I was in a partnership.
No wonder it was easy for him to dismiss me with a single text message to "pick up my stuff" and then 《☆boom☆》he moved in with a woman a month later.
I'd like to see this list in every bathroom stall across the continent. He didn't even have a presence on this list.
Good to know going forward.
Lesson painfully learned.☆!☆
🙏🤍
This is a good one Matt!!!
Thank you I really enjoyed your video. I could tell your very a considering person. Some young lady will be very pleased.🙂
Excellent presentation !
This video is really good. 👌🏼