Is Binge Eating A Choice?
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- IS THERE A CHOICE IN BINGE EATING?
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Certainly! Here's a 300-400 word summary for your UA-cam video about the line of personal responsibility in binge eating recovery:
Welcome to The Binge Eating Therapist. Sarah, a former binge eater turned psychotherapist, delves into a crucial question that haunted her during her recovery journey: Where is the line of personal responsibility in overcoming binge eating?
Navigating the complexities of compulsion, Sarah acknowledges the common narrative around binge eating-that it's a force overpowering one's will. The prevailing wisdom is that willpower and discipline alone are insufficient to break free from its grip. This dilemma often leads to a paradox: if binge eating is so potent, is recovery even possible?
Sarah sheds light on the concept of personal responsibility by emphasizing that everything eaten in the past is not the individual's responsibility anymore. While exploring the past for understanding is valuable, self-blame impedes progress. Similarly, the future shouldn't bear the burden of redemption for past mistakes. Relying on the promise of change tomorrow perpetuates the cycle of despair.
Instead, Sarah advocates for a focus on the present moment. True autonomy exists in the now. Acknowledging the challenges of overcoming overwhelming compulsions, she identifies factors like primal hunger, emotional dysregulation, and inner conflict that temporarily disable the part of the brain capable of taking responsibility.
Sarah's approach centers on a moment-by-moment commitment to oneself. It involves mindful eating, self-awareness in inner dialogue, and recognizing the autonomy one has in the present. Contrary to common advice, attempting to forcefully resist binge urges in the heat of the moment often proves futile.
Quoting Viktor Frankl, Sarah highlights that the first freedom is choosing one's attitude in any situation. Even when dealing with a critical inner voice, the attitude one adopts can influence the response. Whether it's adopting a stance of fierce compassion or recognizing the critical voice as an attempt to help, the choice of attitude shapes the recovery journey.
In essence, the line of responsibility begins and ends with the present moment. By cultivating a softer, more humble mindset, acknowledging the unknown, and embracing possibilities, individuals can initiate profound shifts in thinking, feeling, and ultimately, behavior.
What allowed me to show up for myself and speak lovingly to young inner me was finding my imaginary mum. She replaced my biological mum and taught me how to speak and protect myself by protecting me and speaking lovingly to me. After she tells me things I repeat them to young me (inner child).
🥹 That’s beautiful ❤️
I now just automatically like every video without even watching it..
😅💛 Because literally everything you’ve covered, resonates so much with me and helps so much.
Again, thank you for your support, information and guidance 🙏
ditto!
I've been struggling a lot with my eating disorder i gain a lot of weight for the past 3 months around like 7kg and that lowered my self esteem a lot. im so tired of this it just it so hard for me to control my self im so tired of this and my family wouldn't understand me at all 😢😢😢😟😔
I know I could never succeed at losing weight-or in keeping it off-until I managed my need to binge. Thank you so very much, Sarah, for your insights and encouragement! The penny always drops when I hear your words! Keep up the good work! ❤
It's called "self-compassion".
I like the 'critical voice' message you shared. Thank you. You had very helpful content
Thanks so much for not skewing the truth to suit an algorithm. Your work here is so, so, so helpful. Transformative, even. And thanks so much for continuing to do the solo videos as part of your work.
I would just like to thank you for everything you do on this channel and with your podcast. ❤I have been following you for a while and it's interesting to unravel and discover aspects I have never thought about before. 😊
This video came to a perfect time for me! Haven't binged in days. Was at a point where i almost started a binge after a normal portion of food but now i choose to not live in the future ("oh no i need to starve now to make this less bad"). Instead, i choose for the moment: right now i just accept it and make a potential binge less of a catastrophy in my head.
I'm very gratefull for the generosity and candor you put in your work. It has been very helpfull in my journey.
Sarah I love all your videos, I get some important gem from every single one. However, 2024, you're really peeling back those layers in my thinking!!!!!❤
Wow…thanks so much Sarah. The critical voice was the voice of the horrible boys and girls I grew up with at Boarding School, taunting me calling me Fatty, Motto ! My relatives calling me fat in younger days, I used food to comfort me like today. Now I’m beginning to understand my brain.
I will give myself love and compassion now, not to be hard on myself if I didn’t make it to the gym. I am Beautiful with curvy shape-I need to listen to this voice instead. This voice isn’t very loud but I need to turn up the Volume now . I love u Sarah ❤
The power of "I don't know" (and by the way, I love your nail varnish)
I needed to hear this ❤️❤️ your uploads are blessing
I'm glad I found your channel😊
Same❤
😍 Loving this video. LOVING IT!!!
This is fabulous ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your wisdom ✨
Wow, for me specifically, what I heard you say was change your voice change your choice. This morning before I even came across the video I forgave myself for getting up last night and raiding some of the fridge because I was Soo tired and my defences were down. My latest goal was to try to stay in bed instead of eating in the middle of the night. I started that habit recently. it's been a week now. Instead of looking at the two days I did do it I looked at the five days I didn't. Progress not perfection right. That in itself, I think, is the biggest work for me. Thank you soooooo much!
Change your voice, change your choice! Love that 😍
Easily the most important/relevant discussion to be had
Dear Sarah, as alway, thank you. I'm learning a lot from you, and about myself - thanks to you. As I am doing this inside-search, I noticed that most of the times when I binge eat, I have actually a sense of control. It's as if I am enjoying exerting my authority over one area of my life (I do binge eat during stressing times when I feel no control over the matters). But it's more than that. Deep down, it feels like a revenge, like I am taking a revenge against myself for having controled myself for a while, and to be honest a revenge agains something/someone that I don't know. A voice literally inside me says, I CAN, and I DO it :)) I get - to some extent how everything you said explain these feelings/thoughts, but it still feels like I am missing something. Because it's like I am making a choice at the moment, a choice to eat and revenge, whereas I also have the compulsion... Given that you are very experienced, I was wondering if you have any advice, videos or materials that would be relevant to this kind of feelings . I would greatly greatly appreciate it 🌺
This makes me think of a story that I hear a lot in slightly different variations and it goes like this; when you were a kid, maybe you were judged to be 'overweight' and so your parents are advised to put you on a diet. Fast forward to adulthood, now living in a bigger body possibly due to years of yo-yo dieting, there is a strong rebellious reaction to being told how to eat even if it's you trying to tell yourself how to eat. When you binge you feel like you are 'getting back' at those authority figures who tried to thwart your freedom even though they are not watching or necessarily invested in your food choices now.
Compulsive eating and suppressing anger are sometimes linked. If you weren't allowed to be angry as a kid, you may learn how to suppress to avoid disapproval. Many people may probably relate to feeling angry with someone or something and heading off to binge because 'that will show them'.
Not sure I've done a video on this. Let me give it some thought and see if there is a video idea here
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist ❤Oh my GOD! you're right. I know that I was put on strict diet when I was just 9 months old! That explains a lot. THANK YOU SO MUCH! I hope you know how much of a deep and positive impact you have on people's lives. Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom and expertise so generously and kindly 💗
I appreciate this info, I agree that self talk can possibly be helpful even if it's in a Tough Love voice. I wish I had something like that when I go into diet amnesia and cook a meal with 1500 calories on a day that I woke up and said, "ok today we are shooting for 1500 cal total, we can do this!" No, no, now diet amnesia strikes. So then I finish eating, wash the dish, and AFTERWARD the awareness occurs. It's discouraging to say the least.
I signed up for Jan 28 xx
😍😍 I look forward to meeting you then!
Great video .