I am so sorry you lost your mother. They are so special. And....thank you for sharing your experience. It is very helpful to others. Your mom was very blessed to have such a caring daughter be with her during this time.
I have heard so many say they wish they had gotten hospice sooner. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad they were able to get up to speed quickly to help you and your mother.
God Bless You! I also have been through this with my mom. Almost word for word. I, too, am a bi-lateral mastectomy survivor. We most definitely can look at life and death with much more peace now.
I am so sorry about your loss and so glad you were there to help and comfort your mother. I am so fortunate I was with my father when he passed. Hugs to you
I'm so sorry for your loss Kathleen and send you my condolences for what is so difficult to go through. Like you, I was with my Mum (and Dad) when they passed and I am so glad I was. As hard as it was, I will always remember. Thank you for sharing.
I miss my mom every day. I could feel her presence for quite some time post her passing from a stroke. She lived to 93 & had a good life. She was freeked out over my ILC BC diag in 2009. My BC turned MBC to spine in 2023. Im on chemo pills post Versenio & Letrosole not working. Next steps are FES petscan & genomic testing of my bone biopsy material. Your mom will always be next to your ❤ My mom never had BC nor heart issues.
Thank you so much! Have you seen the videos by "ILC Symposium" here on youtube? They are excellent. Also, if you follow Dr. Jason Mouabbi, he's always on the cutting edge of the lit!
Kathleen I am so sorry for your loss. You are correct that it was a gift that your mom had her say in the end. May our Heavenly Father wrap his arms around you and your family during this time.
God bless your mother, she was very brave. And you have been brave too, to go through all this recently. So sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to breast cancer spread to her lungs, and another cancer in her abdomen, GIST. It was just the hardest thing to go through. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about your mom's passing. I've felt a connection with you and your stories. I am post mastectomy and dflap surgery. My mom is 90 and dad is 87. Mom also is a breast cancer survivor.
so sorry to hear about your mom but she sounded very brave from what you said. Likely she felt she had a good life with her adult kid there by her side.
My mother passed away about 2 and 1/2 years ago, she was 91. It was so hard for me - I was an only child, when we lost my dad to prostate cancer she and I had each other. It took me a long time to heal. I just found out my breast cancer has returned after 14 years. I will be having a mastectomy and probably chemo. Thank you for your videos.
You mentioned tumor markers, how are those done, what are they? I have had things in my lungs before (and had uterine cancer before my breast cancer) I been developing a cough and wonder if those markers would help. I have had some things in lung before, but they were less than 10cm so they told me in past that they were rather small to biopsy (ie risk was greater than reward) so now I am wondering since I developed more of a cough now. I did have covid badly before and this isn't covid.
So many stories focus on young people who are seeking treatment for their illness. Your story, however, focuses on what so many of us are really going through which is the journey of an elderly parent who chooses not to have (or can’t tolerate) surgery, chemo, radiation or other treatments. My mother is going through a very similar journey to your mom. She is 89 with Stage 4 breast cancer with Mets to her lungs, pancreas and kidneys. I understand how difficult your story must have been for you, but you are so fortunate that your mom was willing to be realistic about how advanced her cancer was and was willing to engage hospice. My mom refuses to accept that her disease is as advanced as it is and will not even consider meeting with a hospice specialist. She holds a lot of anger towards me for taking her to the hospital for a serious UTI and, later, for her initial cancer diagnosis and later the discovery of the Mets. She has irrationally insisted that she will take matters into her own hands when the time is right and just wants me to ignore her situation. Having been through the extended dying process of both my father and my husband I know in my heart this approach is not going to end well. But unfortunately, even with a medical POA I can’t do anything to get hospice involved because she is mentally competent and must sign the agreement herself. How lucky you are to have had a mother who wasn’t confrontational, who understood her situation and who accepted hospice with grace and dignity. I don’t know how horrific my mom’s final days will end up being and my heart goes out to anyone who reads this whose parent is stubborn and unwilling to face their diagnosis. I so hope that I will be more like your mom and less like mine when my time comes.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I took comfort from Kathryn Mannix's book 'With the end in mind'. Her Ted talk on dying was a great comfort to my father-in-law who was dying from cancer: ua-cam.com/video/CZDDByT0Vr0/v-deo.htmlsi=JSBSbxLFiz90thOm
No matter how long a life, there is never an easy time to lose one's mother. She was so fortunate to have her daughters' care.
Thanks Susan!
I’m sorry you lost your mother. It doesn’t matter how old and sick, you always miss your mother.
True.
I am so sorry you lost your mother. They are so special. And....thank you for sharing your experience. It is very helpful to others. Your mom was very blessed to have such a caring daughter be with her during this time.
Thank you so much!
I have heard so many say they wish they had gotten hospice sooner. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad they were able to get up to speed quickly to help you and your mother.
Yes, it really was ok--just a bit of a whirlwind.
God Bless You! I also have been through this with my mom. Almost word for word. I, too, am a bi-lateral mastectomy survivor. We most definitely can look at life and death with much more peace now.
I'm glad to hear you feel the same. Peace is a good thing after all the trauma!
I am so sorry about your loss and so glad you were there to help and comfort your mother. I am so fortunate I was with my father when he passed. Hugs to you
It was a blessing for sure. Thanks!
So sorry for your loss.
Thanks!
I'm so sorry for your loss Kathleen and send you my condolences for what is so difficult to go through. Like you, I was with my Mum (and Dad) when they passed and I am so glad I was. As hard as it was, I will always remember. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much!
I miss my mom every day. I could feel her presence for quite some time post her passing from a stroke. She lived to 93 & had a good life. She was freeked out over my ILC BC diag in 2009. My BC turned MBC to spine in 2023. Im on chemo pills post Versenio & Letrosole not working. Next steps are FES petscan & genomic testing of my bone biopsy material. Your mom will always be next to your ❤ My mom never had BC nor heart issues.
Thank you so much! Have you seen the videos by "ILC Symposium" here on youtube? They are excellent. Also, if you follow Dr. Jason Mouabbi, he's always on the cutting edge of the lit!
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum, and for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Take care❤
You're so welcome!
Kathleen I am so sorry for your loss. You are correct that it was a gift that your mom had her say in the end. May our Heavenly Father wrap his arms around you and your family during this time.
Thanks Stella!
I'm so sorry my condolences on the loss of your mother. Praying for your strength 🙏🏽
Thanks. I miss her…
God bless your mother, she was very brave. And you have been brave too, to go through all this recently. So sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to breast cancer spread to her lungs, and another cancer in her abdomen, GIST. It was just the hardest thing to go through. My heart goes out to you.
I thank you. Good words. Such a hard thing to witness.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear about your mom's passing. I've felt a connection with you and your stories. I am post mastectomy and dflap surgery. My mom is 90 and dad is 87. Mom also is a breast cancer survivor.
Wow. I am the same--mom was 90 and dad is nearly 87! Thanks for reaching out!
So sorry for your loss
Thanks!
so sorry to hear about your mom but she sounded very brave from what you said. Likely she felt she had a good life with her adult kid there by her side.
Thanks. Yes, we were both blessed to have time together at the end.
My mother passed away about 2 and 1/2 years ago, she was 91. It was so hard for me - I was an only child, when we lost my dad to prostate cancer she and I had each other. It took me a long time to heal. I just found out my breast cancer has returned after 14 years. I will be having a mastectomy and probably chemo. Thank you for your videos.
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through Linda. Best wishes for your season of healing.
Condolences
Thanks so much.
Your thoughts are well worth thinking and feeling. A positive for UA-cam.
Thanks!
She will visit you
YES!
You mentioned tumor markers, how are those done, what are they? I have had things in my lungs before (and had uterine cancer before my breast cancer) I been developing a cough and wonder if those markers would help. I have had some things in lung before, but they were less than 10cm so they told me in past that they were rather small to biopsy (ie risk was greater than reward) so now I am wondering since I developed more of a cough now. I did have covid badly before and this isn't covid.
Yes, I highly recommend getting breast cancer tumor markers drawn. They aren’t expensive at all and insurance always covers.
So many stories focus on young people who are seeking treatment for their illness. Your story, however, focuses on what so many of us are really going through which is the journey of an elderly parent who chooses not to have (or can’t tolerate) surgery, chemo, radiation or other treatments. My mother is going through a very similar journey to your mom. She is 89 with Stage 4 breast cancer with Mets to her lungs, pancreas and kidneys. I understand how difficult your story must have been for you, but you are so fortunate that your mom was willing to be realistic about how advanced her cancer was and was willing to engage hospice. My mom refuses to accept that her disease is as advanced as it is and will not even consider meeting with a hospice specialist. She holds a lot of anger towards me for taking her to the hospital for a serious UTI and, later, for her initial cancer diagnosis and later the discovery of the Mets. She has irrationally insisted that she will take matters into her own hands when the time is right and just wants me to ignore her situation. Having been through the extended dying process of both my father and my husband I know in my heart this approach is not going to end well. But unfortunately, even with a medical POA I can’t do anything to get hospice involved because she is mentally competent and must sign the agreement herself. How lucky you are to have had a mother who wasn’t confrontational, who understood her situation and who accepted hospice with grace and dignity. I don’t know how horrific my mom’s final days will end up being and my heart goes out to anyone who reads this whose parent is stubborn and unwilling to face their diagnosis. I so hope that I will be more like your mom and less like mine when my time comes.
Oh, that sounds hard. I'm so sorry. End of life is so full of minefields. Mine were with my siblings. Still recovering.
I have same type cancer as your mother 😢
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Sorry
thanks so much!
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I took comfort from Kathryn Mannix's book 'With the end in mind'. Her Ted talk on dying was a great comfort to my father-in-law who was dying from cancer: ua-cam.com/video/CZDDByT0Vr0/v-deo.htmlsi=JSBSbxLFiz90thOm
Thanks!
Since finding your channel I’ve been enjoying your content.
Again, I’m so very sorry for your loss. 🩷
Thanks so much, Jackie!