I was told, “You’re stage 4. This is going to kill you." | Abigail’s Metastatic Breast Cancer Story
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- Abigail was a busy lawyer and mom of 2 when she found a lump in her breast. After her first mammogram and a biopsy, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. In this story she shares how her diagnosis of stage 2A turned out to be stage 4 metastatic, meaning it had spread throughout her body, parenting while living with cancer and her transition from a busy career to going through treatment.
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1) I was told "You're stage 4. This is going to kill you" That was extremely sobering: This Video
2) I Got a Stage 4 Cancer Diagnosis in the Middle of My Career, While Raising 2 Kids: • I Got Stage 4 Breast C...
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Contents of this video:
00:00 - Intro
02:25 - What were some of your first symptoms?
05:26 - How genetic testing for cancer has changed
13:31 - When did you realize this was something more serious?
22:46 - Receiving the diagnosis
32:49 - How did you process the diagnosis?
42:05 - Parenting while dealing with cancer
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It wasn’t breast cancer, but my husband’s first oncologist said “Sell everything and take a trip around the world, because you’ll die from this in about a year.” We didn’t do that, of course, and my husband lived another 27 years, cancer free.
Yep. Same deal with us.
That’s wonderful! Let’s hope that’s true for as many others as humanly and Godly possible! ❤
But you missed the trip!
😲 Good for him!
One lovely comment, not mine: My husband had a stage 4 lung cancer, and doctor said he would only have few months to live. We have changed our live style together by changing our diet (Whole food plan base diet), exercise, and be in the sun for about 1 hr/day. To our surprise, his tumor in the brain shrink then disappear in just 2 short months. His doctor had no words on how we could reverse cancer naturally.
Òne of my dear friends passed earlier this year after living with breast cancer for almost 15 years. She had 3 daughters who were aged 5, 8 & 11. Once she got the diagnosis that she was stage 4, all she prayed for was to get her girls to adulthood...any more would be a bonus. She was 43 when diagnosed and passed at almost 58. She had a lot of difficult months and years during that time but she also had alot of just wonderful normal time living her life & raising her girls. Her girls are all now young adults in their twenties missing their Mom but also thriving thanks to her and how she was able to raise them. My wish is that you get many more years with your precious boys. My friend defied the horrible odds stacked against her for a long time & had a wonderful life & so can you.
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I also lost my best friend to Breast Cancer, and she, too, battled for 17 years, but her body was just too tired to continue the battle. Our thoughts are with you.
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That's so sad, sorry for your loss. My dad was just diagnosed and he's my hero still at nearly 40. It's always too soon. ❤
@@lbar9720 these comments about losing people to breast cancer are NOT helpful to those of us dealing with it. Have some sensitivity!
@L Bar these comments about losing people to breast cancer are NOT helpful to those of us dealing with it. Have some sensitivity!
I have breast cancer in left breast which I thought it gone now I have MBC now, it has not spread nowhere else but lungs from CT scan. I was told . Back on treatments. I'm giving up from them saying it's not curable. I'm praying for God's healing! And for who is going though this. Too many are getting Cancer. It has to stop! And I know God hears prayer.
Praying for me ! I had cancer on Lbreast in 2010 went thru chemo surgeries and radiation + 5 year of tamoxifen. Got pregnant in 2017 and 2019. Now Dec 31 2022 Dx with stage 4… praying GOD to be here for my kids 6 and 4.
AMEN!!
Wholeness, optimum health and COMPLETE cell, tissue, organ, bone, lymphatic and circulatory system RENEWAL in Jesus’ Mighty, Precious, Holy and UNRIVALLED Name Amen and Amen and AMEN!! Thank you, JESUS!!
May your vessel be restored to The LORD’s original design for it!!
HALLELUJAH!!
Praying for healing for you and all women fighting breast cancer.
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Amen 🙏. God heal each and every women fighting with cancer...including my mom with MBC to lungs nodules. God is a healer and he is a God of possible Nothing is impossible with him...in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏.
No doctor should say, "This is going to kill you."If Stage4 cancer patients are living 10-15 years, there is always hope for break through medications.
@@Cwgrlup there are way to many circumstances and variables involved in stage 4 breast cancer for any doctor, unless it's in the liver, to know if it will kill you. As someone with breast cancer involved in at least a dozen groups of other women with the disease, I'm aware that advances in the medicine are happening all the time. One of my best friends was told "it would kill" her and is now in her mid 80s - 30 years after she was told this. My own partner was in palliative care for 3 months, the doctors had given up, but then a doctor in a another health care system discovered a trail they knew nothing about. (And this was one of the top cancer centers in the nation). So yeah, if it's absolutely the end of the road, inform the patient. But Stage 4 is not necessarily a death sentence. You can live 20, 30 more years and lots of other things can kill you in the meantime.
I am stage 4 mTNBC, I want my oncologist to be honest, straightforward and to never give me false hope. With stage 4 it is most likely what, I will die from. Yes, I COULD live many years, but with triple negative being the most aggressive breast cancer with much fewer treatment options, it is best, for me, to accept this is my likely outcome. Less than 20% live 5 years once it has progressed to metastatic. To say a doctor should “never say……” if an opinion that works for you, but not for me.
Right?! My cancer doctor keeps saying the word " inncurable" I speak up right away and say you cant say that! Lots of people get miracles,,lots of stage 4s walk away.
I’ve been living with cancer for 12 years now. I’m stage 4 as well. I’m currently back in chemotherapy. This time my oncologist is treating me with Enhertu. It’s not over until God says it over. For me my faith in Jesus has kept me going all these years.
@@vikkicarr3255
Healing was already accomplished on the cross. Continue to believe.
As someone who has a diagnosis similar to Abigail, it is reassuring that she has been doing so well for so long. I'm only 2 months into this stage 4 MBC journey and it's still so daunting each day. Thank you so much for these stories, they give more hope than most without this disease can realize. 🧡
Live every second to the fullest♡
Please go Whole Food Plant Based along with your other medications n process, I bet it does wonders. Please explore there are tons of people who could beat such desease by WFPB.
Have you looked in to how keto can save you ? If you want some information let me know. HUGS. IT SAVED ME
@@jaydrree123 Hi Jay, I'm wondering if you could give me info on keto and how to start. I was recently diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and have learned it has spread to certain areas of my body.
Sending you love and hugs ❤🌹🌻
We have to live in the moment. My mother always would say to me, every day is a gift, live it to the fullest!
Abigail, thank you so much for spending precious time sharing your story. Writing letters to our children for those moments in the future that your sons will need to hear from you is a great idea for all of us. You have such a positive attitude. I pray that your treatments continue to work until the scientists find something better to work for you.
A very good idea to get mental health support. I supported my husband throughout his cancer and although it was terminal, we grew so close and it changed our lives for the better. He lived far longer than the norm and the way we approached the disease I believe enabled that.
My heart goes out to you, I'm going through the very same. My scan showed the cancer in bones, but not spread any more . Like you we don't want to leave our children behind. Stay strong and one day at a timeXxx❤❤❤
Can a breast cancer stage 4 patients take breaks from meds and treatments is that safe??
I agree with many here you are inspirational, your parenting is admirable during this difficult time I see you making beautiful memories every day and still setting time aside to make sure those beautiful boys feel there Mama’s legacy lives on.
As a retired Oncology Nurse I’m aware of many stage 4 survivors being in remission for over 20 years and with your positive mindset I feel sure you will definitely be having that Wedding dance with your boys
🙏❤️
My discovery, this August, was an inverted nipple which made me search for the lump. The biopsy showed Stage 1 and if everything goes as planned, I'll have the lumpectomy in November.
*Update*
Surgery went well, my Doctor is confident that she got all the cancer in one scoop, and, the Sentinel nodes that were removed show no signs of spreading. Now onto 16 treatments of radiation when I've healed.
You should have a good prognosis since your cancer was diagnosed as stage one. Good luck!
@@phillipevans1152 thank you!
What is inverted nipple??
@@neemasinha8781late but Incase anyone else sees this. If you push in your nipple, some people naturally have this too tho, it was goes inside the boob. If it does that without you pushing it in and is just like that. That is an emergency and you should get care immediately. Same with discharge (fluid) from nipples is very bad too. Can be other things but very abnormal.
I watch this channel all the time because of family members who have been diagnosed. Imagine my surprise when I click on your channel and see someone I’ve worked with! She was an amazing attorney and advocate for children in our child welfare system. I’m so glad that she’s here to share her story. ❤️
Was? Did she pass or stop working to focus on her health?
One lovely comment, not mine: My husband had a stage 4 lung cancer, and doctor said he would only have few months to live. We have changed our live style together by changing our diet (Whole food plan base diet), exercise, and be in the sun for about 1 hr/day. To our surprise, his tumor in the brain shrink then disappear in just 2 short months. His doctor had no words on how we could reverse cancer naturally.
She gave up her clients and law firm to focus on her health.@@motherofthreeb6337
I am so inspired by Abigail's take-action response to stage-4 cancer. How did she do that instead of just being overwhelmed, and collapsing, I wonder? Her beautiful family gave her much motivation and support to take all the needed steps quickly to deal with her medical care, changes to her law practice management, childcare, and priorities and dreams about her future family life. And then she herself is a gem regarding living with gusto, gentle good humor, and intelligence. I wish her every good thing from here forward.
A positive attitude plays a huge role in fighting cancer.
Absolutely. I m just 4 months after treatment. My husband completely left me alone to deal it with myself but I never gave up myself.. cancer wasn’t hurtful but people are.. but time heal wounds.. if I can beat cancer and treatment I can heal wounds 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Chamila ~ Way to stay strong. I married young lasted 25 years till my mets diagnosis and my husband checked out on me & our 3 yr old daughter. I too feel like I am stronger today then ever before but hearing these stories does still make a part of me wish I had someone to love me & tell me "it'll be okay". Best wishes to you.
@@juanitagee9511 yes I feel the same way. I try not to think about it. I got a chance to live and see my children grow so I m focusing that. 🙏🏻 wish you all the good luck
@@chamilaschadlou3281 hai how are you doing now please tell me what you eat to bit cancer
Abigail: I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis but you seem to be handling it all well. I am in exactly the same boat. I was dx with stage 4 MBC just under 2 yrs ago. Mine is in lymph nodes, lung, ribs, spine and humerus. I did IV Taxol and radiation for my ribs and humerus and had spinal surgery to remove a huge lumbar tumor. I'm now on hormone treatment (Verzenio and Letrizole) with no further spread of my cancer. I'm in a holding pattern, still upright and active and moving and not giving up. All we can do is move forward and stay positive. I've heard that some people can live for 15 or more years with MBC. It is all individualized and depends on how our bodies handle the meds we're given. The only complaint I have is my constant fatigue. I've never been so tired (all the time) in spite of gentle exercise, getting enough sleep and eating well. I'm not at all in pain at this time so I'm happy for that.
Praying for you and your family and keep us posted how you're doing.
Prayers 🙏 to you
Can a breast cancer stage 4 patients take breaks from meds and treatments is that safe??
@@Mariam-mj2wlI wouldn’t think it would be , it can cause serious issues to just stop any medication especially if your body needs it
I am less than one year into my diagnosis and could totally relate. Thank you for sharing your story. It gives me hope!❤
I am a Doctor and I had breast cancer, stage 2 A, I would never straight up tell my patient the cancer would kill them on the first visit. Yes I am realistic but I am a fighter and I try to offer hope
Thank you for that!
You have to eat a plant base diet. Nuts, beans, fruits, vegetables and cruciferous vegetables. mushrooms. carrots, beets, collard greens. Research coq10, magnesium, vitamin d, and vitamin c, vitamin e. my ca125 was 270 now is under range 39. I also took herbs.❤🙏🏼
@bmillig; As a physician you offer treatments and any other protocols that will help the patient. They’ll get the cheerleaders routine and morale boosting with their families, not a doctor. As a doctor you do have to be realistic. The reality is we’re all on the cusp of death. A mere breath away from it. One heartbeat away. If you have a patient that is terminal, you don’t say, hey girl, you can beat it! Let’s do this thing! Not your place but thanks for being willing to break your Hippocratic oaths. When would you let them know that they’re terminal? Second visit? After palliative care has begun? When doctor @ bmillig? What branch of medicine do you practice? Chiropractor? Podiatrist? Not oncology, that’s for sure!
@@hoosierbaddy3052 I was a hospice doctor, my point was I would not tell the patient on the first visit there was no hope. I am a board certified physician, Why are you so very rude. do you have nothing better to do than to bully people in comments. You don't know me. Find a life an quit trolling the comment sections
Stage 4 cancer is a death sentence. Most patients would prefer honesty to "hope".
In 2014 the panel was 8 genes. In 2017 it was 88. Genetic research is rapidly advancing, thank goodness. In 2014 I was told my BC was a fluke. In 2017 after a recurrence of BC, my second genetic test showed a CHEK2 mutation linked to BC. I also had another mutation linked to colon and thyroid cancer. We stepped up monitoring those and, sure enough, 6 years later I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. We shouldn’t be afraid of genetic testing. It saves lives.
Thank you for being so brave in sharing your story Abigail. You are so articulate yet so relatable. Wishing you all the best on your journey.
Hello
How are you doing today?
You’re an inspiration, Abigail. Thank you ❤
I’m so sorry🥲 but there is hope❤️👍 my youngest girl had stage 4 too. She beat it as her twin gave her his stem cells🙏 2 years now. She’s great👍 I pray you beat this too❤️🥰❤️❤️
Abigail I pray for a miracle for you as what a absolutely Devine woman you are.
I would say other people in your position would find you an inspiration.
All the best xxx
Praying for you to dance at your sons’ wedding. Thank you for sharing your story.
Hello Jennifer
How are you doing today?
You are an inspiration. My prayers go to you for a life full of many joys.
Such an amazing, thoughtful intelligent person. ❤
We couldn't agree more! Thank you for watching
My breast biopsy was an awful experience. The doctor said he had to try to get the biopsy from a different angle and the angle he took was not anesthetized. It hurt so bad. There was also a pool of blood on a pad under the table. I almost fainted when I saw it. After the diagnosis, I had surgery and radiation. I hope I never have to go through that again.
That sounds terrible. Some doctors have no clue how it feels to the patient. . I had breast cancer. During a follow-up ultrasound I asked the doctor to scan the ultrasound wand on a sore spot under my arm. She said "oh it's not cancer, CANCER DOES NOT HURT"!! I wanted to punch her. She did go over the spot after I insisted but still blew me off! I was so angry. Yes my lump did hurt. That was one of the symptoms that really got me in to get the mammogram. It was stage 2B after all.
@@psrwhite The same thing is happening to me I have pain in my left breast and fluid comes out and they tell me that everything is normal all the doctors are fighting the diagnosis of my Neurology that found me cancerous cell. honestly 95% of doctors are negligent.
I have to agree, not sure if it was the same thing, but it just kept hurting, I knew I had tears coming down my face. He had to add painkiller, but it really didn't help much, I think it was an angle issue like yours. Next time, I would "ready" to speak up if the numbing isn't working, much earlier.
So sorry, dear
My ex has much pain from tongue biopsy. How long to heal f biopsy pain, please?
Diagnosed with stage IV from the start in 2016. I would endure any treatment, any pain for one more day with my babies who are now 21 and 17. I really wish to be a grandmother, but I can't imagine being that lucky
Praying healing for you and that you're blessed with the longevity you desire with your family.
@@ketoafrikana4953 Thank you so much!
I pray you get to meet your grandchildren in Jesus name amen
@@CraftsByBetty Thank you!
Omg you the angel .Your son’s have Wonderful and strong mother ❤
My surgical oncologist told me my cancer was going to come back because I rejected conventional treatment. I treated my breast cancer holistically! I'm in year five cancer free.
What was your treatment? I am asking for my father who is suffering badly
could you please tell me something about your treatment . Because my mom is stage 4 breast cancer.
I would love to know your treatment as well
Very inspirational in many ways. Thankyou.
Thank you for sharing your story! I am just starting my breast cancer journey and this has encouraged me to be strong, positive, and to advocate for what I feel I need. I'm going to ask about a PET scan and genetic testing at my appt this week.
Such a wonderful person. Loving her children into their future. I'm on a similar journey. As I pray for myself I also pray for Abigail to live a robust and healed life in Jesus mighty name amen 🙏
I had a surgical excision a week ago. I'm still waiting on my results and won't meet for my follow-up with my surgeon for 2 more weeks. I'm so grateful for videos like this, they are really helping me through this process.
You are not alone. What type of cancer were you diagnosed with may I ask?
It is for breast cancer, but there are many types and I don't have my results yet.
@@AngelHawks I’m so sorry God is with you
I hope You get better and will think of Your healing. If my words can offer any consolation, please find strength and recover.
I’m six months since surgery, you don’t have to be “tough, strong or brave” you just have to show up to all your appointments, rest as much as you can, and do things that make you happy when you can. Dust can wait. You will need help, say yes. You can totally do this. The world is a better place with you in it. 🌸❤️🌺
Thank you for sharing your story. 🎉 your an inspiration. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story and May God bless you Always 💞👍💞😊
Thank you for sharing your story
Praying for you! ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. 💕
Doctors really need to stop telling people "you're too young to get x" It's outdated and just not true.
You're inspirational 💜💜💜 Thank God you're still here
Blessings to you and your family...⚘️
Hello Kathy
How are you doing today?
Thank you. This helps me understand why I have to get more chemo. I am currently recovering from my lumpectomy 3 days ago .. 4 now.
God bless this woman and her family Truky wonderful soul
Abigail is such a wonderful storyteller I'm just listening to your story 4-5 times over and over again...the diagnosis must have been so devastating. Do doctors have to be so brutal i.e. must he say "this is going to kill you" vs. "this may be fatal or this may kill you"????????? I pray that you make it to as many of your sons' milestones as possible, you are just brilliant!!!
Unbelievable the doctor said "this is going to kill you". What an ignorant moron.
Miss Abigail is amazing! All the best to her and her family 💫. What were the tumor markers that the nurse accidentally ordered for her, which uncovered the metastatic cancer?
You have had so much to deal with. I really hope that you are alright now and have some comfort.
God Bless. Beautiful woman. Stay strong 💪
Hello there stranger. I really hope that now today you are very well healing. Wow!!!! I am so glad I have come across to your story. I'm recently diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma HER2 positive stage 1 about 2 week and a half ago. Tomorrow will be my double mastectomy & reconstruction surgery day. A little nervous about the surgery. Anyway you looked stunning look so healthy. Positive thoughts are the winners you are definitely kick it in the butt 💪🏼 We will kick it in the butt yes we are. Wishing everyone a wonderful and best healing
Hi! How do you feel? How was your intervention? I hope all the best for you!
These interviews has been so helpful. I had lung surgery cancer was found 3/7/24. So Many missed red flags by my pulmonary team.
(I just watched the second half of this video, where she does discuss the second genetic panel required for the cancer itself, after the first test for the patient's inherited mutations, if any.)
Abrigal my prayers God is in control of you and the family ❤❤❤❤
"It is not the doctors that run the care, it is the insurance companies." So frustrating!
Omg this is such a sad story to be happening to a lovely lady x
You are an amazing woman. I aspire to be as strong as you are ❤️
after 8 mnths of me telling my former obgyn that i had cancer (her saying it was hormones) , the day she finally agreed with me, that i had cancer, she told me the same thing, if you dont treat this fast, its going to kill you. that was a bit blunt to me
Wow, she is amazing woman with a heart full of love. I wish her and her family more time together.
Your so strong ❤️
Ladies don't never give up keep fighting I am and will from this day on keep up the fight God is good and can heal u ! Amen 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for telling us more about how genetic testing has evolved. I am sorry you had cancer. Many years of health cancer free is my wish and prayer for you. 🙏🧘💖
You're inspiratoonal! Prayers going out to you!
Beautiful lady with a beautiful face and a super smart mind xxx
So disappointing because people with low onco type scores think there good. But apparently not. Sweet young mom. I’m glad to see she’s doing well. We have to pray for a cure for all of us
I can’t believe a doctor would say that…no tact.
I had Cancer in my right breast I was upset that I had a Cancer recurrance. Before I had breast Cancer I never had breast Cancer. I had uterine Cancer back in 2013 I was Cancer free for about eight years. Then breast Cancer in my right breast. So I had both of my breasts removed completely. Because I didn't want to get Cancer in my left breast. Then I didn't want to do radiation. I didn't have any Cancer until I had the uterine Cancer. I miss being healthier & having better quality of life. This has been a big adjustment for me then Cancer has disrupted my life.
Abigail thank you for sharing your story my daughter is 30 years old was misdiagnosed and now has stage 2 breast cancer had full mastectomy and has cancer in lymph nodes and started chemo and has 2year old so scary my heart breaks for her being her mom😢
Thanks for sharing your video ❤
Thank you for watching!
Coping skills...that is what I need the most. Still waiting on final diagnosis this week.
I too have been behind the camera. I will change that now.
Same here. I'm in the go and wait period still right now. I figure it gives me space to find a therapist and make some decisions ahead of time. What else can we do.
Try doing the MBTI (Carl Jung) for personality types, it's free on the net but is a much shorter version. You can compare the results with your other test. I see ourselves as 'half' people until we master the less strong aspects of our personality to make a full person and reach self actualisation.
Since your initial symptoms were pain in your leg and back, how come the doctors did not check those areas for methastasis from the very beginning?
She said she didn't tell the doctors about the pain.
Wishing you all good thoughts ❤
All cancers stem from a genetic mutation, but most of these mutations happen during life; they are not inherited mutations. When this patient discusses genetic mutations, she is referring to the 12% of cancers that arise from inherited mutations. Patients should have TWO genetic panels after being diagnosed with cancer: the first is test the patient for inherited genetic mutations, so that he or she can advise family members about early screening, etc., and the second panel is to check the actual genetics of the cancer, itself. The actual genetics of a cancer, and which mutations exist, determines which treatment will work on which patient, so that second genetic panel of the cancer, itself, is very important.
Thank you for your explanation. Cancer is a "must know more" disease so as to deal or support wisely.
Very well said and explained, thank you.
It's not genetics nor mutations passed by families. It's virus HHV6 that's passed to children by parents at conception or later in life. This virus begins to mutate into cancer from surrounding decaying toxic heavy metals in the tissue. T
My mother have breast cancer stage 4 triple negative! Hoping for recovery lord! I will pray for the recovery of my mom reynilda Bengson♥️♥️
Same
Can a breast cancer stage 4 patients take breaks from meds and treatments is that safe??
My beautiful mum developed IBC which quickly spread to her lung and axilla . She passed away 11 weeks after diagnosis .it was so aggressive she didn’t stand a chance 😢
I am so sorry for your loss xx 💙💙
I’m so so sorry ): my mama has been just diagnosed with stage IV brain cancer. I hate cancer so much. I’m so sorry ))):
Prayers 🙏 to you ,may your Mom ,RIP❤❤
How is Abigail in December 2023? Any updates?
I too got breast cancer in the same spot I struggled with recurrent bouts of mastitis!
I think this is happening to me. This is the second time this breast infection came back in the same spot
When the doctor tell you to come whenever you can come to the office, it's not good news. Go immediately.
I am stage 4 from a fungated breast cancer and still alive on chemo.
God will cure you completely. Amen 🙏
@@smitapr8647 ...Thank you my friend, it did shrink and closed on it's own but I didn't want to do auto immune drip because it is very risky, I just did abroxine chemo !
Can a breast cancer stage 4 patients take breaks from meds and treatments is that safe??
Wow. I just listened to the part where you said your breast tumor was in the same area where you had a clogged duct. I had a very clogged duct with my second born and years later I was diagnosed with IDC in that same exact area. I told my husband I felt like there was a connection bw the cancer and the clogged duct.
How did you find out about your cancer diagnosis? Leave us a comment below 👇
I’m going in for a bone marrow biopsy tomorrow morning. More than likely it’s multiple myeloma. I already have MGUS, but my doctor dropped the ball on my annual tests.
@@TheTonialadd hoping for the best outcome for you!
I received the MyChart, along with a marketing email; advertising the Cancer Center. I knew two weeks before a doctor confirmed my diagnosis. I am also Stage 4, and I have a lot to say about the way cancer is handled in our Post Covid World.
@@tamiewert808 thank you!
I was on a cot with my 88 yo mom in the hospital. It was flat so breast at that angle. I put my arms across because I was cold. There it was. A lump. I was quickly diagnosed and had a lumpectomy and radiation. My mom went from the hospital to a very nice nursing home. That was a huge relief. I am an only child. My children lived out of town. She was safe. I could take care of me. She lived to 90. Still walking on her walker, singing and playing bingo the day she quickly passed away. Go forward 6 years. All mamograms and oncology manual checks good. My cat fell off the headboard going in the window and fell partly on me. The pain in my breast took my breath away. I grabbed it out of reflex. A lump extremely close to my scar. Breast cancer again but not a recurrence. A second primary tumor. A totally different and new one. I was shocked. I couldn't believe I had another one in the same breast. It had only been 9 months since my last good mamogram. I insisted on a PET which showed no spread. My Doctor said he was doing genetic testing. I have a granddaughter. It showed no mutation. Now since I have seen this I will ask for specifics. No breast cancer in my mother, grandmothers or aunts. I had a first cousin who died at 50 with MBC. I had a mastectomy which did not heal due to radiation cell damage. Had a debridement 2 months later and I have healed. I googled and looked at the percentage of people who die of a second cancer. It was not pretty. I am 72. I have lived life, had 2 children and one precious grandchild. Traveled the world and was an RN for 40 years. I cannot imagine the pain for a young mother like you. When I am at the breast center or my oncologist I see young women with a patient bracelet and my heart breaks. I am proud for what you have done for you and your family fighting so hard. Well done.
I hate having cancer----
We have much in common. How might I reach out to Abigail? Can she reach out to me? God bless.
So anyone wondering why they aren’t doing screening earlier is younger women have milk ducts still open and large! I had a lump and my doctors amazing and immediately sent me for a scan. It was nothing. But the ultrasound lady showed me how milk ducts looks similar to lumps and it would be hard . And only like 1% of breast cancer is in women under 40. But with sooo many women taking birth control (and hormones in our food in the US 😢) you up the chances for all cancers but especially the female one. If you can try family planning via tracking your cycle (if you have a normal cycle) much healthier for you. Your body doesn’t need chemicals and hormones and needs to get its period every month to be healthy ❤ stay strong girlies
I know as a mom the only thing on our mind is our childern I fround out about my breast cancer when my baby was11 months old.
I had beautiful reconstruction right when surgeon completed double mastectomy! I had 19 bad lymph nodes! I had tatoo nipples! Gorgeous! Getting off anastrozole after 4.5 years because I cannot take the horrific side effects!
hi ..i breast cancer but now relaspse to bone how to do ido chemo and radiation what food
That doctor has absolutely no tact or empathy to give her a prognosis like that. He should have measured her for her coffin with that type of attitude and kill two birds with one stone.
It's interesting how people have different perspectives.
I thought it was the right thing to say.
God bless
Moms need to take care of themselves first. If you put it off and consequently don’t catch it till it metastasizes, then you can’t be there for your kids at all. They are really the emotional spine of families
Oh, I love you 🥰❤️❤️
❤thank you
'This is going to kill you,' immagine!!👎
Brain 🧠 damange 😢
I appreciate receiving news in a straight forward way, but it seems rather harsh to say it the way her Dr did!?
Yes, it showed an absolute lack of empathy.
The way my doctor told me was he said “individuals in this situation have about four weeks, so we really need to get you in fast for surgery and you’ll start chemo in a month”
It took me a minute to understand what he said, but he said it in such a compassionate and caring way. I knew that he wanted me to be well. it’s 10 months later and I’ve had 15 cycles. The tumors are stable stage four colon cancer with ovary, peritoneal and liver minutes.
Psalm 103:3
I (14F) am thinking of getting a mastectomy(breast removable) when I’m older because I researched that getting them removed will decrease your chance of breast cancer by 90-95 percent! ☺️💗
It's so sad and disheartening that cancer seems to affect reproductive organs the most, particularly the breasts and cervix in women and prostate in men, although prostate cancer is usually very slow growing and not as big a killer as breast.
@@iramsavir5631 yep, hormones are very powerful.
Far more people die from prostate cancer than breast cancer here in the UK. But both have much higher survival rates than lung and other forms of cancer.@@iramsavir5631
I don't wanna lose my breasts
The audio is really bad.
I breastfed my son for 4 years and since he was about 6 months I would get a clog and mastitis in the spot where I eventually found the lump. It was 6cm DCIS that had broken out in a heap of small invasive tumours. Stage 2a. I was 36 years old.
wait what? i thought was bad enuf breastfeeding a 2 year old 3 year old but your telling me you breastfed a 4 year old , wtf ??
It's neither natural or healthy nor necessary
Any updates?
Sad 😢
Does she have an Instagram? I would love to follow her
What date are they admitting you??