The Psychology Of Compatibility | The Mel Robbins Show

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  • @Daniebklyn
    @Daniebklyn 4 роки тому +2185

    oh my gawd - that circle in square example just saved me extra hours in therapy.

  • @IndefiniChronicles
    @IndefiniChronicles 4 роки тому +438

    This woman just helped me have more strength to actually wait for the right person.

    • @linamarie84
      @linamarie84 4 роки тому +4

      Yes! Girl you will get that right person!! It is sooo worth it in the end!! You are worth it!

    • @LisaEverette
      @LisaEverette 4 роки тому +2

      Exactly me too!!

    • @alexforce9
      @alexforce9 3 роки тому +2

      If you are above 24, doing more than just waiting probably is the right idea.

    • @moe808
      @moe808 2 роки тому +6

      If waiting is your strategy, you will probably be waiting for a long time. Everything in life requires action with purpose.

    • @jenndobrev9703
      @jenndobrev9703 5 місяців тому

      Same

  • @kipholder8577
    @kipholder8577 4 роки тому +3056

    The whole video is spot on. Give this women (in red) a ted talk

  • @sumaiasaif82
    @sumaiasaif82 4 роки тому +200

    Reminds me of this poem and illustration:
    "She had blue skin,
    And so did he.
    He kept it hid
    And so did she.
    They searched for blue
    Their whole life through,
    Then passed right by-
    And never knew."
    Masks, by Shel Silverstein

  • @ugqueen
    @ugqueen 4 роки тому +2422

    The way she answers these questions! Fast and efficient 🤺

    • @DaringDanielletravels
      @DaringDanielletravels 4 роки тому +29

      Yeah, she’s spent a lot of time thinking about this

    • @ugqueen
      @ugqueen 4 роки тому +5

      Daring Danielle And it shows!

    • @awatifana7154
      @awatifana7154 4 роки тому +3

      You know who is she?

    • @alexisdavis7578
      @alexisdavis7578 4 роки тому +15

      Awatif Ana Spirit from “Love Goals” on OWN

    • @benergy100k2
      @benergy100k2 4 роки тому +10

      Because she planned them ahead.

  • @demigodcat
    @demigodcat 4 роки тому +517

    This knowledge is pure liquid gold. This should be taught as prerequisite in graduating high school and a core class in all university level degrees. This might reduce 50% of the population's marriage divorces, bad relationships, unwanted hook ups and pregnancies.

    • @Alexandra-uk4vr
      @Alexandra-uk4vr 4 роки тому +7

      I wholeheartedly agree with you, sir.

    • @RoyalBlood23
      @RoyalBlood23 4 роки тому +6

      Never gonna happen.

    • @XXClodaghBXX
      @XXClodaghBXX 4 роки тому +2

      Yessss 💯

    • @vickyvale78
      @vickyvale78 4 роки тому +14

      Unfortunately it won't happen. Cause majority of people watching these videos are women. Men seem to think it's weak to seek counseling, not even relationship counseling but personal counseling. Although I know a few women who would benefit from this as well.

    • @ladyshaw0698
      @ladyshaw0698 4 роки тому +4

      This is literally a BRILLIANT idea! I am about to do a school and I never considered adding anything like this to the curriculum, but I will, thanks to your brilliant suggestion. It will be part of the life skills portion of the curriculum.
      Thank you so much for sharing that thought.

  • @baghashvili
    @baghashvili 4 роки тому +250

    This clarifies even more how people rush into long-term relationships and then feel miserable for years. Finding a compatible partner isn’t easy but everyone around us makes it seem like it..

    • @Ava2969ny
      @Ava2969ny 3 роки тому +10

      @baghashviii - people rush into long-term relationships because that's what they are taught to do. No wants to do the hard work of getting to know themselves before getting involved with someone, which is why so many people marry the wrong person. People rush into long-term relationships because they want to be taken care of, or rescued. As this woman on this video says, relationships give people an excuse not to show up in their own lives.

  • @ChaseSizemore
    @ChaseSizemore 4 роки тому +1549

    Who is this woman and why is she not credited?

    • @jemzjems
      @jemzjems 4 роки тому +52

      She is credited in the text below the video....her name is Spirit

    • @TheSadie88
      @TheSadie88 4 роки тому +82

      jemzjems Spirit what? She has to have a full name and they didn't put it.

    • @sherik233
      @sherik233 4 роки тому +20

      @@TheSadie88 She goes by just "Spirit." Easy to find her via Google.

    • @liacharisma
      @liacharisma 4 роки тому +46

      Chase Sizemore I wish her social media was linked

    • @jemzjems
      @jemzjems 4 роки тому +18

      @@TheSadie88 her full professional name is SPIRIT which as I said is credited. This is what she advertises herself as.

  • @lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559
    @lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 4 роки тому +955

    This woman's great! She definitely comes accross as someone at their best!

    • @sydnitroy4423
      @sydnitroy4423 4 роки тому +10

      What is her name? She’s awesome!

    • @judgeashley2347
      @judgeashley2347 4 роки тому +10

      I played it over and over. Wanted to memorize everything she said.

    • @judgeashley2347
      @judgeashley2347 4 роки тому +3

      Spirit...you are awesome

    • @teefrazier7248
      @teefrazier7248 4 роки тому +9

      Omg! This woman done jumped in my marriage and exposed some stuff.

    • @XXClodaghBXX
      @XXClodaghBXX 4 роки тому

      Yes 😁

  • @firefeethok_tui2355
    @firefeethok_tui2355 4 роки тому +788

    This woman seems Like she knows what the heck she’s talking about. Articulate smart easily answer the questions. Why can’t she be my therapist :-)

  • @NicolineNDahl
    @NicolineNDahl 4 роки тому +271

    Holy smokes, that woman is so elegant and well-spoken. What a class act. She's goals :)

  • @gonzalezknicksnknacks4433
    @gonzalezknicksnknacks4433 4 роки тому +118

    One way compatibility.... "The Square and the Circle Analogy!!!!!" NOW that is an excellent way to describe compatibility.

  • @mariadla7
    @mariadla7 4 роки тому +263

    She hit the nail on the head for me. I was with the wrong person for so long and now it makes sense.

    • @virtuosityll7116
      @virtuosityll7116 4 роки тому +20

      Yeah! That ExPlains Why Every
      Time I Left My Ex, I Felt More
      Happier 😄 & fulfilled 😘

    • @Lina-rf9nb
      @Lina-rf9nb 4 роки тому +10

      Me too! I just realized why my 6 year relationship failed.

    • @virtuosityll7116
      @virtuosityll7116 4 роки тому +6

      @@Lina-rf9nb Lolol Yeah & You Really
      Don't Wanna Admit To YourSelf
      That Maybe This Man May Not
      Be Compatible with Me, beCause
      After All, We've been Trying To
      Make It Work for 7 years, So We
      Keep Playing The Puzzle Game!
      But StiLL Something Just Still
      Not Fitting, I Can't Even Just Do
      A Romantic Dance With Him, Oh
      How I Miss Dancing 💃but you
      Knew He Couldn't dance That
      First Date Y'all had @ A Club, but
      You disregarded It As, Oh Well
      He Just Not Use To "Dancing"
      That Affected Sooo Much In Our
      Relationship 😧 It Turns Out, We
      Had Few Romantic Connections.
      10 Years with Him, 3 kids, Later &
      While I Have No ReGrets, however
      I FeeL Like Nothing Was Accomplished Either, BeCause
      I Spent Too Much Time Trying To
      Make Him Understand That, First
      I Don't Want To Be In An Abusive
      Marriage & ReLationship!!! Or
      Should I Say, "Wounded" Couples
      Keep Coming Back To Each
      Other's Aid!! Wowww

    • @Christifit406
      @Christifit406 4 роки тому +5

      What were the first signs that made you realize that you were with the wrong person?

    • @Lina-rf9nb
      @Lina-rf9nb 4 роки тому +9

      @@virtuosityll7116 😂 And after you've put so much into it, you don't want it all to have been for nothing, and now you're forcing the situation, when YOU KNOW you're not compatible.
      I knew the first six months that it wasn't going to work. Somehow talked myself out of what I knew!

  • @ellebelle6439
    @ellebelle6439 4 роки тому +94

    Want to know something funny? I wore a red mask, my boyfriend wore a red mask. I thought hmm he's not really lilac like me but I'm drawn to him for some reason. Months go by and finally we both take off our red masks. We were lilacs all along and now we can see each other for who we really are and it's a beautiful thing. Sure we argue, sure our relationship has its ups and downs but I was so happy to take my mask off with him and brave the vulnerability together and we make ourselves stronger.

  • @mimtenderness
    @mimtenderness 4 роки тому +358

    I love Spirit's warm energy and wisdom!

  • @shimag1992
    @shimag1992 4 роки тому +199

    "Wound Mate" = Trauma Bond

  • @helenasavels4509
    @helenasavels4509 4 роки тому +923

    THE WOMANS NAME WAS NOWHERE MENTIONED. GIVE HER SOME CREDIT.

    • @tanisha866
      @tanisha866 4 роки тому +35

      Exactly I totally agree. Please share her name so we can follow more of her articles, videos and advice.

    • @Aoneify
      @Aoneify 4 роки тому +76

      Her name was in the video, it’s Spirit!

    • @Aoneify
      @Aoneify 4 роки тому +14

      She’s also the therapist on one of the reality relationship shows

    • @vasht7976
      @vasht7976 4 роки тому +8

      @@Aoneify was just about to say this.

    • @sweets20062107
      @sweets20062107 4 роки тому +29

      Her name is spirit she has a show on own called love goals great show

  • @sincereiam
    @sincereiam 4 роки тому +129

    A wound mate can also be a friend(s).

    • @sabrina77769
      @sabrina77769 4 роки тому +6

      So true !

    • @XXClodaghBXX
      @XXClodaghBXX 4 роки тому +2

      Yes true

    • @chicgal3
      @chicgal3 4 роки тому +3

      Most Definitely!!!

    • @arushrestha1122
      @arushrestha1122 4 роки тому +1

      Just a friend...

    • @Demodex21
      @Demodex21 3 роки тому +1

      My former best friend for over 10 years turned out to be a wound-mate. :(

  • @stephanieCl
    @stephanieCl 4 роки тому +325

    This entire video is spot on and so deep. I wish she could navigate about changes in a couple as they are both growing as individuals and how it can affect their compatibility. Who is this woman, where can we find her please

    • @rositapaulo7412
      @rositapaulo7412 4 роки тому +19

      Right now she works on the show Love Goals. It's truly impressive to see how she works and guides the couples.

    • @chasingclouds7101
      @chasingclouds7101 4 роки тому +1

      What is her name?

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ 4 роки тому

      @@chasingclouds7101 her name is spirit

    • @mirv1998
      @mirv1998 4 роки тому +8

      Talk2Spirit on IG

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ 4 роки тому

      @@mirv1998 I also found her on Instagram spirit2talk, she has alot of motivational posts an she goes live on Friday's

  • @rosiehailu2221
    @rosiehailu2221 4 роки тому +28

    Wow the part when she said we all wear “mask” to hide our true self... that hit different. She’s so well spoken and spot on!

  • @monumentalmoments7757
    @monumentalmoments7757 4 роки тому +73

    I love this woman's fairness to the game/art of compatibility

  • @natasharahil8240
    @natasharahil8240 4 роки тому +29

    Just perfect answers. Sometimes we see all this red flags but afraid to live and start all over again...

  • @Thomas06992
    @Thomas06992 4 роки тому +119

    Melllll darling this lady is everything - keep her involved please

  • @daintyapple
    @daintyapple 4 роки тому +20

    Wow the best explanation of relationship compatibility. Now I don't feel bad anymore for cutting ties with the exes. We weren't compatible and it makes sense now. Find your tribe!

  • @diannashuster5594
    @diannashuster5594 4 роки тому +83

    This was such an eye opener for me! I've never heard anyone break it down so simply. Wonderful interview. I wish it was longer.

  • @siobhanrachel2969
    @siobhanrachel2969 4 роки тому +71

    The black powerful woman in red knows her shit! Thank you for this insight

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 4 роки тому

      A supportive and mature minds as hers makes a better man

    • @wellknown1204
      @wellknown1204 3 роки тому +2

      @@dennisrobinson8008 how about she invites the better man to her life instead of _making s better man_

    • @dennisrobinson8008
      @dennisrobinson8008 3 роки тому

      @@wellknown1204 Either way. If she invites a "better" man into her life and is ultra critical, negative and fault finding, it will degrade him.

    • @alexaculver1033
      @alexaculver1033 3 роки тому +1

      @@dennisrobinson8008 He wants a wound mate, will he bring out the mature positive determined intelligence in the woman? Or just what he can receive from the relationship?

  • @mrchris6684
    @mrchris6684 4 роки тому +522

    Can you imagine being married to this woman and asking yourself on a daily basis am I measuring up lol. She’s absolutely gawjus I must say, very intelligent, well spoken. I wonder if she’s married and if so does she feel compatible with her husband.

    • @selinagray1087
      @selinagray1087 4 роки тому +44

      I believe so. She has 9 kids I think.

    • @broLuther
      @broLuther 4 роки тому +10

      @@selinagray1087 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @natashashere
      @natashashere 4 роки тому +10

      She is and it shows that she’s at her best.

    • @SG-kp5hi
      @SG-kp5hi 4 роки тому +18

      Yes she is married. N a Mother of 7 children i think

    • @biancamichelle11
      @biancamichelle11 4 роки тому +36

      Katrina M WTF? He literally said she was very intelligent and well spoken, last time I checked those are not superficial qualities. She is clearly on top of her game, that’s what he admires.

  • @samiraqurux.
    @samiraqurux. 4 роки тому +11

    i love how she is calm and collected in answering

  • @sf5823
    @sf5823 4 роки тому +55

    Intimacy = in to me see!
    3:24 Such a good analogy, I'm going to see people that way from now on! It looks red but it's really lilac.
    Signs of compatibility. 5:36
    Choose Ascension = some rise , some fall but you want a relationship that RISES
    R - Recreational intimacy
    I - Intellectual intimacy
    S - Spiritual intimacy
    E - Emotional intimacy
    S - Sexual intimacy

    • @NA-vt6mz
      @NA-vt6mz 4 роки тому

      And guy I was with didn’t fit any of those !!!

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 4 роки тому +19

    This expert is amazing. Every single sentence that came out of her mouth was full of wisdom and incite.

  • @heathab...._-_
    @heathab...._-_ 4 роки тому +62

    I freaking love spirit so much she is so beautiful and Intelligent

  • @LightBeingsBE
    @LightBeingsBE 2 роки тому +4

    I can’t believe it! I met a guy who him and I just totally hit all this levels over 3 meetings…. We haven’t gone to all the deep spaces yet… trust is developing…we haven’t revealed our “need them to know list” and haven’t shared any secrets…just building a solid friendship and he’s asked for exclusivity right away. ❤️

  • @djari3s412
    @djari3s412 4 роки тому +48

    Everything she's saying, right on the money. Love her spirit.

  • @michelleselman8004
    @michelleselman8004 16 днів тому +1

    Oh my God! Dr Spirit is everything! And more! Mel your brilliant questions is a masterful!

  • @kyndracrump
    @kyndracrump 4 роки тому +99

    One day very soon, I’m manifesting that I’m going to be a special guest on here. Make sure you all tune in.

    • @miasministry07
      @miasministry07 4 роки тому +3

      It is so

    • @flooredjustfloored
      @flooredjustfloored 4 роки тому +5

      Believe you deserve it, and the Universe will serve it!

    • @Demifan39
      @Demifan39 4 роки тому +3

      Speak it so I be it! You will be there

    • @kyndracrump
      @kyndracrump 4 роки тому +1

      floored JustFloored thank you! Whatever you want to do in life, your dreams will come true also.

    • @kyndracrump
      @kyndracrump 4 роки тому +1

      Demifan39 thank you! No matter whatever you want to do in life, your dreams will happen also.

  • @gierk27
    @gierk27 4 роки тому +11

    She has so much wisdom. I have worn the red mask when I'm truly a lilac before and my needs never got met. I've decided not to let my representative show up, I want to show up as my real self so I connect with my compatible mate

  • @BrothaNeo
    @BrothaNeo 4 роки тому +29

    Now THIS is some serious real deal information that EVERYONE who wants to be in any form of relationship should be aware of! Most of the information Spirit shared is new to me lol!
    Thank you for this video! I needed it!

  • @ChristSaves88
    @ChristSaves88 4 роки тому +41

    I would love to have a one on one conversation with Dr. Spirit. She’s so wise and knowledgeable!

  • @shomavyas3646
    @shomavyas3646 4 роки тому +14

    She explained compatibility so well! The concept is so clear to me now. I would love to hear more from this relationship therapist!

  • @cristinay9950
    @cristinay9950 4 роки тому +20

    I’m blown away at her explanations!! This made so much sense. She is brilliant

  • @madgemackles4337
    @madgemackles4337 4 роки тому +10

    So the first step is to find out who you are. This was a good outlook on things

  • @KA-ui3sm
    @KA-ui3sm 4 роки тому +4

    Holy moley! That analogy of lilac personality vs red mask is so spot on!! It all makes so much sense! And circle in a square description and her definition of intimacy = “into me see”. That was profound!!!!Spirit is amazing! She described this is in such relatable but poignant ways. This was one of most enlightening vids I’ve seen in a long time! Thank you!

  • @ProudlyAfrican
    @ProudlyAfrican 4 роки тому +49

    i love that red modest dress...nice talk from two grown women...

  • @diddyxgi
    @diddyxgi 4 роки тому +118

    “This woman” is absolutely incredible and you wont even say her name? Seriously what a shame! Who is she? What is her name?

    • @americanbeauty171
      @americanbeauty171 4 роки тому +38

      Here name is Spirit. She have a show called LOVE GOALS on OWN network....

    • @tiphanidowner7114
      @tiphanidowner7114 4 роки тому +4

      American cutie Thanks. God bless you🙏🏾✨

    • @Evita05
      @Evita05 4 роки тому +2

      Same thought here. Not even a link to her so you can find more information 🤔🤔

    • @SoffyLoves
      @SoffyLoves 4 роки тому +4

      At around 2:42 her name appears. Her name is Spirit.

    • @XXClodaghBXX
      @XXClodaghBXX 4 роки тому +1

      Spirit I believe 😁😍❤️♥️

  • @sertacsilbastan
    @sertacsilbastan 2 роки тому +8

    Brilliant interview and brilliant responses. I'm amazed that finances weren't included in this, and it makes me believe that financial differences can be overcome. I wish more people knew what it takes to have a healthy relationship. Also, to all those people who read this, I hope happiness and hope surround you even in the darkest moments. You deserve to be loved and sometimes science can't explain the reasons why you're happy. Don't question your happiness when that happens.

  • @Kiki-jx6by
    @Kiki-jx6by 4 роки тому +3

    I like to look at it this way; If we can’t be friends, it’s going to be hard to be a couple. Great video, I shared it

  • @jenniferhergert4447
    @jenniferhergert4447 4 роки тому +4

    "Feeding each other"
    I love that concept!

  • @jam-1001
    @jam-1001 Місяць тому

    The circle and the square… explained it all. Such clarity after 30 years…. I understand now. I was the square, for 30 years. Lesson learned. Never to be repeated. Thank you Dr. Spirit.❤

  • @chinarainradiology
    @chinarainradiology 4 роки тому +9

    WOW! I am sitting here like mind-blown.

  • @Gelobee98
    @Gelobee98 4 роки тому +59

    My exes failed in spiritual intimacy. It's hard to find someone who has the same views that you have.

    • @sizwenxumalo3925
      @sizwenxumalo3925 4 роки тому +3

      Why want the same views in compatibility? Share the same spiritual inclinations, but views should different for learning to happen.

    • @XXClodaghBXX
      @XXClodaghBXX 4 роки тому

      Yeah :/

    • @uduakudoffa52
      @uduakudoffa52 4 роки тому +7

      Ah, absence of spiritual compatibility is an up front deal breaker, dear.

  • @camilleandriette
    @camilleandriette 4 роки тому +14

    These answers were so informative! Makes you rethink relationships.

  • @tawlaq
    @tawlaq 4 роки тому +2

    Ms. Spirit has studied to show herself approved! Her gift shall make room for her on any platform. She articulates and explained aspects of relationships that really enlightened me. Thanks Mel.

  • @myahill7475
    @myahill7475 4 роки тому +6

    Another Queen Mother amongst us, preach... And Mel looks great! This show is wonderful. Two beautiful woman working to heal us.

  • @barbaracl6308
    @barbaracl6308 4 роки тому +2

    Wow, I’m speechless. I must listen to this over and over...

    • @dannyllawrence8023
      @dannyllawrence8023 4 роки тому

      Hello to whom it may concern love is worth fighting for... There is someone who helped me get my ex back within few days 💟💟💟💟

    • @dannyllawrence8023
      @dannyllawrence8023 4 роки тому

      Contact via whtsApp 💟💟💟

    • @dannyllawrence8023
      @dannyllawrence8023 4 роки тому

      //+(2348156896436) ///:💟💟💟

  • @JacquelineVerellen
    @JacquelineVerellen 4 роки тому +4

    I love that you are ACTUALLY doing the talk show, that you talked about doing in your decade challenge. Its only been the first few months and you are off to an amazing start :) Thanks for inspiring me Mel.

  • @xxForestetxx
    @xxForestetxx 4 роки тому +28

    I love her 😍 I love how she speaks I love her thought process and how she describes things makes so much sense!!

    • @xxForestetxx
      @xxForestetxx 4 роки тому

      Anyone know if Spirit has a book out??

  • @Dazzlin826
    @Dazzlin826 4 роки тому +8

    She's so pretty and confident!

  • @lizzomso8816
    @lizzomso8816 3 роки тому +1

    Yep compatibility is the key to a good relationship

  • @NallahBrown
    @NallahBrown 4 роки тому +32

    “Wound mate” woooow. That’s a good one Spirit!!!!

  • @nyaworld
    @nyaworld 4 роки тому +5

    this video has literally changed my life. the way I was screaming yaaaaasss after every answer wow. thank you thank you

  • @guitaro5000
    @guitaro5000 3 роки тому +5

    3:28 "we walk out and we wear masks all day everyday"
    You had no idea. Lol

  • @michellekalski8823
    @michellekalski8823 4 роки тому +3

    Spirit is amazing . She has a gift of articulating ideas so clearly and with such insight.

  • @ersofrescht4661
    @ersofrescht4661 4 роки тому +27

    Im happy learning this. Wound mate made many sense to me

  • @MorningMindfulness
    @MorningMindfulness 3 роки тому +2

    Her UA-cam channel is called Women of Impact for anyone wondering. She’s amazing

  • @kimberlyrosssegovia203
    @kimberlyrosssegovia203 4 роки тому +8

    This interview was life changing!
    Thank you so much! You've given me a lot of priceless information about myself and about the people in my life.
    I have to take some time to absorb all of this so that I can reevaluate many area's in my life.
    Most importantly, to pass it on to my adult children and my grandchildren.
    You not only saved me, you may also have saved my children and my grandchildren.
    Thank you
    Thank you
    Thank yoy

  • @jam-1001
    @jam-1001 Місяць тому

    Failed the compatibility quiz miserably 😂 This lady just changed my life!!!

  • @beautylife310
    @beautylife310 4 роки тому +8

    Both ladies are great, sure the therapist is no doubt the expert in the field, but the host is also excellent with all spot on questions, brilliant to watch...All signs just confirmed that I was right to leave ex, wish I could know these earlier....

  • @poeticlovee
    @poeticlovee 4 роки тому +1

    Where has this guest speaker been all my life?!?! Her knowledge and wisdom has no bounds! Can’t wait to learn more from her. This is probably the best relationship video I’ve ever listened to.

  • @astridmelodie4056
    @astridmelodie4056 4 роки тому +14

    OMG She is completely right!!! Waoo she talk about different type of intimacy.

    • @ShanaChow
      @ShanaChow 4 роки тому

      So amazing!! ❤️

  • @SandraWAsumu
    @SandraWAsumu 4 роки тому +4

    Uhm... she took me completely off guard ...!! Her examples, analogies and entire communication skills are A M A Z I N G

  • @nomathembadzinotyiwei8077
    @nomathembadzinotyiwei8077 4 роки тому +318

    Compatibility Quiz
    Do you miss your partner when you’re away from them for along time ?
    Do you trust your partner ? If not, why not?
    Do you have compatible lifestyles?
    Can you talk to your partner about anything
    Do you laugh together?

  • @mekmek1000
    @mekmek1000 4 роки тому +3

    Spirit is amazing. She is one of the best relationship therapist ever.

  • @arbonneladyTN
    @arbonneladyTN 4 роки тому +17

    Sooo very true!
    What she didn’t cover, how a couple grows and changes together. After 39 years married, was we look back we see that at many times we each made changes and were not in sync with each other. Too often couples don’t understand that there was a lot of work in the following years after a wedding.
    It takes DEDICATION and commitment to work through what is worth holding & working for.

    • @ireneramirez3691
      @ireneramirez3691 4 роки тому +9

      Not many people stay married as long as you do. I congratulate you and your dedication to your partner because I am sure it wasnt easy. But I always wanted to ask someone who has been married long enough, did you put up with issues like cheating to make it last or was it respect that made your relationship last? What advice do you share having done the work to make it this long

    • @riselle1
      @riselle1 4 роки тому +1

      I agree with this ^^^

  • @valmercado4682
    @valmercado4682 4 роки тому +1

    she is the definition of elegance my god

  • @realtalktina
    @realtalktina 4 роки тому +18

    The therapist was very helpful wish she was my therapist!! Also is there a man who covers all those areas and is still available?? Wow!

  • @Nathiofficial
    @Nathiofficial 4 роки тому +1

    Her name should be in the title! This is amazing

  • @santran9602
    @santran9602 4 роки тому +96

    Does this woman have a book omg 😳 I want to buy

  • @rayseyeoman7540
    @rayseyeoman7540 Рік тому

    I love how she just broke that down.

  • @robynviviano7454
    @robynviviano7454 4 роки тому +14

    I LOVE this show and I like it even better without an audience!

    • @EWCIAGROBEL
      @EWCIAGROBEL 4 роки тому +1

      Katrina M the screaming, clapping etc is distracting and annoying

  • @morgan.a.mcneill
    @morgan.a.mcneill 4 роки тому

    there's something so special about black female therapists. such a beautiful + insightful conversation.

  • @isaidaduane
    @isaidaduane 4 роки тому +8

    This is the best and most illustrative way I have ever seen these ideas and perspectives. This was a fantastic segment thank you so much

  • @Luckykat218
    @Luckykat218 4 роки тому +1

    I love Spirit’s way of no nonsense type of advice & assessment of bad behaviors. She’s amazing!

  • @gcutieme2
    @gcutieme2 4 роки тому +5

    Brilliant, one of the single most clear, concise descriptions of how to find the love that’s truly meant for who YOU ARE, at your core. 🟣🟥🤯
    Thank you♥️

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      gcutieme2,you must be a precious 🌹 🌹🌷🌷🌺 being ❤️🤙

  • @tiffanybrown1001
    @tiffanybrown1001 Рік тому

    I think I heard this on the radio, and then it was gone. So glad I found this on UA-cam.

  • @WalkerRocker1
    @WalkerRocker1 4 роки тому +10

    I feel like having a long conversation with her. She’s sooo Wow! 💝

  • @novemberPrincess1109
    @novemberPrincess1109 2 місяці тому

    You can marry someone with little to no compatibility but you don’t submit yourself to that person unless you are emotionally connected. This video is a perfect blueprint for compatibility in a healthy marriage. This lady in red talks real. One of the best podcast from Mel Robbins. Cheers!

  • @belsiak
    @belsiak 4 роки тому +4

    Wow! I found myself an answer to my life. Now I know on how to manifest a new relationship that I should have.

  • @sylvietapos807
    @sylvietapos807 4 роки тому +2

    That therapist is so gorgeous!!!

  • @msve3730
    @msve3730 4 роки тому +5

    I can listen to her for hours. 💜💜 She need her OWN podcast !!!!!!

  • @datpspguy
    @datpspguy 3 роки тому

    If I didn't know this was a show or conversation, I'd think this was scripted because of how fast and articulate and how on point these responses are. I really needed to hear this!!

  • @meg2514
    @meg2514 4 роки тому +7

    So good! Thank you... Life is short, as we are currently finding out. It’s time to have true and satisfying relationships! Thank you! 😇

  • @lowpolar
    @lowpolar 2 роки тому +1

    this woman is incredible, on point with every response.

  • @nowayjose23
    @nowayjose23 4 роки тому +137

    She forgot financial compatibility...the number 1 reason why relationships fail.

    • @Lisa-tr3ou
      @Lisa-tr3ou 4 роки тому +5

      True

    • @ericlind6581
      @ericlind6581 3 роки тому +3

      Great point. Also political compatibility...no way a Hillary supporter getting on with a Trumpster.

    • @jessicatamele145
      @jessicatamele145 3 роки тому +4

      Hi L A, i think that couples can get to that part if they do the quiz. The third question "do you have compatible lifestyle?" also applies to "do you like to go out for dinner, where, and can you afford to do it as much as you would like?" or maybe "you drive an expensive car, live in an expensive flat, can you afford it?".
      But i also think that its important to discuss this with open minds, and to know that even if money is the center of all it cant be the center of a relashionship.

    • @PacificMoceans
      @PacificMoceans 3 роки тому

      I'm transfinancial.

    • @nowayjose23
      @nowayjose23 3 роки тому

      @@jessicatamele145 Do you have compatible lifestyles is NOT the same as do you have compatible money...and I beg to differ, most Americans live on credit and want...and have nice things with debt financing. They think they are 'affording' things by paying their cc bill every month.

  • @mihaelamars
    @mihaelamars 2 роки тому

    Spirit's voice is like a balm to my soul.

  • @ladawnwarren8570
    @ladawnwarren8570 4 роки тому +16

    This Lady is awesome she knows her stuff!! Would like to know where I can find her 😀

  • @admw1986
    @admw1986 4 роки тому +2

    Red and lilac-spot on. O M G.

  • @sunshine2049
    @sunshine2049 4 роки тому +34

    Why isn’t her name mentioned? Does anyone know? She is better than most therapist

  • @victorz1602
    @victorz1602 Рік тому +1

    I have never heard about her name before but she is one of the best out there, Tech talk please👏👏

  • @lisav6583
    @lisav6583 4 роки тому +12

    I love everything about this video. WOW! Just WOW!

  • @hankhill2698
    @hankhill2698 2 роки тому

    I appreciated the interviewer. A little eager at times but generally willing to allow the speaker to answer and build off of their thoughts.