I think keeping avoiding this person may only deepens your obsession. I think you should think about why you love them. Then you should think about their real traits, not only good traits but also bad traits. You should see the reality, and be at peace with yourself. Don't think they're perfect, because they are not. You're better than you believe.
mrsuperwizard123 I thought about that for an entire year until I went through their social and realized they secretly weren’t. You won’t see it now but soon you will
icyivy gr Go find your self worth and someone else who will truly care about you. I have been thinking of a person for a year and I truly learned she does not truly care about me. You need to realize that that if he loved you, he would be next to you. He's not. Know your self worth and move on.
Levy you need a new reward system. Learn an instrument. Within 6 months of this and and dedication you will see tesults then triggers the reward system in the brain. Its a great feeling.
@@glorious6779 but what could help if having imaginary dialogues with them in your head is a part of every creative process? No matter what I do, I think of what would they think or say about it, and about anything I like or dislike, about how I look and how I talk.
Who else started thinking abt them while watching this vid and had to go back a couple times😭.... Edit: I completely stopped obsessing over them. It took 2-3 years and it happened naturally. Unfortunately the obsession transferred to another person and I’m back at square one🤦🏾♀️
The problem is that I don't even want to stop thinking about him. Thinking about him and seeing his is so pleasurable. It makes my days have a meaning and a purpose. It makes my life interesting and I enjoy that adrenaline rush I feel when I even hear his voice
@@karimasenpai1412 I was so obsessed, I was thinking of nothing but her, and I realized that, it was like my whole existence was depending on her, the way I got over her was that I realized there are many other things in life that were better than her, I started focusing on my friends more and on my fitness, I started doing what I love and as time went by I forgot about her.
I have never had an addiction like smoking, alcohol, gaming or something else that would hurt me in the long run. But I've obsessive thoughts about crushes in my life. Everything started when I was in 7th grade. I was hooked to this girl immediately when I saw her, she was really pretty. I couldn't stop thinking about her and the funny thing is that I never talked to her. So It didn't take long for me to get over her. And then I had another crush on a girl that I also thought was gorgeous. And I decided to talk to her, she became a close friend to me. And I never forget that one conversation we had when I first met her. She was so intelligent, kind-hearted and funny. I remember she was the one that invited me into the conversation. But later I find out she wasn't into me or more like she had a crush on another guy... It took a long time for me to get over her. I later lost contact with her and separated totally and moved to a separate school. I told myself I needed to move on, so I started to focus more on school and being with friends and just living life. And now I'm here and having a celebrity crush which is even worse. It's so pathetic and she doesn't even know I'm existing. But I just can't get her out of my head, it makes feel sick...
That's the same thing for me. Sometimes I feel stupid and crazy about it. There was this one boy, that I've never talked to ever; but we sometimes stare at each other during class. I don't know if it's intentional, or he was just drifting off. And whenever he's with someone else I just get really upset. Sometimes I cry about it, It's really lame. Though, I think I get attached to people too easily. I like attention, so I guess whenever someone diverts positive or any attention towards me, I get attached, and I start obsessing over about them. Creating false scenarios in my head. I hate it, I hate it so much.
Have you ever heard of SLAA (sex&love addicts anonymous)? It’s a 12 step group and seems like it could help with this kind of obsessional “drug” like addiction to people.
@@nothingsfading omggg I create the false scenarios tooo. I get obsessed with random ppl and I’ve been obsessed with this one person for almost two years. Whenever I start to forget about them, I see a pic of them on social media or something and it triggers me. Then I start to think of false scenarios non stop and I replay all the times that I saw them in the hallways. But I deleted all of our old pictures and I made a rule with myself that whenever I start to think about them, I will slowly drift my thoughts away.
Mano, MY STORY IS EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOURS. The celebrity I'm crushing on is a guy almost 60 years old now with daughter my age. He has a wife, a family.....all girls are crazy abt him even today. He is happy with his family, he doesn't even know that I exist. I can't get him out of my mind even for a second. It hurts me like hell. Im scared i will end up all alone a social outcast if I don't come out of this. But I Don't know how to get him outta my mind. I can't leave his thoughts, they refuse to leave my mind too. If I don't think abt him, I feel DEAD. I want to marry him love him to crazy limits, so much but what should I do? I cry every night. I so want him as a husband. He's so faraway unaware of me but my connection to him feels so natural & so powerful & so right, yet impossible.....
Just practice mindfulness meditation, this instantly stops the thoughts of your infatuation coming through because you are focusing directly on your current surrounding within the present moment, remember an infatuation is a mental concept that you've created in your head that is an illusion stemmed within desire, it doesn't exist!
Omggggg same I commented the same before reading this. I found someone who understands me finalllllllly, I love him but I don't want to get obsessed 😭😭😭
I always feel like I have the courage to just cut him off but every time he messages or visits I just fall right back into my obsession.The delete access part is hard for me
Two years and I still can’t watch some of my favourite films or listen to certain favourite albums... What really sucks is that these were blankets for every shitty time before. I feel you guys, I really do
here's several things for how to get any man you want take your time Use fewer words and choose them carefully Communicate with behaviour as well as words (I learned about these and more from Maras magic words website )
He is literally just my friend I have always had this issue with him like if they don’t text me right away I get annoyed or I will just be doing nothing and he’ll be the first thing I think about it’s genuinely such a burden on everything
got over this person after a year, then one day he calls me and I couldn't resist, memories came back, we hook up, he leaves again the next day, back at it for another year, tried dating other guys but had to withdraw from all of those relationships as nothing could take him out of my mind, gotta go though the forgetting part all over again and it's so painful ):
The worst part is that I don't even know him in person. And well... he said I'm crazy and he wanted to block me but then I told him that I was sad and he said that I'm beautiful and he cares about me. WHAT THE FUCK And I literally cried, but still obssesed with him. Tf is wrong with me
Valee, I'm so sorry. But I think he's just emotionally abusing u. He enjoys those mind games, it's sick. Cuz he knows very well u r crazy abt him. U already gave him the signals. Praying to God For all of us obsessed souls to heal from this & let us be at peace with ourselves. Om 🕉
One of the best way stop obsessing for that "special someone" is to stay socially connected with other people and try to develop a new relationship with someone else. Do not try to judge that new person with the standards you have for the person you obsessed over. If you just sit down in loneliness, you have no choice but to obsess over the past or over someone that doesnt want you. So Don't do that. Meet people and get out there. Someone better may come by. If you weren't good enough for them, then they were not good enough for you either. Love is a two way street, not one way.
When I gave him a chance to come back to me within 3 weeks without not letting knew him 2 years ago and he probably come back to me without pleasing him but then during pandemic he broke me up again two times now 😭😭 He show me how I to be jealous and now he leave me and broke his promises. Ex is ex . We should never give a third chance cause it won't change it . Feel the pain and let him feel that you not care and he/She will realize that your worth it and he/She will never found like you . Just feel the pain and it will go away in the right time. Don't run away because you avoid the pain. Just feel it and it will stop it
What about a less permanent approach? For example, your significant other ask you (because of a fight or anything else) time out for a couple of weeks. Or after a fight she had to travel because of work and you are obsessed. You just want to "forget" about her for a small amount of time. Are there any tips for that? I mean, you don't want to stop loving her.
This is true. You need to find other things in your life that give you stimulation as this person does. But this is easier said than done or I won't be here
I tried these things ALREADY. Like LITERALLY everything and it’s hard. I’m just gonna cry for my self. And my obsession this weeks is getting worst and worst. Like everyday I literally cried for like 2-3 times, a day.
I’ve literally never met her. I shot my shot bc I kept having dreams about her so I thought it was a sign.. tried shooting my shot and I just kept on getting left on delivered..so I just apologized to her bc I felt like I was annoying her and she said “it’s okay my love” LIKE I- PLS DON’T CALL ME THAT IM TRYING TO GET OVER YOU. But I told her that it was nice TRYING to talk to her💀and just pretty much telling her that if she wasn’t interested then we could just be friends,but here I am now..still on delivered,on UA-cam trying to figure out why I’m obsessed with her and how to stop being obsessed bc it’s absolutely so embarrassing how down bad I am for her. She’s literally a stranger..
I'm in a bad situation here lol, starting to become a bit obsessed with my best friend and I can't cut off contact with her otherwise she'll get sad so I might try to just distance myself..
I feel so bad, and I can’t tell if these are true feelings for him or just an obsession. Man I think it’s just an obsession :( he has shown zero interest in me, It’s been about a year and I still get upset about it. I just can’t stop thinking about him
@@jenjen2868 Check out their values. Go with your head and reason with this. Go scouting and fishing, sort of speak, to dig out if they have negative stuff you cannot agree with. Go to that party at the office and get to know them "in reality". Cold showers and don't play "solo guitar" because that will reinforce the obssession! Look at him as if they are family. You do not know perhaps if they are married? Don't get yourself in trouble now! Search actively for what it is you are looking for on dating apps and websites and clubs, groups with same type as you interests to find what you want but cannot have maybe cause you cannot ethically be in a relationship with a co-worker in your field. I feel ya! Look up maybe co-dependance and sexual and affectif co-dependance to see if your root of obssession is there. I hope you get victory over this! Keep your head up!
My one-itis from high school ended up working at a place where my company delivers and I am forced to see her, and it's very awkward for me. I was too scared to talk to her in high school and still kind of am today. Fifteen years I've been obsessing over her, and so far she has only gotten more attractive with age. I know very little about her, I have never spoken to her, and I honestly don't think we have anything in common. But I still obsess over her constantly...whether I want to or not.
I think the second can be hard when you had a lot in common with them. It can severely limit the number of things that you can lose yourself in to avoid the the thought. Like if you both liked video games or vehicles or hell even a job.
I got too obsessive or her. I hurt her. If I could go back in time and slap the shit out of myself, I would in a heartbeat. I need to better myself, so I can avoid this in the future.
It honestly sucks. Worst thing is when I have her I don’t want it.. until I lose her again I do, I feel like it’s just the thought of having her is what I want and miss the energy
Lebron James i have an obsession with a TikTok boy Jaden hossler and it’s gotten rly bad at first it was oh his a lil cute then I started catching my self talking about him the I would hear myself defending a person I don’t even know on accusations that are true about it’s been 4 months somebody help
Thank you for your scientific information about why we obsess about people! I never realized that anything that reminds you of the person that it creates the obsessive thoughts! I was having suicide thoughts because of my obsession about the person. Thank you.
Great advice. He left the company however I am still working there and it's extremely difficult to work there . It's been 3 months and its painful to walk inside the building knowing that I will never see him again. It's time I asked the boss if I can be relocated to another state still with the same company so I can start a new life without the memories.
Been dealing with a celebrity obsession for a few months now. It's pretty disruptive. I've had to delete him from my socials, deleted his projects from Netflix and UA-cam, and have avoided searching him. Working on reconnecting with myself and friends that I haven't seen in a while. I'm hoping this will be out of my system soon. What sucks is that this actor is associated with a franchise I love, but the next installment won't be out for a year and a half, so I shouldn't be exposed to him for a while. If he isn't out of my head by that time, then there's really something wrong with me...
Mine is pretty new, but we hung out 5 times, were intimate twice. i fell too hard too fast per usual. He wanted to go very slowly, so I had to step back and not hang out because I was afraid of falling harder. Now all I do is think of him non-stop. I just can't bear to be friends right now. It feels like such a loss and failure. It's maddening.
I’m have a serious problem so I’m currently in 11th grade and ever since middle school I been obsessed with my dean then when I went to high school NHs I was obsessed with my teacher and at my other high school I’m currently obsessed with ms.jade btw all these schools I’ve been kicked out of because my obsession 🤦🏽♀️
Done all of this pretty much to the t. Works for a period of time. She eventually re-appears in some way. Even in dreams. It's been three years HELP I DONT WANT TO SPEND MORE MONEY ON THERAPY.
I feel so guilty of the fact and the knowledge that I have been that person. The person that has at one time obssessed over a guy. I started to stalk not his but his family and friends' social media. This was recent and I completely stopped yet I feel like crap. I could use some words of affirmation that tell me I'm more than what I have just been doing because I totally feel like a loser and a freaking failure.
I have become obsessed with an artist on Instagram. I think he has restricted me on the Instagram because a poster commented that her husband ran over her painting with her wheelchair. I asked if he did it on purpose. Later that night I kept looking at each and every post on the artist's feed. Now I see absolutely nothing of his posts on my feed. I am so humiliated! 😭
People have a crush an ex or a person not good for them in general but me in the other hand being obsessed with a baby that i want to be his mother and i see him once a year, I just realized I’m so lonely
What if the person is in my same job and I work at this and don't want to stop working or quit my job because of the memories I have with him? I don't want to quit my job or work at something different. It's really hard lol.
Never been through this because i never had a girl and love being single but for people that come to me with promblems like this i just tell them just act they never existed. Works for alot of people i know of. Might be hard for some. But it does work for some
My best friend and I broke up, now I just miss her sooo much but I feel like she forgot about me. I'm nervous to talk to her again because now she's very popular, has a lot of pretty friends and she's friends with someone who I hate. No, she did not leave me because she became popular, we actually got separated from our classes and couldn't spend together and suddenly it became awkward. The person I hate liked my ex-boyfriend and kept constantly texting him that's why he left me. I'm an average person when I see a group of people who are very gorgeous it makes me feel insecure so that's the other reason I don't want to start a convo with her. I just wish she could be my best friend again. Even tho she has a lot of friends I often see her walking alone and being alone at school. I want to go up and talk to her but it's embarrassing and she'll notice how I stare at her. I love her style and everything about her. I miss her every day and I feel better writing about it here because I can't tell anyone I keep hiding my feelings. Once we were together in the hallway alone she came up to me and put her hands over my shoulder and was starting a conversation, I was nervous but we were joking and laughing and then she kissed my cheek it was a friendly kiss but from that day I missed her. Of course, after that she pretended nothing happened, I hate her and love her. Now she's actually a better person and texts me sometimes but never asks me for go on a hangout with her because my friends group is kinda childish, weird and her friend group is mature and bold. On my 17th birthday, I will tell her to come to my birthday party, I hope she accepts the invitation. It's just 8 months away. Sorry for the rush writing I have class in 10 minutes
It is crazy. I don't know nothing about him and something happened and I cannot stop thinking about him. I don't want to do this but I continue. I doesn't help that he works at the same area I work and I see him time to time at the bus stop. Maybe I must go to the psychologist now.
The person start a new relationship, and I'm here, not even in love, but feeling terrible about it. I'm death inside. I can't move forward. I feel useless and rejected. I don't know what to do. Simply I can't stand the fact that he started a new life while I'm feeling miserable. And he really is a bad person, very narcissistic. But the rejection, that hurts even now, after some years. Is so unfair.
He stopped obsessing over me... By doing all this. Got a new girl... But I am obsessed still. I want him. He doesnt. His and mine perspective are different. I want him to come back. I miss him
My situation is that the person likes me back but due to certain circumstances I don’t get to spend as much time with them as I want and it’s soooo annoying I can’t think of anything else when I’m not with them and I get really sad
Problem is happen to be in love with my best friend and he doesn't feel the same way. I can't just delete him from my life as if he never existed. He means so much to me I can't imagine ever giving that up. Yet no matter what I try, I can't stop loving him either. What shoul I do? Please tell me because i'm really desperate at this point. The only way out I see is harming myself and ending it for good.
Man he is my teacher Due to corona i hv to stay home nd cant dlt social media because all my work is in there nd even after corona i will hv to attend his classes so unable to do step 1 Then comes step to avoid triggers.. as u already know he is my teacher so all my book related to that subject acts as triggers nd u know that i can stop studies at this stage of my life... Then comes step 3 connected.. i hv no talent other then sleeping... My family dont give me tym moreover i dont hv friends who can help me... Hence none of these steps work for me... I cant get over him Or may be i dont want to.. Miss him alot
I started being obsessed with checking when she was active to see if she was ignoring me, she doesn’t want me to move on but checking to see when she was active led me to be nosy about her location on snap maps I’m trying to break the cycle 😣
Even though I tried to listen to music, do something else or think about someone else. My mind just blocks it and just make her come back and have me think about her over and over. I don't like it. Also, if i would delete her, its hard because I have a yearbook that has her on it. I don't want to delete her in my gallery. I think the universe is trying to tell me something. Another thing is that its hard to remove social media because when I delete my app, I come back to you by using the website cause of the news and everything.
And what if im obsessed with someone that doesnt know u exist? Im obsessed with Twice Sana, i have no chance of meeting her, i get depressed when i think about her, i really New help, and she's from korea, please help
i just dont want to delete any dms with him or my social medias :( because i dont want to forget my memories with him but hes literally all i think abt
But i still go to school with them and we talk there because were "chill" however i still get uncomfy and a little hurt when i see them with their new group of friends after we were besties
Invaluable! Great info !!
Thank you, Asanka!
I think keeping avoiding this person may only deepens your obsession. I think you should think about why you love them. Then you should think about their real traits, not only good traits but also bad traits. You should see the reality, and be at peace with yourself. Don't think they're perfect, because they are not. You're better than you believe.
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But what if they are perfect tho
mrsuperwizard123 I thought about that for an entire year until I went through their social and realized they secretly weren’t. You won’t see it now but soon you will
@@mrsuperwizard123 👁️👄👁️
I know he's full of bad traits, it doesn't help.
Everyone has that one person in mind
Nooooooo really?
Why else would we be watching this?
Yeah thats the whole point?
update i am back 2 years later and still not over them ahah
@@izzydelaney411 same sis :( are you still in contact w them?
I've blocked them but my brain memorized the phone number...
LOL
Haha! 😂
Ask them if they can change the phone number and have them not tell you the new number :)
😂😂😂 same
Ale Titan 😂
almost 2 yrs without any contact...
removed from my profiles... and I still think of him EVERY DAY 😔
icyivy gr
Go find your self worth and someone else who will truly care about you. I have been thinking of a person for a year and I truly learned she does not truly care about me.
You need to realize that that if he loved you, he would be next to you. He's not. Know your self worth and move on.
TheRichRoom this has nothing to do with self worth 🙄
icyivy gr get a vibrator
icyivy gr IT HAS ALL TO DO WITH SELF WORTH
its been 3 years for me and i still obsessed with her
6 years. I've never felt anything stronger or more intense. My mind doesn't want to get rid of it because it feels so amazing.
You are experiencing "saudage".
Levy you need a new reward system. Learn an instrument. Within 6 months of this and and dedication you will see tesults then triggers the reward system in the brain. Its a great feeling.
Ivan Lendl saudade.
Sicko
@@glorious6779 but what could help if having imaginary dialogues with them in your head is a part of every creative process? No matter what I do, I think of what would they think or say about it, and about anything I like or dislike, about how I look and how I talk.
The worst is when the person hates you. you know you have no chances, but you still are obsessed, and it hurts
Right?
I know..I know! It hurts knowing that they openly or secretly despises you yet you still fall for them
right... i literally just texted him and turns out he broke his phone and i was texting his brother-
The worst is when they like you, and you can't date them
@@Annaforyou_ what a good idiot!
They rejected me but Im so inlove and obsessed with them it wont stop
Same 😔
the truth is "Rejection breeds obsession" which is a human psychological trait.
me too
Same 😔🔫😴
Same
Who else started thinking abt them while watching this vid and had to go back a couple times😭....
Edit: I completely stopped obsessing over them. It took 2-3 years and it happened naturally. Unfortunately the obsession transferred to another person and I’m back at square one🤦🏾♀️
I'm on this table😭😭
Lol
That’s the way to do it
Are you a love and relationship addict?
@@mariel4861 I’m not sure, I just get obsessed with random ppl. And when men show me attention, I also get obsessed with them
The problem is that I don't even want to stop thinking about him. Thinking about him and seeing his is so pleasurable. It makes my days have a meaning and a purpose. It makes my life interesting and I enjoy that adrenaline rush I feel when I even hear his voice
SAMEEE!! It feels so good but at the same time I know it is wrong. It’s like a drug
@@esther9210 yep much like addiction
Some people get addicted to alcohol or drugs.... for us its people 😪
Yep
Exactly samee..
It just feels so good to think about her.
Yeah, but it could turn into an anxiety, and it's really stressing somehow
Ya it does feels like thinking about him for whole day lost in his thoughts
Ik when I stopped thinking about them I felt empty, I couldn't get myself to get out of bed, but I kinda got over it, kinda.
@@emanessa8795 how did you got over it please ?
@@karimasenpai1412 I was so obsessed, I was thinking of nothing but her, and I realized that, it was like my whole existence was depending on her, the way I got over her was that I realized there are many other things in life that were better than her, I started focusing on my friends more and on my fitness, I started doing what I love and as time went by I forgot about her.
We need more videos on UA-cam about CELEBRITY OBSESSION because it's so common now and no one takes it seriously 😢😢
I feel you
I can Feel you
It's kind of ridiculous but true 🤦♀️
I have a big obsession on Ariana Grande 😱😱😱
Yea !!
I'm OBSESSED with Danny Phantom Exe 🤤
Welp me 😥
I have never had an addiction like smoking, alcohol, gaming or something else that would hurt me in the long run. But I've obsessive thoughts about crushes in my life. Everything started when I was in 7th grade. I was hooked to this girl immediately when I saw her, she was really pretty. I couldn't stop thinking about her and the funny thing is that I never talked to her. So It didn't take long for me to get over her. And then I had another crush on a girl that I also thought was gorgeous. And I decided to talk to her, she became a close friend to me. And I never forget that one conversation we had when I first met her. She was so intelligent, kind-hearted and funny. I remember she was the one that invited me into the conversation. But later I find out she wasn't into me or more like she had a crush on another guy... It took a long time for me to get over her. I later lost contact with her and separated totally and moved to a separate school. I told myself I needed to move on, so I started to focus more on school and being with friends and just living life.
And now I'm here and having a celebrity crush which is even worse. It's so pathetic and she doesn't even know I'm existing. But I just can't get her out of my head, it makes feel sick...
That's the same thing for me. Sometimes I feel stupid and crazy about it.
There was this one boy, that I've never talked to ever; but we sometimes stare at each other during class. I don't know if it's intentional, or he was just drifting off. And whenever he's with someone else I just get really upset. Sometimes I cry about it, It's really lame.
Though, I think I get attached to people too easily. I like attention, so I guess whenever someone diverts positive or any attention towards me, I get attached, and I start obsessing over about them. Creating false scenarios in my head. I hate it, I hate it so much.
Have you ever heard of SLAA (sex&love addicts anonymous)? It’s a 12 step group and seems like it could help with this kind of obsessional “drug” like addiction to people.
@@nothingsfading omggg I create the false scenarios tooo. I get obsessed with random ppl and I’ve been obsessed with this one person for almost two years. Whenever I start to forget about them, I see a pic of them on social media or something and it triggers me. Then I start to think of false scenarios non stop and I replay all the times that I saw them in the hallways. But I deleted all of our old pictures and I made a rule with myself that whenever I start to think about them, I will slowly drift my thoughts away.
Mano, MY STORY IS EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOURS.
The celebrity I'm crushing on is a guy almost 60 years old now with daughter my age. He has a wife, a family.....all girls are crazy abt him even today. He is happy with his family, he doesn't even know that I exist. I can't get him out of my mind even for a second. It hurts me like hell. Im scared i will end up all alone a social outcast if I don't come out of this. But I Don't know how to get him outta my mind. I can't leave his thoughts, they refuse to leave my mind too. If I don't think abt him, I feel DEAD. I want to marry him love him to crazy limits, so much but what should I do? I cry every night. I so want him as a husband. He's so faraway unaware of me but my connection to him feels so natural & so powerful & so right, yet impossible.....
I’ve obsessed over someone and it’s been haunting me.
I'm obsessed with a celebrity. So they don't know I exist and I'm deluding myself that one day they'll be with me. Ugh my brain sucks
@@simona_sigmund1001 relatable ugj
I cant stop obsessing over these ppl I just wanna be their friend🥲 I cant get them out of my head 😔
LITERALLY
Yup
Just practice mindfulness meditation, this instantly stops the thoughts of your infatuation coming through because you are focusing directly on your current surrounding within the present moment, remember an infatuation is a mental concept that you've created in your head that is an illusion stemmed within desire, it doesn't exist!
Thank you
It’s hard when they’re a teacher...that TEACHES YOU
Same with me
What is this? Sicko Central High?
Yeah true
Bahahaha your joking right
I KNOW RIGHT
But bruh im not in love just idk its weird trust me
It's hard to stop thinking about a person you love with all of your heart and soul who has your kid that you love even more. 😩💔
@Courtney holmes high school yes
Harry styles. seriously it’s a bad obsession, I get sad cuz ik I’ll never meet him
How are you now?
Omggggg same I commented the same before reading this.
I found someone who understands me finalllllllly, I love him but I don't want to get obsessed 😭😭😭
i am obsessed and i’m trying not to be so here i am😃
I always feel like I have the courage to just cut him off but every time he messages or visits I just fall right back into my obsession.The delete access part is hard for me
How are you holding up now?
Touches are worse than texts or calls
What if you still love that person and want them to talk to you
10 years no contact with that person, but I still remember...
Two years and I still can’t watch some of my favourite films or listen to certain favourite albums... What really sucks is that these were blankets for every shitty time before. I feel you guys, I really do
This has been going on for nine years. I appreciate your tips but I think I'm far gone.
😂😂😭
here's several things for how to get any man you want
take your time
Use fewer words and choose them carefully
Communicate with behaviour as well as words
(I learned about these and more from Maras magic words website )
lolz 😭😂
christinac86 4 years for me
A year for me now
He is literally just my friend I have always had this issue with him like if they don’t text me right away I get annoyed or I will just be doing nothing and he’ll be the first thing I think about it’s genuinely such a burden on everything
checking social media 17 times a day? more like 70!!! :/
I check social media once a day.
The whole day is me stuck on the phone.
And I have no social media... Well, exept this. Does this count? Idk
I love her,obsessed with her.....but feels like a dagger through my chest
got over this person after a year, then one day he calls me and I couldn't resist, memories came back, we hook up, he leaves again the next day, back at it for another year, tried dating other guys but had to withdraw from all of those relationships as nothing could take him out of my mind, gotta go though the forgetting part all over again and it's so painful ):
She literally lives with me.
The worst part is that I don't even know him in person. And well...
he said I'm crazy and he wanted to block me but then I told him that I was sad and he said that I'm beautiful and he cares about me. WHAT THE FUCK
And I literally cried, but still obssesed with him. Tf is wrong with me
Valee, I'm so sorry. But I think he's just emotionally abusing u. He enjoys those mind games, it's sick. Cuz he knows very well u r crazy abt him. U already gave him the signals. Praying to God For all of us obsessed souls to heal from this & let us be at peace with ourselves. Om 🕉
Push/pull technique. Very manipulative, he follows redpill dating coaches on youtube
@@jayslungsbloodclot2733 Dude you were right LMAO. I'm still a bit obsessed with him tho
Yeah… They can literally say they hate us, and we’d still come running when they call.
One of the best way stop obsessing for that "special someone" is to stay socially connected with other people and try to develop a new relationship with someone else. Do not try to judge that new person with the standards you have for the person you obsessed over. If you just sit down in loneliness, you have no choice but to obsess over the past or over someone that doesnt want you. So Don't do that. Meet people and get out there. Someone better may come by. If you weren't good enough for them, then they were not good enough for you either. Love is a two way street, not one way.
Hi . .I'm obsessed with a guy who starting me ignore and I feel depression im stuck on him .
And makes me depress cause I get crazzy
Cora Cardente try to divert your mind with something else and dont stay alone
I am dealing with it rn 😫😔 I just want to bury myself.
@@harleyquinn7934 I tried but 🚶
How is it going now? Cause I'm dealing sith it now
When I gave him a chance to come back to me within 3 weeks without not letting knew him 2 years ago and he probably come back to me without pleasing him but then during pandemic he broke me up again two times now 😭😭
He show me how I to be jealous and now he leave me and broke his promises. Ex is ex . We should never give a third chance cause it won't change it . Feel the pain and let him feel that you not care and he/She will realize that your worth it and he/She will never found like you . Just feel the pain and it will go away in the right time. Don't run away because you avoid the pain. Just feel it and it will stop it
I really can't forget about her I need her in my life
There’s no way I can delete or block my connection to my favorite person. I just can’t.
It is bad especially when my ex gf is trying to make herself seen with other guys for some reason
Same, I still want to see ex-bestfriend's life.
I keep having dreams about her 🤦🏽♂️
What about a less permanent approach? For example, your significant other ask you (because of a fight or anything else) time out for a couple of weeks. Or after a fight she had to travel because of work and you are obsessed. You just want to "forget" about her for a small amount of time. Are there any tips for that? I mean, you don't want to stop loving her.
That requires you to go deeper. I would suggest finding happiness in yourself. Remember: you don't need her. Get busy doing something you love :)
This is true. You need to find other things in your life that give you stimulation as this person does. But this is easier said than done or I won't be here
THANKS FOR HELPING ME FORGETTING SOMEONE AND IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME
For me, it’s the person that I’m currently dating. I always panic when we are apart. That’s where I need help.
Ahhh it's my teacher and I can't avoid them, ahhh
Awww! 😣 Poor you💕
Talia Mc ahh I'm cumming
Johnny Edwardson 😍❤
Talia Mc crushing yeah? I have crushed on a teacher to.
Call 911 on him
I tried these things ALREADY. Like LITERALLY everything and it’s hard. I’m just gonna cry for my self. And my obsession this weeks is getting worst and worst. Like everyday I literally cried for like 2-3 times, a day.
I’ve literally never met her. I shot my shot bc I kept having dreams about her so I thought it was a sign.. tried shooting my shot and I just kept on getting left on delivered..so I just apologized to her bc I felt like I was annoying her and she said “it’s okay my love” LIKE I- PLS DON’T CALL ME THAT IM TRYING TO GET OVER YOU. But I told her that it was nice TRYING to talk to her💀and just pretty much telling her that if she wasn’t interested then we could just be friends,but here I am now..still on delivered,on UA-cam trying to figure out why I’m obsessed with her and how to stop being obsessed bc it’s absolutely so embarrassing how down bad I am for her. She’s literally a stranger..
Update:I’m not obsessed with her now but I’m obsessed with someone else😭this is rlly getting ridiculous
I'm sorry but that thumbnail CRACKED me up LOOOOL. Great video!!
This actually works!!!!! , thanks for the video , thank you so much! 💝
I'm in a bad situation here lol, starting to become a bit obsessed with my best friend and I can't cut off contact with her otherwise she'll get sad so I might try to just distance myself..
I feel so bad, and I can’t tell if these are true feelings for him or just an obsession. Man I think it’s just an obsession :( he has shown zero interest in me, It’s been about a year and I still get upset about it. I just can’t stop thinking about him
I'm obsessed with zero two :,) DARLING IS JUST SO NICE and I hope there was like ANOTHER movie of them
Just listening your intro i cried
I see this person every day at work. It's a crush. Everything reminds me. There's no escape.
Update: Still obsessing 😖
@@jenjen2868 hope it's better now 🙃
@@jenjen2868 Check out their values. Go with your head and reason with this. Go scouting and fishing, sort of speak, to dig out if they have negative stuff you cannot agree with. Go to that party at the office and get to know them "in reality". Cold showers and don't play "solo guitar" because that will reinforce the obssession! Look at him as if they are family. You do not know perhaps if they are married? Don't get yourself in trouble now! Search actively for what it is you are looking for on dating apps and websites and clubs, groups with same type as you interests to find what you want but cannot have maybe cause you cannot ethically be in a relationship with a co-worker in your field. I feel ya! Look up maybe co-dependance and sexual and affectif co-dependance to see if your root of obssession is there. I hope you get victory over this! Keep your head up!
My one-itis from high school ended up working at a place where my company delivers and I am forced to see her, and it's very awkward for me. I was too scared to talk to her in high school and still kind of am today. Fifteen years I've been obsessing over her, and so far she has only gotten more attractive with age. I know very little about her, I have never spoken to her, and I honestly don't think we have anything in common. But I still obsess over her constantly...whether I want to or not.
I’m sorry :( maybe u should grow some balls and talk to her (not to be rude) you only live once and u never know what could happen.
I think the second can be hard when you had a lot in common with them. It can severely limit the number of things that you can lose yourself in to avoid the the thought. Like if you both liked video games or vehicles or hell even a job.
I got too obsessive or her. I hurt her. If I could go back in time and slap the shit out of myself, I would in a heartbeat. I need to better myself, so I can avoid this in the future.
It honestly sucks. Worst thing is when I have her I don’t want it.. until I lose her again I do, I feel like it’s just the thought of having her is what I want and miss the energy
it doesn’t help me. i’m obsessed over Billie Eilish and don’t know what to do
How are you now?
thats cringe
@@mariapirker4356 once you experience being obsessed with a artist please dont seek for help
Lebron James i have an obsession with a TikTok boy Jaden hossler and it’s gotten rly bad at first it was oh his a lil cute then I started catching my self talking about him the I would hear myself defending a person I don’t even know on accusations that are true about it’s been 4 months somebody help
Why? She's not even pretty!
Thank you for your scientific information about why we obsess about people!
I never realized that anything that reminds you of the person that it creates the obsessive thoughts!
I was having suicide thoughts because of my obsession about the person.
Thank you.
You are very welcome. And you are loved. We have your back. :)
Great advice. He left the company however I am still working there and it's extremely difficult to work there . It's been 3 months and its painful to walk inside the building knowing that I will never see him again. It's time I asked the boss if I can be relocated to another state still with the same company so I can start a new life without the memories.
Been dealing with a celebrity obsession for a few months now. It's pretty disruptive. I've had to delete him from my socials, deleted his projects from Netflix and UA-cam, and have avoided searching him. Working on reconnecting with myself and friends that I haven't seen in a while. I'm hoping this will be out of my system soon. What sucks is that this actor is associated with a franchise I love, but the next installment won't be out for a year and a half, so I shouldn't be exposed to him for a while. If he isn't out of my head by that time, then there's really something wrong with me...
And that scary thoughts about seeing them with someone else.it burns yr heart
Thank you so much , I hope it helps me with my obsession for my crush
Thanks for uploading this I’m obsessed with the royal family and I want this to STOP NOW because it is getting out of hand
thanks man needed this bad need to get her out of my head
Mine is pretty new, but we hung out 5 times, were intimate twice. i fell too hard too fast per usual. He wanted to go very slowly, so I had to step back and not hang out because I was afraid of falling harder. Now all I do is think of him non-stop. I just can't bear to be friends right now. It feels like such a loss and failure. It's maddening.
Step 3: GET CONNECTED
*listens*
Okay, i'm changing schools now
I’m have a serious problem so I’m currently in 11th grade and ever since middle school I been obsessed with my dean then when I went to high school NHs I was obsessed with my teacher and at my other high school I’m currently obsessed with ms.jade btw all these schools I’ve been kicked out of because my obsession 🤦🏽♀️
Done all of this pretty much to the t.
Works for a period of time. She eventually re-appears in some way. Even in dreams.
It's been three years HELP I DONT WANT TO SPEND MORE MONEY ON THERAPY.
I Have Everything In Common With This Girl And IT’s Hard Not To Avoid All The Stuff!
I feel so guilty of the fact and the knowledge that I have been that person. The person that has at one time obssessed over a guy. I started to stalk not his but his family and friends' social media. This was recent and I completely stopped yet I feel like crap. I could use some words of affirmation that tell me I'm more than what I have just been doing because I totally feel like a loser and a freaking failure.
I have become obsessed with an artist on Instagram. I think he has restricted me on the Instagram because a poster commented that her husband ran over her painting with her wheelchair. I asked if he did it on purpose. Later that night I kept looking at each and every post on the artist's feed. Now I see absolutely nothing of his posts on my feed. I am so humiliated! 😭
What if the person is someone you are dating but you are too attached especially because you feel like they aren't
People have a crush an ex or a person not good for them in general but me in the other hand being obsessed with a baby that i want to be his mother and i see him once a year, I just realized I’m so lonely
Thank you Byron. You have given me hope. I appreciate your suggestions. I’m looking forward to getting him out of my mind permanently.
*wants to stop obsessing over someone because its unhealthy for me*...
*has to pretend they don't exist*
NOOOO
What if the person is in my same job and I work at this and don't want to stop working or quit my job because of the memories I have with him? I don't want to quit my job or work at something different. It's really hard lol.
Well if you’re obsessing about someone you’re currently only beginning to date, deleting all accesses can’t be the right thing
Never been through this because i never had a girl and love being single but for people that come to me with promblems like this i just tell them just act they never existed. Works for alot of people i know of. Might be hard for some. But it does work for some
I can’t find any triggers and I also don’t want to stop thinking of them, just thinking less
So I’m obsessed with a video game character (sally face) and oml I cannot get him out of my head I haven’t slept for 2 days help
Lmfaoo
What if this person goes to my school, and I have to see them everyday?
My best friend and I broke up, now I just miss her sooo much but I feel like she forgot about me. I'm nervous to talk to her again because now she's very popular, has a lot of pretty friends and she's friends with someone who I hate. No, she did not leave me because she became popular, we actually got separated from our classes and couldn't spend together and suddenly it became awkward. The person I hate liked my ex-boyfriend and kept constantly texting him that's why he left me. I'm an average person when I see a group of people who are very gorgeous it makes me feel insecure so that's the other reason I don't want to start a convo with her. I just wish she could be my best friend again. Even tho she has a lot of friends I often see her walking alone and being alone at school. I want to go up and talk to her but it's embarrassing and she'll notice how I stare at her. I love her style and everything about her. I miss her every day and I feel better writing about it here because I can't tell anyone I keep hiding my feelings. Once we were together in the hallway alone she came up to me and put her hands over my shoulder and was starting a conversation, I was nervous but we were joking and laughing and then she kissed my cheek it was a friendly kiss but from that day I missed her. Of course, after that she pretended nothing happened, I hate her and love her. Now she's actually a better person and texts me sometimes but never asks me for go on a hangout with her because my friends group is kinda childish, weird and her friend group is mature and bold. On my 17th birthday, I will tell her to come to my birthday party, I hope she accepts the invitation. It's just 8 months away. Sorry for the rush writing I have class in 10 minutes
man I'm obsessed with her it feels good thinking about her
hint to my future self don't read it
she's Daenerys Targaryen
@@hashimalsmael3396 lmfaoo
It is crazy. I don't know nothing about him and something happened and I cannot stop thinking about him. I don't want to do this but I continue. I doesn't help that he works at the same area I work and I see him time to time at the bus stop. Maybe I must go to the psychologist now.
We obsess when we are in uncertainty over something we want. Part of the answer is to just be accepting of the uncertainty.
Much needed video nailed it
The person start a new relationship, and I'm here, not even in love, but feeling terrible about it. I'm death inside. I can't move forward. I feel useless and rejected. I don't know what to do. Simply I can't stand the fact that he started a new life while I'm feeling miserable. And he really is a bad person, very narcissistic. But the rejection, that hurts even now, after some years. Is so unfair.
Seems like sensible advice to me. Thanks, Byron
Let Me Live That Fantasy
He stopped obsessing over me... By doing all this. Got a new girl... But I am obsessed still. I want him. He doesnt. His and mine perspective are different. I want him to come back. I miss him
My situation is that the person likes me back but due to certain circumstances I don’t get to spend as much time with them as I want and it’s soooo annoying I can’t think of anything else when I’m not with them and I get really sad
Problem is happen to be in love with my best friend and he doesn't feel the same way. I can't just delete him from my life as if he never existed. He means so much to me I can't imagine ever giving that up. Yet no matter what I try, I can't stop loving him either. What shoul I do? Please tell me because i'm really desperate at this point. The only way out I see is harming myself and ending it for good.
Hands down a super helpfull video thanks.
Man he is my teacher
Due to corona i hv to stay home nd cant dlt social media because all my work is in there nd even after corona i will hv to attend his classes so unable to do step 1
Then comes step to avoid triggers.. as u already know he is my teacher so all my book related to that subject acts as triggers nd u know that i can stop studies at this stage of my life... Then comes step 3 connected.. i hv no talent other then sleeping... My family dont give me tym moreover i dont hv friends who can help me...
Hence none of these steps work for me...
I cant get over him
Or may be i dont want to..
Miss him alot
Thanx buddy
I'm gonna try wat uve told
Nd get back after fee weeks
It's been a month....u gat any change??
Heyy, any changes?
This is very helpful, thank you
I started being obsessed with checking when she was active to see if she was ignoring me, she doesn’t want me to move on but checking to see when she was active led me to be nosy about her location on snap maps I’m trying to break the cycle 😣
Even though I tried to listen to music, do something else or think about someone else. My mind just blocks it and just make her come back and have me think about her over and over. I don't like it. Also, if i would delete her, its hard because I have a yearbook that has her on it. I don't want to delete her in my gallery. I think the universe is trying to tell me something. Another thing is that its hard to remove social media because when I delete my app, I come back to you by using the website cause of the news and everything.
I obsess over current partner to the point it's effecting his life. How do you deal with that?
Me too..
And what if im obsessed with someone that doesnt know u exist? Im obsessed with Twice Sana, i have no chance of meeting her, i get depressed when i think about her, i really New help, and she's from korea, please help
i just dont want to delete any dms with him or my social medias :( because i dont want to forget my memories with him but hes literally all i think abt
But i still go to school with them and we talk there because were "chill" however i still get uncomfy and a little hurt when i see them with their new group of friends after we were besties
I wish I had someone to be obsessed about me tho but that'll never happen. I'm too ugly for that smh
I’ve been obsessed with “ugly” ppl lol. It’s possible
@@esther9210 lmaooo but trust me you don't know what "ugly" looks like until you see me
Great video thank you so much 😊👍👍👍