FACTZZZZZ!! I can't even type the words big enough😂...its literally caused more harm than good if you ask me...with the hate and depression it causes...its INSANE!!
I can't figure out why we need to know everyone's sexuality, like it's a news story. So bizarre to me. If you want to say, be proud, cool, but when folks are outed these days. No. It doesn't need to be people's whole personality either, there are lots of things that make up who we are. 😊
Its so weird that as a millennial u forget that life worked fine without internet before it was in our pocket 24/7. I was backpacking the world when I was 20, no phone, just a pile of Lonely Planet books, went to a Internet cafe once a week to email my family that I was alive and fine. I almost can’t understand how it was possible when I think about it now. And that is so sad actually
Much harder to find pay phones now, not many people have land lines anymore, and even newspapers are dwindling so when cell towers & internet are down now some of us are even less connected than we were prior to having them so it can feel scary and isolating
As someone who has worked in behavioral anthropology my whole life, thank you for talking about how the internet is causing chronic stress!!! It's making us sick. We need to focus on our own personal communities again! Get in touch with where and who we are right now.
I couldn't agree more! I lived in Wyoming in the middle of nowhere for 4 years where we could barely scratch a signal for texting. Those were the most peaceful years of my life.
You're extremely reflected and aware. The fact that you're able to accept new information, change your mind and admit you've been wrong is amazing. It feels like 80-90% of people aren't, and politicians are included in that...
My oldest is 43 Kristi and I had people who wanted me to let my babies cry. Never did it and both my kids survived. I personally think more people need to understand that they do not know every child because they raised one.
On the topic of protecting children on the internet, the mom from 8 passengers ( a horrific family channel) was arrested recently for aggravated child abuse. While I’m happy she’s been arrested, it is just so unbelievably sad for the children and what they’ve gone through. I really hoping this sparks social media to make rules around exploiting children. One can hope!
Kristi! Long time supporter here. Have always loved & adored you& your content. I know you’ll likely not ever see this comment but PLEASE address what you need to. We, your supporters need to understand your stance. I can’t, as a mother… support someone who supports a known child predator. I’m waiting for you to address it. We all are.
If someone hasn’t said it already it’d be awesome to do controversial opinions while you do your makeup with controversial products! Like that one Anastasia palette that some people HATED and some people loved
Kristi I saw a clip of those parents cracking eggs on their child’s face. I don’t have TikTok-someone sent it to me. It wasn’t funny to me. It made me sad. Their little faces looked shocked. My mom would have NEVER cracked an egg on my face. What have we come to as a society? 😔
Timestamps ❤ 1:50 influencer tea 4:12 aliens 7:20 sponsor 10:10 protecting kids’ identity online 11:05 Elon musk and twitter 13:02 disclaimer culture/not being able to speak freely 14:16 sleep training 20:32 diet culture/injectable weight loss 24:23 family vloggers/exploiting children for views 26:00 being chronically online/relying on phones 33:30 politics 34:31 fakeness of influencers and brands- fillers, filters, plastic surgery and photoshop 38:59 seeing both sides/sitting on the fence/opinions 39:52 polarizing opinions
Sleep training was hell on earth and I hate it and think it’s awful. It’s simply didn’t work for us. We started co- sleeping and bam…everyone was happy. You do what feels right to you, period.
I'm tired of everything being about economics, money, and power. I literally just want people to be okay. I don't understand how that's asking too much. I don't want to be rich or powerful, I just want to be okay.
@Ap0calypse133 "I just want to be okay." That's what I meant. You put into words what my soul feels. I just want you and everyone and myself to be okay. 🫂 You are not alone.
Kristi, did you see that Ruby Franke from 8 Passengers was arrested yesterday? From the reports and the other family members comments, it seems like very bad things were happening in that household for a long time and it’s finally stopped now that she’s in jail and denied bail. I hope that those kids are able to heal and recover.
Wow I just looked it up and that’s horrible. I’m glad they got arrested but that the children even had to endure that is tragic. That cult lady also harmed a lot of adults
I have PCOS and have struggled with my weight as an adult, especially after giving birth to my daughter 10 years ago. I use the weight loss version Wegovy and it has been a game changer for me. I have had chronic pelvic pain from ovarian cysts for 20 years, and for the first time I'm not in debilitating pain. That alone has been the reason I keep using it. Honestly, the weight loss is just an added bonus at this point.
Due to COVID I started looking at the news less, got off social media and just started trying to bring my screen time down. I was so stressed out all the damn time and just knew far too much about everything! My mental health has gotten significantly better since I took a step back and just started being more mindful of what I'm consuming and how long I'm online for!
The part about losing weight is so true! I’ve lost 140lbs and I’ve never felt better! It cured my diabetes and sleep apnea! Losing weight shouldn’t be a fat phobic thing! Yes people are beautiful no matter what. All I’m saying is being healthy in a body that is smaller is amazing. I love how real you are!
Kristi, I applaud and appreciate how you clarify your feelings and opinions about controversial subjects. I admire how forthright and honest you are without being judgmental. I wish when I was a new mother I had had someone like you speak out and make me realize there is no absolute umbrella solution for how to care for and raise your newborn. You just need to do what you have to do and what works best for you and your baby. I also completely stand with you on politics. I don’t trust anyone in the political forum anymore and haven’t for a while. I just wanted to tell you how much I like your well spoken commentary. I wish my comment was better written but I tend to unravel when trying to make a point. 😅
and this video was surely filmed before the news came out this morning about Rubie Frank from 8 passengers being arrested for abusing and imprisoning her children. family vloggers seriously do have a huge disconnect that’s not normal
Thank you for the sleep training talk. I felt so forced into sleep training and my baby would cry and cry and I would have to go OUTSIDE while my husband stayed near the room because I felt sooooo guilty. She eventually learned to sleep in her bed but then got sick at 18 months with Covid and we had her cosleep with us to monitor her breathing and she’s never gone back to her bed since.. she’s now 3 and she has a bed next to ours. I wouldn’t want it any other way now. I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my second and I’ll never ever sleep train again. It’s ridiculous how we are made to feel like babies should sleep long stretches without mom. NO OTHER MAMMAL SLEEPS WITHOUT THEIR OFFSPRING… If they do it’s brief and for a reason… it’s just making me feel so guilty for doing that to my daughter. They are not crying for unnecessary attention; they’re scared. 😭 I will never get over that guilt in my first year as a first time new mom. I listened to way too many other’s opinions.
I’ve lost almost 100lbs on Mounjaro but as a diabetic nothing has controlled my sugar as well. I have minimal side effects but I have a friend who had terrible ones and came off it. I think that’s pretty standard with most medications, not everyone reacts the same
I've lost 60 lbs on Mounjaro and had absolutely no issues. My Dr report 3 weeks. Best health report I've ever had. I'm in the best shape of my life. It's worked wonders for me!
@angelrebekah9153 My Dr said just like any lifelong medication that we will control it with low dose maintenance. Who says you have to go off it? A diabetic who uses it will use it their whole life until something better comes along...so why can't I?
I'm in my second month on mounjaro and it's the best thing I have ever tried for my blood sugars. I'm in the process of getting weight loss surgery, and I would be delighted if I could just be on low dosage mounjaro for the rest of my life instead of a massive organ shifting surgery to try and manage my issues.
I’ve followed your channel from the jump. There are no words for how supportive I am regarding everything you’ve said in this video. Y’all are the epitome of “Imma do me, you do you” in the most respectful way possible. Can we all please just live our lives as we see fit and not judge everyone else if it isn’t the same? Also… let’s not be assholes. Cuz that’s not good for anyone.
I will say that I’m a twin mom and for the first 9 months of my twins’ lives, I just never slept because they weren’t synced up and I was literally just always awake. It was like whack-a-mole. I’d get one down and the other would pop up needing to be fed. I was breastfeeding too so it had to be me that got up and took care of them. I was a depressed, exhausted wreck. The only thing that saved me was sleep training because it got them both on the same schedule and within 3 days they really were sleeping through the night and taking 2 scheduled naps a day, which I got to finally have to myself so I could get some rest. I know sleep training is not for everyone but I was literally so unwell, physically and mentally, until I did it. Taking Cara Babies didn’t work for me but Little Z’s did.
I’m a triplet mom, my kiddos are 3 months old, one month adjusted. I’m so lucky to have my husband and mom to help, but I am so looking forward to sleep training/just getting them on a schedule. It feels right now like I’ll never sleep through the night again, with constant feeding and crying and pumping. I know I would probably agree more with Kristi if I had just one, but I think anyone with multiples would understand we need to do what we can to survive 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for touching on the weight loss thing. My husband has struggled with obesity for his whole life. He has done so much that lead up to where he is now. He has been taking an injection for eight months now and he’s lost almost 100 pounds. I’m so proud of him and I don’t think it’s a easy way out or a weakness and he worked with his doctor a lot with things before this and now with it.
nothing about losing weight or changing your lifestyle are easy, just as one method may not work for others but works for him. props to your husband for making that hard decision!
THIS! I've lost a little over 100 lbs on Mounjaro since December. None of this has been easy, but the medication makes weight loss POSSIBLE when it never has been before.
The stress portion really hit me. Not just social media but every part of lfe. I've recently had to step down from a Senior job because the amount of stress I was under not only in the job but also personally, was making me genuinely want to walk in front of a car. Stress can do AWFUL shit to you.
FINALLY! I totally agree with your internet thoughts. We are such a “sensitive” group anymore and it’s sad how addicted “we” the human race are too the stupid internet and are no longer allowed to be “bored” and boredom creates creativity. Everyone is blah to me and we don’t trust anyone. This world is crazyyyy. I also grew up in a time with no internet, until high school is when it really picked up and we all started having cell phones and thought it was cool. I don’t think we realized what it was going to turn into 😢
I am a "plus sized nurse" I also feel better when I lose weight. It always creeps back. However, recently I have been having a run of young (35-50 years old) patients who are 300lb and over. Lab wise they tend to be diabetic, but not aware. Otherwise their labs seem to be on the high side of normal. The problem I am seeing is they have surgery and just 1 or 2 days in bed and they become severely weakened. They need physical therapy just to be able to get up to the bathroom. I find that for those of us who are overweight being ill makes us so weak that we cannot function. One patient ended up becoming bed bound over the year he spent in treatment. It was such hard work to get his body moving again that he gave up and just ordered door-dash to his room. We sent him to a nursing room. (Yes we had psych see him for his emotional needs) His surgery was a Laproscopic gallbladder removal. Right now the "fat" people are saying "I am fine and you are mean" but really we are one sickness from being immobile! Beingfat and being healthy is not really healthy. I am making lifestyle changes myself because I do want to be weakened.
🤰🏼🤱🏼🎉👶CONGRATULATIONS👶 🎉🤰🏼🤱🏼 WHAT A BEAUTIFUL TIME IN YOUR LIFE, I WISH YOU A WONDERFUL LABOR AND DELIVERY OH THE FIRST MOMENT YOU MEET YOUR PRECIOUS BABY IT'S A EXPERIENCE YOU WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER SENDING YOU BLESSINGS AND PEACE.🎂 HAPPY BIRTHDAY🎂LITTLE ONE🎊
Oh! It’s all going to be great! I remember when I had my first! Get ready for something truly magical! I’m actually a little choked up right now for you! Remember to breathe and enjoy all the newness!
I also agree it is so good to be able to change your mind once new information comes your way! I think its scary that people will stay on one "side" of the fence and because they are stubborn wont change their mind even when theres so much more info!
Thank you for commenting on TakingCaraBabies! I was sucked into this scheme when I was sleep deprived and couldn't feel good about myself as a parent letting my child scream herself to sleep.
I’ve followed you for years and you seriously just age like fine wine. Better every year. You are someone I’m inspired by and I appreciate your perspective on all of this so much.
Kristi! I used to watch you as a pre teen. You were literally my favorite UA-camr. Then I became an adult and got rid of social media and joined the military. And I recently got back into watching UA-cam and you are making me fall in love with makeup all over again! You’re so real. I love your content.
i think sleep training is so much more nuanced than portrayed. i was 5000 miles away from all my family and friends, my husband was gone for a few weeks, i was ALONE. like completely. i was hallucinating from exhaustion, i literally wanted to unalive myself and if i didnt sleep train i honestly don’t know what could’ve happened in the state i was in. i truly think it saved me and now my baby sleeps all night and i can actually be present and not a dissociative zombie
The sleep training talk made me feel soooo much better! We EBF and cosleep and the internet makes me feel so bad about it. Sleep training felt so wrong to me
I sleep trained my first, it straight up broke my heart, listening to him just lay in bed screaming. It worked but I also definitely credit a lot of his current anxiety issues to it. My second - breastfed for nearly 2 years and co slept til like 15 months. Split with their dad when she was around 6 months and honestly the 3 of us slept sooooooooo much better with breastfeeding and co sleeping. She even got to the point where she’d wake up in the night for a feed and help herself without even waking me 😂
Please do a video on fat phobia! My personal story...I went from 453 lbs in 2013 to 235 lbs this morning. I've had 2 bariatric surgeries (no issues), 3 plastic surgeries for excess skin and fat removal (no issues) and I've used semaglutides in the last year and had NO issues I've heard about on these videos. I'm now a powerlifter for the past 2.5 yrs and in excellent health according to my doctor visit 3 weeks ago. I don't care if people think I'm fat-phobic for losing 220 lbs (A WHOLE PERSON)...I'm in better shape at 45 yrs old than I have been my whole life.
Congrats!!! That’s FREAKIN amazing!! The whole fat phobia movement is ridiculous - no one should be disrespectful to anyone ever regarding weight, but it truly is not healthy to be at a morbidly obese weight. When people say you can be “healthy at any size”… that’s not entirely true & that (in my opinion) spreads misinformation
@gemlikestardust Thank you! If I can do this...I believe anyone can! I was so lazy and unmotivated (really defeated and depressed...which I'm still on low dose Wellbrutin). Good luck on your health journey!
If there was no issue with ur first bariatric surgery how come you had a second? And why did u need the semiglutides on top? (Asking genuinely I hope that’s not offensive to ask)
You’re so right about the “disconnect” some parents have with their kids. I see it often!!! I can’t imagine making my child feel scared or sad, I live my entire life trying to prevent that
I agree with a lot of statements you’ve made. The internet is brutal and has made our children’s lives are so much more hard. When I was younger if I was picked on or made fun of I could get away from it at home. Children can’t anymore. They go home and get on the internet and that bully is still there
My momma covered our ancient/ rounded/ cratchety old fridge in a gazillion brown mushrooms she’d cut out of vinyl contact paper in 1975 and even though I was only 5, I loved it. Like I’m loving these mushroomy eyes! 😊 Gettin’ some serious 70’s vibes here ~ but. Groovy shrooms aside, I really do like a lighter colored liner on your lower lash line - it suits you and is beautiful!
You are spot on with the internet/social media. When I start to watch to much of it I really can tell that I start to feel like shit about myself, and my life, even though I KNOW half the shiz people post is actually FAKE AF! I am so scared for my kids mental health due to this problem.
For context, I was a longtime personal trainer and have had plenty of my own struggles with eating disorders, compulsive exercise and some degree of body dysmorphia, so I understand the sensitive nature of these topics. I'm also older (45) and I think that informs some of where I come from because I've witnessed these dramatic shifts in the overall size of the general public, as well as changes in attitudes, language, advertising etc. I think we need to find a way to distinguish between being considerate about the fact that we have been sold a bunch of shitty lies about how our bodies are "supposed" to be, and the ACTUAL reality that there are very real, very deadly health conditions that are associated with chronic obesity. It's not shaming people to say that certain health conditions such as diabetes and heart disease have exploded in number as much of our society has physically grown. There are many very complex reasons for this, which are very much tied to American farming policy and subsidization, food processing and pricing, advertising, socioeconomic inequality and other factors. The last thing I think is productive is to shame people and assume it's some type of simple self-control issue that is at the heart of people's physical statuses. It's so much broader than that. When I was younger, there wasn't a dialysis center in every town. Now there are several. This is the kind of thing that troubles me deeply. I don't want people to feel bad about their bodies. I want them to feel well, to be able to live free of serious illness and medication and to be able to live long and healthy lives. Sorry this is a wall of text, just some strong feelings I wanted to share among friends.
Kristi, do you support him or not? I don't. Here's why: 1. He's admitted to predatory behaviour and is a danger to young people. 2. His voice is whining and annoying to me. Where do you stand?
I am not a commenter but I want to say that I wholeheartedly agree with everything mentioned in this video. I love your nuanced opinions and how empathetic you are towards people, especially children. You speak of the things that I am too afraid to talk about due to not feeling confident enough to effectively share my thoughts on those touchy topics. But yes, this is also how I partially perceive things. Your opinions have also made me consider things from a different perspective as well. Anyway, I am a new subscriber and I appreciate your sincere comments.
Thanks for the late night makeup and laughs! Feels like the old days, pre kids! So much has changed for me since then and I love following along with seeing all your changes, too!
I don’t normally comment on videos but today I’d like to, I could literally sit and watch/listen to you for hours! You’re so real and comforting! Your personality is a huge pick-me-up everything you say just makes sense! We are living in such a stressful time and hearing you speak on this is so refreshing! Thanks for all you do 💘💘💘
I’m here for it Kristi! I’m old school and I use a paper map. I drove myself alone from Alaska through Canada and all the way back to my Mom’s front door, picked her up and drove to Phoenix Arizona with just a map.. 💋🧚🏻♀️❤️🇺🇸
I appreciate your honest thoughts on sleep training. My son is 2.5 and I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it. It feels inherently wrong to ignore his cries. There have been times he’s been very ill, had temporary separation anxiety, and been scared of the dark. I’m impressed that any moms can do it, but since he will most likely be my only child I am fine with laying with him every night and sleeping with him (when needed).
I teach a dual credit Rhet and Comp course to high school students, and the first semester focuses on literacy and writing. I try to theme the term with those concepts, and we are focusing on media literacy this year. The whole section about how we are too plugged in, receiving too much information, and it's increasing stress and anxiety is a major part of our focus (inspired by Stolen Focus). I'm considering playing the snippet of that for a hook for students. Smashing it RBK!
I’ve followed you for years, and I always thought you had a good heart. But after hearing how you continue to support a man who has admitted to inappropriate conduct with minors, I can no longer support you. This makes me so sad.
I think there are many more if us with nuanced opinions than "they" would like us to think. It was so refreshing to hear another person talk about things with a "shades of grey" mentality. We appreciate you, Kristi!
Oh, the absolute desire I have to have a personal conversation with you after watching this video. I feel you so deeply, and it was so refreshing to hear something so familiar that I don't hear very often outside of my own head. Sitting on the fence has been painted to be something of a "cop-out", when really it's just trying to be respectful, looking on both sides with patience and understanding. I hope you only ever come down from fences when you really believe you should, and never because someone tells you to pick a side. Stay strong and beautiful, darling 💕
How do you have opinions so similar to mine! I love you for that. You speak TRUTH! I want to keep seeing these kind of videos and it makes me feel like such a better mom ❤
Thank you so much for talking about baby sleep and sleep training courses. I have felt so guilty about my baby taking short naps and not sleeping through the night. I’ve assumed I’ve been doing something wrong. I bought a course too, but I didn’t feel comfortable letting my baby cry. I’ll just be sleep deprived for the foreseeable future. 😅
BABE, that foreshadowing with 8 passengers. Holy smokes. I would really appreciate to hear you speak on that situation because I really need someone I relate to that I can share my outrage with. I’m so so angry for these children….
something that I heard recently and might help you was "if you are a perfectionist and struggle to make or finish projects based on wanting them to be perfect, shoot for B+ because your B+ will be a lot of peoples A and it will be good enough" I have thought about it a lot lately and not like ohh I am better than most but more as in my brain would benefit from a break lol
My mom’s method with infants was to go about her daily business with us sitting on the floor in our car seat. She’d just carry us from room to room and put in ear plugs when we were fussy. My siblings and I all got used to the sounds of the radio, pots banging in the kitchen, the vacuum (in another room, she was careful with our hearing) and conversations. She said after a few months we could sleep through absolutely anything, and the stimulation during the day kept us sleeping well at night. She said it was strange seeing the pivot to “must not make a sound around the baby” that happened in the late 90s.
I'm 20, so I've spent the majority of my life with some sort of internet access. I could write a book about how I think it's affected myself and others my age. I really felt you on the stress of knowing so much. Actually, it's recently become stressful to me that I don't know and understand everyone's life experiences.
Listen- At the end of the day when you lay down to sleep, if you are doing the best you can with what you have, than that is all that matters. I agree with you on so many levels. Thank you for your videos, they help me feel less alone, and less crazy! Keep on being you Kristie!!! Much love 😊
I love you fact that you can look at different parenting methods and say it wasn't for you but also understand that everyone has to do what's right for their family. I wish there was more of this because I've texted my mom friend in tears before over how rude people have been over my and my husband's parenting decisions. My friend is a stay at home mom (I'd love to be but we can't swing it) and she parents differently, but she has never been judgmental. If I didn't have a friend in real life that we are nothing but respectful of each other parenting choices, it would be a hard road. If feel like it's not hard to understand that every family and child is different and that's okay. The internet has a hard time with that.
I love you so much. Becoming a mother has changed my views so much and literally all I care about is children. Like I am you. And I love you. Keep doing what you’re doing girl. We hear you.
Yessss!! I was just heading to bed, but then I saw the notification for Kristi's video with the words "controversial" and "aliens" in the title!! Idk that I have ever heard myself giggle with excitement in my head before tonight. 🖤
Love these chat sessions! ❤ I was born in 1970 and miss the days of no cell phones and no Internet. We can limit the use of those things in our own little world, but they seem so necessary now to get through life. I need my phone for GPS and to communicate with clients all day for my job, for example. My husband delivers for Amazon and he's tied to his phone all day as well. He and I go camping in the fall and it's like a magical reset for me with cooler Indiana weather and the glorious, technology-free vacation! What is that beautiful brow product, please?
Currently going through it with my 10 month old, he will not sleep and it’s driving me and my partner crazyyy!!! We tried sleep training and it’s bloody awful! Thank you for your advice, I needed to hear it 👏🏼 Also agree very strongly!! You do you and stay in your lane with regards to others 😉
I feel like since the internet use with our cell phones has become so popular ppl have actually forgotten about what’s really important n happening in their own lives bc they are so captivated that they can actually interact with celebrities and influencers on social media and it has become so mesmerizing and everyone is so stressed n overwhelmed because they have an internet addiction n don’t even realize it
My son didn't sleep through until he was 5. His sister (18 months younger) slept through from 6 months (because she dropped all but one half hour day nap.) I tried everything with him. What worked is when I let him get into bed with his sister one night. And now they sleep together. And they do indeed sleep. One day they won't want to. But right now 🤷 sleep is sleep. We're all happy and rested.
Thank you for talking about sleep training!!!! It is seriously so important to talk about, and the normal biological sleep needs especially for babies, and I agree moms need more support and sleep training is not always the answer, if it was then people wouldn’t need to sleep train the same baby multiple times… I personally found in motherhood following and tuning into your instincts is best and screw whatever society says because 99% of the world outside of the US cosleeps and thinks sleep training is abuse so 🤷🏻♀️
I am Type 2 diabetic and have been on Ozempic for 4 months. I have lost 6kgs since starting on it. I think it is a great product for diabetics. My sugar levels are good now. and so is my liver function and cholesterol. When I was 32 I was diagnosed (very new at the time) as being ADHD, that used to have a stigma attached, Your on speed, your on drugs, BUT they thing is, it worked for me, it actually helped to open my brain up to the point I could go back to study, I lost 12 kgs but I did not like the fact I was not eating, sleeping or functioning as a mother. My ex called me a druggy, but the difference is, ADHD the medication works as it is made to work, someone who takes it that is NOT ADHD it is speed. and just a drug. OZempic is not like that. I was ill for the first week after taking it. but now I am fine. each to their own!!
We were without internet and had super limited cell service for a couple of months after Hurricane Irma in SWFL. It was wild! At least we got power back in a week, but we realized really really quickly how much we do on our phones. We could occasionally get texts or calls to go through but data was spotty at best. And our twins were 4 at the time so of course they were like “what do you mean there’s no wiggles?!”
Regarding the babies sleep... follow your instincts and what's best for your individual child. I have 3 children. My first started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks. My second did not sleep through the night until he was 3. My third was born sleeping thru the night. Problem was 2nd and 3rd child are only 18 months apart, so my youngest wanted the dark room by herself. We had to move her into the nursery we made for my second and let him cosleep with us to keep him from waking her up. Long story short, every child is born different, and you know what is best for your family. Who cares what anyone else's opinion is. It's your child and you know what's best for them.
A study was done how our brains don’t retain important information anymore because we’ve come to be reliant on searching things so easily on the internet. It’s so true too. I remember last year I was planting pumpkins for the first time and I read when the best time to plant them was, shade or no shade etc… and then 20 mins later and I’m ready to plant and I didn’t retain any information that I read. I started buying books to become less reliant on searching things up. I have so many gardening and homesteading books now 🤣 and when I tell myself I can’t look it up and actually read from my books it sticks better. Also I know you said you’re a skeptic for the paranormal and aliens etc. (I don’t trust why the govt is saying there are aliens now) but please listen to the podcast blurry creatures! Love it.
Ugh I appreciate you saying how ok it is being in the middle of so many options and being able to see both sides. I hate the way people take extreme sides and attack other people when we’re all literally just trying to get by. Life’s hard as it is I’m not trying scream and try to change people mind to every belief I have or be screamed at either.
On the topic of sleep training, I think sometimes it is absolutely best for the baby. My daughter (now 14 months) has always been a “bad sleeper”. Been cosleeping basically since day 1 bc she refuses to be in a bassinet/crib and loves to constantly nurse all night. So her constant nursing forced me, someone who loves to move around in bed, to lay in 1 position forever lest I wake her up. So I fall asleep in said position, inevitably wake up soon after, and carefully try to switch positions. As soon as I even THINK about moving she wakes up, and the cycle repeats. This was destroying my sleep AND hers. While I’m still working on getting her out of the bed, sleep training has already changed both of our lives so much 🙌🏽
"Have you ever met a baby?" Ahahahahaha. ❤ 🎤 💧 We were blessed with a good sleeper but when we had hard nights, people would tell me and my partner to take turns but both of us wanted to be with the baby, neither of us wanted a "break from her" regardles how tired we were. That was really hard to explain to people with and without children. ILYSM
we all love drama, but i'm kind of itching for Kristi fashion/aesthetic inspo content. i've really been trying to update/simplify my wardrobe and love what you got goin on.
I’m a Capricorn too and a skeptic except with the paranormal. I so want to see her go to a haunted location like the Conjuring House or Waverly Hills now, I think it would be so hilarious to see her reaction😂
I want to comment that I truly appreciate the way you handled the portion on infant sleep. I felt myself disagreeing with you, but then you talked about “doing what you need to do, but do it safely” and that’s been my outlook all along, and I love that you said that. That puts it so well, and my opinion and what worked for my kids aside, that’s the advice I would want to give others!
I hate being labeled plus sized. I’m not plus sized. I’m just a size 16/18/XL/sometimes XXL. That’s quite literally the only explanation I need on my clothing.
I’m so glad I decided to watch this video today. Thankful to hear you talk about sleep training. I’m going on a full year of shit sleep with my son. I’ve been up at night reading until my eyes felt like they were going to bleed. I’ve JUST NOW got back to being able to lay my son down at night for a few hours of me time before he wakes up again. You made me feel normal 😭❤️
On the topic of infant sleep- I just did what felt natural to me which was co-sleeping. Safely of course. Meaning not being under the influence of any substances (alcohol included- I don’t drink), no huge collection of pillows or blankets that could suffocate baby, etc. I had both of my kids in the bed with me from literally day 1- in the hospital. Not a single nurse said a word to me about it
I never would have guessed you supported James Charles considering you have a baby. I assumed you wouldn’t eff with him. Dang. Never judge a book by its cover. Big yikes.
I think having perspective and “fence sitting” is just a healthier way of thinking. Commuting to one side of an argument,political issue, etc. is limiting and immediately makes one closed minded. Thoughts and opinions are meant to be fluid and change as you gain more knowledge or experience. It’s frustrating how our current culture can discourage that.
It is important to listen to both sides of an issue, but it’s also important to eventually come to a conclusion about that issue. “If you stand in the middle of the road, you’re going to get hit by a truck.”
@@cassidyberry1608 I can agree with that. I just think too many people come to the decision without some knowledge of both sides. Too many people are ok with the world being at constant war with left and right. We will literally never get anything accomplished if the newest person in office spends their entire time undoing what the person before did. It’s a never ending cycle. We need to get to a point where we can agree to disagree and move to a solution.
I wish more creators would stand strong like you about not sharing your child identity on here. Children need to be protected at all cost, an we as parents are the ones suppose to to be doing this for them.
I’m the same way about my opinions. I used to be staunch about some of them, but then I learned more and changed my mind. So now I’m like you, mostly a fence sitter because I understand where the different sides on things are coming from and I realize most everything is nuanced and complex. Almost nothing is black & white, therefore I can’t have a black & white view on most things.
In terms of sleep training CIO did not work for us. It was so hard and to us it seemed just not appropriate. We did Ferber and OMG it worked within DAYS. And my baby didn’t sleep for the whole first year. As soon as I tried that it worked. I couldn’t believe it. She’s 6 now and is still a dream to put her to bed. Never had any issues ever again.
Sleep training was so hard and felt so unnatural for me. Truly, the two days it (mostly) took to train my son I think were harder on me than him… I cried so hard, but my mental well-being had gotten to a place where it was necessary. So, I definitely can see all points on this topic. Sleep training was not something I necessarily “wanted” but I absolutely had to and it wasn’t easy, but now I’m glad I did. I can be a better/ more-present and patient wife and mom. Parenting is not “one size fits all.” We all have different kids with different needs and personalities and different environments to work with and different needs of our own. It’s silly to take a hard stance on any parenting method when figuring out what a child needs is like putting together a unique, one- of-a-kind puzzle. You may have put together a beautiful puzzle, but your pieces won’t work with the one I’m putting together. Wish more people understood that.
Of course there’s no way of knowing what I’ll actually do in the situation, but when I have kids (hopefully 1-2 years from now) I fully plan to sleep train. I work a high stress, fast-paced 9-5 job that I need to be mentally present for. It’s the same reason I probably won’t be able to breastfeed very long - I will likely want to go back on my ADHD meds.
@@calathea81 Right. I understand that. I didn’t breastfeed but about 4 months with my first (hoping to go longer with my 2nd that’s due next month.) You have to figure out and do what works for you, your child, your lifestyle, and your peace. It’s not easy, it can break your heart when you’re not able to do things the way that “feels best” but is necessary. Parenting is hard, no matter how you approach it.
I’ve been confused about the controversies of sleep training since having my son last year. Maybe that’s because my son took to it so well. It may not work for all babies but knocking something that could literally save a mother’s life is awful and an awful thing to do to new mothers who might do well with it. I stay to myself these days. People are cruel to new moms.
@@gigicolada they really are so harsh with new moms instead of doing the much easier thing and being supportive. People are so weird and tend to think that their way of viewing the world, raising their kid, or doing anything in general is the right way..and if you don’t agree you’re a crap parent and human. It’s such strange behavior to me.
“We know too much about everybody. We know too much about everything…and it’s stressing us the f*ck out” - THIS. IS. FACTS. 👏🏼
Literally!! Plus our brains are notttttt wired to process information as quickly as they need to now with social media and short form content 😕
It makes so much sense! Our brains are being overloaded without even realizing it! 😢
FACTZZZZZ!! I can't even type the words big enough😂...its literally caused more harm than good if you ask me...with the hate and depression it causes...its INSANE!!
It's a distraction from us paying attention to the things that really matter.
I can't figure out why we need to know everyone's sexuality, like it's a news story. So bizarre to me. If you want to say, be proud, cool, but when folks are outed these days. No. It doesn't need to be people's whole personality either, there are lots of things that make up who we are. 😊
Its so weird that as a millennial u forget that life worked fine without internet before it was in our pocket 24/7. I was backpacking the world when I was 20, no phone, just a pile of Lonely Planet books, went to a Internet cafe once a week to email my family that I was alive and fine. I almost can’t understand how it was possible when I think about it now. And that is so sad actually
It was the end of the world in 2012. Well, nothing has been the same since after then...
This is awesome ❤
I had to find a phone box and hope I had a 20p to ring my mum. Also remember numbers 😂
Isn’t that wild? We rely so much on something that didn’t even exist in our own lifetimes.
Much harder to find pay phones now, not many people have land lines anymore, and even newspapers are dwindling so when cell towers & internet are down now some of us are even less connected than we were prior to having them so it can feel scary and isolating
As someone who has worked in behavioral anthropology my whole life, thank you for talking about how the internet is causing chronic stress!!! It's making us sick. We need to focus on our own personal communities again! Get in touch with where and who we are right now.
I couldn't agree more! I lived in Wyoming in the middle of nowhere for 4 years where we could barely scratch a signal for texting. Those were the most peaceful years of my life.
I LOVE the transformation from "scared to state opinion" to "states every opinion" LOL. And that's on GROWTH!!!!!
You're extremely reflected and aware. The fact that you're able to accept new information, change your mind and admit you've been wrong is amazing. It feels like 80-90% of people aren't, and politicians are included in that...
My oldest is 43 Kristi and I had people who wanted me to let my babies cry. Never did it and both my kids survived. I personally think more people need to understand that they do not know every child because they raised one.
On the topic of protecting children on the internet, the mom from 8 passengers ( a horrific family channel) was arrested recently for aggravated child abuse. While I’m happy she’s been arrested, it is just so unbelievably sad for the children and what they’ve gone through. I really hoping this sparks social media to make rules around exploiting children. One can hope!
I was about to say she hit that nail on the head! About the mom being abusive!
Daddy O’Five should have been that rude awakening! Didn’t happen. I really hope it changes, but I don’t think it will.
Didn't she also have a podcast or an advice channel too on parenting? Anyone who supports her needs to be looked into. Glad she got arrested.
I'm waiting in the Saccone-Jolys to get hit for exploiting their children.
@@baileyboling9122yes, it was called ConneXions!
Kristi! Long time supporter here. Have always loved & adored you& your content. I know you’ll likely not ever see this comment but PLEASE address what you need to. We, your supporters need to understand your stance. I can’t, as a mother… support someone who supports a known child predator. I’m waiting for you to address it. We all are.
What are you talking about?
If someone hasn’t said it already it’d be awesome to do controversial opinions while you do your makeup with controversial products! Like that one Anastasia palette that some people HATED and some people loved
That’s a GREAT idea!!!
Which one ?
@@gyssellarosales7897 Subculture I think
SUBCULTURE ❤
Ya and that telescopic mascara from mascara gate?! Please do it!!
Kristi I saw a clip of those parents cracking eggs on their child’s face. I don’t have TikTok-someone sent it to me. It wasn’t funny to me. It made me sad. Their little faces looked shocked. My mom would have NEVER cracked an egg on my face. What have we come to as a society? 😔
Timestamps ❤
1:50 influencer tea
4:12 aliens
7:20 sponsor
10:10 protecting kids’ identity online
11:05 Elon musk and twitter
13:02 disclaimer culture/not being able to speak freely
14:16 sleep training
20:32 diet culture/injectable weight loss
24:23 family vloggers/exploiting children for views
26:00 being chronically online/relying on phones
33:30 politics
34:31 fakeness of influencers and brands- fillers, filters, plastic surgery and photoshop
38:59 seeing both sides/sitting on the fence/opinions
39:52 polarizing opinions
Thank you!😊
You are an angel, have a great day
Bless you
Thank you! I wish people did these time stamps and sections right in the video
Sleep training was hell on earth and I hate it and think it’s awful. It’s simply didn’t work for us. We started co- sleeping and bam…everyone was happy. You do what feels right to you, period.
I really *felt* that sentiment about hating everyone. It's just too much...we know too much.
I'm tired of everything being about economics, money, and power. I literally just want people to be okay. I don't understand how that's asking too much. I don't want to be rich or powerful, I just want to be okay.
@Ap0calypse133 "I just want to be okay." That's what I meant. You put into words what my soul feels. I just want you and everyone and myself to be okay. 🫂 You are not alone.
“I hate everybody” is the most relatable statement ever in regards to politicians. Love it.
I died laughing 😂😂😂
Kristi, did you see that Ruby Franke from 8 Passengers was arrested yesterday? From the reports and the other family members comments, it seems like very bad things were happening in that household for a long time and it’s finally stopped now that she’s in jail and denied bail. I hope that those kids are able to heal and recover.
Wow I just looked it up and that’s horrible. I’m glad they got arrested but that the children even had to endure that is tragic. That cult lady also harmed a lot of adults
I have PCOS and have struggled with my weight as an adult, especially after giving birth to my daughter 10 years ago. I use the weight loss version Wegovy and it has been a game changer for me. I have had chronic pelvic pain from ovarian cysts for 20 years, and for the first time I'm not in debilitating pain. That alone has been the reason I keep using it. Honestly, the weight loss is just an added bonus at this point.
Due to COVID I started looking at the news less, got off social media and just started trying to bring my screen time down.
I was so stressed out all the damn time and just knew far too much about everything! My mental health has gotten significantly better since I took a step back and just started being more mindful of what I'm consuming and how long I'm online for!
The part about losing weight is so true! I’ve lost 140lbs and I’ve never felt better! It cured my diabetes and sleep apnea! Losing weight shouldn’t be a fat phobic thing! Yes people are beautiful no matter what. All I’m saying is being healthy in a body that is smaller is amazing. I love how real you are!
Kristi, I applaud and appreciate how you clarify your feelings and opinions about controversial subjects. I admire how forthright and honest you are without being judgmental. I wish when I was a new mother I had had someone like you speak out and make me realize there is no absolute umbrella solution for how to care for and raise your newborn. You just need to do what you have to do and what works best for you and your baby. I also completely stand with you on politics. I don’t trust anyone in the political forum anymore and haven’t for a while. I just wanted to tell you how much I like your well spoken commentary. I wish my comment was better written but I tend to unravel when trying to make a point. 😅
and this video was surely filmed before the news came out this morning about Rubie Frank from 8 passengers being arrested for abusing and imprisoning her children. family vloggers seriously do have a huge disconnect that’s not normal
WoW 😮
No way!!!
Thank you for the sleep training talk. I felt so forced into sleep training and my baby would cry and cry and I would have to go OUTSIDE while my husband stayed near the room because I felt sooooo guilty. She eventually learned to sleep in her bed but then got sick at 18 months with Covid and we had her cosleep with us to monitor her breathing and she’s never gone back to her bed since.. she’s now 3 and she has a bed next to ours. I wouldn’t want it any other way now. I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my second and I’ll never ever sleep train again. It’s ridiculous how we are made to feel like babies should sleep long stretches without mom. NO OTHER MAMMAL SLEEPS WITHOUT THEIR OFFSPRING… If they do it’s brief and for a reason… it’s just making me feel so guilty for doing that to my daughter. They are not crying for unnecessary attention; they’re scared. 😭 I will never get over that guilt in my first year as a first time new mom. I listened to way too many other’s opinions.
I’ve lost almost 100lbs on Mounjaro but as a diabetic nothing has controlled my sugar as well. I have minimal side effects but I have a friend who had terrible ones and came off it. I think that’s pretty standard with most medications, not everyone reacts the same
What about when you stop taking it though?
@@angelrebekah9153 diabetics usually go on a maintenance does, they don't go off of it. I've lost 50lbs on it with very little side effects.
I've lost 60 lbs on Mounjaro and had absolutely no issues. My Dr report 3 weeks. Best health report I've ever had. I'm in the best shape of my life. It's worked wonders for me!
@angelrebekah9153 My Dr said just like any lifelong medication that we will control it with low dose maintenance. Who says you have to go off it? A diabetic who uses it will use it their whole life until something better comes along...so why can't I?
I'm in my second month on mounjaro and it's the best thing I have ever tried for my blood sugars. I'm in the process of getting weight loss surgery, and I would be delighted if I could just be on low dosage mounjaro for the rest of my life instead of a massive organ shifting surgery to try and manage my issues.
I’ve followed your channel from the jump. There are no words for how supportive I am regarding everything you’ve said in this video. Y’all are the epitome of “Imma do me, you do you” in the most respectful way possible. Can we all please just live our lives as we see fit and not judge everyone else if it isn’t the same? Also… let’s not be assholes. Cuz that’s not good for anyone.
I will say that I’m a twin mom and for the first 9 months of my twins’ lives, I just never slept because they weren’t synced up and I was literally just always awake. It was like whack-a-mole. I’d get one down and the other would pop up needing to be fed. I was breastfeeding too so it had to be me that got up and took care of them. I was a depressed, exhausted wreck. The only thing that saved me was sleep training because it got them both on the same schedule and within 3 days they really were sleeping through the night and taking 2 scheduled naps a day, which I got to finally have to myself so I could get some rest. I know sleep training is not for everyone but I was literally so unwell, physically and mentally, until I did it. Taking Cara Babies didn’t work for me but Little Z’s did.
Girl… same here. As twin moms with no help, we pretty much have no choice. As long as they’re safe, we do what we have to do.
I’m a triplet mom, my kiddos are 3 months old, one month adjusted. I’m so lucky to have my husband and mom to help, but I am so looking forward to sleep training/just getting them on a schedule. It feels right now like I’ll never sleep through the night again, with constant feeding and crying and pumping. I know I would probably agree more with Kristi if I had just one, but I think anyone with multiples would understand we need to do what we can to survive 🤷🏼♀️
@@funandfancyfree77 yep, it’s either let them cry or death lol
I feel like this kind of situation truly demands sleep training. It's life or death here.
Thank you for touching on the weight loss thing. My husband has struggled with obesity for his whole life. He has done so much that lead up to where he is now. He has been taking an injection for eight months now and he’s lost almost 100 pounds. I’m so proud of him and I don’t think it’s a easy way out or a weakness and he worked with his doctor a lot with things before this and now with it.
nothing about losing weight or changing your lifestyle are easy, just as one method may not work for others but works for him. props to your husband for making that hard decision!
Omfg wtg him!!! That's an incredible feat! Way to go!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
THIS! I've lost a little over 100 lbs on Mounjaro since December. None of this has been easy, but the medication makes weight loss POSSIBLE when it never has been before.
The stress portion really hit me. Not just social media but every part of lfe. I've recently had to step down from a Senior job because the amount of stress I was under not only in the job but also personally, was making me genuinely want to walk in front of a car. Stress can do AWFUL shit to you.
FINALLY! I totally agree with your internet thoughts. We are such a “sensitive” group anymore and it’s sad how addicted “we” the human race are too the stupid internet and are no longer allowed to be “bored” and boredom creates creativity. Everyone is blah to me and we don’t trust anyone. This world is crazyyyy. I also grew up in a time with no internet, until high school is when it really picked up and we all started having cell phones and thought it was cool. I don’t think we realized what it was going to turn into 😢
I am a "plus sized nurse" I also feel better when I lose weight. It always creeps back. However, recently I have been having a run of young (35-50 years old) patients who are 300lb and over. Lab wise they tend to be diabetic, but not aware. Otherwise their labs seem to be on the high side of normal. The problem I am seeing is they have surgery and just 1 or 2 days in bed and they become severely weakened. They need physical therapy just to be able to get up to the bathroom. I find that for those of us who are overweight being ill makes us so weak that we cannot function. One patient ended up becoming bed bound over the year he spent in treatment. It was such hard work to get his body moving again that he gave up and just ordered door-dash to his room. We sent him to a nursing room. (Yes we had psych see him for his emotional needs) His surgery was a Laproscopic gallbladder removal. Right now the "fat" people are saying "I am fine and you are mean" but really we are one sickness from being immobile! Beingfat and being healthy is not really healthy. I am making lifestyle changes myself because I do want to be weakened.
She’s a grown ass woman too. Just weird how people can befriend child predators
I'm so effin disappointed in her, she's no different than the other predator protectors.
Yes I unsubscribed because I always though she was something she obviously isn't!
@@AnneAndersonFoxiepawsme too I unsubscribed straight away, and I was so disappointed because I thought she cared about protecting children.
If you follow celebrities than you also follow predators. You guys are acting like they were friends.
@@nicole86evansApparently they were! It came straight from her own mouth that they were friends. Sad.
Watching this as I’m in the hospital laboring, first time mom! Water just broke four hours ago
🤰🏼🤱🏼🎉👶CONGRATULATIONS👶 🎉🤰🏼🤱🏼
WHAT A BEAUTIFUL TIME IN YOUR LIFE,
I WISH YOU A WONDERFUL LABOR AND DELIVERY
OH THE FIRST MOMENT YOU MEET YOUR PRECIOUS BABY IT'S A EXPERIENCE YOU WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER SENDING YOU BLESSINGS AND PEACE.🎂 HAPPY BIRTHDAY🎂LITTLE ONE🎊
You got this.
Oh! It’s all going to be great! I remember when I had my first! Get ready for something truly magical! I’m actually a little choked up right now for you! Remember to breathe and enjoy all the newness!
Congrats Mama!!
Congrats momma!!
I also agree it is so good to be able to change your mind once new information comes your way! I think its scary that people will stay on one "side" of the fence and because they are stubborn wont change their mind even when theres so much more info!
Y’all are wild. Love you kristi, I can’t even begin to imagine the amount of stress it would cause a human to hear so many comments and opinions.
Thank you for commenting on TakingCaraBabies! I was sucked into this scheme when I was sleep deprived and couldn't feel good about myself as a parent letting my child scream herself to sleep.
I’ve followed you for years and you seriously just age like fine wine. Better every year. You are someone I’m inspired by and I appreciate your perspective on all of this so much.
Kristi! I used to watch you as a pre teen. You were literally my favorite UA-camr. Then I became an adult and got rid of social media and joined the military. And I recently got back into watching UA-cam and you are making me fall in love with makeup all over again! You’re so real. I love your content.
i think sleep training is so much more nuanced than portrayed. i was 5000 miles away from all my family and friends, my husband was gone for a few weeks, i was ALONE. like completely. i was hallucinating from exhaustion, i literally wanted to unalive myself and if i didnt sleep train i honestly don’t know what could’ve happened in the state i was in. i truly think it saved me and now my baby sleeps all night and i can actually be present and not a dissociative zombie
The sleep training talk made me feel soooo much better! We EBF and cosleep and the internet makes me feel so bad about it. Sleep training felt so wrong to me
I sleep trained my first, it straight up broke my heart, listening to him just lay in bed screaming. It worked but I also definitely credit a lot of his current anxiety issues to it.
My second - breastfed for nearly 2 years and co slept til like 15 months. Split with their dad when she was around 6 months and honestly the 3 of us slept sooooooooo much better with breastfeeding and co sleeping. She even got to the point where she’d wake up in the night for a feed and help herself without even waking me 😂
Please do a video on fat phobia!
My personal story...I went from 453 lbs in 2013 to 235 lbs this morning. I've had 2 bariatric surgeries (no issues), 3 plastic surgeries for excess skin and fat removal (no issues) and I've used semaglutides in the last year and had NO issues I've heard about on these videos. I'm now a powerlifter for the past 2.5 yrs and in excellent health according to my doctor visit 3 weeks ago.
I don't care if people think I'm fat-phobic for losing 220 lbs (A WHOLE PERSON)...I'm in better shape at 45 yrs old than I have been my whole life.
Congrats!!! That’s FREAKIN amazing!! The whole fat phobia movement is ridiculous - no one should be disrespectful to anyone ever regarding weight, but it truly is not healthy to be at a morbidly obese weight. When people say you can be “healthy at any size”… that’s not entirely true & that (in my opinion) spreads misinformation
Wooow congratulations! I'm on my way to becoming a healthier version of myself and needed to read this❤
@gemlikestardust Thank you! If I can do this...I believe anyone can! I was so lazy and unmotivated (really defeated and depressed...which I'm still on low dose Wellbrutin). Good luck on your health journey!
@@NJgirlMel Thank you! And very well said 👏👏👏 I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said 😊
If there was no issue with ur first bariatric surgery how come you had a second? And why did u need the semiglutides on top? (Asking genuinely I hope that’s not offensive to ask)
You’re so right about the “disconnect” some parents have with their kids. I see it often!!!
I can’t imagine making my child feel scared or sad, I live my entire life trying to prevent that
I agree with a lot of statements you’ve made. The internet is brutal and has made our children’s lives are so much more hard. When I was younger if I was picked on or made fun of I could get away from it at home. Children can’t anymore. They go home and get on the internet and that bully is still there
A chit chat with Kristi while I'm chilling in bed, thanks for the calm vibes girl!🤗
Same! It’s almost 2:30am here and I have insomnia and this is so helping. I love when Kristi does these chitchat get ready videos 😊
My momma covered our ancient/ rounded/ cratchety old fridge in a gazillion brown mushrooms she’d cut out of vinyl contact paper in 1975 and even though I was only 5, I loved it. Like I’m loving these mushroomy eyes! 😊 Gettin’ some serious 70’s vibes here ~ but. Groovy shrooms aside, I really do like a lighter colored liner on your lower lash line - it suits you and is beautiful!
You are spot on with the internet/social media. When I start to watch to much of it I really can tell that I start to feel like shit about myself, and my life, even though I KNOW half the shiz people post is actually FAKE AF!
I am so scared for my kids mental health due to this problem.
For context, I was a longtime personal trainer and have had plenty of my own struggles with eating disorders, compulsive exercise and some degree of body dysmorphia, so I understand the sensitive nature of these topics. I'm also older (45) and I think that informs some of where I come from because I've witnessed these dramatic shifts in the overall size of the general public, as well as changes in attitudes, language, advertising etc.
I think we need to find a way to distinguish between being considerate about the fact that we have been sold a bunch of shitty lies about how our bodies are "supposed" to be, and the ACTUAL reality that there are very real, very deadly health conditions that are associated with chronic obesity. It's not shaming people to say that certain health conditions such as diabetes and heart disease have exploded in number as much of our society has physically grown. There are many very complex reasons for this, which are very much tied to American farming policy and subsidization, food processing and pricing, advertising, socioeconomic inequality and other factors. The last thing I think is productive is to shame people and assume it's some type of simple self-control issue that is at the heart of people's physical statuses. It's so much broader than that.
When I was younger, there wasn't a dialysis center in every town. Now there are several. This is the kind of thing that troubles me deeply. I don't want people to feel bad about their bodies. I want them to feel well, to be able to live free of serious illness and medication and to be able to live long and healthy lives. Sorry this is a wall of text, just some strong feelings I wanted to share among friends.
Kristi, do you support him or not? I don't. Here's why: 1. He's admitted to predatory behaviour and is a danger to young people. 2. His voice is whining and annoying to me.
Where do you stand?
This is why I follow you! You’re real, relatable, and don’t pretend to be perfect❤❤ I wish more influencers would be more like you.
I am not a commenter but I want to say that I wholeheartedly agree with everything mentioned in this video. I love your nuanced opinions and how empathetic you are towards people, especially children. You speak of the things that I am too afraid to talk about due to not feeling confident enough to effectively share my thoughts on those touchy topics. But yes, this is also how I partially perceive things. Your opinions have also made me consider things from a different perspective as well. Anyway, I am a new subscriber and I appreciate your sincere comments.
Well.... 8 passengers mom got arrested today, hoping charges stick, it's awful
Thanks for the late night makeup and laughs! Feels like the old days, pre kids! So much has changed for me since then and I love following along with seeing all your changes, too!
I am seven
@@Gusandmax22huh? You’re 7 years old?
I don’t normally comment on videos but today I’d like to, I could literally sit and watch/listen to you for hours! You’re so real and comforting! Your personality is a huge pick-me-up everything you say just makes sense! We are living in such a stressful time and hearing you speak on this is so refreshing! Thanks for all you do 💘💘💘
I’m here for it Kristi! I’m old school and I use a paper map. I drove myself alone from Alaska through Canada and all the way back to my Mom’s front door, picked her up and drove to Phoenix Arizona with just a map..
💋🧚🏻♀️❤️🇺🇸
I appreciate your honest thoughts on sleep training. My son is 2.5 and I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it. It feels inherently wrong to ignore his cries. There have been times he’s been very ill, had temporary separation anxiety, and been scared of the dark. I’m impressed that any moms can do it, but since he will most likely be my only child I am fine with laying with him every night and sleeping with him (when needed).
I teach a dual credit Rhet and Comp course to high school students, and the first semester focuses on literacy and writing. I try to theme the term with those concepts, and we are focusing on media literacy this year. The whole section about how we are too plugged in, receiving too much information, and it's increasing stress and anxiety is a major part of our focus (inspired by Stolen Focus). I'm considering playing the snippet of that for a hook for students. Smashing it RBK!
I’ve followed you for years, and I always thought you had a good heart. But after hearing how you continue to support a man who has admitted to inappropriate conduct with minors, I can no longer support you. This makes me so sad.
who are you talking about??
She won't miss you.
@@genuinedelusionsmusic you’re right. She has your delusional ass to keep her company.
I think there are many more if us with nuanced opinions than "they" would like us to think.
It was so refreshing to hear another person talk about things with a "shades of grey" mentality.
We appreciate you, Kristi!
Oh, the absolute desire I have to have a personal conversation with you after watching this video. I feel you so deeply, and it was so refreshing to hear something so familiar that I don't hear very often outside of my own head. Sitting on the fence has been painted to be something of a "cop-out", when really it's just trying to be respectful, looking on both sides with patience and understanding. I hope you only ever come down from fences when you really believe you should, and never because someone tells you to pick a side. Stay strong and beautiful, darling 💕
How do you have opinions so similar to mine! I love you for that. You speak TRUTH! I want to keep seeing these kind of videos and it makes me feel like such a better mom ❤
Thank you so much for talking about baby sleep and sleep training courses. I have felt so guilty about my baby taking short naps and not sleeping through the night. I’ve assumed I’ve been doing something wrong. I bought a course too, but I didn’t feel comfortable letting my baby cry. I’ll just be sleep deprived for the foreseeable future. 😅
BABE, that foreshadowing with 8 passengers. Holy smokes. I would really appreciate to hear you speak on that situation because I really need someone I relate to that I can share my outrage with. I’m so so angry for these children….
Kristi you should make the MLM video into multiple parts!!! That way you can see feedback, stories, etc to make it as well rounded as possible
something that I heard recently and might help you was "if you are a perfectionist and struggle to make or finish projects based on wanting them to be perfect, shoot for B+ because your B+ will be a lot of peoples A and it will be good enough" I have thought about it a lot lately and not like ohh I am better than most but more as in my brain would benefit from a break lol
My mom’s method with infants was to go about her daily business with us sitting on the floor in our car seat. She’d just carry us from room to room and put in ear plugs when we were fussy. My siblings and I all got used to the sounds of the radio, pots banging in the kitchen, the vacuum (in another room, she was careful with our hearing) and conversations. She said after a few months we could sleep through absolutely anything, and the stimulation during the day kept us sleeping well at night. She said it was strange seeing the pivot to “must not make a sound around the baby” that happened in the late 90s.
I'm 20, so I've spent the majority of my life with some sort of internet access. I could write a book about how I think it's affected myself and others my age. I really felt you on the stress of knowing so much. Actually, it's recently become stressful to me that I don't know and understand everyone's life experiences.
Listen- At the end of the day when you lay down to sleep, if you are doing the best you can with what you have, than that is all that matters.
I agree with you on so many levels.
Thank you for your videos, they help me feel less alone, and less crazy!
Keep on being you Kristie!!!
Much love 😊
I love you fact that you can look at different parenting methods and say it wasn't for you but also understand that everyone has to do what's right for their family. I wish there was more of this because I've texted my mom friend in tears before over how rude people have been over my and my husband's parenting decisions. My friend is a stay at home mom (I'd love to be but we can't swing it) and she parents differently, but she has never been judgmental. If I didn't have a friend in real life that we are nothing but respectful of each other parenting choices, it would be a hard road. If feel like it's not hard to understand that every family and child is different and that's okay. The internet has a hard time with that.
I love you so much. Becoming a mother has changed my views so much and literally all I care about is children. Like I am you. And I love you. Keep doing what you’re doing girl. We hear you.
Yessss!! I was just heading to bed, but then I saw the notification for Kristi's video with the words "controversial" and "aliens" in the title!!
Idk that I have ever heard myself giggle with excitement in my head before tonight.
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Love these chat sessions! ❤ I was born in 1970 and miss the days of no cell phones and no Internet. We can limit the use of those things in our own little world, but they seem so necessary now to get through life. I need my phone for GPS and to communicate with clients all day for my job, for example. My husband delivers for Amazon and he's tied to his phone all day as well. He and I go camping in the fall and it's like a magical reset for me with cooler Indiana weather and the glorious, technology-free vacation!
What is that beautiful brow product, please?
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Haha everything I was like yesss kristi, nodding furiously in agreement with her 🤣🤣
@@Happine5s i wish she got juicer but it’s okay i still love her
I forgot where I read this quote but it was life-changing for me. "The act of maturity is being able to entertain an idea without accepting it."
Currently going through it with my 10 month old, he will not sleep and it’s driving me and my partner crazyyy!!! We tried sleep training and it’s bloody awful! Thank you for your advice, I needed to hear it 👏🏼 Also agree very strongly!! You do you and stay in your lane with regards to others 😉
I feel like since the internet use with our cell phones has become so popular ppl have actually forgotten about what’s really important n happening in their own lives bc they are so captivated that they can actually interact with celebrities and influencers on social media and it has become so mesmerizing and everyone is so stressed n overwhelmed because they have an internet addiction n don’t even realize it
My son didn't sleep through until he was 5. His sister (18 months younger) slept through from 6 months (because she dropped all but one half hour day nap.)
I tried everything with him. What worked is when I let him get into bed with his sister one night. And now they sleep together. And they do indeed sleep. One day they won't want to. But right now 🤷 sleep is sleep. We're all happy and rested.
I just always remember, “Done is better than perfect.” 💜
Thank you for talking about sleep training!!!! It is seriously so important to talk about, and the normal biological sleep needs especially for babies, and I agree moms need more support and sleep training is not always the answer, if it was then people wouldn’t need to sleep train the same baby multiple times… I personally found in motherhood following and tuning into your instincts is best and screw whatever society says because 99% of the world outside of the US cosleeps and thinks sleep training is abuse so 🤷🏻♀️
you're like the most reasonable person on the internet, it's such a breath of fresh air
I am Type 2 diabetic and have been on Ozempic for 4 months. I have lost 6kgs since starting on it. I think it is a great product for diabetics. My sugar levels are good now. and so is my liver function and cholesterol. When I was 32 I was diagnosed (very new at the time) as being ADHD, that used to have a stigma attached, Your on speed, your on drugs, BUT they thing is, it worked for me, it actually helped to open my brain up to the point I could go back to study, I lost 12 kgs but I did not like the fact I was not eating, sleeping or functioning as a mother. My ex called me a druggy, but the difference is, ADHD the medication works as it is made to work, someone who takes it that is NOT ADHD it is speed. and just a drug. OZempic is not like that. I was ill for the first week after taking it. but now I am fine. each to their own!!
We were without internet and had super limited cell service for a couple of months after Hurricane Irma in SWFL. It was wild! At least we got power back in a week, but we realized really really quickly how much we do on our phones. We could occasionally get texts or calls to go through but data was spotty at best. And our twins were 4 at the time so of course they were like “what do you mean there’s no wiggles?!”
Work ain’t honest but it pays the bills.
YES KRISTI!! More of this please! The best part is enjoying watching how much FUN YOU ARE HAVING making this! ❤️❤️
Regarding the babies sleep... follow your instincts and what's best for your individual child. I have 3 children. My first started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks. My second did not sleep through the night until he was 3. My third was born sleeping thru the night. Problem was 2nd and 3rd child are only 18 months apart, so my youngest wanted the dark room by herself. We had to move her into the nursery we made for my second and let him cosleep with us to keep him from waking her up. Long story short, every child is born different, and you know what is best for your family. Who cares what anyone else's opinion is. It's your child and you know what's best for them.
A study was done how our brains don’t retain important information anymore because we’ve come to be reliant on searching things so easily on the internet. It’s so true too. I remember last year I was planting pumpkins for the first time and I read when the best time to plant them was, shade or no shade etc… and then 20 mins later and I’m ready to plant and I didn’t retain any information that I read. I started buying books to become less reliant on searching things up. I have so many gardening and homesteading books now 🤣 and when I tell myself I can’t look it up and actually read from my books it sticks better.
Also I know you said you’re a skeptic for the paranormal and aliens etc. (I don’t trust why the govt is saying there are aliens now) but please listen to the podcast blurry creatures! Love it.
LOVE LOVE LOVE the honesty in your videos! 💕🫶
Ugh I appreciate you saying how ok it is being in the middle of so many options and being able to see both sides. I hate the way people take extreme sides and attack other people when we’re all literally just trying to get by. Life’s hard as it is I’m not trying scream and try to change people mind to every belief I have or be screamed at either.
Yessss. I miss the days of “agree to disagree.”
Needed this for my pregnancy insomnia 😂
SAME ❤
Haha same!!! 😂
Same!!! 😂
Not pregnant but have insomnia 😂
SAME
On the topic of sleep training, I think sometimes it is absolutely best for the baby. My daughter (now 14 months) has always been a “bad sleeper”. Been cosleeping basically since day 1 bc she refuses to be in a bassinet/crib and loves to constantly nurse all night. So her constant nursing forced me, someone who loves to move around in bed, to lay in 1 position forever lest I wake her up. So I fall asleep in said position, inevitably wake up soon after, and carefully try to switch positions. As soon as I even THINK about moving she wakes up, and the cycle repeats. This was destroying my sleep AND hers. While I’m still working on getting her out of the bed, sleep training has already changed both of our lives so much 🙌🏽
"Have you ever met a baby?" Ahahahahaha. ❤ 🎤 💧
We were blessed with a good sleeper but when we had hard nights, people would tell me and my partner to take turns but both of us wanted to be with the baby, neither of us wanted a "break from her" regardles how tired we were. That was really hard to explain to people with and without children. ILYSM
we all love drama, but i'm kind of itching for Kristi fashion/aesthetic inspo content. i've really been trying to update/simplify my wardrobe and love what you got goin on.
I’m a Capricorn too and a skeptic except with the paranormal. I so want to see her go to a haunted location like the Conjuring House or Waverly Hills now, I think it would be so hilarious to see her reaction😂
I want to comment that I truly appreciate the way you handled the portion on infant sleep. I felt myself disagreeing with you, but then you talked about “doing what you need to do, but do it safely” and that’s been my outlook all along, and I love that you said that. That puts it so well, and my opinion and what worked for my kids aside, that’s the advice I would want to give others!
I hate being labeled plus sized. I’m not plus sized. I’m just a size 16/18/XL/sometimes XXL. That’s quite literally the only explanation I need on my clothing.
I’m so glad I decided to watch this video today. Thankful to hear you talk about sleep training. I’m going on a full year of shit sleep with my son. I’ve been up at night reading until my eyes felt like they were going to bleed. I’ve JUST NOW got back to being able to lay my son down at night for a few hours of me time before he wakes up again. You made me feel normal 😭❤️
The mushroom eyes are adorable! 😍🍄
On the topic of infant sleep- I just did what felt natural to me which was co-sleeping. Safely of course. Meaning not being under the influence of any substances (alcohol included- I don’t drink), no huge collection of pillows or blankets that could suffocate baby, etc. I had both of my kids in the bed with me from literally day 1- in the hospital. Not a single nurse said a word to me about it
I never would have guessed you supported James Charles considering you have a baby. I assumed you wouldn’t eff with him. Dang. Never judge a book by its cover. Big yikes.
I think having perspective and “fence sitting” is just a healthier way of thinking. Commuting to one side of an argument,political issue, etc. is limiting and immediately makes one closed minded. Thoughts and opinions are meant to be fluid and change as you gain more knowledge or experience. It’s frustrating how our current culture can discourage that.
Agreed! There’s literally nothing wrong with being willing to listen to all sides! Extremism in either direction gets absolutely nothing done!
It is important to listen to both sides of an issue, but it’s also important to eventually come to a conclusion about that issue. “If you stand in the middle of the road, you’re going to get hit by a truck.”
@@cassidyberry1608 I can agree with that. I just think too many people come to the decision without some knowledge of both sides. Too many people are ok with the world being at constant war with left and right. We will literally never get anything accomplished if the newest person in office spends their entire time undoing what the person before did. It’s a never ending cycle. We need to get to a point where we can agree to disagree and move to a solution.
I wish more creators would stand strong like you about not sharing your child identity on here. Children need to be protected at all cost, an we as parents are the ones suppose to to be doing this for them.
I’m the same way about my opinions. I used to be staunch about some of them, but then I learned more and changed my mind. So now I’m like you, mostly a fence sitter because I understand where the different sides on things are coming from and I realize most everything is nuanced and complex. Almost nothing is black & white, therefore I can’t have a black & white view on most things.
In terms of sleep training CIO did not work for us. It was so hard and to us it seemed just not appropriate. We did Ferber and OMG it worked within DAYS. And my baby didn’t sleep for the whole first year. As soon as I tried that it worked. I couldn’t believe it. She’s 6 now and is still a dream to put her to bed. Never had any issues ever again.
Sleep training was so hard and felt so unnatural for me. Truly, the two days it (mostly) took to train my son I think were harder on me than him… I cried so hard, but my mental well-being had gotten to a place where it was necessary. So, I definitely can see all points on this topic. Sleep training was not something I necessarily “wanted” but I absolutely had to and it wasn’t easy, but now I’m glad I did. I can be a better/ more-present and patient wife and mom.
Parenting is not “one size fits all.” We all have different kids with different needs and personalities and different environments to work with and different needs of our own. It’s silly to take a hard stance on any parenting method when figuring out what a child needs is like putting together a unique, one- of-a-kind puzzle. You may have put together a beautiful puzzle, but your pieces won’t work with the one I’m putting together. Wish more people understood that.
Of course there’s no way of knowing what I’ll actually do in the situation, but when I have kids (hopefully 1-2 years from now) I fully plan to sleep train. I work a high stress, fast-paced 9-5 job that I need to be mentally present for. It’s the same reason I probably won’t be able to breastfeed very long - I will likely want to go back on my ADHD meds.
@@calathea81 Right. I understand that. I didn’t breastfeed but about 4 months with my first (hoping to go longer with my 2nd that’s due next month.) You have to figure out and do what works for you, your child, your lifestyle, and your peace. It’s not easy, it can break your heart when you’re not able to do things the way that “feels best” but is necessary. Parenting is hard, no matter how you approach it.
With you, mama!
I’ve been confused about the controversies of sleep training since having my son last year. Maybe that’s because my son took to it so well. It may not work for all babies but knocking something that could literally save a mother’s life is awful and an awful thing to do to new mothers who might do well with it. I stay to myself these days. People are cruel to new moms.
@@gigicolada they really are so harsh with new moms instead of doing the much easier thing and being supportive. People are so weird and tend to think that their way of viewing the world, raising their kid, or doing anything in general is the right way..and if you don’t agree you’re a crap parent and human. It’s such strange behavior to me.