The feeling of wanting to leave everything behind...
Вставка
- Опубліковано 13 тра 2024
- Where does this urge to leave everything behind come from? And is packing our stuff and starting somewhere afresh actually a smart move? Is there anything profound and meaningful about changing location, or is it just a means to escape discontent?
Video: The feeling of wanting to leave everything behind
Support the channel:
✔️ PayPal: www.paypal.me/einzelgangerco
✔️ Patreon: / einzelgangster
✔️ Bitcoin: 3HQnEz1LQ4G6dqN2LdZgzc7qoJjJCyWjTC
(Donated BTC and want in the credits? Send me an email with the amount/address)
🎞️ Animations and thumbnail art by Munkaa:
/ jus7y
Purchase Stoicism for Inner Peace (affiliate links):
📘 Paperback: amzn.to/3wB9iHb
💻 Ebook: amzn.to/2RdjbKV
Purchase Unoffendable (affiliate links):
📘 Paperback: amzn.to/2RJYfti
💻 Ebook: amzn.to/35e23a5
Merchandise:
🛍️ Shop: teespring.com/stores/einzelgangerstore
🛍️ Merchandise design by Punksthetic Art:
/ jrstoneart
00:00 Introduction
01:22 Wanting to leave
05:09 The irrationality of leaving
08:39 An assertion of freedom
10:44 Our truest selves
In 2008 I dropped everything and left everything behind to move to Alaska. It was the best choice I ever made..
I've visited Alaska and I kinda envy you.
How did you deal emotionally with such big changes?
No wife and kids huh?
@@krisannekey3218 It wasn't easy. Every day was one step closer to the life I deserved and wanted. When you want something bad enough you just push through it. Years later my x wife called me and thanked me for doing what she didnt have the courage to do. Shes has the life she wanted and so do i. Its that old saying that "Nothing worth having comes easy". Its a true story..
@@noseefood1943 You make your own choices.
“No matter where you go, there you are”
I love this quote. Who's quote is it?
The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimension
Can't run away from yourself.
I like it
@@riffdealernot in the UK 😂 rain and more rain 😢
Every time I look into the woods, the wilderness, I want to walk into it and never come back.
Yeah, I want to dig an underground house in the forest and go feral 😊
@@whosaidthat4299😂
Lol 😂as a wilderness man, you'll be coming back as soon as you're hungry and thirsty
Bye
I also do it
I left all behind many times. Remember, when you are old, you will regret what you didn't do, rather than all the mistakes done in life.
For real. I clicked on this because of the title; I thought, wait, are you not supposed to do that? I am in my late 50s, and have "left it all behind" several times. Currently I'm in Costa Rica, lol
I somewhat agree but also I regret pretty much everything I've done up to this point in my 32 years...I've done some incredibly stupid life altering things...nothing involves prison or drugs just stupid life decisions and now I have no one around me
@@garrettpittman7374 I know what you're saying, but we have to march forward my friend. We've already made past our tumultuous 20s......now it's finally going to smooth out.
We made it🎉
"my aloneness feels so good… I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude."
- Warsan Shire
Thanks for sharing.
Love this quote
were born alone and we die alone. IN the case of self-determination being for free will you have to live with being hated by society at large and be labeled as evil or stupid.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Bless you
Sometimes roots need new soil, new nutrients, so the rest of the organism can flourish again...
I've been stuck in this city for so long, where living is becoming too expensive, housing is unaffordable, and i lock myself indoors because of it, too noisy, too dirty... humans can be too toxic to stay put. I long for nature, peace and quiet.
I do feel you tremendously. You will be fine. Just know yourself and what you want. ❤️
Good luck finding it. I wish you well.
I count my blessings everyday growing up in a small town of 500 people in Utah. I do not envy one bit for people living in city life. They seem to me as if they’re gasping for air with most cities I’ve visited.
I used to live in the city the same exact way and it was killing me. Took a few years, but found a place that clicked with me. The land is beautiful, the population is less, and the laws are great. I fit in better in the new place I found as well. Got a job transfer in the next week and left asap never to look back. Best decision I've ever made for myself.
I lived 5-6 cities and change my house over 30+ times in 40 years. Its an addiction to me move on new neighborhood.
3 Years a go left my well paid job in London to settle in a coastal small town in Scotland.
Best decision ever
Ridiculous! The video clearly says you should stay in Khanistan and be happy.
@@andro.5678the video say do whatever you like
No matter what place, I always have the feeling I don't belong there.
I think I agree with this. I have attributed it to a fear of "this can't be it", but I still don't really know how to solve the problem
We dont belong in Hell, we get to experience it awhile then go to our true home.
Earth isn’t your home, never was
@@seraph3761 interesting belief system
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Most people who do leave are the explorative types. They do not leave because of discontent. The people that are discontent and say they will leave, almost never leave.
Just my experience. I lived and worked in 7 different countries. Now I'm quite settled, married, but the idea of going somewhere unknown and beginning a new quest still stays with me.
A lot of people in the comments talk about travel. But travel is not the same as going somewhere to live and work. Even if you travel a year or so, you always know you will come back to the same situation.
If you move somewhere and settle into another country, society, job, you are grounded into another daily reality. All I can say is that this will expand your vision immensely, and this idea of what home is will change with you.
Sold everything two years ago and moved into my van. Only now beginning to find myself again after decades of depression.
I hope to do that when and if things work out. That is really my dream.
that's wonderful. You have broken through the illusion
Namastw
If moving is an acceptance of who we are and what we value, then it's a running towards ourselves, not away from ourselves.
How is it that you ALWAYS upload a video that matches my situation, like perfectly. Holy shit
I’m going to enjoy watching your videos once again :)
Was going to comment the same thing
@@brandonchdib5380 it might be a coincidence haha, we all live similar situations sometimes
Hope it brings something good to you !
+1
bruh same
Yup same
I left the UK 13 years ago and moved to Canada. Now I’m stuck and have endless amounts of debt. Living hell. The grass isn’t always greener.
You came to the wrong place at the wrong time, just before Trudeau started to destroy the economy, Canada is still a great place though.
@@Daniel-ef7nkCanada is not a great place but it is a large plate of land That s quite a difference . Canada is predicated on violent extraction of finite resources by small minded boorish patriarchs.😮
You knew it was expensive there sooooooooooooooooooooooo. Move!
@@user-xd7rc6eo8n It was cheap when I rocked up. Hookers and blow was cheap as chips
Can't you go back? Find a very cheap place? Or is the UK just as expensive? If so, maybe look to somewhere altogether new...
the need to explore doesn't just come from discontent, it is part of the human nomadic identity. A reflection of our truest selves. Well said!
I agree. We are not meant to be tied to one place, it's not natural and is the cause of all our modern disease.
@@emmadeofsteel the modern person's mental health is equivalent to that of someone in an asylum 50 years ago, goes to show how society is setup for the people in it to fail
The inherent wish for freedom
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Our hunter-gatherer and herder ancestors traveled vast distances in their lifetime hunting the caribou and mammoth, before the era of agriculture. Being confined in a small concrete cube is unnatural and sick.
Whoever is behind this channel is a genius. I mean...when I feel sad,stressed,ignored...I just go to this channel and come back like a fresh new born baby. Thanks Einzalngänger❤
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Wow, I’m glad I found this encouragement!
You can not take it with you.
I do the same. I feel the same. Cheers
"I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude."
That urge to fly away against the gravitational forces of mechanical existence hits hard !! It's better to be in Solitude than to deal with venomous fake world 🤸💜
I feel like you have to keep moving if one is this type of person. Some people just need new.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 that’s also Marx’s alienation of labor theory
As an immigrant and incurable traveller, but also as a homesteader and community-minded person, I can attest to all of these being present in my own life. I think the key to understanding this is that we are not unitary beings with a single purpose. We have within ourselves the explorer, the homesteader, the person who longs for deep and lasting connection, and the person who longs to be completely free and unencumbered by relationships. All these personalities need their time to express themselves. How we integrate them together into a meaningful and satisfying life is the trick.
I'm going through this at the moment - aged 54 - My life has been turned upside down in the previous 12 months. Some by design, some very much not by design. I've never felt as though I belonged wherever I was. I'm drawn to your channel because, like you, I'm drawn to solitude, I have needed to be alone since childhood. But I struggle with bouts of loneliness and a fundamental need for company and intimacy. It's as though I'm at odds with myself. I find water, sunshine and blue skies and walking therapeutic, calming, healing. I'm about to embark on a series of short trips around the Mediterranean to see if there's somewhere that resonates. A derelict farmhouse that requires renovating, surrounded by a small vinyard or an olive grove maybe. I have no idea of this a fantasy or a calling but I think it's worth taking a look. I know wherever I go I will take my internal struggles. I know that I'm not going to be able to run away from unpleasant feelings or memories. I'm not searching for a new home, a destination, a dream or a fantasy. I'm searching for inner calm. Deep down I know it doesn't matter where I am physically for this to manifest itself, but the journey I hope is the mechanism that creates healing that I require. If I return, I hope to return a more whole, centered person.
You can legit write travel blogs
Reflection is always both key and lock.
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I share these feelings too. All the best, Red.
You will return (if you decide to) a more centered person. You are telling my story. I left when I was 56. At 61 I moved to Italy and found that loving another culture validated that love and generosity was always within me. I was just in a place and with people that never appreciated it. "Stay close to your roots"" my buttt..!!
I’ve been tethered down in a place of general discontent for the past 15 years. Not women, children or anything like that. This January I was able to make the decision to drop everything and pursue my dreams… most importantly- I was able to do this without hurting anyone. I bought a sailboat, moved several hours away and will be learning to sail the great lakes. I’m 35 now and plan to be somewhere on the other side of the world in a few years.
A sailboat is very similar to a rocket ship- traveling to far distant lands relying on yourself, your preparedness and knowledge. The world is your oyster 😊
truman show
Beware Pirates..☠️
I lef tmy country in 1979 as a crew member in a sailboat. It set me off to a course that would had never reach my current heights and situation, had I never sailed away. Best of luck to you.
Sounds fun, I lived on an uninhabited island of the Columbia River for six months. I dream of going somewhere even more remote. Talked to some sailors who journeyed to the islands of southeast Alaska.
Very cool! My mom’s first husband had a beautiful wooden sailboat with his brother and kept on sailing until his 70’s I believe. Enjoy your adventures!
I just keep wishing I’d fall asleep and never wake up.
Don't give up. Find a way through your present shit. It's temporary.
Ask for help . Giving up is not a option , you will feel love again ❤
There is a way from that dark room. Always. Don't forget that..
Go live a dream instead. What's the worst that could happen? Grab your walking shoes and walk.
first thing is first and that is getting off the medication you are on. it is hindering you emensely much to your doctors chagrin
I left the United States for China. My wife, father, and aunt all passed away within a year of each other, and I was looking to start over since I lost so many. I teach physics here. It would be nigh impossible for a white man like me to get such a job in my homeland.
While I am much happier here, I still took myself with me. I still have the same knots in my soul I always did.
Great talk
I was eighteen years old sitting on my front porch wrestling with the fact that my dad was not in my life. When I was 24 I flew to another island to spend time with my mom, there I find myself walking to a park at night, looking up to the stars and wondering what’s out there in the universe. Eventually, I travelled to the US, found a job,bought a house, got married, had a child, but guess what, I still wonder if that’s all there is, restless and stuck in my head.
Nothing and no one can save me. There is no place to be. Everything is temporary.
Sending you lots of happiness in the journey ahead teacher 🍀
I'm a white guy in the US and I teach Physics. If I can do it so can you.
Wow, I have seen men working on their teacher's cerification in the States. Sorry, it didn't work out for you.
@freespirit-111 'Like sand through the hourglass, these are the days of our lives.'
Ya know, when me and a ex broke up in 2022, i was more mad at my environment and all the memories i shared in places, the smells etc. i wanted to get away. But i knew that deep down i loved my city, met great people, jobs galore, decent priced living. But i looked for every reason to leave instead of why i came there anyway. So yeah i moved back home with the parents in a shitty town with like 2 jobs. Ive grown so very much like coming to realization of the topic of this video. But its not outside things that make you wanna leave, its a internal conflict you need to address and accept truth on. God bless y'all be safe and stop being so stubborn lol
I am glad it worked out well for you. It could have worked out well for you if you went somewhere else too :) You never know in this life.
I’m glad you found out what you really wanted from life. To live in the place that you really loved. That is fantastic and I wish you all the best.
But, why do you feel the need to tear others down for making a different choice from you? Yes maybe they’ll realize like you did that staying was what they truly wanted once they try it out somewhere else. Is there anything wrong with needing to experience something you don’t like before you realize what you really want?
But then again, maybe their experiences are different than yours. Maybe they realize when they move away that they are genuinely happier and found something in a quieter place that gave them a newfound desire to live? What’s wrong with that?
Whether you think a decision someone’s made with their own life is right or wrong, maybe you can respect that you are not living their life and respect that the decisions they make are with years worth of experience from the time they formed memories that you could not come close to understanding as they do? I think that sort of critical thinking could be constructive to people’s lives, including yours, rather than destructive.
So are you saying you regret moving home? That you could’ve stayed and made the same changes?
@@evanwilliams5420 did we read the same comment?!?
@@evanwilliams5420what are you talking about?
At the age of 39, I emigrated from London to central Europe on Christmas Day 2015.
I didn't speak the language, I had no job lined up, no friends, no family, nothing there.
Nine years later, I'm self-employed with a higher quality of life than I could have ever dreamt possible. (edited: dreamed-->dreamt)
I still don't speak the local language.
What is the local language?
Polish.
@@jdr4674 Czech.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Andrew Tate is that you
I left my hometown 3 years ago. It gave me space to really have introspection without distraction. But I soon noticed that I started creating the same bad habits in my new environment. I followed myself lol. I'm glad I made the move but it also taught me that happiness is created from within🙏🏾❤️ great vid as always
i left my home as a child I walked a thousand sorry miles to wait for my father to gather up his tools. He said " son you gotta run, don't wait for me don't wait for mum. We'll come find you, when it's safe for us to move"
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
The timing of this video is impeccable. I have been feeling stuck in the minutia of my day to day life. I don’t live anymore, I just exist. I am constantly thinking about ways to leave and never look back. I want to run away from my job, my living situation, and I want to leave behind all the expectations others have set for me. It just feels like I need to leave in order to determine what truly I carry with me and what others gave me to carry for them.
Well put
Ahh, others ppl's expectations.... it is what holds you back from truly exploring what brings us happiness. There is nothing worse than others telling you how to be a mature adult, that cog in the machine. Just go to college and get an office job doing paperwork for 12 hrs a day. It truly destroys creativity.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Well said. Affairs are fairly common in relationships because it gives us a chance to start over with someone who doesn’t know our history. We can start with a clean slate. The wish to leave everything behind comes from that, I think.
We were a nomadic species not that long ago - I definitely believe that we still have that instinct to keep moving forward to new ground. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Time is the only resource. All too abruptly, when the 12th hour arrives, most humans will ne unprepared for the journey beyond the void veil.
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
New surroundings = new ideas, i.e. new ideas about how to cope with ourselves.
Huh?
@@TechnoViking__ Short answer "Get out of your comfort zone to dicover new things about yourself"
@@rasmuspedersen3563 shutup
Reflection is not only important, it is truly both key and lock.
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I live with this feeling every day
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Travel changes the soul in my opinion and experience. Gives new perspectives to the old problems. Makes it easier to put up with and help yourself. And others.
Leavimg everything behind, paying off all debts and being with my lady is the best decisions ever. Be with someone you can cuddle with.
I also learned how to go inside myself like Thoth said. Made my life happier.
I think the desire to leave the current life behind Is not necessarily to find happiness, but the feeling of going to explore and experience new things. This feeling must be inate within us, omelet but sometimes the noise of our daily life blurs our inner voice.
This entire line of thinking takes the following premise as fact: Staying where you are has inherent merit over moving. This is premise is false.
6:30 “…like with every form of pleasure we obtain from the external world, it's not a permanent cure for unhappiness; the happiness it generates is fleeting.”
In my experience this is completely wrong. I’ve moved several times leaving much behind for specific reasons I could clearly identify. Each time I’ve been happier after the move. Gradually the fit with me and the place I now was drifted apart until it was worth relocating again. That’s life. It’s not some profound philosophical dilemma.
Consider even the following assertion: If you’re the problem, that problem follows you around. Surely that’s true in some cases, but moving can still alleviate those problems that you’re not creating for yourself. There’s no reason your problems can’t be caused by both you and where you live. To believe otherwise is to embrace a false dichotomy.
I have found that most people doing such mental gymnastics about why they shouldn’t move simply have either some hangup about letting go, or don’t want to do the work to move. The specious reasoning in this essay just licenses those dysfunctions to continue unaddressed.
Funny how this video perfectly showed up about the choice i made. 7 months ago I finally made the step to move to Thailand. I was totally fed up with my old life and the country. I do miss my family, but remind myself everytime how much better the life quality is here. Happy with all the lessons i learn here.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I’ll be visiting Thailand for a few weeks to take in the country and culture with the intention of eventually
retiring there. What do you do for work?
My mother used to say: there's no point in changing Yonah, where the iron goes, so does the rust...
That's a very smart quote. I feel exactly the same. Even about traveling for vacation. There's no point in paying a lot for a vacation, when you can't leave your terrible thoughts at home.
@@anon9689This is a human dilemma: how much common sense makes a life more pleasurable, meaningful and happy? Take care.
@@jonasbarbosa4410I feel like intelligence and an abundance of common sense lower happiness. Knowing answers that others don’t know can make you jealous of their carefree way.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
It costs money to travel and establish yourself in a new place for the vast majority of us out here struggling
I left home when I was 17 and never looked back. I went on the adventure of a lifetime and experienced some amazing things. Met some interesting people and saw things few will ever see. I learned quite a bit about myself and others.
omg I did the same. Hi fellow travel nerd. My mind became incredibly expansive. Now I see the bubble everyone clings to incredibly tightly around me whenever I visit home.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I did exactly the same thing. It though then, Let The Adventure Begin. It’s never stopped. Such a freeing feeling.
I have never gone a vacation. I always was moving. From VA to HI many times staying years at a time. In the jungle for a year. Czech to Serbia to Costa Rica. Searching where I fit in. What I learned is, no matter where you go, there YOU are. There is no geographical cure for the void everyone has. I finally live one my little piece of land all alone. I know what's wrong is in me. Here I will face it. 4 years sober.
You may be an introvert (as I am). Growing up, my family moved every 2-3 years due to my dad's job. So I know what it's like to be a stranger in a strange land. Consider Taoism and Zen - they say that life is full of "unsatisfactoriness." Just normal shit. I am so glad you found your little piece of land. I have too, in a sunny place in a condo. I just smile at my neighbors but don't try to meet anyone's expectations except my own.
What was wrong?
Hi from Czech Republic Olomouc city. I want to move as well. To be alone on my own. To learn how to make decisions without asking anyone. To create better personality. To increase my circle of comfort zone.. For now it is very small circle.. I mean really very small...
@@jirihutecka9020 I lived in Lipi and České Budějovice. I would have stayed forever and it makes me cry because I felt complete there but had to leave because visa.
I had a Koza names Roza. lol Best milk!
I became a very protective version of myself when I was chasing a 11 year LDR. I didn't prioritize my desires, happiness and grinded myself to become financially independent to make it work. I put all of my dreams and hopes towards it and kept enduring a lot of hardship just to get together in a different place, different continent. Now that it's gone, I don't feel myself a bit. Now I want to leave everything behind, do all the things I wanted to do, don't care about any risks. Just wanna disappear from the face of the earth and restart everything. But no matter where I go, there I am.
Hm me too, 8 year relationship. 😥
@@anonymousbeeme too!😅it’s been exactly one month since I broke up with them…
@@tiennguyen5918@anonymousbee hope it will get better for both of you!
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Geographical cures rarely work, but provide a temporary rush that can become addictive. Lived like that all through my 20's and 30's. Finally set roots in my 40s. Now an old man in my 70's i can say, for myself, had i remained a nomad would have been true to myself. The life i have lived, while not terrible, brought little joy and excitement. Like i said, the temporary fix is addictive. Honestly, being a responsible adult sucks.
Thank you for your honest wisdom.
sounds like you have kids
I, on other hand, love to be respondible adult, and providing for kids is what keeps me alive and happy. The responsability is key to happines in my opinion
Beautiful video! Greetings from Mexico City
Are you leaving or going somewhere? Going somewhere is better. A change of environment can be refreshing.
I like that. Are you running away from? or running to something? The difference is important.
People hate me for even being alive. I dont give a damn about them anymore. I used to care now i dont care at all.
@@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf expand on this john. did you do wrong
@@YOUARESOFT. Rolls eyes again. DO people believe in such things on Infowars?
@@YOUARESOFT. I didn't do anything wrong. I simply had nothing else to say and I don't have any money. Bill Maher needs to grow up and move on as to me watching him and others in the media makes me see them as tinfoil hat wearing conspiracy theorists to avoid and shun.
I❤ love this channel ❤.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
Happiness is where you are at the moment.
No matter where you go, there you are.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
This is the best video you made. Exactly my feelings, I did ran away because of my unhappiness. Lived abroad 3 times already and now I'm a digital nomad that can't even go home for a week to visit family and friends. The discontentment is always there, I realised that I couldn't run away from myself many years ago. But still moving around helps a little bit...although I don't think I can be ever really happy or have moments of true happiness. I will just wait for the years to go by and that's it...
Thank you :). And thanks for sharing your story. I've done the digital nomad thing as well: it's great. All the best!
Normies: imagine leaving everything behind
Nomads: imagine not leaving everything behind
being rooted is actually a good thing
Thank you Mr. Einzelgänger. This hit the spot. I too have the urge to leave everything behind, especially away from toxic environment/people, but than I fear the unknown and I stay and also due to responsibilities. I also wonder: will it really make me more content? Maybe, maybe not. This is why I love to travel, seeing new places is so important to me, but getting back to what I know. And I admire people who are fearless and start a new life. Sometimes a change of place can help and sometimes not. We are all different. Thank you for all your educational videos 👍
If you ever are given the opportunity to travel, take it. Yes, it will be difficult. Feeling like you’re taking newborn steps again outside the comfort of your bubble. It isn’t easy. I get the sense that mentally you’re in a good place for now so there’s no rush even if your present environment is questionable.
@@seraph3761 👍🖐
“Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.”
― Philip Larkin
Why not lead with example then?did this phillip man get out as early as he could?
@@JustaservanttoALLAH He was a miserable porn addict.
@@JustaservanttoALLAH - he never married and died of cancer in his mid 60s. To his great credit, he spent a large part of his later years nursing a former lover, who had a fatal illness.
I wouldn't have kids unless you and your spouse are completely solid and can hold yourselves down
@@piglo318 Something tells me that's a later justification to something that already occurred :V
I disagree with most of this. I’ve switched environments and love my new place. It’s filled with people that mostly mind their own business. It’s beautiful. It’s vast and expansive. I’m still alone but this move has not only made me a better person but it has made me quite a bit more happy and at peace while still learning and growing.
Sounds nice, where did you go?
@@M.SEK.P I’ll just say the mountains on the west coast in the states. 🙃
Good topic. I had these feelings, and one reason you didn't mention is due to realizing that your past life was living under someone elses life, then you woke up to find who you really are.
This was very well thought out. I love the way you always look at things from a variety of angles - well done.
Great video once again. I am 58, American (not my fault) and I have travelled extensively, Hawaii (twice) Spain, Canary Islands, Mexico, Canada, Philippines, Caribbean, Brazil, Mongolia, Korea, Germany, Austria, Switzerland and In all my travels, all my experiences, the one thing that rings true, for me anyway, is that you cannot run away from yourself. To truly love, respect, trust and be happy externally, one must first find those inside. 💙🙏
This feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
“To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house.”
― Peter Wessel Zapffe
😢
@@arisrosario557 ?
Climate Change and or the slow collapse of complex developed countries in the West ?!
Yeah its Hell but at least its just temporary so might as well give it a shot.
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
I have felt at some point that I have grown to the maximum in my current environment, so I had to leave and never regret this step
I have the same 'problem' but i'm to afraid to take this step. Please, dear stranger, wish me luck.
@@lunareinhold3976 good luck my friend. You will make the change happen and when you look back in some years, you will laugh about your hesitation and be proud that you have had the courage to move on 😉
Where did you go?
@@curtsk19 I left my hometown in Germany and moved to another place. Later I moved to Switzerland
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
i had to escape from being around toxic people that would just not stop. I had enough. Liefs uit Nederland
This is very helpful. My wanderlust is strong and I’ve always wondered why.
Same here.
Thanks for great writing and introspection.
Good timing, I just came from hours of internet search for a new flat in a new city. And I love adventures and new surroundings, but I've also learned that relationships are the most valuable thing in life, especially those that you've had for years. The people that know and accept you the way you are should be preserved and cared for with real intention. And that includes seeing each other, which isn't easy if you're living far away.
I'm excited, but it also kinda breaks my heart because I know it won't be the same anymore with my friends.
That's the great thing about severe depression, you truly come to know that wherever you go, there you are, and NOTHING outside of you is going to permanently impact your essence. No scenery, location, group of friends, mate, house, car, or even dogma is going to truly change you. Only after you've stripped EVERYTHING you thought was you and gone into silence with yourself will one start to understand themselves and the rudimentary machinations of reality. Otherwise, like me you just flounder in the illusion until you release it.
Sometimes in order to starting healing from severe depression or at least getting it under control you have to leave it all behind...
Your videos are always so well thought out and sometimes you finish my sentence. Thank you
In 1998 I left everything behind to focus on God and self improvement in my spiritual life.All my needs are met by Good God Almighty!
I have moved country several times for a fresh start but wherever I went, there I was. Now I have returned to where I am from and see it differently. Now I still want to explore but from a grounded place. Not seeking home somewhere else or escape somewhere else, but living life to the full which, for me, means experiences new things too. Here, there and everywhere.
I have just broken up with my long term partner because for a very long time I haven't felt like myself for many of the reasons you've mentioned in this video. I have just finished packing and am moving tomorrow and still have regrets that I have made a really stupid decision. This video calmed me down and made me feel much more positive about the future. Thank you.
In 2001 l left my hometown of NYC/NJ after 911 for the West Coast. LA, SD, SF, SAC and now Las Vegas! Loving it. 😊
A couple days ago I was so frustrated with this weather I just wanted to take off and say "screw that place". It's either raining,cold as hell, or windy enough to strip your roof of shingles. I started thinking about it and came to the conclusion in your video. There's going to be challenges wherever you go. Better to learn how to deal instead of running off.
Ur philosophy about life is great
Many years ago, I had a girlfriend who wanted us to get married, and for us to move to a completely different area of our country. I was against doing that, while she said whether we marry or not, she would definitely move far away. We broke up, and I married someone else about two years later. 45 years later, I have moved to a completely different part of my country, while the ex girlfriend not only stayed in the same area, but also lives in exactly the same house as when I knew her. It's a strange life, you really never know which way it will go.
🥰
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
This might be my favorite youtube video I've ever watched. This feeling has been deep in my soul since I was a kid and to see it so eloquently crystalized in my favorite form of media was so catharthic. Thank you!
Loving your work thanks.
Left toxic family and friends in California 2-3 years ago. Best choice ever!
That's wild. This was me yesterday. I was making a plan. Today is a little better, but I'm not sure I'm totally past it.
I just want to say thank you for making the videos you do. I’ve fundamentally changed as a person and have done a lot of self reflecting due to the knowledge I’ve found thru your channel, and I can not thank you enough. It has improved my life
It is great to see how host shares his growth, and not only quoting existing Stoic understandings. The channel and its content is also a part of our travel. A travel of the host and audience and their ways.
I feel this urge every single day.
That was deep, dude. It gives me a lot to think about.
there are thinkers and do'ers
Most enlightening. Thank you.
Best advice I was given in life....The first thing you unpack is yourself.
I moved to NYC in 1991 with 400 dollars in my pocket.
Best decision I ever made. The next ten years are something I would never trade anything for.
Everyone thinks the grass is greener on the outside. I traveled and work in other countries and I rather my home in the tropical area. If I life anywhere else is only in the tropical zone. I found happiness within me.
Spot on! Inner peace is key. We can roam the world, but discontent follows if we don't find it within. Great reminder to focus on internal growth! ❤💛💜
So many relevant videos lately, it's really strange. Always gives me somthing to think about, appreciate this channel so much
I always have this feeling to leave - have a small place alongside a lake 🎣 .. No people or very little interaction with people. To have quiet, peace and silence.
I’m content mostly with my life but the human race / working is exhausting !
Every obstacle helps you grow, your dream would stop you from growing.
Compile some peaceful photos of this ideal place. Meditate.
It is the financial system which tries to keep us under control, it isa form of slavery
Wow this sounds so perfect! Lots of green, a lake, quiet, fish, birds, no TV. Hope all your dreams come true 🎉
@@1981mensoremaining stagnant isn’t growth. Kids go to university to grow. We move for jobs for promotion or growth. We move because THATS where life is taking us. Not everyone is running away from anything. I have a perfect life but I won’t say no to life if it takes me somewhere new!
I hope all your dreams come true 🎉
The consistency in the quality of your content is excellent.
How are you brother?
Beautiful conclusion, thank you❤
This video really hit home for me. I have traveled to Europe two times for multiple months in an attempt to escape the mundanity of my life (and depression). Both times I realized that the feeling wore off in a few days, just like you described in your video. I love to travel, but I will no longer do it in order to escape every day life
I have traveled; lived and worked in many places; bought and sold my dreams; left everything behind many times.
Now that I am old and soon to leave everything behind for one last time, I have the feeling I would like to return to my place of birth and meet DEATH there.
I have traveled alot, and also started over several times, but I would never go back to where I was born...NYC. There is no one there I know and love anymore, and the city is completely changed since my childhood. There's nothing left for me there, but yours is a sweet sentiment, and you should pursue it.
@@fieldsendart I know you can't go home again and the city will have changed somewhat but it has not degraded as severely as NYC. I can understand you would not return there.
But I would not really be going home to live; I would be going home to face and embrace Death and that feels like a correct thing to do for me.
I may have some friends left there but at my age everyone around me is dieing.
Thanks for the reply. Cheers!
When people believe that they have traveled to different places, I really believe that they have not traveled anywhere because it's always 'now'. Life is nothing but a series of 'now' events. Conscious experience is something which can only happen in the present moment or 'now' and when a person believes that they have traveled from somewhere, this is only just a memory, a thing which has been created by the brain which is being experienced 'now'.
I always think of leaving everything too, leaving all my responsibilities , leaving my relation with everyone and just vanish. Even though I wanna change my perspective about how I look at things it may sometimes be hard ig? Idk if I can ever develop a positive mindset
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 holy fawking bot quit that shit
thank you for your videos ❤
I watch your channel for years. That was pure gold.
The only part you can't leave behind is yourself.
You don't need to go anywhere to change oneself.
You can change yourself by observing the mind closely.
The best way to observe the mind closely is by meditation.
Love.
This video couldn't have come at a better time....currently in the process of changing my name and then planning on joining the military...leaving everything behind and starting anew.
I felt very understood by this video. The suggestion was beautifully put together and it really gave me something to think about.
This hit me good. Thx man!
I moved from the Netherlands to Johannesburg South Africa 10 years ago, and now again into the South African Bush. I’m 44. Wife and kids. Moving away from a life dictated by my mind, into my heart. Away from structured society. Our environment is a reflection of our internal world. Moving into a different environment a reflection of internal changes. The experience is ours only: sometimes heavy, sometimes light. Ultimately we build our freedom inside and then outside. I’m happy to know the African sticks enable that state (freedom) much better than the developed Netherlands (restriction). Yet, it’s all a reflection of our internal state: what will I make my life into when there is nothing organised and developed before me? Why do I even ask the question? Will I create the very thing I walk away from (mind driven order) in the environment I cherish because of its very lack of mind-order: nature? Or did I transform and become heart-driven already, hence the new environment? My Dutch family can’t understand why I would want a life of turmoil, lack of security and chaos. We only know the answer when looking back on our lives: it’s who we became.
Bedankt voor het delen :)
What about people who simply feel, from childhood, that their place is in a completely different country and circumstances than when they were born? I am that kind of person. Moreover, I feel almost compelled, as if something was pulling me to the other side of the planet. Until now, I thought that I had to give it up because I had to take care of my family or that I was too poor or too random person to move. When there were options to move, e.g. an offer of a LEGAL job or an invitation to a meditation center at the teacher's expense, I was always in some kind of obligation, e.g. in a relationship and with this person dismissed my idea and I complied. Until now. Now I am determined that I want to spend the rest of my life in another part of the Globe. I just know that I lost my luggage and got on the wrong plane during birth. My place is in a completely different country, than where I was born and I have always known it. A realization, I think 🤔
Thanks for sharing this insight, it was excellent.
Terrific video! I would love to see a follow up on how to overcome this desire to leave everything behind.
I get this feeling from time to time. But I can't just leave everything and escape reality. I'm responsible for people in my life. My conscience won't allow me to be a coward.
Take them with you
That feeling comes from the realization that we don't belong to this unnatural setting 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary]🙏💖
@@VeganSemihCyprus33 Thank you for your comment. Can you elaborate a bit more on the "unnatural" part, in the current context.
The most liberating thing about my emigration to Germany 16 years ago was reducing the ballast of my past to a small van.