Idk, as someone who was "used" when I was three and had a lot of unwanted attention from a young age, i've endeavered to look "ugly" ever since in order to avoid both male attention and female jealousy. Being pretty is actually a curse if you don't like men. Being "ugly" grants me invisibility and the ability to be liked for the traits I REALLY value like my personality and humor. It's a trade-off of priviledges really, and I respect *whatever* choice a woman makes to survive/thrive in this patr!archy.
Thats a very interesting thought. Completely understand where your coming from in regards to looking ugly in order to avoid unwarranted attention. I can definitely relate to that as well. Hence the reason why I rarely wear make up or “looksmaxx” IRL. However I also notice no matter how much I tend to keep attention away from myself, jealous, bitter or entitled men/women still feel like they can humble you one way or another. I look at it this way, no matter how you choose to show up in the world whether you do all the things to benefit from pretty privelege or not, people will still try to find a way to humble you based off of their own insecurities.
I understand that parents wouldnt want their kids engaging in adult activities and keeping their innocence, but that shouldnt come at the cost of telling young girls that they look too grown up for wearing their hair a certain way or experimenting with makeup. By doing that, you imply that the child is at fault for doing what children do-experiment. Further more, thinking a minor looks sensual wearing their hair or makeup a certain way is unusual behavior. But thanks for your comment!
My big thing is that what constitutes a counter argument to socio-infrastructural oppression, ie, pretty privilege devolves itself into the realm of attraction. Like it’s soooo muuuch more than that, yikes. And thank you for the point of using sexual assault as a bastion to argue against non-privileged women. I’ve also seen it used in colorism arguments. The me too movement was such an eye opening example. Tarana Burke was docked by both men and women who essentially said they wouldn’t assault her because she did not meet their standards of attraction. So there’s this landslide of ugliness that shows in that on top of having a higher likelihood of being assaulted ( because we know assault is about power) you’re doubly wronged by both (all) genders disbelieving that you are the most likely victim of it. Also, bullying does not constitute systemic oppression. While all kids can find a bully that despises them for whatever physical features they possess- from being fat, skinny, light skin dark skin, a clear selection of these features determine what you’re infrastructurally denied. And let me not forget that jealousy argument, lol! One thing that I find funny is that they take the path of least resistance to arrive at “people don’t like me because I’m pretty”…..like ….😂 has it occurred to you that more than being disliked for how you look, you can be disliked for who you are. The reframing of merely being treated like everyone else to either mean jealousy or “withholding compliments” …and the drama of personal offense is too funny. Like, what if we told you, we’re not withholding compliments, and we just don’t think there’s something out of the ordinary to compliment.
Pretty privilege also has ties to abilism because disabilities, especially mental disabilities, are seen as gross and weird. The view on disabilities is shifting slightly but it will take a while before things truly change.
This is also very true as well! Pretty privilege ties alot into the able bodied individuals and already have so much advantages compared to those who are disabled!
Anything bad that can happen to someone with pretty privilege can still happen to people without it. People seeking victims are opportunist anyway, it's about accessibility.
interesting take!! i like what you said about how white privilege was the root of pretty privilege cuz you can notice most beauty standards include Eurocentric features
It definitely is! At least for western beauty standards, but again that preference can change depending on where you are located! Thanks for your feedback!
Idk, as someone who was "used" when I was three and had a lot of unwanted attention from a young age, i've endeavered to look "ugly" ever since in order to avoid both male attention and female jealousy. Being pretty is actually a curse if you don't like men. Being "ugly" grants me invisibility and the ability to be liked for the traits I REALLY value like my personality and humor. It's a trade-off of priviledges really, and I respect *whatever* choice a woman makes to survive/thrive in this patr!archy.
Thats a very interesting thought. Completely understand where your coming from in regards to looking ugly in order to avoid unwarranted attention. I can definitely relate to that as well. Hence the reason why I rarely wear make up or “looksmaxx” IRL. However I also notice no matter how much I tend to keep attention away from myself, jealous, bitter or entitled men/women still feel like they can humble you one way or another.
I look at it this way, no matter how you choose to show up in the world whether you do all the things to benefit from pretty privelege or not, people will still try to find a way to humble you based off of their own insecurities.
Like you said at the end of the”I look sensual” there’s a reason our parents wanted us to be innocent as long as possible
I understand that parents wouldnt want their kids engaging in adult activities and keeping their innocence, but that shouldnt come at the cost of telling young girls that they look too grown up for wearing their hair a certain way or experimenting with makeup. By doing that, you imply that the child is at fault for doing what children do-experiment. Further more, thinking a minor looks sensual wearing their hair or makeup a certain way is unusual behavior. But thanks for your comment!
My big thing is that what constitutes a counter argument to socio-infrastructural oppression, ie, pretty privilege devolves itself into the realm of attraction. Like it’s soooo muuuch more than that, yikes.
And thank you for the point of using sexual assault as a bastion to argue against non-privileged women. I’ve also seen it used in colorism arguments. The me too movement was such an eye opening example. Tarana Burke was docked by both men and women who essentially said they wouldn’t assault her because she did not meet their standards of attraction. So there’s this landslide of ugliness that shows in that on top of having a higher likelihood of being assaulted ( because we know assault is about power) you’re doubly wronged by both (all) genders disbelieving that you are the most likely victim of it.
Also, bullying does not constitute systemic oppression. While all kids can find a bully that despises them for whatever physical features they possess- from being fat, skinny, light skin dark skin, a clear selection of these features determine what you’re infrastructurally denied.
And let me not forget that jealousy argument, lol! One thing that I find funny is that they take the path of least resistance to arrive at “people don’t like me because I’m pretty”…..like ….😂 has it occurred to you that more than being disliked for how you look, you can be disliked for who you are.
The reframing of merely being treated like everyone else to either mean jealousy or “withholding compliments” …and the drama of personal offense is too funny. Like, what if we told you, we’re not withholding compliments, and we just don’t think there’s something out of the ordinary to compliment.
Pretty privilege also has ties to abilism because disabilities, especially mental disabilities, are seen as gross and weird. The view on disabilities is shifting slightly but it will take a while before things truly change.
This is also very true as well! Pretty privilege ties alot into the able bodied individuals and already have so much advantages compared to those who are disabled!
I love a black woman being herself
Really attractive to me 🥰
Anything bad that can happen to someone with pretty privilege can still happen to people without it. People seeking victims are opportunist anyway, it's about accessibility.
interesting take!! i like what you said about how white privilege was the root of pretty privilege cuz you can notice most beauty standards include Eurocentric features
It definitely is! At least for western beauty standards, but again that preference can change depending on where you are located! Thanks for your feedback!
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