I love to see how Jill is the talker... and Derrick adds to her thoughts.. she is not that girl that only say yes and agrees with him all the time. Go, girl!! You rock!!
You don't know that she does or doesn't agree with him, just because she is not verbally expressing which it is. Sometimes the wife is more of the talker, sometimes the man is and neither one is better than the other, all about personality.
@@rufusdusol9453 my comment was just based on other women that grew up in the same environment as her. They have the tendency to only agree with everything their husbands say and are not allowed to express their opinions and thoughts. Jill, as we can notice, broke free from those ancient rules.
For real? How about you have 20 kids and figure how you’re gonna pay for them? They got to have running water and clean clothes and meals cooked for them and lots of friends. What more could you ask for. Greed grasps people and takes them down a terrible road. An unhappy place. Get over it. So Unthankful.
@@brittanystewart723 how about NOT having 20 kids! Live within your means, which could mean, maybe just have a few! Crazy, I know!! For instance, I have 3. Just 3. Kids are not put into the world to be THE PARENTS meal ticket to exploit how they see fit. They were supposed to be paid for their part in the SHOW!
@@brittanystewart723 providing food, water, shelter for your underage child is a DUTY in the eyes of the state. Parents are supposed to provide for that or the state will take you to court. You're telling us the kids should be grateful they were given the basic necessities to survive when they didn't ask to be here? The parents decided to have kids, they have the responsibility to provide!
My heart breaks for how you are being treated by your family. You are so brave to stand up for the truth that your heart is telling you. Plus, you married a good man who supports you to being your authentic self. You have and are walking through fire but will come through with a joyful, loving and honest heart.
I was raised in very similar circumstances as Jill (we are the same age and we've been through a lot of the same stuff, I just haven't gone through it publicly) and I applaud her for speaking out about boundaries/seeking therapy. It's SO important. I personally do not consider myself religious at all anymore and I'm very politically left leaning, but I still enjoy hearing from Jill. I also find Derrick to be very supportive and warm towards Jill which makes me happy.
Jill, you’re so brave. Congratulations on your personal growth. Keep growing! Derek, you’re such a good husband for supporting your wife through this. This is what it’s about.
I applaud your efforts to distance yourselves from some of the more unpleasant aspects of your upbringing and open yourselves up to understanding beyond your own beliefs. I hope you'll continue to do so, it's beautiful on the other side. Take care.
Yea he basically became jumbo a bible buddy to marry his daughter and get her tf outta there lol. Remember how “close” Derrick was at the beginning to Jim bob makes u wonder if he did it just to get Jill out of that toxic famoly
I am so glad to hear that Derek's mom is now cancer free! I thought it was so sweet that Jill had kept Cathy involved with the wedding plans, either via phone or by going to visit her.
I am so happy to hear about your mother Derrick. A huge blessing from our Lord. I heard that Derrick is through law school now! This is awsome to hear.
Just stumbled on this and listened. As part of the LGBTQ+ community, I really appreciate what you said and agree that no one agrees on everything and we all have valid and fair viewpoints. I enjoyed this. Thank you.
If this is your first time finding them, I’m sorry to say this is not fully representative of their views. They are extremely homophobic and the husband in particular has been in hot water more than once for his off color comments. Look them up. Specifically his name, Derek Dillard, and jazz Jennings, a young trans tv star.
@@ciaradiam0nd one, if they are so homophobic then why are you on here watching and commenting on their video?! Second, being gay and a child trans person is not even in the same ball park. I have numerous gay friends that also think it’s wrong and damaging to these kids by having hormones and surgeries and being encouraged to be trans at a young age. There are numerous doctors and trans people that have come out and said it’s wrong as well. As well as many reversing their decision in adulthood. If you don’t agree with them, then don’t watch their stuff and move on and get a life.
@@lysan4878 so you’re only allowed to watch their content if you agree with them- sounds like a really good way to stay enclosed in a bubble and never have exposure to anything 👍🏼 two, the opinion of a few of your friends doesn’t shape the reality that hate towards trans people is extremely damaging to their mental health and well-being and is completely unnecessary. If you or your “friends” don’t think being trans is for them, they can choose not to be trans then!
You have to take some things with a grain of salt. Derrick has said some pretty transphobic things in the past and I don't recall him acknowledge that or apologizjng but I also stopped following the duggers around the Josh incident. I mostly came to this channel because I see the way Jill is being treated and I can't even fathom it. When I reported my sexual abuse my family was behind me 100% (it wasn't family who did it). I can't imagine speaking my truth and being met with what Jill is. I give her props for being so strong and brave. I do question the LGBTQIA stuff but I also know people that grew up in pretty conservative Christian households who believed everything they were taught about the LGBTQIA community etc and they're still learning, growing and changing and breaking away from that. When your raised in a religion that ingraines so much hate and it's enforced by everyone around you, it is hard to break away from. Some people are fortunate and do and some never do. I'll hold judgment and keep hoping for the best for Jill and her family in regards to the way she is being treated for being honest and open. All of this confirms my reasons for completely disengaging from most Dugger related stuff around Josh... I knew at least one of the girls was being forced in front of the media. There'd be no way I could have done it if my abuse had been made so public. 🤷♀️
I can't believe she only earned less than minimum wage given the amount of money the parents amassed in the series. No wonder they are pissed off with the family.😖
Jill I'm so glad that you are making your own path for your family and have opened your eyes to the real world. You can be a Christian and not be bound to all of those crazy rules
I don’t understand this comment. She always had a voice. They’re not suppressed! Even in these videos, in some videos she’s more talkative than others.
It's important that people realize that just because you don't agree with their views or beliefs it doesn't mean you cannot be friends or civil. Not one person is the same and no opinion should be invalidated.
Not when it comes to lgbtq+ you clearly don’t agree with their lifestyle or who they love. How can you feel safe calling them when you need help and they refuse bc they “don’t agree” with them?
@@jackieg37 I'm not the judge of other people's choices. I love anyone regardless of anything they choose to be because we're all flawed humans, so one cannot judge another because we're all sinners.
I respect that you guys support LGBT enough to hold friendships within the community, people will always have different beliefs and I totally get that, but as long as there’s civility and respect then everything will be cool 👍🏼
TBI Survivor Christians are sinners too, but we are to hate sin but love the sinner. Yes I am always Civil with homosexuals and respect them as a human being. I have found some to have very likeable personalities, same with heterosexuals.
Someone said this to me so I cannot claim it: If you must judge, judge them by their accomplishments. Is someone putting the health, safety, and well-being of others in jeopardy? Is someone trying to help improve the quality of life for others?
There are MANY Duggars, so there’s a high probability that AT LEAST someone is part of the lgbtq+ community. I’m surprised NO ONE talked about this before.
That's not how it works though, you can have a family of 3 children and they're all gay just like you can have a family of 19 and none of them be gay, that's not how stats work
Oh absolutely. At least 1, likely a boy and a girl. I wish they weren’t so anti lgbt because the kids will suppress their feelings and become depressed and not feel accepted.
I'll tell ya something. You've honestly made me feel like I don't have to be perfect to be a christian. For years I've felt like God was unobtainable because I have been so focused on feeling like I couldn't make the grade. Your openness has showed me that it isn't as hard as I thought. Thanks for that. 🙂 You both have a sincerity that can't be faked.
I love this video because it's so real, honest, and relaxed. It's so neat to see you bloom away from the tv show and into yourselves. It's light and refreshing to just see you be you. Thank you for opening your lives and home to us. God bless!
Jill.... I just have to say how much I just feel like you've recently really grown. You're such a wonderful woman mother and wife. Im so sorry for the horrible and or sad things you've had to go thru. NOT that almost everyone has to go thru some horrible and sas times in their lives also. I just love to see you finally finding and USING your voice. Doing what you want with yourself and your own family. AND NOT allowing your parents any leeway no more. I can only imagine how nervous you were in the beginning. But how amazing it feels to you now! My last comment is that Im really really sad.... Shocked..... Taken aback...... and absolutely down right SICKENED that not only you had to ask your father for YOUR SHARE of the earnings that were allocated FOR you. But to actually be required by your father to hire an attorney to get it just makes me sick and ANGRY for you. And not only am I all those things about this situation, but I'm ALSO EXTREMELY EXTREMELY CONFUSED! Because for so many many years, I've watched your family's shows. And I couldn't even begin to count the times your father portrayed himself to be such a GOD FEARING RELIGIOUS MAN WHO ALWAYS DID THE RIGHT THING. That he has all these morals and values. YET HE TRULY STOLE FROM HIS OWN CHILDREN. THERE'S ZERO OTHER WAY TO PUT IT!! What on earth could possibly make him think he didn't owe it to you. And quite frankly, more than likely many of your siblings. I just see him now for the crop of crap he is and not who he portrays himself to be. Because it's a lie. He has NO MORALS!! He shuddered to think of giving you YOUR MONEY THAT YOU RIGHTFULLY EARNED. But yet I wonder whos helped your eldest brother pay all his EXTREMELY RECENTLY COSTLY ATTORNEY FEES??? Hmmm..... Give you 2 guesses! Jill.... PLEASE KEEP ON BEING AMAZING YOU!! Great big huge hugs to you. D and the boys!
I’m happy that you use birth control. I was a bit confused about the “abortion” claim but kinda drop it and figured you meant miscarriage. Also I am happy you do accept the LGBTQ+ community. You guys actually sound pretty open minded.
She didn't mean miscarriage. Hormonal bc purposely prevents or ends pregnancy, is how they're looking at this. Regardless, a natural miscarriage is a spontaneous abortion, but they'll do nothing to purposely end the pregnancy
@@lets.get.lost. I was about to fight you on it but then read the line “how they’re looking at it” and thought “ you know what, yeah. I’m just happy they’re using something”. So thank you for that.
Just a question for potential future videos: How do you cope with the trolling and negative comments, now that you're essentially an internet persona, due to your famous family? Sometimes when I see the things people say or ask you, I get mad FOR you. I couldn't imagine facing the unnecessary scrutiny you face. You're so strong. 💜
As a mom to an LGBTQ 18 yr old teen, I have to say I LOVE Jill and Derek. And let me tell you why....we don’t have some of the same beliefs but BOTH Jill and Derek are loving kind people. They love the Lord, I love the Lord.They are good parents, I’m a good parent (I try to be anyway) they love their faith, I love my faith. I choose to see the similarities instead of the differences. I’ve followed Jill for almost ten years now, she’s a truly genuine person. As is Derek ! Anyway, we love you guys. Keep it up !!!
Thomas Morgenstern I sure do my friend, I guess I should have stated that,, but YES I deeply and wholeheartedly support my trans teen. Was there every step of the way.
@@meghanservidio1726 I'm so happy to hear that. I'm a big follower of Dan Reynolds. I had suspected but didn't realize how many LGBT children commited suicide. Trying to live up to a Christians parents expectations is too much for some of them. Being Mormon, he helped bring this to light. Checkout his UA-cam video of the Loveloud concerts he's done if you haven't already. Thanks for being a good Mom. ua-cam.com/video/snHZPjB7MsQ/v-deo.html
@@meghanservidio1726 as a Trans adult, thank you for being their for your teen and supporting them through this process and loving them for who they are.
Meghan Servidio I guess I’m on the same boat as your child . My mom is Christian ( I go to church with her) but I’m trans so it’s a bit hard to being a mom , and support your trans kid when there’s so much pressure from society , but a moms love will never change and it’s stronger than anything . my relationship with god is very special and that will never change , no matter how much people try to make me think differently( people are the ones with hate ) god is not about hate . God bless 🙏🏼
Putting lgbtq+ people in the same list as perverts, thieves, and adulterers isn’t the mantra of a loving God- have you had the chance to read the linguists Kathy Baldock and Ed Oxford who translated the bible (without a religious agenda but as linguists) from the earliest iterations recorded? Their findings are fascinating, 100% recommend
A lot of people from fringe religions/cults have that. Marshall Applewhite of Heaven’s Gate did too. So does someone I know who’s into healing crystals
What is god is grey. I'm bi sexual iv had female relationships but iv matured and since found that one person to give my life over to share with that I e person I want for life. We have two kiddos and common law marriage but my baptist group are so anti gay and common law marriage isn't good enough. We're anti government restrictions and felt that was enough for us . But told not god's plan hymmmmm
@Jeaneane P Look up the literal translation of that verse. The word "homosexual" was not added to the Bible until 1946. The literal translation of the bible refers to pedophiles in the instances where it now says homosexual. I encourage you to learn more about how man has changed the Bible when doing translations.
I know this is an old video but I had to say I respect the authenticity, y’all have my respect and I’ll be praying for you both I truly appreciate you touching on these topics it’s extremely real! Jesus is proud of y’all for sure! I know I am! May God bless y’all on your journey!
Yall are great and truly appreciate your openness, your willing to share your perspective/beliefs while sharing biblical truths. Proud of yall for speaking out and sharing about your family unit and how you've made things your own :)
I’m reading your Mom’s book, and it is inspiring. Glad to hear she is doing well.💜❤️✝️🙏🏻 I plan to pass her book on to my friend’s Mom, whom is walking through cancer right now. God Bless you guys.
I have loved watching your family for so many years. You are a beautiful couple and I love how your husband supports you in everything. You can tell that he truly loves you.
He’s kinda shy and awkward but shit for a religious Christian dude to support his wife while she exposes her super wealthy and powerful family is a guy who loves his wife.
I really wish you didn't put being queer in the same category as being a murderer. Because being gay is just who I am. I can't see myself wanting to date or have sex with a man just as much as I can't see myself intentionally killing another human being. Also, I identify as a Christian. I've never felt like my love for Jesus was in contradiction with my desire for a wife.
I used to have my thoughts on Derrick, but now, I feel like he is the reason Jill was able to break free and really explore herself. She looks happier.
Happy for you both. I am going through a similar experience of stepping outside of my family and having healthy boundaries, something that I’ve learned to do via therapy and lots of hours of reflection. I see some comments below about “dishonoring” your parents, something which I’ve heard from my parents as well when I decided to create some boundaries... I learned this is a form of spiritual abuse and spiritual gaslighting. It sounds like you both are reflective and considerate in your choices and that is creating healthy growth. Congrats!
I am so sorry for the way you were treated Jill by TLC. That is disgraceful. Glad you and Derick are living your own lives and making your own decisions as a Godly married couple.
It is good to have values from your upbringing, but you must be your own person. I'm glad you are being individuals and not just extensions of your parents.
I am glad that you woke up about the money you are owed. You need to wake up to all the other things you are brainwashed by. You guys are amazing and I think you guys are the only hope for your siblings. God bless you guys and your families!
You don't have to have a relationship that revolves around one topic. Exactly. We are all struggling with our natural human nature. Best thing we can do is talk about faith, lovingly discuss our views, tell the truth, love the person. Great advice.
You were my favorite couple on the show. You were the couple that seemed the most genuine. And I’m so ecstatic that you’re doing great! I love you guys and missed you on the show! I support your decision to leave 100% and I hope your lives are so much happier now! I also hope your siblings follow in your steps eventually.
It good to see y’all make your own desisions about birth control and stuff despite being raised to not use it ect. You gotta do what’s best for your family!
I loved yalls stance on LGBT and friendships with disagreements! I'm LGBT myself and it annoys me when people on either side like you said want to preach at you or belittle you or try over and over to force you to agree when you simply don't see eye to eye. It sometimes feels more like the person is building themselves up instead of having genuine conversation. I love talking to people with all different perspectives so I can learn and grow when we have a genuine connection! And I've always thought if someone is strong in their faith they wouldn't have to try to convince everyone around them all the time in order to even hang out. Anyway its REALLY encouraging to see people who think like you guys do knowing how and caring enough to be respectful and pointing out that either side of any issue can have a tendancy to get heated and there's no need for that. I asked my brother over the holidays if he could simply refrain from talking to me about his opinions about my lifestyle and religion for the couple days I was visiting as well as use my new name that I've changed years ago (I said he could use whatever pronouns) and it was really confusing to me that he said I was being unreasonable and acted like I was asking him not to share his faith in God...which I wasn't I'm very interested in Jesus and learning from people's faith but in the end he said as a Christian he couldn't do that and it was very disheartening since the reason I asked him is it's connected to some traumas for me and I'd rather focus on healing his and my relationship then talking about that but anyway it's lovely to see people with his similar beliefs who think it's totally reasonable to have respectful and kind conversations. :)
Your brother just cares for your soul. Do you know how many people on UA-cam said they had gone to hell? Try watching them and you will see why your brother wants so much for you to be saved. There are Atheists like Bryan Melvin his story on UA-cam he went to Hell and came back to warn others he is now a believer in Jesus Christ. My own cousin Fred told me when he had a heart attack he had seen Hell and Heaven. So try not to hate your brother he cares about you. Look up John Ramirez he was into witchcraft he was highly into the occult. His story is on UA-cam he has changed since he went to Hell.
I hope things get better for you and your brother realizes that a true Christian is kind and caring and in the end, you are his brother above all. In his or your deathbed...will he be worried you are gay?
It’s good you were able to finally get compensation for your appearances on TLC. It seems incredible you were denied being paid especially when you used your income wisely including furthering your education.
I love your opinion on LGBTQ! I think it’s important to know you can disagree with someone but still be friends. Honestly that’s how you show love and mission to others is by continuing to love on them♥️ so many people are quick to reject different and I think that’s why so many get turned off from Christians and turn away from God.
I understand it partly but isn’t being lgbtq literally someone’s identity? That kind of sucks to say “I disagree with who you are” vs “I disagree with what you believe in” 🤔faith is important to me too but I do feel bad for lgbtq folk with Christian friends who aren’t supportive bc it’s not a choice for them ...
I'm not in agreement with the idea of being gay is your identity. It is a choice of sexual preference, it isn't who you are. Your personality is not gay, your character is not gay...those are things that we choose to be or are raised in a way that predicts those aspects! Life comes along and affects them over the years...but those are not our identity, not whom we are attracted to intellectually or even chemically. BTW you just said it was a choice in your last sentence...so how do you really feel?
@@darlamills6846 I said “it is NOT a choice” for them, if you know how to read miss Darla. You can fight others about it all you want, but being gay is what someone is born as, not what someone chooses. Go ahead and spew hatred though, since that is all most Christians like you, love to do 😙❤️
I love your answer about LGBTQ. That is so appropriate. You don’t have to agree with everyone’s views to be respectful of them. Why can’t these people commenting show the same respect to us? Control much folks?
I’m very glad to hear that you guys are respectful of the LGBTQ+ community, especially after Derick used Jazz (a child) SPECIFICALLY *by name* when sharing his views regarding transsexualism. It was so hurtful and completely counterproductive. Watching Jill grow up in front of us over the years has left many of us very invested in you two as a couple and as a family with your beautiful boys. So, it is beyond heartening to see you BLOSSOM into your *own people* with your own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and way of living. You two are PARTNERS in the very best meaning of the word.
People grow. Views change. Demonizing someone who grew up sheltered isn't the best way to get them to see your side. The fact that they've come this far is pretty miraculous. They are honest and vulnerable. The complete antithesis of, well, that one sibling.
I've loved getting a glimpse into your lives post counting on, leaving was the best thing you ever did. You have a beautiful happy healthy family, keep living your best lives.. ❤
Speaking about sins: adultery is a choice, lying is a choice, cheating is a choice, being gay is not a choice. There’s a huge difference and it’s totally ignorant to throw all of that in the same basket. What if one of your children turns out to be gay? Will he be shipped off to a deserted island? Read and learn and at least have an open mind!
....in your opinion....according to your beliefs....which differs from yours....why do you decide what's wrong or right but chastise them for doing the same? The double standard is real. Belief what you want and voice it and be ok with someone else doing the same. Geesshhh!
@@dionment - Except there's no double standard here at all. Saying that "being gay isn't a choice" is *not* an opinion or belief, it's a cold hard fact. Do you seriously think people wake up one morning and say to themselves; "Hmmm, yeah I think I'm going to *choose* to be gay from this moment on and live a life where I'm going to be hated on, emotionally & physically abused by others who don't agree with my lifestyle, misunderstood, bullied, talked about etc. by an ignorant percentage of the population"?? Come on now! 🙄 You don't "choose" to be gay, you're born gay. Anyone who thinks it's a choice is flat out wrong and needs to do some serious homework on the subject.
If you are a bible believing Christian, then the answer is right there to read and live by. To believe in God is a choice. If you live that life then you believe all that is written, it isn't a difficult concept. What they mean by a choice to be gay or whatever letter you want to assign to alternative lifestyles, is that its a fight that can be won and has to be won if you believe what the Lord wants for us. It's hard to stay on the Christian walk, it isn't easy by any stretch, but it's worth it! Being gay is just another fight that you must fight to not participate in. Period! It isn't ignorant to love the creator and therefore be loyal and obedient to his laws and tenets. It isn't a different basket...it's the same basket, but maybe not the right one for you!
I appreciate your honesty and open mindedness that you are young, growing and don't have it all figured out. I also appreciate that you left that show so you could be who you are and not what someone wants you to be for money. I definitely had a different perspective of you on that show. It's great to get to know the real you. 💜
I've been thinking about doing more budgeting in my life. Thank you for the links (I'm going to check them out) & I think it's awesome that you guys have budgeting meetings. Also I am so shocked that you guys were not getting paid for being on the show. So glad you were able to get a portion of the money back. and... Good luck with law school! that is so amazing! Goodluck to both of ya'll :)
I have always watched the show(s) so interested in how others lived their lives. I was impressed with so many aspects of your families faith. But as the cracks happened, I very much came from the view that you both are now, and I started to watch with a different set of eyes. I am a Christian, and I see that our beliefs line up exactly. My heart is happy for your hearts and He lives in us when we invite him. I fully support you both on this beautiful journey of faith and self discovery. 🙏🏻❤️
it doesn't sound like you have any LGBTQ friends. you can't disagree on who someone is as a person because ultimately that implies that you think sexuality is a choice. I think you can think it is a sin based on your religion (even tho I disagree), but its different to talk about it as if it's a decision.
Ya I’m a Christian and I would never tell a gay person they have a choice. I do believe homosexuality is a sin in same way heterosexual sin is sin along with all the other sins Christians commit daily! It’s certainly not a greater sin and I dnt believe it’s a choice but I do Believe it’s something someone can be delivered from jsut bc I’ve met so many ppl in body of Christ that’s happened to. But there are plenty of gay ppl in the body of Christ that I love and would never judge bc I’m a sinner just like everyone else. We are to love our neighbor as ourselves
@@amandacarmel6084 wouldn’t you tell a murderer they have a choice to not murder? Or say, you were born that way, you can’t help it so keep doing it. Which to that I’d say, yes they were born that way, a sinner. We all have desires that are sinful but we don’t have to be slave to it. We are to take up our cross and deny ourselves our sinful desires. There is freedom in the cross. Jesus came to free us of our sin, not to free us to keep sinning. And if you know someone who is a brother or sister in Christ and you see them sinning, God absolutely calls us to gently and privately call them out on it, out of love. Sin hurts us and others, so why not say something. I struggle with this too and people pleasing, but we need to lean on God for strength.
Breanna Kae Gregory that girl Katie is going to single handedly shut down any public statements from the people she relies on for clicks. It’s disgusting.
Praise the Lord that your mom is cancer free x 6 years!! God is Soooo good. Good for you all having no debt!! Derick- do you know what type of law you want to study or are studying?? I am new here. Good for you- fighting for what $ is yours!! How sad that a parent would withhold their child's money. God bless!!
For those of you getting mad and saying they are homophobic and calling people in LGBTQ+ sinful... I'm not sure you were really listening. They were very respectful in what they said, as well as mentioned that EVERYONE sins, including them. So what I am hearing them say, is that they can be friends with anyone and that they have no place to judge. They also have a right to their Christian beliefs. I think a lot of you are wayyy too hard on them. They have come a long way from where they started. I also think that it is very healthy and okay to be able to have friends and love people that you disagree with or don't necessarily have the same values as, it shows maturity. We can not agree with someone AND not judge them at the same time. Humans are cool like that 🥰 Be kind people! It takes alot of courage these days to speak up about who we are and what we believe, I have much respect for anyone who can do it out of love and kindness. There are alot of UA-cam videos out there of debates that I find very interesting, (Christian vs. Atheists) (Muslim vs Christians) and so on... And the best thing that I get out of it, is for the most part no matter what the beliefs, they treat each other with love and respect. I think that if you want to be accepted and respected for your beliefs you need to respect and accept that others have their own as well. It's actually a really beautiful thing if you think about it. Much love!
Hi I'm a new subscriber from Los Angeles. I first watched you when you two were courting and Jill went to Nepal to visit Derrick. But I lost touch when you "detached" yourselves from Counting On. Good luck to Derrick on ur law school. Hope to see you become a lawyer soon. Jill's very supportive so that's good. Stay safe!
Hello Derrick & Jill.👋This was informative and light hearted. You both seem so much more at ease. I hope becoming monetized will relieve some of ur financial burdens. Keep ur Love for God, each other and family. I've heard it said, we get to pick our friends not our family so tread lightly an err on the side of kindness. 💗
Thank God about your mom 🙏 I also saw when she was at your wedding and it broke my heart but I also was very happy that she was able to be at your wedding . I also have my son in law that is going through Cancer right now he had 2 surgery’s and now in a couple of weeks he will start radiation and chemo treatments so I’m praying that he will be Cancer Free like your mom he’s only 44 years old and has a lot to live for. He has a son that’s 20 years old that just went into the Air Force that we’re all very Proud of him and he also has a daughter that’s 18 years old that is in college to be a dental hygienist and we’re all very Proud of her too so we all need him to be here with us 🙏. So if I could get some more prays for my son in law I would really appreciate it 🙏. I’ve been watching you Jill since you were so young and have been falling your story until now you’re so sweet and I love the way that you decided to live and change good for you . You have a wonderful family ♥️
You both talked about the LGBTQ+ community in a pretty respectful way, and I respect that. It sounds genuine when you speak about us like that. I also want to add that as a former Christian (charismatic), I don’t believe that the Bible fully explains the modern applications of the verses that are “against” the identities of LGBTQ folks. it’s not as much about “disagreeing” with a person’s “lifestyle”, as it is about honoring who they are as a person- if you believe that God doesn’t make mistakes, that he made us in his image, and (especially) if you follow Calvinistic beliefs and everything is preordained, then your beliefs would actually support the development of different, non-heteronormative and non-cisgendered identities. There are plenty of other cultures that have more than two genders and sexualities. Letting a person know that you disagree with a part of them, presumably a large part of their lives because it is something that directly affects their relationships and families, can put a huge rift in between you and the friend who is LGTBQ. Of course, it varies from person to person. I’m not suggesting that you abandon your beliefs, I’m only suggesting that acceptance is the most Jesus-like action one could take. Agreement and acceptance are two different things for this. I think it would mean a lot for a person to know that you accept them for who they say they are, and it would likely bring you closer. Again, I respect how gently you’re going about this!
I have a couple things in response to that. 1. There is no such thing as a former Christian. You’re either sealed by the Holy Spirit or you are not. 2. The Bible and its word are the same yesterday, today, and forever. There is no modern, or traditional, or ancient version. It is all applicable at every point in history, and for every person regardless of time. It doesn’t have a modern take. What God has said applies to every generation. 3. Who you are is a person created in the image of God. Your sexual desires are not who you are. You completely misunderstand the idea that God does not make mistakes. He made you to worship and surrender to him. If you have chosen not to do that, it is YOU who has made the mistake, not God. 4. No, there are not other countries who have more than two genders. There is only male and female. Anything other than that is a deviation from nature and from God‘s plan. 5. No, excepting sin is not the most Christlike thing one can do. The most Christlike thing one can do is to tell them about repentance, the gospel, forgiveness, and how they can be changed from the inside out. We are not to except people based on who they SAY they are. A person can SAY they’re a turnip. We are to except them as creations of the creator. And that is completely different than excepting their sin, which we are not to do.
Dear Jill and Derek I hope you see this before comments disappear from UA-cam, I know they do randomly and it's not your guys`s doing. I appreciate both of your calm natures and your informative UA-cam channel. Your children have such good loving parents so great job to you both. Love your channel, and your sister Jana Duggar`s channel, and Joyannas and Jessas!😊💕
If you can display and be open about your love, marriage and family it has to be just as protected and safe for all diversities of families. Your words give me hope.
I don't believe you have any real friends that are LGBT or Q. You may know people who are, but you're not friends with them if you believe they are sinners and are judging them and not wanting them to be who they are. We all know that feeling when someone doesn't like you or is judging you, even if they're being polite, and it doesn't feel good, it hurts.
I have to agree. I couldn’t be friends with someone who believes I’m sinful based on how I was born and created. I would be polite and respectful but not friends.
Kind of like how everyone acts like they don’t like the Duggar’s and judge them just because of their beliefs? Does that mean that if someone doesn’t think like you or act like you, then you hate and don’t want them too? Really think about what you’re implying about them when you yourself don’t actually know that they feel that way. It’s hypocritical to say “if you don’t think like me, you’re a bigot” and then judge them for supposedly doing the same 😅
They have really grown up, they seem like a really nice couple. Through the years this family has gone through a lot publicly. I really respect these two for always speaking their minds. Regardless of what the media has reported they have supported each other, protected each other and their family. I respect that.
I got married with a little bit of wedding debt but we paid it off quickly. Honestly being in debt strains a marriage. I am glad you went to school debt free.
She was always the most upbeat, nurturing n adventurous. Her virtues are almost unreal. Thankfully intelligence was also a primary/secondary attribute. I am always stunned by their lack of education but throughout history, autodidacts do quite well.
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I love to see how Jill is the talker... and Derrick adds to her thoughts.. she is not that girl that only say yes and agrees with him all the time. Go, girl!! You rock!!
I know right. I always felt their relationship was less rushed and more genuine
It takes a strong person to get out from under that, and an even stronger person to come up on higher ground afterwards.
lame comment
You don't know that she does or doesn't agree with him, just because she is not verbally expressing which it is. Sometimes the wife is more of the talker, sometimes the man is and neither one is better than the other, all about personality.
@@rufusdusol9453 my comment was just based on other women that grew up in the same environment as her. They have the tendency to only agree with everything their husbands say and are not allowed to express their opinions and thoughts. Jill, as we can notice, broke free from those ancient rules.
I still can't believe the kids didn't get paid for the show. That money should have been put in trust for each child.
Legally it was supposed to!
@@Leesha.Leesha yeah, they just exploited the kids
For real? How about you have 20 kids and figure how you’re gonna pay for them? They got to have running water and clean clothes and meals cooked for them and lots of friends. What more could you ask for. Greed grasps people and takes them down a terrible road. An unhappy place. Get over it. So Unthankful.
@@brittanystewart723 how about NOT having 20 kids! Live within your means, which could mean, maybe just have a few! Crazy, I know!!
For instance, I have 3. Just 3.
Kids are not put into the world to be THE PARENTS meal ticket to exploit how they see fit. They were supposed to be paid for their part in the SHOW!
@@brittanystewart723 providing food, water, shelter for your underage child is a DUTY in the eyes of the state. Parents are supposed to provide for that or the state will take you to court. You're telling us the kids should be grateful they were given the basic necessities to survive when they didn't ask to be here? The parents decided to have kids, they have the responsibility to provide!
My heart breaks for how you are being treated by your family. You are so brave to stand up for the truth that your heart is telling you. Plus, you married a good man who supports you to being your authentic self. You have and are walking through fire but will come through with a joyful, loving and honest heart.
I was raised in very similar circumstances as Jill (we are the same age and we've been through a lot of the same stuff, I just haven't gone through it publicly) and I applaud her for speaking out about boundaries/seeking therapy. It's SO important. I personally do not consider myself religious at all anymore and I'm very politically left leaning, but I still enjoy hearing from Jill. I also find Derrick to be very supportive and warm towards Jill which makes me happy.
Jill, you’re so brave. Congratulations on your personal growth. Keep growing! Derek, you’re such a good husband for supporting your wife through this. This is what it’s about.
I think Derick is great. Idk why people are hard on him. He stands up for his wife.
Seems like she's pretty good at standing up for herself though.
Look up on google where he makes his comment on jazz the transgender he had some hateful stuff to say “transgender is a myth”
I applaud your efforts to distance yourselves from some of the more unpleasant aspects of your upbringing and open yourselves up to understanding beyond your own beliefs. I hope you'll continue to do so, it's beautiful on the other side. Take care.
I am so thankful to hear Derrick’s mom has recovered.
honestly so thrilled she's getting an education. He seems to only be helping her from the poison her family has caused.
Yea he basically became jumbo a bible buddy to marry his daughter and get her tf outta there lol. Remember how “close” Derrick was at the beginning to Jim bob makes u wonder if he did it just to get Jill out of that toxic famoly
@@gracietaylor3716 totally agree!!!
She has a long way to go.
@@r.c.miller6161 she will get there one day!!!
I am so glad to hear that Derek's mom is now cancer free! I thought it was so sweet that Jill had kept Cathy involved with the wedding plans, either via phone or by going to visit her.
I am so happy to hear about your mother Derrick. A huge blessing from our Lord. I heard that Derrick is through law school now! This is awsome to hear.
Glad to hear your living your life the way you want and not have to follow your family. Still following your faith 👍🏻
Just stumbled on this and listened. As part of the LGBTQ+ community, I really appreciate what you said and agree that no one agrees on everything and we all have valid and fair viewpoints. I enjoyed this. Thank you.
If this is your first time finding them, I’m sorry to say this is not fully representative of their views. They are extremely homophobic and the husband in particular has been in hot water more than once for his off color comments. Look them up. Specifically his name, Derek Dillard, and jazz Jennings, a young trans tv star.
@@ciaradiam0nd one, if they are so homophobic then why are you on here watching and commenting on their video?! Second, being gay and a child trans person is not even in the same ball park. I have numerous gay friends that also think it’s wrong and damaging to these kids by having hormones and surgeries and being encouraged to be trans at a young age. There are numerous doctors and trans people that have come out and said it’s wrong as well. As well as many reversing their decision in adulthood. If you don’t agree with them, then don’t watch their stuff and move on and get a life.
@@lysan4878 so you’re only allowed to watch their content if you agree with them- sounds like a really good way to stay enclosed in a bubble and never have exposure to anything 👍🏼 two, the opinion of a few of your friends doesn’t shape the reality that hate towards trans people is extremely damaging to their mental health and well-being and is completely unnecessary. If you or your “friends” don’t think being trans is for them, they can choose not to be trans then!
You have to take some things with a grain of salt. Derrick has said some pretty transphobic things in the past and I don't recall him acknowledge that or apologizjng but I also stopped following the duggers around the Josh incident.
I mostly came to this channel because I see the way Jill is being treated and I can't even fathom it. When I reported my sexual abuse my family was behind me 100% (it wasn't family who did it). I can't imagine speaking my truth and being met with what Jill is. I give her props for being so strong and brave.
I do question the LGBTQIA stuff but I also know people that grew up in pretty conservative Christian households who believed everything they were taught about the LGBTQIA community etc and they're still learning, growing and changing and breaking away from that. When your raised in a religion that ingraines so much hate and it's enforced by everyone around you, it is hard to break away from. Some people are fortunate and do and some never do.
I'll hold judgment and keep hoping for the best for Jill and her family in regards to the way she is being treated for being honest and open.
All of this confirms my reasons for completely disengaging from most Dugger related stuff around Josh... I knew at least one of the girls was being forced in front of the media. There'd be no way I could have done it if my abuse had been made so public. 🤷♀️
That's how I feel. I do not condone this lifestyle. But I have always showed love to everyone😊
Jill you have turned into a beautiful young woman, inside and out. The confidence in who you are in the lord just shines out of you
I come from a very conservative-evangelical family. Your journey inspires me to be independent and kind to myself.
I can't lie, I'm impressed they leave these comments on. That takes some strength lol
HURRAY for Mama Dillard!!!!!!! 🙏🙏🙏 So happy to hear that! My mum has cancer and I understand how awful it all is!
I can't believe she only earned less than minimum wage given the amount of money the parents amassed in the series. No wonder they are pissed off with the family.😖
Jill I'm so glad that you are making your own path for your family and have opened your eyes to the real world. You can be a Christian and not be bound to all of those crazy rules
It's hard not to take something personally when it impacts your human rights. So no, it's not so easy to just still be friends.
Jill! I absolutely love that you are finding your voice!
I don’t understand this comment. She always had a voice. They’re not suppressed! Even in these videos, in some videos she’s more talkative than others.
She found her voice going up Josh's rear end. SMILES
Me too!
@@Nazaba09 I think she is referring to the fact that under the rules of her parents she didn't have a voice at all. That's what I think.
@@Gri03 but I don’t agree with that. On her parents show, she talked a lot.
Watched the family for years soooooo glad she’s FREEEEEED!
It's important that people realize that just because you don't agree with their views or beliefs it doesn't mean you cannot be friends or civil. Not one person is the same and no opinion should be invalidated.
Not when it comes to lgbtq+ you clearly don’t agree with their lifestyle or who they love. How can you feel safe calling them when you need help and they refuse bc they “don’t agree” with them?
@@jackieg37 I'm not the judge of other people's choices. I love anyone regardless of anything they choose to be because we're all flawed humans, so one cannot judge another because we're all sinners.
I really feel like I am sitting with you both in your home listening to you. Very comfortable. You two are not rehearsed. Love it.
I respect that you guys support LGBT enough to hold friendships within the community, people will always have different beliefs and I totally get that, but as long as there’s civility and respect then everything will be cool 👍🏼
In the end its like we're all friends but we'll have to agree to disagree on some hot topic issues.
That’s how true Christians are. This has always been my view at least
TBI Survivor Christians are sinners too, but we are to hate sin but love the sinner. Yes I am always Civil with homosexuals and respect them as a human being. I have found some to have very likeable personalities, same with heterosexuals.
Someone said this to me so I cannot claim it: If you must judge, judge them by their accomplishments. Is someone putting the health, safety, and well-being of others in jeopardy? Is someone trying to help improve the quality of life for others?
Respect in disagreement, I wish more people understood that . Bravo to you too, very wise for your young age.
So glad u have come out of your shell. Derick you are a great supportive husband. Way to encourage Jill to speak her mind.
There are MANY Duggars, so there’s a high probability that AT LEAST someone is part of the lgbtq+ community. I’m surprised NO ONE talked about this before.
That's not how it works though, you can have a family of 3 children and they're all gay just like you can have a family of 19 and none of them be gay, that's not how stats work
Agreed. Waiting for someone to come out. 🏳️🌈
Oh absolutely. At least 1, likely a boy and a girl. I wish they weren’t so anti lgbt because the kids will suppress their feelings and become depressed and not feel accepted.
@@pysduckfanforever True, but if you include the grandchildren as well? Come on... No doubt about it.
@@Neophema like I said before, that's not how stats work
I'll tell ya something. You've honestly made me feel like I don't have to be perfect to be a christian. For years I've felt like God was unobtainable because I have been so focused on feeling like I couldn't make the grade. Your openness has showed me that it isn't as hard as I thought. Thanks for that. 🙂 You both have a sincerity that can't be faked.
Jill has always been my favorite since she was younger now I know why
Very smart open minded loving person god bless your family
You guys are so respectful of each other!! It’s a breath of fresh air!
They have such a loving healthy marriage. I love it so much and am so
Happy for them. ❤️
Derrick looks at Jill so sweetly 🥰
I love this video because it's so real, honest, and relaxed. It's so neat to see you bloom away from the tv show and into yourselves. It's light and refreshing to just see you be you. Thank you for opening your lives and home to us. God bless!
Jill....
I just have to say how much I just feel like you've recently really grown. You're such a wonderful woman mother and wife. Im so sorry for the horrible and or sad things you've had to go thru. NOT that almost everyone has to go thru some horrible and sas times in their lives also. I just love to see you finally finding and USING your voice. Doing what you want with yourself and your own family. AND NOT allowing your parents any leeway no more. I can only imagine how nervous you were in the beginning. But how amazing it feels to you now! My last comment is that Im really really sad.... Shocked..... Taken aback...... and absolutely down right SICKENED that not only you had to ask your father for YOUR SHARE of the earnings that were allocated FOR you. But to actually be required by your father to hire an attorney to get it just makes me sick and ANGRY for you. And not only am I all those things about this situation, but I'm ALSO EXTREMELY EXTREMELY CONFUSED! Because for so many many years, I've watched your family's shows. And I couldn't even begin to count the times your father portrayed himself to be such a GOD FEARING RELIGIOUS MAN WHO ALWAYS DID THE RIGHT THING. That he has all these morals and values. YET HE TRULY STOLE FROM HIS OWN CHILDREN. THERE'S ZERO OTHER WAY TO PUT IT!! What on earth could possibly make him think he didn't owe it to you. And quite frankly, more than likely many of your siblings. I just see him now for the crop of crap he is and not who he portrays himself to be. Because it's a lie. He has NO MORALS!! He shuddered to think of giving you YOUR MONEY THAT YOU RIGHTFULLY EARNED. But yet I wonder whos helped your eldest brother pay all his EXTREMELY RECENTLY COSTLY ATTORNEY FEES???
Hmmm..... Give you 2 guesses!
Jill....
PLEASE KEEP ON BEING AMAZING YOU!!
Great big huge hugs to you. D and the boys!
I really enjoy your Q&A. I miss seeing you on counting on, but understand why your not filming any more. God bless
I’m happy that you use birth control. I was a bit confused about the “abortion” claim but kinda drop it and figured you meant miscarriage.
Also I am happy you do accept the LGBTQ+ community. You guys actually sound pretty open minded.
She didn't mean miscarriage. Hormonal bc purposely prevents or ends pregnancy, is how they're looking at this. Regardless, a natural miscarriage is a spontaneous abortion, but they'll do nothing to purposely end the pregnancy
@@lets.get.lost. I was about to fight you on it but then read the line “how they’re looking at it” and thought “ you know what, yeah. I’m just happy they’re using something”. So thank you for that.
Miscarriage is called spontaneous abortion.
@@emcemc7506 huh 🤔 I learned something new today. Thank you!
Just a question for potential future videos: How do you cope with the trolling and negative comments, now that you're essentially an internet persona, due to your famous family? Sometimes when I see the things people say or ask you, I get mad FOR you. I couldn't imagine facing the unnecessary scrutiny you face. You're so strong. 💜
Brave, courageous young adults! You guys are letting God in charge of your lives making the right decisions in your own! God bless you!
So nice to see you two! Really miss you and the kids on Counting On. God bless your sweet family.💜🙏✝️
Very intelligent young couple. You’re about the nicest bunch out of all of them. With brains on their shoulders
So glad that you are doing so well. It’s awesome that you have taken control of you’re own lives.
As a mom to an LGBTQ 18 yr old teen, I have to say I LOVE Jill and Derek. And let me tell you why....we don’t have some of the same beliefs but BOTH Jill and Derek are loving kind people. They love the Lord, I love the Lord.They are good parents, I’m a good parent (I try to be anyway) they love their faith, I love my faith. I choose to see the similarities instead of the differences. I’ve followed Jill for almost ten years now, she’s a truly genuine person. As is Derek ! Anyway, we love you guys. Keep it up !!!
You don't say whether you support your teen though. Do you believe he's entitled to equal rights etc.
Thomas Morgenstern I sure do my friend, I guess I should have stated that,, but YES I deeply and wholeheartedly support my trans teen. Was there every step of the way.
@@meghanservidio1726 I'm so happy to hear that. I'm a big follower of Dan Reynolds. I had suspected but didn't realize how many LGBT children commited suicide. Trying to live up to a Christians parents expectations is too much for some of them. Being Mormon, he helped bring this to light. Checkout his UA-cam video of the Loveloud concerts he's done if you haven't already. Thanks for being a good Mom. ua-cam.com/video/snHZPjB7MsQ/v-deo.html
@@meghanservidio1726 as a Trans adult, thank you for being their for your teen and supporting them through this process and loving them for who they are.
Meghan Servidio I guess I’m on the same boat as your child . My mom is Christian ( I go to church with her) but I’m trans so it’s a bit hard to being a mom , and support your trans kid when there’s so much pressure from society , but a moms love will never change and it’s stronger than anything . my relationship with god is very special and that will never change , no matter how much people try to make me think differently( people are the ones with hate ) god is not about hate . God bless 🙏🏼
Putting lgbtq+ people in the same list as perverts, thieves, and adulterers isn’t the mantra of a loving God- have you had the chance to read the linguists Kathy Baldock and Ed Oxford who translated the bible (without a religious agenda but as linguists) from the earliest iterations recorded? Their findings are fascinating, 100% recommend
I’m grateful for your comments on religion and friends of other faiths and lifestyles. It clarified for me how I feel but could not put into words.
Congrats on law school! hope Jill gets a chance to get a formal education someday, if she wants one - she’d make a great pediatric nurse!
I can definitely see that for her
Women can do anything they don’t need to be a nurse.
Paediatric doctor! Love the young woman. Well done Derrick too. You seem a man who supporting his wife comes first, respect.
She doesn’t do the weird Duggar wife stare as much anymore
A lot of people from fringe religions/cults have that. Marshall Applewhite of Heaven’s Gate did too. So does someone I know who’s into healing crystals
I wonder why they do that 😂
@@BloodNote I think bc they are censoring themselves
@@jilly5001 buffering what to say to please their lord and savior controlling husband Jim-Bob
I’m a Christian and being part of the LGBTQ community is NOT a sin. Please watch God is Grey, and let God open your minds and hearts 💕
What is god is grey. I'm bi sexual iv had female relationships but iv matured and since found that one person to give my life over to share with that I e person I want for life. We have two kiddos and common law marriage but my baptist group are so anti gay and common law marriage isn't good enough. We're anti government restrictions and felt that was enough for us . But told not god's plan hymmmmm
@@tracylouisepoynton God is Grey is a youtube channel. Definitely check it out!
God is Grey is a great resource!
If you are in opposition with what the Word says, then you’re no Christian.
@Jeaneane P Look up the literal translation of that verse. The word "homosexual" was not added to the Bible until 1946. The literal translation of the bible refers to pedophiles in the instances where it now says homosexual. I encourage you to learn more about how man has changed the Bible when doing translations.
I know this is an old video but I had to say I respect the authenticity, y’all have my respect and I’ll be praying for you both I truly appreciate you touching on these topics it’s extremely real! Jesus is proud of y’all for sure! I know I am! May God bless y’all on your journey!
soooooo happy for her and Jinger hope they are truly happy!
Married over 40 years. No one taught us about budgets. Money disagreements are the heaviest turmoil in a marriage.
Yall are great and truly appreciate your openness, your willing to share your perspective/beliefs while sharing biblical truths. Proud of yall for speaking out and sharing about your family unit and how you've made things your own :)
I’m reading your Mom’s book, and it is inspiring. Glad to hear she is doing well.💜❤️✝️🙏🏻 I plan to pass her book on to my friend’s Mom, whom is walking through cancer right now. God Bless you guys.
Misty!! Oh My Gosh. Are you even for real? Do you have a Fart fetish?
I have loved watching your family for so many years. You are a beautiful couple and I love how your husband supports you in everything. You can tell that he truly loves you.
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At the end of the day it's funny because Jim Bob was actually the one who introduced him to Jill it seems god is not without a sense of irony
He’s kinda shy and awkward but shit for a religious Christian dude to support his wife while she exposes her super wealthy and powerful family is a guy who loves his wife.
I really miss Jill in Counting On. And I miss the little sparkle in her eyes. Wish you the best guys ❤️
I really wish you didn't put being queer in the same category as being a murderer. Because being gay is just who I am. I can't see myself wanting to date or have sex with a man just as much as I can't see myself intentionally killing another human being.
Also, I identify as a Christian. I've never felt like my love for Jesus was in contradiction with my desire for a wife.
You are wonderful❤
I really like Jill's chill personality.
She has no choice with an abusive, controlling husband.
@@TheMadameG oh. you know them personally?
I used to have my thoughts on Derrick, but now, I feel like he is the reason Jill was able to break free and really explore herself. She looks happier.
Jill has always had a chill personality.
I do too Dani, I have always really liked Jill. She's always been my favorite.
Happy for you both. I am going through a similar experience of stepping outside of my family and having healthy boundaries, something that I’ve learned to do via therapy and lots of hours of reflection. I see some comments below about “dishonoring” your parents, something which I’ve heard from my parents as well when I decided to create some boundaries... I learned this is a form of spiritual abuse and spiritual gaslighting. It sounds like you both are reflective and considerate in your choices and that is creating healthy growth. Congrats!
I am so sorry for the way you were treated Jill by TLC. That is disgraceful. Glad you and Derick are living your own lives and making your own decisions as a Godly married couple.
It is good to have values from your upbringing, but you must be your own person. I'm glad you are being individuals and not just extensions of your parents.
I am glad that you woke up about the money you are owed. You need to wake up to all the other things you are brainwashed by. You guys are amazing and I think you guys are the only hope for your siblings. God bless you guys and your families!
You don't have to have a relationship that revolves around one topic. Exactly. We are all struggling with our natural human nature. Best thing we can do is talk about faith, lovingly discuss our views, tell the truth, love the person. Great advice.
You were my favorite couple on the show. You were the couple that seemed the most genuine. And I’m so ecstatic that you’re doing great! I love you guys and missed you on the show! I support your decision to leave 100% and I hope your lives are so much happier now! I also hope your siblings follow in your steps eventually.
I've always loved this couple the most out of all of them. Wish y'all the best!
It good to see y’all make your own desisions about birth control and stuff despite being raised to not use it ect. You gotta do what’s best for your family!
You two are honest and have integrity. Be yourselves and follow your own path.
I loved yalls stance on LGBT and friendships with disagreements! I'm LGBT myself and it annoys me when people on either side like you said want to preach at you or belittle you or try over and over to force you to agree when you simply don't see eye to eye. It sometimes feels more like the person is building themselves up instead of having genuine conversation. I love talking to people with all different perspectives so I can learn and grow when we have a genuine connection! And I've always thought if someone is strong in their faith they wouldn't have to try to convince everyone around them all the time in order to even hang out.
Anyway its REALLY encouraging to see people who think like you guys do knowing how and caring enough to be respectful and pointing out that either side of any issue can have a tendancy to get heated and there's no need for that.
I asked my brother over the holidays if he could simply refrain from talking to me about his opinions about my lifestyle and religion for the couple days I was visiting as well as use my new name that I've changed years ago (I said he could use whatever pronouns) and it was really confusing to me that he said I was being unreasonable and acted like I was asking him not to share his faith in God...which I wasn't I'm very interested in Jesus and learning from people's faith but in the end he said as a Christian he couldn't do that and it was very disheartening since the reason I asked him is it's connected to some traumas for me and I'd rather focus on healing his and my relationship then talking about that but anyway it's lovely to see people with his similar beliefs who think it's totally reasonable to have respectful and kind conversations. :)
Your brother just cares for your soul. Do you know how many people on UA-cam said they had gone to hell? Try watching them and you will see why your brother wants so much for you to be saved. There are Atheists like Bryan Melvin his story on UA-cam he went to Hell and came back to warn others he is now a believer in Jesus Christ. My own cousin Fred told me when he had a heart attack he had seen Hell and Heaven. So try not to hate your brother he cares about you. Look up John Ramirez he was into witchcraft he was highly into the occult. His story is on UA-cam he has changed since he went to Hell.
His story ua-cam.com/video/VjqGB_DPDjs/v-deo.html
I hope things get better for you and your brother realizes that a true Christian is kind and caring and in the end, you are his brother above all. In his or your deathbed...will he be worried you are gay?
@@joydarling314 they "saw" hallucinations lol
WOW!!! You both are just so Awesome. I appreciate your realness. Its good to see ya off the show and being organic.
I am truly so happy you two are speaking your truth!
It’s good you were able to finally get compensation for your appearances on TLC. It seems incredible you were denied being paid especially when you used your income wisely including furthering your education.
I love your opinion on LGBTQ! I think it’s important to know you can disagree with someone but still be friends. Honestly that’s how you show love and mission to others is by continuing to love on them♥️ so many people are quick to reject different and I think that’s why so many get turned off from Christians and turn away from God.
I understand it partly but isn’t being lgbtq literally someone’s identity? That kind of sucks to say “I disagree with who you are” vs “I disagree with what you believe in” 🤔faith is important to me too but I do feel bad for lgbtq folk with Christian friends who aren’t supportive bc it’s not a choice for them ...
@Blass What gay person isn't going to act on their feelings though? Should they just be alone forever or unhappy in a straight relationship?
I'm not in agreement with the idea of being gay is your identity. It is a choice of sexual preference, it isn't who you are. Your personality is not gay, your character is not gay...those are things that we choose to be or are raised in a way that predicts those aspects! Life comes along and affects them over the years...but those are not our identity, not whom we are attracted to intellectually or even chemically. BTW you just said it was a choice in your last sentence...so how do you really feel?
@@darlamills6846 I said “it is NOT a choice” for them, if you know how to read miss Darla. You can fight others about it all you want, but being gay is what someone is born as, not what someone chooses. Go ahead and spew hatred though, since that is all most Christians like you, love to do 😙❤️
I love to hear how they stay debt free. In this day and age it's so easy to get caught up in easy credit
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I love your answer about LGBTQ. That is so appropriate. You don’t have to agree with everyone’s views to be respectful of them. Why can’t these people commenting show the same respect to us? Control much folks?
I’m very glad to hear that you guys are respectful of the LGBTQ+ community, especially after Derick used Jazz (a child) SPECIFICALLY *by name* when sharing his views regarding transsexualism. It was so hurtful and completely counterproductive.
Watching Jill grow up in front of us over the years has left many of us very invested in you two as a couple and as a family with your beautiful boys. So, it is beyond heartening to see you BLOSSOM into your *own people* with your own thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and way of living. You two are PARTNERS in the very best meaning of the word.
People grow. Views change. Demonizing someone who grew up sheltered isn't the best way to get them to see your side. The fact that they've come this far is pretty miraculous. They are honest and vulnerable. The complete antithesis of, well, that one sibling.
@@randomtees 💯!
I've loved getting a glimpse into your lives post counting on, leaving was the best thing you ever did. You have a beautiful happy healthy family, keep living your best lives.. ❤
Speaking about sins: adultery is a choice, lying is a choice, cheating is a choice, being gay is not a choice. There’s a huge difference and it’s totally ignorant to throw all of that in the same basket.
What if one of your children turns out to be gay? Will he be shipped off to a deserted island? Read and learn and at least have an open mind!
....in your opinion....according to your beliefs....which differs from yours....why do you decide what's wrong or right but chastise them for doing the same? The double standard is real. Belief what you want and voice it and be ok with someone else doing the same. Geesshhh!
there’s a chance they will turn to conversion camps if one of their children come out as part of the lgbtq+ community
@@dionment - Except there's no double standard here at all. Saying that "being gay isn't a choice" is *not* an opinion or belief, it's a cold hard fact. Do you seriously think people wake up one morning and say to themselves; "Hmmm, yeah I think I'm going to *choose* to be gay from this moment on and live a life where I'm going to be hated on, emotionally & physically abused by others who don't agree with my lifestyle, misunderstood, bullied, talked about etc. by an ignorant percentage of the population"?? Come on now! 🙄 You don't "choose" to be gay, you're born gay. Anyone who thinks it's a choice is flat out wrong and needs to do some serious homework on the subject.
If you are a bible believing Christian, then the answer is right there to read and live by. To believe in God is a choice. If you live that life then you believe all that is written, it isn't a difficult concept. What they mean by a choice to be gay or whatever letter you want to assign to alternative lifestyles, is that its a fight that can be won and has to be won if you believe what the Lord wants for us. It's hard to stay on the Christian walk, it isn't easy by any stretch, but it's worth it! Being gay is just another fight that you must fight to not participate in. Period! It isn't ignorant to love the creator and therefore be loyal and obedient to his laws and tenets. It isn't a different basket...it's the same basket, but maybe not the right one for you!
I’m glad you guys have an open communication regarding money as this is one of the reasons why couples go through a divorce
I appreciate your honesty and open mindedness that you are young, growing and don't have it all figured out. I also appreciate that you left that show so you could be who you are and not what someone wants you to be for money. I definitely had a different perspective of you on that show. It's great to get to know the real you. 💜
I have a few friends who are polar opposite of my beliefs and we’ve agreed to just not talk about certain issues for the sake of our friendships😢
I've been thinking about doing more budgeting in my life. Thank you for the links (I'm going to check them out) & I think it's awesome that you guys have budgeting meetings. Also I am so shocked that you guys were not getting paid for being on the show. So glad you were able to get a portion of the money back.
and... Good luck with law school! that is so amazing! Goodluck to both of ya'll :)
Jesus wouldn't vilify the LGTBQIA community. He was a champion for the oppressed.
AMEN 🙏🏻
I have always watched the show(s) so interested in how others lived their lives. I was impressed with so many aspects of your families faith. But as the cracks happened, I very much came from the view that you both are now, and I started to watch with a different set of eyes. I am a Christian, and I see that our beliefs line up exactly. My heart is happy for your hearts and He lives in us when we invite him. I fully support you both on this beautiful journey of faith and self discovery. 🙏🏻❤️
it doesn't sound like you have any LGBTQ friends. you can't disagree on who someone is as a person because ultimately that implies that you think sexuality is a choice. I think you can think it is a sin based on your religion (even tho I disagree), but its different to talk about it as if it's a decision.
Ya I’m a Christian and I would never tell a gay person they have a choice. I do believe homosexuality is a sin in same way heterosexual sin is sin along with all the other sins Christians commit daily! It’s certainly not a greater sin and I dnt believe it’s a choice but I do Believe it’s something someone can be delivered from jsut bc I’ve met so many ppl in body of Christ that’s happened to. But there are plenty of gay ppl in the body of Christ that I love and would never judge bc I’m a sinner just like everyone else. We are to love our neighbor as ourselves
@@amandacarmel6084 wouldn’t you tell a murderer they have a choice to not murder? Or say, you were born that way, you can’t help it so keep doing it. Which to that I’d say, yes they were born that way, a sinner. We all have desires that are sinful but we don’t have to be slave to it. We are to take up our cross and deny ourselves our sinful desires. There is freedom in the cross. Jesus came to free us of our sin, not to free us to keep sinning. And if you know someone who is a brother or sister in Christ and you see them sinning, God absolutely calls us to gently and privately call them out on it, out of love. Sin hurts us and others, so why not say something. I struggle with this too and people pleasing, but we need to lean on God for strength.
@@lindsayclark4009 honey 2 people of the same gender liking each other is not remotely close to killing someone, pls re-evaluate that bs
I am so glad y’all are doing your own Q&A and we don’t have to watch Without A Crystal Ball
Breanna Kae Gregory that girl Katie is going to single handedly shut down any public statements from the people she relies on for clicks. It’s disgusting.
@@Michelle-zx9mu I agree, WACB is very disgusting, on so many levels. She should have been removed from youtube a looong time ago!
This conversation gives me a different perspective to Derrick
Praise the Lord that your mom is cancer free x 6 years!! God is Soooo good. Good for you all having no debt!! Derick- do you know what type of law you want to study or are studying?? I am new here. Good for you- fighting for what $ is yours!! How sad that a parent would withhold their child's money. God bless!!
For those of you getting mad and saying they are homophobic and calling people in LGBTQ+ sinful... I'm not sure you were really listening. They were very respectful in what they said, as well as mentioned that EVERYONE sins, including them. So what I am hearing them say, is that they can be friends with anyone and that they have no place to judge. They also have a right to their Christian beliefs. I think a lot of you are wayyy too hard on them. They have come a long way from where they started. I also think that it is very healthy and okay to be able to have friends and love people that you disagree with or don't necessarily have the same values as, it shows maturity. We can not agree with someone AND not judge them at the same time. Humans are cool like that 🥰 Be kind people! It takes alot of courage these days to speak up about who we are and what we believe, I have much respect for anyone who can do it out of love and kindness. There are alot of UA-cam videos out there of debates that I find very interesting, (Christian vs. Atheists) (Muslim vs Christians) and so on... And the best thing that I get out of it, is for the most part no matter what the beliefs, they treat each other with love and respect. I think that if you want to be accepted and respected for your beliefs you need to respect and accept that others have their own as well. It's actually a really beautiful thing if you think about it. Much love!
I have friends that we disagree on some topics and agree on others but we're still friends.
Hi I'm a new subscriber from Los Angeles. I first watched you when you two were courting and Jill went to Nepal to visit Derrick. But I lost touch when you "detached" yourselves from Counting On. Good luck to Derrick on ur law school. Hope to see you become a lawyer soon. Jill's very supportive so that's good. Stay safe!
Hello Derrick & Jill.👋This was informative and light hearted. You both seem so much more at ease. I hope becoming monetized will relieve some of ur financial burdens. Keep ur Love for God, each other and family.
I've heard it said, we get to pick our friends not our family so tread lightly an err on the side of kindness. 💗
Thank God about your mom 🙏 I also saw when she was at your wedding and it broke my heart but I also was very happy that she was able to be at your wedding . I also have my son in law that is going through Cancer right now he had 2 surgery’s and now in a couple of weeks he will start radiation and chemo treatments so I’m praying that he will be Cancer Free like your mom he’s only 44 years old and has a lot to live for. He has a son that’s 20 years old that just went into the Air Force that we’re all very Proud of him and he also has a daughter that’s 18 years old that is in college to be a dental hygienist and we’re all very Proud of her too so we all need him to be here with us 🙏. So if I could get some more prays for my son in law I would really appreciate it 🙏. I’ve been watching you Jill since you were so young and have been falling your story until now you’re so sweet and I love the way that you decided to live and change good for you . You have a wonderful family ♥️
You both talked about the LGBTQ+ community in a pretty respectful way, and I respect that. It sounds genuine when you speak about us like that. I also want to add that as a former Christian (charismatic), I don’t believe that the Bible fully explains the modern applications of the verses that are “against” the identities of LGBTQ folks. it’s not as much about “disagreeing” with a person’s “lifestyle”, as it is about honoring who they are as a person- if you believe that God doesn’t make mistakes, that he made us in his image, and (especially) if you follow Calvinistic beliefs and everything is preordained, then your beliefs would actually support the development of different, non-heteronormative and non-cisgendered identities. There are plenty of other cultures that have more than two genders and sexualities.
Letting a person know that you disagree with a part of them, presumably a large part of their lives because it is something that directly affects their relationships and families, can put a huge rift in between you and the friend who is LGTBQ. Of course, it varies from person to person. I’m not suggesting that you abandon your beliefs, I’m only suggesting that acceptance is the most Jesus-like action one could take. Agreement and acceptance are two different things for this. I think it would mean a lot for a person to know that you accept them for who they say they are, and it would likely bring you closer. Again, I respect how gently you’re going about this!
I have a couple things in response to that.
1. There is no such thing as a former Christian. You’re either sealed by the Holy Spirit or you are not.
2. The Bible and its word are the same yesterday, today, and forever. There is no modern, or traditional, or ancient version. It is all applicable at every point in history, and for every person regardless of time. It doesn’t have a modern take. What God has said applies to every generation.
3. Who you are is a person created in the image of God. Your sexual desires are not who you are. You completely misunderstand the idea that God does not make mistakes. He made you to worship and surrender to him. If you have chosen not to do that, it is YOU who has made the mistake, not God.
4. No, there are not other countries who have more than two genders. There is only male and female. Anything other than that is a deviation from nature and from God‘s plan.
5. No, excepting sin is not the most Christlike thing one can do. The most Christlike thing one can do is to tell them about repentance, the gospel, forgiveness, and how they can be changed from the inside out.
We are not to except people based on who they SAY they are. A person can SAY they’re a turnip. We are to except them as creations of the creator. And that is completely different than excepting their sin, which we are not to do.
@@foolcatcher8900 You’re wrong.
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Nope. I’m spot on.
@@foolcatcher8900 spot off
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100% accurate.
Dear Jill and Derek I hope you see this before comments disappear from UA-cam, I know they do randomly and it's not your guys`s doing. I appreciate both of your calm natures and your informative UA-cam channel. Your children have such good loving parents so great job to you both. Love your channel, and your sister Jana Duggar`s channel, and Joyannas and Jessas!😊💕
If you can display and be open about your love, marriage and family it has to be just as protected and safe for all diversities of families. Your words give me hope.
Misty, why are you so annoying? No one thinks Your funny.🤬
I don't believe you have any real friends that are LGBT or Q. You may know people who are, but you're not friends with them if you believe they are sinners and are judging them and not wanting them to be who they are. We all know that feeling when someone doesn't like you or is judging you, even if they're being polite, and it doesn't feel good, it hurts.
@Prove I’m a rapist or leave me alone!😩 God is angry with the wicked every day. From your answer you obviously don't read the Bible.
@Prove I’m a rapist or leave me alone!😩 ua-cam.com/video/u0J4fAb68Cw/v-deo.html
I have to agree. I couldn’t be friends with someone who believes I’m sinful based on how I was born and created. I would be polite and respectful but not friends.
a person can disagree with someone and still be their friend.
Kind of like how everyone acts like they don’t like the Duggar’s and judge them just because of their beliefs? Does that mean that if someone doesn’t think like you or act like you, then you hate and don’t want them too? Really think about what you’re implying about them when you yourself don’t actually know that they feel that way. It’s hypocritical to say “if you don’t think like me, you’re a bigot” and then judge them for supposedly doing the same 😅
They have really grown up, they seem like a really nice couple.
Through the years this family has gone through a lot publicly. I really respect these two for always speaking their minds.
Regardless of what the media has reported they have supported each other, protected each other and their family.
I respect that.
I mean, yeah. They've grown. But Jill is nearly 30 and she still acts and talks like a fifteen year old.
Plan on getting there social media’s banned especially their UA-cam they are undeserving
I got married with a little bit of wedding debt but we paid it off quickly. Honestly being in debt strains a marriage. I am glad you went to school debt free.
She was always the most upbeat, nurturing n adventurous. Her virtues are almost unreal. Thankfully intelligence was also a primary/secondary attribute. I am always stunned by their lack of education but throughout history, autodidacts do quite well.