I am a 1/2 Ethiopian woman. My father who is from the Tigray tribe in Ethiopia married a black American woman. I will be honest, and am not trying to offend but will tell the truth. When i became of age to date, he told me to NEVER date or marry a black American man. At that time, our city was in the height of gang activity, and he had this idea that black men were dangerous and lazy. I think the images he saw on TV also tainted his image of black men here. As I got a little older, his tune changed. He got the chance to get to know and befriend some very great black American men. One day he said to me, it didn't matter who I married, just make sure he has a good career, hard worker, ambitious, and can financially take care of his family. I did meet and fell in love with an African American man. We have children and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary recently.
It seems that racism is mostly propaganda that’s why non violent anti racism movements were sometimes effective cause it caused propaganda to fall apart
The whole East Africa is very protective of their daughters which is a good thing. A man’s honor is how he raises his daughter to become a respectable woman.
@@db6881 Yes, exactly. The single mother rate is increasing among white, Hispanic and Asian women with biracial black babies. Meanwhile, more and more black women are dating and marrying out. And China in Africa marrying up the African women
Am a somali Ethiopian muslim girl born and live in kenya, the thing people dont understand is dating is forbidden in my community even though pple do tht these days, a man who respects you will cm to ur father.
I have a ton of Ethiopian friends I am African American they are closed off to all different cultures it's not just Africans or African Americans they just want to keep their culture but they have no problem been friends with us they love sharing their culture. Nothing wrong with them wanting to keep their culture together.
@@secularjihadi thank you I just don't like when people misunderstand what they are really like they love everybody they are truly some of the nicest people you'll ever meet. Never heard them talk down on anyone or race.
Folks think if you don't approach life as an american then your wrong. America is where cultures die, people came here as Italian, Irish , French but now they are just an american. No problem with people trying to preserve who they are and what makes them unique
What I've come to understand in my life being a "black American" that no one in the world respects us. That's why it's important to work on ourselves and improve our community. No need to care about other cultures at all.
if you came to that conclusion, then others may have come to the same outcome, it is a self fulfilling prophecy, it binds you into despair. The reality is the Almighty thought of you when there was no possible way for you to think yourself up into existence. Imagine trying to not care for yourself, but there's no possible way for that to ever happen, that's your source of energy to fight for love that God Graced you into this World.
It's more cultural preservation. Most people have a way of life that they try to keep. Marriage practices. How they raise their kids. Unfortunately these things have not been portrayed well in media when it comes to African Americans. Alot needs to be improved on if the unity of black people must be strengthened.
This is what happens to us when we don't control our own narratives. Other cultures of the world view us the way America sees us. The way we are depicted in film, music, news reports, and all over media is how other groups of people in the world develop their ideas about Black people in America. You rarely see the best of us in a bright light
Grand Inquizitor I agree with that for so long the black American community has not controlled our narrative. Now with all the different social media outlets We can begin to change that but the biggest thing For FBA is to work on Improving ourselves and our communities.
@@dukewilliam3660so what was the excuse in 50’s and 60’s during the civil rights movement? Why do people think that others need a reason to hate us or feel superior to us when this superiority complex has been going on for CENTURIES.
It will get worse now you have now you have those PASSPORT BROS, who sound like a gang affiliated group who are going around spreading ANTI BLACK WOMEN HATE.
If you're someone who calls out black men (or black women) for dating outside the race, how can you call out Ethiopians for NOT wanting to date non-Ethiopians? Isn't the thought process the same?
Na. It's about the look. I'm an African American but I look *Extremely* Ethiopian. Even after I tell them that I'm African American, Ethiopian women still shoot their shot. I've even had an Ethiopian women offer me her niece and she knew full and well that I wasn't Habesha(She was bad too). They also always tell me when I tell them I'm not Habesha, that all black people come from African. It's an ethnic thing not a racial thing because they definitely aren't denying that they are black.
Ethiopian is not a race, it is a nationality. Within that country their are several ethnicities and religions. No comparison with Black Americans viewpoint about race and marrying the descendants of those that raped us (men, women, and children) repeatedly, fed us to animals, hung us from trees, terrorized us, sabotaged us, stole from us, burned us alive, imprisoned us, introduced abominations to us, experimented on every part of our body's (internally and externally), and tries vehemently to erase all history of their despicable behavior. No reparations, no admission, no appropriate apology and legalities. Are you confused still?
This is normal outside the west Arabs aren't allowed to marry Kurds, Indians aren't allowed to marry Pakistanis, East Africans are not allowed to marry west Africans, north Africans are not allowed to marry East Africans, Persians not allowed to marry non Persians and Muslims not allowed to marry non Muslims etc
False. Some traditional Iranians actually allows their kids to marry Machrek Arabs for as long as they are not dark sk*nned, as well as Europeans. East Africans means nothing. Specify the nation or ethnic group.
Great Content. It comes off as stating the facts (unbiased). Which is why i take time to listen. But it's funny how BM expect all these concessions from other nations of women, but you don't have them for your own. These other nations are not stupid; they understand the assignment and they know your reputation first hand. Thank you for allowing all comments.
You should try to use an image more befitting for you. You are not royalty. You are not a queen. You have no royal subjects to rule over. And you have no knowledge of your own experience except to be in opposition to black men. Sheer Masandry
At least she acknowledged that Black Americans struggle made it possible for Africans and other non white groups to come into America. It’s far better than a lot of the ignorant mess I see and hear.
@@Bob-Star the discrimination was early, having to bribe politicians in America to allow people to escape when the concentration camps were becoming a reality.
@@Bob-Star Jew-ish people also play both sides like the everybody does with black people. Jewish people funded the civil rights movement helping M.L.K Jr. They even created the n.a.a.c.p. And certain immigration laws should exist especially if other countries got their own form of them.
@Bob Great comment on the history of the US and other new world colonies and white settlements (Argentina and Brazil comes in mind) Could you refer me to some history books or sources discussing these topics?
I'm part Ethiopian....I found out from my mother right before she passed. I had a terrible experience dating a Ethiopian woman reared in America....trust me, looks should be the last thing you look for or you overlook crazy
My wife is Ethiopian, and she used to be really anxious about her family discovering our relationship. However, when I finally met her parents, I was pleasantly surprised. Her dad had a private conversation with me, emphasizing the importance of her completing her education (as well as myself in college), treating her well, and ultimately getting married without any fooling around 😂. Initially, they had reservations about me, particularly her older sister, who took some time to warm up to me. However, over the years, we've all become one big family. I was raised with the belief that "black is black," so when my wife and I started dating, she warned me that her family might not immediately accept me because I'm a Black American. I quickly realized that their reservations were more related to cultural differences than race.
My mom is Ethiopian my family was fine with marrying my African American dad but now she doesn’t want me to date black women she wants me to date Ethiopian girls only
Her wanting you to date ethiopian women isnt right. Shes subconciously telling you she has regrets about your dad. And how dare her pushed that on another habesha familys daughter.
@@Wano_9Ethiopian women are some of the biggest hypocrites. An Ethiopian girl once told me that I should date Ethiopians, being Ethiopian myself, yet she herself dated and hooked w every kinda dude under the sun. I've learned to steer clear from those. It would be a miserable to be w someone like that.
A mix of American media and some bad encounters with black men had tainted the image of all black men. I’m Nigerian American so I know both experiences. My pastor gave me the best advice to counter all of this. “Work on yourself and continue to be better each year, then you won’t have to chase. You will be chased.”
Its African American culture, it crazy even the music. And in UA-cam you AA men disrespect your women and uplift other group of women like white women its embarrassing.
Aren't Americanatired of being racist by now it must be tiring like I'm tired honestly like fucking move on bro life isn't about race 😂😂😂😂😂 why do the do them dirty like tha on the media and stereotype them ...
@@somaliagainstpanafricanism4865 most Somalis wish to be Arabs let's be honest, from their Alphabets, culture, dress, religion, it's all Arab, Arab Arab but the Arab don't include you guys unfortunately.
It's also because we have no cultural understanding of ourselves outside of an American perspective. Having some understanding of God and church is one thing... But, The asking of a wife from the father and courting is something that most black Americans either never knew or were never taught because of how broken the community is.
Ethiopians as most Africans have a strong culture. Being black is not enough reasons to marry outside of your country, culture or tribe especially if you as an African want to keep hold of your culture.
I look at this the same way I look at all dating out. Be with whoever rocks with you. If Ethiopians don't want you, bc you're an ABM, my advice would be to not spend ANY time/energy on trying to change that. Just go where you're wanted, or stay to yourself. Focus on yourself. Build yourself. Be extremely selective about whom you allow in your presence. Life is far too short to spend your precious time on anyone that devalues you. Much less those that make these decisions without even knowing you. That combo of condescension & ignorance is something I'm simply unwilling to attempt to overcome. That makes you the opps, in my book, and idfw the opps. 🤷🏾♂️
@LVE2103 got those Cushite/east African "eurocentric" facial features, got some BUFFNESS, and don't dress not walk/talk/act like the average stereotypical black fake thug/hood n-word wannabe😒... Most east African vvomen I meet usually are very attracted to me.💯💪🏾🧔🏾♂️
great comment. in addition to condescension and ignorance, i would add narcissistic. as far as i am concerned, all black men (and black women) in america should not even use european names to identify themselves or their offspring. this just reinforces the condescension of other groups because then they believe blacks just mimic others because we do not follow our own roots like everyone else does. we really should behave in a more tribal way. but sadly i think black america has just lost its way.
Her family is trying to protect her. Ethiopians are smart and successful. Many are engineers and doctors. Some Black American, to be honest, don’t have anything going on and the men run from their responsibilities. It’s not all of us but there many deadbeats out there.
Someone with some sense. Other cultures of women aren’t entitled to date American black men. Raise better women that are dateable in your community. As an African, we want men from our own culture as simple as that
Exactly, black American men are a liability, a risk. Just like black Caribbean men. In the UK they are the main ones creating single mothers, even out of young teen girls. Been doing it since the late 90s out here.
They’re ignorant ppl lol it’s simple. You can’t just judge a whole ppl just off of the bad apples lol. That’s like me judging them off of there bad apples in they’re community🤷🏾♂️
@@EM-tx3ly Black American men have too much hatred for their women, why would you want someone like that coming into your community. plus the fact that most shy away from responsibilities. They themselves have openly shown that to the world.
They are protecting their culture. Why would an ethnicity of people with values and traditions deal with an ethnicity of people with NO values and traditions? There is an entire value system associated with ‘race’. Americans so ignorant to think ‘oh im brown and they’re brown, we must be meant for each other’. Completely superficial. Other nations inquire into one’s religious beliefs, family beliefs, heck, Indian families have pre-rearranged marriages and the entire family, aunties included, have some sort of input into the compatibility between the individuals as well as the compatibility between the families involved.
This would hold true, but it’s not realistic in America. They don’t have enough numbers, and they will only be known as African American in a few generations.
It's missing the main point. It's not about race. It's about tribe and clan groups. As a somali, we tend not to marry outside our own clans, even if it excludes other Somali's from the south. And we definitely don't marry West or South Africans.
What's WRONG with preserving your race? There's two topics going on here: Preserving race and #2. Lack of RESPECT. It's the lack of respect that troubles this young beauty. 🙏
@@missethio7394 ...ohh not you responding to me you are all over social media and a ignorant ass woman at that!!! You out of all don't respond to me!!! Get spiritual healing!! 👋
The fear of A. American men within their culture really took of in the late 80's... those old enough to remember- know this story. An Ethiopian sista attending Howard University ,was dating an A.American brotha ( a non student) , she later broke up with him -( weeks later he red rummed her ,her brotha and another person in the dorm). Most Wanted TV show on Fox Network ,actually did a profile feature on this.But from that day ,the word spread from the US ,Europe ,and back in Ethiopia ...( do not deal with A.Americans). Facts!
Exactly. I went to college in DC early 90’s. That story blocked almost all chances of getting with Ethiopian & Eritrean women. A few that were down were ran through
Yep, it's the same old story. Same thing happened at a lot of southern colleges and universities (including the one attended). After a few black ball players were accused of epar, it was like segregation 2.0 in a lot of places. Everywhere we go, we black men carry the stigma of poverty, lack of impulse control, and sexual recklessness. You could go to Japan and ask a native to describe a black man, and you'll either have them describe an athlete, a rapper, or a caricature similar to Jody from "Baby Boy." I had a Hispanic coworker once tell me she would never date black guys b/c with the exception of a few rappers and athletes, "brothas are always broke." Dr. Claude Anderson TRIED to clue us in and too many of us refused to listen. When everyone else in the world collectively has power, wealth and influence and you collectively have none, nobody's gonna care about the one or two millionaires and billionaires you have in your ranks. These other countries don't care that we have Oprah, Jay Z, Michael Jordan, etc., nor should they, b/c the remaining 85% of the African American population is still struggling. My dad always told me, no matter what flavor of woman you're dealing with, if you're gonna have the audacity to walk up in a man's home and ask for his daughter's hand, you' BETTER come with some assurances that she's gonna be well provided for. Too many brothas come from broken homes and they seek out mates from broken homes...homes where nobody's gonna demand that he prove his worth. Broken homes where all he has to do is act hyper-masculine and hip and throw down some smooth talk to get a mate. Then these guys go around thinking nobody else is gonna demand anything of him except a big eggplant and swag. But that's when the wakeup call kicks in. Once these young men step outside of that broken culture they grew up around, they're gonna see cultures that are run by men who OWN THINGS. Those lovely, bubbly, sweet, well-spoken, attractive young ladies he's salivating over are a product of cultures that ACTUALLY WORK. It's only natural that people from functioning cultures would be highly skeptical of people who drag in like refugees from a war-torn country and wash up onto their front porch talking about, "hey, can I holla at your girl."
I told that to my daughter's numerous times and we tell to every Ethiopians young women's too not to ever date Black Americans! A lots Ethiopians women's have been killed by AA and a lot of them have be came also baby mama....
@@316JOHNLTprobably should look at who their choosing. Most of us don’t have children and what are the percentages when it comes to us killing Ethiopian women because you said a lot. The media really does a number on you all
Why do people have a problem with Ethiopian and East Indian tradition of continuing their nation? I see it no different from maintaining the stories, recipes and values you pass on to your next generation. They’re building and maintaining their culture, good building and maintain yours.
I am from east Africa and i never considered to marry outside my race and my kids will never marry outside their race. Black Americans should be proud of themselves and marry their own rather than hating themselves and their own and marry outside. Imagine, being mad because some people want to persevere their bloodline and culture. Not everyone hate their race or their woman. I bond I have with wife because we are from same race is amazing because we should this unspoken culture and love that no other woman from different race will ever give me.
I don't get it either. A lot of black people over looks that many other race want your seed for nefarious reasons. i would rather perverse my race and if we don't care who the fk else will. You shouldn't be so generous with your DNA anyway. And why are BM so interested in what other women think about then when they refuse to put that same level of energy into their own race of women within their country.
I’m gonna bring up a different point but does anyone ever consider the reason as to why Black American men even like Ethiopian women (and just horn African women in general) so much in the first place? Cause I think their attraction to these women is really rooted in colorism, featurism,texturism, and probably a sprinkle of self hate too🤷🏾♀️
@mikelary6071 ... It sure is when we are beautiful, all states, especially in Oklahoma, Texas! I don't even think these men are true black americans!!!
Na fr bc when they mix with us theyre offspring never look ethiopian so what do they think of theyre own offspring then? Less than? Its nothing but self hate.@@Tashaten
nah fr bc when they get with us the offspring never looks ethiopian, so what does that say about their own offspring?less than? its self hate.@@Tashaten
In Africa, a woman doesn’t move out the house until they’re married. In the USA, it isn’t uncommon for a woman, to be out the house at 18. That’s just one tiny example of how we are worlds apart.
There is a misunderstanding. I know Ethiopian women who are married to accomplished African American men with doctoral degrees. What I mean is that there are highly successful African American men, and Ethiopian women are with them. It's not about race or culture, but about financial stability.
Image is everything. And everytime we have an opportunity to control platforms that carry messages WE create, we always sell out to interests outside our community. Look at how BET changed after Bob Johnson sold it. Look at our music changed when local radio stations that were Black owned began being gobbled by Clear Channel. Independent record labels started to change the music for the worse. Everytime we begin to have a foothold on something, someone gets the bright idea to "cash out". And we wonder why other communities look at us crazy. We don't control our images and when we do, we rush to sell it to the highest bidder.
Who you make single mothers and Tonya TKO just gave the latest stats of you offing those beautiful women one every 5 hours. Yup, you really love them. If that's black American man love I want no parts of it.
Coming from both cultures ( American &Ethiopian ) i can say this . Ethiopians are not racists, but they have strong Religion and culture . sometimes Americans culture becomes shocking to most of them. The one who were married against the family will are the one are single or cheated on. They always used as an example what NOT to do. Unfortunately, I see this happens a lot.
My wife is Dominican. We are both Christian, so we are taught that our identities are in God. However, there still was a cultural aspect and somethings that I had to demonstrate. But because, I grew up and was raised by strong, godly Black American men, my wife, her family and friends don’t buy the stereotype.
They want to preserve their culture and heritage. I find it interesting that black Americans want to preserve their own culture by marrying their own, but when Horn Africans want to do the same it’s a problem. SMH! You asked the question “why date outside your culture?” Yeah, why do I see a lot of black men on here wanting to date outside their own race? What’s wrong with your own women? I know many prefer black women over other women, but you have others constantly chasing Latinas, whites, and Asians. It’s not a good look.
Great video Oshay and sadly very accurate! The woman actually said she’s Eritrean and spoke Tigrinya when she said “haferalana,” which means, we should be embarrassed. Tigrinya is the main language spoken in Eritrea.
I really don’t take offense to not wanting to date/marry outside your race. The problem comes when you are fetishized and then ignored in public. That’s that bs. But to be honest, I want my daughters to marry black. Don’t really care the ethnicity, just black
I am from West Africa, Liberia. Black women from outside of or black from outside of America believe that slavery destroyed the internal fabric of black men in America. It's believe that lot of black men are in prison in America and lot of black men are on drugs.And it's also believe that black Americans do not shoulder responsibility of their families. As a result, these stereotypes make it difficult for black women from other countries to date African American men
Yes, these are unfortunate stereotypes about African American men. Thank you for explaining this. It's just like how Africa is portrayed here in the USA. We as African Americans are fed negative things about Africa because the powers that be want us to be afraid of Africa. That's because they know that if our desire to learn more about Africa, and to visit Africa increases, we will become more united as black people, which will make us stronger. This is what certain powers in society fear. By the way, I've met a number of Liberian people in my lifetime, and I must say, given the history that Liberians have with African Americans, y'all tend to understand African Americans better than some other Africans. I could say this about other Africans too, but about Liberians for sure. So thank you for this! ❤️🤍💙🇱🇷
I kinda arrived a little too late to this 1 year old conversation, but wanted to add my perspective to your closing question, "Why are there so many folks that feel this way about us?" Please everyone, don't come at me for this, I'm just sharing what I have observed as an Ethiopian woman to be the main reason or concern of parents for why they won't approve for their daughters to be dating an African American men. As you mentioned, the reputation is the main reason. Marriage is something sacred in our culture. No matter what you go through as married couple, you stay and work it out. Ethiopian parents talk about so many single mothers in the African American community and they don't want that for their daughters. In other words, African American men have bad reputation as far as Ethiopian parents are concerned. We're told not to be with them because they don't take care of their family, they leave. Another one we're told is, they are not loyal. They're always cheating on their women, their women are always fighting with other women, like why are you looking at my man, why are you calling my man, etc. For your name to be attached to any drama like this is a disgrace in our culture. You're basically considered a scoundrel. These two I've been told. Not loyal. Not family oriented. I don't believe all black men are like this, but still enough to taint the reputation.
on top of everything you said, more often than not a lot of these AA men just run after habesha women for superficial reasons. many of them see us as just a sexual fetish bc of our features. what habesha parents would want to see their daughter sexualized, abused and left a baby mama? that community has a 70% rate of out of wedlock births. those men don’t even marry aa women they just impregnate them and leave them baby mama’s. and it’s not uncommon for the men to have multiple baby mothers. all of this is so taboo for ethiopians/eritreans. so i completely understand where our parents and elders are coming from. and are they wrong? majority of the time they aren’t.
The same with Nigerian, irrespective of tribes. I don't get offended when whites, asians, Hispanics, black Americans, etc state that they do not want to date Nigerians.
I have dated several Ethiopian and Somali women. They do look down on us culturally. On some levels I can understand because of the images we put out and the dysfunction we propogate.
@@schemar17 she said they smell like musk and hyena meat and she said black Americans hip hop dance when they walk. That was the corniest ish I ever heard. Honestly I feel if any foreigners come to America or the Canada the foreigners need to respect black people because they paved the way for a lot of immigrants to go there. When I was working in a warehouse I worked around black folks from Latin America and africa and they talked down on black Americans and when I reported it to HR they didn’t do anything.
@@icecreambeats101 it's crazy blacks from poor counties look down on black Americans the stereotype that black Americans aren't good people must be global
Ethiopians take their heritage very seriously. I grew up in DC where there’s tons of them in DC and Northern Va. I have both male and female Ethiopian friends. I think it’s gotten better now, but i remember In High school the ethop girls could not date brothas that were not Ethiopian, let alone marry one. I dated one from Toronto years ago after college, she was so bad, but she kept It real with me. She said I like you and we can have fun but I don’t think we can ever be serious because my family won’t let me marry outside men.
@@Thegreatest342 The "black" culture really don't existits outside of the Americas. I don't mean that they dont view themself as black in color. But that they have other characetristics to judge whether or not you are Part of their "Race" "culture" Same "people" etc. The Rwandan Genocide is a sad Prime example for racism among the Same "Race".
@@kalterverwalter4516 you're right . It's sad the rwandan genocide happened But it was becuase of jealous negriod who tried to destroy tutsis becuase of their success.
They stick to their own nationality even when they immigrate to other countries. Don’t waste a micro second on someone whom will not be interested in you
It’s not about race it’s about culture. African American culture carry a unstable stigma of disfunction. I have many African friends who tell me their impression and what their parents tell them and that’s what is being said about African Americans.
I'm American and I agree with this Ethiopian woman ... I actually agree with women dating and marrying in their culture, however us Black American women don't have that option who want's to marry a man that wants to go 50/50, a man who has anger issues, men who come from single parent households. They don't care of us in America so foreign ladies be aware of these men.
If you're a black american woman, I'd advise you to seek african men as alternative to start families with. There are many that are open to welcoming you into their culture, if you are willing to be a traditional woman though. They're not perfect but much more grounded and focused.
As a black american woman, can't say that for all of our men!!! But somewhere along the way our culture has been broken up and lost, we used to have culture men were real and all above!!! It's slowly trying to get back there's still real ones out there❤
NOTICE: "Ethiopian"🇪🇹 IS NOT a "race"; its a Nationality ! ! !🤦🏾♂️ Race, Ethnicity, Nationality, Language & Culture, is NOT THE SAME THING ! ! ! Overall, we as so-called African-Americans must understand the concept of improving our image; our biggest export, is Hip-Hop Culture, & that's NOT A COMPLIMENT !😖😵
@@christopherduffy1703 AA are viewed as thugs and dangerous because of the hip hop culture. Even though they like the music, back in the 90s for example with popular rappers like tupac n biggie dying...the hip hop beefs, the image the rappers portrayed. That's all people saw outside. Completely different with rock culture, not only is it not a popular music choice to begin with...they don't glorify beefs and thuggish behavior... hip hop is great but let's not act like gangsta rap hasn't stained the culture
@@rayburr80 You are hated because of the culture of baby mamas, drugs, low education, ratchetness, the way you speak, lack of wanting to be a provider etc.... Stop playing the victim
I live in Hawai'i. A lot of the black women that are born here never met their fathers. Their mothers had situationships with these black men be it drug related or some other kind of encounter and in most cases, when the local girl gets pregnant.. he leaves. With millenials, it's expected. But generation x and prior generations, it was a really bad look for us.
This happens in America, because they have no intention of remaining in America once their financial goals have been met, and they return to their real homes. It's not special or abnormal, most of the people in countries that I knew that moved from Turkey, Africa, and other Middle East, they are friendly but don't mix when it comes to marriage, especially if they had no foreign interaction prior to the move. It's not offensive, it's a choice for some, and so it doesn't apply to all. Not a big deal, and you shouldn't be bothered by what's not such a big deal
There is a somali tiktoker married with a congolese guy and they have a beautiful daughter. The insults of the men of her community in the comments is wild
@@Jamaljj that’s not true, there are more Somali men than women, Somali women are highly sought after by Somali men and international men, their bride price is high, Somali men discriminate other cultures and even other clans ( qabil). Somali parents are very strict with the girls.
Yes, Somalis as a general rule look down on other black Africans especially those with African features and type 4vhair. They call them slaves, monkeys, In fact Somalis don't really see themselves as African, they are more affiliated with the Arabs and they boast in the fact that they were the Arab's agents procuring African slaves to send to the Arab peninsula
Most parents want the best for their children, this is universal. All parents feel better about what they are familiar with. This creates less stress for them, and they want the path of least resistance. Some cultures are more flexible in this area when it comes to choosing mates. Foundational Americans are raised in an environment of seeking more choices than some other cultures. But in the end, no one wants to be where they are not appreciated and respected. Families in all cultures have their expectations and desires. Just because someone is from the same cultural group does not mean that they are automatically desirable.
I’ve dated two Ethiopian women in my time while living in the Seattle area, didn’t seem to be an issue with their family too much. Amazing women. Intelligent, feminine, respectful, ambitious. I’m Black American btw. It is what it is. I date who dates me. To each his own. Useless spending time with these matters IMO. Life is too short.
Really? My lady is Ethiopian. I go to Addis twice a year, and l have land, home there. Her family loves me and I love them. I even learned the language. No problems on my end.
@@tplftigray8780 Really? HA! My connections say otherwise. Money speaks many languages and having residency, and a new identity works wonders. You don't know?
Tbh who cares if a group of women from another don’t want to date us or forced not too. Why should we lose sleep over that? Date and Marry who will love and appreciate you. Simple
Right! These men sound ridiculous begging other groups of women to find them desirable. It’s very aggressive and unattractive. It’s not the media, it’s the constant entitlement. All parts of Africans don’t marry each other. I’m nigerian and we can’t marry other tribes in Nigeria, nobody is sitting online whining about it tho 🙄
@@meganakinsanya4702 yea exactly it’s very weak imo. Yea too much shit going on out here to be worried about. No reason to be stress Ethiopian woman don’t like u. Plenty of beautiful women out here.
@@jermainenowels9511 y’all focus shouldn’t be on women 24/7, it’s given very sexual depraved and undisciplined. Africans or other cultures don’t find sexual deviant males attractive. Women want to see growth and development in men, not men constantly talking about how they can smash beautiful women. That’s the problem with some BM, you don’t value these women’s cultures and beliefs just oversexualizing them for your satisfaction like sex depraved animals that haven’t been with women before. It’s a turn off ! You oversexualized your women in America calling them “bitches” and showing them in videos naked. And other cultures don’t want that.
@@jermainenowels9511 these men say they can’t find a good American women yet all I see is this men bragging online how they have smashed different ethnicities without actually marrying any of these women who are “submissive and friendly”. But then wonder African families don’t want women marrying AA men, most of y’all aren’t marriage minded, and feel entitled to other black women.
I'm a Descendant of American Slavery black man, and I'm married to an Ethiopian woman. And I'm not the only one in my city who's married to one. There's about a half dozen that I've met. Yes, it's true that Africans in general look down on the more ratchet among us. And yes it's true that northern Ethiopians (the Habesha) do so even more. However; if you're an educated black American with something going for your self then you're going to be treated better. They value religion, culture, education, tradition...etc. And yes they have a super strong social pressure to conform. They really do care about what other Ethiopians think when it comes to their public life. If an Ethiopian woman really likes you she will try and help you navigate her culture. She will tell you what not to do, and what not to say. The Japanese are similar, and I know black American men married to Japanese women, and they have to deal with a similar social norm. But yes, many Ethiopian women do like us, but they're connected to their religion, their family, culture, and traditions, and they will always value that! And so if you don't love and appreciate their culture, and religion then it's not going to work. Also it's good to try and learn her language. It will go far with her, and her family.
You're absolutely right I live in DC, big Ethiopian community here, I never really had a problem dating some of them, but being from Africa myself I understand that your parents, and family would rather have you dating or marrying someone from your own tribe.
Another kneegrow that thinks he’s different 🤦🏾♀️ so sorry, I ain’t marrying nobody who look down on my ppl and try to pretend I’m the different ninja. That’s the saddest way to be. Married to my own
@@aquagal8645, it makes no difference to me if you doubt that I'm married to an Ethiopian woman. Your doubts or confirmation doesn't change the reality of the situation. Also I'm not the only black American man in my area who is married to an Ethiopian woman. There's several of us over here.
@@rickydawson9757 rampant female genitalia mutilation, the recent African who went on a murder spree against AA’s here. Rampant civil war and over 100 schoolgirls went missing and they flat out gave up on em. They need to fix their own shit
Tplf and Ethiopian government signed a peace treaty so let’s see what happens afterwards. Thank god it only lasted for two years while 🇸🇴 has been going through conflict for 30 plus years.
I can almost ear the trumpets announcing the apocalypse brace yourselves because the end is near. Wish them all the best and go live your life free from attachments.
The Dominican woman mentioned she had a black daughter, but not a black husband. Her parents might have been trying to prevent that for her. Single motherhood is more culturally acceptable in the black American community than it is anywhere else.
That is true, but why are black men so bothered when 🤔 they aren't what someone wants. An Ethiopian man said and I agree go where u are wanted, we don't hate black Americans but we love our women and don't see the need to go outside our culture chasing and looking for acceptance.
This right here is why we need to quit embarrassing ourselves, arguing about gender, negativity and ideals online everywhere. We are literally generalized based on negative aspects, never by the positive, and we are the o lot group of people who are generalized off o lot negative aspects
I categorically disagree with Oshay’s last statement about Black men should try to change other cultures perception of us… we are not inferior or substandard… it’s not my job to combat ignorance… I am an honorable man with high morals and values… I refuse to be compared to the lowest common denominators in my community
Because of the difficulty involved with immigrating to America, many times the Africans that get through are of an elite socioeconomic class that wouldn't entertain other Africans that don't share their class status. Oshay spoke of an African American Psychiatrist, he got access because he was at a compatible socioeconomic level. When you visit the country you encounter many more of the average people that the elite of their country came to America to escape. The net net of it is that America makes the process harder.
@Mr 28 Bro. It's sad. A lot of these habesha chicks end up single mothers when dealing with these dudes. We should have no remorse for the ones that leave the community. We need to tighten up and not let them back in. I also noticed the mental gymnasts these dudes go through to justify why they want to date in our community. "We all black" then date your own and clean up your own community first.
@@objectivehater4997 Man... the things I can tell you about Habeshas in Toronto. They're a trashy bunch. It's just weird how the men in our culture aren't affected the same way the women are.
I was talking to an Ethio girl in my early 20s…and she basically told me the same thing….we lost touch and she married a guy from her village…I know they have kids together but I don’t actually think they are together…never want someone who doesn’t want you. If I had known from jump I wouldn’t have entertained her….even though she pretty much persued me initially.
most likely she came from a family who live in the countryside of Ethiopia I was born in the capital of Ethiopia there is no problem with marrying outside of culture and it's all about statue ppl back home believe black American men don't take care of their women that is why.
You know exactly why they think this way. Look at your videos displaying black women with babies from many different men. People lying/cheating/ making bad choices. People like you help keep the narrative alive. This is why these women’s families have opinions like these. We spend so much time talking about all the derelicts and not enough time celebrating those that are successful, work hard, are doing good things in their life, raising their kids properly, etc. Look at the stats they aren’t in our favour, IJS😢
Met an Ethiopian want to years ago she tried to question my blackness in my integrity as a black man I had to check her she’s very rude come to find out she was dating a White Guy 😅! After that there was no more conversation but most of the African women I’ve come across I’ve been very pleasant and respectful
Even within ethiopia there differences you rarely will see Amharic marry oromo and vice versa, so i advise black african Americans to not take offence of people preferences rather respect them for choosing to preserve their ethnic language and culture + religion and so on .
Something I learned many, many, many years ago… the people you help will tear you down the fastest. The friends and family I helped the most talked behind my back and swear they had to help me. Help no one. It’s like they subconsciously hate you for helping. Side note the more we go into the future of internet and hear black folks say and do the exact same thing I was told white racist say and do, I’m started to be convinced race isn’t a issue at this point. It’s starting to look we did these things and white society just made money off how we act. You’d think we’d be the most stick together race after hearing history. I’m a firm believer of what a people do today is a peak into what they always done in the past
The most costliest form of debt is gratitude. In terms of white people, white people exploit meth/opioid addicts, especially their families, they'll have them sell their kids, especially those in the judiciary and law enforcement, many of these people run the meth market.
Why do AA black men do not get every race but then gatekeeper their race,culture tribe but them.Most of those on the continent do this,they are not running around to other countries trying to bag non black women,calling themselves passports bros.These folks have news outlets too,CNN too,relatives in the states also telling them about what black men do to each other,black women,having children and nit caring for them and doing nothing to fix they’re community.A lot of black men are not doing all this but because the ones who are nit getting check all are blamed for what others see time the news come on ,see only the ones whom travel acting up in other countries toward the women.
There's nothing wrong with them wanting to keep It in their culture Africa is full of tribalism a lot of cultures there don't mess with us just understand that if you happen meet someone that likes you There's a whole culture that may not agree just be the best version of yourself represent yourself and our culture with greatness know your history all of it and walk proudly.
I am a 1/2 Ethiopian woman. My father who is from the Tigray tribe in Ethiopia married a black American woman. I will be honest, and am not trying to offend but will tell the truth. When i became of age to date, he told me to NEVER date or marry a black American man. At that time, our city was in the height of gang activity, and he had this idea that black men were dangerous and lazy. I think the images he saw on TV also tainted his image of black men here. As I got a little older, his tune changed. He got the chance to get to know and befriend some very great black American men. One day he said to me, it didn't matter who I married, just make sure he has a good career, hard worker, ambitious, and can financially take care of his family. I did meet and fell in love with an African American man. We have children and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary recently.
Congrats!
are you from seattle?
It seems that racism is mostly propaganda that’s why non violent anti racism movements were sometimes effective cause it caused propaganda to fall apart
That's a great testimony. Thanks for sharing what we are aware has been said to Ethiopians by their parents.
@@cardesignerchris Thank you!
The whole East Africa is very protective of their daughters which is a good thing. A man’s honor is how he raises his daughter to become a respectable woman.
So are South Africans. Black Americnas are the only ones who do not protect their daughters. The mindset of you guys is troubling.
That's the point
They don't raise baby mamas
@E M Exactly so it's a no go for black American men. The most famous single mother creators on the planet.
@@db6881 Yes, exactly. The single mother rate is increasing among white, Hispanic and Asian women with biracial black babies. Meanwhile, more and more black women are dating and marrying out. And China in Africa marrying up the African women
Very true I have 7
Am a somali Ethiopian muslim girl born and live in kenya, the thing people dont understand is dating is forbidden in my community even though pple do tht these days, a man who respects you will cm to ur father.
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But how will he know if you are a good wife? 😅
We don't want baby mama culture @@ericpowell4350
@@ericpowell4350if she already a virgin raise in a 2 parent 🏡 it’s already 80% of the battle 🤷♂️
@@ericpowell4350Sex before marriage is not allowed it's called Adultery
I have a ton of Ethiopian friends I am African American they are closed off to all different cultures it's not just Africans or African Americans they just want to keep their culture but they have no problem been friends with us they love sharing their culture. Nothing wrong with them wanting to keep their culture together.
@@secularjihadi thank you I just don't like when people misunderstand what they are really like they love everybody they are truly some of the nicest people you'll ever meet. Never heard them talk down on anyone or race.
@@taylawless5740 Thank you.
Folks think if you don't approach life as an american then your wrong. America is where cultures die, people came here as Italian, Irish , French but now they are just an american. No problem with people trying to preserve who they are and what makes them unique
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Thanks for speaking the truth I appreciate it
What I've come to understand in my life being a "black American" that no one in the world respects us. That's why it's important to work on ourselves and improve our community. No need to care about other cultures at all.
I respect you. The media just focuses on the negatives. But every community every society every religion and every race have their bad apples.
if you came to that conclusion, then others may have come to the same outcome, it is a self fulfilling prophecy, it binds you into despair. The reality is the Almighty thought of you when there was no possible way for you to think yourself up into existence. Imagine trying to not care for yourself, but there's no possible way for that to ever happen, that's your source of energy to fight for love that God Graced you into this World.
@@chineduogboh4594 very valid statement
@@justus7181 very valid statement
Black American is the bottom of the racial caste system. Only solution is to reject the caste system and interact with the outsiders on our terms.
It's more cultural preservation. Most people have a way of life that they try to keep. Marriage practices. How they raise their kids. Unfortunately these things have not been portrayed well in media when it comes to African Americans. Alot needs to be improved on if the unity of black people must be strengthened.
Culture. It’s the most important thing to people. Humans are not just humans. Preserve your culture
Bingo! 💯
This is what happens to us when we don't control our own narratives. Other cultures of the world view us the way America sees us. The way we are depicted in film, music, news reports, and all over media is how other groups of people in the world develop their ideas about Black people in America.
You rarely see the best of us in a bright light
Grand Inquizitor I agree with that for so long the black American community has not controlled our narrative.
Now with all the different social media outlets We can begin to change that but the biggest thing For FBA is to work on Improving ourselves and our communities.
Great points
It's not just media. The state of society. Bm vs bw. Single parenthood, ratchetness.
@@dukewilliam3660so what was the excuse in 50’s and 60’s during the civil rights movement? Why do people think that others need a reason to hate us or feel superior to us when this superiority complex has been going on for CENTURIES.
It will get worse now you have now you have those PASSPORT BROS, who sound like a gang affiliated group who are going around spreading ANTI BLACK WOMEN HATE.
If you're someone who calls out black men (or black women) for dating outside the race, how can you call out Ethiopians for NOT wanting to date non-Ethiopians? Isn't the thought process the same?
that is what i am thinking.
Oshay the buffoon. He also hates africans despite being in africa. He's like moist watkins. Talks for the view.
That's true
Na. It's about the look. I'm an African American but I look *Extremely* Ethiopian. Even after I tell them that I'm African American, Ethiopian women still shoot their shot. I've even had an Ethiopian women offer me her niece and she knew full and well that I wasn't Habesha(She was bad too). They also always tell me when I tell them I'm not Habesha, that all black people come from African. It's an ethnic thing not a racial thing because they definitely aren't denying that they are black.
Ethiopian is not a race, it is a nationality. Within that country their are several ethnicities and religions. No comparison with Black Americans viewpoint about race and marrying the descendants of those that raped us (men, women, and children) repeatedly, fed us to animals, hung us from trees, terrorized us, sabotaged us, stole from us, burned us alive, imprisoned us, introduced abominations to us, experimented on every part of our body's (internally and externally), and tries vehemently to erase all history of their despicable behavior. No reparations, no admission, no appropriate apology and legalities. Are you confused still?
This is normal outside the west Arabs aren't allowed to marry Kurds, Indians aren't allowed to marry Pakistanis, East Africans are not allowed to marry west Africans, north Africans are not allowed to marry East Africans, Persians not allowed to marry non Persians and Muslims not allowed to marry non Muslims etc
Yup this isn’t nothing new. Realistically it doesn’t even need to be spoken on 🥱
@princemarkanthony3190 you know shay love to instigate division! Then scream pan african.
Ok so even though she want to keep that same blood line going that's fine but that doesn't mean the guy she get with is gonna be faithful to her
False. Some traditional Iranians actually allows their kids to marry Machrek Arabs for as long as they are not dark sk*nned, as well as Europeans.
East Africans means nothing. Specify the nation or ethnic group.
@@ptolemeeselenion1542 what does machrek mean
Great Content. It comes off as stating the facts (unbiased). Which is why i take time to listen. But it's funny how BM expect all these concessions from other nations of women, but you don't have them for your own. These other nations are not stupid; they understand the assignment and they know your reputation first hand. Thank you for allowing all comments.
So true
You should try to use an image more befitting for you. You are not royalty. You are not a queen. You have no royal subjects to rule over. And you have no knowledge of your own experience except to be in opposition to black men. Sheer Masandry
At least she acknowledged that Black Americans struggle made it possible for Africans and other non white groups to come into America. It’s far better than a lot of the ignorant mess I see and hear.
I appreciate her honesty ... I learned the hard way that pretty much all women from all cultures are told from the age of six "No black men".
@@Bob-Star the discrimination was early, having to bribe politicians in America to allow people to escape when the concentration camps were becoming a reality.
We helped white Europeans too. Especially the ones who came on boats during the early 19th century
@@Bob-Star Jew-ish people also play both sides like the everybody does with black people. Jewish people funded the civil rights movement helping M.L.K Jr. They even created the n.a.a.c.p. And certain immigration laws should exist especially if other countries got their own form of them.
@Bob Great comment on the history of the US and other new world colonies and white settlements (Argentina and Brazil comes in mind)
Could you refer me to some history books or sources discussing these topics?
I'm part Ethiopian....I found out from my mother right before she passed. I had a terrible experience dating a Ethiopian woman reared in America....trust me, looks should be the last thing you look for or you overlook crazy
Hm.
I heard the same about nigerian women some are cool but too many of em are NOT loyal an cheat like CRAZY!!
@@ptolemeeselenion1542 high maintenance indeed
@@jayclearmen411 I know a few that cheat or have cheated on their husbands....Yoruba and Ebo
@@dmvnative6102 Your dad is Ethiopian?
Actually I commend her for staying loyal to her bloodline/culture/traditions. I salute you lady 💯🙌🏽
Her bloodline is mixed with Arabs... They have no problem with them...
SHE'S VERY PRETTY.
@@janecoe9407 More than pretty! She is STUNNING AFRILICIOUS ETHILICIOUS BEEAUTEEFUL!🤎😘❤️🤎
I know right.
@@janecoe9407 Yes, she is a natural beauty.
My wife is Ethiopian, and she used to be really anxious about her family discovering our relationship. However, when I finally met her parents, I was pleasantly surprised. Her dad had a private conversation with me, emphasizing the importance of her completing her education (as well as myself in college), treating her well, and ultimately getting married without any fooling around 😂. Initially, they had reservations about me, particularly her older sister, who took some time to warm up to me. However, over the years, we've all become one big family.
I was raised with the belief that "black is black," so when my wife and I started dating, she warned me that her family might not immediately accept me because I'm a Black American. I quickly realized that their reservations were more related to cultural differences than race.
My mom is Ethiopian my family was fine with marrying my African American dad but now she doesn’t want me to date black women she wants me to date Ethiopian girls only
@@Wano_9your mom is wise
@@Wano_9PLEASE HEED HER WORDS
Her wanting you to date ethiopian women isnt right. Shes subconciously telling you she has regrets about your dad. And how dare her pushed that on another habesha familys daughter.
@@Wano_9Ethiopian women are some of the biggest hypocrites. An Ethiopian girl once told me that I should date Ethiopians, being Ethiopian myself, yet she herself dated and hooked w every kinda dude under the sun. I've learned to steer clear from those. It would be a miserable to be w someone like that.
A mix of American media and some bad encounters with black men had tainted the image of all black men. I’m Nigerian American so I know both experiences.
My pastor gave me the best advice to counter all of this.
“Work on yourself and continue to be better each year, then you won’t have to chase. You will be chased.”
Great advice to live by Fam, do you.
The 🇺🇸 media portrays Nigerians as dishonest scammers, so it goes both ways.
Tru brother tell them.
Its African American culture, it crazy even the music.
And in UA-cam you AA men disrespect your women and uplift other group of women like white women its embarrassing.
Aren't Americanatired of being racist by now it must be tiring like I'm tired honestly like fucking move on bro life isn't about race 😂😂😂😂😂 why do the do them dirty like tha on the media and stereotype them ...
They want to preserve the bloodline & the culture Ithink that’s what the tradition is for
I like how Ethiopians have that in their culture....keep it Ethiopian 💯
Ethiopians have heavy Arab admixture.
@@somaliagainstpanafricanism4865 no they don’t, neither do Somalis. Stop lying 🙄🤦🏾♀️
@@somaliagainstpanafricanism4865 wrong
@@somaliagainstpanafricanism4865 most Somalis wish to be Arabs let's be honest, from their Alphabets, culture, dress, religion, it's all Arab, Arab Arab but the Arab don't include you guys unfortunately.
@@somaliagainstpanafricanism4865 ethiopians are not arabs.
It's also because we have no cultural understanding of ourselves outside of an American perspective. Having some understanding of God and church is one thing... But, The asking of a wife from the father and courting is something that most black Americans either never knew or were never taught because of how broken the community is.
Great point. Very true.
No cultural understanding? We literally ate the culture. Everyone copies us
Yes and that seems to be the problem, no understandings whatsoever.
Ethiopians as most Africans have a strong culture. Being black is not enough reasons to marry outside of your country, culture or tribe especially if you as an African want to keep hold of your culture.
Ethiopian women were raised to date in their race (Culture nonsense) Bigfacts 💯💯
Yup
I don't see anything wrong with that
Ethiopians want to keep their heritage and their women pure for marriage not single mother or baby mamas
I look at this the same way I look at all dating out. Be with whoever rocks with you. If Ethiopians don't want you, bc you're an ABM, my advice would be to not spend ANY time/energy on trying to change that. Just go where you're wanted, or stay to yourself. Focus on yourself. Build yourself. Be extremely selective about whom you allow in your presence. Life is far too short to spend your precious time on anyone that devalues you. Much less those that make these decisions without even knowing you. That combo of condescension & ignorance is something I'm simply unwilling to attempt to overcome. That makes you the opps, in my book, and idfw the opps. 🤷🏾♂️
Well said!!
@LVE2103 got those Cushite/east African "eurocentric" facial features, got some BUFFNESS, and don't dress not walk/talk/act like the average stereotypical black fake thug/hood n-word wannabe😒... Most east African vvomen I meet usually are very attracted to me.💯💪🏾🧔🏾♂️
I second that!!!
great comment. in addition to condescension and ignorance, i would add narcissistic. as far as i am concerned, all black men (and black women) in america should not even use european names to identify themselves or their offspring. this just reinforces the condescension of other groups because then they believe blacks just mimic others because we do not follow our own roots like everyone else does. we really should behave in a more tribal way. but sadly i think black america has just lost its way.
… but I don’t think a person is ignorant just because they don’t choose you as a preference
Her family is trying to protect her. Ethiopians are smart and successful. Many are engineers and doctors. Some Black American, to be honest, don’t have anything going on and the men run from their responsibilities. It’s not all of us but there many deadbeats out there.
Someone with some sense. Other cultures of women aren’t entitled to date American black men. Raise better women that are dateable in your community. As an African, we want men from our own culture as simple as that
Baby Mama culture as well as promiscuity and more importantly why not marry your own.....
This shows something
Exactly, black American men are a liability, a risk. Just like black Caribbean men. In the UK they are the main ones creating single mothers, even out of young teen girls. Been doing it since the late 90s out here.
They’re ignorant ppl lol it’s simple. You can’t just judge a whole ppl just off of the bad apples lol. That’s like me judging them off of there bad apples in they’re community🤷🏾♂️
@@EM-tx3ly Black American men have too much hatred for their women, why would you want someone like that coming into your community. plus the fact that most shy away from responsibilities. They themselves have openly shown that to the world.
They are protecting their culture. Why would an ethnicity of people with values and traditions deal with an ethnicity of people with NO values and traditions? There is an entire value system associated with ‘race’. Americans so ignorant to think ‘oh im brown and they’re brown, we must be meant for each other’. Completely superficial. Other nations inquire into one’s religious beliefs, family beliefs, heck, Indian families have pre-rearranged marriages and the entire family, aunties included, have some sort of input into the compatibility between the individuals as well as the compatibility between the families involved.
Wonderfully put.
Facts!!!
Exactly and what they’ve been doing has been working.
This would hold true, but it’s not realistic in America. They don’t have enough numbers, and they will only be known as African American in a few generations.
@@usman5140 They actually have their own communities in America, just like the Caribbeans.
It's missing the main point. It's not about race. It's about tribe and clan groups. As a somali, we tend not to marry outside our own clans, even if it excludes other Somali's from the south. And we definitely don't marry West or South Africans.
🤣🤣 usheegba walahi i am hawiye from south and i only want to mary hawiye girl. And this guy talking about race. When i have preference for my clan🤣🤣🤣🤣
Girl that it the biggest lie I ever heard. Somalis don’t have problem marrying within each other
Even in East Africa, there's division among subgroups. You constantly hear about how some are being oppressed by others.
Exactly . I was raised in Ethiopia in late childhood.... this is very true. I don't see why one wanting to marry in one's culture is a issue.
Exactly Somalis, Ethiopians and Eritreans don’t even inter marry. Let alone foreigners. Very homogenous ppl.
I'm Eritrean American. Date who respects you and your culture. No one is better than the other.
Nope thanks god to my Somalia 🇸🇴 woman they only married their Somalia 🇸🇴 stay pure🫡
why do we care about this
What's WRONG with preserving your race? There's two topics going on here: Preserving race and #2. Lack of RESPECT. It's the lack of respect that troubles this young beauty. 🙏
As Ethiopian I respect black men because we are are all the same we are all one Africa
As a black american woman!!! I agree!!! All looked at the same and it should be one love and respect for one another!!!
@@missethio7394 ...ohh not you responding to me you are all over social media and a ignorant ass woman at that!!! You out of all don't respond to me!!! Get spiritual healing!! 👋
No, we're not the same we have a different DNA make-up and culture to go with it.
@@Jafar.Jamal-175 🤣🤣🤣🤣
She's stunning. I appreciate her candor but I'd be done with anyone who treated me that way.
We dont want u losers stop creeping up on us
Seem silly to me.
Rather just stay away from these women.
The fear of A. American men within their culture really took of in the late 80's... those old enough to remember- know this story. An Ethiopian sista attending Howard University ,was dating an A.American brotha ( a non student) , she later broke up with him -( weeks later he red rummed her ,her brotha and another person in the dorm). Most Wanted TV show on Fox Network ,actually did a profile feature on this.But from that day ,the word spread from the US ,Europe ,and back in Ethiopia ...( do not deal with A.Americans). Facts!
Exactly. I went to college in DC early 90’s. That story blocked almost all chances of getting with Ethiopian & Eritrean women. A few that were down were ran through
Yep, it's the same old story. Same thing happened at a lot of southern colleges and universities (including the one attended). After a few black ball players were accused of epar, it was like segregation 2.0 in a lot of places.
Everywhere we go, we black men carry the stigma of poverty, lack of impulse control, and sexual recklessness. You could go to Japan and ask a native to describe a black man, and you'll either have them describe an athlete, a rapper, or a caricature similar to Jody from "Baby Boy." I had a Hispanic coworker once tell me she would never date black guys b/c with the exception of a few rappers and athletes, "brothas are always broke." Dr. Claude Anderson TRIED to clue us in and too many of us refused to listen. When everyone else in the world collectively has power, wealth and influence and you collectively have none, nobody's gonna care about the one or two millionaires and billionaires you have in your ranks. These other countries don't care that we have Oprah, Jay Z, Michael Jordan, etc., nor should they, b/c the remaining 85% of the African American population is still struggling.
My dad always told me, no matter what flavor of woman you're dealing with, if you're gonna have the audacity to walk up in a man's home and ask for his daughter's hand, you' BETTER come with some assurances that she's gonna be well provided for. Too many brothas come from broken homes and they seek out mates from broken homes...homes where nobody's gonna demand that he prove his worth. Broken homes where all he has to do is act hyper-masculine and hip and throw down some smooth talk to get a mate. Then these guys go around thinking nobody else is gonna demand anything of him except a big eggplant and swag. But that's when the wakeup call kicks in. Once these young men step outside of that broken culture they grew up around, they're gonna see cultures that are run by men who OWN THINGS. Those lovely, bubbly, sweet, well-spoken, attractive young ladies he's salivating over are a product of cultures that ACTUALLY WORK. It's only natural that people from functioning cultures would be highly skeptical of people who drag in like refugees from a war-torn country and wash up onto their front porch talking about, "hey, can I holla at your girl."
@@ShaolinShadowStroke you nailed it 💯
I told that to my daughter's numerous times and we tell to every Ethiopians young women's too not to ever date Black Americans! A lots Ethiopians women's have been killed by AA and a lot of them have be came also baby mama....
@@316JOHNLTprobably should look at who their choosing. Most of us don’t have children and what are the percentages when it comes to us killing Ethiopian women because you said a lot. The media really does a number on you all
It's a cultural thing. East African mostly stick to their own. No biggie
Why do people have a problem with Ethiopian and East Indian tradition of continuing their nation? I see it no different from maintaining the stories, recipes and values you pass on to your next generation. They’re building and maintaining their culture, good building and maintain yours.
I am from east Africa and i never considered to marry outside my race and my kids will never marry outside their race. Black Americans should be proud of themselves and marry their own rather than hating themselves and their own and marry outside. Imagine, being mad because some people want to persevere their bloodline and culture. Not everyone hate their race or their woman. I bond I have with wife because we are from same race is amazing because we should this unspoken culture and love that no other woman from different race will ever give me.
Sometimes I think black Americans are clueless. Everyone else trying to preserve their people but them.
Word.
@@365-g6vTHIS!👏🏾
I don't get it either. A lot of black people over looks that many other race want your seed for nefarious reasons. i would rather perverse my race and if we don't care who the fk else will.
You shouldn't be so generous with your DNA anyway.
And why are BM so interested in what other women think about then when they refuse to put that same level of energy into their own race of women within their country.
@@365-g6v I concur
I’m gonna bring up a different point but does anyone ever consider the reason as to why Black American men even like Ethiopian women (and just horn African women in general) so much in the first place? Cause I think their attraction to these women is really rooted in colorism, featurism,texturism, and probably a sprinkle of self hate too🤷🏾♀️
but they should be proud of their own. it really sad when they say ethiopians are most beautiful.
@mikelary6071 ... It sure is when we are beautiful, all states, especially in Oklahoma, Texas! I don't even think these men are true black americans!!!
Na fr bc when they mix with us theyre offspring never look ethiopian so what do they think of theyre own offspring then? Less than? Its nothing but self hate.@@Tashaten
True black american? I never met one who didnt think like that or a west african they dont like theyre own.lol.@@Tashaten
nah fr bc when they get with us the offspring never looks ethiopian, so what does that say about their own offspring?less than? its self hate.@@Tashaten
my homie is black American and is married to an Ethiopian. They been married for 15 years. Shes cool af too. She comes from a strong family.
An extreme rarity on multiple levels. Nothing to speak on either.
very rare occurance.
Almost everyone has something against us especially Africans
Stop it! Just clean up your jerked up filthy image and irresponsible culture.
In Africa, a woman doesn’t move out the house until they’re married. In the USA, it isn’t uncommon for a woman, to be out the house at 18. That’s just one tiny example of how we are worlds apart.
@Medgar Carr That's not true at all!
Southern Africans have nothing against you.
@@blaisekufuidi9808
Indeed. Just a post from another armchair traveler.
There is a misunderstanding. I know Ethiopian women who are married to accomplished African American men with doctoral degrees. What I mean is that there are highly successful African American men, and Ethiopian women are with them. It's not about race or culture, but about financial stability.
No passport bros applications accepted in Ethiopian lol 😂
Facts!!! I experienced the exact same thing with an Ethiopian woman everything she said was the truth.
Image is everything. And everytime we have an opportunity to control platforms that carry messages WE create, we always sell out to interests outside our community. Look at how BET changed after Bob Johnson sold it. Look at our music changed when local radio stations that were Black owned began being gobbled by Clear Channel. Independent record labels started to change the music for the worse. Everytime we begin to have a foothold on something, someone gets the bright idea to "cash out". And we wonder why other communities look at us crazy. We don't control our images and when we do, we rush to sell it to the highest bidder.
The disrespect is at an all time high.
They can feel how they want about black men. We have our own beautiful woman to choose from lol.
Thank god. Im ethiopian and i approve ur message bro.
Who you make single mothers and Tonya TKO just gave the latest stats of you offing those beautiful women one every 5 hours. Yup, you really love them. If that's black American man love I want no parts of it.
BW don't want y'all. If they did, there wouldn't be a whole divestment movement of BW literally escaping form ashyganistan.
@@ibabechanel black woman do want us lol worry about your own race sweetheart.
@@Mr-my8kx yes sir!
Yes, we black americans should preserve our race as well.
Good to hear that, leave us alone
If I’m not mistaken she indicated she’s Eritrean.
Coming from both cultures ( American &Ethiopian ) i can say this . Ethiopians are not racists, but they have strong Religion and culture . sometimes Americans culture becomes shocking to most of them. The one who were married against the family will are the one are single or cheated on. They always used as an example what NOT to do. Unfortunately, I see this happens a lot.
My wife is Dominican. We are both Christian, so we are taught that our identities are in God. However, there still was a cultural aspect and somethings that I had to demonstrate. But because, I grew up and was raised by strong, godly Black American men, my wife, her family and friends don’t buy the stereotype.
They want to preserve their culture and heritage.
I find it interesting that black Americans want to preserve their own culture by marrying their own, but when Horn Africans want to do the same it’s a problem. SMH!
You asked the question “why date outside your culture?” Yeah, why do I see a lot of black men on here wanting to date outside their own race? What’s wrong with your own women? I know many prefer black women over other women, but you have others constantly chasing Latinas, whites, and Asians. It’s not a good look.
Great video Oshay and sadly very accurate! The woman actually said she’s Eritrean and spoke Tigrinya when she said “haferalana,” which means, we should be embarrassed. Tigrinya is the main language spoken in Eritrea.
And tigray region in Ethiopia
what does that mean?
Hm. Eritrean.
I really don’t take offense to not wanting to date/marry outside your race. The problem comes when you are fetishized and then ignored in public. That’s that bs. But to be honest, I want my daughters to marry black. Don’t really care the ethnicity, just black
@Allahlovesme6065 Crickets. These clowns never disappoint. 🥱💤
Am from Ethiopia if i marry i will marry Ethiopian men or just black men.
i think some Ethiopian women don't care about their culture@@ልጅቷ
I am from West Africa, Liberia. Black women from outside of or black from outside of America believe that slavery destroyed the internal fabric of black men in America. It's believe that lot of black men are in prison in America and lot of black men are on drugs.And it's also believe that black Americans do not shoulder responsibility of their families. As a result, these stereotypes make it difficult for black women from other countries to date African American men
This makes sense...my father said the thing....
Yes, these are unfortunate stereotypes about African American men. Thank you for explaining this. It's just like how Africa is portrayed here in the USA. We as African Americans are fed negative things about Africa because the powers that be want us to be afraid of Africa. That's because they know that if our desire to learn more about Africa, and to visit Africa increases, we will become more united as black people, which will make us stronger. This is what certain powers in society fear.
By the way, I've met a number of Liberian people in my lifetime, and I must say, given the history that Liberians have with African Americans, y'all tend to understand African Americans better than some other Africans. I could say this about other Africans too, but about Liberians for sure. So thank you for this! ❤️🤍💙🇱🇷
I kinda arrived a little too late to this 1 year old conversation, but wanted to add my perspective to your closing question, "Why are there so many folks that feel this way about us?" Please everyone, don't come at me for this, I'm just sharing what I have observed as an Ethiopian woman to be the main reason or concern of parents for why they won't approve for their daughters to be dating an African American men. As you mentioned, the reputation is the main reason. Marriage is something sacred in our culture. No matter what you go through as married couple, you stay and work it out. Ethiopian parents talk about so many single mothers in the African American community and they don't want that for their daughters. In other words, African American men have bad reputation as far as Ethiopian parents are concerned. We're told not to be with them because they don't take care of their family, they leave. Another one we're told is, they are not loyal. They're always cheating on their women, their women are always fighting with other women, like why are you looking at my man, why are you calling my man, etc. For your name to be attached to any drama like this is a disgrace in our culture. You're basically considered a scoundrel. These two I've been told. Not loyal. Not family oriented.
I don't believe all black men are like this, but still enough to taint the reputation.
on top of everything you said, more often than not a lot of these AA men just run after habesha women for superficial reasons. many of them see us as just a sexual fetish bc of our features. what habesha parents would want to see their daughter sexualized, abused and left a baby mama? that community has a 70% rate of out of wedlock births. those men don’t even marry aa women they just impregnate them and leave them baby mama’s. and it’s not uncommon for the men to have multiple baby mothers. all of this is so taboo for ethiopians/eritreans. so i completely understand where our parents and elders are coming from. and are they wrong? majority of the time they aren’t.
To me I think ejtiopoan and Eritrean want to.perseve their appearance and image . Another issue is culture differences .
The same with Nigerian, irrespective of tribes. I don't get offended when whites, asians, Hispanics, black Americans, etc state that they do not want to date Nigerians.
@@Nigerian-born_American Based Nigerian
I have dated several Ethiopian and Somali women. They do look down on us culturally. On some levels I can understand because of the images we put out and the dysfunction we propogate.
I had a friend who’s black from Canada born to Haitian parents date an Ethiopian woman and she was racist to black Americans and Nigerians.
@@icecreambeats101 damn why
@@schemar17 she said they smell like musk and hyena meat and she said black Americans hip hop dance when they walk. That was the corniest ish I ever heard.
Honestly I feel if any foreigners come to America or the Canada the foreigners need to respect black people because they paved the way for a lot of immigrants to go there.
When I was working in a warehouse I worked around black folks from Latin America and africa and they talked down on black Americans and when I reported it to HR they didn’t do anything.
@@icecreambeats101 it's crazy blacks from poor counties look down on black Americans the stereotype that black Americans aren't good people must be global
your not FBA so stop the cap
Black women are damn near too beautiful to pick one
Ethiopians take their heritage very seriously. I grew up in DC where there’s tons of them in DC and Northern Va. I have both male and female Ethiopian friends. I think it’s gotten better now, but i remember In High school the ethop girls could not date brothas that were not Ethiopian, let alone marry one. I dated one from Toronto years ago after college, she was so bad, but she kept It real with me. She said I like you and we can have fun but I don’t think we can ever be serious because my family won’t let me marry outside men.
Well OFC they whitstand the hordes of the colonists.
@@kalterverwalter4516guys to be pro black doesnt mean we must be pro west african or central african
@@Thegreatest342 The "black" culture really don't existits outside of the Americas. I don't mean that they dont view themself as black in color. But that they have other characetristics to judge whether or not you are Part of their "Race" "culture" Same "people" etc.
The Rwandan Genocide is a sad Prime example for racism among the Same "Race".
@@kalterverwalter4516 you're right .
It's sad the rwandan genocide happened
But it was becuase of jealous negriod who tried to destroy tutsis becuase of their success.
I am Eritrean, we don't want you, you have your own women, stick with them
They stick to their own nationality even when they immigrate to other countries. Don’t waste a micro second on someone whom will not be interested in you
It’s not about race it’s about culture. African American culture carry a unstable stigma of disfunction. I have many African friends who tell me their impression and what their parents tell them and that’s what is being said about African Americans.
As a BM myself with no kids I think I would be nervous too if my daughter brought home a young BM..
@Blast 4 Me my father would prefer me not to… it’s very telling isn’t it
Dysfunctional? Why is most of Africa so dysfunctional if Africans don't have a culture of dysfunction.
I'm American and I agree with this Ethiopian woman ... I actually agree with women dating and marrying in their culture, however us Black American women don't have that option who want's to marry a man that wants to go 50/50, a man who has anger issues, men who come from single parent households. They don't care of us in America so foreign ladies be aware of these men.
If you're a black american woman, I'd advise you to seek african men as alternative to start families with. There are many that are open to welcoming you into their culture, if you are willing to be a traditional woman though. They're not perfect but much more grounded and focused.
I hate to agree but..American culture is not family oriented. Sad but true!!
As a black american woman, can't say that for all of our men!!! But somewhere along the way our culture has been broken up and lost, we used to have culture men were real and all above!!! It's slowly trying to get back there's still real ones out there❤
@@palesamogorosi8939please, no. The truth is they aren’t brought up for marriage either
Try African men esp East Africa they are family oriented and providers especially Somalis. The men take care of their wives very well
They not wrong for wanting to gatekeep their culture but they should just call it that. Hard stop🛑 🎯
I’m okay marrying someone who shares my culture… I wish to marry a FBA woman
i dont think i EVER heard an fba man say that . thats crazy to hear.
NOTICE: "Ethiopian"🇪🇹 IS NOT a "race"; its a Nationality ! ! !🤦🏾♂️ Race, Ethnicity, Nationality, Language & Culture, is NOT THE SAME THING ! ! ! Overall, we as so-called African-Americans must understand the concept of improving our image; our biggest export, is Hip-Hop Culture, & that's NOT A COMPLIMENT !😖😵
Exactly. A lot of people still don't know what a Nationality is. They're confused with all of this "race" talk.
How is hip hop culture so much worse than rock culture? I'm proud of our hip hop culture
@@christopherduffy1703that’s sad it’s very destructive
We can't control hip hop culture meaning the everyday ordinary person.
@@christopherduffy1703 AA are viewed as thugs and dangerous because of the hip hop culture. Even though they like the music, back in the 90s for example with popular rappers like tupac n biggie dying...the hip hop beefs, the image the rappers portrayed. That's all people saw outside. Completely different with rock culture, not only is it not a popular music choice to begin with...they don't glorify beefs and thuggish behavior... hip hop is great but let's not act like gangsta rap hasn't stained the culture
2023 and we're STILL hated ALL OVER THE 🌎. United we stand, Divided we fall!
Stop this self destructive mindset. Nobody hates you around the effing world. Get out there and change things. Smfh!
@@abayoeddy7832 The truth isn't self-destructive! But hey, what do I know😌
@@rayburr80 You are hated because of the culture of baby mamas, drugs, low education, ratchetness, the way you speak, lack of wanting to be a provider etc.... Stop playing the victim
I live in Hawai'i. A lot of the black women that are born here never met their fathers. Their mothers had situationships with these black men be it drug related or some other kind of encounter and in most cases, when the local girl gets pregnant.. he leaves. With millenials, it's expected. But generation x and prior generations, it was a really bad look for us.
This happens in America, because they have no intention of remaining in America once their financial goals have been met, and they return to their real homes. It's not special or abnormal, most of the people in countries that I knew that moved from Turkey, Africa, and other Middle East, they are friendly but don't mix when it comes to marriage, especially if they had no foreign interaction prior to the move. It's not offensive, it's a choice for some, and so it doesn't apply to all. Not a big deal, and you shouldn't be bothered by what's not such a big deal
AA are selfhaters, they want to be accepted by habeshas lol
There is a somali tiktoker married with a congolese guy and they have a beautiful daughter. The insults of the men of her community in the comments is wild
@@Jamaljj that’s not true, there are more Somali men than women, Somali women are highly sought after by Somali men and international men, their bride price is high, Somali men discriminate other cultures and even other clans ( qabil). Somali parents are very strict with the girls.
Yes, Somalis as a general rule look down on other black Africans especially those with African features and type 4vhair. They call them slaves, monkeys, In fact Somalis don't really see themselves as African, they are more affiliated with the Arabs and they boast in the fact that they were the Arab's agents procuring African slaves to send to the Arab peninsula
If you only knew how Somali people hate each other, let alone other people from different countries
Congolese guy is Muslim I bet
@@EM-tx3ly ofcourse
If a Culture wants to Preserve itself, Stay your Ass in Respected Country 😊
Amen to that!😂
Ethiopian is not a race. This is a cultural issue
Most parents want the best for their children, this is universal. All parents feel better about what they are familiar with. This creates less stress for them, and they want the path of least resistance. Some cultures are more flexible in this area when it comes to choosing mates. Foundational Americans are raised in an environment of seeking more choices than some other cultures. But in the end, no one wants to be where they are not appreciated and respected. Families in all cultures have their expectations and desires. Just because someone is from the same cultural group does not mean that they are automatically desirable.
I’ve dated two Ethiopian women in my time while living in the Seattle area, didn’t seem to be an issue with their family too much. Amazing women. Intelligent, feminine, respectful, ambitious. I’m Black American btw. It is what it is. I date who dates me. To each his own. Useless spending time with these matters IMO. Life is too short.
it's not a big deal in the town, we used to smash ethie and Somalian broads from the manor. but in minnesota and cali it can get heated
I disagree that it's useless to deal or discuss these issues. I agree with everything else
Great thinking, 'I date who dates me'
@@wavycrockett4261 ok how you gon deal with the situation ??
@@flauze what does that mean and what situation?
Really? My lady is Ethiopian. I go to Addis twice a year, and l have land, home there. Her family loves me and I love them. I even learned the language. No problems on my end.
Land is state owned, you can only own what's built on top of the land. Your story is not matching up
stop lying 🤣🤣🤣 foreigners cant own a land in Ethiopia even by law lands are own by the government .. 🤣🤣
@@tplftigray8780 Maybe he got the land in his wife's name.
@@tplftigray8780 Really? HA! My connections say otherwise. Money speaks many languages and having residency, and a new identity works wonders. You don't know?
@@herogebrial Yet, you don't know my story. How could you add anything up if you can't put the equation together?
Tbh who cares if a group of women from another don’t want to date us or forced not too. Why should we lose sleep over that? Date and Marry who will love and appreciate you. Simple
Right! These men sound ridiculous begging other groups of women to find them desirable. It’s very aggressive and unattractive. It’s not the media, it’s the constant entitlement. All parts of Africans don’t marry each other. I’m nigerian and we can’t marry other tribes in Nigeria, nobody is sitting online whining about it tho 🙄
@@meganakinsanya4702 yea exactly it’s very weak imo. Yea too much shit going on out here to be worried about. No reason to be stress Ethiopian woman don’t like u. Plenty of beautiful women out here.
@@jermainenowels9511 y’all focus shouldn’t be on women 24/7, it’s given very sexual depraved and undisciplined. Africans or other cultures don’t find sexual deviant males attractive. Women want to see growth and development in men, not men constantly talking about how they can smash beautiful women. That’s the problem with some BM, you don’t value these women’s cultures and beliefs just oversexualizing them for your satisfaction like sex depraved animals that haven’t been with women before. It’s a turn off ! You oversexualized your women in America calling them “bitches” and showing them in videos naked. And other cultures don’t want that.
@@jermainenowels9511 these men say they can’t find a good American women yet all I see is this men bragging online how they have smashed different ethnicities without actually marrying any of these women who are “submissive and friendly”. But then wonder African families don’t want women marrying AA men, most of y’all aren’t marriage minded, and feel entitled to other black women.
Let's not forget, black American go up and down the Internet claiming to be the most desired group.
Maan i dropped the ball with an Ethiopian young lady some years back. Still one of my biggest regrets smh 🤦🏾♂️ live and learn
Brother I understand your pain lol, samehere smh
Sameee bruh the ONLY women that wrote me a poem AND read it to me…. I cry sometimes bruh.😫
U definitely dropped the ball
@@TimTGO 😁😁😁
yall bantu and the obsession with the people from the Hoorn is scary not gonna lie
I'm a Descendant of American Slavery black man, and I'm married to an Ethiopian woman. And I'm not the only one in my city who's married to one. There's about a half dozen that I've met. Yes, it's true that Africans in general look down on the more ratchet among us. And yes it's true that northern Ethiopians (the Habesha) do so even more. However; if you're an educated black American with something going for your self then you're going to be treated better. They value religion, culture, education, tradition...etc. And yes they have a super strong social pressure to conform. They really do care about what other Ethiopians think when it comes to their public life. If an Ethiopian woman really likes you she will try and help you navigate her culture. She will tell you what not to do, and what not to say. The Japanese are similar, and I know black American men married to Japanese women, and they have to deal with a similar social norm. But yes, many Ethiopian women do like us, but they're connected to their religion, their family, culture, and traditions, and they will always value that! And so if you don't love and appreciate their culture, and religion then it's not going to work. Also it's good to try and learn her language. It will go far with her, and her family.
100% correct. Glad you clarified. Thank you brother!!
You're absolutely right I live in DC, big Ethiopian community here, I never really had a problem dating some of them, but being from Africa myself I understand that your parents, and family would rather have you dating or marrying someone from your own tribe.
Another kneegrow that thinks he’s different 🤦🏾♀️ so sorry, I ain’t marrying nobody who look down on my ppl and try to pretend I’m the different ninja. That’s the saddest way to be. Married to my own
@jnorm888, you nailed some of it, good tips, however I strongly doubt that you are actually married to a habesha woman. NO...
@@aquagal8645, it makes no difference to me if you doubt that I'm married to an Ethiopian woman. Your doubts or confirmation doesn't change the reality of the situation. Also I'm not the only black American man in my area who is married to an Ethiopian woman. There's several of us over here.
Look at how these other black people treat their own woman and their own countries. We’re the problem?
Can you elaborate some for me please.
@@rickydawson9757 rampant female genitalia mutilation, the recent African who went on a murder spree against AA’s here. Rampant civil war and over 100 schoolgirls went missing and they flat out gave up on em. They need to fix their own shit
@Victor 23 thanks for that. I get you now. I was not even thinking about that.
@@rickydawson9757 😂Like Choppin off clits. 😂
Elaborate 😑
Ethiopia in a war right now. So I know it’s go be a while before she goes back
Yeah a genocidal war, they have a brutal dictator in charge.
It ain't that bad especially in the capital city. I was there 9 months ago and the fam goes back all the time.
Tplf and Ethiopian government signed a peace treaty so let’s see what happens afterwards. Thank god it only lasted for two years while 🇸🇴 has been going through conflict for 30 plus years.
Creep she still wont want to date your ass . u know how manyethiopians are in the US ?a lot
@@lidiagizaw3828 I don’t date Africans and we have to many Africans in USA period.
I can almost ear the trumpets announcing the apocalypse brace yourselves because the end is near.
Wish them all the best and go live your life free from attachments.
She mentioned being influenced by hiphop culture...I hope she not sayin what I think she sayin, as it pertains to the type of BM she likes😂😂😂😂😂
of course it does
She want to experience the American 304 life
US as Black Americans Doacs need to do the same thing ‼️ we need to preserve our RACE/ETHNIC GROUP ✊🏿🇺🇲⚫🔱🔴.
I agree.
Divestors and passport bros disagree with that
An ethnic group with 21 different strands of admixture? Ha! Count me out 100% post 1965 values. Nothing at all under any circumstances to "preserve".
You say that but I can guarantee you only prefer yellow bones and mixed women lol..
@@blast4me754 FALSE, I love all colors of Black women 🤡 u sound stupid asf‼️ don't project your colorist mindset onto me goofy
The Dominican woman mentioned she had a black daughter, but not a black husband. Her parents might have been trying to prevent that for her. Single motherhood is more culturally acceptable in the black American community than it is anywhere else.
Single motherhood is also accepted in the Caribbean.
That is true, but why are black men so bothered when 🤔 they aren't what someone wants. An Ethiopian man said and I agree go where u are wanted, we don't hate black Americans but we love our women and don't see the need to go outside our culture chasing and looking for acceptance.
In North America ( Canada usa exclude Mexico ) it’s put on a pedestal
God bless Ethiopia 🇪🇹 🙏
This right here is why we need to quit embarrassing ourselves, arguing about gender, negativity and ideals online everywhere. We are literally generalized based on negative aspects, never by the positive, and we are the o lot group of people who are generalized off o lot negative aspects
Back when I was wrapping pallets it was this fine Ethiopian her skin was so nice. She flirted with a few of us but she was not going at all like that
Friendly but never cross the line. 💯👌
Their country is poor, tell them go back
She's honourable
Not promiscuous hoody baby mamas you tend to see
Cuz she would of got clapped quick lol
I categorically disagree with Oshay’s last statement about Black men should try to change other cultures perception of us… we are not inferior or substandard… it’s not my job to combat ignorance… I am an honorable man with high morals and values… I refuse to be compared to the lowest common denominators in my community
Exactly, this country was built off of our backs. Why are we the ones who always have to prove to other people? It’s sad
Right. Prove nothing to nobody but yourself
Because of the difficulty involved with immigrating to America, many times the Africans that get through are of an elite socioeconomic class that wouldn't entertain other Africans that don't share their class status. Oshay spoke of an African American Psychiatrist, he got access because he was at a compatible socioeconomic level. When you visit the country you encounter many more of the average people that the elite of their country came to America to escape. The net net of it is that America makes the process harder.
The REAL question is why do AA dudes wanna not be the same way with their own women. Theres absolutley nothing wrong with perserving our culture.
Exactly bro. These AA men love anything that doesn't share their own features. They never had any loyalty
@@user-qy6tu9ip9v right. Thats all it is. Take pride in yourself. The greatest pride is your women.
@Mr 28 Bro. It's sad. A lot of these habesha chicks end up single mothers when dealing with these dudes. We should have no remorse for the ones that leave the community. We need to tighten up and not let them back in.
I also noticed the mental gymnasts these dudes go through to justify why they want to date in our community. "We all black" then date your own and clean up your own community first.
@@user-qy6tu9ip9vtrue seen it happen way to often in Toronto, we need to limit hip hop and get rid of the black label.
@@objectivehater4997 Man... the things I can tell you about Habeshas in Toronto. They're a trashy bunch. It's just weird how the men in our culture aren't affected the same way the women are.
Everyone wants to be like us but they don't want to be us. Everyone.
You are wrong this time oshay, they are more concerned about complexion than anything else.
Mulatto? Lolol. That’s a super offensive term. It’s like using the term Oriental.
How could you EVER put a class act woman like Phylisa Rashad in the same breath as Chloe "Buss-it Open" Bailey.
I was talking to an Ethio girl in my early 20s…and she basically told me the same thing….we lost touch and she married a guy from her village…I know they have kids together but I don’t actually think they are together…never want someone who doesn’t want you. If I had known from jump I wouldn’t have entertained her….even though she pretty much persued me initially.
most likely she came from a family who live in the countryside of Ethiopia I was born in the capital of Ethiopia there is no problem with marrying outside of culture and it's all about statue ppl back home believe black American men don't take care of their women that is why.
@@pinklady3059 ty for excellent insight 🥰
You know exactly why they think this way. Look at your videos displaying black women with babies from many different men. People lying/cheating/ making bad choices. People like you help keep the narrative alive. This is why these women’s families have opinions like these. We spend so much time talking about all the derelicts and not enough time celebrating those that are successful, work hard, are doing good things in their life, raising their kids properly, etc. Look at the stats they aren’t in our favour, IJS😢
I am childfree by choice, no way i want a mixed child of another race or nationality. I want my Ethiopian legacy and a child that looks ljke me.
same sis! and if tht makes me “bad” or “closed minded” according to these aa dudes so be it!😂😂 i want my habesha children to carry down my line.
Met an Ethiopian want to years ago she tried to question my blackness in my integrity as a black man I had to check her she’s very rude come to find out she was dating a White Guy 😅! After that there was no more conversation but most of the African women I’ve come across I’ve been very pleasant and respectful
Great woman, I hope all of them are like that.
Even within ethiopia there differences you rarely will see Amharic marry oromo and vice versa, so i advise black african Americans to not take offence of people preferences rather respect them for choosing to preserve their ethnic language and culture + religion and so on .
Something I learned many, many, many years ago… the people you help will tear you down the fastest. The friends and family I helped the most talked behind my back and swear they had to help me. Help no one. It’s like they subconsciously hate you for helping. Side note the more we go into the future of internet and hear black folks say and do the exact same thing I was told white racist say and do, I’m started to be convinced race isn’t a issue at this point. It’s starting to look we did these things and white society just made money off how we act. You’d think we’d be the most stick together race after hearing history. I’m a firm believer of what a people do today is a peak into what they always done in the past
You seem open minded take the exodus story and apply it to our condition and read Genesis 15 13-15
The most costliest form of debt is gratitude.
In terms of white people, white people exploit meth/opioid addicts, especially their families, they'll have them sell their kids, especially those in the judiciary and law enforcement, many of these people run the meth market.
It's kind of the opposite but I feel you overall bro. Stay dangerous!
Great point Fam
Why do AA black men do not get every race but then gatekeeper their race,culture tribe but them.Most of those on the continent do this,they are not running around to other countries trying to bag non black women,calling themselves passports bros.These folks have news outlets too,CNN too,relatives in the states also telling them about what black men do to each other,black women,having children and nit caring for them and doing nothing to fix they’re community.A lot of black men are not doing all this but because the ones who are nit getting check all are blamed for what others see time the news come on ,see only the ones whom travel acting up in other countries toward the women.
There's nothing wrong with them wanting to keep It in their culture Africa is full of tribalism a lot of cultures there don't mess with us just understand that if you happen meet someone that likes you There's a whole culture that may not agree just be the best version of yourself represent yourself and our culture with greatness know your history all of it and walk proudly.
That’s one fine Ethiopian woman.
SHE'S ERITREAN
@@Sara-vh6sq My bad Eritrean.
They all look the same 😂 their men treat them like trash. FACTS
@@Sara-vh6sq eritreans are ethiopians tho wether you like it or not. War doesnt divide blood.
@@Mr-my8kx who told you since when was Ethiopians shut up dream is freee....