How to Make Eye Contact in Conversations

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  • Опубліковано 31 лип 2024
  • How to make eye contact in conversations! Eye contact is one of the best ways to connect with others in conversations. Few of us these days do it very well. Preoccupation, our phones, and social anxiety make direct eye contact awkward. Three eye contact tips will help you strive to do better.
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    1. Set a goal of making eye contact 80% of the time you're in a one-on-one conversation. Eye contact skills do not develop on their own. You have to make it a priority by setting some goals.
    2. Keep your eyes and facial expression warm. Nobody likes looking at a stone-faced person. Part of eye contact skills is involving the whole face. So, warm it up. Smile. Use other good nonverbal communication.
    3. Break eye contact every 2 to 3 sentences to keep it comfortable. People don't like 100% eye contact. That's not natural. Breaking away ever few sentences will keep it comfortable. Eye contact is in conversations is different than presentations or groups. In conversations, you have to look away some of the time.
    I've seen some eye contact tips that encourage people to do other weird things like look at the person's forehead. That's bad advice. Stick to the basics. You can build your eye contact skills with a little practice.
    Find other eye contact tips in these related videos:
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 17

  • @ncp3077
    @ncp3077 5 років тому +16

    I have the worst social anxiety, so much so I found I cant look people in the eye and wind up looking places that are inappropriate but not because I want to, it's because I feel so nervous that I cant help it. This has cause me to isolate myself and makes me feel depressed.

    • @69AssSlapper
      @69AssSlapper 4 роки тому +4

      Yeah I also have anxiety about looking someone in the eye too much and not wanting to weird them out

    • @domoxd3020
      @domoxd3020 2 роки тому +1

      rip

    • @hernantoledo4418
      @hernantoledo4418 Рік тому

      Hi, I'm fron Venezuela, thanks for your teaching, I have learned a lot from you, and I'm starting to put in practice this tips when I talk to people. God bless you.

  • @alexanderlyon
    @alexanderlyon  7 років тому +5

    Question of the Day: What are your tips for making good eye contact in conversations?

  • @Dahnna73
    @Dahnna73 Рік тому +2

    Where are you supposed to look exactly in between the eyes, I can’t look at both eyes at the same time and not be self conscious

  • @GhermanAlexandru11
    @GhermanAlexandru11 Рік тому +2

    Btw, when breaking eye contact don't look down. Look up or at the same level with their eyes

  • @ziddars6282
    @ziddars6282 5 місяців тому

    My tip Always wear black sunglasses at first I only now realize why people wear shades indoor

  • @erangafernando3829
    @erangafernando3829 6 років тому +1

    awesome coaching . Thanks sir . from sri lanka .

  • @NoorJawdat19
    @NoorJawdat19 4 роки тому +1

    Please Continue

  • @SecondChapterMom
    @SecondChapterMom 2 роки тому

    Would you offer any advice to teaching more eye contact for sensory kids?

  • @CRCfail
    @CRCfail 4 роки тому +6

    1995 called, they want that shirt back.

    • @RalphTGP
      @RalphTGP Рік тому

      I was thinking the same thing, but as he is such a nice guy, and the lessons are free on the internet, I decided to give him a pass - guess you didn't feel the same way.

  • @Kevin-qf2hs
    @Kevin-qf2hs 4 місяці тому

    I can look into a guy's eyes without any issue, but its very difficult for me to look into an attractive girl's eyes. I lose all my train of thought, and i'm likely to stutter. What am i supposed to do? lol

  • @stevenmazeau3433
    @stevenmazeau3433 2 роки тому +1

    How does gender affect the 80% recommendation? I want to be a "good listener", but also want to avoid sending the wrong message!😊

    • @alexanderlyon
      @alexanderlyon  2 роки тому

      I'm assuming by your name that you're a male. I would simply break off eye contact about as much as any female you might be talking too. In other words, adapt to their level of comfort with eye contact. If you're concerned about sending the wrong message, give a little less eye contact. There's some evidence that women make a little bit more eye contact than men, but that research is not conclusive depending upon the situation, gender of the other person, etc. Another factor that matters is breaking eye contact every 7 to 10 seconds either way. That goes for talking to either men or women. The bottom line, however, is that studies on gender and communication usually have different conclusions that are often contradictory. When you look at research, the story is much more layered and complex than the stereotypes we hear about. In most cases, the answer is almost always "it depends."

    • @stevenmazeau3433
      @stevenmazeau3433 2 роки тому

      @@alexanderlyon Okay, thanks! After I sent my question it occurred to me that if I start to exceed their comfort level, there are going to be other body language signals that will indicate this. Then in the other extreme, if they start grinning a lot - watch out! Regardless of gender, I suppose some people are going to tend to be shy and others may interpret eye contact as a challenge or an act of aggression. As you say, "it depends." Thanks again.