That fluffy, poofy hair style is actually a wig Christina H is wearing. She suffers hair loss/thinning and she wears wigs and toppers. Many of her Mad Men styles particularly in later years are wigs, not her actual hair. If you look at images of her through the years, you can very easily see where she is wearing her natural hair vs a wig. Her natural hair is really thin and fine and sits much closer to her head due to a lack of volume and body and you can see her scalp/parting. Wigs - no scalp or parting and a lot more volume.
This is so interesting because I am currently re-watching Mad Men and noticed her wigs immediately this time. I kept thinking why they would go through the trouble of putting a wig on her when she’s already a redhead. This makes so much sense!
I have curly hair and I could never work out why that ‘undone’ hair looks terrible on me but great on others. You hit the nail on the head w the Christina example. I had a colleague say to me “you look so cute and sweet with curly hair but you look like a bad bitch with straight hair” now this comment finally makes sense!!!
You should look up kibbe body type styles. For example I am a soft dramatic like Christina Hendricks and messy hair does not look good on us! Kibbe shows you how to dress for your individual body type. ❤
You are an EXCELLENT instructor! I will someday be able to afford to consult with you individually, but in the meantime I wanted to thank you for teaching me so much in an extremely practical way! Your are appreciated!
I’ve seen Audrey Toutou’s audition tapes for Amelie, she has amazing but wiley natural hair. A lot of styling has gone into that effortless look. I’ve also heard Christina Hendricks talk about the work that went into becoming Joan and how the maintenance would be unobtainable if she didn’t have a team behind her. The gravitation towards accepting your natural traits can give an ease of self as you move through the world. I know this is not what this video is about, but sometimes it comes down to what is attainable and what you are willing to do on the daily versus the return for the effort.
You are not alone. I am beveled-soft with 3b/3c frizzy dry corkscrew natural hair. My dream hair is 90s supermodel blowout hair. What chemical treatments did you use? My natural hair is similar to Nathalie Emmanuel. Despite what people say, natural curly hair is not beautiful and it is difficult to deal with. Is the chemical safe to use over dyed (not bleached) hair? How is it different from relaxer?
Are you me? I have 3c hair and I’m mixed. I keep my hair straight as well (my curls are healthy though and still fully intact) I don’t like such small curls on me. I rather have loose waves. Edit: Also, chemical did you use? A relaxer?
I have this same hair type and I get QiQi done. It’s life changing! No formaldehyde! It’s the best, and I’ve tried keratin, Japanese hair straightening, everything. Only downside is it’s a bit pricey.
I have completely straight hair, although it’s slightly poofy just because I have so much of it, and I literally NEVER wear my hair down. I despise it down. Even in my profile picture, I remember taking it down to take the picture and then I immediately put it back up in a claw clip afterwards. Especially now because I’m growing it out, I just hate it down. And I’ve never encountered someone with straight hair who feels the way I do about their hair when it’s down, so idk I hope this video can help me😭 Edit: I never curl my hair and wear it down, but maybe I’ll try and see if it makes a difference. But as someone with social anxiety, even when my hair is up I’m constantly pushing my front pieces out of my face as a nervous tic, so if I wear my hair down I know I’ll be touching it 24/7 lol🥲
I am a flamboyant natural and have learned that the way FNs are supposed to style their hair is what I discovered works best for me. In fact, I was styling my hair that way before. In the past, I thought I had to make my hair super straight and it didn't look right on me. I need it a little more natural and messy, not perfect.
Ugh, this is so me. You’ll know your natural texture doesn’t suit you when you put hours into nurturing and styling it and nobody ever says anything. Pull out the flat iron again and suddenly “your hair looks great!!”
This is amazing! I’ve always wondered why I don’t think I look good with my natural hair. I like my hair like Christina’s a soft curl/wave but not a full on curl. My features are too rounded for true curls.
Climate also affects hair-I live in extreme heat and humidity so even if I spend an hour drying, curling or whatever, it’s going to frizz the minute I walk out the door. I don’t have celeb bone structure in the least (round face, deep-set and close-set eyes, short neck), but I’m also getting too old to care. Sadly, we can’t all have Julia R’s or Blake L’s fabulous looks, great hair, and genetically fortunate bone structure. I don’t fight my wavy hair anymore, and don’t have any ideal hairstyle to make me look like I somehow can remotely look like them or anywhere as good. Also don’t have the Norwegian look issue 😂
So true. Growing up in humid Florida made my thick, coarse hair unruly. And then I went to Arizona to visit when I was 18 and I went to bed with wet hair and I woke up with normal hair and I was like oh my God I have found the promised land.
This was such wonderful information. I have always had to style my hair to look put together and I do have softer features. Makes SO much sense now. Thank you!
Wowww, thank you for the validation! I am a soft gamine, with dramatic ingenue essence, and just “rolling out of bed hair” doesn’t support my features. I have thick straight hair that is beautiful, but…. I need that polished look!! I don’t have any natural essence or typing at all and need curled ends or styled bangs etc etc. I had accepted that I’m someone that just has to do their hair to look put together like Christina Hendricks in the video. I really liked how you just said that we just can choose to end the war and just choose to style our hair in such a way that supports our bone structure. I used to think that I was just ugly until I styled my hair LOL, but I really liked how you framed the perspective better!
I think a good solution for people who are very chiseled and have thin, fine, straight hair, is getting the right amount and length of layers that can help the hair have movement and texture, even if their hair remains fine and not very “dynamic” in terms of texture. Plus there are always ways of putting parts of it up, leaving parts down around the face, different types of bangs, etc.
We think “length is better” on people like this a lot, but sometimes the hair only looks thinner the longer it is, and length isn’t always the end-all-be-all. Layers can have length even if the hair or actually shorter overall, etc.
Yeah I noticed this when I dyed my hair for the first time. Dark Brown suits my teint way better than my natural hair color, and my sister looks better with red/ginger hair. It's funny .... We didn't change anything else, just the hair color, and it made a HUGE difference.
I have to thank you Merriam. Because of your videos I finally have exactly the hair I have always wanted and tried so many times to do but could never make work. Learning about my body type and essence, gave me the few details I had wrong. The missing puzzle pieces were seemingly small but they made all the difference and now my entire look just works and I have never looked so good! Thank you so much!
No. It isn't a bias towards wanting to believe that one's natural hair texture is best. After 20 years of observing other people, and struggling with my own hair, I can say with absolute certainty that there is a bias against working with one's natural hair texture, and if something is going wrong, it is because you aren't working with your natural hair texture in the right way. What this means is that you are washing it too much, or using too much product, the wrong product, fighting the fineness, fighting the fulness, friziness, or curliness, etc. In my case, I finally realized that my baby fine, wavy hair actually looks way better when I let it be its frizzy, fluffy, fine self. I stopped washing it all the time, and let it wave as it wants to. I emphasize those natural qualities, not try to counteract them. As it finally turns out, I have alot of ethereal and ingenue essence, and my hair is in line with this. You are using examples of celebrities where we have no actual idea what their natural hair colour or texture is. Christina Hendricks isn't a natural redhead, and her natural hair texture is gauranteed to not be the same as the dye-damaged frizz you are using as an example.
I respect your opinion but this is exactly what I am referring to. Thinking that if someone just works with their natural hair texture enough, it'll all be great and ideal. You are one of the people with the natural bias that I am referring to. Presuming that there is a perfect design (that your fluffy hair works with your ethereal/ingenue essence)....which in your case works out, but someone can have fluffy hair and have a dramatic essence and it's neither here nor there. Just like someone isn't born with the perfect nose or the perfect lips, and they get cosmetic work and look better for it (many celebrities are success cases of this, while some are of course failure cases). There are some of us who do our hair, and simply look better for it.
Thank you for speaking about this! I have naturally curly hair, but also have a soft features and I just can never seem to make it work for me. It always does take a ton of time and tons of product and I’m never satisfied with the end result when heat styling is just reliable easier and actually usually takes less time.
Thank you for being so honest and straight forward...i am indian..very petite bone structure and theatrical romantic body type..i have sooooo much hair its crazy..everytime my hair is open it drowns my face..i have realized a nice volumnous updo with some nice hair flower looks the best on me..people can actually see my face and i can wear big earrings that suit me..i have spent years trying to figure out the color cut and length that suits me..tried straightening , wavy hair routines and other ways to make my hair look glamorous...seems like the best way is to keep the hair away from my face😅
I'm at war with my hair. I'm short with fine, medium/thin dirty blonde hair that looks best when short or neat and pulled back off my face. But I also have a wide rib cage, and broad shoulders paired with delicate narrow bones and a child's sized head. I could balance out those two extremes with long hair to break my shoulder line with texture and volume and make my head look larger, but my hair is too straight and fine, plus it needs to look styled. My only two options seem to be growing out my hair to pull it back into some fun intricate updoes to give my head more volume or to cut it short in some way that looks very neat with volume to make my head look larger.
I believe that all bone structures can look pretty with their air dried hair but some bone structures need longer lengths to look pretty. The longer your hair is the more weight it will have and it will naturally lay down. If you grow your hair long over your breast you will always have a good curly hair day. I curl my hair using rag curls because i like an elongated curly VS my natural bigger curls. Once my hair is long again I won't need to manipulate my hair very much because it will be nice and heavy. I think tall curly girls should really keep their hair very long.
Totally agree! Just had to cut mine at the collar bone to get rid of bleached ends, and the curls are wild now. I can't wait till I get some length and they settle down again
I am this Nordic european type, tall, sharper bone structure, fine and very straight hair. I was always unhealthy with my hair. On Christmas my sister gave me a heat iron for wavy hair (not a curler), and i look so much better with more body in my hair. So I can really real are to what you are saying. I wonder why nature doesn’t match hair with the rest of the body ..
Same here. Hair is bone straight so much so I was always asked if I flat ironed my hair. I find adding waves has been the best look for me. Not curl, just waves. It makes such a difference.
I also wonder why nature doesn’t match our hair to the rest of us! But why doesn’t straight hair match you if you are tall and have sharp bones? Wouldn’t it be a perfect match?
Except it does you live in Cold with little sun environment unless you moved it helps with vitamins d.people who have the thickest hair live in Hot humid environment to protect themselves from over heat
And a piece of advice you are lucky to have that hair.don't use equipment you don't need unless it's a special occasion once in a while you will damage your hair with no reason or need 🎉
I had straight hair most of my life and probably due to hormones later on it changed. Now, if I did not blow dry it and use something to curl it or straighten it, it would look undone like Christina's. I wash it every other day, and I don't struggle with it, I just know that's the way it is. I have only one sister who got the curly hair and it suits her. Her curls are very nice. Love your videos!
Bingo! Talk about hair challenges. I’m a Kibbe Dramatic Classic and am supposed to have very defined and styled hair. Yet mine is super thick and straight on top, wavy in the middle, and curly on the ends. I just gave up on coloring my hair and had it all cut off. It was almost a buzz cut. I hate it, but all my friends love it. Even people I didn’t know were coming up to me on the street saying they loved my salt and pepper hair. So I’m listening. I’ll keep my hair short (because I’m lazy) but will grow out the top part. You are so right about this.
Im a flamboyant natural with romantic, dramatic, classic essence. I really struggle wity my hair. I have fine, thin long straight hair. I do look good with volume but omg it is a struggle.
One thing I realized after 29 years is I'll never get my curtain bangs away , it suits me really well and i like to play with the length. It just "dress" my face in the most elegant and polished way possible 😂
You are so right. I have so much hair, too dense. And my body cannot support it. I try to shear out as much as possible but still.. I can't do wash and wear I wish I could
I am sharpened soft and I have wavy and long hair. It is not overly big, but it is frizzy and not uniform. I personally think for every day wear it is not bad. I generally always wear it natural, but sometimes I straighten it and tbh it looks more glam like that. Someone might think that it's not enough to just straighten it, but for me it works if I want a more polished look. I also think the straight hair highlights my bone structure and enhances the softness of my features.
Yesss, sharpened soft here with curly hair, and I recently found that when I straighten my hair it makes me look more glamorous & polished like you said. I used to straighten my hair and then immediately curl it with a big curling iron. I never took the time to see how straight hair looked on me, I assumed bone straight hair would be plain and boring. Until I straightened it and actually looked at myself and realized I really loved it. It seems most people curl their hair with a big curling iron for example to look more dressed up and glam. I find curling my hair makes me look more "plain" like I am going to run errands, even though my hair is fully done up. While straightening it makes me look more glamorous. I wonder why this is the case. Maybe as you said it highlights the bone structure and so it ends up pulling on the dramatic essence more than the romantic , making us appear more "vavavoom" but at the same time, emphasizing the softness we do have, so it ends up having two extremes at once. I am not sure but I am here for it !
@@GGTaye I totally agree! I think there is for sure the contrast of sharp and soft at play to make it look so good. Actually when I had my first professional blow out done on my hair it was very sleek and polished with curls towards the ends and one of my friends loved it saying it's the best on me. I think that is also really polished and again it can be done with less heat. I would say like Merriam said, it is about all hairs being in place and a polished look. I personally don't like the updo shown in the video as they just don't work for me I prefer length and to have hair around my face. Everybody just needs to try it out for themselves, but for me straightened hair is a fast way to polish my look with almost no effort!
so agreed! grateful i see a video validating this, i think i have really “good hair” its healthy wavy/curly and hair stylist love to compliment it in my experience. but i just look so much better with straight hair i feel, its almost like makeup, makes my face light up more. its kind of a curse bc i don’t wanna be damaging my hair, but i wanna look my best to feel good.
Truth 💣s … I have small, but very angular features, and when my hair is wavy and messy and doesn’t suit me unless I have a nice structured bob or lob, (doesn’t look amazing naturally). I’m part Nordic, but I disagree with Uma Thurman. She looks better with smoother lines IMO.
I'm a theatrical romantic and have been at war with my hair for years. Whenever I dress up people ALWAYS comment on my hair being off. Even learning about my kibble type its still felt like trial and error and I haven't discovered the hairstyle that feels like me. I've been tempted to go shorter but everyone says keep it long.
Is part of the about skull width vs face width? Especially the cranium. I feel like it makes a lot of us look like we’re wearing a wig when a lot of women like JR have a much smaller cranial circumference
It’s definitely a matter of perspective… to some degree there’s probably a style someone would objectively look healthier and more attractive w, but the issue w Christina’s hair was- I think- the color… when you showed the example of her wavy bob and up do, I first thought they were examples of what not to do. She looked 10 years older.
The larger and more textured my hair is, and the more striking the color - be that flaming auburn, royal purple, cobalt blue, or dark brown - the better I look. Unfortunately, I'm a True Summer/Dark Winter hybrid in the 12 season system and close to borderline Pure/Shaded Summer in the 16 season system. It seems as though I have to choose between what flatters my skin the most and what flatters my face and bone structure most, and it feels like a lose-lose situation. I cannot tell you how much I wish I had high chroma and contrast instead of medium. Being a Dramatic Summer is miserable.
I'm sharpened soft and like my fine waves day one because they are more defined and have more volume, but after that even if it's not dirty I feel the need to shower again to get a style I like without heat*. I'll try overnight curls instead to get some definition back! Also I'm going back to my longer, weightier hair because it just made more things work for me (and the length pulled the wave down and made it less* frizzy and more defined because it wasn't almost a curl and became an intentional long S shape). Tysm for all you do!
Thank you for this video. I'm a soft dramatic with a heavy classic essence and I have been fighting my natural curly, frizzy, and wild hair my whole life. There is a lot of pressure to love your hair the way it is naturally but it is just not flattering on me. This helps explain why.
I'm petite, 'natural' hair looks so bad on me. My hair is so fine and whispy - similar to the Scandinavian clients you describe, and I am part Norwegian, but didn't get the height or bone structure. I think I do look okay with straight hair but it NEEDS to be sleek and polished. I look so slovenly if I let it air dry.
Thank you for the video it was so helpful and has really made me think! As someone with a smaller, oval face with soft features and big curly hair I always wondered why the messy bun or straight hair I coveted never quite worked. From what i understand now from your video it's all about balance. So more volume in my hair works well against my smaller face and a more polished style (curls or otherwise) compliments my softer features. I think I get it now finally at 38yo/ 😂
As a kibbe flamboyant gamine with naturally extra kinky hair who has worn both straight and kinky styles, it’s s the styling and cut I think more than the texture of your hair. When my hair is kinky I like it short or in an updo. When my hair is straight it’s pretty much the standard Kibbe suggestions. I think every bone structure can wear their natural hair but natural hair texture doesn’t necessarily mean shampoo, condition and go lol. You just style and work with your natural hair texture the same as when you blowout, straighten or curl your hair. Christina’s hair probably would have looked better with defined curls but voluminous and a tousled updo. Each curl wrapped around a finger to frame her face. Understanding how to work with your natural texture is a gift I think and everyone is different Just my opinion as someone with the kinkiest of curls who also wears it straight when I want. I used to view my hair as a “war” before I realized my kinky hair is not the beauty standard. Anywho just want to encourage someone who would rather work with their texture instead of viewing it as a “war”.
This really isn’t talked about enough, I have frizzy, wavy hair that does not fit my SD facial structure and I have to spend time ‘polishing’ my hair regardless of if I do waves or whatever. I love that you point out that it’s ok if we don’t embrace our natural hair….when it’s really at war with us vs us with the hair lol I also have naturally medium brown hair and have dyed it a rich red for almost my entire adult life. It suits me and Everybody thinks it’s natural lol
As sharpened moderare with low-volume pin straight hair fully agree. I go for natural volume, keep it elongated annd clean looking, and wear my objectively big long bones and fleshier face proudly, rather than feel urge to struggle for things i can't get, being a 0-skill styling idiot. It never gets right, my hair just says no and returns to natural state in 5 minutes.
I feel like I generally have such a generous appreciation of other people’s appearances that I often have trouble noticing the “problem” with styling in these sorts of contexts. And when it comes to myself I’m really dysmorphic and really unable to analyze what’s going on with any nuance.
you explained something that's been on my mind recently. i even considered dyeing my hair a lighter color to remove some of that 'weight' but i've never tried it before and i'm not sure about the maintenance required :/ i don't think straightening my hair is an option for me, some days it does end up a little straight and i think it looks really bad lol i feel like i'm always stuck between traits that are complimented by opposite styles...
I feel blended types have it the easiest because simply putting one's hair up in a neat bun, braid, or ponytail works wonders. The style can be softer or sleeker depending on which side of the blended spectrum you learn towards, but neither is going to look too off on the other. So an individual at the blended sharp end of the spectrum will still look good if their bun shows their curls, as long as it's a neat bun.
I look best with lots of volume and big, round, soft curls. Straight and flat is just awful on me, like my face is a terrible shock under silky, straight hair. My natural hair texture is not exactly the most flattering, it's a little too messy, but it's so much better than straightening. I refuse to straighten and then curl. I'm natural forever now. ❤
My natural hair texture is stick straight on top, from my ears up. Then it’s very curly from there down, like a weird mullet. It’s hilarious air dried and got worse after pregnancy 😂
Yeah when I tried to do an overly polished hairstyle I look more masculine. The soft overly feminine hair makes my long and angular face look masculine
I am a FG, I have wavy and curly-ish hair. On a good day, when it is shaped, it is good but...good god! mostly it is so damn frizzy! It ages me so badly even a short hair cut won't help me! 😂
a friend of mine did a keratin treatment as she could not take it anymore. She is for sure an FG, and as much as I loved her natural hair and will always advocate for leaving curls alone, the sleek straight bob she has now just suits her SO MUCH.
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so true
That fluffy, poofy hair style is actually a wig Christina H is wearing. She suffers hair loss/thinning and she wears wigs and toppers. Many of her Mad Men styles particularly in later years are wigs, not her actual hair. If you look at images of her through the years, you can very easily see where she is wearing her natural hair vs a wig. Her natural hair is really thin and fine and sits much closer to her head due to a lack of volume and body and you can see her scalp/parting. Wigs - no scalp or parting and a lot more volume.
This is so interesting because I am currently re-watching Mad Men and noticed her wigs immediately this time. I kept thinking why they would go through the trouble of putting a wig on her when she’s already a redhead. This makes so much sense!
I have curly hair and I could never work out why that ‘undone’ hair looks terrible on me but great on others. You hit the nail on the head w the Christina example. I had a colleague say to me “you look so cute and sweet with curly hair but you look like a bad bitch with straight hair” now this comment finally makes sense!!!
You should look up kibbe body type styles. For example I am a soft dramatic like Christina Hendricks and messy hair does not look good on us! Kibbe shows you how to dress for your individual body type. ❤
You are an EXCELLENT instructor!
I will someday be able to afford to consult with you individually, but in the meantime I wanted to thank you for teaching me so much in an extremely practical way! Your are appreciated!
She is a TREASURE indeed ❤
can you please talk about why some people look better with their hair up vs hair down?
Merriam, not many UA-camrs make me wish we’d had UA-cam back in the 80s. In fact I can’t think of anyone else but you. 🙏
Omg I am the same as Christina… I need my hair to be perfectly styled, “every hair in its place” like you said.
Love this. Christina Hendricks is gorgeous. It goes to show that no matter how pretty you are, you have your elements
I’ve seen Audrey Toutou’s audition tapes for Amelie, she has amazing but wiley natural hair. A lot of styling has gone into that effortless look.
I’ve also heard Christina Hendricks talk about the work that went into becoming Joan and how the maintenance would be unobtainable if she didn’t have a team behind her.
The gravitation towards accepting your natural traits can give an ease of self as you move through the world.
I know this is not what this video is about, but sometimes it comes down to what is attainable and what you are willing to do on the daily versus the return for the effort.
NO body has ever explained it and figured it out like you did
You are not alone. I am beveled-soft with 3b/3c frizzy dry corkscrew natural hair. My dream hair is 90s supermodel blowout hair.
What chemical treatments did you use? My natural hair is similar to Nathalie Emmanuel. Despite what people say, natural curly hair is not beautiful and it is difficult to deal with. Is the chemical safe to use over dyed (not bleached) hair? How is it different from relaxer?
Are you me? I have 3c hair and I’m mixed. I keep my hair straight as well (my curls are healthy though and still fully intact) I don’t like such small curls on me. I rather have loose waves.
Edit: Also, chemical did you use? A relaxer?
I have this same hair type and I get QiQi done. It’s life changing! No formaldehyde! It’s the best, and I’ve tried keratin, Japanese hair straightening, everything. Only downside is it’s a bit pricey.
I have completely straight hair, although it’s slightly poofy just because I have so much of it, and I literally NEVER wear my hair down. I despise it down. Even in my profile picture, I remember taking it down to take the picture and then I immediately put it back up in a claw clip afterwards. Especially now because I’m growing it out, I just hate it down. And I’ve never encountered someone with straight hair who feels the way I do about their hair when it’s down, so idk I hope this video can help me😭
Edit: I never curl my hair and wear it down, but maybe I’ll try and see if it makes a difference. But as someone with social anxiety, even when my hair is up I’m constantly pushing my front pieces out of my face as a nervous tic, so if I wear my hair down I know I’ll be touching it 24/7 lol🥲
@@_kikizaman_Maybe wear it half up half down?
Something very important to take into consideration is not only the face shape, but the size & shape of the NECK.
Please, make a video about best haircuts for each body type ❤
This !!! Yesssss please !!!!
i love your videos!! your channel is a goldmine!!!
I am a flamboyant natural and have learned that the way FNs are supposed to style their hair is what I discovered works best for me. In fact, I was styling my hair that way before. In the past, I thought I had to make my hair super straight and it didn't look right on me. I need it a little more natural and messy, not perfect.
Omg girl SAME. Literally. I'm FN (dramatic type) too and discovered this about myself recently lol.
Christina needs a curly hair routine. If it had more definition it would look more manicured.
Ugh, this is so me. You’ll know your natural texture doesn’t suit you when you put hours into nurturing and styling it and nobody ever says anything. Pull out the flat iron again and suddenly “your hair looks great!!”
This is amazing! I’ve always wondered why I don’t think I look good with my natural hair. I like my hair like Christina’s a soft curl/wave but not a full on curl. My features are too rounded for true curls.
Climate also affects hair-I live in extreme heat and humidity so even if I spend an hour drying, curling or whatever, it’s going to frizz the minute I walk out the door. I don’t have celeb bone structure in the least (round face, deep-set and close-set eyes, short neck), but I’m also getting too old to care. Sadly, we can’t all have Julia R’s or Blake L’s fabulous looks, great hair, and genetically fortunate bone structure. I don’t fight my wavy hair anymore, and don’t have any ideal hairstyle to make me look like I somehow can remotely look like them or anywhere as good. Also don’t have the Norwegian look issue 😂
Aw. I have to move to the desert and Id rather mine fluffier and wavy but dry just makes it flat
So true. Growing up in humid Florida made my thick, coarse hair unruly. And then I went to Arizona to visit when I was 18 and I went to bed with wet hair and I woke up with normal hair and I was like oh my God I have found the promised land.
This was such wonderful information. I have always had to style my hair to look put together and I do have softer features. Makes SO much sense now. Thank you!
Wowww, thank you for the validation!
I am a soft gamine, with dramatic ingenue essence, and just “rolling out of bed hair” doesn’t support my features. I have thick straight hair that is beautiful, but…. I need that polished look!! I don’t have any natural essence or typing at all and need curled ends or styled bangs etc etc.
I had accepted that I’m someone that just has to do their hair to look put together like Christina Hendricks in the video.
I really liked how you just said that we just can choose to end the war and just choose to style our hair in such a way that supports our bone structure. I used to think that I was just ugly until I styled my hair LOL, but I really liked how you framed the perspective better!
I think a good solution for people who are very chiseled and have thin, fine, straight hair, is getting the right amount and length of layers that can help the hair have movement and texture, even if their hair remains fine and not very “dynamic” in terms of texture. Plus there are always ways of putting parts of it up, leaving parts down around the face, different types of bangs, etc.
We think “length is better” on people like this a lot, but sometimes the hair only looks thinner the longer it is, and length isn’t always the end-all-be-all. Layers can have length even if the hair or actually shorter overall, etc.
A half up hair down is a god send for me. I’m a soft dramatic with thin hair. It looks so much thicker then if I just wore my hair down.
Yeah I noticed this when I dyed my hair for the first time.
Dark Brown suits my teint way better than my natural hair color, and my sister looks better with red/ginger hair. It's funny .... We didn't change anything else, just the hair color, and it made a HUGE difference.
Love this Merriam. Was hoping you would comment more on Uma Thurman (FN?). All I can say is she looks 1000x better with the straight hairstyle
I have to thank you Merriam. Because of your videos I finally have exactly the hair I have always wanted and tried so many times to do but could never make work. Learning about my body type and essence, gave me the few details I had wrong. The missing puzzle pieces were seemingly small but they made all the difference and now my entire look just works and I have never looked so good! Thank you so much!
This was so well-explained. Thank you!
No. It isn't a bias towards wanting to believe that one's natural hair texture is best. After 20 years of observing other people, and struggling with my own hair, I can say with absolute certainty that there is a bias against working with one's natural hair texture, and if something is going wrong, it is because you aren't working with your natural hair texture in the right way. What this means is that you are washing it too much, or using too much product, the wrong product, fighting the fineness, fighting the fulness, friziness, or curliness, etc. In my case, I finally realized that my baby fine, wavy hair actually looks way better when I let it be its frizzy, fluffy, fine self. I stopped washing it all the time, and let it wave as it wants to. I emphasize those natural qualities, not try to counteract them. As it finally turns out, I have alot of ethereal and ingenue essence, and my hair is in line with this.
You are using examples of celebrities where we have no actual idea what their natural hair colour or texture is. Christina Hendricks isn't a natural redhead, and her natural hair texture is gauranteed to not be the same as the dye-damaged frizz you are using as an example.
I respect your opinion but this is exactly what I am referring to. Thinking that if someone just works with their natural hair texture enough, it'll all be great and ideal. You are one of the people with the natural bias that I am referring to. Presuming that there is a perfect design (that your fluffy hair works with your ethereal/ingenue essence)....which in your case works out, but someone can have fluffy hair and have a dramatic essence and it's neither here nor there. Just like someone isn't born with the perfect nose or the perfect lips, and they get cosmetic work and look better for it (many celebrities are success cases of this, while some are of course failure cases). There are some of us who do our hair, and simply look better for it.
Thank you for speaking about this! I have naturally curly hair, but also have a soft features and I just can never seem to make it work for me. It always does take a ton of time and tons of product and I’m never satisfied with the end result when heat styling is just reliable easier and actually usually takes less time.
Thank you for being so honest and straight forward...i am indian..very petite bone structure and theatrical romantic body type..i have sooooo much hair its crazy..everytime my hair is open it drowns my face..i have realized a nice volumnous updo with some nice hair flower looks the best on me..people can actually see my face and i can wear big earrings that suit me..i have spent years trying to figure out the color cut and length that suits me..tried straightening , wavy hair routines and other ways to make my hair look glamorous...seems like the best way is to keep the hair away from my face😅
I'm at war with my hair. I'm short with fine, medium/thin dirty blonde hair that looks best when short or neat and pulled back off my face. But I also have a wide rib cage, and broad shoulders paired with delicate narrow bones and a child's sized head. I could balance out those two extremes with long hair to break my shoulder line with texture and volume and make my head look larger, but my hair is too straight and fine, plus it needs to look styled. My only two options seem to be growing out my hair to pull it back into some fun intricate updoes to give my head more volume or to cut it short in some way that looks very neat with volume to make my head look larger.
It took me until my 40s to figure out my hair. Ugh!
I believe that all bone structures can look pretty with their air dried hair but some bone structures need longer lengths to look pretty. The longer your hair is the more weight it will have and it will naturally lay down. If you grow your hair long over your breast you will always have a good curly hair day. I curl my hair using rag curls because i like an elongated curly VS my natural bigger curls. Once my hair is long again I won't need to manipulate my hair very much because it will be nice and heavy. I think tall curly girls should really keep their hair very long.
Totally agree! Just had to cut mine at the collar bone to get rid of bleached ends, and the curls are wild now. I can't wait till I get some length and they settle down again
I am this Nordic european type, tall, sharper bone structure, fine and very straight hair. I was always unhealthy with my hair. On Christmas my sister gave me a heat iron for wavy hair (not a curler), and i look so much better with more body in my hair. So I can really real are to what you are saying. I wonder why nature doesn’t match hair with the rest of the body ..
Same here. Hair is bone straight so much so I was always asked if I flat ironed my hair. I find adding waves has been the best look for me. Not curl, just waves. It makes such a difference.
I also wonder why nature doesn’t match our hair to the rest of us! But why doesn’t straight hair match you if you are tall and have sharp bones? Wouldn’t it be a perfect match?
This! I also wonder why nature doesn’t match us with the ideal hair we should have!
Except it does you live in Cold with little sun environment unless you moved it helps with vitamins d.people who have the thickest hair live in Hot humid environment to protect themselves from over heat
And a piece of advice you are lucky to have that hair.don't use equipment you don't need unless it's a special occasion once in a while you will damage your hair with no reason or need 🎉
I had straight hair most of my life and probably due to hormones later on it changed. Now, if I did not blow dry it and use something to curl it or straighten it, it would look undone like Christina's. I wash it every other day, and I don't struggle with it, I just know that's the way it is. I have only one sister who got the curly hair and it suits her. Her curls are very nice. Love your videos!
Long hair absolutely suits me. It's wonderful. Take into consideration....hard water, which can make anyone's hair look terrible.
I have curly hair and I always thought it never truly suited me even when it looks its best, thank you because someone finally understands!!!
Bingo! Talk about hair challenges. I’m a Kibbe Dramatic Classic and am supposed to have very defined and styled hair. Yet mine is super thick and straight on top, wavy in the middle, and curly on the ends. I just gave up on coloring my hair and had it all cut off. It was almost a buzz cut. I hate it, but all my friends love it. Even people I didn’t know were coming up to me on the street saying they loved my salt and pepper hair. So I’m listening. I’ll keep my hair short (because I’m lazy) but will grow out the top part. You are so right about this.
Im a flamboyant natural with romantic, dramatic, classic essence. I really struggle wity my hair. I have fine, thin long straight hair. I do look good with volume but omg it is a struggle.
One thing I realized after 29 years is I'll never get my curtain bangs away , it suits me really well and i like to play with the length. It just "dress" my face in the most elegant and polished way possible 😂
You are so right. I have so much hair, too dense. And my body cannot support it. I try to shear out as much as possible but still.. I can't do wash and wear I wish I could
I am sharpened soft and I have wavy and long hair. It is not overly big, but it is frizzy and not uniform. I personally think for every day wear it is not bad. I generally always wear it natural, but sometimes I straighten it and tbh it looks more glam like that. Someone might think that it's not enough to just straighten it, but for me it works if I want a more polished look. I also think the straight hair highlights my bone structure and enhances the softness of my features.
Yesss, sharpened soft here with curly hair, and I recently found that when I straighten my hair it makes me look more glamorous & polished like you said. I used to straighten my hair and then immediately curl it with a big curling iron. I never took the time to see how straight hair looked on me, I assumed bone straight hair would be plain and boring. Until I straightened it and actually looked at myself and realized I really loved it. It seems most people curl their hair with a big curling iron for example to look more dressed up and glam. I find curling my hair makes me look more "plain" like I am going to run errands, even though my hair is fully done up. While straightening it makes me look more glamorous. I wonder why this is the case. Maybe as you said it highlights the bone structure and so it ends up pulling on the dramatic essence more than the romantic , making us appear more "vavavoom" but at the same time, emphasizing the softness we do have, so it ends up having two extremes at once. I am not sure but I am here for it !
@@GGTaye I totally agree! I think there is for sure the contrast of sharp and soft at play to make it look so good. Actually when I had my first professional blow out done on my hair it was very sleek and polished with curls towards the ends and one of my friends loved it saying it's the best on me. I think that is also really polished and again it can be done with less heat. I would say like Merriam said, it is about all hairs being in place and a polished look. I personally don't like the updo shown in the video as they just don't work for me I prefer length and to have hair around my face. Everybody just needs to try it out for themselves, but for me straightened hair is a fast way to polish my look with almost no effort!
@@Laura-vs6fs I agree! Thank you for responding
so agreed! grateful i see a video validating this, i think i have really “good hair” its healthy wavy/curly and hair stylist love to compliment it in my experience. but i just look so much better with straight hair i feel, its almost like makeup, makes my face light up more. its kind of a curse bc i don’t wanna be damaging my hair, but i wanna look my best to feel good.
Merriam, I'm sharing this video with others. Thank you so much.
Truth 💣s … I have small, but very angular features, and when my hair is wavy and messy and doesn’t suit me unless I have a nice structured bob or lob, (doesn’t look amazing naturally). I’m part Nordic, but I disagree with Uma Thurman. She looks better with smoother lines IMO.
I'm a theatrical romantic and have been at war with my hair for years. Whenever I dress up people ALWAYS comment on my hair being off. Even learning about my kibble type its still felt like trial and error and I haven't discovered the hairstyle that feels like me. I've been tempted to go shorter but everyone says keep it long.
Why would anyone make such a comment to you? It’s really rude
Same. I'm also TR with bad hair all the time except when I really style them, even iron them super straight
@@Arginne thank you 😭🥹
@@annakarina8417 yeah! Even though I’ve read kibbe said sleek and straight isn’t good for TRs I still do it to get some semblance of control!
Is part of the about skull width vs face width? Especially the cranium. I feel like it makes a lot of us look like we’re wearing a wig when a lot of women like JR have a much smaller cranial circumference
I just learned so much. Thank you.
It’s definitely a matter of perspective… to some degree there’s probably a style someone would objectively look healthier and more attractive w, but the issue w Christina’s hair was- I think- the color… when you showed the example of her wavy bob and up do, I first thought they were examples of what not to do. She looked 10 years older.
The larger and more textured my hair is, and the more striking the color - be that flaming auburn, royal purple, cobalt blue, or dark brown - the better I look. Unfortunately, I'm a True Summer/Dark Winter hybrid in the 12 season system and close to borderline Pure/Shaded Summer in the 16 season system. It seems as though I have to choose between what flatters my skin the most and what flatters my face and bone structure most, and it feels like a lose-lose situation.
I cannot tell you how much I wish I had high chroma and contrast instead of medium. Being a Dramatic Summer is miserable.
I'm sharpened soft and like my fine waves day one because they are more defined and have more volume, but after that even if it's not dirty I feel the need to shower again to get a style I like without heat*. I'll try overnight curls instead to get some definition back!
Also I'm going back to my longer, weightier hair because it just made more things work for me (and the length pulled the wave down and made it less* frizzy and more defined because it wasn't almost a curl and became an intentional long S shape). Tysm for all you do!
Everyone is shocked when I straighten my hair because it looks so different to my wild curly hair
Thank you for this video. I'm a soft dramatic with a heavy classic essence and I have been fighting my natural curly, frizzy, and wild hair my whole life. There is a lot of pressure to love your hair the way it is naturally but it is just not flattering on me. This helps explain why.
I'm petite, 'natural' hair looks so bad on me. My hair is so fine and whispy - similar to the Scandinavian clients you describe, and I am part Norwegian, but didn't get the height or bone structure. I think I do look okay with straight hair but it NEEDS to be sleek and polished. I look so slovenly if I let it air dry.
I have a dramatic classic body type plus gamine and ethereal essences. That helps when I want to use my natural curly hair. Thank you for your videos❤
hi merriam , thanks for your videos . ♥️
can you do a video about warm and rosy . ♥️♥️
Very insightful, thank you 🙂
As a black girl omg yes
Thank you for the video it was so helpful and has really made me think! As someone with a smaller, oval face with soft features and big curly hair I always wondered why the messy bun or straight hair I coveted never quite worked. From what i understand now from your video it's all about balance. So more volume in my hair works well against my smaller face and a more polished style (curls or otherwise) compliments my softer features. I think I get it now finally at 38yo/ 😂
This makes so much sense. I never understood what was happening when I felt frustrated, so helpful.
This was a very clever analysis!
As a kibbe flamboyant gamine with naturally extra kinky hair who has worn both straight and kinky styles, it’s s the styling and cut I think more than the texture of your hair. When my hair is kinky I like it short or in an updo. When my hair is straight it’s pretty much the standard Kibbe suggestions.
I think every bone structure can wear their natural hair but natural hair texture doesn’t necessarily mean shampoo, condition and go lol. You just style and work with your natural hair texture the same as when you blowout, straighten or curl your hair.
Christina’s hair probably would have looked better with defined curls but voluminous and a tousled updo. Each curl wrapped around a finger to frame her face. Understanding how to work with your natural texture is a gift I think and everyone is different
Just my opinion as someone with the kinkiest of curls who also wears it straight when I want. I used to view my hair as a “war” before I realized my kinky hair is not the beauty standard.
Anywho just want to encourage someone who would rather work with their texture instead of viewing it as a “war”.
Please link Your video about hair styles for body types.
You hair is really pretty. 😊
Loved that video!! Thank you ❤
This really isn’t talked about enough, I have frizzy, wavy hair that does not fit my SD facial structure and I have to spend time ‘polishing’ my hair regardless of if I do waves or whatever. I love that you point out that it’s ok if we don’t embrace our natural hair….when it’s really at war with us vs us with the hair lol
I also have naturally medium brown hair and have dyed it a rich red for almost my entire adult life. It suits me and Everybody thinks it’s natural lol
Thank you for this video! This makes a lot of sense.
As sharpened moderare with low-volume pin straight hair fully agree. I go for natural volume, keep it elongated annd clean looking, and wear my objectively big long bones and fleshier face proudly, rather than feel urge to struggle for things i can't get, being a 0-skill styling idiot. It never gets right, my hair just says no and returns to natural state in 5 minutes.
This is EVERYTHING
Yes! This makes so much sense!
As a soft dramatic … this is so true! I have very thick wavy shoulder length hair that looks much better styled, rather than air dried.
Yeeess! I’m a classic and have super curly hair. I WORK to make it tidy.
Plz talk bout some tricks or haircuts for the very very thin hair nd different body types ..i have a certain type of alopecia and i hope u help me
Be real cool if someone could just show us grown women with widows peaks where our "part" is supposed to be. Im 38 and it's still a daily guess 😅
This is so random but have you tried a small zig zag part line? I think I've seen Korean and Chinese beauty influencers talk about it.
Wow, 'heavy' is definitely the word. Christina Hendricks and Julia Roberts look beautiful in their opposite styles😍
love these asmr fashion videos
Thank you! I never thought of that. My messy waves just look so bad without heat styling, and I always thought I was just doing it wrong.
This is interesting. It's a little complicated, but lol. I'll have to look into it, but i have the feeling that flamboyant one is going be me, lol. 😂
Can you do this combined with essences?
Hi Merriam, just watched loepsie and am now confused: where is the difference between the levato and the full report styling?
Thank you! I do wish you had linked to the video you'd mentioned...?
Does the way you part your hair matter?
Yep.
Sometimes!
@@winxclubstellamusaalways.
Mine does, middle would be atrocious on me. I think it does..
I feel like I generally have such a generous appreciation of other people’s appearances that I often have trouble noticing the “problem” with styling in these sorts of contexts. And when it comes to myself I’m really dysmorphic and really unable to analyze what’s going on with any nuance.
You typed me Sharpened soft and I have (due to hormone changes) lost a lot of hair. It is rly depressing. :(
you explained something that's been on my mind recently. i even considered dyeing my hair a lighter color to remove some of that 'weight' but i've never tried it before and i'm not sure about the maintenance required :/ i don't think straightening my hair is an option for me, some days it does end up a little straight and i think it looks really bad lol i feel like i'm always stuck between traits that are complimented by opposite styles...
What about blended types? 😅 I always feel my hair is off as blended type
I feel blended types have it the easiest because simply putting one's hair up in a neat bun, braid, or ponytail works wonders. The style can be softer or sleeker depending on which side of the blended spectrum you learn towards, but neither is going to look too off on the other. So an individual at the blended sharp end of the spectrum will still look good if their bun shows their curls, as long as it's a neat bun.
I look best with lots of volume and big, round, soft curls. Straight and flat is just awful on me, like my face is a terrible shock under silky, straight hair.
My natural hair texture is not exactly the most flattering, it's a little too messy, but it's so much better than straightening. I refuse to straighten and then curl. I'm natural forever now. ❤
As a soft gamine with heavy hair I often find putting it up is the best solution
Wait. Christina Hendricks is your example of “bad” tousled hair?
Haha? Right? Nah but the polished did look better imo , of course christina looks good regardless.
Oh yes I have been at war with my hair almost my entire life. I started chopping it off at about 12 years old because i didn't know what to do with it
My natural hair texture is stick straight on top, from my ears up. Then it’s very curly from there down, like a weird mullet. It’s hilarious air dried and got worse after pregnancy 😂
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Im a soft natural in kibbe but I can’t do curly hair on me. I have tight curls but I always keep it straight. I wish I had looser curls/waves at least
Mirriam, would you consider doing a color and body typing on Reese Witherspoon? Thank you!
I have a round face and poker straight long hair, middle parting or tight bun styles do nothing for me, I think I look best with short hair.
A low side part and volume on the top of your head would be flattering for you.
How did you know I was thinking about this? 😂 thank you
Yeah when I tried to do an overly polished hairstyle I look more masculine. The soft overly feminine hair makes my long and angular face look masculine
I am a FG, I have wavy and curly-ish hair. On a good day, when it is shaped, it is good but...good god! mostly it is so damn frizzy! It ages me so badly even a short hair cut won't help me! 😂
a friend of mine did a keratin treatment as she could not take it anymore. She is for sure an FG, and as much as I loved her natural hair and will always advocate for leaving curls alone, the sleek straight bob she has now just suits her SO MUCH.
I like this grey top on you