Why You're Not A Priority

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  • Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
  • The reasons why a woman you are dating for several months will continue to not invest much in the relationship and not make you a priority in her life. How to determine where you are going wrong in your dating approach so members of the opposite sex will start to value you and your time.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 512

  • @kevindavis1281
    @kevindavis1281 7 років тому +777

    Just don't fall for it. Be busy. Do your own thing and don't compromise it. Work on bringing your own value up! That's it! There's your answer!!

    • @petergrebinger8480
      @petergrebinger8480 6 років тому +34

      They all play games all the time

    • @Josh-ct6ue
      @Josh-ct6ue 5 років тому +1

      Peter Grebinger deffo

    • @Pursuit4happiness
      @Pursuit4happiness 4 роки тому +5

      @@mrs9225 Sadly some guys do the same so it just ppl you have a doom in love mentality not allowing ppl who do not have that mentality get frustrated with great ppl who can not get over the past or insecurities ... so yeah we have to accept that ugly truth and move on

    • @hermanlucaslucas846
      @hermanlucaslucas846 4 роки тому +3

      @@mrs9225 they have this "believe women" thing going in I think its going to be another nail in the coffin for the cause of women.

    • @Intension123
      @Intension123 4 роки тому +10

      @@mrs9225 Facts, right there. The majority of women have it so easy in life, not having to initiate, having the power of choosing and they manipulate the living shit out of it.
      Women are so stuck inside their feeling entitled bubble, that they just dont give a damn about anything other then themselfs and act like spoiled princesses who are able to do or act the way they want, without penalty.
      Being shallow, entitled and craving free attention, comes to women naturally, especially with the social media that killed dating for most men and the feminists.

  • @aron8949
    @aron8949 6 років тому +766

    don't be afraid to lose her, I had a women that was stringing me along, I was clearly not a priority, I told her to hit me up when she wants to hang out, I never hit her up again, and she never hit me up again. now I do not have to focus any time on a woman who is not into me.

    • @svasianfilipiname6603
      @svasianfilipiname6603 5 років тому +18

      No one has “a truck load” of options unless you’re filthy rich or, famous, or you’re at least a 7+/10! 🙂

    • @Josh-ct6ue
      @Josh-ct6ue 5 років тому +47

      Sue V women do because they have thirsty guys on them all the time

    • @ElevateResumeDesign
      @ElevateResumeDesign 5 років тому +2

      Aron amen brotha

    • @jjmusicarchive2998
      @jjmusicarchive2998 5 років тому +32

      9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

    • @kristinemorris77
      @kristinemorris77 5 років тому +19

      I completely agree. Walk away, she ain’t worth your time ✌🏾

  • @monie948
    @monie948 8 років тому +445

    if someone or something is important to you you make time for it.

    • @ladyfay7777
      @ladyfay7777 4 роки тому +4

      Exactly this.

    • @ladyfay7777
      @ladyfay7777 4 роки тому

      Please stop stalking me on yt.

    • @eggyolkeo6422
      @eggyolkeo6422 4 роки тому +2

      @@mrs9225 God damn you hit the nail right in the head.

    • @eggyolkeo6422
      @eggyolkeo6422 4 роки тому +23

      @@mrs9225 I know what you mean, once they start to make excuses not to text, not even in her spare time or stop giving a shit about you, there's someone else in the picture. Happened to me recently. So I walked away.

    • @flo_ridaa7074
      @flo_ridaa7074 4 роки тому

      👍🏼

  • @jazzoj5
    @jazzoj5 4 роки тому +161

    3:31 this is how I lost the last chick I was dating, don't let these girls waste your time. If you get the feeling you're not a priority or you're chasing way more than her, pull back, make other things in your life a priority over seeing her, if she likes you she'll make more of an effort, if not charge it to the game and move on.

  • @rancesullivan2446
    @rancesullivan2446 9 років тому +343

    Sometimes it's better 2 just walk away. Take what dignity u still have and go. It's easier when u have been repeatedly disrespected...

  • @diamon1312
    @diamon1312 6 років тому +152

    I am a woman and I think that's totally true:"you should value your self" best advice ever👏

  • @Lerroy007
    @Lerroy007 5 років тому +144

    7:37 what to say if shes not treating you like a priority
    14:14 what to do if she wont make date
    14:43 what to say if she calls you the night of

  • @CoachCoreyWayne
    @CoachCoreyWayne  11 років тому +170

    Correct. All you can do is your best and sometimes that still will not be enough.

    • @somyan8540
      @somyan8540 6 років тому +4

      Coach Corey Wayne - true. 😔

    • @robertgibbs7513
      @robertgibbs7513 4 роки тому +6

      Women are so complicated Coach Corey Wayne the old days used to be easy it was easier back in the old days for a man to get a woman but now it's like almost impossible

    • @johnbingaman3645
      @johnbingaman3645 3 роки тому +2

      @@robertgibbs7513 you're right, and the older you get it's even harder, the older they are they have more baggage ,damage, multiple marriages and kids and exes in the background, and very independent, and a lot of the women in their fifties and sixties are really out of shape with a lot of extra pounds

    • @johnbingaman3645
      @johnbingaman3645 3 роки тому +2

      @@kristianthaulow yes this is what you have to do, Corey's books and knowledge are very great stuff, but the older you get it does get harder Slim Pickens oh, well you hope they're Slim, knowledge is power

    • @jennifersinatra5743
      @jennifersinatra5743 Місяць тому

      Women are told to do the same thing..lol.. we're all so cautious as people are so fickle.

  • @jamarnicholas5697
    @jamarnicholas5697 5 років тому +172

    Just be real and if she doesn't reciprocate someone else will.. I hate games.

    • @Josh-ct6ue
      @Josh-ct6ue 5 років тому +15

      Jamar Nicholas I hate games too , to many mind games it’s so sad what we’ve come to being nice is been seen as weak wtf ?

    • @t-bone6636
      @t-bone6636 4 роки тому +2

      @@mrs9225 truth is in long term -> be yourself, but improve yourself steadily in all aspects!

    • @dickyarjuna1566
      @dickyarjuna1566 4 роки тому

      Its not a game.. it just how commonly human psylogical attraction works.

    • @t-bone6636
      @t-bone6636 4 роки тому +1

      @@mrs9225So I dated that girl a couple of times. watching movies at the cinema. holding hands etc. she says she wants to take it slow.. she sais shes still a virgin. she moves in another city for studiing. I wont text her again.

    • @t-bone6636
      @t-bone6636 4 роки тому +2

      all action like kissing and holding hand came from me. she never did anything by herself.. sign that she is not interested i guess.

  • @patriodiames9715
    @patriodiames9715 4 роки тому +111

    When my ex dumped me 5 years ago, I was devastated. I feel like the pain wouldnt end, my ego was hurt and I loved her so much. Almost destroyed my life. This guy saved me. Whenever im sad and misses her, I watch a ton of his vid and even bought his book. Thanks Coach. You saved my life. I came out fine and is now living the life I dreamt of.
    That ex gf started begging me and tried to win me back and I dumped her.

  • @AgeOfBile
    @AgeOfBile 9 років тому +331

    None of us really want "that person". What we really want is how "that person" made us feel, or (if it's not an ex) how we BELIEVE they will make us feel once we're with them. Focus on achieving that feeling. You can feel that way whether you're with someone or not. Once you do, the right person will appear to match the way you feel. Focus on the relationship you want, not on any one person who may or may not be able to help you achieve it. Life can get very interesting once you can get your focus to shift in this way. Be open to ALL opportunities.

  • @flannsixtyseven7489
    @flannsixtyseven7489 5 років тому +52

    If you are not a priority just leave. Waited for one year because i loved her so much. Hurt me even more. Should have left at her first backing away.

  • @wildflowersmile3224
    @wildflowersmile3224 5 років тому +92

    If you are really into someone you WILL find time for them, just like you find time for a very exciting hobby you love.

    • @harrisn3693
      @harrisn3693 4 роки тому

      The only way a girl will be interested in a bloke that aint born white nor is rockin a rockstar lifestyle is if they flash cash at a bar and be str8 up spitting pickup lines like eminem. I blame BET and MTV for women's fucked up minds

    • @eggyolkeo6422
      @eggyolkeo6422 4 роки тому +17

      Some talk to you in their free time, and some free their time to talk to you. Know the difference

    • @liamjohnson3247
      @liamjohnson3247 3 роки тому

      Exactly

  • @alisaiful6717
    @alisaiful6717 5 років тому +60

    I had gone through all those things.. Its terrible when you found out you were not a priority. I returned back the treatment and stop making her a priority. Problem solved. I moved on with my life

  • @mtbers
    @mtbers 10 років тому +121

    Wow the first guys story is the exact same as mine. Super pathetic, never realized until you hear it from the third person.

  • @jonathangant251
    @jonathangant251 4 роки тому +88

    Set her free because she playing with someone else . Men never wait for a woman .

    • @fargeeks
      @fargeeks 4 роки тому +4

      I wait, because if i seek then i feel like im some dude trying to seek obligations to value me when they dont have to do so.
      So yeah waiting is better off

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom3832 6 років тому +36

    This advice is helpful and enlightened for us, When someone is really into you no matter how busy she is she must willing to give his precious time just to be with you. Stop pursuing this kind of things because she is not valued time your effort.

  • @mtbiker4life918
    @mtbiker4life918 3 роки тому +18

    She's just looking for attention while seeing other dudes. He needs to block her. Stop allowing women to do this. Be up front with her, tell her you're not into games and move on. This whole "let women come to you" has a line.

  • @sweetswing1
    @sweetswing1 6 років тому +49

    In short make youself your prioity. First comes you, then your family or close friends, then her.

    • @swiitdoll
      @swiitdoll 4 роки тому

      Faksakes this is exactly how I treat men. Even my hobbies come before him.

    • @zuzukyd
      @zuzukyd 3 роки тому +2

      Forever Young lol that a bit much isnt it? Hobbies dont go first lol(sounds a bit overkill to me rly)

    • @andjela6351
      @andjela6351 Рік тому

      Yeah, this is exactly the reason why I ended my relationship. If you can't make your partner a priority you are not my cup of tea, simple as that, ende. Why people are in a relatioships if they do not have a capability to make their partners as a priority. So that is not a good advice..
      How anyone can create a family with someone who does not know how to commit and how to sacrifice. Nope, there is not future at all.

  • @redforeman3572
    @redforeman3572 4 роки тому +31

    The definition of a loser: I dated a girl for 8 months and she’s still not my girlfriend

    • @sam_alimi
      @sam_alimi 2 роки тому +9

      It’s not cool to call someone a loser if they don’t know much about women

    • @bluetheminx
      @bluetheminx Рік тому

      @@sam_alimi yeah it is

  • @davetrottier
    @davetrottier 5 років тому +68

    It’s hard to walk away for good, but even if you re-attract her you’ll be stuck constantly playing the indifference game. Why bother being with someone who’s not on the same level as you.

    • @jonathangant251
      @jonathangant251 4 роки тому +1

      Believe me find other .

    • @spajas8092
      @spajas8092 4 роки тому +19

      Jonathan Gant except 95% of girls are like this. After a while you’ll end up playing the emotionally detached indifference game with a woman you’re serious about, but if you don’t play it, she’ll lose interest and leave you. It’s so stupid.

    • @santoparfano1910
      @santoparfano1910 4 роки тому +7

      Exactly..if you have to change who you are to reattact a mate then walk away bc thet aren't really into you.

    • @TravelButter
      @TravelButter 3 роки тому +1

      If they come back then that means something has changed for them. So just be yourself in front of them but don’t make them the focus of your life. Stick to your purpose and you’ll see just how important they really are in the grand scheme. As a result they’ll sense that energy and their attraction will stay high.

    • @lunababy662
      @lunababy662 3 роки тому +3

      Going through this and its true u get there attention for a few n u have to keep playing the game. Well i dont want to play anymore

  • @CoachCoreyWayne
    @CoachCoreyWayne  11 років тому +66

    read my book to learn the basics

    • @vijaysiddhartha326
      @vijaysiddhartha326 6 років тому +1

      awesome book

    • @somyan8540
      @somyan8540 6 років тому +2

      Coach Corey Wayne - yes I preffer to read than to watch and listen too

    • @reyray6287
      @reyray6287 6 років тому +1

      Getting your book ASAP, I’ve never had an issue picking up women but I have had issues maintaining and understanding them, I’ve been watching most of your videos and applying what I’ve learn, now I see how much I’ve been f***ing up lol, thanks for everything!!!

    • @sararushiti3416
      @sararushiti3416 6 років тому

      Coach Corey Wayne I love your videos, but can you make videos for women as well? :)

  • @SonOfDaProphets
    @SonOfDaProphets 6 років тому +36

    Ill make it easy on everyone, get more than one option! You’ll see how much effort someone puts in when you not too focused on them...

  • @tonyl9075
    @tonyl9075 6 років тому +48

    Its crazy because a woman can have u over multiple times deeply embrace you mentally and physically, share personal topics with you so warm and undoubtedly trustworhy in character. she tells you things she thinks are amazing about you even little things you do or say. Kisses you so passionately asks you not to leave her bed, babies you and in that moment you think "There's no way she could stop liking me like this unless I was a jerk or cheated on her or something band this is easy" . then she mysteriously starts texting less or acting not like herself and it can feel like how can they betray me...and so suddenly,and for no reason?.."I didn't mess things up according to my male standards here." When you actually were doing things wrong. imo it takes learning that its just the nature of the female . Trust Corey Wayne its science he teaches.

    • @Fakestockguru
      @Fakestockguru 5 років тому +6

      tony l yup, i just experienced that. The girl was pursuing me and i thought she had a crush on me. Then all the sudden out of the blue she gave me the “better off as friends.”

    • @Spiritualwarriormindset
      @Spiritualwarriormindset 4 роки тому +12

      Love you one week. Distant the other. Crazy. But that is the reality.

    • @jennifersinatra5743
      @jennifersinatra5743 Місяць тому

      Men do the same. I think women are more relationship seekers over men in general.. go figure.

  • @HomemadeNub
    @HomemadeNub 6 років тому +20

    Corey Wayne nailed the video in the first minute basically. You will remove your attention and then they will either a) come back or b) a better one comes!!

  • @radaka
    @radaka 5 років тому +98

    Some people are more in love with the idea of someone than they really are in love with the person. Or they love the way you made them feel, or what they think or thought you had or could have together. Sometimes it's not even true love for that person. Nobody likes to feel rejected, makes you feel like you're not good enough or wonder what's wrong with yourself. When someone walks away LET THEM GO. And don't be pathetic! That'll push someone away or make them RUN even faster. Don't act like you can't live or be happy without them. Don't constantly obsess, call, text, keep tabs on, or STALK someone. Even if you feel psycho inside come on, at least play it cool. Nobody can miss someone or think about good thoughts when you won't get out of their ass and act pathetic. And you shouldn't embarrass yourself like that. Get help, learn to love yourself and learn to have the same qualities that you look for in someone. You can't expect qualities out of someone that you don't have yourself. Work on YOU, and it'll work out.

    • @thelayman6189
      @thelayman6189 5 років тому +3

      Rachel you said many things in one breath

    • @AzraelPercussionNEO
      @AzraelPercussionNEO 5 років тому +4

      Nailed it. It is time to let her go. I am just a sex toy to her. Nothing real there. Music & Weight Lifting Focused keep the train rolling.

    • @thelayman6189
      @thelayman6189 5 років тому +1

      Its funny Rachel, this video popped up today and without knowing I already had commented a month ago, I was once again straightaway intrigued by your long reply and lo I found my own comment below.... No offense Rachel, just sharing a lighter moment !

    • @davidcresse5647
      @davidcresse5647 5 років тому +3

      Rachel used periods. Laymen used commas, .

  • @scratchytwo
    @scratchytwo 7 років тому +28

    Thank you Coach. I have been seeing a girl for 3 weeks now. I fell for her so fast without realizing that I was being way too needy and always waiting around for her to meet up. She would often be "too busy" and would hang out with friends instead of seeing me. When we do actually meet up to see each other, she would "have to leave" after 2 to 3 hours. I would always feel so sad. Decided to finally research about my situation and found this very helpful video. Subscribed and will watch your other videos!!
    If only we can all just act/do how we feel/want, dating would be much easier. I guess this is why people play the dating game :( People just want what they can't have and take what they do have for granted. Sad

    • @okhouri
      @okhouri 7 років тому +4

      The sad truth of the matter is that women's only way of judging a man's worth is by how much he appears to want her. If he seems easy, she assumes he's worthless. Corey is asking us to be strong and to overcome our emotions at the beginning, until our true value is clear to the woman.

    • @jjmusicarchive2998
      @jjmusicarchive2998 5 років тому +5

      9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

  • @jsm0m
    @jsm0m 4 роки тому +12

    Scarcity creates value fellas 👍🏼

  • @louiepcs
    @louiepcs 7 років тому +185

    been married a long time... that woman who you pamper and worry about what she thinks, who is all about herself, you would wish you never met after a few years. Because she will only get worse and more btchy when she get too comfortable. If u think u r not a priority now, when u have kids, you are just a doormat who makes money for her. So if you are dating a girl who needs to be the focus on your relationship, run barry. RUN!

    • @4spida2fingaz0
      @4spida2fingaz0 7 років тому +8

      Louie Bernabe I'll take heed to that thank you

    • @thesnakedecides3423
      @thesnakedecides3423 7 років тому +29

      It's brutal. Most women will show that dark side if they get the opportunity. Sad reality is, they will worshop the ground you walk on so long as you're fulfilling their fantasy or whatever. Once you stop being that source of emotions, you're lower than an insect to them.

    • @radaka
      @radaka 5 років тому +26

      That is really sad to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't value you or your happiness or needs. But both sexes are guilty of that. It's not just women who do that. There ARE good women too. And I know there are good men. Have you truly honestly sat down, when not pissed and explained to your partner how you feel? Or what they are doing to make you feel that way? And if yes and they continue to do the same, then that really does suck because I was in a marriage like that and I finally realized there was nothing I could do or say to make him care or love me differently. So after knowing I had done everything I could to make my marriage work, I got out of it. I knew I'd never be happy like that or loved the way I thought love should feel. I have no regrets because I gave my all. I know God brought me my husband now because we've been together 14 years and we do those things for each other. I'm so thankful and grateful for him and never ever take him for granted. He's my best buddy. Have and don't lose the qualities you want in your partner. But don't waste it on the wrong partner either

    • @krijskovacic4938
      @krijskovacic4938 5 років тому +2

      I am RUNNING!!!

    • @jonzhang2379
      @jonzhang2379 5 років тому +2

      Xox I use be have same problem with my x.run as fast as you can bro!

  • @barad-dur9236
    @barad-dur9236 2 роки тому +15

    I met a girl and things moved way too fast between the two of us. I showed one glint of insecurity/emotional weakness/neediness through ONE text and it all came crumbling down. Since then, I only let her reach out to me, and when she does, I always make one overture for her to meet. I’m in the thick of it atm, I’ll know prob by next week whether or not it’s never going to happen. But thanks to Corey at least I’m putting in the absolute minimal effort until there’s a concrete outcome.
    I totally fucked up, so now it’s damage control and I can only hope to salvage things. She’s not my soulmate but she’s certainly worth being patient for, so long as I don’t sacrifice any more of my psyche or priorities for her. Been dating some other girls too, to help remind myself of my options.

  • @richardrichard9953
    @richardrichard9953 2 роки тому +6

    The brutal honesty of these videos is surreal. It sucks when you realize that he's talking about you and you have to be honest with yourself and how you have behaved and caused a lot of the torment in your life.

    • @erict9052
      @erict9052 Рік тому +1

      Yeah it's a cold slap on the face to wake the hell up

  • @jacobniu1283
    @jacobniu1283 3 роки тому +8

    I was with a girl for 10mnths. We only saw eachother every second weekend. I wanted her to see me more. The months do matter. Its called natural progression. Never settle for anything other than what you think you deserve. I had enough when in 14days we only spent 2hrs together. I love n miss her soo much!!! But I want more from a relationship

  • @toietmoi650
    @toietmoi650 4 роки тому +4

    I decided to buy your book and listened to it several times after I went through a breakup in November last year. She unfriended me in all her social media accounts and then went off social media. I did not contact her since then and now she is sending me friend request. She is back after seven months.
    Thank you, Coach Corey!

  • @itsjustnopinionok
    @itsjustnopinionok 4 роки тому +3

    Jan 2020. I feel sad. Im 51 and just now realizing i'm that guy. And why so many girls blew me off in the past. I (was) that nice guy. Im buying you book. My life starts over today.

  • @Cpowers1990
    @Cpowers1990 6 років тому +21

    This is spot on and for me it is so hard to back off when i know I need to but I just say fuck it and pursue..its like an addiction. I'm working on it. Thanks Corey. I'd be a sad lost soul without your guidance.

  • @petermachiela5441
    @petermachiela5441 4 роки тому +6

    When she says I'm not looking for a relationship just say me neither take it easy. Like Corey said have fun & hookup

  • @texshayhopkins8812
    @texshayhopkins8812 2 роки тому +5

    Corey, I've been in a relationship with my lady for nearly a year.. this video really opened up my eyes to what I've been doing wrong that's stopped her from pursuing me.. it's much appreciated what you've shared here..

  • @thenofilterguy3061
    @thenofilterguy3061 5 років тому +14

    At that point just let her go man.. no women is worth all this waiting around.

  • @eggyolkeo6422
    @eggyolkeo6422 4 роки тому +3

    Don't be waiting for nobody, walk away and do your own thing.

  • @peterwapemoose2710
    @peterwapemoose2710 4 роки тому +8

    Coach! Why would any man want to be a woman's second or third choice? Go for it if you just want sex but dont commit to someone who gives it free to everyone else.

  • @katiewilliams9381
    @katiewilliams9381 7 років тому +14

    Hey I'm a woman and I always watch you when I really need some true honest direct advice..you really helped me through my break up and then when meeting new people.. Thanks coach Corey ..ps, I love your smile xxxx

  • @nicolaorton8603
    @nicolaorton8603 9 років тому +18

    Problem with this dude is he's hooked on and desperate for a woman who had next to no interest in him to start with. Her lame once-in-a-while texts convey she had nothing going on at the time. Dude knows she can take or leave him.

    • @jjmusicarchive2998
      @jjmusicarchive2998 5 років тому +2

      9 days no contact for me. She started saying she’s gotta check her schedule and being flaky. I’ve had enough. Everything was going well for the first month. I was so happy. Crazy how that can be taken away so quickly. I’ll hit her up in 4 or 5 days and try one more time. She’s shy so idk, Still, i thought she’d reach out. It’s hard to wait and not overpersue

    • @jjmusicarchive2998
      @jjmusicarchive2998 5 років тому

      Scott Stanley problem is I feel like I’m in love with her. I can’t walk away for that long without driving myself crazy. There’s other women in my life but none of them compare. I think 2 weeks is long enough. She said we were dating in the beginning. It’s not normal to not see someone you’re dating for 2 or more weeks

  • @patrick9939
    @patrick9939 8 років тому +24

    corey thank you for helping me, i was with a narcissist .now i am not , she made me feel less than a man .never again . your videos are changing my life for the better thank you

  • @HumbleTrader001
    @HumbleTrader001 11 років тому +15

    He could "follow all the rules" (whatever they are) and she still might not be all that into him. There's no "holy grail" (or any guarantees whatsoever) when it comes to relationships.

  • @theforexcartel6893
    @theforexcartel6893 7 років тому +24

    Coach I've watched several of your vids over a few weeks. what I'm beginning to gather is everyone must undergo constant psychological/deception warfare to keep a person's attention for as long as possible.. my question is at what point do you stop being "psychological" and start being yourself? I dare say never. I also dare say that relationships must not be real if this is what dating or relationships has evolved to in this so called modern age. But then again perhaps it's always been this way. Truly there is nothing new under the sun.

  • @Prophet776
    @Prophet776 5 років тому +12

    So all I'm hearing is condoning women playing games. If she plays games, leave her in the dust. Life's too short.

    • @wrwhiteal
      @wrwhiteal 3 роки тому +1

      Games can be fun.. just get better at it.

  • @TheRedamansouri
    @TheRedamansouri 5 років тому +19

    Coach! Why don't you just tell the poor guy he's being breadcrumbed by a covert narcissist.

  • @jneptune1540
    @jneptune1540 4 роки тому +6

    She just doesn’t want to be with you.

  • @mrsalviboy94
    @mrsalviboy94 4 роки тому +6

    A women or man should be a compliment/ an improvement to your already complete life not a necessity. I used to believe happiness came from having a lovely woman in my life until I learned the harsh truth. I worked on myself asked what is my purpose? Everything changes. To those unable to understand this ask yourselves this, how were you raised? Was it a loveless home, no affection or enough attention from parents? That's the root of the cause, is not completely your fault if you act a certain way with women. It is a process to change and find that emotional strength within you, find a hobby, do a job you love and you'll realize that happiness comes from within not from having another person trust me and trust life.

  • @doramaso
    @doramaso 4 роки тому +6

    Surely after a year of being with someone you have a right to know where you stand.Brilliant video other than that.

  • @peterp4753
    @peterp4753 6 років тому +28

    Not only is wrong to chase a girl, it's wrong to give her too much of your time when she's chasing !!! Every man should have more than one girlfriend, so he won't be needy!

    • @lunch7213
      @lunch7213 5 років тому +3

      Peter P but getting 1 is hard enough 😭😭😭

    • @AzraelPercussionNEO
      @AzraelPercussionNEO 5 років тому +4

      Peter P You know it is the sad truth. You gotta play the stupid ass game so that they get to fight over you. It bullshit either way

    • @kevinethan5751
      @kevinethan5751 2 роки тому

      @@AzraelPercussionNEO facts

  • @benhartart9487
    @benhartart9487 2 роки тому +2

    Fellas there’s 4 Billion women on the Planet, If she flakes, ghosts, disrespects you, just bounce onto the next ✊

  • @siggiAg86
    @siggiAg86 3 роки тому +2

    I think this is one of your best videos. I watch it every few months to reset my mindset.

  • @RockwildazFamily
    @RockwildazFamily 5 років тому +18

    I had this kind of situation recently. SHE was the one talking about me going over her place to cuddle, she was the one initiating everything. Then... she goes she needs space to think, she doesn't want to hurt anyone, she out with girl friends, she don't contact me, then posting she doesn't want any man, but she is waiting and who she wants to wait on her. She said it on whatsapp with a blue background, which is how we communicate. Then, just today, she responded to a photo of myself I posted and she goes "Daddy". We spoke well after and when I went to suggest meeting up, said she available ALL of next week, so I will let her know. She goes, tell me now so keep it free. I told her straight up, is either you available or another time or not at all... she then says ok ima keep it free. She had even said to me, before she pull back is, I am to prepare for her to get clingy, and she was for a bit, then she pull back... almost an entire week.
    Guys, women are emotional as heck!! They will be back and forth, they themselves unconsciously take breaks to give themselves time to miss you and see how her feelings grow. They will CONSTANTLY test you. Just be cool man, don't EVER push or rush a girl. Live YOUR life she IS watching you best believe that. Don't ever seem hurt by her "space", once she see you about living YOUR life without her, if she is indeed interested, she WILL contact you and that is what you want. Don't be pursuing a girl that really isn't interested.
    Between last night and today, it's now FOUR GIRLS that have contacted me, wanting to see me. Don't pursue these girls when they pull back, she is in many cases giving herself time to feel her feelings, to miss you and see how much it grows. Yes, at times you can be too much and she wants the space to miss you to come back to you. Leave women to their process, they are just like cats.

    • @JayMan574
      @JayMan574 4 роки тому

      Rockwildaz Family going through the same thing lol

  • @bennyblanco6704
    @bennyblanco6704 Рік тому +1

    It definitely works I stopped all contact and then guess what ? She started pursuing me coach is right stop all communication even all social media you'll see the magic work good luck !

  • @ladyYeniel
    @ladyYeniel 4 роки тому +2

    The problem is not you!! She is dating someone else that she likes more. Facts.

  • @ggwp7019
    @ggwp7019 6 років тому +29

    Every women that has lost attraction towards me has always gone with someone else or their ex. I agree with you Corey but for me it has always been she had my replacement in place. Sometimes I went along with the jerking around or would just stay distant and every time it’s the same thing. I’m not saying it wasn’t my fault but often times it wouldn’t matter. I removed my attention and it showed she didn’t value me. I think ultimately they don’t value me even when they are doing the perusing. I honestly think it has more to do with the quality of people in my area

    • @AzraelPercussionNEO
      @AzraelPercussionNEO 5 років тому +3

      Gg Wp Shit women. Going for guy to guy. Or going back to their shit ex's. The shit never changes.

    • @拥
      @拥 5 років тому +2

      Not saying you don’t, but #1 priority is to value yourself

    • @rickmorgan1441
      @rickmorgan1441 4 роки тому

      if youre not 35 you havent hit your peak yet so bluer skies ahead in that case

    • @bieituns
      @bieituns 4 роки тому +1

      Yep the same thing happened to me, the girl already had my replacement lined up and started distancing herself and looking for an excuse to leave me and blame m for it. These girls are bitches, no integrity or decency.

    • @kevinethan5751
      @kevinethan5751 2 роки тому

      @@bieituns ukr heartless humans

  • @JohnDoe-dt3by
    @JohnDoe-dt3by 6 років тому +4

    True. Overcoming neediness.

  • @theresamargarethmil2443
    @theresamargarethmil2443 7 років тому +5

    This is exactly what happening to me. He always taking me as options and I feel sad.

  • @wulfclaw4921
    @wulfclaw4921 4 роки тому +5

    If you aren't a priority and SHE is....Expect NO GOOD TO COME OF IT !

  • @SmileyMT
    @SmileyMT 8 років тому +4

    Games of tennis was suggested by the Rock in the comments here and after looking back its the best analogy I've heard. It's really helps with the 20:80 principle. Also valuing yourself as he says here.

  • @billelliott3507
    @billelliott3507 4 роки тому +2

    good looks coach I almost gave the talk without realizing what I was about to do.

  • @richdrago8235
    @richdrago8235 5 років тому +8

    Wonder what has happened to the covenant we made to God and each other? The marriage vows are to be taken seriously...life happens, and it takes patience, forgiveness and love.

  • @reliefernandezb18
    @reliefernandezb18 4 роки тому +2

    two weeks, two weeks of just listening to your podcast.... it's magic... it's fucking working.... i'll use this month's audible credit to buy your book.

  • @09198384558
    @09198384558 8 років тому +5

    Thank you so much Coach Corey for the great video. I wish I knew your channel much more earlier so I wouldn't have experienced lots of heartaches. God Bless to you sir.

  • @ivanbarbosa81
    @ivanbarbosa81 5 років тому +5

    thank you so much for this great advice Corey.just realized I dont need to proof anything to no one.just be myself

  • @roc8083
    @roc8083 4 роки тому +7

    Honestly, when women do that, its bc they are idling for another guy that she sees as higher priority. You are the back up which is why they won't commit to hanging out etc. Gotta stop idolizing women and make then wait for a change. It's a shame women do this to good guys but it's how they are wired

    • @fargeeks
      @fargeeks 4 роки тому

      Still better than having a taken lady pursuing another man.

  • @zacharyaguilar4373
    @zacharyaguilar4373 4 роки тому +1

    Hey everyone, I’m reading some of your comments and I’m currently trying to find out ways to make breakups a lot easier for men to overcome. Which is why I have two questions to ask for guys that thought the breakup was going to be easier:
    1. What are the 2 main problems you’re going through?
    2. Regarding everything that is going on, what would you want more than anything else?
    You shouldn't have to travel down the long road to get over a bad breakup like me (Year and half). Thanks in advance, I’m looking forward to reading your answers!

  • @ntegeoscar
    @ntegeoscar 8 років тому +14

    awesome work bro. your stuff works!! you saved my relationship bro. thank you

    • @ntegeoscar
      @ntegeoscar 8 років тому +1

      Dude is so good, Nothing brings happiness to a man like knowing and understanding attraction levels of his woman.

    • @bluedinero3055
      @bluedinero3055 7 років тому +1

      Jerk berk 305nigga #carolcity #305

  • @sharonsheaffer8964
    @sharonsheaffer8964 8 років тому +7

    my man has a drinking problem and all he wants to do is spend time with his friend (male) and do everything he wants and thinks when he comes home that everything is fine dandy I never cheated on my boyfriend and never would but I think it comes to the end

    • @Goldblooded559
      @Goldblooded559 6 років тому +1

      Sharon Sheaffer im going thru this rite now and im sick and tired of it..i let him have it today

  • @lfsg1975
    @lfsg1975 8 років тому +40

    that only happens to us nice guys

    • @ryanvtec3885
      @ryanvtec3885 5 років тому +1

      siuL nivaS yup us nice guys. If she took the time to get to know me. She would see im not soo nice

    • @RaymondYocum-uw5hd
      @RaymondYocum-uw5hd 5 років тому +2

      Stop being nice

    • @malka4500
      @malka4500 5 років тому +1

      Not true

    • @malka4500
      @malka4500 5 років тому +3

      There are women who is not interested in bad men.

    • @liamjohnson3247
      @liamjohnson3247 3 роки тому +1

      It happens if you like her. Never fall in love

  • @patrickbrawner2438
    @patrickbrawner2438 3 роки тому +2

    Agreed. Do you thing, pursue your interests, live your life, and you'll attract the people you want to be around.

  • @redfloyd69
    @redfloyd69 4 роки тому +3

    Can someone please explain why someone can be completely into you then suddenly just disappear? The opposite of what is going on in this video.

  • @Ataensic
    @Ataensic 11 років тому +21

    How do you get her to want to see you more than once a week?
    Well, how did she get you to want to see her more than once a week? (she's indifferent, unavailable, difficult to get ahold of, has a life of her own, hasn't chased you at all, is self-validating, & doesn't need or even want you)
    You want to feast at her banquet because on the inside you're just a pauper begging for scraps.
    Stop contacting this person; you have a lot of inner work to do.

    • @bieituns
      @bieituns 4 роки тому +2

      Wow typical mindset of a woman, completely heartless and ruthless.

    • @bieituns
      @bieituns 4 роки тому +2

      @Jennifer Boehm you mean a narcissistic sociopath?

    • @kevinethan5751
      @kevinethan5751 2 роки тому +1

      @@bieituns facts

  • @RaymondYocum-uw5hd
    @RaymondYocum-uw5hd 5 років тому +10

    Kick her to the curb! No time for games!

  • @mridulawittke
    @mridulawittke 3 роки тому +2

    It’s so sad the whole world operates on supply and demand. If you give too much they run away, if you don’t they come to you. Why does our psychology work like that? Dopamine is to blame I guess

  • @kyleprimetime
    @kyleprimetime 4 роки тому +6

    I did everything I could think of to make my girlfriend and her kids happy. The order of her priority was:
    1. Her kids
    2. Her best friend
    3. Her sisters
    4. The cats
    The cats made the list....I did not.

  • @charliemvrphy
    @charliemvrphy 4 роки тому +2

    Started reading 3% Man. Great material and easy read!

  • @daffydlandegge3843
    @daffydlandegge3843 4 роки тому +5

    I'd really like to hear your take on long distance relationships as "chatting" on the phone are the dates you speak of or video calls.
    Some of what you describe doesnt apply in that situation, meanwhile some remains a standard.

    • @daffydlandegge3843
      @daffydlandegge3843 2 роки тому

      @@Sparkyspage Only if it's long term and one or both individuals are highly insecure and/or desperately need validation from others

  • @casualdreamer8841
    @casualdreamer8841 4 роки тому +6

    Met a woman on a dating app. We exchanged msgs for about a week, then i set up a date. We ate dinner and had good conversation for about 4 hrs while having drinks.
    I chose to hug her , since she mentioned she didnt kiss on first dates when we talked before.
    2nd date was a movie date and went to a nice patio bar with live music. Had drinks and we did kiss , cuddled etc. Nothing more..
    Now after that date I noticed she became distant, and wouldnt text as she did before. Im not a needy guy and not the type to text her or even call her just to talk about random things as she did before. So after 3 days not hearing from her i get back on the app, and there she is online. Not sure why this bothered me, i know she is not my gf, but it did. I think maybe i liked her more, but I will start talking to other women now. Eventhough i wasnt her bf, i stopped being social with other women after our 2 dates. Never again, and I will get Corey's book to understand women more clearly.

  • @brunowario5169
    @brunowario5169 4 роки тому +6

    From my experience, if you have to try much in a relationship, its gonna get you heartbroken, chasing women will chase them away. If a woman likes you she will show it through her actions, she will call you, text you ask to meet. If she doesn't do any of this I'm pretty sure she is not into you much, you can choose to increase your value or keep chasing her only for her to dump you,

    • @fargeeks
      @fargeeks 4 роки тому

      I had a lady who already has a boyfriend and a child with, tried pulling off these actions and i actually thought I had a chance with her but boy i was wrong
      Oh and she told me one time that she wished i pursued her

  • @jaded9087
    @jaded9087 2 роки тому +1

    This is good advice for men and women.
    Men do the same and no one should be hanging on a maybe constantly.
    Simple as this : if they set the next date on the first date , there high on their priorities.
    If you both make plans on the Moday or Wednesday for Friday or Saturday, your still high on their priorities but if you get a maybe on the Thursdays for Friday, you are a back up plan and if you get a what are you doing now any day , your a boredom killer and they have nothing better to do.
    Dont go to a 9pm Friday night text message , come over .
    All their other plans fell through. .
    Maybe means no but if im board i might call all text.
    Your not a priority at all
    If they are in to you , they want to make sure they have time locked down with you in advance and they will not want to let you down or make you feel less than .... who ever else.
    Guys , it feels shit all round .
    The 30% bit is a bit of bull though.
    If a woman is doing 70% of the work . She is going to feel like you 30% priority.
    She is going to feel like she is less than . She will look else where.
    She will look for at least someone thats going to give her at least 50% priority to give you her 50% priority..
    Dont push them away as treat them mean , keep them keep is just mean... for anyone.
    Im blowing off phone calls atm because i get to many maybe's, last min arangment and 30% effort from a guy.
    Im not that bloody needy to be treated like this.
    He could had a chance, hes blown it .
    I like him but it sure looks like he is not in to me as much as i am in to him , so im backing off to not get hurt.
    Ill find someone that dosent make me live on maybe's.
    Yes im a woman.

  • @dylanbeasley5392
    @dylanbeasley5392 6 років тому +4

    Corey, you're really a godsend. Thank you

  • @myrahouse2368
    @myrahouse2368 5 років тому +4

    He doesn’t text when he says he will ?
    so I don’t say anything about it, I just get unattracted by that ‘flaky behaviour’
    Genuinely it’s a real turn off.
    Just do what you say your going to do, a decent woman that’s all they want.
    10 months in I believe man or woman will be put off by being inconsistent no matter how much they LV you.

    • @alisbegovic8868
      @alisbegovic8868 5 років тому

      Myra House the fact u stayed 10 months shows that what this man says is truth... treat u like shit n u will stay.... treat u like a queen u won’t give him a second glance...

    • @myrahouse2368
      @myrahouse2368 5 років тому

      He treated me exceptionally it’s only recently he’s got a tad flaky but it’s a turn off for me.

    • @ianditwin7443
      @ianditwin7443 5 років тому

      Bingo!!!

    • @myrahouse2368
      @myrahouse2368 5 років тому

      Nah I’ve took back control I seduced him then didn’t bother with him I believe he loves the chase it’s on again 😉

  • @theslo777ery
    @theslo777ery 4 роки тому +9

    At the end of the day, You're saying "At the end of the day" too much.

    • @SHRUGSS404
      @SHRUGSS404 4 роки тому

      Matthew Lafond I read this as he said "at the end of the day"😂

  • @DAC2254
    @DAC2254 6 років тому +5

    I once hated you for political comment you made , now I understand your point and I know you’re right. 🌹
    All respect.. thank you

  • @lsj8693
    @lsj8693 5 років тому +8

    Does the 80/20 rule still apply to a middle aged single mom that has an 18 yr old and a 10 yr old daughters?

    • @billybob-fh4wz
      @billybob-fh4wz 4 роки тому +4

      Yeah, like everyone says if people want to see you they will find even 4 seconds to be with you.

  • @jsm0m
    @jsm0m 7 років тому +8

    So on point!!! ... guys listen to Coach Corey he knows what's up 👏🏼

  • @bahaatamer1245
    @bahaatamer1245 4 роки тому +5

    I played with a scarcity mindset as a kid, and I failed!
    I tried abundance when I grew up, and I still failed!
    I ended up falling into scarcity again, and rest assured my needy behavior dropped her attraction from a 7-8 to (possibly) a 5, if not even less!
    I'm done trying! 🤷🏼‍♂️

  • @davidgriffin79
    @davidgriffin79 4 роки тому +2

    The take away from this is that you don't let them think they're the only game in town; there's a big ocean out there with lots of fish in it.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee 4 роки тому

      David Griffin I agree but it’s also important that it’s more than just not letting them think that. It needs to be true. You do have other options if she isn’t interested or isn’t making you a priority.

  • @cyco781loco1
    @cyco781loco1 6 років тому +2

    The second email 😂😂😂 come on over bring...."Pause" no bottle of wine here.

  • @MP-wm7jj
    @MP-wm7jj 4 роки тому +4

    What many of you guys don't understand is, have a life, do your own things, then when you want to see a girl ask for a date! If she's uncertain, tell her to call you when she knows and you'll see then go on with your life. As an adult, you have a world of possibilities! So don't wait and do something you like! The minute she feels you are needy or you are waiting, you're done! Make her chase you! Be the prize!

  • @carterkississou8006
    @carterkississou8006 11 років тому +3

    this is very valuable advices , I am myself facing similar situations. Thank you Corey , there is a lot of us out there facing the same situation

  • @shortingthetrend
    @shortingthetrend Рік тому

    Great video coach Corey Wayne. I always watch every video bro.

  • @maxlife9721
    @maxlife9721 6 років тому +1

    IVE HEARD THIS A MILLION TIMES BUT IT JUST CLICKED WHY IN A PSYCHOLOGY REASON BY THE "FIGURE OUT YOUR SCHEDULE" THING...SHE HAS TO THINK SHE HAS THE POWER AND SHE IS CHASING....AND SHE IS MAKING THE MOVE..

  • @djnevous3us
    @djnevous3us 9 років тому +6

    but if u don't pursue some1 won't it look like yr interested in her?

  • @stevewalther2293
    @stevewalther2293 4 роки тому +6

    I'm sure finding a girl in the 50s would have been wonderful...

  • @guess199
    @guess199 5 років тому +1

    If i date a girl 8 months and there’s no relationship, I’m done. I’m not dating someone that long and not have exclusivity, not trying to sleep with someone who is probably sleeping around. That’s a hook up not a possible girlfriend. The girl I’m seeing now asks me on dates most of the time, i ask her a like 10% of the time.

  • @amazingdogface1153
    @amazingdogface1153 4 роки тому +2

    My question is why he is smiling in the thumb nail, while saying, "You're not a priorety."

  • @joshuamelendez2604
    @joshuamelendez2604 3 роки тому +2

    I'm dating a woman that uses her kid as a excuse alot. I know her son has to come first, but she uses it way too much. How do I go about this?