How To Gradually Back Off After Over Pursuing

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  • @davidp2888
    @davidp2888 4 роки тому +636

    When you realize your own value, women will recognize it and be drawn to you. If she doesn't recognize it, move on; she's not a good catch.

    • @davidp2888
      @davidp2888 4 роки тому +25

      @donny bravo That's not true. In my current relationship of nearly 2 years, when we started I told her "if you're here for money or gifts, keep walking because it's not happening." She said she wasn't in it for that and she has proven it repeatedly. Moral of the story: if you go in thinking you're going to get screwed over, you will. I went in with the attitude of "If it doesn't work out, there'll be another along soon."

    • @jaymarine1775
      @jaymarine1775 4 роки тому +12

      Exactly you’re the prize not her.

    • @JR28.
      @JR28. 4 роки тому +2

      This is very true.

    • @Ydc03
      @Ydc03 2 роки тому +6

      @@jaymarine1775 yeah right. I guess that’s why the prize gets on one knee to ask the woman to marry him, right?

    • @bushmanheart
      @bushmanheart Рік тому +1

      She noticed it 11 years later. Thanks brother 😎✊🏼

  • @YouNoub1
    @YouNoub1 3 роки тому +135

    A mistake that I often make, is thinking THIS girl is different to ALL other girls and Corey's guidelines don't apply here. But then I realise that I am wrong

    • @treead67
      @treead67 3 роки тому +10

      lmao fax

    • @bgbiv7
      @bgbiv7 3 роки тому +6

      Bruhhh I thought I was done with that shit until I noticed it happening again. Fuckin a dude gotta read that book 10-15 times

    • @Fullcollapse1
      @Fullcollapse1 7 місяців тому +1

      Yeah dude they tell you shit about not wanting games or situationships blah blah but it's not true especially in the beginning stages. It sucks because sometimes they can get you reeled after you already played it cool. You get comfortable but I feel you can only do that once you're in a relationship a few months or more.

    • @Orion_Santana
      @Orion_Santana 4 місяці тому +2

      @@Fullcollapse1no bro you can never get comfortable and complacent. The courtship never ends

    • @ocho33
      @ocho33 Місяць тому

      There’s nothing wrong with women most men are just huge dorks

  • @Atx.3359
    @Atx.3359 3 роки тому +31

    “Match and mirror what she’s doing”. I like that.

  • @patriodiames4917
    @patriodiames4917 4 роки тому +62

    When u depressed, listen to Coach Corey.

  • @Je.rone_
    @Je.rone_ 4 роки тому +299

    I find over pursuing is similar to a dog begging at the edge of the dinner table.

    • @HRHooChicken
      @HRHooChicken 4 роки тому +46

      Yeah but I usually give in and throw the dog some food if he barks for long enough. Why can’t women be like that 😂

    • @Je.rone_
      @Je.rone_ 4 роки тому +5

      @@HRHooChicken 😂😂😂

    • @vernonmosely3213
      @vernonmosely3213 4 роки тому +1

      I agree 100%

    • @iamripoff
      @iamripoff 4 роки тому

      @Dr.'sorders I'll take some lol

  • @jknott1509
    @jknott1509 4 роки тому +435

    Clicked faster than a 97%er responding to a low interest womans text message

    • @lucascapelao
      @lucascapelao 4 роки тому +15

      HAHAHAHAHA perfect joke

    • @jknott1509
      @jknott1509 4 роки тому +1

      @Dr.'sorders these comments been on Corey videos for years, AMS only been posting for like 2 years.

    • @osenidot
      @osenidot 4 роки тому

      Leon96 lmaoooo

    • @UsernamerAlreadyTakn
      @UsernamerAlreadyTakn 4 роки тому

      LMFAO!!!😆😆😆

    • @XelaOso850
      @XelaOso850 4 роки тому

      Im fucking dead man...! 🤣

  • @MrMolecularscientist
    @MrMolecularscientist 4 роки тому +99

    I definitely understand relationships better because of Coach Corey's book. Just 2 days ago---- my girlfriend of 3 months actually questioned why I don't/she hasn't seen me (prior to us dating) chase girls. She has also tested me numerous times (sometimes on purpose, sometimes not). I now recognize most of her tests. She must have tested me 7x the first night, including the 2 steps forward/1 back routine. She's actually told me that she's a bit vexed about how I'm so confident and different than other men she's dated (chasing her, weak, can't stare into her eyes, etc etc). Thanks Corey! I went from getting friend-zoned by an older woman because I appeared needy, to now dating a woman 15yrs younger than me. Rock on!

    • @martinhopaour5744
      @martinhopaour5744 3 роки тому +1

      lets gro brother!

    • @unknownuser3856
      @unknownuser3856 2 роки тому

      hey man! what does it mean if a girl says she‘s vexed about your confidence?

  • @Volksinformant
    @Volksinformant 4 роки тому +70

    Hollywood and romance songs turned many men into nice guys, white knights and simps! NEVER pursue a woman because love doesn't work this way! I learned it the hard way. Don't be a relationship focused man. Coach Corey is right in every respect! You need to trust him. Read the book 15 times and apply the knowledge. Practice it til it becomes the new you!

  • @MikelKiriakos
    @MikelKiriakos 4 роки тому +223

    The moral of the story is emotions get in the way...if you learn to harness your emotions and become unattached and use logic and reason instead of trying to create this Disney story in your mind which you hope to one day tell your grandkids then your going about it all wrong. Love is about giving and being acknowledged and valued in return. Your both going to stuff up and it takes 2 people with a mature mind to work on their differences. Anyone that jumps ship when things get a bit rocky isn't a good prospect to begin with! Like coach says you need to find someone who is excited to be with you and shows it not just by words but by ACTIONS!!!

  • @simphiwentsindiso6513
    @simphiwentsindiso6513 4 роки тому +115

    I'm south African🇿🇦, I've applied Corey's lessons here in my country and they always work on women of all races, it doesn't matter...at home, at college and in the area I never persue girls ND somehow always get them to persue me! I'm only 19 years old and have had older women chase me because of coach Corey's techniques. I'm the cheese, not the mouse 🧀 THANKS COACH COREY❗

    • @kingshabba3983
      @kingshabba3983 4 роки тому +5

      That’s awesome man! I’m also South African 🇿🇦living in the United States and I’ve read the book about 18 times, my confidence is out of this world and women here love me!

    • @simphiwentsindiso6513
      @simphiwentsindiso6513 4 роки тому +3

      Congrats man, I'm happy for you 👌🖤

    • @senzomogale9277
      @senzomogale9277 4 роки тому +2

      I have been reading this book since 2016 all I can say is welcome to the 3%man world 🇿🇦

  • @ChrisVincelli
    @ChrisVincelli 4 роки тому +342

    A high-value man never chases girls. He watches as they chase him. Btw Corey, how are you 50 years old? You look amazing dude. Keep it up!

    • @_KingofKingss
      @_KingofKingss 4 роки тому +30

      Network chiropractic care and pussy

    • @jknott1509
      @jknott1509 4 роки тому +11

      @Trinder3467 it allows you to adapt the way of thinking instead of looking for bandaids to solutions.
      You need to read it multiple times because you dont retain as much as you think you do.

    • @frankfleming9558
      @frankfleming9558 4 роки тому +4

      I already read a book several times if it’s educational. I’ve always thought you only pick up 10% first time round then that increases each time after as it starts to read like a flowing novel.

    • @jknott1509
      @jknott1509 4 роки тому +4

      @Trinder3467 you only retain about 8% ofbanything you read.
      That's why even in school you should've studied things more than once

    • @byronaustin8179
      @byronaustin8179 4 роки тому +2

      Trinder3467 I do something similar, listened to the audiobook 10 times, just switched to reading it for 11 total times and I highlight a lot of it especially parts that I sometimes forget or is very important, helps a lot

  • @valentinepetric3689
    @valentinepetric3689 10 місяців тому +10

    Its crazy how with the ones we dont really want we act accordingly, we give them less of our time, less attention we dont chase and they come and keep coming but when we want the girl we start to act like an idiot

  • @Michael-xj8ju
    @Michael-xj8ju 4 роки тому +18

    Sometimes she'll have very high interest, then it fades and you played your cards best you could. Gotta know when to fold to save your dignity.

  • @sinner91
    @sinner91 4 роки тому +31

    I just love the Corey Wayne community we the real ones out here s/o to every man struggling in here or just learning u got this king

  • @adamhernandez7914
    @adamhernandez7914 2 роки тому +8

    this worked!! after reading the book many times , i can feel when i was over pursuant.. soo i backed off because i felt she was taking my attention for granted , and started to give less efforts as before. i pulled back without ignoring , just got more busy and she felt this. this morning she messaged me “ im sorry i been bit colder lately, or seemed too busy . day after she’s extremely sweet again, loving , caring and now her efforts went up 100 percent.
    what i did was not acting like i was mad , and didn’t get insecure or weak by saying “ why lately your not sweet and blah blah
    instead just cut back 70 percent, and it was felt with her immediately.

  • @knkpro011
    @knkpro011 4 роки тому +40

    I'm very thankful that I've found your videos and your first book before the lockdown. Because of it, not only that I found where I went wrong but I also found the motivation to change myself and establish my center. I manage to back away to the girl I like who doesn't reciprocate. And now for 2 months under lockdown, I spent most of my time improving myself physical, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And just by watching this video, it made me thirst for more knowledge. I'm currently reading another book and after it I will read your book again. Thank you very much Coach Corey. Take care.

  • @travlangley1
    @travlangley1 2 роки тому +4

    I like how he isn’t scared about speaking his mind. Against tyranny, i love it..made me respect him for nothing more than that.

  • @pinoy122793
    @pinoy122793 4 роки тому +40

    Inaction creates attraction. Let it do the work.

  • @gerardlead9321
    @gerardlead9321 4 роки тому +25

    Corey after all of these years you are still the goat brother! I am going through a similar situation with a girl I am dealing with right now. This video help; perfect timing.

  • @mrmastermixvideo
    @mrmastermixvideo 2 роки тому +27

    As I am watching this woman who was sending daily texts to me back and forth for months on end is now blowing up my phone after I decided to go no contact for a couple of days because she ignored my last few texts from a couple of days ago. Cant over pursue ! Thanks Coach for the good advice !

    • @MoYessir
      @MoYessir Рік тому +4

      Why u texting her back and forth for months in the first place ??

    • @Fullcollapse1
      @Fullcollapse1 7 місяців тому +1

      Sometimes even if you don't over pursue they can play games. I had one always initiate but then kept saying she don't wanna rush into stuff even after a bit. So after I cut the video chat stuff even if she asked.

  • @osenidot
    @osenidot 4 роки тому +12

    Picked up Corey’s book 2017 it’s now 2020. I can honestly say that once you begin to operate with an abundance mentality 24/7. Nothing will phase you. A1 Women know I get A1 women and they still want me, I don’t even have to allude to it. I’m 29 and as I grow and meet women because the fundamentals are now engrained, I focus a little bit more on what I want in a relationship, I qualify women abit more rigorously because I’m busy with mission and purpose and don’t want to waste time. Shit just becomes easier. Men ! It’s ok to want a successful relationship as well as a successful career !!! Hustle on both !

    • @dingdong6005
      @dingdong6005 Рік тому

      Does his advice work in the book 📕??

  • @tunynguyen1495
    @tunynguyen1495 4 роки тому +32

    Literally my situation. I stop reaching out to her about a week ago, haven't heard anything from her since. I figured I got my answer to move forward. I've always try to do things to improve myself. Workout, run, still working despite quarantine, study, listening to podcasts to learn more etc... I got the sheriff academy to look forward to once quarantine is over. So guys, exactly what coach said, focus on the things you need to do to me make you successful. It's hard to do nothing when you feel that doing something will help change the outcome. Sometimes doing nothing is doing something. Every channel I came across when it comes to relationship advices always emphasis on your purpose & values. I finally grasp it

    • @adcppk9884
      @adcppk9884 3 роки тому +1

      How are you doing now?

  • @richardcollins586
    @richardcollins586 3 роки тому +19

    This video hurts as it’s true and very applicable to my own situation. It’s actually hard to watch as it magnifies my own failures, though I feel like I’m on the right path now and matching her own effort levels of communication.

  • @jamesjunkim
    @jamesjunkim 4 роки тому +11

    I'll be honest, the intro song is probably one of my favorite jingles ever! Thanks for all your help, Corey!

  • @iTzTamm
    @iTzTamm 4 роки тому +11

    Corey, youre simply changing my life into a 3% man... I started my first read on the first day and that was two days ago.. I finished my second read yesterday.. and today I started my third read and am going to finish the read by today. I cannot stress more than you that one needs to read it over 15+ times in order for it to become natural!! I know I will. I cannot wait to apply all your teachings from here onwards. Keep up the fuckin amazing content, Master Sensei! *bows in respect*

  • @theod5914
    @theod5914 4 роки тому +8

    Excellent stuff Corey - I fell in the love trap - Understand: Lovesick is a sickness and healing is not a weakness it is a process. Focus on yourself is the best advice and move on. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it is worth it. and yes... the hurt inside does subside it will come in waves... accept the wave, understand it, embrace it, and then let it go... (Mom's advice "This to will pass").

    • @calebbryant2852
      @calebbryant2852 2 роки тому

      I'm struggling with this

    • @theod5914
      @theod5914 2 роки тому

      @@calebbryant2852 Buddy Check - Yes it is extremely difficult - I suspect it is much like AA or drug rehab - they all share phases of self identity and self worth during 'the process' - Albert Einstein "If you want to live a happy life, tie to a goal not people or things." but if yah like modern phrases Amazon "Everyday is day one at Amazon." - One day at a time bud and know you are not alone in this weird style of loss, pain, and hurt that fracks with the mind body and spirit... maybe the one true proof that there is a G. Dig deep for you and F the pain - "On your feet soldier!"

  • @svenk5221
    @svenk5221 2 роки тому +7

    „I did everything you taught in your book. „
    - yeah like talking to the girl on the phone each day for two hours. Laughing my ass off
    I read / listen to your book 3 times now and I know I only started. The bad programming is rooted deep but I make progress. Thank you Corey

    • @fj4731
      @fj4731 2 роки тому

      Hi Sven
      I need advice if can help me out..
      I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
      1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
      I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
      What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
      I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
      What should I had said and do?
      2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
      I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
      In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
      3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
      What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
      Please help..Thank you

    • @MoYessir
      @MoYessir Рік тому +1

      @@fj4731it’s been a year I hope everything worked out for

  • @jeremybly
    @jeremybly 4 роки тому +72

    I'm definitely a over pursuer. I've done it my whole life and never knew I was wrong because when a female would pull away I would chase her even more. And I knew I shouldn't but I always felt compelled to try to save the relationship lol.

    • @KadeWilliamson
      @KadeWilliamson 4 роки тому +18

      Same here, brother. It’s a viciously draining cycle and the worst part is the obliviousness. Recognizing is the first real key, in my opinion. Now it’s time to take serious action. Let’s get it. 🤙🏼

    • @mhaas281
      @mhaas281 9 місяців тому +1

      Been there too. Bad habits die hard but watching these videos helps.

  • @chefcooks86
    @chefcooks86 4 роки тому +53

    and never believe a women if she tells you she wants you to talk to her more

  • @kimberlys4075
    @kimberlys4075 4 роки тому +24

    I’m in Florida. Still waiting on my gym to open.
    Anyway, great video. If I’m chatting with a man and we set a date then I don’t want them always texting. The “good morning” texts and the “how’s your day going?” texts. I simply tell them I’m just not into small talk. We set a date. We can have that one talk on the phone then meet. I just don’t like all that back and forth. It’s a waste of time.

    • @yaboymadara9843
      @yaboymadara9843 4 роки тому +1

      I'm in similar situation but she texts and do the small talk , you had a really good point but saying it to her is gonna be a little bit rude . What did you say to your guy??

    • @kimberlys4075
      @kimberlys4075 4 роки тому +3

      Omkar Jagdale he actually took it well (I think anyway) and said “I understand. See you Thursday”. But a woman saying that to a man is different than a man saying it to a woman I think. Too many women are far too sensitive.

  • @vanessabarker4901
    @vanessabarker4901 2 роки тому +5

    Each time I read the book, I hear something new or hear a link I missed previous. The 15 x , I am now applying this with other books and continuing with Corey's weekly. Thank you for changing my life x

  • @hanzobuzen3688
    @hanzobuzen3688 4 роки тому +45

    The UA-cam algorithm knows me better than my family

  • @CalvinJamesJr
    @CalvinJamesJr 4 роки тому +23

    Great title! Some guys don’t know how to pull back or when to pull back

    • @pinoy122793
      @pinoy122793 4 роки тому +9

      Purpose first. Women second.

  • @Chris14141
    @Chris14141 2 роки тому +1

    I stopped watching tv completely, i read the book 15x, i cannot tell you guys how much i use these ideas in business and in life in general, i literally just gauge not only my attraction levels from women but guys I'm around, a lot of dudes have no idea about women, but man I am definitely in the 3% who do. I did pua for years, cold opens, apocalypse opens, the whole nine, this is definitely the most successful method for a gentleman in his 30s. I have been able to pick and choose whichever woman I fancy, and all of them are into me. Indifference as how Corey teaches is by far one of the most attractive mindsets for men. Thanks Coach. Good luck guys.

  • @MrHattick
    @MrHattick 4 роки тому +42

    It's been 3 weeks for me after a similar situation. It's tough, like quitting an addiction but keeping busy helps.

    • @someone6429
      @someone6429 3 роки тому +9

      Did she initiate back after ?

    • @johann8686
      @johann8686 10 місяців тому

      ​@@someone6429they always do

  • @sebastianrodriguez8692
    @sebastianrodriguez8692 4 роки тому +29

    I just love the fact that the Coach simply understands how reality works when it comes to relationships and the clarifies it for everyone. Calling any of his teachings "tricks" is just plain dumb.

    • @sebastianrodriguez8692
      @sebastianrodriguez8692 4 роки тому +1

      @@kaizen9451 Yeah man. I feel exactly the same. This man changed my life yet he is so humble about it.

  • @stevemellin5806
    @stevemellin5806 4 роки тому +2

    Corey you're the man ... just told her it's better to move on .she agreed . scene I've been listening to you my life has gotten better way better . Have a great week my brother

  • @onlyriffs2589
    @onlyriffs2589 4 роки тому +5

    Coach Corey Wayne. I’ve yet to reach 14 times. Your wisdom and your personality hits. I even bought this book for Uncle. Thank You. Your blessing will only Multiply. As a fellow Floridian.. Thank You.

  • @markivrimusic5610
    @markivrimusic5610 4 роки тому +26

    It's actually perfectly appropriate tell your partner you're going to be stepping back a moment and taking care of some things
    Or whatever you're doing for whatever purpose... and they should respect that because you're not playing games
    Everyone will always accept when someone improves on themselves whether physical psychological or educational
    Stepping back is not hard when you're doing the right things with your time give you plan to talk about when you meet back up

  • @asknone
    @asknone 4 роки тому +5

    I've got the book on audible. Have listened about 4 times now, and won't quit till i've heard it at least 20 times. I really want this to be a mindset rather than some kind of cheap parlor-trick. I have started to open my eyes and realized i've been wrong for sooooo many years now. And God bless my wife who still haven't given up on me yet. Time of change has come for me😊 thank you Corey, you've given me new relationship-goals.

  • @carissecraton9974
    @carissecraton9974 4 роки тому +20

    "Let us never negotiate out of fear"- John F. Kennedy

  • @andrebaxter4023
    @andrebaxter4023 4 роки тому +12

    I feel you on those gains Corey. I'm about to call my gym to see if it's back open.

  • @Iurisetpoena
    @Iurisetpoena 3 роки тому +4

    Man, I’ve read your book like 5 times to date, it really works wonders.

  • @artimuszhou9314
    @artimuszhou9314 2 роки тому +3

    That's what happened to me,but I messed it up so bad that I got the " I need to focus on myself, let's be friends instead" speech

  • @TheWaynelds
    @TheWaynelds 3 роки тому +12

    It’s like that part in “Forgetting Sarah Marshal” where Kunu teaches Peiopie to surf.”Dont do anything, don’t do it! The less you do, the more you do! Now pop up.. Nope that’s not it..You’re doin too much! Do less! The weather outside is weather”.

    • @kevinglazier8950
      @kevinglazier8950 3 роки тому +1

      Every man should see the movie, especially after experiencing a break up. It's great.

  • @leelee3995
    @leelee3995 3 роки тому +17

    Priceless advice from an expert

  • @MasculineDossier
    @MasculineDossier 3 роки тому +4

    His review is so accurate hahaha. Im lucky to have learned these principles and mindset at the age of 20. I'm still not perfect at it but I will try to. Things are way easier and girls gravitate to me naturally now.

  • @ModernArcher262
    @ModernArcher262 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for standing up on issues across the board.

  • @MechaCelebi
    @MechaCelebi 4 роки тому +70

    Okay this is exactly my situation, met her right before the lockdown and everything escalated and emotions grew really fast and now she wants time and space because she is depressed and is confused.

    • @anes4375
      @anes4375 4 роки тому +35

      Red flag: she s not one you want to be with, move on, let her sort herself out. Don t wait for her

    • @someirishguy1662
      @someirishguy1662 4 роки тому +7

      In a similar position but im kinda not really that interested in her now

    • @apah
      @apah 4 роки тому +22

      Exact same situation, I was in a bad emotional position and acted like a needy bitch. She backed off a little bit, and I decided to just move on, go no contact and focus on my ass

    • @robparkinson9850
      @robparkinson9850 4 роки тому +8

      Mine was similar. Met during lockdown, but i know there are other guys in the picture. It didnt bother me until the emotions got charged. I was never told she needed time and space so I obviously didnt over-egg it.. I just received conflicting signals which was a total mindfuck. Also by knowing there are other guys in the picture and her interest level in me being unclear, that is what leads me to back off somewhat. I think she may be hedging her bets, keeping back up plans while she decides who is right for her.

    • @jordanmc9877
      @jordanmc9877 4 роки тому +4

      @@robparkinson9850 hypergamy. She's Deffo edging her bets, once the lockdown is over ask for a date, if she's flakey or breaks it off, then don't do any pursuing, let her come to you, if she does assume she wants to see you and try to arrange another date.

  • @KimronGilbert
    @KimronGilbert 4 роки тому +1

    The reason I even became a coach myself and dated the hot women I wanted. One day sir, I will interview you.

  • @johnlanouette8611
    @johnlanouette8611 4 роки тому +2

    Im a big believer in your work! And you're right about people not wanting to change. It's as if they are too afraid to learn that they might be doing something wrong! You know how many times I'll mention your book or channel to a friend or co worker, and they will completely give me some bull shit. Always acting like they no better. That I am wasting my time trying to read a book about relationship skills. Or they will say that I have a good point (when I bring up one of the topics that you teach). But they will never act on any of it.

  • @nitropeanut
    @nitropeanut 3 роки тому +3

    Man my buddy told me about you today when I confronted him about some problems I have been having with this particular girl I have been chasing.....I have read half of your book 3% today and probably watched 30+ videos. You are spot on with all the mistakes I have made in the past and can’t wait to change those bad habits. Definitely going to be ordering your books I hate reading but this info is so easy to read you keep wanting to press on. Thank you for the open mind.

  • @travisjohn5793
    @travisjohn5793 4 роки тому +17

    Ive read the book about 4-5 times over 2 years, have the audible version and watched countless videos. I am 46 years old and the hardest part is trying to reprogram your self from your old ways and the Hollywood way of getting girls. Ill get stuck in and keeping reading the book and hopefully the Ship(me)will keep turning in the right direction because his way id definately the right way..

    • @MikelKiriakos
      @MikelKiriakos 4 роки тому +1

      If you're going to reference movies it better be james bond! 🤣

  • @HRHooChicken
    @HRHooChicken 4 роки тому +5

    These videos and your book are so applicable to my latest dating experience it’s actually spooky

  • @samuelaubrey2612
    @samuelaubrey2612 2 роки тому +1

    only just found out about you, I'm just focusing on myself now and building my business and enjoying my hobbies, realised where I've gone wrong so many times

  • @unhealingwithsandy
    @unhealingwithsandy 4 роки тому +2

    I have a totally desperate, clingy, needy cat. He over pursues me. All of his littermates died soon after birth except for him. I think this is why he is so needy. He is watching this with me. I hope he will learn a thing or two and realize his desperate behavior.

  • @thearchetype4782
    @thearchetype4782 4 роки тому +5

    Coach gives great advice granted you’re dealing w an emotionally healthy person and there’s way too many people who aren’t

  • @marco18979
    @marco18979 4 роки тому +1

    got dumped and been took for granted after 4 years relationship. now i meet someone better and got many women interested on me , never put on a pedestal nobody

  • @jessethomas9676
    @jessethomas9676 4 роки тому +3

    Good job having the correct stance on the Coronavirus lockdowns. Thanks you

  • @jesseskellington9427
    @jesseskellington9427 Рік тому

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder for somebody else

  • @yumaungkhant7559
    @yumaungkhant7559 2 роки тому +1

    That mindset shift is real... Once you become busy building something for yourself... All the ladies become so attracted to you that they can't even hold it back...
    "Never treat a woman like a celebrity... She will treat you like a Fan.." I learnt it the hard way.. but hey it's what it's... Read the damn book 15 times at least... Never become complacent... Do the Work
    Be Awesome.. 😎

  • @tanmayjoshi1128
    @tanmayjoshi1128 4 роки тому +8

    That intro music gives me such positive vibes I tell you lol

  • @hanzbrixx
    @hanzbrixx 3 роки тому +8

    Why gradual? The mystery probably starts when you stop calling. You always gage them by their willingness to initiate. Never give effort to someone who is not willing to get off their rear and meet you half way. If they finally call, answer with "hey, I was just thinking about calling you".

    • @KK-wx1fw
      @KK-wx1fw 2 роки тому +3

      This is interesting. As a woman I’d say gradually, if you do it abruptly and disappear when our interest level is low we won’t care. Also we’ll know you’re only doing it for our benefit or trying a “technique” as it’s so out of character from your usual over perusing.

    • @MoYessir
      @MoYessir Рік тому

      @@KK-wx1fwu said it urself. Y’all don’t care. So I shouldn’t matter

  • @jirenuniverse116
    @jirenuniverse116 4 роки тому +10

    I'd just find something that can distract me, like games, guitar, books, gym, etc. She'll come back eventually

  • @samandrew8158
    @samandrew8158 3 роки тому +6

    Love the explanation of your motives at the end! Very inspiring!! Thank you, coach!

  • @olivierrochecouste4434
    @olivierrochecouste4434 4 роки тому +20

    Got dumped this past week, because I was more invested in the relationship than she was. I gave into her demands to initiate texts to her, because I was not responding to her immediately and other areas as well. My mistake and her loss. Another failure to learn from as I try again with new girls, but feel so much more prepared. Btw Coach, kudos for that dating profile article of yours from your website, it has helped me with updating my bio and already a couple of girls have already swiped right immediately. Know what values you want gentlemen. 5th read coming up - Repetition is the mother of skill!

    • @IAMdeathblade
      @IAMdeathblade 4 роки тому +1

      Bro ingot dumped past week too it’s been hard . I’ve been working out a lot but there’s moments it hits me hard 😔

    • @Volksinformant
      @Volksinformant 4 роки тому +5

      Hollywood turned many men into nice guys, white knights and beta simps! Now you know better!

    • @jonathankohan4956
      @jonathankohan4956 4 роки тому +1

      Same situation here. If you were thinking about unfriending her on anything don’t I did it and man do I regret that shit. Makes you look but hurt and immature. It hurts even more because she was chasing me and wanted to give this a tittle and all but I messed up.

    • @Ptolemy336VV
      @Ptolemy336VV 4 роки тому +2

      @@jonathankohan4956 My ex broke up with me 2,5 weeks ago. On that day I deleted her facebook. Because. I had a wonderful relationship with her for 4 months, and then 2 confrontations, and she turned 180, and over blamed me, and didnt want to solve anything. That is no feedingground for a great relationship. She was over the clouds with me and I also really loved her. But she broke up with me about something like that. And it may have even to do with her ex who was horrible and she has this past that she projects over this relationship of ours. In any case. We know eachother from work. And this whole break up and the 4 weeks of her being completely irrational, unreasonable, unwilling, intolerant, etc was all during the corona quarantine.
      So whatever. 2.5 weeks passed, and initially I was blaming myself because over the course of the last 3 weeks it was getting to a point were she avoided me even even though I tried to reason with her. But when she came to the point of saying that she needs harmony in her life, and I am not it (everyone at my work, my family, my friends all say Im the most postiive person they know and almost always smile), and that she "doesnt want it anymore" I got clarity. After having stood like a rock for this relationship till the end and she throwing it away and thus more clarity for me (although I got dumped), I feel much better now, and even though I got a big lesson in various ways, some of it for me to improve even more on, and other things in how her way of doing things never would work in a great relationship. I feel already better, and slowly I don't mind anymore whatever happens.

    • @frankfleming9558
      @frankfleming9558 4 роки тому +1

      Ptolemy336VV
      Similar here bro.
      Never argued once with mine and just one challenging text and she blew up and blocked me on FB. Made me feel like it’s my fault and I’m in the wrong.
      Before now I’d have been chasing after her, texting, ringing wanting to explain.
      Fuck that shit no more.
      It wasn’t my fault at all and probably not yours with yours. That’s how they make us feel.
      I’ve moved on and she seems to be popping up in comments on friends FB comments replying on my posts and making herself visible.
      Don’t want her back now though.
      Realised it wasn’t right.
      Her loss.

  • @itsDEWgan
    @itsDEWgan 4 роки тому +11

    The mindset feedback is dead on. I’m far beyond my 15th read (you wouldn’t believe me if I shared) and it’s all true. I recently dated a super hot chick and walked away because she was such a mess which is something that happens in Corey’s journey. It’s empowering to realize my increased personal value. I’ve noticed that as the reads go on, I progress and encounter the various pickup and dating experiences described in the book. It’s like leveling up and then the universe sends you the next lesson in the field because you’re prepared. It’s exciting to know that high quality women are around the corner which is worth the time and effort.
    Thanks for the shift Corey, you really are making the world a better place!
    ps: The audio version helps a ton

  • @CJDA415
    @CJDA415 4 роки тому +6

    Coach Corey Wayne success stories post them here! Since implementing his work, I have gone on dates with girls I didn’t think I would have a chance with, pass their tests, listen better, not try to impress them, and become more confident in myself. Post more so people can understand that this works!

  • @castlerc
    @castlerc 3 роки тому

    Holy shit!!!!! Dude best video to date! I hope you read this. All I can say is wow! I’m 51, like you, respect ✊.

  • @Orgizo08
    @Orgizo08 4 роки тому +6

    Good to see you coach!!! Thank you for all your work! Very helpful!

  • @djtoia2012
    @djtoia2012 4 роки тому +4

    Most woman who don't hear from the guy basically move on before he can get the next text/call out. Love ya channel.

  • @alimrashid9765
    @alimrashid9765 4 роки тому +3

    10/10 I been listening to your stuff for the past 8yrs. Keep at it Corey A++++

  • @Gweenkween
    @Gweenkween 4 роки тому +2

    LOVE your commentary at the end of this video. Couldn’t agree more!

  • @David-ib8ek
    @David-ib8ek 3 роки тому +6

    I’ve never counted how many times I’ve read the book but going by the reviewers judgement I would say 6 -10 times because I also feel things click in my mindset instead of looking at it like a textbook.
    I now noticed how much in the past I’ve pushed opportunities to be with women away. I’m still making mistakes and learning but the last month every week I’ve been approached by women with high interest, I have a date this weekend coming with a woman half my age I’m 43 who’s body is out is out of this world! I’m watching this video to help keep me grounded because Im under the illusion of action and just need to be patient but it’s making my skin crawl lol because we started texting all week and now I haven’t heard from her over the weekend just passed. I just need to chill.. A definite date has been set, and I was the one who texted last so I’m just going to focus on my purpose and mission and see how it plays out. If she flakes I’ll just find someone else, it’s a numbers game, but if we hang out, have fun and hook up, because she’s displayed high sexual interest, then cool, it will just help reaffirm my change, but everything feels like a victory already and things are only going to get better 🙂

  • @campingforayearrenoheart5908
    @campingforayearrenoheart5908 4 роки тому +2

    My quarantine was great best 5 weeks of my life read every day , yoga , cardio , light lifting, fell in love with my roommate, we kept each other busy , but now she left as she needed space , but I learned a lot in my mistakes as she is gone , but dam would a great time ... I’ve been single for a year now I’m ready to date but keep the girl and have a great partner, I bought your book to learn thanks buddy for the info

  • @principeyuu
    @principeyuu 4 роки тому

    Grab your popcorn Coach is talking. This is fun!!

  • @easytrips3448
    @easytrips3448 3 роки тому +8

    I over pursued with my ex, however I think it was just stages of grieving and I was definitely in the denial stage. She would come on strong to my pursuing and then pull away hinting that there was another man in the picture but turned out to be a three pump chump or he was complete fiction.
    Anyways, I recognized that she put me in her bull pen. Dudes, this was a serious error in judgment on my part. Glad she's gone! My parting shots was F off. So done with playing cat and mouse games.

  • @ellerskillzis
    @ellerskillzis Рік тому

    I don’t comment much, but you spoke politics and relationships. I appreciate you.

  • @johnmora5830
    @johnmora5830 3 роки тому +3

    If she doing that then just move on to the next one, basically she not about you she getting dug out by someone else. I'm more about creating my legacy and I'm remembering all the red flags with the woman that are around me. I definitely not letting any woman put the fire out in me cause it's burning hotter then a furnace. A woman will show u the value she has so watch her actions not her words.

  • @olivertwisted89
    @olivertwisted89 4 роки тому +1

    It’s so so so synchronistic you focused on this topic, for me, I ALSO got your book 3% man and this just blows my mind... I am pretty damn handsome and always had the prettiest high value girls. But dang I’ve lived a spoiled unfocused privileged life and seeing a very mature girl 8 years younger, she said I love you real early, wanted marriage, I brought up a prenup, she said she asked her dad, he said never marry someone who wants a prenup, she then told me please just never bring it up again, I did the following day... she was so upset and I just ended it, she then called me from her house phone (she’s 22) lives with her parents.... we’re still talking... I left the family business to learn a trade, carpentry, I love it so much, fulfilling rewarding great workout everyday... anyway we text too much and talk everyday... she has to think I’m needy and definitely wants a man ‘more successful’ financially, but really I’m not desperate financially or ever have been with girls.. I always had the hottest girls I really am a 3% man but absolutely not... you help refine me with women but I’m not afraid of losing this girl and she’s already given me a lot... we talk way too much over Snapchat and i want her not to be an escapist emotional attachment and be too clingy... she pissed me off and told me I was immature and I ended it then she called me after a few days... we’re talking too much but yesterday we went to target together.... I really really need to back off and she WANTS a 3% man... I don’t want to over pursue and just told her I’m never desperate and never want her to feel forced.. she’s sexy a freak a freak a freak a freaky girl and it matches my libido.... I love your coaching Correy! I was seeing a girl 10 years younger, absolutely over pursued, found out I was the side dude she was cheating on her bf with.... I’m trying to learn from my mistakes, I saw your talks about women that naturally test you, you talk about it your book, I also test women... I also like to end things with girls who say I love you marry me, real early, and test them... sometimes really end it.... mannnnn.... my issue is that I get all needy clingy and I’m SUPER attractive and great in bed... she’s really pushing me to be a 3% man and I’m loving it and appreciate you a lot brotha!!!!!

    • @olivertwisted89
      @olivertwisted89 4 роки тому

      Bought 3% man yesterday and you talking about this? Crazy to me.... you’re super legit COACH!!! I got the audio book so maybe I’ll have to ‘hear it’ 20 x and damn I WILL BUY mastering yourself tonight coach!!! Thank you for all your bad ass insight coach!!!! Your spiritual insight too man I agree so much so so much with everything you say... we’re here to give love and b martyrs for love and light... and masculinity, how u nail it brotha..... the duality the differences the focus.... thanks brothaaaaaaaa for the insight. Im gonna book a coaching session w u real soon!

  • @barrylee9146
    @barrylee9146 4 роки тому +1

    Coach is right about this.. especially the first 3 minutes.. i'm guilty of pursuing too much in the past.. I bought his audio book.. I dont do that shit anymore

  • @coldrolled1
    @coldrolled1 3 роки тому +1

    So recently divorced and had met this girl - I was over pursuing until I started watching your videos. I deleted her number out of my phone and walked away (had noticed what you were saying about her interest level waning). Well after about a week of not reaching out (cause I couldn't as I no longer had her contact info) all of a sudden I get the earliest text I've ever gotten from her and she's essentially pleading with me to get together. We had a date set for December (2021) and she was like can we go on a walk next week or over the weekend (we were about 3 weeks out from our date), I just responded warmly as you've instructed but said I had no time to get together until Dec and turned her down. When I asked if she was still up for Dec (otherwise no problem I'll rearrange my schedule and head out with some friends) she replied YES 1000% I'm in! Guys its not about tips to manipulate someone its a mindset and it frees you. Have much to learn but I'm a quick study!! Study Coach Corey fellows and learn the art of discipline and walking away!! Will be ordering the 3% Man book. Thanks coach.

  • @kvs7876
    @kvs7876 3 роки тому +2

    10:30-12:00 listened to this 100 times!

  • @themysticbg
    @themysticbg 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks sir, I always listen to you when I do wrong. You always help me realize in what kind of situation I am :).

  • @TheChico868
    @TheChico868 Рік тому

    I just bought your book. Thanks for the advice.

  • @PSOpwnage
    @PSOpwnage 6 місяців тому

    I wish I learned all this a month ago, lost a straight dime... My boy put my on cant wait to start having more meaningful connections thanks coach

  • @SChome100
    @SChome100 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks for coming up with this video. This couldn't come at a more important time for me.

  • @dhananjaya7341
    @dhananjaya7341 4 роки тому +3

    Great insight as always, Sensei Wayne.

  • @howtosnatch
    @howtosnatch 10 місяців тому +2

    Damn this video saved my ass. Reminded me to get back and studying.

  • @Nebelung13
    @Nebelung13 4 роки тому +1

    Ordered your book, can't wait to read it 15 times!

  • @tommygrimes3844
    @tommygrimes3844 2 роки тому +1

    Guys. Please listen to his finer details. His book is NOT to tell you what to do. It serves as a guide to form better habits and reveal your best self. This is why he stresses the fact of rereading the book 10 - 15 times.
    From a personal perspective I got cocky and thought I mastered the attraction concepts after reading the book approximately 5-7 times. It wasn't enough to adopt a new mindset, and I went back to my old ways. Thus leading to rejection again.
    I paid the price by over pursuing the girl that led me to Coreys work in the first place. Corey is here to serve you.

  • @chrisgraf1304
    @chrisgraf1304 3 роки тому +1

    Stay busy, have a balanced lifestyle, and objectives in life and do you. Your value as a man will grow and you will become more attractive.

  • @vanessabarker4901
    @vanessabarker4901 2 роки тому +2

    Love the review 100% accurate 👌

  • @Eric-yc7po
    @Eric-yc7po 4 роки тому +6

    I always knew that overpursuing had these results, yet I still did it and lost "the one."

  • @zechariahtlee
    @zechariahtlee 3 роки тому

    That review was spot on.

  • @IsraelSocial
    @IsraelSocial 4 роки тому +2

    Glad to see you keep posting videos! A fan here since 2014!

  • @dofodamofo
    @dofodamofo 4 роки тому

    Corey at his finest dropping this gem on quarantine game

  • @erneste.j.joseph6695
    @erneste.j.joseph6695 4 роки тому +1

    I love what you say at the end of the video about government. Very true. We should be able to govern ourselves.

  • @shambles3458
    @shambles3458 4 роки тому +1

    Loved this video in particular really hit home for me

  • @juniash219
    @juniash219 4 роки тому +29

    On my 2nd read of the book. Gotten 3 dates so far.( 3 different girls)
    Also doing no contact with my ex. Noticed she unblocked me on social media. She will probably come back once I've moved on, but it's the circle of live.
    I'll keep learning and, bettering myself.
    Get the gaddamn book if u haven't already.

    • @johnkennedy8795
      @johnkennedy8795 4 роки тому +1

      Good luck bro,,

    • @AustraliaUnmasked1984
      @AustraliaUnmasked1984 4 роки тому +1

      I'll do what works for me.
      Going through the comments I don't think I need the book? I've got natural alpha male traits. I have to. Im a big man who got bullied a lot at school and had to stand up for myself.

    • @juniash219
      @juniash219 4 роки тому +2

      @@AustraliaUnmasked1984 there is always room for improvement bro

    • @AustraliaUnmasked1984
      @AustraliaUnmasked1984 4 роки тому +1

      @@juniash219 yes I guess? I don't bow down to or worship women. I will initially when I first meet them. But its mainly heat of the moment lust and I quickly get over them.
      I don't think I could ever get committed to one woman and hold a relationship? 3 months max is the time I usually get bored of women and get sick of them. I try to wonder to myself how a man could get married and stay with the same woman for so long? Each to their own.

    • @juniash219
      @juniash219 4 роки тому +1

      @@vitd5283 guilty of checking up once in a while. Thankfully i stop myself from texting her. But i don't check anymore accepted that she gone, I'm moving on with my life