Why do I have the urge to break up, when I don't really want to? Relationship OCD I Anxiety
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I’ll have like 2 or 3 months of feeling more so happy and in love with my partner but it only takes one uncomfortable or triggering thought to send me back into a “Is this right for me? Maybe I should leave, Maybe we don’t actually pair well, am I even happy?” And it’s so stupid bc I know the answers to all those questions but I just get anxious still, so annoying
Triggers will come and go. Knowing what to do with them keeps you in the recovery stage. As always, visit my site for help and support.
Omg me too :( it’s been ongoing for 35 yrs 😵💫
@@mei3kids get therapy baby! Also read ROCD books!!! It helps!
@@thatgirl5630 heyyyyy I wish I could. We literally can’t afford therapy. I fall victim of being an average person in the USA. Therefore I cannot get any assistance, nor can I afford to pay for it. It’s terrible. I avoid reading because it triggers 🤮 Thanks for your encouragement 🫶🏽
@@mei3kids It doesn’t have to if you get the right help! Meaning, uncertainty and anxiety is part of life, but when you learn what to do with it, the thoughts stop bothering you.
I didn’t even know this was a thing. I just thought I was the only one to feel this way. 🥺
You are not!
This started happening to me around late October where everything was completely fine, then all of a sudden I started to get extremely anxious and question myself and my choices. Watching videos like this gives me reassurance and for a brief time I get that 'very in love' feeling again, but then I get super anxious again.
Thought I was the only one!!!
How are you doing guys? It’s been two and a half months for me.
All this came on so suddenly about a week ago and it’s so nice to feel seen and know I’m not utterly helpless. Thank you so much.
That can happen, you’ve caught it soon which is good! Are you doing ERP?
I really needed to hear this badly. No one had a video this detailed before
I've been in the same relationship for 4 yrs and I've ended it and got back together tons of times. My boyfriend is still here and loves me. It's so hard to deal with this and him having to experience this. It SUCKS having OCD esp ROCD!
THANK you for this video. I'll check out the others. I know I'm not crazy but if makes you feel like you are.
💜🙏🏼
It sounds like you haven’t gotten the proper treatment, or continued with the appropriate OCD skills. Doing this reduces or eliminates your symptoms.
I have thought that I have ROCD for a year now. It started when my boyfriend and I were moving to a new city together to study. I had constant thoughts about "what if we break up", "do I love him?", "do I want to have sex with him". My brain was constantly working against me and I went into a depression. After six months I started seeing a psychologist who said I had obsessive thoughts. Her therapy didn't quite work for me so I stopped. During the summer when I moved back home and didn't have the stress of school, I didn't feel any obsessive thoughts. my feelings for my boyfriend started to come back again and I was very happy. When I was about to move back again and started stressing about exams, they came back and were quite pushy. My head went "break up, break up, break up". I went to a new psychologist, but now she says that it's not obsessive thoughts, but just that I'm afraid to break up and that I don't really love him. I began to believe it even more. My gut told me to break up with him, but I was in a vulnerable situation where I didn't want to make a choice. After the psychology class, I just lay in bed and cried. I felt very cold and nauseous. Now I can't do anything and feel numb all over. I'm really in pain. I don’t know what to do
The best thing that you can do is get ERP treatment, it’s the cold standard treatment for OCD. You can get more information here - www.myocdcoach.com
Hello friend? How are You now?? Do yo like talk With me? Sorry My English
Are you better now??
How do you feel now? I'm experiencing that right now, but earlier today I was clinging onto the possibility that this could be rOCD. And yesterday too. These thoughts have only started three days ago, but now it's really pushing me to have a breakup.
Oh man! I definitely have this. I have done this ever since my first bf at 16. The amount of anxiety I felt in that first relationship was insane and once I ended things I felt so much relief. I keep doing that ( pushing my partner away) every few months once in a relation since then, I’m 31 now.
You can change it when you learn how to respond to the thoughts and fears differently.
I’m 16 now and going through this with my gf we have been together for 9 months and she’s literally my dream girl and my brain always tries to sabotage me and ROCD is literally a living hell I just remind myself she’s at the end of that tunnel and that’s why I keep going.
Thank you for this video! It’s given some clarity to a situation with my wife who has OCD and I’m so scared of her safety and for our relationship. I don’t know if what’s happened is a real issue I’ve been oblivious to or relationship OCD, Hopefully we can get through this and become stronger because she’s amazing.
You’re welcome! Is she getting treatment that’s helping her?
Thank you for this video. You have made me feel seen. The comfort and deep sense of relief I got from watching your video is priceless.
You’re welcome!!
I'm experiencing that right now, but earlier today I was clinging onto the possibility that this could be rOCD. And yesterday too. These thoughts have only started three days ago, but now it's really pushing me to have a breakup. It's making me stray from the idea that this isn't rOCD but my REAL thoughts.
But before these three days, everything was fine. I don't understand how everything could just change and how my feelings could just change in a single night, that would lead me to three days of overthinking and anxiety.
It’s good that you’ve caught this early! Starting one of my recovery programs now can keep this from spiraling and getting worse!
I am having this problem right now and it hurts so bad , the fact that I feel this way with the person that I love , the person I am happy with , The person I want to spend my life with... it just doesn't make sense... I go from happy to over thinking and obsessing 😪
ERP will get you out of suffering from OCD.
@myocdcoach Everything you are saying is EXACTLY what's happening to me and it makes me feel good to know that I'm not the only one going through this 🥹
@@Breamariethings you’re not alone. I’ve been there and OCD doesn’t ruin my life and relationships anymore. You’ve got this!!
@@MyOCDCoach Thank you!!
The video was superb im going through the same these past two and a half months😢
Thanks! Happy to help you with our programs - www.MyOCDCoach.com:)
This is what i need. This video help me to address my issue. Thank you so much.
You’re welcome!
Thank you this has made me see through her eyes ....
You’re welcome!
I'm 17 and got into my first relationship, he's been nothing but amazing to me. But there's some days I wake up feeling so in love other days I don't and I get so worried that I'll hurt him...
Hi! Conngrats! Stop giving your feelings so much meaning:)
I had contamination OCD since I was 10 and the compultion to check locks etc. I had no idea about this subset of OCD. Our relationship does have problems but I think because I have learned to give less energy to worry about germs/locks (I thought my OCD was getting better) it has really just evolved to this. There are legitimate problems in my relationship but I think my brain is magnifying those problems and minimising the positives. I have been self treating my OCD since I was a child but it looks like it has just been evolving and not getting better :(
ERP should be applied to OCD, but also any doubt, uncertainty, fear, etc.
@@MyOCDCoach Thank you
Yeah, I really need help. I’ve been having some thoughts of breaking up and I’ve been overthinking my feelings for her when I really feel like I love her, I don’t really know what to do, It’s giving me intense stress and anxiety.
I have several recovery program options at www.MyOCDCoach.com
I have an issue. I have diagnosed OCD, and there's this woman that has been taking up a chunk of intrusive thoughts, and we broke up 2 years ago and dated for an year, please help or make a video about this if you can.
How do you know if it’s ROCD or you’ve just lost emotional/physical attraction for someone? Is staying in the relationship longer a way to test it? Or should you bring it up with your partner?
@@kitsune.422 relationship OCD comes with obsessions and then compulsions. Someone without relationship OCD would either accept the imperfections and let go of it, or in the relationship and move on. They wouldn’t obsess, they wouldn’t experience high anxiety, etc.
I have a question, I don‘t know if it‘s reassurance-seeking, but I‘m not officially diagnosed with OCD.
I realize the catastrophizing and the exposure and response prevention and have done it with other topics automatically. I just can‘t seem to be able to figure the way out of ROCD with that.
What if I realize I don‘t love my partner but stick with him anyways? I mean this in a way that I would not have lovey feelings anymore. Wouldn‘t that be unfair to him?
Sure, it would if you really didn't love him. But if you're suffering from obsessions & compulsions, that's a different story! Once you get rid of the obsessions & compulsions, your life and perspective completely changes. I have a program called The Path that teaches you everything you need to know to recover from any OCD subset, including ROCD (one of my worst ones that I haven't struggled with for years). You can find more here - www.MyOCDCoach.com/rocd
I feel like this was one of many caused that ended my relationship with my ex just after a year being together. Been over 2 months but still feel stuck and not motivated for anything in life, my mind always comes up with ways to talk to her again and that there is a possibility of getting back together...
I only get these thoughts when I am alone. When he is with me I feel so loved and happy and I forget these thoughts. I would never want to break up. The thought of doing so is scary and hurts. I am just so scared that one day I will act on this compulsion. I don't want to lose him.
Relationship OCD is hard, especially when you don’t have proper treatment. Are you getting help with learning recovery skills?
@@MyOCDCoach I am currently not in therapy sadly (I was but she had to stop being a therapist) but I am trying to find a therapist specialized in OCD. I have other forms of OCD as well + anxiety and depression so I guess that makes worries with relationship OCD even worse. So I don't really know how to help myself with this. I guess I try not to pay too much attention to the thoughts and think about the things I love about my boyfriend and how he makes me feel. Which does help a lot but trying to ignore the thoughts does not.
I am so sorry for saying all those things
What if there are legitimate problems in the relationship? Addiction, anger issues etc. No abuse though. My partner seems dedicated to working on these things in therapy, but my brain is constantly saying “run! Run away, you can’t be with someone who does _____ you need to find someone funnier, someone more motivated” etc
Those are things that you have to chose your own boundaries around.
What's your reason to stay with him? I had something similar once and after I broke up I had so much relief, improvement of my mental health and overall increased happiness. I suppose in my gut feeling sensed a form of danger that I couldn't see. I stayed with that person also in the hopes for who they 'could be', she was also working a lot on herself. But they never might be and we need to accept them who they are. I'm not saying that you should break up. From my experience I want to tell that no relationship is worth your health or primarily feeling unhappy in it.
How are you doing now? I’m in a similar situation
@@sorarussell good, way better. We broke up a year ago I’m much happier.
@@willywonkausername I’m glad you’re doing better. Did you break up because you realized the relationship was toxic? Or different reasons
My bf out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago said that he could do this anymore thy he felt like he is living a lie and everything hasn’t been real up to now. We had been dating for about 4 months and he had asked me to be his gf about a week before and said about meeting friends etc moving forward. He has told me before he was falling for me and that he was so lucky to have found me I make his life better etc etc. He said similar things the last time I saw him and was really happy and loving etc in how he was towards me. 2 days later he said he couldn’t do it anymore because it all feels like a lie. He said I give him everything he has ever wanted from someone and he wants more than anything for me to be the one and to fall in love with me but he cant. Everything he did up till now has shown me that he loves me even if he hasn’t said it properly. He has OCD intrusive thoughts anyway which he has told me about, does this sudden change and overthinking sound like ROCD?
It sounds like it could be.
It just… ROCD feels faded…. 😞 life has been adding extra stress… now when I did try to get help it’s like I don’t have ROCD at all anymore….some relationship issues are making things worse but I don’t wanna break up! I’m thinking too ahead in the future.
I constantly feel like I know I don’t love him… work has been adding stress, needing to move is adding stress… I know I love him… but right now I truly feels like I don’t….
Stress definitely adds to things! Getting support can be very helpful! Check out The Path - myocdcoach.teachable.com/p/path
@@MyOCDCoach I don’t have ROCD anymore!! 😞 I think I want to break up… when I talked to my friends about it I cried my eyes out but when I am alone I don’t… 😞
How you doing right now?
@@xmitka worse…
@@xmitka don’t believe I have ROCD anymore….
Yep. This is me. Thank you for the insight 💜
About a year and a half ago I discovered that I have R-ocd. I started to work on myself with eft and this summer we're together a lot. I felt good and had the feeling that I was healing my R-ocd, But now he has internship each day whereby I don't see him that often anymore. in the weekends we both work and since last weekend my anxiety got worse and one of my most scariest thought (that I need to break up) came back.. How is this possible? I feel like I didn't heal anything at all and that im back at square one and that I need to break up bc of the anxiety :((
@@ilsem3339 it’s an intrusive thought. Once you learn how to respond to them (erp), they’ll become less intrusive.
Set backs are a part of recovery
The problem for me is that sometimes the feeling is so real that it feels like I really do want to. I feel numb, depressed, physically anxious around him… and I can’t feel even calm. I’m not sure what to do, o know all this is ROCD but it physically HURTS. I can’t take it anymore… I feel almost on the verge of something stupid.
I’ve been there! This is what happens when OCD goes untreated or you’re not practicing the recovery skills. Once you do, it will get so much better!! Click here for an assessment call or recovery plans. www.MyOCDCoach.com
I have a perfect partner in my eyes no red flags but he’s also my first partner and I’ve been having thoughts of missing or not being ready to commit even though I have suck a perfect foundation with my partner . Is this rocd?
I'd have to talk to you further to determine this effectively. Feel free to schedule a session with me at www.MyOCDCoach.com/coaching
I’ve been in wonderful relationship for the past four months and just today I experienced the first feeling that something wasn’t right, that she’s not being honest with
me. My gut is telling me I need to run. I’m so upset.
It's great that you're catching it this early! If you join one of our programs today, you can learn how to respond to these fear-based thoughts and feelings and keep yourself from spiraling down deeper. I've been there, this is very treatable. Hope to see you in a program soon. 🙂 www.MyOCDCoach.com
this has happen to me also in SO-OCD: i have the urge to say that I might be gay, when I don't want (and don't feel to)
Yes, urges to confess are another common compulsion.
@@MyOCDCoach when this urges come, they feel overpowering and they make EXTREMELY ANXIOUS! is horrible
Me and my girlfriend we are deeply in love we love each other so much and care for each other so much but she have ocd and she broke up with me recently because she can't stand the pressure and anxiety anymore and she just wants to be alone to relax and not to have these thoughts but we still love each other and she tells me she can't because she is tired and so, so how do I get her back and help her, what should I do please answer me
She needs to get proper help (ERP), which is something she needs to do and you can’t do for her. I suggest showing her some of my videos so she can learn about OCD and hopefully that will prompt her to get help, from me or another specialist.
I love my partner very much and yet I break up with him all the time. He doesn't give me emotional security. I was looking for anxiety attachment, but then this video showed up. I have OCD, but I've never thought of this connection. I don’t know what to do. Is it me or is it him. It could be my OCD but his actions does not match his words and he is changing his (future)plan all the time.
You could definitely be dealing with ROCD. I'd have to talk to you further to answer your question. Feel free to schedule a session with me at www.MyOCDCoach.com/work-with-us. It would be my pleasure to help!
What if deep down it’s like you want to break up? Or you did a compulsion saying you know you don’t love your partner to feel better to see if you would go back to normal again… but it didn’t work…?
I obsessively thought of issues flaws in my relationship non stop…
I cried after but the break up urges got stronger! But now I am convinced I don’t love him anymore that I am only with him to avoid hurting him when I want my non obsessive moments back bc I didn’t constantly think of the issues and flaws. I was just relax and could actually enjoy my time with him. I could say I love you.
This is the OCD cycle, and you can get out of it with the right help. Someone without OCD would not do compulsions, ruminate, go back-and-forth. They would just make a decision and move forward. Getting proper help is very important, I’m here if you want it. www.MyOCDCoach.com
@@MyOCDCoach but this feels so different compared to before…
@@MyOCDCoach have you ever had clients that believed they didn’t love their partners? 😢
@@ReshiramMage1992 Feelings are not facts, and OCD can be very convincing.
@@ReshiramMage1992 OCD is nicknamed “the doubting disease” and intrusive thoughts come in all shapes and sizes.
Hi how much do you take per session
I have different programs and payment plans for all financial levels. You can see them all here - www.MyOCDCoach.com/store
my partner is the most amazing girl in the world and i love her so much but my ocd has been telling me all these things like "I don't love her" and "U don't have feelings for her" and I get the feeling that I should leave. But I know if I leave I will regret it, how do i try my hardest to just be happy with her?
Learning ERP is crucial and will help you a lot! My coaching and membership program will teach you all you need to know. www.MyOCDCoach.com
Same bro, i understand you❤️😔
Same
I did something bad in my relationship back on Tuesday and it cause me extreme shame/guilt ever since I’ve been having non stop thoughts about breaking up . I’ve never had this before and I’m scared , the thoughts are staying with me every second of every day . It cause me anxiety as I don’t want to break up but I can’t stop thinking about it . And it’s effecting my relationship and my life .
Is this ocd ?
OCD is obsessions and followed by compulsions. If you’re obsessing and thinking about something, and then doing compulsions, that’s OCD.
I realy love her i dont want to leave her😭
Good news...you get to choose how you live your life!
Ok so I understand how to tell when it is ROCD, but how can someone who has OCD recognize legitimate concerns and when you really aren’t in the best relationship for you?
If they were legitimate concerns, and they weren’t fear-based, he would handle them without the anxiety and need to remove the discomfort.
I have ocd since june 2022 and i was ok since last week where it came back like very Bad ... I have break up urges but when i think to leave my partner i start ti cry and want to throw up... What trigered me IS that you said it happens at the beginning but not for me !!! Is this Bad !!!!?
You probably misunderstood what I said, I OCD can happen anytime, there’s no one size fits all. That being said, if you want to learn what to do with these intrusive thoughts, so that they no longer bother you, check out the link in the video description.
I don't have the what if thoughts but I have to avoid my partner because it scares me , I had a lot panic attacks.
They don’t have to be “what if” thoughts.
What if there are genuine issues in the relationship? I love my partner but I feel that many of my themes revolve around real issues we have. For example, he is a jokester and his jokes have made me uncomfortable and hurt my feelings. We’re both 18 and I’m aware we’re still learning and growing but how can I help myself see things clearer and understand how much of it is the ocd and what are my genuine thoughts and feelings?
If you’re obsessing about this, followed by compulsions, OCD is attaching to it. When OCD attaches, it exaggerates things that may or may not bother you otherwise. When you learn how to respond differently, and quiet OCD, it may not even bother you. If it still does, then you can handle it from a healthy place, and not an unhealthy place which OCD causes you to stay in.
If you’re obsessing about this, followed by compulsions, OCD is attaching to it. When OCD attaches, it exaggerates things that may or may not bother you otherwise. When you learn how to respond differently, and quiet OCD, it may not even bother you. If it still does, then you can handle it from a healthy place, and not an unhealthy place which OCD causes you to stay in.
Do you have video on the compulsion of comparing
I don’t belong eve I do but I can do one.
Can someone please help me out.. I've this feeling that my partner is my everything and feels like the one, but something in me is resisting to fully commit to him. Like right now I want him, but cannot even talk to him. If I'm in his presence everything is fine, but when I'm not with him my body is constantly feeling the pain of losing him. Like I'm in a break up. I'm constantly feeling pain, anxiety and cannot live like this anymore. I just don't get it and it drives me insane. Its getting worse and right now I cannot even enjoy life anymore. Everything is triggering me. I cannot listen to music about love or watch movies about love. I know I have a fear of abandonment, but he's giving me already enough assurance. So it must be something else.. Can it be that my body is telling me that I have to leave even though he's my everything and I cannot imagine living without him????
What you’re experiencing right now is fear and anxiety. This is common with relationship, anxiety, and relationship OCD. Intrusive thoughts are fear-based thoughts that cause a lot of doubt and uncertainty. Then they’re often followed by compulsions, ways to get certain to your relief, like, avoidance, rumination, seeking reassurance, and more. It can be confusing, but learning about what’s going on and how to rewire your brain around this can shift everything so you can have a happy, healthy relationship. I’ve done it and you can too!
@@MyOCDCoach Thankyou for the fast reaction! Right now I'm more worried about the fact that I'm in such a tension and feeling resentment even though I don't want it. It nearly killing me. Do you think this blockage can go away and I also wonder if there are more people who're experiencing the exact same thing?
I’m feeling the exact same way! I feel really tired! I don’t wanna hurt my girlfriend but I feel really exhausted! Living with anxiety is the pits!
@@kgopotsomolapisane5937 you don’t have to live with the anxiety. Just need to get the right help and start to put these new tools into practice. Using them more consistently overtime you’ll feel better and better and better. Check out the link in the description if you want help!
Yesterday i saw a video on tiktok and it was related to how to break up and I started to think about it the whole time should I break up it’s so bad and like idk if I want a break up or not it’s not leaving my mind
I’ve been dealing with rocd since march
Tirggers will happen. How you deal with them - compulsions (analyze, ruminate, check, etc.) is the problem, not the trigger itself. I highly suggest getting proper help for your OCD (ERP) ASAP. The longer you go untreated, the worse it can get. I'm always here to help! www.MyOCDCoach.com
I have been having those feelings for a year now, and we broke up and we are still in contact its like unending circle!! Its really exhausting.
OCD ends when you learn to respond to the thoughts differently (ERP).
can you have such a big intrusive thought around breaking up and ROCD that you start to convince yourself that you really do want to break up?? Parts of you still wants to be with the person but the anxiety wears that down?
Breaking up is the compulsion of avoidance.
I had that it’s hard…
I’m wondering, how do I bring up this concern to my therapist?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost six months and around 2 1/2 months I started pushing away even tho I was super happy with him and since then it’s just been in and down rn I’m currently up until just recently
I also realize my extremely lucky to have him 😭❤️ but I feel awful for putting him through this and I wanna break up with him to set him free from me being crazy twice a month he’s so good at reassuring me and talking me down which actually sometimes annoys me in the moment but I appreciate later
My thought is that if he’s willing to stay and be patient and we work through this together after awhile I should be able to relax and not have those thoughts of leaving from fear
Especially from my last relationship in my head it was leave before you get left if you initiate the break up it will hurt less
My ocd focuses on what if I’m being abused by him and I’m in denial or I will take something he said and make it seem so big does anyone have advice on this for ocd and not being able to tell if your being abused or not? My partner is very sweet and loving but when I was a child I was abused and I feel like I should know what abuse looks like but I really can’t tell and it’s trying to make me breakup and there isn’t really anything he does and if there’s something like a dumb argument my brain goes crazy
Hey! How are you doing now? I’m in a similar situation
@@sorarussell well we recently broke up for good he was abusive and abused me and kinda gaslighted me into believing it was my fault for everything
@@Justher123 Aw fuck now I’m panicked lmao. 😭 I’m so sorry to hear that and I hope you’re healing
What about attachment type + childhood trauma +ocd
Same solution will help all - ERP.
@@MyOCDCoach thank you. I had this 20 years ago, it's paralyzing. Every relationship it came back and now it's back stronger. I just keep thinking " I need to break up and imagine telling her. The feeling i get then is like a hot iron melting through the inside of my body and I also it in my head. It's a extremely intense feeling and I'm used to a lot I've had like 500 panic attacks hospital multiple times. But this is like I can taste it. I hope I can get over this because I think I'm buying a small mountain house and sitting there alone forever.
i definately have rocd. Now i'm on the stage where i think i have decided to break up with my partner in one month and that makes me feel better. is that because of the certainty ocd seeks or is that our relationship is over because i got tired od fighting with no result?
did you break up? how are you now?
Relationship happy Jessica till 3 years
How does one do an ERP session for break up urges? Could someone give me an example?
I would have to talk to you more to fully explain. Short answer - whatever the thought or fear is, you allow uncertainty and don't respond to the thought/fear (response prevention) by not doing mental or physical compulsions.
@@MyOCDCoach so I would think “I should break up with my boyfriend because I have no feelings for him anymore” as an uncertainty?
@@FluteGal89 no. I highly suggest joining The Path or sign up for 1:1 coaching with me you can learn ERP properly. It isn't something I can effectively teach you via chat. myocdcoach.teachable.com
Why do i have this? A childhood trauma? Which one?
Scientifically we don’t know. It’s believed that it’s a combination of genetics, and other learn behaviors like avoiding discomfort, and anxiety. Life experiences can play a part, but I know people who have had worse experiences than me then that don’t have OCD. Trying to figure out the root of the problem, or why you have OCD, often becomes a compulsion. Even if we knew why, it wouldn’t make a difference. We have to learn to use ERP in the moment.
@@MyOCDCoach Thank you. I asked why because i think identifying the problem and knowing the reasons help me to get through of it. I personally experienced this many times about my other psychological issues. Of course only knowing itself doesnt help, we need to work on ourselves.
@@merveuzun2536 Trying to figure out why often becomes a Compulsion, and even if you do figure it out, it won’t help.
@@MyOCDCoach I am saying it helps
I broke up with my gf and didn’t want to. I broke down so bad in tears and I still cry over her a lot. We haven’t cut contact. We still talk everyday and want each other .I don’t even know what’s wrong with me anymore. I’m scared to date cause I don’t want the intense anxiety anymore but I miss her and want her in my life. Does this sound like something your coaching could help? I don’t wanna waste my time and money. I’m a college student and am nervous about therapy
Absolutely. Breaking up is just the avoidance compulsion to escape the discomfort, but it doesn’t help. And actually reinforces the fear and anxiety will come back in the future with somebody new. I can teach you what to do in response to the thoughts so that they stop bothering you and they stop coming so often this is an important skill you’ll use for the rest of your life.
@@MyOCDCoach This is exactly where I am at in my relationship with my BF. I love him dearly but for some odd reason I feel the need to challenge him and becz he's so handsome (actually beautiful in my eyes) I have had thoughts that I do not deserve him and that he would be better off without me.
@@butcharmstrong9645 foster, just thoughts, and you get to choose which one do you believe/give attention to and which ones you don’t.