In fact, I used to suffer from anxiety, sadness, and depression whenever I thought about this person (my colleague), and I never wanted that, but now I don’t care at all, as if I accepted him, and I started saying, “No, I must have really loved him.” And when it comes to my mind, I don't get upset and I say, "I accept it and I love it," and my mind says, "What if you don't want to get over it and just say these things?"😢😢😢😢😢
I've been having rocd in my relationship right now and I just found out about what ROCD was recently. I didn't even know what was wrong with me but now i know that this is normal. my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months and it keeps happening like I keep pushing away but he still sticks by me and we have a great relationship. I know I love him but for some reason I feel do I really love him. Its like something is blocking me from being happy and loving him. Im not sure this even makes sense.
Makes perfect sense!!! Because the anxiety and rumination that comes with rocd makes your feelings and chemicals all jumbled. And when you're so focused on everything else, it's hard for your body and mind to move Forward with your partner or even just feel like being happy. It's like how overstimulation can make someone with ADHD feel stuck. A type of paralysis. From my experience anyway.
I have ROCD and it’s bad now because I moved out of state to be with my partner and my 2 adult kids live back home. In their 20s. I miss them and feel like I want to give up. My partner can’t move to my hometown so….
Thank you for this video. Finding you and this community has been eye opening to me. After 2 divorces and now being in a 3rd relationship at 55, I am a mess. The anxiety, the doubt, the icky feelings of wanting to run have been heartbreaking. I appreciate you. The one question I have is what or why does this happen to some people but not others? What starts this cycle? I have severe OCD, CPTSD and depression to begin with, but I don't understand how I can be with this loving, supportive man after being with 2 past abusive, cheating husbands and be struggling like this. I don't know how much of it is ROCD or is it because this new wonderful man struggles with financial security and I'm in a financial crisis. I'm so confused, but it has even put me in a place of suicidal ideation and it's horrible.
It’s so hard cause now it’s like that’s all I want is for our marriage to end no other reason besides how I feel, I feel like it’s trying to make me comfortable about it ending. I get upset and cry about it but then I have a thought that I’m just upset because it’s a sad thing for when a marriage ends like idek why this is even happening. It feels as if it’s me that I know I want that and I would get images of it happening it’s so hard idk what I’m doing. There’s no interest there’s no enjoyment it all went away. It’s practically got me convinced
Not to mention I don’t feel the need to google or ask for reassurance anymore, I don’t feel the anxiety that I once did like the pit in my stomach is gone.
@@Hayden0904 Hey, how's it going? I'm also going through something similar. I'm feeling like I'm tired of putting in the work and don't wanna change myself for better or for relationship. Even though my partner is great but because I'm suffering because of ROcd, it feels like it's worth it to break up for peace. And my thoughts don't start with "what if" anymore.
@@arushivashisht4115that’s what I’m going thru a lot of it is I want to thoughts to images of doing it and I just get this overwhelming feeling like I want to like it’s my truth but I almost was better two weeks ago then the thought that I actually like the idea brought me back in it. I even question if it’s ocd anymore I’m just kinda at a lost once again but I’m trying to push thru
@@arushivashisht4115I honestly didn’t know ocd can be this convincing it’s like no matter what I believe it over anything else too. I mean it even tries to tell me if I don’t feel the need to do the compulsions then it’s my truth even tho break up urges is a compulsion
I have an on/off cycle that follows my changes in hormones over the month. Every time I have a hormonal change (menstruation or ovulation) I flip to the opposite way of thinking/feeling about him. Is this common? As a result we’re on, approximately, two-weekly cycles. Is this common?
@@ED-cy8ss I think BC might have caused this problem! I was on it for 13 years, and stopped in 2012. I wouldn’t touch it again. Do you feel depressed though? I’m not. I’ve been going through a spiritual awakening for years though and it’s been rough (and amazing too!).
@@Mistical1982 I was on the pill on and off very sparingly, im talking less than a month each time I tried it. It’s been almost a year since I’ve been off the pill. Yes, I grow very depressed around my ovulation time. I’ve been diagnosed with PMDD. When I begin bleeding again, I’m perfectly fine. The doctor recommended a no estrogen BC or anti depressant. I’m not interested in either
@@ED-cy8ss I’ve always thought I had PMDD too. Then found the ROCD stuff. They’re very similar. I’d love to know what’s really going on - so confusing! It’s really hard to maintain a relationship.
Rocd help please 😭 Guys somebody please help me I’m going through so much anxiety at this point 😭 Idk where to vent out so I came to Reddit now 😭 I’ve been with my partner for over a year now (to be accurate, 1 year and 6 months). Only for the first three months of relationship we were together and for the rest 1 year 3 months we’ve been in ldr (long distance relationship). There’s this guy in my class with whom I’ve never talked for more than 2 times. Though I know I don’t love this guy in my class, my brain is convincing/making me feel scared that if I keep seeing this guy every single day for the rest of the year I might fall in love with him and this is causing me so much anxiety to a point where I want to do nothing else but wail and weep and sob idk what to do with myself rn 😭 I have no choice but remain in the same class for the next one year because our college dean said they can’t change class in the middle of the year 😭 Though my partner and I fight a lot we love each other so very much and he’s the sweetest 💯 I don’t want to do this to him but Idk what to do 😭 Somebody please do give me some advice please 🙏 😭
The fact that you feel this much emotion and do not want to love someone else shows that you love your significant other. I would try to just incorporate your significant other in your life more, like more video calls or something. Maybe get a new seat in class or something as well.
In fact, I used to suffer from anxiety, sadness, and depression whenever I thought about this person (my colleague), and I never wanted that, but now I don’t care at all, as if I accepted him, and I started saying, “No, I must have really loved him.”
And when it comes to my mind, I don't get upset and I say, "I accept it and I love it," and my mind says, "What if you don't want to get over it and just say these things?"😢😢😢😢😢
I've been having rocd in my relationship right now and I just found out about what ROCD was recently. I didn't even know what was wrong with me but now i know that this is normal. my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months and it keeps happening like I keep pushing away but he still sticks by me and we have a great relationship. I know I love him but for some reason I feel do I really love him. Its like something is blocking me from being happy and loving him. Im not sure this even makes sense.
Makes perfect sense!!! Because the anxiety and rumination that comes with rocd makes your feelings and chemicals all jumbled. And when you're so focused on everything else, it's hard for your body and mind to move Forward with your partner or even just feel like being happy. It's like how overstimulation can make someone with ADHD feel stuck. A type of paralysis. From my experience anyway.
I'm in a bad relapse it feels so real thank you
we understand how it can be difficult love, know that you are not alone and sending you so much love ❤ -AIL Team
Same
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I looked this morning for any new video. I thought my notifications were off. And here you are.💗
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This genuinely came at the perfect time! Thankyou so much 🙏🏽 love to you both! also Manon is gorgeous and I love her accent 😇she’s a great guest!
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I have ROCD and it’s bad now because I moved out of state to be with my partner and my 2 adult kids live back home. In their 20s. I miss them and feel like I want to give up. My partner can’t move to my hometown so….
Thank you for this video. Finding you and this community has been eye opening to me. After 2 divorces and now being in a 3rd relationship at 55, I am a mess. The anxiety, the doubt, the icky feelings of wanting to run have been heartbreaking. I appreciate you. The one question I have is what or why does this happen to some people but not others? What starts this cycle? I have severe OCD, CPTSD and depression to begin with, but I don't understand how I can be with this loving, supportive man after being with 2 past abusive, cheating husbands and be struggling like this. I don't know how much of it is ROCD or is it because this new wonderful man struggles with financial security and I'm in a financial crisis. I'm so confused, but it has even put me in a place of suicidal ideation and it's horrible.
we so understand and know that you are not alone. ❤
I’m in a bad place. I don’t want it to end.
we understand and please know that you are not alone and this too shall pass. please be gentle with yourself. sending you so much love. -AIL Team
How are you now?
@@Rushdia-di5by Pretty back and forth. One minute I doubt, the next I don’t.
I felt better but suddenly I feel like it's coming back... I'm in a long distance relationship for years now and it is hard.... I need tips please
It’s so hard cause now it’s like that’s all I want is for our marriage to end no other reason besides how I feel, I feel like it’s trying to make me comfortable about it ending. I get upset and cry about it but then I have a thought that I’m just upset because it’s a sad thing for when a marriage ends like idek why this is even happening. It feels as if it’s me that I know I want that and I would get images of it happening it’s so hard idk what I’m doing. There’s no interest there’s no enjoyment it all went away. It’s practically got me convinced
Not to mention I don’t feel the need to google or ask for reassurance anymore, I don’t feel the anxiety that I once did like the pit in my stomach is gone.
@@Hayden0904 Hey, how's it going? I'm also going through something similar. I'm feeling like I'm tired of putting in the work and don't wanna change myself for better or for relationship. Even though my partner is great but because I'm suffering because of ROcd, it feels like it's worth it to break up for peace. And my thoughts don't start with "what if" anymore.
@@arushivashisht4115that’s what I’m going thru a lot of it is I want to thoughts to images of doing it and I just get this overwhelming feeling like I want to like it’s my truth but I almost was better two weeks ago then the thought that I actually like the idea brought me back in it. I even question if it’s ocd anymore I’m just kinda at a lost once again but I’m trying to push thru
@@arushivashisht4115I honestly didn’t know ocd can be this convincing it’s like no matter what I believe it over anything else too. I mean it even tries to tell me if I don’t feel the need to do the compulsions then it’s my truth even tho break up urges is a compulsion
@@Hayden0904I've been reading your comments and I feel exactly that way too can I ask how is it going?
I have an on/off cycle that follows my changes in hormones over the month. Every time I have a hormonal change (menstruation or ovulation) I flip to the opposite way of thinking/feeling about him. Is this common? As a result we’re on, approximately, two-weekly cycles. Is this common?
This is the change I have. I haven’t found any answers yet. Considered getting on BC or an antidepressant
@@ED-cy8ss I think BC might have caused this problem! I was on it for 13 years, and stopped in 2012. I wouldn’t touch it again. Do you feel depressed though? I’m not. I’ve been going through a spiritual awakening for years though and it’s been rough (and amazing too!).
@@Mistical1982 I was on the pill on and off very sparingly, im talking less than a month each time I tried it. It’s been almost a year since I’ve been off the pill. Yes, I grow very depressed around my ovulation time. I’ve been diagnosed with PMDD. When I begin bleeding again, I’m perfectly fine. The doctor recommended a no estrogen BC or anti depressant. I’m not interested in either
@@ED-cy8ss I’ve always thought I had PMDD too. Then found the ROCD stuff. They’re very similar. I’d love to know what’s really going on - so confusing! It’s really hard to maintain a relationship.
Rocd help please 😭
Guys somebody please help me I’m going through so much anxiety at this point 😭 Idk where to vent out so I came to Reddit now 😭 I’ve been with my partner for over a year now (to be accurate, 1 year and 6 months). Only for the first three months of relationship we were together and for the rest 1 year 3 months we’ve been in ldr (long distance relationship). There’s this guy in my class with whom I’ve never talked for more than 2 times. Though I know I don’t love this guy in my class, my brain is convincing/making me feel scared that if I keep seeing this guy every single day for the rest of the year I might fall in love with him and this is causing me so much anxiety to a point where I want to do nothing else but wail and weep and sob idk what to do with myself rn 😭 I have no choice but remain in the same class for the next one year because our college dean said they can’t change class in the middle of the year 😭 Though my partner and I fight a lot we love each other so very much and he’s the sweetest 💯 I don’t want to do this to him but Idk what to do 😭 Somebody please do give me some advice please 🙏 😭
The fact that you feel this much emotion and do not want to love someone else shows that you love your significant other. I would try to just incorporate your significant other in your life more, like more video calls or something. Maybe get a new seat in class or something as well.
Are there men that have this issue? I definitely have this problem but it’s new. I’m 46 and just suddenly experiencing this.
There are! You are definitely not alone 🙏
Yep, a lot I would say 🙋