Every Manipulation Tactic Explained in 12 Minutes
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- Every Manipulation Tactic Explained in 12 Minutes
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// TIMESTAMPS //
0:00 - Gaslighting
0:35 - Guilt Tripping
0:57 - Isolation
1:33 - Love Bombing
2:23 - Playing the Victim
3:01 - Threats or Coercion
4:03 - The Silent Treatment
4:27 - Ghosting
4:54 - Shaming
5:19 - Triangulation
5:55 - Aggressive Jokes
6:42 - Emotional Blackmail
7:03 - Projection
7:40 - Smear Campaigns
8:57 - Shifting the Goalpost
9:35 - Changing the Subject
9:58 - Playing on Insecurities
10:37 - Fake Moralization
11:13 - Infantilization
// RESEARCH //
Most of the information sourced in this video comes from Wikipedia, but other sources include:
www.choosingtherapy.com/manip...
www.happierhuman.com/manipula...
www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/...
thepowermoves.com/manipulation/
abusewarrior.com/mental-healt...
andrewbenjamingeorge.com/comp...
www.techtarget.com/whatis/fea...
www.cs.cmu.edu/~dst/Library/S...
timesofindia.indiatimes.com/l...
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There are two types of people:
"Thanks, I needed that! Now I can avoid manipulation"
And "Thanks, I needed that"
Better to have it & not need it, than need it & not have it.
Thank you
Now I know the name of what I do
I'm the second one. I'm a writer with a focus on intrigue and relationships, so it's _really_ handy to have a handbook of things my characters could do to mess with each other's heads.
Both
Unfortunately I'm starting to realize I'm the second one.. I'm trying to work on myself tho.
The fact that duolingo uses half of these methods
???
LMAO
Duolingo is him bro
Duolingo: Spanish or vanish
@@erenjeager9081 Duolingo is THE toxic ex. I always go back eventually.
the worst part of it all is when manipulators accuse you of doing these things
Now you are projector manupulating.
@@Billioncompany786depends how u see the sentence but yes 😂
What's extra special is if they call you out on every tactic and you hit then with that "Wait a minute, when did you learn all of these terms?"
Had a whole group of people I used to be friends that did EXACTLY that. Still ticks me off…
They do it all of the time. Mind games.
Its very important to note that if you try hard enough you can see manipulation everywhere despite it not actually being there.
Its all too common these days that people infantilize themselves and place all responsibility on their partner and when that relationship inevitably fails they blame it on the partner being manipulative.
If you become too paranoid you start self sabotaging your own relationships
Actually true, unfortunately nowhere in the video is it stated how to define a negative manipulation from a different non malicious perspective, I get that the point of the video is manipulation tactics but with an audience of 1.2M (currently) it wont do good for everyone. Education is really welcoming but if it screws you over in the actual situation, then was it really worth it?
@sentoree me complimenting you when you do stuff i like and not when you do stuff i dont like(this video basically just compared me to mustache man)
You are playing a victim in yt comment section, while no one even blames you for anything. Hahahaha
@@HealByHelping the video does tho
@@B1inded that is whole point of YT. Or any other interaction you ever have in life. Even before you were existing. If your parents didn't manipulate each other successfully to have unprotected sex you wouldn't exist now. Manipulation is not necessarily bad or puts you in a bad position. Manipulation is what makes humans thrive as a species.
The thing is most of the time people don't realise they have been maniipuulating someone. When someone tells them they did, they are confused.
No amount of apologized is going to fix the damage caused by manipulation. You can't even salvage a relationship because of what happened.
That's true, people with different mental conditions, insecurities fears and even traumas often believe they are doing nothing wrong. Thats why it's important to have time to self reflect. Everyone have toxic traits and thats just part of being human.
No they dont
They are just manipulating you further
It seems it worked
@@uateme Nah dude, I've been manipulative before. I'm sure most of us have been at some point. It's not always intentional. Obviously, that doesn't make it okay, it just means we have to remain self-aware as to improve ourselves and our relationships.
@@SirLuckySlime u sure
I love how this guy goes straight into exactly what the title promises with no intro or outro lol
That's the extra manipulation technique, making you think the content is high quality because it has no clutter
@@dimii27 hidden by another manipulation technique, which is subliminal signaling
@@dimii27 let's call it "Quick - start manipulation" :D
except he stole this concept from "The Paint Explainer"
This is common knowledge @@DieKottis
This video made me realize that my mom was manipulating me my whole childhood without anyone ever noticing and it lead to me being severely mentally destroyed for like 9 years now, I am healing, but my mom doesn't want to admit that she is mentally ill. I guess I didn't know because she genuinely loved me and cared for me, but she has intense anxiety and depression and it is undeniable now
Hi! God can heal you and your mom truly God loves you so much! He can give you peace + more in your family if you come to Him!
ahh yes the religion manipulation@@Faithivations
Yeah, if a parent has mental illness, they can affect their child no matter how much they think they love them. Parents with mental illnesses need to actively try to heal in order to prevent hurting their kids and/or show their kids how they can heal too
go to a psychologist, keep this secret from your mother
@@user-ew7rd6ir6ktalking to a professional alone usually means you're giving a very one-sided and extremely biased story. Just saying maybe they should both go at the same time but idk I'm not a psychologist. You shouldn't really trust psychologist though, it's an out-dated science that condrudicts some modern neuroscience if I recall correctly.
Starts the video right away, explains everything in an understandable and simple way, leaves without asking to leave a like or subscribe
What a G
God loves you! Repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! He can give you so much love, joy and peace!💕.
@@Faithivationslove bombing
@@Faithivations your reply doesnt address the original comment. youre piggybacking on a great comment to advertise. excessive proselytizing stems from pride and thinking little of others. you told them to repent, without a prompt or justification. youre out of line, you should apologize. youre hurting your own cause by making christians look callous and isolated. Youre callous and isolated, giving us taglines we've heard a million times while flexing and demeaning others. your advocacy is like a cheap tv commercial but worse. christians get hate because behavior like yours, but its correctable. no hard feelings. someone from the outside world needed to tell you. i repent for your sins and i bless you < 3
Its so sad you didn’t cover gaslighting in this video, you really missed an important manipulation tactic by leaving it out :(
He did cover gaslighting dummy
Oh wait...
Lol gaslighting isn't even real you'd have to be crazy to believe that
got my ass so bad I could only laugh👏😂
@@AnthonyManziothat’s the joke :/
My ex girlfriend speedrun
Felt that.
Yeah lol, while watching the video I realised how many of these tactics my ex used on me. No wonder I was fucked up throughout that relationship.
Same, but my ex-boyfriend. Especially the Guilt Tripping, and Isolation.
Real, same
silent treatment and isolation only if i knew.
My ex in 12 minutes
So reeeeal😂
Lol, I was just gonna mention mine too.
This 💯
My x wife
My friend finds your comment funny but I don't 😠😠😠😠😠 , but I liked your comment anyways
As someone grew up in China and used to live in china , gotta confirm that my parents(not only my parents but a lot of people in the society, even teachers)do this shit all day without even realizing the damage they’ve caused to their kids, and the reason why they do this is because that their parents or people around them did this to them, and they get used to it and started to take it as norm and do it to other people. People need more information in such topics to prevent themselves for being manipulated in the future and also stop themselves from subconsciously manipulating others. Thanks for the content.
As an Asian, can confirm 💀
Remember people, just because you've manipulated someone in a minor way it doesn't make you a bad person. A slighly disruptive joke about your friend won't make you a monster
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@@vivianniezthis is NOT tiktok 😭🙏
bruh i see what you did there...
Singular bad acts, dont make a bad person.
@@emilyk1109 i mean, for the last part, manipulation is very very easy. It really shouldn't take even a video for someone to learn how to manipulate someone
You’re missing bread crumbing: basically leading someone on by giving them the occasional bear minimum in attention / affection to keep them interested.
That's essentially the same thing as shifting the goalpost. Both involve carrot on a stick methods
I never knew it had a name but I perceive!
that's a dismissive avoidant attachement style as well too.
Rockstar sweats nervously 😊
Yall come up with any slang for manipulation nowadays
The fact that this video began without introduction or any boring stuff that wastes your time makes it interesting to watch.
Other UA-camrs should learn from this guy❤
9:26 this video just explained how parents manipulates their kids
I think a lot of people use these tactics unknowingly because it seems easier to get a what you want that way, but I’ve found that actively avoiding these tactics cause others to view you as more trustworthy.
Or providing the appearance of avoiding these tactics, at least.
The most used tactic that they use on me is guilt tripping (I think)
Trauma makes me more vulnerable to this so they use it a lot... The world is full of lies
@@DiamondKingStudios
Expert level psyops in play here
my 50 page essay discusses the ethical use of manipulation, after listing ways to manipulate your way into potus(not specifically, just what happens when you write 50 page essay on manipulation)@hid1969
Which could be a tactic by itself
If you ever encounter someone trying to manipulate you don't call them out, just casually distance yourself from them as much as possible. calling them out might cause them to paint you as a villain.
That is absolutely true. I did exactly that and it was the biggest mistake of my entire life. I thought that if I confronted my narcissistic father, he would come to his senses and change for the better. But instead, I was isolated from the whole family. No one wants to talk to me or listen to me. Not even my own siblings. To them, I'm just an ungrateful and wicked child.
That was over a decade ago now and their opinion hasn't changed a bit since then.
@@tophus5583oh god this sounds horrible, i’m sorry this has happened to you and it sucks to hear they haven’t changed their view on you. i hope you have a great day, i hope it’ll get better soon
Let them 😂 I fell for bullshit before
@@tophus5583I'm sorry you had to suffer such a fate.. But if they will not listen, then chances are it's best to move on. In a similar situation with my mother AND her current husband at the moment.. so just keeping my head down and waiting for my chance for freedom. Best of luck to you, dear: DNA doesn't make a family, love does.
I feel like if calling someone out for their manipulative behaviour, which we have all done at some point, intentional or not, causes them to paint you as a villain, then it proves that they were fully intending to manipulate you.
In which case, they have now failed, and get defensive or shift the blame to you (whether they say it or not), which is yet another form of manipulation.
Someone doing it unintentionally would acknowledge their mistake and hopefully apologise, even try to fix the issue.
this is my entire childhood in 12 minutes
Great video! I knew someone who did a combination of love bombing, playing on insecurities, playing the victim, and gaslighting. Looking back, I didn't realize these were manipulation tactics. I just knew something was off when they ignored boundaries and kept pushing for things that I told them wasn't possible. I am way more educated now on manipulation tactics thanks to videos like this! The best thing I can say is if anyone finds them in a situation like this, especially with love bombing, cut it off!
Sad thing is, I've probably done at least a couple of these without even realizing it. Thank you for explaining these, because now knowing these will help me become a better person.
+1 and now i am feeling bad about it
Same here… time to be mindful again…
I don't regret doing it, I didn't have bad motives behind it.
Or a worse one...
I loved it , almost use 8 of these everyday and it works fine everytime
What's especially good about knowing of these tactics is that if you have a good heart, you can try to avoid using these tactics yourself unintentionally
but i gett so pissed off that people use it on me that i have the urge to use it back on them even if i know its wrong
@@Anonymous-jt5ng I get that, being rational is easy until emotions are flowing through your system. It's good to know that there are people who'll treat you well 90% of the time, so there's no need to waste energy on those who's only interested in manipulating you! If you can help it of course
@@Anonymous-jt5ngman you already know those kind of people's limited power because they know they are unsuccessful and just want to pretend to seek fun and control or power by manipulating others,"bullies" basically
@@niamhoconnor8986 lol you look so kind and honourable ❤
@@niamhoconnor8986 as tbys put it: how someone treats you 90% (he said 98%) of the time is irrelevant. Anyone can be pleasant 90% of the time to someone. It's on that 10% when things are bad where the differences are made. A good person might get angry, sad, hurt, etc. but they won't start being abusive.
Rather, at worst they'll look for acts that they can safely vent their emotions through before returning to address the thing that upset them. It's only in that 10% of the time where you can distinguish between an abuser and a gopd person.
The fact that I been unironically doing most of these manipulation tatics for years w/o realizing is wicked
I had a friend who guilt tripped me, isolated me, love bombed, played the victim, and some other things and I found out that that was happening thanks to these kind of videos- now I have left them forever! Idk if it was you that made the video I saw back then but I still want to thank you!
I really needed more strategies since my manipulation tactic has been failing. Thank you for help!
LMFAOO 😂
At least your honest. I feel like that’s what most here are gonna end up doing 😂
call him a human hacker,because this man is about to manipulate a whole lot of brains
@@willissudweeks1050He isn’t honest. Stop lying, you are delusional.
Naughty naughty!
This video could just as easily be titled "How to be a Successful Politician".
You nailed it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
No that's called "law school".
Or a tweeter activist)
Also known as "How To Become The Ultimate Douche-Nozzle That Nobody Likes Or Trusts"
@@rebeccamuir3389 more dishonest your job more money
the guy smoking the big ol cigar just not fitting into the “manipulator” role is hilarious 💀
Finally, someone exposing all these tricks. We need more videos like this!
Normal people: takes notes
Psycos: *TAKES NOTES*
Well maybe I am a [psycho]
Cringe
i mean honestly understanding manipulation tactics helps you realize when someone is trying to manipulate you
How else am I supposed to get my friends to like me more and hate her more?
Psychos don’t take notes. They are a natural at this, which is why they are psychos
Silent Treatment/Ghosting & Agressive Jokes are highly underrated forms of mental torture.
I think aggressive jokes have gotten quite a lot of attention in recent decades. We may, in fact, be overcorrecting for that.
@@RobespierreThePoof Agreed.
What kind of jokes? Hahaha we hate women isn't it funny how much we hate them jokes? From people who take great offense and cry about misandry at the lightest slight in their direction?
If someone is being completely disrespectful towards me and shows no interest in caring about anything I do or say, but I have to work with this person, they are getting the silent treatment. I don't care if you call it "mental torture", because none of the other paths have worked. And I am talking about a situation where you have tried reason, discussion and diplomacy. Even changed your behaviour to suit this person. If none of that works, I am just not gonna be talking to them.
Silent treatment is a serious reminder that there's no friendship, nothing is owed, therefore the best thing to do upon a silent treatment is ghosting. Especially if no one is dependent on one another.
Thanks for making this, I already knew about them but now I can even more be on the lookout for them
It's sad that most people don't even realise they're being manipulated most of the time and so end up defending whoever's manipulating them.
And people often dont realize when theyre manipulating others
and people arent going to realize im maniputalting them after this
And people won't realize I'll manipulate them into manipulating me.
@@nuttrbuttr5 stop maniputalting instead of manipulating me...and then stop manipulating me after that
@@nuttrbuttr5You b getting manipulated too
This really helps some people understand that they are being manipulative even if they don't realize it. It helps show what not to do in certain situations
You mean what TO do
@@dimitriy4512he never said that it was what not do
We have sigmas malipulators up there👆
🤓🤓🤓👹👹🤡🤡
@@fernandbaudin.5067 smegma mindset
I agree. But it doesn't show what should be done in those situations. But knowing you have a problem is the first step. It takes some self reflection to figure out the proper way to treat people, instead of always trying to impose your will and control
My online female friend was a master at all of these. As the video played on, I could easily think of unique situations that employed each and every method. Ironically enough, although I never accused her of any sort of manipulation, she accused me of gaslighting right before ties were cut.
This video just explained so many things that my ex did to me that I didn't even realise were manipulation tactics. it makes so much sense now with what she did to me and how it was making me feel while it was happening. so glad I finally got out and cut her off. thanks for the video it really helped sort out some sort of closure on the situation.
You forgot denying everything once called out, psychopaths love this tactic
I'm not a psychopath but this tactic is me (I live in denial, I am denial.)
That’s the first one
@@maplecakeschannel thats the joke im pretty sure, gaslighting is pretending something never happend and their pretending it wasnt in the video
That's just called lying
@@-ddict-nah
Silent treatment is a very complex one, I often get accused of doing it, but generally that's only because the argument has heated up to the point where no good outcome can be achieved for either of us. Sometimes you just have to walk away because you may be getting too heated and fear you'll say something you don't mean or simply because there is no room for logic and reason left.
I do the same. Right after an argument, I need time to defuse to prevent saying hurtful things or overall escalating things. But, once I've cooled down, I'll talk to the person to resolve the issue.
you probably need to just give a quick comment like "hey I'm feeling overwhelmed and need some time to calm down. I'm gonna go take a breather, but i will come back." if someone still gets upset at that then they're the problem.
That sometimes does not work for me because sometimes my mom would just stand the and Make me open my room
I hate when I walk away from a heated argument with my brother because every attempt to deescalate only makes him more mad, and then he gets mad at me for running away from the argument.
Definitely one of the best ways to avoid being perceived as trying to manipulate someone with silence is to make sure you announce that you need to take a moment.
People deal with arguments and problems differently, and you will likely end up in situations where one person wants to solve everything right away while the other knows if they keep talking things will end up worse due to their growing anger or whatever.
Communication of intent is important in these situations, even though it might be very difficult.
Thanks for this video, will make sure to use all of the techniques and let you know my favourite
Amazing content, now i can make sure she never leaves!
my parents are playing collect all the pokemon cards with these
Lmao
@Ah_Be yes you did you dementia
Okay, like YOU know what's going on inside of your parents heads? Do you even care about their emotions - at all? Don't answer. I know the answer already. Your inadequacy shines through. Why do you think people want to listen to what you have to say? Huh? And the "collect all the pokemon cards"-anology? Such a cheap comparrison. Wow, just wow.
you did, wake up. Wake up, they miss you. Wake up.@Ah_Be
The worst part is, once you realise this, you get really big trust issues with almost everyone. I sometimes feel like I'm selfish for thinking like this, but if I think its not my fault, it still comes of selfish.
Kinda same here, I am hardened due to all I've experienced
I Immediatly cut contacts and without a word with people who are associated with really harming people for me
I don't feel bad about it at all because they are the ones who are wrong, not me
@@youraveragejdmenthusiast430what if you are wrong and they didnt do on pourpouse and or you missinterpreted?
Has this happened once or you never questioned your decision on this matter?
@@victorpedrosoceolin3919 I actually cross check-ish my thoughts and try to think from their pov to make sure I'm not wrong or manipulating someone
I guess trust your intuition and don’t overthink
Thank you for the tip,can’t wait to try them out
I have to say it out loud this is the best video I have seen since a long time ago ❤
I've known for a long time that my stepdad was a master manipulator, but wow. He used all of these tactics. Thank you for laying them out so clearly. I'm so happy to be an adult and not having to put up with his nonsense
Are you my brother??
Im afraid your stepdad's name is Kiyotaka Ayanokoji
Did he do a smear campaign against you?
@@user-op5gr7vr7e not against me, but against my sister
Nga's father is Johan Liebert
Straight to the point, thanks for the tutorial!
thanks for the what
@@hugeballs for making a video about all this ?
no please dont 😭
💀💀💀
Information is neutral after all
love the smear campaigns logo
These tips were really useful. Thanks!
I love how this video gets to the point IMMEDIATELY
How do YOU even know what the point of this video is? There are in fact many points in this video. By showingyour everyone here that you got the point IMMEDIATELY, you come across as a know-it-all. How does that feel? You remind me so much of your mother. Have you ever tried to take a few steps back and reflect on the things you want to communicate before you spew your toxic claims out? What is even "immediately" - and why did you chose to use caps lock? You are that important, aren't you? Smh...
no it doesnt did you actually watch it?
bro is gaslighting@@purpleguy5226
@@purpleguy5226gaslight go crazy
@@purpleguy5226yes it does? also your not purple
how to defend yourself in my opinion:
gaslighting -> stop talking with them
guilt tripping -> be cold hearted
isolation -> keep contacts with other friends and mostly family, family usually loves unconditionally
love bombing -> understand that you are still deserving of love but learn how to be alone on your own
playing the victim -> prove them wrong or stop the communication
threats -> be brave and always have a backup plan, backup fund etc...
the silent treatment -> respect yourself by not contacting them and when they comeback talking to you tell them you are sick of this bullshits and this is not love
ghosting -> respect the deeds and be more silent than them
shaming -> work on yourself to better than who shames you in every field of life, don't kill em with kindness, torture them with fkin success
triangulation -> if they bring someone else in your relationship, simply go away
aggressive jokes -> be calm, maintain lucidity, if you can come out with a better aggressive joke as a comeback
emotional blackmail -> learn to be on your own, so your feelings doesn't depend on someone else
projection or deflection -> tell em they are not serious enough to have responsibilities and then go away
smear campaigns -> prove them wrong with a well constructed opinion with valid proofs
shifting the goalpost -> if it's at work just fire yourself and find a better place with better a boss
changing the subject -> be aware of what are you talking about and shift the conversation only to that topic
playing on insecurities -> open up only with 100% trusted people, not the other ones, and when they play on your insecurities, point it out and then go away or play on theirs
fake moralization -> show em all their mistakes and bad behaviours, or show it to the other ones. demystify all their good actions.
What about infantillization
@@dishajoshi201 remember that what they do is a reflection of what they are or what they feel, so just don't take it personal and keep living your best life
Thanks for all these tips and tricks! Much appreciated! 😁
Lol
I really needed this, i felt that i had to step my game further and this is just what i needed thsnk you
Hope you do great out there brother
This video has been eye opening for me. As someone who had been called out as manipulative by someone he really loved and genuinely not understood what he did, this has been pretty helpful in identifying what behaviours I had used and brought up some good questions about why I was being so manipulative in the first place (I have had a fear of loneliness that I haven’t overcome for a long period of time that I only just finished with). My desperation turned me into something awful, and I’m happy that I can move forward having become someone better than who I was.
It's always good to remember that a lot of people who use the manipulation tactics in this video, may not actually know of the effects those actions can have, though that is no excuse because the effect remains all the same.
its really good that you recognise these behaviours in yourself and are willing to take accountability for them. it shows some serious personal growth!
@@potato-uj9dk Thank you! I've been confronting my fears and insecurities, going to a psychologist, etc. Understandably, the hard part seems to be getting back in contact with the people you wronged.
It's a shame how hard it is to admit that you're wrong, especially if it makes you seem like a terrible person. I admire your courage! As much as I'd like to imagine I'd always do the right thing, I know I'd always convince myself that my own lies are true and play victim. I guess I need to work on that. I don't wanna be doing that if I get into any legal trouble.
W for self awareness
Twitter starter pack
and discord (I been manipulated on there and learned it from them)
Same lmao, discord is basically worse version of twitter and reddit being worst.@@tekashimaahshiha647
the death note music at the beginning is by far the best way to start the video
A really good film that uses quite a few of these manipulation tactics in it is Whiplash. For people that don’t know, it’s the story of a 19 years old jazz drummer getting accepted into the top music school in the country, now having a mentor he used to look up to. But his new teacher manipulates him (played by J.Jonah Jameson, the actor for JJ from spider man) into destroying his own life and his personal connections so he can be “one of the greats”.
I love the new dark theme!
Dark mode ohhhhhhhh
I want to see every torture tactics next time.
@@happy_chaos. He should do every type of pathogen explained like virus, bacteria, etc.
What do you mean "new" it has always been like this.
@@XiannyohanceramosBro he has only used dark mode in one video
7:41 that smear campaign logo can go unnoticed i guess
what smear campaign logo?
@@use2l it looks like a German symbol
@@Glitchy2287We dont do these anymore in Germany…
@@Glitchy2287 there is no such thing as germany
The Reich really - *smeared* - that symbol, huh?
i like that the video starts straight to the point
Great video. Initialization is at almost every job
thx for the tips my man
edit* 250 likes thx guys
Its all for educationall purposes,YOU CANT USE IT IRL
@@naveedkhandaker4659 you can actually. Easy ash
@@naveedkhandaker4659Yes you can. He said so.
i dont think you're supposed to use these, just supposed to watch out for anyone else.
this is an example of gaslighting!@@naveedkhandaker4659
isolation is much more dangerous that youd think. i had a friend who did everything in his power to make sure i stayed on facetime with him 24/7, and staying away from my family. he got pissed when i told him i had to go eat, telling me that i should just bring my meal to my room, he would get pissed when i had to go to bed, and when i told him that i was going to spend time with my family. along with many other manipulation tactics described in this video, years on, his actions still affect me to this day- i am terrified to leave messages unopened because back then, it meant that i would be screamed at by him.
Why were you friends with him lmao he sounds like a loser
That is not a friend what the hell 😂
least autistic youtube comment
Nah that's seems like obsession
That guy probably didn't have any friends and wanted you to keep staying with you because he feels comfortable with you and doesnt want to remain alone. I would understand it if he has nobody to talk to except for you. If not, then it gotta be something.
Ghosting is my favorite. I just be like “hey” and then they never hear from me again until i need something from them. 10/10 definitely recommend
Thanks for the tips. Will apply them soon
NICE! can’t wait to try these out!
That's exactly what I was thinking
I thought we came here to find out if someone is tricking you or for writing? 😭
Make sure to leave a review on Bing about them
Better not. This is how you can end your relationship in a minutes.
@@rasik166not if ur good at it
In highschool people used these on me fr... Man I feel like a fool
But now you know about it and can prevent it next time
It’s okay you’re older and smarter now. These things will continue to happen, you just have to deal with it appropriately.
I love the little pipeline you’ve created. This is my 3rd video in a row. And def not my last 😭
Thanks for this awesome tips and tricks video!
My dad uses most of these tactics on me and my family. I’ve gotten a good hold on the fact that my dad is a terrible person, but this just solidifies it. As most of these tactics came up, I could recall at least a memory or two of when he did that stuff. This has been going on for 5-6 years and he doesn’t live with us anymore, so I’m still trying to wrap my head around all of this
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@@AyaanGaming2011 ?
@@AyaanGaming2011 it is like that but don't bring politics in here
@@AyaanGaming2011racism moment
One of the few UA-camrs who just get to the point
Thank you, Seriously, Deadass, This will help me aquire revenge on unwanted people
Thanks for the tutorial dude!
For the aggressive jokes, it does depend on the person. My sister makes them and I make them to her and we both genuinely joke and with my low self worth(caused by some exs) she makes sure I know she's joking and it would be annoying but I know she cares, and I try to do the same to her.
I think aggressive jokes is only a tactic if once confronted they throw it back to you about not liking their humor, and can lead to them shaming you for not "speaking up about it earlier" when they were making jokes before.
Ya and kinda what I meant. Thanks for explaining. Sorry I'm bad at expression sometimes
some people's way of interacting is thru ball busting - it's not an inherently bad thing, you just gotta be aware of who you're talking to.
You should've done a segment on gaslighting in this video. It would be a nice addition
yeah i just realized there wasnt
Genuinely one of the most common forms of manipulation and bro doesn’t put it in here lmao
@@praisedexx exactly!
Are you gaslighting me rn???
There's no such thing as gaslighting, what are you on bro?
what a fast video full of information. But if i even wanna remember one of these things in daily life, i have to literally study on them
Informative, helpful and useful. Thank you!
I used to have a friend with a huge ego, and was addicted to drugs, when we went out he would always say agressive jokes and have passive agressive behavior. Yet he didnt have a lot of confidence, i asked him plenty of times if he went to therapy, yet he said he always finished therapy cuz "He was too self aware" I honest didnt believe him one bit, he was always very unstable, sometimes when i couldn't hang out or told him that i was busy he would ghost me, even once we had a huge fight because he was saying "I use him for money" yet i always said i didnt have any money for eating or going out, yet he would offer to buy me stuff, then complain. Once i confronted him and he said he would hurt himself if i left him, then after that i knew he was a manipulative person i had to get away, so i did thankfully. Dont ignore the signs people!
I have a Narc mom and I ended up with a Narc man. We are attracted to their behavior and they are attracted to supply that never has the guts to leave. If I were you I would learn everything I could about Narcissistic Personality Disorder just to be POSITIVE that the ex isn’t the only one hanging around….
somewhat a connection I drew upon to this comment :
I recently had met this person (a guy) a couple a months ago who had a fight with this girl (a friend), and he started talking about a situation he had with them. He said how his friend was important to him, he almost even liked her, he said he felt bad because she didn't have money nor received any from her family sometimes, to eat outside, so he would usually invite her or she would ask him. He started saying how she probably only used him for money because she would constantly ask him to buy her (certain food) but at the same time she would constantly get mad at him, argue, or ghost him frequently out of nowhere. It might not be the same person, but it is interesting to hear the different perspectives, because through his perspective he really just gave me this narrative of a spoiled or manipulative person (ab the girl) yet I have no context of the reality and I don't even know him that well either, because it was like the second time we talked. I hate to think that we can agree or believe what others say about others when we ourselves don't know the truth for ourselves.
Your perspective makes me think about the other side of the coin which I hate that back then I simply agreed with him on the matter.
But I've learned a lot about people and the failure of assumption and internal bias so I don't think the same way I used to.
I also had my guard up with this person so I never really believe all his narration, and I simply took it as an anecdote , but I never forgot the anecdote.
I had a similar thing happen to me recently, if a person says that they’ll hurt themselves if you leave them, just leave them because that is probably the most manipulative type of person you can meet and it isn’t worth it to be around them. If you’re in doubt about them being manipulative look out for signs, really it’s not worth it and I’d much rather had left that friend earlier than I did.
My ex is SUPER guilty of the playing the victim one. One example is she was sickly for around a year and she couldn't get a job and she felt sad that she couldn't help support us, so i had to apologize for that and if it ended there, that wouldn't be an issue, but she rejected several work from home positions or just didn't continue with the interview process because she felt it didn't pay enough and she cried because of that and i had to cheer her up and tell her it's okay even though it would've at least been better to have made some money rather than none. I don't think it was intentional, but she often did things repeatedly that would cause her harm and then expect others to give her sympathy kind of like that meme where a guy puts a stick in his bike wheel spokes while riding it and falls over in pain. It's hard not to eventually be like "Yeah, you kinda brought this on yourself" after she did the same shit like 10 times in a row.
Psychopath 🤢🤢
Wow it works both ways my ex was rich and literally didn’t give me not even a dime after like 2 yrs of knowing me I nevva even asked him for money barely but I told him I had money problems he could’ve gave me some but at the end he still wants to play victim acting like I’m in the wrong for leaving him and such a narcissist when I loved him tht much to stay and now I realize tht he was manipulating me tht wasnt love it was toxic and he wants to call me a narcissists
Claimed to love me want kids w me to chase around wanting to marry me etc some ppl are sick he pretended to b broke so he didnt have to help me at all actually
Borderline Personality Disorder?
I mean with your example that is sadly not manipulation, that is simply a personal issue she suffers from.
What manipulation would be is her getting angry AT you for not comforting her after putting herself in those situations.... I've been there.
i needed this video rn cuz I accidentally manipulate people to benefit myself, watching this will help me understand signs of me doing it and help prevent it.
Wow, those tips helped me a lot. Been doing all things you said and people have treated me way better, thanks man!!
I had a friend who ghosted me after lots of victimizing, making me blame myself for the friendship falling apart. Even afterwards, they used my friends to reach out to me just to accuse and blame me, along with ask me to stop certain things I hadn’t done. I still feel at fault sometimes, and it hurts to know I was used in such a way. I miss them.
Damn, I was in that same situation a couple of months ago, but a bit different (she used 6/19 tactics)
Although after a week of ending the friendship as if it was all my fault even after I apologized for my behavior, she unblocked me and addressed it was really her who was wrong and I wasn't guilty.
She didn't apologize tho, but that sped up the healing process since I was slowly noticing it wasn't completely my fault (I played the silent treatment when insulted, really immature so I'm not free of sins haha). I decided to forgive her but also end the friendship there from my part too.
Anyway, my point is...If you can recognize manipulative tactics on that relationships, you don't need to feel guilt or remorse for trying to stand up for yourself, after all, you are the most important person in your life (dont take this in a narcissistic way please) And I know it hurts to be used in such ways, but you need to accept what happened to move on. Accepting doesn't mean to approve or justify it, just embrace what happened to learn from it. The unknown can be scary because there's always going to be someone trying to hurt or control you, but there will also always be kindness.
But remember it's better to break the cycle and learn to be the best version of yourself rather to make others "pay" for your suffering as a symbolic revenge
I had a similar situation. my ex girlfriend isolated me from my friends telling them I didn't wanna talk to them, and telling me they didn't want to talk to me.
then my best friend of 2 years ghosted me after I drove out to see her for her birthday
@@X96300 thank you, I really needed to read that
thank u for the tutorial)) gonna use it 100%
Thanks for the explanation, I'll try these
she used every single one of these
Damn man. I hope you are okay
I hope ur not talking about your mom.
she was me 😈😈😈
stay strong brodda.
@@KannaTheGamerI could fix you
Saved this video to make sure I can keep an eye out for these in future relationships in both myself and others. Thank you for making this!!
God bless man, and thank for the guide, will absolutely use these.
Thank you for YOUR advice sensei🎉🎉
An interesting point to add is that often, multiple techniques of manipulation are used at the same time and/or complement each other.
Thank you for portraying me as a badass with a nice suit, a rad mohawk, and a fat stogie
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Lol
You're discord mod
@@SusWorm-sq2mt Fuck you, you want a chicken nugget?
Thank you for the advice on how to manipulate! I will certanly use this in the future
Your channel is a great example
im a person who gets manipulated easily/all the time and these r the tactics ppl have successfully held against me
guilttriping and shaming: i was constantly reminded abt my past behavior, even though i was over it. it wasn't rlly guilttriping or shaming, but it was very annoying
isolation: my sister told me my parents were evil and manipulative to me. i sorta believed her bc i had poor relationship w parents. my parents are currently in trouble w the law bc of my sis, who told me my parents were LOVE BOMBING, GASLITING and INFANTILIZING me. it was done to manipulate me, my parents aren't evil
projecting and Playing victim: when she told me my parents were evil, i told my parents what she said. she blames me for what i did and plays victim, added to all the times i was rude and aggressive 2 her. she also played victim by acting like a victim of my parents "evilness" so i could copy her, part of isolation
playing on insecurities: my sister notices how socially weak and anxious i am and plays on my weakness by demanding everything her way bc i can't defend myself.
threats and smear campaigns: i was in a group chat in middle school and ~20 kids were bullying me. they used threats and smear campaigns all over me
that's 11 mentioned here out of 19 in the video, wow. another thing, i told my school counselor about my sister manipulating me abt parents being evil (isolation) and my counselor told me she was RIGHT. LIKE WTF mark my words these people don't deserve trust, like don't make me turn my back at my parents again, dumb botch.
all that being said, there are personal experiences of me gettin manipulated. i hope these events don't happen to you, and BE CAREFUL when you think someone try to manipulate you 😊 😊
womp womp
@@nuttrbuttr5 wth do you mean womp womp?
@@Polterbob sorry, i mean WOMP FUCKING WOMP
@@nuttrbuttr5 hahahaha 😐. The only thing thats funny is the fact that you think you're funny.
@@nuttrbuttr5 you said womp womp to SOMEONE WHO HAS EXPERIENCED MANIPULATION TACTICS. U obviously don't know when to use womp womp
yo, aside from the paint explainer, you have some pretty good vids my guy, keep them up!
And the fact that people think this makes them "cool" is just alien to me
Thanks 😊 so exited to use all these on my friends 🤗
I just started watching your videos, and from this first video I knew I had to subscribe. You make some of the best content on this platform UA-cam has been pretty boring recently and watching you made it fun again, i just want you to know that you will be a big youtuber.
Honestly, some of the videos are like guides to me(drug video, for example). I find this one exceptionally useful! Thank you, Mr Paint Guy.
Thanks for sharing this tutorial 🙏
This is such an amazing video for people to learn what not to do.
just realized how much of these I felt victim too 💀
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to counter this: politely tell them to stop making the jokes because they make you uncomfortable (and/or other reasons)
if they dont stop you should question the credibility of a good "friendship"
yeah was about to say, you need new friends. Not easy, but true
"friends"
I used to have a best friend that constantly brought me down through her jokes. She was constantly mocking me or insulting my hobbies and likes, but at the same time she bought me gifts, she helped me with school, she did so many good things for me... I really still don't know what her intentions were with me. Why she did this. I only realized how much it affected me after my other friends made me reflect on our relationship.
I’m the chubby kid and when my friends call me fat, I call them out and then they say “it’s just a joke” or “your not actually