What if I don't WANT to be a homemaker? | Season 5 Finale Q and A
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Today we dive into all your questions that season 5 invoked. Our ideal day, aging gracefully, first kisses, chore systems, solo parenting, and even more! This turns into a fun and surprising wrap up of season 5. Thanks for listening!
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0:00 Dreaming of Europe
5:00 What if I don't want to be feminine?
7:33 How to cope when you feel like a solo parent
9:57 Homeschooling
11:18 Mama needs her quiet time!
13:38 No wallowing
16:42 First kisses
20:20 Gray hair dilemma
23:42 Girl time
28:08 Wedding rings
31:18 About to be public speaking and writing?
35:00 The ideal day for each of us
40:20 What we ACTUALLY wear at home?
44:00 Jayna's academy for bachelor-hood
46:55 It's all about feelings?
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I cracked up at the disclaimer speed😂
Me too, I went back and watched that part line 6 times 😂
MEGAN! You complete your bucket list item every week! You have an audience of over 100,000 women you speak to every week, and we truly value what you say! If you have something very meaningful you’ve been wanting to say, please say it, I would love to hear and learn from you! You are a role model certainly!
Megan if you never get to give a talk or speech one day this is your platform and stage and know you have made a difference here.
YES!!!!!!!!!
I’m so thankful for your positive attitudes toward your upbringing and the standards you still go by. This is so needed in today’s generation. Thank you both
Yes, we may not all be together but your roomful of women who are being blessed are right here!
Totally agree! Megan was there when we were coming out of covid and I had a 2 & 4 year old and it was tough! The weekly lovely videos did a lot to got me back on track.
Agree!
Re: going gray-I made the decision when I was super young (like 5 or 6!) that I would be a gray haired grandma! One of my grandmas was gray and the other dyed her hair until the day she died, and while I loved both of them so much, I wanted gray hair. I have some “wisdom hairs” coming in now and I honestly love them. Not everyone gets the chance to grow old and I plan to embrace my age! 😊
Love this! Me too!
Yes! Love this! And you can e just as beautiful with gray hair
Love this! Same, I had two grandmas, one went natural, and the other colored hers. I'm 32 and have natural medium brown hair, and I'm getting silvers. I have a streak of it right in front, and it really shows when I wear my hair up. I have four little children, and never go to a salon, but even using an $8 box of dye is out for me right now 😅 And it's ok!
I've had my Church leader say that if you compare yourself to someone, compare your life to those who lived in the 1800s. That is so good! I instantly feel very blessed by everything when I do that..I have indoor plumbing and hot water, electric appliances, especially a washer and dryer. I really am blessed So much!💕
Doesn't work for everyone if you're a person of color but an interesting point of view
Megan!! You are speaking to a community of women. You are encouraging and inspiring people, right here, right now. There have been several moments where I faced a problem and I stop and think, "what would Megan say about this?" And I know the first thing you would say is to take it to God first and foremost. You are empowering women in the most biblical sense. Jayna!! Your laugh is contagious! I love giggling along with you about whatever it is that has tickled you in the moment. You are encouraging women through every episode, and I am so grateful for you both to have chosen to share your thoughts and ideas with us. You are true Titus 2 women. 💛💛
Jana....profound......two things can be true at the same time: you can be grateful and sad.......Ten years ago I stopped coloring my hair. It is long and white and it has been liberating to go natural. Then grey became fashionable and people thought my hair color was a salon creation...lol.
Sometimes you can want to be a Mom and homemaker but it does not work out that way. I lost my son at almost 7 months in 1991 at 26 and then was divorced which is not what I wanted and then at 31 I had ovarian cancer and could no longer have children. I did get remarried and had step children and was told we would adopt a child but then he backed out and said he couldn’t do it even though I took care of his son. Then he divorced me because he wanted to go out and drink with other women all the time. So God can have a different plan for us. I am now married again to a wonderful man for 7 years at 57 with 4 step daughters and almost 4 grandchildren that calll me Granny. ❤
I relate to Jayna SO much from having had multiple miscarriages to the ideal day being eating good food by myself and shopping 😆 and same with making plans with friends, its so much more fun to have it be kids free especially during school when youre in the season of life where all your kids are in school and you can basically do whatever you want. Currently loving that season!
This was a fun episode.
In moments when I’m feeling resentful or ungrateful I actively start listing out things my husband does for us and what we are privileged to have. It helps so much! I highly recommend.
Jayna’s disclaimer was PERFECT!!😅
Megan - it's almost laughable to me that your big bucket list item is standing in front of a room of women and speaking authoritatively on a topic that moves people and influences them for the better. Why? Because you're already doing it, babe. EVERYTIME I watch/listen to Honey, I'm Homemaker, the Lord uses you both to encourage me in every area of my calling in this season of life - as a mom, as a wife, as a friend, as a church member, as an employee - even as a musician. You are wise beyond your years as you intentionally flourish in the roles the Lord has called you to, and this platform is your "room"! The conference attendees to your lecture are your thousands of subscribers. You ARE motivating, inspiring, and influencing the worldview of so many of us. Shoot, you might be less influential behind a podium than you are sitting here in a chair in your home. Don't underestimate how the Holy Spirit is using your ministry of faithfulness to those who get these little glimpses into your life.
I'm in tears! Wow! Thanks for helping me realize this! What an impact!
Yes this!! I thought this same thing! Megan although we are not the same age, I am 48 with a 9 & 3 year old, and Christian home maker and you motivate, inspire and even sooth my heart as a woman and mother with just relating to all we want to do and all were unable to do too. Never doubt yourself, your amazing ❤
I wholeheartedly agree!...I am 59 yrs. old (happily married for 37 yrs., with 3 married adult children, & 9 grandbabies!) & I find immense value & inspiration in listening to you AND Jana! You are literally doing the thing! ♥♥
Exactly what I was thinking, and for sure now someone will invite her to give a public talk soon.
Hooray! Love the q and a videos with you ladies! You both inspire me so much God bless you both ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I ❤ you ladies!!! Congratulations on another successful season!!! Better every time!!! I will miss you over break. God bless you and your families ❤🙏🏻
Have an amazing summer and I can’t wait to hear the results of the skills test, and conversation cues!! ❤❤❤❤
You girls are so much fun to listen to and your young perspectives on aging and even parenting are so cute. I am about 10-12 years older than you and have already been through some of the phases you 2 are looking ahead at. I hope life is gentle for you and I promise each phase has its own blessings and trials.
Really enjoyed this one!
Thank you ❤
Loves this episode. And Jayna, yes to watching your favorite show and stuff your face on the couch. 😂 That's what I do when I watch your Honey I'm Homemaker episodes.
Really enjoyed this episode! Thanks ladies
Megan, you literally do that every week on your channel ❤
Fastest click! Can’t wait to listen to this!❤️
Welcome!!
Hi Ladies, I am turning 43 soon and I did dye my dark brown hair in the recent years (because getting grey) but I was really fed up with it.
So in the beginning of this year I chose to give it up.
I used to got told, I looked younger a lot in the last years, so I thought, screw it, lets look as old as you are.
I live in Germany and am not Mennonite (but christian). I got a few streaks of blond at the hairdresser to blend in the incoming grey better with the dark brown ends.
I'll advise anybody with kinda dark hair to not even start dying their hair because the grey comes in slowly naturally. But if you dye, you`ll have a harsh line.
Love listening to young ladies /mommy's chat and the topics you bring up. At 77 I can say you are right on target and I can tell you don't fall far from many who think the same. You are so delightful and do bring a lot to be contemplated. Love the idea of you having your little ones learning and doing little tasks to start on their learning process. No one even at eighteen knows how to go and run a home but with what you are doing you have your little ones headed in the right direction to be well rounded and ready for what life will deal them when they are older and ready to go about on their own. Lots I could add but it would be things that you will continue to learn as your lives evolve. No one answer is patt for each person/ man or woman or family / marriage.
God bless you both and thank you for what you give your audience. Truly very enjoyable!
Thank you for your time. I love these talks ❤
Jana! Love your input and realness!
I love being a homemaker, I may not be a perfect one....but as long as I feel my home is a haven and my husband, and children are happy that's good enough!❤️
Thank you for your inspiration and wisdom. Have a great summer! 🍉
Think of it this way. Being a homemaker is like being a utility infielder in Baseball. They can play different positions and are valuable players on the team. 🤱👩🌾👩🍳⚾
Jill of all Trades!
Once again, this granny heard many positives in the episode ! And Jana, I am wowed with your summer project with your boys ! And Meagan, you are and will make a difference, just remember, to do that, try not to be judgmental. God bless both of you❣️
PS: When can we expect the next season to begin❓❓❓❓
10 pregnancies. 2 live births. I am so THANKFUL for my 2 little loves.
Thanks so much for answering my solo parenting question!!🤗 the 4 course meal alone is also my pet peeve😅 but im also a farmers wife so i shouldve known this would happen frequently lol! Love you ladies and so wonderful to have mommas with similar values and in the same life stage that I can follow!🥰
The disclaimer was the best!😂
Wow, Megan , I love your dream of teaching ladies !
I have definitely had men flirt with me alot more when i didnt have my ring on. It does make a difference for some men in this day and age.❤ i honestly feel safer with mine on.
I am not Mennonite, but I was raised with quiet time and I raised my children with quiet time. We also had definitely early bedtimes. I'm in my 70's and can't believe so many people do not have their children nap at all or have bedtimes. Enjoy your videos.
Yes 🙌 when my children were all home I always had my quiet time which usually meant a nap , if they were too old to nap that had to lay down an read and be quiet . The rule was , don’t wake Mom unless the house is on fire 🔥😄they still repeat that as adults .Megan that’s a very good thing to have on your bucket list , I was asked to speak to a group of women and once I got over the first nerves I actually enjoyed it and it was so rewarding.We found a lot of common ground and made some great friends.
You two should do a letting the person in front of you choose what you eat video together!😃
Hello Megan and Jayna;
Hoping you have a wonderful time off... will look forward to your refreshed return!
I am appreciating, very much, your chat today...!!!
Thank you, yes, I have always believed our children are people too (although smaller versions) still people deserving of equal value and respect!
And, being grateful... this is soooo important, I feel, this is soo well said... we may have dreams and aspirations and still be grateful for that that has come our way and is with us now!
As to comparisons, and being grateful for where we are...this also has a value because, I feel we are not so much comparing ourselves to others as much as appreciating the value of the work before each of us to help us and each other reach our goals and this is also (I feel) where we lean on God and to His support to help us be comfortable with where we are and work towards our goals.
I often reflect on a step (leap) of faith and the value and trust we must bring forward to take those steps with the confidence of God's love and wisdom (I find I must put my faith forward here, many times the foot is a bit shaky while the willingness is strong).
Thank you both so much again for taking the time to be open and sharing... it means a great deal to me as I am sure your experiences and wisdom mean a great deal to others enjoying your chat.
Take care
God Bless you both
Linda in Canada (with seven decades and counting...)
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Lancaster PA, just got back home....... 48 years of marriage...... BLESSED in Pennsylvania........
Jayna- after several miscarriages I just found out I have a mutation on the MTHFR gene. Something to test for if you haven’t already. I am currently pregnant again and have to give myself a blood thinner injection daily because the mutation causes blood clotting as well as folate methylation issues. Folate is very important during pregnancy so I also have to take a special supplement.
My daughter had same when trying for baby no 2..she felt something was wrong after a miscarriage and had to convince Dr to do tests & not wait...girls are now 15 & 11 & all ok
Hearing parents perfect days make me realize how much freedom I have. I don’t have kids, and most of the things they said is things I do.
Yes enjoy it while you have it. Life was so much "easier" before but so much less colorful. It was like living in an English Country Garden, and now I live at an amusement park!! Wouldn't change a thing!
hey y'all- loved the chat😀😉 Always enjoy hearing what y'all have to say🥰
I loved Dr Dobson’s books for child raising, they saved my sanity back in the day!
Just got back from my yearly trip to Lancaster, PA!
Love the disclaimer!
I dye the end of my hair pink 💗 it matches most of my clothes 😀 enjoyed your chat so much fun. Watching from the uk 🇬🇧
The time difference is 6 hours. So 8am your morning is 2pm in Italy
Great to hear some answers to my questions!
Great series..you get thru alot. Im a city girl..a grandma and LOVE wearing rings & earrings..i feel a bit undressed without them!! My husband wears his when out but not in his shed or doing jobs
Al way enjoy this podcast with you two❤
Haha, Jayna, i got my ears peirced 1 yr ago at age 29 and I've been wearing earrings every day since. Its soo much fun! And i don't buy super expensive earrings, ive only spent like $100 on my collection, but my friends know i like them so ive been gifted a few as well. But i hate wearing rings,so i don't wear a wedding band. Ive also started coloring my hair 6 months ago and its a slippery slope. I've been dying my ends purple and also have a small undercut with a design. I love it 💜
I love this channel ❤❤
I know you ladies deserve the break, but I am SO sad to not get a new episode for another month. However, I will live lol. 😅
This year we are taking a family vacation and leaving from Charleston going to Nassau and a private island on a cruise ship. There are 15 of us going. I am so excited. We sail out on my birthday. This has been a tough year and I am so ready to put it all behind me and sail away.
The disclaimer 😂😂 please keep using that!!
When a woman has to work outside the house for financial reasons, work among men she doesn’t know, a wedding band helps in many ways too numerous to mention if you were never in this position.
We just moved to Colorado from Florida so I think that's our only trip this summer. We're not feeling like traveling right now with all that going on. Plus a new job for my hubby doesn't allow for time off yet.
Jaba said re: gratitude/contentment: "I don't know HOW you do that..." and a UA-cam ad (female voice) kicked in, "Magnesium for constipation..."
It took me a second. 😎
oh my!!!! I guess it was a poorly timed ad???? hahahah!
A quick response to Jana about earrings. I have pierced ears and I actually only wear two different pairs that I love. Both are simple stud earrings.
Great topics. ❤
lol, yes, write , Jayna !
You guys are so cute!❤😂
I started going gray a few years ago and I have started getting compliments on it lately! It's so weird! But when I got my hair cut last time, another hairdresser asked if it was natural and that it was beautiful. And I was thinking, why would someone do it on purpose? But I found out that it is very on trend right now at least where I am. Who'd have thought? When I was younger, I colored it to cover, but now, I just don't care, plus at the same time, my hair went curly!
I love you girls and yes you have a very dry humour which I love❤️❤️❤️❤️
I do think the wedding ring check convo is funny because one of my sisters in laws literally did a ring check on my brother the first time she saw him because she thought he was so good looking but was worried he might be married because they were later twenties when they met and most of the people in her circle were married. Of corse asking would have been fine but I thought it was so adorable she liked him from afar but wanted to know ahead of time so she didn’t get her hopes up.
I'm single and 40 so most of my friends my age are in the thick of it with kids and that was hard but then I found a intergenerational bible study. So women my mom's age and younger have similar schedules to me so I have a different group of friends to do things with and learn from it's been amazing.
Haha we’re actually going to Italy this fall 🤣😆
Raising 4 back in the day, I always did quiet time. If they slept that was great, if not they had to read quietly!
I can understand the person who said about not wanting to be a housewife/mom. I used to have a strong opinion on that and whenever a friend would express wanting kids I would literally be like "why would you want that". I thought I needed worldly success like I was being sold.
Granted this was before I was saved again. I don't know where that person may be on their walk. BUT I will say once I got pregnant and had my daughter that all changed. When I first found out I was pregnant I literally had an existential crisis. But now I have such a whole new perspective. So that being said; I would encourage someone to not put all their eggs into that basket and close themselves off from the potential. It's been such a blessing to have my husband, be a sahm, and have my daughter.
Again no judgement but hopefully a helpful thought.
I'm glad I had some good female role models regarding aging. One great Aunty flew to England at 80 by herself; the other used to jog around her 'orchard' at 80 (fruit trees on her farm).
Those little curls on the side of your face my Grandmother called beau catchers. LoL
Lol
I also grew up with a quiet time. My mom made me nap until I was 6, or I had to lay on a blanket next to her while she took a nap on the couch.
I just started to get a bunch of grey hairs and I told my husband that I will dye it if it comes in fully. . .he wants me to keep it grey when it comes in. I am 40 but I feel grey hair ages a woman like crazy compared to a man. I don't want to look older than my husband (who has a lot of greys) haha.
I had never heard about the jewelry thing. I don't wear earrings, but I have my nose pierced (which Rebekah had in the Bible, Gen 24:47) and I wear a wedding band. Otherwise I don't wear jewelry.
All the Magnolia stuff in Waco would be fun to visit! I watched all the home renovation show with my husband.
It creeps me out when i find out that me and Jayna are alike when it comes to earrings, thrift stores, and homeschooling. I do have a 12 year old daughter that goes to christian school and i already thought if shes asking for earrings i will allow her to get them. I wasnt allowed to have them as a kid because it was a sin but me personally i dont think its a sin to wear earrings or any jewelry. And i also like jersey mikes and dont like to share it or be interrupted while i eat it:)
Hahah! ❤ nice to know I'm not alone.
You ARE funny, Jayna. 😁
I was wondering if any of you or viewers have any advice for a new mother struggling with this role. I was really looking forward to becoming a mother and a homemaker, I thought that this would be perfect for me, but the reality is very different. My baby had some health problems, I ended up pumping my milk which takes a lot of time, my house is a mess, it's difficult to find at least some time to eat and sleep, but I would also need some time for my husband... and I suddenly find myself almost regretting all my decisions. Maybe being a homemaker wasn't for me after all?
I think most moms love particular ages more or less than others. You are at a hard stage right now and health issues make it really hard.
Don’t feel badly about not loving this stage. Perhaps you will be the absolute best school mom. Or the favorite teen hangout mom. Personally, I love toddlers and preschoolers. They’re my absolute favorite.
Find small ways to take breaks and do things that bring you joy. This will pass!
We went to Holmes county Ohio on our vacation we traveled from Zebulon, Georgia
When you go to Magnolia you should also go to Pioneer Woman’s place in OK!
Jana I think you’re funny! And if you’re ever in Montana I’ll have lunch with you!
Im 40 i tried to have kids the first 8 years of my marriage and didnt succeed. I prayed if it wasnt Gods will for me to have kids to make me not want kids and boy did he. Married 21 years with 6 nephews. I love them like my own and spoil them tons but i do not want my own. I need days to recharge and do not do well with screaming or loud cries. God knew what i needed. Nephews i can adore and send home😂 if i did have my own i know id be a great loving mom but id have too much guilt when i mess up and just not be my best self. My best self has a 2 hour limit with kids lol
Greetings from the HOT middle of Nebraska! We are at 102° today! I would love it if you girls would bring your mothers onto the podcast for a Q & A. Evidently they raised two very well versed girls into womanhood and how did they do it!! You both are so enjoyable to listen to and hear your perspective on life. I am a grandmother now with 2 granddaughters and soon to be 5 grandsons. I want to have a strong relationship with each of them. We only see them about once a month as we are 4 hours away from them. We talk often and facetime. We have been very intentional on spending time with them. A topic for your mothers or for yourselves would be how to be good grandparents and have an impact on our grandchildren. I sure do love you girls!! Thank you for the video and enjoy your time away!!
I would LOVE it to see their moms on here I’m sure I would learn a lot!❤
What a neat idea! I am a teacher and often tell my students that I want to be a grandma when I grow up! I was blessed with an amazing mom who passed away before I married and she would have LOVED to be a wonderful grandma! Giving us a glimpse in what we can do now to foster relationships to be a close grandparent would be a wonderful topic (if your mamas are willing to speak truth and love to a few 😉 close friends!) Smiles, Abby Smith
Megan- you have mentioned watching UA-cam videos in the shower in the past. Do you have a case or something you are putting your phone in so it doesn’t get wet or fall in the shower? I have wondered about that in the past, but have forgotten to ask…
I have wondered the same thing! And how to do you hear the audio? Each to their own but seems a bit odd to do this. Maybe sitting in a hot bath would make more sense.
I think I’m funny ,but other people might not think so…..😄😄😂😂
I don't want to be a homemaker or ever get married. But that does not mean I don't want to serve people. I'm in law school, and it's my passion to help help those in the adoption and foster care system since I was an adoptee myself. I really don't agree with the traditional wife lifestyle, But since i'm going to be a lawyer, I have to be able to listen to points of view that I don't agree with and still find common ground. Sometimes it's hard with these videos. But I think these ladies are lovely. Thanks for sharing your life
@DerekKenneth-y4rfab 👌🏾
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How much does jayna get paid for being on the show??
Catholics wear wedding rings because they are sacramentals -- a blessed, holy object that reminds us of the Sacrament of Matrimony and our duty to respond to the graces of the Sacrament. So, it has a much greater purpose than identifying who is married.
We are just domesticated housewives and listener discretion is advised 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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New here. I'm curious about how you came to name your podcast. I thought it was a typo, Honey I'm Homemaker instead of Honey I'm a Homemaker, and the use of Honey. I'm sincerely curious. 😊
Yea! I Love the name it’s so clever and cute!
Usually one would announce at the door "honey, I"m home "....then add the maker❤
@@SD-qu8vp That makes no sense. I'm wondering why the name of the Podcast is worded like that. "Honey I'm Homemaker" . That's all.
@@sherrydaut4910 because its cute maybe! And is different sounding!🙏
@@Dana-mb1hd ok then 🤔
I don't think the males have to do just 'the bare minimum'. I definitely don't find grey hair on males good-looking or distinguished 😅 it's a sign of old age and that's not necessarily something that attracts me.