Why Social Anxiety Advice Doesn't Work for Autistics (In My Experience)
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- Hope you all are enjoying these lil shortform videos. Just me chatting about how, in my early 20's before I figured out I had autism, I believed I had social anxiety and so would try to apply social anxiety advice and it failed spectacularly.
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Even just thinking about the scene you describe makes me so so upset for you. It's awful, it's bullying and ignorant and ...ugh...just everything that is wrong with our NT focused society. Thanks so much for making this video, it's so important x x x
thank you so much for hearing me. all these rude comments make me want to delete my channel but you remind me how important it is to speak. I value your friendship immensely 💕
This is so similar to my experience. I thought I was just not naturally talented at empty conversations. I found some of the best friends of my life, forcing myself into these situations. Alcohol helped me ignore every part of myself that was uncomfortable and screaming to get away from humans. Alcohol worked until my brain finished developing around 25, then I started to become violent if I drank in excess. I don't even really like being drunk, it was just better than being sober enough to ask myself: why I was different? Now I still have a beer once in a while, but I smoke weed daily and live mostly a hermetic life ☺. The only times I don't smoke are when I know I am going to do something social with strangers - its easier to unmask and ask for a bit of breathing space if I am stone sober and a little anxious.
@jebidiahcarlyon3543 I was the same way with alcohol for awhile. feel like it helped me unmask and remove the barriers and fear, but at a certain point I knew I couldn't rely on it or I'd become an alcoholic. I liked it too much but not the aftereffects, and I was conscious of my health. there was a certain point in my 20s where I was hungover every day 😅
it's interesting bc I've only ever dated stoners. people seemed to think I was one myself, high or on drvgs, but I always assured them I wasn't, and this perception confused me. now I'm hearing this is apparently a common thing for people to think autistics are on drvgs, who'd have known. never been big into weed myself but ik a ton of people who say it helps. I had one big panic attack and never seriously tried it again after that.
@jebidiahcarlyon3543 nothing wrong with being a hermit! lol hermits don't hurt anyone 😆 I wish more people understood!!!
@@SheWantstheDiction Yeah the hangovers are so unbearable for me, even a couple beers can put me in a bad mood the next day.
I have a LOT of experience with weed, yes I've had panic attacks. Usually when I haven't smoked/used for a long stretch of time. It is scary to feel panic, but if you can let it pass, you may notice that small amounts of weed really help with processing complex emotions and letting go of the uncontrollable.
This is just my experience. I share it because, smoking weed really helps me as a husband and father. Everyone is different and "too much of a good thing..." yada yada.
Love your videos, keep it up!
@jebidiahcarlyon3543 I found 🍄 very helpful for giving me a new perspective and letting go like you described. also microdosed for several years and feel that helped me somewhat, tho that may be more related to PTSD.
I have had one positive experience with weed! love CBD. may cautiously try it again in future, but I wonder if this isn't related to hypo/hypersensitivity. I tend to be hypersensitive and weed seems to send my senses into overdrive and I get overwhelmed 😬 I wonder if the people who smoke don't err on the side of more hyposensitive and so like the increased sensitivity more 🤔 (just a theory) my one positive experience was also when I was totally alone, so maybe it's a set/setting or social thing.
thank you! ☺️ it means so much to know there are people who share these experiences and I feel so validated after suffering almost totally alone for so many years. it's been very healing to talk about it online and read comments like yours 💜 I haven't made many autism-specific videos recently but will soon.