I Want A Second Wife, But I'm Scared To Tell My Wife of 9 Years!

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 357

  • @christineloggins3408
    @christineloggins3408 7 років тому +174

    No, No, No. I. can never share my man period, woman is always trying to outdue the other woman, but if my husbad is willing to allow the me another husband we can make it happen.

    • @hersheybliss4189
      @hersheybliss4189 7 років тому +9

      Christine Loggins 😆😆😆😭😭😭💀💀💀

    • @naturalself9
      @naturalself9 7 років тому +8

      Christine Loggins Probably sharing your man and don't even know it.

    • @ChilesSupportTV
      @ChilesSupportTV 7 років тому +4

      Monique Santos You beat me to it. 😆😆😆

    • @ChilesSupportTV
      @ChilesSupportTV 7 років тому +5

      Facts: Between the black on black murder rate, black imprisonment, homosexuality, infidelity and black women outnumbering black men 2 to 1... it is very unlikely that a black woman will find a black man all to herself. Except it or dont, but the numbers don't lie.

    • @mayabrown3741park
      @mayabrown3741park 7 років тому +18

      Daygo guy , Bullsheeet. Total crap. I know many married black people, who are faithful to their spouses.

  • @nataschareed473
    @nataschareed473 7 років тому +126

    "Courting is still cheating"... He's been flushing all of his emotions and fellings upon his friend and while wasting time he could have been making 9 more years + being a better friend and husband to his wife..

    • @neqwise2641
      @neqwise2641 7 років тому +15

      Natascha Reed My thoughts as well. He has feelings for her. Its the same as sex to me.

    • @MekaHall1078
      @MekaHall1078 7 років тому +9

      Natascha Reed Amen!

    • @lexicon5313
      @lexicon5313 7 років тому +4

      Queen Aqua Hello. I feel an emotional connection is much deeper. That makes sex that much better!!!!

    • @queenrocksradio2677
      @queenrocksradio2677 7 років тому +6

      Natascha Reed let da entire congregation say AMEN!!!!

    • @dannigarland686
      @dannigarland686 7 років тому +10

      exactly while hes been entertaining this new woman the old wifes ironing socks and probably think wtf

  • @charleshazeltoniii8749
    @charleshazeltoniii8749 7 років тому +51

    After reading the title... My 1st thought was "well it sounds like you sure don't Need a second wife if you're that scared of your 1st one!"😆😆😆

  • @swiftrobin3736
    @swiftrobin3736 7 років тому +38

    I wonder how he would feel if his wife woke up one day and said that she wants two husbands because she has fallen for another man.

    • @Southerngirl0828
      @Southerngirl0828 7 років тому +9

      Swift Robin or that she just doesn't want his ass anymore period

  • @reneecooper1641
    @reneecooper1641 7 років тому +75

    In the course of 9 years he just discovered he wants a second wife? Really? Even if she does agree to this the dynamic of their relationship will change. Even if he asks and she says no there will still be a change. Is it really worth it?

    • @TOPAZ.o
      @TOPAZ.o 7 років тому +6

      Renee Cooper thank you

    • @cian2898
      @cian2898 7 років тому +6

      Renee Cooper it never is but it doesn't reverse the damage and sorry never cuts it

    • @robloxshaypup9461
      @robloxshaypup9461 7 років тому +6

      you took the words out of my mouth she will look at him different he has wondering eyes and admits it. he should of had second wife long ago not after 9 years she got comfortable thinking am the only one.

    • @cherrymoore128
      @cherrymoore128 7 років тому

      Dear Cece you're right about what you just said.

    • @missc4744
      @missc4744 7 років тому +1

      Renee Cooper Very wise words, Renee👍

  • @reneerashid6209
    @reneerashid6209 7 років тому +120

    Why be a playmate when you can wait for a soulmate. I promise the wait will be worth it.

    • @AilhendarBarbie
      @AilhendarBarbie 7 років тому +5

      Renee Rashid yass!

    • @katherinemack5407
      @katherinemack5407 7 років тому +6

      Renee Rashid amen

    • @MC-mn8iu
      @MC-mn8iu 7 років тому +3

      Okay!

    • @zd2243
      @zd2243 7 років тому +6

      If my "soulmate" chose me or took me seriously based on my virginity or on the number of men who have been in my vagina before him, than no "soulmate" for me thank you very much! How about choosing a Man who can handle the history and doesn't consider me damaged GOODS just because I own my sexuality. A woman should not be respected for her virginity or purity (not like you couldn't easily be a virgin AND a real bitch to people around you), but for owning up to her decisions.

  • @T_Nichole
    @T_Nichole 7 років тому +137

    If this is such they culture then y is he scared to say something to his wife lol.
    I will tell u y...cuz it's bullshit that's y 😂

    • @missc4744
      @missc4744 7 років тому +4

      1st Lady... Yeah, lol😀

  • @dorisagu8459
    @dorisagu8459 7 років тому +11

    Dear Tasha,. I am Nigerian and married with kids. I can tell you that the presumption that polygamy is allowed in our culture is wrong as it is a religious thing not cultural. I cannot share my man same way you cannot. All women will have the same reaction to this ---- Disgust. I am sure his wife will divorce him and move on. The man has no business being married.

  • @funkyafricadiva623
    @funkyafricadiva623 7 років тому +141

    I am Nigerian and this is bullshit.

    • @aramidea5311
      @aramidea5311 7 років тому +7

      FunkyAfricaDiva 😂😂 same

    • @danasimpson7963
      @danasimpson7963 7 років тому +3

      FunkyAfricaDiva And.....YA POINT..MOVE ALONG..THEN✌👀✋✋✋✋✋

    • @feliciahenderson5613
      @feliciahenderson5613 7 років тому +11

      FunkyAfricaDiva you know this is NOT bullshit. you are Nigerian, traditionally you know this is real and it's humbling to see this guy is actually concerned about this.

    • @jessicanegrete6273
      @jessicanegrete6273 7 років тому +5

      FunkyAfricaDiva
      Is it? Mikes situation may be some bullshit. Im not sure. But the concept of polygamy can be helpful when considering children

    • @BabyKush420
      @BabyKush420 7 років тому +2

      FunkyAfricaDiva OOP

  • @Felibaby
    @Felibaby 7 років тому +13

    Him being scared to tell his wife is a clue right there that she will not agree and that he is scared to loose her because of this. So why risk it if there are no issues in the marriage? If he is willing to break up his marriage over this (which i dont think he is) then i say go ahead and take the chance. Once he mentions this to his wife she will begin to feel inadequate and it will break her spirit because here she is probably thinking her marriage is all fine and dandy when in reality her husband feels he is lacking something and wants another woman smh. I think he is just being greedy. Period point blank.

    • @swiitdoll
      @swiitdoll 7 років тому

      Felicia Watson exactly. He is selfish just like majority of Nigerian men

  • @dragonfly517
    @dragonfly517 7 років тому +11

    He should ask himself, how would he feel if his wife came to him with this scenario

  • @lachelleb3699
    @lachelleb3699 7 років тому +13

    Not all Nigerian men have this belief especially those heavy into Christianity, from my experience.

  • @mzamaze4840
    @mzamaze4840 7 років тому +22

    He should've thought about this 20 years ago! It at least should have been discussed before he marry.

  • @mosesblack8946
    @mosesblack8946 7 років тому +14

    The wife is already sharing her husband. Why is he spending so much time with this "friend" and they're so inseparable lol. Nigga stop hanging out with this woman and take your wife out to hang. She supposed to be your best friend. You and your wife should be inseparable

    • @DanniRox999
      @DanniRox999 7 років тому +1

      Someone said it!! The wife probably knows something is up..

  • @kompanionsplus2851
    @kompanionsplus2851 7 років тому +16

    The second this man thinks of and touches another woman he is outside his marriage and it goes on and on. Is having two or more men or women satisfying your sexual pleasures and sexual desires beyond your wildest imagination the call of God or the devil? My understanding is that evil presents itself in a very lustful and sensual way. Regardless, if this man chooses another woman to marry him and his wife he may never feel fully committed and satisfied because though he is sharing himself btwn 2 women, he does not have the full attention of either. A bit further on he may want to stop at the stop signs that say disease, starvation, violence, misfortune and so on. If a man said to me, hey, I love you, but not enough to commit myself to you, I would probably beg him to get out of the way of someone who does and will.

    • @lebengm1
      @lebengm1 7 років тому +4

      Kompanions Plus
      Thank you! Too many diseases in our days, besides if he can't be disciplined with one woman, what makes him think he will be with two? It seems he's trying fill a void and he will want more "wives" until he can't perform. SMDH

  • @kendramiller2893
    @kendramiller2893 7 років тому +59

    I want to win the Lottery but you see that hasn't happen

  • @thebaddestblossom449
    @thebaddestblossom449 7 років тому +42

    The second one doesn't want to marry him, she's using him and he's caught up

    • @Southerngirl0828
      @Southerngirl0828 7 років тому +5

      Drama-Free Vagina
      Exactly sis

    • @BlacPhoenix
      @BlacPhoenix 7 років тому +6

      Truuuuuu after two years something should have popped off sexually by now sounds like he doesn't want to tell his wife out of fear that they both will leave

    • @thebaddestblossom449
      @thebaddestblossom449 7 років тому +9

      Blac Phoenix I think he's just a dummy, the desperate married men usually are

    • @BlacPhoenix
      @BlacPhoenix 7 років тому +8

      yeah I feel like he may be an ugly little shrimp who got lucky and married a good woman and now his ego wants to see if he can actually achieve having two women and I think this old way of thinking is so disrespectful. He should be happy he has one wife. I think these polygamist men have low self esteem and need constant validation and that exhausting for any one woman no matter how many he tries to have he needs to work on himself and stop trying to use people to fill his emotional holes. Men worldwide need to stop claiming emotions are a woman thing that some dumb sh*t and women need to stop accepting that excuse and stat telling these men about themselves

  • @lisadavis5741
    @lisadavis5741 7 років тому +33

    Mike should talk to his wife

    • @QUICKNESSN3
      @QUICKNESSN3 7 років тому +2

      Lisa Davis THANK YOU!!! Lol

  • @vici_
    @vici_ 7 років тому +42

    I'm Nigerian and that shit is not real. Men DONT do that in my culture. That practice of many wives is ancient. It's one man one woman THATS IS ALL!

  • @BlacPhoenix
    @BlacPhoenix 7 років тому +8

    I honestly honestly honestly think times have changed and no woman nowhere in there world is willing to share her husband like you said it will create a rift and men think this won't happen, but it will. Like you said religion and culture has FORCED women to accept this and it will always be a problem no matter how happy the man tries to make it with charm, sex and money women want that one on one bond and once someone else has entered that bond is broken and it will likely not ever be the same again and personally if I were that woman i would immediately have an exit strategy in the back of my mind because it really would be like pushing the first wife out and allowing the second wife to enjoy some of the first wife's benefits. Hats off to women who can do that they have to go through a lot. I'd rather leave and be single at least I would have the option of having the freedom of entertaining other men if only for companionship

  • @gendarmemckinnon9994
    @gendarmemckinnon9994 7 років тому +19

    Ms. Tasha I love you I listen to you everyday and I let all my friends listen to you I always have a glass of wine while listening love your hair from Detroit

    • @MekaHall1078
      @MekaHall1078 7 років тому +1

      Gendarme Mckinnon lol I from the D too and I do the same. 😊

  • @rellyfpooh7464
    @rellyfpooh7464 7 років тому +9

    Tasha luv how you alwsys keep it real and consider all aspects when answering questions. But I also luv how you change up your hair. It is always together and looking good.
    This man seems to be looking for an excuse to have his cake and eat it too. Side chick has known for 2 years that he is married. She has interferred in that relationship. He and she deserve each other but current wife will be hurt. If he asks her she needs to leave him.

  • @alexiaalexander1883
    @alexiaalexander1883 7 років тому +6

    Hey Tasha, Im from Jamaica, I cant miss any of your videos. I love it keep it up:)

  • @BROWNGIRL20thcentury
    @BROWNGIRL20thcentury 7 років тому +3

    You got Mike all the way together Great Advice ❤❤❤

  • @CourtneyA.
    @CourtneyA. 7 років тому +14

    My dad is Nigerian too and he had a second wife back in Nigeria. Smh

    • @swiitdoll
      @swiitdoll 7 років тому +2

      C Ali mine left us totally for the new wife. I would never touch a Nigerian man with a ten foot pole. Disgusting greedy creatures!

  • @twitterblackdove
    @twitterblackdove 7 років тому +27

    I'm American, I have a black husband (the father of our three adult sons), we separated in 2012.
    So, in the Summer of 2013, I took a younger lover, a black sex god, who is 6'5" vegan (think Jimi Hendrix, bae way finer than Future), locs to his thighs, a high demand barber so he's paid, and done with wild babymama types.
    We still kick it hard in 2017.
    All is well, good luck ladies.

    • @FlaMan991
      @FlaMan991 7 років тому +8

      Black_Dove ... Stella got her groove.... 👍👍👍

  • @larttiste109
    @larttiste109 7 років тому +3

    I dont feel like he was respecting his wife very much, if it is his religion who's allowing him multiple wives, than on a religious perspective he shouldn't have waited 2 years to tell her he was seeing somebody else, lets not forget God has forbidden any kind of un marital relationships, if you wanna be religious...
    Im a muslim woman and i do beleive in poligamy, but if i found out he's been intertaining this relationship for 2 years, he BETTER be scared to tell me.

  • @marydork493
    @marydork493 7 років тому +6

    So some fool was being serious and had the audacity/nerve to ask this?

    • @TOPAZ.o
      @TOPAZ.o 7 років тому +1

      Mary Dork Exactly 👏👏

  • @TravelingBoss
    @TravelingBoss 7 років тому +6

    This shit WOULD make me cheat on HIS ass. If he want a NEW WOMAN than. IN return I need a NEW MAN. We as woman have sexual NEEDS TOO... Women are NOT property BUT a human BEING with FEELINGS too. He SHOULD ask himself if the shoe was on the OTHER foot. HOW would he feels if SHE asks for a NEW MAN?

  • @angeliquemoore4723
    @angeliquemoore4723 7 років тому +22

    he need to go talk to God first

  • @lafredasias5286
    @lafredasias5286 7 років тому

    I appreciate your informed and balanced responses to questions- keep up the good work! 👍

  • @a.d.morton4624
    @a.d.morton4624 7 років тому +5

    I was one of two wives for the 1st 5years of my 13year marriage. I am an American Black woman.
    Don't do it!
    Drama Drama Drama
    For no dam reason.
    Don't do it!

  • @sonali7336
    @sonali7336 7 років тому +8

    Well well well he just nasty. I'm Nigerian and he needs to stop. That's the old days and he knows that smh 👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿

  • @Juju-tx3bb
    @Juju-tx3bb 7 років тому +5

    Tell him to look at the Nigerian movies, this always happens but never works

  • @tanyapollar3931
    @tanyapollar3931 7 років тому +3

    Okay I have to give my opinion with out thinking like a American. I think if this a part of his culture then I think he should introduce the wife to the woman. With being honest. Because let's be clear if it's normal then they are the woman who keeps the house and raise the children. I would have to be friends with the woman, meaning I have to like her. Be able to talk to her enjoy her company have the same values. Bring a total stranger home thinking we all are going to get along isn't going to work. Not if he wants a happy and pleasant home to come to everyday. This should be a session they make together so they can all live together. ( now I'm American I personally couldn't do it who am I to judge)

  • @cupcake1065
    @cupcake1065 7 років тому +2

    I'm Ghanaian and am very familiar with Nigerian culture too having grown up round many. Some women don't mind as they expect their husbands to cheat regardless because a man having more than one women is not seen as taboo, note that this is not the case for Christians though, who should only have one wife.
    But Muslims or African traditionalists are permitted. That being said, there are some women who absolutely cannot handle that and I think Mike's wife falls into the former as he mentioned she's not adverse to the idea.
    But I think he's worried because things are easier said than done and once his wife actually realises that he's keen on marrying someone he's already been seeing for TWO YEARS, she'd be livid.
    Also sounds like he's marrying a new wife for kids because it is not common in Nigeria for a married couple to stay married for almost 10 years without kids, at all.
    They'd think there's something wrong with the woman, and the family will start pressurising the man to find someone new. Not saying this is the case but it sounds like it.

    • @cupcake1065
      @cupcake1065 7 років тому

      lol, very strong words, but I hear you!

    • @anonymousanonymous870
      @anonymousanonymous870 6 років тому

      it's happening in America too From our white brothers

  • @thandie67
    @thandie67 7 років тому +4

    Tasha, I doubt very much he is Nigerian. If he was Nigerian he would not be asking you unless the women he was dealing with are American and I mean that respectfully - even then I have my doubts that they are Nigerian. If he was Nigerian he would tell his parents, aunts and uncles who would then tell the woman and her side of the family instead 9f coming to a stranger - I say that respectfully.
    The thing that is an issue in his marriage is 9 years and he has no children. Perhaps he should resolve this issue first before taking another women. He could be infertile and marrying another woman in the hopes that he has children - which this is all about cause he mentioned that in the first part of his letter.
    Lastly, culture or not, not all countries on the continent of Africa are accepting of the "small house" and those that are, a majority of women never get over it and physically divorce them self from the situation.

  • @asha1762
    @asha1762 7 років тому +3

    Mike needs to talk to his wife, if she is ok with it than go for it but if she is not than you better make a choice.

  • @Gdiva83
    @Gdiva83 7 років тому

    That intro tho..🎶AyeAyeAye,🎶😘Love you Tasha!!

  • @tracyellis581
    @tracyellis581 7 років тому +16

    I think you should run a hypothetical situation by your wife to see if she is open to a sister wife. From the letter and your fear it sounds like neither woman wants this and you have to cut your friend off immediately!

    • @tawandabranch8766
      @tawandabranch8766 7 років тому

      Tracy Ellis He just need to come clean a friend of mine came at me with some hypothetical bullshit.All I can say is I bet he won't try it again.The doghouse is not a place to be.So just come straight out and tell the wife what is going on.No matter what it is very hard to walk away from the person you love.But to be honest alot of women are sharing men anyway, knowingly.

    • @Southerngirl0828
      @Southerngirl0828 7 років тому +1

      Tawanda Branch They sharing...but they are NOT happy with it...

  • @thegreenangelzcircletime4288
    @thegreenangelzcircletime4288 7 років тому +2

    Men want their cake and eat it too in Argentina, in Africa, when in America...EVERYWHERE>..LOL...Good advice!!

  • @paulyoung1505
    @paulyoung1505 7 років тому +3

    Unless she's Bi she ain't having it.

    • @Southerngirl0828
      @Southerngirl0828 7 років тому +4

      Paul Young TRUTH. A woman will NEVER give anything she deems as valuable away or share UNLESS she is going to benefit from it. Not typically in a woman's nature.

  • @danasimpson7963
    @danasimpson7963 7 років тому +5

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  • @LouLenox1977
    @LouLenox1977 7 років тому +25

    Bible says one man one woman

    • @Superstar2137
      @Superstar2137 7 років тому +6

      Fearnoevil2017 lol no it doesn't . Please study the Bible if you are a true believer. Anyone who has studied knows that polygamy was heavily accepted during biblical times.
      So to give an edit to what you mean, "the Bible says one man many women."
      Genesis 4:19 - And Lamech took unto him two wives: the name of the one [was] Adah, and the name of the other Zillah.

    • @LouLenox1977
      @LouLenox1977 7 років тому +3

      Kenneth Veal are you slow. You took one part. Yes they did. But as Jesus said it was not always so. He said one man one woman. Now stop and take a seat.

    • @Superstar2137
      @Superstar2137 7 років тому +2

      Fearnoevil2017🤦🏾‍♂️ I am sitting. That's the only way I can understand your logic, if I reduce myself to your level. While Christianity teaches many lessons (most controversial in their nature.) what the Bible says is different than what Jesus taught. (At least the parables that are documented.) Saying statements like "one man one women" is dangerous because oh how simple a statement it is. Everyone knows that this life is far more complicated than that. Keep living boo.

    • @LouLenox1977
      @LouLenox1977 7 років тому +3

      Kenneth Veal sure. Taking one verse and going with it is pretty wrong. But ok. Jesus is the author of the Bible. From start to finish. But I will die believing this. I am married and I will be a widow before I ever divorce. Family unit is for one man and one woman. That is a clean life with class and order. No other way works for God. He has been way too lenient with people and they just abuse his loving kindness. My logic is not my own but from Him. Tc

    • @Superstar2137
      @Superstar2137 7 років тому

      Fearnoevil2017 you are so diluted and conditioned. So much so that anything that differs from what you believe is deemed wrong. I can't help you sis. You gotta awaken yourself. 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @pettyprincess4328
    @pettyprincess4328 6 років тому +1

    I love the way you say OKAYY 😗😚😚😚😚

  • @Indiegirl007
    @Indiegirl007 7 років тому

    I'm in a similar situation. As in, I have been best friends with this man for years, we know each other like the back of our hands, and he is madly in love with me. I love him too, but I'm not in love with him. He just got married to his highschool sweet heart last fall. We haven't slept together, we haven't even kissed each other. Its just all emotional. His wife has given him a free pass, but he knows that I would hate being a side chick and I'm a very jealous girlfriend, so he keeps it neutral, and we just enjoy each other as friends. If the wife is cool with it, and he's really cool with it, and the other woman is truly cool with it, then fuck it, do it.

  • @tyvettestewart4627
    @tyvettestewart4627 7 років тому +3

    I'll say this if I where to ever agree to my man having another woman/wife & be cool about it...It's only because I have another man in mind for myself to come on board as my other lover/Husband..If you want another women baby I want another man..can you handle that cuz I been meaning to came to you about the same idea!

  • @DivaDen
    @DivaDen 7 років тому +1

    That top button is struggling 👀and I'm loving the hair 💜

  • @stacys.5367
    @stacys.5367 7 років тому +3

    Love the hair and earrings boo

  • @lachelleb3699
    @lachelleb3699 7 років тому

    I see you changed up your look. Not that you don't already look youthful, but your hair makes you look even younger!

  • @Banana-zd8zb
    @Banana-zd8zb 7 років тому

    I love that hair!!! And the earrings

  • @Notifysender90
    @Notifysender90 7 років тому

    At the end of the day all because of YoU "NOW I GOTTA GO!!!!! I fell to the floor

  • @amp7420
    @amp7420 7 років тому

    Ms. TashaK, I'm cheating tonight!
    I'm watching you while drinking Vodka!!
    It's in my wine glass tho!
    Had a hard day at work, so I needed something a little stronger than wine lol!
    Love you lady!!💚💜

  • @shaybuttersbm
    @shaybuttersbm 5 років тому

    The wife doesn't want to feel like she "wasn't enough for her husband."

  • @diragurl
    @diragurl 7 років тому

    You made a a point Tasha, I don't get why a man would want to have to put up with having to please 2 women. Sounds stressful! I think a lot of times it is ego driven vs they really looking out for the women involve best interest.

  • @AilhendarBarbie
    @AilhendarBarbie 7 років тому

    Whew...what fresh batch of fuckery are you serving up today 😂😂😂!!! I'm here for it!

    • @Southerngirl0828
      @Southerngirl0828 7 років тому +1

      AilhendarBarbie
      Sho nuff a fresh batch of fuckery

  • @laneharper261
    @laneharper261 7 років тому +3

    I respect that and your opinion.

  • @Floie.FormerlyLeungbabe_Oscar
    @Floie.FormerlyLeungbabe_Oscar 7 років тому

    "Mike" from Nigeria 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Byron7474
    @Byron7474 6 років тому

    According to the scriptures she can not divorce accept for adultery or unless her husband is physically abusing her. The husband also MUST PROVIDE FOOD SHELTER CLOTHING AND DUTY OF MARRIAGE. Honestly even most married men do not fulfill this. Then, if a man chooses another wife her CAN NOT DIMINISH her needs either or she may leave.

  • @feliciahenderson5613
    @feliciahenderson5613 7 років тому +3

    Tasha I appreciate the fact that you are open minded in this issue. I'm American but live and run a school and non profit in Nigeria. it was a process getting used to many norms and mores. he is clearly torn and concerned for both women.

  • @SalomeBMedia
    @SalomeBMedia 7 років тому +6

    He will not be ready, the black men in America can barely handle two,he needs to really think before he does anything.

  • @mensa517
    @mensa517 7 років тому

    TashaK, I was just going to say, I notice your wine preference is red wines........mine too as I seem to have a bad reaction to white wines depending on the quality

  • @lornawilliams2152
    @lornawilliams2152 6 років тому

    Mike pray that your wife doesn't kill you when you express to her how you feel about another woman now let's get down to business this is how people marriages relationships go sour Tasha gave you some very good advice I just love her she's real she says transparent but she's real you are going to snatch her heart out of her chest I think you should detach yourself from that other woman and move forward with the marriage that you're already in understand your culture you might can have more than one wife but we only get one heart bike only one so don't kill the heart that loves you back at this time God bless take care

  • @latonyasat6707
    @latonyasat6707 7 років тому

    You really broke this one down, I understand the culture aspect and the respect given. That main question is are you willing to tarnish your fact of the matter, for a result of ? #soclassythisone #ibethewasntready #Next

  • @palomam.9302
    @palomam.9302 7 років тому

    you nailed it Tasha

  • @patriciab.913
    @patriciab.913 7 років тому +3

    Talk to the wife and don't do anything intimate with the other woman until you have the wife's ok, but even if she accepts it there will be a lot of issues. Your wife most likely will leave you.

  • @SalomeBMedia
    @SalomeBMedia 7 років тому

    Hey Tasha k lord i still stunned by the last question lmao

  • @longbranch11207
    @longbranch11207 7 років тому +2

    this is is very outdated in modern times.Yes back in the days most men in some parts of Africa did have more than one wives but not so much to day. People need to learn about cultures before running off with their mouths. Anyways instead of getting mad and upset with the husbands for having more than one wives what the wives needs to do is also get another husband and call it a day

  • @lcrochetlovechild7047
    @lcrochetlovechild7047 7 років тому +1

    Got my drink and you TELLEM Tarsha

  • @dianabanks210
    @dianabanks210 7 років тому

    Your advice was spot on. I could never do that. How would he feel if his wife wanted another husband.

  • @johnhenrimitchell5324
    @johnhenrimitchell5324 7 років тому

    I love your videos so so much and you got me back trying different wines mostly imma Beer drinker but as I get older I'm leaning towards wine so thanks so much and you make my day and I hope you more stories on my favorites entertainers Usher yes Usher I still love him I don't care and I love my Janet Jackson and her upcoming tour Prayers for Texas

  • @piscesrain8882
    @piscesrain8882 7 років тому

    I'd have to give him the same advice that my dad gave me about unrealistic expectations.
    Wish in one hand and shit in the other and see which one fills up first.

  • @JUSTREADMYBOOK1
    @JUSTREADMYBOOK1 7 років тому

    THIS $hit is going to blow up in his face ... KABLOOWIE ! It's going to put these women in competition with each other in the form of having children. Who gave him the first one. Who gave him the first boy, who gave him the most OR ... Who's able to conceive and give birth. Let's not forget, 9 years and no children. Not one slip up ? It's not from using birth control. If his wife of 9 years can't get pregnant and this new virgin wife comes along spitting out babies 9 months later, it will absolutely devastate his first wife. KABLOOWIE !!!!

  • @womanhood9563
    @womanhood9563 7 років тому

    Emotional connection is just as bad/good as physical connection in some relationship it all depends on all individuals involved

  • @feliciahenderson5613
    @feliciahenderson5613 7 років тому +6

    I'm also sure the fact that they are childless is a major part... also the wife may accept a wife if she believes that he may get the much wanted child in their culture. the thing he should do is reassure her that he will love her as his first and that may require a lot of reassurance and reinforcement. it's likely that the 2nd may not accept the proposal due to certain issues, but at least you will have been honest with Madam and she deserves to know where you are emotionally right now

  • @evasakura9168
    @evasakura9168 7 років тому

    HEY TASHA MAH SISTA FROM ANOTHA MISTA !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MUCH LOVE & BLESSINGS

  • @kenyakray2490
    @kenyakray2490 6 років тому

    She now wants to know what happened what did she do wrong. Because you didn’t need to marry anyone for 9 years.

  • @cedab870
    @cedab870 7 років тому +2

    Trying to love 2 ain't easy to do. Because he's going to love one and hate the woman.

  • @kessieabena6768
    @kessieabena6768 7 років тому +2

    You're soooo pretty!

  • @JP0411
    @JP0411 7 років тому

    40 - no children- together for 9 years - no sex?!!! Never a relationship just co dependant! He wants a change doesn't want her anymore!! It doesn't matter what 'respect' he claims he has if she says no, what will he do??? I don't know why I only here about Nigerians with multiple wives with Americans. It's not common practice with Nigerians anywhere else

  • @lanreakinola8713
    @lanreakinola8713 5 років тому

    It’s unfortunate that we have been thought monogamy is the only true expression of love. That is, true love is only between two people. Monogamy as we see does not work looking at the high divorce rate. Polygamy is also another form of love and because it’s not from your culture or you don’t understand it does not give you the right to condemn it or be disdained about it. Love can be between three or more parties as long as all parties accept it and are fine with it. I support polygamy and I desire one and I am in one.

  • @cian2898
    @cian2898 7 років тому

    Yes I commend his honesty he has my respect for that. I also know women and yes that news will cause a rift no matter how cool she tries to play it m eventually she'll resent him.

  • @jeanettebeamon160
    @jeanettebeamon160 7 років тому

    girl good advice is not always greener on the other side

  • @jessicanegrete6273
    @jessicanegrete6273 7 років тому +5

    Oh baby....im about to piss somebody off...im not trying to...

    • @neqwise2641
      @neqwise2641 7 років тому +7

      Jessica Negrete 😂😂😂 This is how my ex feels. That's why we aren't together. But I told him there r women that agree and will marry him. I agree with Tasha. No woman really wants to share. I don't. But if it works, do it. Who is it working for tho??

    • @jessicanegrete6273
      @jessicanegrete6273 7 років тому

      Queen Aqua
      There are communities of polygamist. Some white people do it for the sheer numbers. We don't have problems like that. White family: 23 children from polygamy, a black family could have double. Start a farm, grow your own food...

  • @iam_trinikimmy
    @iam_trinikimmy 6 років тому

    Dear Tasha, I agree with you. However seeing that the 1st union has no children, this man may be under some pressure to produce a child by family, even if he is not saying so. Keeping in mind that this is considered normal in some cultures, some women may even agree with the 2nd union if they have issues with childbearing. It is not an easy decision and he is certainly being very careful before making a decision that he will regret. Kudos to him, there are men out here with 20 children and just as many baby mamas and they do not make a contribution to any of the kids's lives financially or otherwise.

  • @pamelabarnes56
    @pamelabarnes56 7 років тому

    U are so right Tasha

  • @queenmo1105
    @queenmo1105 7 років тому

    Clearly Mike has never watched a Nollywood movie in his life. A marriage with more than one wife never works out because off the pettiness and cattiness of a woman's nature when another woman is involved with her man that she had first. But if he wants to dig an early grave for himself who are we to tell him no.

  • @girlbossplan256
    @girlbossplan256 7 років тому +1

    Happy Happy
    Joy Joy 🍷

  • @sirblkalot
    @sirblkalot 7 років тому

    i think he thought isbrational and thathe has been respectful. to his WIFE. the other woman isn't that lucky though. because I think he is going to have to leave the 2nd woman alone. he has to find out what she is down with. if she not down with it, then he has to leave her alone, if his wife isnt down with it, he has to leave the other woman alone. i appreciate the letter. things are complicated regardless of this being his culture or not. are we really able to love more than one person at a time? i think so. can we be with two people we love at the same time? people do it everyday. and he hasnt actually had sex with this other woman, but i believe he has created a dilemna. hope it works out for him

  • @mindy1670
    @mindy1670 7 років тому

    You answered his delema very well.

  • @jjollevet
    @jjollevet 7 років тому

    Well if his wife is older, maybe this new woman can possibly produce an heir for him and maybe that what wants... He did say he doesn't have kids yet.

  • @보모
    @보모 7 років тому

    I need to process the courting in secret

  • @siramsparkle
    @siramsparkle 7 років тому +1

    Tasha it is only traditionally legal to have more than one wife but by law that is not legal and that is no more an everyday thing here in Nigeria so i disagree. if his wife is down with the tradition as he pointed then he shouldn't have qualms telling her. best believe when it comes to marriage and relationships here, there ain't much difference from over there in america. so allow me to say he talking BS. he is plain cheating simple.

  • @AshaL2377L
    @AshaL2377L 7 років тому

    Hi Tasha! I hope you are well. I am one of your viewers from the UK so at the comment area on your website, I can not submit a uk number however I have a question for you. Just wondering where to submit it. Much love, kind regards x

  • @ThatgirlPoison
    @ThatgirlPoison 7 років тому +2

    Hey I got my wine. Ready😁🍷

  • @commonman80
    @commonman80 6 років тому

    This is such an Intelligent and Mature Relationship.. To reach a proper conclusion IN MY MIND? I have to put aside EVERYTHING IS WAS PROGRAMMED TO THINK... However, Their Culture Basically ASSURES That if Involved in these type Collective Relationships? That all Involved are cared for...
    The Wives, The Children, AND THE HUSBAND For the rest of their Lives.. Meaning? NO ONE DIES ALONE.. I commend Him on being an Honorable Man with all Involved.. But Then again? It goes back to WHAT I WAS PROGRAMMED FROM BIRTH To Think About Marriage... I really have to think about this one.. No Shit...

  • @yourmomsayswashyourhands5423
    @yourmomsayswashyourhands5423 7 років тому

    This breaks my heart for his wife. He has been cultivating a relatoonship woth someo e behi d her back, and has already purposed to a woman. Whoade it clear she wamts to be mumber 1, so she isnt trying to join a family shes tryong to breal them up and using her vagina as a control mpve. Shame on him gor doing things this way. Je obvooisly jas already made up his mind. He jas absolutely no respect for his wofe if je did, the pther wan woupd not be sottong there mulling over a proposal while the other doesnt even know what's going on. Where is the LOYALTY.

  • @thebaddest127998
    @thebaddest127998 7 років тому

    I haven't watched your videos in a while , but I'm back and I suspect a new camera 👀🤔?

  • @mahlonthomas1775
    @mahlonthomas1775 7 років тому +4

    just tell her

  • @Savagefem
    @Savagefem 7 років тому +1

    He just wants to be a swinger because he's not gonna stop with 2 wives. And how much money he bringing in to support 2 families?