I’m so glad that I’m listening to this. I been married almost 19 years I accepted so many things that I was uncomfortable with. Then I excepted men all my life who didn’t bring any value to my life. Now I’m learning to appreciate the woman who God created me to be. Create those boundaries the right man will appreciate that.
I'M WITH U MY SISTA, I'VE BEEN THERE 2 ! NOW I HAVE BEEN SINGLE GOIN ON 8yrs I'M LEARNIN 2 PUT ME 1st. & NOT JUST SETTLE. I KNO IT WILL GET BETTER 4 ME. BC GOD HAS A PLAN 4 ME & AS WELL AS 4 U MY SISTA. & ANYONE ELSE MAN R WOMAN....😇🙏
Respect yourself. Love your self You gotta food yourself before you love respect and feed someone else, cause everyone doesn't mean you well. This message is powerful thanks for the knowledge my people are destroyed because of it This collaborates a little to that Mary j. Blige song love yourself I stated some of her lyrics in my words I spoke if you haven't listen to that song take a minute if you will then you can compare the messages to this stay authentic and true to yourself.
People pleasing never serves anyone I have had too learn that the hard way, if you don’t have boundaries you’ll always be the looser, when you start putting yourself first you’ll get one of two answers a person for life or a lesson for life !
I did everything that I shouldn’t do, tried to please my husband in every way and after 21 years I lost my marriage and I lost myself. I lived in a mirage with a person who had narcissistic tendencies, I wish I could have listened to this 21 years ago. Our children need to hear this. Thank you so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m sorry that you had to through that painful experience, may God comfort you and bless you with all that you deserve! Have a Blessed Thanksgiving Holiday.🙏🏾🙏🏾
I am already going through hell with a narcissistic husband. He doesn't even wanna leave. I bought a house with my own money and now he wants me to earn for the family as well. So why do I need a husband. I really wanna get reed of this man. I am trying so hard
I'm sorry you had to endure this pain for so long. I'm four years into this narcissistic marriage and I'm getting out now. Just know that we hear you and are taking actions now to get out. These four years have cost me so much financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I'm finally starting to heal and will continue to move forward. Thank you and continue to share your story. I wish you all the best and know God is able to heal/restore. ❤
@@cherylwallace2490Oh please, quit with the God thing. Isn't religion the one demanding that a woman SUBMIT IN EVERYTHING? All the time you are submitting, you are not authentic to yourself
In the Bible, EPHESIANS 5:21 (King James Version), it states that the HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE TO SUBMIT TO EACH OTHER!!! THAT IS WHY YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE WORD FOR YOURSELF, AND NOT BE AGAINST GOD'S WORD. Yes, it does say that a WIFE is to submit to her OWN HUSBAND, BUT, A WIFE IS NOT REQUIRED TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND IF HE IS NOT SUBMITTING UNTO THE LORD, ESPECIALLY IF HE IS NOT LIVING RIGHTEOUSLY AND IN A GODLY MANNER. GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES!! WIVES ARE NOT SLAVES TO THEIR HUSBANDS. AND, IT IS DANGEROUS TO COME AGAINST THE WORD OF GOD, IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE WHOLE TRUTH!! Get the REAL TRUTH, before you make comments. And if you do not know the LORD as your PERSONAL SAVIOR, ask the Lord to SAVE YOU and TEACH you HIS WORD! 🙏❤️
I needed this. I'm in a point in my life where I'm losing friends or seeing their true colors because I've been pushed to a point where I finally have to say No and they are not used to it. I've always been so patient and accommodating. I realized that if I had said No from the first time I didn't want to do something or have said No without worrying about someone else's feelings or emotional reaction I wouldn't have had friends like this in the first place. Now everything is blowing up, but I'm ready to move on and start saying No just because I feel like it, I don't need an excuse to say No me existing and being my own person with my own rights is excuse enough. NO one is entitled to my Yes and I'm not walking on eggshells anymore. I'll have to learn to catch myself when I start accommodating to avoid people's negative emotions but here's to a new era of No. A new era of self respect and boundaries. Good riddance to those who don't respect that because that means they don't respect me and quite frankly I'm tired of it!
You're so, so right! They start imagining all sorts of things. Being polite to men, has no positive effects at all. I've done that. Once, I hitchhiked from Norway to Paris, and was offered a sleeping place at at friend of my french Teacher, where I was heading, and the disgusting guy started to touch me! I put my coat & boots, on, caught my sack and ran out in the rain, and down to a metro at St Rue de Michelet, where I found a bench, rested until sunrise, got up & out, found a clean rastafari dressed man, asked him where Gare Du Nord, was, and he followed me, all the way!!!!! So I was protected, in a way, thanks to Creation ❤
I've never been nice or afraid to walk away and i can tell you, it's a huge blessing. We need to be correct, kind and straight forward. Never think that being a yes woman will make a man or anyone for that matter, love you. They will instead walk all over you. Boundaries get you respected wich is far better than being 'loved'.
I would never belower myself. My intelligrity .My self respect. My Morals. I would rather be alone than to live a lie. Keep God First. In all things you do!!!
Please have a honest conversation with your husband and family ....I wonder if Mrs Keisha Whittaker lost herself during her long marriage to her husband ! Now the poor woman has died prematurely at just 51yrs old ....so sad !
Seriously, just remember, self preservation is the first law of nature. You only get one life there are No do overs. Peace is precious and powerful. ❤❤❤
I did exactly just that losing myself in the 49 years I gave to him and my children. But finally walked away. Now I have finally got myself again. Thank God
Know my worth and I am true to myself. Like Maria Shriver once said, a woman should have her own act together, to the point that "a man is just icing on the cake." No time for Mr. Wrong, Mr. Right at the Moment or Mr. Halfway Right, just Mr. Right.
I burnt out of settling and what little left of me is leftover I hope I can start repairing all the damage. I just hope it doesn't take to long but I don't mind dying without finding true happiness with someone, just as long as I eventually find true happiness within myself.
Never lose your authentic self for no one. It's what sets you aside from everyone, uniquely inated in you by GOD. The right people will love and accept you, for you. Blessings and love abound you all🙏♥️
I believe most women, including myself, already know in their own heart their worth! A little boost is sometimes needed to activate that lesson of self value recognition! It all depends on how long it takes to realize it! It’s amazing that I am a licensed Biblical Counselor, who has helped so many people - including my husband, and forgot about myself! I’m sad lately, because time went by so fast - now what!
❤Loved the idea that the "right man will be drawn to authenticity." ❤Loved "boundaries are not just about saying no but, about saying yes ... testament to your strength."❤
Just had a discussion about being a good person v a nice person. Boundaries are more for the self than others. YOU are your leader in this life; not others. Being authentic scares people bc it reflects how much they are not... as well as other aspects of you that they are not.
in 2024 i’ve learned my boundaries are more than normal and okay to have and to stand by . I’ve also learned my true value ; i’ve learned just because i’m with someone doesn’t mean i have to continue on just because of the time i’ve given to the relationship. I’ve learned i respect myself too much to be mistreated.
Normalize leaving when someone mistreats you. Usually when someone leaves its because they got what they wanted and the guy is off to the next. Real people that are hurt they leave when they're tired of being hurt and they won't keep tolerating bs and they're ok with being alone its better to be alone sometimes
Thank you. Denzel for teaching me and all the women about not being nice to men but being firm with men and setting boundaries that men will respect us as a women. If a man dont respect our boundaries we must walk away quietly. Like you said, as women, we must have boundaries and value our worthy as women.
😂I am in Jamaica. Thank you very much for this. Being a widow I thought I need a companion. I later realize that it is a one way street. I now spend more time looking after myself. I now spend my time and resources to help the needy. God bless you.
I too live in Jamaica. Girlfriend, if your life is going SMOOTH & STRESS-FREE..Don't try and complicate it with wanting a man. We already know what that will look like..If you're at peace in this moment at this time..Leave it as is.. I've been single 5years and I see it hard to change it because of the peace I feel alone. I choose this, truth is, it's not hard to get a man- but to get a GOOD ONE, who's Loyal and Monogamous is where it gets tricky and hard..A lot of men out there are energy Vampires..They drain your Energy & everything else then you start losing yourself & the peace you once had before you allowed him into your life. The Games they play, the Cheating etc - you name it.. Unless you are fully prepared to mess up your life as it is now , and to know that man will now be a LIABILITY, then you can pursue that. If not, work on yourself, your Fitness, Travel, Start a Garden, do things you really love etc..Love on yourself and just bask in your peace and happiness (I'm hoping you are happy) and thumbs up on helping the less fortunate...🎉
But the crazy thing is im nice to everyone so when a mfr cross me you’re cut off so imma continue to be nice im not explaining myself to no one who took my kindness for weakness
@@kezocean32sey I dont like that new bulshit boundries stories.. how come when I was little I didnt have to have it... people were nice by nature and so much more empatetic
I fully embrace my worth And that's a fact I'm powerful within myself And I know who I am and what I deserve I'm fully connected to this universe. That you wouldn't believe. Thank you for the knowledge denzel❤ Thank you for waking up people as well
I've been dating for 12 years I didn't know my worth and value and thus attracted the wrong guys. I'm 28 a single mom I'm glad now I know I'm beautiful and know my worthiness of being loved right.
this lesson today n yes i said lesson ... was really amazing i needed to hear this from the begging to the end and thanks for the compliment you gave all the woman at the end it sounded so sincere. I almost cried because i was deeply hurt n im on my Hod given journey of being apologetically Myself" and im doing much better since august of 2021 been celebrate and literally dying to self ang giving God the wheel in jesus name of blessed n feeling very well thank you by the way you have the perfect voice for this career n i love all your movies ...TraoningDsy🫶🏼‼️ 21:46
👏👏👏👏👏 Amen 🙏 thank you Denzel for this. So many years ago from 2000 to 2008 I had already been taking care of my mother and 12 yr, old daughter Pryor to leaving her father in 1993. And along come my youngest brother. Then his youngest son, then the other son. One family member after another and I was already told by a concerned family member. When are you going to say No ! To your family. 😢 it was so hard. Then trying to control my love life. From the beganing it was suppose to be me, my mother and daughter. No one else. I have learned to say No ! Not this time.
This was VERY, VERY GOOD! ❤ I had to grow into what is being shared after committing everything discussed in the video for many years. It was necessary after many failed relationships and the death of my fiance 4.5 years. Thanks for the confirmation. ❤
May I add that we need to see that true validation comes from God. Becoming rock solid in our relationship with Him helps us not seek validation in other places.
Being nice is my core value . Few jerks will not change it. I might become wise to recognize fast but I will be still nice. Her angel eyes saw the good in many devils!
@ - I completely agree! A person like me who has experienced marriage once won't seek it out again! However, she was foolish to anticipate anything different. She knew she was wrong , so she left!
This is really 100% true. I am learning from all of your pod casts. God is using you. Maybe you need to go to High Schools and say this. Girl's need to hear this early in life.
This is true. The only problem that some of us lost their authenticity since childhood for the purpose of survival, as a infant parents are your everything you depend on them so you do everything to please them and often it costs to give away your authenticity for survival. So it’s hard to find it when you’re grown up, you become people pleasing without knowing it was just natural surviving mode. The price is too high and very difficult to change it, but the time you realise and understand it you’ve been through a lot of damage. It’s one of the worst situations because your life is gone on survival and after all that trauma on top of trauma and health issues. Any advice?
Thanks for sharing this and I needed to listen to this today. I have been pleasing my husband for 12 years that I have been holding onto, just realising I need to let go
Wow I wish I had heard this June of last year I never would have thought that I was doing this to myself because I always uphold myself and value myself and I didn't realize that I was losing it because it was someone pursuing me and supposed to have values and respect for others but all the time he was using me I did not feel comfortable but I went ahead against my own values oh my Lord I will never ever do this again I was already content but it was actually getting very emotional for me I guess I was losing my value for someone else oh my God he even had the nerve to say that I was rare😢
💯 It works the other way too! I can't tell you how many times I've gone on a few dates with men who are really interesting and have vibrant, active lives. Within just a few dates they start giving up things they live doing so they can spend time with me, doing the things i love instead. That is always such a turn off to me and I'm no longer interested in them.
Yes and no. U can set your boundaries and be nice. Nice don’t mean a pushover. I’ve lost more from being mean than I ever did by killing em with kindness
Being your true authentic self and true truth and boundaries is the truth about life and being a true heart for your life towards a better future with the real man you love
Yezz. After 30 yrs of dedication in a Toxic relationship I finally gave myself permission to be spread my wings. It's leaves me wondering will i slip up and make the same mistake?!. I am a [straight sistah] who hates being a BARBER for over two decades. 😢😢😮😢
Wow this so good and true. I can say I did make some of these mistakes in my life 😔. Thanks again for this great teaching. I used to watch all of your movies, I am glad I can still enjoy all your talents in all your speeches.
That was me for a year of dating. Not only did he require me to call him first but he demanded it. I even had to invite myself to his house and when I do he made jokes that I must have been 'horny'. I have to reach out first when we have issues and he won't tell me what I did wrong. Then I stopped calling and and only say hi when we meet at work. He was aloof at first but now I sense respect for me in his demeanor now but he's still too arrogant to reach out. I'm happy for the breakup as I met someone better.
Boundaries keep toxic people away which is perfect
I’m so glad that I’m listening to this. I been married almost 19 years I accepted so many things that I was uncomfortable with. Then I excepted men all my life who didn’t bring any value to my life. Now I’m learning to appreciate the woman who God created me to be. Create those boundaries the right man will appreciate that.
So true! God Bless You 🙏
I'M WITH U MY SISTA, I'VE BEEN THERE 2 ! NOW I HAVE BEEN SINGLE GOIN ON 8yrs I'M LEARNIN 2 PUT ME 1st. & NOT JUST SETTLE. I KNO IT WILL GET BETTER 4 ME. BC GOD HAS A PLAN 4 ME & AS WELL AS 4 U MY SISTA. & ANYONE ELSE MAN R WOMAN....😇🙏
👏👏
@@tiffwast3223 GOD Bless You Dear 🙏
Respect yourself. Love your self
You gotta food yourself before you love respect and feed someone else, cause everyone doesn't mean you well. This message is powerful thanks for the knowledge my people are destroyed because of it
This collaborates a little to that Mary j. Blige song love yourself I stated some of her lyrics in my words I spoke if you haven't listen to that song take a minute if you will then you can compare the messages to this stay authentic and true to yourself.
“When you are constantly being nice you dilute your essence”❤
People pleasing never serves anyone I have had too learn that the hard way, if you don’t have boundaries you’ll always be the looser, when you start putting yourself first you’ll get one of two answers a person for life or a lesson for life !
Love your name...Nina Turner❤❤❤
@ yours too Nina Westlake 💕
: And there it is. ❤🎉😊
Well said
This is good
I did everything that I shouldn’t do, tried to please my husband in every way and after 21 years I lost my marriage and I lost myself. I lived in a mirage with a person who had narcissistic tendencies, I wish I could have listened to this 21 years ago. Our children need to hear this. Thank you so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I’m sorry that you had to through that painful experience, may God comfort you and bless you with all that you deserve! Have a Blessed Thanksgiving Holiday.🙏🏾🙏🏾
I am already going through hell with a narcissistic husband. He doesn't even wanna leave. I bought a house with my own money and now he wants me to earn for the family as well. So why do I need a husband. I really wanna get reed of this man. I am trying so hard
I'm sorry you had to endure this pain for so long. I'm four years into this narcissistic marriage and I'm getting out now. Just know that we hear you and are taking actions now to get out. These four years have cost me so much financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I'm finally starting to heal and will continue to move forward. Thank you and continue to share your story. I wish you all the best and know God is able to heal/restore. ❤
@@cherylwallace2490Oh please, quit with the God thing. Isn't religion the one demanding that a woman SUBMIT IN EVERYTHING? All the time you are submitting, you are not authentic to yourself
In the Bible, EPHESIANS 5:21 (King James Version), it states that the HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE TO SUBMIT TO EACH OTHER!!! THAT IS WHY YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE WORD FOR YOURSELF, AND NOT BE AGAINST GOD'S WORD. Yes, it does say that a WIFE is to submit to her OWN HUSBAND, BUT, A WIFE IS NOT REQUIRED TO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND IF HE IS NOT SUBMITTING UNTO THE LORD, ESPECIALLY IF HE IS NOT LIVING RIGHTEOUSLY AND IN A GODLY MANNER.
GOD DOES NOT MAKE MISTAKES!! WIVES ARE NOT SLAVES TO THEIR HUSBANDS.
AND, IT IS DANGEROUS TO COME AGAINST THE WORD OF GOD, IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE WHOLE TRUTH!! Get the REAL TRUTH, before you make comments.
And if you do not know the LORD as your PERSONAL SAVIOR, ask the Lord to SAVE YOU and TEACH you HIS WORD! 🙏❤️
This is true for all relationships, not only for couples
Indeed.
Yup
I needed this. I'm in a point in my life where I'm losing friends or seeing their true colors because I've been pushed to a point where I finally have to say No and they are not used to it. I've always been so patient and accommodating. I realized that if I had said No from the first time I didn't want to do something or have said No without worrying about someone else's feelings or emotional reaction I wouldn't have had friends like this in the first place. Now everything is blowing up, but I'm ready to move on and start saying No just because I feel like it, I don't need an excuse to say No me existing and being my own person with my own rights is excuse enough. NO one is entitled to my Yes and I'm not walking on eggshells anymore. I'll have to learn to catch myself when I start accommodating to avoid people's negative emotions but here's to a new era of No. A new era of self respect and boundaries. Good riddance to those who don't respect that because that means they don't respect me and quite frankly I'm tired of it!
Good for you! I'm starting to do the same thing.
You're so, so right! They start imagining all sorts of things. Being polite to men, has no positive effects at all. I've done that. Once, I hitchhiked from Norway to Paris, and was offered a sleeping place at at friend of my french Teacher, where I was heading, and the disgusting guy started to touch me! I put my coat & boots, on, caught my sack and ran out in the rain, and down to a metro at St Rue de Michelet, where I found a bench, rested until sunrise, got up & out, found a clean rastafari dressed man, asked him where Gare Du Nord, was, and he followed me, all the way!!!!! So I was protected, in a way, thanks to Creation ❤
I've never been nice or afraid to walk away and i can tell you, it's a huge blessing. We need to be correct, kind and straight forward. Never think that being a yes woman will make a man or anyone for that matter, love you. They will instead walk all over you. Boundaries get you respected wich is far better than being 'loved'.
Amen and Amen
The truth shall set you free ❤❤ pow 💥 Amen 🙏🏾
I would never belower myself. My intelligrity .My self respect. My Morals. I would rather be alone than to live a lie. Keep God First. In all things you do!!!
: Amen. ❤🙏
Absolutely🎉
Intelligrity huh? Love that lol.
I value my intelligrity
I've been married 21 years, and this breaks my heart because this is me. I've lost me and now I'm looking for her this will take time. Thanks!
Please have a honest conversation with your husband and family ....I wonder if Mrs Keisha Whittaker lost herself during her long marriage to her husband ! Now the poor woman has died prematurely at just 51yrs old ....so sad !
You can do it. The best to you always❤
Thank you so nice to hear
I need to save this
"GOD got situation"❤
Seriously, just remember, self preservation is the first law of nature. You only get one life there are No do overs. Peace is precious and powerful. ❤❤❤
35 years of experience with narcissist , ty very much for opening my eyes ❤
How did you even deal with him for 35 years. Amazing
“Be honest about what you want!!!!”
Listen.. I’ve wasted so much time trying pleas others blah blah…. No more! I’m standing tall to who I am!
Yes yes ND amen......
That’s a very good decision ❤❤❤
I did exactly just that losing myself in the 49 years I gave to him and my children. But finally walked away. Now I have finally got myself again. Thank God
@@carmenlucio483 wow! And I thought I stayed too long. Glad you found yourself… no matter how long it took!
❤❤
This so use to be me a couple of years ago. Then GOD sent me a true gift, a young man that saw me beyond the physical. 💙💙💙
Know my worth and I am true to myself. Like Maria Shriver once said, a woman should have her own act together, to the point that "a man is just icing on the cake." No time for Mr. Wrong, Mr. Right at the Moment or Mr. Halfway Right, just Mr. Right.
Great message!! 2024 was the year of me acknowledging my self worth and setting boundaries!! I feel as if I’ve taken my power back!! Thank you God!
I can appreciate this truth, because I know it's real. Thank you Denzel for this reminder.
So on point! Value yourself! Self worth is everything. If you don’t value yourself properly, how can you value anyone else?
I have to set boundaries with some friends who are negative and controlling.
Same here
Thank you Denzel. You are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!!! I received your memo 30 years too late.
Me too 😢
I burnt out of settling and what little left of me is leftover I hope I can start repairing all the damage. I just hope it doesn't take to long but I don't mind dying without finding true happiness with someone, just as long as I eventually find true happiness within myself.
Never lose your authentic self for no one. It's what sets you aside from everyone, uniquely inated in you by GOD. The right people will love and accept you, for you. Blessings and love abound you all🙏♥️
I believe most women, including myself, already know in their own heart their worth! A little boost is sometimes needed to activate that lesson of self value recognition! It all depends on how long it takes to realize it! It’s amazing that I am a licensed Biblical Counselor, who has helped so many people - including my husband, and forgot about myself! I’m sad lately, because time went by so fast - now what!
: Your great future is " what's next!"❤🎉🙏
Thank you for your post 💛we forget about ourselves as we nurture and help others 💛
@@gloriousjohnson1807 Thank you!
@@YvetteEngelbrecht So true! Thank you for your comment❣️
Let Me Tell You Denzel you are reaching so many Hearts and that's a good thing! 💗
It’s AI, it’s not Denzel
@speaktruthpeace1612 Really ❗
I thank God My God already knows I'm beyond real
❤Loved the idea that the "right man will be drawn to authenticity." ❤Loved "boundaries are not just about saying no but, about saying yes ... testament to your strength."❤
Just had a discussion about being a good person v a nice person. Boundaries are more for the self than others. YOU are your leader in this life; not others. Being authentic scares people bc it reflects how much they are not... as well as other aspects of you that they are not.
in 2024 i’ve learned my boundaries are more than normal and okay to have and to stand by . I’ve also learned my true value ; i’ve learned just because i’m with someone doesn’t mean i have to continue on just because of the time i’ve given to the relationship. I’ve learned i respect myself too much to be mistreated.
Normalize leaving when someone mistreats you. Usually when someone leaves its because they got what they wanted and the guy is off to the next. Real people that are hurt they leave when they're tired of being hurt and they won't keep tolerating bs and they're ok with being alone its better to be alone sometimes
Worth comes fom within.
Amen Enough! let the wrong man go & wait for the right man God will send him.
God will NEVER send a good man. He will send a domineering man who wants SUBMISSION
Thank you. Denzel for teaching me and all the women about not being nice to men but being firm with men and setting boundaries that men will respect us as a women. If a man dont respect our boundaries we must walk away quietly. Like you said, as women, we must have boundaries and value our worthy as women.
😂I am in Jamaica. Thank you very much for this. Being a widow I thought I need a companion. I later realize that it is a one way street. I now spend more time looking after myself. I now spend my time and resources to help the needy. God bless you.
An if that person was a Jamaican man they will suck the the life out of you and drain why is that.
I too live in Jamaica. Girlfriend, if your life is going SMOOTH & STRESS-FREE..Don't try and complicate it with wanting a man. We already know what that will look like..If you're at peace in this moment at this time..Leave it as is.. I've been single 5years and I see it hard to change it because of the peace I feel alone.
I choose this, truth is, it's not hard to get a man- but to get a GOOD ONE, who's Loyal and Monogamous is where it gets tricky and hard..A lot of men out there are energy Vampires..They drain your Energy & everything else then you start losing yourself & the peace you once had before you allowed him into your life.
The Games they play, the Cheating etc - you name it..
Unless you are fully prepared to mess up your life as it is now , and to know that man will now be a LIABILITY, then you can pursue that. If not, work on yourself, your Fitness, Travel, Start a Garden, do things you really love etc..Love on yourself and just bask in your peace and happiness (I'm hoping you are happy) and thumbs up on helping the less fortunate...🎉
Thank goodness came at the right time ❤❤❤
Be authentic in every relationship you have. Be you respectfully.
I grew up with the southern charm mindset. Momma always said if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything!😌
Beautifully said. So many people didn't grow up with boundaries, and this is good.
But the crazy thing is im nice to everyone so when a mfr cross me you’re cut off so imma continue to be nice im not explaining myself to no one who took my kindness for weakness
Agreed
You 🚶♀️ Got That Right
I feel you! I cant understand this society where they learn us not to be nice... come on people where is this all coming from!
@@saneladomic702it's not about being nice, it's about setting boundaries so that you're not misused.
@@kezocean32sey I dont like that new bulshit boundries stories.. how come when I was little I didnt have to have it... people were nice by nature and so much more empatetic
I fully embrace my worth And that's a fact I'm powerful within myself And I know who I am and what I deserve I'm fully connected to this universe. That you wouldn't believe. Thank you for the knowledge denzel❤ Thank you for waking up people as well
Yes! Amen. ❤
I've been dating for 12 years I didn't know my worth and value and thus attracted the wrong guys. I'm 28 a single mom I'm glad now I know I'm beautiful and know my worthiness of being loved right.
This message is so powerful not just pleasing men people period. The buck stops here.
this lesson today n yes i said lesson ... was really amazing i needed to hear this from the begging to the end and thanks for the compliment you gave all the woman at the end it sounded so
sincere. I almost cried because i was deeply hurt n im on my Hod given journey of being apologetically Myself" and im doing much better since august of 2021 been celebrate and literally dying to self ang giving God the wheel in jesus name of blessed n feeling very well thank you by the way you have the perfect voice for this career n i love all your movies ...TraoningDsy🫶🏼‼️ 21:46
👏👏👏👏👏 Amen 🙏 thank you Denzel for this. So many years ago from 2000 to 2008 I had already been taking care of my mother and 12 yr, old daughter Pryor to leaving her father in 1993. And along come my youngest brother. Then his youngest son, then the other son. One family member after another and I was already told by a concerned family member. When are you going to say No ! To your family. 😢 it was so hard. Then trying to control my love life. From the beganing it was suppose to be me, my mother and daughter. No one else. I have learned to say No ! Not this time.
Thank you for this upload 🤎🤎🤎
Stand tall & the world 🌎 will adjust around you 💎💎💎💎
This is so true, we have been married for 30yrs , we have had our ups & downs, we know our true love and self ❤️
This is perfect timing for me. I needed this. ❤
As single lady like hopefully to find love one day . Be real to myself has made me emotional good in many aspects of life
Im very glad to be listening to this. It hits home
I love this Denzel
Thank you for this
This was VERY, VERY GOOD! ❤ I had to grow into what is being shared after committing everything discussed in the video for many years. It was necessary after many failed relationships and the death of my fiance 4.5 years. Thanks for the confirmation. ❤
May I add that we need to see that true validation comes from God. Becoming rock solid in our relationship with Him helps us not seek validation in other places.
Amen 🙏
Thanks so much for this video for I've been deeply affected by being over nice to others and not myself 😮❤🎉
I wonder if Denzel is aware of such a positive video made from his “image”. I hope so. All videos are amazingly helpful!
Hallelujah thank you sooooi much for the inspiration speech. I TOTALLY APPRECIATE THIS. YOUR AWESOME
Being nice is my core value . Few jerks will not change it. I might become wise to recognize fast but I will be still nice.
Her angel eyes saw the good in many devils!
She didn't have to live with those devils. Sounds like she was just friends, but marriage is a whole nether ball game.
@ - I completely agree! A person like me who has experienced marriage once won't seek it out again! However, she was foolish to anticipate anything different. She knew she was wrong , so she left!
32:15 wisdom and grace
This is really 100% true. I am learning from all of your pod casts. God is using you.
Maybe you need to go to High Schools and say this. Girl's need to hear this early in life.
❤this talk is the best! I was stuck in pleasing people. I’m working on self love. Thank you!
Amen!! This is so accurate 💯
I needed to hear this. Well said and profound. Thanks so much, Denzel. You did this one just for me 🙏♥️💯
The most powerful message you’ll ever hear
He's telling the truth that I've never thought about, wish I had
I'm crying 😢...this is so me
Amen!! Know your worth regardless the disappointment of others! Thank you Denzel for entering and learning a women's mind!
This is true. The only problem that some of us lost their authenticity since childhood for the purpose of survival, as a infant parents are your everything you depend on them so you do everything to please them and often it costs to give away your authenticity for survival. So it’s hard to find it when you’re grown up, you become people pleasing without knowing it was just natural surviving mode. The price is too high and very difficult to change it, but the time you realise and understand it you’ve been through a lot of damage. It’s one of the worst situations because your life is gone on survival and after all that trauma on top of trauma and health issues. Any advice?
I am like that, take it or leave it. Boundaries are everything.
THIS IS THE TRUTH‼️‼️‼️
Wow! Powerful, everyone should listen to this. This is a confirmation of what just happened fee minutes before I listen to this wow wow
What a GREAT MAN full of wisdom, Pauletta is BLESSED‼️🫴🏽✝️❤️🛐🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thanks for sharing this and I needed to listen to this today. I have been pleasing my husband for 12 years that I have been holding onto, just realising I need to let go
Thank you so much!!!I needed to hear this❤❤
Thanks brother your comments I trust all agen thankyou
Wow I wish I had heard this June of last year I never would have thought that I was doing this to myself because I always uphold myself and value myself and I didn't realize that I was losing it because it was someone pursuing me and supposed to have values and respect for others but all the time he was using me I did not feel comfortable but I went ahead against my own values oh my Lord I will never ever do this again I was already content but it was actually getting very emotional for me I guess I was losing my value for someone else oh my God he even had the nerve to say that I was rare😢
This is life changing advice so on point wish I would’ve learned this as a teenager but I got it now .
His Excellency Honourable Denzel Washington Sir , I Cicely salute you ... I highly accepted every word great oratory .
Wow. Powerful. ❤
This explains what I decided at 22. Then came the man I was looking for. He liked me as I wanted to be known. That was 41 years ( and 5 sons) ago. 😊
Thank you Denzel!!! You are appreciated!!!❤
This is not Denzel Washington
I am so grateful I listened to this.
💯 It works the other way too! I can't tell you how many times I've gone on a few dates with men who are really interesting and have vibrant, active lives. Within just a few dates they start giving up things they live doing so they can spend time with me, doing the things i love instead. That is always such a turn off to me and I'm no longer interested in them.
Yes and no. U can set your boundaries and be nice. Nice don’t mean a pushover. I’ve lost more from being mean than I ever did by killing em with kindness
Being your true authentic self and true truth and boundaries is the truth about life and being a true heart for your life towards a better future with the real man you love
Preach it, Brother!
Thank you 👍 Ms new Orleans Louisiana is watching
Thanks for the nice message....I agree all that you have said....❤👋👋👋👋👏
Wow! This resonates! I needed to hear this! Thank you!❤
Yezz. After 30 yrs of dedication in a Toxic relationship I finally gave myself permission to be spread my wings. It's leaves me wondering will i slip up and make the same mistake?!. I am a [straight sistah] who hates being a BARBER for over two decades. 😢😢😮😢
I know this is AI but Denzel’s voice makes everything convincing. Hmmm.. thank you for the content
Wow this so good and true. I can say I did make some of these mistakes in my life 😔. Thanks again for this great teaching. I used to watch all of your movies, I am glad I can still enjoy all your talents in all your speeches.
Wow!!!!! 🤩 beautifully said, I’m so happy I listened to this today because we all need to be reminded at one point. So grateful!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
i wish i had this in my teenage years 😢
I wonder what Denzel will do when he finds out that people are using his voice for videos like these. 😂
he gone say i’m putting cases on all you b****** (training day) 😂😂
Wow. That was beautiful. I’m gonna listen to it one more time. My soul and my every being needed this talk. Thank you for the revelations. ❤
That was me for a year of dating. Not only did he require me to call him first but he demanded it. I even had to invite myself to his house and when I do he made jokes that I must have been 'horny'. I have to reach out first when we have issues and he won't tell me what I did wrong. Then I stopped calling and and only say hi when we meet at work. He was aloof at first but now I sense respect for me in his demeanor now but he's still too arrogant to reach out. I'm happy for the breakup as I met someone better.
Setting boundaries
Thank you Denzel for these advices, really appreciated ❤
HALLELUJAH HALLELUJAH 🙏🙏💜🖤💖 AMEN 🙏
I’ve always loved this man… now it makes sense!
Thank you Denzel x God bless you xxxxxxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️