74 here, and it is so encouraging to see the youth avoid the alcohol path. Everyone’s alcohol story is very very sad, including mine. Your time investment, keeps you sober, and reminds us why we want to stay on the sober path 👣❤️🩹 God bless your journey 🤲🏼
Oh how fabulous is this comment! Hello Diane and thank you so much that means the world! So happy to see so many generations here, all sharing open and vulnerable stories! So heart warming and most definitely helps keep us all on the sober path. Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts with us 🧡
I am learning about trauma. I’ve had a traumatic childhood and I am realizing because of that I am choosing wrong behaviors. If we dig deep and heal our inner child that it will help us along our sober journeys. It’s not our fault. Thank you for your video beautiful soul! Ps write that book 📕!
Yes I feel that too - that inner child needs more love and understanding than ever! Thank you so much for sharing, it really feels good knowing that people are here to share this experience together, rather than being so afraid to let people in 🧡 P.S. Yes.. I think i just might ☺
Always late to the party, I just found your work yesterday, and watched more today. You really have a gift of empathy & understanding through sharing of yourself. Your candor & humility belay the brutal honesty of such public self-examination, and your experiences repeatedly align with mine and obviously many others. I am 6-months into my journey that was 50-years in the making, so now it's less about physical effects and more about the psychological mess (Wet cleanup on Aisle 4!) Life now feels like a clean slate 2nd chance at a better life - only under my terms this time, not that 'Friend' that lived on my back, but it's scary as hell (and I'm a grown man damnit!) I find myself humble & grateful and I now know that I will NEVER go back, and I will not give up anything to alcohol again forever and ever and maybe longer! Yesterday I felt that I was facing this challenge alone, now not so much! Thank You!
Haha yes, "Scary as hell" is to feel alive! I think we're doing life right now! I've also come to realise that doing this alone is damn impossible. Because there are too many of us connected through the shared human experience - I can feel how in-tune many of us are. And it's no coincidence, it's the magic of life. Woop! 🤩
I haven't been drinking properly for around 2-3 months, the occasional beer at a meal but after a while, it starts to taste horrible. Your videos are helping me confirm that I am doing the right thing and do generally feel so much better in myself. I'm 27 and have been a heavy drinker most of my teens and early Twenties. Finally realised its not worth it and especially the hangover!
YES PAL! When I was 27 I was in absolute self-destruct mode and I wasn't ready to wake up to it yet. Big respect to you for your level of self-awareness! It will 100% pay off and you will surely accomplish whatever else you put your mind to! Can't wait to hear! 😁
I realized when I'm hammered alone, I start speaking to myself as if I'm in need of some deep spiritual journaling... that's exactly what it is... just journal sober! We DO need to work with ourselves by speaking to ourself like Marcus Aurelius in our deeply meditative journal.
Great observation! It's something I try to do a little each day to not keep it all in my head. it really is a brilliant way to work through things - as well as speaking to my iPhone on this channel haha! 😁
I stopped caring about my birthday a long time ago hahaha. It just doesn’t seem like something to celebrate. Like, whoooo I’m older. That’s not a real accomplishment haha
I stopped drinking at the start of July and my birthday isn't until May, so I'm not thinking about that yet. But of course, Christmas and New Year are creeping up as they so inevitably do. I'm sure I'll get the usual, "But it's Christmas!" as I turn down the offer of a drink. Probably repeatedly. I'm not religious, so for me, Christmas/New Year has been all about getting extremely pissed since I was about the age of 14. I'm not worried that I'll succumb to temptation, I won't, but I'm curious as to what that time of year will look like for the 'new' me. I guess we'll see. Thanks for the video...
@@LeviSky7 haha yeah totally I get it. I spent mine working and the evening in PJ's with copious amounts of Chinese food ..on my own. It was quite nice to not give in to any social pressures and just do me for the first time!
@@MrEpsilonZero Haha I love it! What I ended up doing was working in the day, and then popping on my PJ's and ordering a mountain of Chinese food that I devoured on the sofa crosslegged, with me myself and I. Finally not giving into social pressure, being honest that I was planning on doing nothing (as such), and I had a chance to reflect a bit and not share ANY of my food hahaha. That is the good life babay!
@@Cribbage3 Yes I totally relate in regards to the festive season! We are so stuck in our ways it's hard to break. But since not giving into social pressures and CHOOSING to spend my birthday alone to reflect and eat all the food without having to share.. I'm feeling quite liberated actually. It's my life, my choices. Shit... who knew?! Don't think too far ahead, let's enjoy the start of Autumn and we will face that hurdle when we come to it - TOGETHER. 😁
I can easily go 10 days or so sober but always fall off the wagon. I was even at the bar and I felt like "why is this substance soo important to me and the people there?"
I hear you, it was the same for me for a couple of years before I had a proper deep dive into myself, my trauma, triggers and inner self-belief. Gotta find some stuff that makes you happy, fulfilled and driven. It ain't easy but taking a step away from people who don't have our best interests at heart is a solid start. Even if it feels lonely., and uncomfortable Gotta be our own best mate - get to like yourself, do some stuff that scares you, feel proud of something. Achieve something. As humans we need that - and then find people with similar interests. Sign up for a challenge, a group, a hobby - try things. There is more to life but we gotta dig in to find it - and FEEL it
Trauma with a small "t" 😅. Yes I get so scared of the rollercoaster ride ha! The self esteem stuff and little emotional triggers definitely have not disappeared for me and I'm still trying to work out how to bite the bullet when it comes to taking what I want in life.. But it is good to feel more aware and more resilient, even on the tough days. Identity and fitting in has always been a challenge for me too but it's such a relief to realise that there are some people whom I actually do not want to fit in with!! And booze will not change that!!😅
Oh my gosh YES. realising that I actually do not want to 'fit in' with any and all is so liberating!! The rest may take a while to click but I'm okay with that.. I know the best is yet to come 🐢
I'm 24 years old. I have gender dysphoria I have PTSD from SA at the beginning of college. Alcohol sucks. I would go a day or two without but wouldn't ever turn it down when I had the urge. I would feel great for the first two drinks and then get that ripped away and wouldn't feel that again until the edge of blackout. Then I would spend the rest of the night trying to prevent the inevitable hangover and anxiety and depression if I didn't pass out. The only thing that helped me get off it is weed. Thank God I don't have the urge to drink anymore.
I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had such a tough time - I hope you know that it’s not you, it’s the crazy society we live in. I quit drinking 3 years ago and last year found out im Autistic? You can’t tell from a lot of my videos but that’s how much I’ve been masking. Alcohol was just another tool to cope with the anxiety and trauma of life and being around people. Give yourself a ton of love, dig into yourself and make your own happiness the priority. I empathise with your experiences and I’m sure that both I and many others share similarities within our stories. You’re strong as f*** for getting this far, I have no doubt that you’re only going to get stronger. Focus on the small things that make you happy, it also helped me to only keep good people around me, even if that meant being on my own 99% of the time. The rest will come in time. I’m 34 years old and so glad you’re already figuring this out!! Love you pal 💛
@@recoverywithmeThank you so much for sharing your experience. You're such a good soul. You are incredibly strong. God I'm hurting just figuring out ab my gender at this age society puts such pressure to figure it all out. Also on friends I actually just cut off a "friend" of 13 years as well. Not pretty. He's caught by it too and has talked about using harder drugs recently. I truly hope he finds the peace and happiness he deserves because he has trauma too. But I've tried to support him for the 10 years since his trauma happened and he never got better. Sucked the life out of me every time we hung out. Couldn't figure out why. As much as he hugged me and called me his brother I never felt close to him. He seemed to like talking down to me. He would try to hand me a vape on multiple separate occasions when he knows I don't do nicotine. When I tried to set boundaries he pushed through them and did an entire nostalgia trip/reminder he has trauma/his only other "best friend" just moved out of the building call. I think it was narcissistic abuse.
@personguy3137 I hear you! True good souls/ likeminded people know each other when they meet. I still don’t have many in my life but I love my own company so that’s okay. I know it will come. You could be describing a few of my own previous ‘friendships’ in the story you just shared. Im still working on not people pleasing & ‘fixing’ daily. Sounds like you know yourself better than you might feel sometimes. Friendships should not come at an emotional or physical cost, so trust your gut on this one. We can’t change other people, we can only give the gift of changing and removing ourselves. The advice I give myself is not to make any big life changes until I’ve swapped what feels shit for the stuff that makes me feel happy. People, places and things etc. then see how you feel about the body you’re in (absolutely your journey and choices though). I sat down and thought about my values.. what do I *actually value? Honesty, vulnerability, open-mindedness.. if the people in my life don’t reflect it back, it’s time to move on. FREEDOM. Boundaries feel fkn gross to begin with but now I feel nothing but power from them. Like any muscle, it takes practise. Damn! You’re ahead of your time and I am proud of you 🤘🏼💪🏼😊
@@recoverywithme I hope you find the friends you deserve. It's hard. They're rare. I wouldn't have ended up leaving that friendship if it wasn't for the love and support of the people that truly see me for me and value me fully. There was this girl I met and I hadn't talked to her but she went to my highschool. We saw each other at a juicewrld concert and ran to each other screaming and hugged like we were long lost friends. I don't know why it just felt right. Since then which was probably 2018 we just texted and just recently we finally got together in person. We couldn't stop talking. She talked about struggling with her gender and when really confronted with my masculinity I felt uncomfortable. I came out right after she went home. This is what we deserve.
I'm 60 in few weeks (ancient) 😂....but may go for a meal somewhere..never was in to big birthday things anyway..separated so will do something easy which suits me.....I'm learning eventually!! To suit myself x
Not ancient. FABULOUS! Doing something nice for ourselves is the best darn birthday gift anyone could ask for, you are so right about that! Here's to you on your beautiful milestone! 🧡
Alcohol is not a problem - it is always a solution to the problem.. Bad one obviously. Traumatised people (trauma can be shock or developmental) often try to relieve the pain with painkillers as drugs are. My trauma was developmental - my father died just one day before my 1st birthday and it affected my whole existence. When I look at my two little sons and I think they could be deprived of their beloved father.. That thought simply breaks my heart. My mother was not amotionally reachable so I did not get any tools to deal with my emotions whatsoever. Unless I got some on my own - but till 2018 it all had been sunk in alcohol and warped. My wife cured me a lot, moreover lots of stoic philosophy has helped me a big time. These days I am a happy person who has found a balance and harmony in life. And so I wish you all did... x x x x
Your wife sounds like a wonderful human! Healing definitely happens when we feel supported, either by ourselves or also alongside the right people. Awesome! 😁
I am 40 and i am struggling with this poison for 25 years. I have failed so many times that I din t know if I can do it. 1-2 weeks is ok but after I will binge like crazy. 4 days free now
Amazing! Thank you for sharing some of your story too - remember if we keep falling back into old habits, it’s likely because we haven’t delved into the stuff that’s lurking beneath.. find the stuff in the shadows that’s triggering/ that’s being suppressed and work on easing that stuff out gently. Love yourself like the best friend in the world would love you. Be gentle, learn to get curious about yourself instead of shutting yourself out. Go do stuff that feels good and leave the rest in 2022. Surround yourself with good people 💫 we’ve got this!
74 here, and it is so encouraging to see the youth avoid the alcohol path. Everyone’s alcohol story is very very sad, including mine. Your time investment, keeps you sober, and reminds us why we want to stay on the sober path 👣❤️🩹 God bless your journey 🤲🏼
Oh how fabulous is this comment! Hello Diane and thank you so much that means the world! So happy to see so many generations here, all sharing open and vulnerable stories! So heart warming and most definitely helps keep us all on the sober path. Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts with us 🧡
I am learning about trauma. I’ve had a traumatic childhood and I am realizing because of that I am choosing wrong behaviors. If we dig deep and heal our inner child that it will help us along our sober journeys. It’s not our fault. Thank you for your video beautiful soul!
Ps write that book 📕!
Yes I feel that too - that inner child needs more love and understanding than ever! Thank you so much for sharing, it really feels good knowing that people are here to share this experience together, rather than being so afraid to let people in 🧡 P.S. Yes.. I think i just might ☺
@@recoverywithme ❤️❤️
Well done. I'm a 68 year old professional man and today I did not drink alcohol. My drinking was out of hand. Your videos will help me on my journey
Nice one Donat! 😁
Always late to the party, I just found your work yesterday, and watched more today. You really have a gift of empathy & understanding through sharing of yourself. Your candor & humility belay the brutal honesty of such public self-examination, and your experiences repeatedly align with mine and obviously many others. I am 6-months into my journey that was 50-years in the making, so now it's less about physical effects and more about the psychological mess (Wet cleanup on Aisle 4!) Life now feels like a clean slate 2nd chance at a better life - only under my terms this time, not that 'Friend' that lived on my back, but it's scary as hell (and I'm a grown man damnit!) I find myself humble & grateful and I now know that I will NEVER go back, and I will not give up anything to alcohol again forever and ever and maybe longer!
Yesterday I felt that I was facing this challenge alone, now not so much!
Thank You!
Haha yes, "Scary as hell" is to feel alive! I think we're doing life right now! I've also come to realise that doing this alone is damn impossible. Because there are too many of us connected through the shared human experience - I can feel how in-tune many of us are. And it's no coincidence, it's the magic of life. Woop! 🤩
I haven't been drinking properly for around 2-3 months, the occasional beer at a meal but after a while, it starts to taste horrible. Your videos are helping me confirm that I am doing the right thing and do generally feel so much better in myself. I'm 27 and have been a heavy drinker most of my teens and early Twenties. Finally realised its not worth it and especially the hangover!
YES PAL! When I was 27 I was in absolute self-destruct mode and I wasn't ready to wake up to it yet. Big respect to you for your level of self-awareness! It will 100% pay off and you will surely accomplish whatever else you put your mind to! Can't wait to hear! 😁
you're very open and honest in a public forum, that seems so scary.
I realized when I'm hammered alone, I start speaking to myself as if I'm in need of some deep spiritual journaling... that's exactly what it is... just journal sober! We DO need to work with ourselves by speaking to ourself like Marcus Aurelius in our deeply meditative journal.
Great observation! It's something I try to do a little each day to not keep it all in my head. it really is a brilliant way to work through things - as well as speaking to my iPhone on this channel haha! 😁
Alcohol just sucks. I get more of a benefit drinking water and working out than drinking alcohol. It makes me feel bad in multiples ways.
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I'm thinking about doing a video on birthdays.. with mine coming up I can feel some anxiety creeping in.. Anyone else feel weird about their birthday?
I stopped caring about my birthday a long time ago hahaha. It just doesn’t seem like something to celebrate. Like, whoooo I’m older. That’s not a real accomplishment haha
I stopped drinking at the start of July and my birthday isn't until May, so I'm not thinking about that yet. But of course, Christmas and New Year are creeping up as they so inevitably do. I'm sure I'll get the usual, "But it's Christmas!" as I turn down the offer of a drink. Probably repeatedly. I'm not religious, so for me, Christmas/New Year has been all about getting extremely pissed since I was about the age of 14. I'm not worried that I'll succumb to temptation, I won't, but I'm curious as to what that time of year will look like for the 'new' me. I guess we'll see.
Thanks for the video...
@@LeviSky7 haha yeah totally I get it. I spent mine working and the evening in PJ's with copious amounts of Chinese food ..on my own. It was quite nice to not give in to any social pressures and just do me for the first time!
@@MrEpsilonZero Haha I love it! What I ended up doing was working in the day, and then popping on my PJ's and ordering a mountain of Chinese food that I devoured on the sofa crosslegged, with me myself and I. Finally not giving into social pressure, being honest that I was planning on doing nothing (as such), and I had a chance to reflect a bit and not share ANY of my food hahaha. That is the good life babay!
@@Cribbage3 Yes I totally relate in regards to the festive season! We are so stuck in our ways it's hard to break. But since not giving into social pressures and CHOOSING to spend my birthday alone to reflect and eat all the food without having to share.. I'm feeling quite liberated actually. It's my life, my choices. Shit... who knew?! Don't think too far ahead, let's enjoy the start of Autumn and we will face that hurdle when we come to it - TOGETHER. 😁
Thank you for another relatable/helpful video and helping all of us not feel alone on ours journeys. Much appreciated!
Thanks Ryan! More in the pipeline! I've just had to take a step back to organise myself (does not come naturally haha). Appreciate the support also! 🤩
Love this! Definitely relate ❤
I bet so many of us do!! ♥️♥️♥️
I love your honesty and can relate so much!
Thanks Chris - it's relating to each-other that makes this so darn worthwhile! Thanks for being here!! 😁
I can easily go 10 days or so sober but always fall off the wagon. I was even at the bar and I felt like "why is this substance soo important to me and the people there?"
I hear you, it was the same for me for a couple of years before I had a proper deep dive into myself, my trauma, triggers and inner self-belief. Gotta find some stuff that makes you happy, fulfilled and driven. It ain't easy but taking a step away from people who don't have our best interests at heart is a solid start. Even if it feels lonely., and uncomfortable Gotta be our own best mate - get to like yourself, do some stuff that scares you, feel proud of something. Achieve something. As humans we need that - and then find people with similar interests. Sign up for a challenge, a group, a hobby - try things. There is more to life but we gotta dig in to find it - and FEEL it
im 48 hrs sober. im so sick of it. screw alcohol.
I second that!! 😃
Trauma with a small "t" 😅. Yes I get so scared of the rollercoaster ride ha! The self esteem stuff and little emotional triggers definitely have not disappeared for me and I'm still trying to work out how to bite the bullet when it comes to taking what I want in life.. But it is good to feel more aware and more resilient, even on the tough days. Identity and fitting in has always been a challenge for me too but it's such a relief to realise that there are some people whom I actually do not want to fit in with!! And booze will not change that!!😅
Oh my gosh YES. realising that I actually do not want to 'fit in' with any and all is so liberating!! The rest may take a while to click but I'm okay with that.. I know the best is yet to come 🐢
It is not a measure of success in life and mental health to be well adapted to a seriously ill society...
She's trying to explain the trauma from her heart.. and not stage managed.. which makes lots of sense..Lovely
I'm 24 years old. I have gender dysphoria I have PTSD from SA at the beginning of college. Alcohol sucks. I would go a day or two without but wouldn't ever turn it down when I had the urge. I would feel great for the first two drinks and then get that ripped away and wouldn't feel that again until the edge of blackout. Then I would spend the rest of the night trying to prevent the inevitable hangover and anxiety and depression if I didn't pass out. The only thing that helped me get off it is weed. Thank God I don't have the urge to drink anymore.
I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had such a tough time - I hope you know that it’s not you, it’s the crazy society we live in. I quit drinking 3 years ago and last year found out im Autistic? You can’t tell from a lot of my videos but that’s how much I’ve been masking. Alcohol was just another tool to cope with the anxiety and trauma of life and being around people. Give yourself a ton of love, dig into yourself and make your own happiness the priority. I empathise with your experiences and I’m sure that both I and many others share similarities within our stories. You’re strong as f*** for getting this far, I have no doubt that you’re only going to get stronger. Focus on the small things that make you happy, it also helped me to only keep good people around me, even if that meant being on my own 99% of the time. The rest will come in time. I’m 34 years old and so glad you’re already figuring this out!! Love you pal 💛
@@recoverywithmeThank you so much for sharing your experience. You're such a good soul. You are incredibly strong. God I'm hurting just figuring out ab my gender at this age society puts such pressure to figure it all out. Also on friends I actually just cut off a "friend" of 13 years as well. Not pretty. He's caught by it too and has talked about using harder drugs recently. I truly hope he finds the peace and happiness he deserves because he has trauma too. But I've tried to support him for the 10 years since his trauma happened and he never got better. Sucked the life out of me every time we hung out. Couldn't figure out why. As much as he hugged me and called me his brother I never felt close to him. He seemed to like talking down to me. He would try to hand me a vape on multiple separate occasions when he knows I don't do nicotine. When I tried to set boundaries he pushed through them and did an entire nostalgia trip/reminder he has trauma/his only other "best friend" just moved out of the building call. I think it was narcissistic abuse.
@personguy3137 I hear you! True good souls/ likeminded people know each other when they meet. I still don’t have many in my life but I love my own company so that’s okay. I know it will come. You could be describing a few of my own previous ‘friendships’ in the story you just shared. Im still working on not people pleasing & ‘fixing’ daily. Sounds like you know yourself better than you might feel sometimes. Friendships should not come at an emotional or physical cost, so trust your gut on this one. We can’t change other people, we can only give the gift of changing and removing ourselves. The advice I give myself is not to make any big life changes until I’ve swapped what feels shit for the stuff that makes me feel happy. People, places and things etc. then see how you feel about the body you’re in (absolutely your journey and choices though). I sat down and thought about my values.. what do I *actually value? Honesty, vulnerability, open-mindedness.. if the people in my life don’t reflect it back, it’s time to move on. FREEDOM. Boundaries feel fkn gross to begin with but now I feel nothing but power from them. Like any muscle, it takes practise. Damn! You’re ahead of your time and I am proud of you 🤘🏼💪🏼😊
@@recoverywithme I hope you find the friends you deserve. It's hard. They're rare. I wouldn't have ended up leaving that friendship if it wasn't for the love and support of the people that truly see me for me and value me fully. There was this girl I met and I hadn't talked to her but she went to my highschool. We saw each other at a juicewrld concert and ran to each other screaming and hugged like we were long lost friends. I don't know why it just felt right. Since then which was probably 2018 we just texted and just recently we finally got together in person. We couldn't stop talking. She talked about struggling with her gender and when really confronted with my masculinity I felt uncomfortable. I came out right after she went home. This is what we deserve.
I'm 60 in few weeks (ancient) 😂....but may go for a meal somewhere..never was in to big birthday things anyway..separated so will do something easy which suits me.....I'm learning eventually!! To suit myself x
Not ancient. FABULOUS! Doing something nice for ourselves is the best darn birthday gift anyone could ask for, you are so right about that! Here's to you on your beautiful milestone! 🧡
@@recoverywithme Aww thanks so much and for all your thoughts and words on your channel. .you are amazing!!
@@teres469 Thank you for being here! 🤗
One reason why I didn't become alcoholic: It's bitter.
I only drink it on occasions tho
Happy to hear it! 🤩I hope you're well pal!
@@recoverywithme thank you, i hope you are doing well😀
I'm with you!
TEAM
Yeah, alcohol is such a gutter drug.
Good description 🙌🏼
i like your accent
Alcohol is not a problem - it is always a solution to the problem.. Bad one obviously. Traumatised people (trauma can be shock or developmental) often try to relieve the pain with painkillers as drugs are. My trauma was developmental - my father died just one day before my 1st birthday and it affected my whole existence. When I look at my two little sons and I think they could be deprived of their beloved father.. That thought simply breaks my heart. My mother was not amotionally reachable so I did not get any tools to deal with my emotions whatsoever. Unless I got some on my own - but till 2018 it all had been sunk in alcohol and warped. My wife cured me a lot, moreover lots of stoic philosophy has helped me a big time. These days I am a happy person who has found a balance and harmony in life. And so I wish you all did... x x x x
Your wife sounds like a wonderful human! Healing definitely happens when we feel supported, either by ourselves or also alongside the right people. Awesome! 😁
Love you😘
Thank you, I'm feeling loved 🥰 Love you too! 🧡
I am 40 and i am struggling with this poison for 25 years. I have failed so many times that I din t know if I can do it. 1-2 weeks is ok but after I will binge like crazy. 4 days free now
Amazing! Thank you for sharing some of your story too - remember if we keep falling back into old habits, it’s likely because we haven’t delved into the stuff that’s lurking beneath.. find the stuff in the shadows that’s triggering/ that’s being suppressed and work on easing that stuff out gently. Love yourself like the best friend in the world would love you. Be gentle, learn to get curious about yourself instead of shutting yourself out. Go do stuff that feels good and leave the rest in 2022. Surround yourself with good people 💫 we’ve got this!