Or he has reached and age where he doesn’t give 3 flits about any of it. Living ones life as one sees fit is not, in whole, selfish. It is knowing who you are are where you want to be. At 54 myself, a 25 year old holds zero interest for me. Pretty sure for most 25 year olds, the feeling is mutual.
I can see the good intentions in this video, but you're categorizing a 28 yo guy as young and a 34 yo guy as old. Can you start realizing how silly is that?
Thank you! Well said. First of all, the gay standards for older and old are all over the map. Some think anything over 25 is older and 35 as old. I still think one hard fact is in place in the queer community: the older one gets, the more invisible they become. If the only option is "daddy" culture, then that only reinforces the age related prejudice that exists in gay culture. Also, some people want relationships, not just sex. Sex is fine, but what comes after it determines relationship potential. If you are a middle-aged gay man, the odds are very likely that you have a lot working against you if you are twice their age. It's not that it is impossible, but with each passing year it becomes more unlikely you can build on that common ground, and more likely both are to be unhappy. I have had friends on both sides of the fence of the issue, and it is really hard to not make an ass of yourself when you are about to retire from your job and your current partner is a sophomore in university. It's a bet you will lose.
Same-o, same-o. 49 yo here, husband is 66, just passed our 25th. Madly in love, way more than we were back then, and that's saying something. We couldn't be happier. You know it's sad, though. I took more $hit from the gay community about our age difference than I ever got from anyone else. "Daddy", "gold digger", blah, blah, blah. Depressing. We're best friends. Wouldn't trade him for the world. I just wish more young gay people could see that a good, happy, contented life spent with someone you love is worth WAY more than staying on trend.
I'm 26 and interested in men from 35 to 45 socially, emotionally, intellectually, and physically (because many who have kept in shape during their youth have actually gained a substantial amount of strength later on in life contrary to ageist beliefs).
I am 75 and gay with the recent death of my lover my age. I am not seeking a replacement - he is irreplaceable. I am thinking of starting a Vlog of the insights and experiences of an older gay man. Does anyone think there is any interest there?
Been with my guy 33 yrs .....13 yrs age gap ! I'm 57 he is 70....our love only ever got stronger ! We met when I was 25 and he was 37........I think older gays do need a link to an older sophisticated life ! .....with true connections and friends !
I am sorry to say that the idea of a gay community is a myth as you rightly point out we are all getting older .The young in general have no respect for the older guy.s there just treated as dirty old perv.s Its a great time to be gay if your in your teens after that your on the shelf .
@Josue2018 porn star is really the brown dwarf of stars though, it's not really a star, but it's not really Tyrion Lannister either.... Plus we've all lamented at one point or another that the TRULY hot guys never do porn.
Pedo Bear I'm 47 and my partner of twenty years is 74, and we love each other to death. The guy in the comment above has at least 20 years to go before death. What a pathetic thing of you to say.
The younger guys in this video seem very stuck on themselves. The one who said, "I've been given a lot of offers because of my looks and my age," really isn't very good looking. Wake up, young people. You will realize before you know it that you are 30, then 45, then 60. It happens in the blink of an eye.
You can't blame a younger guy for not being interested in old guys. If you're not interested, then you're not interested. Older gays will absolutely fall all over themselves in the presence of young twinks. So of course they let it go to their heads.
This is a really interesting video. When I was 25, I used to really like guys in their 40s and 50s for some reason...I think it was mostly because they were better spoken, were a little classier, but also because older men just looked more like men (as opposed to boys). Oddly, now that I’m 45, it seems like the guys who seem to show the most interest in me are in their early to mid-20s...but they’re usually just nice eye candy to me and I don’t have much attraction to them. Some of them are very mature, very well spoken, and quite intelligent...but I just don’t get excited by them. At 45, I’m actually noticing that I like guys 10-15 years my senior. I’ve had people tell me that I probably have/had issues with my own dad...but it was actually the opposite. My dad was a blue collar worker who took my brother and I fishing and crabbing, we used to work on my truck together (he taught me to change my oil when I was in high school), and he was your typical American man. When I came out to him, the first, and only, question he asked me was, “are you happy with your boyfriend?”...and when I said, “yeah”, he replied with, “that’s all that matters to me, and that’s all that should matter to any parent.” So I definitely didn’t have any dad issues. PS - yes, that’s a current picture. One of the perks of being Japanese...you look young for quite a while. Hehe.
My experience is that privately, young men love older men but publicly, there is a stigma so they don't admit it. I admire most the young men who can and do.
38 is OLD? Good grief! Wait till you're 77! But I had some great gay experiences. When I was in my 20's in the 1960's, I also felt anyone over 30 was ancient! I love the comment of the guy in the video who said he liked to be in a relationship, but to be able to bang twinks on the side! Hilarious! I feel the same! Nice video. BTW, I am part of a small group of older gay guys who get together for lunch once a month and swap stories. Our ages range from 48 to 95, and include several survivors of long-term relationships, 3 of which lasted over 50 years. Lots of experiences to share! The lunch idea, to me, is a great one. After all, we will not always be around to get together.
When I was 19 I was grossed out by anyone over 21. A friend of mine who really liked me was 28 and he was gross to me but he gave me his "just the tip" speech and, having not heard that one before, I thought it a reasonable request.
i hope i can meet someone someone like like your age i really want matured guys that i can be my partner,friend,dad,buddy in short my everything. facebook: Hilton sebastian mobile: +639063330599 skype: mayke000 i hope i meet him soon in jesus named.
Kenneth Maese Agreed. Well..., maybe 37! But I'm so tired of teenagers & twenty-somethings that believe everyone wants to fuck them--or worse, BE them. Twenty-five years ago, no one I knew thought middle-aged men were pining away for us or wanted to BE us. It's a little creepy. Girls and straight boys today are the same way, so it's not exclusively a gay thing .
I can relate. I think the perfect age is 28 for looks and charisma as an adult man. But for actual interaction, anything less than about 34 just feels like babysitting. Its not their fault. Twenty-somethings are cute or hot, but they just don't 'get it' until they are nearing 30 or over.
I've been in love once. He pursued me for about three months and I had NO clue of his interest. He was 22 and I was 48. After about 15 or so months, we decided to marry and we were the first same-gender couple in the Continental United States to file a Federal suit for marriage equality, against the AG of Arizona and the Clerk of the Pima County Court - the date was 1993.
Edmund Ray Valentine I agree with you, I too don’t care about age, it’s about the chemistry, attraction between two people that counts. Have to say, from your profile pic. Damn! You’re HOT! 🔥
Izzy Rebel lion Sexy is more than just a veneer, its why i hate going to clubs where people think sexy is just a veneer. Robert and James are ok with who they are, and that is sexy. Trying to be something you aren't isn't.
gisforgary oh I completely agree it's all about presentation and I found them both to very honest and i felt comfortable to listening to them. In all honesty one of the guys completely turned me off but it had to do with how his attitude was.
Izzy Rebel lion the twinkie chaser wasn't exactly my cup of tea -- but Robert does what I tell everyone they should do -- learn how to dress yourself, find a good barber, don't let yourself go. i don't know why so many people in the gay community can't dress themselves. they see someone with a different body type and think it looks good, but, um.
*Even though I'm 18, I'm only attracted to older guys, who are in their 30s and 40s. I don't like stereotyping but most younger ones are very immature and make a big deal out of anything. I prefer older, kind of hairy and romantic dudes.*
I'm 47 and my taste in men has aged with me. My partner is 55 and Very Fine. I'm happy to know the young 'uns are having fun, but I have zero interest in hooking up with any of them.
Ageism is a very sad thing. Back when we all needed each other, we had friendships. Now that gay people are more accepted, the "need" for us to all stick together is gone and old people are no longer needed. Whereas all straight men think all gay people want them, all young gay people think that all old gay people want them. Sad.
+yescandles 5 years ago I answered a young mans ad. He was looking for friends. I have always believed age doesn't matter when it comes to real friendships; "real" being the key word. I have always had young friends in my life. The young man was 19 years old. I was 67. I am gay; he is straight. I told him upfront that I was that age and gay when I answered his ad. We met and today we have an unbelievable friendship. I mean it is the best; It's the way friendship is supposed to be. Just to let you know I am not your typical 72 year old man. I feel like a teenager. Being around young folks helps keep you young. So I just say to you...don't let age be a factor. Beautiful friendships can happen between any age. I treasure this one with my young friend, and so does he.
+Aaron Fyfe It also sounds terribly narrow-minded and is an astonishing generalization. I wish that people would think carefully before posting such comments. I am fairly certain that perhaps SOME young gay people think along those lines, but surely not "ALL".
Johnny Gainor Of course young people think that way, not every young person can be expected to be mature, same can be said of older generations. I'm sure there are some "daddies" out there who think all young people want them! ;)
The Millennial generation (Generation Y) directly follows Generation X strictly speaking. Gen X are the Baby Boomers. As for my usage, demographers and researchers frequently use historical events to classify generations.
Nicholas Rue that's such a wide range. I was/am a young mom, but it's strange to see that my son and I are only a year off in being in the same generation. We do feel that we "grew up together," though.
And for those young guys who pull faces about, talk badly about and put older gay men down, just remember one thing - you would not have the freedom to live your life as openly as a gay person today, if it wasn't for the hell-fire the older gay generation worked their guts out to put out for you.
Watching this video reminded me of my teenage years a lot. I never developed an attraction to guys close to my age range and younger. I like mature guys because I wanna feel young and safe. Fortunately, my husband is 10 years older than I am and I am happy with him everyday.
Hey, i have a lot questions but i met someone who is 6 years older than me but i am hesitating to enter a relationship with him…. If i can ask you some questions it would be great…. Stay in touch
I have found the best, most wonderful relationship with someone 21 years younger than myself. And the best part is, we have a TON in common and never run out of things to talk about.
heay he looks 30 and also very cocky! He said ive gotten offers to live life easy cuz of my looks and age! Seriously? hahaha His eyes are soo droopy that i have to put on the airco just to stop them from drooping even more! His mouth is shaped like an upside down triangle with weird looking teeth. The only nice thing about him is his haircolor.
I'm shallow but aware that I ain't no porn star either. +myname iskoffzz - Everyone knows that masturbating too much / having too much sex makes you go bald and grow hair on the back of your hands and feet!
I was never into younger guys before this and still am not, just one. My fiancé is 23 and I am 42. We have plenty to talk about at the end of the day. The world is chocked full of so many wonderful things to talk about and learn. People tell us all the time that we are such a beautiful couple and the age thing does not matter. It never even comes up! It did at first because I had my doubts but I am glad that I gave it a chance.
As someone over 60, the one thing I would tell anyone younger - and that means all types - is that youth in itself is attractive. It is far from the only attractive thing, but youth in all its qualities, including energy, optimism, health, curiosity (and all as much as looks), is attractive. What you make of those things is up to you; there are definitely young people who walk through life with a frown and an attitude, and no matter how beautiful are as appealing as yesterday's leftovers. But it is worth knowing that your youth is an asset far outside the bedroom. I've also found that there are as many plain people as pretty ones who will only give the time of day to those they feel meet some standard of beauty. If you think your potential to attract others is truly dependent on looks, and you don't think you're scoring because of it, one thing we know is that healthy gay men can always increase their physical attractiveness at the gym. A hot bod is a hot bod. But of course having one won't make your life great if you haven't gotten past liking yourself and others for more than that.
I was 19 years old & fell in LOVE with a man who was 34 year old. I'm 25 now & I will not love any man below the age of 32. Older men are much, MUCH better to be with. Besides the experience, it's all about how well rebounded they are, & they know what they want in life. I dated a guy my age once & it was the worst. I just cannot date a man who isn't well above my age. I've just always loved men who were older than me. My current date is above his 40s & I could give less of a shit, he's the sweetest thing.
Frisby2007 just because you dated one guy your age that you didn't like makes all canceled out? Imagine if you dated a older guy and you hated him too, would u rule out all guys together?
Frisby2007 once when I was 14 I date dan 18 year old. And then after we broke up I dated people of the same age and it was disturbing to see how immature they were.
probably because ur parents divorced whenever you were young or whatever, its called daddy issues ,u didnt have a fatherly figure to look up to growing up..., a therapist is what u need
I have mentioned in the past here that my partner is 36 years older than me. I wasn't looking for an older man though I had nothing against them either. I am one of the youngest men he ever dated. He didn't go after younger men. We met through a common friend and the spark was instant! I knew he was Mr Right and vice versa. We have been together for 7 years now and I haven't been happier. And yes the sex is fantastic. Much better than I had with younger, selfish, inexperienced men. We have had our bumps but managed to overcome issues. We have so much in common but enough differences to keep things fresh. Of course people wonder and probably gossip behind our backs. Lately, we have started reading each others mind a lot....lol
I am 47 and have embraced my inner daddy. My experience has been that the majority of the guys who hit on me are no older than 30. That as it is stated in the video, "I find a lot of guys my age are not interested in guys my age" to be very true, and I am ok with that. Age is just a number. Love is love and comes in all forms. To me, it's all about the attraction, commonality and how well two people get along. So, why limit yourself to an age bracket! However, it IS a little intimidating at first beig the older man because I don't know the motives of the younger guy. Is he seeking monitary generosity from me for this time and companionship, or is he wanting to date me for me as a person. When I was in my 20s, guys my age were not datable. So, I went for the older man... 35+... I NEVER looked for the sugar because I was more interested in the guy, not his wallet. To note, I don't have daddy issues. My father was present from the day I was born until I was 38, which is the age I was when he passed. To support my "age is just a number" attitude, a good friend of mine is married (legally) to somone who is 23 years his senior. They've been together for almost 20 years and are as much in love now as they were when the first started dating. My friend has even legally changed his name. My friend's 43 and his husband is 65/66.
I am 58 years old and despite my good looks was almost always rejected by guys when I was younger. I am much keenly pursued by a lot of young guys now and found the love of my life also at this age. I honestly wish that I had always been over fifty. missed so much being loved for all those younger years
We were all young once. The problem with the gay young men of today is that they don't think they will ever get old. We are all standing in a line... there is always someone younger in front of you. My point is... enjoy your life, your age, take care of yourself. I know many young men who are old and many men of youth who are still kids at hart.
Well I watched some pics of my farther and know his stories. And then I found out he is me and then I know every old people once was young before. From that time I respect those elders , understand their point , they way they talk and knowing to accept.
Back when I was a young gay man, I hated when old gay men leered at me... Now, I studiously avoid doing it. If you want to know why so many young gay men aren't all that interested in you, ask why you're not interested in men of your own generation and you'll have the answer.
It should be about attraction but the sad truth is that if you don't fit a certain look no is ever interested. When I was in my 20's no one older hit on me or younger for that matter. I went through my 30's into my late 40's and nothing changed. I think generally people go for a certain number of things that they look for in another person and there are some of us around that just don't make the first tick box. It doesn't mean to say we have nothing to offer because we do. It just means it takes us so much longer if ever to find someone. The important thing though is to remember to enjoy life and live.
For years I was attracted to older guys, now that I am 63, I feel invisible and feel sort of disrespected by younger guys forgetting guys my age tore down the walls and survived the big “A” crisis. I just have difficulty finding guys my age because I often am thought to be in my 40s and have a young spirit. I’m happy for younger guys having a much easier time than we did. I just wished more knew and respected what the boomer generation endured for them to have their freedoms.
I'm a millennial and I totally get that you all had to fight hard for what is right, regarding our society. I can never thank you enough for what you've done. And we still have to keep fighting, unfortunately, no thanks to this "President" that we have in The White House.
Bochanable And trust us, we know. We know your struggles and appreciate the fight you put up. But at the same time it doesn't mean that we have to give you the time of day, we don't need to talk to you, we don't need to send you photos, or even meet up. We don't owe you anything like that.
I've been in a relationship with a guy who is 13 years younger than I am. He's 23 and I am 35. We met at University (I'm a non-traditional student) and fell in love very quickly. We have been together for over two years now and always have something to talk about. While it's true that he may not understand some of my 80s references, he still keeps me interested and stimulated (mentally and other ways). I have always been attracted to younger guys but have not referred to myself as a "Daddy". I do not want a "boy" to take care of, I want a partner who can support himself without my help. That is why I'm so grateful that I found my current man at University rather than at a bar or on an app. Love is love and does not care about age. As long as you have a connection, mutual respect, and a common goal, love can surpass all challenges.
Falkore02 so right, I’m 35 too and my boy friend is 24, it’s really happy to find “younger me” through him, and we’re together one year and half we just met at a friend’s dinner which we fall in love later, not like my younger years, he makes me want to be “better me” not just a 35 years old “Daddy” haha good luck man!
did that guys really said that he wanted a person to bring home for Christmas but "BANG" twinks on the side, and then older gays wonder why younger gays dont want anything with them 2:21
My partner is 18 years younger then me. We have a loving relationship. We been together for five years now. I never thought I would fall in love with a younger guy. He a wonderful young man that is also caring and watches out for me.
I'm 23 and my partner is 63, have we faced difficulties? Yes. Do we regret it? No. We're tremendously happy with each other I wouldn't trade it for the world.
What's not normal about it? We live together, go on holiday together, spend time with each others families. We#re like any other couple. Age shouldn't determine love.
Benjamin Tindal No. Age shouldn't determine love, but love no matter how much you love someone you still have to be realistic and intelligent. Since you are so much older you will likely die before your lover. Don't you think they deserve something better than that? Both of you should have.
***** It's not just an age gap. If you date someone 40 years older/younger than you, there are major physiological differences. Relationships are supposed to be mutual, not just 'loving'.
I'm fully prepared for the reality that he will die before me. That doesn't bother me, We both talked a lot before we got together, What do I lose from 30 years of happiness? I'll have great memories and I'll be sad when that day comes but it would of been worth every minute. The relationship is Mutual. It's no different from what you consider a normal relationship. I think after two years in which we continue to grow stronger I don't think either of us have been stupid in our decision to live together and make a life together.
Ryan, 38: "When I was younger, I had no interest in older guys at all. And now that I feel I am an older guy...uh...I have a lot of interest in younger guys". translation: I've only ever liked young men
Age should not be an issue when it comes to falling in love. Having said that, older men who only look for much younger guys are pathetic because it seems that they do not love themselves, and younger guy who only look for much older men they are either looking to fulfill their fetishes or looking for a sugar daddy. If you fall in love with someone, you should consider yourself and your partner equal and not just look for financial or sexual benefits.
I'm 52 now, when I was in my early twenties, I was a looker. Not so much any more. I try to be a good person to all of my friends, gay or straight. Most of my friends are much younger, on both sides. Now I'm in the fifty bracket, there isn't a whole lot of action on any fronts, these days. I've been happily married for 15 of those years now. So I don't bar hop. ever. Us older men have experience to offer and that's what we should be doing. It isn't all about sex any more, but life, and living it courageously and boldly. Greetings from Montreal.
Actually when I was a teenager, I was really attracted to older men...like my friend's actual dad! I was always turned on by older guys in the porno mags. Now that I am 50, I can appreciate both older men AND younger men. Sadly, when I was a young 20-something, older gay men were dropping like flies. Young guys nowadays should consider themselves lucky...
I am not ageist. I appreciate the company and socialize with fellow gay men from all stages of life: . From young gay bros whom keep me in the know with post-modern slang, to young twenty somethings who I get lit with at clubs, to the classy but spontaneously wonderful middle aged men, and lastly to the beautiful character and soul that life has crafted therein our elder gay gentlemen.
Wow. So many misconceptions and stereotypes, both by the older and younger guys in this video. I'm 54 and my boyfriend is 24. He is well educated, has his own career, and has traveled the world. He doesn't need my "help" and doesn't want it. I don't want someone I have to pay in order to have companionship. We have an immense amount to talk about and have lots of things in common. We make a great couple, and he is the most amazing man I have ever met. Does he call me "Daddy" sometimes? Of course. I actually like it, and I call him "Boy". But it's all done in good fun. At the end of the day, I don't see him as a 20-something when I look at him, and he doesn't see me as a 54-year old. We just see one another as the person we love. We get the looks and the stares when we walk around holding hands, and we don't care. People need to mind their own business. Ageism is definitely a sad thing because you can miss out on a lot of good men because you don't want to broaden your horizons.
Hit the Nail on the head!! This is still new so things could change but I am seeing a man who is 27 and I am 40, thus far we have a lot of things in common to talk about! Like you has he called me daddy yes! but I call him daddy and he calls me his boy. He is in college has a job and is a very hard worker and go getter! I have bought him things that he has asked for and things i've wanted to give him from the heart. the things he has asked for are more care packages like cookies or snacks. I know what college is like so I have no problem doing so. He has done sweet caring things for me as well. As far as physical goes not counting my profile pic I have a full head of hair and he is almost all bald on top! Do I think he is incredibly attractive hell yes! but I am a fat old toad and if he where to read this he would say I am not a fat old toad!
Lonny Bickley age is just a number, so many things at play in a relationship, a very simple task can be a very complex issue, as long as you guys are true to each other with no other third party, you're in for the long haul, sometimes you may need to give space but trust is a major factor.
@@DarkShadow-hi3cp It's really isn't. That's like people saying the civil war was like 500 years ago or something. It really wasn't but it can feel that way I guess.
An older person that has always liked eating super healthy and working out might look much better than a younger guy. I think it's more about how you respect your body and other people, show your spirit, carry yourself, present yourself and respect yourself instead of JUST age.
PEOPLE PLEASE....... Just stop analysing and just enjoy the moments. If you meet a guy and he is hot, what difference does his age make. You fall in love with a person, not a number.
***** I'm sorry, how is my "stupidity" showing when I say you fall in love with a person and not their age? And who said anything about his skin? Have you replied to the right comment?
monk3yboy69 Unfortunately, not a whole lot of people seem to be interested in falling in love. They're only interested in falling into bed. It's a culture shock that has made me feel asexual most of my life just because I don't find that personality type to be attractive.
pcross84 Funny you should say that. I have been with my partner for 18 years, so falling in love is not something I am looking to do. LOL My good friend however is single and desperate to fall in love.....yet he only ever meets guys on Grindr for a quick fuck. The very idea of arranging a date and actually HAVING TO TALK to a man leaves him cold. LOL
monk3yboy69 Oh my, lol. I have a partner now of 9 months. It's a new relationship, but we both have so much in common--views on religion, politics, commitment, etc. but 18 years? I hope to be there someday. I'll be honest though; I think that most of my sexual hangups come from body image issues, fear of rejection and/or being used, and a constant, unavoidable confusion in my brain between sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy, i.e. love. My partner has some of the same issues, but we can both admit to loving each other and we talk about falling in love. I think my greater need is emotional stability with someone rather than a mind-blowing, earth-shattering sexual experience. If it makes any difference, I've never gone all the way with anyone. (Although as of lately, I have had sort of an 'awakening' in that department, lol). Sorry for the long reply, but I do see what you're saying. :)
It's from 2014-15 so at the time that meant he was still a Gen Xer born around 1980. (It's on the cusp of Millennials but some men that age seem very Gen Xish and just "older". It's not until 85-86 that people start seeming fully Millennial.) Plus he looked and vibed older.
I think the actual issue with age difference in dating (for me at least) has to do with aging at the same rate. If I were to date a guy who is significantly older or younger than me then as we grow old together there is a very high likelihood that one of us will die way before the other person. I don't know if I can handle that heartbreak of living a large portion of my life without the person I intended to spend the rest of my life with. Sure, there is no guarantee that dating someone around the same age as you fixes that problem, but the chances are a whole lot better.
I can totally relate I am 37 and very young acting and can't seem to attract the younger or older but it seems that the majority of the men I meet are sexually driven and I am not. I just want companionship and love... Not complicated
Same. I was 16 and I was attracted to guys in the late 20s, early thirties. My boyfriend now is 32 and I'm 23 so that's shows the obsession never died lol!
Trey C 34 is 'older' to the vain, youth-focused mentality, yeah. But yes, in the scheme of current life expectancy and physical standards, anything 20-30 should probably be considered young to some degree. Even the 40s in a way (but still more depending on individual IMO, at least until we get crazy-ass anti-aging tech 0_0).
Trey C I laughed at that too. I'm 34 too and laughed when he said "when I was growing up" or whatever. I was thinking, at the earliest, you went to your first gay club sometime in 1999. That was definitely not that long ago to already be saying "back in my day" type comments!!!! Things have not changed that much.
As a 60 year old gay men this is pathetic! Times may change but people don't ! Except when you're over 50 ! The LGBT in the gay community are their own worst enemies
Minne Man Yeah, there's tons of hot men 18-whenever. My own preference cap is 40-50, but that's probably significantly because I'm still 25, not in my 30s.
Alan Grimaldo lol -- i have a hard time with twinkdom, most twinks aren't that cute, 5 is average, and for good reason. but don't tell them that. i guess there are those that are attracted to age only, but sexy is sexy, and that doesn't have a number.
+Minne Man I get what you're saying and all, and I realize you're not passing judgement on anyone.... but look at it this way; if people could simply pick and choose what they are 'attracted' to sexually (or otherwise), why wouldn't all gay men have simply chosen to be 'straight' and find someone of the opposite sex? ...at least in previous generations when it was 10x harder to be gay or live as a gay person. ....I agree with you, all I'm saying is, attraction is actually 'complex' and not as simple as making a 'choice'.....You can't help what you're attracted to (which is why pedophilia is a psychological disorder that needs psychiatric help).....the only 'choice' we have is to not 'indulge' in our 'attraction'. For me, the solution was simple, I chose celibacy....I just stopped looking for 'dates' or other people completely. ...but I do feel sorry for men who are obsessed with finding "the right guy"- and that "right guy" happens to be completely out of their league and inaccessible. You'd have better luck being attracted to a homophobic straight man. lol
That blond guy "because of my age and my looks" here in Scandinavia where I live you get him by the dozen. Anyway the moment he opens that mouth, the magic is over
"Guys my own age don't want guys my own age." So true. I do not understand the obsession with youth in gay culture. Give me a guy at least in his thirties, when he's learned about life, and has a little more humility, stability, and understanding. You can keep your twinks.
Because if someone is a top they want to screw someone that really gets their gears moving, not someone who is similar to them and thus sort of "blah" That's why opposites attract.
I had my turn being young and pretty. I experienced feeling preyed upon by older men. It was flattering, but felt I wasn’t being appreciated for my best qualities. Being 58, I go out of my way to not come across as a wolf. There is also the fear of seeming cold. It’s a tricky balance, so it’s best just to genuinely be comfortable in my own skin and never mind any judgment that will come. We all can count on constantly being judged for whatever reason.
***** just so you know I'm a 20 year old guy with Archery, gymnastics, swimming, horse back riding, dirk back ridding background. Wink wink haha also European :P
brandonlee rushman i have always looked younger, so i have always attracted younger, but younger people are seldom very interesting. being interesting is important, you sound well rounded, so good for you. probably part of why you don't want to date 20 yr olds who are only interested in the latest Beyonce single. PS -- Jewish Lawyers are bad news.
gisforgary ugh people think I'm 16 sometimes -_- funny cause I don't hang out with people my age. I hang out with much older. Like forties and fifties. Much easier to talk to. The youngest I dated was my most recent and he was 23 going on 24. Never again!!!!! I know he's Jewish lol I'm German ;) if I tie him down and spank him is that racist xD
brandonlee rushman lol -- i started going to gay bars in the 80s when i was 15 and looked 11 and i got lots of free drugs. good times, i think, maybe. most of my long term friends from the 80s are around my age though. i'm a gypsy so i got more issues with you -- at least give me a museum or something.
We live in the era of the fast food, fast relationships, fast sex, and fast everything, the era of virtuality, I miss the times where to see a person direct to the eyes was the usual... I miss the sensitivity & empathy...
I knew I was attracted to older men when I was 18 and my Science Teacher was 38. But I had tendencies at a much younger age of 13-14 of liking older men. Around 19-22 in College. I dated men more than half my age. I was more submissive type and loved being seductive towards them. Even now years later. I prefer older men in their late 50’s to Mid 70’s.
This video totally eluded the sore topic of the ageism among our community which hurt so many older gay men who try to meet on gay apps. Its not all daddies and young twinks who wants them. Theres a lot of disrespect from younger guys towards older guys.
Agreed but I think the lack of respect is what is problematic on these apps. Exactly the same deal as with :"No Fats No Fem No Asians" bullshit. You CAN be unattracted to either of these "categories" but theres a way to say it.
I've dated bunch of men from different age and race....the problem i only run into is chemistry...and the weird thing is there always seems to be a strong chemistry between me guys who are 10-15 years older than me...when i dated guys around my age there was never really a sexual attraction but more of brother/best friend love... Idk but i can tell you that I've always be into older guys not because of "daddy culture." The best way i can put it is i like my guys just how i like my wine better with age lol
I had a serious relationship with a guy 18 years younger than I. We had some things in common which helped our relationship, personally I didn't feel there's a generation gap but I did notice with him, his selfishness & expectations are higher which I won't tolerate.
You can as long as they are gay too lol I'm engaged to mine, you just have to be lucky enough to have another gay person that you know and are attracted to
Nathen Daniel oh I am so happy for you, you had luck. I had some big crushes in highschool. alexandros, marco, simon and one guy I dont know the name of, I only saw him once. but being gay makes it so difficult, most guys are scared. I wish I could have had my experiences with those guys, and not going to scary gay clubs to look for "love" and get hiv. sigh.
Alexander Petrohv , I know it's a little late now, but eh. You'll find someone, in specific parts of the world, diversity is becoming a more and more desirable concept. You'll often find online is more fashionable these days, so it is more appropriate to look about.
I find older men very appealing and always have, since I was a teenager. However I’ve been gravitating more so towards guys my age lately. Maturity, kindness, and respect are very attractive qualities.
The oldest guy in this video is also the most cool and sorted
I agree. The fellow who is 63 and the European gentleman are the only two I'd want to hang out with.
Wanted to comment the same but you already did :)
...and the sexiest!
Or he has reached and age where he doesn’t give 3 flits about any of it. Living ones life as one sees fit is not, in whole, selfish. It is knowing who you are are where you want to be.
At 54 myself, a 25 year old holds zero interest for me. Pretty sure for most 25 year olds, the feeling is mutual.
"Sorted"
I can see the good intentions in this video, but you're categorizing a 28 yo guy as young and a 34 yo guy as old. Can you start realizing how silly is that?
👍agreed
No
RetroSupporter93 what do you mean? So what’s young? 12?
How are you doing
Thank you! Well said.
First of all, the gay standards for older and old are all over the map. Some think anything over 25 is older and 35 as old.
I still think one hard fact is in place in the queer community: the older one gets, the more invisible they become. If the only option is "daddy" culture, then that only reinforces the age related prejudice that exists in gay culture.
Also, some people want relationships, not just sex. Sex is fine, but what comes after it determines relationship potential. If you are a middle-aged gay man, the odds are very likely that you have a lot working against you if you are twice their age. It's not that it is impossible, but with each passing year it becomes more unlikely you can build on that common ground, and more likely both are to be unhappy.
I have had friends on both sides of the fence of the issue, and it is really hard to not make an ass of yourself when you are about to retire from your job and your current partner is a sophomore in university.
It's a bet you will lose.
I'm 67 and my partner is 50. We've been together 26 years. I met him when I was 41 and he was 24.... BIG DEAL.
Congratulations!!
Same-o, same-o. 49 yo here, husband is 66, just passed our 25th. Madly in love, way more than we were back then, and that's saying something. We couldn't be happier. You know it's sad, though. I took more $hit from the gay community about our age difference than I ever got from anyone else. "Daddy", "gold digger", blah, blah, blah. Depressing. We're best friends. Wouldn't trade him for the world. I just wish more young gay people could see that a good, happy, contented life spent with someone you love is worth WAY more than staying on trend.
I'm 26 and interested in men from 35 to 45 socially, emotionally, intellectually, and physically (because many who have kept in shape during their youth have actually gained a substantial amount of strength later on in life contrary to ageist beliefs).
Congrats.!
I'm 19 and my partner is 27+. We love n respect each other.
PERVERT 🤮 😡
I am 75 and gay with the recent death of my lover my age. I am not seeking a replacement - he is irreplaceable. I am thinking of starting a Vlog of the insights and experiences of an older gay man. Does anyone think there is any interest there?
I think there could be an interest
Chuck Sipes Sounds interesting.I'm 42 and I not interested in anyone younger
This comment is two years old but definitely. I learnt so much from older gay men in my youth that has stuck with me. Go for it!
Been with my guy 33 yrs .....13 yrs age gap ! I'm 57 he is 70....our love only ever got stronger !
We met when I was 25 and he was 37........I think older gays do need a link to an older sophisticated life ! .....with true connections and friends !
Hey Chuck, I'd be interested to hear your thoughts
Since when is 34 old?!
Yeah, I'm crushing on a man who is 52 years old and he is so sexy that he is ageless to me. Not too old to me
+OH Yeh! I can't, I'm not ready for marriage, I'll be ok in my 30s
"older" "old", princess.
Lick Mydeck Thirty four is old in gay years.
haha, you're right, unless it's someone who's only has a life expectancy of 50!
Growing up without a dad figure definitely impact my interest in older men.
Same
Hey
I am 43
Daddy Issue, my type of Manga
Same. My dad has passed away when i was 5 and i always get interested in older man as my figure father.
Our community should be about inclusion. Not exclusion. And don’t forget. We are all getting older. Every year.
Except for Ryan Philippe
And Cher. Time waits for her and holds the door open
True.... 💗💗💗😘
if you're lucky
I am sorry to say that the idea of a gay community is a myth as you rightly point out we are all getting older .The young in general have no respect for the older guy.s there just treated as dirty old perv.s Its a great time to be gay if your in your teens after that your on the shelf .
Levi has been 22 for a while but ok
Yeah, like maybe 10 years.
haha Ik right
@Josue2018 porn star is really the brown dwarf of stars though, it's not really a star, but it's not really Tyrion Lannister either....
Plus we've all lamented at one point or another that the TRULY hot guys never do porn.
His name isn’t even Levi. His Instagram is “rustincharles”
If he is 22... Oof, he is not going to age well.
I'm gay, and this video is a great example of why I can't stand most of my own kind.
same
Same. So much cringe...
Exactly
AMEN
Bruh you spoke my mind bro
I'm 34 n my man is 54 been together for 5 years and I love him to death
That is really sweet. I hope you two are very happy. :)
Pedo Bear I'm 47 and my partner of twenty years is 74, and we love each other to death. The guy in the comment above has at least 20 years to go before death. What a pathetic thing of you to say.
Pedo Bear LOL that was the funniest comment I read today. It was awful but LOL on you, mate.
Pedo Bear That got me burst out laughing so badly, but it's kinda mean though if he really loves him that much. LOL!
Pedo Bear make it 2 tickets cause my bf will need one too. You Internet tolls bother no one. I love dick get over it
The younger guys in this video seem very stuck on themselves. The one who said, "I've been given a lot of offers because of my looks and my age," really isn't very good looking. Wake up, young people. You will realize before you know it that you are 30, then 45, then 60. It happens in the blink of an eye.
RetroSupporter93 and being of 25 is considered old???
True this why I'm open to many legal ages no need to be stuck up lol
If they re lucky
You are very wise you hit the hammer right on the head 🎉🎉🎉
You can't blame a younger guy for not being interested in old guys. If you're not interested, then you're not interested. Older gays will absolutely fall all over themselves in the presence of young twinks. So of course they let it go to their heads.
This is a really interesting video. When I was 25, I used to really like guys in their 40s and 50s for some reason...I think it was mostly because they were better spoken, were a little classier, but also because older men just looked more like men (as opposed to boys). Oddly, now that I’m 45, it seems like the guys who seem to show the most interest in me are in their early to mid-20s...but they’re usually just nice eye candy to me and I don’t have much attraction to them. Some of them are very mature, very well spoken, and quite intelligent...but I just don’t get excited by them. At 45, I’m actually noticing that I like guys 10-15 years my senior. I’ve had people tell me that I probably have/had issues with my own dad...but it was actually the opposite. My dad was a blue collar worker who took my brother and I fishing and crabbing, we used to work on my truck together (he taught me to change my oil when I was in high school), and he was your typical American man. When I came out to him, the first, and only, question he asked me was, “are you happy with your boyfriend?”...and when I said, “yeah”, he replied with, “that’s all that matters to me, and that’s all that should matter to any parent.” So I definitely didn’t have any dad issues.
PS - yes, that’s a current picture. One of the perks of being Japanese...you look young for quite a while. Hehe.
My experience is that privately, young men love older men but publicly, there is a stigma so they don't admit it. I admire most the young men who can and do.
Levi is 22?!?! The fuck?!?! I thought he was in his 30s.
***** no way. he will be 21.
***** I know, his skin is not looking good for someone of that age.
***** He could be Ryan's twin and Robert's kid bro.
He's not 22. He's an actor in NYC. All of these guys are. This whole thing is scripted.
***** ok
38 is OLD? Good grief! Wait till you're 77! But I had some great gay experiences. When I was in my 20's in the 1960's, I also felt anyone over 30 was ancient! I love the comment of the guy in the video who said he liked to be in a relationship, but to be able to bang twinks on the side! Hilarious! I feel the same! Nice video. BTW, I am part of a small group of older gay guys who get together for lunch once a month and swap stories. Our ages range from 48 to 95, and include several survivors of long-term relationships, 3 of which lasted over 50 years. Lots of experiences to share! The lunch idea, to me, is a great one. After all, we will not always be around to get together.
When I was 19 I was grossed out by anyone over 21. A friend of mine who really liked me was 28 and he was gross to me but he gave me his "just the tip" speech and, having not heard that one before, I thought it a reasonable request.
you are 77? you look so fine
i hope i can meet someone someone like like your age i really want matured guys that i can be my partner,friend,dad,buddy in short my everything.
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i hope i meet him soon in jesus named.
When I was young I had no interest in older men and now as a 49 year old man, I have no interest in anyone younger than 40.
Kenneth Maese Agreed. Well..., maybe 37! But I'm so tired of teenagers & twenty-somethings that believe everyone wants to fuck them--or worse, BE them. Twenty-five years ago, no one I knew thought middle-aged men were pining away for us or wanted to BE us. It's a little creepy. Girls and straight boys today are the same way, so it's not exclusively a gay thing .
Amen brother!
i use to think that way but that changed when i dated a younger guy-its down to chemistry for me
I love you for saying that!
I can relate. I think the perfect age is 28 for looks and charisma as an adult man. But for actual interaction, anything less than about 34 just feels like babysitting. Its not their fault. Twenty-somethings are cute or hot, but they just don't 'get it' until they are nearing 30 or over.
Julian is right. Most Guys in the 40's have no interest in other guys in the 40's-50's.
I've been in love once. He pursued me for about three months and I had NO clue of his interest. He was 22 and I was 48. After about 15 or so months, we decided to marry and we were the first same-gender couple in the Continental United States to file a Federal suit for marriage equality, against the AG of Arizona and the Clerk of the Pima County Court - the date was 1993.
it wont last
william f and why is that?
@@jasonpotter4870 males life expectancy is very short sadly compared to females , hence why sadly
@@williamf4544idiot
Congratulations to both of you ❤
I am 21 years old & I don't care about the age .
all guys & men are cute ^_^
love y'all
Edmund Ray Valentine love you too.handsom man
Edmund Ray Valentine Julian is fine as fuck oohhhh !
Well that's good because looking at your profile it looks like you're in your 30s at least, lmao
Edmund Ray Valentine you are truly special. Beautiful outside but that heart is even more beautiful. Wonderful attitude
Edmund Ray Valentine I agree with you, I too don’t care about age, it’s about the chemistry, attraction between two people that counts. Have to say, from your profile pic. Damn! You’re HOT! 🔥
omg, the 63 year old is one of the best looking, if only that were more common
His Italian descent
I'm older and quite frankly I think it's turn off when a guy can't or doesn't want to take care of himself.
Hi r you looking for a man I AM 💌💌
I mean i considered Robert and james both very attractive.Robert is 63 and he's still got it!
Izzy Rebel lion Sexy is more than just a veneer, its why i hate going to clubs where people think sexy is just a veneer. Robert and James are ok with who they are, and that is sexy. Trying to be something you aren't isn't.
Izzy Rebel lion yeah he was handsome.
gisforgary oh I completely agree it's all about presentation and I found them both to very honest and i felt comfortable to listening to them. In all honesty one of the guys completely turned me off but it had to do with how his attitude was.
Izzy Rebel lion the twinkie chaser wasn't exactly my cup of tea -- but Robert does what I tell everyone they should do -- learn how to dress yourself, find a good barber, don't let yourself go.
i don't know why so many people in the gay community can't dress themselves. they see someone with a different body type and think it looks good, but, um.
*Even though I'm 18, I'm only attracted to older guys, who are in their 30s and 40s. I don't like stereotyping but most younger ones are very immature and make a big deal out of anything. I prefer older, kind of hairy and romantic dudes.*
Nice.. I like younger men also are drama free, respectful and independent. Wish i could find that PERSON soon
Same here
I'm 47 and my taste in men has aged with me. My partner is 55 and Very Fine. I'm happy to know the young 'uns are having fun, but I have zero interest in hooking up with any of them.
Ageism is a very sad thing. Back when we all needed each other, we had friendships. Now that gay people are more accepted, the "need" for us to all stick together is gone and old people are no longer needed. Whereas all straight men think all gay people want them, all young gay people think that all old gay people want them. Sad.
+yescandles
Sad but true.
+yescandles 5 years ago I answered a young mans ad. He was looking for friends. I have always believed age doesn't matter when it comes to real friendships; "real" being the key word. I have always had young friends in my life. The young man was 19 years old. I was 67. I am gay; he is straight. I told him upfront that I was that age and gay when I answered his ad. We met and today we have an unbelievable friendship. I mean it is the best; It's the way friendship is supposed to be.
Just to let you know I am not your typical 72 year old man. I feel like a teenager. Being around young folks helps keep you young. So I just say to you...don't let age be a factor. Beautiful friendships can happen between any age. I treasure this one with my young friend, and so does he.
+yescandles "all young gay people think that old gay people want them" sounds like ageism lel
+Aaron Fyfe It also sounds terribly narrow-minded and is an astonishing generalization. I wish that people would think carefully before posting such comments. I am fairly certain that perhaps SOME young gay people think along those lines, but surely not "ALL".
Johnny Gainor Of course young people think that way, not every young person can be expected to be mature, same can be said of older generations. I'm sure there are some "daddies" out there who think all young people want them! ;)
In what bizarre alternate reality is 34 considered "older?"
Someone mentioned Millennials. The oldest Millenials are turning 35.
Millenials are roughly the generation between the Aids crisis and 9/11. The cut off is 1981 - 2001. Anyone born later in the 2000s is not a Millenial.
The Millennial generation (Generation Y) directly follows Generation X strictly speaking. Gen X are the Baby Boomers.
As for my usage, demographers and researchers frequently use historical events to classify generations.
Nicholas Rue the generation spans are crazy. I'm considered a Gen X'er, and my son a millennial, but I'm only a few years older than 35.
Nicholas Rue that's such a wide range. I was/am a young mom, but it's strange to see that my son and I are only a year off in being in the same generation. We do feel that we "grew up together," though.
Actually millennial means late 90s and 2000s not 80s lmao
The only nice looking guy in this interview is the oldest guy 63. The rest are not at all attractive.
bitch
Levi is ugly lol. He's 22
I couldn't agree more. He's so handsome.
And for those young guys who pull faces about, talk badly about and put older gay men down, just remember one thing - you would not have the freedom to live your life as openly as a gay person today, if it wasn't for the hell-fire the older gay generation worked their guts out to put out for you.
tyamada21 They'll also be old one day and they'll be on the receiving end too!
tyamada21 Absolutely! And then for those who are worthy 'cause will have its effect'.
not necessarily. we had our own revolution as well.
@@kevin4227 Plus that!!!!
Also they will be old one day too
Watching this video reminded me of my teenage years a lot. I never developed an attraction to guys close to my age range and younger. I like mature guys because I wanna feel young and safe. Fortunately, my husband is 10 years older than I am and I am happy with him everyday.
Hey, i have a lot questions but i met someone who is 6 years older than me but i am hesitating to enter a relationship with him…. If i can ask you some questions it would be great…. Stay in touch
❤
I have found the best, most wonderful relationship with someone 21 years younger than myself. And the best part is, we have a TON in common and never run out of things to talk about.
impossible
Gurl, the struggle IS real.
The 22 year old easily looks 30.
Omg yeah
What's his name??? :)
he is Levi, from randy blue :)
heay he looks 30 and also very cocky! He said ive gotten offers to live life easy cuz of my looks and age! Seriously? hahaha His eyes are soo droopy that i have to put on the airco just to stop them from drooping even more! His mouth is shaped like an upside down triangle with weird looking teeth. The only nice thing about him is his haircolor.
Brusel Christophe Thank you.
I've always liked older guys, they were not as shallow and flighty. Now that I'm 40, any of the guys my age are finally maturing LOL
The guy named Levi who's 22 could easily pass of someone in their 30s. For a young guy, he looks like he was put through a ringer.
berjaboy well, he is a porn star :p
I apologize i should have aid a majority are shallow - I should not have included all of us gay people.
What has being a porn star got to do with ageing??
I'm shallow but aware that I ain't no porn star either.
+myname iskoffzz - Everyone knows that masturbating too much / having too much sex makes you go bald and grow hair on the back of your hands and feet!
He does look rather......................rugged.
I was never into younger guys before this and still am not, just one. My fiancé is 23 and I am 42. We have plenty to talk about at the end of the day. The world is chocked full of so many wonderful things to talk about and learn. People tell us all the time that we are such a beautiful couple and the age thing does not matter. It never even comes up! It did at first because I had my doubts but I am glad that I gave it a chance.
As someone over 60, the one thing I would tell anyone younger - and that means all types - is that youth in itself is attractive. It is far from the only attractive thing, but youth in all its qualities, including energy, optimism, health, curiosity (and all as much as looks), is attractive. What you make of those things is up to you; there are definitely young people who walk through life with a frown and an attitude, and no matter how beautiful are as appealing as yesterday's leftovers. But it is worth knowing that your youth is an asset far outside the bedroom. I've also found that there are as many plain people as pretty ones who will only give the time of day to those they feel meet some standard of beauty. If you think your potential to attract others is truly dependent on looks, and you don't think you're scoring because of it, one thing we know is that healthy gay men can always increase their physical attractiveness at the gym. A hot bod is a hot bod. But of course having one won't make your life great if you haven't gotten past liking yourself and others for more than that.
I'm a 52 year old gay man and I consider anyone under 40 too young for me.
I have a love for older white men.
Thick amd long, to fuck me, anal orgasm. Im usually a bottom wanting deep, hard, intense pounding,
2:03. Did he really say because of his LOOKS? He's not that cute.
JakobTennisMB Levi is a professional porn actor, so some people definitely like his looks.
JakobTennisMB Hallelujah! He is not cute at all
JakobTennisMB i was thinking the same ,bitch please!!!!, he needs to visit the dentist like righ now ,don't flatter yourself
JakobTennisMB Oh please Levi is cute as hell and you know it
not really
I was 19 years old & fell in LOVE with a man who was 34 year old. I'm 25 now & I will not love any man below the age of 32. Older men are much, MUCH better to be with. Besides the experience, it's all about how well rebounded they are, & they know what they want in life. I dated a guy my age once & it was the worst. I just cannot date a man who isn't well above my age. I've just always loved men who were older than me. My current date is above his 40s & I could give less of a shit, he's the sweetest thing.
Love is love. Europeans seem to understand this concept better.
Frisby2007 just because you dated one guy your age that you didn't like makes all canceled out? Imagine if you dated a older guy and you hated him too, would u rule out all guys together?
Frisby2007 once when I was 14 I date dan 18 year old. And then after we broke up I dated people of the same age and it was disturbing to see how immature they were.
That was a pretty rough 22 years there.
I'm 25 and I'm totally into daddies.
Men over 30 have been my ideal men since I was a teen.
probably because ur parents divorced whenever you were young or whatever, its called daddy issues ,u didnt have a fatherly figure to look up to growing up..., a therapist is what u need
★Fabss★ i've always had a dad, i just always felt attracted to older men, since i was 12
For me is the same when I am 18 , I am into older men. Now I am 42 I am more into younger men, I find them more simple and pure in mind
vincent leung I've been into older men since i was about 17 i just think there more mature then guys my age and im 21
Me too
I have mentioned in the past here that my partner is 36 years older than me. I wasn't looking for an older man though I had nothing against them either. I am one of the youngest men he ever dated. He didn't go after younger men. We met through a common friend and the spark was instant! I knew he was Mr Right and vice versa.
We have been together for 7 years now and I haven't been happier. And yes the sex is fantastic. Much better than I had with younger, selfish, inexperienced men. We have had our bumps but managed to overcome issues. We have so much in common but enough differences to keep things fresh. Of course people wonder and probably gossip behind our backs.
Lately, we have started reading each others mind a lot....lol
Are you still together ❤️
I am 47 and have embraced my inner daddy. My experience has been that the majority of the guys who hit on me are no older than 30. That as it is stated in the video, "I find a lot of guys my age are not interested in guys my age" to be very true, and I am ok with that.
Age is just a number. Love is love and comes in all forms. To me, it's all about the attraction, commonality and how well two people get along. So, why limit yourself to an age bracket! However, it IS a little intimidating at first beig the older man because I don't know the motives of the younger guy. Is he seeking monitary generosity from me for this time and companionship, or is he wanting to date me for me as a person.
When I was in my 20s, guys my age were not datable. So, I went for the older man... 35+... I NEVER looked for the sugar because I was more interested in the guy, not his wallet. To note, I don't have daddy issues. My father was present from the day I was born until I was 38, which is the age I was when he passed.
To support my "age is just a number" attitude, a good friend of mine is married (legally) to somone who is 23 years his senior. They've been together for almost 20 years and are as much in love now as they were when the first started dating. My friend has even legally changed his name. My friend's 43 and his husband is 65/66.
I am 58 years old and despite my good looks was almost always rejected by guys when I was younger. I am much keenly pursued by a lot of young guys now and found the love of my life also at this age. I honestly wish that I had always been over fifty. missed so much being loved for all those younger years
We were all young once. The problem with the gay young men of today is that they don't think they will ever get old. We are all standing in a line... there is always someone younger in front of you. My point is... enjoy your life, your age, take care of yourself. I know many young men who are old and many men of youth who are still kids at hart.
Well I watched some pics of my farther and know his stories. And then I found out he is me and then I know every old people once was young before. From that time I respect those elders , understand their point , they way they talk and knowing to accept.
Absolutely! Love is love is love is love. IF two people connect (despite their ages), and TRULY love one another, there’s nothing wrong with it.
Back when I was a young gay man, I hated when old gay men leered at me... Now, I studiously avoid doing it. If you want to know why so many young gay men aren't all that interested in you, ask why you're not interested in men of your own generation and you'll have the answer.
preach!
It should be about attraction but the sad truth is that if you don't fit a certain look no is ever interested. When I was in my 20's no one older hit on me or younger for that matter. I went through my 30's into my late 40's and nothing changed. I think generally people go for a certain number of things that they look for in another person and there are some of us around that just don't make the first tick box. It doesn't mean to say we have nothing to offer because we do. It just means it takes us so much longer if ever to find someone. The important thing though is to remember to enjoy life and live.
For years I was attracted to older guys, now that I am 63, I feel invisible and feel sort of disrespected by younger guys forgetting guys my age tore down the walls and survived the big “A” crisis. I just have difficulty finding guys my age because I often am thought to be in my 40s and have a young spirit.
I’m happy for younger guys having a much easier time than we did.
I just wished more knew and respected what the boomer generation endured for them to have their freedoms.
same here, often mistaken for 40's and yet THAT is considered too old
I'm a millennial and I totally get that you all had to fight hard for what is right, regarding our society. I can never thank you enough for what you've done. And we still have to keep fighting, unfortunately, no thanks to this "President" that we have in The White House.
Bochanable And trust us, we know. We know your struggles and appreciate the fight you put up. But at the same time it doesn't mean that we have to give you the time of day, we don't need to talk to you, we don't need to send you photos, or even meet up. We don't owe you anything like that.
@@jzwalz51robin45 am the 48
I'm 37 and my boyfriend of almost 4 years now is 58. My parents who are both 59 years old love him. We will be married soon.
Congratulations! We have been married now for 2 years
@@MattandEric ,Congratulations! Married six,together 29 years!♥️
@@michaelgaynor6866 wow! That is so awsome! Thank you for sharing michael🙏
Congratulations I'm 59 my husband 49 been together 22 years I'm his best friend easy going never argue about money that's my secret.
@@michaelgaynor6866 we have been together 4 years but looking forward to many more😃29 years👍❤congratulations
I've been in a relationship with a guy who is 13 years younger than I am. He's 23 and I am 35. We met at University (I'm a non-traditional student) and fell in love very quickly. We have been together for over two years now and always have something to talk about. While it's true that he may not understand some of my 80s references, he still keeps me interested and stimulated (mentally and other ways).
I have always been attracted to younger guys but have not referred to myself as a "Daddy". I do not want a "boy" to take care of, I want a partner who can support himself without my help. That is why I'm so grateful that I found my current man at University rather than at a bar or on an app.
Love is love and does not care about age. As long as you have a connection, mutual respect, and a common goal, love can surpass all challenges.
Falkore02 so right, I’m 35 too and my boy friend is 24, it’s really happy to find “younger me” through him, and we’re together one year and half we just met at a friend’s dinner which we fall in love later, not like my younger years, he makes me want to be “better me” not just a 35 years old “Daddy” haha good luck man!
how is that pedophile???? none of the guys mentioned in this comment are below 18, duh
Are you two still together?
@@josephr.gainey2079 We've now been together 10 years. We just got married to make it all official. But yes, still together v
@@Falkore02 I'm so happy for the two of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
did that guys really said that he wanted a person to bring home for Christmas but "BANG" twinks on the side, and then older gays wonder why younger gays dont want anything with them 2:21
Trueee, that weirded me out actually.
When you become an adult you’ll understand what he meant.
Holy shit some of the younger guys look older than the so called older guys woah
2:47 what that guy said was interesting, "the people who are most alive, are people where now is the most important thing in their lives."
My partner is 18 years younger then me. We have a loving relationship. We been together for five years now. I never thought I would fall in love with a younger guy. He a wonderful young man that is also caring and watches out for me.
YOU are very Lucky!
Just stopped by to say that Levi is the worst. bye.
Matthew Hager LOL diva :P
Matthew Hager Amen !
Alan Grimaldo He's an excessive moaner :x
Matthew Hager Yeah just to ask but have you met levi?
LaArana Wolfson That's why I'm personally not into high-end porn, too much overacting.
I'm 23 and my partner is 63, have we faced difficulties? Yes. Do we regret it? No. We're tremendously happy with each other I wouldn't trade it for the world.
Benjamin Tindal that's just not normal O.O
I can't
What's not normal about it? We live together, go on holiday together, spend time with each others families. We#re like any other couple. Age shouldn't determine love.
Benjamin Tindal
No. Age shouldn't determine love, but love no matter how much you love someone you still have to be realistic and intelligent. Since you are so much older you will likely die before your lover. Don't you think they deserve something better than that?
Both of you should have.
*****
It's not just an age gap. If you date someone 40 years older/younger than you, there are major physiological differences. Relationships are supposed to be mutual, not just 'loving'.
I'm fully prepared for the reality that he will die before me. That doesn't bother me, We both talked a lot before we got together, What do I lose from 30 years of happiness? I'll have great memories and I'll be sad when that day comes but it would of been worth every minute. The relationship is Mutual. It's no different from what you consider a normal relationship. I think after two years in which we continue to grow stronger I don't think either of us have been stupid in our decision to live together and make a life together.
Ryan, 38: "When I was younger, I had no interest in older guys at all. And now that I feel I am an older guy...uh...I have a lot of interest in younger guys".
translation: I've only ever liked young men
If you're young, white, cute, have fit body, you have it made in the gay world.
im not white and get along quite well. the gay world isnt THAT narrow minded.
Im mixed and i fit in fine. Why you trying to stereotype.
Dustin Yx.
Yes it is. It's more narrow then you think.
Ktoma7 maybe its more narrow than i think and not as narrow as you think.
Dustin Yx.
Eh, it's pretty narrow, especially here in the SF
Age should not be an issue when it comes to falling in love. Having said that, older men who only look for much younger guys are pathetic because it seems that they do not love themselves, and younger guy who only look for much older men they are either looking to fulfill their fetishes or looking for a sugar daddy. If you fall in love with someone, you should consider yourself and your partner equal and not just look for financial or sexual benefits.
It's nice to hear different perspectives. As for me, love knows no age. :)
@Joseph Benhur hi r you looking for a boyfriend I am looking for you💬💬💋💕🌹🌹🌹
Yes..but since when is gay life about love? Overwhelmingly, it's about sex, vanity, and youth..
Age does not matter! Love is love. Two people can connect and have lots to talk about even with an age gap.
True but it’s kind of weird that a man who’s 40 is trying to be with someone’s who’s 18.
You guys are the biggest example. Thank you.
Alexa Castillo it is not weird that was what many thought about gays
wyo russ So true 💋xx
wyo russ Hi 😁😁😁😁 I Love you guys
Makes me think of Bianca and Adore tbh.
+Bug jesus, get over the show..my god.
myjfff I will never get over the show, I don't want to and I don't have to. Thanks!
+myjfff SAID NO ONE EVER
I'm 52 now, when I was in my early twenties, I was a looker. Not so much any more. I try to be a good person to all of my friends, gay or straight. Most of my friends are much younger, on both sides. Now I'm in the fifty bracket, there isn't a whole lot of action on any fronts, these days. I've been happily married for 15 of those years now. So I don't bar hop. ever. Us older men have experience to offer and that's what we should be doing. It isn't all about sex any more, but life, and living it courageously and boldly. Greetings from Montreal.
Actually when I was a teenager, I was really attracted to older men...like my friend's actual dad! I was always turned on by older guys in the porno mags. Now that I am 50, I can appreciate both older men AND younger men.
Sadly, when I was a young 20-something, older gay men were dropping like flies. Young guys nowadays should consider themselves lucky...
I feel the same way. I’m 42 and I like both older and younger now
This is not commentary on gay guys but on gay guys on grindr. In the real world, no one cares.
+Tony Dreher ---The phenomenon is much older than grinder.
i disagree sorry , this has been around way longer than the age of vapid e dating
well hello there
I am not ageist. I appreciate the company and socialize with fellow gay men from all stages of life:
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From young gay bros whom keep me in the know with post-modern slang, to young twenty somethings who I get lit with at clubs, to the classy but spontaneously wonderful middle aged men, and lastly to the beautiful character and soul that life has crafted therein our elder gay gentlemen.
Wow. So many misconceptions and stereotypes, both by the older and younger guys in this video. I'm 54 and my boyfriend is 24. He is well educated, has his own career, and has traveled the world. He doesn't need my "help" and doesn't want it. I don't want someone I have to pay in order to have companionship. We have an immense amount to talk about and have lots of things in common. We make a great couple, and he is the most amazing man I have ever met.
Does he call me "Daddy" sometimes? Of course. I actually like it, and I call him "Boy". But it's all done in good fun.
At the end of the day, I don't see him as a 20-something when I look at him, and he doesn't see me as a 54-year old. We just see one another as the person we love.
We get the looks and the stares when we walk around holding hands, and we don't care. People need to mind their own business. Ageism is definitely a sad thing because you can miss out on a lot of good men because you don't want to broaden your horizons.
that sounds really amazing hope you two are still together >.
Hit the Nail on the head!! This is still new so things could change but I am seeing a man who is 27 and I am 40, thus far we have a lot of things in common to talk about! Like you has he called me daddy yes! but I call him daddy and he calls me his boy.
He is in college has a job and is a very hard worker and go getter! I have bought him things that he has asked for and things i've wanted to give him from the heart. the things he has asked for are more care packages like cookies or snacks. I know what college is like so I have no problem doing so.
He has done sweet caring things for me as well.
As far as physical goes not counting my profile pic I have a full head of hair and he is almost all bald on top! Do I think he is incredibly attractive hell yes! but I am a fat old toad and if he where to read this he would say I am not a fat old toad!
My partner of 21 yrs. together was 13 yrs. younger than me. Sadly he died at 47. We were the big loves of each other's lives.
Lonny Bickley age is just a number, so many things at play in a relationship, a very simple task can be a very complex issue, as long as you guys are true to each other with no other third party, you're in for the long haul, sometimes you may need to give space but trust is a major factor.
let's face reality. it's just a fact that a big majority of males are into younger people. unfortunately.
I would say that age doesn't bother me, but the way you act does. I value maturity, at any age.
I'm 55 and completely invisible in the LGBT community.
I'm 63 years old.....Fuck em!
@@michaelgaynor6866 hi r you looking for a boyfriend I am💬💬💬💋💕🌹🌹🌹
I love how two of the "young" guys are 27, and one of the "old" guys is 34. A whole seven years difference.
Jason C. Parker amateurs lol
34 is so ancient. They must have found him in a pyramid - lol. I am 34 twice + 2.
7 years is a long time.
@@DarkShadow-hi3cp It's really isn't. That's like people saying the civil war was like 500 years ago or something. It really wasn't but it can feel that way I guess.
"Why Older Guys couldn't give a shit what younger guys think about them..."
"People who are most alive... are people whoa are, now is the most interesting thing in their lives."
An older person that has always liked eating super healthy and working out might look much better than a younger guy. I think it's more about how you respect your body and other people, show your spirit, carry yourself, present yourself and respect yourself instead of JUST age.
Dan, u r right. I've been into fitness since I was seventeen. This is my lifestyle.
PEOPLE PLEASE.......
Just stop analysing and just enjoy the moments. If you meet a guy and he is hot, what difference does his age make.
You fall in love with a person, not a number.
***** I'm sorry, how is my "stupidity" showing when I say you fall in love with a person and not their age?
And who said anything about his skin? Have you replied to the right comment?
***** I take it you have always had bad skin and now that you're getting older people look at you and think you are a lizard alien living among us
monk3yboy69 Unfortunately, not a whole lot of people seem to be interested in falling in love. They're only interested in falling into bed. It's a culture shock that has made me feel asexual most of my life just because I don't find that personality type to be attractive.
pcross84 Funny you should say that. I have been with my partner for 18 years, so falling in love is not something I am looking to do. LOL
My good friend however is single and desperate to fall in love.....yet he only ever meets guys on Grindr for a quick fuck. The very idea of arranging a date and actually HAVING TO TALK to a man leaves him cold. LOL
monk3yboy69 Oh my, lol. I have a partner now of 9 months. It's a new relationship, but we both have so much in common--views on religion, politics, commitment, etc. but 18 years? I hope to be there someday. I'll be honest though; I think that most of my sexual hangups come from body image issues, fear of rejection and/or being used, and a constant, unavoidable confusion in my brain between sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy, i.e. love. My partner has some of the same issues, but we can both admit to loving each other and we talk about falling in love. I think my greater need is emotional stability with someone rather than a mind-blowing, earth-shattering sexual experience. If it makes any difference, I've never gone all the way with anyone. (Although as of lately, I have had sort of an 'awakening' in that department, lol).
Sorry for the long reply, but I do see what you're saying. :)
The fact that you categorize a 34 year old as an old man says more about the story you are trying to tell than the actual content you posted.
It's from 2014-15 so at the time that meant he was still a Gen Xer born around 1980. (It's on the cusp of Millennials but some men that age seem very Gen Xish and just "older". It's not until 85-86 that people start seeming fully Millennial.) Plus he looked and vibed older.
the fact that younger dating older are all gold diggers is just a stereotype. I'm not a gold digger at least
I think the actual issue with age difference in dating (for me at least) has to do with aging at the same rate. If I were to date a guy who is significantly older or younger than me then as we grow old together there is a very high likelihood that one of us will die way before the other person. I don't know if I can handle that heartbreak of living a large portion of my life without the person I intended to spend the rest of my life with. Sure, there is no guarantee that dating someone around the same age as you fixes that problem, but the chances are a whole lot better.
I can totally relate I am 37 and very young acting and can't seem to attract the younger or older but it seems that the majority of the men I meet are sexually driven and I am not. I just want companionship and love... Not complicated
Make a fb page, or find one I'm sure you wil meet someone ❤️
Since I was like a teen I was only interested in older dudes... not sure why
Alan Grimaldo I would always flirt with my coaches and teachers :P
halifaxx55 Totally my life.
Same. I was 16 and I was attracted to guys in the late 20s, early thirties. My boyfriend now is 32 and I'm 23 so that's shows the obsession never died lol!
Diego Bertolucci well you kinda cute, I'll make an exception for you ;)
halifaxx55 I can imagine 15 years old fantasising 30 years old. But not 30 years old doing the same for 45.
There is a critical limit.
So 34 is older.... Jeezzz
Trey C 34 is 'older' to the vain, youth-focused mentality, yeah. But yes, in the scheme of current life expectancy and physical standards, anything 20-30 should probably be considered young to some degree. Even the 40s in a way (but still more depending on individual IMO, at least until we get crazy-ass anti-aging tech 0_0).
Trey C I laughed at that too. I'm 34 too and laughed when he said "when I was growing up" or whatever. I was thinking, at the earliest, you went to your first gay club sometime in 1999. That was definitely not that long ago to already be saying "back in my day" type comments!!!! Things have not changed that much.
As a 60 year old gay men this is pathetic! Times may change but people don't ! Except when you're over 50 ! The LGBT in the gay community are their own worst enemies
I feel sorry for men that are in their mid 30s and up who only are attracted to younger men. They're missing out!
Minne Man Yeah, there's tons of hot men 18-whenever. My own preference cap is 40-50, but that's probably significantly because I'm still 25, not in my 30s.
Alan Grimaldo lol -- i have a hard time with twinkdom, most twinks aren't that cute, 5 is average, and for good reason. but don't tell them that. i guess there are those that are attracted to age only, but sexy is sexy, and that doesn't have a number.
Try telling that to the people who think only white guys are attractive.
*****
+Minne Man I get what you're saying and all, and I realize you're not passing judgement on anyone.... but look at it this way; if people could simply pick and choose what they are 'attracted' to sexually (or otherwise), why wouldn't all gay men have simply chosen to be 'straight' and find someone of the opposite sex? ...at least in previous generations when it was 10x harder to be gay or live as a gay person. ....I agree with you, all I'm saying is, attraction is actually 'complex' and not as simple as making a 'choice'.....You can't help what you're attracted to (which is why pedophilia is a psychological disorder that needs psychiatric help).....the only 'choice' we have is to not 'indulge' in our 'attraction'. For me, the solution was simple, I chose celibacy....I just stopped looking for 'dates' or other people completely. ...but I do feel sorry for men who are obsessed with finding "the right guy"- and that "right guy" happens to be completely out of their league and inaccessible. You'd have better luck being attracted to a homophobic straight man. lol
That blond guy "because of my age and my looks" here in Scandinavia where I live you get him by the dozen. Anyway the moment he opens that mouth, the magic is over
Most young guys nowadays love their phones more than they will ever love another guy - sad but true
as long as everyone in the relationship is a consenting adult, i don’t see why age should matter.
I agree.
"Guys my own age don't want guys my own age." So true. I do not understand the obsession with youth in gay culture. Give me a guy at least in his thirties, when he's learned about life, and has a little more humility, stability, and understanding. You can keep your twinks.
Ha. "The older you get, the younger they get!"
Because if someone is a top they want to screw someone that really gets their gears moving, not someone who is similar to them and thus sort of "blah" That's why opposites attract.
@@istvanpraha Just say it... Men are attracted to youth straight or gay. Stop trying to sugar coat it. That's why hugh hefner was a thing.
So nice to hear different opinions!
Levi Carter: "I've been given plenty of offers just because of my looks..."
REALLY? Carter looks like he was hit by a truck.
meeeeeeeeeeeow
He never really expressed what the offers were for! Ie: let’s hook up? Get out of way you’re blocking my view! Cash or charge
Sbt! Sad but true
There’s no need to be nasty about it.
Savage
"I've been given plenty of offers just because of my looks and age..". Uhmm, you aren't even hot.
I had my turn being young and pretty. I experienced feeling preyed upon by older men. It was flattering, but felt I wasn’t being appreciated for my best qualities. Being 58, I go out of my way to not come across as a wolf. There is also the fear of seeming cold. It’s a tricky balance, so it’s best just to genuinely be comfortable in my own skin and never mind any judgment that will come. We all can count on constantly being judged for whatever reason.
I'm 20 and I don't date younger. I talk to guys 27 and up
Same
***** just so you know I'm a 20 year old guy with Archery, gymnastics, swimming, horse back riding, dirk back ridding background. Wink wink haha also European :P
brandonlee rushman i have always looked younger, so i have always attracted younger, but younger people are seldom very interesting. being interesting is important, you sound well rounded, so good for you. probably part of why you don't want to date 20 yr olds who are only interested in the latest Beyonce single. PS -- Jewish Lawyers are bad news.
gisforgary ugh people think I'm 16 sometimes -_- funny cause I don't hang out with people my age. I hang out with much older. Like forties and fifties. Much easier to talk to. The youngest I dated was my most recent and he was 23 going on 24. Never again!!!!! I know he's Jewish lol I'm German ;) if I tie him down and spank him is that racist xD
brandonlee rushman lol -- i started going to gay bars in the 80s when i was 15 and looked 11 and i got lots of free drugs. good times, i think, maybe. most of my long term friends from the 80s are around my age though. i'm a gypsy so i got more issues with you -- at least give me a museum or something.
We live in the era of the fast food, fast relationships, fast sex, and fast everything, the era of virtuality, I miss the times where to see a person direct to the eyes was the usual... I miss the sensitivity & empathy...
I knew I was attracted to older men when I was 18 and my Science Teacher was 38. But I had tendencies at a much younger age of 13-14 of liking older men. Around 19-22 in College. I dated men more than half my age. I was more submissive type and loved being seductive towards them. Even now years later. I prefer older men in their late 50’s to Mid 70’s.
I love the British guy. He looks like a sweet Chubby cheeked cat.
This video totally eluded the sore topic of the ageism among our community which hurt so many older gay men who try to meet on gay apps. Its not all daddies and young twinks who wants them. Theres a lot of disrespect from younger guys towards older guys.
Ravasolix But I mean you can't force younger gay guys to meet older guys on apps if they arent attracted they just aren't attracted
Agreed but I think the lack of respect is what is problematic on these apps. Exactly the same deal as with :"No Fats No Fem No Asians" bullshit. You CAN be unattracted to either of these "categories" but theres a way to say it.
I've dated bunch of men from different age and race....the problem i only run into is chemistry...and the weird thing is there always seems to be a strong chemistry between me guys who are 10-15 years older than me...when i dated guys around my age there was never really a sexual attraction but more of brother/best friend love... Idk but i can tell you that I've always be into older guys not because of "daddy culture." The best way i can put it is i like my guys just how i like my wine better with age lol
I had a serious relationship with a guy 18 years younger than I. We had some things in common which helped our relationship, personally I didn't feel there's a generation gap but I did notice with him, his selfishness & expectations are higher which I won't tolerate.
if we could date our highschool crush and marry them (like heterosexuals do). we wouldnt look for daddies or boys.
You can as long as they are gay too lol I'm engaged to mine, you just have to be lucky enough to have another gay person that you know and are attracted to
Nathen Daniel oh I am so happy for you, you had luck. I had some big crushes in highschool. alexandros, marco, simon and one guy I dont know the name of, I only saw him once. but being gay makes it so difficult, most guys are scared. I wish I could have had my experiences with those guys, and not going to scary gay clubs to look for "love" and get hiv. sigh.
Alexander Petrohv , I know it's a little late now, but eh. You'll find someone, in specific parts of the world, diversity is becoming a more and more desirable concept. You'll often find online is more fashionable these days, so it is more appropriate to look about.
I did. We've been together for 19 years.
Being part of the "bear" community, I find that age is hardly ever an issue in regards to sex or dating!
I find older men very appealing and always have, since I was a teenager. However I’ve been gravitating more so towards guys my age lately. Maturity, kindness, and respect are very attractive qualities.
Hey Dustin