“To heal is to experience the opposite.” Teal, YES! You’ll love this quote: “You do not decide your future. You decide your ‘habits,’ and your habits decide your future.”
nah man think about it, when you "decide" your habits then from where are you acting? thats the real question. you gotta experience that you are love and you do that by understanding what or who told you in the past in some aspect or appearance that youre not, and then understand how you felt in that moment. the more you do that the more you realize that your nature is like a stream of love light that was taught that it is not connected to higher truth and that it is wrong. so you keep searching for a way to understand that you are indeed connected and project the feelings you had in the trauma, that has been taught, on yourself, others, your habits and so on but your intention wayyy back in the past was love, thats it. breathe love and let it shine through all of your past (and future) :D thats my view, much love
The universe is like a school. When you don't learn the lesson the first time, you can repeat it as often as you need it until you raise the level of your awareness sufficiently to overcome the obstacle. I have been in repeat situations all my life and after a decade of meditation I finally start recognizing the patterns and assuming responsibility for manifesting the opposite - that is wanted - reality. When you realize that you are not a powerless victim of your fate or whatever situation you are in, you can implement actual changes that will save you from repeating the same lesson again.
@@onreact No. But a lesson implies a particular course of action intended in response to that. In my opinion it doesn't happen like that. We repeat our suffering because we get energetically entangled with the collective energies in various situation. To say your suffering stopped because you learned a lesson is not a reflection of my experience at least. What makes you thik there was an intended, singular concept/lesson you needed to learn? And what about people who are NOT going through the same suffering in that scenario as you - are they not learning lessons? So that begs for a bigger question...what's the point of these lessons?
It is intimidating to break a cycle... The whole situation or system we are used to be in could crumble before our eyes. I see that over and over again. Thanks for the awesome content!
"Omg, I can't deal with this in the self-help industry anymore when people look at me as suffering as I am right now and say it's an opportunity for healing", Teal, amen to that. I love that you recognize this. I sense my place in the world is in the self-seeing or all-seeing industry and yet I also feel as you describe. 🤦 This video is answering lots though, thanks.
I came across your channel by chance, but in truth nothing is by chance. I believe I was guided to you. I cannot describe how much sense this made to me. I was already aware that repeated patterns are the universe's way of showing us that we have not yet learned from our past experiences, but you explained this so thoroughly it finally made sense. Thank you so much for your knowledge 💗
I try to remember that experiences do not happen to me, instead experiences happen for me... thank you for these thoughts Teal... we are the living soil!! 💚🌿
If you can get so present as to not be your personal identity which is all programming anyway you pierce the layers of the subconscious and are granted clear insights into how your repetitive (usually unhealthy) patterns began, evolved over time, hiw you subconsciously perpetuate them and how to free yourself of them.. but you have to get past the self…. when I meditate every morning I cease to be my name, my job, my group associations etc and then I find my true identity as Spirit.. Energy…one with God.. part of the fabric of all life….
The only one who knows what she is taking about and is also capable of explain it perfectly and clearly to others. This is invaluable. Thank you Teal ❤️
You attracted it BECAUSE you needed it as well as I did… I was also struggling with this exact problem and this video found me as well as I found it!!! We only attract what we need to progress!!!
”You are a Creator, whether you are a conscious Creator or an unconscious Creator. And if you have any way of thinking or behaving that feeds into creating the unwanted experience in any way, that way of thinking or behaving has to be changed for the unwanted experience not to happen”. Teal Swan. Love it Teal, thank you for sharing 🌎
You are SO good! This was a complex, realistic, and very helpful example. You have helped me countless times on countless subjects and I have tears of gratitude for all of your hard work. Thank you for being my internet therapist for all these years. I hope I get to meet you someday, I have so much love for you! You are the same age as me, but you have more wisdom than any of my elders.
I guess another way of looking at this is by understanding that all those things that keep trigerring you are the pathways to healing, and they will keep recurring until you learn how to approach and deal with them differently from a more conscious pov as opposed to habit
Thank you for this. It's exactly what I needed to hear while going through the loss of relationships due to setting boundaries. I have always been a "Jane" down to taking care of my brother who is 7 years younger while growing up. By proxy taking on way too much responsibility since childhood trying to help and keep the peace. I was the favorite scapegoat and captain save a heaux for my 27 years of life until recently. I am also an artist. The universe put this in my line of vision because I needed to hear it. So thank you again. Your content constantly inspires me.
wow, I was so Jane. Such a wonderful story. helps me understand so many things. Wow, I've been looking for the reason why I am scapegoated all the time. Couldnt even word the situation. Thank you so much
Teal/Jane - I appreciate you so much. This is what I missed from your blogs, hearing how you’re using your own teachings in your life. I wanted to write a long thing about how what I’ve been through the past 2 years is similar to what you’ve been going through (you and I have the same exact birthday), but typing on the mobile app is too difficult. Anyways, just wanted to say I see you, I appreciate you, and I’m so thankful I get to learn from you and with you in this life! ❤
Teal I just want to say how proud I am of you. You have managed to turn your pain into power and build an empire. You’re a strong woman and an inspiration. I’m not just saying this!! It actually moves me how consistent and intelligent you are and that you’re able to excel in psychology far more than any man I have ever known. It makes it hard to find a man that would contain even just a quarter of the intellectual capacity you do.
This is exactly what I needed to receive from you, the timing is impeccable Teal. I’m recovering from damage from a repeat pattern and doing heaps of shadow work to unearth where origin is so I can make better decisions in the future.
i just paid rent at the very last second… and a second later, Teal mentioned those words regarding Jane. unreal. I just got an explanation for a very very old and unhealed pattern. thank you, Teal❤
As I just (almost) had a toxic relationship repeat… I love this message. It completely changes my way of thinking about it. Thank you Teal. You help so many 💛
Wow ! Exactly what I m experimenting right now ! I just changed the pattern and said clearly what where my responsabilités and what where not . In a similar situation as the one you describe. I took the time before to feel my emotions : frustration , sadness , felt rejected , downgraded etc etc then I treated it like an echo residue of what I was living as a child !! My mother would ask me to apologize to my father when he was cruel with me … and the whole responsibility was on my little shoulders I had to do it because otherwise she would potentially not love me anymore and her relationship with my father was always her priority . The potential consequences would be the broken family . So that was my condition to be loved! As I was processing I imagined the worse scenario and there was fear . But as I managed to get to feel and recognize fear , I also remembered what I tell my students “ behind this fear , there is always beauty “ . The first element of beauty has been a great feeling of relief and respect for myself , the second one has been a non agressive response ( wow).and this video ✨I ll see what s going to happen from here . Looking forward to how it s going to unfold . But doing this I positioned myself ! And I choose when and where ! Thank you ! ✨🙏
Thank you Teal for your Saturday morning uploads no matter what I'm going through each video makes me feel better. I said it before you are the best podcast on youtube. Happy Autumn to you and your family I use to pray a lot but my prayers was never answered none of them. I have began to learn manifesting. 💕
A dysfunctional relationship with pressure. YESSSS! Omg Teal I swear nobody else gives me these🤯 moments because once again you have given me exactly what I needed to figure something out. A small but not so small detail I have been constantly overlooking for aaaaaages. Jeez. Thank you🙌🏻
Perfect timing on this issue, I just asked this question earlier to myself. However it's geared towards financial reasons of repeating the same over and over again. I'm going to search through some of your old teachings to see it differently. No such thing as coincidence! Perfect timing😉
Lol, I've created a very narrow point of balance for myself to be empowered, emobodied, wilfull, surrendered, compassionate, masculine and feminine. Usually the moment I think I've "got" whatever is the most obvious challenge in my face, another balancing act announces itself in. Quite literally as in "you thought getting the other one in was the end of me, now look and assimilate the new me." It all moves forward and refines, of course. Love the content Teal.
Thank you, Teal. I am in a repeat situation. I have actually been doing this... looking at how I can do things differently this time... acting out of my own self interest instead of aligning myself with others' values. Blessings
This whole year has been full of these for me. They’re coming on one after the other it’s happening so much faster than usual. Handled them all well so far but I hope I can continue to. It’s exhausting!
The example you give in Jane sounds like it could be your recent situation. I say this in kindness. And I thank you for shedding light here. It is helping me in my situation. I relate to the pressure part especially, Teal.
I loved this video, thanks Teal. I enjoy when the "intangibility" of the law of attraction is broken down into onbvious logical conclusions. Well explained
This is my story right now. In yet another repeated situation of knowing what I don’t want and experienced it over and over again. So this is precisely what I needed to see in order to break this cycle once and for all. Thank you!
I've never heard or read anything that explained scapegoating dynamics and coping mechanism the way she described it in this video, regardless of everything else, I think we can all agree that this woman is a genius.
It's amazing to see your healing going so well, Teal. It's great to see you coming back with greater insight and a greater sense of connectivity. It must have been a really hard time for you while going through what you were. Welcome back, Teal. Namaste.
Like others here. I too am currently in a repeat. A biggie. Family expectations and I’m never giving enough. Blah blah blah … insert Teal giggle… only THIS time, I noticed the repeat, and I feel on the outside of it. It’s different. And as usual, the perfect timing of this video helps me make sense of that. 🎉. I see the world from a perspective that just doesn’t dove tail into the lives of many I’m “close” to. There’s always ‘resistance’ and the opposite of engagement or interest in my perspective. Thanks to you Teal, I can see the impact I’m having, the creation I’m getting into the flow of. And I’m feeling more full inside my body than ever before. It feels like ‘Control Drama’ is my family’s way of getting me back into line, back to taking responsibility for their happiness and financial needs while my needs seem to be something I must manage alone. This journey is NOT overnight (thanks Pantene), and sometimes it’s scary… but it’s happening. IM COMING ALICE!!! 🐇
I am in love with Teal (in a respectful and healthy way). You put into words how I've been feeling for over 50 years! Your words of wisdom are true compassion and true love.
i'm grateful i can learn many things on internet thesedays. even there's many things that i should not take in, or things that mean to distract humans from their true self. which is love to self and all.
I understand what you are saying because I am in this right now. I also understand the opportunity for me to heal. The story almost fits the situation I’m in except everyone’s responsibility is for their own rent. And I have pulled back on cleaning the kitchen
I had to watch a few times for it to start clicking. I'm guilty. I've been doing this everyday my whole life. Getting the unwanted thing is a life changer .I never experienced for fear of outcome or whatever reason. I know it will free me. I've been down on myself for this since I was child. Everything is what it is because of this.. ty Teal..
Ty for kickstarting my heart again. I'm 55 and lost all hope of any next step. Life hasnt changed yet but I know I'm more motivated and happier since I've found your channel just recently.
I had watched this video six months ago during my repeat situation and now six months later, I f**king get it! It makes so much sense than it did six months ago. This is on point. God/Universe, whatever you believe, IS looking out for you. It takes time
Thank you for sharing this video. When I am in a repeat situation I tend to criticize myself & ask myself why I do this when I know the out come is not what I want. Changing my perspective to looking at a repeat situation as chance for healing is something I want to incorporate into my practice & thought pattern.
Thanks Teal, I would love your insight on going through death/loss of people close to us on this topic. I lost my mother to cancer in Sept 2020, and exactly a year later, my cat who had been my primary companion for 10 years also got cancer and died 6 months later. I spent most of my cat's illness trying to believe it wasn't true and she wasn't going to die, particularly because everyone around me encouraged me to be positive, focus on a miracle, and her prognosis wasn't extremely clear. Trying to be positive and not believe what was happening was extremely taxing, especially having just lost my mother to cancer. It felt impossible not to believe the same was about to happen to my beloved cat, who I leaned on so much during my grieving. But I wanted to do everything in my power for her to live, so I held on to hope. This attempt to be "positive" during my cat's illness made the entire process extremely confusing and painful. I surprisingly did very well with my mother's death, despite how close I was to her, because of a lot of acceptance and healthy conversations with my mom and her own acceptance of her illness. I took a more optimistic approach with my cat, and it did not yield results and I think caused me additional stress when I could have been coming to acceptance. How responsible are we for the deaths of others in our lives? Does coming to peace and acceptance with their imminent death will MORE death to come into our lives because we "accept" it? This has been a very difficult area for me to understand as I don't feel the death of loved ones is on the same level as a breakup of a relationship, etc.
None of us are responsible for the death of others unless of course we are the actual ones who caused someone's death, like in a car accident for example. Any Loss is hard, weather it's people or animals we are close to. You never want to give up hope, it's always Good to pray hope and believe for things but if it does not turn out how you hoped, don't loose faith. Just know they are in a better place with no more pain or suffering, let yourself Grieve and heal and think about the happy moments, it's all we can do. I feel for you with the lose of your Mom and cat, I lost my Dad and my Brother and a cat as well, I know how it feels, Stay strong🙏
I agree with @Helena Cummings. The universe has a way of sending challenges into our lives to understand and overcome. They are not seen as challenges though they are interpreted as problems by most people. Yet it sends challenges that you are capable of over coming but may think otherwise to. Death is apart of life and in regards to family I’ve only lost grandparents but when they passed I mourned their deaths for a short time then celebrated their life to honor them. I have watched documentaries on people experiencing a situation where they died for a period of time but was brought back thanks to medical aid or other and the majority of them who recalled their after death experience claimed it was a place where they felt a beyond bliss like feeling so intense they had little desire to return to a physical state. Most of what many people experience in life is in reflection to aspects that are psychosomatic, meaning what the mind makes of it. So be careful of doubt of faith you believe in especially when viewing yourself. Things happen for a reason and problems always end up becoming a learning experience. If it’s made positive or negative that’s on the individual. 😁
Accepting death doesn't "bring more death" into your life. Since death is unavoidable the best way to deal with it is to accept this and live each moment as fully as possible. And also to grief fully and allow our emotions once death does reach us. Surrendering to life is to accept death. There is no responsibility in the death of others through accepting this simple fact, as death is a natural part of life, it's the only promise given to us when being born. Let go of your guilt, both for "not praying hard enough so she could keep living" (which just isn't true) and "not allowing to process this earlier through accepting her current health." Wish you the best
Oh My God, the same thing happened to me. My mother died in 2018 very suddenly, she was suffering from depression and was on meds and I went into shock about her death and still am in coz finance is scarce and therapy is expensive. Then in a line 6 of my cats and 1 mouse died (yes they were elderly cats except 1) I am so scared now to love anyone in fear of losing them and recently I found a stray mama cat and fell in love with her black new born and guess what the black kitten died mysteriously again.
Thank you, Teal! Having studied the “Blue Book” (Acim) for a while, it never really specifies WHAT the hell “healing” exactly means. Although it eludes to these same ideas over and over…..and over….and over…again, I’ve never had the privilege to actually see it written down as you have done here in this lesson. Thank you..❤️
Thank you so much Teal. I can relate each n every word of yours. Im that Jane you were talking about. And this repeated thought pattern has been killing me for years. Thank you so much ❤ You are my saviour. You truly understand the deepest psychic processes.
Thank you so much! I am gratefully aware of the blessing i received by having non influencing, absent and non parents for parents Now, i expect nothing Want, different story
How funny this video come up in my recommended videos today as I've been sitting down and analyzing my choices and the outcome of those decisions. Funnier even so to notice that I do have a pattern of repeating. I did not realize at 37 years old, my entire life was going to shift. Thank you, Teal for everything you do and share with the world. Have a good week.
What you say about mirroring reminded me of a thought I had just today playing an online competitive video game. I felt for a while I was unfairly held at a lower rank than I deserve because of some mental blocks that make me behave differently than the path the rank up algorithm wants me to take to earn the points. But this got me finally thinking, while trying to take ownership of the situation: "hm, how can I play good against bad players? if my entire persona works through mirroring then adjusting". I think I'm starting to get to a break through about "doing my thing" and finding secure in it regardless of others. I countered my superiority for too long with huge amounts of self doubts to keep myself in check and objective, but when i empower who i am I am miiiiles ahead of others :') but i still lack aspects of cognition that would turn my understanding into practical success so im still working at it. ill definitely work on taming this ego in a healthy productive way👀i've become more aware of my impact on others directly while practicing grounding in the present. empathy takes 2 even through incompatibilities. relativity of the universe.
My new favorite video, I'm really at a loss for words and this has me intentionally looking at the events that have recently transpired from a different perspective.
I am sorry Teal that you had people attacking your character. I couldn't understand why this scheming was going on. But you have proven time again to be solid! Xo
Thank you so much for explaining this is best given information ❤️ now I understand why I was trying to solve everyone's problems in my family and my circles.of friends and coworkers , in the end I'm the bad guy, very sad 😔
I'm the scapegoat, the story you telling resonate with Me, I'm in repeat situations, I have to sign in for your upcoming events and read your books. I need your help 😢 😔
I'd like to dive in to: healing the repeat pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable people who PRESENT themselves and act like they are very emotionally avail, lie about it and then turns out they aren't at all. I'm tired of getting duped. Trust issues with everyone have gone way up. Now everyone is lying about it and no one is actually capable of loving me.
Oh my goodness Teal, I am really loving the colors in your videos, your top layer is just stunning - I wonder if it's one of your paintings turned into clothing?? It would be so amazing if you created a clothing line with your art, like what you're wearing! Thank you so much for your videos, this was another phenomenal video that's so relevant and helpful to so many of us! I know I go through many repeat lessons, but each time I am indeed a little bit more aware and evolved from the last time I went through that lesson - I believe I'll get there eventually! Thank you so much, I truly love and respect you!!!
@@TealSwanOfficial Awesome, thank you!!! I'm browsing the clothing options now and I feel overwhelmed with excitement at all these incredible options, OMG! So gorgeous - all of them! Definitely gonna save up and get one of those bomber jackets!
My problem is that I always end up around "the same" people I've gotten away from in my childhood/past. I'm looking for a discussion on how we attract people we can't get along with. I guess, I repeat my behavior, that's why I find myself in a repeat situation of being around people with mutual conflict and spite.
You're not attracting them, you're repeating a familiar pattern. What traits did you overlook at the beginning? Are you too open/ accepting yet don't realize it? That would require a 1-1 conversing with a therapist
I have the same issue. I don’t know how I’m attracting them. Maybe it’s because I need to learn how to deal with these types of people. Learning not to judge, which I am bad about. 🤷🏼♀️
I will forever be grateful for you Teal, for helping me make sense of my life and of this reality! Without the knowledge that you've generously shared with us I don't know if I would even be awakened to the existance of my ascending journey in life. I sincerely wish you have all the opposite experiences you want to heal! And above all, the ultimate healing experience of the opposite, the one that (I believe) exists in our eternal life. ❤️
Very eye-opening! Yes, the core belief I was taught by my parents was that, “the more you do, the better it gets”. Needless to say, my parents were always taken advantage of by their family but they were in denial about it. Needless to also say, it then set me up to be taken advantage of by my peers which I was also in denial about. The worst part is our tolerance for this kind of abuse is so high and our denial or hope/fantasy that it’ll get better, keeps us stuck. So it takes a massive amount of pain and burnout to pierce through our own disillusionment and for us to actively say, “enough”. But once you’re on that path, very little will take you off it. Videos like Teal help revalidate and reinforce to keep asserting myself so I can get my worth.
i realize this a few months ago about my life & currently trap in the revenge stage of this where i want to get revenge on everyone who did me this & i think im in a worst place for it
Thank you Teal, Thank you Teal!!!! Ive been thinking about this repeat situation, going backwards today before watching this video. I guessed what you would say if I had said, that it sucks to be in repeat situations, and you said what I imagined. I know what I need to do to stop the repeat. Turns out I was right all along, but youve provided clear clarity (:
“To heal is to experience the opposite.” Teal, YES! You’ll love this quote: “You do not decide your future. You decide your ‘habits,’ and your habits decide your future.”
nah man think about it, when you "decide" your habits then from where are you acting? thats the real question. you gotta experience that you are love and you do that by understanding what or who told you in the past in some aspect or appearance that youre not, and then understand how you felt in that moment. the more you do that the more you realize that your nature is like a stream of love light that was taught that it is not connected to higher truth and that it is wrong. so you keep searching for a way to understand that you are indeed connected and project the feelings you had in the trauma, that has been taught, on yourself, others, your habits and so on but your intention wayyy back in the past was love, thats it. breathe love and let it shine through all of your past (and future) :D
thats my view, much love
Thank you
@The psychological climate change in order to get on ur feet and stuff where you want to be. U have to get through the matrix. It’s the only way
@@dondankleberg4965 that didn’t really make cohesive sense
@@LoveLeigh313 you wanna say why?
This woman has a genius level understanding of human nature...never ceases to amaze me.
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." -C.G. Jung
And when it becomes conscious it will direct your life and you will call it choice.
If we could make the unconscious conscious we would
But there's always something unconscious, no? So there's always something that gonna direct your life.
I love C.G.J.
My man, Jung
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.
Pema Chodron
The universe is like a school. When you don't learn the lesson the first time, you can repeat it as often as you need it until you raise the level of your awareness sufficiently to overcome the obstacle.
I have been in repeat situations all my life and after a decade of meditation I finally start recognizing the patterns and assuming responsibility for manifesting the opposite - that is wanted - reality.
When you realize that you are not a powerless victim of your fate or whatever situation you are in, you can implement actual changes that will save you from repeating the same lesson again.
Beautifully said!
Where the hell do people get this idea of "lesson" from? What lessons?
@@jeanlundi2141 So you think it's completely random to encounter the same type of situation again and again and repeat your suffering?
@@onreact No. But a lesson implies a particular course of action intended in response to that. In my opinion it doesn't happen like that. We repeat our suffering because we get energetically entangled with the collective energies in various situation.
To say your suffering stopped because you learned a lesson is not a reflection of my experience at least. What makes you thik there was an intended, singular concept/lesson you needed to learn? And what about people who are NOT going through the same suffering in that scenario as you - are they not learning lessons? So that begs for a bigger question...what's the point of these lessons?
It’s not a school
I will never repeat my DM/parental type of relationship dynamic again, i've finally healed from that bs, it is no longer attractive to me 🙌🏻💗🌟
It is intimidating to break a cycle... The whole situation or system we are used to be in could crumble before our eyes. I see that over and over again. Thanks for the awesome content!
"Omg, I can't deal with this in the self-help industry anymore when people look at me as suffering as I am right now and say it's an opportunity for healing", Teal, amen to that. I love that you recognize this. I sense my place in the world is in the self-seeing or all-seeing industry and yet I also feel as you describe. 🤦 This video is answering lots though, thanks.
I came across your channel by chance, but in truth nothing is by chance. I believe I was guided to you.
I cannot describe how much sense this made to me. I was already aware that repeated patterns are the universe's way of showing us that we have not yet learned from our past experiences, but you explained this so thoroughly it finally made sense.
Thank you so much for your knowledge 💗
I literally woke up this morning so depressed and asked why do I keep experiencing the same shitty situation with different people. Here is my answer.
meet me. Ill make u happy
@@edengaming5021 What a disrespectful comment...
Yep
What was the answer - also a reminder for you Alicia
This is so synchronized with what I was receiving from the universe myself today.
I try to remember that experiences do not happen to me, instead experiences happen for me... thank you for these thoughts Teal... we are the living soil!! 💚🌿
If you can get so present as to not be your personal identity which is all programming anyway you pierce the layers of the subconscious and are granted clear insights into how your repetitive (usually unhealthy) patterns began, evolved over time, hiw you subconsciously perpetuate them and how to free yourself of them.. but you have to get past the self…. when I meditate every morning I cease to be my name, my job, my group associations etc and then I find my true identity as Spirit.. Energy…one with God.. part of the fabric of all life….
Reminds me of Paulo Cuelho the alchemist. When you're on your path the universe will conspire for you
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-truth-about-finding-yourself-in-a-repeat-situation-r523/
The only one who knows what she is taking about and is also capable of explain it perfectly and clearly to others.
This is invaluable.
Thank you Teal ❤️
I love how you manage to incorporate logical reasoning into social constructs.
“See the situation from a different perspective, make a different decision, and take a different action.”❤
The timing...is crazy... I needed this NOW
THANK YOU TEAL +Team. Thaaaank you 🙏
She be like that... alllways 😊💫💚🙏🌟♾🥰
Me too!!!! Omg, how does she do it!!! This is EXACTLY what I needed now!!!
Same
You attracted it BECAUSE you needed it as well as I did… I was also struggling with this exact problem and this video found me as well as I found it!!! We only attract what we need to progress!!!
❤
Be humble, grow each Day.simple as That.
”You are a Creator, whether you are a conscious Creator or an unconscious Creator. And if you have any way of thinking or behaving that feeds into creating the unwanted experience in any way, that way of thinking or behaving has to be changed for the unwanted experience not to happen”. Teal Swan. Love it Teal, thank you for sharing 🌎
I was JUST thinking about how I’ve found myself in a repeat situation ONCE AGAIN and your video popped up. Perfect timing as always. Thanks Teal ♥️
Same
Same
You are SO good! This was a complex, realistic, and very helpful example. You have helped me countless times on countless subjects and I have tears of gratitude for all of your hard work. Thank you for being my internet therapist for all these years. I hope I get to meet you someday, I have so much love for you! You are the same age as me, but you have more wisdom than any of my elders.
I guess another way of looking at this is by understanding that all those things that keep trigerring you are the pathways to healing, and they will keep recurring until you learn how to approach and deal with them differently from a more conscious pov as opposed to habit
Thank you for this. It's exactly what I needed to hear while going through the loss of relationships due to setting boundaries. I have always been a "Jane" down to taking care of my brother who is 7 years younger while growing up. By proxy taking on way too much responsibility since childhood trying to help and keep the peace. I was the favorite scapegoat and captain save a heaux for my 27 years of life until recently. I am also an artist. The universe put this in my line of vision because I needed to hear it. So thank you again. Your content constantly inspires me.
I was also captain save a heaux, I retain this energy for saving myself now out and around situations.Peace and love ❤
Perfect timing. I was asking the universe to guide me with my relationship patterns. Thank you, like always, Teal.
wow, I was so Jane. Such a wonderful story. helps me understand so many things. Wow, I've been looking for the reason why I am scapegoated all the time. Couldnt even word the situation. Thank you so much
Teal/Jane - I appreciate you so much. This is what I missed from your blogs, hearing how you’re using your own teachings in your life. I wanted to write a long thing about how what I’ve been through the past 2 years is similar to what you’ve been going through (you and I have the same exact birthday), but typing on the mobile app is too difficult. Anyways, just wanted to say I see you, I appreciate you, and I’m so thankful I get to learn from you and with you in this life! ❤
oh yes, I was looking for this comment 💜
Teal, this is exactly what I needed. My life seems been on repeat. I want more. I want better but constantly find myself in the same place
Just in time, as always. The peace I felt listening to this, is immense. Thank you.
Teal I just want to say how proud I am of you. You have managed to turn your pain into power and build an empire. You’re a strong woman and an inspiration. I’m not just saying this!! It actually moves me how consistent and intelligent you are and that you’re able to excel in psychology far more than any man I have ever known. It makes it hard to find a man that would contain even just a quarter of the intellectual capacity you do.
This is exactly what I needed to receive from you, the timing is impeccable Teal. I’m recovering from damage from a repeat pattern and doing heaps of shadow work to unearth where origin is so I can make better decisions in the future.
I am going through a repeat miscarriage right now… this video really spoke to me.
I'm sorry ❤❤❤
💙🙏
I'm really sorry, sending you strength
Thank you ❤
i just paid rent at the very last second… and a second later, Teal mentioned those words regarding Jane. unreal. I just got an explanation for a very very old and unhealed pattern. thank you, Teal❤
As I just (almost) had a toxic relationship repeat… I love this message. It completely changes my way of thinking about it.
Thank you Teal. You help so many 💛
I believe you would never betray me Teal..........❤️🧡💛💚
Wow ! Exactly what I m experimenting right now ! I just changed the pattern and said clearly what where my responsabilités and what where not . In a similar situation as the one you describe.
I took the time before to feel my emotions : frustration , sadness , felt rejected , downgraded etc etc then I treated it like an echo residue of what I was living as a child !! My mother would ask me to apologize to my father when he was cruel with me … and the whole responsibility was on my little shoulders I had to do it because otherwise she would potentially not love me anymore and her relationship with my father was always her priority . The potential consequences would be the broken family . So that was my condition to be loved!
As I was processing I imagined the worse scenario and there was fear . But as I managed to get to feel and recognize fear , I also remembered what I tell my students “ behind this fear , there is always beauty “ .
The first element of beauty has been a great feeling of relief and respect for myself , the second one has been a non agressive response ( wow).and this video ✨I ll see what s going to happen from here .
Looking forward to how it s going to unfold . But doing this I positioned myself ! And I choose when and where !
Thank you ! ✨🙏
Thank you Teal for your Saturday morning uploads no matter what I'm going through each video makes me feel better. I said it before you are the best podcast on youtube. Happy Autumn to you and your family I use to pray a lot but my prayers was never answered none of them. I have began to learn manifesting. 💕
A dysfunctional relationship with pressure. YESSSS! Omg Teal I swear nobody else gives me these🤯 moments because once again you have given me exactly what I needed to figure something out. A small but not so small detail I have been constantly overlooking for aaaaaages. Jeez. Thank you🙌🏻
Perfect timing on this issue, I just asked this question earlier to myself. However it's geared towards financial reasons of repeating the same over and over again. I'm going to search through some of your old teachings to see it differently. No such thing as coincidence! Perfect timing😉
Lol, I've created a very narrow point of balance for myself to be empowered, emobodied, wilfull, surrendered, compassionate, masculine and feminine. Usually the moment I think I've "got" whatever is the most obvious challenge in my face, another balancing act announces itself in. Quite literally as in "you thought getting the other one in was the end of me, now look and assimilate the new me." It all moves forward and refines, of course. Love the content Teal.
Thank you, Teal. I am in a repeat situation. I have actually been doing this... looking at how I can do things differently this time... acting out of my own self interest instead of aligning myself with others' values.
Blessings
This whole year has been full of these for me. They’re coming on one after the other it’s happening so much faster than usual. Handled them all well so far but I hope I can continue to. It’s exhausting!
The example you give in Jane sounds like it could be your recent situation. I say this in kindness.
And I thank you for shedding light here. It is helping me in my situation.
I relate to the pressure part especially, Teal.
I loved this video, thanks Teal.
I enjoy when the "intangibility" of the law of attraction is broken down into onbvious logical conclusions. Well explained
This is my story right now. In yet another repeated situation of knowing what I don’t want and experienced it over and over again. So this is precisely what I needed to see in order to break this cycle once and for all. Thank you!
I've never heard or read anything that explained scapegoating dynamics and coping mechanism the way she described it in this video, regardless of everything else, I think we can all agree that this woman is a genius.
It's amazing to see your healing going so well, Teal. It's great to see you coming back with greater insight and a greater sense of connectivity. It must have been a really hard time for you while going through what you were. Welcome back, Teal. Namaste.
Recently came across Teal...one smart lady! She has figured out human nature.
She just doesn't reley on the "religion" cop out.
Like others here. I too am currently in a repeat. A biggie. Family expectations and I’m never giving enough. Blah blah blah … insert Teal giggle… only THIS time, I noticed the repeat, and I feel on the outside of it. It’s different. And as usual, the perfect timing of this video helps me make sense of that. 🎉.
I see the world from a perspective that just doesn’t dove tail into the lives of many I’m “close” to. There’s always ‘resistance’ and the opposite of engagement or interest in my perspective.
Thanks to you Teal, I can see the impact I’m having, the creation I’m getting into the flow of. And I’m feeling more full inside my body than ever before.
It feels like ‘Control Drama’ is my family’s way of getting me back into line, back to taking responsibility for their happiness and financial needs while my needs seem to be something I must manage alone.
This journey is NOT overnight (thanks Pantene), and sometimes it’s scary… but it’s happening.
IM COMING ALICE!!! 🐇
I am in love with Teal (in a respectful and healthy way). You put into words how I've been feeling for over 50 years! Your words of wisdom are true compassion and true love.
Wow, Jane’s situation was eerily similar to what happened to me in an all female band... very hurtful, but an amazing healing experience.
i'm grateful i can learn many things on internet thesedays. even there's many things that i should not take in, or things that mean to distract humans from their true self. which is love to self and all.
I understand what you are saying because I am in this right now. I also understand the opportunity for me to heal.
The story almost fits the situation I’m in except everyone’s responsibility is for their own rent. And I have pulled back on cleaning the kitchen
I had to watch a few times for it to start clicking. I'm guilty. I've been doing this everyday my whole life. Getting the unwanted thing is a life changer .I never experienced for fear of outcome or whatever reason. I know it will free me. I've been down on myself for this since I was child. Everything is what it is because of this.. ty Teal..
Ty for kickstarting my heart again. I'm 55 and lost all hope of any next step. Life hasnt changed yet but I know I'm more motivated and happier since I've found your channel just recently.
Ty for sharing. The world's a better place.
So much love and respect 🤍
I had watched this video six months ago during my repeat situation and now six months later, I f**king get it! It makes so much sense than it did six months ago. This is on point. God/Universe, whatever you believe, IS looking out for you. It takes time
Thank you for sharing this video. When I am in a repeat situation I tend to criticize myself & ask myself why I do this when I know the out come is not what I want. Changing my perspective to looking at a repeat situation as chance for healing is something I want to incorporate into my practice & thought pattern.
Thanks Teal, I would love your insight on going through death/loss of people close to us on this topic. I lost my mother to cancer in Sept 2020, and exactly a year later, my cat who had been my primary companion for 10 years also got cancer and died 6 months later. I spent most of my cat's illness trying to believe it wasn't true and she wasn't going to die, particularly because everyone around me encouraged me to be positive, focus on a miracle, and her prognosis wasn't extremely clear. Trying to be positive and not believe what was happening was extremely taxing, especially having just lost my mother to cancer. It felt impossible not to believe the same was about to happen to my beloved cat, who I leaned on so much during my grieving. But I wanted to do everything in my power for her to live, so I held on to hope.
This attempt to be "positive" during my cat's illness made the entire process extremely confusing and painful. I surprisingly did very well with my mother's death, despite how close I was to her, because of a lot of acceptance and healthy conversations with my mom and her own acceptance of her illness. I took a more optimistic approach with my cat, and it did not yield results and I think caused me additional stress when I could have been coming to acceptance. How responsible are we for the deaths of others in our lives? Does coming to peace and acceptance with their imminent death will MORE death to come into our lives because we "accept" it? This has been a very difficult area for me to understand as I don't feel the death of loved ones is on the same level as a breakup of a relationship, etc.
None of us are responsible for the death of others unless of course we are the actual ones who caused someone's death, like in a car accident for example. Any Loss is hard, weather it's people or animals we are close to. You never want to give up hope, it's always Good to pray hope and believe for things but if it does not turn out how you hoped, don't loose faith. Just know they are in a better place with no more pain or suffering, let yourself Grieve and heal and think about the happy moments, it's all we can do. I feel for you with the lose of your Mom and cat, I lost my Dad and my Brother and a cat as well, I know how it feels, Stay strong🙏
I agree with @Helena Cummings. The universe has a way of sending challenges into our lives to understand and overcome. They are not seen as challenges though they are interpreted as problems by most people. Yet it sends challenges that you are capable of over coming but may think otherwise to. Death is apart of life and in regards to family I’ve only lost grandparents but when they passed I mourned their deaths for a short time then celebrated their life to honor them. I have watched documentaries on people experiencing a situation where they died for a period of time but was brought back thanks to medical aid or other and the majority of them who recalled their after death experience claimed it was a place where they felt a beyond bliss like feeling so intense they had little desire to return to a physical state. Most of what many people experience in life is in reflection to aspects that are psychosomatic, meaning what the mind makes of it. So be careful of doubt of faith you believe in especially when viewing yourself. Things happen for a reason and problems always end up becoming a learning experience. If it’s made positive or negative that’s on the individual. 😁
Accepting death doesn't "bring more death" into your life. Since death is unavoidable the best way to deal with it is to accept this and live each moment as fully as possible. And also to grief fully and allow our emotions once death does reach us. Surrendering to life is to accept death. There is no responsibility in the death of others through accepting this simple fact, as death is a natural part of life, it's the only promise given to us when being born.
Let go of your guilt, both for "not praying hard enough so she could keep living" (which just isn't true) and "not allowing to process this earlier through accepting her current health."
Wish you the best
Oh My God, the same thing happened to me. My mother died in 2018 very suddenly, she was suffering from depression and was on meds and I went into shock about her death and still am in coz finance is scarce and therapy is expensive. Then in a line 6 of my cats and 1 mouse died (yes they were elderly cats except 1) I am so scared now to love anyone in fear of losing them and recently I found a stray mama cat and fell in love with her black new born and guess what the black kitten died mysteriously again.
The story example literally feels like my life and I kind of don't think that is a coincidence 🙃💚✨💚
I feel like this story reflects your personal experience, Teal. Thank you
She's building her defense..
Thank you, Teal! Having studied the “Blue Book” (Acim) for a while, it never really specifies WHAT the hell “healing” exactly means. Although it eludes to these same ideas over and over…..and over….and over…again, I’ve never had the privilege to actually see it written down as you have done here in this lesson. Thank you..❤️
Praise Jehovah, 👏 thank you for finding us TealSwan; and as always right on time 😊 ❤
Thank you so much Teal. I can relate each n every word of yours. Im that Jane you were talking about. And this repeated thought pattern has been killing me for years. Thank you so much ❤ You are my saviour. You truly understand the deepest psychic processes.
Thank you so much! I am gratefully aware of the blessing i received by having non influencing, absent and non parents for parents
Now, i expect nothing Want, different story
T'm so greatful that the universe has led me to Teal's video.
Also Teal, thank you so much for your guidance. It really helped me alot.
Teal is simply the best Teacher
I needed this today! I applied it to a present repeat problem I am having.
mystical events sew seeds in the stars people learn to trust & believe it requires such
In the exact situation...thank you for the *abselute* truth mam.
How funny this video come up in my recommended videos today as I've been sitting down and analyzing my choices and the outcome of those decisions. Funnier even so to notice that I do have a pattern of repeating. I did not realize at 37 years old, my entire life was going to shift. Thank you, Teal for everything you do and share with the world. Have a good week.
What you say about mirroring reminded me of a thought I had just today playing an online competitive video game. I felt for a while I was unfairly held at a lower rank than I deserve because of some mental blocks that make me behave differently than the path the rank up algorithm wants me to take to earn the points. But this got me finally thinking, while trying to take ownership of the situation: "hm, how can I play good against bad players? if my entire persona works through mirroring then adjusting". I think I'm starting to get to a break through about "doing my thing" and finding secure in it regardless of others. I countered my superiority for too long with huge amounts of self doubts to keep myself in check and objective, but when i empower who i am I am miiiiles ahead of others :') but i still lack aspects of cognition that would turn my understanding into practical success so im still working at it. ill definitely work on taming this ego in a healthy productive way👀i've become more aware of my impact on others directly while practicing grounding in the present. empathy takes 2 even through incompatibilities. relativity of the universe.
The wrap up towards the end is brilliant, Teal. I hope everyone stayed and got what they needed from it. I sure did.
Teal, thank you for being so crazy strong.
I asked about it via „Ask Teal” message few days ago and now, boom! Perfect timing!❤
My new favorite video, I'm really at a loss for words and this has me intentionally looking at the events that have recently transpired from a different perspective.
Opened my eyes on a lot of patterns in my life. Love you Teal 💙
I am sorry Teal that you had people attacking your character. I couldn't understand why this scheming was going on. But you have proven time again to be solid! Xo
8:00 Healing Opportunity
19:45 Bigger Perspective
aayyyee - love the new music
Thank you so much for explaining this is best given information ❤️ now I understand why I was trying to solve everyone's problems in my family and my circles.of friends and coworkers , in the end I'm the bad guy, very sad 😔
I'm the scapegoat, the story you telling resonate with Me, I'm in repeat situations, I have to sign in for your upcoming events and read your books. I need your help 😢 😔
I'd like to dive in to: healing the repeat pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable people who PRESENT themselves and act like they are very emotionally avail, lie about it and then turns out they aren't at all. I'm tired of getting duped. Trust issues with everyone have gone way up. Now everyone is lying about it and no one is actually capable of loving me.
Oh my goodness Teal, I am really loving the colors in your videos, your top layer is just stunning - I wonder if it's one of your paintings turned into clothing?? It would be so amazing if you created a clothing line with your art, like what you're wearing! Thank you so much for your videos, this was another phenomenal video that's so relevant and helpful to so many of us! I know I go through many repeat lessons, but each time I am indeed a little bit more aware and evolved from the last time I went through that lesson - I believe I'll get there eventually! Thank you so much, I truly love and respect you!!!
Possibly, pattern on her clothes looks like her painting style.
Thank you so much. We actually do this: shop.tealswan.com/pages/frequency-clothing
@@TealSwanOfficial Awesome, thank you!!! I'm browsing the clothing options now and I feel overwhelmed with excitement at all these incredible options, OMG! So gorgeous - all of them! Definitely gonna save up and get one of those bomber jackets!
When we desire, we are tempted. Not every temptation should be pleased.
My problem is that I always end up around "the same" people I've gotten away from in my childhood/past. I'm looking for a discussion on how we attract people we can't get along with. I guess, I repeat my behavior, that's why I find myself in a repeat situation of being around people with mutual conflict and spite.
That means who you are internally and who you are externally don't match.
Find yourself,
Be yourself,
STAY yourself!
You're not attracting them, you're repeating a familiar pattern. What traits did you overlook at the beginning? Are you too open/ accepting yet don't realize it? That would require a 1-1 conversing with a therapist
I have the same issue. I don’t know how I’m attracting them. Maybe it’s because I need to learn how to deal with these types of people. Learning not to judge, which I am bad about. 🤷🏼♀️
Genius Teal Swan. Spitting facts. You rock, you're amazing. Thank you
I will forever be grateful for you Teal, for helping me make sense of my life and of this reality! Without the knowledge that you've generously shared with us I don't know if I would even be awakened to the existance of my ascending journey in life.
I sincerely wish you have all the opposite experiences you want to heal!
And above all, the ultimate healing experience of the opposite, the one that (I believe) exists in our eternal life. ❤️
What a beautiful story we've written ❤️ ♥️ Thank you for existing
Very eye-opening! Yes, the core belief I was taught by my parents was that, “the more you do, the better it gets”.
Needless to say, my parents were always taken advantage of by their family but they were in denial about it. Needless to also say, it then set me up to be taken advantage of by my peers which I was also in denial about.
The worst part is our tolerance for this kind of abuse is so high and our denial or hope/fantasy that it’ll get better, keeps us stuck. So it takes a massive amount of pain and burnout to pierce through our own disillusionment and for us to actively say, “enough”. But once you’re on that path, very little will take you off it. Videos like Teal help revalidate and reinforce to keep asserting myself so I can get my worth.
I love her so much. Ugh.
Thank you Teal 🙏. You've explained conflict, boundaries and frustration so beautifully.
I SOOO FEEL YOU!! love the new music by the way 🦄🐘💜
Wow!! Thank you so much for this video, Teal😘
Teal’s post always come with divine timing. im finding myself in repeat situations and knowing exactly what to do this time 💘
i realize this a few months ago about my life & currently trap in the revenge stage of this where i want to get revenge on everyone who did me this & i think im in a worst place for it
thank you, Teal. thank you always
thank you so much for your intelligent honesty
Ahhh to Heal by the magical love of Teal..! You really Nailed this one.
Teal, you’re just so cool.
Thank you Teal, Thank you Teal!!!! Ive been thinking about this repeat situation, going backwards today before watching this video. I guessed what you would say if I had said, that it sucks to be in repeat situations, and you said what I imagined. I know what I need to do to stop the repeat. Turns out I was right all along, but youve provided clear clarity (: