Someone casually once said to me, “Sometimes your Best quality Is Also Your Worst.” It stuck with me then and I’ve never forgotten how incredibly insightful that quote is.
”When we suppress, deny, disown, and reject a part of ourselves, we push it out of our conscious awareness. We lose self-awareness. We do this to try to preserve our self-concept”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
You can be who you are both bad and good but there's always gonna be people who dislike you and misunderstand you.. Just gotta let them be and do whatever
The poison/medicine quote is also one of my favorites. This topic is something I have been experiencing in so many ways recently. Pleasing one person will upset another, there is no winning if you don't let others take responsibility for their own feelings about you. I felt ostracized at work, for being a wacky person. I felt shame. When I decided to own my insanity, other people seemed to accept and approve of it more too. I still have to remind myself to own it. Cause it's personally something I quite like about myself
Being yourself should not come at cost of someone else's inconvenience. An office is a place where different personalities come together so there has to be certain norms to govern and preserve order. You can't be yourself somewhere else.
Carry your opponent's proposition beyond its natural limits; exaggerate it. The more general your opponent's statement becomes, the more objections you can find against it. The more restricted and narrow his or her propositions remain, the easier they are to defend by him or her. Use different meanings of your opponent's words to refute his or her argument. Ignore your opponent's proposition, which was intended to refer to a particular thing. Rather, understand it in some quite different sense, and then refute it. Attack something different than that which was asserted. Hide your conclusion from your opponent till the end. Mingle your premises here and there in your talk. Get your opponent to agree to them in no definite order. By this circuitious route you conceal your game until you have obtained all the admissions that are necessary to reach your goal. Use your opponent's beliefs against him. If the opponent refuses to accept your premises, use his own premises to your advantage. Another plan is to confuse the issue by changing your opponent's words or what he or she seeks to prove. State your proposition and show the truth of it by asking the opponent many questions. By asking many wide-reaching questions at once, you may hide what you want to get admitted. Then you quickly propound the argument resulting from the opponent's admissions. Make your opponent angry. An angry person is less capable of using judgement or perceiving where his or her advantage lies. Use your opponent's answers to your questions to reach different or even opposite conclusions. If your opponent answers all your questions negatively and refuses to grant any points, ask him or her to concede the opposite of your premises. This may confuse the opponent as to which point you actually seek them to concede. If the opponent grants you the truth of some of your premises, refrain from asking him or her to agree to your conclusion. Later, introduce your conclusion as a settled and admitted fact. Your opponent may come to believe that your conclusion was admitted. If the argument turns upon general ideas with no particular names, you must use language or a metaphor that is favorable in your proposition. To make your opponent accept a proposition, you must give him or her an opposite, counter-proposition as well. If the contrast is glaring, the opponent will accept your proposition to avoid being paradoxical. Try to bluff your opponent. If he or she has answered several of your questions without the answers turning out in favor of your conclusion, advance your conclusion triumphantly, even if it does not follow. If your opponent is shy or stupid, and you yourself possess a great deal of impudence and a good voice, the trick may easily succeed. If you wish to advance a proposition that is difficult to prove, put it aside for the moment. Instead, submit for your opponent's acceptance or rejection some true poposition, as thoug you wished to draw your proof from it. Should the opponent reject it because he or she suspects a trick, you can obtain your triumph by showing how absurd the opponent is to reject a true proposition. Should the opponent accept it, you now have reason on your own for the moment. You can either try to prove your original proposition or maintain that your original proposition is proved by what the opponent accepted. For this, an extreme degree of impudence is required. When your opponent puts forth a proposition, find it inconsistent with his or her other statements, beliefs, actions, or lack of action. If your opponent presses you with a counter proof, you will often be able to save yourself by advancing some subtle distinction. Try to find a second meaning or an ambiguous sense for your opponent's idea. If your opponent has taken up a line of argument that will end in your defeat, you must not allow him or her to carry it to its conclusion. Interrupt the dispute, break it off altogether, or lead the opponent to a different subject. Should your opponent expressly challenge you to produce any objection to some definite point in his or her argument, and you have nothing much to say, try to make the argument less specific. If your opponent has admitted to all or most of your premises, do not ask him or her directly to accept your conclusion. Rather draw the conclusion yourself as if it too had been admitted. When your opponent uses an argument that is superficial, refute it by setting forth its superficial character. But it is better to meet the opponent with a counter argument that is just as superficial, and so dispose of him or her. For it is with victory that your are concerned, and not with truth. If your opponent asks you to admit something from which the point in dispute will immediately follow, you must refuse to do so, declaring that it begs the question. Contradiction and contention irritate a person into exaggerating his or her statements. By contractiong your opponent you may drive him or her into extending the statement beyond its natural limit. When you then contradict the exaggerated form of it, you look as though you had refuted the orginal statement your opponent tries to extend your own statement further than you intended, redefine your statement's limits. This trick consists in stating a false syllogism. Your opponent makes a proposition and by false inference and distortion of his or her ideas you force from the proposition other propositions that are not intended and that appear absurd. It then appears the opponent's proposition gave rise to these inconsistencies, and so appears to be indirectly refuted. If your opponent is making a generalization, find an instance to the contrary. Only one valid contradiciton is needed to overthrow the opponent's proposition. A brilliant move is to turn the tables and use your opponent's arguments against him or herself. Should your opponent surprise you by becoming particularly angry at an argument, you must urge it with all the more zeal. Not only will this make the opponent angry, it may be presumed that you put your finger on the weak side of his or her case, and that the opponent is more open to attack on this point than you expected. This trick is chiefly practicable in a dispute if there is an audience who is not an expert on the subject. You make an invalid objection to your opponent who seems to be defeated in the eyes of the audience. This strategy is particularly effective if your objection makes the opponent look ridiculous or if the audience laughs. If the opponent must make a long, complicated explanation to correct you, the audience will not be disposed to listen. If you find that you are being beaten, you can create a diversion that is, you can suddenly begin to talk of something else, as though it had bearing on the matter in dispose. This may be done without presumption if the diversion has some general bearing on the matter. Make an appeal to authority rather than reason. If your opponent respects an authority or an expert, quote that authority to further your case. If needed, quote what the authority said in some other sense or circumstance. Authorities that your opponent fails to understand are those which he or she generally admires the most. You may also, should it be necessary, not only twist your authorities, but actually falsify them, or quote something that you have invented entirely yourself. If you know that you have no reply to an argument that your opponent advances, you may, by a fine stroke of irony, declare yourself to be an incompetent judge. A quick way of getting rid of an opponent's assertion, or throwing suspicion on it, is by putting it into some odious category. You admit your opponent's premises but deny the conclusion. When you state a question or an argument, and your opponent gives you no direct answer, or evades it with a counter question, or tries to change the subject, it is a sure sign you have touched a weak spot, sometimes without knowing it. You have as it were, reduced the opponent to silence. You must, therefore, urge the point all the more, and not let your opponent evade it, even when you do not know where the weakness that you have hit upon really lies. This trick makes all unnecessary if it works. Instead of working on an opponent's intellect, work on his or her motive. If you succeed in making your opponent's opinion, should it prove true, seem distinctly to his or her own interest, the opponenent will drop it like a hot potato. You may also puzzle and bewilder your opponent by mere bombast. If the opponent is weak or does not wish to appear as ife he or she has no idea what you are talking about, you can easily impose upon him or her some argument that sounds very deep or learned, or that sounds indisputable. Should your opponent be in the right but, luckily for you, choose a faulty proof, you can easily refute it and then claim that you have refuted the whole position. This is the way which bad advocates lose a good case. If no accurate proof occurs to the opponent or the bystanders, you have won the day. A last trick is to become personal, insulting and rude as soon as you perceive that your opponent has the upper hand. In becoming personal you leave the subject altogether, and turn your attack on the person by remarks of an offensive and spiteful character. This is a very popular trick, because everyone is able to carry it into effect. (abstracted from the book:Numerical Lists You Never Knew or Once Knew and Probably Forget, by: John Boswell and Dan Starer)
you’re so smart. i’m a grad student in psych and I love watching your videos because you have such an intelligent and eloquent way of putting these concepts.
Reminds me of how warriors learn to control aspects like ruthlessness, aggressiveness, etc. so that those are only exercised when defending against an attack rather than in day to day relationships
”The vast, vast majority of people have not reached the level of Consciousness where they truly take others as a part of themselves and thus, intrinsically cannot harm others without harming themselves. A point where other’s suffering is their suffering and other’s joy is their joy”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
Thank you again Teal for content GOLD! This pairs nicely with "there's no such thing as self-sabotage" video of yours. What a relief to know that even our "bad" aspects of self are a map towards being even "better" haha. Brilliant
thank you!! this is what so powerfully became true to me while working the steps in a 12 step fellowship. so grateful to be born at a time when Teal is teaching!!
I love your insights Teal, I'm also a mirror person and I love the way you work through these psychological issues that keep reinforcing so much unnecessary pain. And thanks to your words I'm less afraid today to be seen as a bad guy and be straight forward in the eyes of the unfair. May all beings be happy and rejoice under the shining sun and the mysterious moon in this beautiful earth
This inspires me, to see and say that Carl Jung would find you very enchanting, and he would undoubtedly rise from his chair and get to writing and drawing, painting and Direct Current Energy Being. Because Integration whips up a whirlwind of creative passions that can finally be fulfilled! It's a glorious thing and we can't get there any other way!
Once I decided to stop trying to be a Hero/Lawful Good, but instead recognize and direct the Antihero/Chaotic Good, life became much calmer, and I like to think I became able to do more real good in many situations.
I appreciate how much work Teal has put in to teaching and helping people. People are vocal against her seem to be judging without really listening first.
Yeah, as a good person, one should take ownership of both the "bad/wrong" and positive outcomes in one's life and learn to deal with the competitive nature of others because this is the world we have come to serve, not judge and condemn. And this includes ourselves as well. "You are a spiritual Being living in a physical reality. This accounts for your dual nature and the fundamental conflict and confusion that permeate your mind and activities. It is the result of Separation fundamentally." The New Message, The Separation, by MV Summers.
I love you teal so much respect... I've thought about what you say most of my life, but felt on my own as most don't, and society always made me feel like I was mad 😢. Finding you has felt like finding another particle of the same star dust⭐. Keep on keeping on. Thank you and best wishes ❤.
The poison analogy is perfect. I always love the one that says what is good for the spider is chaos for the fly. Vantage point and perspective are key here . I see a lot of this idea of eliminating “defects of character “ in 12 step programs where you betcha these so called defects always come roaring back again and again. My path has taught me to begin to understand what these are and why I have them and weather they truly are defective? I love this objective look at our elements of our personality.
Be noble and if required invite the monster. I'm aware l evolve mostly from "bad people" or misfortunes, definitely more than wall to wall positiveness. Being human as a whole is the great journey.
Great timing on this, coming to terms with being a bully in my family dynamic (and that part of me was suppressed and punished when i was growing) great video thank you🌞💛🙏
I would like to take the opportunity to thank Teal for her great work. I struggle with worthiness. I don't want to be a terrifying monster, but I cannot bring comfort to those I love if I am not terrifying to those who may do them harm. I have the power to save lives and change the world in a positive way. I do not want to be bad. I do not want to to do bad things. If I cannot do the things that can save people that would make me bad. I feel absolutely stuck.
Good points here. The way I see it is that we all have basic needs and instincts. The brain is a needs meeting machine. There are no bad needs just bad strategies for getting needs met.
I've had so much pain from people who cannot take accountability bc of this obsession with being good... And they're everywhere... I wish I knew how to convey this to them, but whenever I try I think I make it worse, especially since it comes from a place of judgement. :(
Thanks, I enjoyed this video so much. Partially because more of Teal Swans personality is on display than normal. It was a fun video! Also, thank you all for putting the links below to videos she recommends, I’ve noticed that comes and goes and always appreciate it when the links are there!
Because of cancel culture and because of my own fear of people pushing me away because they fear me or judge me as a bad person, I find it very difficult to connect with people. That is why in my own mental wellness process and Universal ethics code, I'm encouraging hating on problems and not on people. This universal judgment of badness is breaking our society apart.
I handle this better when I stop thinking in terms of good and bad. Everything is just is as is. If there's something that's taking away from me or others, I adapt and evolve. There's also a level of accountability that you have to have in order to change negative things about yourself...
Waou, thank you 🙏 That was one of my favorite videos from you so far ! And I have watched maaaannyyy since years ! Just started to own the sides I rejected, for me it’s anger and intolerance coupled with an ability to see the B.S going on. It feels so much peaceful to just be while owning these, instead of intellectually playing an act of “what do I have to say instead”. It has taken out of my life the people which couldn’t hear what I had to say, but somehow it feels like a relieve.
I vibe with what you say, thank you for putting these topics into words we can relate to and understand. 🙏 I heard that envy is looking up to someone/being inspired to manifest something in your life that you admire about another. While jealousy is when you see something in another's life that you want but tell yourself you can't have or it's too hard to accomplish in your personal life.
I agree with this very much. I know for a fact that the reason this society has a difficult time owning their dark side is because institutions like law enforcement has a black and white view of reality. Humans are complex, laws are black and white. Humans tend to attempt to appear virtuous when the gun of losing everything is always pointed at them.
I accept that I have hurt people in the past by not talking to them, ignoring them, making them “feel like trash,” because I didn’t like or condone their behavior or their words and didn’t know how else to respect my boundaries but by being honest and taking actions. I accept my badness in making others feel like trash according to their words and I accept that that makes me bad even if they deserved it.
I realized that my parent would never reflect me accurately and I stopped accepting the reflection they were giving and found it in people who reflect me accurately. Now it doesn’t matter what they do, it is not what I want but has to happen.
@@jozielpn Well, a point is that it is positive to get that information, and that is why emotions always are positive but not always pleasant. Why call positive information negative emotions? Make no sense.
@@ebbenielsen7 A negative emotion is one that doesn't feel good and or pleasant, as well as emotions that are seen as bad by most people, Teal has been very clear about this in several of her videos...
@@jozielpn Even though Teal has been clear about this, it doesn't change the fact that it is an annoying and often very unfortunate mix of words when we give negative associations to certain feelings. And I've never understood how a concept like "negative emotions" has gained so much popularity .Partly because it's self-contradictory nonsense - because ALL genuine emotions are positive. Partly because it gives associations that it is something that we must avoid - such as, for example, anger, sadness and fear. But it is, to put it mildly, quite positive that we can feel fear when there is danger and anger when someone threatens us. And in a therapeutic context, where you can work on accepting your feelings - all feelings - it is incredibly unpedagogical to call some positive and others negative. That some feelings are more pleasant and easier than others is another matter. But they are all positive. I also don't understand why Teal doesn't just call them difficult or pleasant feelings. Why this confusing choice of words?
@@ebbenielsen7 By using the terms positive and negative Teal is highlighting the duality in emotions, just like there's duality in many other things like cold and hot, dark and light, day and night, male and female, proton and electron...
"People may dislike a perfectionist until it's them going under the knife for surgery, and people may dislike someone with a competitive streak until that person plays for their team, and people may hate a conniver until they desperately need a new strategy." All that ever needs to be said about perspective and judgments.
Late to comment, but good video. She says the word "forced" @12:20 when describing Horacio (competitive person) and it's an interesting choice of word(s) because it might seem that it's bad to force anything when it comes to relationship to self and to change. Reminds me of a different video she did about "bulldozing" yourself. Why is he not bull dozing if he's forcing himself in this situation, choosing to cooperate instead of compete? 🙂
Truths everyone wants to be seen as a good guy or girl but not accept that you may be the monster or villain in someone else’s story… nobody is totally bad or good, and because people won’t accept that being good an also hurt others … the crazy thing is if people will communicate with each other and listen to how the are affecting someone else’s reality, alot of trauma could be avoided or healed
Hey Teal, love all your videos! Can you make a video on loving kindness? Another video about vengeance? I believe that your videos have not covered these in-depth yet.
Black and white thinking is duality. Everything's do or die... All or nothing.... Instead you can widen your lens together and that gray area is basically infinite. All the creativity is there, and all of the infinite potential is there. There's a lot of fragmentation going on in this world. I would love somebody to explain to people this duality and non-duality mentality... And it's true when you love somebody you're loving yourself and when you hate somebody you're hating yourself
All emotions are meant to teach when acknowledged. I absolutely adore this woman’s insights. Thank you Teal Love and light universe 🌌🤍🕊️⚖️ Owning it all 🪶
Usually these days i see that the majority of people screaming the loudest about their virtues as goodest of all people are the ones who believe morals are subjective. If morals are subjective, why so much importance being place on your moral superiority? And if YOUR morals are superior to the person next to you...because YOU say so, then what happens when the person next to you disagrees with your moral stance and they argue that actually THEIr morals are the correct ones. If morals dont come from a higher authority, then its just some stuff you made up yourself. The heart is deceitfully wicked according to the Bible which is why we need the higher authority to define it for us. Like people who feel good about giving a homeless person some cash, but if they knew that homeless person took that cash and overdosed on drugs with it, did you REALLY do a good thing for that person?
We can't make everyone happy by being their puppet or putting our needs last, There are people who think of we, the collective: what I do makes an impact positive or negative( 7 moves forward) for myself and others. Then there are, the Me first gang. We are all learning.❤
I already have that’s one of the great parts about actually dying and being dead and then coming back to life it’s called going through judgment you get to witness a full review of everything that you’ve done and been a part of from the time that you were born even memories that you didn’t know that you had. I’m good, how are you? Shanon L Fowler/ The Ancient Trapper
@ I love to hear from the backseat drivers Those that haven’t walked a mile in my shoe you can’t come at me with some stupid talk of experience or knowledge sit down your excused
in my 40s now. still can't get over a mistake I made when I was 12. or to put it differently it came back to haunt me 2 years ago and now never leaves me. I talked about it to the 2 closest people to me and that made it soooo much worse.
Therapists is helpful or Teals courses) We all make mistakes and can learn from them. It's how we grow. Shaming oneself isn't the way. Every experience shapes us into who we're meant to be, so keep rising up in self-awareness and allowing self- love and self compassion to guide you forward
I don't think that I am competitive nor cooperative. I am just a loner. I found my most successful on a platform economy where its mostly just the customer and I.
Teal I LOVE YOU ❤️ thank you for your existence!!! I know you say your supporters are normally quieter and your haters are loud so I just wanted to make it aware that I am here and I appreciate you so deeply!!! My best friend and I bond over your content and it has changed both of our lives. Please never stop doing what you do!!! You are a gift
A truly wise man knows that he knows nothing at all the sky is what ever one self perceives it to be,you are a ego driving woman but luckily for u most ppl in our society don't know there head from there behind so ur idolized I see thru u
If your competitive nature is stemming from low self esteem I would think that you would want to address that no matter if you choose to embrace your competitive nature or change it or both. I also think that it is possible to have most all these attributes and call upon them when needed. The ultimate life form babay.
Are you listening, nations of NATO? This video is for you! Tune in next week for how to prevent WWIII from happening by taking other nations as a part of yourself! 🕊️
Thank you Teal for this lesson. One major part of my darkside is that I objectify women based on their looks, and I don't think I have it in me to let that part of myself go. But, if I'm going to love with it, I can either see them as toys to abuse, or a fancy car to take care of. And I think I'm gonna choose the latter.
Someone casually once said to me,
“Sometimes your Best quality Is Also Your Worst.”
It stuck with me then and I’ve never forgotten how incredibly insightful that quote is.
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True that. Once I started trying to prove I was a nice guy all my success with women went down the drain. And I’m 60!
Key word being "sometimes"
@ agreed. Not always
”When we suppress, deny, disown, and reject a part of ourselves, we push it out of our conscious awareness. We lose self-awareness. We do this to try to preserve our self-concept”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
You can be who you are both bad and good but there's always gonna be people who dislike you and misunderstand you..
Just gotta let them be and do whatever
The poison/medicine quote is also one of my favorites. This topic is something I have been experiencing in so many ways recently. Pleasing one person will upset another, there is no winning if you don't let others take responsibility for their own feelings about you. I felt ostracized at work, for being a wacky person. I felt shame. When I decided to own my insanity, other people seemed to accept and approve of it more too. I still have to remind myself to own it. Cause it's personally something I quite like about myself
@@Morale_Booster somebody called me wacko the other day because of my politics. You're absolutely right. Bingo. You can't please everyone.
Being yourself should not come at cost of someone else's inconvenience. An office is a place where different personalities come together so there has to be certain norms to govern and preserve order. You can't be yourself somewhere else.
Embrace the Void. Develop the higher functions of emotional intelligence.
This💯
@@_Sam_-zh7swbalance between the two is key as usual
This woman is an absolute legend❤
@@JenDG108 yeah well she just got her ass handed to her by the ancient trapper
@@Melody-l2n 😂😂
Carry your opponent's proposition beyond its natural limits; exaggerate it. The more general your opponent's statement becomes, the more objections you can find against it. The more restricted and narrow his or her propositions remain, the easier they are to defend by him or her.
Use different meanings of your opponent's words to refute his or her argument.
Ignore your opponent's proposition, which was intended to refer to a particular thing. Rather, understand it in some quite different sense, and then refute it. Attack something different than that which was asserted.
Hide your conclusion from your opponent till the end. Mingle your premises here and there in your talk. Get your opponent to agree to them in no definite order. By this circuitious route you conceal your game until you have obtained all the admissions that are necessary to reach your goal.
Use your opponent's beliefs against him. If the opponent refuses to accept your premises, use his own premises to your advantage.
Another plan is to confuse the issue by changing your opponent's words or what he or she seeks to prove.
State your proposition and show the truth of it by asking the opponent many questions. By asking many wide-reaching questions at once, you may hide what you want to get admitted. Then you quickly propound the argument resulting from the opponent's admissions.
Make your opponent angry. An angry person is less capable of using judgement or perceiving where his or her advantage lies.
Use your opponent's answers to your questions to reach different or even opposite conclusions.
If your opponent answers all your questions negatively and refuses to grant any points, ask him or her to concede the opposite of your premises. This may confuse the opponent as to which point you actually seek them to concede.
If the opponent grants you the truth of some of your premises, refrain from asking him or her to agree to your conclusion. Later, introduce your conclusion as a settled and admitted fact. Your opponent may come to believe that your conclusion was admitted.
If the argument turns upon general ideas with no particular names, you must use language or a metaphor that is favorable in your proposition.
To make your opponent accept a proposition, you must give him or her an opposite, counter-proposition as well. If the contrast is glaring, the opponent will accept your proposition to avoid being paradoxical.
Try to bluff your opponent. If he or she has answered several of your questions without the answers turning out in favor of your conclusion, advance your conclusion triumphantly, even if it does not follow. If your opponent is shy or stupid, and you yourself possess a great deal of impudence and a good voice, the trick may easily succeed.
If you wish to advance a proposition that is difficult to prove, put it aside for the moment. Instead, submit for your opponent's acceptance or rejection some true poposition, as thoug you wished to draw your proof from it. Should the opponent reject it because he or she suspects a trick, you can obtain your triumph by showing how absurd the opponent is to reject a true proposition. Should the opponent accept it, you now have reason on your own for the moment. You can either try to prove your original proposition or maintain that your original proposition is proved by what the opponent accepted. For this, an extreme degree of impudence is required.
When your opponent puts forth a proposition, find it inconsistent with his or her other statements, beliefs, actions, or lack of action.
If your opponent presses you with a counter proof, you will often be able to save yourself by advancing some subtle distinction. Try to find a second meaning or an ambiguous sense for your opponent's idea.
If your opponent has taken up a line of argument that will end in your defeat, you must not allow him or her to carry it to its conclusion. Interrupt the dispute, break it off altogether, or lead the opponent to a different subject.
Should your opponent expressly challenge you to produce any objection to some definite point in his or her argument, and you have nothing much to say, try to make the argument less specific.
If your opponent has admitted to all or most of your premises, do not ask him or her directly to accept your conclusion. Rather draw the conclusion yourself as if it too had been admitted.
When your opponent uses an argument that is superficial, refute it by setting forth its superficial character. But it is better to meet the opponent with a counter argument that is just as superficial, and so dispose of him or her. For it is with victory that your are concerned, and not with truth.
If your opponent asks you to admit something from which the point in dispute will immediately follow, you must refuse to do so, declaring that it begs the question.
Contradiction and contention irritate a person into exaggerating his or her statements. By contractiong your opponent you may drive him or her into extending the statement beyond its natural limit. When you then contradict the exaggerated form of it, you look as though you had refuted the orginal statement your opponent tries to extend your own statement further than you intended, redefine your statement's limits.
This trick consists in stating a false syllogism. Your opponent makes a proposition and by false inference and distortion of his or her ideas you force from the proposition other propositions that are not intended and that appear absurd. It then appears the opponent's proposition gave rise to these inconsistencies, and so appears to be indirectly refuted.
If your opponent is making a generalization, find an instance to the contrary. Only one valid contradiciton is needed to overthrow the opponent's proposition.
A brilliant move is to turn the tables and use your opponent's arguments against him or herself.
Should your opponent surprise you by becoming particularly angry at an argument, you must urge it with all the more zeal. Not only will this make the opponent angry, it may be presumed that you put your finger on the weak side of his or her case, and that the opponent is more open to attack on this point than you expected.
This trick is chiefly practicable in a dispute if there is an audience who is not an expert on the subject. You make an invalid objection to your opponent who seems to be defeated in the eyes of the audience. This strategy is particularly effective if your objection makes the opponent look ridiculous or if the audience laughs. If the opponent must make a long, complicated explanation to correct you, the audience will not be disposed to listen.
If you find that you are being beaten, you can create a diversion that is, you can suddenly begin to talk of something else, as though it had bearing on the matter in dispose. This may be done without presumption if the diversion has some general bearing on the matter.
Make an appeal to authority rather than reason. If your opponent respects an authority or an expert, quote that authority to further your case. If needed, quote what the authority said in some other sense or circumstance. Authorities that your opponent fails to understand are those which he or she generally admires the most. You may also, should it be necessary, not only twist your authorities, but actually falsify them, or quote something that you have invented entirely yourself.
If you know that you have no reply to an argument that your opponent advances, you may, by a fine stroke of irony, declare yourself to be an incompetent judge.
A quick way of getting rid of an opponent's assertion, or throwing suspicion on it, is by putting it into some odious category.
You admit your opponent's premises but deny the conclusion.
When you state a question or an argument, and your opponent gives you no direct answer, or evades it with a counter question, or tries to change the subject, it is a sure sign you have touched a weak spot, sometimes without knowing it. You have as it were, reduced the opponent to silence. You must, therefore, urge the point all the more, and not let your opponent evade it, even when you do not know where the weakness that you have hit upon really lies.
This trick makes all unnecessary if it works. Instead of working on an opponent's intellect, work on his or her motive. If you succeed in making your opponent's opinion, should it prove true, seem distinctly to his or her own interest, the opponenent will drop it like a hot potato.
You may also puzzle and bewilder your opponent by mere bombast. If the opponent is weak or does not wish to appear as ife he or she has no idea what you are talking about, you can easily impose upon him or her some argument that sounds very deep or learned, or that sounds indisputable.
Should your opponent be in the right but, luckily for you, choose a faulty proof, you can easily refute it and then claim that you have refuted the whole position. This is the way which bad advocates lose a good case. If no accurate proof occurs to the opponent or the bystanders, you have won the day.
A last trick is to become personal, insulting and rude as soon as you perceive that your opponent has the upper hand. In becoming personal you leave the subject altogether, and turn your attack on the person by remarks of an offensive and spiteful character. This is a very popular trick, because everyone is able to carry it into effect.
(abstracted from the book:Numerical Lists You Never Knew or Once Knew and Probably Forget, by: John Boswell and Dan Starer)
Yeah she's electric
She's got attractive looks too , I'd touch her if she wanted it !
The Jordan Peterson quote about being a monster and then learning how to control it is so key
good quote by a man that doesnt follow his own words.
@ interesting. Didn’t know he follow it. Still a great quote
@@NaikoArtforget the messenger did you get the message?
@@HāmeroRōzujowhy should you take the word of a person who doesnt follow it themselves. It reduces credibility.
@ a truth is a truth even if it’s told by a hypocrite. Even a broken clock is right twice a day
you’re so smart. i’m a grad student in psych and I love watching your videos because you have such an intelligent and eloquent way of putting these concepts.
Reminds me of how warriors learn to control aspects like ruthlessness, aggressiveness, etc. so that those are only exercised when defending against an attack rather than in day to day relationships
When antisocial becomes prosocial
”The vast, vast majority of people have not reached the level of Consciousness where they truly take others as a part of themselves and thus, intrinsically cannot harm others without harming themselves. A point where other’s suffering is their suffering and other’s joy is their joy”. Teal Swan 🌎🙏😘
Teal knows stuff about human suffering
Thank you again Teal for content GOLD! This pairs nicely with "there's no such thing as self-sabotage" video of yours. What a relief to know that even our "bad" aspects of self are a map towards being even "better" haha. Brilliant
Shadow work is crucial because if you don’t face your own darkness you can’t see the darkness that is currently operating in the bread day light.
You are the only human being that flips around the picture and let us see a healthier perspective! Thank you
@@eleftheria-metaxa The only one in Utah ;)
Yes she flips things
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@@lavkmr1 🤓😆
@@DeepDreamCreations Truly flipping brilliant!
thank you!! this is what so powerfully became true to me while working the steps in a 12 step fellowship. so grateful to be born at a time when Teal is teaching!!
I love your insights Teal, I'm also a mirror person and I love the way you work through these psychological issues that keep reinforcing so much unnecessary pain.
And thanks to your words I'm less afraid today to be seen as a bad guy and be straight forward in the eyes of the unfair.
May all beings be happy and rejoice under the shining sun and the mysterious moon in this beautiful earth
This inspires me, to see and say that Carl Jung would find you very enchanting, and he would undoubtedly rise from his chair and get to writing and drawing, painting and Direct Current Energy Being. Because Integration whips up a whirlwind of creative passions that can finally be fulfilled! It's a glorious thing and we can't get there any other way!
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Once I decided to stop trying to be a Hero/Lawful Good, but instead recognize and direct the Antihero/Chaotic Good, life became much calmer, and I like to think I became able to do more real good in many situations.
I appreciate how much work Teal has put in to teaching and helping people. People are vocal against her seem to be judging without really listening first.
Or not understand what she's talking about
Yeah, as a good person, one should take ownership of both the "bad/wrong" and positive outcomes in one's life and learn to deal with the competitive nature of others because this is the world we have come to serve, not judge and condemn. And this includes ourselves as well.
"You are a spiritual Being living in a physical reality. This accounts for your dual nature and the fundamental conflict and confusion that permeate your mind and activities. It is the result of Separation fundamentally."
The New Message, The Separation, by MV Summers.
@@oneworldonehome bad is now great ⁽⁽ଘ( ˊᵕˋ )ଓ⁾⁾⁽⁽ଘ( ˊᵕˋ )ଓ⁾⁾ again sweet !
I love you teal so much respect... I've thought about what you say most of my life, but felt on my own as most don't, and society always made me feel like I was mad 😢. Finding you has felt like finding another particle of the same star dust⭐. Keep on keeping on. Thank you and best wishes ❤.
The poison analogy is perfect. I always love the one that says what is good for the spider is chaos for the fly. Vantage point and perspective are key here . I see a lot of this idea of eliminating “defects of character “ in 12 step programs where you betcha these so called defects always come roaring back again and again. My path has taught me to begin to understand what these are and why I have them and weather they truly are defective? I love this objective look at our elements of our personality.
Be noble and if required invite the monster.
I'm aware l evolve mostly from "bad people" or misfortunes, definitely more than wall to wall positiveness.
Being human as a whole is the great journey.
It's the seeds we plant... whether you plant grapes or belladonna is up to you
May we plant both?
You may. Just be prepared to deal with your garden and dont exepct the world around you to handle the negatives for you@@patrickleigh1523
Great timing on this, coming to terms with being a bully in my family dynamic (and that part of me was suppressed and punished when i was growing) great video thank you🌞💛🙏
I would like to take the opportunity to thank Teal for her great work. I struggle with worthiness. I don't want to be a terrifying monster, but I cannot bring comfort to those I love if I am not terrifying to those who may do them harm. I have the power to save lives and change the world in a positive way. I do not want to be bad. I do not want to to do bad things. If I cannot do the things that can save people that would make me bad. I feel absolutely stuck.
Good points here. The way I see it is that we all have basic needs and instincts. The brain is a needs meeting machine. There are no bad needs just bad strategies for getting needs met.
Your wisdom is a light to the world
I've had so much pain from people who cannot take accountability bc of this obsession with being good... And they're everywhere... I wish I knew how to convey this to them, but whenever I try I think I make it worse, especially since it comes from a place of judgement. :(
Thanks for being on here Teal. I’m grateful for your wisdom along my journey.
@@tender3066 she great ♪ヽ(･ˇ∀ˇ･ゞ)
Thanks, I enjoyed this video so much. Partially because more of Teal Swans personality is on display than normal. It was a fun video!
Also, thank you all for putting the links below to videos she recommends, I’ve noticed that comes and goes and always appreciate it when the links are there!
Because of cancel culture and because of my own fear of people pushing me away because they fear me or judge me as a bad person, I find it very difficult to connect with people. That is why in my own mental wellness process and Universal ethics code, I'm encouraging hating on problems and not on people. This universal judgment of badness is breaking our society apart.
I handle this better when I stop thinking in terms of good and bad. Everything is just is as is. If there's something that's taking away from me or others, I adapt and evolve. There's also a level of accountability that you have to have in order to change negative things about yourself...
A lady who knows her mind and everybody else's by the sounds of it, nice to see a smile from time to time ❤
Waou, thank you 🙏
That was one of my favorite videos from you so far !
And I have watched maaaannyyy since years !
Just started to own the sides I rejected, for me it’s anger and intolerance coupled with an ability to see the B.S going on. It feels so much peaceful to just be while owning these, instead of intellectually playing an act of “what do I have to say instead”.
It has taken out of my life the people which couldn’t hear what I had to say, but somehow it feels like a relieve.
Wow. Those earrings, all of the blues and its hues! Lovely.
Shadow work. I like it. Enjoyed the example at the end. Know thyself.
I vibe with what you say, thank you for putting these topics into words we can relate to and understand. 🙏
I heard that envy is looking up to someone/being inspired to manifest something in your life that you admire about another. While jealousy is when you see something in another's life that you want but tell yourself you can't have or it's too hard to accomplish in your personal life.
You are very inspiring, Teal❤❤❤
Yay! we won a gold medal guys, haha thank you Teal Swan. (From a nonmormon Utahn) Proud owner of the blindspot oracle cards.
@10:06 ....😮😏🤩 Horatio Reference is on point! 😅 I haven't been this enamored in ages! I am absolutely 💯 sure you are the correct choice to help!
I agree with this very much. I know for a fact that the reason this society has a difficult time owning their dark side is because institutions like law enforcement has a black and white view of reality. Humans are complex, laws are black and white. Humans tend to attempt to appear virtuous when the gun of losing everything is always pointed at them.
Excelent! Again.. Thank you Teal ❤
I accept that I have hurt people in the past by not talking to them, ignoring them, making them “feel like trash,” because I didn’t like or condone their behavior or their words and didn’t know how else to respect my boundaries but by being honest and taking actions. I accept my badness in making others feel like trash according to their words and I accept that that makes me bad even if they deserved it.
let's go Teal!
guilty: judged bad or wrong
guilt: fear of being punished
obedience: resistance to guilty
Shame is the inner distinction from guilt. Guilt is connected to actions
Your only valuable when your most vulnerable
I realized that my parent would never reflect me accurately and I stopped accepting the reflection they were giving and found it in people who reflect me accurately. Now it doesn’t matter what they do, it is not what I want but has to happen.
I've followed you from many years ago. You are awesome. You are helping so much ❤
Thank you.
@@carloscastanheiro2933 your welcome (＾∇＾)ﾉ♪
You are literally the best. I am so down with your viewpoints 99.9 percent of the time but this 1111% cause that’s my fav number lol
Highly enjoyed this one Teal 🙂 Thank you
Thanks for all you do, love listening.
Those earings are literally calling my name. Stunning!
As an trying-to-be-Orthodox-Christian, Teal is the only one from this spiritual/psychology/self-help world that often makes a lot of sense.
5:00 and that is why anger is a positive emotion - there are no negatives emotions they all tell us some essential.
Just because an emotion give you important information, that doesn't mean it is always a positive emotion, and that's OK.
@@jozielpn Well, a point is that it is positive to get that information, and that is why emotions always are positive but not always pleasant. Why call positive information negative emotions? Make no sense.
@@ebbenielsen7 A negative emotion is one that doesn't feel good and or pleasant, as well as emotions that are seen as bad by most people, Teal has been very clear about this in several of her videos...
@@jozielpn Even though Teal has been clear about this, it doesn't change the fact that it is an annoying and often very unfortunate mix of words when we give negative associations to certain feelings. And I've never understood how a concept like "negative emotions" has gained so much popularity .Partly because it's self-contradictory nonsense - because ALL genuine emotions are positive. Partly because it gives associations that it is something that we must avoid - such as, for example, anger, sadness and fear. But it is, to put it mildly, quite positive that we can feel fear when there is danger and anger when someone threatens us. And in a therapeutic context, where you can work on accepting your feelings - all feelings - it is incredibly unpedagogical to call some positive and others negative. That some feelings are more pleasant and easier than others is another matter. But they are all positive. I also don't understand why Teal doesn't just call them difficult or pleasant feelings. Why this confusing choice of words?
@@ebbenielsen7 By using the terms positive and negative Teal is highlighting the duality in emotions, just like there's duality in many other things like cold and hot, dark and light, day and night, male and female, proton and electron...
Im ready to make some big steps, and I believe YOU Teal are the only person who will be best tailored to help me.... See you in your program soon 😅
Helpful approach on the issue of Integrating your shadow self, which can be further explored in the writings of Carl Jung.
Thank you for your Wisdom Teal! ❤
Great works maam !! / stay strong & stand tall
-from Rural Texas
"People may dislike a perfectionist until it's them going under the knife for surgery, and people may dislike someone with a competitive streak until that person plays for their team, and people may hate a conniver until they desperately need a new strategy."
All that ever needs to be said about perspective and judgments.
Thank you for this!
Thank you Teal.
Late to comment, but good video. She says the word "forced" @12:20 when describing Horacio (competitive person) and it's an interesting choice of word(s) because it might seem that it's bad to force anything when it comes to relationship to self and to change. Reminds me of a different video she did about "bulldozing" yourself. Why is he not bull dozing if he's forcing himself in this situation, choosing to cooperate instead of compete? 🙂
Truths everyone wants to be seen as a good guy or girl but not accept that you may be the monster or villain in someone else’s story… nobody is totally bad or good, and because people won’t accept that being good an also hurt others … the crazy thing is if people will communicate with each other and listen to how the are affecting someone else’s reality, alot of trauma could be avoided or healed
Hey Teal, love all your videos! Can you make a video on loving kindness? Another video about vengeance? I believe that your videos have not covered these in-depth yet.
Black and white thinking is duality.
Everything's do or die... All or nothing.... Instead you can widen your lens together and that gray area is basically infinite.
All the creativity is there, and all of the infinite potential is there.
There's a lot of fragmentation going on in this world.
I would love somebody to explain to people this duality and non-duality mentality...
And it's true when you love somebody you're loving yourself and when you hate somebody you're hating yourself
All emotions are meant to teach when acknowledged. I absolutely adore this woman’s insights.
Thank you Teal
Love and light universe 🌌🤍🕊️⚖️
Owning it all 🪶
Usually these days i see that the majority of people screaming the loudest about their virtues as goodest of all people are the ones who believe morals are subjective. If morals are subjective, why so much importance being place on your moral superiority? And if YOUR morals are superior to the person next to you...because YOU say so, then what happens when the person next to you disagrees with your moral stance and they argue that actually THEIr morals are the correct ones. If morals dont come from a higher authority, then its just some stuff you made up yourself. The heart is deceitfully wicked according to the Bible which is why we need the higher authority to define it for us. Like people who feel good about giving a homeless person some cash, but if they knew that homeless person took that cash and overdosed on drugs with it, did you REALLY do a good thing for that person?
Thank you Teal. Been a silent watcher for over a decade
We can't make everyone happy by being their puppet or putting our needs last,
There are people who think of we, the collective:
what I do makes an impact positive or negative( 7 moves forward) for myself and others.
Then there are, the Me first gang.
We are all learning.❤
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For me, it's intrinsic. That still only solves the problem of sometimes knowing what is good.
Absolutely amazing, thank you!
Keep it up ! Greetings from Argentina
Very clearly and easipy explained!
Thanks for the good news.
Whoa!! This one was so good!!! New fav
Teal is amazing. Bless her.
There’s a good way to be bad and there’s a bad way to be good!
I already have that’s one of the great parts about actually dying and being dead and then coming back to life it’s called going through judgment you get to witness a full review of everything that you’ve done and been a part of from the time that you were born even memories that you didn’t know that you had. I’m good, how are you?
Shanon L Fowler/ The Ancient Trapper
Dying ain’t living boy.
Jose’s Whales: probably
@ I love to hear from the backseat drivers
Those that haven’t walked a mile in my shoe you can’t come at me with some stupid talk of experience or knowledge sit down your excused
in my 40s now. still can't get over a mistake I made when I was 12. or to put it differently it came back to haunt me 2 years ago and now never leaves me. I talked about it to the 2 closest people to me and that made it soooo much worse.
Therapists is helpful or Teals courses) We all make mistakes and can learn from them. It's how we grow. Shaming oneself isn't the way. Every experience shapes us into who we're meant to be, so keep rising up in self-awareness and allowing self- love and self compassion to guide you forward
Talk to God- he will forgive you.
N stuff.
It has just been repressed until you are ready/able to deal with it.
I don't think that I am competitive nor cooperative. I am just a loner. I found my most successful on a platform economy where its mostly just the customer and I.
Absolutely Fantastic.
Come into the light I command thee.
Lol of course. This video later coming across me is why earlier today I was nudged to sing "nice guys finish last" by green day 😂❤
Thanks teal .❤❤
Teal I LOVE YOU ❤️ thank you for your existence!!! I know you say your supporters are normally quieter and your haters are loud so I just wanted to make it aware that I am here and I appreciate you so deeply!!! My best friend and I bond over your content and it has changed both of our lives. Please never stop doing what you do!!! You are a gift
Teal please take good care love you so much
Gratitude ❤
Thank you ❤
A truly wise man knows that he knows nothing at all the sky is what ever one self perceives it to be,you are a ego driving woman but luckily for u most ppl in our society don't know there head from there behind so ur idolized I see thru u
Good video on important topic.
Yes yes yes!!! Thank you
A home at war with itself cannot stand.
If your competitive nature is stemming from low self esteem I would think that you would want to address that no matter if you choose to embrace your competitive nature or change it or both.
I also think that it is possible to have most all these attributes and call upon them when needed.
The ultimate life form babay.
Are you listening, nations of NATO? This video is for you!
Tune in next week for how to prevent WWIII from happening by taking other nations as a part of yourself! 🕊️
Love you Teal
I have no issue with my dark side. Only those who bring it out do.
Yeah, you are like so punishing.
The dichotomy between self-actualization and the parasitic divergence of pretty much everything else is super duper the modern condition.
Thank you Teal for this lesson. One major part of my darkside is that I objectify women based on their looks, and I don't think I have it in me to let that part of myself go. But, if I'm going to love with it, I can either see them as toys to abuse, or a fancy car to take care of. And I think I'm gonna choose the latter.
My genuine spiritual journey started when I saw you like 12 yrs ago and I was like, "who is this hot girl?"
Youre awesome!